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Allusion to something I said in the letter. (Side note: wish I had 10% of Dale Carnegie's swagger.)
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/18 09:29 PM
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That's an excellent question. I have 3 sons, and none of my siblings or cousins has any girls, so girl children are a little bit like exotic wildlife to me: I have a Discovery Channel-level knowledge but not the deep experience that comes from living with and raising boys. I think I'd keep "brush your teeth," "always add value," "always expect value," "never stop learning," "earn your leisure," "watch what people do," and "be your own man" pretty much as is, with appropriate changes for gender. …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/18 09:28 PM
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Jesus said "He that hath ears to hear, let him hear." I figure the message will have more impact when privately delivered directly to him, not to his entire English class.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/18 03:23 PM
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That's a really good point-- thanks. I'll talk through this with him when he gets home tonight.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/18 03:20 PM
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Since there is a non-zero chance he will be asked to share some content from the letter, I figured I'd save that for volume II.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/18 03:18 PM
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The first time I got a letter from my dad was when I was deployed for Desert Storm. He wasn't a letter writer and I guess I'm not either.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/18 03:18 PM
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No, her speech was explicitly designed to end the relationship. It was not a complaint, or a question about what happened to her formerly compliant mate, it was a straight up drive-by shooting. But you are right: what Rollo has said is absolutely true.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 01:05 AM
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Funny thing is that I knew this from reading and hanging out here, but I didn't know it. It's like how people told me what it would be like when I held my newborn son-- the intellectual awareness is completely different from the understanding.
/r/askMRP30/08/17 09:54 PM
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I'm starting with deadlifts tonight. Then I'll keep reading and working.
/r/askMRP30/08/17 09:53 PM
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She ended the relationship. I didn't want her to. So from that aspect, it's a failure. From the correct aspect, it's not a failure; you're right about that.
/r/askMRP30/08/17 09:52 PM
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What part of "don't" did you not understand? If you think that 400 employees is sufficiently large to insulate you from the negative consequences, think again.
/r/askTRP14/06/17 12:47 AM
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That whistling sound? It was my point rocketing over your head as it accelerated past max Q. Have a nice day.
/r/MensRights09/06/17 02:42 PM
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Thanks for mansplaining that to me. Given that I live near a large facility involved in manned spaceflight, and used to work there, it was helpful to know that NASA is a "purely scientific" endeavor. Or that spaceflight is dangerous. I may have to take to my bed with the vapors after learning those two things. If you really think that NASA is apolitical, I encourage you to go back and read Chaikin (for example) to learn about how the Apollo program was planned and funded. Or check out the furor …
/r/MensRights09/06/17 11:06 AM
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I'm not questioning the qualifications of any of these ASCANs. However, not all of them are civilian PhDs or field-grade military officers. Zena Cardman has an MS in marine sciences. Kayla Barron is a Navy O-3 (and a submariner, which is damn rare-- hats off to her for that!) with a masters' degree. Loral O'Hara: masters' degree. Bob Hines: masters' degree. Jonny Kim was a Navy SEAL officer before med school; I would bet that he was an O-3 but can't confirm that. My point is not that the women w…
/r/MensRights09/06/17 10:58 AM
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Meant to add: even if you don't want to compete, going to a local meet is a great way to juice your motivation to lift. It's especially valuable to n00b lifters or to men who are just restarting after an injury. Because the crowd and lifters tend to be friendly, it's also a good place to work on your ordinary conversational game. Seriously, just go.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 12:33 PM
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David Dellanave has a lot to say about biofeedback and functional testing for movements. His basic idea: if something hurts, or you have limited ROM, don't do it. Check out dellanave.com for a taste. It sounds like a biofeedback-based plan would be useful for you. I don't know whether your PT is a sports PT or not; the PT and chiropractor I use are both athletes themselves so they were able to work with me based on their own experience. Do you have a local sports medicine clinic?
/r/askMRP02/06/17 01:11 PM
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Quit asking for advice on the internet and go see a physical therapist. You run the risk of lifelong damage if you keep fucking around.
/r/askMRP01/06/17 10:35 PM
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Our nighttime schedule is predictable: every other week when we don't have our respective kids. It seemed like there would be some value to me in knowing where in her cycle she was but it looks like I had a pretty fundamental misunderstanding of how hormonal BC works. #TIL
/r/askMRP30/05/17 06:47 PM
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I think this is the winning answer right here. Savage has it right. One of the things I need to be focusing on as I work my way through the process is on not tolerating lack of sexual availability on her part-- reading /u/bluepillprofessor's book has been very enlightening so far on that.
/r/askMRP30/05/17 06:42 PM
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I'll just leave this here: https://therationalmale.com/2013/12/03/saving-the-best/
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/17 12:19 AM
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Barbell Apparel. Expensive, but totally worth it.
/r/askTRP11/05/17 07:44 PM
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Do both. It's all about GPP: general physical preparedness. Lifting will help burn fat, create muscle mass, boost hormone levels, and generally improve your life. That's why everyone here should be lifting heavy on the regular. But if you do nothing but lift, you'll be a strong guy with no endurance, and that's no good either. Even if you don't want to run or bike long distances, that endurance component is critical for your overall quality of life. Cardio endurance helps you take your kids on l…
/r/askMRP11/05/17 02:00 PM
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This is a tough time. It is a hard process to handle no matter the outcome. For almost every man, seeing you were dead in that kind of condition is damn hard to take. When my dad died, it as a result of a motorcycle accident that left him brain dead. He was well insured, but didn't have a will or DNR order. My mom had to make the decision to pull the plug. It is good that your dad is thinking ahead more than that. I would encourage everyone here to get a copy of "Being Mortal" by Atul Gawande an…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/17 03:28 PM
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I already lifting regularly and at scheduled times, but I am going to lock down both my diet and rest habits because they are holding me back. I don't plan any changes or lifting technique, and I already have a coach was programming for me. You're right, though, that I need to think about this more to come up with the specific changes I'll be making.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 12:29 PM
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I am regularly lifting 3x/week (1RM bench 235, squat 325, dead 395) along with my triathlon training (another 3-4x/week). I have a bodpod test Wednesday, which I expect is going to show me at about 15% BF. 60 day goals are to hit 1000# combined before the end of May and get below 12%.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 01:26 AM
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In the context of your relationship with a woman, you are the prize, not her. You do things because you want to do them, because they are part of your mission, because they lead to self-improvement, not in an attempt to gain favor or win her as a prize. In the context of your relationship with the larger world, you are one man among many. You are not a special snowflake and are not exempt from having to do the work and put in the time to improve yourself.
/r/askMRP02/04/17 11:58 AM
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It is all relative. There is always somebody stronger. My coach also coaches some elite female lifters who easily outlift me. It is definitely humbling, but on the other hand, my bench is up 50 pounds from this time last year, and there is more on the way. Own your PRs and be proud of them. You earned them.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/17 03:46 PM
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Young professionals.
/r/askTRP14/03/17 06:58 PM
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Preach, brother. I get some of my best mediation done on race day thanks to course bans on music while running and cycling. Long runs and rides provide a great opportunity to tune in to that voice.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/17 11:24 PM
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Solid list. One additional note: do not wait until you are ready to file to ramp up spending time with your kids and being involved with them. It is far too easy for the wife to point out your late start to the judge.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/17 08:14 PM
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You misunderstood my question. I'm already working on self-improvement. What I wanted to know was that given that I am going to be out of contact anyway, what's the highest-value stuff I can work on? Doesn't have anything to do with "get[ting] away from her"; I organized and planned this trip to compete in a race with my homeboys without any permission or input from her, just because I wanted to.
/r/askMRP15/02/17 04:48 PM
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Holy shit, the suggestion by /u/druganswer in that thread about waiting 6 months is brilliant. Like a 2x4 to the skull.
/r/askMRP14/02/17 08:42 PM
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I'm just starting MAP now so I'm not quite ready to call time of death yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 11:41 PM
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Which is why I'm not in any rush. Not possible at least until my #3 son is out of the nest, which is a couple years down the road. I'm not in a rush.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 11:41 PM
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Let's say we climb in bed at the end of the day. I initiate and get shot down-- how does getting up and leaving the house at 10p, after just having gotten into bed, not come off as butthurt? "Oh, yeah, I'm just gonna go down to my local and watch the game" or "Decided to get in a workout" don't seem real plausible in that context.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 02:00 PM
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Triathlon is a great sport even if you're a shit swimmer (I swim like a drunk walrus). Focus on the bike and keep at it. Yes, we are now monogamously dating. I think you're exactly right about there being too much comfort and not enough attraction. If you start putting up with a sexless relationship you're going to end up with a sexless marriage. That's exactly why I came here!
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 01:57 PM
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This was great feedback-- thank you for being clear and detailed. I should have been more clear on the self-improvement point: I definitely have flaws I can work on, including my newbie understanding of what I'm doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 01:54 PM
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Your suggestion that we live together is a wise one; it's just going to take a little while to implement. We live in a conservative southern state. Both of us have paramour clauses in our custody agreements. We also have matching custody schedules but live in two school districts about 25mi apart. That means either she has to move her kids to my district or vice versa. Not feasible.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 01:53 PM
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This is really helpful feedback, thanks-- esepcially the reminder to seduce and lead. I started MMSL last night and am already finding it enormously valuable. Just to clarify, we're not married; we live apart and can't currently live together because of our child custody arrangements.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 01:49 PM
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