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Burn the bridge and don't look back!! I had a friend in grad school whose grades were at risk of plummeting one semester as she tried to divest herself of a loser ex who was all like "i can't live without you - I am thinking of ending it all". After almost failing a midterm because she spent the week talking suicidal scrote off the ledge she had has enough. The next time she called to cops on him and told them that he was stalking her. They took a police report on the stalking, and took him to t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 07:44 PM
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we need to use our power to redefine the "high road" as the road that protects our physical, emotional, and financial health!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 04:03 PM
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Whether or not a person has been wronlgly accused of a crime is an important question when a state is going to deprive a person of a civil right. Despite what any scrote thinks, having access to you IS NOT a civil right, so you should block, delete and repeat if necessary if you come across such info in a database.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 11:27 PM
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So...I have been taken on a "sunset date" but it included a four course picnic purchased at Whole Foods and hot chocolate and little marshmallows in a flask to finish the evening...a sunset date with nothing else is something that a Zero Value Man would do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 03:50 PM
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Your state may not allow access to the actual divorce case (where scrote's ex wife alleges that he has a porn addiction and has been banging his office admin and the list of marital assests is stipulated ect.) however, you can still find out if there is an actual divorce decree vs whether is scrote is merely just separated. I you have it in your budget to pay $39.95 a month, I would suggest that you get a Spokeo account to vet dates, potential bosses and colleges (if you are in the job market), …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 03:47 PM
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They expect women whom they offer little to (other than their little peepee) to remain on tap/in a state of deep freeze for them at their convenience. Heaven forbid we should have own dreams and pursue them... This is similar to a situation that a friend in grad school found herself in. Her BF of 2 years wanted a "break". She went ahead and gave him a permanent one by breaking up with him. He thought she wasn't serious and went ahead and f-ed anything wearing a skirt in a 5 mile distance, with t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 05:19 PM
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Yeah I totally agree! As a South Asian Muslim women, I see a great difference between the nuanced analysis of sexism that the WOC make about their respective communities of color and the "OMG!!!! Islam is an abomination and ALL THEIR MEN ARE SCUM that should CEASE EXIST"! tone that many of the Karen-like contributors to FDS make in their comments. It's like white male scrotes are scrotes just because, but brown male scrotes are scrotes because ISLAM, SOUTH ASIA ect. It never occurs to some of th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 04:15 PM
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Like this couch creature could actually afford Hermes purses, Versace dresses, or La Perla lingerie for such a woman!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 04:27 PM
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His workmates didn't give a shit. The embarrassment was his entitlement to a woman dressing up to pick his mooch ass up. You don't need to get out of a car to pick up a grown-assed adult. His colleagues would not have seen what she was wearing, as the view would have been hidden by the car doors. He just wanted to nitpick at her to slowly wear down her confidence and self worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 01:43 PM
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The mom has her own agenda in apologizing to the woman - she just wants her son's bang-maid to return so that cooking and cleaning for him does not become HER problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 01:41 PM
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Wow - so your are down for calling women scrotes when we don't bow down to your superior judgement in dating men hug? Well, the rest of us fought hard in our journey to get here! Don't sh*t on others journey due to the fact that their timing wasn't as quick as yours. Oh, and another thing, you don't need to have dated a guy for him to show up at your front door unannounced and uninvited. See, there is this marvelous invention called the internet where ANYONE can find your address (the creepy guy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 11:50 PM
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No honey - it wasn't a "know your place" comment - it was a "well bless your heart aren't you special comment". Maybe you are one of the lucky ones who grew up in a feminist household and were inoculated against the constant messages that most of us got that I was mean, bitchy, selfish, and unfeminine to prioritize our safety, and comfort over the fragile fee fee of some scrote - if that's you great! You get a cookie. Many of us have had to learn through years of tears and heartbreak to finally …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 07:23 PM
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Maybe she meant FDS?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 07:16 PM
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Well, isn't that some humblebrag!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 04:26 PM
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Yes this! Anyone who is enough if a boundary stomper to show up at your house uninvited is enough of a boundary stomper to physically or sexually assault you once they are inside your home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 03:02 PM
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I waaaaant to move to Iceland!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 10:28 PM
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Don't you know that good old-fashioned prayer - "Lord give me the confidence of a mediocre man"!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 12:54 AM
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Yeah, a friend once dated a guy who legitimately could not eat spicy food due to a gastric problem. However he had no issue taking her to all sorts of Indian, Mexican, Thai ect restaurants and getting the waiter to present him with the least spicy option on the menu with lots of rice and yogurt to drown out the spiciness. The worst scrotes that I have heard of are the ones whose "picky eater" personality means that their palette never evolved past the meals given to a 3rd grader - mac&cheese, bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 07:52 PM
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First serious boyfriend (ie I slept with him) from late 90s. A month after I slept with him he broke up me me because he was not ready for a serious relationship. An engineer who was, and still is into Ayn Rand, the 2nd Amendment, and is now probably an ardent Trump supporter! Small town, red-state world view that did not expand even one centimeter with getting a Masters degree. He's now in the middle of divorcing his high school educated wife of two decades with whom he has 3 kids (the youngest…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 05:38 PM
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I wonder if the "pro life" scholarship recipient will be asked to wear a mask in public... you know, to protect the sanctity of life of all of the non-fetuses out there who don't want to get Coronavirus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 09:22 PM
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We are single because we have no wish to date a dusty assed scrote like you!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 03:18 PM
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But women don't earn as much as men in those fields now True, but even factoring in salary discrimination, if you were in engineering, investment banking ect. you would still have enough money to rent/buy your own place in a HCOL locale and avoid scrotes posting for "sexy roomates".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:21 PM
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Western Enlightenment ideals of individual rights are very, very weird and recent relative to human history. Actually, the Enlightenment had already happened by the time period depicted in Harlots. Keep in mind all of the "enlightened" views of the Enlightenment were only meant to apply to women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 02:35 PM
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What I found interesting about the show is that, at the end of the day, neither the "good girls" (ie the wives or other female relatives of the johns) nor the "harlots" were given any real respect, power or protection by the system. Harlots might be able to earn their own coin and avoid the shackles of marriage, however, they were treated at dirty, debauched creatures who were the constant subject of law enforcement scrutiny. Also, heaven forbid you lose your looks, you could be out in the stree…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 02:34 PM
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The problem is that the romance-industrial complex (I'm looking at you, Hallmark channel!) spoon feeds this shit to us from birth. When I think of the time and emotional energy I have pissed away in my pickme years over men who barely knew that I existed, I cringe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 02:20 PM
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One of the most toxic ideas that we are force fed in cisgender Western romantic culture is "the one". Allegedly, if you let "the one" slip away, then you will be alone forever with your 1000+ cats. Instead, reformulate your thoughts towards the ideal of suitable and compatible men that you find physically attractive and share a set of common values with. This will lead to a greater pool of candidates for marriage and starting a family (I assume that that was your goal). Also you are 24 - a littl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 10:53 PM
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They feel their slave class slipping away. YES this!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 05:47 PM
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I disabled my chat DM when I started participating in FDS, but beware, if you use the same account to participate in FDS and other chats, a scrote may try to come after you on other chats. I had been unemployed for some months, and was participating in the Reddit unemployment chat during that time period. Some scrote, who apparently has his delicate little fee fees damaged by something I wrote in FDS, had the nerve to come after me in the unemployment chat on a post that I made about receiving u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 12:56 PM
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Well, summer child, given the sh*tty state of women's rights in the US, you are clearly doing a cr*ppy job!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 01:56 PM
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I saw a family there with young boys, maybe ages 6-11. Disgusting Yeah, I strongly suspect that the "boy-mom" is the one who insisted on taking their little scrotes there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 10:27 PM
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The man you stuck by when he has $5 in his account will want an "upgrade" when he gets $500 in his account. I do not suggest ride or die as a lifestyle, especially for WOCs who will inevitably be replaced by Becky with the good hair or Karen with the Columbia MBA (the latter is oddly specific to me!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 12:27 PM
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I think that "block and delete" is effective with your garden variety annoying but not violent scrote. The method listed above should be used for dumping men who have a history of violence (against you or others that he has dated).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 07:08 PM
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nah, that asshole only enjoys inflicting harm on others...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 06:48 PM
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Yeah, this therapist needs his/her license revoked!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:19 PM
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Yeah, a scrote that dumped me in 1996 decided to come sniffing my way earlier this year due to the fact that he is going through a messy divorce and he wants free legal advice/phycological counseling and well as a potential future bangmaid to take care of all needs of him and his three children. I blocked him on email and LinkedIn. Unfortunately, I accidentally took a phone call from him b/c his area code matched that of a recruiter that I was working with on my job hunt and I was then forced to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:16 PM
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Interesting....I was just reading an interview with Cindy Mcain (who started dating the 20+ year older late Sen. John Mcain before he even started divorce proceedings on his first marriage). She said that John shaved 10 years off his age in order to not scare her off in while they were dating and she only found out his true age when they went to apply for marriage licences, barely a month after his first divorce was final. She acted like this was the biggest hoot ever instead of a breach of inte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 02:07 PM
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Whyyyyy do you think you are responsible for the emotional needs of YOUR BF'S FRIEND??? Why???? Why?? Especially since he explicitly told you to MYOB? He's definitely a scrote, but she's a boundary stomper, sticking her nose into business when she's been told her explicitly to step off!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:29 PM
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This is scrotacity at is finest. The underlying assumption in this comment is that any woman who a scrote wants to sleep with, and who does not want what he wants in life, is damaged in some sort of way. After all, one of the rules of patriarchy, is that if you are a vagina-holder, then you must immediately drop what you are doing, sacrifice your hopes and dreams for the future, to service the immediate needs of a penis-person, without any hope if reciprocity. A HVM who wanted to be child free o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:24 PM
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that town doesn't even have a thousand residents. He was a full-time farmer with no way to get out and meet anyone. He may not have even known how. People back then usually did And on top of that, living in a tiny town in the middle of nowhere did not offer him many courtship opportunities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:16 PM
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Its women's work, until there is an opportunity to makes big buck$$$ out of it and then it becomes work only suited for manly-man men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 02:00 PM
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Damn, this boy has more than most of the men on OL have to offer us!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 05:36 PM
5

Simple: Not My Monkey, Not My Circus!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 08:34 PM
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Of course, being a well-rounded person would turn you into not good marriage material (for a scrote!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 09:06 PM
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IDK, they both looked pretty scrotey to me......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:01 PM
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hey, but it's Britteny who should be psychiatrically committed, right????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 10:00 PM
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Fresh and Fit is such a lame name. Sounds like a spanx advert. Actually, I thought that it sounds like a brand of sanitary supplies :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 11:15 PM
17

Why the F\CK* is he chatting with a 13 year old online????? I hope you reported him to law enforcement!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 03:29 PM
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I have questions here....I thought most churches discourage cohabitation and sex between unmarried couples.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 01:28 PM
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Without a doubt, now that he's had a shave, a shower, and new clothing bought at this women's expense he will be soon looking to trade her in for a younger, skinnier model......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 12:54 PM
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Also, trendy yet unflattering clothing will not stalk you, r*pe you, or m@uder you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 03:51 PM
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Yes this! HVM don't put their business out there regarding legitimate disputes with people (men or women) to others who do not need to know about said dispute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 10:36 AM
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There's also something cringey and high school like about his behavior. Grown adults know that people you don't like have as much right as your friends and family to be out and about in public. This woman was minding her own d@mn business, and the scrote interrupted his date to gossip about it with his dude-bro like some b!t@hy high school mean girl. And they have the scrotacity to call us drama queens!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 10:34 AM
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For those who have not read Part I of this saga that I posted a few months ago here is the link: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/mmbb6j/scrote_that_i_dated_23_years_ago_feels_entitled/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:46 PM
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Yeah, don't know if you are a troll or just dense, but the topic was women taking accountability for THEIR ACTIONS AND LIVES, not men's misdeeds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 08:42 PM
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Your meteorology hobby and joining an all-female weather watchers group is cool! Sadly, many pickmes choose hobbies based on how cool they sound, not their acutal interest in the subject matter as well as the ability to meet men in them. Its obvious that you have a general love for meteorology.!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 06:33 PM
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I am starting a new job this month that broke a significant salary barrier - I am now being paid over $200k!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 03:59 PM
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he is not your friend he is not your friend he is not your friend he is not your friend block and delete...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 02:40 PM
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Yes, this grossed me out to. When I first saw SATC, I thought, due to the character's immaturity and impulsively poor life choices, that they were all 25 at the most! (I was about 25 when the show came out and neither I nor my friends would have engaged in such idiotice pick-me behavior!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 02:56 PM
11

It sounds like you need to go no contact with him (and if that isn't possible due to your parents, you need to put him on a low information diet!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 09:08 PM
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Wwwwwwhyyyyyyyyyyy is she even giving attention to a man she knew in high school, and (treated her like shit to boot?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 09:06 PM
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My abusive ex-husband (and believe me, there ain't no scrote like a South Asian scrote!) once grabbed a grocery store debit card receipt out of my hands, went all squinty-eyed at my signature, and screamed at me that handwriting was illegable!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 02:28 PM
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you need to consult with HIM? Oh, is this f*cker paying your bills????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:58 PM
11

I can't figure out if this scrote lacks a good understanding of the English language and/or a dictionary (he confuses/conflates the notion of "fortuitousness" with "impulsiveness" (although getting a car loan or a mortgage seems more of a function of long term planning and strategic thinking while getting a job offer from an internship seems more of a function of hard work and understanding how to play the office politics game) , or whether he is just your typical LVM gaslighter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:56 PM
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I guess the credit monitoring bureaus, car loan officer, mortgage broker, admissions office, dog breeder, and scholarship trustees are all just Wild and Crazy Guys going along with the gf’s impulsive schemes. for real!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:52 PM
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oh good, at least the friends are on her side!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:51 PM
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Why the hell wouldn't this scrote just go to the bathroom, get naked, and then jump in the shower if he was that hot and sweaty that his crotch shrimp and micro balls were sticking to his body? Oh, I forgot! Hygiene is only for women and gays!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 12:45 PM
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Oh gross, and the worse thing about this since both you and the scrote are POCs, is that people would judge the situation more harshly than if a white scrote behaved that way. (I believe all office scrotes should be judged very harshly).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:37 PM
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You need to block him on all forms of email, cell phone numbers and social media. You deserve to be left in peace, and even the attempts to evade the attempted communications of scrotes is more hassle than it is worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:41 PM
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The notion that you can be happy w/o the mother or wifey status is something that a woman needs to take the initiative to internalize loooooong before the clock hits 35 or a bad breakup with "the one". You cannot soothe another woman's grief and pain over not having children with the ideas listed above - she needs to come to her own understanding of them independently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:35 PM
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worse part of it is that most of these scrotes don't even know how to play chess!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:06 PM
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He probably fat, balding and wrinkled, and has never made over $150k a year (I hope his wife divorces him and takes him for everything he has! Despite a fairly unremarkable middle-class existence, I suspect he thinks that Giselle will leave Tom Brady form him, as he will be "dating all of the time"!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:33 PM
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That's right! Scrotes are free to GET MAD, STAY MAD, and DIE MAD!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 05:32 PM
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Exactly! I also think that a lot of women (especially the sort right wing evangelical woman that I grew up with in Texas) brush aside their trauma because they know that if they ever let themselves feel all of the rage and disappointment that they have internalized, they would be in a state of perpetual rage.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 05:38 PM
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In the eternal words of Justin Timberlake - "Cry me a river!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 05:29 PM
3

your mom is a queen of drawing high boundaries
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 07:52 PM
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Uh, at the risk of sounding like a totally classist bitch, $100k is barely middle class in a HCOL for a husband, wife, and a kid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 02:32 PM
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, how not only are there agents out there who think they know what you want/need better than you do, but also those who think it's a great time to take advantage of someone, because not only are w uh, lady, a man WOULD NOT NEED TO WRITE THIS POST!! Just like he would do on a date, the scrote would go low effort, roll into the open house in a dirty t-shirt, rumpled shorts, flip flops, unshaven face, uncombed hair, as long as he was able to get a mortgage or a cash offer, the sellers would think "…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:21 PM
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And that, my girl is why you are a "Ruthless Strategist"!! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:14 PM
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The issue is not whether these letters are legal, the issue is whether they can be used as ammunition by a losing bidder in a housing discrimination suit. For example a white southern baptist nuclear family with 2.5 kids, a dog, and a SAHM put their house up for market. The winning bidder gets the house for $300k because they wrote one of those ooey-gooey saccharine letters detailing the fact that they are fervent Southern Baptists who would love to attend the local church and that their family …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:13 PM
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The issue is not whether these letters are legal, the issue is whether they can be used as ammunition by a losing bidder in a housing discrimination suit. For example a white southern baptist nuclear family with 2.5 kids, a dog, and a SAHM put their house up for market. The winning bidder gets the house for $300k because they wrote one of those ooey-gooey saccharine letters detailing the fact that they are fervent Southern Baptists who would love to attend the local church and that their family …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:07 PM
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Of course I came to learn I wasn’t the only potential buyer. A man who claimed to want this place so badly kept putting in bids 40% below her asking price expecting her to cave Yeah, alot of men treat negotiation as a bullying session......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 07:59 PM
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I am a condo-dweller. My condo has controlled access underground parking and is lit up brighter than a football field during a SuperBowl game, and the door from the underground garage to the elevators is also controlled access. Furthermore, I live on the top floor of my building, and most of my neighbors are white collar professionals in their mid 20s - early 30s and are quiet. Due to these factors, I feel perfectly safe in my condo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 07:57 PM
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Interesting, I never thought about it that way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 07:51 PM
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Yeah, I would dump him like a sack of garbage. The ex-wife most likely is emotionally unstable. You could be risking you own physical safety, she could try to attack you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:24 PM
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especially if the relator is a white Becky-type character and the buyer is an educated woman of color. Ask me how I know.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:16 PM
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Cui Bono indeed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:15 PM
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This is similar to the distinction made between "black power" movements and "white power/white supremacist" movements.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:07 PM
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Cease discussing anything with her at work that does not have to do with your job duties, but maintain a polite professionally friendly facade. This is why FDSers should share little about their personal life and dating philosophy with those with whom their relationship is primarily career oriented.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 11:31 AM
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First of all, we need to start reclaiming the notion of "your honor" and redefine it as what YOU actually, consciously, proactively do. YOUR honor does not diminish if someone physically, sexually, or emotionally abuses you. THEIR (the perpetrator's) honor should diminish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 09:06 PM
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If you want to talk about your trauma, get a therapist; they are duty-bound to keep what you tell them private. Do not talk to men about any past trauma; they WILL use it against you, HELL YES!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 08:43 PM
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Aaaaand ladies this is why you DO NOT provide free emotional support/mental health counseling for a man......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 04:34 PM
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A lot of married men are really hostile to their wife's single female friends and do their best to drive them away. Wouldn't do to have anytone telling your wife-appliance that she can stand up for herself....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 02:07 PM
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No expectations??? Oh goodie, then the South Asian scorote does not "expect" a dowry, home cooked meals every night, or for you do bow to mummy-ji five times a day right?????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 09:12 PM
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The fact that any man would not think that his sex partner crying is a giant red flag to stop having sex with her leaves me speechless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 05:04 PM
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Funny you should mention that. Male MDs and med students are often really salty about the fact that nurses are often in a faaaar better financial situation than them due to less student loans and the nursing shortage that causes many hospital systems to provide sweet financial incentives for nurses to work there. My next door neighbor is a nurse in a hospital that is connected to a well-known university and is working and getting her MBA tuition free from the same said university. Prior to her f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 02:45 PM
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They resent the fact that a particular woman is out of reach and they resent the fact that her drive, ambition, and success might be contagious to other women. If "pickme Patty, with a BA in the humanities can get an entry level job as a sales associate and 5 years later be a Sr. Director of Sales, making over $200k a year, then other women will think that they can do it to. If too many pickmes escape patriarchy and embrace self-sufficiency, then there are less women for scrotes to pump and dump…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 07:03 PM
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And usually men want both (the Madonna wife and the wh*re girlfriend)! They pull out different rulers to measure the "feminine compliance" of women depending on how they classify the woman in question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 04:02 PM
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Do you have a friend/family members/colleagues who can lend a couch or a spare bedroom until you can move into your new place? The easiest way to not get sucked back into a relationship is physical distance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:54 PM
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Can't help but notice that he isn't offering to help her unpack her baggage. No doubt, once this brother is "healed" of his issues, he will let the woman keep the baggae as he heads off into the sunset in the company of "Becky with the good hair". The woman will be left with a broken heart and 3X the baggage she came into the relationship with!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:33 PM
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HE'S suffering b/c his peepee isn't getting any action....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 11:22 AM
2

"On an individual level, allowing yourself to judge someone on their looks but judging others for doing the same is two-faced." Only if both parties have the same amount of political and economic power and are treated as equally valuable by their culture. As long as women have to navigate life on this tilted playing field, we have the right to grab what we want and can in our dating life! When it comes to your future and the future of any children that you contemplate having women need to judge.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 11:20 AM
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So much truth in that statement. I remember how my former scrote husband used to hiss at me "you unhappy woman.....".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 11:00 AM
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Good! We need to remember that "block and delete" can also be deployed against family members that do not add to your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 05:08 PM
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This is a South Asian women depicted here, so you need to also factor in how his boy-mom treats her.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 05:04 PM
4

That's plenty of time, at the least, to do a load of laundry, throw out the trash and and put new garbage bags in the bins, or quickly run the vacuum cleaner...many of us here have had 1hr each ways commutes and yet still managed to not let our homes look like garbage dumps!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 05:02 PM
12

I gasped when I read the word "mortgage" - WHY are these women binding themselves to these human leeches? At least there are no kids and no marriage! She needs to keep it that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 02:20 PM
30

cuz how else would a college educated woman find a husband? ​ That is the ONLY reason we go to college of course......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 06:29 PM
43

And these people have the gall to wonder why their birth rate is plummeting...who would want to reproduce with these dumb and salty scrotes???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 06:28 PM
92

Yeah, you did the right thing there. There's no sense in even wasting the energy to confront such a scrote...they'll just try to gaslight and DAVRO you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 05:51 PM
38

He seems to be a hobosexual in the making....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 05:49 PM
44

I once told a scrote who handed me that line that "ok, suppose that hypothesis is true...if my choice is between 'dying alone' and your dusty ass and I choose dying alone, what does that say about your value in the dating market?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 12:14 PM
22

I'm sorry your own friends did that! You need to throw out these "friends" along with the trash boyfriend. Because so many people in the world are hostile to the idea of women centering their actions around what benefits them and serves their needs, I counseled a relative of mine who found proof that her boyfriend was seeing another woman in a city that he regularly traveled to for business while snooping on her boyfriend's laptop to just call it quits under the pretense that she's "just not fee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 04:13 PM
1

3 years of unemployment.....your friend needs to leave this NVM, like NOW!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 08:32 PM
12

A threat? More like a treat...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:54 PM
17

He won't be the last person that you feel a connection to. No need to stress about this.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:55 PM
6

Now if she was able to find a professional position where she was getting paid $80-$90k a year without any household expenses, and then able to put away money for grad school/downpayment on a house/money to start her own business then I would call it a flex. Given that she is barely making $12k after taxes, the amount of time she spends on homemaking/housekeeping is impeding her from getting a job that creates wealth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:42 PM
10

I think the issue is whether there is self-growth after each pickme incident. Are your friends learning from their pickme mistakes or are they just repeating them over again with different men and expect you to be their punching bag/free therapist?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:42 PM
60

The sad, pathetic fact is that all of the women in her social circle that she has derided as "high maitenance" b/c they demanded a 2 carat ring and a proposal after 2 years of dating are probably pretty satisfied with their lives right now...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 06:43 PM
5

Yeah, I grew up in bible belt red state America, and Evangelical Christian women are basically brainwashed to see only the good in a man!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 09:29 PM
12

mommybangmaidmartyers are ALL about mislabeling "self care" as "selfish". What is it about squeezing a child out of your vagina that makes them think that they are Mother Theresa??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 09:27 PM
4

You know at least he's honest about the fact that he's trash...it makes it easier to weed them all out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 02:12 PM
3

Ah yes, the OP should adopt some sort of western chador! As a practicing Muslim women, I find your comment risible!!! FYI, women in "seasonal loose fitting long coat[s]" (as well as scarves, gloves, and even full-face veils) are harassed quite regularly in the Muslim world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 01:06 PM
6

Yes THIS!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:01 PM
30

“Preach. I exclusively date men with masters or beyond from elite universities and literally all of them have been LVM. These intellectual/material qualifications (whatever yours may personally be) are the bare minimum to be considered by an FDS woman and are NOT a guarantee of a HVM. Hallelujah girl! You are preaching to the choir!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:46 PM
30

"I just want to have fun" In my experience, this usually means "I don't want to have to consider anyone else's needs or preferences".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:43 PM
141

Better skin texture??? Maybe in an airbrushed magazine ad! Most men have skin the texture of Swiss Cheese!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:16 PM
24

me! Me! MEEEEEE!! And of course, he dumped me for a woman 10 years younger once he started looking better [insert clown emoji here]
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 05:56 PM
3

or who actually paid the money for the expensive skincare!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 05:53 PM
1

So what if a woman wants to date a man making six figures, the mid six figures, a millionaire, or a billionaire? They have the right to create whatever standards they want. Whether working class men consider that reasonable is irrelevant. The root of the issue here is that many men consider women to be objects and property - not human beings capable to subjective thought and creating their own agenda.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 05:34 PM
34

Back in 2002, I managed to get it together and leave my emotionally abusive scrote of a husband when he went on an overseas trip and I spent 2 weeks in the comfort of my parents home. The peace and quiet, love and support that I experienced with my parents was in direct contrast to the yelling, screaming, and gaslighting that I experienced in the home I had with my ex-husband. Abusive men cause you to drown in a deep, deep ocean of drama. Often, you are too tired to fight back against the abuse …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:44 PM
2

great to hear that!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 08:33 PM
8

Sooo her babysitter fell through - why didn't she take the out that the OP offered? No one asked her to martyr herself in this situation? You seem to think that the OP has no right to portray herself as one who regulates her own emotions unless she is a complete doormat!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 04:32 PM
10

He treats you like crap but he "really really" loves you - girl NO. You need to start defining love as NOT treating you like crap. Consider once this pandemic is over moving a couple of time zones away so you can get distance from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 03:36 PM
3

Yeah, I always found female public interest employees to be sanctimonious pains in the ass! They always copped an attitude with those of us who worked in corporate jobs that we were money greedy and doing something immoral while they and their $2000 designer handbag and $2mil home were subsidized by an executive level hubby who was definitely NOT being paid to save the starving children.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 07:21 PM
4

"I snatched back the energy" Love that phrase - snatch back your energy! snatch back your power! Snatch back the ability to define your own self worth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 03:40 PM
56

I think this guy was a cabbie/driver of a black car who was imagining in his head that he had a relationship with one of his customers. This female customer viewed him as the driver of transportation that she took regularly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:02 PM
15

Why the fuck is hEr mAN not "choosing her" by offering to move to one of those cities? Are his feet bolted to the floor??? You can tell alot about the balance of power in this relationship. One day, when his career picks up and he leaves her for the 20 year old bimbo she's going to wail at him "but I gave up going to LAW SCHOOL for yoooooooooou!!!!!" and he well reply "well babe, that was your choice"!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 12:42 PM
13

Nor does he need to know the extent of your parent's wealth. He's not a bank officer underwriting a refinancing mortgage, is he??? Don't feel a need to tell anyone other than your accountant, the IRS, or a loan officer the extent of your wealth. If you are not comfortable disclosing your house ownership to you colleagues then don't do that. There is a large contingent of (both men and women) out there that resents a woman with money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 12:25 PM
9

Exactly! Don't give men info that they don't need to know. Now a year on, if you get engaged that might be a thing. Additionally if your family has a trust or other intergenerational wealth, you need to consider (discreetly without telling him) see an attorney and educate yourself regarding what steps you need to take to protect family money from these greedy, greedy men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 12:23 PM
129

Ooooh if you are a woman who comes from money (or at least comparatively, more money than your bf/hubby) be very cognizant about how he deals with that issue. My ex-husband was veeerrrry resentful of the fact that my dad did alot better financially than his even though they had the same education. While he had not problem enjoying the benefits of this situation, he was always calling me "spoiled and selfish". This is why he is my EX-husband!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 06:16 PM
26

Gee sis, I hope ya get picked!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 06:09 PM
2

Aaaand know you know why the who FDS philosophy gets such a hostile reaction. The mere premise that women get to make decisions solely on their own interest and not take into account the needs of whatever penis is nearby is nothing short of revolutionary. Those of us on this subreddit should never forget that!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 02:15 PM
208

"It's probably because we have standards" - that's the snappy reply I gave to the last scrote that said that to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:28 PM
14

heaven forbid.......HEAVEN FORBID that women date men with their own comfort, safety, and convience as a top priority.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:01 PM
12

god...this is exactly the sort of women who posts on breaking mom!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 03:46 PM
37

The real reason that they hate FDS is that it makes too many women question the status quo. FDS is the first site that I have seen that first, last, and only focuses on what benefits women and tell men to go f#ck their feeling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 02:27 PM
120

Yup...there is nothing a LVM likes more than taking a HVW down a notch to his level. This trope is seen in entertainment industry where many plots involve young women on the move who come back to their shitty little town to be with their nobody ex-bf. (Hallmark channel - I am looking at you!!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:19 PM
33

Holy sh*t!! I hope you told that colleague to leave your place (or that you grabbed your stuff and left his place)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:50 PM
9

The first thing every single woman has to do before even considering the idea of dating is to get completely comfortable with being single, even forever. YES!!! YES!!! YES!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:07 PM
1

The difference here is that you are not an apologista for sex work/the sex industry....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:30 PM
8

Even in the depths of pick-me hell, I would have never done this!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 03:11 PM
40

Holy f*ck! That necklace looks cheap - it would probably turn the recipient's neck green with an hour!! Also it probably cost less than 5% of the scrotes annual spend on porn and video game related paraphernalia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:34 PM
3

d he beat me and stole my things, went into room while i was naked, took photos of me, sent them to their friends and so much more. My parents never cared and told me to be quiet... 🤢 I have some divorced girlfriends with daughters who only dates divorced dads with sons if their sons are already out of the house. While these relationships have problems due to th 10+ yr age gap, at least they know that their daughters are safe at home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 04:14 PM
3

What in sweet pickmeshia hell??????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 02:38 PM
61

I love style, but I am completely against the whole p@rn-inspired, peroxide blond, fake lashes, b00b job, teetering in high heels aesthetic that is reflected in female Fox News anchors and is currently considered the aesthetic of middle class white women (I'm not even white so it's not like I could even fit this aesthetic!) If you are not into fashion that's fine, but for those of us who consider the way we present ourself in the world as a form of artistic expression, we should not feel ashamed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 12:23 PM
68

Honesty, I would avoid friendships with adult women who use this phrase too. My ex-pickme friend used to parrot this to me and other regularly. She thought the phrase provided her with permission to use me as an emotional punching bag when she was too chicken to confront a date about his mistreatment of her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 09:13 PM
7

Prior to COVID, I belonged to one of those boutique gyms that specializes in HIIT (high intensity interval training). Membership at that gym cost almost $200/month, and I went to the 6am or 7am classes. At those prices, and that early in the morning, the men who were there were focused on the workout. While I agree that men with money can be as creepy and as predatory as broke-a$$3d men, they have much more to lose by behaving that way in a public venue. While Mr. big-law associate, Mr. pediatri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 05:43 PM
41

As a brown south asian woman and a practising Muslim I have to say that brown muslim scrotes are a flaming pile of trash.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:34 AM
66

We women need to insist that respect be shown to us from the first encounter so that scrotes do not dangle it over our heads as a carrot so that they can manipulate us into behaviour that does not serve our interests.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 07:41 PM
64

......as well as free legal advice ( I am an attorney).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:58 PM
49

To be fair, the WSJ article was somewhat neutral bordering on flattering about FDS....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:55 PM
49

But what surprised me was the f*ck!ng persistence of it all...when blocked on social media and cell phones, he finds the one account I never check? Doesn't he realize how pathetic a 40 yr old man who earns $150k + a year looks? Doesn't he have friends he can confide in? Can he use some of his hard earned money for a therapist or a psychiatrist? Why are these macho manly man men the ones who are not able to handle shit when it hits the fans? Does he think he is the only dad in the world who has g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:54 PM
2

Yeah, but it doesn't have to me ME!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:13 PM
11

I appreciate you feedback, sustaining-sam. It gives me alot to think about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 05:30 PM
14

I'm sorry you are out of line telling me to calm down. Beyond the usual misogynistic shit that all women deal with in dating, women of color deal with misogynoir and misogy-brown. We do not get treated well by men in our communities in contrast with how they treat white women. You do not get to tell me not to address that fact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 04:13 PM
-33

But of course he did this for a white woman!! He would never, ever (like EVAH!!) done this for an Indian woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 03:47 PM
164

Tell the pickmes that these men can learn with their mouths shut.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:54 PM
10

No MALE friends. NOT even hugging them. If you running late to get back home, you MUST text me and take a selfie so I know you're not with someone. Holy sh*t this guys terrifying! I fear that she will end up in the hospital or the morgue someday!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:51 PM
10

My former pickme friend who would have planned the wedding to a scrote 24 hrs after they met at a party (he hadn't even asked her on a date yet) needs to hear this. FDS women are not car dealerships and we don't provide pre-approved (relationship) credit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 03:49 PM
2

keep in mind this sub is about DATING, and there is no need for nuance with a disrespectful scrote that you have had only a few dates with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 08:38 PM
4

This guy's a creep, but frankly the only reason a man 20 yrs older than you would want to be "friends" is to try it on!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 08:34 PM
60

"rules of sex work" What a joke - like there is some sort of hooker/john confidentiality!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 06:05 PM
58

Yeah, I'm not really one to roast a woman about how she choses to present herself in public, however, for this pickmeshia, I will make an exception. The little girl braids plus that lepoard coat is just laughable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 05:25 PM
3

wow....he needs to be your ex-husband!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 09:32 PM
6

No expectations of being able to pay for the expensive private schools/travel sports teams/SAT prep & college admissions coaches/Harvard or Yale or Stanford/ summer school abroad and other unpaid internships/security deposit for first apartment in HCOL ect ect ect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 04:27 PM
11

"As your childhood friend I would do anything for you..." You mean other than respect my wishes and leave me the f*ck alone??????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 08:22 PM
53

There's a reason why the website "Chump Lady" (which I highly recommend for any women who is recovering from her partner's infidelity) called this shit the Reconciliation Industrial Complex (RIC).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 08:20 PM
23

"Birdie Boy" needs a psychiatrist - not and understanding girlfriend! More evidence that men expect us to be their unpaid therapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:05 PM
29

"I don't think you have any idea what you want in life" This line is classic among scrotes who think that they are such a prize (the presumption being that if you knew what you wanted you would want HIM -right???) The best comeback to this is "I may not know exactly what I want but I know exactly what I don't want - YOU!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 01:30 PM
3

Yes! Thank god (or goddess if you prefer) for feminism!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 07:16 PM
21

no, a woman who values her career over her alleged sexual attraction to men in throwing away a dull, scratched-up cubic zirconia to make room for better things to come!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 03:57 PM
16

I've notice that no woman in my social circle with male children who are disciplined, well behaved, and don't act like they are entitled to act like they are on the playground at recess not matter the setting (funeral home, expensive restaurant, church neighbor's home ect.) calls herself a boymom - those ladies identify as women raising sons. It seems that when a woman self-identifies as a boymom, its guaranteed that her male offspring are porn-sick demon spawn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 12:47 AM
61

The poster was teaching her daughter how to be a woman... a woman who STANDS UP FOR HERSELF!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 12:41 AM
10

John Le Carrie was a great author, but otherwise a LVM. He dumped his first wife for the second one (depicted in the photo above and who is over 20 yrs younger than he) and is widely known to have cheated on both his wives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 06:21 PM
15

Even if it costs extra money - get a single room. You never know what sort of depraved scrotes a pickme roomate might bring home!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 06:11 PM
1

Should she also let the stds you gave here slide too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 05:01 PM
3

It's basically an amendment to "Scrote's Law" that says if we fall for the lib fem, sex pozzy, 50-50, give the loser a chance stick them we are performing proper femininity, but if we see through it, we are fat bitter misandrists!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 09:00 PM
43

Yeah, we really need to talk about all of the ways that the fashion/beauty industrial complex works to suck away both our self confidence and our money!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:06 PM
442

Notice he did not mention his age. God forbid these scrotes date their social/intellectual equal!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 08:54 PM
54

Aaaand what are your plans if the hubby upgrades to a newer model? How do you intend to keep a roof over your head, food in the fridge, heat/electricity in your home if you have been out of work for a decace? Jayda92, I'm not trying to rain on your parade here but it's important to think what your backup plan might be if things go wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 08:52 PM
5

I hope they pick you sis.......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:34 PM
5

Since he likes the ring the way it is, why doesn't he f$^$ing wear it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 07:58 PM
6

I get called a man-hater by most of my friends, Oh, sweetie, you need to dump them and make new friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:21 PM
7

I do - they don't want you to have any reminders that you have other options than their scrotey ass!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 05:14 PM
12

I suggest that when you contact the police, request a meeting with someone from the sex crimes unit. A beat cop may say something stupid like "if he is not on your property, then nothing illegal is going on". A member of the sex crimes squad would understand that peeping Tom behaviour would be viewed as gateway to sexual assault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 09:53 PM
7

I was literally asking for it by my thoughts and actions because it's the only thing I knew. I Whether its rape of any other type of physical or emotional abuse, no woman was "asking for it" - they were just, due to the physical, financial, or emotional place that they were at that time - vulnerable to it (ie shitty male behavior).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 09:23 PM
10

Don't know if any of you all have read the website "Chump Lady" - its written by a woman as a support network for people (both women&men) who are dealing with the aftermath of a cheating partner. It is anti-kink and poly, as well as pro "kick him out the first time" so it is somewhat FDS friendly, but take note that both women and men are allowed to (anonymously) comments on the articles, so if any of you choose to comment on there, please factor that in. In any case, back to my point: Chump Lad…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 04:59 PM
39

The friend is not a borderline pickme - she is a true blue pickme who plays for "team penis". The first thing out of her mouth should have been "wow! what a smug asshole" not you (the OP) were unkind. OP may have to start blocking the friend too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:12 PM
1

Hell yeah!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 06:36 PM
27

Oh god - Like vultures, these horny, porny scotes swooped in on the weaked carcass of your self esteem post breakup. I hope she didn't go through with it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 06:35 PM
65

Yep....pretty much!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 06:32 PM
4

To clarify, what's it costing her (physically, emotionally, and financially) to put up with this man's crappy treatment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:29 PM
34

Some of you may not be old enough to remember the Oprah Winfrey show or a frequent guest of hers, Dr. Phil. One of Dr. Phil's questions to (mainly women) who went on the show to complain about mistreatment by a husband/partner was to ask her "so, what's it costing you?" the questions seems appropriate here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 11:10 PM
18

Hopefully, the female employees will find themselves a good employment discrimination attorney and get a settlement!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 07:33 PM
10

Funny - I just got a renewal notice for my subscription in the mail. After reading this post, it will be going into the trash!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 06:48 PM
36

Bannana_nut: Don't worry - they are plenty on non-south asian men who would be attracted to you. And they come with the bonus of no mummy-ji to interfere in your life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 11:53 PM
9

You need to file a police report and summarize the harassment you have received to this point in time, with your boyfriend (and any other neighbors who have seen this behavior) as a corroborating witnesses. The next time he tries to harass you just call the cops. Landlords tend to ignore most conflicts between tenants, but pay close attention when law enforcement gets involved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 04:35 PM
12

Whaaat? Why isn't your bf trying to put a stop to this (or get this asshole kicked out from his apartment) At the least, your bf should offer to come see you at your place so that you can avoid this man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 02:49 PM
3

Nah girle, what you probably "got" is: a. gonorrhea b. herpes or c. pregnant with a side of neglectful parents!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:33 PM
11

Give it a couple of months - Mercedes will be posting on BreakingMom screaming into the void like the rest of those pathetic and powerless women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:30 PM
7

Word...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:29 PM
12

Oooh! Negging FDS style. I like it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:25 PM
13

"Normalize marrying a man who is not financially stable" -translating "South Asian Pickmeshia" speak into English, that means let him pressure your parents into providing an enormous dowry which will be pocketed by his family and you will never have any access/control of it in the future...and...if you ever get the courage to leave the scorote, don't expect to be able to take anything other than the clothes on you back with you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 01:43 AM
27

That quite the word salad for "waaah wahh! you hurt muh fee fees!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 07:14 PM
6

Thanks for laying things out like this!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 06:55 PM
21

Men want a housewife...but the don't want to have to pay for her to live even a reasonably comfortable life. I work in a company in a low cost of living area. In my business unit, most people earn in my division earn over +150K and the men spend thousands of dollars on tickets to sporting events, strip clubs, computer accessories, and in many cases wining and dining some 20-something pickme at the office. This is bible belt country and they feel as the master of their house they have the right t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 06:38 PM
5

Yes, essentially, this is what happened to Ghisaline Maxwell!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 04:44 PM
18

YES...THIS!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:13 PM
60

Pickmes can also be hazardous to your health. I recall a couple of months ago someone posting here on FDS about how her pickme friend in college invited her out to a party, but when they arrived, they were at an abandoned warehouse and some strange man tried to pull the OP out of the taxi. She found out later that pickme promised her bf that she would act as a procuress for bf's creepy friend!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 05:07 PM
24

The only two FDS-worthy characters on this peak-pickmeshia show!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 07:57 PM
14

When men say the words "sweet" and "nice", what they really mean is poor, uneducated, and lacking any other options!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 06:07 PM
13

Uhhh...more like an easy way to get a restraining order served on you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:54 AM
13

And this is why we FDS'ers don't do crushes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 07:54 PM
8

To be honest, it was more of a "sorry not sorry" for asking you to get the f*ck out of my property sort of apology. Her goal at that moment in time was not to piss him off into hurting her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 10:41 PM
1

Even if this scrote thought that it was the job of any possessor of a vagina to clean up after him, shouldn't he be concerned about his health if he cannot control his bowel movements and get to the toilet in time to aim his pepe into the toilet? ????? She needs to get rid of him (this should be her Christmas present to herself), no questions. However, he really needs to make an appointment with a Urologist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 10:38 PM
2

The lesbian and bi women that I have worked with and for basically shit on straight women in the workplace and were more racist than the most Kareny Karen out there because, to paraphrase the line in Mean Girls, they are "not like the other (straight) women - they are cool (lesbian) women".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 10:35 PM
2

Someone should tell your brother than $75k is chump change for most people who have education beyond a BA.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 10:22 PM
7

you should also block and delete any pickmeshias in your social orbit as they also add absolutely nothing to your life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 05:52 PM
6

My degree does not keep me warm at night, but it was a pathway to a career that pays for my mortgage, winter heating bills, down comforter, and cashmere pjs that DO keep me warm at night!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 02:16 AM
7

Yet you seem particularly huffy about women to take a path that you do not favor.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 10:43 PM
2

Oh good - then you are against Donald Trump too huh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 10:41 PM
30

Summerisle7, No one here is judging you if you personally wished to get out of doge immediately in such a situation. Sometimes waiting until you have family nearby to help with childcare; the ability to earn a $100k+ income thereby not needing child support; and not having any student loans after going to grad school on your hub's GI bill trumps that 5 miserable years! (this was indeed the best situation for my friend given the cards she had on hand!) Providing that there is no immediate danger …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 10:38 PM
6

Guess you never lived in the Bible Belt Monica - or are you only against misogyny that originates in non-Western cultures?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 10:00 PM
66

The only response to such fuckery is to say "well, I know what I don't want - YOU!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 09:56 PM
132

The one woman who I know who utilized this strategy waited till her daughter was 5 to divorce. She had clued in her parents to what was really going on so when her dad retired they moved to a house 15 min from her by the time that the daughter was one. My friend lives in a popular retirement area, so the idea of the grandparents moving down didn't raise any suspicion with the XH. When the daughter was 2, she started a masters program at a local university, with mom there to pick up slack on chil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 09:37 PM
7

You mean to mow over a woman's boundaries!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 09:16 PM
2

Remember, that (at least in the US in the non-unionized labor force) you can be fired from a paid job without cause, so there is no reason that these scrotes should be surprised that you can be fired from a relationship without cause!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 09:15 PM
22

DING DING!! I am really disturbed by how many of these misogynistic memes are illustrated by black women! If that comic told the truth, there would be a second panel showing how after the sister built him up them man thanked her by leaving her ass for "Becky with the good hair" or something!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 09:13 PM
145

I was just speaking to my friend who is a family law attorney about this post and she mentioned that this situation is not a "speak now or forever hold you peace" sort of thing. She has had clients who are in the same boat who are smiling in the hub's face and making long term plans to divorce behind their back. If this woman didn't want to have a date in divorce court today, that's fine but she needs to know what her scrote-dumping timeline is and get as much out of him before D-Day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 09:05 PM
1

"I’m super highly sus of any western-born and raised man (especially white and had been raised as any sort of Christian) that all of a sudden want to convert to Muslim (or anything that foreign to their families of origin)." So are you are equally suspicious of brown non-Christian men who suddenly want to convert to Christianity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 08:57 PM
21

Yep, I am a practising Muslim woman, and the scrotes in our community who neither I or my friends would touch with a 10ft pole are the ones who find these gullible pickmeshias (usually young white women) and twist their arm to convert. These guys proceed to treat these women like shit b/c these women don't really have any roots in our community and are often cut off from their birth family so it's not like he will find an angry bio brother on his doorstep or the woman will just pick up and flee …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 08:56 PM
30

Men also don't need to be Muslim in order to manifest misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 08:51 PM
19

"From that day on, he even slept in tighty whiteys." I was hoping that the end of this story would be "from this day on he slept alone because I dumped his ass"!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 07:30 PM
2

This man is looking for a woman that his family can gaslight into accepting his abuse without any consequences forthcoming from her family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 07:25 PM
70

Everying women that I know that has been married to an abusive or adulterous(let it be known that cheating is a form of abuse) husband have all encountered the same payoff: getting dumped for a younger woman after every drop of joy has been squeezed from their soul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 07:20 PM
30

Also the motivating factor for men seeking "closure": keeping you as an option for no strings sex if their current relationship does not work out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 07:08 PM
3

Yup......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 07:06 PM
6

FDS has been a lifesaver for so many!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:26 PM
11

F*ck Google report that crap to your local medical licensing board!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:20 PM
42

"teach him to be the man you want" - who is going to leave your ass for another woman who will then reap the benefits of your scrote rehab project????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 05:18 PM
2

oh god.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 10:38 PM
3

Proud of your growth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 12:27 AM
5

Is would love to buy a poster of the woman throwing the rapist into the well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 12:19 AM
20

$2k is only a reasonable budget for a gift if the woman is earning over$200k.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 04:52 PM
4

You need to dump pickmeshias and other LVW from your life with the cold efficiently that you remove LVM and other scrotes from your life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 04:50 PM
27

Yeah, but those dudes are literally "raising barns"!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 03:29 PM
22

Exactly, what the female octupus did was self defense!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 06:39 PM
6

Am100 big law associate or partner - hard NO Lobbyist or Congressional Staff (Dem or Rep) - hard NO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 12:38 PM
3

Now let's have women posting more pics like this here instead of us posting the pickmeshia posts of 5 star dinners made for scrote boyfriends (amusing as they are!!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 04:48 PM
15

I agree with everyone who previously said that these free/low cost background investigation sources should be listed on FDS. Companies do background checks on you before they offer you employment There is no reason in the world why a woman should not do a background investigation on a man who she is going to offer her time and company. My only caveat, is that you should never tell your date, or for the matter any man (we should treat this process as 'fight club confidential') that you do a backg…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 03:57 PM
4

And, in a nutshell, you have just pointed out the problems with libfem philosophy!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 03:11 PM
35

Yeah, I always wondered why all of those silly pickmeshias don't just get a degree in psychology and start billing the scrotes for their emotional work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 03:08 PM
33

Unfortunately men, no matter how lacking they are, expect a woman to "shrink to fit". They expect us to hear them say I don't do (holidays, five star gourmet dinners, public affections), and we are supposed to just say oh, ok let me give up all these thing that add fun, sparkle, and meaning in my life for this scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 10:50 PM
1

"The proctoring was a damn joke (and by joke, I mean women were being friend requested by men whose job it was to watch them for hours while they took the exam)" I vomited in my mouth a bit after reading this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 07:15 PM
27

...and out of your life!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 05:41 PM
54

b/c we will then compete with them for jobs....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 04:04 PM
7

Wow...just wow!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:53 PM
11

Who the f*ck says that we 40 year old women want to converse or cook for these scrotes anyway?? I knew there was a reason that I dumped all my male friends in my mid 30's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:07 PM
7

I am so fu@k*ng glad to see that I am not the only woman here rolling her eyes at the struggle love/love is a long hard road ect narrative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 05:30 PM
29

Does anyone know what Bollywood movie this is?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 04:07 PM
12

Sadly, when this scorte looks hard enough, there will be another "Tammy the Therapist" to take her place", however the FDS community should be glad that at least his ex escaped his bullshit. Wouldn't it be hilarious if the ex left because she stumbled upon FDS and started applying our philosophies to her life?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 02:39 PM
11

This reminds me of something that I read in an anti-LibFem blog: "your kinks are not sacred"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 02:35 PM
64

I would, but I am not sure if it is ok with the moderators. Maybe such a post is more appropriate in the FDS level up sub-reddit? (MODERATORS CHIME IN HERE PLS?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:11 PM
114

And even if she was being heartless...so what? Why should we be obligated to be compassionate to a world that is often cruel and heartless to us?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:31 PM
6

I while ago, I read somewhere that a female sociologist from a non-western culture wrote that "in the West, people disguise personal interactions between the genders containing significant power imbalances as love - and who can argue with love?". I think she hit the nail on the head!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:45 PM
30

If you are too poor to afford a haircut (and men's haircuts are d*mn cheap!), then you are too poor to date and have a girlfriend!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:40 PM
25

OMG - THIS!! There was this real creep in my law school class who openly bragged that he only date women raised by single moms because they were bottomless pits of emotional neediness, and therefore easily manipulated. He got his ass whooped, however, when the women he was dating (a paralegal at the firm he was working at) passed the Foreign Service Exam/left his LV ass/joined the State Department/and got posted in London!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:56 PM
30

I believe there was also a push to see if she needed help moving out of his home...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:51 PM
4

YES!!!! After all, that is what the rest of Reddit is for!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:50 PM
1

The only thing that would make this comic more accurate is if the characingters were browner, mommy was wearing a sari, and the boys name was Raj, Arvind, Vinod or something to that effect!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 09:45 PM
7

This reminds me of a really creepy comedy punchline attributed to Eddie Murphy - "once its on the menu its ALWAYS on the menu". Basically a woman has a sexual resume and she must perform whatever is on that sexual resume.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 09:44 PM
166

I'm always amazed by these asshole's obsessions about women being ruined by the world. What, dickhead, do you own some sort of "mental condom"? If the world is sick and a 25 yr old woman is ruined by it, then the chances are good that you have been ruined by it too, right? This reminds me of the thought process of the LVM who fetisheze East Asian/Latin American/Eastern European women as not being spoiled by decadent/individualistic American culture. I mean, I you do not want anyone with these tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:46 PM
9

Every male in Hollywood is breathing a sigh of relief............
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:10 PM
6

ars ago on the first date when he lied to me to get into my pants. He just had a bad childhood you see, that’s why he’s lazy & does nothing but leech off me. No I d Aaaand this is why, as part of my transformation into a HVM, I had to dump all of my pickmeshia friends as hard as I dumped all of the LVM that I know......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:02 PM
6

Yeah, I feel that FDS needs to stress weeding out both the LVM (both currents and exes) and pickmeshia friends out of your life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 07:00 PM
1

"Where she is queen, he is king...."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 05:23 PM
8

you should sell this as a needlework kit......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:09 PM
2

Not sure if I totally agree with the women's strategy, however love the fact that she caught on to the need to ruthlessly eliminate scrotes that early on in life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:05 PM
8

This is a great idea. Thanks for acknowleging the fact that intersectionality means that women of different racial/ethnic/religious background often face specific flavors of misogyny that require specific strategies to deal with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:02 PM
28

What makes him think that the childless women he is targeting won't be turned off by such an asnine comment? I mean, if he's not ready to play stepdad, that's one thing. However, the nasty crack about single moms being unlovable and the reason that the kid's dad left is cruel, and frankly seems like a neg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 05:33 PM
3

Pickmeishastan!!!! I am now adding this new word to my vocabulary!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 05:30 PM
12

Not to mention that most white women with half a brain would be disgusted by the racism exhibited in this statement!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 05:00 PM
52

What kind of grown asses man needs his mommy to protect his fee-fees?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 04:58 PM
28

Promise rings are only acceptable if the man is in high school.......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:46 PM
35

I conclude that men are a bunch of bitter bitches who can't be happy for no one (they don't even like it when other men get money, love, fame, or success!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 05:43 PM
13

Its frightening how many women conflate love with suffering, misery, and matrydom!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 04:11 PM
69

More like 99%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 04:10 PM
7

PSA to all of the white women out there - avoid like the plague any many who says he doesn't date/isn't attracted to/doesn't find interesting any woman of his own racial, ethnic, or religious community. It's a form of self hate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 06:50 PM
8

If a man finds older women repulsive, he's going to find you repulsive someday. YES!!!!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 06:16 PM
12

No sweetie, your'e an asshole b/c you do not value yourself enough to get the hell out of this relationship!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 08:42 PM
7

Also keep in mind that men have ABSOULTELY NO PROBLEM WHATSOEVER walking away if we get sick. There are dozens of tales of men who divorce their wives if she gets cancer ect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 03:24 PM
5

and that is the beauty of FDS - we support other woman prioritizing their welfare without give any f*cks about political correctness!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 03:14 PM
8

That't right! Don't give anyone in either romantice, friendship, family, or career relationships a reason to minimize their damage through half-asses lies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 03:09 PM
4

Oh she deserves an upgrade alright - to a new boyfriend!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 03:59 PM
28

Honestly, why don't these men just hire a hooker and leave the rest of us alone?????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 03:56 PM
13

I think there is one caveat to this - if you need to be with a man of a particualr faith group, or don't want a man with kids, you should probably put that out there. These things are hard to fake....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 02:03 PM
25

The trash took itself out here.......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 04:17 PM
3

It's the "Jesus Scrote"!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 05:05 PM
3

Ooooh you are in the same position that I was 5 years ago. I once had a pickmeshia friend- let's call her "Nikki". If there was a loser, user, or abuser within a mile of us she would find him, sleep with him, and fall in luuuuuurrrrrve with him! She was incapable of standing up for herself against these LVMs so she would take out here anger and frustration on her girlfriends. Things came to a head when she refused to come to my birthday party because another friend of mine "Patty" would be there…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 04:35 PM
4

Yeah, he needs to walk his #$$ right out of her life!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 04:17 PM
5

The saddest thing that I have seen on FDS in awhile!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 07:53 PM
2

Sending you some hugs! Also be aware that you are more than capable of buying your own white picket fence house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 04:47 PM
7

This guy's not only an asshole but ignorant about US history! The "one drop rule" ensured that white passing African-Americans would still be classified as black and carry all of the burdens of second class status associated with such a status. Black people who wanted to pass as white had to usually move away from their communities and cut ties with their families in order to maintain their fictional whiteness. Furthermore, white-passing black women were classified as sexual exotica (having a se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 04:42 PM
9

Something tells me this asshole doesn't date any woman who wears above a size 2...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 05:19 PM
21

THIS is what all of the dedicated pickmeshias and the male losers who love them don't get about the FDS theory! They try to threaten us with a future of singledom and cats without realizing that we would happy choose that option (and go all in and live that life to the fullest) if we do not find a man who is worth our time and energy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 08:14 PM
102

What I find really hysterical is the fact that these sorts of statements generate a race to the bottom - a sort of pickmesha olympics. No doubt some other pickmeshia responded to the post with "oh yeah sis A 20$ RING!!!! you gold digger!! You should be happy if a man proposes to you with a Burger King onion ring!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 07:44 PM
5

YES!!!!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 02:54 PM
7

Good God! I can't help but wonder if this woman is in fact being trafficked!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 02:54 PM
42

As Dr. Phil once said on an episode of the Oprah show "potential means he hasn't achieved it (whatever it is) yet, and there is no guarentees that he will ever achieve it"..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 03:54 PM
29

I believe that in African America circles this is what is known as "misogynoir" (the toxic combo of racisim + sexism)!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 03:33 PM
11

Nah Sis Those guys will just become incels, sitting in their basement eating Cheetos, with in their dirty torn briefs, beer belly hanging out, and raging against "femoids" and feminism on other Reddit subs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 03:30 PM
3

And my brain is rather intact thank you very much! That I why I would choose to focus of the actual perpetrator and make this thread and not engage in shitting on others belief systems. Oh, and also, I have enough Catholic friends to know that wife beating is indeed a problem in your community. There is a famous court case from the 70's where the parents of a women sued the Catholic diocese because when their daughter went to a priest for help with the violence in her marriage, the priest told h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 07:49 PM
0

Yes and your little nuclear family is representative of all of the Catholic households out there right? If someone came onto this blog and said that her CATHOLIC husband what cheating&beating on her and she is scared to leave because "The Chruch" forbids divorce, and another commentor posted that Catholicism was the problem (as opposed to the abusive husband), I suspect you would be very offended right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 07:43 PM
2

Have you heard of the website "Chump Lady"? It is a resource (and venting site) for those leaving relationships after cheating/abuse. One of the terms used there is "Switzerland friends" - those who take the "there good people on both sides" view of a break up. Chump Lady's advice is that post breakup, you should only allow those into your life who are 100% on your side, and dump the Switzerland friend like to hot heap of garbage that they are. Trust that you will heal and life will be better wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 07:38 PM
7

Although, to be fair, I strongly believe that googling a man has a place in the vetting process. I have been able to pick up some red flags (ie DUI convictions, failure to pay child support exct,; suspension/revocation of professional licences) that would not have been readily apparent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 12:33 PM
5

Is there nothing you can do? Why not just put the facts out there plainly ie "I understand that scrote looks like a nice guy to you but he does X, Y, and Z." If you friend group does not belive you, they do not deserve your friendship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 12:20 PM
3

And I learned this the hard way....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 12:16 PM
7

PREACH!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 12:16 PM
1

THIS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 11:58 AM
16

You mean compared to those women-friendly religions such as Christianity, Judaism, and Hinduism riiiiight? I mean no one in those faith groups control or physically abuse women right? I is possible to recognize that this women is in an abusive situation and needs an out with out shitting on other faith communities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 11:54 AM
8

THIS!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 04:00 PM
8

I hope someone responded with a link to a domestic violence hotline....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 12:16 PM
14

Wonder how she deals with the issue of STDs in this situation? Is she ok with only getting clamydiya once a year?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 09:06 PM
1

This all depends if his name is on the lease or on the deed right? Anyway, I did mention at the end of my earlier comment contacting legal aid or some other resource devoted to women in danger (I agree with other posters here- this man WILL become dangerous the closer OP gets to legally kicking the bum out).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 08:05 PM
3

"someone without a home would absolutely fight for it".... With what resources? He does not seem to have a job which is why he is spongin off of OP. She needs to contact a local legal aid society or organization devoted to women's safety for her next best steps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 07:52 PM
9

While its true that a fully developed HVW knows how to cut off these types of friends, many aspiring HVW/recovering pickmeshias need guidance on how to get there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 07:36 PM
12

FDS needs to give it adherents tips on how to cut ties with pickmeshia friends and relatives. They will emotionally suck you dry as they expect free therapy and soothsaying when their LVMs treat them like crap. Additionally, they will also overtly or subtly sabotage your efforts to be an independent, financially solvent, take no crap HVW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 03:49 PM
5

Oh my god!!! She's lucky is she does not appear on a future episode of "Unsolved Mysteries" as an unsolved disappearance story. My former pickmeshia friend "N" did this back in 2007. She flew from DC to Vegas to meet a man whom she met on a dating site. He was a total LVM- over 300 pounds and works as a prison guard (did I mention that N was an attorney with a decent job?) When he realized that there would be no nookie, he spend the entire evening ogling the waitress at the cheap buffet he took …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 03:45 PM
40

no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 12:21 AM
102

"But...but...muh pepe know better than some chick with a piece of paper. hurr durr" -the official scrote response
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 12:20 AM
20

Or to any women who has a clothing size above size 6.......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 09:00 PM
8

Ok, fine then. Until you put a ring on my finger (and I mean wedding ring, not engagement ring) we will not be living together or engaging in any hanky-panky! It seems that poster wants to buy the wifey package at the pickmeshia price.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 08:45 PM
5

Do you mean that there are those with white male privilege who command respect by default due to the racism and sexism in our society and everyone else is a Karen?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 10:04 PM
13

Someone should tell the pathetic women that this sign does not garner empathy - just pity - from others!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 08:31 PM
32

Yes - this! Ever since I learned the term "paragraphing" from reading this FDS thread, I have stopped explaning myself to toxic people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 06:36 PM
76

Agreed! if you are a man who has to explicitly label himself as "dominant" then you are without fail a beta male!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 06:34 PM
12

This guy did not have a problem with her past when he married and started a family with her! Also, since she is now unemployed, she will push for more alimony. This scrote is both a hypocrite as well as an idiot!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 02:42 PM
5

This!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 05:46 PM
48

Is anyone disturbed by the fact that this pickmeshia mene is illustrated by a legless woman of color? It seems like while all women are asked to sacrifice unreasonably for men who don't give a d*mn, women of color are expected to be happy with the crumbs, and are not considered good partners unless they get maimed in the name of love. How much you want to bet that scrote will drive away in the Beemer and ditch the pickmesia for a woman who has all her four limbs?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 04:53 PM
5

This woman does not need to change her wardrobe - she needs a change of boyfriends!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 12:55 PM
4

Karma baby!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 12:51 PM
5

This!!! Additionally, if a man you are dating calls his ex crazy, you should ask him what did you do to make hime crazy (this, of course, does not apply if there is actual physical violence or stalking by the ex).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 12:42 PM
17

Unless this girl is in high school and the guy is working on the budget of a highschooler, this reeks pickme. No doubt some pickmeshia will try beat her by saying she doesn't need a man to take her out, she's more than happy hanging at his place heating up leftovers from the fridge!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 08:01 PM
5

me too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 02:40 PM
3

Any FDS women in their 40's here or is this mean only for younger women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 05:49 PM
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