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Maybe he's not actually bald, just he shaves his head so it's not as uncomfortable to keep it stuck so far up his own ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 03:34 AM
68

Do scrotes still try the "do the carpets match the drapes" thing or has that gone the way of the average male hairline?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 10:50 PM
39

Preddit is also good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 08:47 PM
151

Men don't like it when they receive a broken toy. They want a pristine one they can bang up all on their own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 08:28 PM
2

Related, there's a similar one for people who are managing or are recovering from a relationship with a parent with borderline personality disorder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 08:14 PM
56

Gotta make sure the people currently in power keep possession of the most luxurious handbasket possible during our collective descent into hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 08:10 PM
85

A "privilege" is something that can be taken away from you. A "right" is something you're entitled to regardless of behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 08:09 PM
5

To block DMs, go to https://www.reddit.com/prefs/blocked/ and select "Only trusted users" then save.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 08:08 PM
69

He doesn't even have the decency to try not to look like her grandfather. Hair and beard dye aren't expensive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 06:05 PM
9

A thing I've noticed in the ballroom dance communities I've been part of: when it comes to advanced dance classes, the women-to-men ratio tends to equalize as one approaches the intermediate level as women stop having fun waiting on the sidelines and start to drop out, and at the senior level, men often outnumber women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 04:45 PM
8

Aside... Wow, that study was gruesome as hell. How did that get ethics committee approval in the first place??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 04:30 PM
7

Same. They're always bitter and pissy when you're doing better than them, but they don't take that as incentive to step up, just tear you down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 01:31 AM
16

No. If they can't manage to out-earn me when sexism constantly works in men's favour, then it says to me they are coasting through life and not in the habit of maintaining their relationships. I don't want to babysit someone with that passive energy when I've had to work against the odds and suffer the indignities I've had to get what I have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 01:30 AM
8

Men who only don't commit disgusting and evil acts because they've never been given the opportunity are men who are not worth allowing to breathe the same air as you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 07:34 PM
22

Yup! And which sex is overwhelmingly responsible for promoting, planning, and carrying out eugenicist acts? Not women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 04:28 PM
180

Imagine being such a fucking loser that you think women having the option to do better than you is a hate crime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 12:13 AM
26

"Hey gorgeous" "Hey beautiful" Hey yourself, scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 05:10 PM
41

Generic pet names are another red flag. Same energy, it's creating false intimacy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 04:11 PM
17

There's no "honor" in a lie. The only truth she gave you was that she delighted in pushing boundaries, and the response to seeing that early is relief.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 03:51 PM
16

I like the advice of "if in doubt, gouge it out."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 05:55 AM
220

It's not that he's too shy to ask, it's that he's too fucking weak to handle the possibility of rejection. He has the audacity when he takes away her ability to say no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 05:22 AM
36

You're not "to blame" for abusive people seeing that other abusers have softened you up and deciding to take advantage of you based on that. You do have the responsibility to work on that if you want to get better, which you are doing, and which you deserve to feel good about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 03:25 AM
11

Sounds a bit No True Scotsman of them tbh. I can't bring myself to pretend that I'm sorry they don't think that intellectual property is good propaganda for their abusive hobby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 01:09 AM
116

IME self-described "empaths" are either full-on narcissists or unaware they're suffering from c-PTSD due to decades of narcissistic abuse, and thus miscategorizing their hypervigilance as a psychic power.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 12:01 AM
71

Still remembering the fugly, unemployed mama's boy who told teenage me I needed to lose weight and get a tan. I didn't clap back then, but I still remember looking at his sweatsuit, bad haircut, bucktoothed overbite, and pimply skin, and wondering if I had time to list what he needed to do to become palatable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 06:05 PM
15

Lewis's Last Law strikes again: "The comments on any article about feminism justify feminism."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:19 PM
14

Depending on how hot the market is, it can be more profitable for a realtor to try to force a sale in as short a time as possible (and ignore a seller's desire to negotiate for a higher price) and try to move less desirable stock (and ignore a buyer's desire for the perfect house) in the interests of a higher volume of sales in the same time period. Neither tactic will get them much repeat business or referrals, but if they don't think you're likely to have enough money to use them again or enou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 03:29 PM
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selling you a home pays them That's exactly why some suggest unsuitable homes in the hopes that it'll be a quick commission for them for less effort than it would take to get you what you actually want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 06:01 AM
2

When I was a kid, in my crowd, some rando wandering into a party and passing out would get Sharpie marker doodles on his face for his rudeness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:02 PM
3

I wonder how much of that expectation is a natural progression from people caring more about neurodivergence in boys, so they get their ADHD or Asperger's or whichever diagnoses early and can use those for academic accommodations, and expect the same in every aspect of their lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:00 PM
12

To block DMs, go to https://www.reddit.com/prefs/blocked/ and select "Only trusted users" then save.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 03:53 PM
42

Stuff does happen for a reason: because people are assholes and they decided to do it to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 05:47 AM
29

They want to feel challenged but victorious every time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 11:28 PM
27

Feminists do a hell of a lot more than "just hate men," but I'll admit that it takes more and more effort for me not to hate the more I learn of men's constant lies, manipulation, and abuses of power to keep the female half of the world's population enslaved to them, and I've gotten to a point in my life where I'm done suppressing myself for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 11:15 PM
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The less I've tolerated people helping themselves to my body, the more comfortable I've become in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 04:54 PM
7

Most people want the credit of being something they think is popular without actually meeting the standards for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:41 PM
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And the pickme corollary: "Believe sexual assault survivors except the ones assaulted by any man I don't personally already hate."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 09:48 PM
18

Just goes to show that none of the scrotes who say that have ever been given a massive case of food poisoning by a pizza.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 05:42 PM
57

Slaps are too easily shrugged off, though, as you can see from the scrotes' laughter. The Pink Saris have the right idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:01 AM
21

Why did the scrote cross the road? Because he thought it was a boundary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:51 AM
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I wonder when they'll learn that if you always turn the other cheek when someone slaps you, they'll just keep doing it and it doesn't make you good, only stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 06:45 AM
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Thank you. This was a long time ago and it was surprisingly (and sadly) easy to not really miss that group much once I decided in favor of my own dignity. It felt really bad once I realized how much I had been held back by trying to fit in, but once I worked through that, there was more room in my life for better people and experiences. I still get angry when I see the same shit they pulled on me being repeated over and over by people who only want to be on what they see as the winning side ("th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 12:43 AM
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Why does he expect to get all the benefits of a wife while doing nothing to earn them? Wives overwhelmingly make men's lives easier, richer, fuller, and longer at the expense of their own hopes, dreams, health, and actual years of their life. He's saying from the get-go that he doesn't think he should pay for these services, that he's happy with being an actual parasite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 08:05 PM
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I lost an entire group of libfem friends because I (stupidly) talked to them about how a guy who'd sexually assaulted me was taking advantage of our pro-LGBT politics to make them complicit in helping him avoid suffering the consequences of the sexual violence he committed and continued to commit, and had no intention of stopping as long as he didn't get punished. They called me a bigot and said I was committing violence for not empathizing with his "internal struggle" over protecting myself and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:43 PM
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Right? Like what human being listens to someone say "I don't know what to choose" and decides that humiliating that person for internet points is the right next step?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:24 PM
72

Same. If men are so upset that they're not wanted, they should work harder to become more attractive, not constantly guilt trip, gaslight, and otherwise coerce women into yet more insincere performance for the sake of the unattractively fragile male ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:03 PM
9

I heard the doctor in question popularized the supine position because he felt it more proper for women to suffer more due to his interpretations of his religion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:04 AM
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It specifically calls out and describes the differences between fear and anxiety, so I think it's a good read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 05:48 AM
56

BDSM is rebranded abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 05:43 AM
30

"You have so much potential" is also a neg, because it means he thinks you're not good enough now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:23 AM
20

Sounds like Groucho Marx.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:10 AM
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Yeah, sadly a lot of guys have actual fetishes about wearing women's clothing. There's a tiny chance he's exploring his personal expression or whatever, but considering what kind of porn there is out there and how easy it is to get addicted to it at young age, odds are low it's at all innocent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:36 AM
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The "mistake" this young sociopath is referring to is letting himself get caught, I'll bet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:33 AM
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It's sadly true. Too many men treat with contempt a woman who unconditionally loves them, then, when they succeed in driving her off, whine about how no one loves them for who they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:25 AM
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My ex-boss did that, too. Short man with a naturally high-pitched voice and the insufferable attitude that goes with the inferiority complex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:03 AM
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What is it with men complaining about what you buy with your own money to share? Like do they even listen to themselves? I've known guys who did that to me about stuff I bought for my own use, and we weren't even seeing each other, let alone sharing a household.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:01 AM
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The same people who think a beard is a valid personality substitute make fun of women for liking "basic" things. Their facial hair may have achieved sapience, but it doesn't make them interesting as people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 11:17 PM
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She tried when they were younger, but eventually her little scrote sons learned that no one, including her husband, would make them suffer meaningful consequences. So she gave up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 10:28 PM
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A friend I recently made married outside her ancestral culture, and her husband is someone who treats the marriage as a partnership, not as license to treat her like a slave. When they've gone overseas to visit family, the males of the families they would visit would yell at him to stop doing the dishes, etc., because they "don't want the women to get ideas." Meanwhile all of her female relatives are impressed by and happy with his behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:54 PM
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One of my aunts had only sons. It's been decades since I last saw them, but I still remember when she drove up to pick one of her useless offspring up from school and he got in the car and immediately said to her, "Phew! Close your legs!" while waving his hand in front of his nose. She glared at him, which she ignored, and said nothing, and drove both of us home instead of leaving his ass at the curb and telling him to walk. She got that shit from all of her sons because their father wouldn't ra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:50 PM
72

Yes, exactly. They hate all women, but they're taking advantage of the popular belief that white women suffer from no disadvantages (becayse because people think misogyny isn't real) and it's less risky to scapegoat white women for the harms perpetrated by men than it is to blame the actual perpetrators, the ones with money and power and popularity. It's a nice bit of misdirection, to say with all their chest that white women are responsible for rape and sexual exploitation overwhelmingly perpet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 06:06 PM
38

They have literally nothing going for them apart from cutting down someone who's open to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 06:05 AM
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Men can only exploit women when we're isolated from each other, vulnerable, and dependent on what passes for male goodwill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 06:03 AM
28

If he's wearing them, he's still getting off using private property he stole with extra violation due to the nature of that property. It's no better then jerking off using them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:48 AM
53

One of the saddest things I've had to realize about men is that the ones closest to us are more likely to prey upon than protect us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:46 AM
9

One of my clearest memories from going to church as a preteen was when some old man told me I shouldn't be wearing pants at church and I should be wearing a skirt. I was wearing a very loose skort with a front panel designed to make it look like a skirt from the front, so basically this old man was staring really hard at my preteen ass to make that comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 05:32 AM
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Dating is not unlike a job interview process in that each party is trying to figure out what benefits and drawbacks there would be to including the other in their life. I've been on either side of the interview table on several occasions and the only times I have heard "what do you bring to the table" (or its employment-specific sibling, "why should I hire you") from an interviewer, they've turned out to be people whose attitudes I rapidly came to regret ever agreeing to deal with. They consider…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:45 PM
45

I've seen PTSD researchers talk about it as "fawn."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:01 AM
44

I wonder how much of that is pornsickness and how much of it is just seeing what they can get away with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:17 PM
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"Don't be impulsive" he says as if you hadn't been telling him for weeks that it bothers you and he hadn't spent weeks intentionally doing the exact thing you find repulsive. (This is what men think humour is, which is why they're not funny.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:15 PM
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And if he doesn't have friends of his own, that's a red flag in itself, not a reason for you to take pity on him and include him even more in your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:16 PM
26

That's because he knows he'll get a percussive attitude adjustment from his bros.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:14 PM
45

The pimps and traffickers in the industry know that without vulnerable women and children to exploit, their meal tickets run out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:12 PM
114

If men didn't want women to hate then, maybe they shouldn't act so contemptibly. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:56 AM
40

Why I had to clean the entire house (including my male relatives' bedrooms), cook dinner, and do laundry for everyone beginning at age 9 or so, but my male relatives (who were all adults) didn't lift a finger to help, and frequently didn't even pay toward household expenses, whereas my parents threatened to kick me out while I was still a minor unless I worked full time and unpaid for the family business.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:23 PM
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A lot of men are very concerned about not looking like rapists, so they put a lot of effort into manipulating and coercing you into no longer saying no. They didn't get the memo that a forced yes isn't consent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 07:47 PM
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Men really are very rude to women they don't think they can use for one thing or another.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 04:13 PM
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This reminds me of the times male Victorian scientists would repeatedly release invasive species into new ecosystems because the previous invasive species they released became more of a problem than the native pest species they didn't like. They did the same thing over and over expecting different results. In other words: I don't expect males to learn the right lesson from this horrible mistake they've made, both because of male ego and because they think women are lesser beings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 03:49 PM
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That's about the logic I'd expect, similar to: "Men now outnumber women and need wives. Should they solve the problem by improving their attractiveness to mates? Nah, let's just visit neighboring countries and kidnap and rape the women they find there."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 03:40 PM
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Men don't even respect women they want to fuck. They just hide their contempt temporarily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 03:27 PM
14

Feminism is the only social justice movement that everyone expects to be "for everyone" instead of for the specific disadvantaged group it's named for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 03:16 PM
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"I'm not saying it's bad for you to have preferences, but you should really examine why you don't want to have sex with certain people." No, sir, we should not. Alternatively: yes, sir, we've already " examined" it and it's because you're creepy and rapey and unattractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 03:14 PM
12

They don't care about bullying us into having preferences, but out of having boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 03:12 PM
14

In my OLD days, long past, the combo was always the woman's stats and photos and the man painfully obviously responsible for the profile and DMs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:41 AM
25

"I'm a liberal man" means "I expect all women to be openly available to me to fuck."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 09:46 PM
2

It's funny to read, but terrifying to experience when you see the rage in the scrote's eyes and know you're alone with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:54 PM
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User count isn't the reason the website doesn't openly ban men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:46 PM
4

I wouldn't put too much faith in the media's willingness to expose unfairness against women or take a fair approach to our point of view if they do decide to cover our concerns. I've already seen a couple of blatantly hostile hit pieces against female-focused spaces in supposedly neutral/liberal media, and it doesn't take much at all for female journalists covering related topics to get fired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:41 PM
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They can't guarantee a male-free space so they don't promise one. Men are tolerated but not welcome on the site in general, and several sub-communities I'm aware of ban men from posting in them, but it's the sub mods who are responsible for enforcement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 07:24 AM
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Got it in one. Male-dominated subreddits, even ones made explicitly to harass us, get a free pass from admins to link to posts by women and as long as they use a non-participation link, it's totally fine you guys because that totally stops brigading. Women, however, aren't allowed to so much as breathe the name of other subs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 07:20 AM
10

The man always needs to feel like he has power over her. If she's more successful than him, he'll find a way to drag her down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 02:13 AM
8

And your daughters will be roped into the same as soon as they're tall enough to look over the stovetop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 06:40 PM
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Agreed. I don't have fond memories of him either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 06:39 PM
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It's not even that far back, either. I was a member of several female-focused subs that were unceremoniously deleted last year, even while they made special efforts to keep communicating with site admins and stick to a second, more stringent set of rules than the rest of Reddit was sticking to. I don't know why FDS is left, but I'm both thankful it is and aware that FDS is very likely also being held to the same double standard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 06:33 PM
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All those hit dogs hollering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 06:30 PM
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Women avoid things they hate, whereas men seek to destroy the objects of male hatred.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:34 AM
75

All of the best women's subs I've participated in, I've found due to free advertising from pissy scrotes. Doing the Goddess's work, fully unintentionally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:32 AM
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The only way most men will do what a woman wants is if they truly think she doesn't want it. Might as well exploit that. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 08:30 AM
70

And watch this be blamed on civilian women instead of the male harasser and the majority male T-Mobile decisionmakers that caused this woman's woes. Because misogynists spend so much time listening to and obeying women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 09:28 PM
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Not trying to come down hard on you, so I'm truly sorry if I made you feel bad. It's just these losers all read from the same script, and you're here working hard on your crown. They never have anything to add to your efforts so they're not worth your attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:10 PM
12

Does the phrase bother you because it accurately describes the *objectifying way many men view relationships with women, because you have different standards for marriage, both, other?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:31 PM
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Why is it appropriate to give DM scrotes an audience of the entire FDS community when most of us have DMs turned off to avoid this exact kind of scrotery? It's not like this one is special, interesting, or otherwise educational.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:22 PM
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I used to look at the men I once begged for scraps of attention from and feel sick to my stomach. I'm at peace with my past now, but it cost me the illusions and naivete that had me believing that family members always love each other in the end, that only a few people exist who treat other people like things, that communicating effectively enough solves all hurtful conflict, that people don't just hate women and girls...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:38 AM
3

Proof that men aren't funny: they can't recognize the difference between being a bully and being funny. Exception: they sure do know the difference when they're the target.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 12:07 AM
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What a walking pile of garbage this woman is married to. She didn't mention having kids with him so hopefully she can do the right thing and divorce his ass before she gives him enough chances to destroy her relationship with her family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:58 PM
347

Grand-mère woke up and chose violence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:27 PM
54

That's unfair to anchors -- they keep you stable when you choose to deploy them and then you pull them up when it's time to move.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:24 PM
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I've met a few boy moms who acted like they thought all women are trash and they were the sole exceptions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:11 PM
23

I'm not sure if it's a bad thing to allow a man to underestimate me if he's not responsible for my career advancement, tbh. Let him think I'm stupid so he gets careless and makes it easier for me to next him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:16 PM
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Or laugh at you carrying a good-luck charm but scream at you to get out of the room because "their" team's losing on whatever TV sport is on and it's the presence of your vagina that's the reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:11 PM
12

This actually is what the saying "the customer's always right" is supposed to apply to. It's not "do anything to placate a customer, no matter how unreasonable," but rather "if the customer isn't interested in your product, you're wrong to get angry at the customer since they're not obligated to pity-buy your shit."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 03:40 PM
69

What the fuuuuuuuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:25 AM
16

"Prude" is what their dads called women who said no to them, so the world has had time to understand that that insult means "I'm angry I don't get to stick my dick in this specific woman" and pushy, rapey creeps have had to intensify the insults to get the same shock value. It's too bad actual neo-Nazis aren't getting nearly as much open hatred and harassment as women who don't want to spread their legs on demand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 10:27 PM
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What passes for most humor from men just isn't genuinely funny. It's often tired weak stuff they pulled from a Reddit dad joke list, some sexist tired stuff they homosocially bond with other men with and use as a power move on you, or active bullying of another person. The nervous/polite laughter they've gotten when making these jokes has given them an inflated idea of their own talent in that respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 08:33 PM
12

Facts. Ugly men already have an unearned sense of entitlement over women just because they're male. Let's not enable it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 08:19 PM
26

She's not dead and neither is her son. If she escapes, she still has a chance of raising a decent human being instead of another scrote like the man she was unlucky enough to marry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 08:17 PM
29

Funny how it's fine for him to tease her about her son's birth until she hates it, but it's only a problem when she doesn't protect him from the consequences of being a fucking bully.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 08:15 PM
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"if you don't have sex with me, you're a prude" but make it woke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 06:29 PM
8

Also, I'd like to point out the shape of the face that beard graphic was designed around. I've never seen that style of facial hair on a man who wasn't both bald and carrying noticeable beer-related weight, and the designer of that shirt has made it pretty true to life (intentionally or not).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:36 PM
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Men aren't funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:32 PM
152

The American popular political "left" (or what passes for leftism in America, which is centrist at most) is all for women's choice and autonomy right up until that same choice and autonomy come into conflict with what's convenient for their dicks and jizz.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:28 PM
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That sounds like exactly the kind of dumb shit that men produce when they try to imitate women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:20 PM
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I feel that. I used to get angry that I couldn't unsee all of these things, until I remembered how, before I knew what was going on, I was both miserable and panicky because I couldn't find a solution because I didn't let myself acknowledge how much men both hate women and need us for free labour and validation. I can't unsee it and it makes it harder to just enjoy things in life that I used to not question, but my life is so much more peaceful now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:19 PM
16

Women's ability to recognize male behavior patterns is misandry!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 04:58 PM
134

Both an asshole and unoriginal. 🥱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:13 PM
217

Why do scrotes say anything? All they do is project, project, project. If they were capable of meaningful observation and introspection, they wouldn't be scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:30 AM
122

A beard like that is going nowhere near my privates. I can't even begin to contemplate what kind of bacterial ecosystem is thriving in those face pubes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 10:03 PM
21

I'd believe this. A lot of men know they should feel ashamed of taking advantage of women, and they do, but not enough to stop taking advantage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:07 PM
35

I was at a business conference (I shit you not) where the organizers had to eject a guest because he had his dom walk him around the event on a leash. Jesus Christ what the fuck In my industry, which has nothing to do with sex work, it's not uncommon for males to include their kinks in their social media bios. You know, the same social media bios where they use their real names and talk about what companies they work for. It's so fucking inappropriate. I miss the five minutes where "sex positivi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 05:40 PM
54

I was also involved in the scene for several years. In addition to what you describe, I hadn't met anyone involved in polyamory who wasn't very well acquainted with, and at the very least permissive toward (if not actively involved in), the BDSM scene, adding an additional layer of dysfunction, abuse, and brainwashing to the relationship format. What's funny is that the only hetero poly grouping I'd ever seen work out was one like yours: one woman in a committed relationship with two men, none o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 04:02 PM
4

They jizzed what was left of it out while beating their meat to a trafficked woman for the thousandth time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:50 AM
4

They're so smug when they do it, too. "What do you mean, relationship? I never agreed to one in so many words, though I purposely strung you along for full relationship benefits for several years and fully exploited the social contract to my advantage. Stupid, clingy female!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 08:13 PM
55

It's like a guy who assumes all the women who reject him are lesbians. Some may be, sir, but the odds of every single woman you hit on being a lesbian are pretty much zero.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 07:04 PM
9

I never said I want a relationship Scrote-to-English translation: I just wanted to use your resources, not to feel bonded to and responsible for you, so I lied by omission until you forced my hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 06:29 PM
17

Is anyone else able to see more post text? All I see is an image.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:31 PM
52

IME men who talk at you about their own dicks have delusions of adequacy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:19 PM
23

I have acquired a mild repetitive stress injury in one of my knees from years and years of suppressing my hip sway to walk in a more male fashion as I was growing up. I did that specifically to make the way I move seem intimidating to men. I am now having to retrain my walk to offload stress from my joints, and I feel very self-conscious about it because the degree of sway I need for a gait that doesn't hurt me can easily be viewed by an incel coomer as a direct invitation to him personally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:06 PM
25

With another account years and years ago, I got into a back-and-forth with a male commenter who spent an incredible amount of time flabbergasted that I could be both not homosexual and in a sexual relationship with a male. He eventually decided I was bisexual (but still assumed I was male) without ever realizing I was female. He was technically correct, but not meaningfully so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:02 PM
17

Same. As a kid I thought I could opt out of being dehumanized by telling people to think of me as a boy. It didn't work -- it just made people think I was an even bigger weirdo than they already thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:01 PM
20

I'm both surprised I didn't have that thought and annoyed that, after this many years exposed to men's disgusting habits in all of their detailed glory, I managed to not foresee a way a scrote will turn a genuine expression of female pain into something shallow, callous, and for his own benefit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:59 PM
15

Grateful for what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:07 AM
193

If he wanted to, he would. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:52 AM
7

I lurk the crypto and investment subreddits as well, but I didn't much care for accidentally seeing literal porn of a woman's bent-over naked ass posted "as promised" by a man who supposedly won big with his stonk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:49 AM
84

It's cute how he thinks his gains are certain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 01:02 AM
38

They care about their public image. What they do to you in private doesn't usually affect that. Edit: entertaining typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 12:08 AM
56

He wounded his own damn pride by being a shitty lay and not caring enough to improve worth praising. Participation trophies are for kindergartners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:40 PM
31

The problem is men don't throw the bad apples out, so the rot spreads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:25 PM
11

Pretty much this, yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 01:24 AM
14

But no, she would always make it our fault that she has to stay. Way too many people would rather stay in a familiar, miserable situation and scapegoat anyone but their own selves for the decision if it can tell a better story than they're scared and unwilling to try a new path. "I'm staying with your worthless, good-for-nothing father for your sake, but I hate him and I hate my life (and I won't actually say I hate you but you will definitely be aware of it)."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 12:14 AM
3

Also, make it a habit to never give complete details online about your location, age, etc., and add the odd completely false but plausible detail to throw people off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 11:42 PM
37

I was able to use Google Satellite View to locate the new address of an ex who owed me a fair bit of money because he posted a blurry photo of the house, which had a distinctive roof, and mentioned he spent time at a nearby landmark on FB.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 11:39 PM
7

Yes, I have made a point of prioritizing female artists and female singers who don't promote pickme mindsets in their lyrics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 08:59 PM
113

The "butterflies in your stomach" feeling isn't love, but your subconscious trying to warn you that it recognizes a man as unsafe. If you feel that, do not continue the relationship. You can grow up involuntarily addicted to drama and this makes peace and safety feel boring in comparison. If this is the case for you, avoid dating until you address the drama addiction. Avoid making excuses for men's behavior and giving them endless chances to do better. An HVM avoids acting in ways that need excu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 08:52 PM
4

Likewise, I've never seen "if he wanted to, he would" as a knock on a woman, but more like advice to stop overanalyzing his actions or making excuses for why he could have wanted to but excuse 1, excuse 2, etc. It's a reminder to you that he's a grown-ass man who makes his own decisions and it's not an accident he's set his priorities a certain way, so you should act accordingly instead of hanging on him and hoping that this time there won't be an accident that yet again prevents him from coming…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 07:44 PM
6

"Pearls before swine" is a similar idiom in English.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 07:39 PM
45

"Dog bites man" isn't a headline anyone cares about , but "man bites dog" is. Same idea here. Men rape women or otherwise ignore women's pleasure to get their rocks off alllllllll the time. Yawn, what's new, I'm bored of the same shit. Woman aggressively rides a man who can easily force her to stop? That's horrifying, he's a person, how dare she...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 07:30 PM
192

Look at all the excuses (lies) he has once he gets panicky about getting caught, likely because he did something with the pictures he couldn't undo. It was JuST a JOke, bad reception, immediately regretted it and deleted them... What's likely closer to the truth: a porn addict who's been perving on his wife's sister takes the first chance given to him to steal jerking material from her, sends it to himself (and likely other friends) for later use, he jerks off and immediately the shame for what …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 06:26 PM
30

How humiliating for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 06:11 PM
43

I'm sorry, someone who looks like that has an opinion on women's "peaks"? Sit the fuck down, son.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:58 AM
23

There's also "a starving lioness still cannot eat grass," the origin of which I can't remember.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 12:47 AM
19

I think this is less about him having a period fetish and more about him seeing a boundary of hers that he can't tolerate leaving intact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 08:31 PM
31

Seconding this. $10 is a tiny, tiny amount to pay for all of the work this woman has put into researching, writing, and promoting her work which readers of this post intend to use to improve their lives. Queens lift up other queens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 08:25 PM
44

I agree with you. Adrenaline addicts are like any other kind of addict.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 08:16 PM
47

I dipped out of a relationship with a guy when he started talking about buying a house with my money (he was "between jobs"). Another one made snide comments about my "rich tastes" when I was literally giving him a housewarming gift, i.e. something he was getting for free. They tell on themselves but we're raised to ignore all the evidence that they're trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 05:08 PM
98

Same here. "Financially struggling" men have never had any problems or shame about helping themselves to my financial resources, but somehow there's no special insult for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 05:01 PM
19

Sure. I read this as his creepy/pushy actions triggering an appeasement (fawn) response in her in the moment, which is a very common strategy women use (both consciously and not) to protect themselves from men they believe will respond badly to outright refusal. Unfortunately, because she has been groomed to accept unacceptable behaviour from males and still wants the feeling of belonging/fulfilment that she thinks a relationship with a male will give her, she's still trying to talk herself out …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 11:19 PM
37

To avoid triggering the psycho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 10:34 PM
6

A thing that I learned during my physical level-up journey is that I had to embrace myself as worth loving and taking care of for the long-term habits of physical improvement to stick: I deserve to have the rest my body needs to recover from exercise I deserve to take the time to do fun physical things and give myself the exercise I need to stay healthy I deserve to spend a little extra time and money on properly cooked food that is dense in nutrients to nourish my body and mind I deserve to not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 10:03 PM
7

Hey sis, I hear you there. I was a fat/tall girl and I also got mocked and humiliated for experimenting with feminine styling when I was young, like everyone found it so hilarious that the pig was acting like putting lipstick on meant it wasn't a pig -- but then later on when I adopted a gender neutral style, I'd get flak for rejecting femininity. The whole point of all that was to train me to accept that I didn't get to reject others' standards, but that also I was supposed to care about and at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 09:44 PM
12

Hobbies and professions associated with women and girls suddenly become cool, respectable, and underrated when men get into them as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 09:39 PM
24

Seconding advice to avoid furries. I know several women who entered the furry community as teens/young women and they were all targeted for statutory rape and BDSM grooming by disgusting coomers who take pride in jacking off to anthropomorphized animals and don't know or care what a sexual boundary is. These men just enable and egg each other on in their fetishes, and even if they recognize one of their own is doing something wrong, they don't have the integrity to speak up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 09:15 PM
60

Just remember "sex worker" is a euphemism the industry came up with that includes madams, pimps, traffickers, and other people who profit off the backs of exploited women and children. When someone self-identifies as a "sex worker," they intend for you to interpret this as them being a woman who chose to be in stripping, porn, or prostitution. This is like men who say they "work in the entertainment industry" on their OLD profile when the reality is that they sell popcorn at a cinema.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 09:11 PM
11

Men use period problems as evidence that we can't hack it, meanwhile they use their entirely avoidable injuries and other issues (e.g. hangovers) from aggressive or careless behaviour as bragging points.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 05:53 PM
37

Rule of Misogyny #12: Women's ability to recognize male behavior patterns is misandry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 05:48 PM
65

Sure, but don't forget that gay men are still men and have been raised to view women negatively, because that's how society ruins us all. Being gay isn't a green flag or an indication that a man will treat you respectfully, just that he's less likely to choose to sexually exploit you as opposed to in other ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 04:06 PM
58

We also learn to work through pain because, with few exceptions, we're not going to be coddled and waited on until we're better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 03:47 AM
115

I went to a doctor once who misdiagnosed a problem I had because when she physically palpated the area, I didn't scream in pain due to my insanely high pain tolerance, and that was her metric for deciding whether I actually had a problem that a more competent doctor verified with a brief visual inspection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 11:51 PM
17

It's a mindset. If you haven't decided ahead of time that you will always act in your own defense, it doesn't matter how much muscle mass you have when push comes to shove.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 11:44 PM
40

Amazing how those women would rather yell at other women for enforcing a boundary than at men for violating it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 11:42 PM
14

Right? Whatever happened to "I asked you out so I'm paying"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 10:28 PM
24

He wants reassurance that she's wrong and that he has the right to force her to accept what he's offering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 10:26 PM
8

How are all embryos female? Isn't chromosomal makeup (including sex chromosomes) determined at the time of conception?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 10:16 PM
14

Yeah, I agree it's not that cut and dry. The main thing I'm speaking against is our feminine-socialized compulsion to keep giving chance after chance after chance. Too many men depend on manipulating women using the benefit of the doubt we're charitable enough to give, and "give and inch and he'll take a mile" applies more often than not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 10:00 PM
37

She shouldn't have given him even that bit of a chance to do better. Scrotes don't rise up to the challenge, but run back to their equally scrotey posse to get assurance that they did nothing wrong, because men love sabotaging each other into staying losers as much as they hate putting effort into improving themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 08:23 PM
154

"As a male who has correctly identified that I can use pop 'feminism' as a screen to hide the fact that I'm a cheap fuck who's such a coward I need to ask the internet for ass pats instead of moving on to a target with lower standards, I strongly believe in overcoming traditional gender roles, specifically the ones that require me to demonstrate any value whatsoever to a woman I intend to sexually disappoint and exploit for money, validation, and wife duties." FTFH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 08:10 PM
63

Yeah, the usual offering on FAFF Friday doesn't strike any sparks for me, either. It did inspire me to do the work to specifically define what in males I find physically attractive, but it's clear my ideas of what's attractive are not the norm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 06:40 PM
80

Did you notice that he kept a grip on her wrists when she pushed him away the first time? He had no intention of leaving her alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 06:37 PM
151

Honestly I live for that stunned look of complete incredulity on his face when he tried to process what just happened as a result of him refusing to let a woman go when she pushed him away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 06:35 PM
9

He attacked you, you defended yourself, and he left in tears? I am DEAD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 05:23 PM
10

He ultimately asked if he could jerk off to me then apologized for “regressing” He knew what he was doing. That's the PA's equivalent of Schrodinger's Douchebag -- if you'd given your blessing, he'd have done it and not felt at all bad about it because you "let" him do what he intended to do all along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 05:22 PM
9

Women attached to LVMs die alone a bit every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 05:20 PM
25

These are the standards that caused an OLD scrote to DM me specifically to tell me I was going to die alone: Adequately employed or otherwise financially self-sufficient Any post-secondary education completed Continues to try to improve himself in various aspects of his life (education, employment, personal growth) No illegal drug use, scant alcohol use Takes physical care of self, i.e. gets enough exercise and eats properly Takes basic hygienic and aesthetic care of his appearance Only looking …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:53 PM
132

Anyone wanna bet that's a future fake? Like if she decides to go along with the low-priced prostitution in her relationship, he'll decide there's too much money in there and take some of it for his own use? Nothing's stopping this guy from acting like a pimp if he's going to treat his GF/wife like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:50 PM
12

Sometimes you can't afford to appear rude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 02:05 AM
34

But but but he just wants to tell you he totally agrees with you and wonders if you personally approve of a borderline fetish he has!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:58 PM
10

"That's an interesting thing for you to say." And then move on to the next topic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:34 PM
109

They don't seem to be aware that they can just go to a sperm bank and have one kid instead of one child and one adult child to clean up after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 09:15 PM
18

Do guys actually believe "YoU'rE NoT LiKe OtHeR GiRlS" is a compliment? It's a filter. The kind of woman who takes that as a compliment is the kind of woman who will let him walk all over her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 07:00 PM
6

It's less strength and more realizing we have such a distant relationship with no basis for commonality. I've always been the "weirdo" because I don't live like them, and the "weirdo" can always be dismissed no matter how successful her life is. I've got stuff to do in life and no extra energy to waste on people committed to misunderstanding me and putting me down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:57 PM
2

My height or taller than me Lean with defined muscle tone (not scrawny, not jacked, definitely not "dad bod") Well-muscled ass and above-average sized dick, uncut and CLEAN Sparse body hair (not interested in a yeti) Full head of hair, long (past the shoulders at least) Close-trimmed or no facial hair -- no scruff, and definitely not any of those "I have something to prove" mountain man or elaborately styled old-timey facial hairstyles, blech Large eyes with arched eyebrows, high cheekbones, med…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:18 PM
6

It was interesting how the same female relatives who were all "get an education, get a job, don't depend on a man, don't put up with his shit" did a 180 and started bossing me around and telling me to fix his plate, do his laundry, have "his" kids, etc., like they were competing on who could turn me into a pickme the fastest when they learned I was serious with the man I would later marry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 04:43 PM
14

I don't talk much with my older female relatives because I'm tired of being put down for not living my life like them. I'm at the point where it's taking too much energy not to say, "You're all cautionary tales and I'm lucky enough not to be forced to follow in your footsteps."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 04:32 PM
103

I identify with this so hard. When I was a kid I literally told friends to think of me as a boy because I had nothing in common with feminine stereotypes and the people around me treated me so badly for being female and not being feminine. They literally made me think I wasn't a girl because I had a whole-ass personality of my own and everyone around me was like "girls don't like the things you like, girls don't dress the way you dress, girls don't act the way you act" right in front of me doing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 04:18 PM
96

This "if he cheated, it means you're not good enough so you need to become more appealing to him" propaganda is a millennia-old psyop to make sure loser men don't have to stay single, but the women going along with it don't even get paid. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 04:11 PM
17

The vast majority of men don't see love as part of "having a girlfriend." They get into relationships with women to obtain sexual gratification, ego validation, financial assistance, and domestic and/or reproductive labour. All of these things make their lives easier through little effort of their own because women worldwide have been groomed to accept complete bullshit from male partners as normal, so many of us will accept being treated like a literal dog because that's the best facsimile of l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:11 AM
6

I gave someone who kept annoying me with astrology stuff a made-up birth chart and said it was mine, and she was like "aha that explains everything!" No, no it doesn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 04:31 AM
38

"Don't threaten me with a good time"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:31 PM
23

He'll probably jack off to it. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 09:15 PM
5

Nah, I really don't get that stuff either. Once you learn about Barnum statements, it's all over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 09:12 PM
53

"Learn to be uncomfortable with your own discomfort" is terrible relationship advice. Women are already gaslighted out of our boundaries; this is just an attempt to make sure we never give them a chance to grow back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 10:57 PM
2

They won't feel remorse for their actions, just upset they have to deal with the consequences of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 10:51 PM
68

"Use" in that sense has been normalized in the BDSM "community" for decades.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:54 PM
68

You did them a narcissistic injury so they want to get their sense of power back by forcing you to validate them. That's how scrotes operate with women: instead of realizing they're trash and levelling up, they try to force the messenger to take it back and think that erases the reality that they suck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:49 PM
6

I did a quick Google search and found one study that said 21% of female rape victims reported having an orgasm while being abused, so that's definitely not "most" to start with. I haven't looked more because I just woke up and don't feel like ruining my day. Rapey scrotes be lying again, news at 11. I was sexually assaulted by an ex and he intentionally forced me to orgasm because he loved fucking me up psychologically. Does this mean I wanted it or ended up being okay with it? No. Does this mea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:42 PM
70

That was my first reaction as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:49 AM
66

Men who like "femdom" aren't interested in doing what a woman actually wants, but in a woman doing to him exactly what he wants her to do, with him having the "gotcha" of "well you're the domme so it's your job to make sure everything goes right and it's your fault if you're unhappy because you should have just made me do what you want." I ask you what about that is sexy as opposed to the same old entitled male bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 12:33 AM
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This is why there's so much male-serving propaganda about how old women are bitter, unfuckable hags who are only jealous of younger women for having the youth and fuckability they wish they have. Men know that they have to sever the relationships between women within and between generations to maintain supremacy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:19 PM
17

"Why some women are single: because their intentionally deployed tactics to avoid men are working as intended."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:57 PM
47

Same. The best women-supporting subs I've seen were ones I found through free advertising from scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:43 PM
37

The selective incompetence is also behind classics like, "I had no reason to expect you would find this thing I said or did offensive, even though I would never, ever, consider doing the same thing to someone more powerful than me. You should have just cOMmUNicaTed."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:35 PM
51

a court services worker reported that [Jared Stolzenburg, the man who beat, strangled, forcibly sodomized, and raped Madison Smith] said he felt sorry for Smith but didn’t think he had done anything wrong Of course he doesn't think he did anything wrong. If he thought beating, strangling, and raping women was wrong -- like actually wrong, not like one of those "technically wrong but everyone does it anyway and no one cares" things -- he wouldn't have done it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:24 PM
102

These same men all have "crazy exes" and never stop to think they drove the exes crazy via unchecked scrotery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:10 PM
45

A lot of men get off on the humiliation of their GFs/wives cheating on them. It's a fetish there's been porn of for decades.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:09 PM
91

I guess a high-self-confidence woman wouldn't stick around long enough to stay bothered by his behavior? 🤷‍♀️ Scrote logic: "If you are OK with me openly eye-fucking other women (i.e. visibly disrespecting you) it's because you value yourself highly." I think not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:08 PM
27

If the artist is male, it could be him looking back at his loser self with irony and disgust.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:26 PM
113

Seconded. I used to spend time with a group where the women were mostly low-key at each other's throats and that sort of flirtation was one of the ways the women would try to one-up each other. Meanwhile the community dicks in the group had egos much bigger than they warranted because of the pickme competitions. Never compete with other women for a penis person. It demeans you and his ego will turn him unsalvageable as a human being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:01 PM
73

Maybe if they stopped making us regret ever opening our mouths to give the compliment, they'd get more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 10:07 PM
24

The day I understood that no man ever in my life has viewed my submission with respect was the day I stopped using it as an expression of love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 07:20 PM
13

I hear you and I agree with regard to the comic's original intent. My mother never divorced my LV father, when she both wanted to and should have in order to preserve her health, because of shaming messages like the ones in this cartoon being applied disproportionately heavily to women. It went against her identity to pick up and leave, even when she ended up effectively a slave to his financial mismanagement and he'd given up his end of the marriage bargain. I remember him once saying "I had so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 06:07 PM
8

For me it's denying there is a problem and then turning on the person who brought it up so there is no reason for you to actually look inside and change your mind and actions. This is a tactic often used by narcissistic abusers called DARVO: deny, attack, and reverse the victim and the offender.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:44 PM
18

Men unselfconsciously expand into the space they create by forcing women to shrink.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:40 PM
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When my family was going through hard times for several years when I was a kid, I worked long, unpaid hours at the family business, while most of my peers went on vacation with their families, hung out with each other, got jobs with acquaintances which enhanced their professional networks and savings accounts, etc. Every not now and then my dad would give me a few dollars, and the first time he did it, he said, "This isn't what your work is worth to me, just what I can give you right now." I too…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:01 PM
304

The point is that you're not allowed to win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 04:47 PM
34

The only thing men hate more than each other is women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:56 AM
8

Amazing how he thinks "an equal relationship" has so much to do with whether he can extort $10 from a woman who isn't aware he'll put most of the domestic and emotional labor on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 12:56 AM
13

"Fuck you, pay me." I'm not being a life coach for free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 10:38 PM
2

The whole point of ghosting is not telling them why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 10:22 PM
58

"Does your husband know you aren't entirely dependent on his goodwill for your own well-being and therefore he can't control you completely?" is what the scrote is actually asking. "Does he know his control over you isn't absolute? Does he know that you're aware he can't convince you you're worthless without him? Does he know you have the audacity to have standards for his behavior?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 10:19 PM
47

Mine knows as well, and he's aware of how much he's benefited from my zero-tolerance attitude toward LV behavior wherever it comes from. Not accepting LV bullshit protects your life and everyone in it from scrotal and pickme assaults on your serenity and security.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 09:32 PM
25

When I see current photos of Keanu, I keep thinking he hasn't aged at all, but then I actually look at older photos and I realize he definitely has. It's just been such a gradual, sensible trajectory that no new current photo is significantly different from the previous one, so it doesn't trigger any surprise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 08:44 PM
16

He looked just fine before. Why did he have to go and do that to his face?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 08:42 PM
14

"Miss Ellen's a what?" "A plebian?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 08:32 PM
33

I read somewhere that we are now experiencing, for the first time in history, a numerical minority of women and girls in the world due to sex-selective abortion, female infanticide, and society's permissiveness toward men who murder their wives, girlfriends, and other women/girls they feel ownership over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:12 PM
49

I read this and I think about the "never let him take you to a second location" advice given to women in the event of kidnapping. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:07 PM
67

She gives him legitimacy and cover Louder for those in the back. Men of all economic classes, colours, and creeds exploit the (usually unearned and deceptive) aura of respectability a woman's presence grants them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 04:44 PM
12

If you can't afford dinner, how are you going to afford a whole-ass relationship?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:51 PM
125

Boys might be born perfect but men quickly ruin it. It's men who came up with the idea that babies' genitals should be cut for no good goddamn reason, and it's men who train their boys to be the kind of sadists that continue* the practice, as well as others. But of course all men do to "fix" that is steal women's thunder. * Yes, I know women are the ones who most frequently carry out the actual act of mutilating little girls' genitals. They still weren't the ones to go: "You know what would be a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:16 PM
115

Men have always hated female-only spaces and have always gone to great lengths to infiltrate, control, and/or destroy them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:47 AM
88

Worse: "No girls allowed? This is right and proper, because girls are distracting, annoying, and too stupid/weak to do anything other than domestic and reproductive labour. You're lucky we're making these decisions for you because your tiny brains might overheat" "No boys allowed? How DARE you evil c*nts deny us access to you. You don't get to say no to us. We're the ones who decide when we're done with you, and by the time we're done with you, you'll know better than to refuse again."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:46 AM
129

Men know that when women get together, compare notes, and support each other, they no longer accept male lies and cannot be as easily controlled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:40 AM
3

I really thought they'd pull their heads out of their asses for one goddamn thing for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:56 AM
22

I heard that the term "incel" was originally coined by a woman who had trouble finding appropriate sex partners, but I don't know where to get more info on how true that was. Regardless, I wouldn't be surprised if this were another thing a woman came up with that men stole and perverted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:52 PM
55

I'm old enough and experienced enough that, short of getting another degree or buying another house, the next Big Thing To Celebrate in my life is my own funeral. My LV family groomed me to have no expectations and look forward to nothing special in my life, and I asked my now-husband to let me handle it because of how dysfunctional and difficult my family was -- basically I engineered the entire event (took place just before COVID hit) to give them minimal opportunities to ruin it, just like I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:46 PM
4

Porn is one of the most genuinely sex-negative things in existence, though. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 07:22 PM
21

No kidding! "Scrote" is the only word I know that's male-specific, punchy, and isn't ever used as a compliment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 06:35 PM
22

They're projecting. They think that because their own life is a wasteland without a woman to extract labor from, it goes to follow a woman's life is similarly barren without her very own scrote to clean up after and suffer abuse from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 06:24 PM
51

IME as a tall woman, men have justified abusing me by assuming I can "take it" because I appear tough. Nothing from them about whether I should have to endure their abuse, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:46 PM
32

"Most toxic subreddits" to NVMs, maybe. Are the ones focusing on the sexual abuse of traumatized women included on that list, I wonder? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 02:20 AM
36

That's fucking poetry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 02:14 AM
8

Look at how easily they dehumanize other people for their own convenience, and remember it well when you ask yourself if it'll be different with you (it won't).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 02:04 AM
9

It's "our kids" when they can use them and "your kids" when they have to act like a damn parent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 02:03 AM
13

Kids aren't "burdens and baggage" one is allowed to move on from. Typical of scrotes with overly permissive treatment from society to think they're entitled to just drop something if they think it's not their jam.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 02:02 AM
6

"Relationship broken? Just add more people!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:34 PM
1

No, I do mean hysterectomy with ovaries let intact. Here's one article discussing relatively recent findings in rat studies only: https://www.popsci.com/uterus-memory-cognition/ I've been meaning to look into similar follow-ups on hysterectomies in women, so thanks for the reminder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:33 PM
42

He just wants attention and validation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 05:29 PM
1

I don't have much to say about the rest of your comment, but I wanted to address the thing you said about wanting a hysterectomy to get rid of periods. Not many women are aware that the research community is beginning to become aware of a link between hysterectomy and early cognitive decline including dementia. The uterus itself is responsible for hormone production and regulation and is part of a system that keeps female physiology balanced. Periods are messy, painful, and for many women contri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 05:22 PM
5

They can control their yapping mouths though. 🤷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 01:08 AM
38

Rule of Misogyny #12: Women’s ability to recognize male behavior patterns is misandry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 12:10 AM
5

Aha! I was wondering why I was getting this weird "his face looks feminized" feeling looking at his photos, and your explanation helps it make sense: his skin texture and some other cues come together for a look that I have only so far associated with older women who have had facelifts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 11:13 PM
7

The name is "man." They're the rule, not the exception.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 11:03 PM
13

They only stay for the misogyny I guess. Ding ding ding!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 11:00 PM
19

I've never seen one man able to handle multiple women gracefully. Most can't even handle one. I've known a couple of women who have functional long-term relationships with multiple men, but in both cases, their men are focused on the improvement of the existing household/relationship situation and not looking for additional partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 10:48 PM
34

I don't even think about it, but I notice when a stranger is moving in a way that indicates they're going to come close enough to touch me (especially if intentionally targeted) and I scrutinize males more critically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 10:45 PM
169

Typical DARVO male shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:55 PM
65

He's definitely aged a lot better than many of his peers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 12:49 AM
403

Scrote-to-English translation to the rescue! "Women are so sensitive" = "When I tell or do to women the kind of heinous shit I think is acceptable, they react with appropriate levels of dismay and disgust."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 12:47 AM
7

My first tween crush ruined it by having BO I could smell across the room one day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 09:57 PM
22

I've known some fat men who decided to get pissy with me rejecting them because "oh it's just because I'm fat" and "you're just like the rest of them." They didn't know I had been a fat child and teen and had suffered the accompanying relentless dehumanization, so had rather more empathy for fat people than the average person. Sir, it's mainly your whiny, entitled personality that I find unattractive, but sure, while we're talking about all the reasons why I'm not interested in having sex with y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 09:50 PM
25

Way back before it gained popularity, "health at every size" involved discussions of how one can always do something to improve health (like moving more, choosing more nutritionally valid food when possible, drinking water instead of sugary things, etc.) regardless of how easy or difficult it is to lose weight, i.e. don't just give up on yourself if you're not able to get those numbers down. I haven't paid attention to HAES discourse in several years, but I left when I started noticing the "ever…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 09:46 PM
23

If they actually get some fibre into their diet, their skid marks and related ass stank wouldn't be so bad either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 09:42 PM
18

Yeah, if you do a search for her name and that phrase, you'll get all the thinkpieces from people who decided to double down instead of realizing how fucking stupid that idea was to start with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:39 AM
48

I guess they stopped being able to use "white feminist" as a slur when they called Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie one and showed their asses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 12:07 AM
24

I'm very glad that you realized it's not your (unpaid) job to argue his case for him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 11:03 PM
27

I'm glad you reconsidered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 10:58 PM
14

Why is she horrible?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 10:49 PM
41

It's hilarious since the more experience women and girls have with men, the worse their opinions of men tend to be. It's more realistic to call a woman with a generally good opinion of men a "femcel" because she hasn't had a chance to learn much about men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 10:01 PM
53

In more developed countries, period stigma is still rampant. Many people are very religious or otherwise follow formal traditions that compel female family members to isolate themselves when they're on their periods, and even in less-traditional families, women and girls are shamed into enduring their periods in silence because the men think it's offensive to talk about "female stuff" that isn't related to pleasing men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 09:59 PM
76

Yes, definitely. People who sneer at "white cishet women" either want to disguise, or aren't aware, that they don't believe that femaleness is a thing you can be oppressed on the basis of. The reality is you can be rich, white, able-bodied, straight, neurotypical, educated, gender conforming, etc., but if you're female, you still have to fear everything else all of your sisters of different colours, sexualities, abilities, economic status, education level, gender identities and expressions, etc.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 09:55 PM
57

Yes! "Mask slip." That's the exact phrase I was looking for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 09:48 PM
3

I think so, too, if we maintain the standard of consistent, enthusiastic, informed, non-coerced consent. Men still think they're not rapists just because they've never held a screaming stranger down to stick their dick in her, but they've gotten a woman drunk to reduce her resistance, raped a woman in her sleep, ignored a woman freezing up before or during sex, "accidentally" aimed for her anus, held her head so she can't pull away when jackhammering her throat, started strangling or beating her…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 08:26 PM
9

They're too chickenshit to admit to themselves how often they rape women, so they hide their heads in the sand and just do it. I guess it's for the best, though, because if they all proudly embraced being rapists instead of just slinking around as opportunistic predators, the world would be even more of a shithole than it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 07:28 PM
7

I usually explain it to women I'm trying to support in their boundaries as: "If you don't have a chance to say no, that means you also don't have a chance to say yes. Yes is only consent when you aren't being coerced or deceived. Someone interacting with you sexually without your consent is assault." I don't bother explaining this to adult males past age 25 or so because by then they know and are just looking for someone to validate their whataboutery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 07:04 PM
237

I would count telling anyone to "drop dead" outside an extremely heated, in-the-moment, in-person argument about something really dire, to be a massive red flag. Like "can you explain to me why you thought that was appropriate, because that's not the person I thought I married" kind of red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:32 PM
30

The only reason I don't legally change my surname is because I don't want the extra hassle that will cause me for the rest of my life. I definitely have no interest in carrying on any "legacy" of a guy who doesn't deserve it, but I'm not cutting off my nose to spite my face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:28 PM
28

I'm not sure "handmaiden" as it's used in feminist circles is derived specifically from that book. Its meaning of "female servant" has been around for a very long time, though I agree the popularity of The Handmaid's Tale TV show is very likely why that word came to mind for the women who popularized it. I think the jargon would be "handmaid" if it were in fact from that source, and it would mean a woman coerced into reproductive labour with her personhood and rights stripped away. Serena Joy wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:33 PM
12

Stockholm Syndrome isn't even real in its original sense. Some shitty male shrink used it to pathologize one of the hostage women who didn't trust him because he refused to listen to her Intel about the situation and she was looking at him and the police's aggressive tactics and thinking "these guys are going to get us killed if they go on the way they're going." Ego-wounded shitty shrink took revenge on her for not respecting his authoritah by defaming her, and it stuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:13 PM
129

At least one man I've dated intentionally waited before disclosing a dealbreaker, and he said he did it specifically because he knew I wouldn't have even considered him at the outset if I'd known. He deliberately manipulated me out of being able to consent freely because he knew he was undesirable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:56 PM
26

Men constantly appropriate things that women came up with and then twist them to their own advantage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:43 PM
40

He remembers things he thinks are important. "If he wanted to, he would."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 09:39 PM
15

The first self-described "sapiosexual" I ever met raped two underage girls in the time I knew him. Turns out either his bar for intellectualism was very low or he was just a lying pedo opportunist. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:57 PM
7

For the same reason that men who don't intend to beat or otherwise harm you don't announce that fact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:51 PM
45

Women who volunteer for suicide hotlines have talked about men calling them specifically to masturbate to the sound of their voices. It's not women who are failing to provide resources to help men; it's men who are consuming the resources for their own fun, which results in there being less for their brothers. If men cared about each other's mental health, they'd hold each other accountable for the ways they put each other down. They don't. All they care about is bullying women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:49 PM
50

I think it's interesting that she writes: They are, in fact, beginning to reject relationships with men altogether, in favor of relationships with women. And concludes that this equals "lesbian." A lot of straight women I know are seriously contemplating nonsexual, nonromantic domestic partnerships (i.e. sisters, not lovers) for the purposes of childrearing and general day-to-day support, because they've realized men are dead weight but they don't want that to hold them back from a fulfilling fa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:20 PM
160

A fabulously dressed elderly lady told me, when she saw me running to the bus stop a few years ago, "Never run for a bus or a man. There will be another one along in a couple of minutes." She's one of my life goals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:11 PM
24

Add at LEAST a decade. I've seen scrotes in their mid/late 40s claim they were 30.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:07 PM
174

"Forgets" things that are important to you but has no trouble remembering minor details about literally anything else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:33 PM
41

Concern trolling, but in a way that wastes community resources.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:30 PM
31

The thing we need to remember is "honest" doesn't mean "truthful." He can be as "honest" as it comes about all of the dumb shit he believes, but all that means is that he's not actively trying to deceive you about his thoughts. He can still be, and often is, very wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:28 PM
17

Maybe it's just "genuine male" like "yep, I got a dick."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:26 PM
16

A supernatural male snake persuaded Eve to eat the apple that taught her that her father was lying to her, and Adam just ate it too once he saw she didn't die, as they had been told. Then what's the first thing Adam does when their creator asks him what they did? Throw Eve under the bus. "It's the fault of the woman you put here with me."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:37 PM
26

A video game hangout, I assume at his place, for a first date?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:47 AM
133

Yes, they just want to baffle you with bullshit. They don't actually care about victims. Also remember "sex worker" is a euphemism that includes pimps and traffickers, which a lot of pimps and sex traffickers don't want you to know about people who call themselves "sex workers."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:45 AM
49

That's a lot of words for "I'm a self-centred shitbag."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 10:21 PM
24

Men expect to be able to buy anything they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 10:19 PM
6

People feel better when they know they're not the biggest loser in the room. Patriarchy is the ultimate assurance to loser men that they need never feel like losers if there's a woman around, because in patriarchy, a penis person is always better than a vagina person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 09:06 PM
3

One surprising consequence of discovering FDS is that I now take less shit in other aspects of my life SAME. I have been voluntarily and intentionally out of the dating pool for years, but the advice here is solid for many parts of life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 05:56 PM
3

It doesn't stop there. I have an ex who's now significantly older than 30 who won't stop ranting about me even though it's been over a decade since I left. He's a bottom-of-the-barrel loser I only dated because I had zero standards and didn't know better at the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 05:22 PM
363

What a useless answer from dispatch. "Someone's breaking into your house? Oh yeah, Rob's been having a hard time since his breakup." I wonder why she fucking left him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 03:51 PM
37

I got "hb" one year 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 03:37 AM
46

eQUaL RIghTs MEanS eQuaL LefTS chECkmaTE fEMiniSTs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 10:05 PM
35

That's because he's calculated that a stranger who expects nothing from him will be profusely grateful and think he's a really swell guy, but living up to his responsibilities is just what's expected of him and not nearly as attractive to his ego. He knows he can ignore his responsibilities toward his wife because women are raised to make excuses for their men, so he'll go for the thing that makes him feel like a hero.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 10:03 PM
40

Agreed. If you take shit in one part of your life, odds are overwhelming you'll take it in other parts. A pickme mindset knows no boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 09:30 PM
21

The author of that book also talks about how scrotes weaponize trauma and therapy against their female partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 09:28 PM
7

One can only hope. 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 07:07 PM
4

That's the only way they can stay on top, since they're too fucked up to do it through actual excellence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 07:06 PM
32

She almost died for no reason other than a scrote-in-training thought it would be fun to knock her over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 07:05 PM
54

TBH this is just "well I was GOING to get you a birthday present but now that you're upset that I forgot, well, you can just FORGET about getting any present at all" on a macro scale.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 06:19 PM
65

This is known as the "foot in the door" technique in sales negotiations. You get someone to say yes to something small that's on the path to what you actually want, then you keep getting them agreeing to more and more "reasonable" things until you're past their boundary. Men also think women say no but mean yes in an attempt to not look like a sl*t, which is why this guy was OK with "just friends" initially; he assumed OP was trying to establish plausible deniability for when he eventually got t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 06:09 PM
65

We are definitely not "dudes with tits." People try to put us down by saying we are because they're threatened by us not performing femininity, but if they actually believed tomboys were men, they wouldn't belittle, rape, and otherwise harm us the same way they do any other woman. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 03:56 PM
40

Did you see that study that found that it was men who suck at games who were mean to women, while men who were skilled players were relaxed and helpful?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 03:54 PM
103

Liking cats isn't a green flag, though. I have been involved with men whose behavior was actually criminal and they liked cats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 03:31 PM
44

It won't be, because then there would be no resources left for other crimes to be investigated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 10:12 PM
122

Capitalism always needs more consumers, the military always needs more bodies to throw in the meat grinder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 09:36 PM
11

That just means their abuse started really young.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:33 PM
6

They love the idea of women having equal opportunities to be harmed but not to be helped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:30 PM
8

This gives me flashbacks to my mom screaming with rage at me because my brother, as usual, had left his coffee spoon in the sink instead of washing it, and I had been too busy doing my schoolwork to spend my time obsessively monitoring the sink. I was just a little kid and didn't understand why she was so mad, why at me, and why about a spoon. Turned out it's because dishes are women's work and how dare I think I was better than her by leaving it for her to do. Not a peep to scrotre-bro about no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:27 PM
29

Negative attention is still attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:16 PM
168

"Nudged" like it was just an accident, bro!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:10 PM
78

You're doing the right thing. Groups of males are no good to a woman most of the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:09 PM
259

Men talk big but when push comes to shove, they blame the victim instead of punishing the perp. This is because they're cowards and know they can get away with harming the girls and women who love and depend on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 05:07 PM
38

Or even their goddamn hands. My first and only yeast infection ever in my life was due to a scrote's filthy fingers. It was horrifying to wake up one day and see the carnage in my underwear, and it was so bad that the doctor literally told me I was lying when I said I'd never had a yeast infection before (I don't know what her logic was with that, like apparently she thought bad yeast infections never happen as the first one, but ok Jan).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 06:39 AM
9

She was a treasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 11:18 PM
66

You know you've got nothing to stand on if all you can do for your cause is ride on another cause's coattails.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 10:44 PM
30

I came across a quote about leftist guys that was something like "leftist men still want their whores" i.e. they want all of their brethren to be equal, including having equal easy access to women. If I remember correctly, that quote was in the context of criticizing men for their hypocrisy in demanding equality for themselves and not for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 06:33 PM
29

He can teach you to settle for less, and you can teach him (inaccurately) that he deserves you or better. Doesn't sound like a good exchange to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 06:31 PM
189

Straight men fuck women and love men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:31 PM
38

Not even that. Just That's What You Do. Get your bangmaid, get a kid on her, you're a Real Man now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:12 PM
139

hahaha good luck finding a man who's gonna wait that long to have sex Women aren't the ones who go on murder sprees because they get butthurt that they can't get laid. We do just fine with a vibrator and an electric blanket. It's the scrotes who act like rabid dogs because they've trained themselves to worship at the altar of porn and tricked themselves into really believing that there's something wrong with society at large if they can't get a woman as easily as they can jerk off to a video of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 06:41 AM
23

Ok but why are you giving him a wider audience though? I get being annoyed by the scrotery, but there's a reason why we say block and delete. He didn't deserve your attention and he doesn't deserve anyone else's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:24 AM
5

Same, but I've always preferred my men looking like they have both a brain and a pulse. Who knew that was such a big ask, or that I'd have to actually spell it out...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:23 PM
3

I made the same mistakes too. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 11:07 PM
5

Men don't like it when you correctly treat them like they ain't shit. They will try to make you put out one way or another, and if it's not sex, it's attention -- anything to make them feel important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 10:38 PM
10

If he wants his dick wet, I hear a shower works wonders. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 07:29 PM
3

If those of us he sucked in had any self-respect, none of us would have gotten to the first date, let alone past it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 07:13 PM
10

The most clinically actionable narcissistic ex I ever had still sends his new victims after me with sob stories about how I ruined his life by...leaving when I realized his abuse was only going to get worse and worse. It's been 11 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 05:33 PM
256

What's with that vacant, dead-eyed, thousand-yard stare and gaping mouth? Is he imitating the merch at the fish counter?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 05:43 AM
40

I can't decide whether he looks more like Beavis or Butt-Head in that photo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 04:29 AM
67

What's worse is he was initially meant as a contemptible character. Men weren't supposed to identify with that buffoon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 04:27 AM
285

Is it awful that I noticed where she says he takes out the trash himself and all I could think of was he was hiding the evidence?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 04:22 AM
23

If patriarchy weren't basically a consumerist death cult, people might be able to recognize what an atrocity they're hailing as progressive. Then again, that can be said for a lot of things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 12:32 AM
28

Bold of him to assume he was that good
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 11:18 PM
40

Can't let the mother have a chance to bond with her baby and interfere with what the men want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 11:14 PM
34

No, if only because we haven't classified misogyny or extreme male entitlement to abuse women as mental disorders yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 11:07 PM
11

You want to know what men did to her? Sweetie, you'll find out firsthand soon enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 10:57 PM
46

I recently saw a photo that was of two men with their fists victoriously punching the air as they carried away the baby a woman had carried and given birth to as part of a surrogacy agreement. A younger me would have been happy for them, "Aw, they are a family now!" Current me feels gutted for her and incensed that even men with no sexual interest in us feel entitled to use our reproductive organs for their pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 10:55 PM
16

Probably because people treat girls like acceptable outlets for boys to unleash their aggression on without a full-on fight starting. Instead of two boys getting sent to the principal's office again for fighting, you just get a crying girl (or a silent one who's learned to absorb male aggression) and a satisfied boy. I've known multiple women who, as girls, were assigned seats in school to strategically break up groups of boys and act as buffer zones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:52 PM
9

Reminds me of those studies about how never-married women tend to be happiest while never-married men tend to be unhappiest. They literally parasitize us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:51 PM
16

My mother's body and mind deteriorated completely from the stress her useless leech of a husband put her through. She worked so hard in her life to escape her upbringing only to get kneecapped by being too prideful to get divorced when he showed his true colours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:46 PM
91

A "surrogate service" is a woman's whole body, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:38 PM
129

They trained themselves to do it by jerking off while watching women crying while being sexually abused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:48 PM
40

To them, making you shut up out of exhaustion is the victory, just like wearing you down until you let them rape you so they leave you alone is also a victory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:03 PM
9

Sounds like a specialized Gish gallop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 04:48 PM
17

Sure, but I don't see that OP was arguing that it's illegal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 03:26 PM
14

"The wall" is just rebranded "sour grapes."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 08:12 PM
36

Considering what's on offer, they're not wrong. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 07:50 PM
5

Look at him change the subject when you called him out on not even knowing who he's taking to lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 06:59 PM
10

Meanwhile you make a genuine mistake and they get ragey and testerical. What happened to the magic of "I didn't mean it that way"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 06:52 PM
25

But he's fine with it so it isn't a problem, why can't you just drop it? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 06:48 PM
48

I used to work in the industry when they still had to consider how much physical paper space a headline used, so passive voice was the devil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:58 PM
12

I don't see him making a better offer though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:41 PM
178

Why don't they phrase it "Man pushes pregnant wife off cliff" though? Why do news outlets love the passive voice so much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:25 PM
158

Adjusting other queens' crowns. ✊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:23 PM
8

Much like how babies that are ignored stop crying to communicate their needs, women stop complaining about pain because we routinely get ignored or called crazy. Men scream and whine because they never were taught that no one wants to hear it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:50 PM
403

Men tell on themselves constantly that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:46 PM
12

Right? Oh no, they found out you're not taking any male shit. What a dirty little secret!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:13 PM
18

One of the tricks that I used to train myself out of accepting abuse against women is to ask myself if I would feel like it was still ok if a man were the victim of the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:11 PM
20

Can you explain more? I expect this to happen where single women can't legally own property once a man comes into the picture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:09 PM
78

Facts. Men who care about respecting boundaries would avoid even looking like they're trying to test them. That was a test.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:26 PM
8

It's not that surprising if you take the perspective that they're pushing misogynist propaganda, not trying to discover truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:23 PM
2

I had that in mind, yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:11 PM
24

They could just think being raped is a natural part of being a woman so it's not as outrageous as when it happens to a man. Or, more likely, they could just have zero thoughts about women apart from just hating us and blaming us for everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 03:08 PM
6

Absolutely correct.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 02:48 PM
22

They both are failures of human beings. They deserve each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:04 AM
41

Hey now, it's not that bad. It's also important that men can use us for free domestic, parenting, and other labour too! We have so many different uses to men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 11:46 PM
115

If a man tells you he's a feminist, walk away right then and there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 11:14 PM
38

We had been friends (this was in my pickme days) long enough that he felt safe sharing his scrotery with me. I don't want to go into too many details, but he specifically picked his GF as a "trainable" type.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 11:12 PM
62

I wonder which current diagnoses will eventually be proven to be responses to complex trauma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:43 PM
100

This was the kind of guy who would believe that the Electra complex is real, instead of realizing that Freud only came up with it because he couldn't take the idea that his female clients were being raped by their fathers, who were "respectable members of the community."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:26 PM
121

I knew a man who was outright plotting with his forever girlfriend to fuck his daughter once she came of age. The porn and the "it's just a fantasy" were a huge part of the process.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:12 PM
143

This girl's father is training himself to get sexually aroused and gratified by the idea of raping his own daughter, and scrotes and pickmes see nothing wrong with it. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:10 PM
156

Isn't making women feel ashamed for having any standards at all the most common way for loser men to get by not even doing the bare minimum?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:08 PM
94

"Karen" is the new socially acceptable way to call women "c*nt."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:06 PM
92

Why do men have to steal everything from women, if they're so "naturally superior" to us?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 05:39 PM
21

All the pickmes I knew who posted about it said the library deserved it for having the wrong politics, but couldn't actually describe what those supposed politics were. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 05:18 PM
36

Does he actually believe that or is he just projecting?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 05:13 PM
36

The Gift of Fear validates your suspicion. A man who doesn't have violence on his mind won't assure you unsolicited that he won't do it, because it's not on his mind. Him not saying anything doesn't guarantee that he doesn't intend violence, mind you. Edit: "not," not "now"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 05:02 PM
37

Tbh I think socially sanctioned, ingrained misogyny is why people, mostly men, assault and murder women. You don't have to be sexualized for a man to put his hands on you just because society tacitly agrees that it's okay for members of the penis people group to beat members of the group you belong to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 04:00 PM
71

The usual, basically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:29 PM
38

IIRC they only allow men because if they locked it down hard enough to be able to assure women they're female only, they wouldn't be able to reach women who need it. So at least it's not "men's voices are valuable" but rather "we need to be able to reach women who don't have the connections needed for an invite." But that means you'll still encounter scrotes in the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:29 PM
192

How often do men demand custody only after they've secured another nanny, I mean girlfriend?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 05:32 AM
19

Some jerk off to the humiliation of the clapback, which is why responding at all is a dicey proposition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 10:31 PM
51

I don't think a single one of my female friends with children have a father involved who didn't either baby trap them or try to back out of responsibility after future faking them with plans for a family life together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:47 PM
30

They're hamstering hard to avoid admitting that they really want to be able to rape women any time they feel the urge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:42 PM
4

I have a female friend in her 60s who had spent the previous couple of decades on contract work and whose husband made it clear that the pandemic didn't change the fact that he expected her to get a regular job once he retired so she could pick up his slack, even knowing that all she could hope to get was retail because her skills weren't in an industry known for steady work. All the "it's their relationship, maybe that's what they negotiated" rationalizing I tried in my mind didn't change the f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 07:00 AM
5

Are you literally my sister because I have witnessed exactly that from my brother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:34 AM
8

If they cared, they'd try to learn instead of making excuses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:22 AM
16

Thank you for coming through!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:00 AM
159

Listening to them talk about women getting everything for free makes it abundantly clear that they don't even notice that unattractive women exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:36 AM
21

Can you post links for the retractions you found?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 04:57 AM
12

"Love conquers all" doesn't mean "love overcomes all obstacles" but rather "no one is invincible against feeling attraction/desire." Trent Reznor sang "love is not enough" and that's the truism I choose to go by. Respect and commitment are required, among other things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:24 AM
1

Her little girl deserves to learn that she doesn't have to suffer abuse from someone who's supposed to love her. Instead, mom's teaching her to make excuses for the inexcusable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:04 PM
29

They really think some 22-year-old guy jerking off into a cup for beer money is the same as a woman getting raped to afford food and rent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 07:17 PM
32

Typical male response to feeling insecure: make the closest woman miserable just to assure himself he still has some power.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 05:32 PM
66

They think they deserve something just because they have it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 05:48 AM
349

"I feel so abused because my wife doesn't want to do a demeaning, low-paying job just because I've decided that because I'm unhappy, she should be, too." With a side of Darth Vader wannabe: "I have altered the deal. Pray I do not alter it further."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 03:52 AM
15

Of my parents, my mother was the one to use this tactic the most as well. She had a very fragile sense of self and believed it was her children's job to validate her, so the natural process of her children growing up and becoming independent was horrifically threatening to her. Even the most gently worded request to negotiate behaviour or respect a boundary triggered rage or self-pity tantrums, because to someone as damaged and self-centred as that, the only reason someone would ask you to do so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 10:08 PM
12

Like other things men promise women, it's a lie they dangle in front of you to manipulate you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 10:00 PM
74

Men really do train you to fear them and then get offended when you show that fear, but also get angry when you act like you're not in the least intimidated by them. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 09:50 PM
33

I fucking hate that men do this. "I've decided you're a target, and you better shut up and take the abuse, or I'm going to get all my friends to join in too because you didn't take it like a good little girl so your reaction to my abuse proves you deserved it." You see it all the time -- just watch whenever a famous woman gets called out for not being nice enough and has the audacity to not grovel and beg forgiveness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 09:42 PM
67

Autocorrect usually corrects to the word already in the dictionary, though. Looks like this guy meant what he said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 09:36 PM
37

The idea that being penetrated is equivalent to being degraded/dominated is at least as old as Ancient Rome. How can a man have a genuine sexual connection with a woman if he thinks she's degraded and dominated by his penis?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 08:17 PM
542

"Foodiecalls" Imagine seriously thinking that taking a woman out to dinner but not getting sex in exchange is exploitation on par with a man calling you demanding sex that definitely won't get you off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 08:10 PM
33

Men love pranks when they're done to other people, but they understand how violating and damaging a prank is when they're the butt of one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 07:26 PM
159

"You know what, if that's what it takes for you to not destroy my shit, then fine."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 07:22 PM
49

When a man does this, he's intentionally punishing you for daring, as a mere woman, to imply his behaviour isn't perfect. There is no salvaging someone like this. Leave and don't bother comMUniCatinG what you really meant to say. He knows; he doesn't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 07:21 PM
35

He'd sure understand the consequences pretty fast if someone did that to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 06:57 PM
11

It was the subconscious attitude that relationships with other girls were immature and you weren't really "grown up" until some guy had deemed you worthy that was poison. Even later in actual adult social groups, women I was trying to befriend would just passively let the men in their lives control how they related to other women. At least once I experienced the man I was seeing lying to the man a friend was seeing to force her to stop talking to me because they didn't like that we had a friends…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 05:36 PM
131

Once you outgrow gross-out humour, shock or cringe comedy, and bullying disguised as comedy, you realize most men don't actually have a sense of humour at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 03:54 PM
52

If you consider that people tend to like a woman only as long as she does what they want, respect becomes the clear winner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 06:30 AM
52

When I was in my teens and early 20s, I genuinely didn't understand why my female friends would disappear when they were dating men, only to resurface months (or years) later, which hurt a lot. I also was dating a girl when we were both in our mid-teens, and the moment men (yes, grown men, not boys) started showing interest in her, she dumped me immediately for pedo dick. It wasn't until I found myself with every last female friend of mine ignoring me for their penis person of the moment that I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 05:25 AM
104

"Be careful of men, they only want one thing." "Okay." "No! Not like that!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 10:48 PM
78

Many a woman has settled down with an LVM because "at least he doesn't beat me" or "he's not as bad as my exes."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 10:47 PM
92

I was just about to mention the "preponderance of evidence" idea. Men who demand "beyond all reasonable doubt" are letting slip that they view themselves as defendants in a criminal trial when they're simply being observed and evaluated by women the same way any person observes and evaluates any other -- dramatic much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 10:47 PM
9

It's like when schoolkids finally fight back against a bully and they get equal or more blame because their actions made it so that the administration can't keep ignoring the bullying. It's not about who's actually right but who other people resent for making it their problem (even if it rightly is their problem). Edit: typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 10:25 PM
7

This exact denial is why it took me so long to become estranged from my family of origin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 10:00 PM
5

They may even be innocent and care about other people, just in their minds women don't rate as actual people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 10:00 PM
98

They simply can't stop with the gaslighting. "Don't worry, scruffy blobs with no hygiene or fashion sense: this study was only of 160 women, so that's no proof that women care about how you look, smell, or feel. They were probably just crazy anyway."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 06:51 PM
121

They're downright vicious about it. They can turn one woman's perceived deficiencies into a running joke for years, because they bond with each other over cruelty and misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 04:38 PM
30

Didn't a Scandinavian country prove this decades ago when the women all went on strike? I don't recall the details off the top of my head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 06:23 AM
9

I assume also needing them to be able to support themselves and not sitting on their asses doing nothing is too much of an ask, according to this guy who didn't realize what a self-own he was perpetrating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 04:34 AM
5

They don't have to be logical or rational to want what they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 02:28 AM
29

Blocked and deleted. He just wanted attention and I wasn't going to give it to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:26 PM
74

A boat can't float if somebody is constantly taking an axe to the hull. No one looking at that would conclude that the right decision is to blame the other crew member for not working harder to repair the damage. Somehow that logic goes out the window when it comes to hetero relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 09:54 PM
20

Conversations like that are the kind that, after you leave and give your head a shake, you look back at after a few years and wonder how you ever came to a point in your life where you were begging a grown man to avoid repeatedly pissing on your shared furniture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 09:23 PM
85

When I used to do online dating, some loser told me I was going to die alone because I only wanted to date people who weren't drug users, were able to support themselves financially, had any amount of post-secondary education (including trade school), and were otherwise in the habit of trying to better themselves instead of sitting on their ass and saying they're as good as they're going to get at age 22.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 09:19 PM
56

Or, if you look at it from another perspective, your friend has inadvertently trained her dog to cough violently whenever he wants her attention, because she rewards him with attention every time he does it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 09:07 PM
31

A hard thing to remember is, just because you want to be the best person you can be in a mutually respectful relationship with your partner, that definitely doesn't mean the person you're with has the same intentions. If you're aiming to become fully self-actualized but you're with someone who's fine making himself contemptible to get what he wants, it puts you at a disadvantage. The fact that you value your dignity makes it harder for you to realize that a manipulator doesn't care about his if …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 08:26 PM
130

Pro-pornstitution types say they want to protect a woman's "right" or "choice" to sell sexual access to herself. Whether they're being sincere about that or not, what they're actually protecting is men's entitlement to purchase sexual access to women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 08:20 PM
14

I get the ads marketing ED drugs toward men, even though I only participate in FDS subs. Maybe the investment subs I follow mess up their algorithm, because as we all know, only men with PIED trade stocks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:52 PM
4

That's an appropriately competent and intelligent response from them. Fingers crossed for you and the best possible outcome. 🤞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:46 PM
29

The only way a relationship works is if everyone involved pulls their weight and also reaches out to help their partner. Good luck finding one man who does that, let alone multiple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:45 PM
4

I just saw your edit and I'm glad you called the skeezy manager's bluff. I'm grateful that the police actually correctly identified the behaviour as predatory as well, because I was concerned the scrotes-covering-for-scrotery tendency would come up here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 07:32 PM
209

One of the worst misconceptions I've seen women run into is that someone has to be smarter than you to manipulate you, when all they have to do is understand what you'll let them get away with, which is something a dog or a toddler can accomplish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:33 PM
11

women submitted to men, because the alternative was worse I've seen scrotes unironically saying that women's "option" to let themselves be raped in exchange for basic survival necessities was an example of "female privilege." OK Brian, I'm sure that if you were homeless with no other options, you'd feel deeply grateful and blessed to know that you always have the option to crash on some guy's couch by letting him stick his dick in your ass or mouth whenever he felt like it, or do whatever else h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:49 PM
17

Interesting how it's "if we get pregnant" when it's abstract but "she's pregnant" when it's concrete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:45 PM
50

Several years ago, I had a bisexual female friend who was intentionally adopting fuckboy tactics in her approach to dating women because she thought it would help her regain some power in her life (which of course had so far included the usual bullshit that men put women through). It was deeply uncomfortable to listen to her constantly talking about how she planned to use other women for sex and distraction then dump them if they "catch feelings," and how it was fine because the other women were…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:37 PM
65

lesbians who hang out mainly with guys normally have very similar mentalities I've seen some of that as well. It's like these women think that someone has to be "the man" in a lesbian relationship, and they've decided to be that person because it's better to be the shitter than the shat upon. One of the sadder examples I've seen was the (now ex) wife of one of my female friends, whom my friend ended up divorcing because her ex kept trying to hold power over her in very typically masculine ways. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:30 PM
37

"I only read it for the articles."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:13 PM
20

Lurking scrotes: the only reason you target barely legal women is because women even slightly older have already learned what your loser asses are like. You're so unattractive that the only way you can get a woman is by preying on her inexperience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 12:56 AM
28

So what if it's jealousy? People who don't want to care will find every reason to dismiss you. You can bet that if they felt like helping, "jealousy" wouldn't stop them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 10:37 PM
30

There are fewer and less severe consequences to rejecting or harming women, so people do it far more readily than that do to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 10:24 PM
63

I'm glad you're following up. I hope management doesn't continue to show "Bob" how toothless their rules are, because that's how "Bob" learns he can do whatever he wants as long as he picks the right targets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:48 PM
255

People don't seem to understand that by the time a man has one complaint, it's usually after several violations, not necessarily against the same target.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:31 PM
92

At least you get a certification and increased earning potential from the accounting lecture. With this guy, you're lucky you don't end up buried in his backyard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 06:23 PM
113

IME walk dates lead to emboldened scrotes messaging you half an hour later demanding anal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 06:16 PM
137

Nothing is more terrifying than a toddler's meltdown in the body of a grown-ass man with all the social and legal privileges of male adulthood. At least a woman can restrain or discipline her toddler and society views it as her job, but if she dares to tell a man he's out of line, she apparently deserves whatever he decides to do to her in retaliation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 06:14 PM
11

You're right. We already can't just have online spaces without them obsessively watching/stalking us and trying to get us banned. Men joke that women can't be friends with each other because we're crazy, but it's actually because men devote their resources to making sure we don't have meaningful connections with each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 03:55 PM
17

Her entire body except the gametes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 03:02 AM
9

If there's plausible deniability they can hide behind to avoid the consequences of using you, they will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 01:59 AM
48

They're "testing the waters," so to speak, and I've always had a really difficult time expressing that to other people because you know they're just going to say "stop being so conceited, not everyone is trying to sleep with you" or something to that effect. Men rely heavily on exploiting: Women being socialized to prioritize men's whims over their own barest needs Women being socialized to doubt themselves while giving men the benefit of the doubt Women being more practiced at reading and respo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 10:33 PM
8

Fetishists are some of the most useless men on the planet, truly negative value. The easy access to fetish porn that caters exactly to their particular brand of perversion has emboldened them to go about their everyday lives seeing women as collections of body parts to jerk off to, and we have to go about our lives surrounded by the reek of coomer desperation when all we want to do is exist peacefully in our bodies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 09:38 PM
33

Men think we exist to be receptacles for their shit, so I guess that explains why they get all indignant and testerical when their designated trash can throws garbage back at them. "I'm supposed to throw trash at you, not the other way around!" Edit: typo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 07:04 PM
6

When it happened, everyone was like "how shocking and wacky, woman goes crazy or of nowhere and cuts off her husband's dick!" and it became a joke meme basically. There was no discussion at all about the abuse and isolation he put her through. If you just listened to the news, you'd think that she was just some dick-amputating psycho who decided for no reason that her husband was better without his genitals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 06:59 PM
93

11th rule of misogyny: Whatever women suffer from, it is worse when it happens to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 06:31 PM
15

I guess this really goes to show that women's status as people is still something that people in general don't accept.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 05:52 PM
19

Not surprised a coomer can't make a good analogy. Horror films aren't specifically made for the purpose of men jerking off to them (at least it's still understood that a man is a psychopath if he does, thank goodness) and thereby training himself to seek out those stimuli for sexual gratification. Also, horror films aren't used as examples of how to do things in real life (again, people rightly assume you're a psychopath if you use them as examples) but men commonly try out porn shit on their gi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 05:44 PM
22

Why? BDSM is just another word for abuse. Not your fault their brains are too fried by porn to understand that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 05:24 PM
98

People really think women showing disdain for men is a crime on par with men goading and training each other how to commit actual violence upon women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 03:56 PM
45

No, those ones should feel ashamed too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 05:06 AM
5

It really was. If she hadn't done that, I might even still be putting up with her shit 10 years later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 10:23 PM
40

I know a man who thinks he's a feminist because his friends group is mostly female. His friends group is actually mostly female because he's a reactive asshole and men aren't raised to put up with other men's shit, and he exploits women's training to be nice (and occasionally subtly threatens them with his volatile temper) to extract validation from them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 05:43 PM
28

Red carpet? Carpet-sized red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 05:08 PM
21

Often people freak out when you draw boundaries because they think corrective communications are rude or attacks on their identity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 04:59 PM
25

Same. In my early 20s, I had a friend who, after a few years, started routinely cancellng plans at the very last minute, to that point where I would start getting consistently anxious as the time to meet drew near. The last straw came when she decided to be condescending on a social media post I'd made about a man harassing me on my way to work, and I blocked her. The worst part? I was more relieved I wouldn't have to make accommodations for her inconsiderate habits in my life anymore than I was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 04:55 PM
91

Again, it's not that they don't know what you want, it's that they don't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 04:34 PM
27

Why is it that those who praise a loving god(s) sometimes turn out to be the the nastiest most vitriolic people ever?? They think that because they claim to believe in the right religion, that makes them good and right without having to do any other work at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 04:30 PM
55

It's code for the kind of ring she'd like. She just typoed peridot, is all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 12:54 AM
49

You're not "just insecure." He is demonstrating he doesn't care about your discomfort, and knowing your partner jerks off to rape on tape and doesn't care about your feelings is a very rational reason to feel ambivalent and unheard in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 12:52 AM
160

Right? All they have to do is say it gives them a boner and their right to punch a woman is sanctified. That's not even taking into account the domestic abuse most women suffer silently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 12:50 AM
20

Fixing their crappy car.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 12:47 AM
11

I wish I'd realized it earlier, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 12:39 AM
107

That if their woman really loved them, they should happily accept a $50 ring from Etsy and get married at the courthouse! If a man really loved you, he wouldn't try to shame you into settling for less just for his own convenience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 08:47 PM
32

I feel like he wouldn't understand the irony in, "The law, in its majestic equality, forbids the rich as well as the poor to sleep under bridges, to beg in the streets, and to steal bread."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 08:46 PM
59

"Mendacity" means "dishonesty" so I feel she's very much onto something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 08:43 PM
37

People mock women because when you mock men, they physically assault you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 05:27 AM
19

"Not in employment, education, or training." And you can bet he wasn't volunteering or helping his mom around the house, let alone doing anything else out of charity or the infinitesimal goodness of his heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 12:56 AM
36

And you look at them with their figures like someone stuck a barrel on legs and called it a day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 11:56 PM
57

I still remember when my acne-riddled, bucktoothed, flabby, high-school dropout, tracksuit-inhabiting, NEET male cousin told me, completely unsolicited and a guest in my home, that I need to get a tan and lose weight. I assure you, if I ever found myself genuinely wanting his opinion, I would first visit the ER to see if I'd had a mini-stroke and hadn't noticed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 11:45 PM
7

Yes, you're right. I definitely shouldn't have forgotten the economic aspect. Here, WOC are overwhelmingly the people most harmed by mostly white-led and -supported financial and physical assaults on the resources targeted as SWERF, but "female with no other options" is a more accurate description of the group in need.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 09:29 PM
8

I'm not keen on lying in a provable way when there are legal consequences, especially when you're not a member of the getting-away-with-murder demographic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 07:32 PM
12

Makes sense. I haven't looked deeply into that, but there are so many accomplished women here I figured someone would have more to say!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:51 AM
210

I heard that one of the screening questions asked of female jurors in rape cases is whether they've been abused by a man before, and an affirmative answer means they don't get selected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:23 AM
17

That's a take from someone who's never had to imagine being forced to suck dick they don't want to suck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:16 AM
201

Look at how he spins "I'm a gold digger with a shitty job, 30 pounds overweight, and still paying off someone else's mortgage in a smelly bachelor pad." Lord grant me the confidence of a mediocre white man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:00 AM
32

"Listen to marginalized voices!" "I was in prostitution and it ruined my life and I will never completely heal from it. It has affected my ability to gain employment and form meaningful relationships with people, not to mention my mental and physical health are irrevocably changed as a result. I want to protect other vulnerable people from the suffering I was put through." "Shut up, SWERF! Just because you made a bad decision doesn't mean you get to take away other people's choices!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 09:20 PM
37

I've seen women's orgs, mostly made up of women who exited prostitution, who actively help prostituted women find housing, medical care, protection from the men pimping them out and keeping them addicted, etc., be tarred SWERF and attacked by white men and their henchwomen when "sex work is work" became the next way to show off their membership in the cool kids club. I despise people like that. They think by shitting on the few resources available for women who have nothing, they're being progre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 08:55 PM
10

I was gobsmacked when I read that Amnesty International's stance toward prostitution included recommendations from several orgs that all employed or otherwise had influence from someone who was convicted of and imprisoned for sex trafficking (source).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 08:43 PM
17

I bet if you told him he was a failed man, he wouldn't take it as flirtation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 05:46 PM
37

Facts. I'm just about as tall as an average man in my area and got to that height early, I have always been active, and I have a build that puts on muscle easily. Growing up, I was constantly bombarded with the idea that the only way I could be feminine was to be smaller than a man. That was impossible short of clinical anorexia, and I wasn't able to force myself to degrade my own intellectual, professional, and physical performance for long enough to achieve that. When I started dating, I attra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 03:55 PM
12

Men decided actual filmed rape is "free speech" and other men hail those men as heroes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 03:20 PM
12

I thought men were supposed to be the logical and rational sex and therefore understand that feelings aren't facts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 07:26 PM
17

It's disturbing how men don't even realize that they've allowed porn to become part of their core identity. That should be a wake-up call but instead they just stop at "I feel bad about what you say therefore you are bad."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 07:25 PM
20

When I was a kinkmeisha I had a woman I loved ask me to verbally and physically abuse her the same way I let men do to me. I couldn't, because I loved her. But for some reason I couldn't follow through to the logical conclusion that the men who did that to me therefore could not love me, or maybe I knew that already, and I had already normalized loving people who did not love me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 07:16 PM
7

What a cheap fuck. He doesn't even have the decency to be aware of how stingy and boring that makes him look.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 05:41 PM
19

Can't understand what you don't want to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:47 PM
83

That's not necessarily a false conclusion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:35 PM
83

"What do you mean, of course I don't hate or disrespect women, I jerk off to them for crying out loud!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:35 PM
8

We politely ask them to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 10:17 PM
1

I think you mean Neuromancer...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:28 PM
47

I spent about 10 years in the "alternative" community and never saw a poly relationship work that wasn't either a completely female group or a group where a woman was calling the shots, and that's not me saying that those are guaranteed to work, either. Most "poly groups" I found were just useless male narcissists surrounding themselves with insecure, pre-groomed female sources of supply, whose lives were filled with drama that would easily be resolved if the women let go of their Cockholm Syndr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:20 PM
20

Not to mention the urine smell that builds up because he doesn't clean his toilet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:44 PM
10

"Demanding" like it's not a parent/spouse's first responsibility to take care of their family...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:26 PM
18

The statutory rapist that was my first boyfriend told me that I must like being hurt because that was the only explanation he could see that I wouldn't just do what he wanted (and thus avoid getting yelled at until I cried).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:36 AM
42

If women had class solidarity, we wouldn't be nearly as exploitable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 05:32 AM
54

I remember hearing about a case where it was decided that police don't have an obligation to protect you from physical harm; I believe it was a case where a woman called 911 to report a home invasion, but police didn't show up and the burglars ended up raping her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:23 AM
62

The reason a "kink" is a "kink" is because, by definition, it's deviant/abnormal sexuality. Normalizing kink has proven to be an actual slippery slope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 05:29 PM
267

I read your last line as "men are natural predators" and didn't detect any lies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 05:27 PM
11

I don't get why we trust them with any authority when their testosterone levels fluctuate multiple times a day. So hormonal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 04:08 PM
22

It's a low-value starter pack.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 04:07 PM
2

It's attributed to him, but he does not claim credit: https://mobile.twitter.com/greatdismal/status/118912478968152064
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 06:04 AM
44

Yeah, he had to take control of the narrative to make it look like you were the one being unreasonable and "crazy."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 01:43 AM
5

"Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self esteem, first make sure you are not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes." \@debihope on Twitter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 12:29 AM
19

In the session, my SO announced that an underage child was "attracted to him" and he was the victim of a conspiracy where the child would be given to him as his new workout partner, life partner, and mother of his children How the fuck did the counsellor not refer him to a psychiatrist with those kinds of delusions? It's clear his problem was well above her pay grade, not to mention her own boundaries around what's appropriate is fuckered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 12:14 AM
84

"Pearls before swine" is a saying specifically intended to describe what you're talking about. I don't share myself with people committed to misunderstanding or mistreating me, because if I do, I am tacitly agreeing that I'm worth how they treat me. "I'm not done with you yet" is what a rapist says.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 11:55 PM
32

I'm pretty damn sure the parents still worried about their girls getting raped. Just because they gave all their kids similar educational opportunities doesn't mean they treated them exactly the same in other ways, or even should have treated them exactly the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 11:11 PM
15

In their minds, why should they suffer at all when the consequences for not wrapping their dick are completely abstract to them? Sure, they might get an STI that might eventually kill them, but that's a very distant proposition when compared to women's constant awareness about pregnancy and its risks. Most people's attitude is that the one with the most to lose should take the most precautions against that loss, a very "fuck you, I've got mine" attitude and the kind that's going to keep humanity…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 08:37 PM
63

In my pickme days I thought that being gender non-conforming and on the autistic spectrum meant I was "not like the other girls," and I believed that I had to engage in hetero relationships in a non-conventional way as a result, i.e. I believed I should treat my boyfriends to dinners and flowers (which they didn't treat me to in response) and listen to them talk about their feElINgS, because sexism is bad and why shouldn't I do nice things for my boyfriends just because they're male? Well, most …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 08:26 PM
15

Alphas don't identify as alphas; other people identify them as alphas and treat them as such.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 08:19 PM
39

Same. Growing up, I had the example of my mother, who openly resented my father, openly venting to me about how much she hated being with him but decided to stay with him because it was part of her cultural identity to not be a divorced woman. I also was surrounded by women of her generation who were unhappy with their marriages but, for whatever reasons, they refused to consider trying to do better. That trained me to also stay in relationships I hated because of the idea it would reflect badly…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 08:18 PM
1

I believe the RVO part is all one chunk: "reverse victim and offender." So I'd give the example of: "I didn't do that [deny] -- you're lying again [attack] and it makes me feel like I'm losing my mind and I'm afraid to talk to you [reverse victim and offender]."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 08:00 PM
2

It is in the narcissist playbook. Look up DARVO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 06:12 PM
5

Same. If I hadn't been fed the lie that a woman is worthless without being useful to a dick owner I wouldn't have gone through most of the horror I took on as the necessary cost of being attached to a male and therefore having worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 06:43 AM
38

Your standards aren't too high; their expectations of themselves as human beings are far too low.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 05:54 AM
2

This is where "he knows; he just doesn't care" comes in. A breathtaking intensity of shock and grief hit me when I fully realized that the men I cared about and who hurt me weren't ignorant of the pain they were causing me, but rather deemed it unimportant compared to their convenience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 05:32 AM
8

She's trying to convince herself that he's mistaking her screams of pain for screams of pleasure because she can't cope with the reality that he's getting off to her screaming in pain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 03:53 AM
85

Brothers will beat on their own sisters before they'll protect them IME.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:34 PM
16

Their attitude is "if even one man is suffering an inconvenience, it's a crime to prioritize alleviating the suffering of billions of women."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:19 PM
22

A while ago, I came across a drawing (maybe might have been here in FDS) of a woman who looked SouthEast Asian with a fully-grown grinning man piggybacking on her, an infant strapped to her chest and breastfeeding, a wailing boy walking in front of her and holding her hand, and a sombre-looking girl trailing behind her by the other hand, drawn off-centre almost as an afterthought. I haven't been able to find that drawing again, though I've looked for it. Does anyone else remember it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:17 PM
24

People always seem to care more about the males involved when a problem only affects a miniscule fraction of males compared to females.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:10 PM
25

Just like women can talk to men for decades in the face about how almost all porn is videorecorded rape of underage, drugged, blackmailed, trafficked, or otherwise coerced women and girls and they're jerking it to evidence of a crime, but it goes in one ear and out the other, but an entire nofap movement starts up when one of their brothers raises the alarm that they're losing erectile function and IQ points by using porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:11 PM
5

People really seem to think rape is a worse villain when a man suffers it because they think a natural part of being a woman is being penetrated (forcibly or willingly), and they don't think that's a natural part of being a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 03:21 PM
3

Because they're insecure fuckups who have gross opinions and also can't handle people disagreeing with their gross opinions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 03:17 PM
9

You're reminding me of the explanation people came up with for Nuclear Gandhi in the Civ games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:36 AM
29

Also, notice how the only time personal experience counts against others' estimation of expertise in a subject is when it's a woman talking about male violence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:34 AM
31

Some rando on this site told me I needed to see a shrink because I didn't like it when people referred to a woman's vagina as a "hole."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 05:08 AM
517

Mary I recommend the descriptor "testerical"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:18 AM
8

A phrase that's helped me understand why men treat women poorly: "they know; they just don't care."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 12:56 AM
4

I've never forgiven the rest of this site for the Ask-A-Rapist Thread.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 12:53 AM
26

That's because they literally think their own shit doesn't stink.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 12:04 AM
34

Even then, all the pregnancy/childbirth related stuff is 100% on you. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 10:43 PM
96

10th Rule of Misogyny: The worst thing about male violence is that it makes men look bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 10:37 PM
33

They put in so much energy into wilfully misunderstanding and talking at us, then complaining when we continue to find them useless. Imagine if they put half that energy into becoming fully realized human beings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 09:52 PM
29

Men keep pushing responsibility for men's actions onto the young girls they prey on. It's despicable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 09:21 PM
56

Offer? More like demand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 08:06 PM
64

When I was a little kid, like a preteen, I left a wrapped pad in the shared bathroom trash can. My older brother saw it and his rage was terrifying, like his face was twisted like he was going to kill me and he was ranting "this isn't a fucking barn" and "we're not fucking animals." It's been decades and I still remember it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 06:10 PM
20

I didn't end up getting around to seeing a therapist until I was already fully separated from the BDSM scene and had stopped fantasizing about being abused. This is not me saying to avoid therapists, but to point out that not having access to therapy isn't going to sink OP's efforts to recover. Making a firm commitment to the goal, without making excuses for why you can't do it, gets you a long way on the right path.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 05:39 PM
331

Don't. Fucking. Rape. Underage. Girls. No. Matter. How. Horny. You. Are. Don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it. If you are an adult, it does not make you cool to lie to yourself or anyone else about whether you really thought she looked 18. It's not a story to put in your spank bank and fap to later on in the middle of the night because you love the rush of having gotten away with destroying something no other man had gotten around to destroying yet. Because if an adult finds out that you slept …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 04:49 PM
20

That's a great effortpost. I wish I'd had it (and FDS) when I'd started feeling like I needed to get out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 04:14 PM
131

How I got out: Realized BDSM was inherently abusive and a form of self-harm Started reading books that explained why I kept getting trapped by the same kinds of abusive men, validated my survival instinct, talked about the tactics abusive men use (The Gift of Fear, Why Does He Do That, and the FDS handbook linked in the sidebar, among other things) Severed all contact with BDSM-related communities and ended any relationships I'd made with people still active in the community or who didn't respec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 04:05 PM
19

The comment you're replying to said: actual kink communities don't allow breath play fwiw, so anyone asking for that is someone not allowed in the groups and parties In my pickme days, I spent several years in several BDSM communities in a large city and had friends and contacts in several communities in other cities. "Breath play" (strangulation) was not only commonly allowed, but considered one of the tamer things to engage in. It's funny how so many BDSM apologists pull out the "no true kinks…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 03:58 PM
32

If they're brave enough to talk about what tickles their noodle in public, they should be brave enough to take the criticism for being weirdos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 03:43 PM
37

If the same lunatic attacked you in the bedroom with a knife, they'd definitely call it "knife play."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 03:41 PM
35

I was just about to say that too. It's like they have no habits other than their boring fetishes that literally no one they're blathering to about them is interested in hearing about. What's worse is they're so insecure they need to badger other people into validating their fetishes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 03:40 PM
11

That's because you think women and girls are people instead of self-maintaining dick receptacles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 12:11 AM
27

Notice the crickets when "adult boys" are grooming and pimping out girls under 18 though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 10:48 PM
2

She spelled "enable" wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 10:13 PM
23

"Adult girls" Is he for real? We have a word for that, son
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 09:57 PM
95

I imagine him going to to a restaurant and get snippy when they won't feed him for free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:04 PM
10

The official Ovarit Spinster (feminist Twitter alternative) gives out codes as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 03:50 PM
331

That male's "love and affection" is worth less than the paper it's printed on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 03:36 PM
4

Also wars that women's children were raped and killed in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 05:28 AM
3

Joining in on the Envy apple love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 05:18 AM
24

This is a good point. If a man admits something socially unacceptable to you, that's a test to see whether you'll put up with worse shit as he slowly escalates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 08:45 PM
31

I was involved in the furry community in my teens, and some of the men I met were zoophiles and pretty open about it. They were able to be open about it because the other men around them treated all fetishes as sacred and had no respect for boundaries. Even if you feel naive about it, follow your gut when you feel creeped out. Edit: typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 08:29 PM
19

After years of narcissistic abuse, any weird shit your abuser does seems normal because he's trained you to never question what he does. When you're out of it and giving your head a shake, you look back on it and everything seems completely crazy, but when you're in it, it's just more of the same things you've learned to just go with for fear of punishment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 04:07 PM
13

And if he brags about his size, that is a good indicator that he has a small dick. Literally every man who bragged about his size was smaller than average. Can confirm, and also add: any man who says he's good in bed is also engaging in false advertising.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 06:52 AM
12

I hope they trust the wrong fart in public someday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 07:23 PM
37

My dad and male cousins yodel when they yawn, scream when they sneeze, and compete for who can fart loudest, but I raise my voice around them and I'm the "loud and obnoxious" one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 06:10 PM
98

Men have been doing that as long as I remember to many girls in the public eye, including the Olsen twins, famous for playing toddlers on a sitcom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:35 PM
2

"Your not having jumped into the snake pit is why you didn't know that those snakes are venomous"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 06:10 AM
8

Why not? It's not unfair to avoid doing something that actively traumatizes you while still wanting your sexual partner to try to please you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 06:07 AM
61

Yes, in a lot of places it doesn't matter if they're cONseNTinG adULtS, fucking your children is still illegal, as it should be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 09:40 PM
26

Yes, men absolutely use a relationship of any kind with a woman to look more respectable in others' eyes. Traditionally they got married to gain the image of a solid family man, but these days they'll shack up with a woman because they know people think "he can't be that bad if he managed to get a girl." Losers will absolutely not hesitate to exploit the connections and good reputation you built up yourself for their own gain. If people know you're a solid person with good judgment, they will as…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 08:43 PM
161

behind many of these relaxed men is an overworked, overwhelmed woman just trying to hold it together Or a convenient woman they get to pick on, tease, humiliate, and otherwise "blow off steam" on whenever they get frustrated so they can keep on with their "chill" facade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 06:03 AM
16

No. Would anyone expect a man who had orgasm-less sex to still think it was good? Not unless he has an orgasm denial fetish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 05:57 AM
3

I've had such consistently bad experiences with men in my culture and who recognize me as being part of that culture (by my very ethnic name) that I've seriously considered changing my name. My ethnicity is hard to tell from my looks and I don't speak English with an accent, so it would work. Sucks that I started out having to pretend I was white/Anglo growing up to avoid racism from my schoolmates, now I distance myself from my heritage to avoid dealing with the horde of LVMs who think that bec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 05:32 PM
14

They leave it to their wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 05:26 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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