| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 527 | Another example of a HVM! This man gets it right. | KEANU | lusigusi | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 03:14 AM |
| 192 | The more and I more I adopt key FDS strategies the more I am able to see how the systemic acceptance of male depravity continues to permeate our relationships when we let them. Another one-sided AITA post for your viewing pleasure | MALE DEPRAVITY | lusigusi | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 07:54 PM |
| 120 | Reaching out to make amends for former pick-me ways | DISCUSSION | lusigusi | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 09:19 PM |
| 38 | As a Black woman I am (sadly) familiar with fetishization in the dating pool. Black women and other WOC, PLEASE be advised that LV potential suitors will not see you as fully human, just as someone who ticks a specific box. | CULTURAL MISOGYNY | lusigusi | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 10:52 PM |
| 2 | Another long term relationship FDS crossover question | SEEKING ADVICE | lusigusi | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 06:01 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 71 | LVM infiltrate our spaces constantly and I’m sick of it: A Case StudyUgh yeah, you are right. Thank you for your kind words. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 05:36 PM |
| 37 | LVM infiltrate our spaces constantly and I’m sick of it: A Case StudyThank you! I don’t have much of a relationship at all with her husband so I won’t be telling him but I also really need to rethink my friendship with her, obviously. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 04:53 PM |
| 27 | LVM infiltrate our spaces constantly and I’m sick of it: A Case StudyWhy is it my responsibility to tell her to not cheat on her husband? Also, how could I have stopped her? Ultimately I can’t control the behavior of other adults, even if she is one of my best friends. The only responsibility I have now is to not tolerate that kind of behavior in my social life moving forward. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 04:51 PM |
| 41 | Nah sis.Genuinely thought he bought it for her at first and was confused as to why this was posted here, then re-read and proceeded to almost break my neck from the amount of head-shaking that ensued | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 01:32 AM |
| 76 | pickme pays for everything and lets him sleep with other girls! he gets to have his cake and eat it tooI don’t find it productive or healing to judge women in these types of situations anymore. I just want them to learn what we’re all here to learn so that they can find the happiness they deserve. That being said, girl wtf 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 11:20 PM |
| 258 | Fucking idiot 🤡This vaguely reminds me of that People’s Court clip posted on here a few weeks ago where the guy started freely giving money to his Uber customer, tried to make her his girlfriend, then when she wouldn’t sleep with him he tried to turn it back on her like she was a gold-digging $lut. These men don’t have much, but they DO have the audacity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 08:09 PM |
| 41 | Reaching out to make amends for former pick-me waysIn grad school, I developed an unhealthy attachment to a married peer 10 years my senior. I have always been academically advanced and started my grad studies at 19 so our age gap was very apparent. Quickly developed a physical “relationship” with him where I was emotionally manipulated and coerced into degrading sexual acts - one-sided oral sex, public fondling, mutual masturbation, to name a few. Put myself in dangerous and questionable scenarios to gain his approval. Our friend group was four… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 10:47 PM |
| 8 | Abusive father daughter bonding vs mother: just realised all these years my dad tried to recruit me and despised me for rejecting him ...so he hired my brothers. Pay attention how a man bonds with his kids, especially daughters.Thanks!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 08:54 PM |
| 18 | Abusive father daughter bonding vs mother: just realised all these years my dad tried to recruit me and despised me for rejecting him ...so he hired my brothers. Pay attention how a man bonds with his kids, especially daughters.Oh! I meant the woman in the video. Do you know what text she is referencing/quoting in the video? At the beginning she’s like “this is a quote from xyz” but I can’t catch the name. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 07:24 PM |
| 39 | Abusive father daughter bonding vs mother: just realised all these years my dad tried to recruit me and despised me for rejecting him ...so he hired my brothers. Pay attention how a man bonds with his kids, especially daughters.I couldn’t catch the reference title. Does someone know what this is excerpted from? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 06:56 PM |
| 41 | So we all know that men can’t stop talking about themselves, so I wanted to ask you ladies..I know. I really knew how to pick em 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 06:32 PM |
| 159 | So we all know that men can’t stop talking about themselves, so I wanted to ask you ladies..Ughhhh. Well, he wasn’t my “ex” but he was a “friend” I had a physically and emotionally intimate relationship with (aka a situationship, which my formerly Pickmeisha self will never repeat). Anyway.. one time after hooking up, he told me that it was a habit of his to bite the thigh of a woman he was intimate with, as a way to “claim” her. He said women liked this and even if they didn’t, he would do it anyway because “women need to be kept in line and told what to do.” 🤢 My reaction literally w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 05:49 PM |
| 10 | Hold upThis….THIS is just everything. Thank you so much for sharing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 04:54 PM |
| 37 | Yes you CAN be intimidatingly beautiful and that's why scrotes don't approach you (a blessing in disguise)!Thanks for this. There’s a lot of truth to this in my experience. When I was younger (early 20s) and had less personal style, less confidence, and less conviction in my own sense of self, I would get hit on pretty regularly. Like, openly so, in pushy and obnoxiously rude ways. Being insecure, I thought this was something to feel proud of (breaking news: I was wrong lol). Now that I’m a little older and a little wiser, the interactions I have with men are SO different - very few men approach me i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 04:20 PM |
| 22 | PSA: as soon as man says that, run the opposite direction sis 🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️ This is RED FLAG. Manipulation.It’s sad when you realize your Dad was like this your whole life 🌚 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 07:24 PM |
| 109 | Pick me propaganda! This “advice” is clearly targeted towards women because 99% of men are going to get off regardless. Don’t excuse sexually incompetent men that don’t make an effort you off, there’s already way too many of those. Thank you. ☺️✨This!!! It’s absolutely dangerous messaging, especially for girls/young women who have never had an orgasm and don’t know what to expect. It says “your body isn’t actually worth the time and effort that goes into reaching this pinnacle of pleasure so why not just forget about that and focus on ‘having fun’”? I get that having an orgasm w a partner can be challenging but damn. We gotta raise our expectations and vehemently vet those who can’t hang. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 12:30 AM |
| 270 | Pick me propaganda! This “advice” is clearly targeted towards women because 99% of men are going to get off regardless. Don’t excuse sexually incompetent men that don’t make an effort you off, there’s already way too many of those. Thank you. ☺️✨Lmaooo and yet again, we witness the audacity of the pickmeisha logic. Would men willingly settle for a sexual relationship in which they actively disclose their lack of orgasm but still promote feeling FuLlFiLlEd?? Saying you can still have a fulfilling sex life with a partner who can’t make you orgasm is like saying you can still have a birthday party with no cake, no presents, no music, and no guests. Sure, it’s still your birthday, and sure, you can call it a party, but does it really feel l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 12:15 AM |
| 31 | Read this quote and thought of the truthful, sensitive, and intelligent women hereThis is.. wow. Blew my mind. Thank you so much for sharing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 04:25 AM |
| 13 | BEAUTY - Do you think it is worth it for women to pursue it?This was a very interesting read and thank you for sharing your thoughts on the subject. I relate to you on several points and have asked myself if I do the things I do to “keep up” my appearance as a way to fully please myself, or if I feel on another level that this upkeep is tied to the positive responses I get from both men and other women based on heteronormative constructs of beauty and attraction. I continue to realize that there is power in my femininity, and doing things like getting my… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 09:56 PM |
| 35 | When you have internalized misogyny and proud of it 🤡Embarrassing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 11:07 PM |
| 27 | Scrote tropes decodedI think it’s important to be discerning about this one. I don’t think there’s anything wrong at all with saying you eat a vegan or plant based diet and by itself is not a red flag at all. In fact for me and many others it’s a turn-on. But if they start getting overly moralistic about it or use it as a tool to shame or manipulate others in order to be perceived as more righteous then that’s a no-go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 04:55 AM |
| 29 | When a former ghosting LVM you haven't talked to in 6 months finally "checks in" to see how you are doing during the pandemic and you are now on the enlightened FDS Queen journey...The scrote pic is truly the icing on the cake of this masterpiece chefs kiss | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 07:02 PM |
| 5 | Ladies, not sure what to do when your husband forces you to give blowjobs until your lips are bleeding and you throw up? Male redditor has the solution for you!I just saw how he spelled “seams” and that was enough for me. Nah sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 06:46 PM |
| 171 | High Value Men and what it means to be oneThis is the best definition of a HVM I’ve ever read on this sub. The idea of a HVM fitting into this canned identity of rich, six pack, etc etc is nice but it plays into some stereotypes so it’s great to see it explained this way. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 05:04 PM |
| 18 | Male lurkers: cold approaching strange women is creepy and weirdAgree 1000%. This follows in line with the concept that many, many men do not actually see women as autonomous beings in their own right, with boundaries and standards etc. So they don’t consider it inappropriate to do something like that because according to their logic, what’s the harm? This has happened to me too, and it sucks. One time I can distinctly remember was when I worked the swing shift at my old job and my colleague dropped me off back at home (we’d usually carpool since public tran… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 09:00 PM |
| 3 | Do you ever just wonder why you still like men...Doesn’t this dude just spend his time spouting misogynistic bullshit on Twitter? I’ve seen him posted here and elsewhere before.. he’s one of these toad ass guys who only gets worse the more you acknowledge his presence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 09:37 PM |
| 2 | Lie #728299 You know full well your not 44Bish please | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 07:51 PM |
| 44 | Why do they always think our world revolves around pleasing them? Dang it Bobby, back at it again with complaints about not getting some 🤣It must be a skill to be simultaneously so racist and misogynistic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 04:43 PM |
| 9 | anddd... blocked!!!Hahahahahaha omg. I’ve seen some lame shit but this is TRULY some lame shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 07:40 PM |
| 2 | A scrote proudly shaming women for having a period... wtf! Protect Yourselves Sisters 👯♀️Does... does he know what biology is? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 06:11 PM |
| 37 | Let’s be real here...Men get in their feeeeeelings when they know they can’t provide. It chips away at their self-esteem. Instead of doing the sensible and non-emotionally manipulative things that HVM would do - consider their earning potential, take consistent steps to earn more and become self-sufficient, learn new skills, be honest/transparent about their finances etc., LVM gaslight and manipulate their partners into thinking something is wrong with THEM for wanting a financially stable partner. How DARE a sensib… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 12:17 AM |
| 45 | sneak peak into the realities of a pickmeishaSame!!! Wow. I’m grateful for perspective | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/20 08:54 PM |
| 58 | I highly doubt it.HVM are fully participating in supporting their partners by doing their share of domestic work, providing emotional support, being honest, practicing good self-care, sticking to a healthy routine, etc. LVM are out here slanging dick to whatever LVW they can get their hands on, obsessing over porn, eating shitty food, wasting too much time on social media, and not showering. Lol I hate to say it but it’s true 🤷🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/20 05:57 PM |
| 15 | Never be like the third girlLooollll was just sharing this with my group chat and talking about the absurdity of hoteps. Sidenote - Speaking of hoteps, I’m now inspired to create a post on the different types of LVM.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 01:59 AM |
| 32 | The more and I more I adopt key FDS strategies the more I am able to see how the systemic acceptance of male depravity continues to permeate our relationships when we let them. Another one-sided AITA post for your viewing pleasureMy 2c as to why is because as women, collectively, we’ve been systemically programmed over literally thousands of years to deprioritize our own needs and comfort levels to that of our partners & children. I really feel like this is a critical time in human evolution where women are realizing and putting into practice that we DO deserve more, we DO deserve to champion our own preferences without guilt or remorse, and we DO serve a greater purpose than just being someone’s doormat. It’s hard work … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 11:01 PM |
| 11 | The more and I more I adopt key FDS strategies the more I am able to see how the systemic acceptance of male depravity continues to permeate our relationships when we let them. Another one-sided AITA post for your viewing pleasurehttps://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/f8autk/aita_for_sleeping_in_a_hotel_because_my_husband/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 08:23 PM |
| 2 | Women and their damn standards, amiriteLmfao this is hilarious and sadly true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 05:10 AM |
| 12 | 90s PickMeishas: Dates emotionally unavailable man who strings her along for years. Watched him marry a much younger woman within six months of meeting her and then becomes his mistress. He Finally proposes to her but then leaves her at the altar. AND SIS STILL MARRIES HIM IN THE END. 🤡🤡She is the Grand Poo-Bah of all Pickmeishas. And yet is revered in pop culture. Go figure lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 07:01 PM |
| 17 | Another example of a HVM! This man gets it right.Lol exactly, after posting this I started thinking “well yeah, this IS amazing, but women do this type of thing for each other all the time”. Not to downplay how beautiful this moment is by any means, but I think part of it is that we’re so used to seeing LVM as “normal” that anything that differs from their negative patterns of behavior is seen as extraordinary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 04:13 PM |
| 9 | Pathetic MGTOWs use the wall as a cope to try devaluation women who are worlds out of their league, because they’re bitter.She literally looks the same in both photos. Nice try “men going their own way”. The desperation is strong I swear lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 04:11 AM |
| 11 | Please alert your fellow woman!This is.. wild, to put it lightly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 01:53 AM |
| 29 | I don’t like dicks in my coffee, either.This doesn’t even work as a joke. NEXT | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 04:31 AM |
| 10 | Only abusers pick pickmes. If you had an abusive father, your mom was/is a pickme.Been thinking about this a lot recently since it’s the holidays and I’ve been around family. My mom is a recovering pick me. My dad has been emotionally and verbally abusive toward her and she finally got out, 30 years later. He calls her multiple times a week asking for reconciliation and she’s just like NOPE. You had your chance. I’m so proud of her and I feel like our relationship is that much stronger because of her decision to finally leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 09:33 PM |
| 5 | Don't worry he won't send a d pic not because it's disrespectful but because you might expose himLOL what a dumbass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 09:28 PM |
| 10 | That’s sooo cute, to see this future high quality man 😍 . That’s how I will raise my son.Yeah no thanks. Seems mildly inappropriate to force your child in a position like this lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 06:21 PM |
| 83 | Get a proper apology for his bullshitI am so sorry this happened to you. Glad to know he is your ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/19 02:47 PM |
| 9 | A man can hate your guts, want you to literally die, and they will still want to have sex with you. Women who date men need to get this, please: sexual attention from men means nothing! There are ways to tell if they actually like you, but this is not one of them!I know right. His “advice” is half the reason why I peruse this sub for positive reinforcement lmao. But that’s another thread for another time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 08:04 PM |
| 30 | A man can hate your guts, want you to literally die, and they will still want to have sex with you. Women who date men need to get this, please: sexual attention from men means nothing! There are ways to tell if they actually like you, but this is not one of them!Agreed. As my dad would say “a man will f*ck a snake if you hold its head”. Gross, but it’s true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 03:43 PM |
| -1 | Watch your soul, Kevin!Exactly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 01:10 AM |
| 1 | Another long term relationship FDS crossover questionThank you for your kindness, I really appreciate it so much :) advocating for myself is something I struggle with in general so your words are really helpful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 11:30 PM |
| 3 | Another long term relationship FDS crossover questionI’m going to have thanksgiving with his parents next week and we’re all supposed to talk about the specifics. I was told my name would be on the deed but we need to have a formal conversation. And no, I really don’t want to set myself up for a life of frustration financially :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 06:32 PM |
| 3 | Another long term relationship FDS crossover questionI should clarify, he’s a musician/producer and occasional actor. His working hours fluctuate a lot, sometimes it’s over 60 hours a week, sometimes it’s much less. Also, just because he’s “working” during that time doesn’t mean he’s getting paid. I don’t feel he is lazy but he just doesn’t care about anything that isn’t related to his musical pursuits, professionally speaking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 06:29 PM |
| 26 | I bet he thought he really got me typing out this word soup. Just say you want a FWB and go.This is just tragic. We deserve and are worth so much better for real. And it’s crazy because I used to be flattered by these types of messages. Now I can just see them for what they are.. trash | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 05:43 AM |
| 7 | Remember that men Lie about Family Courts being biased. They get as much custody as they want.My dad did this to me too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 11:59 PM |
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