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Words are wind, lady. Anyone with two brain cells can figure out some nice-sounding words to get a gal to stay with him. You know what’s much harder? Backing that up with actions, which this guy has never done. Don’t let mere words allow you to debase yourself and get taken advantage of again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 02:54 PM
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I’ve been saying this too. Before the internet, people had to show proof of age to buy porn videos or magazines. It’s ridiculous that any child can access the most hardcore porn from any phone or tablet at any time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 02:49 AM
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Yep and cuz they’re not so strict about fiFtY fiFtY 🤡 he’s mad that she wants to keep that going? Their entire relationship has been “transactional” that way and this is what he has an issue with? Lol what a maroon
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 06:47 PM
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Yesss so classy and yet firm and powerful all at once. I need to take lessons from her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 06:08 PM
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I can only dream of such classy responses like she dished out 🤩 Couldn’t have been more perfect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 06:07 PM
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Tbf I think most people wouldn’t willingly change much if their partner hasn’t left for 15! years. It’s sorta like they’re calling your bluff — “if I was as terrible as you say you’d have left by now.” Even more reason why one shouldn’t give too many second chances
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 03:00 PM
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This is a good question and I want to point out the flip side of it too: it’s a red flag if he plans out a date too far in advance. When I was in my early 20s I thought it was okay but he later told me he planned a date THREE WEEKS in the future because he got paid every two weeks and already had plans for the paycheck coming up. Should’ve realized that screams “I’m terrible with money”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 05:05 PM
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You felt bad for him? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 03:36 PM
141

It’s amazing what a display of supposed wealth can signal to some women. Once a threshold is passed (say, thinking someone is worth 50M+), some people’s defenses and common sense completely fail. Our society greatly reveres wealth so thinking someone is so well-off makes most people want to fawn over them and cater to them. A wealthy person can’t possibly be an axe murderer!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 03:01 PM
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I wish I knew about this sooner too. Had an on-again off-again relationship with someone like this for 7 years. My god, it was exhausting to walk on eggshells around his fEeLiNGs that I was cheating on him... I never gave him a reason to think that I was, and I was constantly made to feel guilty for even giving hints that I might be! Like he found condoms in my room, but it was just free ones given out in my city that I used on sex toys sometimes. But to him it was proof I was cheating, eye roll…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 04:31 PM
143

God. What a disgusting comment to make!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 04:23 PM
178

I don’t know who the hell says boys are easier. I have a toddler daughter and she’s so chill and happy. A friend has a similar aged son who basically screams all. day. long. I don’t know how she stands it to be honest
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 05:24 PM
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So if you know who stole your car, it’s not a crime but a civil matter? Asinine
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 11:02 PM
29

You must be new. The men are supposed to do the chasing, the women choose
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 03:41 PM
28

You can always lock down your credit with the credit bureaus, so that no new loan lines can be opened without a passcode!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 02:23 AM
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Heh I’ve experienced this except there wasn’t really a dom aspect to it. Many a time when I’d just lay back and receive pleasure… and they didn’t care if they got off. Those were the days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 02:31 PM
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Hah! Good for you. My husband and I work well as a team -- he is currently fixing up our house, room by room (while working full time), and takes care of all the outside stuff like mowing the lawn, blowing leaves, snow-blowing when it snows and shoveling. I cook and do the laundry and watch after our daughter while he's at his job. It works for us. But there's no way in hell I'd be doing all that for a laze-about freeloader. Workload needs to be shared.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 03:48 PM
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Lol it’s only “toxic” to lvm cuz we’re taking their easy prey away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 08:18 PM
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If he’s too shy to ask how my day went… how useless 💩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 08:07 PM
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Honestly I’m happy not to be super attractive for just this reason. Sounds exhausting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 01:46 PM
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Same, girl, same At least we know about it now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 09:16 PM
133

Yeah this messed me up as a kid because I knew I wasn’t conventionally attractive, so I felt I had no intrinsic self-worth. Really sabotaged my self esteem from an early age
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 08:22 PM
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I swear, these ultra-religious tribes have some of the worst men because they're allowed zero outlets for their sexual frustration so they take it out on any random woman they see...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 01:57 PM
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Yeah and he meant for it to sting. His pride and ego was bruised so he wanted to dish it back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 01:46 PM
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This is one of the exercises my therapist had me do for self-love. Imagine younger me, and go back and hug her. Tell her you love her and how special she is in all her ways. Tell her it’s going to be okay and that she is worthy of love. Made me cry so hard to do that but it was incredibly healing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 03:40 PM
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Yes it's still very much a patriarchal society. Technology-wise, they're so advanced, but socially so many things are ass-backwards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 10:55 PM
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God I've never felt so heavily coerced as I was in Korea. It's insane there. Women are browbeaten into wearing, always, makeup and feminine clothing. Even to the supermarket. I've had an aunt complain about my choice of capris and a t-shirt to go to a museum, lol. People will not be shy about their opinions about your looks and yes you're seen as lazy and uncaring if you're a woman who doesn't wear makeup and nice clothes. It's such a superficial society. And let's not even go into the heavy hea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 08:08 PM
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Definitely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:16 PM
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At the very least, it will somewhat shield the young children and pre-teens from it. Make it harder to access, like liquor/beer being carded. I feel like this needs to be a real movement soon, we need to make it a thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:49 PM
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Many young men have, since around 2013, grown up watching internet porn at a young age. So a 12 year old then is now 20 and subjecting women to this sort of treatment because it’s literally all he knows. There is no education of what love making actually is. There are zero barriers to accessing super hardcore and rough sex videos. In fact it’s openly discussed and joked about in their schools, with their peers and older brothers. I honestly think it’s one of the worst societal problems right now…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 02:43 PM
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I wish my mother had this training. We're Korean. She had a great father but sadly he passed when she was 8. Had he lived longer I'm sure he would've taught her more of what a good husband and father looks like. Instead she felt pressured to marry my father, who stalked her and didn't take no for an answer. She had a kind, rich boyfriend at the time and my father basically wormed his way by her side instead. His family guilted her, saying he wouldn't eat or sleep or go to work until she'd see hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 11:52 PM
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Background checks will never weed out sexually transmitted diseases, scammers who lie to get money/gifts which is not illegal, or fuckbois. This is true, but to be fair, someone you meet in real life isn't guaranteed to not have/be these things either. Some things, you can only verify with time Given the ratios of men to women on the dating platforms, any man who stays on them is hardened and/or has gotten to prey on women successfully. Dating services will never kick any man off their platforms…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 10:49 PM
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The problem is, so many scrotes don't have the slightest clue on how to make it enjoyable for a woman. More women might enjoy it if they, I dunno, actually took their time to warm her up, get her excited with lots of extended foreplay. That's the only way I can enjoy it. But porn shows idiots ramming their dry dicks in with zero prep and women fake-moaning and they think their dick is going to be similarly magical to every woman's butthole. No, that's not how it works
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 05:28 PM
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The engagement ring IS the promise ring, people!! What is so hard to understand about that? Being happy about a pRoMiSe rInG outside of high school is cringe. If he wanted to, he would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 03:22 PM
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Dated a guy like this once. It was stressful going out to eat because he only ate like 5 different things. And I couldn’t even have anything off his plate, even fries, because “I ordered exactly what I wanted and I want everything I ordered! If you want fries, get your own!” 🙄🙄🙄 Like what even is the point of going out to eat then? Trying new things and sharing is half the fun...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 03:14 PM
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it would be shockingly easy for an imbalance to develop. Even just the psychological effect of thinking my account rather than our account can build over time Yes this is so true. I caught myself already many times thinking, "his card/his money" etc so I gotta stop that. You worded it right on, thanks :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 04:26 PM
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Trust me I laughed at the 100 too. I don't think it's good at all but am biding my time until we get the additional mortgage off our plates to discuss some financial rearranging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 04:24 PM
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All our finances should be merged, even my savings? He’s not against putting my name on his accounts; we are going to do that this week. Household money hasn’t ever been a problem before because he paid for most things anyway (the big bills like mortgage, utilities etc) and I bought some things like groceries and household items when I was bringing in income. I wouldn’t say he’s controlling it now, it’s not like he gives me a spending limit when I go shopping. But the circumstances have definite…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 12:31 PM
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Thing is I know he goes without sometimes, in order to save... he prioritizes saving so that our future can be secure. So probably it is a little controlling in that aspect. But I’d feel pretty selfish if I demanded more money while he doesn’t treat himself. You’re right, he doesn’t want to change the budget because he considers it very well allocated at the moment. I’m not fighting him too hard on it yet because due to some family issues he’s paying two mortgages so our cash flow isn’t the best…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 12:22 PM
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Call me naive but I don’t think it’s financial abuse. He doesn’t give me a spending limit when I go food shopping and such, and when I talk to him about things, he listens. I think it’s just that he’s used to having his own money and being in control of it. We’ve only started me being SAHM a few months ago so I don’t think he’s fully thought through how the finances should look. Although, when I first brought it up he said, “so what are you asking for, an allowance? I’m not going to do that” and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 12:12 PM
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Yes I did tell him the take my card thing wasn’t working for me so he agreed to get me my own bank card to his account. So I’m glad about that, and I still have my own savings. Thing is, he already budgets most of his paycheck out automatically — certain amounts for retirement, savings, and paying bills which doesn’t leave a whole lot left over every month. I need to figure out a way to discuss more evenly splitting the retirement/savings between us. I’m sure he’ll say, “this is what we’re going…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 12:03 AM
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I need some advice on how to talk to my husband about our finances. By choice, I am a SAHM. I used to have my own company but since moving to a new state, sold it, and we both decided to concentrate on starting a family, and that it would be better if one of us was to mostly look after our child rather than a stranger. He's imo very HV for many reasons. But since the beginning we've always maintained separate finances, which was fine when I had my business. He paid for most things anyway. But no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 08:53 PM
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Yaaaas. Women, mothers like you, deserve so much praise. A woman like you raised my now husband and I thank her efforts every day because he's HV as all hell and I feel extremely fortunate for having found a rare, good man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 05:31 PM
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Some guys do these "extra" sweet things thinking it'll get them a home run with women... it may not have been the real him. And no matter how sweet the sweet stuff was, it's not worth not being able to communicate effectively and talking cruelly towards you. I'd rather have a man who didn't give me over-the-top sweetness yet treated me with kindness and consideration day after day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 04:43 PM
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Lol he's going to think back to this moment often and kick himself for being so stupid. "All I had to do was shave my face... and I fucked it up..." Good for you for not backing down, and hell yeah casual sex benefits men way more than women so he should be asking how high when you say jump.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 04:41 PM
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Money well spent for these losers to weed themselves out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:18 PM
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The fragile male ego... FOH with that bs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:56 AM
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Bullet dodged. These idiots are weeding themselves out of your life, good
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:37 PM
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Ugh boy you are not that interesting, nor is that game at all entertaining
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 11:54 AM
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Demand better for yourself, sis. That means not tolerating bullshit like this. Sorry you had these shitty experiences but at least it will allow you to level up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 11:22 AM
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Congrats! I had a baby girl in June and my June2020bumpers group has and continues to be so helpful and knowledgeable. You can find yours by figuring out the month and year you’re due and joining that group, they post them over at r/babybumps I believe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 01:02 PM
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I’m not sure the line is that fine. I’ve been love-bombed and had the real thing. Love-bombing can be kinda sweet in the beginning but your gut feeling is that it’s way too much, too quick. Doesn’t feel natural. And usually it’s their idea of what romance is, what they think every woman would like (ie trite and stereotypical) such as moonlit walks, flowers and chocolate. Not that there’s anything wrong with that but if they keep doing things with no regard to what you personally like and enjoy, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 11:31 AM
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Not the above poster but IME a man, when interested in you for real, will make it clear and known. No games. My husband back when we started dating would actually call me on the phone to just chat early on, introduced me to his parents and friends, and after we had sex he’d want me to stay over and order us breakfast... I had no doubt he saw me as special and didn’t want to lose me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 11:26 AM
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Beh. My husband is very HV and I don’t wear makeup or heels. It’s not a requirement for HVM to notice you; yeah you might get hit on more but that’s just horny guys wanting to bang and doesn’t mean you’d have more success with HVM if you did those things. I’d be so uncomfortable if I had to fake my face and what I liked to wear in front of my partner so don’t compromise your values on that. To me, someone HV will encourage you to be authentically yourself and comfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 11:52 AM
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Just asking you out to a movie isn’t necessarily a red flag. It’s just hard to get to know someone over a movie, especially in the beginning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 11:11 AM
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Had a similar thing happen to me in the NYC area. Guy love-bombed me like crazy and was really slick with his words, got a lot of people to "invest" in his imaginary companies which he'd use to fuck off and vacation in Hawaii and Cali. Had my first real anxiety attack and suicidal thoughts because of him. We need to oust every one of these fuckers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 04:14 PM
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Went on a couple of dates with a guy who told me most guys are dicks, that maaaaybe 1 out of 50 was really a good man. And he said he tells his sister the same thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 04:06 PM
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Oh my god. Someone should make that. We could leave reviews!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 12:15 AM
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I am so, so sad for the girl in OP’s post for what is supposed to be such a special time in her life. Raising a baby even as a couple is so very difficult; doing it alone is so heartbreaking, not to mention exhausting in every way. I just had a baby girl less than a month ago. My husband has always wanted to be a father and she’s our first. I am so proud and happy at the way he’s stepped up to the role. He stays up almost all night with her when she’s being fussy and lets me sleep. He takes char…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 11:09 PM
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That's very true. It would only work if they were brutally honest with themselves and willing to change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 08:45 PM
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SO TRUE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 05:48 PM
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This is why I advocate for most adults to have some therapy -- because a lot of adults are emotionally stunted and/or don't love themselves, causing a lot of societal problems around them. We need to end the stigma against getting therapy and in fact encourage it as much as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 04:56 PM
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Lol I have an opposite story. Dated a real insecure, manipulative loser who really believed he was the best boyfriend eVeR. After four years of emotional abuse and negging, something he said one day finally snapped something inside of me. I looked at him like the vile piece of shit that he was and just started smacking the shit out of his face. I did not care where I was hitting, I wanted to hurt him, badly, as much physically as he did to me emotionally. He looked at me shocked, called me a cra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 01:00 AM
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If you’re asking me, I believe Rose over Ed any day. His actions never aligned with his words and he let his dick rule what he did. And I totally believe Rose when she said he offered money for sexy webcamming, because he said “oh so you’re going to bring this up?” which means it totally was a thing!! Ed is a total shady manipulator masquerading as a nice guy; the worst sort. He should’ve been worshipping the ground Rose walked on, the way he looks like a lumpy potato with a toe on top... his in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 03:58 AM
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Ugh I used to date a LVM who was so insecure and really pissed about the fact that I was intellectually smarter than him (not trying to toot my own horn, I'd grasp concepts faster than him and score higher in all exams basically). He never missed an opportunity to put me down and neg me. I was a wreck for basically the 4 years I wasted with him. Never again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 03:39 PM
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Not me but my husband, when he was single, said his dog never liked his ex-wife (fell out of romantic love, she stayed just for the comfort and sham marriage) or another woman he dated briefly. She was apathetic towards them. But she loves me! Maybe it's just cuz I showed her loving attention? Meanwhile I have a cat who is putty in your hands if you pet her nicely. Even towards a sociopath I dated awhile back, ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 11:23 PM
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Yeah agreed. I wonder how much of his personality and beliefs came from his “friends” though. Especially when you’re in your formative or young years, you pay attention to what your friends are saying more than your parents. So if you grow up with little asshole friends, it’s almost guaranteed you’ll become a little asshole too (the exception being if you were good parents who taught your kids what kind of shitty behavior to watch out for). That’s why I’m going to pay super close attention to my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 11:16 PM
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And just like LVM you know to avoid those unappreciative assholes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 02:51 PM
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It’s cuz of porn. They now think that’s the norm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 11:15 PM
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I mean the funny thing is it’d have been fine if he laughed it off and played with you and gave you pleasure even with shortened PIV time. The fact that he got all insecure is such a red flag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 11:14 PM
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How dare she walk around with confidence?! Present yourself to my nonsensical standards of beauty, females. Form an orderly queue, now~ 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 12:08 AM
2

Ooh there’s a movie? Is it streaming anywhere?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 04:10 AM
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Heh reminds me of an ex that also told me, “Guys don’t like making out. We just do it cuz it leads to sex”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 04:06 AM
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I met my now husband at 32. He has never hesitated to pick up a check or to do things to make my life better. He’s slightly allergic to cats but still invited me and her to move in with him. He made space for me, physically and emotionally. I credit his mother a lot for teaching him how to treat a woman right. I’m glad you can see your ex was just doing the bare minimum. If a person isn’t doing that PLUS bringing more to the table, why bother? My husband spends every free day tackling house to-d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 03:56 AM
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YES. Why play triflin' games with LVM that can't even be true with their feelings? If it's some weird power trip thing, why even involve yourself in that? A true HVM will be secure in his feelings and not afraid to let you know it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 04:28 PM
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I'm Asian too. Anytime someone on OLD said anything like "I've never been with an Asian before" or "I love Asian girls" I immediately blocked them. After a few dates you should know whether he really likes you for the person you are, or your ethnicity. He should pay attention to your personality, likes and dislikes, and interests. If all he does is talk about how you look or sex then you know to dump.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 02:39 AM
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Seriously. I want a MAN, not a coward!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 07:22 PM
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I’m sorry you’re feeling so down. What I can tell you is that once you can break away from him and get him out of your life, you will start to feel better. But I say go beyond that! Why wait for that to happen to feel better? Why allow someone like him to make you feel like shit? Self-love, girl. Practice it. If your entire mood and esteem hinges upon what one person thinks of you it’s not healthy and you need to love yourself more. Btw 135 at your height is perfectly healthy. God, the audacity …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 05:33 AM
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My husband's ex was so inept that she would hire a handyman to, get this... hang a picture on the wall 😂 Like, girl, c'mon. All you need is a nail or screw in there and you hang it up. Women should be able to do these basics!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 04:18 PM
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Same! My man is super handy and can basically build a house from scratch and fix cars. He's building us a home gym right now from a completely unfinished basement. The one thing he can't do is cook, but fortunately I like to, it's calming for me. I'd rather he spend his energy fixing up the house anyway and I'll take the time to cook. We complement each other really well in that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 04:16 PM
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Thanks, that was quite informative!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 04:10 AM
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Oo this is very interesting. How do you gently dominate? Do tell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 12:52 AM
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From LVM that wanna put in less than minimum effort
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 10:14 PM
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Can you talk to each other via mic on it? Or can you only say pre-selected texts thru the screen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 02:26 PM
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Or for you to “prove” yourself to him 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 05:23 PM
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The funny part is, these other guys probably give her way better sex, hence her "vibrancy" 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 10:34 PM
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Omg yes me too. I wish I could hug my past self and tell her not to be ashamed, that it was all his insecurities he was laying on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 07:15 PM
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Yes this. It's akin to not introducing you to his family & friends, or not adding, showing, or mentioning you on any of his social media. Very suspicious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 02:37 PM
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Therapy helped me so much with my low self-esteem. Have you given it a try?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 01:53 PM
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This is why I’ve been thankful, many times in my life, that I’m not conventionally gorgeous. If I was... lord, the shit attention I’d receive from 100x the amount of LVM. It would be too much to deal with. Sure I like the idea of being gorgeous and chased after but the reality of it would be so annoying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 04:59 AM
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Yeah the social media's a problem, but we only see what we see. I know plenty of young women that hate that IG culture and shun it today so thankfully it's not everybody that's doing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 03:49 PM
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Lol ok you don't know anything about my life or situation, I'm actually very happily married to a HVM with a baby on the way but you think what you like. He comes from a place of wanting to make her life easier and I do not fault him for that, even if it may be a little misguided. Some women would be very thankful to have a man like that; all cool if that's not you. Though I didn't see the part where he's moving to another state, what's that all about... hmm. I respect a lot of FDS principles bu…
/r/askFDS12/04/20 12:53 AM
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You know, it's funny. Before others commented mine was the first comment on this post and I had +6 upvotes. Then when others chimed in with how terrible of an idea it is (I still abide that it isn't, he isn't forcing her into anything, he's genuinely trying to be helpful even if it isn't perfect) everyone jumped on the bandwagon to downvote me. I'm allowed to have a differing opinion, and she is allowed to not accept whatever he's putting forth, so I really don't see what the contention is. He s…
/r/askFDS12/04/20 12:39 AM
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I'm not sure either. I'm currently pregnant with a baby girl and I am definitely worried about the sexual landscape when she grows up. I hope by then we've got more of a handle on it. I really wouldn't be opposed to some sort of age verification / limitations on porn watching. Places like South Korea outright ban it and at first I thought it was a bit much but now... maybe they're onto something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 10:19 PM
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Holy shit. At least he was upfront about it 🙄 Massive bullet dodged
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 04:10 PM
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You sound like a very considerate and thoughtful partner. I would be quite happy with this arrangement if I were her
/r/askFDS09/04/20 05:59 AM
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Understandable. How sad for her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 03:19 AM
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Hmm. I am Asian and married a white man 10 years older than me (got married in my mid 30s). He is extremely HV, pays for everything, supports our lifestyle, never tries to control me. However we live in a very white area and I'm sure some folks around us think he 'bought' me in a way too. But we love each other and have a very strong relationship. Just saying, you don't know everyone's situation... I'd hate to be on the receiving end of this vitriol for no reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 02:05 AM
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"i'M jUsT bEiNg hOnEsT"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 07:41 PM
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I would make exceptions for a man who has just come out of a long-term relationship. Sometimes they just don't work out with a particular person. As my now-husband put it, "Your exes were idiots to let you go."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 01:34 PM
7

Sounds like frat boys too. The bros can do no wrong, it's all the cRaZy girls' faults!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 09:09 PM
6

A man has to make his intentions known and clear. Not wait around wanting for a woman to show her interest. Not wait to be "friends" first. Sounds like you're too scared to do so. Men chase after what they want. They ask women out on dates, pick them up, and listen to them with their full attention. Just being a chill goofy guy is not gonna get you a HVW.
/r/askFDS24/03/20 04:31 PM
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THIS IS SUCH A LIE LOL. I was with a guy from mid 20s to early 30s, he was 3 years younger than me. Towards the end he started buying into red pill shit. Saying my boobs were starting to sag, my youth was fading etc. Hurtful shit. Meanwhile his face looked like a 50 year old’s cuz it never saw a day of sunscreen or care in its life. Pockmarked and uneven. He had a paunchy middle aged man boob body, while I have a very nice hourglass figure. (Hey I’m just realizing now that towards the end of our…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:19 PM
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This is hilarious... their plugs, especially coming from more popular threads/subreddits, have made this sub explode recently. It feels like yesterday it was just above 50k and today it's over 62k users joined. We must be onto something!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 02:03 AM
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To me it's a red flag if a person, man or woman, spends most of their free time on video games. Like, real life is out there passing you by. And you're just gonna sit on the couch / computer chair for hours upon hours, doing what exactly? Grinding for the next level up so you can have a fake achievement? Meanwhile, there are things to be done. If you live in a house or apartment, it could be cleaned. Pets and houseplants can be taken care of. Home-cooked meals made. If all that is done, countles…
/r/askFDS19/03/20 02:52 PM
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I really don't understand their feeble little brains. How could they think that's a) flattering, or b) something we even remotely want to hear, as if we're objects on a shelf, to be picked by color? I'm Asian and I do not care if you've "never been with an Asian before" and that tells me exactly how little you think of me. So thanks for screening yourself out, lowlife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 07:22 PM
27

Unfortunately you have to wade through a lot of frogs to find your prince. So many guys out there offering nothing and wanting everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 12:26 PM
14

I’m getting a kick out of what their confused faces must be like... “She unmatched me? But why? I just asked for coffee... Was that wrong?” Maybe a lightbulb will go off over some of their heads. One can only hope!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 12:20 PM
10

My husband is also Italian but grew up in the states. His mother taught him to always pay for a lady. So thankful to her, she raised him right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 10:34 PM
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I had an ex who was so upset I had a toy bigger than him. He was average sized, and it's not even like I ordered a humongous toy -- it was just maybe slightly bigger than average. Every time he saw it he'd get into a bad mood... pathetic. Meanwhile my now-husband has ordered me big dildos on purpose 😝
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 10:24 PM
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When we were ring shopping I bought into that whole spiel and thought, let’s look at moissanite. Boy does it look like a disco ball. So obvious it’s not a real diamond, felt like cheap play jewelry to me so I didn’t want it. Meanwhile my now husband kept saying, please let me buy you a real diamond, my wife should have something nice. We found a really nice classic 1 karat stone in the diamond district and my what a difference. I love it and love him for wanting to treat me so highly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 01:33 PM
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I'm horrified. The top voted comment says, "It was wrong of him to slap you, but your comment about 'my husband should want a wife that wants sex' was humiliating and disrespectful'" HOLY FUCK. This comment had more than 100 upvotes. I'm in shock. Does this idiot actually believe that sort of comment (which seems merely playful to me, really) deserves a SLAP IN THE FACE?? These idiots' egos are sooo fragile that they're trying to justify any attack on their supposed manliness with physical viole…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 12:43 AM
13

I used to be obsessed with The Millionaire Matchmaker. The main character is a little much but she has good dating advice like no sex before commitment and the man asking out on dates and treating the woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 03:22 PM
7

When I used to have casual sex I only saw guys that could get me off multiple times. And I rarely gave oral. Oral was for exclusive boyfriends only heh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 02:58 PM
5

Lol @ the hate mail. The nerve of you standing up for yourself!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 02:16 PM
16

I put one of my exes on blast online, detailing all the fucked up shit he did to me and his baby mama (that I had no idea about), stealing money from me and so many others. So whenever you googled his full name all those sordid details came up. I had people coming out of the woodwork contacting me about it; past girls he's dated and swindled, friends of his that couldn't find him cuz I guess he got embarassed and went into hiding lol... pretty sure I prevented him from getting a decent job for a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 01:58 PM
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Yep. You don't wanna know how many times I've been told (in the US) "I've never been with an Asian before". Bitch, no one asked you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 01:49 PM
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Hm. It's a pink flag to me too. When my now-husband was single he followed some scantily clad women as well. But he never hid it from me. He was scrolling IG one day, I noticed it and said something about it (something like, "you follow a lot of butts"). That was all I said. He then deleted all of them, said it wasn't necessary, and we've been together for 3 years. He hasn't followed any of them back. I have complete access to his phone whenever I want. So yes, from firsthand experience, their b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 10:56 PM
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I believe there are people, who, if given the chance, will step up to the plate and stay stepped up. OP's man was one, for example. I sure as shit do things that aren't HV 100% of the time myself. I also said you can set your own boundaries. But you also need to accept that no one's perfect and seriously, if you're looking for that, just stay single, it's fine. Notice I did not say accept bad behavior repeatedly. I'm not about that life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 10:50 PM
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There is no perfect man or woman. Like, sure, it would be great if he wasn't following them at all in the first place. But in the grand scheme of things, it's not a huge deal, and it's a good sign he deleted them without you outright asking him to do so. Now if there were a ton of little pinkish flags like this, it might be time to move on... but a few here and there, in my opinion, is tolerable especially if he changes his behavior. Ultimately only you can decide what you are and aren't comfort…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 06:35 PM
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Ugh, I don't find guys who are this apprehensive/shy attractive :\
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 05:51 PM
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Ugh please tell him to rip them down and trash them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 02:43 PM
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Move everything out when you know he won’t be home for awhile. Try to have a friend with you there if you can. You don’t owe him a last talk before leaving. You can leave a note if you wish, short and sweet. Block him and don’t let him know where you’re going.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 02:10 AM
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Yeah I agree with this. I have my own bank account and savings, he doesn't ever ask to combine or take from it. I also have a business I started that I do part-time work from home, which is a lucky position to be in, so I still make a bit of my own money. But since I'm now expecting, husband would be fine with me not working. He's been paying all the bills. Once baby comes we'll figure out a way to have funds for baby and household expenses in another account. For me, I've always been somewhat o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 05:30 PM
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It was really hard for me too. Broke up with a guy I dated for 7 years. He was literally my best friend at the time, and a huge source of support. To have that taken away, I felt like would kill me. But as we went on I realized we could never just be friends. I always wanted him back, to be that shoulder to cry on, and to have reassuring comforting sex with. He wanted the same. You have to block and move on. It's definitely hard but so necessary to get over him. I am now married and haven't spok…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 05:19 PM
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Jfc I’d hate to see how he handles a really stressful situation if he thinks THAT’S “pressure”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 01:55 PM
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He might be getting hung up on the word "deserve." It can be a loaded word. That said, of course if you're not feeling it, you're not feeling it, whatever the reason. It's your right to have or deny!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 03:47 PM
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Agree. Sometimes people make mistakes getting married, especially if they were young. Not gonna hold it against them forever as long as they've learned what went wrong and how to improve upon future relationships. My husband was divorced but is the most HVM I know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:41 PM
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Most of the guys on there will be like "I'll pay you 400 a month to meet twice a week (for sex)". Too cheap to get an actual hooker, champagne tastes with a shit budget
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 11:26 PM
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Yeah I seriously don't understand even remotely comparing the two subs. It takes a whole 'nother level of dumb to come to that conclusion
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 02:24 PM
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It’s a pandemic. An entire generation of narcissists...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 02:11 AM
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Ehh. Kinda different these days what with a bunch of people with liberal arts degrees working barista jobs vs tradesmen with no higher education (plumbers, electricians etc) making 6 figures
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 02:24 AM
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Point taken
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 10:30 PM
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Nah no shame from me. All women are allowed to set their own standards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:03 PM
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but due to their Pickmeism they settled for anyone Devil's advocate: there are some people for whom higher education does not serve their interests. Anyone is free to set this standard for themselves, most definitely, but higher education isn't for everyone. I have a bachelor's, my husband does not, yet he makes 5x what I make in a Fortune 500 company. But that's because he actually put in his dues, excelled at his craft over decades, and climbed the corporate ladder. It's tough but possible. He…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:55 PM
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We have two pellet stoves in our house, which means large heavy bags of wood pellets have to be loaded in each about every other day. My husband makes sure they're always topped off before he goes to work since I stay home more often, to ensure I stay warm. He always pushes the grocery cart, takes it and anything else like shopping bags from my hands so I don't have to carry them. Does all the "man" stuff around the house; currently he's building us a home gym, and before this, tiled a floor and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:16 AM
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Ah yes, the ol' "I wasn't sure if you'd like this place so I'm leaving it up to you" excuse. Pretty convenient how that totally absolves him of all the emotional labor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:58 PM
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Being controlling (what you wear, who you talk to, where you go, what hobbies you have, etc). A lot of men are insecure about their penis sex/sexual performance. One of the first times I had sex with an ex he thought I was faking it...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:25 PM
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Ugh I hope not. You posted about it respectfully and I hope they don’t turn into nazis about him over here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 03:32 AM
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I applaud FDS for most things, but some people on here are a little too quick to jump to conclusions and assume the worst. JP certainly isn't perfect, nor is everything he says true, but I find he makes a lot of interesting points. And some of what he says, I agree with. Sue me. Life isn't black and white, nor are people. I don't agree with, "JP bad man because he once said x" when x has often been, by a victim, taken out of context or deliberately misunderstood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 09:29 PM
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No sexual abuse, but I was a real ugly duckling growing up, and didn't really find my confidence till my early 30s. I'm married now to a great man, but before that I was a real pickmeisha and had a hard time letting go of guys even when they treated me terribly. A lot of casual sex. I'm also into bdsm; I think it stemmed from wanting to be desired so badly that a man would do anything to keep me his (tie me up, etc) and of course I'd seek out that sort of porn. So I'm aware I have some issues. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 11:30 PM
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I know this is a loaded thing to say, but responsible drug use is a thing. I don't know why alcohol, wine, craft beers etc are accepted as they're drugs too. As long as it doesn't affect his life in a negative way or get in the way of responsibilities, occasional use of psychedelics can be extremely beneficial and eye-opening. Lots of evidence it has helped with PTDS, depression, alcoholism, the list goes on. Psychedelics are not addictive (LSD/acid, shrooms). I won't speak for ketamine as I've …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 11:12 PM
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I wrestle with this because I still watch porn :\ I'm realizing it's not great for me. I find myself lazy and I know my dopamine levels go all over the place afterwards. But I can understand why people watch porn. It's so easy and right there. And I've always had a high sex drive. I don't think I'd give a guy a hard time for watching it occasionally, but that's just me... as I'd be a pot calling the kettle black if I continued to watch it myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 11:04 PM
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I saw the movie on Netflix the other day and had a realization that I didn't mind having a lot of casual sex in my 20s because of Kim Cattrall's character. She made it look so empowering and easy and fun. God I bet I'm not the only one :\
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 10:59 PM
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Yeah he sounds super manipulative. Sadly, women with low self-esteem will fall for it. But I’m glad it’s not going to be you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 06:24 PM
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Wtf?? “Convince” you? Yeah so you have to submit to his entitled ass with absolutely no proof he’d be a good partner... my god the entitlement is at level 9000! What a joke!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 06:16 PM
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I agree. I'm pregnant now with a very HVM and it's a girl. I've always wanted to have a girl, yet also a little disappointed it's not a boy so that my husband can teach him how to be a HVM himself. God knows the world needs more of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:46 PM
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"I want a wifey who'll be good and obedient, and not make me work so hard", in other words. Bullet dodged indeed! Way to go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:32 PM
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I had a relationship like that before. My mood used to depend so heavily on how he was treating me that day. It got me so fucked in the head :\ My current partner now is steadfast and doesn't play games and it's SO peaceful and relaxing. You got this, girl. You deserve better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:28 PM
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I have known several men with large dicks that think that's all they need to do/have. A lot of the times they've also turned out to be lazy lovers. I suppose some of them do think they're god's gift because of it and get a big head about it. Just my experience...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:25 PM
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Yes. With State and City last known locations. Call them out and shame them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 01:16 PM
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You do SO much for him and he doesn’t deserve any of it. At this point he thinks of it as a given that you cook and clean and take care of him like you’re his mommy. You can find a real man who will actually appreciate your efforts and make you feel heard and desired in bed. Some men won’t give up their porn no matter what. It’s too big of a dopamine fix and too entrenched in their habits to change. He’s gotta want to change (which he clearly doesn’t) and even then it’s an uphill battle. You des…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 01:13 PM
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In my experience, my dating a guy 3 years younger wound up exploding in my face after he dragged me along for 7 years, while I'm now married to someone 12 years older who's HV in every sense of the word. YMMV but I'd caution against just using age to vet men. Edit: I'll also say, I think young men these days, especially younger than 35, are more into porn than older men. To them it's something they grew up with and is a normal everyday thing. The older generation may be more judicious about it. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 03:18 PM
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Ffs IT’S ALWAYS BEEN ABOUT “HIM” are they even reading the same thread 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 02:08 PM
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Lol exactly. A HVM knows what's on FDS won't affect his life, anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 12:06 AM
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That. robe. is. AMAZING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 02:54 PM
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Yuck, I just finished reading a thread from a woman who asked, "How can I be a 'soft place to land' for my man when I work full time, leave home earlier/get home later than him, and do all the cooking and cleaning? It sometimes stresses me out when he expects me to be there for him emotionally and sexually on top of all this and he says me snapping just adds to his stress. Trying to learn how I can cut this out!" AUGH I just want to shake her! Just... fucking no. Have some self-respect!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:05 PM
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Depends on the husband and the job. Many offer disability insurance/protection. My husband also has a 100k personal death insurance and something like 300k from his company, as well as a healthy retirement savings that will go to me if he dies, god forbid. This is what a financially savvy family/couple should be set up with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 07:57 PM
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This is literally financial abuse. That poor woman...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 01:09 PM
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Lol yeah it's so great to be seen as a sex object and nothing else 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 02:17 PM
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Yeah, if a man mentions race at all during your dates as a sexual or status thing, dump. I'm Asian so I've had it happen to me a lot too. "I've never been with an Asian..." "I love Asian women" as if I'm not an individual and just a conquest, a checkbox to tick off in an LVM's "list of accomplishments"! At lease those idiots weed themselves out for us. I'm married to a white man now and he admitted, far later on (like a year into dating) that he's always found Asian women attractive but it wasn'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 02:15 PM
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A year, though. A YEAR. Why should he work when you pay for everything and give him an allowance on top of that? You've become his mommy. Sometimes people just don't grow up until they're forced to, unfortunately. Right now he's on easy street with you so there's no incentive to change. I'm afraid if you give him a chance to shape up he'll "try" for a couple of weeks then say "sorry babe there are just no jobs on the market" while he makes a half-assed attempt at laundry. I agree, kick him out. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 02:00 PM
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Hmm... I'm not sure if I'd want a partner who dodges talking about that kind of stuff, tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 03:24 PM
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Have you ever had therapy? I was in one fucked up relationship after another. Let guys emotionally abuse me and manipulate me for over a decade. Then I almost fucked up the relationship with the man I'm now married to, because I felt like he didn't "desire" me enough (had super-low self esteem and got validation from men wanting to sleep with me). My therapist gave me some tough love. Said any fuckboy can give me sex, but that this man truly loves me and cares for me (she'd met him once, and saw…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 08:29 PM
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If his response was to get cocky instead of actually listening I’m not too sure about him. Then again, how are you defining his cockiness — by him not texting for over a day? Or is there more. The I love you thing is weird. I’d feel like if he never initiates it, he doesn’t feel it as much as you...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:10 PM
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He actually said “I’m not going to say I love you until you say it first”? Why? For the rest... seems like you’re falling apart a little just because he hasn’t initiated texts. Some people are just not great at it. If the date on Saturday goes well perhaps you can mention that you enjoy keeping in touch daily with the person you’re seeing and that it’s important to you. Specify it however you like. If he cares about making you happy he should listen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 04:13 AM
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Hmm... I personally wouldn't call a man who never gave me an orgasm, and pulled the rug out from under me about having children, HV. For me these things are dealbreakers and your feelings are valid. If you really want children and he's set on not having any, you should leave while you have time to do so. Why hasn't he ever given you an orgasm? Doesn't he care about your pleasure? works hard, attractive considerate, similar life goals, respects me, same life outlook.etc Most of this is pretty bas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:11 AM
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How long have you been dating?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 12:53 AM
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That's why I try to fight that tide by offering up queenly advice whenever possible. That includes a lot of FDS advice to women that really need it. Most of the time, it gets a good number of upvotes, so I feel like I'm doing my part!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 12:52 AM
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I agree, not all people deserve the truth, only some Yes totally. The one thing I will say is, I believe for true love to happen, both parties must be vulnerable. That said, vulnerability isn't something to be given lightly. Only when he proves himself to be truly high value and caring over a decently long period of time should a woman consider letting herself be vulnerable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 12:00 AM
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Similarly I made the mistake of trying to actually have an intelligent debate on PurplePillDebate (I'll save you some time -- it's a dumpsterfire since most of them are from TRP). I was trying to make a point and the guy I was debating with (because the debate actually got difficult for his little brain) says, "And this is where I just give up. It's like trying to explain nature to a dog. A dog doesn't get why it barks, it just does, and doesn't have an understanding of why." I mean, I literally…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 11:24 PM
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You should look him up and down and say, "Yeah, I got potential... too bad there's no hope for you" and walk away Like how dare they... ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 06:39 PM
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Ohh god I had an ex tell me I was loose once, too. Took so long to get over it. There is nothing wrong with my pussy, damnit! Maybe it's the fact that you can't get hard or that your fragile ego was shattered by knowing I slept with 30 guys before you (oh how he tried so hard to shame me for that). Another reason to keep your number secret, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 06:37 PM
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Similarly, I used to go out with this prick who said to me, "You're funny. Girls usually aren't funny." He was sooo insecure about so many things I want to slap my younger self for wasting years on him. Like I know it hurt his pride that I was clearly smarter than him, he wanted to control the way I dressed, etcetc ughhh these scum sucking bottom dwellers... where do they get off...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 06:33 PM
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Good for you, sis. My husband sounds a lot like your man (except he doesn't cook -- but I like to, and he fixes up the house all the time, so I don't mind). I'm also almost 5 months pregnant now and he's told me I could sell off the business I started (since we moved out of that town and it was stressing me out anyway). He has a well-paying job and told me not to worry about anything and that he could support our family. I haven't worked for months and he pays all the bills. Self-improvement and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:31 AM
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These are the sort of men that don't live in reality and think women waltz around the house in sheer nighties and lingerie. I mean, they do it in movies and TV all the time! How dare we care about comfort at home 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 09:49 PM
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AND made her older too. 20 year age gap!! What do these successful young 20-somethings see in these 40-year old minimum wage losers, my god...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 03:40 PM
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My husband used to date a woman who literally couldn't orgasm without a super powerful vibe on her clit. He said it was like a jackhammer. Said she used it every day for half an hour a day. ... yeah that's def gonna de-sensitize ya
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 03:07 PM
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For ages, men have been motivated to work hard and build something of themselves so they can impress women. Why has that changed? Oh, the entitlement... I also don't feel sorry for guys who just work minimum wage jobs then claim they "work hard." You may be tired at the end of the day but that's not working hard, that's working stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 03:02 PM
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God I used to go out with a guy who was really good friends with his frat buddies from college. I firmly believe most frats behave in toxic ways towards women; a lot of his friends had girlfriends that they cheated on, for example. He'd complain about me to them any time he had a chance (and granted I wasn't perfect; in my misguided youth I thought I wanted an open relationship) but of course even their cheating asses were like, "dump her, she's a ho" and they hated me. Later on I found out he s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:57 PM
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Agreed. Also, some people are terrible at chatting online, and much better through phone/in person. Can't really judge by online words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:49 PM
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No offense but you seem to be able to take any innocuous term and turn it around quite negatively. I mean, I love traveling too. Doesn’t mean men that love it all do depraved shit. If you honestly feel that way why do you even bother dating? You’re just going to find some little other thing he said and twist it into the most negative way possible. Sorry not sorry I’m not “Yas queen”-ing you to death. It had to be said. Sometimes your own perception is what holds you back. I feel that if you’re d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 10:46 AM
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I did a quick search on unpopularopinion and all they say is how toxic it is because FDS is all about manipulating and taking from men then leaving them. And it got upvotes. Like, can you read? That is totally not what this sub is about but they're too far up their own ass to see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 06:23 PM
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It's really obvious when girls post shit like this just to get upvotes from the largely male reddit population. Like, you can find validation in other much healthier ways...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 06:13 PM
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I really have no idea what point you're trying to make in your last couple of paragraphs. I can understand a lot of the societal rules for men and women that have been around (I agree with a lot of what Jordan Peterson says, for example). Men and women bring different things of value to the table, sure. Still doesn't get around the point that people need to be emotionally mature and honest with themselves, male AND female, to be in a healthy relationship. Once you find that you're golden. That's…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 05:03 PM
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Well yes the sad reality is, there is a biological clock for women in terms of when they can have children. Nothing can change that. If a woman can really "fool" you into dating for at least a year because she wants a baby, without you getting to know the true her... well then she's either a sociopath (low statistic probability for women), or you're just not good at reading/getting to know people, or have little experience in relationships. I admit I also felt the clock and wanted to get married…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 04:33 PM
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I think part of the problem is that it's become this whole "men suck / women suck" thing that can be easily "backed up by evidence" (look, he/she cheated on me! Let's denounce the entire sex!) when really... people in general can suck. And others are actually kind, honest, and hard-working. Unfortunately, not a lot of the latter exist, male or female. So if you're a man looking for a woman it's easy to say "women suck" because that's all you've been looking at. And if you're a woman it's easy to…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 03:36 PM
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That's what dating is for. To get to know each other. If you want someone who isn't doing those things, you need to build up life experience and emotional intelligence to be able to tell and discuss those things after a time. It doesn't come easily or immediately. And there's no guarantee, for either side (man or woman). Aside from that, I can play devil's advocate and say no one owes anyone monogamy unless they're in a committed, exclusive relationship. So her (or him) sleeping with others whil…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 03:16 PM
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Lol wut. A woman can like a man but not be ready for sex right away. Some actually want to wait so they know a guy isn't hanging around only for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 02:47 PM
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Some would, no doubt. I'm more of the camp that people wait as long as they feel it's right for them; 90 days is arbitrary
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 02:45 PM
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His ability to do the right thing. His morals. Not being lazy. Treating people with kindness. Self-reflecting and not blaming others for his problems. Actually, anyone that can do that is high value as fuck, man or woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 01:34 PM
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Girl, always remember that words are cheap. Anyone can string a nice jumble of words together. A real man will prove what he means through action; he won’t have to narrate what he’s doing, either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 01:25 PM
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The thing that always assures me is that I know these LV redpill idiots won’t really put in much effort aside from spewing words. So it’s easy to filter them out. To them I say, put your money where your mouth is, let me see you mean what you mean by your actions because (consistent) actions don’t lie while words are cheap. If all you hear are nice words and no action to back it up, he’s LV. Simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 01:20 PM
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I mean, if a man can’t understand why a woman would take such precautions... well then I’d say he isn’t very bright, is he? That or he’s manipulative. Either way, no thanks sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 01:09 PM
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Are they hitting on you? I'm trying to understand lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 12:41 AM
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Not only that, they're gonna expect *you* to cater to *them* while they just take take take. Ewww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 12:11 AM
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Older women buy you coffee? ... I don't know why I find this so funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 12:07 AM
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One of my husband's friends was going out with a really amazing woman for 2 years. She had a great job, was fun and smart. She wanted to get married and he didn't. She left him. Got married and is now happy. Him? He's about to turn 50 and is renting a room in an apartment with a couple of other 20-something guys in NYC. What kind of life is that, at 50. Still brings her up to my husband... "I miss Lisa." My husband: "I don't even wanna hear it. I told you you were making a mistake." It's pretty …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 04:00 PM
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I feel bad for her because she got pregnant by the time she was 20. That's technically adult age but very few people at 20 have a lot of emotional maturity and know how to stand up for themselves. Hell, I'd say I didn't really reach that stage till my early 30s. There was some celebrity recently that said "Don't get married until you're 30" and I think it's wise advice for the most part. You need more life experience to weed out bullshit like this expertly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 03:18 PM
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A week after meeting, my now-husband said to me, "I deleted all my dating apps. I don't need them anymore," without any prompting from me. This is what a real man does, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 12:58 AM
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It's stupid because anytime you post a thread on askreddit about it, all the guys are like "HELLZ YEAH I want a woman to approach me!" Makes sense now, they believe they have the upper hand that way and don't have to do much...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 12:51 AM
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Imagine thinking that a woman treating herself with respect and not standing for fuckboys and bullshit makes her "toxic" 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 02:10 PM
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Manipulative -- check. Makes you feel like you have to compete to 'win' him -- check. Lol wut. He is no prize. Can't you see how blatantly he's trying to manipulate you? Block and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 02:45 AM
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I agree that true love is rare. I think this is because it requires both parties to be mature and willing to self-reflect, which is a rare trait these days. On top of that, both need to put in the work to level-up in emotional intelligence and to address any shortcomings that make love difficult (insecurity, selfishness). If people these days were at least willing to self-reflect and be truly honest with themselves, we'd be in a much better place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 02:40 AM
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Eh, not always true. I've cheated when I was young and dumb in my early 20s. I've since learned and grown up. People do stupid shit when they're young. Now if they don't show remorse or continue to cheat, yeah, they're trash. Edit: downvoters over here thinking they're perfect from birth, lol. Keep stuntin', people are allowed to make mistakes and LEARN from them. If you expect perfection you're part of the problem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 03:21 PM
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You go, girl. We deserve better than that. Used to see a guy who was a real 4/10, at best. Unemployed, unambitious, but was good in bed. Tolerated him for sex. He had gapped teeth, his entire front row. Bad hair. Short. Not a prize in the least. I usually paid for the food we ate. I told him, as kindly as possible, that he might fare better with his professional prospects if he got his teeth straightened out. (I had braces for 4 years myself and I thank my stars I had them done.) Took it as such…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 05:51 PM
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God that's gross. I'm sorry you met such LVM. My husband will literally not stop until things are fixed and is generally cleaner than me. They're gems, they're rare, but they're out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 05:41 PM
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That's your right, but marriage can offer legal protections and tax benefits for both parties. Especially if you own property or have children together, you'll likely want those protections.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 03:47 PM
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Lol the amount of insecure boys out there is staggering... so sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 02:04 AM
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God it is. He makes like triple what I was making anyway so I know I don't have to worry about finances, I guess I just feel guilty sitting at home pregnant not doing much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 12:03 AM
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I got so lucky, girl. I met him on Fetlife of all places (we're both kinda kinky). As you'd expect, there's a lot of thirsty and talks-mainly-about-sex dudes on there so I'm not sure I'd recommend it... Buuut it had the added effect of allowing me to be completely honest in my profile. I like sex and am unapologetic about it. Thankfully he's not an idiot so when we started chatting, there was no sex talk until we'd actually had sex -- he treated me like a woman first and someone he wanted to get…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 11:56 PM
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I'm currently 4 months pregnant... My husband encouraged me months ago to sell my business as it was causing stress and wasn't worth it. I've been looking into starting a new business and he keeps saying, "You're pregnant and gonna have a baby soon. I make enough for the both of us, don't worry about it." Swoon. Sorry if I sound like I'm bragging but my man is HV as fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 05:48 PM
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My now-husband is 12 years older than me, and this sort of thinking seems to be more common among older men. "If you're a man, you pay for dates, period." His mom taught him that! And we both grew up in NYC.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 05:27 PM
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I married a man who brings peace and contentment into my life. No time for those that don't!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 05:23 PM
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Thanks ☺️ it’s funny, I was lead to this sub from that post too. And I agree with a lot of it. I’m very thankful my husband is quite a HVM!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 11:50 PM
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