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Z got his (deceased) ex's mum a pair of earrings for the festive period, at my insistence. Why? Because it's less than £20, shipping is free and her daughter addressed her suicide note to Z.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/25 06:05 AM
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Sounds difficult to do more, perhaps you should ask him, when he's calm, what he expects?
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/25 06:47 AM
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PM Forni's the Civility Solution is my go-to to remind myself that I'm in a marriage and it's better to be harmonious than correct.
/r/RedPillWives23/12/25 06:09 AM
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women's work Whether the gent views it as women's work is not in the post. What is, is that he views cooking as somebody else's work. So, maybe hiring a professional chef to cook for you/him once a week might be a good idea?
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/25 01:32 AM
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Congrats!
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/25 06:07 AM
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my wife I don't see anything wrong with this. My husband calling me "our wife" or my calling him "our husband" strikes me as bizarre.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/25 03:12 AM
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This. I want Cristiano Ronaldo, but he doesn't know I exist, and that's fine, as Z is an amazing partner.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/25 03:08 AM
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• At the hospital, right after giving birth, I was shaking uncontrollably. I begged my husband: “Please put the baby down and cover me, I’m shaking.” He stood there looking at me and said: “No, I won’t.” I felt terrified and abandoned in one of the most vulnerable moments of my life. This is unconscionable. I showed my husband your post just for confirmation and he had choice words for your husband (and he rarely swears). I'll summarise and sanitise his words: You both are parents and the child …
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/25 03:04 AM
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We aren't a study subject...
/r/RedPillWives17/11/25 02:56 AM
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I work at a hospital, husband works from the home office or the park outside. When I get home, I sometimes get out of my work clothes, into his favourite dress, do up my makeup and go to wherever he is with a glass of juice -- he likes starting his evening with a cold glass of orange juice without ice.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/25 07:31 AM
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Your description how he says that dating you would hold him back, dreaming of taking over the world, ending a relationship over a phone call, mind thinking differently, etc. Maybe with said guidance, he can be a decent partner, but, said guidance should be given before you meet him and not by a partner.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/25 07:38 AM
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Reads like he was on the spectrum to me. I'm married to a guy on the spectrum. The good news is that, with the right guidance, such people can make loyal partners. The bad news is that 24 is not the age where most men are receptive to said guidance. Hence, we married at 37 -- birthdays are 10 days apart.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/25 07:23 AM
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Your brother needs to grow up. He'll (hopefully) grow out of it. If not, let your brother know that he does not have to date him and you do. I told my brother the same. Additionally, I warned him that Z -- my husband -- was a champion debater and would readily wipe the floor with him rhetorically at Thanksgiving. When everyone did meet, and my brother started flexing about having bigger muscles than Z, who told reminded that the most important muscle in the body is that which lies between one's …
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/25 04:11 AM
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Could someone leave their wife because she doesn’t share in their faith? If your husband does this, I'm sorry, but it is indicative that he never loved you deeply enough in the first place.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/25 09:37 PM
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Not sure this strategy belongs here.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/25 12:53 AM
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The God we -- both my Muslim/Jewish husband and my Catholic self -- were raised with is forgiving, above all else.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/25 05:54 AM
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He also mentioned he had a live in gf of 6 years How old was he at the time? My husband lived with his (then) partner 5 years -- college and uni -- without proposing, but proposed to me when I was in hospital a few months into our relationship (or so he assures me, I was undergoing cancer treatment and so had, understandably, more immediate concerns).
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/25 06:09 AM
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How do I create a life that doesn't revolve around my husband? Reframe your question to "How do I retrieve my life before my husband?" Now figure this out. What did you enjoy before you met them? Can you include your kids in said activities? If not, can you leave them with him?
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/25 12:39 AM
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What am I experiencing? Life in general. There is no "rank" in social groups or shouldn't be, if you're doing it correctly. Chat me up, I will help.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/25 06:12 PM
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I suppose there could be a learning curve, in that, eventually, I'll start simply getting ready a half hour later. But that would entail a resistance to changing myself that simply doesn't exist.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/25 06:10 PM
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When we were dating, hubby soon realised that I estimated time optimistically, so he would put in a buffer when telling me when to be ready. For example, if he was to come get me at 7, he'd tell me 6:30, so I'd be ready. I've since learned more pessimistic time estimation techniques.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/25 07:17 AM
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That's a good way of putting it.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/25 07:09 AM
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You are not coming across as rude, merely argumentative. RPW behaviour is not reserved for our spouses, after all.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/25 06:12 PM
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my best interest Our best interest. For example, we moved to London, where he spent his youth, in 2020, instead of back to the US, where I'd grown up, with our daughter. It would have been better for me to be in the US, near my family. But, I'll begrudgingly admit that taking the daughter to Hyde Park, feeding her sandwiches from Lodge Cafe, then taking her to Harrods is something we've both come to enjoy.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/25 04:54 AM
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I'll leave the roasting to those more practiced at it, I'll stick to empathising. There are too many who want to tear us down. I was “special,” that I had “great potential,” You remain special and retain your potential. Only not for him. Men are not Tube tickets -- the one I bought last week can still be used today as much as the one I bought last month. So, keep trying. Take lessons from every experience you have, learn what you like and dislike, and you will find your one.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/25 07:32 PM
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Of course we who choose not to compete are less stressed than those that do. This goes both ways, however. If a man chooses to stay home with the kid whilst his wife works, does he exhibit the same level of stress reduction?
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/25 05:13 PM
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I spend more time on my mobile than hubby does. His choice is to read Kindle or play chess online; it is unclear to me which is better, but he can (and does) turn it off whenever something comes up. We have a daughter, 6, together and have been married 8 years.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/25 02:58 AM
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It's an option for when he's overwhelmed.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/25 03:22 PM
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How about getting him an AirBNB, where he can unwind with or without you, when you're visiting your family?Husband books me one when we visit his father (he has dementia and thinks husband is his brother and that I'm said brother's wife) in Brussels, after his father berated me for not speaking French with him. :p
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/25 12:14 AM
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masculinity And, so, you figured you'd post in a sub called redpillwives? Here is a suggestion for you: learn common sense before masculinity.
/r/RedPillWives05/08/25 07:05 AM
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I personally don't know any US-based young, college-eduated couples of any race doing it that way but maybe you've heard otherwise. I think hubby's sister (43) manages the money for her husband (45) in LA. Her husband's got a Duke doctorate in economics, she has a Wharton MBA.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/25 04:45 PM
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responsible for someone else’s mental health You are not responsible for anyone's mental health other than your own. Not wanting to hurt him is noble. However, this desire -- for lack of a more suitable word at 0439 -- comes with increased cortisol and will trigger your fight-or-flight response above a certain level. keeping me stuck. That isn't a pleasant-sounding metaphor for any sort of relationship. If you're describing it as such 5 months in, how annoyed will you be 5 years in? Only you hav…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/25 04:52 AM
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We don't have defined gender roles -- I took the SUV for an oil change this weekend, whilst he took our daughter shopping for a new dress and to get a mani-pedi, as we are both functional members of society -- I have ADHD (dx'ed, medicated) and he has Aspergers (DXd, unmedicated).
/r/RedPillWives17/07/25 05:37 AM
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I will miss him though This is a human thing. We feel loss more powerfully than we feel gains. The reason for this is treating threats as more urgent than opportunities gives us a better chance to survive and reproduce. This is irrespective of age or gender, though it may manifest differently.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/25 03:55 PM
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industry innovators My employer isn't a hub for any innovation, unless conjuring up more forms and paperwork is innovation. :p However, I do have a defined benefit pension, which is increasingly rare in the west. My husband is at a large MNC and his pension is defined contribution, for example -- we both have doctorates.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/25 07:13 AM
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Thank you very much
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/25 07:48 PM
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NB being Nota Bene? Or is it an RP-specific acronym?
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/25 03:21 PM
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It just means you were underpaid all the way along I'm sure I was, but it still made me endlessly nervous to point it out and endlessly pleased when it was granted to the point that I posted.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/25 07:15 AM
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stopped hanging out with male friends alone, as I knew that was a red flag for him Why did you start doing so again, OP?
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/25 05:49 AM
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Happy birthday to your man!
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/25 03:56 AM
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No accounting for redditors, Doc
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/25 01:21 AM
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When my husband sees something awry, like our daughter getting into my shoe closet and destroying any semblance of order therein, he'll just silently go and put things back in their place. I know he did, because, on her playdate, daughter and her friend came up to me and asked me to come look at my closet with them as they'd made art out of my shoes. I went with her, closet was opened to a bunch of shoes mounted, arranged by colour, sorted by heel height -- to her horror.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/25 05:45 PM
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salsa club? wine bar? I met my husband at one, fwiw.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/25 05:47 AM
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Talk is cheap. My husband described himself as "a nerd". But, he's also a good father, a good provider, knows which fork goes where, how to iron his shirts/trousers, etc. Even so, when he does meet someone at the pub, he introduces himself as "the quintessential nerd".
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/25 09:08 PM
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my age It will turn off some, but I got married at 37, ABD (though since completed, at his insistence before tying the knot). He's 10 days older than me, but had his dissertation in the library a year before me, because I had a health scare. I have 2 undergrad degrees (math and computer science) and a masters degree (MBA in applied analytics) which I’m worried make me seem masculine and won’t be attractive. You are correct. Dating someone like you is not for everyone. I hate to repeat myself, bu…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/25 10:46 AM
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Just turned 27 two weeks ago Happy birthday, dear redditor! White men to be a lot more understanding of the fact that I grew up very sheltered and come from an orthodox culture If you're more attracted to Caucasians, that's fine, but don't ascribe other qualities upon them. I'm Filiipina and my husband's visibly Middle Eastern. He's an excellent father, a hard worker, a good provider, and lifts up everyone around him, including myself. I couldn't be happier. One of his aunts is not happy with me…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/25 06:21 AM
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Can teen girls do Nun Mode too? Yes! should I adapt something similar for where I’m at right now? Any "mode" is just a model and needs to be customised by the person to their own circumstances. You may want to consult this for field reports on nun mode and other tips.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/25 05:17 PM
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My husband will be able to cast more light on the details, but this is how ChatGPT works, far as I can tell: It takes a metric tonne of input, applies heuristics (this is where my husband can do a bang-up job of making it comprehensible to we non-members of STEM royalty), and gives its output. While one can tune the heuristics, unless one understands exactly what they do, this is a fool's errand. Hubby is not employed by OpenAI, mind you. He just has a PhD in statistics and has spent the last 2 …
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/25 11:38 PM
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How to graciously receive gifts that aren’t my style— while staying in my surrendered feminine? Same way you'd receive your flats. If I don't wear things hubby gets me, he'll (eventually) get the message that I don't like it. On the other hand, you may end up enjoying wearing the revealing top, mniskirt, or the 15cm platforms. So, try them out at home and have fun.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/25 03:04 AM
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When hubby's ex's mother sent him an envelope and email while we were in Spain, he skimmed the email on his mobile and filed it away as "nothing urgent". He proactively told me she'd emailed him, he'd skimmed it, and told me what the filename was on the server. I had the email printed, as I hate reading longform on the screen. It turns out his ex had committed suicide and addressed her suicide note to him. I thought I should make him aware of this, so told him. We both rang the mother together e…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/25 06:49 AM
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Husband remembers my telling him less than a year into our relationship that I was interested in him as a life partner -- I do not, as I was drugged up in hospital in Spain. I do, however, remember telling him to "leave me". He, thankfully, did not. Eight years, a daughter, and several moves later, I'm sipping a hot cocoa that he brought out overlooking Hyde Park in London. He's sitting next to me with oatmeal and orange juice.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/25 04:44 AM
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Go on your own. You go to further your relationship to your deity, not his nor anyone else's.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/25 04:31 AM
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Most welcome!
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/25 09:32 PM
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not when it's a bad time for him I suggest texting him "need to talk to you tonight". Then wait till he gets home. When he does, say u/SisiIsInSerenity's line and stop talking.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/25 04:25 PM
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No problem!
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/25 05:06 AM
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r/alanon is the subreddit.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/25 11:45 PM
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My husband insisted that we both finish our education before so much as discussing marriage or children.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/25 02:16 AM
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I find anyone coming up to me on the tube, talking about anything, whether it's to compliment my ring or talk about NHS England being folded and its responsibility being put back under the health ministry, a bit off-putting. I would assume it is because they are new to the United Kingdom. I just asked my (Dutch) husband what he'd say. His response, "This is London, not Ulster, I would like to keep it that way" and move to another seat.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/25 05:59 AM
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IMO... giving a partner the stay-at-home-benefits should be given guardedly. I was engaged between high school and college to a guy at church. He was traditional, in the sense that he insisted that I not go to graduate school. As a result of his views on this topic, the last paragraph is in the past tense. My husband now is not traditional in the sense that he made our marriage conditional on seeing my dissertation published in the department library. He's not traditional in the sense that he's …
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/25 05:38 AM
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Because one wants one's partnership to be give and take. If one is prepared to give, make sure one is getting something in return. A possible compromise could be spending weekends together -- one weekend his place, one yours, one a hotel, one a B&B -- or whatever you agree on.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/25 04:04 PM
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Have any of you had similar experiences outside of this subreddit? Yes, from my brother-in-law's wife. She's a nurse in the Netherlands, a mother to a special-needs teenager (kid is 15). She's an amazing lady and I love her to pieces. We talk/text every day and see each other often. It's a wonderful friendship and I hope she feels the same way about me.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/25 08:50 AM
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a full-time stay @ home GF Don't do this. Get married first, then be a stay-at-home wife (if that is what you and your partner agree to).
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/25 08:38 AM
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How long after you ended your engagement did you meet your now husband? Long time. My brother convinced me that I owed it to humanity to get educated as much as I could. I met hubby 5-6 years into my doctorate. I'm not a stay-at-home-mum. I'm an oncologist finding a cure for cancer -- yes, literally -- and my husband is working as a data scientist in adtech. a kind, generous, hardworking man who would love to support a stay at home mum My in-laws, not only my husband, will support anyone who nee…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/25 02:01 AM
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He always had the expectation that I would earn an equal amount to him No, he did not. You projected this value onto him.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/25 05:48 AM
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I (29F) ended an engagement to a narcissistic/BPD emotionally and verbally abusive man Congratulations. I broke off my (first) engagement at 22 after he forbade me from doing a masters. Now, I'm 8 years into a marriage to a man who made our engagement conditional on my dissertation being written and our marriage contingent on finding it in the department library. Finding someone who isn't abusive isn't a matter of "saving yourself", it's a matter of managing (and, if need be, adjusting) expectat…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/25 05:45 AM
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OYS Number: 1 OYS Comment Preference: 3 Demographics: 45, both; MD/PhD (me), JD/PhD (him); married 8 years; 1 daughter Gratitude list: That our Argentina trip actually happened. That his sister-in-law is babysitting our daughter. That I took the Spanish classes in London that I did. That my husband remembers his Latin, so he is not lost here. That we are of means and can afford these vacations on a whim. Things I Did for My Present: 1. Pampered myself on arriving. We're here till the 20th, It is…
/r/RedPillWives14/02/25 08:46 AM
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For "sounding more intelligent when I speak, e.g. using “um” or “like” all the time", which I have had longtime issue with, when we first met, my husband took me to Toastmasters and we continued this when we moved to Europe, where he grew up. The progress my workplace has noticed in my speaking being more confident saved me from being made redundant recently or so our director said when we had to cut staff recently. So, yes, removing filler words ("so", "like", "um", "bloody" and so on) leads on…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/25 07:03 AM
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The only key here is that you keep your expenses less than your income. I work for the health service and husband works in finance. If he takes me to get my nails done, for example, the expectation is that he will pay for it and so it doesn't go on my ledger -- he will manage it himself however he does. Generally, though, when I do leave home, to go take our daughter for a play date, if I stop at Harrods for an espresso, the L5,25 goes on my ledger under liabilities. My paycheque goes under asse…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/25 03:13 AM
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When you're busy or overwhelmed, don't pick up the phone. Rather, text him "hon, I'm whatever now, and I'll get back to you once I'm done". Once you're feeling better, text him again, "can we talk now? If so, ring me at #########" and wait for the call. As for your voice, remember taking deep breaths as a youngster? Do it regularly and your voice will sound more full.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/25 04:53 AM
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We have a short, 5-10 minute checkin every night after putting the daughter to bed of a similar nature. Glad to read that we're not alone.
/r/RedPillWives05/01/25 07:53 AM
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Same to you!
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/24 05:43 AM
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Happy birthday!
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/24 05:40 AM
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he claims that he is the prize Actions speak louder than words. He also has started to become more racist It seems a combination of classism and jealousy to me, rather than racism. However, it's difference without distinction. saying I dont know who to vote for in November. Uhh... you aren't supposed to know and you aren't supposed to tell. When I mentioned the same to my husband, he dismissed it by saying not my country, not my problem. I brought it up again the next day. He then downloaded eve…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/24 05:36 AM
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If they are farmers, they owned land, which, in developing countries, as well as the developed world, translates to wealth. Even if they are sharecroppers, they're merchants, like both sides of hubby's family were. When you're a merchant in the third world, one owns the market -- whether that's diamonds or carpets -- and enforces this through mercenaries, which also require money.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/24 12:46 AM
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a family which struggled... an engineer with a masters degree and a PhD These do not go together. My husband's family claims they struggled as well, but the biggest struggle they had was being called beurre in France. Husband was called a p*ki in Britain, as well, but at Eton.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/24 07:53 PM
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how do you usually handle GAD fears? I suppose I can wait a month and see if I still feel anxious about this.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/24 06:45 PM
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you thought the reason you were worried about cheating was because of your GAD. My fear is more evident in me because of my GAD, but it does have a trigger that everyone responds to. Think of it this way, my husband has aspergers, I have GAD -- both diagnosed, and his mother had cancer. When she passed in 2020, he couldn't bring himself to shed a tear, which had his aunt to lecture him. On the other hand, I'd met her three times in my life for dinner and spent a week in tears, being unable to wo…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/24 03:40 PM
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Z hasn't cheated on me. I've never met L. And I've never cheated on Z or any other partner. Sorry, I misunderstood your question.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/24 11:50 PM
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Has he ever made inappropriate comments about her/sought her out in an odd way? Does she seem like she's trying to revenge-cheat on her husband? Or is it all pure speculations and fantasizing about worst case scenarios for you? Her (soon-to-be-ex) husband was the founder of a pickup artists community and husband's boarding school roommate (J2/45/m) knows him (not exactly sure how). While J2 is most definitely not on the spectrum, he's also a hard person to trust. When we were in Spain, we stayed…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/24 07:33 AM
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why? I have GAD and worry a lot about everything. your husband is cheating/has cheated in the past I don't think so. What does the location of his buddy's wife have to do with this? It's a little difficult to cheat with a woman 8-9 timezones away. He's not travelling any where anytime soon.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/24 05:26 AM
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Can you suggest he start one?
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/24 02:39 AM
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I’d drop out if he proposed but he hasn’t When I met my now husband, we were both doing our PhDs. After a few meetings, he agreed to propose once our coursework was finished. He did so. I'm assuming your man isn't in a PhD programme of his own, so maybe propose that?
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/24 09:32 PM
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We both have names for each other, I call hubby "H" -- his first initial, and he calls me "Dame Elle Squared".
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/24 03:49 AM
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I wonder if actual recipients of honours have to add their titles to their IDs
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/24 07:05 PM
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Ahh... I've never lived in an environment where grass maintenance was required.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/24 06:32 PM
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an edger What's an edger?
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/24 12:04 AM
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My husband is in finance -- he's a quant at one of Britain's largest banks, PhD from Stanford in the US (where we met), MIT bachelors/masters, Eton College before that and we've been married 8 years with a daughter. I was just at his employer's holiday party and noticed that there seem to be two types of employees -- the sales-y ones and the nerd-y ones. The former types are more likely to stray, because of their general demeanour being gregarious. The latter are the quiet people who simply get …
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/24 08:30 PM
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seeing a new guy for five months... broke up a couple months ago This is a red flag in my mind. Give yourself a break between relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/24 01:24 AM
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Thanks for your input!
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/24 05:49 AM
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The venue doesn't bother me, but the crowd at football matches in general are not the type I would have her be around.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/24 06:53 AM
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you should be showing deference For example, we are in Brussels visiting his father. He said he wanted to take our daughter to a football match at a local religious institution's playground. I am opposed to her being exposed to throngs of football fans and husband is indifferent, as he attended many such matches at various venues growing up. I put my foot down and she is not going, but now I'm thinking it may have been better if I told FiL that she could as long as I come along.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/24 05:29 AM
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My husband has lots of friends, of both, though mainly the male, gender because of his profession/education background (he's a data scientist with a STEM doctorate and a singlesex boarding school alumus). While I recognise the potential of an emotional affair (or worse), he does come home to us and holds up (more than) his share of the housework and childcare. This is, IMO, all that can be expected from a partner. Should he want to stray, he will stray. Best I can do is take care of my own actio…
/r/RedPillWives21/11/24 12:56 AM
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Thank you for your point of view.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/24 06:25 PM
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Thank you... In this case, I trust my male in-laws, at least the immediate family -- husband's brother, his father, even his brother-in-law -- completely. My sister-in-law, not so much. Never met my mother-in-law, who passed long before we met, but given her children, I'm sure she was stand-up woman.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/24 06:25 PM
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I submit to him because he is my chosen partner. I could make a case for submitting to, say, his brother or his father as they share genetics, values, and personality traits. I'm asking how far this case should be made.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/24 08:17 AM
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Thanks for your input
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/24 06:40 AM
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church children activities Are generally nonsectarian and wholesome. Also, synagogues and mosques have the same.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/24 05:40 AM
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I suppose the fear of hitting 30 was far worse than the reality. Ditto 40. And probably (44 now) 50, 60, 70, 80, and so on. Having vaulted over these hurdles twice now, the fear of aging lessens and the experience gained over the past decade allows me to look forward with less dread.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/24 08:02 PM
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"let him lead." does not mean "let him hoard over you". It implies (and necessitates) your approval and consent. I let my husband lead, however, he knows the bounds of it. For example, we live in Central London. He knows that he can go to any pub after work, but not to a strip club. From our credit card statements, I know he doesn't.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/24 08:47 PM
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OMG, I am so sorry... Should I delete the post?
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/24 02:31 AM
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Thanks, though married, we all should always strive to better ourselves.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/24 10:17 PM
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I learned about emotional intelligence, How did you do this?
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/24 04:24 AM
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I met hubby at 33. I was engaged to another (abusive) guy at 22. When I would call my mum after a fight and cry, she would assure me that all guys are like this and that we females had to "smile and hide it". Well, no, mum, all guys are not like this, as you have since learnt. We married at 37 and adopted a niece from his sister when were 39 and she was 3 months old. About to enter our eighth year of marriage and he hasn't so much as raised his voice at me, much less slapped me.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/24 03:50 AM
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Ours was 3 weeks short of 2,5 years -- he wanted to finish up with his PhD coursework and for me to do the same.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/24 08:19 PM
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Seems to fit us. I met my husband when we were both 33 and transitioning from coursework to writing our respective dissertations. We were married a few months short of our 4 year anniversary; engaged on our 3-year anniversary. I became pregnant a year into marriage and will celebrate 8 years of marriage in December.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/24 03:42 AM
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Congratulations and I'll be looking for an "I Married the Man Of My Dreams" post from u/Leading_Eye_9416 real soon now.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/24 02:08 AM
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Does pursuing a PhD make me less desirable to masculine men? If your possessing a PhD (or any other qualification) turns anyone off, they aren't for you.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/24 12:43 PM
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I know the paella in Valencia is better than mine (will probably ever be). However, I let him eat it out of my (carefully manicured) hands and that is uniquely ours. It is something he can't get anywhere in Spain.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/24 07:21 AM
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My husband is Moroccan-Lebanese. On our honeymoon, we were in Spain and took a paella class, so I make it for him and he provides the wine. We put our daughter to bed and enjoy the meal.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/24 07:15 AM
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At some stage, the wonderful jalfrezi, vindaloo, etc. and their chefs become British. I think that time has long passed.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/24 07:07 AM
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It may not be (ethnically) British, but the food here is top-notch.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/24 06:34 AM
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As Brits we don’t really have a strong cuisine Sure we -- I live in London -- do.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/24 10:29 PM
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Welcome back!
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/24 08:01 PM
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My BiL and, especially, his wife are wonderful, but husband's sister is just, I'm trying my level best not to be too mean, but his younger sister is intolerable. It's a close-knit family, where there's little difference between cousins and siblings and, while I've met most of them -- and been impressed by the depth and breadth of their knowledge about lots of topics -- most are polyglots and lots of doctorates both in and outside medicine. I think one's even a tenured professor at Cambridge.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/24 06:16 PM
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Thank you -- it's been taken care of.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/24 06:51 PM
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she is always rooting for my happiness This is important. I'm pretty sure that my SiL is just being petty, as she is about almost everything else.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/24 06:38 PM
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my partner died So sorry to read this.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/24 05:14 PM
2

who cares about age? In the end, those around you do. My husband is 10 days older than I and we got married in 2016. He's always subject to, what he assures me is, good natured ribbing from his friends and family for not marrying someone younger. His sister is the only one who teases him about this in my presence and tells me others do so. Hearing him told that, "come on, you know you should have married a younger lady!" does hurt, but the way he reassures me -- which is hard to put into words -…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/24 05:11 PM
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He is still confused about it. Our 4-year old daughter announced about 10 minutes ago that she wants a new ring every week she's married to Prince George of Wales.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/24 07:51 PM
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Husband bought 2 rings -- one for our engagement, which I returned to his family once he got me a wedding ring. It struck me as odd to wear/have/be given two rings.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/24 07:27 PM
2

I don't like that man's politics or his personality but I will not say another word! Nor do we, but, he is a gracious host and his "antics" are not an act - he is truly not from this century!
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/24 04:50 PM
2

Husband and I visited Bristol a few weeks ago, staying in Somerset. Our host was the then-member of Parliament for the 19th century (British readers will know to whom I refer). While we both disagree with him vociferously on political matters, politics didn't come up aside from my husband advising me that the three of us are more likely to agree on taxes than politics. But, husband knew him as a "consummate gentleman" - and he did nothing to dispel us of this notion. He took us to Bristol, showe…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/24 06:53 AM
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OYS Number: 2 OYS Comment Preference: (3) A mix of both Demographics: 44/f/Asian-American, husband is 44/Arab-European live in central London. Things I Did for My Present: We went to Berlin for the weekend as a family to meet his brother (and his family). Visited Kaufhaus des Westens, the Brandenberg Gate, and came back with new clothes, shoes, makeup, etc. Things I Did for My Partner: Nothing special Relationship Lowlights: Father-in-law told me not to visit, as he says that husband shouldn't b…
/r/RedPillWives07/08/24 06:38 PM
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my husband left me for someone I am sorry to read this.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/24 08:41 PM
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OYS Number: 1 OYS Comment Preference: (3) A mix of both Demographics: 44/f/Asian-American, husband is 44/Arab-European live in central London. Things I Did for My Present: Spent 3 hours with my husband and daughter in a picnic with Hyde Park with my making paella and tapas and he providing the drinks -- bottle of wine for us and grape juice for our daughter, poured into small wine glasses so we could all toast multiple times. Things I Did for My Partner: Let him play rugby in the park Sunday wit…
/r/RedPillWives31/07/24 07:39 AM
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How do you keep up with RPW standards and not overwhelm yourself? Starting with the premise that I'm perfect before I entered, eg the redpillwomen sub, and that taking any tips would lead to a more perfect life for my family.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/24 07:18 AM
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I'm married to a MENA man, but am not from the region. We also live in London. He never gave me an explicit allowance, but he does pay for everything, except things like my makeup, mani/pedis, coffee/lunch at work, and the like.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/24 06:46 AM
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Did you know him well before you went on a trip to a foreign country on date three? I had known him a month. Yes, it was a big risk, even he acknowledges this. Especially, given that at the end of the month in London, I found cancer on my left breast. I really thought he'd bolt at that point -- my father would have. But he didn't. He came each and every day to the hospital, engaged with doctors about my diagnosis, connected them with top experts in Europe on the condition. He kept my family appr…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/24 09:56 PM
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We women want the guy to have a plan to be a good provider, it matters less where he is now. Likewise, guys want women to join them on the journey to better themselves. At 26, you're still young enough to change your habits going forward.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/24 05:12 PM
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My husband paid about US$50 for our first two dates -- appetizer, main, dessert and a couple of glasses of wine. Ok, fairly standard. But, really up'd the ante for our third date -- Olympics tickets in London followed by a weekend (which turned into 52 weekends) in Barcelona. Over our year in Barcelona, I joked with him that he better be careful as I'll start thinking of him as husband material. On our flight back to San Francisco, he said he wanted to be my baseline for a husband, as he assured…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/24 05:06 PM
1

Except I feel I didn't -- hubby says that I'm always my "own worst critic" -- when I make his favourite meal, it is always with, "I think it may need some more [ingredient[, but let me know what you think?"
/r/RedPillWives14/07/24 07:07 AM
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I always make sure to put his favourite flower in every room in our flat. I make it a point to water them and make sure my perfume matches the fragrance.
/r/RedPillWives13/07/24 11:42 PM
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FSM is "female social matrix" That makes more sense than "flying spaghetti monster" that was on my mind as husband's cousin just started on pastafarianism.
/r/RedPillWives10/07/24 04:57 PM
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It's not "my victory"; I don't view marriage, or, indeed, life itself, as a war. Rather, I view it as a journey. What is FSM, out of curiosity?
/r/RedPillWives09/07/24 07:03 PM
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As you seem to be from a traditional family, but are more progressive, do you have a male relative or close friend -- could be gay, actually -- that you can trust to vet them for you? Key here is that he shouldn't have any designs on dating you and should be male.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/24 03:28 AM
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Religion is not so important as how the mother's religiosity was instilled in him. I, too, am in a mixed marriage with someone of Muslim background. In my case, his mother was very religious (Shia Lebanese), but passed when he was 7. He and his siblings were then sent to boarding schools near the mother's relatives -- she was outlived by a trust earmarked for their (and their descendants', if applicable) schooling (she had a doctorate from the Sorbonne in pharmacology but never worked). So, he w…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/24 11:13 PM
1

what do you mean by “lead you on further”? Entice someone into proceeding -- https://www.dictionary.com/browse/lead--on -- like he's putting a treat just out of your reach and you're jumping at it without realizing it's just out of your reach and will remain so, irrespective of how hard you try.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/24 10:47 PM
1

He seems to need his own space to lead you on further or sleep with other women.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/24 10:13 PM
5

Thanks will share pictures when we're there with the subreddit (if the mods don't mind)
/r/RedPillWives06/07/24 10:21 PM
2

Buenos Aires is supposed to be the Paris of South America(!!) and the official exchange rate is favourable (I haven't a clue what the blue rate is) -- 1,166.54 pesos to 1 sterling. Part of the surprise is that his brother and sister-in-law have agreed to housesit and take care of our daughter, while we're away.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/24 08:11 PM
2

Leading with something like, "I want to fulfill your needs for x, y, or z and should I need x, y, or z, can you do the same?"
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/24 06:34 AM
2

My husband appreciates compliments like this because they are rare -- he grew up at a very traditional all-boys boarding school in England till 17, then went into STEM. He's always maintained that he had to be with overly affectionate women to stay sane.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/24 01:46 AM
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for the last two Mother’s Day (my first two), he hasn’t done anything at all for me, no gift or flowers even. We (women, in general) place a great amount of emphasis on dates by nature. The other anatomical gender doesn't place quite as much. I asked our daughter when my mother-in-law's birthday was and she knew the correct date -- 4 years after she passed. I then asked my husband if he remembered and he did not. That's right, a son doesn't recall the date his own mother was born. This is not to…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/24 08:16 PM
1

Indeed, if a gent self-describes as "alpha", I've learned that this is a sign to run for the hills. "Alpha" is something to be shown, not told.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/24 04:22 PM
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Last week I turned 25 Happy birthday! Shame he didn't take you out. Some "traditional guy" he seems...
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/24 04:08 PM
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