What to do?

Wife_and_Mama · 2024-12-12T03:01:27+00:00

You have a great opportunity here. Often times, setting boundaries after marriage is complicated, as one person might feel it signifies a lack of trust. For instance my husband and I had an open tech agreement from the start of our marriage. He has my passwords. I have his. We're both allowed to look at or use one another's phones whenever we like. We're the least jealous couple I know, so we don't take advantage of that much, but knowing the boundary is there keeps us honest. If you try to draw line five years later, though, it can come across as an accusation.

Because you have friends going through this right now, you can use this as a chance to set, redefine, or just reiterate your own boundaries as a couple. Use this hypothetical that doesn't really involve you to talk about what is and is not cheating. Discuss what secrets you're allowed to keep. What is and is not appropriate in an opposite sex friendship. Don't waste this rare opportunity to bring these things up in a non-threatening way, especially if you're worried.

youllknowwhenitstime · 2024-12-12T03:26:19+00:00

Are you worrying your husband is cheating/has cheated in the past, and if so, why? (Just because his buddy apparently cheated?)

Or are you worrying your husband might cheat in the future one day, and if so, again, why? What does the location of his buddy's wife have to do with this?

AutoModerator · 2024-12-12T02:31:37+00:00

Title: What to do?

Author manolosandmartinis44

Full text: Hubby ("Z"/45/m) of 8 years' friend ("J"/44/m)'s wife confided in him that she ("L"/38/f) and J are having marital problems over Facebook and are in "couples' counseling" in California. The couple is now in Hawa'ii, where J cheated on L again. L has since left him to return to California and weigh her options. They have 2 kids, both his.

I fear Z may cheat on me, if we were in California. However, we're in London. However, this does not discount the possibility of an emotional affair. Any thoughts, fellow RPWs?

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Title	What to do?
Author	manolosandmartinis44
Upvotes	4
Comments	15
Date	December 12, 2024 2:31 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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