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Mama Saidmini_baguette/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 02:01 AM
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SCROTATION REPORT mini_baguette/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 01:18 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYmini_baguette/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 03:15 AM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAMEmini_baguette/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 06:39 AM
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MINDSET SHIFTmini_baguette/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 06:58 AM
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mini_baguette/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 08:56 AM
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Story time ☕mini_baguette/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 06:45 AM
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REMINDER 👑mini_baguette/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 07:53 AM
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SCROTATION REPORT mini_baguette/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:04 AM
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Mama Saidmini_baguette/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 06:44 AM
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RANTmini_baguette/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 12:14 AM
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SCROTATION REPORT mini_baguette/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 08:22 PM
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RED FLAG 🚨mini_baguette/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 06:41 AM
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What happened to this sub? Used to be a treasure a couple years ago and now it’s just… this stuff
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/23 11:11 PM
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Yup. I remember I was out on a date with a seemingly HV guy. Halfway through he said “I’m the nicest guy out there!!” completely unprovoked??? The next day he ghosted me. Then popped up a few months later as if nothing happened. (We all know what happened, lol) So over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 11:35 PM
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Love, the best revenge is to just block and ignore him forever. I know reporting or exposing him may give you momentary satisfaction, but we don’t know if this guy’s a psychopath and it blows up in your face. You don’t need a dangerous stalker. Remove yourself from the situation altogether. He thrives off your attention, and as your therapist said, uses you as an ego boost. That is IT. Reduce him to that, a parasite. I know how you feel 1000%, and let me tell you, you’ll put yourself in an early…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 11:30 PM
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I'm in grad school too, it's dependent on the person
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 01:45 AM
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Spot on. Will do! I’ve got a month left of this class, and I’ll never see him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 09:22 AM
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Quora is the ultimate cesspool LMFAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 04:13 AM
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She broke her tailbone just by falling on tile? Assuming she’s not 7+ feet tall, that sounds bizarre. I wouldn’t doubt the guy injured her somehow with the bullshit they were doing and prompted the dog to attack. I’ve fallen off bunk beds onto concrete floors, slipped on ice three times and landed HARD, etc etc and I’ve never broken my tailbone. Sure, it was bruised but broken?!? No. Horrific screams akin to “torture” sounds mighty suspicious with all this context, but idc pickmes are going to b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 09:08 PM
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Try to be more succinct and lose the verbosity. Had to wade through a bunch of fluff before realizing this was a useless post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 11:09 AM
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This. I dated a guy who was my biggest definition of pornsick. It leaked into all aspects of his life. He followed those half naked girls on Instagram and when I mentioned how creepy it was (his whole family+ friends followed him and could see) he switched over to other mediums like TikTok (which he also stupidly thought nobody could see). That was just the tip of the iceberg. I don’t know (and don’t want to) what actual porn he was watching. But I have a strong feeling it was really bad and fuc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 10:56 PM
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It's definitely the former in my opinion! I used to flirt with him a lot, so he knew I liked him even (like another commenter said, why didn't he make a move back then? He simply was never really into me), and he circles back every once in a while to see if I'll still feed his ego by responding. Now that I have a clear mind and can look at this objectively, he never had intentions for a relationship, he just liked a pretty girl giving him attention. Left him on read!! It's always the uglier guys…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 09:05 PM
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I suspected this!!! Preach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 06:45 AM
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Hmm, I think it more so stems from him just being low value in the first place. It wasn't her acting low maintenance initially+beyond that caused him to act like this, it's as simple as: he was always cheap and gross but he stayed with her because of she paid it no mind. If she had been high maintenance or anything in between, he would have dropped her long before a ring conversation, as I'm sure he did with other women previously. He clearly wanted to see how far (low?) he could push her alread…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 02:16 AM
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Lmfao this femininity shit is just liberal feminism rearing it’s ugly head in a different form. Sex as “liberation” finally receiving backlash? Fine, we’ll just find another way to brainwash women into still serving men! Sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 04:56 AM
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What made them “choose” otherwise? The woman they ended up marrying had money? That’s one of the only things I can think of
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 11:22 PM
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Yeah, sociology probably isn't the best discipline to use as a source for this?? If anything such a 'theory' would come from a demographic analysis(?) or some old man's misogyny, but that would hardly warrant drawing a biological conclusion. I have my BSc in human biology and currently completing an MA; I have never heard anything about an 'actual wall' or fecundity decline beginning at 27. In fact, late 20s (i.e ... 27) is considered prime. Decline is very gradual during a woman's 30s and gener…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 06:33 AM
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Exactly!!! Your whole comment is on point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/21 05:13 PM
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From my experience, this doesn’t sound good. Has other women he’s juggling for sure. His texting habits will not change if you’re in a relationship. They never do. I’d say tread with caution for now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 01:44 PM
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Everyone has said exactly what I'm thinking... but what are your ladies thoughts on dating doctors? I'm seeing a guy who's in med school right now, and a few comments here have made me nervous...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 07:16 AM
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Holy shit, I knew he had other children, but 7???? I know others have said differently, but I don't feel sorry for Grimes. She has been the ultimate pickme their entire relationship and must've known what she was getting into. She probably thought she could change him 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 11:57 PM
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YOU ARE CORRECT! Rarely, if ever, help the average man. He will not be grateful, he will resent you. Let him figure it out himself, because he'll do it 'his way' regardless. Do not listen to him complain about his problems. 99.9% of the time they are imagined, exaggerated, and can easily be solved. They just want to complain and use your emotional support as validation in some sick way. Every time I tried to help boyfriends or guy 'friends' they barely ever took my advice. To my face in the mome…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 11:50 PM
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Just to bounce of off what you said... a while back I went on a 'date' with a guy, and I dressed very plainly because I didn't think it was a date. I wore makeup, but I didn't put a ton of effort into it. He paid for everything, was very gentleman-like, and clearly interested. Shortly after, he clearly asked for a date, and I put a lot of effort into my makeup and clothing. I thought I looked very nice. As soon as we met up, he acted extremely disinterested. He avoided looking at me at first. At…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 08:43 PM
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It’s so frustrating!!! This always happens to me as soon as I show a scrap of interest in someone. This guy was the best communicator when we were friends, he would even triple text sometimes. It’s actually shocking how quick that all went down the drain. I always thought it went this way because the guy didn’t end up liking me after getting to know me, but now that it’s happened with a “friend” who KNEW me and saw me at my lowest points, I know it’s not me as a person. I’ve literally never been…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 11:49 PM
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The first step is to not view it as a rejection per se. He doesn't know you, so how could he even 'reject' you. He chose an idea of another woman over the idea of you... which is essentially meaningless. If he didn't get with this woman now, you can bet he would've later. Or another one, since he seems to be targeting a specific demographic. He is not in your life anymore, and that is your choice! You're not trying to 'win' him over still like a pickme, you know your worth and have gracefully mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 05:14 AM
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I've always thought that these women visited our sub because they get angry at their scrote and post just to hear "he's trash, no good, etc" for their own validation at a particular time. They don't post to hear 'look at your own behaviour'. They aren't posting to receive personal, constructive criticism. They just want mass justification that their LVM is in the wrong/garbage - but they still have no intention of leaving him or cutting him off. Deep down, they still want that particular empty '…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 05:01 AM
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You are 100% spot on RIGHT!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 04:46 AM
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Thank you modernmedusaa, you always have the best comments! I decided to take a look at these redpill texting tactics myself, and I was not surprised to see that he is entirely following them in the most textbook way. I ignored his last no-effort message and it's going to stay that way. Once someone leaves a bad taste in my mouth, whatever was 'there' is ruined and I don't give them any more chances. You were right in your other comment that he caught me at kind of a vulnerable point; I was neve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 08:50 PM
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means so much 🥺 I let this trash get to me way too easily nowadays. I need to get my thick skin back!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 03:40 AM
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thanks wavesandtea !!!!!!!! it means so much to have the support of you ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 03:18 AM
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Exactly, it's so unfortunate that it's relatively the opposite in real life. But I firmly believe that a guy makes sure his interest is known even when you're apart. This is not cutting it, as you said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 03:07 AM
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I agree with you! I thought this would be different since we met at school, have been friends for almost 3 years, and suffered through some difficult courses together. But nope, he's just like the guys from OLD. I have to admit I'm kind of in shock. It makes me feel ugly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 03:04 AM
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You know what, that was my first thought too. And the fact he's never dated makes me feel like he's frantically searching reddit/YouTube for 'how to text a girl', which inevitably leads to red pill tactics. It's either that, or disinterest. And either way I perceive it as disinterest. It has also crossed my mind that he's using me for validation/confidence booster to pursue another woman he actually likes. Regardless of how he acts when we're together, if he's being weird over text then those ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 02:32 AM
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Haven't dated in a year either!!! I certainly did not miss this feeling of trying to figure a man out, and I certainly do not recommend it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 02:25 AM
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That's exactly what I was thinking!!! I was like, is he reading some red pill garbage? There are some mixed signals even in person (for example, sometimes he'll sit really close to me, other times he'll move himself away if we're too close). It's so frustrating that at this point I'm just falling back completely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 02:24 AM
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Will do. Thanks sis <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 02:18 AM
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My theory is that it was to keep women focused on seeking love instead of pursuing higher education and a good paying career. Sad that it still permeates into this day. The amount of women I've met that spew undying love for Disney is astronomical. That corporation is not something to revere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 10:31 PM
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Controlling alert!!!! The fact he said “Japan.” with a whole period after it shows he was trying to assert some weird dominance. Thank goodness he revealed his garbage nature right off the bat. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:59 AM
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I was going to make a separate post w/ the scrotation report flair, but I didn’t wanna clutter our feed. The guys I’ve dated in the past were all very straight forward in pursuing and were obviously interested. I’ve never had someone be friends first and then make a move later. So here’s where I need help 😔: I met a guy ~ two years ago in uni. We used to hang out and get something to eat after most classes with our other friend (never 1 on 1). When COVID hit, we stopped talking… until he reached…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 09:16 PM
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You've got it down pat, sis. 100%%%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 10:53 PM
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I agree, especially with the self-imposed part. Sounds like low self-esteem. In real life, nobody really gives a shit about what you're doing - they only want to hear and talk about themselves. You know why it's awkward when you interject with "I'm doing X" when someone is talking about themselves? It's because the time for that in conversation has passed, it adds nothing, and disrupts the flow. If you want to turn the conversation onto you, you have to be able to carry it and be comfortable doi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 10:14 PM
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You're SO right! Any man that uses this phrase is probably a red flag to begin with. Just avoid him altogether.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 09:52 PM
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It's disgusting. The proposals will forever be attached to those women's ceremonies in a way that overshadows; not even just in the moment, but historically too. Coverage on "the women who were proposed to during the Olympics (by LVMs)" instead of in-depth highlights of achievements and performance stats. I assume it's just what those men wanted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 09:34 PM
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Yeah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 09:29 PM
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This happened in the last olympics with two divers I believe. They were together for 6 or 7 years, and this guy just goes and proposes to her after a competition iirc. I remember her looking uncomfortable af, but she said yes just like this lady (eyeroll). As if he didn't have enough time in that 6/7 year time period to propose? And in this case, 18 YEARS??????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 04:01 PM
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Such a glorious burn. You saw right through that BS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 10:59 PM
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I wouldn't say she's a good role model either. To me, she still seems upset over Losieber, which is a pickme red alert; she's been talking exactly like this for almost two years now!! Sis, why do you need to keep bringing it up (with nothing new to add) like you're just starting the self-love journey again?? She was so cryptic in this interview that I can only see it as jab at him more than anything. I've seen other quotes from her in the past that were in a similar vein, and she's starting to s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 02:19 AM
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I'll argue Sunday too - I dated a guy who could do every day of the week, but conveniently couldn't do Saturday. No matter what. I couldn't do the weekdays, and with my schedule I didn't want to. So? Sunday was the only option. "I don't have anything to do Sunday, I'm bored!" Yeah... I want someone to make time for me, not use me as a boredom filler. (Surprise! He was seeing other women) Besides the above loser, as I've seen: if he never offers Saturdays, he's got other women on the go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 07:22 AM
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Should be the top comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 07:17 AM
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Is it really that hard to just unmatch someone on non-Bumble datings apps though??? If some guy was grotesque, I used to immediately unmatch. If a guy's gonna send a gross message, he's gonna send a gross message regardless whether you message first. I've gotten gross messages on Bumble too. And if it's an unwanted ugly dude messaging you on Tinder, why did you even swipe on him then?? I see that complaint all the time and it boggles my fucking mind; sure it's one thing to see a sea of ugliness …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 07:06 AM
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YES! Whenever I would talk to a dude from OLD 99% of the time I would tell people I met him through a mutual friend. It really is plain embarrassing, and while people are trying to erase that stigma, I say bring it back!!! OLD relationships are cringy desperation attempts. You can do so much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:55 AM
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She's like "so embarrassing for you"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:36 PM
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I agree. A few months ago there was a post written here about porn influencing today's idea of makeup. Fake eyelashes, fake nails, heavy contour etc that won't be washed out by the camera and heavy lighting in porn studios. It became a vicious circle where men believed (and still do) that women should look like this 24/7, and consequently, women tried to conform because they think men like it. We're becoming extremely disillusioned and letting a disgusting industry have too much influence and po…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 06:27 PM
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Perfect timing. I was such a pickme last year for this ugly guy who treated me like garbage (always the ugly ones) and he had tons of half-naked women in his following list. Literal string bikinis, I can't. It would grow exponentially, to the point where I thought... how is he finding these women??? The most obscure, no-name insta models doing the most provocative poses. There's no way you're just browsing instagram and come across these people. The other day I thought of him and the weirdness o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:32 AM
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But how does he seem like a good one? Just because he's gotten into a med school? I seriously think that either a. he's losing interest (even if they're married) and wants to get away from her hoping she won't follow (no talk of compromise?), or b. he's forcing her to give up on potentially great schools so he can have someone look after him while he studies. The fact that she had to make this post seem revolutionary and "this is the right decision!" makes it all the more suspicious. Not even a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 08:56 AM
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YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 08:21 AM
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I've been lurking the post, and a scrote (of course a scrote) said that she was making the "mature decision" and that "everyone has priorities" in response to a criticizing comment. ? The mature decision would be to go to the school you wanted. Huge priorities should not involve another human being unless it is a child. I was about to respond to them myself until I saw "my gf wants to go to grad school so I'm proposing this year" at the end. Scary - sounds like some archaic beliefs regarding wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 08:04 AM
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It has to be delusion. Same with the people congratulating her for her "efforts". Yeah, if effort is pandering to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 07:07 AM
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Quick examination of user post history found that it is not comparable to any top school. Future is grim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 07:04 AM
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This is what bothers me the most... she sounds like a high school senior desperately clinging onto her indifferent boyfriend who wants to move across the country. I don't know if she used 'husband' instead of 'boyfriend' to avoid chastising comments, but it's sad nonetheless. Fast forward 20 years and he's clipping his fungus-ridden toenails on the sofa as a ton of kids run around screaming. She's sitting there with a law degree from a subpar school (or maybe no degree at all), living in a shitt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 07:02 AM
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Call me paranoid, but why do I feel like this is mocking FDS? Something's not sitting right with me here, it's following the script of a male lurker troll writing a circle jerk post. Using flatulence as comedy is universal. This user has 1 post history, conveniently in relationships advice that we openly and historically have condemned. Vaguely outlining a gross situation that we would obviously sympathize with + hesitate to question given male depravity. There's a large age gap, which we also f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 09:45 AM
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Thanks for writing this beautiful paragraph up <3 she is!! And she's one of my favourite characters. Men don't know what they're talking about... ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 09:27 PM
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Given all the other crap I had to endure, he definitely was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 09:37 PM
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I was in shock for a split second before the rage kicked in. Once I get upset like that there's no point interacting with anyone, especially the douchebag that caused it. Best to just hang up/walk away/not sink to their level. I'd already had problems with him before all of that, so cutting him off forever was the therapeutic part lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 08:56 AM
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A while ago otp, some ugly loser said I reminded him of Princess Peach. There was no malice in his tone, and I've received corny compliments like that in the past, so I just assumed he was calling me pretty. But then he quickly adds "that wasn't a compliment. It's because you're useless." This sounds like something I would've heard in high school! This was a GROWN man! Immediately hung up and blocked. Not going to lie, I was viscerally enraged. I've been negged before, but this was just an outri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 05:52 AM
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Hey! Good for you, sister. You'll see your life starting to flourish and grow after dropping him (as from what I've read, it's already begun!) Dating apps have become even worse during the pandemic, although it seems intriguing to 'see what's out there' right now, you're not going to get anything out of it except narcissism, bread crumbing and disrespect. Anyone willing to put themselves and their family in danger by meeting up with strangers is a NVM, and always will be. Not someone you want fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 05:32 AM
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I agree; I've said it before and I'll say it again: the saturation of memes and tiktoks make us look like the "echo-chamber" that so many scrotes and media outlets are trying to label us as. We need posts and information that contribute to and expand our community, not imagery that merely reinforces what's already in the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 05:19 AM
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There is no need to engage with disrespect at ALL, I really don't understand the whole "haha that really burned him" because it looks like they care. Who cares if he's sobbing in his bed over a couple words strung together? He's not. He's sending it to his friends and calling you crazy as he replies to his other spinning plates. You need not give any warning, any goodbye, any chastise, ANYTHING before you block. And you better block, because keeping him around as a follower or friend is just dis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 05:15 AM
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To bounce off of "talking about sex very very early on"... He asks if YOU watch porn. Especially if it's a "random question", in passing, and nonchalant. It's an indirect way of telling you he's pornsick. He's also testing if you're pro-pornography and will either share or appreciate weird fetishes that he probably has. Vomit. It doesn't matter if he claims he doesn't (lying) - he's introduced a topic that no normal or respectful human being would even consider in conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 10:45 PM
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Okay the POF part made me laugh because it's a reminder that men RARELY if ever get matches, but still use dating apps as a tool to cheat. These losers think that they can 'do better' but then end up with an inbox of literal zero because no woman wants him. It's even funnier when you see the L/NVM on Tinder after a breakup looking all ugly and weird. Miserable creatures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 05:15 AM
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This is very important, and I don't mean to discredit your point at all, but I'd argue that women should be even more on guard with the man that vehemently nods his head and seems way too receptive when first discussing sex boundaries. So many do this to get in your good books and will wait however long it takes only to ultimately end up like roomie #2. At least roomie #2 is showing that he's a piece of shit right off the bat. Kind of sidetracking here, but I once told a date that I was a radica…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 07:22 AM
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Why did they keep referring to subreddits as subgroups. Clearly don't even know what Reddit is, let alone FDS. GTFO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 02:16 AM
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Thank you. Funnily enough, I've been trying to research how to get better at reading people and learning to trust my intuition. Your recommendation came at the perfect time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 06:11 PM
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Bumble in my area was full of uglies. OKC had a weird format and even weirder men. I've been banned from Tinder for two years now, so thankfully I can never have a weak moment and redownload. But trying Hinge was really the last straw for me. I always thought it was cringey, but I wanted to see if it lived up to its relationship-oriented reputation. Surprise: it did not. It was worse. Full of desperate losers; the rejects that failed to 'get women' from Bumble and Tinder, if you will. I'd say it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 07:18 AM
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She's way too attached, way too early. She should not be having thoughts on how to keep him only 3 months in. Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 07:17 PM
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Glad people are finally realizing that the math just isn't adding up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 06:26 AM
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If he clarifies his situation/diagnoses from the beginning, does not use it as an excuse, and makes up for it with frequent dates and other means of showing interest, then of course! I saw a few other comments along the similar vein of the woman saying they do not want to be in frequent contact in the initial stages: i.e getting to know someone. But it's different for women. We are not pursuing him, he is pursuing us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 07:44 PM
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Trust me, there is another woman (women even). Once you realize this, it becomes a lot easier to detach and realize that you will NOT be an option. Here for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 11:02 PM
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HEY! Went through the exact same thing, "cutie" seems to be the go to pet name to get back in your good books. 🤢x2
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:58 PM
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I AM SCREAMING!! I've had those exact words uttered to me and it is so insulting! And the 'I love you' is grounds to block and delete right then and there. A predator, a narcissist, whatever, that is not normal! I heard that crap when I was in high school when guys actually had an excuse to be inexperienced. Someone 21+? No! Seek help babes. I hope your friend realizes ASAP that those men don't have her best interest in mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 04:51 AM
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Preach sister. "I love that you're independent" ---- Translation: "I love that I can do the bare minimum and keep you around." And gross, that guys sounds like a wreck. Men don't take us seriously. I once had one tell me he loved me after a month. I responded with "well, I guess you don't value the word love very much, since that was beyond insincere"... He said he was jOkInG and loved saying shocking things! He did it to every girl to see her reaction! wooOOOoo *cue crazy camera zoom* No, you s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 04:27 AM
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Yes! The only real reason it happens is because he was spending that absence investing in other women he liked better. He sees you as an option, and it's offensive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 04:12 AM
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Precisely. Same with scheduling after the first date. If he doesn't send a text within the next day expressing interest and introducing future plans, then move the fuck on. I once went out with a guy that asked for a second date a whole month later. By then I was like, who is this? They have no ounce of respect for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 03:59 AM
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No problem! I definitely need to remind myself of this at times too. Hope all is well sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 03:42 AM
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I've been through this as well. He's either putting all of his time and attention into another woman, or he isn't interested enough to take it to the next level. Regardless, he's wasting your precious time. Move on <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 03:20 AM
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Yes!!! I went through almost the exact same situation a month into quarantine last year, except it was a call once a week. A call that he purposefully scheduled on a Sunday evening when he had to go to sleep early. He would ask me rapid fire, pointless questions about my week, then cut me off after 30-45 minutes saying he had to "use the bathroom" or "eat dinner" or "not want to keep me too late" even if I was mid-sentence. It was as if calling me was an obligation he had to get over with. Then …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:44 AM
72

Whenever this has happened to me in an LTR, there was another woman. Of course not always the case, but it's weird to not want to be in frequent contact with someone you 'are in love with'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 11:17 PM
30

Definitely! That is your boundary. Although, I haven't seen a man echo the same sentiments of space in the early stages of dating. Most men want to be in constant contact with a woman they're really interested in, even just through check up texts and potential planning. Unless you otherwise state that you like to be left alone during the day, a man should never assume and operate on that basis. That behaviour is native to a disinterested LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 11:15 PM
64

Thank you for sharing. What a piece of low-life trash, I'm angry you had to go through that undeserved mess. What I wrote more so assumes pre-sex dating, as decreased communication/ghosting after intimate acts borders on a different ballgame. But it is definitely a sign for exactly that. Even the longest vetting still doesn't 100% weed out these manipulative liars who have lots of experience in concealing their true intentions, but over time little things often slip. Waiting and observing is key…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 11:03 PM
21

So many coming-of-age movies in the late 80s and the entire 90s were about sex and the objectification of women. If you, as a young woman, weren't in a relationship or having sex then the media made it look like 'something was wrong with you'. I swear that this is what really got the pickme revolution going, women chasing men/jumping into relationships at the slightest bit of male attention (even [especially] if he was ugly), and putting up with absolute abuse just because some gross, fat produc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:37 PM
47

Most men that label other men 'simps' can't even get close to a woman. They are the incels, neckbeards, 40-and-still-in-mom's-basement kind of dudes. Every time I check the post history of a user screaming 'white knight' or 'simp'! they're always complaining on a ton of subreddits about not having a girlfriend or wife. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 07:25 PM
1

2 months in is still way too soon to be bringing up those kinds of things, even if you're exclusive by then. The thing about future faking is that it's not always so apparent and can be disguised in small things. Do not entertain it when he talks about a future; unless there's a ticket, ring, or house deed in your hand, his words are meaningless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 07:08 AM
37

Most men really only care about themselves. That's just how it is, and I've accepted the fact that I may end up alone. I'd rather have a fulfilled life with my career than be stuck with someone who stresses me out, treats me like garbage, saddles me with children they didn't want, and ultimately prematurely ages me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 04:32 AM
64

THANK YOU! Why even bother asking a woman out for Valentine's Day ON TOP OF IT ALL if you're not going to put in the effort? God this is probably the most low effort I've seen in all my time dating. edit: he asked me out for Valentine's Day a month in advance - he had more than enough time to plan this, and even alluded to big plans for the day. Disappointment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:48 AM
97

It's sad, but I mainly did it for socialization, I've been pretty isolated these past few months and forgot how much I missed conversation. I shouldn't be dating with this mentality, quite frankly. But because of this mess, I've started to reconnect with old friends and make some new ones too:)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:45 AM
64

OMG souredskittles! I remember you replying to my comment about 'what a man does on V-day determines his interest' and you told me to trust my gut when I expressed uncertainty. Well, here we are and this is the update lol. I actually responded to his text positively (which I came to regret later, wasn't thinking properly at the time), so I thought the call was redundant. Especially since nothing came out of it and he didn't add anything. I seriously have given up on dating right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:41 AM
122

It's absolutely pitiful. I didn't even bother saying anything, he's a grown man and if he truly 'valued' me that wouldn't have happened.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:26 AM
138

The LVM status is piping hot on this one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:22 AM
20

And men say they're the logical ones? They live a logical fallacy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 08:21 PM
5

This is how a rapist talks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 04:29 PM
5

As an aside- this guy's head made me laugh out loud. Wtf is going on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 08:11 AM
2

Oh yes, you hit the nail on the head. All three scrotes I spoke to about this admitted that they had (by the sound of it, pickme) exes who made them look into it to 'better the relationship'. Told me all I needed to know, yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:18 AM
7

Awesome point. I still feel that moderation is key here when it comes to the small things. A very fine line that ventures into the 'not so much a love language anymore' territory. It starts out with the odd, for example, footrub. Then it turns into a weekly thing he expects on Sundays. Then it turns into a nightly thing; and when you're tired one night and say 'no', he screams "bUt iT's mY LoVe LaNgUaGe". Men take things for granted faster than boiling water, to the point where it becomes never …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 04:52 AM
31

THIS IS SOMETHING TO SCREAM OVER AND OVER AGAIN! FUCK THE PATRIARCHY AND LIBERAL FEMINISTS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 01:09 AM
63

Do not befriend men, period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 06:40 PM
24

Exactly. I'm seeing undertones of praise in this post and I find it irritating. "Not to brag..." sis, this is nothing to brag about. I'm always suspicious of people that have to broadcast how great their SO is on social media without any evidential background.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 06:34 PM
68

A woman playing into and up the objectification of women. Grotesque.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 01:02 AM
2

Thank you so much oh my goodness, it means so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 12:26 AM
4

Thank you very much!!! Also, the Islamic perspective fits perfectly with what I was trying to write, thank you so much for sharing! I'm going to do a bit more research into it, I find it extremely interesting and important. Everything you wrote is 100% on the mark!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:33 PM
18

That is pure abuse. I'm so glad you and your children got out of there, you all could've developed serious health issues in the future if exposure continued.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 04:42 AM
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God that comeback was brilliant and witty, I could only dream of coming up with that on the spot! Especially under shock and pain of the moment, you're absolutely amazing. You can bet that he thought he had a 'chance' with this coworker and didn't want to 'ruin it'. This relationship would have only gotten worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 04:35 AM
15

That's actually gross, I'm angry you had to go through that waste of time and space. Last year, the scrote that I thought had potential ended up not even acknowledge V-Day. I feel you. This year, I'm talking to a guy who will be cut off depending on how he approaches Valentine's Day. No exceptions!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 11:44 PM
41

Very perfect post! Even if you're not yet exclusive, but he 'seems to fit the HV bill in every way' make sure he has plans for Valentine's Day. This will be a tell-all! If he only sends a few texts, says he doesn't make a big deal over it, or doesn't want to see you in some shape or form, then you can bet he's not serious. Oh, and he's talking to other women for sure. Maybe even seeing one that day! Don't let it slide this year ladies! If he's 'busy' that Sunday, you better get the F out of ther…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 08:05 PM
319

Men create a fantasy of what they think a woman is like upon first meeting her; hence the term 'love at first sight'. If you notice, it's usually only men talking like this They get angry and resentful when this fantasy clashes with what she's actually like, and proceed to blame her for 'misleading him' when they didn't even know her in the first place. That's when they move onto the next woman and project yet again. Very few ever realize that their fantasy dream girl is a delusion and ultimatel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 10:31 PM
8

In my opinion, the naivety is coming from actually believing this guy when he reversed the tables. OP (who is most likely young) wrote in her post that she was mad about it; so it seems that whatever psychological trick he employed worked to some extent. I've run across his type before and they are insecure and manipulative, but yes, unfortunately we don't know the whole story so it's difficult to pass judgement on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 08:15 PM
76

Fast forward 15 years, you see them on Tinder using pictures from 10 years ago with the bio "here for a good time not a long time"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 04:03 AM
65

EXACTLY! I worry this post may be a little too naive and missing the mark of FDS. What he said was too charged and intense to be what he 'felt all along'. I'd even argue that him being overly-compliant and too agreeable/relatable was malicious and intended to make OP 'feel his pain' and question her worth. Don't even give them the time of day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 03:58 AM
47

If a man acts like that, he doesn't love you - 99% chance he's starting to see other women and is planning to dump you anyway. Rip the band-aid off, cut your love export supply, and get the F out of there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 06:39 AM
55

In addition to your last point there - men sexualize women's friendships. They think we're 'kissing' or 'hooking up' behind the scenes because their perverted minds always equate closeness to coincide with sexual activity. Porn has not helped this fetishization. When I was 13, I was working with my best friend in a group, and out of the blue, one guy asked us to make out. When I was 18, my friend and I were flicking each other's legs in class, and some pervo a few desks down said "look at the le…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 12:15 AM
108

Alright, I'm so tired of men talking about anal, and this odd societal obsession with anal cavities. I've boiled it down to two things: He is gay: Calling a man gay because he obsesses over anal IS valid. There is nothing wrong with being gay whatsoever, so I don't know why people get upset when this is said; it's not the 2010s "heh ur gay lol xd". I saw a Reddit post last year on the (godforsaken) relationships sub where a woman talked about her boyfriend ONLY wanting anal sex. She found his br…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 10:42 PM
5

Definitely. You're way better than him, sis. Wishing you all the best <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 11:29 PM
57

You were dating for six months and the best excuse he could come up with was 'he thought he paused' the apps? Shit, he had no intention of pursuing monogamy with you. Those apps should've been deleted as soon as you were exclusive, arguably even before. Men decide quick if they want to be serious with a woman or not. Proud of you. This man is a Grade A loser and you dodged a bullet. It would have only gotten worse, and as you said, he's a 44 year old man. He knows better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 06:21 PM
10

Listening to men is the #1 worst thing you can do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 06:14 PM
2

Thanks!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 07:25 PM
12

The trick would be to ask them how their quarantine was without divulging your own opinion first. Completely stoic, no emotions, no stance - men will feel more comfortable revealing themselves and their grotesque truth. Ask them what their typical day looked like during COVID, and then press them for more details. Ask them what they were thinking when the deaths went up: were they genuinely disgusted with people that continued to walk around/go out? Or did they shrug and say 'it was really scary…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 07:06 PM
4

Please do, I'd love to hear your experiences! It's a mess out there, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 06:56 PM
17

I've received so many DMs from scrotes that specifically created an account just to send me a message. Verified email badge and all. Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 04:47 AM
96

Please! I fear that our space is going from a place of discussion to that saturated with memes and tiktoks. Don't get me wrong, I love them, but I enjoy reading long, informative posts far more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 04:44 AM
8

This is why children should not have internet access or technology that has WiFi capabilities. I don't care what anyone says. This makes me sick, and he needs to have all technology taken away from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 07:36 AM
49

Guarantee it's incels creating content like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 07:31 AM
327

It's not porn? ... Women really don't know what they're getting into with OF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 07:30 AM
17

Ew is he like orgasming or something gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 11:10 PM
14

This precisely. A man could be in a prestigious career but fine with settling for less than what he can get - i.e lack of ambition. You can bet this kind of worldview will seep into your relationship; these types almost always cheat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 09:28 PM
4

RIGHT!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 11:55 PM
7

Exactly! Or when you set a boundary they either get all quiet/silent-treatmenty hoping you'll apologize and rescind it. Scary, manipulative, and disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 09:22 PM
3

Very good advice. This happened to me a while ago. He asked if I resented my parents for ~reasons~. When I said no, he said "are you sure? you should because XYZ". Will never disclose anything like that again, that's for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 09:21 PM
3

This is very true, however, a lack of questions usually indicates disinterest in and of itself! If he's not asking enough, you can bet he's a f*ckboy or a male with no brain. The problem with too many questions is that it's very confusing and disorienting for us - just the way they want it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 09:19 PM
29

I used to feel like this when a dude was running hot and cold. Now it's 100% cold as I kick them to the freezing cement curb. Nice post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 07:00 AM
16

Dang, I know. I used to get a lot of users sending me PMs that read: "I saw you on vindicta, can you rate me please?" and it made me feel physically ill. Rate??? User history confirmed that they also posted on misogynistic subs like truerateme and instagramreality which is literally run by scrotes with a mission to tear down women. At first I just gave makeup tips, but I stopped when I noticed the same people with the same questions PMing me not even 2 weeks later. So you're right, you just can'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 07:27 AM
30

I was active on vindicta for a while, but it just became so circular and depressing that I unsubbed. Every solution seemed to resort to hardmaxxing on an obsessive level, really only with posts of heavily edited/surgically altered insta models as inspiration. I was done when I saw a comment... under a post that outlined Emmanuelle Beart as a classic beauty; the comment claimed Cindy Kimberly had more desirable features to emulate instead. God, can we just get rid of Instagram and its 'models'? T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 06:59 AM
8

I wrote a post about this the other day. They will either use it to their advantage, or it will completely deter them. Please never tell a man about trauma or loss until you're married... but even then, you are by no means required to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 06:46 AM
12

Ew, as a side note: any guy that voluntarily says he's a feminist is a walking red flag. Every guy I've dated that's said "I'm a feminist too!" has ended up treating me the worst. Disturbing and manipulative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 09:28 PM
36

VERY true! Anyone dating right now is low quality and putting themselves and their family in danger. Not a person you'd want in your life. Stay safe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 09:17 PM
2

Lol how to discredit yourself in 1 second
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 11:32 PM
8

Sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 07:55 AM
6

The sad thing is that I've seen more videos like this than I'd like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 06:35 PM
2

PLEASE TELL ME THIS IS A JOKE I'M SCREAMING SHE GOT DOWN ON ONE KNEE???????????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 07:19 AM
13

Right away - the age difference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 07:18 AM
9

But how do you verify it unless you're watching them 24/7? I don't believe a word that comes out of a man's mouth when dating, even if they're seemingly HV. I'm always suspicious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 07:13 AM
13

Every man watches porn, or views images that still count as pornographic. Don't date men, period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 07:07 PM
2

Bonus points if it's blood and he's holding a dart between his fingers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 06:55 AM
16

Dump him before it gets way too serious. 3 weeks is not very long. The fact you even had to ask him the question shows how fractured the relationship is, and how the marriage will be in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 06:52 AM
14

What the F! Thanks for letting us know, I used to visit that sub quite a bit when I was first starting tarot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 06:49 AM
32

Wtf this is the weirdest thing I've seen in a while. Who would turn to Reddit after being essentially impaled with a knife? Better yet, who the hell even thinks of stabbing someone's anal cavity? God help us all!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 09:32 PM
3

Exactly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 09:28 PM
4

Yeah at first I thought some journalist just found her and made a story without her knowledge. Had no idea she voluntarily spoke to them. Unfortunately, given that she's publicly advertising the OF on her Twitter etc, I can only assume she thought this coverage would garner further support. But it blew up in her face and now she's trying to backtrack. The libfem movement is truly damaging society starting on the individual level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 07:32 PM
22

Especially from pickme friends or those who have never had a proper relationship. I bet your friend had never been married, and had no business giving shitty advice like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 04:08 AM
27

Men in their 20s should not be married. They should be utilizing that time to complete their education and further their career.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 11:40 PM
3

Definitely wasn't the first time this happened, you can just tell. Good for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 09:25 PM
8

Lol this has never happened to me, they just ghost after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 05:34 AM
42

I'm genuinely laughing wtf is wrong with men, get some hair plugs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 12:55 PM
15

This made my stomach churn. Highly inappropriate question to ask, and looks very predatory given the fact you've only been on a few dates. If the rising numbers concern him so much, he would respect virtual dates. Good on you for blocking this scrote!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 11:34 AM
3

Getting 'not like other girls' vibes from this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 09:57 AM
11

This reminded me of someone I know. She's dating a guy who's "going through a 3 year separation" with a woman he's been married to for... 30+ years. He visits his 'mother' disproportionately during the week, and when I pointed out the sketchiness, I was made to look like the bad guy. I'm sorry, but I don't understand how some women eat this kind of crap up, and willingly blind themselves to the bullshit (or think he's actually going to leave his wife for them... lol no). It's the ultimate pickme…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 08:28 AM
3

LOL they both knew what they were doing. Good riddance, I hope she never talks to either of them again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:33 AM
39

I bet a hundred bucks that she brought up marriage, HE said those exact words to her, and over time, she started to believe the brainwashing. Very sad, I don't know of many women that wouldn't want to get married to the man they're having a baby with... just for security and financial reasons too... like????? It's always the men that push for 'no commitments' so they can still see other people and take off whenever they want. Sick!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:19 AM
26

Having male friends while having a boyfriend/husband is pointless in my opinion. Only other men I talk to are those in my family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 04:30 AM
13

I felt safe watching this video.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 04:13 AM
11

God, if a man uses any hashtags, go the other way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 07:03 AM
17

The 'is the bar this low' comment seemed a little premature at first... but sadly, based on the emoji choice and intensity in the post, I'd say this is a disinterested guy that's only said her name once or twice. She probably says his name all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 07:01 AM
31

Ya, in my experience, anyone that's really dry/negative to begin with is a walking red flag. They don't have 'dry' humour nor are they 'witty'. They're losers. And again, any guy that suggests a date during the pandemic is low quality and obviously has no consideration for others to begin with. I don't care where you live or what the numbers are. If someone's honourable, they'll respect a 'when the vaccine's distributed/numbers are significantly lower' and continue talking with you if they're ac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:49 AM
21

Literally disgusting, so sorry that loser wasted your time! I hate to say it, but I'm always suspicious of wealthy/successful men in particular, as I just can't believe there's no woman/women in his life. Successful people naturally have large circles of potential suitors. I never stop digging through social medias to find any sort of evidence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:08 AM
10

Remember that ghosting and coming back (or even any texting 'game' that runs hot and cold) is also a manipulation tactic for trauma bonding! Block and delete, ladies! They calculate every move.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:54 AM
36

I've stopped feeling sorry for women that do this (especially post it ONLINE to the young, impressionable audiences of TikTok), and I've stopped pointing out the detriment for them... I mainly leave comments calling this behaviour out so teenagers/young women don't think this is normal/required in a relationship. Because it perpetuates and extends this type of thinking into the next generation (for men too: some young boy probably thinking that his girlfriend/wife should and will do stuff like t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:31 AM
1

People aren't following FDS as closely as they say they are!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 05:57 PM
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