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THEORYmisscleanex/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 09:22 AM
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SELF IMPROVEMENTmisscleanex/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 03:17 PM
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This. Just because it's a bar doesn't mean you have to drink, and if he tries to pressure you into drinking, he's told you more than enough about himself and it should be easy for you to make a decision off that. It doesn't mean you have to just have water either. Bars tend to have a list of mock tails or will even give you things like ginger beer or sodas for free because they don't want designated drivers feeling left out. Coffee and Happy Hour dates are nice because you can just leave if you …
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/20 01:56 PM
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Oh my gosh. I've got a several months old rough draft of exactly your post (except WAY WAY rougher, you've got a finely cut diamond here and mine was definitely in the rough) and you didn't miss a single point I wanted to make.. Are you........ me? I especially enjoyed the part about not being afraid of messaging first. I messaged my boyfriend first, and he told me that he doesn't ever message first because girls tend to message him first anyways and he doesn't have the time to deal with it othe…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/20 10:34 PM
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Not one bit. If anything, as time has passed, I've grown more sure of my decision. It's been years and just last week I uncovered yet another reason why things weren't right. I can pin it down to about 4 different incidents where I had enough clarity to realize that marriage wasn't going to work out, but each time, I wasn't ready to admit it to myself. There was a point where every single part of my marriage collapsed, and I can paint each milestone that peeled the layers back and made me realiz…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/20 10:10 PM
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I never ever stick to that. 😂 I've managed to find ways to lifehack myself on a lot of things but with things like junk food and video games I can't have it around or else I get addicted. I'm going to have to figure out a better strategy when I have kids. I really admire your schedule keeping abilities!
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/20 01:29 AM
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Oh man my thumb is so brown, I kill cactuses 🤣
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 04:17 PM
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Yeah I'm on the same page with you on the downvoting. ACNF was how I weathered the storm of my divorce. That game got me through some tough times. It also consumed me. I do think you're right and I need to just veg out a bit though.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 08:18 PM
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You know that is very valid. I usually get my social interaction fulfilled from small talk at work, with my clerk, at the yoga studio or gym, etc. Lately, my new team is just.... They're stressed out and don't have time for me. They're not being malicious, but I definitely understand being overwhelmed and busy. Yoga is gone. And my grocery clerk just, she's stressed out. Everyone is stressing out. And that's okay. I think everyone has a right to be stressed out. But yeah, when I think about it t…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 06:39 PM
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This is hard, and that's okay, and I feel like a lot of people reframing this as something positive need that, and that's fine. It's a fantastic coping strategy. We all cope differently though. I've reached for a glass of wine too much in the past before or have resorted to other escapist behaviors in the past. I've been trying to keep myself from falling into that this time around. I love animal crossing. But I don't have a switch, and I don't have the game. I have the means, however, I just kn…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/20 06:35 PM
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Last I checked, RPW wasn't exclusively for virgins. Moreover, it can put things into perspective for someone who has never been there if they read the words of someone else who has. That is what advice generally is, isn't it?
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/20 08:30 PM
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That was why I said "often," but everyone here lately goes to porn as the ultimate evil. You can get unrealistic expectations literally anywhere. Disney movies, your family, religion, tv, heck, you can even get them from yourself. I think a lot of people rely on weeding out men who consume porn as a fail-safe when it really is not.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/20 07:00 PM
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You're not wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/20 05:52 PM
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I find asking if a guy watches porn and weeding him out if he does more often than not leaves me with a man who lies about it, which is not an alpha characteristic due to outcome reliance being the ultimate reason for the lie. Instead I feel like it's more constructive to observe his attitude towards porn and the ways/frequency/types he consumes, and that more accurately seems to determine if he has unhealthy attitudes towards sex.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/20 05:50 PM
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This is everything I couldn't articulate. Don't settle for a man who settles for you.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/20 04:03 PM
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Because the men I have run into with very little experience have demonstrated to me that they also have very unrealistic expectations of what sex is and should be (often driven by porn) and I don't plan to be around for the mess when that curtain falls down.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/20 03:05 PM
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His prior experience with long term relationships, the way he talks about his exes and treats people around him, and his red flags are far more important to me than his n-count. That being said, if it's extremely low, I consider that a yellow flag and proceed with caution.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/20 02:48 PM
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I think you might benefit better from asking this in one of the trans subreddits. Being trans does unfortunately limit your dating options a bit and from my understanding it's difficult to figure out when and how to make that information clear to a potential dating partner. I am not saying that this is fair or okay, but it is something that can turn into an obstacle, and it needs to be approached tactfully. That's just a scenario that the ladies here truly have no experience with. That being sai…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/20 01:15 PM
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Are you like creeping through the accounts he follows and looking at the pages because Instagram quickly curates posts it thinks you would like into your feed/the search page. I don't see any IG thots on my IG. Mine's all wedding stuff, nutrition, workouts, and makeup tutorials, but very recently I started shopping for clothes and looking at apartments now all the sudden I have a ton of content for StitchFix type services and apartment hunters..... which leads me to believe you are going through…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/20 05:15 PM
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by the time it comes around I will have the money (with Gds help), and he hopefully will be working at a much better company. Hoping you'll have the money in time = you can't afford this vacation. Do you mean on to reddit? Nvm I read wrong due to (lack of) formatting. The rest of our relationship wherein we both put in effort to make the other happy (him surprising me with small presents, making me feel part of his family, me coming over when ever he is having a hard day despite long commute, et…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/20 10:35 PM
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Why are you going on a vacation when you can't afford a vacation? Why are you bringing other people into your relationship drama? This is a private matter between the two of you If you're fighting this much and playing this much tit for tat and keeping this much score right now when you're young and things are objectively not that serious, what makes you think you're both going to be good at problem solving cohesively when there's children and a mortgage?
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/20 08:28 PM
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If the two of you are down on each other because one is "more employable" than the other, this might be a sign to step back and look at things. We don't know what industries either of you are applying for and that will affect hiring times drastically. Some jobs require 2-3 interviews, a portfolio, background checks on background checks, and end up having 1600 applications to weed through. Some jobs are so desperate for a candidate that they just beg you to show up if you are alive and breathing.…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/20 01:24 PM
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I feel like the two of you are addressing this in an extremely transactional way. If he is looking at your arrangement in terms of "this is payment for our lifestyle" then isn't that a little clinical??? From what I read, I understand that you two have a frequency disconnect here and that's what you are trying to address, but underneath this all feels like an expectation of "payment" for a lifestyle and I'm not convinced that's a very healthy attitude to walk into a marriage with. Are other thin…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/20 05:30 AM
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I don't remember which book has a chapter on this. I have a similar upbringing though, and I can tell you that it becomes easy when you have a good man in front of you and say things without expectation of anything being said back. "I'm afraid of getting hurt again because I think I'm falling in love with you" while burying my head in his chest was where I started.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/20 08:42 PM
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1.) You don't respect him. Let's just ignore the fact that he's a walking red flag. I think you're ignoring your gut which leads me to.... 2.) You don't respect or trust yourself yourself even more than you don't respect him. Looking at what you wrote, there's so much shame and self-loathing here. The minute you hate who you were, you diminish the respect you currently have for yourself. You danced. Fine whatever. You were a feminist. Whatever! You were doing the best you could with what you had…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/20 08:11 PM
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Part of me feels like you yourself don't believe you deserve someone amazing and you're doing this to safeguard yourself, which will have the opposite effect of what you want. The minute you make any potential new partner pay for a previous partner's mistakes, you both lose. Boundaries and vetting are important, but don't put up a huge wall. Approach situations with vulnerability and you will be surprised how disarming it can be for others, but don't treat your vulnerabilities like an excuse to …
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/20 07:58 PM
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When I was dating casually before I found RPW, I had a guy I hooked up with accuse me of giving him an STD that his "super loyal top plate" contracted. Thing is, the timelines didn't match, but he insisted that he was the only one she was doing. I agreed to get a full panel done on the contingency that he had to pay for it if it turned up clean. Long story short, I was clean and his little angel wasn't such an angel. The moral of the story here, is that the test results don't lie. You deserve be…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/20 04:24 AM
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Because he clearly wants to fuck you, he clearly doesn't want to date you, and he clearly doesn't want anything serious from the sounds of the "discreet" arrangement he's looking for. "Discreet" means NSA. Dating and fucking can be entirely separate entities.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/20 08:15 PM
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This is a prime example of HOW NOT to date online. These people aren't taking you seriously. Your 12 year long relationship was never taking you seriously. (Why? "24 year long live-in partner" has 100% of everything to do with it.) You're not going to turn this into a relationship. The guy simply isn't into you and your behavior is extremely desperate. Why not go about getting hobbies, or becoming active in your community, and, I don't know, it sounds counterintuitive, but why not meet people th…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/20 08:09 PM
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Judging by the fact that you're posting this all over Reddit, I don't know if you're going to find the answers you seek here. We always want to know why but in the end it doesn't matter. Who knows why. Who cares. It sounds like you two weren't a good fit. Better to find out now than find out later. Sorry this happened. From what I gathered in your post history, you started dating a coworker at a job you gained through nepotism. This is potentially damaging to you and your father's reputation as …
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/20 09:58 PM
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This type of a relationship is not likely going to result in a lifelong relationship, and your statement above fundamentally conflicts with RPW. Men are the gatekeepers of commitment, and women are the gatekeepers of sex. Men must work to obtain sex, women must work to obtain commitment. If you want a lifelong commitment with a high quality man, you must be willing to put in work.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/20 08:29 PM
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This type of relationship deviates from the type of relationship RPW is about on a fundamental level. RPW is about preserving our pair bonding ability to bond with a high quality man. Sugaring is the process of engaging in a transactional relationship based on the man's resources, and arguably, I am not convinced that high value men would need to pay for that kind of company.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/20 08:04 PM
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In person, during these types of situations, if I am with someone who makes me feel safe like my boyfriend, I will overtly get closer to him or reach across the table and grab his hand. If it's just me, I will change my body language to overtly withdraw interest or create a physical barrier between that person and myself. I pretend that I don't understand or notice this kind of behavior from whoever is doing it. If they touch me, I will escalate the situation accordingly by either removing mysel…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/20 09:48 PM
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You lost 10 lbs. I've lost 30 without sagging. This is a doctor question, not a RPW question.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/20 03:29 PM
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I'm not convinced that 5 kg will create sagging breasts. Sagging tends to happen at larger losses. Young women have very dense breast tissue and older women tend to not.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/20 01:22 PM
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RPW isn't a religion, a political affiliation, or a philosophy. It's a toolbox. RPW is attractive to women of certain political leanings and religious backgrounds, but there are ladies of all walks of life here. Stay at home moms to doctors to athiests to wiccans, christians, and Muslims, we have liberals and conservatives. RPW is simply the acknowledgement that men and women are different, historically we have evolved into genders with different needs from one another, and RPW provides a toolbo…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/20 07:49 PM
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It might be helpful to have experience with having your own place for a while before moving in. I know it's "Not RPW" but it's the best way to get bonafide experience in what it takes to keep an apartment clean and it sounds like you've got little experience with this. If you can't manage an apartment, how can he expect you to manage a house? And if you're planning on having kids and pets, a house with kids and pets???
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/20 02:18 PM
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Don't go to Walmart for anything car related, with the exception of batteries. Take your car to a trusted shop and have them see if there is any indication that your oil was changed. I think you're hamstering about the guy running game on you. It's much more likely that he is lazy.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/20 06:01 AM
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Is this your first time not living at home? I think that there's two kinds of people out there when it comes to cleaning and you and your boyfriend are on opposite sides of the spectrum. Some people are the types to set it and forget it and have to make a concious effort to clean. This kinda sounds like you. Some people tend to clean as they go. This sort of sounds like your boyfriend. I'm also assuming a lot of things here. Maybe something that might help: there's the Tody app which kind of gui…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/20 03:37 AM
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If you are familiar with the interface of the average VR headset, you will know that it's pretty difficult to get to things other than the games. When I was reading through the comments after I posted this here I noticed someone else made a very similar comment. I haven't said anything about it being unreasonable to her objecting to this behavior. I said it will be unreasonable for her to try to make him stop watching porn and that porn is not going away anytime soon. I suggested that due to wha…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/20 09:08 PM
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No More Mr Nice Guy
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/20 08:19 PM
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You can't change the fact that he is going to watch porn. You aren't going to stop him, and by confronting him about it, you might just cause him to only get better at concealing it, because he now knows you can't handle the truth. To make it worse, porn will become the forbidden fruit, and when you make something the forbidden fruit, it becomes more attractive by default. Is porn damaging to our brains? Yes. Does it shortwire our dopamine responses and cause a ton of other scientifically proven…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/20 04:28 PM
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Have you discussed the topics you don't want to discuss in public? People talk about taxes in public quite often and he might not even know.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/20 12:10 PM
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r/santashelpers has never failed me.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/20 05:38 AM
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You are wasting your time with someone who isn't physically attractive to you and you've only met twice and you're already considering this to be something potentially serious. Oh! And they don't live in your area so the majority of the relationship is going to be imaginary. Don't try to pretend that physical attraction isn't everything because it's the main topic of your post. Clearly, it's important to you but you're already trying to convince yourself to pretend to be attracted to her. That s…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/20 03:57 PM
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So you just want people to tell you what you want to hear instead of the truth?
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/20 03:49 PM
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Would you rather we get hung up on the fact that it's obvious you either aren't a high value male or you certainly don't act like one and it sounds like you're clinging to whatever you can and trying to lie to yourself like that's okay? We can go there, but it just won't be nearly as fun for you.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/20 03:46 PM
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Again. Fish; fishermen. this is more suitable for r/asktrp
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/20 03:41 PM
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You don't ask the fish how they got caught. You ask the fisherman upstream with a bucket full of fish. Find someone in your area who you don't need to LDR** with. An LDR doesn't satisfy the basic requirements for a relationship. ** Your footnote isn't helping your situation. Stop oneitusing this. You are hamstering over some severe Nice guy™ behavior. Let her go find someone who is actually attracted to her.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/20 03:33 PM
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Again. You did nothing wrong and it sounds like you did the best you could with what you had. We all have flaws. Your flaws are not your internal defense system. I think that the only thing that might need recalibrating is your man picker. Be easy on yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/20 03:58 PM
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I'm glad you're getting therapy and you found an apartment!!!! That's a huge victory right there!!!! I think there's a lot of patterns here. I think it's pretty clear that he wasn't a captain, and because of that, I really don't think there was anything you could have done differently in order for this to turn into a "Happily ever After." The foundation was cracked from the start. No drunk captain is worth submitting to! Remember that when you read below: I think it's also pretty clear that you …
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/20 11:42 AM
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First and foremost, it sounds like the worst is over. So sorry this happened, but judging by what you've explained, sounds like this is all for the better. It sounds like things were not headed to a good direction. I intimately know that feeling you're describing and it's very emotionally numbing to deal with until the initial shock is over and then you've got a pile of emotional rubble to sort through. I think it might be a good idea, if the resources are available to you, to try to stick to po…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/20 11:03 PM
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Like he says he would date me in a heartbeat but he isnt in a place where he has the time for a relationship. He loves seeing me and wants to spend more time together, but doesnt want to be exclusive. Sorry this won't be what you want to hear, but this is a surefire sign that you are a plate and he doesn't want a relationship with you. This is something that TRP men do to keep plates complacent so they can keep getting sex and female company without commitment. The likelihood of this turning int…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/20 04:54 PM
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TRP men have conflicting goals. The majority of RP men avoid long term relationships. If you are dating an "rp man" it might be worth looking into the circumstances and making sure you're not a plate. Length of time dating is more of a personal preference.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/20 03:22 PM
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Vetting never stops in my opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/20 03:50 AM
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I mean I don't know why you need to hamster about it it sounds like you dodged a bullet if you ask me
/r/askTRP02/02/20 04:48 PM
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Women are always looking for a disqualification, meaning, her attraction to you can never go up, it stays at a level and goes down from there. Sounds like she disqualified you.
/r/askTRP02/02/20 04:17 PM
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The Tody app makes it pretty easy to maintain!
/r/RedPillWives02/02/20 03:23 PM
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I think this is an excellent "bring him your problem" opportunity. Maybe something like "I miss spending quality time on the weekends with you." Or, you could pick a weekend activity that requires alertness and tell him in advance. "I really want to go to X with you on Saturday." If he goes hungover, it might be a good wake up call for him. If he decides not to drink the night before, even better. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/20 06:56 PM
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Yeah..... just speaking objectively here, if you want to get married and you are dating someone who is 48 and has never been married that's a pretty clear indication that there's huge possibility that he's not interested in getting married and I'm about 99% certain that he's probably not going to change his mind about that.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 09:20 PM
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How long have you been in this relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 09:12 PM
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How old are you both? How long have you been applying red pill? How long have you been together? Are you cohabitating?
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 01:12 PM
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I think there could be two things going on here: 1.) He of course is being thrown off his balance 2.) You have some (maybe unfair? Not sure here) expectations that aren't being met and since they are not, you're a little hyperfocused on it. 1.) I don't think forcing a book down his throat will help here. People's change out of their own accord and telling him he needs to change is kind of for lack of a better way to say it, "topping from the bottom." Instead, it might do some good to encourage h…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/20 01:43 PM
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Do you mind unpacking your third paragraph a bit? Looking for examples of what is being expected and what is causing the tension. I know that logistically, I have a similar situation and one thing that's really helpful is that we have meal prep or we will cook extra so we can just reheat leftovers for a couple days after. Ideally, I would love to have a home cooked meal every night but that's not feasible for us right now and this is something that works for us. I still get to cook, but then I h…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/20 08:20 PM
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I read a few chapter summaries. While I think that some of the material is helpful, there's a few themes I find disturbing, especially the ongoing monologue about how following the methods gives you "power" over a man. For me, "having power over a man" is a problematic deviation from the "Captain and First Mate" dynamic that is prized in the RPWsphere. When I compared notes to other books this author has written, particularly "Ho Tactics" which is a book about using men for resources, I'm not ex…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/20 05:20 PM
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No easy way to put it. Stop pedestaling the alpha guy. Just having the mentality that he's some untouchable thing is the root cause here. That's often what happens with celebrities. People think they are dieties when they're just people like you and me. For them, this can be tiring after a while. I've found anecdotally that when they see that you're not phased by them but are polite, witty, and interesting, it tends to build a little intrigue.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/20 05:07 PM
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Femsplainers
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/20 02:56 AM
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I wouldn't merge money until marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/20 01:54 PM
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When I'm in pain, I go to the doctor.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/20 01:53 PM
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Also!!!!! Talking with head buried in chest!
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/20 05:13 PM
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I'm going to push you to maybe consider asking someday. I found out just moving my thumb half an inch made a big difference for him and he'd never indicated otherwise. You truly never know if you don't ask. :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/20 05:11 PM
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Make sex active. If things are heating up and you want to do something you've never done before or don't do often, tell him. "You wanna know what I want to do? I need to......" When you're doing things with each other ask him if he likes this? Is your grip too tight? Is your touch too soft? Does he like kisses more here, or there? Vice versa. Tell him in the moment when he's doing something you like. After sex talk, about the sex. "That was awesome" "it was so hot when you...." "Did you like it …
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/20 11:45 AM
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There's a post here called "the art of the dumb excuse." I'm unable to find it now. I think it can give you tips on how to indicate that you're interested in someone with grace. When I was in high school, I'd crush on guys and never do a thing about it and I'd get upset when my crush turned up with a girlfriend. Well of course he did! She approached him at some point and he and I had never spoken a word!!! After high school I started putting myself out there more. I was surprised how many people…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 05:22 PM
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I agree and very much understand this. If I were Catholic, I don't think I would be able to give up what OP is giving up. I guess what I was trying to dance around is whether or not this is a value that is so important that it's worth taking as seriously as it's being taken in this instance without saying that, because I feel that outright saying "I don't think this should be a big deal" is very insensitive. By stating I know plenty of devout Catholics who don't even abide(a true statement) I fe…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 05:18 PM
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I mean in the Catholic sense sorry.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 05:13 PM
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For this very reason I'm not sure if anyone is going to be able to make this decision other than you. This is a very very personal subject. Again, for me, I'm not Catholic so this isn't a moral dilemma for me. I just use a condom/blowjobs when my app says I'm fertile. I do really appreciate that it teaches me a lot about my body, but I don't think much of it. But for you, there's a line between serving your husband and serving God, and ultimately, I think that this will need to be a conversation…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 06:30 AM
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This is what confuses me about Catholicism. I know so many "devout" Catholics on birth control, even ones on the more conservative side, and I've only met one whose mom NFP'd for a hot minute and then hopped on hormonal BC. In short I've never crossed paths with someone who genuinely follows the Catholic NFP. I've used NFP before but I'm not Catholic so during my fertile window we just used a condom. Sorry that this isn't helpful. It sounds like this might be a discussion for the two of you to d…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 06:01 AM
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What sorts of places and situations are you putting yourself in to meet people, and when you are interested in someone, what do you typically do?
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/20 11:28 PM
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Naivety isn't a bad thing!
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/20 07:04 PM
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She's made it clear that you bother her. Don't let her bother you. If this behavior escalates, she will make a fool of herself.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/20 06:05 PM
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I'm not going to argue any further. Using inflammatory statements like the one you suggested to "call them out" or going to HR is only productive if you want to escalate the level of conflict in this situation to something worse and burn bridges at work.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/20 06:03 PM
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HR is not your friend. HR pretends to be your friend, because HR is the company's friend and not yours. Making employees comfortable makes the company look good, but HR's primary focus is to act in the best interest of the company while maintaining optics. Marching to HR with a personal problem that is not clearly preventing you from performing your job is a great way to rock the boat in a way that will land unfavorable to you. I agree that it is productive to re-establish dominance, but if she …
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/20 04:40 PM
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This is not productive and arguably is stooping below her level.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/20 01:50 PM
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You are very intelligent and introspective. Maybe right now is the time to approach this situation as objectively as possible and ask yourself, based on the behavioral patterns of this relationship, what does the future look like? Hint: it's never that white picket fence dream we all have. Enjoy that for a minute and then really think long and hard objectively. Does someone who portrays the attributes of the Good Man we all want here at RPW have such bad control of his emotions that his knee jer…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 07:53 PM
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In the circumstance that he wasn't a jerk, I would say that maybe you are doing things that you expect to make him feel loved and those aren't things that actually make him feel loved, at which point, I would say that it's high time you spent a solid 2-3 months trying to cover all of the love languages and make sure you are paying attention to his reactions to your actions so you can be better informed about where your efforts could be better placed. Unfortunately, given the attention that your …
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 07:35 PM
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How old are the two of you and how long have you been together? You are correct in that you shouldn't be self-improving to get married; you should be self-improving for yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/20 10:24 PM
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Live and let live. Red Pill is fight club. You could possibly ostracize yourself. Sometimes you can get away with flipping concepts into feminist language and people will agree with you, but label it red pill and there could be trouble.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/20 05:05 PM
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Work on not being too shy for that.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/20 12:29 PM
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Why can't you meet people who are not this redditor in your own city?
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/20 09:45 PM
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Let me rephrase: What is keeping you from meeting a significant other who lives in your geographic area?
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/20 09:23 PM
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Remember that the grass isn't always greener on the other side, and that you may see her as perfect but it's likely she doesn't see herself in that light even though you may perceive she does.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/20 08:12 PM
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Online Dating in this context is not productive. What is keeping you from meeting someone face to face?
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/20 06:35 PM
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To be fair, I didn't watch him go through that journey. I didn't stick around much after. Watching someone try to gain even footing in a relationship where there's been a lot of mutual disrespect and hurt for several years is like watching that tiny nerdy kid make a futile attempt to stand up for himself against the boys from the yard. I knew too much and he blew his cover by telling me exactly what he was going to do. The respect and trust was gone. In hindsight I feel like it was a blessing fo…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/20 05:34 AM
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there's a reason why RP is fight club. Have you spent enough time seeing what guys who are new to TRP or MRP are like? Do you want to take the gamble that he's going to go full anger phase and decide he wants to go spin plates? I'm not saying that's what will happen, but relationship avoidance is strongly encouraged at TRP. I have an ex who decided to go TRP as a last ditch effort to save the relationship. Lord, he needed it and I hope he came out a better person on the other side, but that didn…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/20 04:34 AM
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They're out there, it might just be a matter of re-calibrating your picker. Men are not checkboxes, there's no magical list unfortunately.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/20 05:36 AM
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Doing things in the hopes you will get something in return is covert contract behavior, and extremely unfair to whomever is on the receiving end of it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/20 04:02 AM
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me being here for a whole year is a miracle and I should at least feel like I'm wanted for the day I feel like the birthday is only the tip of the iceberg here and there's more going on that's being divulged. Holidays are a personal thing. Everyone treats them with a different importance. If you've been together for this long and neither of you are on the same page about birthdays, it might be a good time to stop and try to figure out what actions are causing him to be so dismissive. When things…
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/20 03:56 AM
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This is a better book for him to read though. I'm not convinced she's going to be willing to put that book in his hands, although this might get the ball rolling!
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/20 08:52 PM
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I have this theory. Men who are Doms and into the lifestyle have this way of seeing, being less outcome reliant, and knowing they can experiment with you and you're not going to suddenly disappear if he tries something that you don't like. Men who haven't done the Dom thing I think are of a couple breeds: either they're just not into it, or as I said above, they are still outcome reliant/lack abundance. If it's the former, I'm sorry. You will probably never get what you want. If it's the latter,…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/20 08:14 PM
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Stop disrespecting yourself by spending your time courting unavailable men. You deserve better than that. Time to hold yourself to a better standard.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/20 04:33 PM
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This isn't RPW literature but it falls in line with a lot of RPW concepts and I think it's the first thing I ever heard that eventually lead me down the rabbit hole of RPW. There's a podcast called the great love debate with Brian Howie, and his philosophy is as follows: In Love, women want to feel safe, sexy, and seen. In Love, men want to feel respected, admired, and needed. In any relationship setting, when any one of the above is out of whack, relationship issues will ensue. Love isn't about…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/20 02:14 PM
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Honestly I totally feel you. I've been in very similar positions. This one time I watched a coworker steal another co-worker's notebook (where she took customer orders and stored cash because of how the restaurant worked, every server had their own) where she stored all her cash and tips for her customers.... I reported it..... Girl didn't get fired but she figured out who snitched and even though EVERYONE HATED HER she figured out I snitched and she drew a target on my back. It ended with me ge…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/20 01:25 AM
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She's also been there for several years. It's going to take more than an anonymous call to take her down and it sounds like she's proved herself not to be someone to go toe-to-toe with.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/20 01:13 PM
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The people who rock the boat the most often walk the plank. Is she awful? Yes. But keep your nose clean, head down, and stay out of it. She sounds vindictive and this might all blow up in your face if you make it your business. I can promise you that LP most likely has a case on it. Most people think LP is there to catch customers stealing but 60-80% of shrink is due to employees. They are probably getting buddy buddy with her to see if she's going to divulge what she's doing. It's easier to fir…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/20 10:32 AM
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I'm really confused. Make his favorite meal?
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/20 10:55 PM
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Yes. It's always a bad idea, no matter how much you like them. There are stories of it working out, but situations where it works out are very few and very far between. It often ends in a mess, a lot of drama, resentment from coworkers, and in some cases, one or both of you could get fired. If you like him, waiting until one of you is off the payroll is best. Play it on the safe side. (Actually know a girl who did this, she hit him up the day after his two weeks notice was up, they're married no…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/20 10:51 PM
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Was this an isolated event? Was it the first time you were too tired? Is there anything else going on in your relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/20 09:58 PM
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Screw her. You got this. There's a ton of good advice in this thread. The second you give her power over you, she's going to do what a child does. Don't give her power over you anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/20 09:25 PM
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If you want the life of a housewife, then you need to prove that you have what it takes to be a housewife, are high value enough for a man to want you to be his housewife, and you need to be able to effectively communicate and convey the type of value you would bring to a man who is interested in this sort of lifestyle. The frequency of sex thing is a personal preference, but it is helpful to maintain a certain level of physical attraction between one another, mentally and physically.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/20 07:45 PM
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Long steady stream of sex with one person + companionship is not always mutually exclusive with "Long term relationship with the end goal of a marriage which observes traditional gender roles." I can also use bold and italics. You want long term sex and companionship with a person, but what does that dynamic actually look like to you, ideally? For some women, that means a man she goes and visits once a week, no more. That dynamic looks a lot different than a woman who wants to be a housewife. It…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/20 04:00 PM
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That lady isn't representative of the rest of us......... We have ladies here who don't have sex till marriage and we have girls who wait until they got the "GF." RPW is a toolbox designed to aid in creating a marriage with traditional gender roles. When you think about it, traditional gender roles means that the man is the head of the household. Why would we manipulate someone we want to lead us? If you're not looking for an LTR with the goal of marriage, this may not be the best toolbox for yo…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/20 12:10 PM
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Mine was 30 something? I knew it was over when I kept canceling first dates with everyone else to go on dates with him instead.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/20 01:09 AM
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I think therapy is amazing. It's like this guided tour of things that affect you, why they affected you the way they did, and a way of looking back at it so it doesn't prevent you from moving forward. I think everyone should go regardless of their mental health every once in a while. I've always left a therapy session feeling accomplished.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/20 09:32 PM
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Speaking from experience here: I've survived many of these types of people by keeping my mouth shut, my ears open, not getting emotional, not keeping score, and being very calculated in my moves. I'm from a shitty background. I have issues with feeling inadequate and being jealous of those who have what I don't. The thing I have to constantly remind myself is that everyone has their strengths and weaknesses, we were all hired where we are for a reason, and at the end of the day, I need the paych…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/20 07:21 PM
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That's discussed more at length in a different subreddit. I'm not sure about the quality of men this attracts, it's effectively the equivalent of spinning plates. I'm totally a believer in "serial introductions" until you decide to date a man. That is, going on lots of "first dates" until you find one you want to date seriously. This worked out very well for me.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/20 05:12 AM
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I'm quite sure you're not the only merit based student at that school.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 09:10 PM
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This issue will probably present itself regardless of age. If you are striking out with guys your age, then you're either meeting guys in all the wrong places, having sex with guys who aren't relationship minded, having sex without commitment, are scaring relationship-minded men off by possibly being desperate, or do not read as relationship material to relationship-minded men. If there aren't men who are relationship-minded in the rooms you are walking into in college, then you are walking into…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 12:56 PM
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I agree that he's holding the generosity over her head, but do you think it could be because she might not be expressing gratitude in a way that is effective for him personally? I'm on the fence about this all around. Also, I agree. Just call it $250. Unless we're talking millions here, I don't think drawing the amount out is necessary.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 02:14 AM
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Sorry, on mobile, I sometimes will write and edit to make sure formatting goes through. Too many wife privileges you think? Don't get me started on being referred to as "a friend."
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 02:08 AM
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You're not wrong, but I'm not convinced this came out of thin air: how not to be a bitch when your man comes home tired and that there are serious issues in this relationship I'm not convinced this is an isolated incident either. He's either a tyrant, she's been disrespectful for a while, they've had a disconnect on what one values about the other, or there's a lot of other drama at foot. If I remember correctly, this was the boyfriend who was barely unemployed after not having a job for 6 month…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 02:01 AM
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Can you elaborate? I think this is getting misinterpreted.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 12:29 AM
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I think this is 5% bad behavior and 95% something else. I can't speak for why he's blowing up, but it seems a little evident that you could be projecting what makes you feel loved and appreciated (hugs, etc) onto him, and those aren't the things he likes. We tend to love how we want to be loved by default, but it might be worth trying to cover all of the love languages for the time being until you find the ones that work best. Remember, men want to feel respected, admired, and appreciated. Women…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 12:12 AM
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An experienced partner(your current SO, not the ex) is not a bad thing. He has more of a level head and more tempered expectations about sex than someone who's only had sex with one girl and the majority of his idea of what is a good sex life comes from porn instead of human interaction. (Just an example) Honestly, if a man has had a decent amount of casual sex but wanted to enter a relationship with you I think he would have more of an idea of what he does and doesn't like and for whatever reas…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/20 07:08 PM
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While I agree this is a vetting issue, I do not understand how suggesting that she leave someone who is stringing her along is bad advice.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/20 07:52 AM
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I respect your warning but this goes without saying that I don't grossly make these types of accusations without digging into post history first.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/20 03:57 AM
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Yes, it is, and no it's not. The thing is, she's dating a man that, through examination of her post history, especially with the fact that he shames her for her previous sex partners, stays with her regardless of his feelings about it, meaning that his sense of abundance is so low that he stays with a woman who "doesn't meet his standards" and complains about it instead of working on himself and improving until he either has a rotation of plates or he finds a woman who is of LTR quality. That ki…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/20 03:56 AM
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My answer still stands. He doesn't want to marry you. Accept it, drop it, and stay, or move on.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/20 11:45 PM
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Please don't married because "you think that's the appropriate step to take." That's literally one of the worst reasons to be pushing for a marriage. He doesn't want to get married. Men don't tell you these sorts of things just because they think their mind is going to be changed. You're not going to change his mind. Take it or leave it, but don't ever expect to marry this man. You've been together 2 years. That's enough time to decide if marriage is on the table. He's given you your answer. It'…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/20 11:36 PM
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Getting to I do Also..... She does have another book titled "The Surrendered Single..."
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/20 09:15 PM
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Looking down on obesity in the abstract and looking down on women who are obese are two separate things.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/20 01:36 PM
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RPW promotes paying attention to and maximizing your own attractiveness and health. It doesn't promote passing judgement on others for not doing so. I think you've answered the question about the friendship yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/20 02:09 AM
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Empty promises, a lack of follow-through, and a huge disregard for other peoples' time doesn't go away.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/20 09:56 PM
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Personally I feel like you should sever the friendship because good friends don't look at each other like they're better than one another or judge each other based on attributes as if they need to fill the checkboxes in order to make the cut. Not to be an ass, but this just comes off as very judgemental and arrogant.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/20 09:46 PM
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Screw them. You're never going to see them again anyway. Go have a spa day. :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/20 06:56 PM
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When I first responded I was writing about how we get sold so many conflicting fantasies about being swept away or being a power woman and be body positive but also you need to be attractive and I think it's really hard to not feel caught up in all that and it's really disorienting to navigate, but I ended up omitting it. I think it's also very hard to get a good picture of the reality of "the good old times." Expectations of relationships have changed so much in the past century, so much that w…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/20 04:55 PM
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Okay but we've all been there. Lol.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/20 03:38 PM
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I don't think this is a matter of lowering your standards, it's about managing your expectations and shifting your standards to something practical. I think that maybe the biggest mistake here may be that you didn't know what you wanted until it was gone, and that mistake is so easy to make that it's impractical to beat yourself up over it. I feel like something similar happened to me, I thought I was moving towards a mutual goal with an ex, and as it turns out I was the only one that had that g…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/20 03:33 PM
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Most of us don't think much of the ideas posted to TRP ??????????????????
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/20 03:07 PM
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I know a few people who met at work and it worked out, but I know many many more where it didn't work out, and then it ended in one or both losing their jobs. Not worth it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/20 03:04 PM
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No we don't, but we ask each other why we think our own ways and seek some sort of understanding behind it. If it gets heated, it usually turns into flirting.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/20 04:58 AM
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You ignored your gut. Stop that. It's pretty apparent that you don't trust yourself to the extent that you are depending on other people for their opinions on your potential partners more than you should. At the end of the day, they don't spend nearly as much time with him as you and they will never be nearly as good of a judge of character as you will be. Narcs will pick up on that and exploit it. Trust yourself next time. Is there any way you can find a new place and salvage this trip? Go get …
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/20 04:43 AM
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Are you trying to find "Ten little tricks that will blow every man away and make him fall in love with you!" Men want to feel admired, respected and important. We don't have a one size fits all to accomplish that. There's things I do for my SO every day that put a smile on his face and when I did those things for an ex he'd be annoyed. Every man is different. Men will tell you how to make them feel loved. You just need to listen and follow. If you are at this point and you don't have enough clue…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/19 01:45 PM
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A scrapbook of all the memories you've made together this far!
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 08:54 PM
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I'm not even going ask why you are going through his phone. Stop that. Also, you can't change him. Only he can change him. He clearly doesn't want to change badly enough because for whatever reason he thinks that lying to you about his habits will result in the best outcome, which means he is extremely outcome reliant and this is red flag behavior. Either stop going through his phone, accept he watches porn, and figure out whatever you've done to make him think you can't accept him for who he is…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 08:50 PM
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Yeah. As a fellow abuse survivor, do yourself a favor and run, don't walk, RUN away from this relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 12:31 AM
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He will ignore me for days at a time He brought up that I should just relax This pattern of "punishing" you with the silent treatment, diminishing your concerns, and putting you "on trial" as if you are competing in a try-out to see if you are good enough for a relationship is abusive behavior. This man is probably not capable of being emotionally intimate, because what you described is textbook BPD/NPD. Your anxiety is probably your gut telling you what you need to do. Stop ignoring your gut. I…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/19 11:10 PM
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College taught me how to be the master of hair in a bun and the 5 minute makeup routine. I still to this day prefer doing my makeup in my parked car at the destination. Lol.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/19 08:38 PM
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I think that the answer to this question highly depends on your socioeconomic status. If it were me, I probably would have stuck with some wine and a gift basket with bed and bath goodies for the first meet or maybe something around a ~$50 price point. Was your gift overkill? Maybe? Is that going to hurt her opinion of you? Most likely not? What's done is done and we can't change it. I'm not sure why everyone is attacking you in this thread about it. I say blow it off, but keep in mind that you …
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/19 08:28 PM
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This is more of a matter of opinion than fact and it doesn't necessarily reflect RPWs beliefs, but as someone who met her SO online, I consider online dating a waste of time and believe it should be treated as such. I also don't consider an online relationship to be a relationship. There are just too many things and behaviors that can be hidden behind screens and I don't believe that an internet relationship could ever replace a physical one. If someone was high value enough, why aren't they mee…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/19 03:51 PM
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I kind of learned this while bartending through college and it works pretty well, but also you have to kind of be able to gauge the room and your audience. I don't think I've ever had this trick blow up in my face and I've used it in several types of social situations. Just turn whatever gets said that's remotely offensive to you into a joke. You can agree and take what they said to an extreme, (TRP's agree and amplify) or my personal favorite is to pretend I'm offended and add something more ri…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/19 10:33 PM
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There's a lot of posts about this. It largely depends on the context. We can only give you a very vague and most likely not useful answer without further details. Would you be willing to give us some more information about the problem you're having?
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/19 04:20 PM
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There is a difference between passive and submissive. The thing about passive, is there is an underlying expectation that things will get done without communication, which might be why your garbage sits for a week. Maybe it might help you more to change your mindset about what submissive behavior actually is. Submissive is one part communication, one part encouraging him to make decisions, and one part following his direction once he's given those decisions. Of course it's more complicated than …
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/19 07:59 AM
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I think it's extremely out of place to pass judgement on her, which despite your 3 sentence long disclaimer, you are blatantly doing. Let her figure out her life situation on her own. Coming into a special interest subreddit to look down on people in subreddits with a conflicting philosophy is concerning and this is the saddest way to trigger your dopamine reward system. You've already indicated you're looking down on it by the way you've made a point to say you've since left whatever subreddit …
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/19 12:48 PM
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As long as you don't succumb to your upbringing, at best, you have a perfect idea of what not to do, and it will be very important to never do those sorts of things that happened to you or your siblings to your own children, because having been through it, you know what that is like and you'd never want to put another human through that. This includes trying to figure out what a healthy relationship actually is. I think also as someone who had less than a gleaming example of good parenting, you …
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/19 02:16 PM
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I vote neither. Men hate switching sexual partners. and right now you have two who are putting up with it. Usually that's because either they don't think they are going to get it with anyone else or they are getting some with other women on the side, which puts you at risk for STDS. (Hint: Neither are good.) I don't think most respectable high value men would consider a woman to be high value and relationship quality if she is actively sleeping with other people as well as him. Go for guy B, and…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/19 03:11 PM
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I think that you might be overthinking it. Check out No More Mr Nice Guy. If he doesn't seem like what that book describes as a nice guy, then it's probably ok to proceed.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/19 07:55 PM
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CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!! I'm really excited for you! If I ever do it again I'm definitely eloping as well!
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/19 07:53 PM
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I think my biggest issue is that I had an insane amount of success going in to this RPW thing, and I also was working with a fresh slate (started following right when I met my boyfriend), and I found many things in this relationship so incredibly natural and a couple things got missed. All in all, I'd never turn back. This is the best relationship I've ever had, and while this is something I'm actively struggling with, I'm not entirely sure if it's negatively affecting my relationship yet. I fee…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/19 02:08 AM
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Maybe this hasn't changed my life because I still fully struggle with this, but it will change my life significantly for the best once I finally get over it: submitting isn't your idea of what you think submitting is and then expecting your partner to take the lead the way you want. Submitting is actually submitting to him and allowing him to take the lead the way he wants to. Understanding that I do this and not doing it are two separate things. Sometimes I find areas of my relationship where I…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/19 12:08 PM
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You can't change other people, and you can't "make" other people do things. You can only change yourself. I think you've clearly demonstrated that to yourself a few times over in this post. Sounds like you hate his habits and his friends and you judge what you perceive as his lack of ambition, all of which are things that you can't change about another person. If he doesn't fit into the mental box you have a predetermined shape for called "boyfriend," you either need to change the shape of the b…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/19 11:56 AM
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Usually talking too much about an ex is something to "Thank you, next."
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/19 10:09 AM
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I recently hit a lull too. Life has been so crazy this fall and winter, we've both been non-stop or sick since October and it's not looking like it's going to stop until January at the earliest. We're both busy, stressed out, and exhausted, or all at the same time. I'd been missing date nights! We hadn't been on one of those in ages, and I found myself hoping that he'd be like "let's go on a date" and that wasn't happening. Sometimes you have to tell them what you want to get things done. For me…
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/19 10:03 AM
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I think that there is some semantics that often get forgotten, but AWALT has a better ring to it. Not every woman is like that, but I definitely believe All Women are Capable of Being Like That Under the Right Circumstances. The thing is, however, all these extra words leave too much room for men to think their girl is the exception to the rule, which undermines a lot of TRP theory and isn't productive. The right circumstances are..... Who knows, it's different for every woman, but the main reas…
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/19 09:19 AM
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Never go to a manager with a problem you don't have a proposed solution for This is really good advice that extends to more than just IT!
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/19 05:28 PM
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Respect is not given. It is earned. You're either brand new and have not earned it or you've given them a reason for this treatment. Edit: two years is not regular. It's still junior. The thing with IT is that it attracts those with a lot of exploratory initiative and men who have several years of experience with computers stretching into their childhoods. Many were coding and programming in their teens. Sounds like you're a diversity hire or you haven't proven yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/19 01:24 PM
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Either he's beta orbiting this girl because he thinks he's got a chance, or you're looking into things too closely. Either way, your behavior is turning her into the forbidden fruit, and you're not going to be able to to figure out the answer to this conundrum with the way you're going. (Sounds like you're peeking at his phone and internet stalking him!???!!!!) When people try to keep things from other people, people tend to want those things more. You see this with everything from a child and t…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/19 07:47 AM
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I met my SO online, did things a very particular way, and I think that there's nothing wrong with tinder if you understand how to calibrate your swiper and market your profile correctly, understand it's a numbers game, and understand that there's nothing "traditional" about using an app, so everything traditional must go out the window until the actual date.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/19 04:07 AM
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Sounds like you're trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. Maybe it's time to find a round peg instead.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/19 02:20 AM
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If you're going to use apps, do it right. Message first with something meaningful other than "hi" Suggest a meet within the first 20 messages. (Be safe of course) Message several people at once. You swipe on many, match a few, fewer make it to getting a date set up, fewer actually have a date come to fruition, even fewer are worth a second date. It's a numbers game. Make it your goal to spend as little time as possible in the app, texting, etc. Apps are a waste of time. Texting overall is a wast…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/19 02:10 AM
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You mean like when he flirtatiously picks me up and puts me in the kitchen?
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 11:23 PM
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Yes! He should be both feet in, not hesitantly dipping his toes in the water!
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/19 03:58 PM
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Honestly, 2-3 years is enough time. I think it's time to start packing. "not happy where we are here" is a form of a covert contract. He's negotiating with you about "What could be." He has some romanticized goal in his head that he's holding you against, and no offense to you because this is all him and not you, but you guys will never get there. Same thing with the hints he's dropped about this proposal which has never happened. This is a huge red flag. What's he gonna do 20 years down the roa…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/19 10:55 AM
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You should check out r/xxfitness. They have some great information on lifting weights.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 06:37 PM
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Maybe try asking OP directly?
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 02:08 AM
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You're saying this now. It's so easy to say now. But since it's so hard you've already turned to internet strangers about it, I'm going to stray from cherry coating. It's not going to get better on its own and it's not going to get easier. And again, from experience here, if someone you're supposed to be marrying is telling you that "it's too much work" to maintain a healthy sex life with you, that's a sign to consider whether it's time to get out while you can. Maybe it's time to ask why the he…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/19 10:04 PM
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Lol in the other comments people were saying that was controversial. I think we might be on the same page 😂
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/19 09:38 PM
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My only advice here, and speaking from experience on this one.... Don't walk into a marriage without this getting worked out. It will only be a source of resentment that gets flung on you down the road as a trump card to any argument. If sex is "too much work," and he'd rather masturbate than have sex with you, then there's some heavy underlying issues that need to be addressed. Lots of warning signs that are incredibly easy to overlook with the excitement of picking out wedding stuff, and i can…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/19 06:27 PM
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Sounds like you're dodging a bullet, quite frankly. A man who has a severe mistrust of all females is less "red pill" and more "red flag." I don't think this will go away if you try to stay with him. A good man will excitedly be both feet in, or excitedly both feet out. Not this "one foot hesitantly out the door" wish wash. His actions aren't exactly condoned on the TRP side either. Morality aside, his desire to cheat and then going to askTRP to ASK about it just tells me that he's not ready for…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/19 05:59 PM
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We can't gauge much because there isn't enough details, but I can say this is probably the wrong situation to use STFU. Only thing I can certainly say is: don't marry into a dead bedroom. Has there been any changes to his or your life causing undo stress? How long have you been together? Are you cohabitating? Is he watching porn? Have either of you had your hormones/blood tests done? What things do you think could be contributing to the decline of sex frequency? Do you have busy lives outside of…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/19 05:52 PM
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TIL not smoking and not drinking alcohol is controversial.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/19 04:44 PM
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A few things at play here. Any man will get bored of even the sweetest cherry pie. This is the law of diminishing returns. You could even be Scarlett Johanson, but if a guy fucked Scarlett Johanson 100 times, it won't be nearly as exciting as the first time. When you keep having the same thing over and over, there's no way around it, it's just not as good as the last time. It's just a fact of life. This is also the law of scarcity. When the supply outweighs the demand, the supply becomes cheaper…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/19 01:31 AM
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6 isn't that bad. To be honest the N count thing is a little oversensationalized. The right man won't care. That doesn't mean that you should sleep with whomever, but it's not like it's the end of the world if your n count increases. Arguably, the best strategy to focus on is making sure you're having sex in the context of an exclusive relationship. I think a bigger issue here is your lack of self confidence that the right man will respect you and wait until you've committed. Those men exist!!!!…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/19 07:23 PM
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Yeah. This is pretty basic redpill 101. Women are the gatekeepers of sex, Men are the gatekeepers of commitment. So that basically means men tend to want to have as much sex as possible and women tend to seek out commitment. In other words, expecting a man to feel the same way about sex as you is going to be like trying to get a guppy to swim up stream against the current, and it might be worth being wary of any man who tells you what you want to hear, because he's probably just telling you what…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/19 05:24 PM
3

OP, I've been there and done that before. Maybe my emotional abuse didn't go to the reaches yours did, but it was getting pretty damn close. The only thing I hadn't given up was my career, and in the end, that choice saved my life. Funny how I find submitting to my SO extremely easy and he's voiced several times how much he values our dynamic and willingly dispenses all of the recognition I craved before, I certainly get my fill now. Yet my ex said I "had such an attitude problem and I had no re…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/19 05:14 PM
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I think you might be mistaken about the dynamics of these sorts of relationships. They do things for their abusers out of fear, but it's not as simple as being afraid he will leave her. Victims of this type of abuse comply with this sort of dynamic because most often the abuser has successfully gaslighted the victim into believing that they don't know what's good for them and they are unable to trust themselves or the opinions of others and the only person who actually knows what's good for them…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/19 05:02 PM
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Yeah..... This is an emotionally abusive relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/19 04:16 PM
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We have a post pinned on the front page of this subreddit about Doormat vs deterrence. What you described, my friend, is less "RPW" and more "Doormat."
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/19 04:15 PM
1

Don't ask the fish how they got caught, ask the fisherman.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/19 10:50 AM
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You know this behavior is like textbook TRP right? You married a guy who is good enough, probably only for his money, and now you're getting your rocks off with a broke dude? This like hypergamy, briffault's law, AF/BB, and AWALT all gift wrapped into one tiny neat little package. Maybe you're not a terrible person, but you've done some terrible things. Your first mistake was marrying for resources. You know what they say about marrying for money? You will earn every penny. Now you're in a mess,…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 06:35 PM
1

It got removed before I could read it, but I'm just going to say that while there are "pretty" girls and "ugly" girls, there's nothing uglier than a girl with a nasty attitude problem who comes across as conceited and like she thinks she's better than others. This was honestly a very low effort post, and it was lazily put together with the obvious intent to put others down. It wasn't even well-written. There were grammatical errors and if I remember correctly, there were sentences that started w…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/19 08:44 PM
1

I agree. This is absolutely an emotional intelligence issue.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/19 04:44 AM
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You state you wanted to have a discussion, yet you are very hostile in the comments section and it seems like you are shutting down and insulting anything that you don't agree with. That's not exactly the type of behavior that promotes the discussion of anything meaningful at all. Maybe we have different definitions of discussion.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/19 04:31 AM
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That's slightly different than what the article I just referenced said. They are concluding that the action is done as a strategy to gain more value instead of being as simple as "pretty girl hating" and "If I can't have it no one will" as you indicated in OP. I don't quite understand why that was grounds for personally attacking me or assuming that I was offended. If anything, I added peer-reviewed and heavily cited scientific evidence to your post, which adds a lot to your argument, encourages…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/19 03:52 AM
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I'm afraid this is a little off. It might also be more helpful if you sought more reliable sources that aren't anecdotal evidence. I believe this should get you halfway there. Women who see themselves as unattractive and are unable to increase their attractiveness or reputation will seek to destroy the reputation and attractiveness of other women to gain more value in the sexual marketplace.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/19 03:02 AM
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This is a decision only you can make. I can't do it for you. If it were me, based on the alarming behavior I've read in this thread, I think I probably would have dropped him ages ago, but I can't speak for you and I don't know the full story.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/19 02:56 AM
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I don't know about you, but if someone is negotiating that "he can change" in order to get me to stay or come back, then I've just trained him to know the exact threshold of inaction to stay at before I'll walk again, and now he knows if he stays right below that threshold, he can squeeze more time. As I also said before, he's not interested in changing. He's interested in your complacency. If he were interested in changing, he would have done so out of his own accord years ago. You can't make o…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/19 02:13 AM
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Not to be rude, but this post comes across very selfish and self-absorbed. Either accept him for who he is or don't. Either way, you cannot change him and "playing hard to get" is going to do more damage than what has been done already. If he's not what you want, then stop trying to fit him into the box that fulfills "what you want." You say you understand you can't change people, but I don't think you truly believe that, because if you did, you wouldn't be here asking us how to play mind games.…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/19 10:41 PM
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I don't identify as a RPW. I'm afraid of identifying that I'm am x and that's better than y. I feel like that's the first step to becoming y. It makes me feel grungy like I'm lumping myself into this us vs. them dynamic and heavily rooting my ideology as if it's preventing a negative outcome from happening to me. I worry doing that is going to leave me severely disappointed if, and well let's face it, when things don't happen the way I want them to. If life has made me certain of anything, it's …
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/19 07:10 PM
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This is the kind of love I want some day 😭
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 01:55 PM
4

We can't really tell you much from just knowing you haven't seen a relationship go longer than 3 months. You post in the sugar lifestyle subreddit so that might have something to do with it? transactional relationships aren't fulfilling to most people. What was the issue with the last relationship you had?
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 12:16 PM
1

Drunk Captain doesn't necessarily mean your husband is an alcoholic. Drunk captain is a euphemism for not so great a captain. Captain Hook is a great example. He was horrible to his first mate. Having also been in a ten year old relationship married to a guy who engaged in this exact behavior, I can tell you that life became significantly better the second I stepped off his ship and I found a captain who doesn't make me feel ugly or fat. (Something somebody who is neither of those things should …
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/19 11:40 AM
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Sounds like a drunk captain to me. Maybe it's time to get off his ship. Edit: you didn't follow the posting guidelines on the sidebar so this answer was very incomplete given that we now know you've gained 100 lbs during your marriage and that he left a woman much larger than you, to date you, a much smaller woman at the time. To many men that feels like the ultimate bait and switch. You can't change your husband's feelings or words and he can't negotiate what he's attracted to. We can call your…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/19 04:51 AM
4

The peel off mask I worry is too harsh.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/19 04:55 PM
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This reminds me of this one time when I watched American Psycho and started wondering if I should use Christian Bale's skincare routine.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/19 02:33 PM
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In my experience, asking to stay friends is a strategy to diffuse a tense situation and end the interaction as quickly and as pleasantly as possible when he's realized he's not going to get anywhere until he's said what you want to hear. Sounds like there's a lesson here. Pressuring men doesn't bode well. He was on the rebound, he blatantly told you he didn't want anything serious, he asked to stay "friends," and now he's not calling. Sorry to break it to you but I don't think you ever had him t…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/19 11:05 AM
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This keys right into a comment I posted earlier today about how much RPW is associated with certain political beliefs, religious beliefs, lifestyles, and career choices, and how RPW is so much more than that while also being so much less than that at the same time. Thanks for putting into words what I couldn't articulate!
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 01:33 AM
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There's several things which have happened to TRP over the years that has turned it into what it is today. There's things like removal of incel friendly subreddits, which lead to that community joining several others, MGTOW and TRP are two among many, to guys just starting out and going through "the anger phase." Another component is that many men join, follow it for a year or two, see significant improvement in their lives, and participate in the community a lot less, because TRP encourages con…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/19 02:46 PM
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Just an observation: you ask in your title what the purple pill is, but you also go on to explain what your interpretation of rpw seems to be and how you may or may not conform to the impression you got. Please don't mind me, I'm just going to leave the following here: The thing that's often misunderstood is that the red pill is not a religion. It's not a political leaning. It's not a lifestyle, and it's certainly not any sort of duty. It's certainly not a career choice either. It's a toolbox. T…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/19 01:41 AM
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The 48 laws of power is great for career stuff and social situations!
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/19 10:59 PM
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Please go get help. Every time someone says something that challenges your belief system, you think we're being hostile and aggressive. That's not a way to live. I hope you can find happiness.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/19 08:52 PM
1

That's asking the world to change for you.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/19 07:48 PM
1

You may not like it, but that's life. The world doesn't revolve and will not bend to you no matter where you go. You can't change other people. You can only change yourself. If you're not happy with the way people react to you, then you either need to change or you need to figure out how to deal with the repercussions of not changing.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/19 07:46 PM
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In your initial post you say I am either ignored or face hostility from men because I'm not flirty or chatty enough. And then you respond to someone telling you about being approachable/listening to your mom's advice with: No. I have no interest in being friendly to male strangers. None at all. They are not entitled to my attention and I'm not entitled to theirs. I don't think this is a looks problem. If that were the case, no ugly girl ever would ever married and have children. This is a mental…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/19 07:33 PM
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By texting too much before a date, you're sinking in more time into that person, and when it finally gets to the date, you're more likely to fall for the sunk cost fallacy. Words on a screen do not replace physical chemistry. And to point #4, if it is hard to establish a line of communication after a couple of dates, there is something wrong. You know that person much better after a couple of dates, I'd argue better than if you'd been texting for a week. People can present themselves however the…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/19 12:20 PM
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I was in a relationship like this. We got married. It took 10 years to figure out that he wasn't going to be able to work through his issues without understanding what it's like to date others. Then we got divorced. We don't talk anymore. I'm not saying I didn't have a hand in our relationship's demise, but the majority of our issues came from his severe disconnect between what he romanticized relationships to be (not reality) and what relationships are, (reality, compromise, hard work) somethin…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/19 05:15 PM
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This. Doing things with the expectation that you are going to get something in return is a covert contract and fast track to a lot of needless disappointment.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/19 12:11 PM
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Plate to girlfriend is its own thing. If a man is spinning plates, it won't really matter whether you've slept with him or not. He's spinning plates for a reason, and that reason is usually because he doesn't want a relationship right now. Don't date men who don't want a relationship right now. That's called shooting yourself in the foot. This is not a recommended route. It involves being on the very top of your A game and it requires a degree of certainty when you have absolutely none. Take it …
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/19 03:31 AM
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Seeking women's approval creates rage toward women. Though most Nice Guys claim to "love" women, the truth is, most of these men have tremendous rage toward women. This is because we tend to eventually despise whatever we make into our god. When our god fails to respond in the ways we expect, we humans tend to respond in one of two ways. We either blindly intensify our acts of worship or lash out in righteous anger. When Nice Guys put a woman or women on a pedestal and attempt to win their appro…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 05:26 PM
15

Without more details, there's not much to say here, other than by saying what you've said he has said about marriage, you make it sound like he's not dating you, he's dating your potential, and dating anyone because they don't like who that person is today but they like what that person could one day be is horrible behavior. In essence, he's trying to fit a square peg into a round hole here, which is a dangerous situation to be in, and that's the only thing I can go off of. That being said, nobo…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 09:31 AM
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"White lies" are a form of saying "I didn't think you would like me as I am so I made myself into what I think you would like and I thought that you wouldn't care once you got to know me better." A healthy relationship is not built upon a foundation of "I didn't think you were going to to take me as I am and I figured it wouldn't matter once you got to know me better." Let's take that apart. "It wouldn't matter once you got to know me better." is a function of one thinking this aspect of them is…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/19 03:39 PM
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You're 19. I know you like avoiding uncertainty, as do I. Sure, there's merit to getting done with college easily, but it's not worth it if you don't enjoy college for what it is during some of the most formative years of your life. Life is Life. It's not a rigid train ride with all of the stops in order. It could be likened to a roller coaster but even that is an inaccurate analogy because on a roller coaster, you're still on a track with a pre-decided path.. If you slow it down, you can do mor…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/19 10:36 AM
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Walk. This is Nice Guy™ behavior.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/19 02:39 PM
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I would walk. Unless there are kids and things got messy, a divorce should take less than two years. To me, it sounds like he doesn't have the guts to make his wife rip off the band-aid, that or she has something on him that would make him lose his financial security if they continued the divorce proceedings. Both scenarios are a big red flag. The former, because he doesn't have a backbone to stand up for his own needs and wants, and the latter, because he hasn't been upfront with you. Either wa…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/19 02:31 PM
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This is exactly what everyone else said in the other thread you made about this. It's abusive behavior.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/19 02:47 PM
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I don't think you're way off, if anything you're spot on!!!
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/19 08:17 PM
4

This is not a dating app. Try OkCupid.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/19 04:20 PM
4

If all you want to do is be resigned to this position you've assigned yourself in life, then why bother posting here? Multiple people are trying to help you and you're just shooting everyone down. If you want your life to change and you want to feel like you're attractive and you want it badly enough, you have the power to do it, but you're never going to get there by closing your mind off and indulging in validation seeking behavior and self loathing.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/19 01:08 AM
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I was also once married to a man who called me ugly, fat and unattractive. When he was out of the picture, sure I felt loads better, but guess who deep down thought of herself as fat, ugly and attractive? Yours Truly. You can't change your husband, you can only change yourself, and I don't have him as an audience.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/19 11:57 PM
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I don't know what to really say here. Half of this sounds like it could be a troll post, the other half sounds like a lady in a really dark place. All in all, I see a lot of you scapegoating your appearance for a shitty situation with someone who is below par as a mate and using that as everyone's excuse for treating you poorly. I think you've spent too much time strengthening that neuropathway and you've more or less developed a stuck point surrounding the dialogue "I'm ugly and that's why bad …
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/19 11:38 PM
1

Now you've met two.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/19 11:26 PM
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It sounds like you're doing something I've seen a few times and something I've noticed myself do. When I'm interested in an LTR, nobody calls me back. When I'm not interested in an LTR, every guy I went on a date with, in your words, for lack of a better term, was on my jock. I've had the best results after first dates when I don't even treat it like a date. I just show up along for the ride and see how the first date goes. No expectations, no presumption about who's going to pay, and no weird q…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/19 11:32 PM
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Money and power attracts opportunistic people from all angles. It becomes easy to spot after a while. Any high value man who has money and status and is worth his salt will see right through a woman who wants him for the lifestyle he'd provide her. Women like that are a dime a dozen to him. High value men aren't looking for a pretty face to provide for. They can find that anywhere. They're looking for women who enrich and provide value to him. Imagine my surprise when the bartender I started dat…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/19 01:02 PM
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I've seen this played out a couple ways. Either he gets extremely jealous and controlling and doesn't have a frame of reference for what sex is like in reality because of watching too much porn and thinking that is reality (worst case scenario) or he slowly warms up and once he realizes you're not going anywhere if he does something weird, comes out of his shell. I also think "nothing ever happened" is a potential red flag. It could mean that he's long expected this exact situation to happen. So…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/19 01:52 PM
1

There's a couple types of therapy. The main one is CBT, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, where basically, the main idea of getting over trauma is to talk about it a bunch of times until it doesn't bother you anymore. There's other types as well, like CPT, Cognitive Processing Therapy, which is more condensed, requires less treatment, and its main goal is to give you tools to identify trauma you've been through and overcome it on your own. In other words, keep you out of therapy. I was in an abusive…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/19 01:14 PM
1

It happens to everyone! Sounds like you got a catch! I find myself falling into similar thoughts at times too when I'm not overwhelmed at all! Your post is a great reminder to not fall into that trap! :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/19 01:25 PM
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Of course your attitude is not his burden! But I'm also seeing a lot of "why didn't he" in your post and it made me think of this other one you might find something interesting out of. :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/19 12:40 PM
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No offense at all, I might be taking this the wrong way, but truth be told it sounds like you may benefit from changing up your communication style. What does it mean to enjoy serving when it appears that you have been seeing a need to delegate so much to your SO? I love this post. I love the bit about rising above self-absorption and being in service to others, but I also see a very busy nurse who is balancing work-home and might be overlooking an opportunity to bring her problem to her captain…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/19 12:16 PM
8

Typically in Chinese culture, wedding guests give ~$75-150 per guest as a wedding gift. I've seen a lot of Chinese parents who front a lot of wedding expenses and the couple gives that money back from the wedding gift cash. Many Chinese weddings involve a very lavish banquet with very expensive food. It might be worth looking into what they're expecting. Some families are very superstitious about everything from what color paper is used for the invitations to making sure that the wedding date is…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/19 06:58 PM
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You're falling for the sunk cost fallacy. "3 whole years that's gotta mean something!" Nonononono! You're not throwing 3 years away if it means a miserable life if you had stayed. This won't get better, and the lack of close friends and his unwillingness to handle conflict like an adult is alarming. My ex husband was just like him. Soooo glad I jumped ship.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/19 06:43 PM
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Once when my man went out of town I took post it notes and wrote every one of our inside jokes, one per post it note, and put them all on his bathroom mirror. He stuck it on his bedroom wall and it's still there to this day.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/19 12:23 AM
6

Consider seeing a gynecologist or endocrinologist. Something else is at foot here.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 04:16 PM
1

Yes. You do sound defensive. You don't need to defend yourself to me. This is an internal battle between you and yourself. Don't be your own enemy.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 03:09 PM
1

I'm also 5'8". I started by adding wedges in casual settings until I felt comfortable with those, then I bought a nude pair, a black pair, and a pair in a color. Now I have like 20 pairs and counting. This will sound brash but you have to break the ice somehow. Just show up in a pair! As a side note, and yes I am going there, 170 at 5'8" is obese by BMI standards. I've never been that heavy but I have gone through a weight loss journey of my own, was once a size 8/10 and am now a size 2 and can …
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/19 02:30 PM
5

What is an SP? Sexual Partner? Non Exclusive? Not entirely sure this is even a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/19 05:43 PM
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This is the most self-aware post I have seen in ages. First of all. You are in your early 20s. Take it easy on yourself. It's okay that you don't have it 100% together. 99.99% of us do not, and if we look like we do, we're just really good at hiding it. You're in school. You're self assessing. You distance yourself from toxic relationships. That is miles ahead of most girls in their early 20s with rough family backgrounds. You're also in therapy. I can't tell you how many high fives I wish I cou…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/19 12:17 PM
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I'll just turn this around really quick. He lied to you because he didn't think that the truth would get him a date in the first place. What else about him is he hiding from you because he doesn't think it would get a date with you in the first place? People who do these sorts of things are insecure with themselves for a multitude of reasons. The logic behind this is "I thought that once you got to know me it wouldn't matter so much." What else is he lying about because he thinks that once you g…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/19 03:47 AM
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I don't trust liars.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/19 03:23 AM
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I live in a very small apartment and I went from a huge walk in closet to one half of a tiny one. I feel your pain. Here's some things I've done over the years and more recently. Let's say an 800 sq ft apartment costs $1400 a month (average in my city for an apartment this size, not in a downtown area) and you have a 3 sq foot heap of clothes taking up space. That 3 SQ feet of space costs you $63 a year to have it there. If it's hindering your quality of life and costing you $63 a year to have i…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/19 03:17 AM
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Let's get you a man! 🙌🙌🙌
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 05:55 PM
3

An overtly dumb excuse to open an interaction is not a mind game. In fact, it's a strategy that is taught by regular members here. A mind game is saying or pretending you're busy when you're actually not or being a constant tease.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 01:58 PM
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Thanks for assuming that's a mind game! You don't even know how the interaction even went!! Clearly you don't understand female reputational defense theory which is something deeply engrained in the human psyche. Women historically don't approach. It's even rare for outliers. I don't think I'm sure if this is the place to even complain about it!
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 12:18 PM
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If you are afraid of letting him know that you are into him, then it won't matter how liberal or conservative a city is. If you appear shut off before he even approaches, then it doesn't matter how open you try to be after the bazillion guys who were interested in you decided to write you off as unapproachable in the first place! Girl you got this, but you gotta get out of your comfort zone! (That's what makes life interesting anyway!) I think you're right in thinking that something needs to cha…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 06:06 AM
8

If you are ignoring guys that you like, then how are they supposed to find anything interesting about you?
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 05:25 AM
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I really think that writing off an entire city (pretty sure which one as well) is kind of a bad move. There's more to do than just go to clubs and get on tinder and when you say men are "either blue pill" or "assume you already have a boyfriend" it leads me to believe there is an extremely large possibility you aren't putting yourself in situations where you would meet the type of man you're looking for and you're probably also giving off the vibe that you're not open to being approached, probab…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 04:50 AM
3

Seems like there's a lot at play here, and it also sounds to me, like you're trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. First of all, hoping things will resolve themselves is a quick and easy way for things to get out of control. Does laundry get itself done by sheet power of hope? Not in my experience! That's a quick and easy way to be spending an entire weekend on a mountain of laundry. Like that mountain of dirty clothes, these issues are best worked at little bits at a time instead of wai…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/19 12:56 AM
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This. On so many levels.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/19 08:14 PM
2

I would have told myself that it's going to get really rough, but it's going to get infinitely better, and without dealing with what's yet to come, I won't be ready for the amazing things waiting on the other side. Was I dumb when I was younger? Yes. But maybe I learned a lot from those mistakes and I learned from other peoples' mistakes as well. I wasn't promiscuous, but I had way too much to learn about relationships and human nature. I don't think I would have valued what I know now without l…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/19 12:31 PM
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