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| 8 | What's your cringiest moment with an ex LVM ?I was supposed to help him move, and on the day of my grandmother was admitted to the ER. I told him this and he asked me if I was still coming to help him move. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 06:26 PM |
| 133 | Why do people think women are being tricked/manipulated into casual sex?Thank god these men tell on themselves so blatantly online for literally any woman to see. I'm so glad women are posting these things and outing their shit tactics. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 12:46 AM |
| 36 | This is why “Not All Men” should NEVER be entertainedyup 100%. I've fallen into the trap of "well he's not THAT bad" or "well he's not like my abusive ex" so many times before with lvm and put up with things I shouldn't have because it wasn't the worst thing in the world. It doesn't have to be terrible and the worst thing ever 24/7 in order for you to leave. You can leave for any reason at any time, the person you're with doesn't have to be awful for you to expect and want more for yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 11:36 PM |
| 25 | Welp! Now the incels on a famous greentext posting website have found us. RIP mods’ inboxes 😭I’m not listening to anything coming out of anyone’s mouth after using slurs to be edgy anyways so | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 05:13 PM |
| 112 | [Mildly Trending] /r/FemaleDatingStrategy - Female Dating Strategy (+559 subscribers today; 140% trend score)Whenever people shit on this sub it always seems to backfire lmao. Thanks for the publicity girl | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 11:34 PM |
| 437 | What Dominique Sisley (Vice) said she was writing about FDS vs. what she actually wroteRight? Like this genuinely really pissed me off because she completely dishonestly acted like she was curious about the sub to write a piece on it. Don’t lie to get your information and act like you’re doing one thing and then turn around and do another. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 02:44 AM |
| 12 | What kind of twisted thinking is this? „If Sex Work wouldn‘t exist, men would be even more violent to women“ I‘m so tired of this BS that libfems spread to justify exploitation of women to „prevent“ more violenceOf course because we all know men have exactly zero control over themselves /s. Stop taking the blame away from men for being violent and assaulting women, this is the exact same rhetoric of “Well if women didn’t dress a certain way, men wouldn’t assault them”. Sex work being legal does not mean that men would be less violent towards women just like women being covered head to toe would not make men assault women less. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 02:40 PM |
| 76 | Don’t provide him with the blueprint of your “dream man.” You’re giving someone the roadmap to hurt you or another unsuspecting woman. Notice how he instantly backpedaled trying to shape his answer to mirror what I might be looking for? Nope. Not telling you lol. Blocked.Exactly. These men are manipulators and know how to work codependent and people-pleasing women to their advantage by using these pity seeking lines. Any time a man says he “deserves a chance” in relationships or really in any situation, run far away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 07:28 PM |
| 342 | Don’t provide him with the blueprint of your “dream man.” You’re giving someone the roadmap to hurt you or another unsuspecting woman. Notice how he instantly backpedaled trying to shape his answer to mirror what I might be looking for? Nope. Not telling you lol. Blocked.I stay away from any man that says “give me a chance”, especially after you’ve told him you’re not interested or you won’t click. Already not respecting your boundaries off the bat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 07:16 PM |
| 6 | How To Avoid The “Nice Guy”Yup. My ex was the same way, I never saw it in the beginning but halfway through the relationship he started with incel rhetoric about how it was “unfair” that his women friends didn’t want to date him and how he wasted his time with them because he “deserved a relationship”. Bonus points if they go off about women dating “the wrong guys” lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 04:47 PM |
| 20 | How To Avoid The “Nice Guy”I would add another red flag is complaining about being “friendzoned” in the past or how women “broke his heart” by not wanting to date him. These men have huge entitlement issues, and usually will complain about how they “deserved” a relationship with a woman they spent any time with or treated like a human being. They also usually can’t take no for an answer or take a hint and repeatedly harass a woman about their “feelings towards them” until she tells them to fuck off and then he’ll say he’s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/21 03:29 PM |
| 15 | @tblizzy on Tiktok comparing how her message was received vs how an identical message said by a man was received.Yup. Women are always too loud, too harsh, too mean, etc when speaking about male depravity and women’s issues at the hands of men. I absolutely love the amount of men saying that she was “yelling” lmao when tf did she raise her voice throughout this entire video?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 09:20 PM |
| 82 | I've noticed that a lot of women here have toxic mothers. While it's true that mothers are often unfairly scapegoated for all of society's woes, it's important to remember that mothers also socialize their children to perpetuate patriarchy.Great post, this isn’t talked about enough. A huge red flag for me too is a man defending his moms terrible behavior especially towards his partner. Emotionally incestuous is a great way to put it- these women use their sons as replacement boyfriends. Too many times I see narc mothers demanding children from their sons partner’s, expecting them to conform to their lifestyle, or pushing their boundaries and the men saying absolutely nothing about it. If a man puts his mommy above you, run. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 08:10 PM |
| 23 | Nothing says love and monogamy like a room full of naked ladies“Their testosterone isn’t holding them at gun point” lmao exactly. It’s so funny because men scream “not all men” and then turn around and claim that “all men” HAVE to look at naked women, watch porn, etc because they have ✨natural male urges✨ and can’t control themselves. Like wouldn’t you not want to stereotype yourselves as having zero control over your sexual urges? Why are men just okay with stereotyping all men as uncontrollable horny people with no self control and then complain when wome… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 04:49 PM |
| 129 | @tblizzy on Tiktok comparing how her message was received vs how an identical message said by a man was received.And all the men in the comments coming in to prove her point and thinking they did something lmao. It’s funny because most of the comments are like “he said it respectfully and wasn’t mean about it and you were being mean so that’s why people respected his opinion and not yours” like literally she wasn’t mean? She wasn’t disrespectful, she wasn’t yelling, she was stating her opinion and of course the men were like “this is too mean 😔” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 04:28 PM |
| 214 | Nothing says love and monogamy like a room full of naked ladiesIt literally makes no sense. And people will try to excuse it by making dumb metaphors about how your partner wanting to see naked women who aren't you is basically the same as wanting to try different foods or some dumb shit. The next time I hear some lvm or pickme talking about "I mean its like how you get sick of eating the same foods everyday, you're bound to want to try something else, it doesn't mean you don't find your partner attractive too!" I'm moving planets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 03:54 AM |
| 203 | NVM narcissist ex resorts to literal mail after 6 months no contactRight? My nvm narc ex couldn't be bothered to even text me during the day in the relationship but he could text and call when I finally dumped him and told him I needed time without contact. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 04:05 AM |
| 88 | Does anyone else find it so hard and cringey when reading other dating subs?Oh man the love language one is so accurate. I planned on making a post about that myself because its so annoying. "Love languages" are not an excuse for doing the bare minimum in a relationship, and if your partner wants you to do something, saying "its not my love language" is a shit response lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 11:40 PM |
| 66 | INCELS KILL. FDS DOES NOT.I seriously don't get the comparison of fds to incels. How are we bitter that we apparently can't get laid when we're choosing not to sleep with shitty men and choose to be careful about who we sleep with? Also last time I checked, literally no incel or incel sub is teaching men how to better their lives, be more confident, or be selective and careful with who you give your time and energy to. Everything on those subs is just complaining that they can't get laid and blaming women for all their p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 12:17 AM |
| 6 | Scrote Tropes Decoded Part IIII have no clue how you got the history buff one so correct, but you’re spot on. One of my nvm ex’s was a “history buff”, and you’re so right. They’re obsessed with the civil war for some reason and love the patriarchy. Bonus points if they’re obsessed with a second civil war occurring sometime in the near future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 04:45 PM |
| 225 | Don't let men play stupid.Strategic incompetence. Do not ever fall for this bs from men, they’re grown adults who can learn how to take care of themselves and not have the intelligence of a five year old. Women are not educators, therapists, or mothers for grown ass men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 08:58 PM |
| 105 | If You Don’t Stand Up For Yourself, Men Will Run All Over You"""Jokes""" about your boundaries from men are never jokes. You're absolutely right that they'll test the waters by "jokingly" suggesting things (going to strip clubs, screwing your friends, having threesomes, watching porn together, trying some gross ass fetish) in order to see how you react. Watch how defensive they get when you call them out for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 02:28 AM |
| 91 | This is what dating a scrote looks like. Pass.Thank you. While the woman in the tweet is probably right that lvm follow women for that exact reason while in relationships, I really don’t like that pickme attitude that women have. I don’t think they understand that they’re not special because some dumb gross guy doesn’t respect his girlfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 09:09 PM |
| 58 | People respond poorly to Gigi Engle’s newest Pro-Kink article on Instagram, and rather than self reflect, she comes for Redditors. Gets told about herself by some infamous Redditors. 💅“That thing you read on reddit doesn’t make you smart!” and neither does excusing misogyny and abuse by slapping the word “kink” on it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 09:02 PM |
| 14 | How to find out if he honestly watches porn or notOh Jesus I’m so sorry you have to deal with all of that, I can’t imagine having to coparent with that mess. That’s great you at least have a good man with you through it. It kills me the amount of people (especially “feminists”) who will call people prudes for being happy about ph taking videos down. There’s a huge overlap between porn-loving men, trumpies and maga boys, conspiracy theorists, and pedophiles who endlessly defend attraction to 18 year old based on “biology”. I’m not sure if the co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 05:21 PM |
| 118 | How to find out if he honestly watches porn or notPersonally I would ask him what he thinks of the recent pornhub thing with them taking down a bunch of videos and go from there. It at least was in the news fairly recently and wouldn't be super weird to bring up. If he says anything indicating he watches porn, maybe ask to clarify, and if he does, then goodbye. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 04:57 AM |
| 85 | If he walks faster than you in public, DUMP HIMYup. Not waiting for you to walk with them, not walking beside you, storming off without you in public when they're mad, leaving you in the dust when he sees someone he knows, refusing to walk with your or accompanying you in public when you ask him to. Its just rude inconsiderate behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 04:01 AM |
| 7 | The hard on that some redditors get to using women's equality as an excuse to beat women is cringe as fuck.lmaoooo the lack of personality is so true. So many men like this use eDGy hUMoR as a replacement for a personality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 12:33 AM |
| 37 | The hard on that some redditors get to using women's equality as an excuse to beat women is cringe as fuck.Yeah I’ve noticed the same thing. Or when they complain that people “can’t take their humor” or are “too sensitive” about it. Usually the “humor” is just straight up hate speech | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 10:27 PM |
| 196 | The hard on that some redditors get to using women's equality as an excuse to beat women is cringe as fuck.I genuinely feel so uncomfortable around these edgy “jOkeS” that revolve around beating women. It’s just deep seated misogyny lying directly beneath the surface of dark “humor”. I really don’t trust any man that says they have a “dark” sense of humor. It’s usually just a hatred of minority groups. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 08:24 PM |
| 7 | Rejecting porn use is apparently "antifeminist"😂Right? I’m so sick of seeing this dumbass argument. Reading erotic content is not remotely the same as watching women be used for their sexuality on screen. There’s zero chance of watching a woman possibly being raped, drugged, or trafficked in erotic novels. There’s literally no real person there who could possibly be abused in the process. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 04:55 PM |
| 7 | What? Nah, sis needs to run away from him she deserves better.Yeah I’ve never been sure if it was the lack of self awareness or being insecure themselves and trying to make their gf jealous. I’ve had so many emotionally abusive men do this dumb shit to get a reaction out of me and then blame me for reacting. Now if a guy I’m interested in even mentions a woman is hot, I’m out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 03:36 PM |
| 14 | What? Nah, sis needs to run away from him she deserves better.Why do men think openly talking about what women they find attractive or who they’d fuck in front of their girlfriend is okay? I genuinely don’t get it. I couldn’t imagine even telling my partner that I find some guy hot that isn’t him. I’ve dated hvm who would never dream of doing that either and knew how shitty it was. All the nvm I’ve know have done this though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 03:10 PM |
| 16 | Out of curiosity, what’s your experience with this?If you want to make the first move go for it, but I’m not personally for it myself. I’ve seen it explained really well on another post here how if you make the first move on a man, he’s not as interested in you as he would be if he had to make the first move himself. He’s more likely to settle for you because you’re there and you like him, and even if he’s not crazy about you he’ll settle for you anyway since you showed interest. If he makes the first move, he’s not settling for you because you’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 09:00 PM |
| 16 | Most Toxic SongsBreakeven by the script. The script is alright and I like some of their songs but that one always bothered me. I see a lot of men songwriters using this trope of “my girlfriend broke up with me and now she’s happy and I’m not so its not fair” like okay good for her? Women are allowed to move on from you and be happy even if you’re still upset. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 05:29 PM |
| 3 | FDS wisdom to keep in mindYeah. Her tiktoks radiate the best energy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 03:43 PM |
| 301 | She thought this was cute and quirky, but this made my stomach drop.Oh ew. Idk why this is remotely cute to post. “When he was a grown ass man I was a literal child” like yeah that’s not a good thing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 06:24 PM |
| 5 | FDS women don't have high standardsRight. It’s so hard to figure out men’s stance on porn because if they even get a sense you don’t like it there’s a chance they’ll lie lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 05:06 PM |
| 9 | FDS women don't have high standardsTrue, those are good ideas I hadn’t thought of. I’ve also considered possibly bringing up pornhub deleting a lot of their videos and asking what he thought about it. I think that would be pretty telling too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 04:56 PM |
| 15 | FDS women don't have high standardsPersonally I’d pretend I liked porn and would ask him what kind he watches. If he says anything other than “I don’t watch porn”, goodbye. I know it’s deception but I literally don’t know how else to get a man to honestly answer that question. If I start with not liking porn, there’s a chance he’ll lie about watching it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 04:30 PM |
| 10 | BEWARE the 24 yr+ man who has never been in a relationship but has dated aplenty.Everything you mentioned here is spot on. Another red flag that I thought of while reading this is when a man has apparently been single his entire life because "women didn't give him a chance or like him back". The "he can't get into a relationship/keep one for long" part was spot on for my nvm narc ex. He would CONSTANTLY lament, while in a relationship with me, that no woman ever gave him a chance, it wasn't his fault and he did nothing wrong, he was a giant victim because no girl paid attent… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 06:12 AM |
| 69 | FDS women don't have high standardsokay goodbye then lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 05:46 AM |
| 175 | FDS women don't have high standardsIts insane to me how many people will consider the no porn rule to be too harsh or unrealistic. People look at me like I'm crazy when I tell them I won't remotely consider dating someone that currently watches porn. I wouldn't even consider staying in a relationship if he promised not to or that he'd stop. Its an automatic deal breaker. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 03:24 AM |
| 108 | Do women have bad taste in men, or are men just terrible people?Yep. "Nice guys"/incels/MRAs all have that attitude. They claim all women go for abusive assholes when they should've gone for them, such obviously nice guys /s. They're just pissy that women don't pay attention to them and they feel entitled to a relationship, so they shit all over women no matter what relationship they get into, and if it happens to be an abusive one they blame the woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 12:01 AM |
| 37 | Men's poor logic with sex.I’m right there with you on the hatred for the “it’ll strengthen your relationship” mantra. This is more dumbass gaslighting bs for women to get them to drop their boundaries. If ogling other people and putting your sexual energy towards someone who’s not your partner really strengthens your relationship, then do you I guess, but usually this advice is pushed on women who’ve already expressed that it makes them uncomfortable. I see a lot of relationship “gurus”, coaches, and therapists telling w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 08:37 PM |
| 168 | Men's poor logic with sex.“He comes home to me!” means literally nothing after eye fucking every woman on the street, going to strip clubs, watching porn, buying Onlyfans, etc. He’s only coming home to you because he can’t come home to them lmao. I also really hate the internalized misogyny of women saying things like “that’s why your man is in my dms/that’s why your man is unhappy” or really any condescending comment about other women having boundaries regarding porn, strip clubs, ogling other women, etc. Women who don’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 07:14 PM |
| 13 | Potential Red Flag QuestionsANY question that feels way too personal off the bat, especially what went wrong in your previous relationships and what they were like (I understand this is a fine question to ask someone when you’ve gotten to know them, but definitely not sooner than that). A lot of narcs use this question to find out what you do and don’t like in relationships and will use this to lovebomb you in the beginning and then tear you down with later. Narcs also tend to ask very personal “getting to know you questio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 06:19 PM |
| 29 | Discussing feminism/women's issues with menAgreed. My nvm ex used to get annoyed when anything feminism related was brought up. Stay away from men who get defensive or angry at conversations about women's issues or when women share their negative experiences and emotions towards men. Also avoid any man that brings up "false rape accusations" ever. Its all misogynistic anger towards women who demand respect for themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 09:16 PM |
| 16 | Is it me or every "relationship guru" is like telling women to stop annyoing their bfs?Yup. My friend is studying to be an actual relationship therapist now and she hates these random people who have no license or degree and call themselves life coaches and shit. They have zero experience or education and can say literally whatever they want and claim it’s true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 08:42 PM |
| 44 | Is it me or every "relationship guru" is like telling women to stop annyoing their bfs?Oh my god yes, I actually made a post about this a while back on relationship coaches catering to men in any and all situations. I’ve seen an especially terrible increase in women relationship coaches who repeatedly tell other women they should throw out their boundaries and just get over porn usage, strip clubs, ogling other women, etc because it’s “natural”. A lot of them cater to men and tell women they’re insecure and to “introspect about why their boyfriends behavior bothers them” because i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 07:58 PM |
| 85 | Men join the party realizing they have given themselves mental illness!!! (But keep gaslighting each other that everything’s ok and it’s all normal)Dude it’s scary how much these men will defend child porn drawings like it’s their job. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 07:15 PM |
| 408 | Just witnessed some really barfy bs in the wild"My boyfriend and I both leered at a woman minding her own business who happened to be wearing a skirt. Then we decided to go out of our way to physically follow her and perv on her again. This was a wonderful and not creepy or misogynistic at all bonding experience for us that we still bring up for some reason." Everyone in the comments: "rElaTiONsHIp gOaLS <3" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 05:12 AM |
| 93 | She’s 18 and he’s 23Any comparing you to another woman or asking you to change your appearance in any way is automatic LV behavior. I feel so bad that she's so young and already dealing with this shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 02:12 AM |
| 32 | PSA. That LVM/NVM does not deserve any space in your thoughts.Exactly why you don't reply to troll messages from lurkers or neg comments from men generally. The only thing they want is an angry reaction to boost their fragile ego. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 12:40 AM |
| 94 | Girl posts about not liking her boyfriends hentai habit, gets flamed in the comments for being apparently insecure and jealousIf I've learned anything from looking at posts on relationship subs, its that no woman is allowed to be uncomfortable by or have any negative feelings towards what their boyfriends are doing regarding sex or porn, and if she does she's abusive, insecure, controlling, and jealous. Honestly posts like these remind me that I'm allowed to feel uncomfortable with anything and set whatever boundary I like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 11:12 PM |
| 43 | What is something a man did that he thought was cute and romantic but was gross and insulting?Giving me wet willies was his "lOvE LaNgUaGe", even when I asked him repeatedly to stop. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 09:45 PM |
| 13 | Key difference between LVM & HVMAnd it doesn't matter if he considers what he did to be not that bad or not a big deal. It matters how it affected you. Don't ever accept the bs blame-shifting lines of "you're too sensitive", "it wasn't that bad", "it was just a joke", "my friend/ex/family doesn't mind when I do it", "it was only once", "I didn't know!" (after several times of asking him to stop). Another blame-shifting move to be weary of is when you heavily imply, or say in a slightly joking tone that you don't like something… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 06:08 PM |
| 144 | Yes porn indeed hates womenI literally read that sentence with my mouth open. Like oh, thank god the people who make teenager porn don't discriminate! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 11:38 PM |
| 2 | This is how it's supposed to be?!Congrats! Posts like these always give me hope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 03:31 AM |
| 142 | Since you joined FDS, what are the ‘pink-flags’ or little LVM behavior you started picking up on that you didn’t notice before or would let slide?100%. Even if its not rage directed toward you or being angry at something you did, its *exhausting* to live with someone who has no emotional regulation and can't manage to not lose their shit at everything. Its awful to have to walk on eggshells and predict the next meltdown because his laptop isn't working for five seconds or a restaurant is booked. Usually men like this also get wildly offended or will refuse to hear it when you dare mention that his anger bothers you. I can appreciate that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 12:14 AM |
| 54 | This is not really about dating, but it reminds me of FDS cause of the fact that its a women-only space. Reddit doesn't get it, and think its misandry when its not. This is not a debate sub. Its our space to be ourselves and be safe.Yup. I always thought I was too harsh when I'd unfollow exs on social media and delete our pics immediately after a breakup. Its fine to remove someone you no longer want contact with completely from your life, and that counts for social media as well. They also don't have to have done something terrible for you to go no contact, you can for whatever reason to protect your peace of mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 09:22 PM |
| 25 | It doesn’t have to be terrible 24/7 in order for you to leave.Yes same! I always thought "well he's not as bad as my ex" too meanwhile my ex was terrible as well so I compared current boyfriends to a bare minimum standard. And that's a good observation, a lot of men lovebomb in the beginning and then throw bread crumbs at you when you complain about the abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 09:17 PM |
| 76 | Valentines Day disappointmentThat sounds incredibly transactional and I'm sorry you have to deal with that. You shouldn't "have" to plan anything on a day when your boyfriends supposed to show his appreciation for you, just because he took you on a date earlier (something he should've done anyway). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 07:26 PM |
| 39 | It doesn’t have to be terrible 24/7 in order for you to leave.Yep for sure. I always had the same mentality too until recently. Its okay to leave for your peace of mind even if what the person is doing isn't intentional. That was also a wake up call for me when I wasn't being a great friend myself and people cut ties with me. At the end of the day everyone has to do whats best for them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 07:23 PM |
| 59 | Car dealership allows men from general public to write obscene and sexual comments about female employee. You can literally be just doing your job and the LVM will gather to be disgusting.I really hate how women commented this disrespectful shit as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 03:37 PM |
| 295 | This is how we arrived hereAll of these lines sound like they came from rapists. Also the line about the mascara, so many men find women upset/crying/in distress to be attractive because they have some weird savior complex and think they or their dicks can make them better. It’s really gross how many men see women being in distress or upset as an opportunity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 01:37 AM |
| 14 | Realizing that I’m lean towards having an avoidant attachment style after being hurt so bad by past relationships....how should I attempt to date if I’m too scared of being hurt?Yeah I’ve wondered the same thing. Like back in my pickme days I was very anxiously attached, but after working through that and getting help for it I’m definitely avoidant. You’re right though, it does honestly feel like an improvement. I’m not worried about relationships and men anymore which takes the anxiety out of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 03:03 AM |
| 41 | Realizing that I’m lean towards having an avoidant attachment style after being hurt so bad by past relationships....how should I attempt to date if I’m too scared of being hurt?I used to be very anxious, but I think more now avoidant. At least in terms of how I feel towards men and dating generally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 02:29 AM |
| 21 | Has the FDS-mindset ruined (some) music for anyone else?Most Ariana grande songs lol, I think she’s talented but there are so many pickme anthems. Most love songs too tbh, and any songs written by women pining over men or talking about how much they want them. Also almost all breakup sad songs written by men about some woman who rejected them or dumped them, I can’t help but feel the guy is full of bs and the woman probably got sick of it and left. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 03:08 PM |
| 14 | If dating apps aren't working for you and you don't feel like you'll ever be enough, read this.Thank you for posting this, it was beautifully written and you sound like an amazing person. I see nothing wrong with using OLD, some people find great people, but I’m done with it personally. Even if you don’t meet up or hook up, the conversations are bland, there’s almost always some type of negging/manipulative bs going, and OLD can be a playground for narcs/nvm who won’t always seem that way at first. I honestly don’t want to put any effort in either. If the right guy shows up irl, great, bu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 03:05 PM |
| 12 | The Peter Pan “momma’s boy” is a Narcissist tooNever read anything so accurate. And don’t be fooled into thinking that a man can’t be a narc if he’s nice to or seems to respect his mother. He can treat her okay to her face and still have deep resentment and anger towards her while also expecting every woman he dates to be mommy. My nvm narc ex could get along with his mother, but was a misogynist with a giant madonna whore complex who also continuously prioritized his mother over me and bordered on a flirtatious relationship with her. Run if… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 03:35 PM |
| 15 | The whole TikTok account is her SO saying “Bitch, what’s for dinner?” And she gets mad at people in the comments 🙄Right? Even if it was a joke, I will never tolerate that level of disrespect from a man. It’s crazy how nvm will throw that word around and even call women that to their faces as a joke, like it’s not a blatant misogynistic slur that literally means female dog. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 11:37 PM |
| 9 | INCELS and guys with anger issues need to read this. Your inceldom is not an excuse to unleash your abuse while calling it "the red pill rage"Yes, you’re completely right, it’s a respect thing. I remember at one point having a conversation with my ex where he told me he literally thinks everyone’s an idiot compared to him until they “prove to him otherwise” 🙄. He would rage at his coworkers and told me that all of them were idiots except for him apparently. It’s definitely an ego and respect problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 11:22 PM |
| 20 | INCELS and guys with anger issues need to read this. Your inceldom is not an excuse to unleash your abuse while calling it "the red pill rage"Thats a very good point, I’ve honestly never thought of it that way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 09:38 PM |
| 31 | INCELS and guys with anger issues need to read this. Your inceldom is not an excuse to unleash your abuse while calling it "the red pill rage"I agree with the misdiagnosing or borderline in women frequently. I’ve seen a lot of women get that diagnosis incorrectly put on them after they’ve left or are in the middle of abusive situations. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 08:51 PM |
| 14 | INCELS and guys with anger issues need to read this. Your inceldom is not an excuse to unleash your abuse while calling it "the red pill rage"Honestly he probably would lol. Maybe not his boss, but absolutely coworkers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 08:48 PM |
| 49 | DO NOT SHARE YOUR TRAUMA: Men will turn your pain into entertainment, or a way to get another woman.Exactly. Or if they’re narcs and/or manipulative, they’ll use your trauma against you. Men like that are infamous for getting you to open up about your insecurities, things that bother you, past trauma, etc and then proceed to do the exact things they know will hurt you and then turn it on you when you complain. I used to also think that opening up about myself was a bonding experience or it was a good thing to be so open. Don’t share literally any sensitive information with men you don’t know w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 05:16 PM |
| 93 | INCELS and guys with anger issues need to read this. Your inceldom is not an excuse to unleash your abuse while calling it "the red pill rage"YUP. My ex used to have fits of rage, lose his temper, slam doors, give the silent treatment, yell, and throw tantrums. When I brought this up as problematic, guess who’s fault it was. I don’t do anger issues with men. I struggle with mental health as well, but that’s not an excuse to terrify people and rage at them. “You made me mad”, “Well I cant help it when you say/do that”, “You know I have a temper”, “If you wouldn’t have done that I wouldn’t have gotten angry” is not an excuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 05:03 PM |
| 19 | ALWAYS GIVE MEN LESS THAN WHAT THEY ASKED FOR AND THEY WILL WORK TWICE AS HARD TO GET ITYep. You don’t sound jaded, and if you are I guess I am too at this point lol. I keep looking at success stories here to keep myself positive, but it’s hard. At this point, I don’t try. I don’t do OLD, don’t talk to guys first, I just do me. If someone good comes along, great, but I’m done trying to make it happen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 11:34 PM |
| 41 | ALWAYS GIVE MEN LESS THAN WHAT THEY ASKED FOR AND THEY WILL WORK TWICE AS HARD TO GET ITRight! It is a second full time job that I don’t need in my life. It feels like I have to work to be respected and be two steps ahead of someone and I’m not for it. You’re right, there’s so many lvm and even some lvm may entertain this for a while because they like the chase and then drop you when you get comfortable. It’s not worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 10:43 PM |
| 68 | ALWAYS GIVE MEN LESS THAN WHAT THEY ASKED FOR AND THEY WILL WORK TWICE AS HARD TO GET ITExactly. I saved it too for in case, but like you said I’m discouraged and exhausted with this. And you’re right- you have to do it constantly with every guy and for what? For me to teach some guy who may or may not respect me to respect me? Nah. If you like me, act right. I’m not playing this weird power game to try to get you to act right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 10:12 PM |
| 198 | ALWAYS GIVE MEN LESS THAN WHAT THEY ASKED FOR AND THEY WILL WORK TWICE AS HARD TO GET ITYep. Advice like this, although it probably works, makes me so sad. I don’t want to do any of this in order to find a quality guy. Ideally I wouldn’t have to play these dumb games with a guy if he was really a hvm. I think this advice works for men who enjoy chasing a woman instead of really getting to know her. I don’t want to pursue a guy where I feel like I have to do things to train him to respect me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 09:48 PM |
| 25 | What in the pickmeisha hell is this clownery? The only thing I’m growing are my plants 🌱🪴You can grow together while he learns to wipe his ass | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 09:15 PM |
| 44 | What in the pickmeisha hell is this clownery? The only thing I’m growing are my plants 🌱🪴Exactly. This tweet would’ve made more sense if it said normalize not marrying specifically for money or expecting your husband to be rich. Financial stability should be a normal expectation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 09:15 PM |
| 3 | What Red Flags Have You Ignored That Later Became the Reason You LeftNot long at all, it was way way too soon. Like within a couple weeks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 08:50 PM |
| 50 | The audacity. (Found this on another sub)From now on I’m living my dating life by that rule lol. I’ve been confused too many times as to whether something was a compliment or not, which usually means it isn’t | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 07:41 PM |
| 157 | The audacity. (Found this on another sub)“You’re not my type but I’ll go for you anyways” is not a compliment lmao. I hate it when men neg by using that line. “I’m actually surprised I’m going for you cause I never go for women like you.” Like dude that’s not flattering and obviously a neg | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 06:52 PM |
| 64 | What object are women today? Art... but that's ok because his wife is a masterpiece. /sarcasm She is not an equal human, but a piece of art to look at.Exactly. Sure it’s natural to find someone attractive, keep it to yourself, and move on with your day. It’s not natural to consistently ogle women because “eVeRy WoMaN iS aN iNdIvIdUaL woRk of aRt” and use women as sex objects for marketing. “It’s natural” is not an excuse for not being able to control yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 03:25 PM |
| 82 | What object are women today? Art... but that's ok because his wife is a masterpiece. /sarcasm She is not an equal human, but a piece of art to look at.Yeah no. Men will say things like “women are like works of art because they’re just so wonderful to look at” and think that it’s some kind of compliment like they’re not still describing a woman as an object to ogle. Doesn’t matter if you call her “art”, art is still a thing to look at and not a human being. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 03:17 PM |
| 7 | By that logic. The one holding the ring is the one doing the trappingWhoops *disrespecting lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 07:44 AM |
| 28 | Another way of saying 'I like women that are insecure because as a man " I cannot handle having a women that is beautiful and know it on social media or in life ". What is sad is that many girls have been told this lie that they don't seem to see anything wrong with it . (SWIPE TO SEE COMMENTS )Right? I can’t stand the “I don’t like it when girls wear makeup line” like first of all no girl that wears makeup cares, and if your girlfriend is spending time on her appearance, why not compliment her instead of shitting on her? What’s so bad about makeup lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 06:24 AM |
| 43 | Another way of saying 'I like women that are insecure because as a man " I cannot handle having a women that is beautiful and know it on social media or in life ". What is sad is that many girls have been told this lie that they don't seem to see anything wrong with it . (SWIPE TO SEE COMMENTS )Yup, because they can’t date the Instagram models and online women so there’s no threat to their security or egos. But when they actually date a woman in real life, they have to make sure she’s not too confident or getting too much attention or else there’s a threat she’ll leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 06:21 AM |
| 24 | By that logic. The one holding the ring is the one doing the trappingExactly. I could never put my finger on why these jokes bothered me because I always got told I was overthinking it, but that’s it- it’s just finding humor in blatantly disrespecting your partner | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 06:14 AM |
| 87 | Another way of saying 'I like women that are insecure because as a man " I cannot handle having a women that is beautiful and know it on social media or in life ". What is sad is that many girls have been told this lie that they don't seem to see anything wrong with it . (SWIPE TO SEE COMMENTS )I’m always real weary of men that have this “women who show off their appearance/post on social media are shallow and egotistical” mindset. Men like this usually also hate it when a woman puts a lot of money and effort into her appearance and call her shallow for it as well. It reeks of insecurity and screams “I can’t get a woman who’s confident and puts effort into herself so I’m going to bash every woman that does”. You’ll hear these types of men praise women who don’t post, don’t wear makeup,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 06:07 AM |
| 53 | What Red Flags Have You Ignored That Later Became the Reason You LeftHim telling me flat out he was a messed up person and had done bad things in the past (my former little pickme heart thought I could cHaNgE HiM), not even calling me when I was sick in the beginning of the relationship despite him dropping hundreds of dollars on gifts when he was lovebombing me, ex’s were crazy apparently, saying I love you way too early, telling me his mom needed to approve of me or we couldnt date, aggressive temper out of nowhere, kept in contact with old hookups, incessantly… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 03:41 AM |
| 268 | By that logic. The one holding the ring is the one doing the trappingFor the life of me I don’t get this whole “my wife is my ball and chain”, “I hate my wife”, “marriage is a trap” bs like bro just don’t get married then problem solved. No forced you to propose | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 08:24 PM |
| 38 | The teachings of LVM 🤡I feel like all nvm/lvm feel this was but will never admit it but then get mad when we say men are trash | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 08:19 PM |
| 128 | LVM wanting other men to participate in their LVM behavior. Disgusting.Right 💀she wouldn’t touch your ass with a hundred foot pole. “You’d have to understand that I would literally have zero choice but to cheat on you” goodbye lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 05:42 PM |
| 13 | Is this just an American thing?Agreed. It took me 25 years to realize I really don’t want to get married and I really don’t want kids. I don’t think I ever wanted either, but I just figured that’s what you were supposed to do and never considered if I wanted it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 05:09 PM |
| 375 | LVM wanting other men to participate in their LVM behavior. Disgusting.I hate it when they say things like “oh so you’re telling me you wouldn’t cheat if insert whatever celebrity/person they find hot was right in front of you?” Like somehow every single person on the face of the planet loses every bit of self control and forgets they’re in a relationship when someone attractive is in front of them. It’s also not a “pass” to cheat if a wildly attractive woman or your dream woman is in front of you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 05:00 PM |
| 37 | Is this just an American thing?I think it’s a thing society and men just tell women tbh instead of it being specifically an American thing. A lot of women have shoved down their throats from a young age that marriage and children are an expectation instead of a choice, and that being married and having a family is what you should be doing if you’re a normal person. Plus I think dating men or having a bf is seen as a sign that you’re more desirable for one reason or another, and men use this ideology to shame women who are sin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 02:49 PM |
| 78 | Dont politely laugh for a man, if he's not funnyYup. Don’t crack a smile, don’t change your facial expression, just give them a blank look or walk away. Same goes for when a man’s giving you unwanted compliments or doing anything inappropriate that he deems normal. Women don’t owe men a smile or a laugh when they didn’t do anything worthy of it, and it does nothing but build up their egos and reiterate that it’s okay to act like that when women laugh to be nice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 04:43 AM |
| 12 | Cats, candles, wine and the golden girls??? SIGN ME UP 😍😍😍They’re so pissed off that strong women don’t care about them at all lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 02:36 AM |
| 218 | A summary of the Pickme: The Cool GirlBeing the Cool Girl is exhausting and not worth it. As a former pickme and Cool Girl, you lose yourself, your respect, your boundaries, and your standards for some guy who would chase another woman who doesn’t want him in a damn second. You put so much time and effort into being agreeable, molding yourself to their interests, being “down for anything” or “one of the guys” and adopt so many traits that aren’t yours to impress a lackluster guy. And the kicker is, after you do all that, that guy do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 01:08 AM |
| 9 | So when a person states a boundary that makes them uncomfortable, suddenly they’re controlling and insecure. Porn is cancer.So true. Every abusive guy I’ve dated has thrown this word around way too much. I’ve never even heard a guy use it the right way | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 03:47 PM |
| 10 | So when a person states a boundary that makes them uncomfortable, suddenly they’re controlling and insecure. Porn is cancer.Thank you like what kind of logic was that lmao💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 03:37 PM |
| 76 | I just read 85% of affairs start in the workplaceYeah same lol I see this a lot too. Then everyone calls the gf insecure and tells her that he’s allowed to have a female best friend | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 05:16 AM |
| 208 | I just read 85% of affairs start in the workplaceIt surprises me how many men really don’t believe in emotional affairs. I’ve heard men blatantly describe themselves in an emotional affair with some female best friend and not get why it’s wrong. “I mean yeah I tell her every detail of my relationship with my girlfriend and complain about my girlfriend to her and we text every single day and I tell her more things than I tell my girlfriend and go to her first for my problems. I don’t see the problem here.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 05:06 AM |
| 63 | Dispell the myth that LVM aren't smart enough to absolutely destroy MOST women's lives.Yup. I really don’t think a lot of women understand the depths of subtle manipulation, gaslighting, put downs, bad intentions, narcissistic traits, and misogyny that lvm/nvm have. They are smart, maybe not emotionally, but they know what they’re doing and like a con artist they’ve been doing it for years because they know it works. The biggest mistake a woman can make imo is thinking “Oh he didn’t mean that! I’m sure it was an accident.” in regards to bad or questionable behavior. It’s never acc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 12:11 AM |
| 33 | What do the ladies of FDS thing about this?Nope. I fucking love to cook and I will for people I like sometimes. But if I catch any whiff of a man feeling entitled to the time, effort, money, and servitude that comes with me cooking for him, goodbye. Any suggestion of “You should cook for me sometime!” “I’ll have to try your cooking out”, “So you’re gonna make me dinner right?” even as a joke is a huge no. It’s so entitled and already sets up the dynamic of me doing things for him because I’m a woman. Then they can go back and claim it wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 09:46 PM |
| 9 | FDS has ruined many songs for meYup. I used to think it showed emotional intelligence and sensitivity. Now I realize it’s a bunch of sadbois who won’t get over their high school girlfriend | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 08:53 PM |
| 32 | FDS has ruined many songs for meI think most sad breakup songs written by men are for sympathy points tbh. Half the time they’re just men bitching about how some woman dumped him or something. I don’t date any writer/poet/songwriter/etc for that same reason. Every guy like this I’ve dated religiously wrote about ex gfs and heartbreak while we were dating and I’m pretty sure they weren’t even true stories. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 03:12 PM |
| 6 | We TRULY don’t know the men behind OLD profiles! Take my LVX for example...I caught mine recently on a dating app using a fake name 🤪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 03:08 PM |
| 77 | FDS has been saying it all along and women are catching up. Men do not love women like women love men and that's why we need to start demanding more and holding back the energies we give out for free“when y’all describing the perfect woman or gassing up “pick me” h*s it’s for having an opinion that’s counter woman and disregards our whole experience/existence” THANK YOU. I’ve been trying to put into words how I hate it when men drool all over pick me women who enforce the patriarchy. They’ll say that she’s wife material, a “”real woman””, how women should act, a woman who knows what she’s talking about. Nah she just hates women too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 10:44 PM |
| 13 | This just in: dumb scrote thinks that feminism without equality and without centering men is as bad as a SUPREMACIST GROUP! We need a sister sub that just collects the darnedest things that NVM say.It’s funny to me because men so often equate women wanting to be free from the patriarchy and rid of patriarchal norms as the same thing as wanting a full blown matriarchy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 03:38 PM |
| 128 | Yes. We don't owe men anything.You see, with a dildo there’s no whiny man attached to it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 11:11 PM |
| 32 | It was bad from the start yet I still was not ready for the initials tattoo 😬😬Yeah I get what you mean. I do that for my friends sometimes but I would never demand that the guy is approved by me before I’d let them date is what I was saying. I think it rubs me the wrong way more when men say it than when women do because usually women look for asshole qualities and try to protect their friends from shit men, and when men say it it’s more of a “You have to prove yourself to my friends/family or we can’t date.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 04:14 PM |
| 195 | It was bad from the start yet I still was not ready for the initials tattoo 😬😬Yeah that’s a totally normal brother sister relationship to be kissing each other on the lips, sleeping in the same bed as adults, cuddling together and flirting with each other lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 03:30 PM |
| 188 | It was bad from the start yet I still was not ready for the initials tattoo 😬😬Ew I hate it when men say things like “My mom/friend/whoever needs to approve of you before we can date 🤪” like do you just let them choose who you date and why can’t you make that decision lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 02:37 PM |
| 112 | It was bad from the start yet I still was not ready for the initials tattoo 😬😬This has to be fake but if it’s not, this is exactly how I picture pickme women’s relationships when they brag about not caring if their man has a female best friend that he’s clearly in love with | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 02:34 PM |
| 23 | I find it really disturbing that this video has almost 100k likes and thousands of 20 something year old girls commenting about dating men 40+ ... why is this so normalized and glamorized and why did she think it was a good idea to post it on app mostly used by minors?!?I hate how this was posted on tiktok, so many young girls use this who may already have neglect or abandonment issues and this normalizes using older men to fix them instead of therapy or self help. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 02:56 AM |
| 31 | So often women blame their insecurity for a man's janky behavior100%. A lot of them hide feelings until you pry about it. I never feel bad or controlling for asking about details of a friendship or if there was any feelings involved. And you’re right, always trust your instincts. Idk if it’s intuition or some men make it obvious, but it’s so so so easy to tell when there were/are feelings involved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 02:52 AM |
| 123 | So often women blame their insecurity for a man's janky behaviorI will absolutely never be okay with dating a guy who has a female “best friend” who he’s had any type of attraction to, feelings for, romantic relationship with, etc. Doesn’t matter if it ended or she didn’t return the feelings, they were still there and I’m not messing with that garbage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 02:07 AM |
| 55 | Men and pickmes don't even care what kinda world they're creating for their kids.Absolutely disgusting. I hate it so much that women find this funny and indulge it, not giving a flying fuck about protecting other women and children and instead making it a joke and making any woman against it out to be a “rAdiCaL fEmIniSt” and a prude who hates other women. I would expect this behavior from men tbh, but it’s so sad and disappointing to see women do this shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 11:28 PM |
| 147 | This Man is a Rising British Rapper and Certain of His Mixtapes Have Charted in England. I Don’t Find This Funny.I guess this is a “joke” but literally why do so many unfunny male jokes revolve around hating women and trying to fuck with them or their life. There was nothing even remotely cheeky or silly about it, it was just flat out “Here’s a way to ruin your girlfriends life by eroding her sleep schedule”. Theres no joke or punchline lmao like where was the funny | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 04:42 PM |
| 7 | Men are just so gross.This is just sad on so many levels. I literally cannot imagine getting any feeling remotely close to euphoria from going to a damn strip club, or paying for some guy to touch me. It’s sad because this woman genuinely doesn’t give two shits about him, she’s getting paid to do what she’s doing. What she’s saying to him means nothing, what she’s asking him to do means nothing, how she’s touching him means nothing. She’s thinks he’s some guy who’s paying for a service, which he is. This post reads l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 03:40 PM |
| 27 | Poor Gent’s Mean Ol’ Wife Won’t Make Love to Him :( Ah, but Wait! His Post History Implies Mr. Sexless May Not be So Sexless After All 😱 Who Would’ve Thought?!?!Exactly 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 12:36 AM |
| 84 | Poor Gent’s Mean Ol’ Wife Won’t Make Love to Him :( Ah, but Wait! His Post History Implies Mr. Sexless May Not be So Sexless After All 😱 Who Would’ve Thought?!?!There’s so much wrong with this but it always irks me when men will say things about “woke” culture being toxic. Sure some people can be obnoxious, but the only people I see complaining about “woke culture” are usually racist, sexist old white men who can’t make unfunny offensive jokes anymore without getting called out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 12:02 AM |
| 183 | My truthful response to op. Now let’s watch it get downvoted by the rapists and pedophiles on Reddit giving him advice...Yeah like huh?? I swear I can’t with the lack of awareness of this post. “Idk why my girlfriends upset when I jerk it to other women and have e.d. and also call her body average.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 01:43 AM |
| 501 | My truthful response to op. Now let’s watch it get downvoted by the rapists and pedophiles on Reddit giving him advice...I can’t stand when men post these things and it just shows how little emotional intelligence and self awareness they have, and how little they care about their partner. “I get off to other women every single day and my partner for some reason now thinks I’m not attracted to her despite me giving her half assed compliments about how she’s “average” and not fat. I texted her while she was trying to sleep that I wanted to fuck and for some reason this made her mad. I can’t even manage to finish dur… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 01:31 AM |
| 71 | For the ladies who are dating... remember the sooner you cut him off, the less it will hurt. At the first red flag, block and delete.I used to think this advice was way too harsh and mean, and that maybe a red flag isn’t that bad and it doesn’t mean much, or red flags were all accidents or bad impressions. I had this mentality until I got knocked on my ass by a nvm and now I get it. This is nothing but accurate and you absolutely will pay for it if you ignore red flags. The same red flags you ignore will be the reason it ends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 12:06 AM |
| 202 | Connor McGregor allegedly spent $2.7m on this shit. Ladies. I just. No comment.I hate how this is supposed to be funny (I think). It’s more of this stupid, gross, misogynistic bro humor that he and his buddies can sit around and laugh at. And then criticize women who don’t find it funny and think it’s gross. And then go on to say women aren’t funny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 09:12 PM |
| 16 | The line of “I’m allowed to be attracted to other people!” that lvm/nvm use to excuse shitty behavior while in a relationship.Ew I got the same bullshit lines from my nvm ex, I’m so sorry you had to deal with that. No one should be comparing you to anyone, and its just blatant negging. I got told that even though we were in a relationship, he still “looks at women who look like they’d be a good time”. Like bruh not only was that terrible for me but so misogynistic and objectifying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 06:43 PM |
| 18 | Question from a total newbie here (to dating and to FDS)YUP. I thought I was crazy for noticing that, and no one really knew what I was talking about when I’d mention it. In every picture he just looked lifeless and unhappy, when he was angry and yelling his eyes were just black and dead, but the worst was during rough sex when he looked like he hated me. At one point I remember thinking literally, there’s nothing behind his eyes. It’s just empty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 05:43 PM |
| 42 | Question from a total newbie here (to dating and to FDS)I think it’s about control and power. A lot of depraved men get off on that. I know what you mean about the deadpan eyes though, it’s creepy as hell. I had one ex that enjoyed all of that shit, and I remember every time he just looked angry and dead inside. Like he never looked like he was enjoying having sex with me, he literally just looked livid or spaced out the entire time. It was terrifying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 04:51 PM |
| 216 | Gets one teeny tiny taste of objectification and immediately seeks out a female sub to tell his whole story and somehow thinks he ranks high enough to Personally Apologize for decades of misogyny. Comments all bowing at his feet.I guess it’s to get validation and attention, but I really don’t get the point of these posts. Like okay, so you now realize that women are objectified a lot? Like what we’ve been saying for years and you ignored? What exactly does he want out of sharing this revelation? What’s the point in posting it? Like that’s great he finally got it, but it comes off as disingenuous and braggy to post about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 08:59 PM |
| 208 | Woman writes to advice columnist about her husband’s inability to parent and gets told that she is the problem.Holy shit it’s not “micromanaging” or “taking the fun” out of parenting when you expect the father of your children to be able to dress your kids and feed them correctly. This just reads like another “coddle men and don’t ever criticize them” type post, where of course it’s not the mans fault that he’s literally doing the bare minimum incorrectly, and the woman has to fix all of his mistakes and not breathe a word about it because then she’ll be controlling or nagging. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 08:46 PM |
| 17 | Correlation between PickeMeism and childhood narcissistic abuseAgreed 100%. I love my parents but they both have narc traits and there was a lot of emotional neglect and abuse growing up. I developed a huge codependency issue, bad anxious attachment problems, people-pleasing skills, and got used to having to grovel for attention, respect and admiration. I dated two narc nvm, and the relationships mirrored my relationship with my parents growing up. Used to getting yelled at, thinking everything was my fault, having no confidence or self esteem, chasing him … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 04:54 PM |
| 96 | Can’t believe what I’ve seen in other subsRight? Before I found this sub I would go on other awful dating and relationship advice subs here and they were so toxic towards women. I was shocked to see that this sub was so criticized when the advice is so healthy for women. This was the one sub that didn’t spout “cOmMuNICATe” to women in obviously terrible relationships where their man is a child and incapable of doing the bare minimum. I felt like I was able to have boundaries here, even if they were uncommon ones on most subs (like no po… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 04:24 PM |
| 67 | The men (and women) in the comments are LOSING IT 😂From what I know of her she’s a “men’s rights activist” extreme pickme woman who has a tiktok account and a bunch of YouTube videos. One particularly awful video I saw was of her blaming assault victims for being “cowards” for not coming forward and how men falsely accused of rape are the real victims. I tried to watch a couple other ones but they were unbearable. It really sucks because I’m pretty sure she has a daughter as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 11:39 PM |
| 16 | This was a reply to a woman asking for help bc her boyfriend ogles half naked Instagram photos of a woman in her friend group and even subscribed to her OF where she posts sex videosExactly, I don’t think pickmes realize that when they say that it doesn’t matter if your boyfriend is imagining sleeping with every other woman. Like if he realistically had the choice between sleeping with you or every girl he constantly fantasized about from social media/onlyfans/whatever, I’m pretty sure he’s not going to chose you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 01:18 AM |
| 48 | This was a reply to a woman asking for help bc her boyfriend ogles half naked Instagram photos of a woman in her friend group and even subscribed to her OF where she posts sex videosI don’t get this mentality of “just because he ogles other women/watches porn/subscribes to OF of other girls who look nothing like you doesn’t mean he doesn’t find you sexy too!” Like that’s the point- if he’s with me he should find me sexy and not look at other women. Telling women that “He’s with you not those women, so it doesn’t matter that he used them to jerk off/ogle/pay money to see naked because he’s with you!” is terrible advice and idk how women don’t see the irony in statements like… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 08:34 PM |
| 8 | Why do men pm women of this sub to ask questions about things they could easily google?You’re right and it’s sad. It’s just more ploys to get attention. It’s funny how they can compare us to TRP and other such subs but we sure as hell ain’t in their pm’s harassing them lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 12:00 AM |
| 5 | Why do men pm women of this sub to ask questions about things they could easily google?Yup exactly, that’s why I won’t entertain any dumb “devils advocate” or hypothetical conversation game with men, they know what they’re doing. In my experience though whatever they’ve been playing devils advocate for was 100% their actual shitty opinion, they just didn’t want to say it because it would make them sound bad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 11:55 PM |
| 15 | Why do men pm women of this sub to ask questions about things they could easily google?Wow I knew there had to be a term for this lol. This makes sense, I’ve had so many men do this as well as of course play devils advocate, and I knew there was the same shitty motive of being a dick and trying to get attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 10:09 PM |
| 17 | Why do men pm women of this sub to ask questions about things they could easily google?Yeah one messaged me asking why I believe the friendzone isn’t a thing that exists. Like the fact that you clearly believe it exists makes me not want to argue with you at all lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 10:00 PM |
| 22 | Asking for advice on Reddit hurts and confuses womenI could’ve written this myself. Before I knew I was dating a manipulative, narcissistic, abusive, lying man in my last relationship, I felt the same way. CONSTANTLY feeling insecure, inadequate, jealous, paranoid, generally like garbage about myself and I had no clue why. The beginning of the relationship was so great and he was so so so obsessed with me. He was love bombing me of course, and when that ended I was devalued, and in this process, he ogled other women in front of me, including my f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 03:10 AM |
| 28 | Nice guys are just... 🤢Yup, that and going on about how a girl complained that she was single or couldn’t find a good guy, but wouldn’t date them. “She always talks about not finding a nice guy but wouldn’t date me, and obviously nice guy!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 01:18 AM |
| 108 | Nice guys are just... 🤢Any kind of language like “friendzone”, “she lead me on”, “I deserved a chance/the least she could’ve done was given me a chance”, “I spent time with her/listened to her and she didn’t give me a chance”, “we were friends for years and I deserved a chance” is an immediate huge screaming red flag to me. All of these men are white knights/nice guys with an entitlement problem and chase any girl that looks at them. Also, the friendzone isn’t a thing and doesn’t exist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 12:23 AM |
| 37 | Tell me again how porn doesn't cause brain damage and isn't intrinsically linked to paedophilia. 🤢Yup. It was extra disgusting and hurtful when I realized I wasn’t really the one he wanted, it was a girl who kept rejecting him for years who looked identical to his mother and acted just like her too. I didn’t look/act like mommy enough for him and he even told me that girl was his type and I wasn’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 08:33 PM |
| 64 | Tell me again how porn doesn't cause brain damage and isn't intrinsically linked to paedophilia. 🤢Oh they do. I dated a narc/nvm who had extreme mommy issues, and it didn’t stop in the bedroom. Shortly after this came out I noped out of there so fast. I realized after this, the only women he was obsessed with and dated looked exactly like his mother. It was the most disgusting and creepy thing I’ve ever witnessed. I don’t ever trust any man that “jokes” about or asks “what do you think of ___ fetish” anymore. They’re always serious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 08:15 PM |
| 66 | Tell me again how porn doesn't cause brain damage and isn't intrinsically linked to paedophilia. 🤢I would’ve literally called cps and left that fucking second if I saw the father of my child posting this, and ensured he never saw his child again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 08:12 PM |
| 71 | Thank God I have my ex husband as a reference to look out forI hate it when men are proud of anger issues. It’s not impressive that you told someone off or yelled at them, punched something, had a tantrum or beat some guy up in high school lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 08:10 PM |
| 78 | Someone here recommended drawing your ex and the reasons you left....I ran out of space.Why does every man that dresses like a 5-15 year old always cheat I swear 💀like who’s even cheating with them lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 05:23 AM |
| 87 | So that was a lieYeah that was an issue in my last relationship with a nvm. I’m not sure if it was just an effort to decrease my confidence and being a dick or the fact that he probably was cheating, but I think both lmao. I didn’t know why he would never post me when he looked like my ugly cousin compared to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 04:03 AM |
| 3 | What is an early sign of LVM behavior that makes you drop someone REAL quick?Yeah I think some are just completely clueless and lack emotional intelligence, but I do think others know exactly what they’re doing and it’s on purpose. I don’t think it’s too much effort for some of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 04:00 AM |
| 11 | What is an early sign of LVM behavior that makes you drop someone REAL quick?I think because it’s not an outright insult (most negs aren’t), but it’s subtle enough to make you question yourself. It sounds like a compliment if you don’t think much about it, which I think is the intention- to make you feel sort of bad but not bad enough to say something. “You look good, but your pictures don’t look as good!” Is what I think the intention is, but I could be wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 01:57 AM |
| 32 | Speaking factsRight 💀I dated a hvm once with a good paying job who never once said I was “high maintenance” or “too much”. My standards and expectations were never too high according to him and he was able to meet all of them and never complained. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 12:08 AM |
| 20 | What is an early sign of LVM behavior that makes you drop someone REAL quick?Yup like no thank you. I honestly don’t even understand the point in mentioning female friends or ex’s early on unless it’s triangulation/some weird thing to make you jealous. There’s literally no reason for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 12:07 AM |
| 52 | What is an early sign of LVM behavior that makes you drop someone REAL quick?Mentioning female friends/past gfs very early on, cancelling last minute (that’s a block and delete worthy move for me), any type of neg/backhanded compliment- the last date I went on he told me I “actually looked better in person than in my pictures”, mirroring behavior- asking you what you like before telling you their interests and then matching theirs to yours, talking about any kind of feminism related topics- usually fake woke bro shit, any sexual comment/compliment whatsoever, texting bac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 09:29 PM |
| 137 | Speaking factsShe is so damn right. And it’s funny how you’ll never hear a hvm who’s confident, successful, and secure in themselves call women derogatory names like “gold digger” or “high maintenance” for having normal standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 09:16 PM |
| 81 | Sounds like Jane has standards to me! Be like Jane :)I don’t get it when men get bent out of shape about their girlfriend not wanting to date a man with close female friends. That’s her boundary and she has every right to it. If you want to date a girl who has no problem with it, then do that, but don’t date a girl that doesn’t like it and then complain. If he’s really this upset about it, break up with Jane and date a girl with different boundaries then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 05:54 PM |
| 197 | Other relationships subs need a lot more of this energy. Inspired by horror stories being shared here.Before I found this sub I thought I was insane for thinking the advice on relationship subs was awful. Every piece of advice was “CoMmUnIcAtE” no matter how bad the problem was and advising people to just throw out their boundaries to coddle men. There were so many posts where I was like oh my god just dump him, and then the comments were like “People are so quick to say break up, it’s ridiculous”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 02:38 PM |
| 34 | Why even bother? Why render yourself paranoid for someone who clearly cares more about his own penis than you and your love? It’s not healthy. Girls. Dump any pornsick losers. They do not care about you.Of course it doesn’t make you feel secure cause it’s awful and a betrayal to you. Yes he is thinking all of those lewd sexual things about women who are not you, yes he is imagining sleeping with women who aren’t you, yes he is getting off to women who are not you. I’m not even sure what the question was here because the answers seem obvious. What else would he be thinking about watching porn? The weather? Like I don’t get how people can say “it’s just a fantasy you shouldn’t care”, or “it’s not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 01:50 AM |
| 10 | A guy I’m talking to just joked about being a psychopathRun. At the very, very (but unlikely) least he has an awful sense of humor. At the most, he’s telling you flat out what he is as a test. I know it sounds dumb, but psychopaths and sociopaths will often flat out tell you what they are at the very beginning or tell you some variation of how they’re a “messed up person” or how they’ve hurt people in the past. They do this intentionally as a test to see if you will believe them or not. If you don’t and you think it’s a joke or say “Oh no, you’re not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 09:48 PM |
| 220 | [Rant] Men are far more 'high maintenance' than any 'high maintenance' woman I've ever metI’m convinced “high maintenance” isn’t even a thing. It’s just a term men use to call a woman when they can’t live up to her standards and they’re mad about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 07:57 PM |
| 75 | Nailed it!! It’s their birth right to objectify and disrespect their partner. So stop being insecure and accept your mistreatmentYup same here. All of my ex’s ex gfs were crazy with “dEeP iSsUeS” and problems. When I left him and went nc, he sent a novel about how the relationship ended because of my insecurities. I gave him a laundry list of reasons why I was leaving before I did and none of them were that lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 07:40 PM |
| 223 | Nailed it!! It’s their birth right to objectify and disrespect their partner. So stop being insecure and accept your mistreatmentI’m convinced any time a man calls a woman insecure it’s either complete projection or he’s angry she called him out on his shit. I’ve never once heard that word used correctly from men and they say it so often to women who aren’t insecure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 06:35 PM |
| 10 | A household with a LVM father and a pickme mother is a terrible environment to raise children. So many people have unresolved childhood trauma from being raised in this dynamic.That’s awesome that your mom was so resilient, that’s really impressive to survive a family dynamic like that as well as a husband. That’s awesome you started therapy though, congrats on that! It takes a lot of knowing yourself to understand that you want to do better for yourself and not repeat those patterns. I think what did it for me in breaking the cycle was to first realize that my parents are deeply flawed themselves, and when you’re raised by parents with codependency issues, resentments… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 04:38 PM |
| 31 | A household with a LVM father and a pickme mother is a terrible environment to raise children. So many people have unresolved childhood trauma from being raised in this dynamic.God yes, I can’t stand it when I ask someone why they want kids and they respond with “It will enhance my life”. That’s not the point of bringing a whole other human being into your life, and I’m incredibly weary of people who think that way. Sure kids can be great, but if that’s your reason for wanting them, what’s going to happen when that kid doesn’t turn out the way you want? Kids are human beings with their own lives, they aren’t here to make yours better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 04:43 AM |
| 60 | A household with a LVM father and a pickme mother is a terrible environment to raise children. So many people have unresolved childhood trauma from being raised in this dynamic.Oh man I can’t upvote this post enough. Everything you said is 100% spot on. Unfortunately this was the exact environment I was raised in, and although I love my parents, holy shit did it mess up the way I saw relationships, left me with crippling self esteem issues, attachment problems, anxiety, depression, horrible people pleasing and ESPECIALLY man-pleasing problems, and so much more. I saw my mother become resentful, angry, bitter, and eventually verbally and emotionally abusive to me becaus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 04:33 AM |
| 9 | What in the living f*ck is this thread? 17yo gets slapped in the face during sex and "it sounds like he's a good guy"?!This is the most cursed sub I stg | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 02:24 AM |
| 33 | In my life, maybe two men have taken nice photos of me. The rest seem to be on some passive aggressive mission to make us feel awful about themselves.Oh my god I remember when I asked my ex to take ✨one✨picture of me once, and it was so blurry I couldn’t even really see myself correctly. I asked him to please take another one and he said no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 02:20 AM |
| 26 | Don’t be Weak PreyYup. Most people that haven’t experienced it don’t really get it I feel like, but you’re right, they look at you like you’re prey. I’ve seen that look in other men and now I stay tf away from it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 02:13 AM |
| 18 | Don’t be Weak PreyYeah I’m glad you got away from that. These dudes are straight up predatory and absolutely pick out vulnerable, unconfident or traumatized women. And you’re right- they look at women like they’re prey or a piece of meat. I remember the first time I even met my ex, he just stared, and stared, and stared, I don’t even think he cared if I saw. So goddamn unnerving, and I was left crying a lot during the relationship too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 12:28 AM |
| 47 | Don’t be Weak PreyAgreed. I used to think that maybe people were being dramatic when they talked about people having sociopathic stares and someone’s eyes being an indicator of who they are, but I believe it 100%. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 11:48 PM |
| 139 | Don’t be Weak PreyAll of these points are spot on. You’re so right about if you find yourself ruminating constantly about your relationship or how someone treats you, there’s something wrong and deep down you know it. I would add a couple things: Always, always, ALWAYS trust your intuition. It knows from the first couple encounters whether someone’s off or not. Even if you don’t understand why alarm bells are going off, leave if you hear them. Be aware of love bombing, know what it is and educate yourself on the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 08:44 PM |
| 44 | Can we talk about how conventionally unattractive men manipulate their way into dating a woman completely out of their league, and then destroy her self-esteem so she starts to believe this scrote is the prize when really she is.Then they’ll call you insecure throughout the entire relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 07:54 PM |
| 120 | It do be like thatIt’s so funny too because lingerie and nice bras and underwear cost so much money compared to a value pack of men’s underwear at walmart | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 07:48 PM |
| 3 | When you’re out of a lvm/nvm’s league, he will do anything to keep your self esteem low so you won’t know you can do better.Exactly, it’s so uncomfortable to listen to because it’s like dude if you’re apparently happy with me, why do you still have this weird sadboy attitude about girls not liking you back years ago? Like let it go if you’re in a relationship? I even told him after one of these monologues that “Well, you’re with me now so I guess it doesn’t matter.” And he just said “Yeah I guess...” like?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 05:47 PM |
| 124 | Hypersexualization of women in anime and why I won't deal with men who watch itIt’s disgusting, racist, and pedophilic that grown ass men enjoy watching sexualized stereotypes of children in their free time. I guarantee you any man who does this sexualizes young girls who “look like anime characters”, and I’ve even had the odd nvm comment on me looking like one (my face is very young looking and I had a certain haircut at one point that apparently resembled an anime character). It’s so gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 04:45 PM |
| 11 | When you’re out of a lvm/nvm’s league, he will do anything to keep your self esteem low so you won’t know you can do better.It’s always the unattractive ones, because the attractive ones don’t feel they have to do this dumb shit. I dated a guy very much in my league who was attractive and took care of himself, and he would never dream of doing any of this. It’s always the unattractive ones. Lol yeah that sounds fun for her, my ex always had sob stories about his evil ex’s so I wonder what he’s telling his new victim. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 03:02 PM |
| 13 | When you’re out of a lvm/nvm’s league, he will do anything to keep your self esteem low so you won’t know you can do better.Yup, read these things and educate yourself, no matter how awful and infuriating it is to read. So many awful behaviors of ex’s and nvm clicked in my head after reading these subs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 02:49 PM |
| 12 | When you’re out of a lvm/nvm’s league, he will do anything to keep your self esteem low so you won’t know you can do better.Lol did we date the same nvm? Mine would constantly lament that no girls liked him back like ever, he could never get a girlfriend, no one wanted to date him etc. He would also try to make me jealous by telling me that “slutty girls” were hitting him up on social media (in reality he messaged them), and how my friends hit on him (they did not). Mine knew he was not attractive but thought he had superior brain power and world knowledge so I guess that made up for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 02:48 PM |
| 32 | “for no apparent reason” yeah sureIve never heard a man say “she left me for no reason” when there was truly no reason for it. Either he knows what he did and is denial about it or completely refuses to take any responsibility. All of my ex’s past gfs left him for “no reason” too. After I left him, he said the same about me. There are always reasons. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 07:02 PM |
| 11 | Y'all, they literally don't stop 😂 I've already posted here a couple days ago with a screenshot from their sub about the rings people are posting 🖕Just...what? Buying a dream car is so damn impressive and a huge accomplishment. How tf is this even something to make fun of like they’re reaching so hard 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 06:21 PM |
| 45 | Scrolling through tik tok and all the top comments are saying to leave him and that this isn’t healthy or good for her. I am LOVING that we are telling the younger generations that they don’t have to deal with their porn obsessed boyfriends. 🥰“Not fair”- a man who knows damn well it’s fair and knows his ass is about to get exposed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 06:19 PM |
| 67 | Objectification and Physical CategorizationI hate the “you forced me to answer” like that’s any excuse for having zero emotional intelligence and being a dick | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 01:48 AM |
| 50 | Objectification and Physical CategorizationYup. It extends to things like tattoos, piercings, hair color, and style as well. Men are so boldly vocal about “their type” of woman or what they like in a woman and will have no problem telling you that even if it’s not what you look like at all. You’re a blonde? “I just really like brunettes. Are you ever going to dye your hair brown? Would you consider it? I just like brown hair.” You don’t have tattoos or piercings? “I really like body modifications on a woman. It’s a turn on. Are you ever … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 01:46 AM |
| 58 | In response to "10 things every wife should know" here a "10 things every husband should know" by yours truly...see how stupidly controlling it reads. I'd never understand how people can perceive something like this as normal when it's used against women.The first one oh my god so much yes. I dated a guy who partially wanted kids for the sole reason that his mother wanted grandkids. When I told him I wasn’t sure about kids, he said “Well she wants kids, so.” Then when we were hypothetically talking about kids, I told him if I was in labor it would be only him in the room with he doctors. This man said “Oh no my mom would want to be there.” I repeated my sentiment and he said “No, she’d want to be there. She’d make sure she was there.” Like okay … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 01:26 AM |
| 2 | He doesn't respect my opinion about porn and thinks getting coffee with a female coworker is okayHey, that’s really, really strong of you to assert those boundaries and that’s something to be proud of that you put you and your needs and boundaries first before his comfort, even if it meant ending the relationship. Those are COMPLETELY reasonable boundaries to have, and if he doesn’t agree then screw him. I wouldn’t be okay with any type of porn or my boyfriend getting coffee with any female coworker either. Any boundary you have is an important and valid one, and that’s awesome that you kno… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 08:57 PM |
| 21 | This was posted by a “woke” friend on fb 🤢🤢“Forgive quickly” shit I either don’t forgive at all or it takes a long time lol. You don’t have to forgive everything, and you sure don’t have to forgive quickly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 08:03 PM |
| 14 | I recently broke up with BF of 3 years. FDS helped me realize what his behavior really was. AbusiveI’m very glad you got out of that and that’s awesome that you realized it sooner than later. Never fall for the “you’re too emotional” line. The only people I’ve ever heard say that are abusers and gaslighters who don’t want to take responsibility for their words or actions. Don’t ever feel that you can’t feel a certain way about how someone’s treating you, and you always have a right to express that without them insulting you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 07:55 PM |
| 2 | Be very weary of pick me women and their narc/nvm boyfriends who will try to use you for triangulation.Yeah my friends bf was the same way, and according to her all of his ex’s were crazy and jealous. I feel bad that she didn’t see through this clearly bs line. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 03:35 PM |
| 3 | Be very weary of pick me women and their narc/nvm boyfriends who will try to use you for triangulation.100%. I hate the idea that men are incapable of doing anything to exacerbate pickme culture too, and usually their disrespectful behavior and triangulation tactics go unnoticed when they know what they’re doing. It’s unfortunate that a lot of pickme women won’t hold the accountable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 03:34 PM |
| 20 | The trope of the broody, mysterious, damaged, bad boy who deep down just needs to be loved by a woman and he’ll be saved needs to die.I actually never knew that. I didn’t go through YA phase so I never read any of them, but that seems even worse to target a teen audience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 03:21 PM |
| 71 | Don’t fall for the halo effect, girls! Looking at his face you may think Henry Cavill is the perfect man but unfortunately he has a cognitive dysfunction that makes him confuse rape with flirt! In conclusion, a rotten apple might still have shiny skin.I hate it when men make this dumb straw man argument about how they “can’t flirt/talk to a girl anymore” or they have to be “sO cAReFuL” about speaking to a woman. Like what exactly are you worried about if you’re not being a creep in the conversation? You’re going to say the weathers nice and a woman’s going to accuse you of assault? And also, why would you want to pursue someone further than them saying no? Like there’s your answer | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 01:53 PM |
| 76 | They use women to wank off and blame women for having feelings.Lmao right. Like if you’re really realizing you were a dick in the past and trying to change your ways, that’s good but keep it to yourself and don’t post it on reddit for brownie points lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 05:57 AM |
| 316 | They use women to wank off and blame women for having feelings.I hate these posts that are like “I used to think women were strictly fleshlights and didn’t understand they were human beings with emotions and brains, but I’ve had a revelation on my journey to self-improvement and now I know that I was maybe kind of mean. I am enlightened. I will now blame all of this on porn.” And the comments are like “Thats amazing you realized that king 😍” like dude fuck off lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 04:56 AM |
| 24 | Excuse me WHATI dated a guy who didn’t want me to use the shower when I was on my period six months into the relationship because it was “gross”. I guess the man had no knowledge of tampons and thought the shower would’ve looked like the elevator scene from the shining. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/21 02:40 AM |
| 19 | Joking “insults” are still insults and reveal an LVM. Name calling is never ok.Mine would constantly refer to himself as a badass and ask me, verbatim, “So how does it feel to date a badass?” Also he would bring up the one nice thing for me he did in the first few weeks of the relationship and tell me”You loved it when I did that. It was great. You loved it so much and were so impressed.” I mean, it was nice but not that great lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 04:37 PM |
| 75 | Joking “insults” are still insults and reveal an LVM. Name calling is never ok.Or if you tell them you really hate a nickname or a pet name and they continuously call you that. I told my narc ex I hated a certain pet name and found it annoying af, and guess what I was called for the entire relationship 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 05:59 AM |
| 76 | Porn is not cheatingCant stand the “porn isn’t cheating” mentality that so many men seem to have. You’re imagining yourself having sexual relations with another woman, just like you do with your s.o. Exactly how is that not cheating? And it would be one thing if it was just a quick thought in their mind, but they actively go out of their way to look up women who are “their type”, usually not what their s.o. looks like, and get off to a whole other woman. Who is not their s.o. So it wouldn’t be cheating if he was di… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 09:56 PM |
| 40 | Did anyone else see the bumble ad pretty much discouraging marriage and encouraging children out of wedlock?I’ve never understood this “”woke”” movement against marriage, especially from women. I get lvm not wanting marriage because that would mean commitment, so of course they don’t give a shit about marrying anyone, but why are women all of a sudden okay with not marrying but instead being a forever gf and acting like it’s a more logical move or something? I’ve talked to women like that who’ll say things like “Marriage is pointless and outdated these days, it’s literally a piece of paper. I don’t ne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 09:50 PM |
| 2 | Nosy family members and the ones that try to change youYeah you don’t have to listen to any of this. I think like other commenters said, she probably feels a bit insecure and thinks her way of living is superior so she has to “teach” you how to be like her. She might be coming at it from a place of wanting to “help” you, but that thought process is still misguided since there’s nothing wrong with your lifestyle, except she thinks there is. I think other women seem to think that if they’ve had sex more, earlier, had more boyfriends, or male attention… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 12:21 AM |
| 234 | The last time I dated anyone who wasn't my husband was 16 years ago, a man come over from spain (I'm mexican) just to see me and we didn't had sex, and now men think you don't need dates? Ok...I love it when men tell on themselves by making these tiktoks lol. He’s literally proving that men like this view relationships with women as transactional, and you shouldn’t put any effort into treating a woman well because she’s a sex object. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 09:04 PM |
| 275 | Angry scrote doesn't think he should pay for date he asked her out onLol good for her. I never understood this logic, if you’re asking someone to do something with you, asking them for their time and attention, why would you make them pay? It was your idea to go out and you’re asking them to do something with you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 08:53 PM |
| 31 | The marriage subreddit is filled with woman "bragging" about their husbands doing things they should already be doing. The subtext: Its only special because most men are irredeemable LVMs.I think you’re right. Like their husbands don’t know what an oven is but they’ll be posting about “He’s my hero 😍” like girl??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 07:51 PM |
| 229 | The marriage subreddit is filled with woman "bragging" about their husbands doing things they should already be doing. The subtext: Its only special because most men are irredeemable LVMs.Lol right? It’s even worse on mom subreddits and I’m convinced the bar is even lower there. Women will brag about their husbands changing a diaper at 2 am or making their kids food to eat. Like no one praises women for this cause it’s expected behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 06:59 PM |
| 8 | I’m so sick of relationship coaches who are women completely excusing male depravity.I was thinking about that the other day. I always thought I was weird as hell or just flat out wrong for thinking a lot of men’s behavior shouldn’t be tolerated in relationships but everyone else seemed fine with it or at least didn’t speak up about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 03:24 AM |
| 99 | You know you’re privileged when you ask your hinge matches “how many times have you been arrested” just so you can share your experience getting slapped on the wrist. Unmatched!That “Haha...” lmao. You either hurt his feelings or he knows damn well he has white male privilege and doesn’t want to agree with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 03:07 AM |
| 31 | Do men chase after women with specific occupations?Was just gonna reply the same thing. Any career where you’re helping others or taking care of people is attractive to narcs/nvm for the exact reasons you described. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 11:23 PM |
| 25 | I’m so sick of relationship coaches who are women completely excusing male depravity.“Coddle culture” is the perfect way to put it. Like why are we constantly telling men anything they do is just fine and women have to put up with it because it’s their “nature” and they can’t change or something. I don’t know why society is obsessed with “accepting men” for whatever they want to do and women have to change their boundaries to accommodate it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 10:45 PM |
| 3 | She was at least 11 so he shouldn't face consequences for sexting her! If anything, she should be registered as a sex offenderAll of this is just the worst thing I’ve ever read. Why is this man defending a pedophile, why is everyone downvoting anyone with common sense, why does no one care that this man had any sexual contact with an 11 year old, even if she lied about her age, she’s fucking 11, how do you not know a child is in fact a child and not a 16 year old, why is everyone shitting on an 11 year old that was raped, and why the hell is this “men’s rights”? Men’s rights to what? Not know what an 11 year old looks … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 06:25 PM |
| 43 | My ex tried to come back and this is the exact reason why I left him in the dumpster where he belongsLol I got one of these passive aggressive neg texts when I broke up with my ex as a last ditch effort to get at me. I had told him several times why we were breaking up, including him doing absolutely nothing for me and comparing me to other women and calling my friends hot. I went nc cause he was incredibly manipulative and threatened to hurt himself when I left, and the last text he sent me because I wasn’t responding to him was to tell me that I have problems, I’m insecure, everything was my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 05:37 PM |
| 70 | Since I left my abusive ex, I’ve lived in an all female household and I’ve unlearned so many harmful habits. Like I've learned it’s ok to have opinions on movies, books, and even activities. I’m making choices and participating in things I never would have considered otherwise.Saving this one so I remember it next time lmao. I dated a hvm where this never once happened. He was so interested in my hobbies, opinions, interests, dreams, etc and I never felt like I wasn’t my own person. My nvm ex on the other hand, I felt myself changing so much to adapt to him, even when I wasn’t realizing it. My music tastes, opinions, favorite things, etc were not remembered or really cared about. He even went so far as to give me gifts that he liked even though I legitimately never on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 05:47 AM |
| 54 | His friends say a lot about him. Have you ever peeped a group chat?Spot on. My ex’s best friend of like ten years was the worst person I think I’ve ever met. Racist, misogynistic, disgusting, slut shaming, obnoxious manchild who eventually tried to sleep with me. He had no problem with any of this. A guys friend group and what company he keeps says a lot about him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 02:21 AM |
| 19 | Men who get a rise from or think it’s funny to “wind people up” or scare people.Jesus I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I’m very glad you’re out of that situation and away from him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 12:23 AM |
| 17 | Men who get a rise from or think it’s funny to “wind people up” or scare people.Right? So many of them are like this and idk why. Like it reeks of immaturity and boundary stomping. There’s something dark about it to me too, like getting a rise out of someone’s fear or displeasure is just sadistic and wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 12:22 AM |
| 349 | An oldie but a goodie. 31 year old man tries hit on a group of teenagers. Gets called a predator and argues with them instead of just leaving. Proceeds to get bullied by same group of teenagers 😂“Adults” like buddy you spelled teenagers wrong lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 11:57 PM |
| 17 | Men who get a rise from or think it’s funny to “wind people up” or scare people.Good for you for ditching them lol, Ive had to ditch people for the same reasons. And you’re right- then apparently their reaction is valid and you’re the worst person ever but they won’t hear it when you complain about the same things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 11:34 PM |
| 23 | If a man says they are ______. They aren't.“I pride myself on being honest.” Later caught him in several lies and he stole a bunch of shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 02:59 PM |
| 39 | Same, Queen. No more walking on eggshells or living in fear always anxiously anticipating the next outburst.Oh man I’ve been saying this for so long but everyone always says some shit about “well just because he has a temper doesn’t make him a bad person”. Sure, it may not make him a bad person, but I sure as hell don’t want to deal with it and I’ll break up with someone over it. I dated a guy with road rage, would slam doors, storm around the house, raise his voice, threw things around, and would need like two hours after work to “calm down” where I’d be walking on eggshells the whole time. Never aga… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 12:14 AM |
| 6 | No, I am not okay with my boyfriend having female friends and I’m tired of pretending I am to seem “chill”.Yep I’ve actually been in the same experience you’ve described and it’s so accurate. Back in my pseudo pick me days, I was still close friends with my ex I dated for two years. We did stop talking when I got into a relationship because I felt it was inappropriate, but once the relationship ended we started talking again. Then he got into a relationship, and this poor girl he was with. This man called me about every two weeks, and had the audacity to complain to me about his girlfriend, complimen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 04:05 PM |
| 19 | No, I am not okay with my boyfriend having female friends and I’m tired of pretending I am to seem “chill”.That’s very true and I should’ve clarified in my post, I find a huge difference between close friends and friends/acquaintances like you described. I agree completely that it’s important for a man to have women that he respects and can be friends with in his life, and if not there’s probably an issue where he only sees women as either sex material or nothing. And right on about it being a group of friends- I think it’s so much less sketchy to have a wide net of friends, male and female, than to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 05:33 AM |
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