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| 2 | HelpIt is a huge conflict for her to have any access to your case through her new employment status. In my state and most others I'm familiar with, her even looking at your files would be improper. Her actions would be monitored and the policies quickly enforced. However, just by working there, that isn't an inherent conflict. If she was foolish enough to access your case, she is risking her career and more. It's more likely she casually mentioned it to a co-worker if this isn't a coincidence, which… | /r/MensRights | 08/03/24 05:58 PM |
| 8 | Wife Just Left With Kids - Need Legal AdviceOuch. I was trying to help OP and I worked for far less than $400/hour when representing low income fathers. Everyone hates us until we are needed. If you want a world with endless challenges to Wills, no custody determinations, women using vigilante justice, etc., be careful what you wish for. Practicing law is not as glamorous as it looks on TV, nor is it easy or lucrative. | /r/MensRights | 05/02/24 05:16 AM |
| 49 | Wife Just Left With Kids - Need Legal AdviceI've had this situation with many clients before during years of work as a family law attorney. You are doing the best you can by simply getting a lawyer ASAP, and little else at this point. I'll try to answer your questions as directly as possible, but I don't know your state specific laws and most of these questions don't have a complete yes or no answer. The legal world is full of caveats and exceptions. Further, each family has a different history and set of current circumstances that must b… | /r/MensRights | 04/02/24 08:55 PM |
| 8 | Help me understand, what are the law-related issues that men face?Tiny caveat: there are exceptions to paying support. They are as rare as sighting a unicorn under a full moon, but they do exist in the US. I agree with everything else listed and didn't want to be contrarian, I just don't want any holes for critical to poke at in efforts to detract from the overall point of these arguments. On a side note, while the law doesn't discriminate on gender here, child support enforcement is the closest thing to debtor's prison that is still used frequently. Source: U… | /r/MensRights | 03/02/24 01:00 AM |
| 14 | Might have gotten a girl pregnant, should I respond?Attorney here familiar with paternity and adoptions. There is no legal father established yet. She likely named you as father to an adoption agency, which may have a policy or obligation to attempt to involve the father. This is more about you not coming out of the woodwork to disrupt an adoption if you are the bio father. It is highly unlikely any adoption plan is held up in court because of you, and any action you take there could be evidence of attempts to be involved with the child's life. I… | /r/MensRights | 31/01/24 08:13 AM |
| 1 | A parent alleges the other parent is coaching their son to say he's being abused. They feel exhausted after many years of similar harassment, and they seem to feel the other parent's attorney may be unethical.I am an attorney familiar with this area of law and representing fathers who have been in these types of situations. While these are useful resources to know about, many people won't get much traction trying to use them directly to win a family law case. A custody evaluation by an expert familiar with parental alienation is usually a better first step imho. | /r/MensRights | 14/01/24 01:48 PM |
| 1 | Question about AB 2777 (Sexual Abuse and Cover Up Accountability Act) in CA? Tommy Lee getting sued for SA in 2003? Statute of Limitation?Politely, I think your mind is working overtime to manufacturer a worst case scenario. The discovery rule is complex, but shouldn't really apply in your situation. It's meant more for say asbestos claims where a person may not learn whether they will develop cancer until decades following exposure. If it gives you personal security, consider printing and scanning the texts, then email them to yourself. However, I think that is unnecessary and overkill. If I thought there was a realistic chance o… | /r/MensRights | 13/01/24 03:31 AM |
| 1 | Question about AB 2777 (Sexual Abuse and Cover Up Accountability Act) in CA? Tommy Lee getting sued for SA in 2003? Statute of Limitation?I'm an attorney but not currently practicing in your state. Accordingly, I can't comment on the specifics of the law you cited but the statute of limitations is a big barrier to most claims. There are very rare exceptions, though it's unlikely any would apply. Further, there are other legal defenses that can be raised even if a claimant gets their suit to survive the SoL challenge. Typically, the exception is the "discovery rule". The statute only starts to run one the alleged victim learns of o… | /r/MensRights | 13/01/24 02:06 AM |
| 2 | what is the history of child support and why is it such a big issue for men?I'm an attorney in the US familiar with a few states. I don't know every state's practices so I can't claim that all operate in the same manner. Regardless, federal programs supplement most state child support programs and have fairly strict requirements, including not using the child support system as a source of local government revenue. | /r/MensRights | 24/12/23 09:10 AM |
| 0 | what is the history of child support and why is it such a big issue for men?What happens when both parents are unfit or unable to provide proper care? If parents figured problems or on their own, the courts wouldn't be involved even under the current system. I am not ok with children suffering because people don't want any court involvement. Plain and simple, many families can't resolve their problems on their own so there needs to be something in place to step in and protect children who have no choice in the matter and can't advocate for themselves. I find it interest… | /r/MensRights | 23/12/23 06:48 AM |
| 1 | what is the history of child support and why is it such a big issue for men?This is an area I'm very familiar with and I can't speak for every state, but that's not at all how it operates here. The only fees are a few dollars for using a credit card. In fact, if the obligated parent is paying more support than the receiving one gets in benefits, the excess goes directly to the parent. If both parents are unable to be a custodian resource, neither is obligated to pay the state for the enormous costs of foster care. Establishing and enforcing support is not profitable for… | /r/MensRights | 23/12/23 06:39 AM |
| -9 | what is the history of child support and why is it such a big issue for men?To be fair, the government gets very little out of the child support program. It operates at a loss in most situations. For example, the government may initiate a child support order and a man paying say $400 in support might end up paying all of that the government, and on its face that looks pretty corrupt. However, the mother and child almost always receive far more value in benefits such as TANF, healthcare, etc. I'm not defending the current child support system as all; I would prefer a gro… | /r/MensRights | 22/12/23 02:33 PM |
| 6 | Help paying High Lawyer Fee !I'm an attorney and I used to be part of a consortium that represented fathers for a reduced fee. I'm not sure if that's an option in your county. You could also try the State Bar for something like a Modest Means program, which isn't specific to fathers but typically offers legal services at a fraction of the typical cost if you qualify. You could also politely ask if your attorney could slightly reduce her fees, offer a longer term payment plan, or anything else to ease the burden of the growi… | /r/MensRights | 18/12/23 12:18 AM |
| 3 | A Legal Cheat Code to Relationships for True Gender Equality.How about several where the court ruled child support was the right of the child and can't be entirely preemptively waived, especially if state assistance is required? Or that future custody/parenting time can't be fully governed by a contracting parent? I've encountered both scenarios in my career. I wasn't arguing that your suggestions were completely invalid; many would be at least as effective or moreso. I also agree that a prenup is just as vulnerable to collateral attack. My concern was mo… | /r/MensRights | 17/12/23 07:16 PM |
| 5 | A Legal Cheat Code to Relationships for True Gender Equality.I've done my share of family law practice also, and I don't think this necessarily blanket advice. Many of the contracts you suggested could be ruled as void ab initio or otherwise not enforced because a judge could determine these agreements are contrary to public policy (a common loophole to loopholes). Further, there could be collateral arguments against these agreements such as duress, fraud, etc. I fear this risks muddy waters for most people when a co-habitation or prenuptial agreement wou… | /r/MensRights | 17/12/23 05:26 PM |
| 1 | 50/50 now mom wants to move away with the kids. How many man have had success in stopping this ?There is no legal standard. It's case by case. One parent can argue graduation rates, the other class size. Judges don't know or care that much actually. It's more about which parent is acting in good faith for the kids. Usually, that comes out in testimony. That's not to blame judges. They can only be expected to know so much. If a parent feels strongly on an issue like this, they should hire an expert witness to give the judge a better basis to make their decision. | /r/MensRights | 06/11/23 01:17 AM |
| 18 | 50/50 now mom wants to move away with the kids. How many man have had success in stopping this ?Not to be "that guy", but I'm a practicing attorney in the US and this isn't the legal standard at all; in fact, it's pretty harmful disinformation. Mother doesn't have a burden to prove father unfit. She could argue modification of the custody order is appropriate solely because the schools are better in her proposed destination (whether the schools are actually better is highly subjective, thus hard to argue against). The majority of cases I have listed resulted in a parent (typically mother) … | /r/MensRights | 04/11/23 08:07 AM |
| 21 | What can a man do if he was tricked into having a child and doesn’t want to pay child support?There are options, but very fact specific. It's a rare case where a bio father would not have some sort of obligation. There are a few exceptions or end around such as a counterclaim against mother. 99%+ of the time, bio father will end up paying even if objectively unfair. I'm not a fan of the system; I just practice in it. | /r/MensRights | 18/10/23 07:39 PM |
| 5 | A landmark Ninth Circuit decision, a new California bill will limit justice for the falsely accused, litigation victories and defeats, and more - here's a recap on what happened in the Title IX world in September.To be fair, the bill doesn't directly limit justice for falsely accused; it does make the process incredibly risky, difficult, and quite possibly prohibitively expensive. The standards of proving defamation are already incredibly high. This new law obviously will have an impact on all but the most wealth/connected who facing a brutal risk/reward scenario if they wish to battle against false accusations. I really don't understand why colleges are forced into too many roles, including becoming a k… | /r/MensRights | 06/10/23 08:48 PM |
| 11 | The west and uncircumcision propaganda.Anecdotal, but I've met more abnormal US women than "normal" ones by that definition. I don't think I'm alone in that experience among men of my generation living in the US. I can't speak as to how other cultures address the issue, but I'd be curious to know. | /r/MensRights | 01/10/23 09:37 PM |
| 6 | A "legal" paternity test costs twice as much as a regular, at-home paternity test. It's the same thing but somehow twice the price.I am an attorney that practices in paternity and this is absolutely correct. Part of the fee pays for the analysis, though there is no chain of custody so no anyone could swab your roommate's cheek, then try to challenge paternity following the (hopefully) obvious results. To get something changed in court, samples must be taken by a someone licensed to do so and they will typically check photo id and fingerprints. The results include detail about specific genetic markers that either exclude the… | /r/MensRights | 06/08/23 12:09 AM |
| 5 | Family court is absolutely stacked against men. A personal story.There can be a zero dollar child support order, often in the case of joint custody and 50/50 parenting time. The existence of a support order doesn't many any money is actually being billed. | /r/MensRights | 19/05/23 08:02 PM |
| 3 | Good-looking female students no longer get straight A's when classes become virtualLol, I'm really not sure what basis you have asserted. Men are hurt and privileged by a system designed to favor men? Ok, even if I concede that point, how does that make this author's point any more defensible? | /r/PussyPassDenied | 02/05/23 03:43 PM |
| 75 | Good-looking female students no longer get straight A's when classes become virtualI love how the author spun this around to still make women the victims somehow. The mental gymnastics sometimes... | /r/PussyPassDenied | 01/05/23 05:23 PM |
| 20 | Dear Emily, men think with their brain, the "men" you've dated are not representative of the the whole male community (contains link to the interview)If men don't think on her level, I'm sure she will make a fantastic surgeon or lawyer, or find some other career that an "ignorant" man currently holds. It's amazing the amount of mental gymnastics some women do to always be the victim. Got rich and famous because men? Victim. Didn't enjoy the spotlight for as long as wanted? Victim. Men aren't smart enough to think past middle school level? Somehow she's the victim still... | /r/MensRights | 29/03/23 05:37 PM |
| 1 | If you are ever accused of a crime, like domestic violence, do NOT EVER say anything. Immediately request a lawyer. I was falsely accused of it, and I won in court. Had I talked to the police (despite never hitting anyone, ever), I would have been charged and convicted of something I didn’t do.Well, it kinda does invite conversations, but any evidence gathered is fruit of the poisonous tree, lol. Found a fellow attorney. | /r/MensRights | 27/03/23 06:34 PM |
| 65 | If you are ever accused of a crime, like domestic violence, do NOT EVER say anything. Immediately request a lawyer. I was falsely accused of it, and I won in court. Had I talked to the police (despite never hitting anyone, ever), I would have been charged and convicted of something I didn’t do.Fwiw, asserting your right to stay silent and requesting an attorney is perhaps the only thing that should be vocalized, with potential exceptions for when you have to speak to clearly identify yourself or decline consent for a search. | /r/MensRights | 26/03/23 10:16 PM |
| 1 | Do you think the system is bound to collapse?I agree with almost everything you said; thank you for the well thought out comment. One thing that stick out to me was your idea of an options market that is 600x larger than all the assets in the world. I trade options rather frequently and I don't understand the rationality behind that estimate. The only way I can arrive at anything close to that number is to take every option contract in existence, calculate max loss, and compost against global assets. I'm not sure that's a good measure. It'… | /r/MensRights | 05/03/23 12:22 AM |
| 13 | The reason men don't get therapy or talk to people isn't because they want to be "manly", it's because most people don't give a shit about them (and therapists have a bias favoring women).I think therapy is vastly over-recommended, and even then, typically for longer than actually required. That said, I don't think we should throw the baby out with the bathwater. Therapy can be and is helpful for many people, or is the impetus for getting a higher level of psychiatric care that would have gone undiagnosed otherwise. Be critical of the therapy models where deserved; there are a ton of flaws. Saying it is complete pseudoscience isn't being objectively fair though. | /r/MensRights | 01/03/23 11:04 PM |
| 1 | How many of you are left wingers?Most would categorize me as well left of any major political movement in the US, including Bernie and his supporters. Men's rights became demonized by a faction of what is considered left of center, likely a spinoff from the original feminism ideas that needed a new windmill to tilt against. It's one of many reasons I don't consider myself aligned with the Democratic platform. | /r/MensRights | 27/02/23 10:03 PM |
| -2 | Police and CPS Illegally Enter Home and Remove Children from Father without a WARRANT OR COURT ORDERI am familiar with this/these areas of law. From what I've read, I don't think we have all the facts. I am not skeptical of that father's experience; it just seems like the website omits a lot of very important details before we can conclude what all went wrong in this case. | /r/MensRights | 18/02/23 01:36 AM |
| 2 | Just left the "Dating over 50" subIt really hasn't been much different historically based on genetic information. Almost all women who reached sexual maturity reproduced. Perhaps only 1/5 men did. A select few number of men were having a lot of sex, and most men rarely got that opportunity. Almost all women had no struggle finding a partner, so they tended to be more selective when picking amongst the men they knew. With modern social media, it's just becoming painfully clear how distorted the adult dating world always has been.… | /r/MensRights | 23/01/23 10:29 AM |
| 10 | Remember, there is no such thing as 'The Patriarchy'Friend, I try to see every side of a debate. I do. You aren't making sense at all though. I'm actually trained in formal logic and you make my head hurt. | /r/MensRights | 18/01/23 03:40 PM |
| 11 | Remember, there is no such thing as 'The Patriarchy'Women convince men to pursue positions of power. Women have a roughly 80% reproductive rate over history. Men have had maybe 20% success in reproducing. Risk/reward benefits men who take risks, and women who avoid them. That's simply reproductive math. If you can argue any factor other than wealth is more important in terms of who holds the power, please, share it. If you can't, use a different word than one that identifies men as systemically privileged. | /r/MensRights | 18/01/23 12:03 PM |
| 7 | Remember, there is no such thing as 'The Patriarchy'Thank you. I was going to be grumpy so I am glad you said it. There are inequalities in every culture. In most modern cultures, I would argue socioeconomic status is the biggest factor in who benefits most from society. If the commenter above feels women are perpetuating the system, perhaps we should not allow such feeble minded, easily manipulated adults to vote for a system that hurts them... (Yes, absurd comparison, but for a reason). | /r/MensRights | 18/01/23 10:15 AM |
| 48 | Remember, there is no such thing as 'The Patriarchy'I figured someone would point out that flaw in my comment; I'm happy you did. A corollary to the Razor would be that equivalent evidence is needed to dismiss lofty claims. Lots of studies show positions of dominance are held by men. Lots of studies show the vast majority of the incarcerated population is male. The idea that a largely male body of lawmakers is colluding for the betterment of men is preposterous in that light. If there is evidence of a patriarchal system, it would need to explain … | /r/MensRights | 18/01/23 01:06 AM |
| 78 | Remember, there is no such thing as 'The Patriarchy'Hitchen's Razor applies here. That which can be asserted without evidence can be dismissed without such. | /r/MensRights | 17/01/23 11:41 PM |
| 3 | I no longer put my demographic information as white heterosexual male whenever I'm asked for equal opportunity data, as it is used against me and prevents my equal opportunity.I think the problem people have is when people see results that don't line up with the notion that it's a pure meritocracy. For example, I don't want to just assume that men are simply worse students or lazier because their graduation/college rates have lagged dismally behind women for 2 generations. That leads me to look for a thumb on the scale, like an education model that favors women. If the statistics supported some changes to help get boys' averages up to reach girls', I'd probably suppor… | /r/MensRights | 09/01/23 07:50 AM |
| 17 | stuck between a rock and a hard place.Labels are often overrated. Be a humanist and support gender equality on all fronts. Men's rights aren't a zero sum game; they don't come at the expense of women and you might be surprised at how many people in this community have similar views. Unfortunately, MRA/feminist has become polarizing to say the least so some avoid adopting those banners in public, which is ok. Continue to be a good person and explore all sides. Cheers. | /r/MensRights | 12/12/22 07:02 PM |
| 69 | Henry Cavill hesitant to flirt so he doesn't get accused of sexual harrassment. Twitter then accuses him of being sexist for not flirtingA friend of mine worked as a male stripper. Long story, but I knew quite a few people in that line of work, almost all women. My male friend said he experienced the worst abuse by women, largely because they felt they could (and did) get away with it. One of my female friends was on stage and had a drunk but harmless older man flick her with a fan of $10 bills, that he then just dropped and walked away without causing any reason for panic. Rude undoubtedly and against the rules. Not exactly "ass… | /r/MensRights | 16/10/22 09:00 PM |
| 48 | AITA or did I do the right thing? Asked to move on from Daughter's swimming class.There are two ways I would have approached it slightly differently, though this is splitting hairs and kudos for standing up in an awkward situation. Inform the women than no one is allowed down here and they need to move as a group to the galley. Then you are acting helpful per "policy". Let someone else take that fight on when asked to move. Second would be to simply ask for the policy. Is it written? What else is in it? If you approach things from trying to be helpful and learn, it sometimes … | /r/MensRights | 15/10/22 10:25 AM |
| 1 | Child Support IdeaI agree. I have been in the trenches long enough that I have seen virtually every way this system can and continues to fail. No sense in implementing laws that seem fair to everyone, but aren't practical to enforce. Situations involving parents' decisions regarding their kids is a really challenging area to legislate or even craft policy around. How much do parents want others like me (assuming I get a black dress someday) second guessing their decisions/priorities? What I think is not appropria… | /r/MensRights | 03/08/22 02:34 AM |
| 2 | Men in the US, if you have, or want to have children with a woman, consider moving to Kentucky.A prenup can govern or limit child support, but only to certain extent. For most people, this is still highly beneficial, since the spruce would need to argue that no support is unfair, or qualify for public assistance, which triggers an administrative process to establish support. Spousal support can be considered as part of this calculation, so a well drafted prenup will give a paying parent plenty of options to make the math more favorable to them. Flaws and all, still miles better than witho… | /r/MensRights | 26/07/22 10:41 PM |
| 1 | Men in the US, if you have, or want to have children with a woman, consider moving to Kentucky.Shopping with your feet isn't necessary; the answers are largely there with pre-nups. It isn't perfect, but neither is moving to Kentucky as a slight risk mitigation strategy in the event of a nasty divorce. A well executed prenup will do far more than the legal presumptions that are codified but not always followed in practice. Judges still have a lot of discretion in family law. Contract law is much more predictable and while it can't fully address issues like custody, taking a large part of t… | /r/MensRights | 25/07/22 08:02 PM |
| 3 | Child Support IdeaVery much so. Most everything can be spun in a way that sounds at least plausible that it was done with the children's well being in mind. | /r/MensRights | 25/07/22 05:57 PM |
| 2 | Child Support IdeaThis is great in theory, but in the end, parents will find ways to pass the costs of their choices off on others and there's no practical way to enforce this without DHS involved in virtually every case. There is only one final enforcement method and that is jail time. That result is expensive for society and doesn't help the child unless jail time miraculously convinces that parent to improve. In my experience, this isn't effective at all. I'm open to ideas, but I've done this for enough years … | /r/MensRights | 25/07/22 05:55 PM |
| 44 | Child Support IdeaAttorney and MRA here that is very familiar with this area of practice. The problem is that money is fungible; making someone slightly more accountable for child support expenditures doesn't change the fundamental flaws inherent in the system. Anyone with half a brain can game the system to ensure all child support related funds are either justified or difficult to dispute. Simply pay cash for the pedicures because last night's steak dinner was paid for by child support money. Then you have the … | /r/MensRights | 25/07/22 01:30 PM |
| 4 | Women unfairly failed their driving tests because the pass rate is higher in males. Gender should be taken into account according to the article ie women should have a lower bar needed to pass than men.I have to part with you on this one. While most media has an agenda of some bend, simply reporting or publishing something isn't sufficient evidence to conclude there was a purposeful motive. It leaves no room for the rare journalism that simply presents facts or an issue in a manner that tries to inform people, not influence them. The driving instructors comments were a fairly solid counterpoint to the idea of driving tests being unfairly biased against women. The article almost made the failed… | /r/MensRights | 24/07/22 11:10 PM |
| 2 | Women unfairly failed their driving tests because the pass rate is higher in males. Gender should be taken into account according to the article ie women should have a lower bar needed to pass than men.If that's her argument, then why not blame the higher risk taking behavior on testosterone and not accuse men of being responsible for more deaths or charge men more for insurance as is done in the US (maybe there as well)? Men have hormone fluctuations too. Fair is fair, right? If low hormones make a person an unsafe driver, the argument shouldn't be to just blame it on nature and let more people behind the wheel than deserve to be. Fix the hormone balance issues or invent an estrogen form of t… | /r/MensRights | 24/07/22 10:55 PM |
| 4 | I told an HR administrator to stop saying that I (and male coworkers) belong to the Patriarchy. In fact I told her if she says it about me again I would sue.I'm guessing you fit the Libertarian party a bit closer. Conservative fiscal ideals, less foreign entanglements, but a very much "live and let live" mindset in terms of social matters. Drugs, abortion, guns, gay marriage, etc. and most social issues aren't really things libertarians tend to take strong positions on. Consenting adults can do as they may and trying to legislate morality is futile. Not really my party mostly because libertarians would tend to let chips fall where they may economica… | /r/MensRights | 30/06/22 09:05 AM |
| 8 | I told an HR administrator to stop saying that I (and male coworkers) belong to the Patriarchy. In fact I told her if she says it about me again I would sue.A centrist democrat in the US is probably mildly conservative by most other comparable nation's standards. I can be progressive but still recognize the fallacies in feminism and the injustices against men that don't get discussed. I'm not exactly fully welcome in any political party I know of, sadly. Socialism has embraced feminism at some point much like the US GOP invited in the religious right, both terrible mistakes imho. | /r/MensRights | 30/06/22 02:43 AM |
| 23 | I told an HR administrator to stop saying that I (and male coworkers) belong to the Patriarchy. In fact I told her if she says it about me again I would sue.There is a spectrum. University of Chicago is going to be very different than UC Berkley despite both being ranked among the best in the world. George Mason vs George Washington; again, both DC schools, top tier, but very different ideologies underlying the education you receive. Be prepared to bite your tongue if you go. It isn't as bad as you might be thinking, but expect feminism to be accepted or embraced by the majority of your peers and professors. That said, if that dissuades you, law sch… | /r/MensRights | 30/06/22 12:48 AM |
| 66 | I told an HR administrator to stop saying that I (and male coworkers) belong to the Patriarchy. In fact I told her if she says it about me again I would sue.How much time do you have?? | /r/MensRights | 30/06/22 12:22 AM |
| 86 | I told an HR administrator to stop saying that I (and male coworkers) belong to the Patriarchy. In fact I told her if she says it about me again I would sue.If I were advising OP, based on the very limited facts I know, this would be my first thought. | /r/MensRights | 30/06/22 12:22 AM |
| 523 | I told an HR administrator to stop saying that I (and male coworkers) belong to the Patriarchy. In fact I told her if she says it about me again I would sue.Attorney here. This isn't my area of expertise, but at a minimum you should be quietly documenting. Just like sexual harassment, one incident has to be pretty egregious. A pattern can be damning however. HR often thinks they have a monopoly on the information of policy and employment law. This hubris can be their downfall, so play that as you will. I became an attorney to do justice. There are lots of things like voting in general or with your dollars/feet that have an impact. But major changes … | /r/MensRights | 29/06/22 10:52 PM |
| 5 | Should Paternity Fraud be a Felony?I'm rather confused. Children have quite a few rights. The child may need to wait until 18, be emancipated, or have a Guardian Ad Litem appointed. It is more a question of whether tort laws are adjusted to provide a good path for this. Right now, the laws simply don't give much incentive for the child to try to recover for paternity fraud. | /r/MensRights | 11/09/21 12:27 AM |
| 1 | Should Paternity Fraud be a Felony?That's not what we are talking about here. While the government tracks Vital Statistics, it is often the hospital that initially fills out the certificate. Plus, it is misleading that a woman can just put any man on the BC. She can lie to him to have him voluntarily accept paternity however. That's more what OP is going for I think. | /r/MensRights | 11/09/21 12:21 AM |
| 2 | Dad hasn't gotten child support in three years, and the child support agency keeps giving him the run aroundYou are welcome. I may be a bit of a one trick pony, but I know certain areas of the law very well and these claims would never survive some form of summary judgment. Depending on the situation, the person bringing the claims could owe money to the defendant(s) if it is found the claims were brought without merit. | /r/MensRights | 07/09/21 11:51 PM |
| 99 | Dad hasn't gotten child support in three years, and the child support agency keeps giving him the run aroundI am a lawyer and I would have almost all of these claims dead in the water if I were defending the agency. You know your stuff and/or did your homework, but I've logged a lot of hours practicing in this area and we simply have far too little evidence to support most if not all of those claims. I can't give true legal advice online, but he needs to stop blaming the system and get paperwork filed in court to get this corrected. Even then, it should only be with advice of counsel. | /r/MensRights | 05/09/21 09:55 PM |
| 5 | BUSTED: Child Welfare Caught Stealing Social Security Checks From Disabled and Orphaned Foster Kids: Fathers are likely paying child support to cover the stolen fundsI think the article is a bit sensationalist when it calls this "stealing" despite the fact that it is authorized by federal law, and makes it seem like agencies base the decision to remove children for the money, and that would require a lot of people who are in on this including judges who would find it difficult to profit. Some children aren't even eligible for Title IV-E (federal supplemental funding to states for foster children) so it can put severe burdens on states to get children the lev… | /r/MensRights | 08/06/21 10:28 AM |
| 203 | Yet, the game can be continued without queensThe queen sac is beautiful in most games, if done with a plan. The queen may be forced to involuntarily die to protect the King in some situations. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 21/05/21 07:27 PM |
| 1 | Men don’t have equal STD testing????Most aren't iv drug users either. | /r/MensRights | 23/04/21 12:12 PM |
| 1 | Courts failed me againI could charge 300 an hour at a discount. Law is expensive and massive systemic reform is needed. If new graduates are routinely paid peanuts while their debts are 6 digit, working for 150 per hour barely keeps the lights on. I couldn't work for less than 150 to even pay bills but I went down to as low as 65 per hour. Remember, that's our only income source. The staff get paid, we have mandatory fees to keep our license, keep the lights on at the firm, etc. Anything below 150 is desperation for … | /r/MensRights | 22/04/21 07:12 PM |
| 2 | Courts failed me againAgain, I won't and defend the treatment you received from the legal profession. That said, while there is a lot of reasons this sub has to be unhappy with the system, please don't hate those trying to change it from within. I got a bit of flame just for identifying with the profession. I'm gathering everyone put me in the slot of money grubbing lawyer that's a drain on the system. I signed up for a consortium that represented fathers at rates that didn't even pay my bills because it was the righ… | /r/MensRights | 22/04/21 06:55 PM |
| 5 | Courts failed me againAs an attorney, I apologize for my profession. One or two of these mistakes could have happened, but you received repeatedly poor treatment. I read your post and I don't know what role your attorney played but I'm not sure you were getting the best representation, or perhaps didn't know how little representation you would receive. Save up as best you can and try to get solid legal advice. The judges and DA's only serve the people, whereas your counsel assists you specifically. Finally, consider … | /r/MensRights | 22/04/21 12:01 AM |
| 1 | Cheater bride caught by best manI mentioned the risk of audit. Everyone needs to factor that in. It isn't illegal if done right but it needs to be done by a lawyer who knows what they are doing. For many couples, it doesn't make sense. I don't advocate tax dodging at all; I want higher taxes for that matter (in the US). But if done right it is perfectly legal. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 15/02/21 03:49 PM |
| 2 | Cheater bride caught by best manThat's the thing. If you want a relationship, great. If you want a marriage, great. If you want the state to decide how the breakup goes, get married without a prenup. I would prefer to do it myself, thank you. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 15/02/21 03:46 PM |
| 1 | Cheater bride caught by best manI'm in the US and I don't think that's accurate for my country. I would have to write a long ass comment to go through everything, but a well drafted prenup prevents any spousal support or spousal support that is negotiated. Child support is another long comment. Short answer is you can't get out of it with a prenup. It can limit it sometimes, but a prenup is more about spousal support and divorce assets. Kids are a whole different category. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 15/02/21 03:43 PM |
| 1 | Cheater bride caught by best manFair question. I would have to dig through my old law school books to find it though. I am not sure a google search does it justice. I'm not dodging, just saying that I might need some time to find it. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 15/02/21 03:40 PM |
| 7 | Cheater bride caught by best manAgree 100%. I remember being livid when studying a case where a 16 year old girl and her 14 year old high school boyfriend had sex. It could have been 15 and 13. However, the boy was charged with felony rape and it withstood appeal, despite her being older and the oft repeated fact that girls mature emotionally faster than boys. Fuck everything about that. Imho, there was probably no crime committed and if there was, it was the girl who should have been convicted. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 15/02/21 08:30 AM |
| 9 | Cheater bride caught by best manIt's a little more complex. Gay marriage was more of an equality in title thing; some states offered domestic partnerships which were essentially identical legally. However, same sex couples often felt that their relationship was being treated as second class because it wasn't a "marriage". The states that didn't offer domestic partnerships or gay marriage were the ones that were really tough on same sex couples. There are tax benefits to marriage. I would be far better off married because I ear… | /r/PussyPassDenied | 15/02/21 08:26 AM |
| 13 | Cheater bride caught by best manI had a case where a woman who raped a child (12) and she was not exactly a small woman. But she said this child took advantage of her and raped her. Could have ruined this poor kid's life when she was the one that got him drunk and had what the evidence suggested was consensual sex on her part (obviously he was too young to give legal consent). She said this in open court. Clear perjury and still got away with a hand slap. God I was pissed. Reverse the genders and we are talking 15 years, maybe… | /r/PussyPassDenied | 15/02/21 08:08 AM |
| 36 | Cheater bride caught by best manThere's not much benefit for the man, and way too many downsides. Unless you are the very rare person marrying way above your class, it just invites disaster. The divorce rate can vary greatly depending on demographics, but there aren't many categories where it is both heathy (i.e. not arranged or religiously imposed) and doesn't have a high chance of ending poorly. I totally agree. I can mimic almost every benefit of getting married with about 5 hours of my time drafting my own legal documents.… | /r/PussyPassDenied | 15/02/21 07:53 AM |
| -11 | Cheater bride caught by best manShe was going to have a fling regardless; at least you got a little bit of fun out of it. I had a lights low sex type of girl that forgot to remove her engagement ring once. I felt it while pinning her down (full consent and safe word, she had a kink for it). That changed things pretty quickly. If something slipped, another guy is raising my daughter. If so, good thing she got her mother's looks. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 15/02/21 07:49 AM |
| 5 | Cheater bride caught by best manFor her the smart play would have been to accuse the guy of getting her too drunk (the person filming said he was the bartender), took advantage of her, and she was just scared by the whole marriage thing and so vulnerable. She knows what she wants now and there is no doubt in her mind... Many people would buy it sadly. The next guy with a 6 pack and a few smooth lines will be balls deep in her soon enough. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 15/02/21 07:44 AM |
| 22 | Cheater bride caught by best manThat's just brutal. I get the idea of having a little fun at a bachelorette party but each person should set some reasonable limits. This kind of thing is terminal to the marriage. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 15/02/21 07:40 AM |
| 56 | Cheater bride caught by best manHe practically forced her into the arms of another man... How dare he... | /r/PussyPassDenied | 15/02/21 07:39 AM |
| 87 | Cheater bride caught by best manIf you ain't no chump; holla "prenup prenup!" In all seriousness, I have drafted them in my legal practice and wouldn't touch the issue of marriage without one. Plan ahead my friends. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 15/02/21 07:39 AM |
| 18 | UK: Women have 'right to know' male colleagues' pay, says Labour's Stella Creasy as she introduces Equal Pay Bill. Women will be able to demand to know what men are earning.I'm in that camp. My activities and specific pay are my business alone. I might be ok with providing large salary ranges and identifying what bracket you are in, but even that's pushing it. | /r/MensRights | 21/10/20 12:52 AM |
| 14 | UK: Women have 'right to know' male colleagues' pay, says Labour's Stella Creasy as she introduces Equal Pay Bill. Women will be able to demand to know what men are earning.That's the problem I see with this system. No major incentive to work more productively. Better to milk projects and get more hours in. If I am managing, I want there to be a reward for the more efficient workers. | /r/MensRights | 21/10/20 12:48 AM |
| 3 | Can we discuss adding mandatory paternity testing to standard birth workups?That's too sweeping of a statement, even if I agree personally. The are some men who knowingly choose this route. I would never be one, but who are we to judge will informed adult men who wish to take on that role despite potential or known paternity issues? I think it's a bad idea as well but there are some strategic but mostly emotional reasons a man would choose this despite the potential consequences. In the end, my perspective of men's rights involves equal choice in reproductive and parent… | /r/MensRights | 12/09/20 07:57 AM |
| 15 | This has probably been posted before, but it's still nice to know people are doing good and fixing ignoranceI thought I was chubby and did something similar. Ended up in the hospital with an IV for nutrition. 63 lbs maybe? I was in middle school but still, that was pretty low. | /r/MensRights | 03/06/20 08:31 PM |
| 11 | Guy gets assaulted, gets accused of sexual assault, gets justiceI am a lawyer, and nothing prevents OP from posting unless there is a court order otherwise, which would be rare. Evidence is almost always public record, with plenty of exceptions for juvenile cases etc. but this doesn't sound like that sort of case unless it was a condition of settlement. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 28/04/20 07:36 PM |
| 8 | Men Oppression Stats.We are disposable in the view of society. Men are violent predators until absolutely proven otherwise, which is impossible to do because you can't prove a negative. I have to be very careful to not get myself into potential hot water or worse. Can't hug a child in public, so high five it is (well, before the virus). Can't call a little girl cute without suspicion. Hang out at a park without a child that I'm watching? Pedo. I'm really tired of trying to live life while just being a Male leaves me… | /r/MensRights | 10/04/20 10:34 PM |
| 18 | How false sexual harassment allegations led a 13 year old to join the Alt-Right. This is a good read about how our believe-girls-first culture is impacting our boys and men.It was a rough time. I wasn't even allowed to attend my graduation ceremony. I hated that the whole idea of a woman's unfounded accusation could disrupt a man's life potentially forever. On the political spectrum is be considered pretty far left. But that doesn't mean there aren't legitimate issues men face and the alt right is a tempting thing for a child who feels he has no other place to turn. | /r/MensRights | 10/04/20 10:11 PM |
| 44 | How false sexual harassment allegations led a 13 year old to join the Alt-Right. This is a good read about how our believe-girls-first culture is impacting our boys and men.There's a lot to be gleaned from this article. I'm still processing it but I can't help but feel anger towards the mother here. She dismissed so many of her son's views when he needed her to be empathetic. I don't align with the alt right (whatever that definition has come to mean) but there's a few aspects about men being treated unfairly that cross over into men's rights. This kid found some truth among a sea of lies and clung to it. Maybe this hits too close to home because I was falsely accu… | /r/MensRights | 10/04/20 09:07 PM |
| 10 | Progressive Female Conflates Anti-Circumcision With NazisSame with muslims. I call a spade a spade when I see it. Being critical of one group's practice doesn't mean there is any ill will to the group as a whole. | /r/MensRights | 10/04/20 07:40 PM |
| 6 | HOW FUCKING DISGUSTING! The victim has to make sure that HE won't get legally in trouble for getting raped! Fuck this shit!How about humanists? Feminism, just like the men's rights movement, has some vocal bad apples. | /r/MensRights | 08/04/20 10:52 PM |
| 3 | The caption underneath the title jesusIf the rules applied equally I would be a victim many times over. And that's not just age related. I've been blackout drunk and having sex with a fully sober woman literally dozens of times. Did I regret some of it, sure. Would any of it get anywhere if I actually pursued it, fuck no. If I was a little too rough when I wasn't able to even remember what occurred (never actually happened, but it makes the point) I would have been the offender. | /r/MensRights | 11/11/19 08:01 AM |
| 1 | How can boys be expected to protect and die for a country that doesn't protect them as infants?Kavanaugh missed a golden opportunity when he was asked about what laws were in place that impacted a man's choice as to what he does with his body. Between your genitals being altered hours or days after birth to mandatory draft laws for young men only, there was a much better answer. I personally support abortion rights with some heavy modifications to not leave men in a "keep it in your pants or deal with the consequences of whatever the woman chooses" scenario. You can guess my stance on the… | /r/MensRights | 20/10/19 04:24 AM |
| 50 | Women just seeing men as ATMs; expectation of men to be providers needs to endI found it so funny how women I knew wouldn't go near me but after going from near poverty to landing a 6 digit job, I was suddenly a catch and the attention poured in. Here's my theory; if there is any sort of wage gap, it isn't because men have any advantages in the market. It is because men are taught from a young age that their value is largely vested in their income potential and career status. No wonder men sacrifice quality of life to work longer hours in more stressful and dangerous jobs… | /r/MensRights | 06/09/19 07:37 AM |
| 6 | "A well regulated Militia, being necessary to the security of a free State, the right of the people to keep and bear Arms, shall not be infringed." Since only men are subject to the draft, is this another right men have earned, but women as a class were given?I don't really read it that way. I think what it meant is that states had the right to form an armed militia and the federal government had limited rights to step in and tell them to disarm. Nothing in the 2nd Amendment prevents women from being conscripted either. Subsequent laws were enacted that exempted women. The Bill of Rights was all about getting states to sign off on the new constitution. At the time, it didn't restrict states at all (that came later, but it's a whole different topic). … | /r/MensRights | 17/08/19 04:43 PM |
| 13 | Ex-girlfriend from a year ago is contacting people saying I raped her when I didn't. Don't know what I can do.The ex should face severe consequences for her actions, but it's a very weak defamation case. The laws just don't give good remedies to men in this situation. All we know is that she had told one person who doesn't believe her. OP technically hasn't been damaged yet or lost any reputation in the community. Without some sort of damages like loss of employment, OP is not going to get far by suing. | /r/MensRights | 24/07/19 10:12 PM |
| 5 | If the father of your child is still active in their life and paying child support, you’re not a single mother, you’re a single woman.That's common in the US, but in really contentious cases it is best to not risk having the child put on the stand. Occasionally the judge will speak to the child privately in chambers, usually with attorneys but not parents present. This really toes the line of ethics, but who wants to be the asshole attorney that objects to the judge hearing from the child? Sometimes, the child is even appointed their own attorney. | /r/MensRights | 13/07/19 06:24 PM |
| 5 | If the father of your child is still active in their life and paying child support, you’re not a single mother, you’re a single woman.Each US state is at least slightly different, but there are a few important areas where the states are all basically in agreement on. One good example is the UCCJEA. Basically, it prevents a parent from walking across state lines with the kid and filing for custody in a different state hoping to get a better result. This used to happen pretty often in places like New York/New Jersey where a parent is a 90 minute train ride between courts of entirely different jurisdiction. The states agreed that… | /r/MensRights | 13/07/19 06:21 PM |
| 7 | If the father of your child is still active in their life and paying child support, you’re not a single mother, you’re a single woman.I am not familiar enough with UK law, so I can't comment on that. | /r/MensRights | 13/07/19 05:09 PM |
| 9 | If the father of your child is still active in their life and paying child support, you’re not a single mother, you’re a single woman.100 is the presumed absolute minimum support award. I guarantee I am more familiar with this particular topic and I see $100 support awards on a weekly basis. There are tons of factors that can lead to this low of an award. A father who pays support for say 5 other children may only pay 100 for the 6th. A person on certain types of disability can have an award that low. A parent who must spend large sums of money to exercise visitation (i.e. long drives or flights with potential overnight stays)… | /r/MensRights | 13/07/19 05:05 PM |
| 6 | If the father of your child is still active in their life and paying child support, you’re not a single mother, you’re a single woman.One of the big hurdles to this is the child's schooling if the parents don't live in the same district. I fully support a presumption of equal parenting time, but I don't have a good solution that doesn't bounce the child between schools. | /r/MensRights | 13/07/19 05:00 PM |
| 25 | If the father of your child is still active in their life and paying child support, you’re not a single mother, you’re a single woman.This is only somewhat true. A parent with legal custody can take action to prevent access to the other parent if authorized by court order. The child can even be considered a runaway and police could get involved. Emancipation is one solution, but it isn't always easy and has its drawbacks too. Source: attorney familiar with family law. | /r/MensRights | 13/07/19 04:56 PM |
| 29 | After replying to a post on this subreddit, I got this message. So apparently just participating in a different sub will get you banned from another. Makes sense.I got banned from an economics sub for having too much karma in the men's rights sub. My comment was completely related to the economic subject being discussed and had no references to gender issues at all. I think they have bots that flag our accounts. Sad that the admins let that shit happen. Edit: within 3 minutes of this post I got banned from twox also. What a pathetic group if they want to preemptively ban anyone who participated in a sub that doesn't rubber stamp their version of feminism… | /r/PussyPassDenied | 08/07/19 11:21 PM |
| 2 | Saw This And Thought Of This SubProbably not. There is caselaw that basically says it is a marital asset. The Court can decide how fair the division is, but she for sure would be giving a substantial portion to the husband. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 23/06/19 12:10 PM |
| 13 | Saw This And Thought Of This SubI wasn't taking the case for the husband. And after learning confidential information from the wife, I would have been conflicted from representing him. I don't care how well I could have been paid by wife, I took an oath to practice ethically. I am not risking my Bar number over one case. You must not actually practice law. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 23/06/19 11:03 AM |
| 171 | Saw This And Thought Of This SubWhen I was practicing divorce law, I had a call from a woman who just won a similar amount and wanted a divorce asap so she could keep it all. I told her to get lost. I stood to make a lot of money on that case but that's some serious bullshit. I sure need a lucrative client but I won't be part of that. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 23/06/19 04:23 AM |
| 20 | The US government official's go-to when cornered on the lack of men's rights and women's privileged status: "Women have different rights than men."Both genders are equal, but one is more equal than the other. | /r/MensRights | 31/05/19 12:15 AM |
| 2 | Men should not support women's right to choose parenthood unless and until they are given the same right.At a minimum, there should be a cap on cash support and the rest goes into a college fund or trust for the child. No reason for the custodial parent to have unfettered access to excessive funds. | /r/MensRights | 19/05/19 09:35 PM |
| 10 | Men should not support women's right to choose parenthood unless and until they are given the same right.That's another good idea. Each parent should know how the child's money is spent unless there's a judicial determination that it would be harmful. | /r/MensRights | 19/05/19 02:22 PM |
| 33 | Men should not support women's right to choose parenthood unless and until they are given the same right.One option I considered is a flat child support rate. It's far from perfect but it is a big step in the right direction. Each region would calculate a baseline support amount based on the local minimum wage. If a parent makes more and decides to spend more, great. But kids of wealthy parents don't actually eat more than kids of parents who are struggling to find work. Second revision is to have the child support go onto a card that both parents can see. Yes, money is fungible so this isn't perfe… | /r/MensRights | 19/05/19 02:10 PM |
| 5 | After being asked if sexism against men would be included in Mastodon's latest efforts to stem bigotry, @MastodonProject writes, "Of course not. Get your head out of your ass."Yes, the US since the late 60's. | /r/MensRights | 17/05/19 09:58 AM |
| 19 | The Hard truth about DivorceWow. I am US educated in law but voiding all contracts like that would cause a huge uproar in our system. That's really messed up. In your shoes, I wouldn't even consider marriage. | /r/MensRights | 02/05/19 08:45 AM |
| 50 | The Hard truth about DivorceIf you choose to get married, prenup all the way. It isn't perfect protection, but it is damn sure better than writing checks to your ex for who knows how long while she lives an unearned life of relative comfort. | /r/MensRights | 02/05/19 07:24 AM |
| -1 | “Men aren’t oppressed”I understand your position, but this really doesn't have to be war. Yes, most modern feminism is toxic and completely ignores the massive struggles men face. But treating the issue as an actual war will only entrench feminists further into their positions. I would sooner be one the side that offered compromise than an absolutist. I think that approach will further men's rights better than a hard line in the sand, regardless of how deserved we would be to draw one. | /r/MensRights | 20/04/19 04:07 PM |
| 36 | “Men aren’t oppressed”I suppose you can't support racial equality if you are white according to that logic. Us vs them mentality is ridiculous. Gender equality isn't a zero sum game. | /r/MensRights | 20/04/19 03:33 PM |
| 21 | This is Andrew Chael. He wrote 850,000 of the 900,000 lines of code that were written in the historic black-hole image algorithm!In this disgusting profit over everything environment, if women were willing to work for less than men, companies would be all over that because quarterly profits are the new god. Funny, that isn't how it works. I've now have multiple partners who are bitter that I make more money than they do. I went to a top tier law school, graduated highly ranked in my class, and work longer hours at a far more stressful job. But dat wage gap is purely because female... | /r/MensRights | 11/04/19 07:07 AM |
| 118 | This is Andrew Chael. He wrote 850,000 of the 900,000 lines of code that were written in the historic black-hole image algorithm!But he's not a cute "girl next door sexy" person. Funny how every accomplishment a halfway pretty woman makes is way more important than when another white male manages to do what is expected of them. | /r/MensRights | 11/04/19 06:57 AM |
| 9 | Anyone else think "for women" should be dropped from the description? It's not a fight for equality if its FOR one or the other.That doesn't even address the male suicide rate. Instead, manspreading and mansplaining are what really needs attention. Feminism needs to get societal priorities in order before I could ever consider supporting it. | /r/MensRights | 31/03/19 07:46 AM |
| 15 | 13,325 women and 33,848 men. That’s the gender gap of suicide in the US that was counted in 2017. The easier and safer we make it for people to die, the closer to equality we get.I almost make it a show of looking away from my secretary. I hope she's not offended but one accusation, even if not from her, can torpedo a career I've spent so much time and money on. I guess walking on eggshells is part of all this "privilege". | /r/MensRights | 13/03/19 11:40 PM |
| 52 | 13,325 women and 33,848 men. That’s the gender gap of suicide in the US that was counted in 2017. The easier and safer we make it for people to die, the closer to equality we get.The Male suicide rate alone should be a feminist priority if it's all about equality. Male gaze, manspreading? Those are really the things that need fixed right now?? I refuse to be an ally to a movement that is so blinded. | /r/MensRights | 13/03/19 09:41 PM |
| 81 | Barretts circumcision adventure!Butchers with medical degrees make me sick. The evidence against routine neonatal circumcision has been conclusive since the 1980's. But it makes money so it still happens. | /r/MensRights | 03/03/19 07:18 AM |
| 1 | Going crazyThis might be an r/relationships type issue. Unless your child has special needs that occupy her whole day, I think you should consider a serious conversation about the division of labor in the household. It sounds like you are being used as a meal ticket. Edit for additional thought: Is it possible she has postpartum depression? That changes the dynamic a bit and is worth investigating. | /r/MensRights | 17/02/19 10:11 PM |
| 8 | A question about double standardsI can't speak for what feminists understand because my perspective is very different. My assumption is that they see a world where only men have been president and men have occupied the majority of positions of power, so clearly it must be easier to climb the ladder if male. Perhaps that was true historically. Modern statistics paint a very different picture. In education alone, women have been the majority in higher education since the 70's. Are there some men who had a giant leg up in life? Ye… | /r/MensRights | 16/02/19 02:16 PM |
| 18 | A question about double standardsYou aren't wrong, but there is a common perspective in the feminist community that men have had a monopoly on positions of power for a long time and "equality" dictates there be some all female counterparts. Look at the writing group of Huffington Post. Another examples is when RBG was asked when there will be enough women on the Supreme Court. She said 9 (all of them) because there were 9 men on the Court for a very long time and no one complained much. There is also a ridiculous idea that sexi… | /r/MensRights | 16/02/19 01:37 PM |
| 7 | First time I've actually seen it called for what it isNo criminal charges thankfully. They were offered victim services such as counseling. The other thing I hated about that case was that the offender eventually got custody of her son who was the same age as the victims. That would never happen for a male convicted sex offender. | /r/MensRights | 14/02/19 01:50 AM |
| 11 | First time I've actually seen it called for what it isThat's not accurate at all. I am on a first name basis with many judges and most really try hard to get justice for the parties involved. There are plenty of bad apples but many times judges get unfair flak for doing their job. | /r/MensRights | 13/02/19 10:34 PM |
| 76 | First time I've actually seen it called for what it isNot in my experience. This judge is retired from the bench now and hopefully we get better results. | /r/MensRights | 13/02/19 04:43 PM |
| 150 | First time I've actually seen it called for what it isI was working on a legal proceeding with similar facts. Adult woman, barely teen children. She offered them alcohol and they had sex with her. All the evidence indicated she consented and encouraged it. At her trial, she claimed they took advantage of her. I was livid that this sex offender would risk ruining the lives of two boys to save her own skin. I pushed for a much greater penalty than she got but unfortunately the judge didn't agree. | /r/MensRights | 13/02/19 04:33 PM |
| 17 | Srebrenica Massacre: The women were raped and the men were MURDERED. The author still tries to portray it as an act of misogyny.According to Hillary women are always the primary victims of war. They lose their husbands, their sons, their fathers, etc. Rape is terrible and a war crime. No one disputes that. But it shouldn't overshadow the deaths of so many men. | /r/MensRights | 31/01/19 06:36 PM |
| 6 | Denied, and then someAgreed. I'm not even a huge fan of voting on judges. It makes them beholden to popular opinion to keep their seat, and the court of public opinion is a cruel mistress. Great judges who follow the law but produce results the public doesn't like get voted out, and the ones who ham up the high profile cases stay in. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 31/01/19 01:05 AM |
| 20 | Denied, and then someI love how the attorney says "the court can't consider..." then goes on to list a bunch of mitigating factors the court can't consider. Terrible advocacy on behalf of the defense attorney. Make your record and prep for an appeal without sounding desperate and whiny. I would say that to any attorney, regardless of gender or tears shed. We are professionals and officers of the court. I'm not a fan of minimum sentencing either, but the voters seem to lean that way each opportunity they have. This i… | /r/PussyPassDenied | 30/01/19 01:29 PM |
| 273 | "Where are all the good men at?"Men and humans in general are good at adapting. If you give us a system where loyalty and sacrifice are not valued, we naturally gravitate to a different meta. Marriage offers little to most men and the old fashioned courtship process doesn't either. Don't ask why men have changed. Instead, ask what has changed that forced men to become different. | /r/MensRights | 30/01/19 01:14 PM |
| 5 | If paternity fraud happens in around 1% of all pregnancies there are literally hundreds of thousands of men out there duped into raising kids they didn't father, and it's insane how no mothers have gone to jail for itPart of my work is paternity. Most of my cases involve disestablishing paternity vs establishing it. Women are far more promiscuous than most people think. | /r/MensRights | 29/01/19 02:02 AM |
| 1 | The gender privilege mythI am very strictly child free, partially for that reason. I am an attorney that did divorce and custody law (mostly representing men) so the whole romance of marriage, kids and a white picket fence is spoiled for me. My partner isn't happy about that at all, but I was up front about my views very early in the relationship and she chose to stay so I have no guilt there. I could write pages on how the system is very difficult for most men, especially lower income men. I used to offer my services a… | /r/MensRights | 28/01/19 04:13 AM |
| 2 | The gender privilege mythNo, I am dedicated to be childfree. She really wants children, but it is not even on the radar for me. I told her very early on that in my time as a divorce attorney I have seen too much fallout from marriages with children to ever want to be in that situation. She made her choice to stay will full knowledge of my position. | /r/MensRights | 28/01/19 03:00 AM |
| 2 | Feminism Explained By A MemeGlad to count one in our camp. The thing I hated most about the draft was that it crippled your chance at a decent life if you didn't sign up. I know men aren't often prosecuted for it (though they could be), but no federal student loans means no chance at college for anyone but the wealthy. That's just one immediate consequence. I might be dating myself but I was forced to sign up right after the nation began a major military conflict (war, but we don't call it that these days). Yeah, it sure w… | /r/MensRights | 27/01/19 08:14 PM |
| 1 | The gender privilege mythJust a quick google search produced this. The article itself mentions the methodology isn't perfect, but I wanted to demonstrate that there is some evidence that women attempt more often. | /r/MensRights | 27/01/19 08:09 PM |
| 3 | The gender privilege mythAffirmative action made some sense in a very limited context. I think it has outgrown its use and should be shifted to socioeconomic factors versus race. Obama was clear that his daughters didn't need affirmative action, and he is right. They have a far better chance at success than an impoverished white male. I hardly ever agree with Thomas' judicial philosophy but on AA he makes great points. It puts students into environments where they are less qualified and will often finish lower in the cl… | /r/MensRights | 27/01/19 08:04 PM |
| 2 | The gender privilege mythThanks for the link but I knew about that documentary well before it came out and watched it asap. I am not sure we are at a point where she will be fully receptive yet, but change happens gradually. I thought that documentary was very well done. I wouldn't say the same about Divorce Corp. Probably unpopular opinion here, but it was way too sensational as to how divorce normally works. I say this as an attorney that represented primarily men in custody and divorce cases. | /r/MensRights | 27/01/19 08:00 PM |
| 4 | The gender privilege mythWho is making those decisions to preserve some patriarchy if it isn't the majority of men? If you want to point fingers at a super wealthy group that is disenfranchising women, that's a very different thing than a patriarchy. Also, if the men in power don't use their power to benefit men as a whole, what is the point in applying that label? Can't we call it an elitist, biased system instead of implying that the average man automatically has it better than the average woman? | /r/MensRights | 27/01/19 07:56 PM |
| 3 | The gender privilege mythThat's a fair point. Mild cutting for example can be seen as a suicide attempt versus far more lethal means such as jumping off bridges. | /r/MensRights | 27/01/19 07:51 PM |
| 1 | The gender privilege mythI think you raise a very good point. There's no doubt that women attempt suicide more often but men are more likely to have fatal attempts. Short answer is that I'm not sure of the causes behind this. I think the social stigma cast upon a male who is struggling versus the comfort and support women are more likely to receive is a major issue. My profession (law) has an addiction and suicide crisis that no one really wants to talk about. It is there, it is pervasive, but there aren't good avenues … | /r/MensRights | 27/01/19 06:18 PM |
| 10 | The gender privilege mythAs I mentioned in another comment, the issue of mens rights vs feminism is probably our biggest divide. We agree on the majority of other important matters, and it isn't easy to find that. I have options to date women who are much more inline with my views on this, but they have other flaws too. There's a small part of me that hopes I can gradually shift her views or at least get her to see that mens rights activists aren't basement dwelling incels as many think. | /r/MensRights | 27/01/19 05:26 PM |
| 4 | The gender privilege mythIn these times he might not even have been admitted due to schools striving to achieve certain diversity goals. I don't have any medical experience but it was very clear that my law school had lower standards for women vs men to achieve that coveted 50/50 ratio. | /r/MensRights | 27/01/19 05:17 PM |
| 20 | The gender privilege mythThose are all great goals to aspire to and I agree with virtually everything you said. I don't blame feminists, I just don't think most have their priorities in the right place. Lets take male deaths alone, be it shorter life span, workplace, homicide, or suicide. Isn't that a bigger crisis than even the "me too" movement? That's not to discredit those movements at all; it's very important that all persons be protected from harassment and have adequate and fair venues to address the matter. If f… | /r/MensRights | 27/01/19 05:05 PM |
| 6 | The gender privilege mythLike many things, I don't think gender is automatically determines a persons capabilities. That said, there are a few biological and evolution based differences between the genders. Men did evolve as high risk high reward creatures. Genetically, we are far more disposable to a population. We have evolved a better spacial awareness and greater capacity to take blunt force injury. Women tend to have better linguistic skills, better at reading emotions, less prone to anger and violence, and more ri… | /r/MensRights | 27/01/19 04:37 PM |
| 29 | The gender privilege mythYep. I don't remember how the topic came up but it was about statutory rape/age of consent. I have some experience with this due to my profession. She thinks it is just fine that a slightly older man having consensual sex (we'll say 16(f) and 21(m)) is a sexual predator and should be convicted. I don't want to wade into the minutia of consent laws, but I mentioned that if a poor minority 14 y/o boy is pressured into gang life and commits a crime as condition of his initiation, he can and often i… | /r/MensRights | 27/01/19 03:58 PM |
| 91 | The gender privilege mythShe for sure has the victim mentality and worse, the idea that women need to band together against men because women can do things better. She grew up fairly poor as did I, but occasionally she plays oppression olympics and argues that she grew up more poor than I. I disagree, but I don't like that game. If that were the case, I can just flop out my "underprivileged minority" card. That's a stupid race to the bottom. Someone always had it worse. Lets focus on making things better. In B4 a bunch … | /r/MensRights | 27/01/19 03:46 PM |
| 245 | The gender privilege mythNot much in terms of those types of things. She is stubborn and set in her views. We agree on most political and religious fronts, but we just can't talk about feminism or men's rights without fundamental disagreement. | /r/MensRights | 27/01/19 03:12 PM |
| 2 | Feminism Explained By A MemeAgreed. But remember, "Women have always been the primary victims of war. They lose their husbands, their fathers, their sons in combat." Kinda makes us men feel a little disposable. | /r/MensRights | 27/01/19 02:36 PM |
| 858 | The gender privilege mythMy feminist partner who believes in the patriarchy had a couple fuses blow when I got frustrated and asked her the following: Why have there been more women in higher education since the 70's, with the trend continuing to grow? Why is the incarceration rate (sentencing too) so disproportionate? Why are men the majority of the homeless? Why do men commit suicide at several times the rate of women? I went on with a few others, but my point was clear. If there is a patriarchy, it is doing a piss po… | /r/MensRights | 27/01/19 01:51 PM |
| 16 | Feminism Explained By A MemeThank you for your input. My comment generalized feminism more than it should have. Though I hate when MRA's are seen as one group who are all incels or misogynists, I find myself not articulating my perspectives as well as I should have. I think the all or none (my opinion is none) approach is very fair. I based my opinion on the fact that things like "manspreading" or "mansplaining" seem to get so much more attention. I personally haven't really seen open feminists take up many causes that sup… | /r/MensRights | 27/01/19 01:46 PM |
| 23 | Irony of feminism.One of my professors was an incredibly well respected and published constitutional law expert. Harvard grad, number 2 in his class behind Scalia as I was told, but I never independently confirmed that. Anyways, internationally respected scholar who literally traveled to other developing nations to help them draft their constitutions. He is also squarely in the liberal camp as will become relevant soon. We hosted a forum discussion abortion laws with some of the big wigs from Planned Parenthood. … | /r/MensRights | 27/01/19 01:30 PM |
| 53 | Irony of feminism.TIL feminism has a monopoly on deciding who is educated. I guess I might as well burn my law degree from a top school and take more gender studies courses so I can truly understand things like equal protection under the law. | /r/MensRights | 27/01/19 01:09 PM |
| 64 | Feminism Explained By A MemeI was at a political town hall once where a woman said that men shouldn't have say on abortion because they don't have the right parts. My immediate urge was to retort with "in that case, women should have no say on whether and how the nation goes to war, because they aren't subject to the draft." Women want the privilege of being able to serve in whatever military capacity they choose. However, when you ask feminists whether women should be required to register for the draft and face the same c… | /r/MensRights | 27/01/19 12:59 PM |
| 4 | Should MRAs try to be more intersectional?There are men of color here too. I think MRA's should be very welcome to racial issues also. It's never been clear to me why a 15 year old girl willingly having sex is a rape victim but a 14 year old boy pressured into gang life is a criminal that is potentially tried as an adult. I would be more than happy to see this community embrace some of the racial issues facing men. Disproportionate sentencing and incarceration rates, discrimination in hiring, etc. | /r/MensRights | 22/01/19 10:51 AM |
| 6 | Next Gillette Should Target 'Toxic Femininity'I am as ardently objecting to the Gillette ad as any, but this article is over the top. I don't think it represents mens rights very well. | /r/MensRights | 18/01/19 06:46 AM |
| 3 | Dollar shave club delivers product right at your door. The trail box is 5$ with free delivery. And fuck GilletteWith thicker hair that doesn't always have a well defined grain, it really is tough. Expect a few minor cuts if going for a close shave. | /r/MensRights | 15/01/19 06:26 PM |
| 19 | Let’s Make Gillette’s new ad the most disliked video on YouTubeIt's ok to have preferences, but not ok to shame a person who knowingly enters into that situation. That said, social roles have shifted to where men who don't want to walk into a "ready made family" are called bigoted by many feminists. | /r/MensRights | 15/01/19 05:30 AM |
| 15 | Thousands of dads are left in shock as DIY paternity tests soar. Up to 30,000 tests are being performed every year, says Alphabiolabs. In the UK about 750,000 babies are born every year. Feminists want the test to be illegal without the written consent of the mother.Friendly FYI to men out there who do at home kits. If you are established as father through marriage or signing at birth, the at home test doesn't do anything to fix that. You still need to take legal action asap. Vital Statistics won't disestablish fathers based on mail in type swab tests. | /r/MensRights | 13/01/19 12:39 PM |
| 21 | My friend's children are living in a drug rehab with their mother instead of in a stable loving home with their father. Equality!Attorney familiar with family law here but not in MA. He could go to court and get a subsequent order enforcing his parenting time. I'd do it along with seeking additional custody, but that's just me. If granted and the director still refuses access, he/she will be in deep shit. | /r/MensRights | 11/01/19 10:44 AM |
| 21 | Utah is now implementing "listen and believe the woman" for rape cases: Training officers to ask leading questions, suggest memories and pretty much undo all the law reforms put in to protect against Satanic Ritual Abuse hysteria but now for false rape accusationsThe suggesting memories thing is very real. I want all persons to have access to justice but I would rather an alleged victim give a full statement before any specific questions are asked. Medical questions are an exception of course because prompt treatment might be necessary. But an unprompted "how were you held down?" Nope. Most police officers are good, well meaning persons. However, they often have a strict "crime and punishment" and they know how to make the punishment part much more likel… | /r/MensRights | 10/01/19 07:48 AM |
| 2 | As a feminist that also cares about men's rights, this comment resonated with me.I know it's a common formatting typo, but your last sentence explains it. | /r/MensRights | 08/01/19 04:07 AM |
| 7 | As a feminist that also cares about men's rights, this comment resonated with me.5% feels generous. | /r/MensRights | 08/01/19 04:05 AM |
| -1 | Feminist doctor shames men who feel psychologically damaged by male genital mutilation. Claims these men are "mansplaining" and have a "fragile male ego".I feel ashamed that I had a knee jerk reaction that wanted her to experience having that done to her as an infant. That is wrong. That said, her words attempt to invalidate many men who rightfully feel hurt by what was done to them. I hold medical doctors to a high standard; they take an oath that says do no harm. | /r/MensRights | 07/01/19 12:55 AM |
| 2 | This is what modern feminism is. This is the literal definition of bigotry.I don't agree, therefore I am an uneducated fool.Clearly, even though my graduation was very close to equal genders. I was only there because some privilege. The daughter of our football coach (big university so multi million salary) certainly had to work harder than me to get accepted into the same program. | /r/MensRights | 02/01/19 11:35 PM |
| 5 | This is what modern feminism is. This is the literal definition of bigotry.I don't agree, therefore I am an uneducated fool.No. Homosexuality is observed in nature and is a perfectly normally thing for humans. Not that it should have relevance but I am straight. I don't think there is anything wrong with homosexuality, and I strongly suggest that you consider reevaluating your views on the issue. | /r/MensRights | 02/01/19 06:34 PM |
| 16 | This is what modern feminism is. This is the literal definition of bigotry.I don't agree, therefore I am an uneducated fool.TIL feminism has a monopoly on education. I guess I should just burn my doctorate. | /r/MensRights | 02/01/19 06:21 PM |
| 7 | This is what modern feminism is. This is the literal definition of bigotry.I don't agree, therefore I am an uneducated fool.How about instead calling them a person that happens to be attracted to someone of the same sex. In my view, Men's Rights includes all men, regardless of their sexual orientation. | /r/MensRights | 02/01/19 06:19 PM |
| 105 | Why should men be open with their emotions?I don't think there should be any dictation on how men are supposed to address their emotions. Instead, there should be a culture that welcomes men who wish to stay stoic or those who wear their emotions on their sleeve. I think the current problem is that men are often shamed for either approach. Stoicism is the safer play in most cultures, but it isn't always healthy. | /r/MensRights | 25/12/18 07:41 AM |
| 2 | Men should be allowed to sign away parental rights without the consent of the woman during pregnancy. If she can choose to not be a mother, he should be able to choose to not be a father.I agree, but the court of public opinion is not bound by those rules. A false accusation could wreck a family or career with little recourse for the accused even if found not guilty. | /r/MensRights | 17/12/18 07:32 PM |
| 7 | Men should be allowed to sign away parental rights without the consent of the woman during pregnancy. If she can choose to not be a mother, he should be able to choose to not be a father.I would like to see a good faith notice requirement, but the amount of false rape claims would skyrocket under a different system. Woman claims rape and/or unknown father to bypass the system. | /r/MensRights | 17/12/18 06:49 PM |
| 8 | Men should be allowed to sign away parental rights without the consent of the woman during pregnancy. If she can choose to not be a mother, he should be able to choose to not be a father.This would be really easy to set up actually. Woman files notice of presumed paternity with the court and has it legally served on named father. This could be a one page document with basics like names, estimated conception date, and estimated delivery date. The document should be sealed so no one other than the parties can see it. Named father gets served with notice and an objection form. He can accept responsibility, contest paternity, surrender all responsibility, or perhaps both. This is al… | /r/MensRights | 17/12/18 06:37 PM |
| 20 | Men should be allowed to sign away parental rights without the consent of the woman during pregnancy. If she can choose to not be a mother, he should be able to choose to not be a father.I'm not sure about abolishing it, but massive reforms are certainly necessary. A man who convinces a woman not to abort on promise that he will raise and support the child should probably face some obligations. Not really fair for the taxpayers to pick up the tab for that. I assume that would be the rare case though. | /r/MensRights | 17/12/18 06:26 PM |
| 21 | Netflix blurred out the circumcision and graphic pictures in 'American circumcision' wtf?That's true of anything. Extremists doing beheadings? Starving children in war zones? Maybe consenting adults should see how terrible it is. There's a reason for censorship in rare cases, but this isn't very convincing. | /r/MensRights | 17/12/18 07:21 AM |
| 4 | Does anyone else get annoyed when they get sick but some women laugh it off and say its man flu?They often do, and experience worse symptoms on average than women with the same illness. I'm not sure of the cause but I assume it is because women traditionally did most child rearing. | /r/MensRights | 15/12/18 12:01 AM |
| 17 | Seriously?! I guess a trash can is considered a home....Haven't you heard that about 25% of the homeless are women!? It's an outrage and we need more shelters for them. /s | /r/MensRights | 13/12/18 07:03 PM |
| 4 | Please stop posting about being banned from feminist subreddits.I am fully aware that subs can ban anyone for any reason. It isn't like first amendment rights apply. Still, I think we should know that persons advocating for men's rights face this sort of silencing on a very popular international forum. It's really frustrating. | /r/MensRights | 12/12/18 07:18 AM |
| 15 | Please stop posting about being banned from feminist subreddits.The clear cases don't contribute much, but I still see some value in knowing about the some of the bans. I was banned from a sub that discusses economics just for having too much positive karma from this sub. My comment there was fully relevant and had nothing to do with men's rights. That is a big difference from posting "hur dur, feminism is cancer" in TwoX. | /r/MensRights | 12/12/18 12:09 AM |
| 1 | I was accused of rape in college. I didn't do it, the DA never charged me, and the Title IX investigation went in my favor. How the fuck do I ever tell anybody about this?Title IX delegates that authority and duty to universities. What should be available and what is available under the current laws can be quite different. | /r/MensRights | 07/12/18 12:34 AM |
| 2 | I was accused of rape in college. I didn't do it, the DA never charged me, and the Title IX investigation went in my favor. How the fuck do I ever tell anybody about this?I did some work defending major universities in this type of suit. It is really difficult to get actual monetary repayment unless the university totally screwed up. The system is broken from the start. Police and DA's are the ones trained to investigate and prosecute sexual assault allegations. Universities are not equipped to do that and the results of forcing that on them has been disastrous, especially for the accused. | /r/MensRights | 07/12/18 12:02 AM |
| 2 | I was accused of rape in college. I didn't do it, the DA never charged me, and the Title IX investigation went in my favor. How the fuck do I ever tell anybody about this?The allegation wasn't necessarily false, though I assume it was if a Title IX kangaroo court found in his favor. I wouldn't completely rule out potential for damages, but we need a lot more information before that could even be considered. | /r/MensRights | 06/12/18 11:08 PM |
| 3 | I was accused of rape in college. I didn't do it, the DA never charged me, and the Title IX investigation went in my favor. How the fuck do I ever tell anybody about this?For what? They investigated and found in his favor. No real damages to claim in court unless OP has more facts not in the post. | /r/MensRights | 06/12/18 10:14 PM |
| 5 | I was accused of rape in college. I didn't do it, the DA never charged me, and the Title IX investigation went in my favor. How the fuck do I ever tell anybody about this?Lawyer here. You don't. You weren't charged in a criminal court. Colleges have various ways of handling records of these investigations but it isn't worth diving into that quagmire. If you choose to share your story, keep it among trusted persons. Not employers. | /r/MensRights | 06/12/18 08:40 PM |
| 39 | Feminists angry that men can now have sex with sexdolls. Claim silicone dolls are women. "Make no mistake, that isn’t a doll he’s doing, or maybe raping, choking, or hitting — it’s all those women he can’t measure up to."At least most of the comments rightfully call out the author on how ridiculous her logic is. If a person thinks a piece of silicone can be raped, I don't even know where to begin. I guess I owe a couple banana peels an apology. I feel bad for clicking but I don't know how to post an archive link. | /r/MensRights | 06/12/18 09:04 AM |
| 2 | Is the 19th Amendment sexist against men?The Declaration is not a binding legal document like the Constitution is, so no. | /r/MensRights | 04/12/18 05:32 AM |
| 48 | Women are being asked to record ‘consent videos’ before sex by men who are afraid they’ll be accused of rape or assaultThat's very true. I wouldn't say it is worthless though. If a woman claims she was too intoxicated, a video before sex could be decent evidence that she wasn't showing signs of intoxication sufficient to make her unable to consent. Still far from a perfect defense but in the current legal system every shred of exculpatory evidence is helpful. I remember when they designed condom wrappers where the woman would mark the date and that she consented to sex. Nearly useless evidence wise, but it was a… | /r/MensRights | 01/12/18 09:39 AM |
| 1 | Why do Leftists love toxic Femininity?Leftists can hate feminism too. | /r/MensRights | 27/11/18 08:34 PM |
| 1 | Awareness campaign at a mental health clinic about male eating disorders. Good to see this was being made a priority.That's a very good point. I dated a bulimic woman in undergrad and she was meticulous about cleanup. | /r/MensRights | 08/11/18 09:02 PM |
| 107 | Awareness campaign at a mental health clinic about male eating disorders. Good to see this was being made a priority.The janitor of all people noticed and said something. There was a male athlete at my college who was bulimic. Football team, not wrestler trying to make weight. He would binge and purge even though objectively he looked very fit. It wasn't unusual for football players to eat tons of food so it went unnoticed for a long time. People suffer in silence and can be fairly good at hiding it. Especially men who don't have the same established support network and face shame for admitting their struggle.… | /r/MensRights | 08/11/18 01:35 PM |
| 336 | Girl confesses that she can't have sex with her bf unless drunk, internet tells her she is being raped.If I had a nickel for every time I had very drunken consensual sex with a sober partner, I would have enough for a couple meals at the priciest restaurant in town. However, I am male so it isn't rape in public opinion. Nor do I consider it to be, especially with a long term partner. | /r/MensRights | 01/11/18 12:02 PM |
| 19 | Girl confesses that she can't have sex with her bf unless drunk, internet tells her she is being raped.That is incredibly far from the truth. A person can consent while drunk. It is only when the person is intoxicated to a point where they are unconscious or clearly unable to make rational decisions that rape comes into play. | /r/MensRights | 01/11/18 11:57 AM |
| 7 | Got banned from r/socialism for saying MAYBE kavanaugh isnt a rapist. "Note: Male"I used to follow r/socialism until I quickly realized that drinking the feminist kool aid was a requirement. Don't see why an economic system had to be so wed to a social movement. That is more like a party platform. | /r/MensRights | 30/10/18 05:59 AM |
| 24 | 'Consent videos': why more and more men are asking women to record consent before sexI don't think it is bad practice at all. I'd love to see this extended to recording "I'm on the pill" type stuff too. If slipping the condom off is supposed to be considered rape, shouldn't it be extended to lying about BC? | /r/MensRights | 23/10/18 09:34 PM |
| 4 | Sex work and decriminalization. When you read between the lines, it's terrifying how men are viewed.I think the opposite. Paying for dinner, drinks, a movie, etc will be obsolete. Why do that and just get a peck on the cheek so she can use the use the next guy for the same? It will force women to up their game and not use sex as a tool of manipulation. | /r/MensRights | 17/10/18 03:54 PM |
| 2 | The Case for Militant IntactivismI pay taxes towards wars I don't want to fight also. I don't think that makes me complicit to the deaths that result as long as I vote against it every election. | /r/MensRights | 17/10/18 04:46 AM |
| 1 | The Case for Militant IntactivismI am very passionate about this subject but I disagree with your approach. Education and voting is the best way to solve this. Even if you don't support abortion, intimidating or killing abortion doctors is wrong also. Peaceful change is always the optimal route. I don't like the idea of militant anything because there is always someone who can and will feel that way about you or those you care about. | /r/MensRights | 17/10/18 04:10 AM |
| 8 | "Witches planning a 'hexing' of Kavanaugh, with proceeds from the event going to feminist groups." I've been saying for ages there's a strong link between feminists & 'Witches' (or nutcases). Here's an example.Not really. A layperson could conclude that because Ford's testimony lacked a lot of important details and her witnesses did not corroborate her account of the event that the allegation wasn't well substantiated. | /r/MensRights | 16/10/18 07:20 PM |
| 7 | Sex work and decriminalization. When you read between the lines, it's terrifying how men are viewed.The whole thing is just a joke. I'm on the side of legalizing and regulating it. Makes it better for everyone involved. Prohibition didn't work, the war on drugs didn't work, why do we think this ban is doing any good? | /r/MensRights | 16/10/18 01:03 PM |
| 24 | "Witches planning a 'hexing' of Kavanaugh, with proceeds from the event going to feminist groups." I've been saying for ages there's a strong link between feminists & 'Witches' (or nutcases). Here's an example.I didn't want Kavanaugh confirmed for many reasons. Full disclosure, I lean left and I know that's not always popular here. That said, the way the confirmation hearings were handled and the backlash against his appointment were shameful. I'm a practicing attorney and while I may not agree with his judicial philosophy, his opinions will be binding on how I do my job. The whole idea of a surprise sexual assault claim that wasn't well substantiated and he had little ability to defend against smacke… | /r/MensRights | 16/10/18 12:47 PM |
| 18 | Hillary Clinton says Bill didn’t abuse his power 'because Monica Lewinsky was an adult,' while blaming sexism for 2016 loss to Trump 🤔Accusers should be believed, but only when politically convenient. The mental gymnastics she must do every day to reconcile her positions and actions... | /r/MensRights | 14/10/18 10:02 PM |
| 12 | Effacing The Male - Homeless in Portland: A deepening crisis on the streets of America - They can mention Trans people, elderly people and ""minorities"", but not that the MAJORITY of homeless are still male. Male disposability in action.But, but, 25% of the homeless population is female. What a crisis!! /s | /r/MensRights | 08/10/18 12:04 PM |
| 4 | According to this I have had to have arguments about forced kissing (with tongue) being rape today. I'm very confused.I'm a lawyer and usually the actual statutes are much better written to define rape versus other sexual offenses. Unwanted kissing would be among them but it wouldn't qualify as rape. | /r/MensRights | 04/10/18 05:07 AM |
| 2 | Man claims friend raped by Judge Kavanaugh; recants story after FBI told to look into itI agree. Sitting on the info makes this disclosure appear purely political versus moral high ground. Even if the dems take the Senate in the midterms Trump would still have the power to appoint another nominee though. He'd just be forced to select a presumably more moderate person. | /r/MensRights | 01/10/18 06:15 PM |
| 1 | Man claims friend raped by Judge Kavanaugh; recants story after FBI told to look into itI don't want him confirmed because of his judicial and political philosophies. That said, his confirmation experience that is split on party lines makes the Supreme Court look way more political than it was meant to be. Why not spring these accusations when he was up for a lifetime appointment on a key federal court? I am still struggling to process the whole thing but my Facebook feed is a mess. I see some nasty things like "if the victim's only remedy is to wait to bring her allegation at the … | /r/MensRights | 01/10/18 08:15 AM |
| 8 | Man ordered to pay child support after ex-wife forged his signature for an IVF pregnancy. And we heard about this in news....?That's frustrating. I'm an attorney in the US but I don't know much about current UK probate laws. | /r/MensRights | 24/09/18 06:48 PM |
| 29 | Man ordered to pay child support after ex-wife forged his signature for an IVF pregnancy. And we heard about this in news....?One of the many reasons any important document should require at least a notary, if not two independent witnesses. Some states in the US require that for wills to be valid and this seems to be of equal or greater significance. | /r/MensRights | 24/09/18 06:23 PM |
| 49 | Serena Williams accuses umpire Carlos Ramos of 'sexist remark'Low class to turn this into sexism. That's like getting pulled over for speeding and claiming that you've seen others get away with it as we all have. Own your shit Serena, you have a potentially great legacy to protect. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 09/09/18 10:21 AM |
| 42 | University of Chicago Feminists campaign thwart scientific paper publication because a mathematical model does not fit their narrativeFacts tend to have a very anti-feminist slant. | /r/MensRights | 09/09/18 10:15 AM |
| 13 | Shouldn't we just separate females?This garbage has no place on this sub in my opinion. Women are worthy of respect and human rights. We may disagree with feminist garbage but the idea of segregation is absurd and I don't want this movement contaminated by views that are so extreme. | /r/MensRights | 29/08/18 08:57 AM |
| 16 | US-backed Saudi regime set to behead female activist and four others (Hint: the 4 others are men)But lets shed a tear for the wives, mothers, sisters, and daughters who lost someone. | /r/MensRights | 26/08/18 09:14 AM |
| 25 | US-backed Saudi regime set to behead female activist and four others (Hint: the 4 others are men)Shhh, male victims don't count. /s | /r/MensRights | 26/08/18 08:51 AM |
| 6 | Custody of 10 mo. old SonLawyer who has experience in family law here. Stop all financial support and just file for custody. The longer this goes on the harder it will be to get a judge to rule differently that what is currently occurring. Status quo means a lot in most custody actions. Her criminal history will play against her but your delay in acting will hurt you. I would seek temporary custody while the primary custody action is pending. If you need to better child proof the home or do other things to demonstrate y… | /r/MensRights | 14/08/18 12:16 AM |
| 2 | Custody of 10 mo. old SonThere is no option not to involve her. She is entitled to legal notice and a chance to contest. | /r/MensRights | 14/08/18 12:10 AM |
| 11 | FAUX OPPRESSION ALERT Female Lawyers Still Face Sexism in the CourtroomOk, lawyer with not insignificant experience here. This article looks like a movie script. I've been in many courts in more than one state and nothing even remotely similar to this has been allowed to occur. Big firms, small firms, public practice, you name it. Men face a lot of the same challenges, especially against female counsel. If you object over her, are you being too dominant, sexist, etc. If you let her rule the courtroom, are you a pathetic beta male that doesn't have a case? I've spec… | /r/MensRights | 01/08/18 09:00 AM |
| 15 | Friendly reminder to all Men: ALWAYS use a condom. ALWAYS destroy after use.I had an ex pull this on me following a breakup. Yes, it does happen in real life sadly. | /r/TheRedPill | 22/07/18 07:06 PM |
| 1 | Tennis - Man Servers against Women With No MercyOh god, it wouldn't even be close. They could screw around and win without dropping a game. | /r/MensRights | 18/07/18 05:09 PM |
| 10 | Tennis - Man Servers against Women With No MercyThis isn't 100% on the concept of men's rights to me, but as a tennis player myself I get where you are going with it. There are certain areas that men will always be superior such as weight lifting or the 100 meter dash. That's just simple biology. I recall Serena Williams touting that she could be any man ranked under 200 in the world. Someone ranked a bit below that took the challenge and beat her easily. Games like chess, billiards, etc. don't really need a division of genders. Judit Polgar … | /r/MensRights | 18/07/18 08:19 AM |
| 15 | I am so happy I found this subYes, male victims of female sexual assault find the idea that men can't get raped by women about as offensive as the idea that a woman can't be raped if wearing jeans. It happens to a lot of us and there is less incentive to come forward. Hillary isn't exactly broadcasting a "Believe Him" campaign. | /r/MensRights | 17/07/18 07:45 AM |
| 42 | Judge Judy on child custody. Simple, Straight and Quick!Judge Judy is a terrible example because it isn't actual court, but I've done enough emergency custody orders to know that what she said is very true. Mothers often think they have a monopoly over the child. | /r/MensRights | 10/06/18 08:31 PM |
| 4 | Paternity testing should be standard.Better to keep families together than have more single moms, and paternity tests make more single moms. Same reason marriage has financial and other incentives. There are some laws that don't let a bio dad allege paternity if the woman is married and neither married person consents. This hold true even if husband cannot possibly be the bio father (i.e. incarcerated). (Edit: not sure why I'm being downvoted. I don't agree with these reasons, but that was part of the legislative intent when passin… | /r/MensRights | 25/05/18 09:46 PM |
| 8 | Female privilege at its finest: College student exposes herself while presenting her thesis, and somehow the professor has to apologize...If it were a male I bet he would be subject to disciplinary proceedings. | /r/MensRights | 12/05/18 12:09 AM |
| 3 | 'Every district attorney’s nightmare': Two men exonerated in 1991 rape claimIt was a temp gig and I played a small role in a research project. Also, I wanted to practice civil litigation versus criminal law. | /r/MensRights | 11/05/18 09:53 PM |
| 2 | 'Every district attorney’s nightmare': Two men exonerated in 1991 rape claimYes. I used to work with them. | /r/MensRights | 11/05/18 09:43 PM |
| 3 | 'Every district attorney’s nightmare': Two men exonerated in 1991 rape claim100 percent agree. On the other hand, how many false accusers might take their lies to the grave if they face jail time? I'm not sure what the greater injustice is. | /r/MensRights | 11/05/18 09:35 PM |
| 4 | 'Every district attorney’s nightmare': Two men exonerated in 1991 rape claimNot toward her criminal liability. Civil cases have statutes of limitations but it only begins when the victim discovers or reasonably should have known. Good example is asbestos cases where decades pass before the person develops mesothelioma, but they can sue. Criminally, the statutes put the burden on the government to discover the crime and prosecute within a certain time from the commission, not discovery. The woman committed perjury (and probably filed a false police report) back when the … | /r/MensRights | 11/05/18 09:17 PM |
| 14 | 'Every district attorney’s nightmare': Two men exonerated in 1991 rape claimLiberty (not being in jail) is a fundamental right, so it has lots of protections such as due process, the right to confront accusers, etc. The idea is that the accused gets a fair defense. Say Dave punches Matt at a bar. 20 years later, Matt mentions this to an ambitious young DA who has Dave prosecuted. How can Dave ever put on a fair defense? Memories fade, witnesses get harder to track down with time. Camera footage would be long gone, medical records tough to find, etc. It's not fair to Dav… | /r/MensRights | 11/05/18 09:01 PM |
| 27 | 'Every district attorney’s nightmare': Two men exonerated in 1991 rape claimThat's how it works on the civil side, but not criminal. The falsely accused men could sue civilly, but the State can't prosecute. | /r/MensRights | 11/05/18 05:08 PM |
| 50 | Is it just me or is r/relationships anti male?People have done that. Results are as expected. When called out on the bias, downvotes pour in or comments are removed under the pretense of off topic. | /r/MensRights | 30/04/18 09:33 PM |
| 6 | I filed for a restraining order and lost.That's good. Maybe with new evidence you can file again. | /r/MensRights | 24/04/18 07:05 AM |
| 10 | I filed for a restraining order and lost.I used to take cases like yours at super discounted rates because MRA. I'd help if I could. Men are at such as disadvantage in this particular area of law. | /r/MensRights | 24/04/18 06:21 AM |
| 25 | I filed for a restraining order and lost.This isn't bad advice at all but there are quite a few legal barriers OP would need to overcome. The legal system is designed against trying the same thing before different judges for obvious reasons, but it works against persons who may have been disenfranchised by a judge. The process is usually long, expensive, and has a low rate of success. I know it isn't what people want to hear, but that's how it generally works. | /r/MensRights | 24/04/18 06:15 AM |
| 29 | I filed for a restraining order and lost.Wow, that sounds like appeal fodder to me but I know the appeal process is unreasonably expensive. I would suggest a follow up with the lawyer who advised you. If that isn't successful, try legal aid in your area. If this happened to a woman who was being abused, there would be torches and pitchforks. I hope you can find justice. | /r/MensRights | 24/04/18 06:11 AM |
| 35 | I filed for a restraining order and lost.I'm a lawyer that has experience with restraining orders. Is there a chance that you got the procedure slightly wrong (very easy to do)? It is pretty rare for a judge to refuse to hear admissible evidence if you have brought the case properly. I'm sorry you had to experience this. There's a reason the legal system is almost universally loathed. | /r/MensRights | 24/04/18 05:51 AM |
| 3 | Husband protects wife and saves her life, wounds are so massive that he turns into a vegetable, wife dumps himNo, but I would still have expectations that she contribute in other ways to the household. | /r/MensRights | 19/04/18 08:38 PM |
| 76 | Husband protects wife and saves her life, wounds are so massive that he turns into a vegetable, wife dumps himMy SO openly admitted she'd leave if I didn't have a job, and I gather she wouldn't accept me pushing a broom or otherwise working a lower stress job for near minimum wage. | /r/MensRights | 19/04/18 06:46 PM |
| 2 | Illinois equal parenting bill (HB4113) quickly targeted for destruction by feminists. They claim to oppose equality "because children are the most powerful tool for abusers to gain power and control".Correct. | /r/MensRights | 10/04/18 08:47 PM |
| 15 | Illinois equal parenting bill (HB4113) quickly targeted for destruction by feminists. They claim to oppose equality "because children are the most powerful tool for abusers to gain power and control".I'm a divorce lawyer and this article's author has lost all sense of logic. Yes, clear and convincing is a higher burden but it should be. I can't even count the number of false abuse claims that get by because of the lower preponderance standard. If facing criminal charges, the standard is beyond reasonable doubt. That's the highest standard because jail time deprives someone of their freedom. I have no problem with clear and convincing evidence being required in alleged abuse cases when the re… | /r/MensRights | 10/04/18 06:38 PM |
| 4 | Two homeless men just sat next to me at a coffee shop and toasted to successI think there needs to be a notice requirement on the mother. Something like, within 20 days of a suspected or confirmed pregnancy, the mother must initiate a process to serve legal notice on all potential putative or legal fathers. The fathers should have a time period that only starts after they have been legally notified. I would of course include an exception to the notice requirements if a woman presented the court with sufficient evidence that notice would put her at risk of substantial ha… | /r/MensRights | 08/04/18 09:06 PM |
| 2 | Lose job for using the sl*t word in a private Whatsapp messageNot to split hairs, but you have full first amendment rights. However, the government is the only entity bound by that amendment; private employers can restrict speech or punish you for expressing things. | /r/MensRights | 04/04/18 10:01 PM |
| 1 | "Men...intentionally taking their own lives, in their own homes, constitute 37% of the entire body of all firearm deaths."It's funny how my education and experience is appreciated on this sub when I'm helping fathers with divorce or custody issues, but the downvotes pour in for my comment above that I feel was a fair contribution to the discussion. | /r/MensRights | 21/03/18 05:38 PM |
| -1 | "Men...intentionally taking their own lives, in their own homes, constitute 37% of the entire body of all firearm deaths."The supreme court is way too political, with that I agree. I still think an individual right to unrestricted firearm possession basically invalidates a part of the 2nd Amendment, which goes against the canons of interpreting legal writing. Brilliant minds can and do disagree on the issue. | /r/MensRights | 20/03/18 06:21 PM |
| -10 | "Men...intentionally taking their own lives, in their own homes, constitute 37% of the entire body of all firearm deaths."There are those of us who are educated in the field of constitutional law and think fairly strict gun regulation could occur without needing a constitutional amendment. D.C. v. Heller was a 5-4 decision. The majority chose to ignore the whole "well regulated militia" preface. I'm not making an argument for removing all guns, just that regulation is foreseeably possible without amendment if the court shifts by one vote. | /r/MensRights | 20/03/18 05:59 PM |
| 7 | Society beginning to tackle the issue of male genital mutilation (aka circumcision)I tend to avoid rituals created by goat herders. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/02/18 09:40 PM |
| 87 | Society beginning to tackle the issue of male genital mutilation (aka circumcision)It was originally a way of making men less sexual and curbing masturbation. Kellogg of cereal fame was one of the big proponents. The world wants men to be drones that do the work, provide, and don't demand too much of our female partners. The fact that this barbaric practice continues is a sign of males being considered disposable. Why aren't all the men in countries who don't do this dying of cancer or whatever excuse is used? In fact, life is better not being butchered out of the womb. | /r/TheRedPill | 20/02/18 09:50 AM |
| 6 | [Legal Rights] "Why rape cases should not be subjected to reasonable doubt" - Article Promoting False Sentences. WTF, Big ThinkDivorce rates went up when no fault was introduced. A majority of women will break their vows. I know that's different from a false accusation but it's still relevant to the "if it's easier, more people will do it" argument. | /r/MensRights | 08/02/18 07:09 PM |
| 65 | Fruits of Feminism : Intersectional pricing of cupcakesSo a native american female can walk off with all of the cupcakes for free. Also, who is she to think Hispanics have it easier than blacks? This is offensive on so many levels it's hard to process. | /r/MensRights | 26/01/18 09:40 AM |
| 7 | UK: 'Child support is 18 years of easy money': Women reveal the REAL reasons why they've lied about being on the Pill - and many DON'T regret what they've doneAnd lobby to change the laws that leave men holding the financial obligation for an unwanted pregnancy. But for the foreseeable future, teaching young men all the pitfalls of sex is the only real solution. | /r/MensRights | 16/01/18 10:33 PM |
| 150 | Stanford Law Professor Michele Dauber Calls For Death Of Brock Turner Because He Is Appealing His Sex ConvictionAs a member of the legal community I find this appalling. It is no wonder many people don't trust the legal system. | /r/TheRedPill | 12/12/17 08:08 AM |
| 16 | I'm just wondering if there are any LEO's, Prosecuting Attorneys, Judges or politicians/bureaucrats that lurk or post here.I am an attorney and I've been working on men's rights in what ways I could for most of my career. One example was signing up for a referral system that represented fathers in custody cases at greatly reduced cost. My current position gives me a ton of discretion as to fathers getting custody and on child support matters. I understand what's going on but it doesn't change overnight and I'm just one person. Rest assured that there are some of out there in upper ranks that are fighting for justice… | /r/MensRights | 21/10/17 07:23 PM |
| 7 | Stealthing to be classified as rape. No word on lying about birth control or poking holes in condoms.Same as proving any other case. Personal testimony can be sufficient. | /r/MensRights | 09/10/17 09:44 PM |
| 2 | I need some support to get through something personal.That was a weak of text. It is normal to feel the way you do but you need to process those feelings and get past them asap. She is a manipulative person that tried to keep you from your daughter. There's not an easy way to salvage that. Stay on the best trends you can with her but no more hookups and no more dreams of rekindling things. She will use it against you in a heartbeat. I'm glad you won in court. That is a scary place for persons in your position. | /r/MensRights | 12/09/17 11:27 PM |
| 55 | Judge Who Smiled Her Way Through Arrest Gets Maximum Sentence, Loses itThe problem is with the system that punishes addicts versus offering treatment. Punishment is not the answer. This woman needs treatment as do most persons convicted of a DUI. On one hand I am glad that the mother card didn't buy her a more lenient sentence than a man would have received, it still isn't the right result. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 09/07/17 07:51 AM |
| 5 | Why can women trick men in false fatherhood without repercussion?That's a tough situation. The feminists have overrun that nation to the point that paternity fraud is virtually state sanctioned. | /r/MensRights | 09/07/17 04:15 AM |
| 1 | Why can women trick men in false fatherhood without repercussion?The rape allegation would be kinda tough to justify 9 months afterward. | /r/MensRights | 09/07/17 04:14 AM |
| 3 | What exactly are the oppositions against legalization of LPS (Legal Parental Surrender)? Why as of 2017, still no country has implemented LPS (where abortion and safe heaven laws are legal)?There are a lot of loopholes to consider. What if a woman claims she didn't know she was pregnant until late into her term? What if she names the wrong father and it isn't discovered until birth? What if mother refuses to name a father and has a child she can't afford? Does she get denied public assistance? That probably hurts the child as much as the mother. As for fathers, some could claim duress especially if they weren't located or notified until just before the deadline. Also, making father… | /r/MensRights | 08/07/17 04:54 PM |
| 20 | Why can women trick men in false fatherhood without repercussion?The simple solution is to insist on paternity tests no matter what. The system isn't going to change anytime soon so men need to protect themselves. | /r/MensRights | 08/07/17 04:44 PM |
| 15 | John McEnroe says Serena Williams would be No. 700 in world if she played in men's circuitLook at it this way. Most of the time the ball is hit near or below the height of the net. Assume it was hit with all your power and traveled forward like a laser beam (not going to happen but just go with it). Most of the time it would either hit the net or sail out of the court. The solution is topspin, which basically causes the ball to curve downward during flight. With enough topspin, a person can hit a ball high enough to clear the net but it will curve down into the court. A topspin hit i… | /r/PussyPassDenied | 26/06/17 06:09 AM |
| 1 | "Man Up": circumcision campaign in AfricaYes, they are. | /r/MensRights | 22/06/17 03:18 AM |
| 100 | Sexism on college campuses is unbelievable.I honestly feel like the authors of this were speaking toward the gay community versus ever thinking that a woman could be an offender. I was literally in court with a female rapist today and if the genders were reversed the man would still be in prison but the rapist today walked out of court with custody of her children (same age and gender as her victims). | /r/MensRights | 22/06/17 03:15 AM |
| 39 | Law Professor Files Discrimination Complaint Over Women-Only ‘Wonder Woman’ ShowingGood. I agree that this was discrimination and I am glad a lawyer smarter than myself is going to further the issue. All the women (and some men) who want to whine about people raising a legitimate claim of discrimination need to use the simple tool of gender swapping. Men only for the next Captain America and would they be fine with it? | /r/MensRights | 03/06/17 08:15 AM |
| 14 | I am a teenage men's right activist and I want to know how I can help the Men's Rights movement.Register to vote as soon as you can. Start raising awareness for the cause by standing up and saying something if you see clear discrimination. Get educated on both sides and learn to be comfortable taking some flak for supporting a position that is often unpopular due to misunderstanding and smear campaigns. | /r/MensRights | 26/05/17 09:48 PM |
| 5 | Need help with custodyHe probably needs to to file a notice of claimed paternity (or whatever the equivalent is in NC) asap. And I second the advice of having a good lawyer involved. | /r/MensRights | 26/05/17 03:26 AM |
| 11 | Minority MRA's, why did you decide to become an MRA?She also thought it was far easier to be a gay man than a woman. The disconnect from reality was strong with one. | /r/MensRights | 25/05/17 01:23 AM |
| 40 | Minority MRA's, why did you decide to become an MRA?I always leaned MRA from a young age, but I took a gender studies class in undergrad to see that perspective. The professor accused me of talking over women when I would politely raise a counter point. Then she docked my grade for not participating enough. I met with her privately and asked if she thought issues such as the draft were adequately addressed by feminism. She told me that maybe there are problems for men but feminism is about helping empower women and men's issues aren't part of tha… | /r/MensRights | 24/05/17 06:16 PM |
| 2 | One thing that frustrates you the most about feministsYou can't tell who is in power by looking at who can't be criticized. | /r/MensRights | 21/05/17 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Child support reduction questionsI some states you can get credit against arrears for time you actually had the children. That's another good question for your lawyer. Regardless, you need to act asap at least as to the child in FL. | /r/MensRights | 18/05/17 10:12 PM |
| 2 | Child support reduction questionsNo, as long as it is your residence also. | /r/MensRights | 18/05/17 10:04 PM |
| 1 | Child support reduction questionsYou probably need r/legaladvice but I'm a lawyer that occasionally posts there so here goes. You shouldn't be paying any support for a child in your home. If it is with a different mother than the other two, it will be a separate modification. Jurisdiction on where to file isn't as simple as where the kids live. The last state that made a custody determination has continuing, exclusive jurisdiction to modify until all the parties have left that state. A lawyer would best answer those questions f… | /r/MensRights | 18/05/17 10:00 PM |
| 47 | My wife was charged with assault today.As a lawyer familiar with family law, I agree with this but I want to add to it. Pursue a temporary restraining order immediately after a DV incident. The police will be there for a night and might make an arrest, but a TRO is the best next step and it is a long lasting legal document. I always suggest hiring an attorney to help with legal affairs but TRO's are among the easiest to navigate pro se (without an attorney). | /r/MensRights | 16/05/17 02:50 AM |
| 3 | Women lie every day in family court with no consequences. Man gets 2 years in prison for claiming he created Kung fu panda. Moral = screwing people is ok. Screwing companies gets you jail timeI have seen many blatant, verifiable lies in my years practicing family law (sometimes by my clients though not with my assistance). I have only once seen someone charged with perjury and the charges ended up being dropped. | /r/MensRights | 11/05/17 05:35 PM |
| 5 | Can you start a marriage with a contract? Do they fly in court?Lawyer here and this contract wouldn't be enforceable. The alimony part may survive but the rest would be void, mostly due to being against public policy. | /r/MensRights | 06/05/17 03:35 PM |
| 2 | A new loophole idea: What if you quit your job before divorce?On mobile so please forgive typos. A cohabitation agreement is for a live in girlfriend. It works just like a prenup but has a different name. As far as prenups expiring, I know a common provision negotiated is a 10 year sunset. Basically, it becomes invalid if the marriage lasts ten years or more. I don't know of a specific law that automatically terminates them if the terms state it is to last indefinitely. I strongly suggest avoiding abuse or infidelity clauses. That is an open invitation for… | /r/MensRights | 04/05/17 04:23 AM |
| 7 | A new loophole idea: What if you quit your job before divorce?Yes, it is true but usually only if the person screws up. In my experience the most common scenarios where prenups get thrown out are: One side doesn't have an attorney. No matter how fair the prenup, make sure both spouses are independently represented, even if you transfer the money so your partner can hire an attorney. Springing a prenup on a person in the days before the scheduled wedding. This can be considered a form of duress. Have it done well in advance of signing marriage docs. Failure… | /r/MensRights | 03/05/17 06:40 AM |
| 9 | A new loophole idea: What if you quit your job before divorce?I will echo the other comments and chime in as an attorney who did divorces. Potential income is often used in these situations and potential income is usually based on either historical income or average income for your education/skills/training. The idea of hiding money is very dangerous too. If it gets discovered, not only you but the persons assisting risk fairly severe consequences. Hidden assets is a reason to reopen a divorce, so even if your ruse works for years you will never be able to… | /r/MensRights | 03/05/17 06:07 AM |
| 1 | Not to judge or anything😂The cognitive dissonance is strong with this one. | /r/MensRights | 27/04/17 03:55 AM |
| 15 | Nightmare neighbour-Feminist single mother with boy who is a serious problem for the entire street. Thoughts and opinions needed.Contact CPS. The child sounds beyond her control and CPS can offer parent training, real therapy for the family, etc. It also might make mother more aware that she needs to be serious about parenting. The reporting person is completely confidential in most places. | /r/MensRights | 14/04/17 09:58 PM |
| 3 | What should be the policy for drunk sex?The standard should be that consensual drunk sex is only a crime if a person knows or should have reasonably known that the other was unable to make informed consent. This rule should be interpreted against a crime having occurred unless that level of intent can be proven beyond a reasonable doubt. The intoxication of both consenting parties is a factor to consider. I think a man's ability to perform must not be considered as evidence of intent or lack of intoxication any more than female arousa… | /r/MensRights | 18/02/17 08:34 PM |
| 3 | After 20 Years, Young Man Leaves Foster Care On His Own Terms: "I'm relieved to finally get away from a system that ultimately failed me on its biggest promise. That one day it would find me a family who would love me." (Corruption in Title IV-E: See the FAQ)Great read. The foster care system has been under heavy fire lately. I was glad to see the article mention that the persons involved in the juvenile system are overworked and underpaid. This results in high turnover, which causes even more problems. | /r/MensRights | 11/02/17 07:55 PM |
| 2 | This woman just tried to get my girlfriend's urine "for a good cause". I wish I knew the guy so I could show him this.Lawyer also. My state even allows a year for a father to challenge paternity after he has agreed he is the father. The cases where non bio dads have to pay are very rare and probably could have been avoided with little effort, but they make big headlines. | /r/MensRights | 04/02/17 06:51 PM |
| 3 | Wage gap among younger AmericansVery well said. The only thing I could add is that there is social pressure on men to make good money, so they make that a priority. It isn't a privilege, it is a mandate imposed by society, women in particular. I would love to be working a low stress job but I'll work my way into an early grave. Even the woman I'm currently with admitted that part of the reason she's with me is my fairly successful career. And somehow I don't think I would have had much luck with ladies if I were making minimum… | /r/MensRights | 25/01/17 09:29 AM |
| 3 | Tired of this shitFee shifting in these types of cases is pretty rare absent very clear proof of fraud. Unfortunately, child support dollars are not tracked and unless the person receiving CS is neglecting the child, the courts are unlikely to grant any relief to the person paying. I would support a system where CS funds were loaded onto a debit card where both parents could view the statements. It would at least give some record of where those specific funds were being spent. Unfortunately most legal aid shops w… | /r/MensRights | 22/01/17 09:26 PM |
| 16 | Tired of this shitI used to be part of a consortium of attorneys that did work for fathers in your situation at highly reduced costs. I think one of the big reasons men feel trapped is that the legal system is very difficult to navigate without an attorney. I never made any profit off of those cases, but I've secured sole custody for fathers and that is a rare enough event to make a person proud. Maybe there is a program like that in your area. | /r/MensRights | 22/01/17 08:13 PM |
| 2 | The 'Women's March' on Washington is a protest against democracyI don't agree with all the general premises behind the March, but calling it a move against democracy is going too far. Trump might argue he has a mandate to make good on many of his extreme promises, and peaceful demonstration is a fair way to counteract that. It also puts the message out to other legislators who might be on the fence about supporting Trump's policies. | /r/MensRights | 22/01/17 07:18 PM |
| 1 | American Bar Association sanctioned misandry ~ How to fight the *myth* of parental alienationI wonder if they have the same feelings about Battered Wife Syndrome... | /r/MensRights | 14/01/17 10:30 PM |
| 2 | Washington State ~ educate yourself with the 2012 Prosecutors DV manual.This is how prosecutors often think. They care about their conviction rates more than serving justice, and that means getting the best jury within the confines of law and ethics. | /r/MensRights | 14/01/17 07:03 PM |
| 6 | Writing a paper, need list of female privilegesAffirmative action and programs or grants designed to recruit women only. Reduced standards when entering certain fields like firefighting. Safe haven laws that allow a mother to drop off a young child with no consequences and no obligation to notify the father. Domestic violence shelters typically do not accept men despite men often being the victims of DV. | /r/MensRights | 14/01/17 06:55 PM |
| 2 | American Bar Association sanctioned misandry ~ How to fight the *myth* of parental alienationParental alienation is definitely a thing, but even if proven, it is only one of many factors that decide a custody case. The problem with proving alienation is that it usually requires expert testimony from someone such as a custody evaluator. This gets expensive fast. | /r/MensRights | 14/01/17 06:47 PM |
| 1 | Question about legality of restroomsBased on? I am not aware of a law that would prohibit this practice. | /r/MensRights | 06/01/17 01:27 AM |
| 2 | Hilarious, totally innocent "prank" material from the local Knickknack store...Or buy one online. | /r/MensRights | 28/12/16 10:34 PM |
| 3 | At the University of Oregon, no more free speech for professors on subjects such as race, religion, sexual orientation: The only side of a debate that's allowed to speak is the one with the biggest mob, and for us that would be the radical feminist misandrist side.That's pretty absurd. Reason number 72 that I'm glad I didn't go there for law school. | /r/MensRights | 28/12/16 10:32 PM |
| 3 | man loses bid to recover $17K engagement ring and $85K debts paid off for fiancé of just 3 months.Not really. A well written prenup that is executed properly is pretty hard to dodge. The big caveat is that prenups aren't effective against child support. | /r/TheRedPill | 16/11/16 07:07 AM |
| 7 | Malicious mother.Way, way too few facts for anyone here to be of help. Please consider hiring an attorney with experience in family law and take his or her advice. | /r/MensRights | 13/11/16 09:34 AM |
| 0 | Jesus, when my paycheck is $2700 and $2676 goes to my ex, there is something seriously fucking wrongI'd like to argue the man is then entitled to the same level of physical intimacy he was accustomed to. Good for the goose, good for the gander. | /r/MensRights | 30/10/16 01:54 AM |
| 1 | Man Legally Forced to Pay Child Support Even After DNA Test Proves He’s Not DadYes, assuming it wouldn't be too personally taxing. But if I needed to evict a tenant or draft a simple contract, I'd do it myself. | /r/MensRights | 26/10/16 10:46 PM |
| 29 | Man Legally Forced to Pay Child Support Even After DNA Test Proves He’s Not DadThe judge isn't compromising the law, he is upholding it. In this situation, perhaps it was the wrong result. But the judge shouldn't just disregard the rules of evidence. If the result under current law is poor, change the law, not the judge. | /r/MensRights | 26/10/16 02:49 AM |
| 112 | Man Legally Forced to Pay Child Support Even After DNA Test Proves He’s Not DadAs a lawyer, I can confirm. I could do things only in my areas of expertise such as paternity. If I were facing criminal charges, I'd have a criminal attorney hired in a heartbeat. | /r/MensRights | 26/10/16 02:47 AM |
| 1 | Condoms, vasectomies, the pull out method...Men should have the right to more birth control options. Donate to make vasalgel a reality.The gel itself is very inexpensive. It doesn't cost much more than the syringe to inject it. The reversal is very inexpensive also. I guess some company could try to buy the patent and then mark the prices sky high, but that isn't the mission of the current developers. | /r/MensRights | 22/10/16 08:24 PM |
| 3 | Why is it okay to discriminate against men in Automotive Insurance but not okay to discriminate against women in Health Insurance?The legal justification is that healthcare is mandatory but driving a car isn't. I don't buy that logic at all though. Virtually all of America outside major metro areas will need a car to be a useful member of society. | /r/MensRights | 22/10/16 05:24 PM |
| 2 | Condoms, vasectomies, the pull out method...Men should have the right to more birth control options. Donate to make vasalgel a reality.It is so cheap that it will be hard to make money on it. Even the reversal is inexpensive. Investors prefer to chase larger returns rather what produces the most social benefit. | /r/MensRights | 22/10/16 05:18 PM |
| 2 | Is there a flow chart yet to show the many ways men are trapped and screwed over in the family court system?Option 3 is viable if the victim goes to court immediately and obtains an ex parte restraining order with a provision to have temp custody and limited visitation. Reporting to law enforcement is helpful even if no criminal charges come from it. The TRO should be followed quickly with regular custody papers also seeking an award of temporary and permanent custody. | /r/MensRights | 14/10/16 09:55 PM |
| 2 | Trump quoted as saying: "When you're a star, they let you do it. You can do anything ... Grab them by the pussy. You can do anything." Thoughts?I agree. Hillary has pandered for the female/feminist vote on so many false pretenses that I cannot support her. I say this as a very left leaning individual. | /r/MensRights | 08/10/16 02:38 AM |
| 29 | A Female 'Firefighter' Shows Why You'd Want a Man to Rescue YouMen evolved facial structures better suited to take a punch and skulls that are more resistant to concussions and other damage. This all occurred well before gender norms dictated anything. | /r/MensRights | 29/09/16 03:17 PM |
| 3 | Man-hating Feminazi Wants To Take Away Fathers' & Mens' RightsI would almost be ok with this if the judge followed the law and always held the prosecutors to their burden of proving each element of the crime beyond a reasonable doubt. Unfortunately, I think this nutjob wants "special training" to consist of telling the judge there are no false allegations. | /r/MensRights | 20/09/16 06:56 PM |
| 20 | Men Face More Sexism And Discrimination Than WomenEvery time I read that quote from Hillary I get boiling mass all over again. Men's deaths only matter if they impact a woman negatively? This was the woman who voted to send men to war in the middle east. I'm glad in not currently in the armed forces. | /r/MensRights | 17/09/16 04:58 PM |
| 6 | Another 100% female victim ad.Men are disposable. We are on this planet to serve a purpose of work and sacrifice for others (mostly women). Generally that purpose is mostly over by the time we get cancer. Men have a far shorter life expectancy, but sometimes I think the world is ok with that. Who needs a bunch of retired (non-productive) men soaking up healthcare dollars anyways? | /r/MensRights | 09/09/16 07:19 AM |
| 1 | Loving father being put through the ringer, I need help!That's understandable, it just isn't relevant in court. | /r/MensRights | 05/09/16 09:31 PM |
| 1 | Loving father being put through the ringer, I need help!In no fault divorce, infidelity doesn't matter at all. Most judges won't even listen to it. The fact that she lost her kids as a teen won't matter either. You would need current evidence of her being unfit. | /r/MensRights | 05/09/16 08:37 PM |
| 1 | Loving father being put through the ringer, I need help!There aren't a ton of secrets to it. Most judges will show a preference to stability, limiting disruption of the children's schedules, keeping siblings united, and willingness to cooperate with the other parent. Documenting her erratic behavior could help, just make sure you do so legally. I'm not licensed there, so I don't know the standards for recording or admissibility of evidence. | /r/MensRights | 05/09/16 07:54 PM |
| 2 | Loving father being put through the ringer, I need help!Just start with what you shared in your post and explain what your desired outcome is (full custody, joint, etc.) Have a good understanding of what the fees are and how you will be billed. Most attorneys are willing to estimate what the costs will be, but each case is different. Some attorneys will review documents you prepare yourself if your budget is really tight, but full representation is always better. | /r/MensRights | 05/09/16 07:37 PM |
| 3 | Loving father being put through the ringer, I need help!Lawyer here. You need to file for divorce and temporary custody. Until then, you can't legally prevent her from withholding the children from you. I strongly suggest you find a way to hire a lawyer to assist since family law can be complex. If your wife has more assets or income, you could request temporary spousal support (suit money) to assist you with the costs of the divorce. Many states give preference to the status quo of the children's placement, so you need to file asap. Best. | /r/MensRights | 05/09/16 07:30 PM |
| 19 | Taxi driver is stopped from texting his 12-year-old daughter after female judge said there was "no need for them to be in communication every day... messages were too affectionate". Daughter begs for contact: "...I love my dad very much and I want to keep in touch".As an attorney familiar with family law, a judge has significant discretion to limit parental contact. Sometimes there is overreach. The problem isn't as much with the courts as it is the law. | /r/MensRights | 01/09/16 10:37 PM |
| 8 | The rise of the anti-feministAt least the first few comments are golden. | /r/MensRights | 01/09/16 10:33 PM |
| 1 | In need of legal help in New EnglandI don't know any there, but looking for a lawyer on the cheap can be a mistake. Having a lawyer is always better than going in pro se, but shopping for the cheapest in the area without considering other factors is often a mistake. | /r/MensRights | 28/08/16 06:06 PM |
| 2 | Resources for fighting a ex parte custody grabNot sure what jurisdiction you are in, but something doesn't add up. There must have been pretty severe abuse disclosures for her to get an ex parte order. Sadly, a custody eval is probably best. Not sure why it costs so much though. I am accustomed to them costing 10k or less. | /r/MensRights | 28/08/16 06:03 PM |
| 1 | Man forced to pay child support, despite DNA that shows he is not fatherIn my area, there is. In fact, the state pays the costs if the alleged father is not bio. Even if the named father comes back bio, it is less than $100. | /r/MensRights | 29/07/16 02:46 PM |
| 2 | Man forced to pay child support, despite DNA that shows he is not fatherTo be fair, there can be authentication issues. I do child support work and it is common for fathers to submit mail in paternity tests they bought online. Problem is, they can just swab someone else's cheek and mail that sample for testing. Without controls in place, it isn't valid evidence. | /r/MensRights | 29/07/16 07:10 AM |
| 1 | Free Legal Advice for MenI'm not sure what distinction you are trying to make. | /r/MensRights | 30/06/16 09:48 PM |
| 5 | Free Legal Advice for MenThis looks like a great service, however please be cautious about discussing personal legal issues in any group setting. Attorney client privilege only applies to confidential communications between you and your attorney. If anyone else is present, the privilege is lost. | /r/MensRights | 30/06/16 09:24 PM |
| 3 | TIL A study found only 21% of the men are declared fathers by default in Detroit are indeed the father - the 79% are forced to financially support a child that isn't theirs.I agree but the only problem I see with this approach is notice. Father needs notice and a fair amount of time to decide. Abortion options become limited fairly quickly, especially if a woman isn't super proactive to determine she's pregnant. I think any woman who wishes to claim support or benefits should be required to name the prospective father(s). They should receive notice that they have been named, their right to contest paternity, and a time period to waive all rights and obligations. If… | /r/MensRights | 27/06/16 07:13 AM |
| 6 | TIL A study found only 21% of the men are declared fathers by default in Detroit are indeed the father - the 79% are forced to financially support a child that isn't theirs.While paternity fraud is an issue, thankfully not all states are like this. In my jurisdiction, if a father is served with paternity documents, he can respond within 30 days and get a paternity test paid for by the state if he isn't the father. Even if he isn't the father and gets defaulted, he can challenge the decision anytime within a year afterward. It is far from perfect, but at least gives a fighting chance to named fathers. | /r/MensRights | 27/06/16 07:03 AM |
| 1 | A friend just messaged me about "toxic masculinity" in response to a post I made about the orlando shooter - how should I respond?This is detracting from OP's question. The abortion debate is very different from mass shooting debates. | /r/MensRights | 17/06/16 10:44 PM |
| 15 | Senate: Women must register for the draftIf it were desperately needed, we wouldn't need a draft. America has enough people who would volunteer if there were an actual need to defend the homeland. Korea and Vietnam never were a threat. Also, nuclear options make headcount obsolete. No nation or group could threaten the US without getting a nuclear response. | /r/MensRights | 16/06/16 01:04 AM |
| 97 | Senate: Women must register for the draftThe idea of a draft is outdated and should be abolished, but this is a good step toward equality. | /r/MensRights | 15/06/16 09:30 PM |
| 1 | Texas to tie car registration renewal to child supportGiven that a person's drivers license is already on the line, I don't think this is a monumental shift. | /r/MensRights | 14/06/16 10:03 PM |
| -8 | There is a documentary on Netflix called "Divorce Corp.", which exposes how costly and life-damaging divorce cases are in family court. It made me rage the entire way through. If you get married, 50% chance this will all happen to you. Don't get married.That movie is a gross exaggeration. I will be the first to admit that the family law system has major faults. Further, I agree that marriage is rarely a good deal for men. But Divorce Corp went way over the top. It isn't anywhere near that explicitly corrupt. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/06/16 09:55 PM |
| 3 | Is there really a court bias against men in custody cases?There is a sting incentive not to challenge the mother on custody for a number of reasons. Accordingly, any statistic that measures when men actually seek custody versus would prefer to have custody are skewed. Basically, it is selection bias against men who choose to accept additional visitation or reasonable child support versus losing big. Men don't go to trial on custody unless the facts are really favorable, so of course the results reflect that. | /r/MensRights | 15/05/16 02:23 AM |
| 143 | Feminist publicly claims that all men sentenced for rapes they didn't commit, is justice...John Baxter assaulted me. Whether he actually did or not, I think he needs to spend time behind bars for all the dv and assault perpetrators who didn't see jail. | /r/MensRights | 13/05/16 10:32 PM |
| 6 | What's the possibility that a feminist doctor would intentionally give harmful/neglectful advice to male patients?Of course it is possible, but I would be more inclined to think this is a poor M.D. who happens to be female and a feminist than a more calculated plot to keep testosterone out of society. I think the best course of action would be to seek a second opinion and ask about her advice. Doctors are protective of one another, but not to the point where they will explain away clear incompetence/malpractice. | /r/MensRights | 13/05/16 09:48 PM |
| 4 | I lost my marriage, my career, and my kidWhat state were you in if you don't mind me asking? Some states do not permit recording another person without your consent. Sorry you had to endure this. | /r/TheRedPill | 11/05/16 09:50 PM |
| 5 | Reform of Divorce Incentives (Custody and Alimony) is Misogynist and Anti-Family Reasons FeministSo, 15 years of alimony isn't enough? It is super entitled people like this that make divorce such an ugly process. | /r/MensRights | 06/04/16 06:53 PM |
| 18 | Dating a feminist - need helpDoesn't believe in patriarchy but things male gaze is a problem and wedding planning is a result of male influence? I have my own cognitive dissonance just trying to understand her perspective. Please fully vet this one before thinking she is close to perfect. | /r/MensRights | 31/03/16 06:44 AM |
| 10 | How exactly is alimony in US unfair to men?The problem isn't in the letter of the law as much as the bias as to what situations the law is applied to. If there were a reliable way to calculate it, it would be fair. Unfortunately, most men feel like they are rolling the dice when going into court. This gives then incentive not to fight on other things, like surrendering custody to ensure they don't pay excessive alimony (and people wonder why more fathers don't "fight" for custody). | /r/MensRights | 18/03/16 11:57 PM |
| 8 | Wife gets all in divorce settlement.I hope his appeal goes well. The property division laws are relatively fair if you don't count alimony (we won't go into child support). Unfortunately, many of us lawyers would sooner lose on property division than long term alimony for our male clients. Very few situations are ideal, but I would rather see my client lose 50% now vs 50% or more of lifetime earnings. | /r/MensRights | 15/03/16 07:14 AM |
| 1 | Tennessee Child SupportThe boyfriend's income wouldn't factor in, at least not in my state which is not TN. | /r/MensRights | 05/03/16 12:47 AM |
| 1 | Irrevocable Trust vs. a Prenuptial AgreementThis article is very on point, but it neglects to mention the downsides of an irrevocable trust. The most prominent of which being that you largely lose control of those assets forever. If you don't trust your wife, don't trust a trustee. I think the prenup better suits most persons unless you have an 8 digit net worth or more. | /r/MensRights | 19/02/16 10:45 PM |
| 2 | Two great women trying to bring mens rights to Alabama.I would generally agree with that based on the information you have given. | /r/MensRights | 08/02/16 12:23 AM |
| 4 | Two great women trying to bring mens rights to Alabama.I don't claim that we were making any strides on the legislative front, but the difference in outcomes when fathers have attorneys versus appearing pro se is huge. Even if they don't "win", it can be the difference between some parenting time versus none or child support being reasonable vs crippling. | /r/MensRights | 07/02/16 09:08 PM |
| 3 | Two great women trying to bring mens rights to Alabama.I don't know about the outfit you are speaking of, but there are groups of attorneys out there who are truly concerned with father's rights. I was part of a group that represented fathers in need of representation and we offered discounts if they were lower income. I also represented women in divorce/custody cases because otherwise, I wouldn't have made enough to continue practicing. It didn't mean I wasn't in support of expanding fathers' rights. | /r/MensRights | 07/02/16 08:08 PM |
| 7 | How do you guys feel about gay guys?Well, I would argue against you being called a faggot, but I am glad you found some solace on our side. Feminism is a moving goal post, one that is hard to pin down but often toxic. I don't think gay men should default to feminism at all. Full disclosure, I consider myself quite liberal. When Hillary recently said men should be drafted but not women (essentially), I was enraged. It doesn't matter who you are attracted to, if you were born with a penis, they want the right to compel you to fight … | /r/MensRights | 04/02/16 09:37 AM |
| 36 | How do you guys feel about gay guys?I second the vast majority of what u/TheRavenousRabbit said. I fear that while his response is accurate, it may come off a bit harsh. If any "MRM" group wants to ban you for being gay, I don't consider them legit. I consider myself a strong advocate for gay rights (both male and female) but I cannot condone shaming a man for being gay. The sad reality is that some may look down on you for being gay. But I am willing to wager that the majority of this sub will welcome you and fight for your right… | /r/MensRights | 04/02/16 09:14 AM |
| 4 | What are current laws regarding mens' rights to not pay child support?I am a lawyer in the U.S. (though not OP's jurisdiction). There is no precedent I am aware of. Not even prenups protect against child support obligations. | /r/MensRights | 25/01/16 08:57 AM |
| 3 | What are current laws regarding mens' rights to not pay child support?Second exception: mother goes on public assistance. The state will prosecute the child support case even if the mother asks them not to. | /r/MensRights | 25/01/16 08:56 AM |
| 2 | /r/Feminism in a nutshellYep, that is some grade A bullshit right there. This woman is making a noble call for women to be both independent and responsible for their choices. So does the ban mean that the mods don't think this woman is a feminist? Are there feminists who would say the mods were incorrect to ban you and thus the mods aren't true feminists? Sure. It is another "No True Scotsman" fallacy. | /r/MensRights | 10/01/16 09:14 AM |
| 1 | Custody help?As a lawyer with divorce experience, I second this. Time is crucial because her relocation to Minnesota could give rise to jurisdictional issues or create problems under the UCCJEA. | /r/MensRights | 10/12/15 10:35 PM |
| 2 | Let's talk about Child Support!As someone on the support enforcement side, I agree. There should be more resources to help non custodial parents enforce their parenting time. | /r/MensRights | 10/12/15 10:30 PM |
| 3 | Help! My family law lawyer just dumped me as a client and I have to face the just who hates me because of my male privilege alone.You can move to disqualify a judge, but you would probably need some clearly biased statements to be successful. I don't know much about your financial situation, but I strongly suggest trying to hire another attorney. It is worth borrowing from friends or family or going into debt. If no attorney is possible, do your homework on the laws, legal standards, and how to best present your case. Be prepared with exhibits, witnesses, and ensure you have complied with all requirements so you don't lose… | /r/MensRights | 30/11/15 05:38 PM |
| 29 | Help! My fiancé left with my child and I don't know what to do.Family law lawyer here. This happens a lot sadly. File for a restraining order. As part of the RO, you can request temporary custody. The sooner you file the better. You should also file a custody action, since the RO is only temporary. Best wishes. | /r/MensRights | 28/11/15 10:07 PM |
| 10 | MRA gem in the latest pokemon gameSadly, it is more about income than looks. | /r/MensRights | 20/11/15 06:45 PM |
| -5 | You can't squeeze blood from a turnip: "From Deadbeat To Dead Broke: The 'Why' Behind Unpaid Child Support"I think the problem is less about child support and more about limited economic opportunities. If these men could make a middle class wage, the support obligations would be quite manageable. | /r/MensRights | 20/11/15 01:21 AM |
| 10 | Humans of New York drawing attention to the reality of domestic violence and paternity rightsThat is exactly the right move. If for whatever reason the police don't assist (some just say it's a civil matter"), he can ask to have her found in contempt. | /r/MensRights | 11/11/15 01:49 AM |
| 13 | Humans of New York drawing attention to the reality of domestic violence and paternity rightsThe changing story only helps if his version demonstrated innocence. Admittedly, I am not in NY, but if he was pushing to get in and she was injured, he could have been convicted. Obviously there is a lot more to the story and his attorney could have tried to shoehorn him into a plea. Even so, ineffective assistance of counsel is still tough to prove because the definition of "ineffective" basically requires absurdly poor performance from the attorney. | /r/MensRights | 11/11/15 12:01 AM |
| 17 | Ronda Rousey admitted to beating up her ex, so should we be outraged?All unjustified violence is wrong, regardless of the genders of the perpetrator or victim. | /r/MensRights | 10/11/15 11:44 PM |
| 28 | Humans of New York drawing attention to the reality of domestic violence and paternity rightsNot on these facts. I am an attorney and I don't see what she should have done different. She advised of his choices and chances, and he made the call. Legally, he probably faced some liability for using any force while trying to enforce parenting time. That really isn't the attorney's fault. | /r/MensRights | 10/11/15 11:37 PM |
| 8 | I'm in fucking tears right now. A woman used the justice system to ruin my life.As a lawyer, I can confirm this. You can appeal a court ruling, but not sue the court directly. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/11/15 11:22 PM |
| 4 | Need Help; Negotiating Old, Unfair Child Support Debt aka BE CAREFUL!!!I don't know your jurisdiction, but it makes a big difference whether the money is owed to your ex or the State. If it is the latter, they may be quite unwilling to compromise on a payoff. I think you need to speak with an attorney to figure out exactly how much you and to whom before you can consider settlement. | /r/MensRights | 02/11/15 07:54 PM |
| 7 | Obesity is an underrated driver of today's SMP dynamicsNo joke. The only women that don't get sex are those whose standards are way too high. If a woman truly wants sex, she will get it. | /r/TheRedPill | 30/10/15 08:34 AM |
| 23 | Companies actively hiring NOT White MenAs a minority that could stand to benefit from this sort of hiring scheme, I am frustrated by it. If there is going to be a preference given, it should be based on socioeconomic circumstances as opposed to race and gender. Being poor is far more of a disadvantage than virtually anything else. | /r/MensRights | 23/10/15 09:44 AM |
| 1 | For Men in Prison, Child Support Becomes a Crushing DebtIn my state, child support collection is suspended during long term incarceration. | /r/MensRights | 21/10/15 07:59 PM |
| 1 | Girl lied and said she was on birth control, now she's pregnantLawyer familiar with custody and CPS. Depending on his jurisdiction, he could file a Notice of Claimed Paternity or some similar document. He can also alert CPS so they can be on standby to remove the child from mother's care after birth if necessary. He should file for custody asap when the baby arrives. Best of luck to him. | /r/MensRights | 21/10/15 07:47 PM |
| 1 | The Gender Gap in the Legal Field: It's PerformanceHaving done the law firm thing, I think the problem isn't that women don't work hard enough. Instead, there is far more pressure on men to succeed and climb the ranks, so they throw away any sense of work life balance to get an edge. It isn't healthy for anyone except the partners. | /r/MensRights | 21/10/15 07:42 PM |
| 5 | Black woman to Black men: Her body, her choice, YOUR RESPONSIBILITYExactly. It is hers to keep or reject under that logic, but since it is no longer his, he shouldn't have any burden. I prefer thinking of it as she willing solicited it from the man and now must bear responsibility for what comes of it. | /r/MensRights | 20/10/15 07:18 AM |
| 2 | Was not given a case manager in family law case. What do I do now?I am a lawyer with experience in this area. I did as much as I could to work with fathers who couldn't afford my retainer and got stiffed a ton because of it. In general, there are ways to find the money. Be it credit cards, loans from family, second mortgage, or selling some things. It is way better in the long run, especially since child support is partially based on parenting time. | /r/MensRights | 14/10/15 01:02 AM |
| 3 | This feels terribleDrinking doesn't automatically mean unable to consent. | /r/MensRights | 10/10/15 08:49 PM |
| 4 | This feels terribleBut he submitted. She was shitty to keep pressuring him, but there was no threat of force. She was in the wrong, but it does not rise to the level of rape. Edit: missing a word. | /r/MensRights | 10/10/15 05:52 PM |
| 19 | This feels terribleDid you express that you were no longer consenting to sex? I am sorry you feel bad about what happened, but raising a rape allegation doesn't seem appropriate on these facts at all. Unless you stated that you wished to stop having sex and she forced you to continue, this wasn't rape. | /r/MensRights | 10/10/15 07:52 AM |
| 2 | Women 'more upset by emotional betrayal than sexual infidelity'... but for men it is the exact oppositeAttorney familiar with this. You would not be required to pay support if you divorced her and addressed the paternity issue promptly. | /r/MensRights | 09/10/15 10:03 PM |
| 2 | This Is Not the Way to Fix 'Gender Discrimination' At WorkWhat is sad is this will probably just result in men's salaries being lower overall. When you pass a law to fix a non existing problem, no one benefits. | /r/MensRights | 07/10/15 11:19 PM |
| 31 | Gwenyth Paltrow thinks she should be paid the same amount as Robert Downey Jr for her role in the Marvel filmsThis is sad. It isn't a gender thing. She wouldn't make as much as Reese Witherspoon would for the same role. I am sure there are countless actors who made less than she did for more prominent roles. | /r/MensRights | 07/10/15 07:30 AM |
| 5 | What laws need to be changed to incentivise marriage for men today?The laws are not against men specifically. It is how they are applied. There really aren't ways to ideally legislate matters of marriage and divorce because each case is different. The best protection is still a prenup. Yes, prenuptial agreements get a lot of hate around here, but if done correctly, they protect against many negative aspects of divorce (custody and child support are the big exceptions). If I had to change other laws, presumption of joint custody and equal parenting time would be… | /r/MensRights | 06/10/15 06:47 PM |
| 2 | Did Men's Rights Activist Movement Play Role In Oregon Shooting?You are correct, but I am admittedly not skilled with technology. | /r/MensRights | 03/10/15 10:03 AM |
| 7 | Brother is nearing a he-said she-said court case, need helpGiant shortage of details here. What is he charged with? What are the facts? Why did your family have to "afford" a pre-trial? What does the voicemail have to do with the case? Attorney here that is about to go to bed, but no one can give meaningful help based on what you have provided. | /r/MensRights | 03/10/15 09:39 AM |
| 19 | Did Men's Rights Activist Movement Play Role In Oregon Shooting?That article was disgusting. It basically took Red Pill talking points as if that is all MRA's stand for. On top of that, this was all based on a comment by a random person that wasn't affiliated with the shooter. Shit journalism. I hope I didn't give them any add revenue by clicking. | /r/MensRights | 03/10/15 08:55 AM |
| 2 | No Hymen No Diamond trending on social mediaTo be fair, height is completely genetic. Number of consensual partners is a choice. I can respect people's rights to make their choices, but it doesn't mean I can't have my own opinions of whether those choices are compatible with what I am looking for. | /r/MensRights | 03/10/15 06:01 AM |
| 2 | Its over, the fight is lost......There are at least a few of us MRA's that may see the bench someday. I am many years away, but I am on the right track. | /r/MensRights | 23/09/15 10:32 PM |
| 1 | Lack of female judges the result of a “lifestyle choice” by women unwilling to tolerate long hours and poor working conditions.I don't know about the UK, but many judges in the States work very hard because budget cuts have left our courts overwhelmed. Yes, it is competitive, but not all judges have cushy jobs. | /r/MensRights | 22/09/15 09:39 PM |
| 2 | CMV: A cheating spouse should not be able to receive alimony payments after a divorce. : changemyviewI guess I read your post wrong late last night. I see what you mean now. Ex-spousal support would be the more appropriate term, though just as frustrating. | /r/MensRights | 09/09/15 02:06 AM |
| 1 | CMV: A cheating spouse should not be able to receive alimony payments after a divorce. : changemyviewI can understand your perspective of no alimony regardless, but married people are no longer spouses? I am genuinely confused by this. Even accounting for gay marriage, married partners are referred to as spouses, right? | /r/MensRights | 08/09/15 06:29 AM |
| 2 | CMV: A cheating spouse should not be able to receive alimony payments after a divorce. : changemyviewThat is a very fair point, and I agree that there are going to be muddy waters. That is why I said there should be a high burden on the person who is asking for support to prove the circumstances that merit it. Infidelity is just too tough to deal with legally. Who cheated first, who cheated more, whose cheating was more egregious, etc. | /r/MensRights | 08/09/15 06:27 AM |
| 1 | CMV: A cheating spouse should not be able to receive alimony payments after a divorce. : changemyviewThat includes an element of fault though. It leads to "he cheated." "She refused sex for years, what was I supposed to do?" Ad nauseum. | /r/MensRights | 08/09/15 12:31 AM |
| 2 | CMV: A cheating spouse should not be able to receive alimony payments after a divorce. : changemyviewOne spouse supports the other during a long educational process i.e. Med school, with the understanding that the future income would improve both of their lives. Or, if one party enticed the other to relocate and give up a lucrative career, then divorced them. Finally, in very long term marriage where one spouse reasonably relied on being cared for in retirement. In each of these situations, I think the burden of proving alimony is appropriate should be high and the award should be limited in am… | /r/MensRights | 08/09/15 12:29 AM |
| 2 | CMV: A cheating spouse should not be able to receive alimony payments after a divorce. : changemyviewI don't think alimony should be eliminated completely, but it does need a major overhaul. I can't really fathom a situation where lifelong alimony would be appropriate. Some limited transitional support may be appropriate. Additionally, where there is strong evidence of one party making major concessions for another, some equalizing support may be appropriate. However, I view the ability to be a stay at home parent as a privilege afforded by the other spouse's hard work, and that alone should ne… | /r/MensRights | 07/09/15 11:13 PM |
| 3 | CMV: A cheating spouse should not be able to receive alimony payments after a divorce. : changemyviewI am not a fan of this perspective. Family law is already a mess. If proof of adultery changed spousal support amounts, you would run into a worse quagmire of trying to prove/defend infidelity. I suspect entrapment issues would also arrive. No fault divorce is a good thing. The current way it plays out for men is not. | /r/MensRights | 07/09/15 04:30 AM |
| 15 | My child support situation...I hate to say it, but that is the system right now. I am an attorney that is familiar with this situation, but not in your jurisdiction. Sadly, I can't offer any solution other than to write your Congressman. It sounds to me like you have done everything right (as many fathers have) and enjoy no fruits for your labors. Condolences. | /r/MensRights | 02/09/15 08:25 AM |
| 3 | x Post from Custody: Brother's wife cheated, pregnant, he's on the hook for the child support.In my state, he would likely owe support until he is disestablished even if he legally proves he isn't the father. It is a bad situation to be in, but I don't get why he has waited so long. | /r/MensRights | 31/08/15 09:33 AM |
| 13 | x Post from Custody: Brother's wife cheated, pregnant, he's on the hook for the child support.Lawyer here familiar with issue (though I am not sure which state he is in). He needs to get an attorney asap to disestablish him as the legal father. Until he does so, he is on the hook for support. His delay is already going to cost him. Best of luck. | /r/MensRights | 31/08/15 08:41 AM |
| 6 | 13 Lies Men Tell Themselves to Stay in Bad RelationshipsThere is a way out. I represented fathers in divorces for years. They usually came to me as broken men. They weren't willing to admit it, but they had been worn down so much that they were hollow (whether they were the ones filing or not). At the end, even if it meant they were writing a big check to their ex, they were so grateful to finally be free. | /r/MensRights | 31/08/15 08:27 AM |
| 6 | Washington State students risk a failing grade in one course if they use any common descriptors professor considers “oppressive and hateful language.I took a gender studies course in undergrad because I wanted to see a feminist perspective. The professor was a staunch feminist that accused me of using my privilege whenever I commented in response to they typical drivel that the women in class spouted. She later stated my low grade was for lack of participation. The only other male in that class stormed out when she called his military experience nothing more than "penis waving bravado." I talked to her after course and asked her if there wer… | /r/MensRights | 31/08/15 08:24 AM |
| 6 | Feminist Karen DeCrow on Male Reproductive RightsReduce it to contract law. Yeah, this is ugly, but no one stands behind our current system. When a woman learns she is pregnant, she must notify the father (or potential father) in writing of her intentions. This can be an easy, free, downloadable form. Father will be provided with a response form. His decisions aren't binding on the woman, but they establish his legal position (i.e. I want no responsibility for this child). This isn't a perfect remedy, but I hate to see so many men stuck with t… | /r/MensRights | 26/08/15 08:24 AM |
| 1 | Is there a recommended site for Fathers who want to know their rights pertaining custody?Answering questions like these are exactly what you pay lawyers for. I used to offer low cost consultations to discuss a parent's rights and obligations so they could make better informed decisions going forward. It will be well worth the money to get actual legal advice versus the countless hours it would take to do the research yourself. Best of luck. | /r/MensRights | 19/08/15 10:26 PM |
| 1 | Request for information: US Custody Judges incentivized to award higher support?In short, no. There are some federal programs related to cold support collection, but that is a different state agency. Even then, it isn't really a windfall to the agency. The judge has no financial incentive to order additional support. | /r/MensRights | 12/08/15 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Why Jury Nullification Is A Right, And Why Prosecutors Don’t Want Jurors To Know That.I agree fully. Strict liability has no place in statutory rape cases and judges should be given much more leeway to make the sentence match the crime. | /r/MensRights | 07/08/15 08:56 PM |
| 1 | Why Jury Nullification Is A Right, And Why Prosecutors Don’t Want Jurors To Know That.This is a good point as well. Mandatory sentencing and the very prosecution favorable grand jury process make it difficult for the wrongfully accused to get justice without huge risk. | /r/MensRights | 07/08/15 08:43 PM |
| 7 | Why Jury Nullification Is A Right, And Why Prosecutors Don’t Want Jurors To Know That.It is a double edged sword. The same process can be used to prevent justice in male victim rape and dv cases. No doubt the 19 year old was an example of failed justice, but we must be careful what we wish for. | /r/MensRights | 07/08/15 05:59 PM |
| 13 | Why I Resent the Term "Alimony" | But Love the MoneyWow, this is sad. She blatantly thinks she is entitled to live off of her ex and has the gall to want a better word for it? She should be ashamed to be taking his money. | /r/MensRights | 07/08/15 05:55 PM |
| 62 | While male circumcision is widely accepted, even digitally editing female genitals in porn sparks outrageMany men would be much happier to have been edited digitally than with a knife. Edit: stupid phone autocorrect | /r/MensRights | 02/08/15 11:37 PM |
| 3 | About.com: Pros and Cons of Listing a Father's Name on the Birth CertificateThis article was disgusting. Poor, poor moms that have to deal with the burden of a father actually having rights other than the right to pay support. | /r/MensRights | 02/08/15 11:31 PM |
| 8 | Justice for Zachery Anderson|PetitionThe problem here is that statutory rape is what is called a "strict liability" offense. It is the the harshest standard, because no amount of good faith or due diligence can protect the accused. Many other crimes have an element of intent. For example, if you accidentally kill someone, you have not committed murder. Murder requires intentional harm. But for statutory rape, there is no requirement that you "intended" to have sex with an underage girl. The only question is whether it happened or d… | /r/MensRights | 02/08/15 11:27 PM |
| 1 | Father’s “rights”? Only for the rich.Not with attorney fees on custody or divorce. There are some resources for women seeking restraining orders, but that is a different type of case. | /r/MensRights | 31/07/15 11:48 PM |
| 2 | Father’s “rights”? Only for the rich.I don't have any numbers, but I have represented fathers against pro se mothers on multiple occasions. The court system doesn't intervene to help either side get an attorney in civil cases such as divorce and custody. There may be other flaws, but it is fair in that aspect. | /r/MensRights | 31/07/15 10:21 PM |
| 1 | Father’s “rights”? Only for the rich.No, she is not entitled to an attorney either. She had to pay unless legal aid stepped in, which is rare in my jurisdiction. | /r/MensRights | 31/07/15 09:11 PM |
| 2 | My wife is determined to make the divorce as miserable as possible, abd that's fine, but how do I get her out of my house?I am an attorney that has experience in this area of law. I could dig up all of the caselaw that will state that she has lawful access to the premises until a court orders otherwise, but I don't know the state and I really don't want to spend that much time. You made the initial comment, so if you can find authority under any U.S. law, props to you. I don't think you will. | /r/MensRights | 25/07/15 09:32 AM |
| 2 | My wife is determined to make the divorce as miserable as possible, abd that's fine, but how do I get her out of my house?Umm... No. I am not aware of any U.S. jurisdiction where he is entitled to change the locks and exclude her from the premises. If you believe otherwise, I would appreciate a source. | /r/MensRights | 25/07/15 08:39 AM |
| 2 | My wife is determined to make the divorce as miserable as possible, abd that's fine, but how do I get her out of my house?Good thinking, but this could have some disadvantages too. For example, if they were previously splitting expenses 50/50, this could be used as evidence toward his obligation to support her in the future. Also, the court will look more toward her standard of living during the marriage, not during the divorce. What was your role at the law firm? | /r/MensRights | 25/07/15 01:08 AM |
| 4 | My wife is determined to make the divorce as miserable as possible, abd that's fine, but how do I get her out of my house?It doesn't work that way. He has no right to summarily evict her without following the appropriate process. | /r/MensRights | 25/07/15 12:58 AM |
| 9 | My wife is determined to make the divorce as miserable as possible, abd that's fine, but how do I get her out of my house?Oof, lots of rough suggestions here. Do not file for a restraining order unless there is real merit to it. Instead, file a motion for temporary and exclusive occupancy of the family home. The court can order her to move out during the duration of the divorce. It is the quickest legal way to have the house to yourself. Source: attorney who has advised fathers in this exact situation. | /r/MensRights | 24/07/15 09:52 PM |
| 2 | "Study Proves Attractive Women Get What They Want"Agree totally with the results, but the study was so small that I don't feel that this study is fair proof of much. Otherwise, we open the door to tiny studies proving all sorts of things. Interesting nonetheless. | /r/MensRights | 06/07/15 09:16 AM |
| 5 | Yes it's important that single mothers feel empowered but NOT at the expense of FATHERS.Props to all the single parents out there, but it frustrates me when I see single moms on WIC, TANF, SNAP, and other public benefits claiming they are "doing it on their own". At least they should own up to the fact that they rely state assistance to raise their own child. | /r/MensRights | 25/06/15 08:04 AM |
| 10 | How to get a paternity test if the mother refuses?You get a court order. The process is different in each state. However, there are some rare situations where a court cannot order a paternity test. I would not suggest using self help on this. Besides, any private testing is not legally binding until a court accepts it. | /r/MensRights | 16/06/15 10:01 PM |
| 3 | [Discussion] Do you have to be antifeminist to be an MRA?Can you define what a patriarchy is then? I just don't see how a true patriarchal society can still adopt feminism. It seems counter intuitive to me. | /r/MensRights | 13/06/15 06:44 AM |
| 4 | [Discussion] Do you have to be antifeminist to be an MRA?How does a patriarchy exist but men are still largely disadvantaged in the world? I welcome your inquiries to this sub, but if the "patriarchy" doesn't benefit men, how is there a patriarchy at all? Maybe gender roles is what are attacking? | /r/MensRights | 13/06/15 06:33 AM |
| 10 | Charlie Baker's petition to give men the right to give up all legal rights and responsibilities to a child if he does not consent to being a father.So where do the dropbox babies go to collect their check? Even if she is unfit and the state has to terminate her parental rights, she won't be required to pay support. | /r/MensRights | 09/06/15 05:04 AM |
| 10 | Woman divorces rich husband and claims millions. "Investors" give her £11 million UKP to fight her case — and they will get a handsome return when/if she wins big. Husband jumps out of window and kills himself. Wife spends most of the investors money on herself. Investors sue the wife.In the United States, a lawyer is not permitted to take divorce cases on a contingency for this reason. Selling a claim in potential divorce earnings seems like it should be some form of securities fraud. | /r/MensRights | 08/06/15 01:54 AM |
| 1 | Emma Sulkowicz made a pornoWow, I hadn't thought of this, and I am an attorney with an interest in constitutional law. I think this would be a wonderful fact pattern to address the issue. Great insight. | /r/MensRights | 07/06/15 11:46 PM |
| 1 | Woman kills two of her children. Court wants to "end the parental rights of the surviving children’s fathers, as the state claims they owe thousands of dollars in child support."Still, not having custody is very different than terminating parental rights. The latter is permanent and has a higher burden of proof. It is generally used only when the parents are a safety threat. | /r/MensRights | 07/06/15 06:27 PM |
| 10 | Woman kills two of her children. Court wants to "end the parental rights of the surviving children’s fathers, as the state claims they owe thousands of dollars in child support."That makes no sense. I have never heard of terminating parental rights based solely on non payment of support. I think there may be other factors to this case. | /r/MensRights | 05/06/15 11:12 PM |
| 9 | Emma Sulkowicz made a pornoYes, if you were to assume the video was a factual event, that is sexual assault. | /r/MensRights | 05/06/15 06:44 AM |
| 12 | Emma Sulkowicz made a pornoMy gf somehow still thinks she is a victim. I want to ask her how much evidence do you need before you will finally exonerate an accused person? | /r/MensRights | 05/06/15 05:57 AM |
| 4 | Study: There is no evidence that family courts in England and Wales are discriminating against fathers because of gender bias. The reason women mostly are awarded money and kids is because "women are more likely to take on the role after a relationship breakdown."Exactly. I almost used that as an example in my comment. | /r/MensRights | 03/06/15 12:44 AM |
| 15 | Study: There is no evidence that family courts in England and Wales are discriminating against fathers because of gender bias. The reason women mostly are awarded money and kids is because "women are more likely to take on the role after a relationship breakdown."This study is bunk. Men's success rate is artificially high because they don't often go to court unless they have a slam dunk case. Why fight a long, expensive battle when the odds are against you? | /r/MensRights | 02/06/15 11:26 PM |
| 2 | TIL false rape accusations can ruin someone's life is harmful myth redditors created and perpetuatedTitle needs some work. Read the comment and I get your point now. Please consider editing for clarity. | /r/MensRights | 02/06/15 08:35 AM |
| 1 | Interesting/frustrating situation I've run into as a Child Protection WorkerYes, the system is quite rough on fathers. I had to sit by as a tearful father had his children taken away because of what turned out to be an unsubstantiated restraining order. No repercussions against mom. Btw, shout out to you cps workers. I couldn't do what you do. | /r/MensRights | 28/05/15 10:04 PM |
| 4 | I am a fairly sophisticated family lawyer in a liberal jurisdiction. I believe the laws and courts are not biased against men*. AMAThere are family law lawyers out there who represented fathers more than mothers. Also, practicing lawyers don't set law or policy. We simply operate within it. Don't like the laws? Write your congressperson. Generalizing all family law lawyers as corrupt is pathetically misguided and gives Men's Rights a bad name. | /r/MensRights | 27/05/15 04:06 AM |
| 3 | I am a fairly sophisticated family lawyer in a liberal jurisdiction. I believe the laws and courts are not biased against men*. AMAMakes sense. If child support weren't tied to visitation, the situation would be easier. As it stands, there is an incentive to maximize your own parenting time for financial reasons as opposed to the child's best interests. There is no perfect solution, but I have seen parents go to the mat over a couple of weekends because they saw the child support calculations. Even worse is when they try to have the other parent found unfit for the same reason. There has to be a better way to address this, … | /r/MensRights | 27/05/15 04:04 AM |
| 1 | I am a fairly sophisticated family lawyer in a liberal jurisdiction. I believe the laws and courts are not biased against men*. AMANo joke. Can someone invite me to the next meeting? Or at least tell me when I can expect to start earning anywhere near what people think I earn? | /r/MensRights | 27/05/15 03:57 AM |
| 6 | I wonder what she'd think if i told her it goes both ways.Sadly, the law books often support this notion. Funny how intoxication is not an excuse for voluntary conduct unless you are a female engaging in a sexual act (yes, there are some exceptions, but still). | /r/MensRights | 27/05/15 03:54 AM |
| 1 | I am a fairly sophisticated family lawyer in a liberal jurisdiction. I believe the laws and courts are not biased against men*. AMAWould it surprise you that family law attorneys often make less than other specialties? I will be the first to admit our system isn't perfect, but there are no back room, lawyer only meetings where we agree to preserve the status quo so we can all get rich. | /r/MensRights | 27/05/15 03:48 AM |
| 7 | I am a fairly sophisticated family lawyer in a liberal jurisdiction. I believe the laws and courts are not biased against men*. AMAAnother family law lawyer in a liberal jurisdiction here. While the letter of the law may be fair, do you think the implementation of the law disadvantages fathers in any way? | /r/MensRights | 27/05/15 03:40 AM |
| 1 | Not sure if correct subreddit, but my friend is dealing with custody issues.First off, it is difficult to give advice because we don't know much about the situation. For example, some state's don't award joint custody unless both parents agree. Accordingly, unless the mother agrees, there is nothing he can do. Best thing is to get and attorney asap. Credit cards, loans from relatives, whatever it takes. Best of luck to your friend. | /r/MensRights | 25/05/15 07:27 AM |
| 10 | Hey, that’s *our* trick!That hurt to read. The mental gymnastics they must be doing. . . | /r/MensRights | 20/05/15 12:07 AM |
| 3 | Men-only divorce law firm for fathers feeling let down by family courts to open in LondonI am sorry you had a bad experience. Some lawyers are just as you described, but I always viewed my clients as people in need of my assistance as opposed to cash cows. It is harder to make good money that way, but my clients were typically satisfied with my work. You know what they say about lawyers; 99% of them give the others a bad name. | /r/MensRights | 20/05/15 12:04 AM |
| 1 | Survey for men who have experienced sexual violence or coercion during collegeIt might be tough to find people who will spend 2 hours on a survey without compensation. I hope they are able to get a meaningful sample size. | /r/MensRights | 14/05/15 06:42 PM |
| 7 | Mad Max and Men's Rights ActivistsI saw that and it infuriated me too. My gf posted it on fb. I really don't get why feminists can think that one lunatic can speak for all MRA's, but don't you dare try to lump rad fems in with MY version of feminism. | /r/MensRights | 14/05/15 06:40 PM |
| 9 | The new Ontario sex-ed curriculum is pushing the 'enthusiastic consent' model, just as we thought it wouldI reluctantly overpaid for a car once. The salesman was really pushy. Is that theft now? | /r/MensRights | 05/05/15 11:30 PM |
| 2 | ex agrees to lower child support, how officially?Not no matter what, but your agreement must comply with the law and public policy. Parents can only agree to reduce presumed child support by a certain percentage because it is seen as the child's right. Also, parents can't waive support then enroll in public benefits. | /r/MensRights | 30/04/15 08:39 PM |
| 5 | Sofia Vergara's ex Nick Loeb speaks out about frozen embryos disputeWhen I was in law school, there was a case like this with genders reversed and the court ruled in favor of preserving the embryos | /r/MensRights | 30/04/15 07:44 PM |
| 2 | ex agrees to lower child support, how officially?Attorney very familiar with child support here. Get a lawyer. A private agreement rarely holds up in court even if both parties want it to. For example, your proposed reduction wouldn't be enforceable at all in my state. | /r/MensRights | 30/04/15 07:23 PM |
| 17 | Alimony bill dies amid acrimony"Judge, I have become accustomed to a certain level of sexual activity during the marriage. Since I must maintain my ex wife's financial lifestyle, she should be required to ensure my post divorce sexual activities do not unreasonably decline." | /r/MensRights | 30/04/15 07:21 PM |
| 19 | Bobby Flay is getting divorced. His wife says the prenup, which she signed, is not good enough. Now her lawyers are challenging the prenup. Don't EVER get married guys, apparently even a signed legal agreement won't stop you getting fucked over.As a lawyer familiar with prenups, I couldn't have said it better. | /r/MensRights | 11/04/15 07:25 PM |
| 1 | Need advice in a family court case.Not really. It will just be a petition to establish custody, parenting time, and child support as opposed to a modification. | /r/MensRights | 08/04/15 05:42 PM |
| 3 | Need advice in a family court case.Former family law lawyer here. Get a lawyer asap. The system is complex and it is almost impossible to navigate properly without one. As to the allegations of alcoholism, I suggest you look into a custody evaluator. Some have a reputation for being mother friendly, but many are truly looking for what best serves the child. He or she can investigate the drinking issues on both sides. The only real downside is that it is expensive. Best of luck. | /r/MensRights | 07/04/15 10:22 PM |
| 1 | [Serious] Probably giving a presentation on MRM / gender inequality / men's issues. Can anyone proofread or help with readability?Lawyer and former journal editor here volunteering. | /r/MensRights | 07/04/15 06:45 PM |
| 7 | Nobody goes into marriage expecting divorce, but it comes frequently, & she really does get the house & the kids. In divorces, men lose. Your child support will be based on what a judge thinks you should earn, so that, if you're a stock broker, you can't decide you'd rather work on a fishing boat.Yeah, I wish there were a better system. For example, parent paying support puts money into a restricted account. The other parent has a card and can use that account to pay for items. The paying parent would be able to see what the money goes to. Also, there should be a limit on cash support (I.e. no more than 500 per child). If the support obligation exceeds that, it should go into a 529 college savings account or a trust fund to be paid to the child later. | /r/MensRights | 30/03/15 09:47 PM |
| 15 | Why is there Women's Chess?What? You sacrificed your Queen?? Why don't we ever see King sacrifices?? Sexist game indeed. | /r/MensRights | 30/03/15 08:44 PM |
| 4 | Nobody goes into marriage expecting divorce, but it comes frequently, & she really does get the house & the kids. In divorces, men lose. Your child support will be based on what a judge thinks you should earn, so that, if you're a stock broker, you can't decide you'd rather work on a fishing boat.Sorry about your situation. Fwiw, you may be able to request a modification if your income dropped permanently and significantly. | /r/MensRights | 30/03/15 08:40 PM |
| 2 | I'm a 28 year old single male, still living at home. It's suspected that I'm the father of a ~9 month old girl that was conceived in a one night stand. I'm mortified. What are my rights?That isn't how it works at all. In many situations, service is done by mailing to the last known address, publishing in a newspaper, or posting somewhere. | /r/MensRights | 03/02/15 07:37 PM |
| 1 | Girlfriend is moving in with me. How can I legally protect myself if she was to one day try to claim common law and try to take the house / my stuff?This is false. Pre-nups done properly offer significant protection. | /r/MensRights | 20/12/14 12:11 AM |
| 4 | What my girlfriends bestfriend has to say about mens rights, and comparing them to feminism.As soon as there are Jim Crow type laws levied against women, she may have a point. Until then, her argument is ridiculous. | /r/MensRights | 13/11/14 12:30 AM |
| 2 | Washington Supreme Court rules the state cannot put the burden on rape defendants to prove that an alleged victim consentedBetter than I could have explained it. Fellow attorney I assume? | /r/MensRights | 31/10/14 04:06 PM |
| 25 | Washington Supreme Court rules the state cannot put the burden on rape defendants to prove that an alleged victim consentedIt makes sense legally. Lack of consent is an essential element of the crime and the state must prove each element. The defendant must only prove affirmative defenses. For example, "Yes, I had sex with her against her will, but I did so because someone else was holding me at gunpoint." Defendant must prove that he was at gunpoint. | /r/MensRights | 30/10/14 10:20 PM |
| 3 | Half of MIT Students Think It's Possible to "Accidently" Rape Someone (Thanks, Affirmative Consent!)No, manslaughter is usually murder minus the premeditation (generally "in the heat of the moment"). For example, if a bar fight gets out of hand and someone dies, it would likely be manslaughter. If you walk in on your wife cheating and immediately shoot her, same thing. In the latter scenario, if you wait an hour before killing her, it would be murder. | /r/MensRights | 28/10/14 06:49 PM |
| 6 | Half of MIT Students Think It's Possible to "Accidently" Rape Someone (Thanks, Affirmative Consent!)Could a person misunderstand whether someone felt comfortable having sex? Sure. However, with crimes of intent like rape, the mental intent to commit the crime is an essential element of the offense. There is no accidental rape, or accidental murder for that matter ("accidental murder" could be charged as negligent homicide, a lesser offense than murder). | /r/MensRights | 28/10/14 05:52 PM |
| 2 | Why would any man vote Democrat?Lesser of two evils. The GOP is batshit crazy on issues like the economy and climate change. | /r/MensRights | 22/10/14 04:58 PM |
| 1 | A proposal for a poll. revised.Economy -7.88 Social -6.15 | /r/MensRights | 14/10/14 11:19 PM |
| 2 | I need some guidance in writing a letter for a friend who's fighting to keep custody of his daughter.There are no magic words required. Just keep the letter relevant to his parenting ability and include specific examples if possible. However, you should check to make sure the court will accept a written letter. In my state, a letter like that would be considered hearsay and the judge would not be permitted to consider it. It is usually best for you to testify in person. | /r/MensRights | 14/10/14 09:11 PM |
| 27 | Army Times question thread: "Should women be required to register with the Selective Service upon turning 18?" - interesting answers and discussionI oppose mandatory registration for anyone, but if men are required to register, women should be also. | /r/MensRights | 14/10/14 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Husband denied right to wife's lottery win because money "not connected to marriage"That all makes sense, but there is a legal presumption that marital assets and debts were contributed to equally. If this couple were to divorce, she would likely claim a share of the husband's income and assets purchased with his earnings. He couldn't claim his income is not a marital asset because he alone earned it. I don't think it is fair, but the law should be consistent. | /r/MensRights | 14/10/14 05:35 PM |
| 1 | Husband denied right to wife's lottery win because money "not connected to marriage"The part where it mentions she was receiving money from a "family company" tips the scale a bit, assuming the husband contributed to it in some way. | /r/MensRights | 14/10/14 05:24 PM |
| 8 | How /r/feminisms censors anybody that disagrees with them(first picture is logged in second is logged out)That is unfortunate. I didn't think your comment broke any of that sub's rules. I guess the mods want a perfect echo chamber to bash men's rights without fear of having to consider a MRA's input. | /r/MensRights | 14/10/14 05:10 PM |
| 1 | Feminists, ACLU & Divorce Lawyers Opposing Shared ParentingAs a lawyer who handles divorces, I strongly support the presumption of joint custody and equal parenting time. It isn't right for every case, but the burden should be on the parent who wishes to deviate from it. | /r/MensRights | 14/10/14 05:06 PM |
| 29 | I found a hostile anti-male environment at my new job, but I don't think I can do anything about itFellow attorney here, so I can readily sympathize with your situation. Is what is happening there fair? Not at all. Will you risk your career by vocalizing your frustrations? Yes. There are comments regarding preparing for a wrongful termination suit. Great advice, but that isn't going to cut it. Even if you win, you will be forever known in the legal community as the white guy who sued his employer for discriminating against him. Unless you plan on winning enough to retire, your legal career wi… | /r/MensRights | 02/10/14 06:38 AM |
| 1 | Drug testing during a custody battle?Typically as many as a judge orders. Best to stay clean. Though a little weed when away from your daughter doesn't cause any parenting issues, any criminal activity will not go over well in court. | /r/MensRights | 12/08/14 01:08 AM |
| 2 | Feminism As a Mating Strategy Among Beta MalesCrap article. When "white Democrat" is lumped in with "Jewish Nazi" and Black Klansman", it is clear the author is sadly misguided. | /r/MensRights | 04/07/14 04:10 AM |
| 1 | I'd like to ask for thoughts on a feminist blog post about custody.Great information. I would also like to add that the premise of "when they ask for it" is inherently biased. "When they want it" would be a much better indicator. When I counsel fathers in custody battles, often I advise it is better not to contest legal custody in an attempt to negotiate more time with their children. As much as I hate how the system works, I wouldn't be doing my job if I pushed fathers to take custody matters to trial when the odds aren't in their favor. Many such fathers grea… | /r/MensRights | 02/07/14 07:56 AM |
| 2 | Wife destroys husband's car with hammer claiming "its not vandalism because its half my property."Thank you for the reply with source. California is a community property state, which may have an impact on the matter. | /r/MensRights | 11/06/14 07:16 PM |
| 7 | Wife destroys husband's car with hammer claiming "its not vandalism because its half my property."If she is jointly on the title, it probably isn't vandalism by letter of the law. That said, destruction of joint property can easily be used against her in a civil action or divorce proceeding. | /r/MensRights | 11/06/14 12:27 PM |
| 1 | Halle Ordered to Pay $16K a Month in Child Support. Is it Fair?Problem is that there is no mechanism in place to ensure the full amount is spent on the child. The obligated party doesn't even have a right to know how the funds are spent. | /r/MensRights | 11/06/14 01:12 AM |
| 6 | My wife wants to confront some discriminatory nursery policy at our church and needs some help with statistics.This isn't a statistical argument. Assume X race is statistically shown to have a higher rate of abuse than Y race. I am sure someone could produce stats that state a certain race has a higher rate of child abuse than another race. Would anyone stand for members of X race being excluded on such grounds? Please consider terminating your involvement with this church. | /r/MensRights | 17/04/14 03:58 AM |
| 1 | Gotta problem with child support, need advice or answers.No, unfortunately a family member cannot represent you. Only a licensed attorney can. Travel is expensive;I don't know all the details of your situation, but many legal matters can be handled by telephonic testimony. Some courts allow Skype or other video conferencing as well. | /r/MensRights | 15/04/14 05:45 AM |
| 1 | Discussion: NCP's who pay child support, what was your first step after you were served?Props on trying to create guidance for those who are served. Unfortunately, there is no way to create a simple guide/checklist. Each situation is unique; no solution will fit everyone. I recommend that each person served with legal documents seek advice of an attorney. (Disclosure, attorney here). Before you bristle at the thought of a lawyer being involved, most can find an attorney who will explain your rights and the general process during a consultation ($300 or less). You go to a M.D. when … | /r/MensRights | 15/04/14 05:42 AM |
| 3 | Gotta problem with child support, need advice or answers.I am a lawyer, but not in either of those jurisdictions. In general, the court that first obtains jurisdiction over the kids retains it. In your case, that means NC. You most likely need to go back to NC to revisit your child support. Having another child will likely reduce your child support, but it needs to be entered through a court. I know attorneys are expensive, but please consider hiring one. It will probably be cheaper than paying extra child support for x years. | /r/MensRights | 15/04/14 05:32 AM |
| 3 | Overview of men's rights by state?This would be a difficult project to complete. For example, judges have a lot of discretion on property division in divorce and alimony decisions in the state where I practice. You can't gain much useful information by looking up a statute somewhere and comparing it against another state's. To make any meaningful determination, you would have to analyze the specific facts and results of thousands of cases nationwide. The results would inevitably be subject to various interpretations. It would be… | /r/MensRights | 11/04/14 01:26 AM |
| 3 | What do I do as a father-to-be who is not together with the mother?Get a lawyer asap. Assuming you are in the United States, consider filing a Notice of Claim of Paternity. I am sure u/DiscoPandaKungFu means well, but don't rely on her promises, even if written, notarized, etc. They usually aren't enforceable until accepted by a judge and incorporated into a court judgment. You should probably be filing a petition to establish custody, visitation, and child support immediately after birth. Source: family law attorney. | /r/MensRights | 11/04/14 01:18 AM |
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