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I can't recommend just one place where you find where all the women hang out and where you'll have the highest chances of success simply because this is highly individual. Somewhere where it's good for me might not be good for you. What I'd suggest is leaning on your interests and finding events and talks in your area around those interests. Also, try to find groups or classes around your hobbies or around things that you want to try out. Google and Facebook are your best friends. Why is this be…
/r/seduction24/10/22 09:14 PM
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As someone who's done cold approaches, my advice is to treat cold approaching simply as a way to get rid of the anxiety of talking to strangers. Honestly, there are so many better ways to get results with women than going to a mall and randomly talking with girls. The ratio of effort to reward is way too low to be worth your time plus you're leaving way too much to chance and in most instances (especially if you are a beginner) you'll have to approach dozens if not close to a hundred women to ge…
/r/seduction24/10/22 07:20 PM
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Some of you are down bad. If texting a random girl distracts you throughout the day or disturbs your mental clarity you got a lot of growing up to do.
/r/seduction30/09/22 08:49 PM
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Trust me dude it's never as bad as you think it would be. Just go for it
/r/seduction05/05/22 08:08 PM
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You are not gonna be prioritizing yourself over the time with her tho. From my understanding, you are only seeing her once every other week which leaves the rest of your time free. I don't see how it's a problem if you use your time better while you're away from her.
/r/seduction03/05/22 03:33 PM
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It seems like you have lots of free time which is a great opportunity for you to develop as a person and do some self-improvement work. Start working on yourself and fill the days in which you don't spend time with her with things that you might enjoy or always wanted to try where you'll meet new people. Once you start doing this your girl will either get curious about you and she'll naturally start gravitating towards you more than she currently is or you'll realize that you don't want her anym…
/r/seduction03/05/22 02:14 PM
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She told you she is not interested from the get-go. You're not in a bad situation tho. You could potentially get a really good friendship out of this. I hate to list the benefits of having an attractive female friend as I think that this is looking at a person as just a means to an end and that way you'll be missing on a lot more but here are some of those. Firstly, awkward inexperienced guys could greatly benefit from having female friends as you're not used to having women around you. This wil…
/r/seduction20/04/22 04:32 PM
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Regardless of what the internet tells you there are very, very few women that are super anal about height. As long as everything within your control is on point then you should be more than okay. Sure once you start shooting your shot there are gonna be women out there that are gonna turn you down because of height but there are far more attractive women out there who wouldn't give a shit as long as you are slightly taller than them.
/r/seduction13/04/22 01:30 PM
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I'd take a break from dating. I was in a similar position earlier this year. Honestly, if you feel meh about dating it's a waste of time and you're better off just taking a step back and focusing on something else till you come to terms with the situation. I took a break at the start of this year (still am on the break) after a few shitty encounters and then went on a few dates but I just couldn't be bothered. Decided to focus on myself for a bit and managed to land a better-paying job, complete…
/r/seduction28/03/22 03:55 PM
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Jesus, the advice here is terrible. First of all, don't try to come up with anything clever or gamey when the girl is already down to meet you and you're just taking care of logistics. Can't tell you how many girls I have lost because of it and still the advice here is to go that route. Second of all just say something casual. Don't fucking say the word "date" like it's the advice here. It sounds so formal plus from your post, I assume you're quite young so it's even worse. And third of all just…
/r/seduction25/03/22 04:46 PM
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Well here is a hard pill to swallow. You can't. I was in a similar position. In a relationship for the whole time, I was in uni. After graduating I didn't have my "slut phase" so I desperately tried to recreate the whole uni experience. The uni experience is a once-in-a-lifetime thing tho and it can't be recreated. That doesn't mean that you won't be able to have your "slut phase" tho. You still can it's just gonna take more effort and you'll have to balance it with your daytime job but if you t…
/r/seduction21/03/22 04:36 PM
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On insta I usually dm a girl a post of hers and just make a comment on it. For example, a few weeks ago I met a girl and then the following day instead of dming her "nice to meet you last night" I just sent her one of her posts where her hair was different and said something among the lines of "I swear your hair looked different last night". Or if we have a mutual friend I'll be like "how do you know so and so". Or if you both follow certain celebs I'll make a comment on that. I've literally gon…
/r/seduction18/03/22 03:24 PM
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Are you actually dating or are you hoping that you're gonna be dating? Maybe she just sees you as a friend that's why she feels awkward talking about sex with you. If you are in fact dating maybe she's got a sexual trauma which is something that is a lot more common than most people realize.
/r/seduction18/03/22 12:12 PM
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Yeah, message her. Get to know her a bit during the Easter break, see if you have mutual friends, etc. If you message her a few weeks later it's more than likely that things will have fizzled out by then.
/r/seduction18/03/22 11:10 AM
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Yeah, I get where you're coming from. I've been there myself. Try to focus on positive things that move you forward as much as possible and naturally you'll start focusing less and less on things that aren't beneficial like the opinion of a girl that is not into you.
/r/seduction20/02/22 08:18 PM
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It's not that she doesn't want to be in a relationship, it's just that she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. People tend to sugarcoat things but for the most part, the excuse is some form of "it's not you, it's me". Generally, people don't want to be mean and hurt other people's feelings that's why they come up with those types of excuses. If another guy who she's really into wants to get serious with her she wouldn't care if she's emotional or whatever the excuse is. It's best to l…
/r/seduction20/02/22 06:15 PM
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Getting to a point in which validation and sex don't control my day-to-day actions.
/r/seduction03/02/22 01:12 PM
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Are you coming off too thirsty? You gotta pull back from time to time and make her want some more physicality instead of getting all the physicality she wants and then more. Another thing that could be happening is that the whole thing is really physical and you got her turned on in that moment but there isn't any deep connection and once those emotions pass there isn't much she could hold on to. Also here is a small hack you can try. Schedule the second date while you're still on the first date…
/r/seduction25/01/22 05:44 PM
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Sounds like he likes you as well. Just pull away for a week and see how you feel. Chances are that he'll reach out in the meantime as well. As a guy, I can tell you that if you have a good thing going and you pull away for a bit it will start driving him crazy. I have been seeing 3 girls at the same time and 2 of those would be coming over, texting back quickly and always down to hang out, and then the third would be a bit distant and texting slowly and often busy. Guess which one I wanted to se…
/r/seduction24/01/22 03:57 PM
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You got mutual friends so that's a pretty good start. Just send them a few proper snaps instead of texts and they'll probably respond with the same so you know what they look like and decide whether you wanna keep talking to them or not.
/r/seduction19/01/22 10:28 AM
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Why would you add back someone who added you from quick add in the first place? I honestly don't see the point. They could be on the other side of the world. I assume the people that chat with complete strangers from quick add are those that are bored af and are looking for a way to pass time bc the chances that you live near each other and on top of that, you both find each other attractive are close to zero. I don't think this has anything to do with talking to girls on snap.
/r/seduction18/01/22 04:13 PM
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It's gonna take you a while to start getting results. It takes a while to start understanding what works and what doesn't. It takes a while to find the right balance of engaging messages without being gamey and getting to know a girl without being boring. First time I used Tinder - 0 results. The second time I managed to get one girl out. The third time I managed to get 3 out. The fourth time (current one) I have managed to get 8 so far in the span of 2 months. Get the apps with zero expectation…
/r/seduction13/01/22 03:28 PM
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Very well said, brother! :)
/r/seduction13/01/22 10:02 AM
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Yes. After a date or a night out if you sit down to reflect on what happened, what went right, and what went wrong, and most importantly determining what you can do better next time then this is called a field report. :)
/r/seduction11/01/22 11:27 PM
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I used to be as well. What helped was starting dancing classes with a partner. Salsa, bachata, tango, swing. Anything with a partner will work. Usually, you change partners every few minutes so you get to dance with every woman there. After a few months of doing it, you'll get much more comfortable with physical touch and touching will start coming a lot more naturally. :)
/r/seduction11/01/22 11:11 PM
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One thru social circle, two from nights out, one from a dancing class, and the rest from Tinder. :)
/r/seduction11/01/22 02:23 PM
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And obviously, this is not happening in real-time. I only got those insights after analyzing the interactions. This is not about being in your head all the time, trying to time when to pull back. It's more about catching yourself when the interaction is going south and making an adjustment.
/r/seduction11/01/22 01:56 PM
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Yes, dude exactly! You don't get intrigued by a girl if she's constantly in your DMs you get intrigued by the girl that is taking her time with her responses. We as humans are so predictable sometimes. We generally want what we can't have and we don't value something that is overly available. If your attention and affection are overly available she won't want them but by making a few well-timed steps back you get her wanting it. Obviously, this is an oversimplification but this holds for most th…
/r/seduction11/01/22 01:43 PM
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Although that sounds like an amazing story be aware that it could have a different outcome in your case OP. I'd just go for it honestly. I'd much rather for things to be awkward than to never know.
/r/seduction05/01/22 04:20 PM
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Don't let PUA content turn you into a self-centered sociopath, dude. You are dealing with another human being. If you can't see where you went wrong then it's time to have a hard look in the mirror.
/r/seduction30/12/21 05:57 PM
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Most people will tell you to work on yourself but honestly, if someone tells you that I can already tell they don't know what they're talking about. What's gonna get you there is simply getting more experience. It's as simple as that. I've spent years working on myself which ofc helped in many other areas in my life but in terms of dating and relationships, those years were easily shadowed by literally 6-7 dates in the span of 2 months. You'd be surprised how much you'll learn, mature and how mu…
/r/seduction21/12/21 04:48 PM
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As someone from Eastern Europe, I can confirm that this is the case. Currently living in the UK and I enjoy talking and interacting with women here much more than I did back home. I honestly don't know why everyone is shitting on Western women but honestly, the most fun I have had was with Western women.
/r/seduction18/12/21 09:18 PM
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Here is the basic formula I follow with online dating that got me 6 dates in the past month and only 2 canceled. 1) Exchange a few messages on the app and ask for contact details. I usually go for Instagram as there is social proof that can work in your favor there (that is ofc if you've put work on your ig because if you haven't it could actually have the exact opposite effect). 2) Make a soft suggestion for meeting up after a few messages on ig. She'll either be super enthusiastic and from the…
/r/seduction07/12/21 02:07 PM
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Amin brother! Was stuck in this vicious cycle for almost 2 years getting little to no results and when I finally started going for it instead of being an entitled brat just because "I did the inner work" then things started happening. Thank you! Been slacking off the last few weeks and really needed to hear this!
/r/seduction08/11/21 04:10 PM
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I do have a tendency to spend too much time bantering and not going for rapport on time but I'd say that it was needed for me to create an emotional reaction from her in this instance. Initially, she was really closed off and she wasn't giving me much but after a few well-timed jokes she got a bit more interested and from there it was just a slow build-up until I transitioned to building rapport.
/r/seduction15/10/21 05:13 PM
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It does. Sure guys might be a bit more "forgiving" if your style isn't a good match but still, I believe that we care more than we think we do. That's why most guys have a type that they gravitate to. The advice remains the same. Go to a shopping centre for a few hours and you'll probably see a few guys that are your type. Thing is that in shopping centres there are lots of couples so you are guaranteed to see guys that you like with their gfs. Usually, their gfs will give you clues as to what t…
/r/seduction04/08/21 09:16 AM
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Getting edgier clothes. I used to wear straight jeans and "cool" t-shirts or pants with a patterned shirt with the most boring shoes that you can imagine. Those outfits weren't necessarily bad because I am a web designer/developer so I am quite good at combining colors and patterns but beyond that, they were boring af. Maybe those would work for someone in their 40s but defo not someone in their 20s. Earlier this year I was about to buy some new clothes to freshen up my wardrobe but I wasn't gon…
/r/seduction02/08/21 08:35 PM
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One doesn't exclude the other you know? You can still dress in what makes ya feel confident and fits well while tailoring it towards your type. Also, why do some people insist so much on pretending that you're never trying to impress anyone? Sure in a utopian world you'll do things only for yourself but let's not forget that we are human beings. We all have insecurities and flaws and one of those is that we want to be liked by other people, especially people that we find attractive. Pretending t…
/r/seduction02/08/21 05:25 PM
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Haha, you made being 6'3 sound bad. Don't worry my guy the ladies love tall guys! If you experiment a bit I am sure that you'll find what works for ya. Good luck! :)
/r/seduction13/07/21 08:14 AM
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That's actually gold! I'll use that from now on! Thanks mate!
/r/seduction13/07/21 08:09 AM
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Thanks mate! :)
/r/seduction12/07/21 10:39 PM
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I don't think I understand your question.
/r/seduction12/07/21 10:38 PM
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I've tried "dancing" around it. I've approached with clever lines, with neutral questions, hell there was a time when I went with a mate and we were pretending we were a gay couple (didn't work obvs) but what I've found that works for me is being direct. The thing is that I don't look threatening at all. I got a boyish face and I am not big at all. This means that I can probably get away with being super direct and even break the touch barrier straight away. On the other hand, a masculine big gu…
/r/seduction12/07/21 10:38 PM
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I mean maybe. That wasn't the point I was trying to make tho. My point was that yes this time I got lucky because her friend was cool but in 19 out of 20 cases I won't get lucky and I will miss an opportunity and not even try when in fact the girl was interested.
/r/seduction12/07/21 01:14 PM
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It's a really hard thing to explain cus it's a combination of many things. The best advice I can give you is to think of someone you know who seems to have the presence that draws people in or gets people to look at them when they walk into a room. Looks probably will also play a role but it's just one piece of the puzzle. If you can hang out with that person just observe how they carry themselves, how they talk with others, how they listen, how they dress etc. etc. Then compare their behaviour …
/r/seduction12/07/21 01:11 PM
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"Can I say? You're cute as hell" is my default. Honestly tho I think it's more about the girl feeling your vibe rather than saying the "right" thing. As long as you express your interest early on and your vibe is good you'll be fine.
/r/seduction12/07/21 12:58 PM
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I find this really interesting. I thought that it's much better for a woman to see a guy's social media accounts so she can have a better idea of who he is. Usually people leave clues about who they are on social media that don't come up in conversations especially over text. I mean sure you'll get the bad apples once in a while that are gonna be total dicks (no pun intended) but by discounting everyone you're missing on some amazing people out there.
/r/seduction02/06/21 07:56 PM
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I'm glad you found it useful mate! And yeah for sure right now with COVID you got some extra time to spend in that area and the thing is that after just a few weeks your social media presence could go from 3/10 to 7/10 like it was the case with me and you can hustle a bit longer with it and get it even higher. And yeah you can grab your friend and go out during a weekend and snap a bunch of pics for each other and add to socials. Good luck! :)
/r/seduction02/06/21 04:02 PM
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Hey mate! No I don't have that big of a social media presence just big enough. I also have a friend who's into photography and he snaps some really nice high quality pics of me that I upload there but I am defo not uploading every week or not even every month. Primarily I am using stories to share things with the people that follow me which is an amazing way to get engagement. In terms of follower obviously the more the better but I feel like as long as you have over 200 and you have more than 5…
/r/seduction02/06/21 02:53 PM
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Just made an edit to the post elaborating a bit more. Let me know what you think. :)
/r/seduction02/06/21 02:17 PM
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I get what you're saying and I agree what I was doing before is weird af. But I also mentioned about this working with women I've met in person and kinda applying the same concepts from Tinder there. My basic assumption is that unless you're insanely good at your interactions (which I am still not) or you're exactly her type (really small chances) or whatever edge case she's gonna be most likely at a "maybe" with you. What I am suggesting is instead of hoping that due to circumstances when you t…
/r/seduction02/06/21 01:58 PM
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I mean look there are some nuggets of gold in the book and I used to follow it by the word but not everything is gonna be applicable to you. You gotta take into account the difference in the times, personalities etc. After those last few weeks and the realization that I've had I am actually excited to go thru the book again and see if there are other things like that, that I might have blindly accepted as facts that might be hindering my progress. Truth is that the book is amazing as a base but …
/r/seduction02/06/21 11:14 AM
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For sure! I haven't tried the roleplaying but it sounds kinda fun. But yeah getting the fun vibes going is what's the most important thing imo. It could get a maybe to a yes.
/r/seduction02/06/21 11:05 AM
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Somehow I doubt that he'll work on it once he gets used to getting what he wants with 0 effort. It's like giving someone 100k every month and expecting them to work on their career. Never gonna happen.
/r/seduction28/04/21 12:16 PM
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I understand where you're coming from but I doubt that sex is all you'll ever want for the rest of your life. It's extremely likely that at a certain point you'd want to get into a relationship. Sure in the short term you'll get the sex that you want but in the long run, you wouldn't have the same motivation and drive to improve your interactions with women that you're attracted to. And when you eventually decide that you've had all the sex that you wanted to have you're gonna find it a lot hard…
/r/seduction28/04/21 11:18 AM
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Depends. In most cases it's better to just move on. If you are gonna be seeing her regularly there might be a chance that you can turn things around although it's unlikely. I was in a similar situation where I asked a girl out and she said she had a boyfriend but I was interacting with her once or twice per week. I stepped back a bit but I was still joking around with her and I was still flirting with her a bit (without crossing any boundaries of course). At first she was feeling a bit awkward p…
/r/seduction04/01/21 07:27 PM
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I don't think many people realize how hard it is to be unashamedly yourself. It takes massive amount of work to first and foremost stop bullshitting yourself about who you truly are and what you truly want let alone sharing it with the people closest you. And then you gotta take it even a step further to start showing that to strangers and a further step to start showing it to attractive strangers. And of course this doesn't happen all of the sudden. You say or do something small that it's a bit…
/r/seduction15/12/20 10:09 AM
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With experience.
/r/seduction15/12/20 08:31 AM
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What's with all the hate towards dating apps? Like everything else it's a tool that you are either good or bad at using. People get real results with Tinder so if you are not, you simply haven't learned how to use it properly but there is no better time than now. Dating apps are not going anywhere and are only gonna be getting more and more popular so for better or worse it's gonna be extremely beneficial to add it to your toolbox.
/r/seduction05/11/20 12:05 PM
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Escalation is not always possible when you meet a girl. Just because you are attracted to a girl doesn't mean that you have to escalate on the spot. Sometimes circumstances don't allow that but they may allow you to get her number/Insta and then set up a date where you can escalate. Also when you are around a group of girls and you like one of them just admit it and ask her friends to give you tips on how to "get" her. You'd be surprised how often her friends will start hyping you up in front of…
/r/seduction01/11/20 09:59 PM
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I'm in the same boat mate! During the summer up until they introduced the curfew things were quite good. Now though with the curfew and with all the other restrictions things are quite limited. There are honestly only a few ways to improve atm. House parties but those are hard to come by if you're not a student as no one wants to take risks. Best thing for right now I think is the 30-45 minute window after everything closes as everyone is on the streets so it's relatively easy to meet people as …
/r/seduction19/10/20 12:14 PM
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Congratulations mate! This is huge!!!
/r/seduction16/10/20 07:00 PM
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Nice one, mate!
/r/seduction07/10/20 12:14 PM
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It's a bit of a long term solution but meditation is really gonna help you to truly start solving the problem and help you control your thoughts much more efficiently.
/r/seduction29/09/20 09:53 AM
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Something that I figured out a while ago is that getting a number/Instagram is just a technicality. The goal of an interaction is not to get her number but to see if you click with a girl. If you focus on that and you get better at it you'll soon start to see the number as something that just happens naturally as a result of an enjoyable interaction not the end goal. Hell at the end of an enjoyable interaction a girl might ask you "do you want my number?". My advice: don't focus that much on the…
/r/seduction21/09/20 08:45 AM
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Here's what I text. After the initial text I'll ask the girl something following on the conversation that we've had in person. 99% of the time you'd have something that you're curious that you didn't ask in person. When I ask her and if I like her answer I'll text something among the lines of "I'm impressed! We definitely need to go out sometime" and if I don't I'll text something among the lines of "I was ready to ask you out but your answer is making me question it now" with a laughing emoji o…
/r/seduction15/09/20 03:14 PM
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I'd suggest you watch a couple of videos on how to make Tinder conversations work, then downloading Tinder and using it for a week or two texting with girls. This will improve your texting game a lot! Another thing is after the initial text to try and follow on the convo you had in person. Don't overdo it but exchange a couple of messages and suggest to meet sometime without anything in particular. After that in a few days or however long when you suggest to grab a coffee it's a lot more natural…
/r/seduction15/09/20 02:24 PM
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You know what? You're right! I have been putting solid work but I can be putting way more! Thanks for the reminder kind sir!
/r/seduction10/09/20 03:55 PM
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Thanks man I'm glad it helped you! But yeah on texting I think it got a bit of a bad rep because of Mark Manson's Models and some guys including myself took the advice to the extreme and for a while I was trying to minimize the texting that I was doing. Obviously the book was written quite a while ago (2009 I think) when texting wasn't such a major way of communicating and I think today texting has a lot bigger role in dating. And I get that it's not as good as meeting someone in person but you …
/r/seduction03/09/20 04:46 PM
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I think that you gotta be realistic about DMing girls that you've never met in person or you barely know. The truth is that not every girl will agree to go out with you just based on your responses to her stories. Also I think that the mindset that texts are only to get her out is not gonna work in your favour at this particular scenario but I am gonna get to it. With that being said I think that the best thing you can do is to keep responding to stories and exchanging a couple of messages after…
/r/seduction03/09/20 12:12 PM
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