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DISCUSSIONonceuponasea/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:08 PM
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LESSON LEARNEDonceuponasea/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 10:31 PM
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onceuponasea/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 02:37 PM
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DISCUSSIONonceuponasea/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 01:04 AM
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MINDSET SHIFTonceuponasea/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 03:44 PM
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onceuponasea/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 02:17 PM
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RED FLAG 🚨onceuponasea/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 07:43 PM
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DISCUSSIONonceuponasea/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 01:48 AM
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WHOLESOME CONTENTonceuponasea/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 03:44 AM
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RED FLAG 🚨onceuponasea/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:19 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?onceuponasea/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:49 AM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCEonceuponasea/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 02:26 PM
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LESSON LEARNEDonceuponasea/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 03:15 AM
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Avoid all men who watch porn. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 08:01 PM
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I’m so glad she dumped him I was worried she would listen to the incels in the comment section
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 07:59 PM
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She needs to get the hell out before he murders her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 03:37 PM
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Thank you for this!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 10:31 PM
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Omg this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 10:29 PM
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What the hell did I just read
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 10:29 PM
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Yes. As someone who is training in psychotherapy, I can assure you that there are more pickme therapists than nonpickme therapists lol. If you do decide to go to therapy, find someone who aligns with FDS - it’s rare but they are out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 02:45 PM
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It could be sex trafficking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 07:51 AM
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Blocked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 07:43 AM
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I checked her profile and it’s safe and safe to say she definitely has depression.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 12:30 AM
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A lot of therapists are pickmes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 07:35 PM
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Actually this could be used a good vetting strategy. Praise him for the bare minimum and see how he responds. If he responds like your boyfriend that’s a green flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 01:41 PM
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49???? He sounds 19
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 01:32 PM
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Every time I read “games in mothers basement” or “plays video games in parents basement” I have a visceral reaction of embarrassment bc this was my ex. He’s 30, works part time at a smoke shop, plays video games in his moms basement, smokes weed, and I suspect he watches porn probably every other day. And here I was worried and anxious all the time if I was attractive enough for him. Why did I stay so long ???? 😖😖😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 01:27 PM
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My ex did this. He literally just straight up asked me, “what do you want me to get you for Christmas?” It’s very lazy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 01:24 PM
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🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 11:33 PM
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My ex was the guy who plays video games in his moms basement. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 11:32 PM
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💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 10:29 PM
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Oh no!! Anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 10:29 PM
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Porn addict
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 06:28 PM
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Only HVM I see over the age of 40 is Jason Wilson.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 07:28 PM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 07:24 PM
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That’s exactly what I would do. Instead the father sits on the couch watching the game or the news and waits for the nanny to finish dinner. He never cooks, doesn’t do laundry, makes the nanny iron his shirt, and doesn’t do any of the yard work or cleaning in the house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 01:07 PM
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Good lord he took you around for a spin. I’m sorry you went through that. With all the other seemingly green flags I can understand why you would give it a try. I’m glad you didn’t go further with him. It’s a blessing in disguise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 12:59 PM
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The woman I work for has a nanny for her 12 yr old and 16 yd old daughters and 20 yr old snd 21 yr old sons. PLUS cleaners come every other week. She can’t even ask the boys to walk the dog or take out the dishes from the dishwasher. She can’t even ask her husband to change the lightbulb bc he “forgets” and she’s tired of trying to remind him, so she hires a nanny to clean, do the laundry, and make dinner for the kids and dad. (She’s a doctor so she’s rarely home to eat dinner.) the girls are ex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 05:09 PM
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And they will, sadly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 02:31 AM
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“I can’t help it. Feel bad for me. I am a piece of shit. Wahhhh. But I can’t help it.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 02:28 AM
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Love this!!! Go head, sis. I plan on buying a somatic workbook, booking a massage and nail appointment, I also bought myself a super nice dress, and gonna go splurge at sephora. I'm also applying for a somatic training in January. So exciting!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 09:06 PM
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I love being single. Best time of my life. I finally feel free and truly living for myself. Anyone else feel liberated to be single?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 12:04 PM
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“You gotta do what you gotta do.” That’s really sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 12:02 PM
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Lmao. And this is something to be proud of? Good god.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 12:01 PM
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Absolutely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 01:12 AM
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Correct
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 01:10 AM
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He looks porn sick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 08:41 PM
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I hope Hailey gets out soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 01:18 PM
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Thank you for this. I plan on breaking up with the guy I’m seeing now and I know this sounds like such pickme behavior but I feel bad for doing it during the holiday season. I should really just break up with him today and get it over with. Everything you describe is very similar to what I’m dealing with now. I appreciate the reality check that this man will not change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 01:10 PM
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Yep 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 12:41 AM
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He’s disgusting. The guy looks like he never showers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 03:15 AM
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How is JLO dating him? It’s beyond me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 11:39 PM
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He’s gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 11:39 PM
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Sadly this happens ALL the time. Imagine if women did this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 02:05 PM
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Stop 😂💀 but don’t stop
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 01:24 AM
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😂💀😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 01:23 AM
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Ugh. So unattractive and gross. I would be instantly turned off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 08:25 PM
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Yes :( she’s still very much conditioned and programmed to believe that this form of sexuality ( onlyfans) is empowering. Very sad. This stuff runs deep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 10:46 AM
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Ugh I know. She still does onlyfans. Made me sad to hear that. I was like sis you were so close. It also reminds of how hard it must be to get out. Her mindset is probably like, “well I already have my body on the internet I might as well do what I can to make it worthwhile.” Goes to show that you will never fully get out of that scene forever. You’re in for life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 03:00 AM
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It’s truly disgusting. These men are the worst of mankind. They aren’t normal. They must have seriously something wrong with their brains to do that to a person and be okay with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 02:59 AM
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Sorry to ruin your meal. Honestly it’s one of the worst stories I’ve heard, but sadly I imagine there are even greater horror stories that many porn stars are too afraid to come out and tell. Edit: add words
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 02:57 AM
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I can’t believe I have her on YouTube! Her videos are shoved back pretty far. I wonder why 🤨🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 02:56 AM
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It was really hard to listen. It sounds very traumatic. I can’t imagine the mark that would leave on my nervous system.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 02:55 AM
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Ugh yes this stood out to me as well. It’s seriously messed up. The industry is innately predatory and always will be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 02:54 AM
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Sounds like my ex lol congratulations you dodged a bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 04:09 PM
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Fucking homosexuals
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 02:29 AM
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Oof yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 02:28 AM
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I hear you. Honestly I didn’t watch to the video. I assumed it would be some lib fem bs because I used to follow her and she was very…pick- me like. That’s awful that she got it when she wasn’t open with her man. Oof. Unfortunately it sounds like she will stay with him. So she’s still hella pick me. It’s sad she feels she has to put up with her lvm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 02:27 AM
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Ugh same. Even before FDS I couldn’t get into her stuff. Something always felt off and…surface level to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 02:22 AM
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Oof sis 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 02:21 AM
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Thanks for sharing this sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 01:24 AM
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LOLLL. “I love him so much he’s such a great boyfriend! He even fills me in on what’s going on in the video game that he plays 12 hours a day. Y’all ladies just don’t understand that this is hobby and I’m so thankful to be apart of it.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 01:13 PM
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Ugh. They probably watch porn together and she is sooo “not insecure. I love watching women getting degraded too!!!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 01:08 PM
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Ooo really good point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 01:06 PM
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“HAtE sPeEcH!!!!!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 01:05 PM
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He’s so ugly 🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 01:52 AM
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He’s a porn addict???? How do you know? Oh god 😩😩😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 01:51 AM
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Ugh can’t stand her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 02:22 PM
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I know the woman who went with lily to that ceremony. So scary. I implore any woman to be careful of going into these type of spaces. A friend of mine knows a lot of these folk bc she’s into this scene a lot; some ex military guy ran a retreat where he administered amphetamine to the entire group without them knowing (they thought they were just taking Tobacco) the woman died and he blamed it on her “demons” he’s still running around holding these ceremonies. There is a huge dark side to this sc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 01:10 AM
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Agreed. And still, even if you are his dream girl ladies, he’s still gonna treat you like shit. You may think that if you are an IG model that you somehow will finally get respected, seen, appreciated, cared for, etc etc but it’s just not true. Many IG models behind the scene are dating low value entitled men. Please don’t let them fool you. Also, a lot of these IG model are low key insecure and desperate for male attention and validation. In short, they have mental health issues. This is not to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 12:59 PM
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This guy sounds disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 03:44 AM
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Thanks for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 02:36 AM
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Ahahahaha this is hilarious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 02:29 AM
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Agahahahahahahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 02:27 AM
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Ugh that guy is super red pilled and very misogynistic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 02:04 AM
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Can’t believe you got downvoted lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 08:28 PM
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This is so scary
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 02:43 AM
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💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 04:26 AM
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My mom kept her maiden name. Queen she is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 08:33 PM
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Ew
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 08:32 PM
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I have no problem with what you’re saying. It’s true. Money doesn’t equal success. But I absolutely can’t stand it when LVM make these arguments to not get up and find a job. They would rather sit around and play video games bc “fuck capitalism.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 04:58 PM
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Amazing!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 01:27 PM
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Ain’t nothing but facts here. I used to be that girl that would say things like this. Looking back I realized a lot of my dysfunction and “crazy” was bc I was with a man who gaslit me daily, was an addict, and had BPD. Of course I felt crazy, of course I acted crazy. I was with a crazy person. Now, why did I stay around? That’s the important question. Because he would convince me that he would change and things would be good for a little while. Then he would slowly go back to his ways. Never aga…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 01:17 PM
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Lmao yup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 06:10 PM
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🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 06:09 PM
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This has been me. I’ve ghosted, stonewalled, been passive aggressive, ignored, etc. there’s no excuse for my behavior. But truthfully when diving deeper on my behavior, I realize that a big part of my avoidance is fear. Fear of being gaslit, fear of being told I’m overreacting, fear of being seen as crazy, jealous, insecure, fear of being rejected, fear of him freaking out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 05:30 PM
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UGH! Yes. F these guys. And also ladies be careful of the guys who do actually go to therapy. I know plenty of guys who go to therapy And still ain’t shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 02:23 PM
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Sad I’ve seen every one of these guys. And they’re all porn addicts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 02:22 PM
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Sis if it didn’t feel right then you need to trust your gut. Your need for no friendship with exes were overstepped. Instead of him being understanding and respecting your boundaries, he tried to prematurely get you to “trust him” Trust has to be earned. People like this slowly erode your boundaries overtime. First it’s friends with exes, then flirting with exes, then going on dates with exes, “but she is married.” Right? Yeah, nah you dodged a bullet.
/r/askFDS03/12/21 02:21 PM
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LMAO love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 11:52 AM
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Omfg this guy sounds awful!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 12:09 AM
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Been there done that. Next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 12:03 AM
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Yes. The only thing I’m pretty gung-ho about all women following is the no porn in relationship rule and not dating men who don’t think porn is bad. My issue is that men will never learn if women don’t come together and say enough is enough and to just stop dating these kind of men. Plus, mostly every woman I have ever talked to said that they don’t actually like it but they put up with it. Only time women say it’s not bad is bc they’re sex workers (and probably still hate it) or are addicted th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 12:02 AM
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Ugh. He smokes weed every day and says he’ll never stop smoking and games all night to the point where he has really shitty sleep schedule. He’s been the first guy who has been good to me so it feels a lot harder to leave this time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 09:33 PM
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Ugh Derrick Jaxn is a scrote of shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 06:58 PM
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Omg my ex. I used to think he was doing this to try to make me feel better. Now I know it’s bc he was subtly gaslighting me. Wtf!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 06:54 PM
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Ewww I just peeped his ig he looks gross and all his friends look nasty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 05:27 AM
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What the fuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 03:17 AM
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I told him that he needed to work harder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 02:21 PM
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I literally got banned from this sub for commenting on this post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 01:26 PM
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Queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 08:53 AM
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Yup. It sounds like a trauma bond to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 08:46 AM
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Sis same I can’t adventure out of fds subreddit much or it will ruin my day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 03:33 PM
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I hope that’s what’s she doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 03:32 PM
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👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 02:47 AM
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Gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 01:05 AM
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Yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 07:17 PM
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Oof! That sounds like a Hoover.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 05:47 PM
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Block. He’s willing to lose his job for something like this. Shows that he is irresponsible, impulsive, and juvenile. Red flags. Whether someone is pro or against vax it doesn’t matter. If you’re willing to lose your job over it, you’re a child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 05:42 PM
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This is just so so sad. As someone who studies psychology, I genuinely do not believe she was evil. She had a psychotic break. Back then therapy was looked down upon, especially in religious groups. It still in some ways today. Everyone around her failed her. The doctors failed her. Her husband failed her. And I would not be surprised if he was covertly abusing her behind the scenes. Honestly, as her husband, what In his right mind thinks it was okay to leave her alone knowing that she tried to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 05:15 PM
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Yup 💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 02:26 AM
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Guys who use Instagram is a red flag to me idk why but it is I always cringe when I hear about guy who uses Instagram. Most men use it for soft porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 01:47 AM
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This is appalling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 01:43 AM
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Give them the illusion that it’s their freedom of choice. The ultimate psychological tactic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 01:40 AM
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He has borderline personality disorder. It’s very common for those folk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 08:44 PM
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Oh sis no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 12:38 AM
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Men who watch porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 10:19 PM
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🔥🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 02:05 PM
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I never said it is a either/or situation. I said it doesn’t personally benefit me to waste my time on OLD when I could be creating my dream life. My only concern with OLD is that it’s so easily accessible that we can end up relying on it more than actually living our lives and meeting people in real time. If it works for people than it works for people. No shame in ya game!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 01:23 PM
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Same sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 01:19 PM
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My thing is, if HVM use online dating because they’re too busy and not able to meet women in real life, then do you really want a man who doesn’t have the time or opportunity to meet women in real life then what makes me think he is going to have time for a real life girlfriend. I’m not shaming women who use OLD, if it works for you it works for you. But personally I’d rather meet people in real life, in real time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 01:17 PM
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🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 01:11 PM
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He’s literally a baby in a grown mans body. He’s gross. This is abhorrent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 03:17 AM
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Sis omg 🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 07:12 PM
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Is this for real??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 01:59 AM
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Clitorsaurus 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 02:28 AM
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Same thing happened to me. The guy was obsessed with me but couldn’t finish. It became exhausting so I left him. He did eat me out a lot but I think it was only to make up for his impotence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 03:18 AM
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Shit I’ve said this to guys so many times
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 02:52 AM
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Sis why haven’t you dump him yet!!! Rooting for you!! 💓💓💓💓💓💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 01:04 AM
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Preach it sis 🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 01:03 AM
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Guess they won’t be getting laid then 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 01:01 AM
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Ewww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 02:54 AM
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Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 02:38 AM
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Ugh. The last example. My ex. 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 02:37 AM
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This ain’t it, sis. Please be careful as you’re entering dangerous territory. But ultimately, it is your choice and you have the right do engage in relationships however you want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 02:35 AM
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Yup. All of this. I ain’t teaching a man about the harmful effects either. A HVM would already know and be educated on this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 02:31 AM
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Yes I hear you. I want to live in a world where women can dress how they want and they are not sexualized for it. I hate the slut shaming it only further enables men to do the same. I posted a picture of Rihanna in a bathing suit and a friend messaged me and told me that posting stuff like that is siphoning sexual energy. On one hand, it can send a message to men on my fb that I’m some kind of open and free spirit, on the other hand when I posted that photo I was in no way sexualizing Rihanna. A…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 12:39 PM
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It sounds a little misogynistic for sure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 12:25 PM
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Oh yes yes. Gotcha. Totally. I never hear about her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 12:32 AM
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What happened??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 02:36 PM
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What happened??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 02:36 PM
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I have a feeling this is going to be some kind of Netflix special in the next year or so. I almost feels like it’s a movie plot. So scary. I am sad that he won’t be questioned or interrogated. His family is horrible and should absolutely be questioned why they didn’t talk to Petitos family. My suspicion is the family knows more and instead of anything, they decided to protect their LVM abusive son.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 05:04 PM
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Omfg 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 05:01 PM
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Ew what a disgusting pig
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 01:09 AM
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He stayed up all night trying to get those photos deleted. If he was a LVM then he would’ve rejected your concern and told you that you were being too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 02:44 PM
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Yeah that was harsh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 02:42 PM
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Same!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 02:40 PM
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👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 02:40 PM
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🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 02:39 PM
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🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 02:39 PM
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These numbers are really helpful to see. Thank you. 🙏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 07:44 PM
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Ugh. I know this is a truth I should accept but I’m struggling. I do not want to go back to the dumpster fire that is OLD and will do whatever I can to avoid it, I just don’t know how else to meet people at this time. I started an online business and most my time is spent school work and the gym and my self care and hanging out with HVW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 07:42 PM
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This is disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 09:35 AM
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Yes gray rock and protect your hurt feelings at al costs. Be sure to prepare for him to Hoover you when he senses you are detaching.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 01:14 AM
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Ew. Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 12:47 AM
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Oooof. That last part. Can you expand on that if possible?
/r/askFDS19/10/21 01:53 AM
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It’s wild and so true. Looking at old magazines that my sister collects is pickmeism at its finest. Can’t believe we consumed that garbage at such a young age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:47 AM
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This. Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:37 AM
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Oh god yes. Therapy will most likely leave you more confused and it’s likely they’ll gaslight you and say you’r making a big deal out of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:36 AM
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👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:34 AM
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I know right. How generic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:32 AM
18

🔥🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:31 AM
266

If he is okay with lying, then it shows you his values and standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 08:22 PM
730

Oof. Sis. This ain’t looking good. Just remember: you are always always always no matter what the circumstance, allowed to change your mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 08:20 PM
415

I would never travel 1.5 hour for a first date. He should’ve came to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 11:52 AM
7

This is horrific I am so sorry you went through that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 02:33 AM
9

Ahahahahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 04:15 AM
6

These are amazing. I really can’t wait to ask, “how many times have you died? Psychologically?” In other words, what is your relationship with grief?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 11:15 PM
91

It’s an epidemic and It’s very very real. There’s a reason no one is talking about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 06:00 PM
13

🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 02:54 PM
94

Yeah it’s cringy af and he sounds dumb
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 02:51 PM
80

He made a huge mistake of going to pornsick Reddit for this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 02:45 PM
91

Ew. Has a guy really said that he watches ethical porn? Lmao. Wtf. He probably lying anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 02:37 PM
559

Omg this is horrific and so so sad. She was amazing. So young and talented. Heartbreaking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 01:00 AM
3

Ummmm your 22 and he’s 31? Red flag. Why are you accepting this behavior?? I would’ve dumped his ass already. This was my ex. Always late with gift giving and never on time and never ever planned a single date. Guys like him are lazy af and it’s infuriating to see women deal with this LV BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 12:56 AM
57

“Holistic sexual experience.” Mmm I love this! Thanks for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 11:31 AM
77

If he is a high value man, devoted to his inner and out work, treats me respectfully and honorably, desires to please in every which way whether in the bedroom or outside of the bedroom, and isn’t pornified, I absolutely love it. I truly do when it’s a man I really love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 11:30 AM
42

You know what, facts. Saying that he’s dumb would be giving him some benefit of the doubt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 04:39 PM
3

🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 02:45 PM
15

They only want to see what they want to see to reinforce their narrative as truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 01:59 PM
5

Thank you for speaking to this so eloquently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 01:54 PM
29

Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 01:45 PM
95

Exactly. He’s an idiot and weird and his behavior is sleazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 01:44 PM
141

Girl I would’ve left as soon as he said his best friend was hot. Sounds kind of like he was trying to get a reaction from you. HVM don’t say stuff like this. ESPECIALLY when it’s to a woman he likes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 01:42 PM
2

I MISSED MY QUEENS SO MUCH. Yay. So glad you’re back!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 01:38 PM
6

🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 01:38 PM
-18

Of course you didn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 02:56 AM
-3

Yes absolutely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 02:44 AM
-8

Because of one conversation you are let down???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 02:43 AM
-36

She literally said she supported abortion rights. A lot of conservatives support abortion rights. This isn’t anything new.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 02:41 AM
-28

But we have? Fds has criticized conservatives lol what
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 02:39 AM
-13

Agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 02:37 AM
-5

Agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 01:14 AM
-4

🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 01:13 AM
1

I’m curious as to what you disagree with FDShandbook ? And I so agree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 12:44 AM
4

Beautiful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 12:41 AM
50

🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 10:56 PM
-19

I can’t stand cancel culture for this reason. Apparently we can’t have a conversation with anyone who has a different ideological perspective than us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 10:53 PM
82

As soon as I saw him I thought, porn addict. He’s gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 12:14 PM
129

They treat the dream girl just as shitty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 11:56 AM
129

Ew. He’s gross. I just looked him up. Men project their unattractiveness onto women they date. She is so much hotter than him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 11:55 AM
66

Why do we do this? What is the psychology behind dating men that are way less attractive than you? I see all too often, from both micro and macro perspectives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 11:52 AM
36

Ew. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 11:51 AM
11

Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 01:02 AM
47

Ewwww. That is so nasty, he’s gonna smell bad for a week. Just nasty. Appalling. I’m horrified. If a man ever suggest fast food in my vicinity it’s over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 12:55 AM
31

What in the hell did I just look at.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 12:52 AM
14

Came here to say exactly this. Huge red flag, not a yellow flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 05:39 PM
8

Omg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:00 PM
166

Yes my same thoughts. He def did that so that she would dump him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:51 AM
29

Whorephobic… that is the first time I’ve heard of that. Just, wow. Sex pozzi really do the most.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:48 AM
31

Hahahahahahhahahaha. A prize? Good lord.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:18 AM
67

Thank you for this. The last time him and I talked it didn’t end well and I’ve been ruminating a bit here and there about whether I should apologize. Then when I think back on why we fought was because we was legit bread-crumbing me then told me it was because he was working so much. Eh. I don’t care, a man who values you is gonna make time to text you back. Or at the very least let you know what’s going on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:17 AM
21

Ugh. The woman is always gorgeous and the man is 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 09:33 PM
29

Wow, just, wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 05:53 PM
22

Sister please leave you can do so much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 12:59 AM
28

Oh my ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 02:31 AM
27

Good head sis 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 proud of you. I was hella scared when I had to confront porn use and my boundaries around it with my ex. I look back now and I realize how much the social programming got me living in fear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 06:45 PM
42

Was he watching porn before you met him? What is his outlook on porn? Was he watching while you guys were dating? Good job with making the boundary. Keep vetting. Do you know what you will do if he breaks this boundary?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 06:29 PM
5

This is such an important aspect to understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 06:23 PM
5

YOU GOT THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 06:23 PM
308

This is disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 01:08 AM
24

This is awful. Awful. How could he say that in front of his daughter?? If I were Amanda I would’ve saw that as a red flag and walked out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 12:40 AM
12

Jane<3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:23 AM
6

I said this to my ex. I told him how there are so many women now that would be so fine with him engaging in porn. His response? None. Because no woman wants his dusty ass except for pickmes and we all know men hate pickmes too. He knew he could never find someone like me again that’s why he had no answer to my question lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 05:04 PM
4

Sis, it sounds like you enjoy your own company over dusties. You on the right path. 💓💓💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 02:59 PM
18

THIS.🔥🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 02:59 PM
17

Many pornstars get into porn for this reason although they would never admit it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 02:57 PM
50

I’m sorry but this is just scientifically wrong. I’m an addiction specialist as well as a recovering addict from heavy drugs. I’ve been sober for 10+ years now from one of the deadliest drugs in the world, and have also been addicted to porn. You can absolutely rewire your brain and never have cravings again like me and many other people I know. I have zero desire to do any drugs, my drug of choice and can’t even tell you when I watched porn last it’s been so long. These guys just don’t want to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 02:48 PM
10

Oh, my ex???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 02:30 PM
11

Except for FDS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 02:28 PM
79

Ew that would be an automatic no for me. Cya.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 02:23 PM
47

Ugh don’t even get me started on Nicki. She is like the poster child of PickMes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 02:02 AM
29

Would a mom even do this shit? This is next level ish!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 02:01 AM
55

Jesus that is insane. I’m so glad she left his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 02:00 AM
18

Lmaoooo omg this is ridiculous. Whaaaat. And as if he would ever do the same and if he did it’s because he wants to control and abuse you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 01:56 AM
3

Ughhhhh reminds me of my ex. “You can never just let things go and let us be happy.” I cringe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 02:22 AM
2

Noooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 01:54 AM
9

Eewwww what a man child
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 05:54 PM
33

Omg that’s so scary I’m so glad you got out of there alive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 01:40 AM
26

Attachment styles can often be weaponized against you to stay in abusive relationships. It happened to me. Don’t do it. Just walk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 08:47 PM
20

I have not read that book but I’ve read waking the tiger; another trauma healing book. Amazing. I love trauma work so much, not because I want to see people in pain, but for the person they let go of when healing their trauma, and who they become in the aftermath. It’s a beautiful + painful + tedious + worthwhile transformation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 08:45 PM
220

That I don’t have to date porn addicts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 05:45 PM
2

Omg I love him even more now. Love jung but he was absolutely a misogynist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 05:23 PM
60

They’re losers. Porn addicts are losers and will always be losers. It is never worth it to be with someone who watches porn or has problems. Better to stay single than have to deal with the abuse that comes with porn addiction. It’s awful. I’m so glad I left my ex. Now I don’t have anxiety attacks wondering how much porn he watches that day. He’s disgusting and I will never date a porn user AGAIN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 05:19 PM
109

A lot of these analysts don’t know a thing about domestic violence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 01:43 AM
9

Ugh. Ew. What is going on in the realm of therapists and psychologists these days. A HUGE chunk of them are straight up pickmes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 12:09 PM
55

Him coming back to drop your stuff off was a Hoover attempt. Look it up. Inner Integration is an excellent resource on YouTube. She saved my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 12:16 PM
7

I’m so glad people like you exist. <3 Love my FDS queens telling it like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 01:36 AM
13

Chomsky<3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 01:29 AM
15

AHHH I’m so glad to hear this. Yes, I specifically seek out therapists, coaches, and mentors that have a more FDS lens. There have been sadly too many therapists I’ve gone to who told me to “just communicate” in my very toxic relationships. I have a lot of friends who are therapists and they even fall into this as well as date guys who are LV. So ladies, vet vet vet your therapists!! High standards in every area. 🔑🔑🔑🔑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 01:22 AM
2

THIS IS EVERYTHING THANK YOU.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 04:49 PM
19

Yup. I tried it for a few months years ago and never again. Attracted a lvm who coerced me to have sex with him. He also tried to rope me in staying with him by allowing him to fix my car. NEVER AGAIN. Ladies, any man you meet in the beginning do not let him you with anything. Be self-sufficient enough to take care of your own. I made a mistake and allowed him to help me which is a big no no because I quickly realized he was lv. He didn’t want to actually help me with my car, he wanted a reason …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 04:46 PM
3

Ah yes I see now. D is absolutely a fool. Sorry your husband has to go through that!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 08:13 PM
52

Sis, this is too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 07:57 PM
11

Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 11:15 AM
4

Ew he is over 40 and following women 20 years younger than him? Nah. That’s gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 11:14 AM
281

Are you gonna dump his ass?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 01:48 AM
16

A lot of them misinterpret the theories and studies on evolutionary psych. They love to cherry pick the theories that suits them and ignore everything else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 01:41 AM
1

Yes queen!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 01:24 AM
2

Nope nope and nope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 06:49 PM
3

The only healthy gamers I know are women so it’s a hard pass for me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 06:47 PM
-1

I can’t believe you got down voted for this. Everything you’re saying is accurate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 06:40 PM
4

I love her!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 06:37 PM
1

Thank you! <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 12:20 AM
4

It seems that they really do end up alone. So sad and pathetic to give your life away to pixels on a screen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 11:17 AM
16

What???! New York Times? I’m so shocked honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 06:09 PM
23

Why are you still with him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 05:03 PM
60

Sis, yes to all of this. And it’s true. I was the dream woman to him and I still wasn’t enough. It’s not about us. It’s their depravity. We are enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 03:08 PM
5

Really bad porn addiction, had PIED, took hours to cum. -playing video games in his moms basement still. poor sleep schedule. I finally get to have a normal sleep schedule!! poor mental health and did nothing to get better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 11:18 PM
1

Congratulations, how are you celebrating?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 10:58 PM
14

YES 👏🏻 SIS 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 01:48 AM
20

Lmao what is a weeaboo??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 05:09 PM
27

Girl why are you still making posts about this guy. What advice are you possibly trying to find on here? This is FDS, we will unapologetically tell you to leave a man like this. What are expecting?? Please stop posting here if you are not ready to hear the brutal advice we give. This is kind of ridiculous considering you’ve already made several posts asking the same question. Dump. Him.
/r/askFDS31/08/21 02:50 PM
42

This remind of when DMX died and everyone praised him for being such an upstanding dude. Wtf?!?🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 02:48 AM
8

He’s disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 02:31 AM
3

Lisa A Romano is a good source to understanding narcissistic behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 07:15 PM
2

I’m a therapist who works with a lot of women who want to go down this route. Some experience shame for not being pretty enough, others feel shame because they genuinely want to enhance their already beauty and get a lot of backlash (mostly from other women) It’s really not black and white. And I’d never pity them. To pity them would put me above them. That is patriarchal thinking. I’m not about that life. But you’re entitled to your opinion, as am I. Have a good one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 07:00 PM
0

Not agreeing with them is totally different than looking down on them. I’m done with this convo. I said what I said. Have a nice day ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 05:18 PM
1

This woman clearly stated that she pities women who get plastic surgery. It wasn’t her “not explaining herself well” that’s a no for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 05:03 PM
22

Ewww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 04:58 PM
1

I’m aware of that. I’m very aware that women do things because of social programming and conditioning. I still do not think it is right to look down on women who get plastic surgery. We should be working to lift our sisters up, not take them down. That to me is patriarchy. Should we be looking down on prostitutes that go into that industry because of economic insecurity or personal insecurity? My answer is absolutely not. These women are just like us. No one is exempt from social pressure. To ac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 04:51 PM
-2

Seriously, I can’t with the shaming women for doing what they want with their body. It’s none of anyone’s business.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 02:48 PM
0

This comment is so judgmental.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 02:45 PM
7

Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 02:44 PM
21

Omfg could this not be any more embarrassing. 🤢🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 02:20 PM
6

Ughhh 🤢🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 03:24 AM
8

Dang, she’s deep in a trauma-bond and she ain’t leaving. That’s so sad, and horrifying. Edit: typos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 10:50 PM
16

Yes, agreed. She is right about not overthinking it, but I also think her suggestion is saying that you shouldn’t care if he doesn’t text you back, for days. That’s a no for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 02:12 AM
19

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 02:02 AM
38

Right? The “jUsT aCcEpT hIm fOr WhO hE iS” kinda made me cringe. Yeah, like I’m definitely going to accept him for who he is and peace out ✌🏻 Edit/typos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 01:57 AM
354

What are you 5?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 06:03 PM
289

My ex did this. Never again. It sounds like he’s future faking her a lot. Edit:typos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 03:43 PM
2

This is everything thank you for sharing!!!
/r/askFDS16/08/21 02:22 AM
9

A HVM would’ve complimented you. A btw, don’t disclose info like that, it’s none of his business.
/r/askFDS16/08/21 02:16 AM
17

Gosh this is disgusting 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 01:29 AM
8

It’s true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 11:51 AM
2

Oh god please🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 02:52 PM
17

A S T R O L L.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 02:47 PM
6

Thank you! I love his podcast!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 02:44 PM
3

It’s true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 02:38 PM
6

What the actual hell?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 02:37 PM
5

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 02:32 PM
9

Omg 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 02:45 AM
2

UGH 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 02:44 AM
11

🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 02:28 AM
3

Yessss
/r/askFDS27/07/21 03:00 AM
3

Omg my ex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 02:07 PM
4

Asteam, duh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:58 PM
2

“Relationship & marriage counseling int’l” 🤮🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:50 AM
2

I think if you’re hitting your late 20’s going into 30’s it’s a red flag. That’s a time that you should seriously be thinking about what you want and pursuing those goals. If he’s 29 and still playing games and doesn’t put any effort into his future, it’s a high chance he’s gonna stay that way for a long time. It’s unattractive to me. Like bruh you are almost 30years old not 16.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:14 AM
1

Love this book!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 03:55 PM
8

Hunny no we ain’t doing that anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 05:02 AM
38

Love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 04:41 AM
1

💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 03:38 AM
1

I get what you’re saying but I think it’s good that coaches become trauma informed because many aren’t and I actually think that’s more dangerous than those who are. Coaches are not replacements for therapy, they are an add on or when someone feels like doing something different will help them. Unfortunately I hear so many times my clients tell me that all those years in therapy didn’t really help them but doing three sessions with coach changed their entire life. I don’t hate therapy I love it.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 07:14 PM
1

Ah yes totally get what you’re saying and I agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 05:22 PM
2

Yep yep totally
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 05:20 PM
2

I wouldn’t say trauma informed means nothing. I have taken several trauma informed trainings and they’re actually extremely useful, especially when someone comes to me and they need more help that I am able to give them, I can refer them out to professionals who can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 05:18 PM
6

I agree with that and I will also say, there are a ton of “qualified” therapists who are well-intentioned that do a lot of harm as well as exhibit predatory behavior. It’s just not as black and white as the OP is describing. There are people who are academically trained to be a therapist but only desire to be in that field because they like the power over others it gives them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:12 PM
8

Life coach here. I am a somatic and embodiment coach. I have my degree in psychology and social work, have taken hundreds of trainings in the modality that I teach from accredited sources, many of whom are top professionals in the field of somatics and trauma such as Peter Levine and Richard Schwartz. I am currently pursuing my graduate degree in trauma and community counseling although I will continue to do my coaching despite having my graduate degree because of my interest in the entrepreneur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 12:30 PM
114

🙋🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 12:13 PM
150

Who’s gonna tell her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 12:13 PM
6

Really loved this comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:05 PM
8

Omg girl. Jesus. Lord. Please for the love of everything holy please leave him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:00 PM
35

Can you explain more what you mean by that I’m having a hard time understanding. 🙏🏼🙏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 03:46 PM
15

YESSSSS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 03:45 PM
44

Ewww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 01:52 AM
40

Muskrat 💀💀💀💀🎚🎚🎚
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 01:46 AM
10

Its true they often don’t change even when they go therapy. Often they will get a pickme therapist who will invalidate the woman and enable all the mans toxics behaviors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 06:44 PM
23

Ugh, and don’t beg a man to go and try therapy. If he wanted to, he would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 06:21 PM
14

Eewwww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:12 PM
24

Omg I listened to this yesterday!! 😂😂 love her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:15 PM
76

Yes. Really good post. I absolutely love the FDS views on porn and would love to see more posts of people’s experiences of what it was like dating a porn addict. I think getting that message out there is super important no matter how many Scrotes cry and whine about their peepees being offended. F them. The porn and the propaganda that encourages it is highly highly dangerous on both macro and micro levels. We all see it now but society isn’t ready to face it. In 20 years we will see many more w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:40 AM
8

How come I got downvoted?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 08:01 PM
40

Go you and your therapist! You are lucky to have her and so is she. It’s actually sad because out of all the therapists I’ve had over the years, they’ve never told me that this guy wasn’t for me. It wasn’t until I hired a coach (she was a Harvard trained psychologist but decided to be a coach) and she was the one who really helped me out of my depressive and anxious states and inspired me to leave him. I remember she said, “every time you go back to him, you will be sending the message to yourse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:17 PM
36

The gamer types will think they are so “special” and “unique” because they don’t outwardly express their misogyny and is for women openly expressing their sexuality because “empowerment” meanwhile they have limp dick from all the porn they watch and call you every name in the book just to be able to get it up for .5 seconds so he can jackhammer you until it shrivels up again. I will never date a gamer “nice guy” AGAIN. The liberal men are just as bad as the conservatives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:04 PM
2

Hobosexuals 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:01 PM
201

Mine slept all day and didn’t even get me a present. F him. When I see posts like this I’m like why the hell did I put up with that for so long? Even after all that I’m still having trouble with the final block and no contact. What the f is wrong with me??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:55 PM
3

Love this channel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:34 PM
11

Yeah but what if it’s abusive? A therapist should absolutely advise someone to get the hell out of an abusive situation. I had too many therapist sit there and told me to just “communicate” and tell him how I feel to my ex who was sexually abusing me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 12:00 AM
3

This is totally propaganda
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 01:19 AM
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She’s locked into that oxytocin + trauma bond. Her nervous system is hooked. Hopefully she wakes up one day and leaves his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:50 PM
4

I can understand the compassion you have towards someone you love. I hope he is able to be clean from it entirely. It really does impact the psyche in so many nuanced ways that most are unaware of. If he is getting therapy and support from the outside and shows you that he is committed, then I understand why you would stay. I just hope it’s not your fantasy or hope that he will change that’s what’s keeping you there, but more so his actions and behaviors that show you he is trustworthy. I person…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:39 PM
28

Yes a huge red flag. I would never entertain a man who works for porn. Screw that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:49 PM
28

You already say you don’t believe it’ll ever be completely gone. Is that what you want to deal with forever?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 01:00 PM
15

I’m so glad you dumped his ass. Like many of the women on here are saying, leave him as soon as you see him following porn or ig models, it ain’t worth it. Stuff that like is a total turn off for me. EDIT: typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:49 PM
11

Honestly I’d just break up with him the moment I saw him liking, following or commenting under another woman’s posts. I wouldn’t even say anything. Just peace ✌️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:42 PM
2

Dark long hair. in shape, takes care of his physique tall broad shoulders, muscular butt, thick thighs dresses well, stylish, his fashion sense is well thought out but not in a narcissistic way. Just genuinely cares about his appearance. excellent hygiene- a guy who flosses please! has good sleep health. It directly impacts his physical. I’m not interested in dating men who stay up all night playing video games and smoking blunts and wake up to a puffy face and dark circle under his eyes. Good s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:53 AM
3

Omg yessss love him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:44 AM
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You are so brave for being honest with yourself and where you’re at. I am sending you a big hug and I wish you all the success in the world. Don’t believe anyone who says you can’t make it out because you can with the right support and mindset you absolutely can be on your way to becoming the social worker that sex workers need. I’m so proud of you. So many women are in denial still and when they are ready we will be here with open arms. So much love to you. ❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:27 PM
8

Oooo I like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 12:44 PM
12

Ugh love him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 02:10 AM
8

Omg leave him
/r/askFDS22/05/21 01:52 AM
6

Yay!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 01:40 PM
19

Lmao same 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:27 PM
2

I need to remind myself of this all the time bc I still miss him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 12:04 PM
2

Do you mean like, how long is he going to be stuck in his stuff? Sometimes I wonder if he’ll ever actually get out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 09:37 AM
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“It really doesn’t matter if it hurts women, if it’s pedophilic, fury! It’s not a choice okay. We were born this way!” 🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 11:25 PM
20

This was my ex. The thing is, unfortunately, he hasn’t gotten passed it :/ it’s actually very sad how much his trauma dictates his life now even at 29 about to 30 in a couple of months. The dudes father was a complete narcissist alcoholic that would make him feel bad for buying anything and now he’s just stuck there. He can obviously moved past it if he put in some effort, but I don’t know if he ever will do that. This was the kinda stuff that made me stay with him, feeling guilty for leaving bc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:00 PM
3

YES!!
/r/askFDS07/05/21 11:22 AM
28

I highly recommend listening to the top porn star Lana rhoades her podcast three girls one kitchen reveals her stories about the dark side of porn. It is so so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 06:19 PM
29

I appreciate this. I am going through waves of grief as I let go more and more of the idea that I need a man to be fulfilled/complete and coming back to myself. I notice that I when I choose myself over and over again, I receive more life force energy. With all the men I’ve been with they’ve depleted me. No more. I choose me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 01:28 PM
16

What’s wrong with getting advice from someone who went through mistakes and has insight on how and why relationships fails?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 08:08 PM
78

I am an aspiring psychotherapist (almost done school!! ) and this is exactly what I have worried about—enabling shitty behavior. I’m so glad I’m not alone in this as I don’t want to do couples counseling either. I am thrilled that you have these viewpoints bc I see SO MANY PICKME therapists it makes me sick. I would love to hear you on the FDS podcast, they were asking for therapists to go on and I think it would be so awesome to get an FDS therapist viewpoints.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 08:05 PM
25

That is so so sad and pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 07:59 PM
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My theory is that they are also afraid of getting another woman to marry them so they settle for the woman who will now. Pathetic if you ask me. It ain’t always about the perfect woman + timing. It’s that they realize they ain’t shit and find the next girl will take their shit. HVM Don’t do this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:54 AM
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Facts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:19 AM
5

hahahahahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:18 AM
13

Yes ma’am
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:15 AM
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Given her age and the time period she grew up in, she probably still has a lot of pick me programming that she unaware of. Think about LVM back then and LVM now. They have gotten way way worse. I think it’s important to vet therapists. A lot of them are straight up pick mes. As someone who is school to become a psychotherapist and has been going to therapy for years and has therapist friends, I see this stuff all the time- therapists who don’t go to therapy. A lot of therapists think they’re abo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:58 PM
3

Hey love I’m 31f and would love an accountability buddy. What are you goals for yourself this year?
/r/askFDS21/04/21 07:48 PM
6

Me too. I don’t know why but short men love me lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 02:52 PM
3

Hey, would it be okay if I DM'd you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 01:41 PM
4

It’s weird bc I have had several thoughts through the relationship wondering if he had antisocial personality although he is really good at hiding it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 11:58 AM
8

Omg. You said it perfectly. It’s crazy but I know that HE KNOWS that I’m about to leave. Like he is so keenly aware when the energy shifts. It’s a really weird feeling for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 11:56 AM
2

“I’m going to a good therapist now to help with general work-life balance, but when it comes to relationships, I’m sticking with FDS.” YES. I can’t tell you how much money I wasted on coaches and therapists to help me with my relationship issues, when really they just made it worse for me and left me doubting myself and my intuition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 01:47 PM
11

Incelgram?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 12:43 PM
16

I think I made a mistake and met up with my ex. He came over and of course he was on his best behavior. Actually came over the time he said/not late for once, bought me a really thoughtful gift, opened up emotionally with me, told me he wants to take me on a nice vacation when I’m done school bc I’ve worked so hard, had great wax, etc. ladies I’m struggling. I’m having a really hard time letting this guy fully go. He texted me this morning and I just felt so guilty for having a great weekend wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 12:42 PM
11

Ahahahahhahahahha 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:52 AM
11

Girl omg yes please leave him he sounds awful and will not stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:50 PM
17

You said it perfectly. The passivity is really beyond me. Like girl you can just leave this man and you’ll be way happier when you do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:47 PM
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Yes. My ex used to guilt me into thinking I was giving up on our relationship. But I literally stayed with him for years trying to make it work. Its bc they don’t want to look at themselves and see that they were the cause for the relationship failing. Women try so hard. Too hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:36 PM
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Thank you for saying it. The programming of guilt in women runs really deep. Edit: typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:34 PM
3

Omg that’s seriously gorgeous! Yay queen!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 08:50 PM
1

A coffee date???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:23 AM
6

Same here. My ex was super into pleasing me, bought me a vibrator, and genuinely put my pleasure first. But besides that he was pretty LV in all other areas. When I think about sleeping with other guys now it makes me feel like I’ll never get that level of great sex again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:27 AM
1

Exactly :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 12:36 PM
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It’s a part of the grieving process called negotiating/bargaining where we imagine “if only” scenarios so to not fully let go yet. Recognizing for what it is- grief, will help you not attach to those thoughts as much. Remind yourself daily that if it were meant to be, it would’ve been. But it’s not. Be in reality, as painful as it can be, it will get better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 12:33 PM
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I’m so curious if you are going to tell her why you’re leaving. And I’m proud that you are! I’m in school to become a therapist and I will 100% be using the FDS model in my work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 08:17 PM
13

What’s the movie called? I would love to watch it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 02:07 PM
19

Same here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 02:05 AM
11

Jesus Christ this is so sad. I hope she kicks his ass out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:43 PM
16

How come you haven’t left him? By staying with him you’re enabling his behavior. You’re basically saying it’s okay for him to treat you this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:41 PM
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Why even be with someone who watches it? Period?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 02:01 AM
2

Just another tactic to get women to settle. Dad bods are NOT attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 01:45 AM
24

It also could be a sign that you are experiencing loneliness and you’re wanting some kind of companionship which is why your brain might be bringing up J. Our brain will do whatever it can to get us in connection, so fantasizing about what could‘ve been is our brains way of finding that connection. But, in reality, you really don’t know how it would’ve played out. You learned a valuable lesson with the NVM and now you know what to look for from experiencing the nice dates you had with J. Sending…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 03:20 PM
8

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 02:08 AM
5

What a dummy. He’s emotionally inept to the principle of earning trust and building intimacy slowly. Dummy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:26 PM
33

He’s gross to me, honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 05:35 PM
9

Whaaaat?! Fuck, I wasn’t aware of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 09:33 PM
13

Thank you. Yes this is one of my biggest fears as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 04:00 PM
33

He has crazy eyes. It’s so cringe to watch this, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 01:42 AM
13

He sounds really emotionally immature which every porn user is. Prom user = emotionally immature and energetically stale. Do not pass go. In 6 months you will be so happy you didn’t go back. Free yourself. It is the illusion of safety your brain wants, not him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:16 PM
4

Lmao omg 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:14 PM
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👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Say it louder for the scrotes in the back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 05:21 PM
56

I don’t know if this answers your questions but my guy use to obsess over my looks, telling me how I’m a 10/10, that I should model, hottest girl in the world, etc. and still didn’t treat me like I was the prize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 04:04 PM
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I’m glad you realized sis. I had to learn this multiple times!! It was a hard pill for me to swallow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 02:22 PM
11

Do you have any resources on how to work through the betrayal trauma? 🙏🏻❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 02:20 PM
33

Omg I’m so happy you found a man who doesn’t watch porn and can meet your needs!! It gives me hope lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 02:16 PM
20

This sounds accurate. It sounds fake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 03:35 AM
24

He seemed pretentious at times but I did love learning about the octopus. 🐙🐙🐙
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 05:38 PM
7

Here here. What’s with the whole speaking in 3rd person. It’s gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:44 PM
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Isn’t it interesting how they’ll say “all men do it” but when it comes to sexual assault, disrespect, rape, etc they’ll say “nOt aLl mEn.”??? Make it make sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:32 PM
9

Lmao. Oh god got you? Boy, go to therapy. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:14 PM
11

Boom. You said it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:09 PM
8

Wow I can so relate to this and wonder if this is why I’ve always felt suffocated and not bc I have a “avoidant attachment style” thank you for sharing this!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:08 PM
7

Average average average. That’s all I hear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:00 PM
15

Yes queen. 🥳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 11:40 AM
10

Sending you tons of love. He sounded like such a sweet guy and you’re so lucky to have had someone like him in your life. Thanks for sharing. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 11:39 AM
4

Me too I love it 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 11:35 AM
8

I showed my friend the podcast and she told me that she was validated of things that she didn’t even know needed validation! So good! Keep it up ladies!! Xo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 11:34 AM
1

Ugh thank you. It definitely is derailing- and not the first time. I have become accustomed to not bringing up issues for this reason. I’m going tell him today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 11:27 AM
2

Thank you for saying this. I really feel I need a dose of reality. I feel like I have heavily suppressed my anger and frustration for his behavior. I’m having a really hard time cutting him off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 01:07 AM
2

No, definitely not. I think I get consumed by his charm and I find the sex to be super good. He always wants to please me in the bedroom and is obsessed with pleasuring me and always says he wants to make me feel good. He’s also super good at listening to my needs and he loves it when I speak up if something doesn’t feel good during sex. But if I’m being 100% honest sometimes he gets ED and I’m pretty positive it’s from porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 12:37 AM
1

Btw, I love your screen name lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 07:50 PM
4

I guess bc we’ve known each other for so long that I feel I owe him at least an explanation as to why I’m breaking up with him. And I also feel bad bc he has some abandonment trauma. But you’re right I really don’t owe him that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 07:49 PM
4

Yes. I know when I confront him he’s going to be like, “I asked you a million times where you wanted to go eat when you got back from work.” And honestly he’s right but I was just so upset at this mans lack of enthusiasm when I got home as he was still dead asleep that I didn’t have it in me to go out to eat with him. My whole mood changed after that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 07:21 PM
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Awww that’s so sweet. Yes the small things matter SO SO MUCH. With that being said, my current partner drives two hours to see me almost every weekend. I used to think this was so sweet, as he never pressured me to go to him. However, I think I’m going to break up with him it was my bday last Friday and we did nothing. I made him breakfast on my bday and brought him back coffee from work that I know he loves. We slept together the whole weekend but we did absolutely nothing excerpt watch movies …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 04:44 PM
14

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 07:36 PM
17

Awwwww. These poor poor men. Gosh. The audacity of women to have standards!!!! 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 02:44 AM
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This is honestly so sad and pathetic. I do not feel any sympathy for this guy. If he really gave a f**k he would do something about it. If he really cared about his wife and children then he would do something about it. These type of guys will blame their biology proclaiming that they can’t help but succumb to their impulses rendering themselves of no responsibility bc THEY DON’T WANT TO STOP their addiction. I hope she finds out soon and leaves him with her children. I can’t even imagine raisin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 02:40 AM
8

Damn! That’s really disappointing bc I thought he some good things to say. He made an anti-porn video which is probably the best thing he’s ever come out with, ever. And I appreciate him for that. Maybe he stopped watching it himself bc he realized that it contributed to him cheating on his wife? EDIT: Autocorrect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 09:54 PM
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Thank you!! I think that any lurkers who have been considering giving FDS a shot. Don’t even take my word for it, do a three month trial run and see for yourself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 02:10 PM
10

Unfortunately a lot of mental health clinicians and therapists are pro-porn and when couples come to them they do all the whole, “watch with him!” Or “just communicate!” It’s really really sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 01:56 PM
9

Thank you!! Looking forward to reading your future post. I heard that book is great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 01:53 PM
12

LOL nah sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 01:26 AM
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HAHAHAHAHAHA a gas station? The bar couldn’t be lower. Ladies, I can’t. If any guy ever asked me to go to a gas station I would seriously laugh in his face and block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 10:54 PM
61

Ugh I’m sorry you had to deal with that bs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 10:51 PM
88

We should apply the same principle to our LTR. There’s no reason your partner should take 24 hours to reply to you unless they tell you in advance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 10:46 PM
23

Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 05:56 PM
25

Yes queen yes. Feeling guilty as women has been a societal condition to keep us from seeing and embodying our potential. You did the right thing. You going against what society tells women is paving the way for other women. Thank you for choosing yourself. 🌹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:52 PM
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Honestly my ex watched the game of thrones and specifically mentioned one time that he loved all the boobs in the show. Major red flag for me. I don’t trust anyone who watched that show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 08:45 PM
1

No. No I will not imagine thank you 🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 12:16 AM
5

Girllll yes. I love Gottman. Excellent post queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 09:21 PM
10

Yes queen!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 06:43 PM
61

This young woman is a queen. Happy to see youth not buying into liberal feminist ideology.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 01:38 PM
13

Eroticism is not pornographic lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 12:37 AM
78

This is the most unattractive thing I’ve ever experienced. I’ve never had a problem with a man getting it up except my last ex. The dude denied his porn addiction and blamed it on his “depression” and “stress” It’s such a turn off when a guy can’t get it up, especially when the woman is drop dead gorgeous. Like my dude, stop choking your dick with your hand and watching hours upon hours of porn content. It scares me to think about the next girl he sleeps with. I’m already praying for her and hop…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 03:54 AM
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You remember that they are brain damaged from all the porn they’ve watched and put that shit back on them as their problem and not yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 03:50 AM
3

Sounds like my ex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 03:39 AM
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Thank you so much for speaking on this. I thought I was the only one. Since FDS i am seeing all my friends pick me behavior. And omg the excuses!! So many excuses. It makes me uncomfortable to share my internal process with them about relationships bc it’s so far removed from their current pick me reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 05:57 PM
5

Omg I have felt all 4 of these.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:07 PM
6

Yay! Thank you queen 🌹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 01:53 PM
14

Meditation, journaling, and self-touch(hugging, caressing, kissing, adoring myself)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:02 AM
6

This is helpful thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 08:40 PM
22

What are subtle and not so subtle signs that a guy watches porn?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:43 PM
13

QUEEN!! I know how difficult this process can be. So, please please celebrate yourself!! I’m celebrating you and so proud of you for finally having the strength to walk away. You deserve so much better!! PSA: LVM will exacerbate and worsen a woman’s mental health disorder. I had severe depression and anxiety plus ptsd from my last relationship, when I got with my previous guy, he triggered the absolute hell out of me. When I left? Most of my symptoms subsided and were not nearly as inflamed as t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:33 PM
8

Wtf!! Wow, this sounds like a subtle neg to me. I hope you nexted his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:27 PM
2

Leveling up Queen!! Proud of you. You deserve all the celebration. 🌷🌷🌷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:25 PM
5

Love this advice! ❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:17 PM
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Absolutely agree. My fear is that if we regulate it, how much more perverted will porn become bc of the not so easy access to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:06 PM
43

I’m with you sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 11:18 PM
8

I am so glad you left him. That sounds devastating. I’m sorry you went through that. Glad you are out. I definitely expect them to lie. Did you seen a signs before you found it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 11:15 PM
10

Love this!! Think I’m going to dive into these myself, just to be more aware of how damaging it can be. Porn hijacks nervous system and prefrontal cortex which is the part of the brain that governs impulse control and decision-making. When the prefrontal cortex is weakened through external stimuli (porn) the person weakens their ability to control their impulses and has a harder time making choices based on discernment and wisdom, rather they are now more likely to go for things that will give t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 07:07 PM
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Question ladies! Do you leave as soon as you find out he watches porn? Or do you give him a chance and tell him you are only into porn free relationships? How does one navigate this tactically while being aware of the subtle deception and lies he might ensue to keep you around while never actually giving up porn? EDIT: typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 06:10 PM
14

That sounds traumatizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 01:40 AM
5

Jesus Christ that poor child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 01:27 AM
10

She’s a queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 01:19 AM
5

Probably a porn addict and watches porn more than he can get laid. Scrote scrote scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 11:41 PM
39

Ugh. Yes to all of this. Thank you. Why are gaming addicts also highly highly likely to be porn addicts??? What is the deal with that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 06:06 PM
17

Omg I love them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 08:45 PM
11

Have you read the FDS handbook?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 02:44 PM
21

I would love to see this study.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 02:28 PM
65

Same. I’ve dated both conservative men and libfem guys. The latter was Disrespectful in the bedroom, lazy, addicted to video games, porn and cigarettes. He lived in his moms basement and his mom still cooked him dinner every night. Laziest, most unambitious person I ever met. The conservative guy? Eh, he was boring but he never disrespected me in the bedroom, and believed in hard work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 02:27 PM
30

Amen 🙏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 02:15 PM
9

Lol omg 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 02:13 PM
13

Nah. They’re energetic vampires.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 02:12 PM
38

Lol I’m taking myself out for a facial/massage and then a nice dinner and to end it I’ll buy myself some roses. No stress, just me in my own beautiful and glorious energy, loving on all of myself. No Man Needed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 02:10 PM
15

Of course porn culture has to pervert it 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 03:11 PM
5

Oh girl you are coping by minimizing the Damaging impact his porn use has on your relationship. I see this all the time. People have no idea when they are coping. It’s so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 06:07 PM
27

My ex !!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 03:40 AM
2

Facts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 03:34 AM
31

My opinion is that there is no way he should’ve lasted forever bc he had 2+ months to build up the sexual tension. Remember they can be sweet and check all the boxes but still be very LV in disguise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:38 PM
19

Ugh my ex exemplified all the above. He was super sweet, but same bedroom qualities. Terrible. Absolutely terrible. I’m sorry you had to experience. This is becoming an epidemic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 09:31 PM
198

If you want to know who someone is, ask them what their values are and then look at what they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 03:26 PM
23

I am currently struggling with weeding out a pick me friend in my life. The guy she is with has abused her financially, emotionally, mentally, and physically to where she doesn’t even know who she is anymore. All he does is take take take and she still believes that one day he will change. I have said everything I could to get her to see that he is not the one. But, they won’t change until they are ready to. They don’t want to give up the illusion and fantasy that one day all her efforts and har…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 01:55 PM
15

Omg noooo the image 🥴🥴😩😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 02:04 AM
25

THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 03:48 PM
15

It’s such a turn off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 10:58 PM
74

“Smallest Reason”?? None of these were small. When it comes to men, all reasons are Good enough reasons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 05:13 PM
134

My ex would stay up all night playing video games with CNN on next to him(he had two big TVs. One for playing games, the other for the News) And would sleep in until 2 or 3, get up, eat and lay around until his mom made dinner (hes 29) THEN he would leave to come see me, sometimes leaving around 9 so he wouldn’t get here until 11-1130( he lives two hours away) I finally was so tired of it and tired of getting jacked up with sleep bc id be up super late with him all weekend and said something. He…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 05:08 PM
5

This screams porn addict
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 12:36 PM
6

Trump also signed a bill to help victims of sex trafficking get a place to live, therapy and other resources. He is still low value. Most of his policies were really terrible. His environmental policies were deplorable. But like all presidents, he signed a good bill here and there. All of them, including Obama and Biden are straight up war criminals so none of them get my vote. (I only voted for Obama but soon learned he was a sell out like the rest of them)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 12:34 PM
13

Ugh my ex. “You abused me!! You make me feel so disposable!” Uh, sorry bro, just bc I want to be single does not mean I have abused you wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 12:31 PM
50

Ugh that’s so sad. My friend who is such a pick me wants to go there with her bf to have sex. She will bring it up every now and then and it always makes me sick to my stomach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 12:29 PM
9

I’m at a loss of words. Wtf!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 08:04 PM
2

Wtf that’s so messed up!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 07:55 PM
8

Very very important to be able to distinct between the real work and the fluff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 07:48 PM
8

BOOM. Great diagnosis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 07:45 PM
7

Excellent!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 07:36 PM
40

I got a text the other day from a friend who sent me a video of her celebrating that her boyfriend (36m) finally had the decency to put one article of clothing in the hamper. She was so proud of him. I didn’t even text her back bc i honestly did not know what to say. It was not funny to me whatsoever. Wtf y’all!! I just can’t. And why is this soOoOoO funny? It’s not!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 07:30 PM
42

Ya know. Sometimes I’m not ready to sign on here, bc FDS is full of truth, but it helps me stay grounded in reality, even if it hurts. I love y’all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 03:53 AM
16

As someone who is training to become a psychotherapist, this is 100% real and true. Anyone can become a therapist these days. Highly suggest looking for someone who has a PhD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 12:42 PM
23

Aww ego so f r a g i l e
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 12:37 PM
27

Omggggg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 12:34 PM
2

LOL yeppp
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 03:36 AM
8

Men ruined the family unit, women/feminism simply exposed that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 12:35 PM
13

I literally have heard all of them. Jesus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 04:11 PM
13

Ahhhhh girl I’m so happy for you. I would love to be with a man who practices semen retention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 03:36 PM
12

“Committed to one women” All lies. All lies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 03:32 PM
3

What to fu** balloons? Da hell? Girl I’m so glad he’s your ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 03:29 PM
2

Gaslighting is what gaslighting does. Please leave him and cook for your damn self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 03:28 PM
2

Omg they are gorgeous queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 03:27 PM
5

I hope she dumps his ass soon
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 03:23 PM
6

If you have to ask and explain to him that he needs to move from the past, just go. It won’t worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 12:27 AM
4

Okay queen!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 03:20 PM
43

Ugh why do these women stay????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 06:55 PM
53

God I hope she leaves him. In the very beginning of my relationship with my ex, I realized very quickly that he had ED and that it was most likely from porn..but since he was so into pleasing me and so generous in the bedroom It did not affect me. Eventually it did when I realized HE COULD NEVER GET IT UP AND KEEP IT UP and started to internalize it as something wrong with me. Eventually I did say something and he told me the previous girl he briefly dated begged him to finish inside of her bc s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 06:49 PM
23

Thank you so much for this. I really needed to hear it. ❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 03:53 AM
2

I dated a lot of addicts. It’s really tough and never ended up working out bc they usually substituted their old addiction with a new one, sometimes it’s you that they become addicted to, or the sex. Be weary about these guys. They are also excellent liars and have an incredible way of making excuses for their behavior. I fell for it many times. Be careful. I’d say no, bc I’ve dated 5 of them (I used to be really codependent) and they all are still LV and haven’t overcome their addictions. I’m n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 02:38 AM
12

My ex was a gamer and neglected all other areas of his life bc of it. It’s really pathetic that they’d rather reach fake achievements in a game rather than real life. These guys are escapists and 9/10 they are porn addicts, too. Don’t even bother trying with these men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 12:26 AM
2

Thank you ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 08:31 PM
9

I wouldn’t be surprised honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 08:30 PM
24

My ex would drive two hours to spend one night with me and then drive two hours back home, almost every weekend. He only asked me one time out of that entire year if I wanted to come up there or if I wanted him to drive down here, which I told him no, come down here, and he did without hesitation or protest. What exactly does priority and effort look like? I guess if I have to ask it’s a red flag, right? My ex made effort to keep me around, he made sure to let me know that I was his priority and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 03:10 PM
26

Same sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 12:48 PM
17

My ex used to future fake me all the time. Most disappointing thing ever. Towards the end I resented him every time he would come up with something else to do with me or buy but never actually follow through. This happened for YEARS ladies. Leave at the first sign of future faking because if you don’t you’ll have to not only grieve the relationship but all the shit that didn’t happen as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 06:24 PM
20

And that’s on god baby
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 01:37 PM
37

My LVM has an extensive vocabulary but terrible handwriting. Smart guy. But still LV. Edit: my LVM ex*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 01:22 PM
116

A lot of women especially don’t like it because they don’t know who they are outside of their current coping mechanisms that they do strongly identify with. I see many women go against FDS philosophy because deep down they fear being alone. I’m so glad I found FDS, it has completely changed my mindset and how I view myself. Thank you ladies!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 08:32 PM
44

My ex always used to tell me that I was a workaholic bc which isn’t true at all I just have a lot of passions and take my education seriously. He on other hand was the laziest person I met.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:14 PM
26

This is disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 01:42 PM
49

How is that the only gamers with real self-control/have other hobbies outside of gaming/are successful in all other areas of their life are women? All the male gamers I know lack so much of the above that it turns off gaming for me in general. Having that chair is red flag. I will never date a gamer again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:47 PM
59

This is why we level up our self-love game. Love-bombing can feel SO good and can be SO seductive if you have low self-worth. If you fall for this, don’t beat yourself or shame yourself when you realize the illusion. it’s not your fault. We are human and on some degree we do want validation. Learning how to give ourself the validation we seek and raising our self-esteem is how we prevent falling into this kind of spell. Loving yourself has to be your highest priority. And just in case any one st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 08:35 PM
49

She’s probably excited bc she’s secretly grossed out by his depravity and wants a breather. He’s also probably lazy af and doesn’t help her around the house, with kids, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 02:20 AM
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So I’m only on the first episode. Some things I noticed so far. 1) ladies, TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS. It knows. 2) The woman that is helping her find out if her husband is cheating is with a man who abuses her and won’t leave her alone. Sits in HER house and plays his video games. I will assume that he is also probably a porn addict. Ladies, DON’T DATE GAMERS. I’m loving this so far. I know in our world, we would just block and delete, and kick him out 2020! But I won’t lie and say I’m not exited to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 12:20 AM
18

Ugh. I was in the grocery store and it’s so sad to say but almost every guy I walked passed I could tell they were porn watchers. What is it with guys and their lack of effort in what they wear? They all such lazy dressers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 12:01 AM
24

Girl I hope they pick you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 08:48 PM
67

I used to follow this woman back in the day but something always felt off with what she teaches, especially about sex so I unfollowed her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 12:06 PM
24

I laughed out loud when he said men don’t want us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 09:42 PM
15

I started a coaching program In the beginning of summer that is based on depth psychology and just graduated yesterday, was in school full time as well, joined two healing groups to work on my core wounds, up leveled my skincare routine, worked out 4 days a week, walked my dog twice every day, started cooking my own meals more, joined FDS. What did my ex do? Play video games, jerked off to porn every day, ate like crap and barely left his moms basement. Oh but wait he did tell me that he started…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 09:38 PM
3

In the beginning bc of past trauma. But eventually, I was able to open up to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 02:54 AM
27

That part sis. Edit: autocorrect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 01:05 AM
18

Men don’t need therapy. They need coaches, mentors, and a healthy role model, particularly a healthy HV father type figure. Most therapists are women and there are a lot of therapists out there that will just coddle these men and throw them back out into the world perpetuating the same Peter Pan/Juvenile behavior which will negatively affect women, as it always has. Men do not need therapists, unless of course the therapist is a healthy man, but they are extremely rare to come by. Men need to st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 01:02 AM
11

People love to justify and rationalize their addictive behaviors bc they are in denial and don’t want to give it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 10:51 PM
7

Did you dump him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 06:10 PM
88

I'd rather wait for a man who doesn't watch porn at all. My ex lied and said he rarely watched it and when he did it was just soft porn and told me stopped when we got together. Yeah, that was a big fucking lie. He was into the nastiest and degrading shit I had ever heard of and didn't show it in the bedroom until I got really comfortable in the relationship. I understand that there is a spectrum and that it's not just non-porn users and porn addicts. But ladies, if you feel something is off and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 03:19 PM
8

preach it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:58 PM
40

This is truly disgusting. So glad I dumped my ex over this shit. I still feel a bit guilty but I know my future self will thank me. What sticks to my mind the most is before we broke up, he texted me saying he was bumping meg the stallion in the car on the way to work, and he told me that it’s refreshing to hear a woman talk about getting laid and not men. And how insecure men are afraid of her sexuality bc they know they can’t control her. It literally made me so angry bc I guess he really thou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:38 PM
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Yep. I will never ever date another porn user again. Even if that means I’m single forever, so be it. I’ll have my own house, own car, money in the bank, a dog and a cat, an established career in a field that I love, and HV friends. All can be done without a man in my life, especially a LV at that. Men who watch porn are Low Value. Period. Yeah, sure they still be great in some areas of their life, but why settle for only SOME areas when you can just be by your gorgeous self/ or wait for a man w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 11:54 AM
24

I love her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:16 AM
32

Thank you for writing that paper. More essays need to be written on this topic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:08 AM
45

Lmaoooo for real
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 03:53 AM
5

This is everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 03:43 AM
8

I definitely wasn’t training him. My thought process was more like, ‘I don’t like this. This makes me uncomfortable. I don’t want to continue with person but I don’t know how to tell him at the same time.’ I would bring things up in the past or speak on something that bothered me and he would try to convince me out of my feelings by being all sweet or acting as if he had no clue it bothered me, or apologize and ask for my forgiveness. There were also a lot of signs that he was into hardcore porn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:39 AM
153

Guys like this really gross me out now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 01:35 AM
36

I’m not gonna lie I definitely feel like I did these things in my last relationship. If I didn’t like something, or felt offended, I would pull back and be less affectionate, text less frequently, etc. and his attachment style was definitely anxious attachment, so he would heavily pursue me when I pulled back. And I 100% assigned motives that was the opposite of his intentions- I always thought that there was some ulterior motive to his compliments, nice gestures, him opening up to me, etc. When…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 01:25 AM
14

What does PSLD stand for? I’m celebrating you and I’m glad you blocked him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 02:47 AM
22

I did this with my ex and he accused me of giving him the silent treatment and making me believe like I was abusing him (he literally one day said I was being abusive) it messed me up so bad bc my intention isn’t to hurt people at all and I felt so bad that I got back together with him. I’m still so confused by that relationship it’s not even funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 02:42 AM
52

Anti-porn. Directed by Rashida Jones :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 02:25 AM
107

I just watched hot girls wanted and was repulsed by girlsdoporn. I had no idea just how insidious this industry is. The women in that documentary were beyond traumatized afterward. So heartbreaking to know many young girls are experiencing this every day. It’s messed up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 11:41 PM
3

My ex would always complain about his arthritis in his hands and his chronic back pain, and his bad knees. The dude has sat in one position for YEARS playing video games. What the hell do you expect? He never once tried to take up stretching or anything to combat his pain. One time he told me that he was at work and kept dropping everything bc his arthritis hands were so weak and started getting really worried about it. Guess what he did? Nothing. Absolutely nothing. Continued on and hoped it wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:55 PM
11

When I read this what came to mind first was therapy. Be wary of pick me therapists out there who also advise you to Just communicate, too. There are also a ton of lib fem therapists who encourage porn in relationships and try to make couples stay together even if one is clearly not happy. Ladies, we ain’t just vetting for one area of our life (romantically) but EVERY area. That means mentors, friends, therapists, or anyone you seek to befriend or get advice from. Hell, go as far as vetting the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:48 PM
4

By you remaining friends with him, you are subconsciously telling him that it’s okay that he made that comment, and to not question his depraved way of thinking. Let him go. There are plenty of good people out there who will game with you. My conscience would never feel okay remaining friends with him after that comment and I think deep down you feel the same because you are on here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:43 PM
63

“Don’t have a history of alcohol or drug abuse” LOL well considering porn is a drug then all of them would be disqualified, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:33 PM
5

Yup. My ex was a simp to the T. He was desperate for the V.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 01:01 PM
5

Omggggg. This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 01:00 PM
9

Ahahahaha girl you made me laugh so hard. This is gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 12:58 PM
9

Yes it’s totally a coping Mechanism that they do not want to give up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 12:55 PM
19

They no longer feel shame or at the very very least, they suppress it because lib fem propaganda have trained and taught them that they don’t have to, and that it’s perfectly normal to watch it. Men who watch porn excessively (and even moderately) have been completely cut off from their emotions, the feminine aspect of their consciousness along with a weakening their frontal lobes which govern impulse control and healthy decision making. I have been thinking a lot about this and what this means …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 12:40 PM
91

This includes porn. Leave after the first sign.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 07:33 PM
17

My last guy was a gamer. Typical basement dwelling porn addicted Xbox player. Would stay up all night and play and sleep in until 3pm. He was very sweet in a lot of ways and it was hard to let go bc he’s been the only guy who will gladly eat me out without question (he would do it all day if he could) isn’t that so sad? Like the gamer/porn addict was “hard” to let go bc he ate me out? God the bar was so so low in my pick me days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 11:31 PM
96

I asked my guy if we could go to a museum for Halloween bc they were showing mortuary objects from the 19th and early 20th century which I thought would be so cool to check out. He said yes of course babe. Then when the time came, he has stand up all night playing video games with his friend and slept in until 3pm. The place closed at 5 and he lives two hours away. I was so disappointed. Then he did the whole, “I’m such an idiot” thing and asked to come over to watch Halloween movies. He also di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 10:30 AM
9

This is mental illness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 02:24 AM
0

Does anyone struggle with staying no contact? The guy I’ve been seeing reached out to me saying he wants to talk but I’m afraid if we talk I’ll get sucked back in. The sexual chemistry between us so high and I’m afraid I’ll cave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 05:51 PM
11

This is beyond sad. The amount of mental gymnastics she has to do to in order for this to be okay is just so sad. Hope she finds the light one day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 02:09 AM
28

“Nonconsensual context” ...you mean rape and abuse??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 11:39 PM
165

Omg yes. I got so tired of him telling me he was depressed yet when I look at his lifestyle it’s so obvious as to why. But he couldn't see it???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 02:46 PM
12

Last night my friend texted me and said she looked at her boyfriends phone and some chick called him a “hottie”. I said wtf? Her response?? “I mean I honestly don’t care about flirty texts. If he wants to bring her over here I’m down for a threesome” then after that she said, “yeah but I am curious about who this is and why they’re texting each other like this” lol The mental gymnastics these women go through just to get a mans approval and stay in the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 12:07 PM
1

❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 12:12 AM
5

The pick mes can have em!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 11:12 PM
9

Ohhhh yes yes. I know what you mean now lol yes these guys are an immediate block for me lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 07:08 PM
7

I love Sun Tzu lol what’s wrong with him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:41 PM
3

I disagree but I respect all of your responses and take on him. I know he’s not favorable in this group. Will keep in mind when dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:28 PM
18

My ex absolutely despised Jordan Peterson and hated when I brought him off and would take any chance he got to bash him(i would bring him up only occasionally bc of his contributions to the big five aspects test) But he was lib fem, extremely addicted to porn, super lazy, had no ambition, treated me like an object, alcoholic, and addicted to video games. He’s probably the one person that might’ve benefited from “cleaning your room” 😂😂😂 Edit: typos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:25 PM
6

That’s interesting, I hear you and see where you’re coming from. The only guys I know who like Jordan Peterson are hv, they do not watch porn, they respect women, don’t do 50/50, are very disciplined, nonreligious, type of guys. So the experience I’ve had is really different. I don’t agree with everything he says, either. Some of his stuff he has gotten wrong. But some of it he has gotten right. He probably should’ve stuck with just being a psychologists lol Thanks for the response. This will be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:21 PM
69

I will never date a guy who watches porn again. The first sign I see of ED, I’m out. I will not “try to make it work” or “communicate” why this is a problem for me, nor spare his feelings when and if it does happen. The last guy I was with did not give a damn about it, and it was the most disappointing experience I ever had. His lack of trying to improve himself in this way was a reflection of how he felt about me. Ladies, it is not worth it. They will never give up their precious porn for you. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:02 PM
47

“You are deeply missable” YESSSS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 02:44 PM
35

Lmaoooo second coming of Buddha and Sigmund freud. This is so true. Edit: typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 09:49 PM
5

If you think you or your man are not addicted, stop watching it for a month and if it is really hard for you, you’re addicted. Edit: typo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 12:29 AM
4

Yup. My ex used to always say, “I hAtE cApItAliSm” but then sit on his video games for all night long and be exhausted at work. I always wanted to be like, bruh, you are the most consumeristic person I’ve ever met with your pornsick and video game addicted ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 09:12 PM
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She was probably way above his league and the sex subpar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 07:21 PM
3

I think it was more so that he wasn’t good for my mental health and he wasn’t doing anything to better his life AND i didn’t trust him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 04:32 PM
7

I experienced anxiety through the roof, lack of motivation (I am very ambitious so this is always a sign that something is really wrong) and went into depression spells, suffered from body image issues and had a really hard time staying asleep. My period was always fine. As soon as I left him, my mind was so quiet, my body image issues vanished, and my sleep got better and better the longer I went without talking to him, my body felt like it could relax again. The body knows what’s up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 03:20 PM
19

This guy has serious mommy issues. Every video I’ve seen he puts women down. He subconsciously fears women and wants to control them bc his mother never gave him the attention he wanted so he’s resentful and projects that onto women. The thing is, he will never be able to control the wild feminine bc she cannot be controlled. More and more women are waking up to this innate gift and reclaiming their power. I’m so glad she didn’t internalize his words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:43 PM
30

Anyone who loudly calls themselves an alpha or the 10% is most likely neither of those things. This guy is so sexist and depraved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:41 PM
9

Did you date my ex? What is it with these guys living in the basement?? They’re like Gollum from lord of the rings. Their precious porn and precious video games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 04:58 AM
9

Aho ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 02:07 AM
17

Ahahahahahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 12:14 AM
10

This is the one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 09:44 PM
29

Ughhhh my ex used to say this to me all. The. Time. I really think it’s similar to bread-crumbing. In their eyes, telling you is enough. Blah. So sad that I fell for bs. Deep down and on the surface, he was really lucky to have me. Hopefully the next girl gets out of there sooner than I did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 09:42 PM
24

Also, I find that these guys have a very low threshold for conflict, and solving real-life problems. This is why they'd rather watch porn than to build a real relationship with a real woman. So pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 04:37 PM
19

Oh dear, what a pathetic man. He will be forever miserable. These guys have nothing to show for their lives and they take down every woman who passes their path. So glad he's your ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 04:36 PM
14

To find out as early as possible is to straight up ask them what kind of porn they watch. That is how you'll know. A lot of guys lie about using porn, so make you come off as casual and non-defensive. If he senses that you're against it before him telling you, he very well may lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 04:28 PM
3

Girl, I think you know what to do! <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 04:25 PM
4

I'm sorry this made you feel sick. The truth is a hard pill to swallow. Hugs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 04:25 PM
2

This is very very true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 04:24 PM
8

So gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 02:44 PM
125

Gamers are the worst. They tend to have really bad habits as well. Poor hygiene, always tired due to staying up all night playing, and gaming is almost always synonymous with porn. It’s not worth it. Last guy I dated was a gamer. I would wake up at 5am to go to work and then have school all day, he’d be just getting finished his game and would go to bed until 3-4pm. Don’t do it ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 02:38 PM
27

This my ex. Moms basement, porn and video game addict. I never knew but this is an actual stereotype. Wtffff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 04:46 AM
21

They will make up all the excuses in the world as to why they can’t perform.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 04:17 AM
9

Thank you. It really messed me up. I gaslighted myself for so long saying it wasn’t a big deal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 03:00 AM
18

My ex used to call me really derogatory names when we had sex. I heard it all. Sl, ska, Who, dumb bi**, his favorite pornstar, his favorite stripper to which I was neither of those but he still insisted on calling me that. I brought it up once that it made me uncomfortable and he said okay I won’t do that anymore. Then he said it again during sex and I was like wtf I told you I didn’t like that and he was like I’m sorry I’m sorry! I’m still processing and healing from that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 02:07 AM
33

Oh man yes, so much of that. So much of not wanting to make him feel bad so I only ever brought it up once. For a little while he noticed my annoyance and stopped for a couple of weeks and was able to finish, and able to go a couple of rounds, sometimes finishing 3, 4 times in the night. But eventually, he went back to his old ways and I was like, yup, this is over. I'm about not playing this game anymore. I used to worry so much and be so anxious of him coming over and wondering if he was going…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 11:23 PM
30

I'm glad you got out of there!! <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 11:10 PM
51

Yes, Queen!! I'm so glad you got the hell out of there. People don't understand how much of an issue it really is. Mostly because they are just not at that level of awareness yet, or have never experienced it. I don't care how many people tell me my standards are too high, or that even every once in a while of watching porn is not that bad. I. don't. care. Why would I waste my time when I can just be with someone who doesn't watch it all and will devote all of his sexual energy to me? and if I d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 11:09 PM
63

I think they try to make up for their lack of being able to perform by putting all the attention on you. At least that's what I think my ex was doing. I also think that subconsciously he knew I could do better than him and wanted to keep me hooked. I think deep down he was embarrassed by his almost nonexistent dick game that he tried to make up for it other ways. Still, it is so unattractive to me when a guy has serious issues getting it up because he broke it due to excessive porn use.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 11:02 PM
22

I'm so glad he's your ex. There's always a pattern with these types of guys, it's predictable at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 10:58 PM
98

They really are. I am so repelled by it now. I can't believe I allowed a guy like that to sleep with me and I can't believe I wanted to change my appearance just for his approval. Mind you, he lived in his mom's basement, would stay up all night playing video games, would come over late bc he slept in, and could never take me out on a proper date. What of a waste of time. But at least I learned the lesson and can put it all in this past now thanks to FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 10:57 PM
30

I dated a guy who always said he wanted to do things but would come up with all types of excuses as to why he couldn’t get there, mainly it was his “depression” that stopped him from achieving said goals. I told this man several times that he should go to a therapist and never went. Now, I will no longer suggest it twice. But my next man will have already gone to therapy,coaches,mentors etc So it won’t even be a question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 06:32 PM
2

I hear you 100% it is so frustrating to look back and realize how much time you wasted and it’s worse when you know your attached to someone who doesn’t even deserve you. No contact is the best way to go. Hugs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 03:22 PM
2

I wonder if this societal conditioning to expect women to have it together and To expect nothing from men. I currently nanny a family of 5 children and the two girls are the youngest and they are expected to do way more than the boys while the boys get away with playing video games all day and sleeping in. The boys will protest doing some kind of chore around the house and the mother will either ask me or the girls to do it instead bc that’s who she can rely on the most. Sometimes she even asks …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 03:06 PM
4

I can relate so much to your situation and I can imagine how heart wrenching this can be to go through. The guy I was seeing didn’t call me until 8pm on Valentine’s Day, only got me a video game to which I still haven’t played bc I’m too busy with school and my other hobbies, and on Halloween we we were suppose to go to my favorite museum bc they were showing mortuary materials from the 19th and early 30th century, but he slept in until 3 and the museum closed at 5. I was so disappointed and rea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 02:57 PM
3

My last guy exemplified making me feel guilty and not taking no for an answer when I told him I didn’t see a future with him. Sometimes they don’t reveal their true colors until you put up boundaries. He was sweet, kind, generous, listened, supportive, etc, but also an addict, had zero ambition to get his life in order. Also, just because a man does not do anything of these things doesn’t mean he is HV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 05:59 PM
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