Ladies please share your experiences with gamer guys

ivory_727 · 2021-12-02T21:48:45+00:00

If you haven't checked his Discord servers/chats, you don't really know who he is. I've heard some of the most vile stories about men who have chats/servers just for porn. Trading porn with your friends is apparently a popular pastime for these dudes, and somehow a very straight thing (?).

You can see my (embarrassing) post history for everything my gamer ex put me through. 😳

TieDieEye · 2021-12-02T21:59:04+00:00

Misogynist
Checks out everything that walks and has a crippling p0rn addiction
Constant negging and comparisons to women who don't exist
Asian fetish
Emotionally abusive
Tries to cheat but is too ugly to do it
Treats you like a hideous creature while nobody else wants to touch him with a 10 foot pole
P0rn over sex
Plays video games constantly and considers you watching him play as quality time
Tiny PP
Horrible in bed and will outright refuse to do oral on you
Mentally ill and uses his mental illness as an excuse to abuse you and flirt with other girls right in front of you, especially your friends
Thinks that you have no right to say no to sex when he actually wants it
If you cry he ignores you and gets angry at you for crying
If you get angry he calls you a crazy b!tch
Dumps you because dating you improved his self esteem but then he realizes no one wants him and then he wants you back only to realize you're already screwing someone hotter than him

Yeah never again. Even dating an actual cheating sociopath was better than that.

FARTHARLOT · 2021-12-02T20:39:30+00:00

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whiskey_and_oreos · 2021-12-02T19:55:12+00:00

I went to a STEM college so let's put that hell to good use:

I've never met a gamer who showers regularly or maintains good hygiene
His rig will cost $2-3k minimum but usually closer to $5k (bonus: he'll scoff at the idea of spending more than $500 on a ring)
He'll probably demand his own room for his desk but not offer to pay more in rent/mortgage for the extra square footage
Electricity costs, especially if he's into Bitcoin mining
Noise cancelling headphones 24/7 so don't count on him being able to hear you when you need "help" with chores
None of them have a sleep schedule
Depending on what he plays, raids can take 10-12 hours, usually on weekends, after which he'll "quietly" sneak into bed and wake you up with a dick poking your back
Most of them are porn addicts
Has imaginary friends online he spends hours with but knows literally nothing about them, so poor social skills all around (I've also heard of multiple men who met their affair partners online because "she really gets me")
Full time jobs are a challenge for these troglodytes because of sleep schedules
Lots of them have delusions of grandeur and think they can make a living streaming on Twitch or "go professional"
Terrible posture and weight issues due to those 12 hour raids

...Are you packing yet?

yeahhh22 · 2021-12-02T20:19:55+00:00

Anger issues, videogames over sex, porn over sex, childishly competitive

amorphouschemical · 2021-12-02T21:27:25+00:00

My LVX was a gamer. Also a pot head. A lazy, irresponsible and immature pos who rarely took me out on dates. Didn’t own a toilet brush, broom or mop. Hygiene was terrible. I was embarrassed to be out in public with this dude, that’s how badly he dressed- holes and stains all over his clothes. He would say, “I’m a kid at heart” and “games are good for your brain” and they “keep you sharp.” This dude thought he was so smart. If he really was smart he wouldn’t be 34 y/o with no education (high school dropout) stuck in a dead end job and always struggling to pay bills. He wasn’t able to pay rent but he somehow could afford weed, new games and vape juice.

DoodleJack · 2021-12-02T22:12:41+00:00

I remember being kept up at night by his awful clacky mechanical keyboard and three giant bright screens.

preppykat3 · 2021-12-02T21:08:53+00:00

I’m getting worried reading these as a girl who plays video games sometimes lol... I hope you guys don’t think that the female version is as bad as some of the guys. I have a decent collection of video games, and consoles.. and prefer that over men LOL. But as far as gamer guys go the “hardcore” ones are a gross mess to say the least.

fallen-summer · 2021-12-02T20:51:36+00:00

I refuse to date gamers now I find it super unattractive and immature my ex used to video game all day when he had a day off from work I didn't mind it occasionally but I quickly realized that for him it was just another form of escapism (he was also a workaholic dont date these either) when he had a day off I wanted to go out and do things or perhaps we had obligations we needed to fulfill and getting him off the console was like pulling teeth.

When I would tell him "hey were not gonna play ps4 all day today" or "hey let's get off the game and do something else" I was often met with refusal and immaturity i quickly realized that most gamers are children still stuck mentally and emotionally in their youth and I found it super unappealing never again.

Otherwise_Section806 · 2021-12-02T20:17:00+00:00

I HAVE TOO MUCH AS IVE EXCLUSIVELY DATED GAMER NERD MEN!

Ex willingly quit his job in retail after graduating ITT Tech. He has assumed he’d get his dream job ASAP and wouldn’t accept anything less. He would only apply to dream jobs and at the time there wasn’t that many.

He Lived in his parents basement.

I was working three jobs And had my own place

His parents paid me to take him out to dinner

I would drive him to his interviews for jobs I had found online.

When he wasn’t “looking” for a job he was playing final fantasy XIV for hours. And other video games. I remember distinctly trying to have sex and Him rejecting me to finish his 10th hour of monster hunters. He had no job had to rely on me or his parents to feed him. And he rejected me for sex to continue a game he’d been playing all. Day.

I once came to his parents at the end of my night with a AM shift the following morning. He was playing his game on his PC in his underwear. I went to bed and periodically woke up throughout the night to him having not moved an inch.

He was still playing when I woke up to go home and shower and change for my shift.

He gained weight. He had no motivation. I told him he needed to find a job or I walk.

He found a job.

Dad gave me cash to take his son out to celebrate.

When we moved in together (which he lied to his mother about saying I had lost my place and he was just “helping me out” remember he had been jobless and in a basement for months!)

We would get into fights and hed lock himself in his gaming room and refuse to speak to me for 8-10 hours.

I was desperate for a mildly attractive nerd who would appreciate my opinions on Captain Picard and be amazed by my Nintendo 64. He did that. Only that.

Gaming wasn’t the problem. I played (and still play) video games. It’s when you prioritize gaming over live human beings hygiene and livelihood.

Never EVER allow yourself to be put aside for lines of programming. Never EVER allow yourself to be neglected for the sake of a raid or boss battle (there’s always another raid and it’s called a pause button)

And don’t you DARE submit to requests as dressing up as any anime/scifi/fantasy character for sex. It’s steeped in peophilia and misogyny.

Vet for his tastes in nerd media and games. ESPECIALLY ANIME AND TRIPLE A GAMES (does he like 12 year old school girl anime stories whose actually a 500 year old fairie? Or does he enjoy cyberpunk 2077 or Witcher for its ‘story telling choices’ those choices are which woman his character gets to FUCK.) how does your man play his character?? Is he choosing to murder And rape women? Or is he trying to help a villager find his wife?

Watch your man play his games and look at character angles proportions and story telling the same way you’d scrutinize movies or tv shows.

Dump his ass If he played cyberpunk 2077 or played Witcher and cheated on his fantasy wife yennifer.

Edit: my fiancé now is more active than I am. He’ll bring games to my attention That have “sex games” or prostitution. Hell watch anime and turn it off halfway saying how uncomfortable he is with how the female characters are physically portrayed. He will read reviews look into and play big name games but return them if they have any sort of rape or violence or sexualization of women. This behavior has rustled Some jimmies as his (ex) friends and resulted in them giving him shit (because he would point out their egregious sexist gross behavior and it would make them look bad in front of their gfs or wives) My fiancé plays mostly indie games and will listen to podcasts and reviews just to fully understand games before making a purchase. Of course it was assumed I was making him do all this but he’s actually More aware and heightened to women and video games then I am. It’s really nice that I do have to worry about gross behavior from him. He’s found loads of indie meta games that he really enjoys.

For some clarity: my fiancé works with primarily rape and sexual assault survivors minors to adults. So a lot of that has colored the way he sees the world. (His friends seemed to always ignore this)

sammytheforsaken · 2021-12-02T23:09:13+00:00

Lived with a single dad gamer and his toddler. He lured me in by playing the perfect father for a few months and when I wanted to move, I suddenly couldn't move into the space I had planned to. So he offered I could live with him and since I had no place to stay and he was such a great guy and father (oh lord this hurts to share) I moved in with him. Soon after that he turned on me and showed his real face. He neglected his child, didn't feed her until 12 or change her diapers. After coming from work, I often found her locked into her room and him asleep. I stayed because she called me mommy, believing I could somehow "save this" or at least her. I couldn't. He recently gave away custody of her. Just like it's no big deal, like she isn't his child. She's with her grandparents now and they're not perfect, but they do their best. One time he hit her on the hands so hard she was screaming hysterically and i came running, right when he slammed the door of her room in anger. She held on to me for dear life that evening. And once I yelled at him for being such a piece of sh*t, she came and took my hand and led me away "no mommy, daddy's angry, come, come with me" and showed me toys in her room to keep me out of the danger she saw in him. It broke me.

Also debt. Thousands of $ in debt and he made more, every few months. He would buy the newest stuff, just to use it a month and then let it rot under a mountain of old clothes and piss-bottles and cigarette ashes. He wouldn't shower for days and watch porn all the time.

"Streaming"... being drunk in front of the camera, playing the most expensive, newest game a few days until 5 in the morning, then he had to buy the next game already. And when his child got woken up by his shouting, he would scream at her to shut up and then go back in front of the camera all like "oh she had a nightmare, poor baby, yada yada she's so precious my beloved child".

Before that I would enjoy gaming as well, but this changed me. I will never, in my life, date another gamer guy ever again. They're like cancer.

MadamePotpourri · 2021-12-02T21:01:14+00:00

The guy I knew who was a gamer was such a scrote lol. He lived in a filthy apartment, and was pasty because he barely ever left the house. He was obese, probably near 300 lbs. He acted like a child in a grown mans body. He refused to work and lived off of his mother and his girlfriend. I hope his girlfriend has since left him, he was such a leech and had her buying his groceries and paying for all of their dates. His living room had a literal pile of trash right in the middle. A PILE OF TRASH. ABOUT 3 FEET HIGH 🤮. He would spend all day in his filthy apartment playing video games.

Sis, if you have to post this then you know you need to leave him.

DUMP HIS ASS! I am rooting for you!

When you dump him please post an update so I can celebrate on your behalf 🥂

kurikuri7 · 2021-12-02T22:17:08+00:00

THANK YOU for this post OP. I am currently trying to get out of this obsession I have with a current gamer. All of you ladies have described him to a T in this whole thread and it’s opening my closed eyes and seeing past my rose-colored glasses I have for this man.

My current crush is 29, masters educated, career-successful, has a six-figure salary, stable long-term job, own place, own car, and not to mention he is also handsome as fuck (every time I see him I become utterly useless) and tall (6’4), great body and good in bed. Some lovelies here mentioned bad hygiene… this guy was clean as hell. But just lazy. Always in plain shirts, hoodies, sweatpants, etc.

However, he games. He games a lot. I used to be worried I was competing with other women… but I realize after going to his place a couple times, I was competing with his games. He is also in an obvious slump and one lovely in here mention lack of toilet brush to clean his toilet, which is something I noticed!! His place is messy but his bathroom was a nightmare.

He’s super sweet in person but doesn’t take any initiative and always tells me he’s “bad at planning.” I told him we should just be friends and stop dating, which we have. But I’m still having a hard time to let go and I think this is because I am sucking on his potential. What a loss. What a waste.

_laufaeson · 2021-12-02T22:41:09+00:00

Do it. Came home from work one afternoon and asked ex if he had walked the dog because he clearly had not since our landlord had left a notice about something or other wedged in our door and it wasn’t there when I had left. He insisted he had.

He was playing video games instead. That sealed the deal for me.

stinkylittlecat · 2021-12-02T21:45:48+00:00

I would love to have this discussion! Because... I work in the games industry, in one of the biggest studios in the world. Have been in this industry or adjacent for at least a decade. Which means I'm surrounded by gamer men. All the time.

I firmly believe that the population of good, wholesome gamer men is probably on par with the population of good, non gamer men... Aka, very tiny, but it's not a dealbreaker. Why do I believe that... I have many friends and coworkers who based on what I have seen with interactions with their girlfriends and wives and families are attentive, incredible partners. Gaming is a hobby for them, not an addiction. They have healthy relationships, and they care deeply for their loved ones and put them first. One of my friends would cook dinner with and tuck in his wife then game after she went to sleep. There are also many scrotes who do nothing but game and want a side babe to bang when it's convenient and arm candy but refuse to shower or work out or do anything productive. But that's just men in general, isn't it? Saying men who game is a red flag is like saying men who are obsessed with sports is a red flag. They're hobbies. As long as something isn't an obsession, we would never find men who are "HV" because HV men have hobbies and ways to let off steam, just like we do.

Ladies, we have hobbies too. Some are productive, some are not. The truth is, any good partner is willing to make time.

If a man ALWAYS chooses gaming over a partner, then you know he's a shitty scrote. If you needed time for your hobbies once in a while, then it's fair to give your man time for his.

Averyhvw · 2021-12-03T03:15:14+00:00

It’s just the complete mindfuck that this person is choosing being huddled over a keyboard, giggling and yelling with his online “friends,” instead of spending time with a beautiful woman he pursued. He pursued you, and maybe you even made it easy for him, only for him to start ignoring you the moment he thinks he has you.

And the way they never tire of the pixels. It’s like don’t you want to go out to eat once in a while? Or go anywhere or do anything that takes place in the real world without being dragged there like a child.

What’s going to happen when they wake up and realize they’ve been completely wasting their human experience at their own cost? They will have a lot of rage. I wonder who they’ll take it out on? 🤔

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Title	Ladies please share your experiences with gamer guys
Author	onceuponasea
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Date	December 2, 2021 7:43 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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