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Is there space to keep chickens? I always wanted to keep chickens, but when I was a kid my dad was an asshole, mum was getting out and I couldn't, then when I got married my husband was a loser and I couldn't afford it, then when I left I was getting back on my feet financially and I couldn't afford it, then I was in another relationship raising kids in a small house with no yard and I couldn't, then when my kids grew up and their father became a hoarder and I left I still can't because my best …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:25 PM
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I think it is pretty common in humans, romanticising and/or fetishizing a different culture and group of people when one's own situation is kinda shit. You are then one step removed from reality (which usually ain't so great anywhere) and free to start feeling hopeful. But the shitty reality of LVM will always getcha in the end if you do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 09:25 PM
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They could always claim the camera was left there by a guest before you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 03:18 AM
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Poor Iggy. All the way to America, all that hard work, for the same bullshit any dumbass bogan guy could give her in Australia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 11:51 PM
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Before you propose or accept a proposal, before you cohabit, before you take on joint assets or joint debts, before you agree to have a baby together, before you adopt or buy a pet together, before you start a business together, before you agree that you intend to spend your lives together, before you take on the material support of the other person, before you become the other person's power of attorney or other such role, before you make a will that includes the other person, before one of you…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/20 06:03 PM
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My take on it is almost everyone regardless of gender loves assholes until they learn not to. Assholes are often very "out there" and accessible people. Assholes often have subsets of interpersonal skills others don't because they've been and gone and put themselves in those extreme circumstances. I had a male friend who was so into the crazy bitches... his wakeup moment was a girl who was full on BPD. After the relationship he realised literally all his friends knew she was a bitch all along. H…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/20 03:01 PM
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If he's doing it on a regular basis even when I'm also in his life on a regular basis then yes, porn is a massive detractor from his attractiveness. It shows he's just not that interested in me... and fine if that's the case I'm not angry...I'm just gone. You see I like me... and I'm not going to divert some of my attention to my own needs to being attention to the needs of a guy who well doesn't actually like me all that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/20 02:49 PM
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Option A because if you're a woman you actually get better at it and then fall into a regular and satisfactory pattern of doing so to your complete satisfaction, unlike dudes whose pattern seems to be to become greasy palmed spankmonkeys and spend hour after hour in pursuit of ever increasingly more niche porn. Then once you are truly happy satisfying yourself, WGTOW is a very real option.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/20 02:44 PM
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> Marriage and men's surplus labor in providing for their families is a multi trillion dollar industry, and most trads admit that men will only work hard if they have a family to support, so the entire economy is based upon tying male productivity to the institution of marraige. Most of the MGTOW I've known IRL have been functional alcoholics and worked just as hard indeed to provide for their alcohol needs. Which is potentially a reason why tradcon men don't like MGTOW... their very existence t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/20 11:17 PM
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My father did that to my mother. Then the government changed the welfare rules to make single parenthood sort of survivable and also brought in no fault divorce in the mid seventies, and she left. Ultimately it is a strategy that makes sure she WILL leave if she gets a lucky break of any sort. My father still gripes about how hard done by he thinks he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 04:33 PM
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Nope. 18 year olds think 35 year olds are fossils.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/20 01:44 PM
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They attempt to use shame, and guilt to get you to change your perspective. They use words like insecure or inept to discuss your point of view. Well it does look a bit like insecurity and ineptness can play into it... I mean just saying. But insecurity and ineptness are just life sometimes, nothing to be ashamed of in themselves. See precisely what I mean by women refusing to acknowledge a perspective, then proceed to force yours down our throats? No I don't see women refusing to acknowledge th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/20 02:28 AM
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Then, many women seem to brand this line of thinking as absurd and ridiculous (not what we’re debating here). So, I’m genuinely curious if women can actually see it from the mens’ perspective? If so, then why force a change of perspective. If not, what would help make it more relatable? ​ When I say it is ridiculous, that's not a power move designed to force you to do anything. I say it is ridiculous because it is ridiculous. I know what you are saying, I hear and I listen, I just think it is a …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/20 10:29 PM
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So the judge didn't think he was intending to (beyond a reasonable doubt) sexually assault her but c'mon, seriously? https://www.abc.net.au/news/2020-10-20/footballer-guilty-of-melbourne-laneway-assault-of-woman/12785974
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/20 08:10 AM
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Neither really appeals. The expensive dinner (by expensive I mean well outside the normal range for that sort of date) is a classic "first you watch me show off then you owe me" move, and the ps5 is not something I want and I would probably feel he is buying it so he can slob out playing games at my place. All in all neither make me happy. Couldn't he just get me a book or a big bunch of carnations or a pack of fancy tea he thinks I'll like? Or take me on a normal cost date but we walk somewhere…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 08:21 PM
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​ My conclusion is if you use up your swipes on people you don't fancy or at least see some ability to possibly learn to be attracted to, you're being really stupid. Also it helps to have a bio. It helps a whole lot to have a bio if you're looking for casual meetups with the pretty and fertile young women who are the precise demographic that serial rapists and serial killers like to target. Also if you were one of those weirdos with a mommy fetish you'd be in clover. Actually... I'm not asking y…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 05:29 AM
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Ignorance is bliss then? A guy's dick can change in flavor too when he's doing things with it he didn't used to. Different lube, condoms, a girl with a different set of microbes in her vaginal biome.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/20 12:10 AM
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Well I would assume the same broad range of ways women catch men cheating but men aren't as effective at some of those ways because there are large swathes of life they don't attend to as closely as women? For example a guy isn't generally going to be doing the laundry so he's not going to notice oddness about his wife's used underpants or the smell of someone else's aftershave on the shirt she took off as soon as she came home. A guy generally isn't going to be emptying the household trash bins…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/20 10:00 PM
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They got paid all through their service, and there were some pretty sweet returned serviceman deals on education, housing, various forms of support etc for themselves and often their spouses and kids in many parts of the western world too. Was it unfair that they got conscripted? Probably, but if we are talking about USA soldiers, 70% of the country supported conscription at the time and I strongly suspect men did so more than women. And what is with this stolen valor shit we always seem to get …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/20 09:29 PM
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"Ugh, if he has to resort to TRP than he doesn't DESERVE sex?" More that we individually think if he's a TRPer I shouldn't have to put up with him because I deserve better and let's face it even nothing at all would be better... and then we extend that thinking to all the other women in the world... they don't deserve to have to put up with this shit either. And then we assist them not to put up with this shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/20 09:13 PM
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Well, most people are looking to have kids once they commit. In fact for many, having kids is THE reason to commit. So that means a lot of hobbies have to be downgraded in priority in order to afford better housing and save for future child associated costs. It is somewhat of a concerning thing that so often it has to be the women reigning in the men on this, maybe yet another example of men not quite understanding how serious the choice to have kids is before they actually commit to it. The oth…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/20 10:07 PM
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my own women. Ah. You see them as selling something that belongs to you. You're not ever going to be happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 12:30 PM
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Do men like it when you tap their balls with a riding crop and tell them they are worthless and must lick your asshole faster? Do men like it when you tell them to have the dinner cooked before you get home and kneel naked at your feet after dinner and give you a foot massage? Well some very much do and some very much do not. And there's your answer about women, who are individuals too with a range of different desires. Me? Try to move right in and run my life and I'm going to boot you straight …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 09:04 AM
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Did I say you weren't? There's plenty of women in the world desperate for a decent man and a decent marriage to avoid sex work. Once the covid hassle reduces, you and any man of your opinions about modern Western women should probably go find a woman who dreads the possibility of whoring because she faces it as terrifying possibility in her life not an adventurous option. Stop being a whiner about women who do not share your opinions, start being a hero for one who does.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 08:53 AM
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> Every attractive young woman will have an OnlyFans account by 2030 and be entirely undateable What... even the introverts who don't even date? > OnlyFans is having a devastating impact on the sexual market. What you mean is you're devastated yourself, not that the market is. Also this shit ain't new. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BqDjMZKf-wg > The lure of easy money for women is having an enormous, unexamined effect on men’s attitudes to women and women’s attitudes to their sexuality. Lure o…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/20 08:06 AM
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There's always been somewhat of a difference in what men and women like. And women have always been to some degree willing to cater to what men like. What I think has happened in the past 150 years or so is that the number of people we see either in real life or depictions of their faces has skyrocketed as first movies and print materials then television and then internet and social media have become ubiquitous. I don't think it is down to porn in particular as such. Just the sheer overwhelming …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 03:51 AM
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Novelty. She offered novelty.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 09:44 PM
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I think the highest level porn users are probably more disabled in dating by their use than the highest level gaming users... but the average porn user is probably less disabled by their use than the average gamer? Or maybe I've not got a solid appreciation of what is average any more? I mean a half hour toss is probably still within the "average use" range for porn, but a half hour gaming session is gonna be way way below average for a regular gamer? gaming is I think on average more of a time …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 03:30 PM
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1- assuming most men stonewall constantly is a big claim Not constantly... but it does tend to be more heavily relied on by men, especially men whose relationship is in dire straits. 2- then assuming that these same men have forgotten that they stonewalled and really thought everything was ok? They do that. They do that a whole lot. That's what the stonewalling is designed to accomplish, to extinguish the argument so that guys can just get back to not dealing with it. Quite a lot of hoop jumping…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 03:04 PM
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> Why Well it could be that in this particular instance, right here, right now we are talking about porn and not those other things because the question was asked about porn... and not those other things? Duh. You are of course free to make posts about social media and vibrators if you wish.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 02:58 PM
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Well... I think it gives a few men limp dicks and a great many men unrealistic expectations. But on the whole i think gaming sucks more of the time that really needs to be spent on self improvement if a man is to be truly successful with women. Don't get me wrong though, I'm not about to call for porn to be banned.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 01:37 PM
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If he is willing to get into bed to sleep while any portion of the upper surface of the mattress has become visible due to the bedding coming awry. That right there is bone idleness plus a lack of orientation towards the future. Soon as someone does that, kick em to the curb, they barely housetrained
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 12:38 PM
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I think a lot of the difference is a result of the heavier male reliance upon stonewalling as a tactic in relationships. Stonewalling is a very frustrating and very effective tactic for making someone give up by making communication very hard indeed. However it can make a person give up on their arguments or it can make them give up on the entire relationship. When they give up on the entire relationship they are just not in the frame of mind to give two shits about doing anything to communicate…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/20 05:24 AM
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And aspects of that are still sort of available as a life if you want it. Work on fishing boat, as a lumberjack, on an oil rig, as a miner in a wild sort of country like Papua New Guinea, etc. The guys who say they want that? Aren't generally choosing the closes thing to that they can find.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 12:56 PM
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respect in the modern era where respect comes pretty freely $2 in your pocket, which is a fraction of an hour's work for even the least skilled, can have someone saying please and thankyou and handing you a burger assembled from foodstuffs drawn from across half your nation. It is a small miracle compared to how things were even just 500 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 12:53 PM
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The kind of men complaining they don't get enough respect for being merely born male would never be capable of conquering other men-- they can't even handle trying to win at sports or business! Yep. They are the guys who join the chess club all eager... lose three games in a row, get a headache and leave never to return.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/20 12:50 PM
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If you want to help change awful men, a good dumping and not being taken back ever seems to do some of them the world of good. About half of them learn something from that even if it is just not to keep lying once they have been caught out and maybe one in twenty actually gets himself together properly. I know that's not great figures but it's the best we've found.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 07:58 AM
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Men problems happen to liberals, conservatives, fascists, white women, women of colour, progressives, regressives, racists, antiracist activists, atheists, catholics, buddhists, muslims, libertarians, socialists, capitalists, neets, rednecks, bogans, migrants, indigenous women, vegans, omnivores...etc. They'll do it to anyone and anyone's story potentially has lessons for us. And a guy doing it to someone you dislike or hate for good reasons or any reasons, doesn't make him any less a miserable …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:30 AM
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This is what Australia's curve looks like right now. Wrestling a tiger to the ground... again. https://www.worldometers.info/coronavirus/country/australia/ Also somewhat of concern is the fact we're engaged in a bit of posturing and trade conflict with China right now and they are notorious for their investment in waging e-conflict of various sorts. If someone is deliberately sabotaging the pandemic efforts, we need to take at least a cursory look at who it is and who has been talking them into …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 08:45 AM
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> idk what people were doing in Australia, Of course you don't. Our covid death toll for a country of 25 million people is currently 663. And we're battling it all down the east coast with varying degrees of lockdown. Victoria has the worst of it right now. That's what we've been doing. > Again, not sure about Australia, but in America, the right to peacefully assemble and to protest the government are foundational. Even in America I'm sure these things can change temporarily during a state of e…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 07:14 AM
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Alpha males = donot have to put any efforts. Women will flock to him like moths to fire. High value people and alpha people have usually already put lots of effort into developing themselves. People who have put effort into themselves in the past have more to work with and need put less effort in upfront in the present. That's just a fact. Man or woman... if you've got yourself sorted out properly a date is going to be something you can spend the time, the money and the effort for without much h…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 01:24 AM
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Sounds to me like she put in very similar levels of effort to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 01:19 AM
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This is one of the reasons I just can't be bothered having another relationship with a man. The chances are fairly high at our stage of life that I'd end up looking after a man during a period of illness and infirmity before death on his part... and the chances are also fairly high he would not do the same thing for me. And thinking someone is there for you and then suddenly they aren't is a thousand times worse than them just not having been there and you planning for that from the start.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:05 AM
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She was organising a physical protest that could result in thousands of people breaking lockdown, the r value going up, and the lockdown and the effect on people's freedom being extended for weeks or even months longer. She is the risk to freedom there. What she was doing was illegal and she got treated many times more gently than we treat people every damn day of the week who deal pot or resell stolen goods. Just a set of firm but polite cops tàking her in and taking the evidence in so they can…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 12:44 AM
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You might have to develop some irl social circles to avoid both internet dating and cold approaches. oh the humanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 12:24 AM
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Not just a lockdown but also a declared state of emergency. Because the state was a bee's dick away from ending up in the sort of covid mess America is in.That shit changes the rules. A declared state of emergency means we aren't joking and you fucking well have to comply. And the sooner everyone complies the sooner we get this fixed. Getting tired of americunts supporting covidiots in other countries. You're as bad as China just different. Go away stop trying to kill us. Pick up a gun and kill …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 12:16 AM
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I too agree that you should not try to sucker girls in with an initial appearance of high effort and generosity when the reality is you're lazy and parsimonious.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/20 07:11 PM
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If he thinks I am a whore cos men are so often garbage that I won't gamble one cent on whether a date with a man I barely know will bring me any joy in life...well you do you bro. Due to millenia of overuse that insult has no teeth in general and even more so when it comes from this era's guys who are jacking it to pornhub and paying big for onlyfans every day their damn life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 04:34 PM
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Their strategy is working, you're exactly the sort of guy they don't want to bother with and then they don't have to bother with you. The only thing they are doing wrong is having an argument with you because they still feel some delusional connection to the script we all get sold, that women always have to work really hard to try to salvage even the newest most trifling relationship. "No spark" or "I don't think we're compatible" does just fine and is what they should say. Or simple block and d…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/20 05:12 AM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j9rH2-dZ0eM
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/20 04:33 AM
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kickhimout2020 accomplished.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 05:58 PM
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Going their own way... which incidentally just happens to be following right behind us with a megaphone yelling "Do you see what she's doing now... just look as THAT!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 10:40 AM
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Some people hide so much stuff so carefully and routinely, choreographing their entire lives and those of their spouses to make that possible, then blam, a change, the routines fall apart, some deal breaking nuggets of truth is sensed and the relationship fails. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pd_ujppYYhc
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/20 06:20 PM
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Her English was quite limited and she was very shy. She's picking up more English than he thinks, I'm sure. Just has no incentive to let him know she can handle complicated instructions or that she is capable of talking to other people to seek help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 06:16 AM
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Often served to you with the cheapest red wine because that dulls the senses. And on a greasy barely washed plate. Block and delete is a better serving suggestion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 05:54 AM
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Whores like to set the boundary for their profession out beyond the actual physical whoring work because that's good for them, to have as many people in their community of interest that they can fit in, including a bunch of folks who are less likely to have major addictions. They would absolutely agree that nudie models are sex workers. They think the guy who does post-production for a porn production company and fixes the sound and vision to be better is a sex worker. They think the bored woman…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/20 05:41 AM
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I'm a middle aged woman with grown up kids (not the demographic you are asking but I think my response is relevant) and in the unlikely event I decided to date again, I'd disqualify a man who had his own kids... even fully grown kids. It is a complication and source of potential chaos I would not want. And I'm fine with being disqualified for the same reason. > I think if the biological parent died it may be even worse because you as the new person would feel like a backup because the person she…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/20 04:42 PM
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> Apparently, some woman named Bella Thorne has all the online sex workers pissed. Sex workers are some of the most easily pissed off people in the world, right up there with trans folks, junkies, MRAs and vegans. Pick the exact spot to gently poke their psyches in and they suddenly have zero chill and are summoning all their pals to have zero chill too. . A bunch of pissed off whores is nothing new and means very little unless what they are getting pissed about is significant. Is Bella Thorne s…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/20 10:21 AM
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I believe that my time etc is significantly more valuable to me than a stranger's time etc is to me. I think if a stranger wants my time, presence, attention etc from me I might, due to the high value of my time to me, deny them it altogether or make them work/pay for it in some way. I think that sexual desire on a stranger's part does not over-ride the value of my time to me. I think that sexual desire on my part over-rides the value of my time to me only if I actively choose it to. I think I h…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/20 09:54 AM
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On the first date you are definitely being screened and can be excluded if the other person doesn't like the cut of your jib for any reason at all. ANY. REASON. AT. ALL. And they don't even have to tell you why. Referring to it as having "lost" a date is weird and creepy in that too-eager-for-merger way, this is not like losing a committed bf or gf. I think it is fair enough to be looking for a generous person who enjoys actively picking up the tab without being asked and even rebuffs your own o…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/20 09:45 AM
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https://www.abc.net.au/news/2020-08-30/worlds-most-expensive-sheep-sold-in-scotland/12610168?fbclid=IwAR0ULlc6dzSxyIzeXj5pl-ahn5W2ZwL42wicrBdQLUFF_6FhLZIZ4I6u2mg That's a valuable set of balls on that ram.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/20 09:13 AM
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Yep. Chances are he has a fair idea what he did wrong and the list of things he did wrong goes beyond the things you actually noticed and cared enough to decide against him over. Let him worry about all of it. There's zero to be gained from focusing the conversation on any one thing he did or didn't do, that will then become the focus of dispute enough that a dispute is even possible, and meanwhile all the rest of his bullshit gets excused by default.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 06:55 AM
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Don't confront him with facts, men aren't good with facts talk, they like to try to over-ride facts with sophistry and even outright lies. He did it and that's who he is, he showed you and you'd better believe it. If you really feel the need to offer reasons I suggest make them very general and subjective and maybe even say the reason you can't be with him is because YOU were distracted... which you kinda were, hard to keep your mind on liking a guy while he's texting others. "There was just no …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 05:27 AM
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"his new spot" = after it falls thru with you because he's a lvm he takes every vegan girl he dates there, and one day you gotta sit on the other side of the room feeling massively uncomfortable while you're trying to enjoy your falafel bowl and he's trying to impress some other poor girl by boasting how he loves vegan food and eats vegan food all the time and that's how he knows this special place. Never tell a guy your favorite spot until you're exclusive, they should have to work to have thei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:33 AM
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So the Sims 4 is getting a Star Wars themed release pack because the company gonna crank that licensing agreement for all its worth. And a lot of the big youtube players aren't real thrilled. But they are pretty polite about it. Lots of "Well that's not really what most of us want" and "seems a waste might sit this one out" and "think it wouldn't mesh with the rest of the game well" and "sims really isn't made for decently varied combat animations and we know that from other packs and nah this i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:17 AM
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He was only offered that job because of the industrial espionage possibilities she represents as his wife. They don't actually want him... they want access to her. He's in for a shock. That job is not going to last long, with what they hired him for gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:26 AM
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What a fucking loser. "Oh noes I've got almost the whole of reddit to play in and hundreds, even thousands, of subreddits full of free porn to look at, pickmeishas and sexworkers to talk to... but I just gotta be in the one place where that is not the case, having a massive fucking sook and dob to authority about how that is the same as me being threatened with violence" Hey dude... go away. Oh am I being violent to the ickle sensitive boy? GO AWAY. Does go away, said twice, the second time with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:05 AM
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Height. Intentions. Income. Their ex's sanity levels and why she left. STIs. Being a deadbeat dad to one or more kids. The list is endless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:46 AM
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Well... the cool kids are a pretty competitive bunch by nature. I mean a lot of them are brought up that way by parents who work in jobs that are that way... human resources, politics, various types of management and self employment.That's how they get to be cool kids... they work real hard at it and have parental backing in doing so. So clawing your way to the top of a group of cool kids is going to be hella hard and probably involve doing a few things that are... well not necessarily bad but d…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/20 04:24 AM
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Yeah I'd pretty much agree, the TRP lens is optimized for increasing casual sex between narcissist men and BPD women. Get outside that zone and the effectiveness drops off real quick. I mean it is still better than literally doing nothing but so is doing just about anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/20 04:06 AM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UU5LNsPSYDQ Youch, not pulling any punches.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/20 11:07 PM
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Terry Goodkind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 12:42 PM
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I think a lot of dudes are feeling the frustrations of the various social distancing and lockdown measures. The sensible ones have probably done some combination of partially giving up for the moment with different methods of finding new contacts and increased attention to the few contacts that are made. The dumb ones are just pushing on with their usual and then when that works even less well than normal, deciding there is something systematically wrong with women having freedom to choose. It i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:54 AM
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Thàt last sentence is everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 10:55 PM
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There is never any obligation to say yes rather than no to a suitor, for any reason. You're always allowed to reject if a man isn't what would work out well for you, even if the reason you are rejecting is he brings into your life more of the sort of chaos you are fighting a hard fight against in your own life already. Guys have the same right too and ooooh boy do they use it. Ugly guys looking only for pretty girls is a big thing. Crazy ass lazy manipulative men looking only for stable responsi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 04:46 AM
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If you can even begin to pretend that your hands are clean even though you don't wash them then you sure as heck aren't doing your share of housework. I mean leaving aside the issues of touching yourself to toilet and for shaving etc, and how seemingly clean objects are dirty, if you are doing your share you must scrub the toilet or mop the floor or clean up a spill or do laundry sometime. Just another LVM thing, another part of their pattern of offloading responsibility for making the world a g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 09:50 PM
1

It is based upon my years of observation, believe it or not I started life with no particular opinion about age gaps...even just after a crappy age gap relationship I had little opinion...then I looked at all the age gap relationships I knew and oooooooh boy ain't dat just sum pattern. Most people come to this realisation. Especially those who manage other people. Of course people observe and judge other people and their relationships... just like they observe and judge the appropriateness to th…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 08:52 PM
1

Pretty common nowadays. I mean why would anyone go round telling the world they are dating unless they've agreed together it is exclusive?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 10:44 AM
1

Maybe you people should stop being prudes, judgmental, living in fear, and no doubt worshipping LGBTQ+pickles to virtue signal how #woke you are. Aww, you feeling a bit kink shamed over the age gap business? Personally I get it, like I would never hire anyone I found out was religious. Yeah I get that, I wouldn't either.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 07:21 AM
2

> are there any other factors There's all sorts of factors that make the experience different for men and women. I mean for starters, random people seem more likely to steer a woman back into a relationship with an abusive/manipulative older man who puts up a good front of respectability but when she finds the people who will help and empathise they will really help and empathise in incredibly informed and useful ways. But on the other hand... a young man who leaves is less likely to be told to …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 06:55 AM
2

Because a lot of them clearly do involve abuse of power, and people who abuse power are risks to us all. If a 40 year old is dating a 21 year old, the 40 year old's boss might decide to keep a closer eye on their behavior in positions of power that are easily abused. Their best friend might think twice about letting them get too cosy around young family members. A school principal who knows about the relationship might elect not to hire them as a teacher. In each case if you are the 40 year old …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 06:31 AM
1

Nah mate, if I use shaving cream as lube with you it isn't going to work out any better than it did that one time with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/20 12:18 AM
2

Yes. I think the capacity for abuse and exploitation exist in both scenarios and in both scenarios is common enough that it is more sensible to assume abuse of power is happening than to assume it isn't. The dynamics are not totally symmetrical because the situation for women tends to be made worse more in bearing and raising children and also by strength differences, but I would certainly still be gravely concerned for a 20 year old man moving out to live with a 32 year old girlfriend. He also …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/20 11:52 PM
5

It is not a woman's purpose in life to be issued to a man by the social system as reward for him going along with the game. Just like for men, her purpose is to become herself... to self actualize. If a man wishes for company, companionship, support, co-operation of a woman then it is his job to make sure he is such that his presence in the life of the sort of women he is willing to accept offers more than his absence does... and then actively seek out a range of such women to find one with whom…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/20 02:34 AM
1

The thing is... people who indulge in brinkmanship to get their own way generally don't want the thing they are going right up to the brink of. Because if they wanted that thing they'd just deliberately go over the brink as soon as possible, not issue threats. People who say "do this or it is over" don't want it to be over and they'll throw the usual tanties when it is. Cos they got no particular moral compass when it comes to taking responsibility for the things they say. Threatening breakup sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/20 01:54 AM
4

Well that's some truth right there. Three things to note, male lurkers. Always be presentable... you gotta organise your life so you never look/smell like something a rat dragged back to its nest unless you are genuinely seriously ill and dying. Take care of the messes you make whether it is picking up your own socks, wiping up a thing you let drip in the fridge or fixing up a situation where you've unfairly snubbed someone. Be the one who is responsible for your own solutions in life and when s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 12:07 AM
45

This. He'll never not be a piece of shit. Even if he was willing to budge on the prenup, he'd still be a piece of shit. He was doing so much lying already there was no reason he could not have also lied and made up some sort of teensy tiny trust fund ("Aunt Silvie didn't have a huge amount of money and IDK why she didn't want to just leave it to me outright but oh well... $50 a week is something") that provided regular tiny payments to make him only a minor burden and not a total fucking burden.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 11:50 PM
1

I think that happens more in places where houses are hella cheap?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 07:32 AM
32

Chances are Elise did no such thing. And if you bite on the bait, he'll work out some way to try to persuade her to it. Poor Elise. I'd be heartily tempted to work out a way to play this one along without having sex with him, to see if I can get to talk to a verifiably real Elise alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 12:51 AM
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And at that age 6 years difference is a lot. The age gap is a real part of the heist. He will expect to have access to her earnings to help pay his costs, build his wealth and support his career for another five to ten years before they have kids. His career is more advanced than hers due to his age so he will always have an argument why it is the priority. Then he will expect her to give up the most pivotal career years of her life, those early years in which you are somewhat established and ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 10:45 PM
45

Men are like that about so many things... they talk a lot of tough guy talk up until the point someone else toughens up on them in return and then it is "I don't want to play this game anymore"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 10:25 PM
3

Oh the amount of secondhand embarrassment I have experienced because of men in my life. Some guys are a ticket to lifelong public mortification... rid your life of guys like that the first time they make it known to you that is a problem with them. Don't stick round trying to fix them, it is a waste of time and turns you into their mother which is the unsexiest thing in the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 10:00 PM
2

If you threaten breakup you'd better be prepared to take it with good grace when the other person says "fine" and walks right out of your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/20 06:05 AM
2

Lack of complaints is a blessed relief. I've still got an ex from a 1992 breakup who needs to shut the fuck up.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 07:53 PM
2

> do women like Tomi and her friends still think she's high value for marriage even though she has a history of cheating herself? Depends whether you are measuring if she's in demand for marriage (RMV) or whether she'll be a good wife? If you're measuring RMV then yes, her and her friends are justified in seeing her as high value. Pretty sure she's going to make an objectively good marriage measured by the metrics that conservatives use. Can't argue with real results. Don't bitch to me about thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 02:56 AM
1

There are no leagues. There is a gradient of probability of making a match... there are approaches that all common sense says are just about impossible and will be taken badly... there is humiliation upon failure... but there is no arbitrary barrier to your attempts to make a match. Your dicky little local amateur football team isn't going to get to play in the big league this year. It has been decided by people who lay down some pretty hard and fast rules, that we just won't countenance games t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/20 04:58 PM
1

It is kind of a pattern... JMPP back in 2006 for example. https://www.somethingawful.com/news/jacqueline-mackie-paisley/
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/20 09:48 AM
1

Pretty much. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gbAJp1YarfU
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/20 09:45 AM
12

I probably wouldn't bother going to his city. Travel right now just means catching the rona half the time. But hey if you want to then fair enough, it isn't a bad thing to do since you helped him out when he came to your city. Give him a boring generic rejection that means nothing specific and really can't be challenged. "just not feeling it" or "no spark anymore" or "I just don't think we'll work out long-term" Don't tell him it is because of the insta models... he'll just ask you to give him a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 07:14 PM
11

This. He had an above average starting point. But he obsessed about how hard done by he was because of his starting point. Because nothing was ever going to be good enough for him other than perfect results from zero effort. Normal efforts for normal results wasn't good enough. And that mindset? Creepy. Creeps people out because you can tell your role in his mind is to be blamed for him not being born at the centre of the universe. That is too much to ask and is creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 04:00 AM
2

They've got real problems with facing up to how as individuals maybe they aren't going to be dealt every possible advantage. I mean women aren't that thrilled either when someone else seems to have been dealt all the winning cards...perfect height perfect skin, full lush hair, startling unique eyes, perfect bone structure etc etc and well we just haven't been given all that...but we tend not to try to make men's lives a misery by blaming them. And it isn't like we don't over and over see the ord…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 03:47 AM
12

I can but hope he pisses off some girl who has connections, gets arrested and disappears into their prison system. I mean even a stopped totalitarian clock has to be right occasionally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 07:10 AM
2

Idk dude... How about you go make that space if you want it? You work out what the rules need to be there to make the discourse sustainable. You attract participants to it. You put together a mod team. This subreddit has a limit to how much of that it will put up with, go over those limits and it will lock down that activity harder than a Chinese police team welding shut the doors of an apartment block.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/20 05:54 AM
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Yes well good luck trying to discuss it sensibly with a bunch of incels shutting down any discussion that involves men doing anything about that themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/20 04:30 AM
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If they think it is a sustainable discourse they are free to go start a subreddit to sustain that discourse in so in that sense you are right. But not in the sense of thinking mods here are unable to shut that shit down for us enough that it is no longer a bother. That's delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/20 04:23 AM
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She needs to take a laxative, tell him anal is a bad idea because period shits, then poop spectacularly all over him when he does it anyway. Then leave him while he is throwing his mantrum bout that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 03:28 AM
1

Well if you can't muster the value to get the life partner you'd really like, not getting married at all is indeed the best option.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/20 02:41 PM
2

I'm never been much into casual sex for myself but neither do I wish to ban it for other people. It fulfills a very valuable role in many people's lives. And I truly believe no-one with any sense gets married a virgin. Casual sex is part of life's toolbox. That said I'd be fine with meeting people from dating apps being made illegal during covid lockdowns. If I could stop all casual sex in Melbourne for the next 6 weeks I would.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/20 12:12 PM
4

She should give him the address of the local homeless shelter then ban and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 08:58 AM
6

A pizza. The cheapest, most generic delivery food. pffft.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 08:57 AM
2

List of professions that would ostensibly satisfy such threshold include teachers and nonprofit workers, who make less than the threshold of "marriageable". Not to mention that 70% of husbands outearn their wives. Maybe the 30% are in the noble "underpaid" professions lol. I haven't noticed male teachers or nonprofit workers having particular difficulty finding partners. In the end, it's fine for a woman to demand a man play the higher earning male provider role so long as she takes care of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/20 06:41 AM
1

Demonstrated capacity to earn a living reasonably consistent with the class level at which one was raised is one of the basic markers of adulthood for non-disabled people in our economy. Now I can maybe cut people some slack on that due to the current state of the economy, due to the shitty hand that Gen X onward has been increasingly dealt, due to sometimes people choosing a vocation over a career... and obviously if a couple elect to have one of them stay home to raise kids that's a thing too …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/20 05:49 AM
3

Just tell him you're done. The relationship is stagnant, and you have decided to set both of you free from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:11 AM
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Uh "I can't express it without pissing you off so I am just gonna be a moody old scrote at the world and you need to invent all my excuses for me. Make sure you invent good ones that totally give me every benefit of doubt and full plausible deniability. Also can you assume I am deep and sensitive?" Uh. They can't even be bothered telling their own lies now they want us to do even that for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 04:55 AM
4

He move in with you, next thing you know that house is a rental or he's got his ex in it instead of paying her child support. Scumbag scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 04:38 AM
3

Uh. For food of all things...there are charities that do food it is like the easiest need to get met through charities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 04:34 AM
1

Also worth noting... men don't like consistent whiners either, it isn't an attractive quality, they are just more thirsty and will put up with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/20 07:31 PM
10

Ah, disgruntled short dude posts. Always looking for some sort of new angle to talk about height.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/20 07:22 PM
4

But I don't want to have to wait any longer than than the guy who got to have sex with her in the shortest time span after meeting her. Well good luck with that strategy if you're over 25, you are going to need it. You're grown adults now who have serious employment and neither you nor her have the time to spend doing the hanging out almost every available moment than you would have had at college. She may have fucked her second boyfriend in three weeks... but that may have been three weeks of b…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/20 07:12 PM
1

> Well for the most part it was a combination of "keep your distance, be respectful, don't pursue her tot hard, be sensitive" Add "make appropriate use of paragraph breaks" to that list and it would be even better.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/20 07:02 PM
1

> Even if men don't get what they want in a relationship, they don't seem to leave unless something happens, they just fulfill their needs elsewhere. Would you prefer it if unhappy women took that tack more often?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/20 06:39 AM
6

There's plenty of fathers in the world who are an overall negative in the life of their kids. If he's not looking like he's gonna get his shit together to behave decently, and he's abusive and aggressive, well she's got difficult decisions to make and he might need kicked to the curb.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/20 05:58 AM
4

She was responsible for the baby too... even if she had been willing to stick it out the baby made no such commitment and deserved better.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/20 04:28 AM
2

Youth-originated memes jump the shark when crusty old middle aged dudes start using them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/20 04:24 AM
1

Have never done it, but would be willing to if I was in a situation where an abusive partner was using violence/bullying/threats to try to stop me leaving. I mean shit, in that case I'd happily wipe my dirty twat full of some other guy's cum on the towel he uses to pat dry after shaving. So I just kind of assume the women who do this hate the guys they are leaving.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/20 10:47 AM
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> In her room at night, Well there you have it, all this restriction on your behavior and what can you expect to get from it? Your own house? An apartment? A bedsit all of your own? Nope. A room in someone else's house. Like fuck that noise. Fuck it hard right up the arse with baseball bat, sans lube and kicking it hard in the balls every tenth stroke. Also Wendi Deng is an... interesting... choice all things considered.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/20 07:59 AM
7

You know if you show a clueless guy a good date location you're just going to see him there with other dates. Some other poor girl gonna think he's got a clue then. Gotta make them find their own places.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 06:20 AM
11

And even then... she should be told about its history and she's still got the right to politely refuse and ask for a different ring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 11:46 PM
30

This. It is so easy for one human being to make another human's life better. If he's not gonna bother then he should not be bothered with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 09:26 PM
0

That would encourage the dating app to boot trash men. I like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 10:36 PM
1

Dating is inherently unfair, the people with the greatest needs get the least amount of needs met (that's a general rule not a gendered rule...the poor do worse the disabled do worse, minorities do worse, men and women both do worse because they have different needs etc) and there is no fixing it. My solution is you can equalise some of the inputs more...by providing more support for life matters in general. And that's all. Suck it up and deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 10:32 PM
3

Well it has never been a personal issue for me because I'd rather slit a man's throat than let him near me that way if I wasn't feeling enthusiastic. However... I can certainly imagine that if I believed a certain man could have use of my body on demand (maybe we are religious? maybe I've been brainwashed? maybe he just makes himself too much trouble if he doesn't get it?) and he made ample use of that belief including often enough at times when sex really just is not anything I would ever want,…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 09:33 AM
3

So now you're calling them liars because you don't like being called a liar.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 06:03 AM
3

> Men will pretty much find the majority of women attractive anyway, and you're not 'worth' less because your looks are less than her because its likely that a man will appreciate you similar to how he appreciates more beautiful women. Every time a man insults a woman's looks online, he's calling you a liar.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/20 05:58 AM
1

> Lets say you meet a woman and she is very disrespectful to you for no good reason That's too vague. And subjective. And lacks context.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/20 06:01 AM
3

A person doesn't have to be open and forthcoming about what they look like under their makeup... or their clothes... or if they are talking to someone on the phone their whole damn appearance... any more than they have to be open about what their genitals look like under their jeans. They probably shouldn't lie (except within the specific rare types of situations most of us agree that lies are OK... if that gang tattoo gonna get you killed by all means hide it and lie) but neither do they have t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/20 04:12 AM
1

They are discussed... by low n count women... all the time. Just we don't use the term "n-count" Players, PUAs, fuckbois, sex addicts. Scum of the earth.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/20 03:50 AM
1

Some women are OK dating men with high counts, other women aren't. Everyone has their own comfort zone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/20 03:37 AM
5

Not my job to replace his defective self-motivation with arguments and nagging. I don't enjoy that. It isn't what I want to be. Rather be alone, than become what I do not wish to be in order to turn him into what I want him to be. Cos you know... wherever you go then there you are... there's dozens of hours a week not in each other's company but you're with yourself all day every day .
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/20 01:15 PM
6

Marrying my first partner was a gigantic pile of crap. It would have been better to do almost anything else but marry him. You can't really tell how compatible you are or aren't unless you've had previous experience. The whole "grow together" stuff is shit too. Some people grow downwards, their growth is to become crapper. These people are obvious at age 27, not so much at age 23. Don't marry young, don't be a virgin when you marry, don't marry a virgin. Poke anyone in the eye (metaphorically sp…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/20 04:05 AM
2

Well it isn't particularly torturous as regrets go. Probably worst of all is I may have chosen better for one of my LTRs and handled myself a lot better in the other one of my LTRs if I'd had a few STRs and had become thoroughly skeptical about men. Shoulda sucked some dick behind the shelter sheds in high school. Ah well, thems the breaks, guess I'd have a different regrets now if I had.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/20 03:45 AM
2

Well it just would have been nice to know that side of life more.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/20 03:36 AM
1

2 LTRS, 50 year old female, Introvert, satisfaction 6 I probably should have fucked round a bit in my teens, I am high in openness and low in agreeableness... creative and cantankerous.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/20 02:49 AM
1

Look for synergy. If you're not totally bland then you've got a wide range of interests, go indulge the ones that work well with the other things you are trying to accomplish.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/20 02:27 AM
2

"Horrible personality" = won't put up with and enable your bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/20 11:30 PM
1

We have multiple professions dedicated to helping people with improving attractiveness (hairdressers, beauticians, physical trainers, tailors) mental health (psychologists, psychiatrists) and getting a better fit between individual and the world (social workers, counselors) maybe guys who can't get their dicks wet might want to try out the services these professionals offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/20 10:48 AM
2

No. They encourage brigading by other groups "Just go over there and vote..." then the wankers who came to vote stay and all of a sudden we're full up with the sort of folks who love to brigade. And the results of online polls don't mean shit. Also they are low effort and we need to encourage people not to be low effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/20 10:15 PM
1

There would be three sets of toilets... men, women, and a set of fuck cubicles for use by both.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/20 06:26 PM
10

Pretty easy to feed yourself and your family tasty healthy food without much cooking nowadays. I mean just saying. Most people should know maybe a dozen dishes that give a sort of base to work from just in case life takes a turn where cooking each meal every meal becomes a financial necessity. We can use YouTube, we can follow instructions, we'll cross the how to make pavlova bridge if we want to or when we have to. And let's face it lvm don't even know a dozen dishes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 06:16 AM
1

Mostly I don't but the person who I replied to raised it. But y'know, culture and ethnicity are hard not to notice even on reddit. These things shape people's thinking. Including, I guess, their understanding of or lack of understanding of why a woman might keep a nice big dog and why that dog is barking and showing teeth when he shows up on her doorstep without warning or welcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/20 02:24 AM
1

Well I'm pretty sure from the contexts I've seen it in there aren't Black guys cracking those jokes. Maybe some swarthy subcontinental types though. Actually there's a fair probability the idea came from the keyboard of some Indian engineer, it speaks not only of a problem with women but also of a dislike of dogs that is not in the least bit typical of European cultures. You're right... might not be a white thing at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/20 01:55 AM
12

You see guys like this on the train sometimes. They don't realize that the window is reflecting the things they are looking at. Just foul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 01:13 AM
2

White dude fantasy. They like to imagine we are fucking the dogs we keep to bite them if they try to assualt us. Sorry guys, the dog does things for us like defend us out of sweet innocent love, not as some sort of agenda to get into our knickers.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/20 06:32 PM
13

What perplexed me is taking food from a sick person. A possible deadly virus with no cure, even more so. Because he knows he almost certainly already has it? The guy has in recent days excused himself from obligations or asked for extra care from her due to gastro and fatigue. Now he's getting tested "because he's been in proximity" to her. My guess is he knew damn well he probably has covid already and now he's getting tested because he has someone to blame it on and make feel guilty and make d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 10:26 AM
8

Maybe I should start a profile where I greet them with 'Sup? or Hey! then send then an unimpressive picture of a penis. So they can experience the reassurance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 09:26 AM
2

> Given all this, do you foresee a shift in what society encourages women to do while young? Nope. Parents nowadays aren't as anxious for grandkids as their own parents were.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/20 05:25 AM
1

What's the point of having a LVM round in your 80s? We all know they are selfish, they can't be depended upon, and that they want more than a fair say in your life decisions. You're quite literally endangering yourself by putting yourself in that situation, of growing old without the ability to make and see through your own plan to deal with it because some pushy dude is hanging off you. I mean seriously... I'm going to sell my house and go into a nursing home while I still have the ability to m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 09:21 PM
111

Yep, its actually stated in their rulebook you can't use the word manchild. T Guess we gotta use more words then "fully grown male human who has failed to attain adult ability to care for himself and seeks a mommy's tit to suck off" Do you think they'd ban for that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 07:13 PM
35

That's what I'd assume. There's no reason she should not have been told about Dave coming round. If her husband is home all day you'd think he'd want to discuss something like a visitor because it would be a highpoint of the day. Plus y'know... covid risks and all, couples should be discussing who has been hanging round their house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 01:35 AM
108

I want you to seriously contemplate this possibility... He's not your friend in the same way you have always thought he was. He mainly wants to stick his dick in you. Has so from the beginning when you were a teenager. Only just now have you got old enough that you too would be blamed for the age-gap relationship not just him. And because he's invested years in this nonsense he's going to throw the daddy of all tantrums when you eventually tell him to go away totally and forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 05:23 PM
50

Idk. Maybe some of them see these guys as a potential side hustle of sorts? I mean begging, blackmail, scams or just straight out prostitution? I mean I don't think they get many replies who see love as likely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:31 PM
9

Men will also jump ship to be with a woman their own age . They still want the cheerleader who rejected them. They still want the sort of girl who represented success when they were 18 and if they can't have one like that who is young they will take one like that their own age...and there is no shortage of divorced cheerleaders. Building a man up is a risky business indeed for a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/20 03:23 PM
1

So in other words you value a woman's looks but you don't want to have to act like you value a woman's looks. Because that's too much work. But you probably also want women to know you value their looks and so work a bit to look good for you...not have short hair or mannish clothing. Also you're not playing games, they are the ones playing games and it is terrible. Lol, whatevs.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/20 02:00 AM
1

Those who stick around to play the game of catering to pretty girls have made their choices. You gotta let people play the games they want to play. Why do you think that is a problem? So the pretty girls get to feel good about themselves because there are men who wish to also play that game... why does that offend you? Why would you wish to deprive someone of feeling good? They get the fun dates, the guys who chase them get the feeling they are after something special, and they all get something…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/20 12:20 AM
1

And? Just don't give it then. Date the ugly option if that's your point of view. You don't have to pay that premium you can make a different choice. You won't be giving the pretty girl jack shit. Unless of course you see pretty as some very special reward that is your due because well somehow you've earned it, and absolutely necessary to your very deserved happiness but not some very special trait the owner of which is allowed to be the first and foremost beneficiary of and use for her own happi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 10:49 PM
1

If you don't like demanding pretty girls, then go for the less demanding ugly ones. OMG how easy a fix is that!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 03:40 PM
1

So if these LVM are always the majority, then that means that they are ultimately the type of man that women want. Women have only really had the choice for a couple of hundred years. That, vs thousands of years of the choices being mostly made by fathers. We expect men to DIE for women and raise them to do so. Lol, no. You're more likely to be asked to die for oil than for a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 03:21 PM
2

Actually, no, they won't. Like I said, men will only work hard for the promise of pussy, and women won't work hard no matter what, so yeah... there it is. Sure... YOU won't work hard because you feel work does not promise pussy. But you aren't everyman. Sorry, but that's a fact. Billions of guys in the world and they all have their own position and path in relationship to society at large and their ideas of success. A lot of them are engaging pretty well with employment and the SMP and RMP, cert…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 02:33 PM
2

so why should I bother? Don't bother then. Drop out in small or big ways and only work as much as you need. It is fine. We're not actually in a time when job applicants are in short supply. Someone else who thinks that the opportunities you pass up will actually be the making of them will take up those opportunities. The opportunities will not be wasted. Or hell, maybe I'll just go on disability and live off the system like women do. If you're disabled and struggling then certainly, use whatever…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 02:06 PM
5

thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 01:42 PM
1

All we need to stop is cut back on our excess productivity, What... like a work to rule? And end up your employer's least valued player? I guess you can try that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 01:42 PM
2

>indeed, the only thing I actually want - is Quit your job like you are saying dudes will do en masse... and you'll discover your other wants soon enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 01:23 PM
5

That's a lot of words for "man discovers he can't do well without patriarchy spoonfeeding him a woman's body and labor, throws tantrum, threatens law abiding members of society"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 01:07 PM
75

He's introducing himself... that's his name right? Mr Obese Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 01:04 PM
3

If women were left to their own devices, And if men were left to their own devices in the absence of women there would be no more people. So you think you can get by on the labor of the top 20% of men alone? capitalism... you just up the pay until you get enough workers. Those workers then use the money to add value to their lives. Simple, neat, elegant. Because - and this is really important, so pay attention - unlike women, we are not inherently social animals Lol, a lot of you metaphorically …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 12:53 PM
3

you and women are completely dependent on the labor of these so-called "low value men" for your survival. Dude... the modern capitalist solution is to up the pay of that small percent who do jobs that truly can not and will not be done by the majority of the population (women, and not particularly impressive men who game a lot and masturbate a lot and eat junk food but exercise little) and then forget the rest. Someone will do the job if it is paid well... then he'll buy a sportscar and some coc…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 12:02 PM
4

On the low end, more towards the tail of the distribution, I do see a lot more cases where men give up and the natural conscientiousness of women and connection to the children simply do not allow her to give up. Like where the men give way to drink and such. I mean men are more variable than women, so most of the real nightmare cases are going to involve truly worthless men who begin to do nothing and are willing to just let personal armageddon come without a fight. Men are also definitely pron…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 04:39 AM
1

Well it is pretty complicated and you have to look at different eras. I think all evidence seems to point to women having pretty much carried the majority of the additional burden involved in the spread of grain agriculture via heroic levels of physical exertion whilst also producing heaps of babies... during which time men started doing a lot less work than they had before because persistence hunting was gradually dropped. Prior to agriculture women probably had it pretty sweet compared to men.…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 03:10 AM
5

I think the vast majority of men have always been low value and unfixable by their wife or with their wife's support. The whole "support your man to be a man" shit has been a con job, for thousands of years. Put a woman in a position where she finds herself unable to accomplish the mission she has been given because that mission is impossible, then shame her into creating the best facade she can that it has been done. Which usually means exerting 100% of her energy to the point of needing drink …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 11:08 PM
1

You've got a mouth, when you want commitment to exclusivity then speak up and ask for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 10:27 PM
4

> According to these standards, this would explain why the majority of my circle are in relationships at the moment. You gotta be real real careful assessing a guy by the life he lives when with a woman. Plenty of guys only have that stuff because women organise it for them. I mean seriously. Pickmeisha spends a lot of her life covering up for guys. And it is one of the reasons some guys get so pissed when a woman calls an end to a largely dysfunctional relationship... they could have been argui…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 07:59 PM
5

I just don't think the dialectic is a useful one.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 07:34 PM
1

"Cock carousel" is a dude term. Not even all dudes... just a small percentage of mostly inexperienced guys. And the diverse interpretations of what it means (one? five? ten? none-but-she-reads-romance-novels? oh-but-she-travels-nudge-nudge-wink-wink?) is totally down to different opinions between dudes. Women in general don't see it that way and never have. They aren't trying strategically to "water" anything down. They just think you're delusional. You've fucking lost touch with reality. Take i…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 05:33 PM
2

The sort where after I'm negged I excuse myself to go to the bathroom but instead slip out the back, go to the bottle shop and buy a bottle of wine, go home and heat up a frozen pizza and drink wine, eat pizza, read book passionately all night.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/20 04:15 AM
3

Don't. Just don't. Assume he might know your social media accounts...and post something publicly to one of them that doesn't in any way directly reference him or his approach or dating or anything but will make him mad if he sees it. Something feelgood that won't identify you if he sees it and doesn't know it is you, will only get to him if he starts stalking. . I'm thinking something like rumpled sheets, a well known book on those sheets and "a lazy Sunday morning with (author name) then time t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 11:43 PM
2

Block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 12:59 PM
1

As for the next point, since women are the judge, jury, and executioner on what is considered creepy behavior, does that mean we should explain to boys, some men are going to be able to get away with “creepy behaviors” because they are simply more attractive, and that they shouldn’t copy them just because nothing bad happened to them? If you can't work out real quick that your mileage is varying and thus vary your behavior... maybe you need to to see an expert. Because most people work that stuf…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 02:40 AM
1

So if it comes down to the woman to decide if the man’s behavior is considered creepy, and if you had a son, would you teach him that it’s better to be better safe than sorry, and he should learn to avert his eyes from 50% of the population, because we aren’t sure which member of that 50% of the population will take kindly to him looking at her or not? If I had a son who had problems with... eye contact... knowing when and how long to gaze... knowing what glances are Ok and what aren't etc... I …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 01:44 AM
1

I can't give you the OK, that's down to the woman you're looking at who is right there and can notice how creepy what you are doing is or isn't. It isn't up to me to teach you how to tell if what you are doing is OK... like I said, I was preverbal when i learned this shit, things learned while preverbal aren't always easy things to explain and quite frankly there's experts who specialize and you should find one.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 01:15 AM
1

Not just cheating... branch swinging because the guy she is with is literally terrible. Terrible men are pretty damn terrible... terrible men kill through abuse and neglect. The far end of the good to terrible curve for men is pretty dire and includes most of the world's longterm prison inhabitants, narcissists who will destroy your soul, abusers all sorts of terrible. I've got zero sympathy for terrible men I hope every woman they ever victimize cheats on them! In fact, I hope terrible men driv…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/20 07:36 AM
1

Let me guess... you don't think men should be grateful that betabux is at least an option but you do think women should be grateful that replying to some guy who sends her a dick pic on Tinder is at least an option? The reality is in both those cases... the person involved definitely doesn't have to be grateful to or appreciative of any of the particular persons involved in making them those offers, doesn't have to be thrilled or use those options, but would be well advised to maintain at least …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 11:43 AM
6

The age old question that people have been asking ever since we stopped living in small tribal settings where we knew each other from childhood and started living in large towns... how can I tell someone else is telling the truth? Women get to grapple with it too... how can I tell this guy is decent and not the sort of piece of manipulative abusive shit who should be seized by my older brothers, dragged through the town by a horse, castrated with hot tongs then thrown off the city walls. There's…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/20 11:25 AM
1

Of course I looked for someone who was better than me on some measures... I am someone with certain distinct strengths I was unlikely to find a man to equal and distinct weaknesses it would be dire to both have while raising kids or doing any very heavy load bearing lifestyle thus to get equal worth and any degree of good function we had to get our value along different measures of worth. Isn't this what most people who are not blandly of equal capacity in all things have to do...seek out their …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 04:45 PM
0

Are you from the subcontinent?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 02:43 PM
2

She is within her rights to feel however she wants to feel and shun you accordingly and tell all her friends and the women who use the changeroom with her and the gym staff that you make her uncomfortable by gawping too long and close for her comfort when she is trying to workout. This polite standards for gazing and/or eye contact thing is often hard for aspies to learn have you considered seeking professional support to catch up with your peers? I mean it is a bit beyond our capacity to teach …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 02:40 PM
1

> However as a woman, even if you get 200+ matches a day, most of them don't mean anything because there is a good portion of men that will systematically swipe right on everyvone and you never know which ones it'll be. I've heard about this. I think that if this is causing weariness about the dating app in their vanishingly small supply of real women, the dating apps should start penalising those guys when women present sufficient evidence that this has occurred and a check of the guys record c…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 01:22 PM
0

It always amazes me that the same gender that does things like arrive at work an hour early to get the carpark near their office window so they can notice and do something if anyone even glances at their car like they are gonna touch it... don't understand that women prefer not to be looked at like they are a stealable car.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 01:15 PM
3

Foul old men. I hope law enforcement do a sting on them sometime and they travel across the country for underage sex to be greeted by cops with tasers and handcuffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 06:06 AM
26

He'll be looking for a younger woman who he can hoodwink into believing whatever set of excuses he's going to go with. And as soon as she shows signs of growing out of him he'll try to persuade her to have babies too because it worked pretty well for keeping his ex around until he was ready to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 05:54 AM
2

Well... for starters, unless you're a billionaire or a celebrity of some sort and your presence is going to present a fleeting opportunity for a brush with fame or to shit in a solid gold toilet (that's a metaphor not literal btw) , she's going to need to not be at 0 to start with. She's going to need to have already decided for herself "Gosh my mind and body are telling me I could do with some dick right now." and light upon you as the best option for her existing desire. You don't get to ride …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 04:04 AM
1

How the fuck would I (or anyone here for that matter) know what's up with her when you... the person actually on point who sees her face, her body language and hears her exact words and tone of voice don't know? No, women are not a hive mind and we do not connect on the astral plain through our ovaries. If she has damage I don't know what her damage is. If she's doing it for perfectly ordinary reasons related to her personality traits, I still don't know. Also it is generally not unhealthy for a…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 03:34 AM
11

Like socialisation programs for men between 16 to 24. Like um, take a part time job while at highschool or join a football team or the local volunteer fire service? Or get involved with a volunteer theatre company or the local brass band? Or go WWOOFing in your holidays? I mean seriously these opportunities exist, they are all over the damn place, a lot of them even get partially funded by the state in developed nations, we just don't put the label "place for the lonely boys" on them because wel…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 03:06 AM
2

4 with a bit of 2 But that is tempered with my belief that in general society should provide a package of tools and resources to young people that can be put towards solving a variety of problems. So yes, living your life, facing up to having to take action in order to become fully realized, having friends and lovers, and being a success is ultimately down to you... but there should also be safe streets and affordable housing and a variety of cheap and free public events, good public transport, …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 02:45 AM
0

But it isn't like the genuinely good guys tend to be boring? I mean it is like good and evil lifestyles are both treadmills. On the evil treadmill the law is going to keep you running. The good treadmill, you keep you running. So a lot of evil dudes go for the good treadmill because they can just stop running or slow down to a snail's pace. It doesn't make them good though it just makes them lazy/scared/boring by choice. So we've got maybe 5% of guys who are on the evil treadmill by choice and h…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 01:48 AM
-1

Well Excatly, nice guys live the peaceful , boring life styles. That’s why girls don’t like them. The thing is a lot of guys living those lives aren't nice? They've got the neutral evil soul of a drug dealer but lack the courage, willingness to exert themselves and ability to show a little creativity that is necessary to make a go of that. So they conform to a way of living that they don't actually believe in. They label themselves "nice" and expect benefits from taking on that erroneous label. …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 01:29 AM
2

Why? I mean unless are very high value yourself you too will be settling for someone who is not the 10 you prefer, unless you have a very high income you will need her income as much as she needs yours. Real life is actually very hard work, and for the majority of people one income means never owning much property or raising kids with enough resources. Don't get me wrong I am fully supportive of anyone who chooses to gtow and lots of men and women make a go of it, but that is probably a decision…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 12:58 AM
-1

There is no reason why a person cannot have a fun exciting life and be decent and ethical. For a lot of self described nice guys, nice is their strategy out of laziness, fear or lack of creativity. Because it is easier to find small nice things to do that they really don't want to do but will anyway than it is to find interesting things to do and be. No shit a lot of you are boring as hell. As in you sit at home whining instead of getting out there. You are bored...but haven't even bothered to e…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/20 12:40 AM
0

Every system brings its own joys when it interacts with people in all their ethical diversity, Karen is the result of a capitalist system in which staying well behaved results in your household budget being assfucked without lube because you did not ask "well why can't I have it as advertised?"and "hang on you will be honouring that warranty or there will be hell to pay" and "bring me the manager because I can tell you have not been given the authority to fix this" in effect capitalism means we …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 06:09 AM
2

All men want a sex robot until they realize they have to clean their own jizz inside them. I think they are hoping for sex toys that clean themselves. And the house. And know how to be emotionally supportive. And understand the world well enough to navigate it politely according to the form of politeness the owner wants. But of course aren't mentally developed enough to have personhood and rights. Obviously they've got some sort of mindset that slavish obsequiousness and deference and empathy an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 03:36 PM
8

Well duh... you leave your sex toys home, nobody else wants to know. I mean seriously this is up there with furries wearing tails in public and BDSM weirdos who walk each other on leashes in public. Get a room. leave your sex toy in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 12:04 PM
2

And they would be kind of an ass for doing so. Disclosing stuff is complicated. It isn't just you involved. It isn't even just you and your ex...people have families to consider too. Employers even. Add in how some things are judged more harshly than they should be and it gets hella complicated. Look at how drunk sex is problematic for example. "We were all drunk but it was all consensual" can be a thing but would anyone with any sense disclose easily that they had drunk consensual sex with a ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/20 10:01 AM
1

They are waiting for their mother to do it. Or y'know... random women they wish would be their bangmaid mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/20 07:57 AM
2

Oh women like honesty from their partners too. It is in short supply from men as well. But also... no-one with even an ounce of decency likes to talk about certain details of their previous sexual partners in a coffee shop or heaven forbid, via fucking text message just so some random can search more efficiently for a partner. And some sorts of things, if they are ever to be told at all, have to wait until you're a committed couple. I mean let's say one of the reasons you divorced your ex was he…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/20 07:52 AM
27

He doesn't delete a single one of the phone numbers of casual dates in his phone when he starts a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 04:22 AM
1

How far does 200k go in silicon valley anyway? Doesn't sound like a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/20 07:45 PM
3

Engaging personality, looks good, doing well enough for themselves they will never be a burden. The guys who are complaining on reddit want all that but don't tend to offer all that. Since those men prioritize looks... and are paranoid about never risking golddiggers who supposedly be after their miserable income as tech support... that leads to "not boring" being the last priority. So of course they date boring girl with boring job, over and over. Also online a lot of women just don't make thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/20 10:45 AM
7

I've never known a professional firefighter who had trouble finding women attracted to him. In fact, sometimes women show up to small fires just to check out the firefighters taking their shirts off to cool down after. The firefighters are doing fine. Haven't known any power line technicians but I have known a tree feller and it is a similarly dangerous job... he seemed to do OK for himself on the romantic front, never lacking. I suspect that advantaging all men because of those men would not be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 10:11 AM
28

Why are men like this open to relationships? Genuine question. They know the odds are a woman is going to contribute to their life at cost to herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 09:18 AM
23

> I would rather eat carrots at home than spend an hour and a half with someone I’m not really into just to get a free meal. So much this. You're not even going to be tasting that food if the guy across the table makes you want to stab him and you're having to work out how to finesse your way out of his oncoming fumbling attempts to stick his tongue in your mouth. Even if you're broke-ass brokety broke a visit to the local foodbank would be less humiliating and tastier than steak with a creep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 12:37 AM
26

Y'know? She wouldn't be complaining if this was the only thing. If all his other behavior was consistent with him respecting and valuing her she would likely put the walk in the park down to maybe him having had a bad week for money or to him actually wanting to go for a walk. Just like she did at the beginning... a walk, how intimate and romantic. She's losing her shit and starting to go into a downward cycle of grief and pain in preparation to shoot the whole relationship in the head because t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 12:33 AM
67

Wow, all it takes is one date without getting precisely what he wants and his mask drops. I feel so sorry for the poor pickmeisha who eventually gets stuck with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 02:40 AM
7

> Is this an escorting sub-culture? There's some young women who travel on their backs but they are far outnumbered by women who are spending family money and/or work hard, save hard, then splurge it all on travel. > Am I living in a bubble and this actually makes her more interesting? No dude, she's telling you that she finds you less interesting. So you'll either not waste her time, or if you do decide to chase after her you'll try harder. How exactly is this not obvious? She had you as soon a…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/20 01:47 AM
10

"if we in a relationship" well that's a question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 11:56 PM
12

This. I've never had a man intervene for me. I have twice intervened, at considerable risk to myself to save a man from a beating. I heartily dislike the thought of being expected to reward all men... a category that includes abusive men who don't happen to have shown their true colours yet and necessitate most of the saving needed in the world... a category that includes men who have never done anything for anyone... and never get anything myself but having to live my life in a way that provide…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/20 06:56 AM
2

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-8482659/Melbournes-goes-lockdown-checkpoints-city-fight-second-wave.html In quarantine no less.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/20 07:10 AM
8

> What is your response when a man you are attracted to pays you little mind? I figure we aren't compatible and I get on with my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/20 03:28 PM
1

> Do people not realize how insulting it is to tell someone to wait until women are “settling down” to find one? Yes I know a lot of men find it insulting to have anyone say anything that acknowledges the man has been less than a stellar success in some aspect of life. And? I do not care. We all fail at something sometime, and unless you're an incredibly powerful person with an incredibly powerful position in the world, ain't no-one gonna tiptoe round your failures quite that carefully to avoid …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/20 10:29 AM
1

> Am I right or am I right? Nah, you're just splashing ink.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/20 08:01 AM
36

My ex husband had two good female friends. Cheated on me with friend number one. I left because of the cheating. Then friend number one and him denied the cheating and he took up with friend number two. They all slandered me to anyone they could get to listen. When that relationship with friend number two met the same fate my marriage did for very similar reasons, she fled the city and moved about 300kms away. She knew what was coming for her from them, the same slanderous treatment she gave me.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 09:20 AM
2

You need to read How to Win Friends and Influence People.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/20 02:20 AM
-2

So to boil it down, you don't trust your wife or maybe you trust but are mistaken and want the state to spend a lot of money and have the opportunity to build up a total DNA database of everyone so you don't have to be honest with her 'bout dat or have to pay your few dollars for your own test or have to grow the fuck up and be an adult who manages risk. kay, but y'know, not ok at all really. Some stage in life you need to find your own balls dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/20 01:10 AM
6

There really should be police doing social distancing stings on Tinder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 03:17 PM
10

Just seeing what sort of feelings they can stir up to feed their narcissism and get a different spin to put on things. I mean they don't know what they'll get... but they'll find some way to feel more important because of it. You get angry or sad? "She's still not over me!" You express regret? "can totes still fuck her if I want!" You forgive and forget? "None of it was my fault she sees that now!" etc. I mean sure it is sometimes a direct play for a last fling, but it is ALWAYS a play for some …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 03:59 AM
16

Pretty much. And you know EXACTLY how to tote up all the factors involved in whether important things are being compromised for another person or whether someone adds or subtracts from another person's life... as women we get socialized to do that calculation in excruciating detail about what our own actions mean to a man when we are in his life! All ya gotta do is use the same filter but look in the other direction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 03:45 AM
5

Guys try to get us cancelled and I am sure they tell Reddit that is about us using nasty words, but the reality is this is what really disturbs them. Decisiveness that does not decide in the favor of a guy who wants in. Simple sure and certain. Can't be bargained down. Whatever he did got him a one way ticket out of her life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 12:14 AM
96

Wait rather a lot longer than the idiots whose replacement subs just keep being nuked over and over then build up a new sub or existing sub with similar functionality but slightly different flavor, and a rule or two to keep it from crossing that particular line again? Then business almost as usual. Which, incidentally, I'm sure reddit would be fine with. Cancelling a sub doesn't mean that nothing the sub did is ever going to be acceptable again. It means that something the sub was doing was not …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:09 AM
2

Really cheap per kilo at the supermarket.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/20 01:22 PM
1

Not to get free food, I've got my food sorted... supermarket, pantry, freezer etc. But I really don't care if women do. If you want to stop buying meals you can do that any day you want, dudes. You don't have a gun at your head. You can find other ways to demonstrate value. You can find other ways to set a scene that encourages relaxation and a sense of safety. I'm not stopping ya. I did once accept a date to an event which was free, only because it wasn't an event I thought would be fun alone. …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/20 01:21 PM
10

Didn't care enough about him to let him know he needs professional help. heh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 04:43 AM
1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=euCViLHKFrk
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/20 03:36 AM
2

tik tok, tickety tok, the clock is ticking on your access to young tiddies.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/20 03:27 AM
1

No. Noooooh nonononononononono nooooooooo! Lol. Let me remind you https://i1.wp.com/metro.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/sei_53525312-c25b.jpg?quality=90&strip=all&zoom=1&resize=540%2C522&ssl=1 If you like 17 to 25 best... this is the start of your personal wall experience. You are aging out of your preferred partner age range. You don't look the best to most of them any more and why should they take anything other than the best for casual sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/20 03:10 AM
2

I live in the moment. We will deal with it when the time comes. The time has come. You're getting a very different set of responses because you have got older. Young women aren't that much different than young women were ten years ago... they've got a lot more skilled at online perception and communication (so have young men) but their age preferences in men remain the same. You've aged out of the preferred range of all but the 24 and 25 year olds... and to the 17 year olds you're a creepy old d…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/20 02:38 AM
2

I think if you are so devoid of perceptiveness that you are having to ask how/where/when/why etc to give complements rather than finding it easy enough to learn on the job, then you've got bigger problems than just deciding whether to give complements.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/20 02:28 AM
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Okay so you're talking to 17 to 25 year olds, both then and now. How old are you, yourself, right now, today, this very moment? It makes a a bit of a fucking difference. If you're over 30, a healthy normal 17 year old don't want your crusty old man balls. And a lot of them are exquisitely sensitive nowadays to verbal cues that they are talking to an old scrote. I think you've hit the wall. SLAAAAAM! DA WALL! Right in your wrinkly old-man face. Getting your hands on young tiddies gonna involve ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/20 02:16 AM
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>There is a big difference, in my opinion, between talking to women online 10 years ago and right now. How old were you at the start of those 10 years and how old were the women? How old are the women you are talking to now?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/20 01:53 AM
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I support charities that help quite poor people and socially isolated people ... men and women... become more prosperous. As a voter and vocal member of the community, I support the decision making of government at all levels to try to give needy people more access and resources. Everything from free outdoor gym equipment to subsidised transport for disabled people to get out and have social lives to mental health care services. I don't need to take on my own private charity case. I am doing my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 12:14 AM
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when I mentioned the dates I've gone on and not been interested a guy friend whined that girls never "give chances" like, what? Just going on a date with a guy who hasn't sparked any feelings yet but still seems like nothing wrong with him IS giving him a chance. He's had his chance! How many chances do they think they need to be given?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 11:44 PM
3

They are just crazy. Don't online date myself but I have listened to other women who do. Men try to argue you out of very clear deal breakers that all logic says you have for very real reasons. I mean seriously how the heck do they think getting stroppy about something like "must be Jewish" or "can't have rotten teeth" gonna change anything? Morons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 07:52 PM
11

Sort of thing you buy as a somewhat mean joke gift.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 01:15 PM
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He's probably over at one of the subreddits those dudes gather right now, posting something like "Online dating is just brutal for men, if you're not in the top 20% in looks you're just screwed, I mean I regard myself as a pretty good looking bloke and I don't ever get a match unless it is a bot or a someone trying to lure me to her Onlyfans account. The system is broken and needs radical change to fix it."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 01:14 PM
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Approaching someone in the street at dusk and saying "that's a nice watch you've got there" is a little threatening... what the heck makes these numbskulls think commenting in the same context on a woman's walk and physical appearance is any different?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 11:05 AM
2

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jcmfIwy5ST4 Covid19 Is Already A Romance Subgenre
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/20 04:26 AM
2

I've had two daughters go on birth control fairly young... both for the same reason, shitty horrible periods they wanted more control over. The one who has shown signs of being kind of keen on boys even in kindergarten went on to have quite a libido (always crushing on someone) although not be particularly promiscuous, the one who had been declaring herself asexual since she first heard such a thing exists went on to stay asexual. I don't think the divorce rate has anything to do with contracept…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/20 03:13 AM
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My point was to challenge the idea that people SHOULD save something sexual for when they get married I don't think there's a general opinion like that any more... I think those who wish to save something for marriage choose to do so and are under unrelenting pressure not to. To be utterly blunt... if you pick something that is really not the main event and doesn't happen in most sexual encounters to save for your wedding day, and your partner suddenly starts getting pissy about it even though t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/20 01:46 AM
1

Does there really need to be more of a point? It isn't like anal (or any one of really quite a long list of things from titty fucking to fisting that one could choose to save for later) is essential to the day to day sexual satisfaction of normal heterosexual human beings who are not pornsick. It can wait if one or both of you want to wait for it. There's nothing wrong with picking something to save for marriage. Or save until you've got your own place. Or whatever. I mean seriously slow the fuc…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/20 01:13 AM
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>What if the thing you save, for example anal.... turns out to be not even that good? Then if you've bonded fairly well, have well founded trust in each other and explored a lot of other sexual stuff together up to that point, you'll have an hilarious wedding night playing with each other's assholes and wondering what all the fuss is about anal?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/20 11:04 PM
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Ah. When this started she was 21 and still very peer group orientated so probably an immature sort of 21. And he was 26 and eager for marriage. If you look for marriage within the age group that is generally not ready for marriage (whether they think they are or not) when you are in the age group that is generally ready for marriage, chances are you're going to have yourself an unusual experience. Hopefully they both learned something useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/20 06:14 AM
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Could mean they never thought that behavior was possible in their partner. Could also mean they never understood the full horror of certain things. I doubt that many 22 year olds getting married really think their partner might try meth/cheat repeatedly on them/be arrested for child molestation/kneel on some guys neck in the street sparking off nationwide unrest but turns out these things are real things that really happen and they are a little slice of hell to deal with.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/20 04:49 AM
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Why would it have taken her a while to decide if she "felt like fucking" the one guy but she immediately fucked the other guy? Relationships don't all have the same pacing or even the same pacing all the way through. Relationships happen against the background of other things that are happening in other people's lives. The first part of a relationship often involves fits and starts, and thinking "oh well guess that's it for that" then being wrong. These things are complex not simple. I mean how …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/20 04:35 AM
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You're making up all of these "what if" scenarios to justify her behavior The dude who made up the story left out the "WHY" in order to avoid the issue of the actual human complexity involved in deciding to screw a person while wondering whether another person you've been dating only a short while and havent felt like fucking yet is anything to you. Real life isn't reducable to acronyms. You go to your family and say "hey look I've dumped Chloe, turns out she fucked some other guy once between o…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/20 02:46 AM
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But I'm telling you right now no man wants to have this conversation. "Hey honey why did you casually fuck Tinder Chads while making me wait and telling me you wanted to take things slow?" What could possibly be a satisfactory answer to that? Maybe she's got a story to tell about how the way he was dealing with her during those first few dates actively indicated such things would be fine. Maybe he made a huge deal about not wanting to settle and wanting his options open because of some dumb shit…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/20 01:38 AM
1

Look, like I said, I have no problem with people dumping a bf or gf style relationship (no marriage, no kids, no mortgage) based upon just a feeling, a hunch, an uneasy sensation or whatever. I'm all #kickhimout2020 you do it, kick their ass to the curb if it isn't working out how you need it to. Feeling deep unsettling qualms about going forward? Call it off. Absolutely got a right to do it, to just find out something and leave without discussion of that something... but expecting other people …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/20 12:55 AM
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> Would you feel disrespected if a sexual partner didn't want to be seen in public with you or introduce you to his friends when you know he did with past girlfriends? It would depend on why he was doing it, I mean seriously there's situations. I certainly wish I'd kept the relationship I struck up during the time between leaving my ex husband and my divorce about 25 years ago on the hush hush for a couple of months, it would have been better for all concerned, literally no-one would have been w…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 10:02 PM
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> are you also as disgusted in women who use their sex appeal to get free drinks Nope. I think it is a foolish venture to chat to guys to get drinks, I'm not real keen on routine drinking or interacting with men while drunk, all things considered, but I certainly don't think women are victimizing anyone by doing so. Those guys have their reasons for paying for drinks and if you'd like them to stop doing so, go talk to those guys. Can't drink a drink until someone has paid for it, if they don't b…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 08:32 AM
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The system can handle paying a whole fuck of a lot more to get those jobs done than it currently does. I mean just saying, there were several years in the 1980s/1990s when due to certain decisions by government and real estate investors in my town there were various trade types pulling in thousands of dollars a day. The whole system did not fall apart. Soon as you're offering enough to make the FIRE strategy work, or to make it possible to hire a new whore every night, while still living, eating…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/20 08:54 PM
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Female Matchmaker stops trying to help women match with men because women (according to her) have "unrealistic standards for men, dating marriage". Lets discuss. Electrician quits his job because not enough of his customers are people wanting to pay him his $120 callout fee to change a lightglobe. Berates populace of his town for obviously preferring to sit in the dark. ​ I've got a poem for you. Now that your phallus isn't in the way can you see which fallacy is at play?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/20 07:07 PM
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Ewwww.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 08:27 PM
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Why are you not dating one who is already doing well? If the answer is "I don't really have access to those guys and when I do they ignore me" well that's the worrying thing isn't it? You are betting on him not changing his tune in a way utterly normal in guys after some years of you putting your all into him and building him up. You are making that bet instead of working out how to level up. I have seen this happen to nurses a lot. Because their jobs 99 times in 100 are always going to be profi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 07:31 PM
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The purpose of the mattress is to ruin that street for him and Laura. People she knows she can have a laugh about her wording with... people who she doesn't know well whatever, Gary and Laura will have some explaining to do if they try to collect them as friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 03:35 AM
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Well, it depends what age the kids are? I mean if they are 25 and 22 years old then getting told it straight out is probably the best choice. And I don't care that she's called Laura a slut either. I'm not generally for slut shaming... but this is strategic. It helps her keep her home. If he won't accept a payout of his share and fights in court to try to keep the house for himself, he won't have much support from Laura on that one for things like moving in and helping him pay it off... I mean r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 09:35 PM
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"But how do I know you're real?". "You don't." Simple, elegant and calm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 07:54 PM
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The whole picture is interesting though. I mean the crazy depravity goes all the way through..it isn't just a stripe of intense racism in an otherwise normal person who then had a bad day and plumbed their depths...she is like that all the way through. Also crazy how she managed to do as well as she did as long as she did, considering how pervasive her damage is. Imagine how much fucked up must be in an ordinary day with someone like her? Imagine working at a desk next to her and gradually worki…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 08:51 PM
2

Well... yes and no? There's definitely a cultural component and numerous cultural works that describe desired men as tall. But on the other hand... height compared to your genetically similar neighbors is strongly related to having good protein and adequate overall calories during your growing years. Having had good access to protein in your childhood has probably for thousands of years meant, especially in the cold parts of Norther Europe, that your kids would probably also have access to good …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/20 11:03 PM
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> You'll see women from 4'11 to 5'3 saying the most rude things about men under 6'0, but you never see the same thing from men. We know tall guys talk shit about us in locker-room talk about what it is like to fuck someone it is real easy to pick up physically and who barely has to bend to give a blowjob. They just do it behind closed doors because they might want to fuck us sometime. Doesn't mean they respect us the same as a normal sized woman. Men are the biggest two faced bastards anytime be…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/20 04:39 PM
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> Ok lady, I guess you're at a point in your life where you don't attract any mate that's worth pursuing. None of them, whether I can attract them or not, are worth wasting time on at this point. I'm 50. The time I have left is for me, not for coddling some guy. I've had and raised my kids so I've got no further business to accomplish with a guy. What's left? Making it so some random guy who can't stand to be alone doesn't die alone? That's his problem if he even sees it as one, to find a way to…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 11:08 PM
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My second question was about what, as a woman, you think you have to offer to convince a man to commit to you and you haven't even touched that subject, which makes me think you (and many women like you) have little to offer. I don't structure my life to be of use to men, I structure it to be of use to me. I am actively disturbed by the idea of sharing. I have a full life that is of very great use to me, and none of it is ever going to be on offer to a man again. 50 year old single and divorced …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 10:11 PM
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It explains the broad sense among today's average to low value men that today's women aren't enough. Those guys are regularly punching the dopamine buttons over and over and over with gaming and porn... then to commit they want women to justify it by being "better" than porn and gaming at punching their dopamine buttons... or they want women to provide something else to compensate for not being as good at making them feel great as porn and gaming is. That's just ridiculous of course... modern ga…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 09:20 PM
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I thoroughly agree that a relationship is too burdensome for the average man. It cuts into his time spent tugging at his soft-on in front of pornhub, and his time spent fighting imaginary fights in online games. Real life can't compete with fantasies if a person is that dopamine dependent. He's made his choice. Leave him to it. Not your job to rescue him. Maybe he can find a clinic in Russia to detox him via induced coma.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 06:51 PM
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It gets worse as the relationship goes along, they retcon more and more things to be their good idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 12:27 AM
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Either that, or every time he needs a fish caught he can't remember how and can you do it for him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 12:26 AM
3

A lot of guys just seem to lack imagination. I mean you can tell they wouldn't have once they do and the thing they should have imagined happening (and which every woman and a few of the men watching them anticipated right from the start) actually happens. Also... https://www.reddit.com/r/WhyWomenLiveLonger/
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/20 07:49 PM
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These guys wouldn't be bothering with porn if getting an actual woman was in the realm of possibility for them A lot of them get habituated to porn while still underage. Porn was their first sexual partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/20 08:49 PM
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This. Hitting on that Instagram model is definitely is within the list of legally allowed actions... but ffs. People climb mountains because they are there. Guys hit on girls because they are there. Mountains will kill you if you fuck up. Girls will often react hurtfully too. Maybe a lot of thought is necessary before climbing mountains and at least a bit of thought before approaching a hot woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/20 11:38 AM
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Dude, just show a little respect for what a shopkeeper is if you don't want to be seen to be a fool and get mocked mercilessly for it. You're sensible about this in all other aspects of life I'm sure, you can be sensible about it with women who sell naughty pics for cash, views, likes, follows or clicks. The shopkeeper has certain things on offer with a price. Then there are certain things one step beyond that it is totally reasonable to casually inquire about... one may I suppose ask a camgirl …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/20 11:24 AM
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Well if you don't want to give attention to girls who show their private parts online... don't give attention? That's not difficult. Nobody gonna knock on your doorstep and kneecap you just because you unfollowed.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/20 10:35 AM
2

War, selling cars, selling real estate, stockbroking, any physical job that requires courage and managing other men, sports, policing, acting, any job that involves interviewing people, drug dealing, teaching... Chad's got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/20 03:19 AM
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Maybe Chad will cut your head off and the crowd will cheer him on. Well yes it is possible... men are depraved in general. Chad is no more depraved than the rest of you though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/20 03:16 AM
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Chad's got social skills and is often usually physically impressive. He's the guy who gets promoted above other men at work by a male boss even though the other men know the job better than he does. Chad isn't just possessed of the ability to charm women. His skills and attributes transfer well to other situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/20 12:59 AM
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Just because you can see it doesn't mean it is for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/20 12:45 AM
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Why would the King bring in some random poor Chad who could potentially threaten his rule? Chad's going to be busy beating on guys like you when you ask for too much power, fucking the town whores, enjoying the pleasures available only in the capital city and angling for a small grant of land and possibly a title. Chad doesn't get to marry immediately into the family... like I said he gets to marry younger daughters of the king's staff or maybe bring in a girl from back home. After that then if …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 11:37 PM
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Marrying your daughter off to some attractive poor guy was not a win. Nah. The local king would take Chad out of his ancestral hovel, give him the best of food and lots of exercise to turn him into even more a beast, and then Chad would be marrying either younger daughters of the king's other staff or the hottest girl or best connected girl from back in his home village. Y'know... the girl that all the non-Chads were crushing on bigtime. > they’re complaining about the women who willing let Chad…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 10:58 PM
3

but can't apply to social outcast nerds that suddenly have a huge crush on the woman? Those guys crush on anyone, nothing special about them getting fixated.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 10:24 PM
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If Chad had nothing, Chad always has far more potential than a non-Chad of the same intelligence born to the same social status. And most of history, most people have had pretty much nothing other than their muscle and their wits. For most of history to be Chad was even more important than it is now. This is just how it is... ordinary guys don't say boo to Chad, guys further up the social hierarchy value that, they value that Chad can keep other guys in line, and Chad gets socially promoted. Ove…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 10:21 PM
1

Write it and find out.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 08:52 PM
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There has literally been no era in which sad scrawny little neurotic dweebs have been the partner of choice or had society set up to funnel young, attractive women to them. When men run things? They give their daughters to Chad to solidify their connection to Chad. When women run things? They go find Chad themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 08:49 PM
1

Then of course I'd make more of an effort. But he wasn't more helpful? And let's face it a lot of sexually unsuccessful guys just aren't particularly interested in other humans. You can see it in the questions they ask here. Treating "brother" or "son" as though it is only a category... when it is a relationship between two people that goes in its own direction and finds its own level. I've got more than one kid and their willingness to approach me and deal with me about various topics and accep…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 08:35 PM
0

Is this sexually unsuccessful brother bothering to be much help with my problems? Because y'know... with siblings one gives what one easily and gracefully can give but past that point, when you get to stuff that is going to be hours of difficult work over many different occasions, they gotta be giving to be getting. My personal experience of having a sexually unsuccessful brother is he never bothered to help me much. So I dealt with him by just occasionally doing things like trying to expand his…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 06:14 PM
1

They end up lonely old men if they don't manage to die before the intellectual agility that allows for maintaining a facade abandons them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/20 09:53 AM
1

Would your opinion of him stay the same if he stopped wearing the makeup and the dark spots were there? The concealer would have done its job of making him look a bit better than the guy next to him. It is only a few dabs of makeup, if I felt any surprise at it I'd get over my surprise.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/20 02:26 AM
1

Well it obviously doesn't actually exist. It is a conceptual crystallization of men's fear of missing out.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/20 01:43 AM
1

Guys say they don't like makeup on women and yet they go for it just fine. Do I like the thought of makeup? Not particularly. Do I like it when a guy has a great face? Yeah. Am I probably gonna pick the guy who has just looks more awake because he has carefully used concealer on his eye circles... over the same guy looking tired and sleepless? Yeah. I think I'm fairly typical of other humans in that response. It's not an either/or completely binary thing is it? I mean the choice isn't a full fac…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/20 01:38 AM
1

"clash with our confidence" = scared of a little grease with minerals in it
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/20 09:58 PM
8

First time he lies to you, dump him then and there.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/20 09:24 PM
1

Understand? Yeah I understand. Men are lazy. They don't want to put in any work. Don't even want to try. They want a life where they get to spend all evening playing games on their computer and then have a girl who is both genetically gifted AND takes really good care of herself physically AND presents herself really well bring them dinner and just straight up decide to suck their unwashed dick when they are none of those good things that she is. And that's how we get so much push-back from the …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/20 09:14 PM
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You didn't fall in love with him you fell in love with the guy he pretends to be when he wants something from you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 07:43 PM
1

Usually it is the guy we are replying to who has already defined his problem as not looking good enough and that women can do more to improve their looks than he can. I mean pardon us for actually taking any man at his fucking word about what his problem is?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/20 04:55 PM
1

Everyone looks more to comfort and security as they age. And not just in sexual matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/20 04:45 PM
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Well yes I guess it is mildly inconvenient for a woman when she decides she's no-one's slump buster and instead stays home with her cat and her bookshelf full of books and a cask of wine and her indoor plants and her neat tidy home and her crafts and hobbies and her retirement plan. So tell me... how is it as a man, not getting your slump busted?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/20 04:38 PM
1

You seem quite dedicated to and persistent at whining though. Maybe you could become a theater critic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/20 10:27 AM
14

That's fair and equitable, that men are expected to be attractive. Women face pretty bad consequences from men for being unattractive and that changes the way the SMP works. Life's pretty tough out there for unattractive women, they can get dicked down but it comes with a huge serving of disgust for them by the man, before during and after, usually very little concern for their sexual pleasure because the man is focusing 100% on getting off despite his disgust, often being shit talked behind the…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/20 05:25 AM
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It is entirely possible he has invented the lake house stuff because he needed a better excuse than that he has a date with a different girl, and a friend's lake house sounds vaguely privileged and exciting. I would reply. "I understand perfectly." then I'd block him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 05:18 PM
1

Nobody young really wants a wrinkly old man and his balls . Those few girls who endure it are just a flavour of whore. One that thinks they can whore for one old man and keep plausible deniability about what they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/20 02:18 AM
7

You're not too old to learn a trade, but you must start now.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/20 08:24 AM
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The majority of people, myself included, choose people they both feel attraction to and think will be good partners in raising kids and provisioning a household. People are not alpha or beta... traits and behaviors are alpha or beta. Most people have quite a lot of both in them. Yes of course I've chosen men who I thought would take an equal concern in us paying our electric bill on time to the concern I feel in doing that, who would feel equal levels of concern to me over things like household …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/20 04:43 AM
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This. Even if they see you later in the street you've got plausible deniability if you want to just do the same again "oh yeah... you did text me didn't you? I saw it and then there was important stuff I had to do and I put off replying and well I guess I must just have totally forgot the whole text. Well thanks for reminding me? How you been? Keeping well? ... oh dear I'm late for something I gotta get to... bye!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 01:09 AM
2

That doesn’t even answer the question I asked. I’m still wondering if she actually would or not. It seems like it’s mostly okay for women to deceive men with artificial enhancements, but how would/do women respond to them? That’s what I’m asking. Same way men do to things like padded pushup bras... in a variety of ways? Some guys care, some guys don't, some didn't know, some suspected all along yadah yadah yah, people vary. I literally have no idea how that relates to what I said. The rating sys…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 07:49 AM
4

Question: would women even want men who wear makeup and lifts to artificially make themselves taller? Upon realizing that the guy isn’t as perfect as they thought he was, wouldn’t they feel at least a little deceived? A lot of the time, if you are of marginal attractiveness and put zero effort into yourself you're not even going to find out whether she can forgive the concealer and the lifts, are you? Because you didn't try and she was talking to the dude at the party who looked marginally bette…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 07:11 AM
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> "Get a new haircut". This advice is the first one but it's probably just for guys with a full head of hair and ironically those guys look good even with messy hair. Most guys sooner or later will start receding or go bald so they keep their hair short because they actually want to look good given what they have. Women completely rethink their haircuts repeatedly throughout their lives. New job? New hairstyle Summer? New hairstyle. Getting married? New hairstyle. There's no reason you can't do …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 06:14 AM
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> At the point where women rather be alone with cats you have to admit that these men must suck. This. Some of those dudes wouldn't even be much fun for another dude to have as a housemate to pay half the rent or to work on the same team at work with... even totally leaving the issue of having sex with them out of it they just aren't good value to have in your life. Sulky, thoughtless, lazy, irresponsible, unreliable, entitled, and just not fun etc. People are trouble and hard work. This is the …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 05:41 AM
3

Lazy ass manchildren are not attractive. Telling a guy he needs to do more housework to have a chance of getting laid is not a transaction, it is a warning that if he doesn't start behaving like an adult soon you're going to #kickhimout2020 and he'll never get a blowjob from you again.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/20 04:25 AM
3

Guy number 1. He's going to feel the desperate need for a bit of strange, and because he's never really seen you do serious adult living alone he is likely to have delusional thoughts about how you can't live without him and how much he has done for you and what he is owed. He's likely to frame having kids as something done mainly for you and which he mainly just suffer for. Also chances are fairly high he won't have bothered with that building himself up, because you've been polishing his knob …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/20 11:26 PM
1

Bloody hell. Report him. If he's not there buying or selling clothes then Poshmark have no reason not to ban him for the comfort of their userbase.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 08:45 AM
1

And because men like to marry down in age. Which incidentally is one of the reasons younger men are screwed... older men scoop up those young women who are willing to put up with saggy balls and wrinkles in exchange for material security and although those young women aren't by any means the majority there's enough of them that it really puts pressure on younger men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/20 07:19 AM
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Oh no... I recommend staying the fuck away from men's dicks altogether if you can't get anyone other than a guy who only wants a one off or a guy who hates women. Keep your vag for your own pleasure. let the thirsty dudes thirst to tuned up instagram photos until they are unable to orgasm unless digital manipulation has been involved, let the chads fuck someone else not your problem, women live longer and get their own way more without all that bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/20 03:25 AM
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> Why are males always the ones who end up isolated and lonely in society? Are you fucking BLIND? I mean literally do you have eyes to see with? You can't just exclude "older lonely women" as though that's not like 20 to 30 years of a woman's life. All this whining about the fact it takes guys an extra 2 OR 3 years or so to get to full effective sexual maturity and how much of the end of the world it is. Pfffft. https://www.google.com/search?q=lonely+old+women&tbm=isch&ved=2ahUKEwjF7Kf5xuTpAhU5_…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/20 02:07 AM
5

The sexless dudes are shit scared of Chad. If they in any seriously assertive way ask Chad to behave differently, Chad is going to beat them to the ground then laugh laugh laugh. So the sexless dudes decide to try to bully women instead, because women don't hit back as hard. And that's why even if you're considering dumpster diving for a man you should still NEVER have anything to do with the sexless dudes who are all about calling women hypergamous. Those guys will beat, bully and nag you sense…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/20 01:33 AM
1

Bob Hawke.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/20 05:23 AM
23

#kickhimout2020 also r/WhyWomenLiveLonger/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 07:52 AM
2

Well I'm not on the market so my leveling up/self improvement is not aimed towards that... but I still work on myself to make myself better value to myself. Last 12 months... worked real hard on a side gig which is about to start generating a lovely passive income stream for me, lost 10kg, lots of work on making my home more functional and beautiful, fixed a couple of ongoing health issues that have plagued me for decades, Last 14 days... mostly at the moment I've been getting stuff free or real…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/20 10:54 PM
14

> Sometimes I heard that women would feel disgusted if an unattractive men approach them. Sometimes. I mean some of y'all are unattractive because of things like you have poor hygiene, greasy hair, cystic acne with obvious huge yellow pustulent boils that are OMG why do you even leave the house without dealing with that, you smell, you have skittery movements that are more like a spider than a human, you are visibly mentally ill in ways that make you worrying to deal with eg psychosis, obsessive…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/20 10:28 PM
1

Quite a bit. Every ideology and interest group sees female sexuality and emotions as fair game to create expectations and tell lies about until the average 18 year old woman barely knows herself enough to know if what she is feeling is her story about love or a someone else's story about love that she has just done the right things to fit into. A women's ability to be happy, to love and and feel loved is like a slush fund from which numerous people other than the woman herself see themselves as …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/20 12:38 AM
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Precisely. It is straight out attempted theft. First of a young woman's ability to enjoy her youthful years with a young vigorous lover... and then of her middle years spent caring for a decrepit old man and quite probably working a full time job to support him because prior to her he spent all his money on sharing women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 07:39 PM
1

Guys who say that are usually whiny little shits who as kids had the idea they could rely upon getting everything they wanted and more just by putting in minimal effort, and are throwing a temper tantrum because there is finally something their parents can't buy for them and might take more than a few hours of studying. Most people have it fairly hard in life regardless of their gender. Life's hard work. Normal results actually require hard work. The average person wants a good life and works ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/20 04:33 AM
1

Don't bother dating people you have no potential for serious interest in. It wastes your time and gives them unrealistic expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/20 06:36 PM
13

That women don't much enjoy doing housework either.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/20 08:20 PM
1

Tried. Failed. Never lost the urge to cut his balls off and post them to his mother. I would be doing the dishes or on the bus and start graphically imagining it. Divorced him.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 11:07 PM
2

I'm 50. I regard my dating life as over now, and thank fuck for that. I'm low-count and have spent most of my life in LTRs so there's not a lot of guys who I've had that happen with... but in general I don't think of them at all now and barely thought of them then? I mean there's like a zillion reasons I might go off a guy many of them not actually related to anything about him he should change, so I just assume there's a zillion reasons a guy I flirted with, maybe had a date or two, might go of…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 03:48 PM
1

Most developed nations are already putting all of their reasonable capacity to reduce births (ie... reducing births to the point they'd need so much immigration they'd lose national character and culture) into making being a poor child/teen so miserable that people from poor backgrounds no longer wish to breed any more. I mean just saying... you'd need to ease the fuck off on making life miserable for the poor if you wanted to switch to making the ugly stop breeding.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 12:19 PM
2

Because idiots like y'all are lapping up anything to do with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/20 01:43 AM
7

Bland is my chosen way of presenting myself around men who are unattractive, socially inept and just a wee bit obsessive. It is a useful tactic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/20 01:18 AM
1

Yes but how is it greedy to want someone with that potential.. when so many people who are rather ordinary have that potential? Also if you're wanting to be happy in your frail elderly years some sort of nest egg must be accumulated. I can't see what the problem is with an ordinary person who has that potential seeking like for like.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/20 12:51 AM
3

In any other Western democratic country but America you'd be seen as hard right or at best somewhat on the right for making your unwillingness to provide basic levels of income support be something that forces people to continue a relationship they both agree needs to end.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 08:50 PM
3

while I'm all about helping the poor and smashing the capitalist machine, I really don't think you are. The things you are saying seem to indicate you aren't. Maybe you just think you are because you're slightly to the left of the MAGA crowd?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 08:22 PM
8

better socioeconomic outcomes Wouldn't it be a better idea, rather than rely upon details of whether they earn $35,000 pa or $40,0000 pa, to wait until they are as old as their parents were when their parents divorced and ask the now grown kid who has the perspective of age, whether now that they are in a position to judge as an adult they would have preferred their parents stayed together? Or is how much a person earns in a capitalist system and whether they get a degree designed to make them o…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 07:50 PM
8

Well if you want to turn families into prisons?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 07:24 PM
19

Pfffft. Who do you seriously think the average hooker loves... you, or her hardass meth-addict pimp who will beat the fuck out of you if you damage her... and beat the fuck out of her if she hides money from him? Lying to customers is an integral part of what sex workers do, because the truth about most sex work customers is not something those men want to see reflected in a woman's eyes or acknowledged in her words or actions. Lying is necessary both to obtain the end result the customer wants …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 06:03 PM
2

Why did so many Americans spend so much on college degrees that turned out not to be worth it? Often the map you get given by the people who raised you turns out not to reflect the actual territory you will have to cross. Plus you know... hormones and neurotransmitters and shit, and the fact a lot of people marry before they've really worked out that intensely feeling something is a great idea is not the same thing as it being a great idea. Also for a lot of women it likewise doesn't work out to…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 05:40 PM
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None of those options really describes what my opinion is? I'm a woman and really I can take it or leave it... if robots existed and were reasonably priced I'd probably try one out, but I'm not chomping at the bit for it. I don't think sex robots would improve the world much because all they will really do is be a slightly better slightly more expensive and more hassle sex toy. I mean seriously what proportion of your mental energy goes into your sex toys? You're thinking about them for as long …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 04:31 PM
1

> Did you really just ask how requiring someone (have the potential) to be a millionaire is greedy? How is it greedy? I'd be a millionaire if I hadn't been derailed by serious medical issues... and I've never been a particularly driven or ambitious person.I was just a chick with a low level government job who had what it took to resist spending every penny she earned and liked to see her money work for her. Anyone in the developed world who has a halfway decent stable job at above minimum wage, …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 02:22 PM
2

Well if I don't get to occasionally have a laugh this place might drive me to psychosis then we'd both be delusional. Have you given some thought to the actual meaning of the word "delusional"? When someone calls you delusional they ARE taking you at your word that what you say is your experience and belief as best you know it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 02:03 PM
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> When we say "X is my experience," why not just just take us at our words? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m6hzkBihaew&feature=share
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 01:40 PM
1

Hell yeah. Pick a not-too-pretty woman who has bought into meeting people's expectations, marry her, get her knocked up so she can't so easy get rid of me... then do only about 20% more than is necessary for her not to walk out on me. Make sure I don't forget birthdays etc, make sure I'm not a total loser who expects her to be my mommy... and that's really all it takes to keep a bangmaid around. Even if I miscalculate and am doing less than it takes to keep her from walking out, and then I have …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/20 12:55 PM
2

> The frustrated incel isn't getting any of that. What none of it... not even if he is willing to be an orbiter of a girl he thinks is too ugly to fuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 12:14 PM
0

I've got a low count and have always felt more attracted to men who have counts that are not high. Never been judged for it though... because it has never come up as an issue. Virgin chasing dudes are just entitled, angry and dumb and that's why they get in social trouble over preferring low counts. First he starts by searching for a partner in ways that bring him into contact with huge numbers of high count people who are fucking other high count people... OLD right, gonna find a lot of virgins…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/20 12:11 PM
1

The thing I think many guys neglect in taking stock of their start place from which they will then create a plan to get what they want in life is being realistic about how much damn trouble they are, how often it is overtly obvious it is that they are trouble and work, and that it makes an impact on the calculations and maybe a few improvements to be less damn trouble would be in order. I mean you guys mock that "If you can't handle me at my worst..." quote but ffs at least it admits that the sp…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/20 05:35 AM
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Have a kid with a guy like that and nothing will be yours ever again. Not your time not your things not your peace of mind. You will be expected to give up EVERYTHING so he can have the fun times and none of the hassle and he will never have your back in any matter of discipline.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 06:44 PM
2

There's no need to. The men that have the balls to break the law will hire a pro, and the ones that don't have the balls to do that probably also won't have the balls to seriously stop working. No change required.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/20 04:24 PM
1

Yes well, we are all of our era and must cope with the challenges that brings. Except apparently the OP who seems to think he can reasonably have a good old whine about somehow his lot in life being a downgrading of what gen x got.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/20 04:14 PM
86

TwoX is a sausage fest full of sausage no-one wants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 07:56 AM
5

A lot of gen x men didn't partner up until their 30s. And a lot of gen X is fat. Gen X are specialists at making do with the deal that history has allowed them... which generally means having less of everything than the boomers did... resources, opportunities, pandering to their desires etc... but also having an acute sense of what there is left and why you should grab it with both hands, enjoy it fully and not let go. If gen z as a generation wants the same results as gen x you need to be willi…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/20 04:27 AM
2

No matter how early in the relationship it is, dumping someone because he got emotional after his dad died is pretty douchey. Making a few comforting noises while he stays generally well behaved but a little sad and angry? That's girlfriend stuff. Trying to turn him into a man who grieves constructively rather than destructively while he's rampaging through existence scaring people and doing damage? That's wife or mother stuff. That's the sort of thing we do for men we are committed to, not for …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 09:01 AM
5

Not caring about my problems. Men don't care about your problems either. There's billions of people in the world and most of them don't care about your problems for longer than the few seconds it takes to get your money or your vote.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 06:26 AM
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>Their arrogance "I don't need to sleep with someone on my level because I'm too good for that" Well that's true for anyone if they feel it to be true. Sex is not compulsory, if what you can get isn't worth the effort there are better things to be done with your time. There's men who feel this way about women too. It is a basic human right, to bow out of all that shit if you're not feeling it. > "99% of men are useless clowns who can't do anything for themselves and don't know how to have sex pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 06:22 AM
2

Men's sexual attraction is amoral too... that's like for like. If you practice amoral or immoral sexual strategy the like for like is that when you experience amoral or immoral sexual strategy in return no-one who actually knows what you are would do anything to save you. Which I guess is just fine... I certainly do jack shit to warn a fuck boi when I have strong suspicions some chick is just about to screw him over real bad by getting deliberately knocked up or by accusing him of physical abuse…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 06:09 AM
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> Body positivity was only meant for women. If you want a body positivity movement for men, go make it yourself like women had to for themselves, you lazy useless boy. Jesus effing christ you low value men are so full of crap... you see a woman has something she's enjoying(something which you actually tried to stop her having!) and you want some too because you're so used to your mother just handing over what she is eating if you want some and solving all your problems and picking up your dirty …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 04:15 PM
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All he's doing is prove to you that he could have done it all along but didn't think making you happy was worth it. You're going to love being out of that lease and well away from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 07:45 AM
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I feel sympathy for any woman who feels she "has" to date a man. Men are like gallbladders... while technically they have a function you can get by just fine without if the one you have access to is not up to scratch.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/20 05:13 AM
1

If they've got the SMV and RMV to swing it, they can have it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/20 05:11 AM
4

He's not 24. Jesus fucking christ on a crumpet, he's got forehead wrinkles... and he's brown as a hazelnut so sun damage is slower for him, he's got to be at least 35. A lot of them just look wrong and weird... not so much in a racial way but each in their own individual weirdass not-quite-right facial and bodily way? Like maybe their country went through an extra long phase when not enough defective dudes were stopped from breeding and they are the sad dregs of that process. I bet he'd still lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/20 04:57 AM
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"halp halp I can't stand being alone in my own company even when I'm high. Plz deliver yourself to me so I don't have to put up with myself." If a high value person somehow manages to find themselves at 10.42 pm and not enjoying their own company they will drink a glass of water, brush their teeth and go to bed to sleep, and hope it helps them make tomorrow a better day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 03:16 PM
2

Just a bad idea in general for such material to exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 02:40 AM
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"I'm scared that..." Nah... he's not scared of jack shit he just wants to talk about rape because he finds it stimulating. I don't feel the need to assign a particular term to him but I sure as fuck wouldn't want to be around him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 12:19 AM
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> his 'friend' (who he has met once) was upset and he was on a facetime call to her. This friend is a heroin addict and seems to have recently relapsed. This is a common pattern with some men... they are more attracted to women who are a hot mess and unsuitable to live with or have kids with, so they find a woman who is stable to be their life partner but continue to prioritize loser women at every possible opportunity. If you have no valued possessions at his place I suggest don't ring him back…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 07:54 AM
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People tend to find their level and then act to be at that level... in other words low value men are going to have mostly other low value men as friends, high value men are going to have more high value friends. I mean obviously there's some degree of variation in anyone's friends... but on the whole if nine out of ten of your friends are low value you're going to have a hell of a time trying to be high value. I'm not saying dump your friends. What I am saying is seek out higher value people too…
/r/askFDS30/04/20 06:07 PM
3

Garfunkel and Oates got it right. NSFW due to swearing. https://youtu.be/Yh-0dFvTyI8
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 07:22 PM
1

< -Narcissism < All of the traits above boil down to one thing: strength. Narcissists are fragile. Really fragile.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 10:11 AM
2

I played the hand I was dealt.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 11:45 AM
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> What’s even the point of trying. OLD apps are amusement for the time you spend sitting on the toilet at work. That's the point of them. Also they are probably good at providing low risk practice at interacting for people who want to be good at dating but currently don't talk to the opposite sex at all, so long as those people realize using the OLD app is just one step in their personal journey, and isn't the whole journey. Don't treat OLD as more than it is and it can be good for you, treat it…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 09:07 AM
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> Why are women unable to comprehend that making some guys wait for sex in exchange for time, resources, and emotional investment while having hopped into bed with other guys within hours of meeting them makes men uncomfortable? Oh we know that any reminder that now or in the past you were seen as on any axis of value as low or lower value by a woman makes you uncomfortable. We just don't think that's our problem to deal with. That's your problem to deal with. Women shouldn't have to construct t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/20 02:38 AM
6

He Thinks He'll Keep Her by Mary Chapin Carpenter
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 10:14 PM
1

If the women your own age don't want you, then you definitely aren't going to have mass appeal to women younger than you. On the other hand there's always a few younger women with particular situations who are willing to put up with things for money, housing or to have a man to put between her and an abusive narcissist father. The problems with such are three fold. They are rare... in particular ones that aren't fat or crazy yet still can't find what they want with the younger men they prefer or…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 10:52 AM
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I think in looking at this issue you also have to examine the possible dangers for some women of not having a phase in which they sample men intending more to observe than acquire. For some women... especially ones who are naturally kind caring souls and who have not had the benefit of a suitably experienced female friend or relative to tell them how stuff goes down out there ... the only way to become properly cautious about the nature of men and about the often misleading nature of their own f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 05:47 PM
1

Spectator sports. https://youtu.be/2fraSdN-PG8
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 05:08 PM
0

Well... short hair can be very comfortable and practical. A lot of us like that. Men like variety, changing your hair frequently has an overall average attractive effect on men you see regularly even when he thinks he doesn't like that one particular hairstyle you have put in your changes. So you know... your initial "but I liked it the other way" is not the end of the story is it? Some women actually look more feminine with short hair just as some men actually look more masculine with long hair…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 10:06 AM
1

Attempting to form any sort of significant relationship with someone who is manufacturing what is largely a false self for you and has that false self as their primary relationship strategy always has pitfalls.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 09:44 AM
5

single people more than people who are married or in an LTR From what I've seen of the relationship and various "gripe" subreddits, it is badly affecting anyone whose relationship wasn't in really good shape going into this. There's definitely marriages that are now OVER and just waiting for the end of formal isolation o dissolve because of what they found out about relying on each other in a crisis.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 09:32 AM
3

It is affecting that small proportion of extroverted single women who relied far too much on men for dopamine. Don't worry, they'll get over it and adjust to relying on men less, and then need men less for the entire rest of their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 09:28 AM
3

The defining thing that made me want to piss my boss off wasn't him being a man... it was him being a solid pile of micromanaging assholery. I take the perspective if you have a boss who is a solid pile of micromanaging assholery you're obliged to drive them crazy and hasten their heart attack. Y'know... because if their career ends at age 50 not age 55 that's 5 years of victory to the worker.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 12:22 PM
10

Go do something he'd HATE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 10:10 AM
13

I have a wonderful flowy dress that is perfect for staying cool in sweaty weather and makes me look like very I'm a large rippling cloud of woman. And I wear it deliberately and wore it deliberately while in a relationship. Can't say I've ever given two shits what any man thinks of that. Wasn't thinking about him, was thinking about the fact it was 44 degrees centigrade outside and our aircon was bust. > a wierd hair cut experiment Only done that once, did it to annoy my boss at work. Wasn't "te…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/20 09:46 AM
1

I think my opinion on porn is fairly normal. It should be legal in a carefully regulated way that prevents abuses, but you've got no right to expect people to approve or condone.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/20 01:11 PM
1

Smelling good, going to work and being interested in the world isn't even remotely close to enough for women and their insane standards. I never said doing those things would get you laid? I said if you don't try fairly hard to do those sort of things, you don't really have a place living alongside other human beings at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 06:37 AM
2

What... the idea that you might have to do some things just to exist alongside other human beings, whether or not you get your pee pee touched? If that causes you to snap you are fucking fragile.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 06:35 AM
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You're acting like I take out a gun and shoot them in the dick. Naw dude, I just behave very pointedly disapproving and scornful. Wandering round the street approaching women is going to get you some pretty bad reactions. A lot of women are well over it. However... if you've got a life and do social stuff, there are many situations in which women tend to be more willing to listen a while. If you don't have a life and do social stuff... if wandering round the streets is all you got for meeting pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 09:10 PM
3

Well... at this point in my life i regard myself as out of that game totally, but yes I am polite and cheerful about socially appropriate approaches I get in those situations... and at times in my life when I actually was available I was available in those situations and more than once started relationships with men met in those situations. It is fairly normal for women to be totally over being approached by men in the street before they even get their first period. I mean not every woman is ove…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 09:01 PM
3

Quote and link to the part of my replies you are misunderstanding?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 05:53 PM
2

You were saying that you need to do those things to be successful, I was saying that not thinking you need to do those things where able to at times when they are usually called for (regardless of whether it gets you laid) makes you a crap human being. This is a much more essential criticism of not doing these things than "doing these things will get you laid and you want to get laid don't you" would be. I am, quite literally, saying I'd rather you NOT BREATHE AT ALL if you don't think having ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 05:50 PM
2

Where did I suggest that showering would get men laid? I didn't. I suggested that if they felt the only reason to shower was to get laid... then probably them being facilitated to lay down and rot as quickly as possible is the best outcome for all of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 05:41 PM
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You have problems with reading comprehension? You should be not smelling like something died under your armpits whether or not you will get your dick wet. I am not telling you to shower to get laid. I am telling you that either you shower or you can fuck right off out of the presence of normal self respecting humans, and die. because the only excuse for smelling that bad is death.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 05:34 PM
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You're just not understanding it are you? if you don't take a shower and be useful, we know you fucking hate yourself to much to live. And that's fine... find a nice place to lay down and rot while everyone else showers and goes to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 05:31 PM
1

Dude... you shower so you don't smell like a tramp. That's what it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 05:29 PM
2

What a hard effing life you must lead, where to make meaningful human contact with other humans that potentially leads to them knowing you and liking you well enough to become intimate and let you into their bodies you have to participate a bit in meaningful human activities that are not sex associated, and not just wander round the streets like a clockwork windup pecker. https://youtu.be/kDRGQKjagSg
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 04:22 PM
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"OMG if men don't have a clear prospect of getting laid from their efforts they will not do ANYTHING of worth!" Fine. Lay down and rot. I'm serious. We'll breed up the species from the dudes who respect themselves enough to regard smelling good, going to work and being interested in the world as worth it for their own sake. Maybe after the epidemic is over we can convert some of those purpose built coronavirus hospitals into facilities jor you to lay down and rot in thousands at a time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 02:55 PM
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I give curt dismissive answers, always have. Dudes started approaching me in the street when I was a pre-teen. I just want nothing to do with anyone who approaches me in the street. Street approaches are creepy and low-effort low-value approaches. Fuck off loser, go home and wank to pornhub, your sperm has negative value, may your family tree wither and die with you. I have always had some degree of involvement with my local community, various hobbies that involve meeting people, social involvem…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 01:34 PM
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> Betabux as a strategy doesn't exist anymore. Women no longer need men as providers. There's no ONE strategy that works. They all remain potentially useful though. Everyone likes their partner to provide something, to have money is still strategically and tactically a useful thing for both men and women. The days of being able to have one strategy are over, ended, done and gone. That was a feature of patriarchy... high value men made it so low value men only had to have one idea in their head t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 04:54 AM
2

OK... how much do you think the genuinely "average" guy is actually already doing at age 25 just to be and stay average? Here's a hint... life is a downhill slide and those who do nothing end up being fat greasy slimy neckbeards and other types of low value man. Average men, average women... are working reasonably hard already just to overcome entropy and keep up with normal developmental milestones and standards. I mean sure they can work harder. What other part of your life are you willing to …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 03:14 PM
0

The average age gap in marriages is two to three years. And that's probably what the average man can expect in dating, unless he drops standards on things like not dating the BPD crazies,not dating meth addicts and not "helping" the process with large applications of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 02:35 PM
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The light switch is when you work out the bad stuff that happens and has kept you miserable has been a cycle that you have been trying to break out of to get to a more positive dynamic that lets you both be your best, and the other person has been actively, covertly, and systematically trying to enforce for their own purposes even though he/she knows you're miserable within that cycle. At which point you become aware that your partner IS a stranger to you. You never knew this majorly important t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 06:25 AM
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We're actively turned off by habitually lazy useless slobs. If you've managed to become an habitually lazy useless slob, the shortest distance to not being an habitually useless lazy slob is get up and help cook/clean... on account of we've usually organised all the stuff needed to do those chores and you see us doing those chores so all that is needed is for you to get up and get with the work that is already happening. But you know what? A great many women would probably be equally happy if yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 05:36 AM
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> Q4RP - ELI5, what needs to happen for Red Pill Theory to be more accepted in society? Well if would certainly help your credibility if you were higher value men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 03:09 PM
1

I'm not into dating right now. If I was into it... well I'm old enough that his kids would possibly be grownups and that would be OK I too have adult kids. I'm not all about raising kids I didn't even birth. Kids are a whole lot of work and to put it in the most blunt of ways, the world believes that runt work is cunt work, the pressure to be fully their mother and do all the work, take all the worry, and be always the one to give up what they wanted in favor of the babies would be immense. I'm …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 12:47 PM
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> I'm curious to see how women view morality. We're not a monolith, we see morality very differently to each other, just like men do. > Do you honestly have morals? I think sometimes it is mildly immoral to encourage shitty backhanded questions by answering them too fully.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 11:53 AM
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mostly out of my control. Until you make more of an effort to control the things you can control, you have no idea how much of it was really out of your control.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 01:06 AM
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> a woman who was attracted to me until she thought that I had made a negative comment about her appearance > I had planned a date that she was looking forward to on top of actually making the effort to talk to me. You negged her right after she'd shown interest... what the fuck do you expect her to do say "Oh yes that's fine... I've shown interest and you're willing to have something with me but now you're immediately pulling me down, obviously you only want this relationship if you can make su…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 12:22 AM
2

Stay off the benzos.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 12:01 AM
1

Women as a collective disproportionately benefit from the welfare state, whilst men are both net contributors and the demographic least likely to benefit from welfare. Men are also the ones most likely to require the attention of the systems of enforcement and compliance. And largely the attention they need is to stop them victimizing each other to the point that none of the systems work any more at all. That's their burden on us all. That is the defectiveness of the Y chromosome.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 10:08 PM
8

I've paid tax as the female higher earner of a couple... and I didn't mind my taxes going to single mothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 02:46 PM
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Nobody is forcing you to marry single mothers. And women's taxes pay for stuff too. > My question is do you think these men, that didn't get to breed, will cooperate or will they instead act selfishly out of spite? If they want money for porn, games, hookers, blow, beer, dabs and junk food they will work their shitty jobs. How is this even an issue... do you know how capitalist societies work? You get to fall to the level you're willing and able to halt the descent at and it is regarded as a fea…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 02:18 PM
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> Women who regularly use make-up to conceal/enhance their natural facial features do not have the right to reject a man because of his physical attractiveness. You don't even have the right to expect to be given a reason when you are rejected, so get over it. "because I say so" is all the reason anyone needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 05:54 AM
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I think if a guy struggles with getting laid but not with finding really good employment and setting aside savings, he will tend to favor the conservative viewpoint. Make life harder for those women so one of them will feign attraction, settle and never dare say a thing about how fucked up her whole situation is and how she wishes him dead and spits in his beer every time she has a cold or flu. If he struggles with getting laid and with finding good employment, most times he's going to favor the…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 01:59 AM
13

I get enough sleep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 08:50 AM
5

IKR? four different items each of which take a degree of care to get right. Dunno what is on the rest of the plate but if the sample is typical then that's an A+ meal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 08:44 AM
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Dude, cut your 15 year old self loose, defending him is not worth giving up most of your choices for your future before you've even really considered those choices. He's crap and you know it. You don't have to go on to choose any one particular choice that opens up to you, I'm not pushing sexually experienced women on you if you'd rather not, but ffs, you have no strategic mobility in any sense... not as a single man looking for casual sex, not as a single man looking for a partner, not as a par…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/20 04:17 AM
0

Women just straight up have a huge advantage in dating, sex, and love. Men have advantages in other areas of life, although those are generally diminished in the modern world. The modern world has also advantaged men in a similar way, that of the underpinning of the situation being an ability to just say no and wander off and do their own thing. It is very easy now for a woman who starts from a decently advantaged family background to earn a minimum to average wage and moderately easy for her to…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/20 03:01 AM
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I care enough to answer a question on PPD... which isn't a whole lotta caring as caring goes. Why do I care that much? PPD is a diverting time-suck of moderate amusement value.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 06:00 PM
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What is usually the case... for me and for most people... is that there's a bunch of different dynamics of comfort, a feeling of safety, being so accustomed that certain things are just normal, and rebellion against things you've learned are wrong involved? So you might be on one level seeking something very different and on another level be a sucker for some things that are just the same. Also some upbringings seem to develop blind spots and/or spots of what you might call hyper-awareness in pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 05:03 PM
1

Sometimes I think for those guys it is almost like a warped version of Shrodingers cat? So long as they don't marry they feel the cat is still in the box and nobody really knows what shape it is in... the cat being what their commitment can actually get them. Which is really... odd... since in general the rest of us can see straight into the box almost like it has glass sides and know pretty well how much the guy's commitment can get him... we just politely ignore it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 04:40 PM
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There's only so much time available and the girls those guys target the most always have better things to do... indeed they are usually targeted BECAUSE they have better things to do and are routinely doing those better things thus leading to them being in better shape, having more interesting social lives, and just in general having better social skills. The unwanted attention from worthless men trying to open dialogues is sort of like a punishment the world puts upon successfully feminine wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 04:33 PM
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As well as anyone ever does.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 04:19 PM
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=] While that is true, it is not the whole truth. Fair? It is certainly enough of a truth that it makes taking time with someone like that a very bad use of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 04:14 PM
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if you mention the unfair balance of the relationship they'll just deny it and paint you as the needy and unstable one. And they are willing to do ten times as much work to "win" that conflict than it would take them to to just do better. It's insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 04:04 PM
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Maybe older higher value men can help these younger lower value dudes... women don't want to because of the whole business about how they are persistently trying to wet their worthless dicks and inevitably end up being mean and horrible when persistently thwarted. Oh and also there's the thing that worthless as a sexual partner also tends to involve being worthless as a friend too. These guys clearly need the help of other dudes until they at least get to the point where they can have a female f…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 04:02 PM
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Do I know what sorts of erotica to search for and what dynamics that erotica is evoking in me and how? Hell yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 03:50 PM
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Could you have helped them out with some of the qualities that they seemed to lack? If someone lacks it all, they ain't fixable through anyone's effort other than their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 03:46 PM
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Guys who are still defending the overblown egos of their worthless 15 year old selves aren't worth seeking commitment from.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 03:41 PM
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What do you mean "worthless"? Not fun, not easy on the eye, not useful, not rich, not kind and understanding, no status, not even willing to put in effort. Just fucking worthless. WORTHLESS. And what reward is there for males to "take responsibility"? Dude, I'm not trying to convince you to. I'm just fine with the way your reluctance to take responsibility for how you fucked yourself over in the past continues to fuck you over in your ability to choose to make the most of current opportunities. …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 03:33 PM
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Cos guys don't want to admit and take responsibility for how worthless they were in their teens and early twenties. Simple as that. They want it to be someone else's problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 03:20 PM
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Depends what you mean by the word "need". Do I need there to be dudes to do certain jobs dudes are more useful for? Well sure. I use plumbers and other tradespeople who are mostly dudes, I'm protected by police who are mostly dudes, ambulance drivers are mostly dudes etc. And those dudes get paid. Their wages mean the balance of what I need and what they need is in equilibrium. I need them. But once I've paid the invoice, the ambulance subscription or in the case of police... taxes ... I owe not…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 02:38 PM
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Really? I thought those of us that had personally given up but had a few insights to share to those who had not were welcome too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 01:01 PM
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I've raised my kids and I'm 50 years old now and I really can't be bothered with intimate relationships with men any more. They are, for the most part, lower value than women and such a lot of work and trouble, and what's worse, they don't recognise and acknowledge how much work and trouble they are... and they always seem to be looking to be more work and trouble while giving less in return. They will literally wear you into the ground while looking the other way every time you sicken from it. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 12:57 PM
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Peterson gets to have a career in the public eye because Gore Vidal isn't around anymore to give jumped up little jerks like him a good dragging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 07:04 AM
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I hope he finds a woman who lacks the standard "don't poop on his balls while riding him unless you've discussed it first."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 03:22 AM
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> They cannot or They wont What is this THEY shit? You're here, you're posting, you're part of the "they"... if you want to challenge something go right ahead, formulate a post that is within the rules and go right ahead and challenge. > Its on the sidebar, its one of the main subs opposing rp, yet I dont understand why nobody has made a thread on it in the past year. Maybe you'd like to explain to the rest of us why you haven't if it matters so much to you? > This must not go on any longer. Wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/20 12:23 PM
3

I think it generally goes best if people with similar levels of sexual experience marry each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 01:32 PM
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> So I'm sincerely asking the women here: Please spell out exactly where, when, and how are men supposed to get the clear message of what to do in Western society to get what they want? No. I don't think it is in the interests of humanity to give you this assistance.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 01:30 PM
1

Whatever dude, if you're happier with guys you're happier with guys, have fun with guys. Why would you resent women if dudes do it for you just as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 11:12 AM
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I'm also fairly sure that to be properly healthy men have to carry more muscle than women do. I don't think there's been a lot of research into how much muscle is the minimum to be healthy because fat is the issue of the era, but my instincts say every % body fat that it is OK for women to be fatter than men due to the woman's body staying prepared for pregnancy is one that needs to be replaced in men by muscle. Skinny fat on men is a worse thing than skinny fat on women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 01:42 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l2FRcYG1U0s another low effort link for you
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/20 08:59 AM
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What a way to draw attention to one's lack of physical attractiveness AND one's social ineptitude at the same time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 10:11 PM
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> drives drunk habitually, He'll put someone in hospital and there's not enough ICU beds right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 12:45 PM
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There was this guy I worked with who had a very pointy nose and the tip of it sort of... wiggled... up and down as he talked. It was bizarre. Soooo wrong. *shudder*
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/20 10:39 AM
1

I knew someone who in 1996 thought he was sitting pretty with a woman twelve years younger than him. Turns out in 2010 all he wanted to do at age 50 was get their kids through the last of their schooling and prepare for retirement... and she wanted to get their kids through their schooling and spend a few years having fun. She cashed out the relationship so she could do what she wanted. So instead of the younger wife with good job to handle the living costs, and tonnes of assets and a quiet life…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/20 07:17 PM
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A lot of us keep telling dudes to improve their social circles and treat OLD as light entertainment, not the main game. They don't tend to listen though. They so want what Tinder promises.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/20 01:17 AM
1

Would rather marry a healthy weight plane Jane, even one with an objectively ugly face or disability, every day and twice on Sunday over a well coiffed fat woman. Show me a picture of a healthy weight plane (plain??) Jane. I wanna know what you are talking about. Go over to one of the largely SFW rating communities and bring me back a link to a face and upper body shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/20 01:01 AM
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> Women who reject intimacy, authenticity and depth are simply not entitled to honesty, fidelity, or even respect. So what you're saying is that upon request and to your timeframe we need to become the little wifey, always supportive, willing to deep dive into the mess that is you, willing to hear any of your worst and dumbest truths about yourself and still stick round and be supportive of that, and if we don't we should be treated in dishonest and exploitative manners. Nope. Dating is a delica…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/20 10:22 PM
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https://www.sbs.com.au/news/i-went-on-a-date-and-got-coronavirus-this-is-what-i-learnt?fbclid=IwAR0Z6txfyE9fNmVJ1NpT-JyGAaMqi7xpNEEeBtSx5uDQ9xaIEUhXMjPiVhU ​ leaving this here because here is for low effort posting, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/20 09:19 AM
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There's this dynamic in play. The ones that can do something... go do something about themselves then they've got their's. The ones that can't? 90% of them settle into a life of porn, gaming, fast food and beer or pot. The other 10% do all those things but also whine. A handful attempt to shoot the place up and end up dead or locked up forever. > People aren't side characters that can just disappear into the background regardless of circumstances. That is exactly what the majority of most people…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/20 06:19 AM
1

A cautionary tale about being ready to accept that as an artist what people like best from you may not be the thing about you that you think is most worthy. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OoAgW3U9XRE
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/20 01:27 AM
1

Do you think doing this under these circumstances makes you more of a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/20 01:03 AM
3

People just grow into larger people emotionally than the grief of their losses. It is how every loss resulting in grief (not just losses in relationships) has to resolve if it is to resolve healthily. I'm not saying getting a glow-up can't help, obviously making an improvement on some level can have a powerful effect of re-establishing a positive mindset and identify less with your sense of loss... but really any sort of improvement or positive turn in your life can be helpful that way. A new an…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/20 07:49 PM
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I would wait for him to get settled in and use to life, If I was going to leave the relationship I'd want to do it while he is still in hospital being rehabbed. All those things like hospitals, rehab centres, social workers, housing and support services etc they kind of look at the supports a person has in place outside in working out what they really need to get done with a patient before releasing them from the ward to be just someone who gets brought in for sessions. If I'm not going to be ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 07:29 PM
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Well they probably shouldn't talk about such things unless the setting is a very private one and they are just trying to as professionals help each other deal with it emotionally themselves. People's personal tragedies are not something they want turned into idle banter. As for the actions of the girlfriend... she's got no formal obligation to attempt to stick around if she's not even engaged. None of you knows all the details of her relationship with the patient. You don't know what their plans…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 02:23 PM
1

What I mean is there's people still taking very bad risks of viral exposure in seeking various forms of validation they are very reliant on. From still going to Tinder hookups to throwing big boozy birthday parties to doing dumbass stunts like licking toilets to get attention. Some of them are going to get sick, some of the ones who sicken will die. You can't completely control what forms of validation are just going to be taken away or made unsafe by circumstance. The only sensible strategy is …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/20 10:06 PM
1

Have you been hurt? Of course I have... pain is an integral part of human existence. Have you not been hurt? If you haven't... that's bizarre. No wonder you've got some strange ideas.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/20 09:22 PM
1

Not sure if it's always successful Nothing is always successful. It just has to be made successful enough. Put them in prison, preferably the same prison so the comparatively decent weed smokers and shoplifters and fine defaulters don't have to put up with their rapey tendencies. It's the only sensible response. Pandering to them, allowing even facilitating them to breed and make more like them is not necessary and does not solve the problem for future generations. It also means individual women…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/20 09:08 PM
1

Fortunately DNA testing and increased camera use and cell phone tracking and computational crime pattern analysis makes those rapey guys easier to catch now. There has even been huge rates of cold case clear-up recently as more police forces do material records review projects. We can put them in prison and they can rape each other to their hearts content, validating themselves over and over.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/20 07:50 PM
1

If you go too low you lose the validation aspect of casual sex, which is why men do it rather than go to hookers. Find other sources of validation. I mean I'm not saying you have to give up finding casual sex validating as man or seeking that validation... just you need a diversified portfolio to be happy and stable in life. There's people gonna die of the 'Rona because they had all their validation eggs in one basket and couldn't put it down quick enough and long enough to socially distance.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/20 07:41 PM
9

Women have perspectives about men that are not just starry eyed admiration. Almost like they are human too. What a shock to the system.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/20 07:27 PM
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"Don't bother him with his movements" What sort of idiot writes that and doesn't think of potty humor?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 10:42 AM
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> rarely do I see complaining of low-value women They whine about women being fat, they whine about women being old and having any sort of standards, they whine about women preferring their own company to that of the men they can attract. They threaten women that they will turn into cat ladies. They whine when "she turned me down and she was a 4/10 fat girl... how insulting!" They whine when women wear clothes that men do not read as feminine, they whine when women have N counts that do not appe…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/20 08:03 AM
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Well... I've decided not to have another relationship or date. But if I ever decided otherwise... I like other gen xers. They are on the same wavelength as me, similar worldview. That said yes some young men are hot... I mean you see some guy jogging without his shirt on and just think of licking the tanline where his shorts have ridden down half an inch. And I sometimes fantasize of course... but generally I'm just plonking an invented character with his looks down in a generic "me while much y…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/20 06:47 AM
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> as in they don't want to be treated sub human for being unattractive, rather just "you're fine but not for me". Well that's an unreasonable expectation. Bother a woman in the street and get given validation for having done so... like WTF?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/20 10:24 PM
2

I'm glad you don't have to hand out Watchtowers any more.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/20 10:13 PM
2

A man relying only on beta strategies has bargaining power if he partners below his attractiveness level. A man relying only on beta strategies also has bargaining power if the future that his money is buying her is one in which he has made himself irreplaceable. The problem is some less attractive dudes are a) intent on turning every shred of their provisioning value into the girl being as much prettier than them as possible and also b) too damn lazy and too contemptuous of their woman and the …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 11:49 PM
3

Yup. That's pretty much how it goes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 10:45 PM
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I don't bring anything. Not even my looks. Because I'm not looking right now. Right now all of me... is for me. There's quite a few women like me in the world. That we have stepped back from the market is one of the reasons there's so much male thirst and competition. I guess the stuff I like about me most right now is I've got a bunch of interests I'm following... writing, sewing, art, decorating, indoor plants, fantasy and science fiction, various things I'm enjoying reading up on such as myth…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 10:41 PM
1

So which question do you require more about?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 10:24 PM
1

Female. There's only so much of that I'm willing to tolerate.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 09:45 PM
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Generally the subreddit here tends to ban people who indulge in specific behaviors or topics. If you're really being driven nuts by someone... start reporting their comments and discussing with the mods exactly what you think is wrong with those comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 09:31 PM
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Amazingly enough you can find all of a poster's comments in one place... we have the technology.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 09:21 PM
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She said that she thought he was a bit flighty or unserious, which is fine. But the dude she selected is even more shallow than guy A, and certainly not serious at all. the difference is that guy B is "reliable" and easily controlled. B Nobody, male or female, with a lick of sense wants a flighty, unreliable lawyer who won't listen to them as their life partner. I mean seriously. The blue collar guy seems like he's both got more self control AND is more willing to listen to sense from another pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 09:20 PM
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> What do you bring to a relationship besides looks? I don't. I'm not participating in the market. Back when I did... in my first relationship I think I was most valued for being willing to overlook his dorkiness and in my second I was most valued for being able to generate a number of different alternate viewpoints on any topic. > The Internet is full of articles with women’s 436 point checklists of what a man needs to have in order to date them. This is a good thing... yes? Some of those attri…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 06:51 PM
1

Pot and porn are a possibility for most 11 year olds nowadays. I've been a step father twice Pffft.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 05:41 PM
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I never said that a lot of 11 year olds got tattoos, you're strawmanning. Stop putting words in my mouth. You however did say that 11 year olds can't get tattoos because they need permission first... which is patently wrong. All they need is the knowledge of how to (which even a short period of unsupervised access to youtube can give them and was passed on verbally in the days before youtube) a pokey object, a source of ink and the willingness to do what it takes. You should thank me for alertin…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 02:31 PM
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At 11 you can't get tattoos. ​ Lol. You absolutely can have a tattoo at 11. If you've got a needle like object and a source of ink, you can have a tattoo. Some inks are much better than others but people who don't have a lot of options but really want a tattoo tend to not give a shit and will crack open a ballpoint. 1983 I saw another kid do one on himself in class while the teacher's back was turned... with a ballpoint pen and a compass. And I grew up on the good side of town. https://www.youtu…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 02:11 PM
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Did you ask her why she turned him down or is this entire post the result of you preferring to fantasize rather than seek out the facts?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 04:00 AM
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You can't have such a state of things unless you can enforce it, to enforce it would require mind reading technology that can be used for all sorts of other things too... and the thought of a world in which there is the sort of technology that can be used to deny people even the privacy of their own minds is horrifying. Therefore I think such a society would be dreadful.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 03:45 AM
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It is just fun. You know... fun? I've never been big on hair colours because they take a lot of upkeep but I'll happily paint my toenails all sorts of odd shades just for my own pleasure to look at while walking around at home. You got something against fun?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/20 12:50 AM
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C = rate of shitty men (C is for crap) D = divorce rate K = rate of male inceldom (K is for Kissless) C equals K plus half D
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/20 03:01 AM
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I'm a woman. I'd be fine with there being a male contraceptive pill so long as it is broadly speaking safe... I mean obviously it doesn't have to be perfectly safe the women's contraceptive pill isn't either, but safe enough for doctors to feel they are doing no harm prescribing it. More contraception choices is an overall good thing. I think individual guys have to make their own minds up and I'd be willing to discuss my opinions on it for any one guy if asked but everyone has a different life …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/20 03:05 PM
1

Do they think abortions are any less scary? So many guys seem to want financial abortions so things are "fair" and "equal", can't see any of them saying that to be fair and equal between the sexes they would have a physical ordeal similar in unpleasantness to actual abortion added to the things they'd have to do to obtain a financial abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/20 12:05 PM
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> Who's the bad person here? her for going back on her word, or the guy for not stepping up to be a father? Everybody sucks except that poor baby once it is born. They both should have known better than to rely on themselves and each other in the exact way they did. Men are notoriously crapulent at being in charge of contraception she should have doubled up on it in some way so she wasn't made pregnant and at risk of hormones changing her thinking. And women are notorious for changing their mind…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/20 01:28 AM
4

Dude, you never do seem to read and respond to what people have actually written, I might as well be trying to hold a conversation with a wet towel discarded on a bathroom floor.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/20 01:16 AM
2

Pretty much no-one in this current generation outside the top 10% or so and a handful of off-grid types lives with an expectation of financial independence. Most just accept that they will always work except for some periods of unemployment or maybe a year off to have a baby shrug
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/20 12:30 AM
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More women than men are being affected by this. This is true of most recessions and yet feminism has made some pretty strong gains during recessions and periods of downturn. The early 1970s were financially chaotic and feminism was poppin'. You know what converts the most women to feminism? Finding out guys are crap. You know what one of the times you're most likely to find out guys are crap is? When you go to depend on guys and aren't just relying upon your own efforts and your fantasies about …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/20 10:33 PM
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Oh we're going into a recession alright. That doesn't necessarily mean we're going to end up on balance more conservative sexually. I've been through two recessions before. Both of them there was plenty of feminist action happening to take advantage of the open moments a crisis brings.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/20 10:19 PM
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You're misreading things here. I'm not really reading things at all. Too much is cloudy still to get a good read. If someone is trying to get a read... they are misreading. Drop the gender war bullshit for a second. Whatever dude. How about you drop your bullshit? There will be many lay-offs of part-time workers that will disproportionately negatively impact the financial health of women. Right now in Australia supermarkets are hiring. Warehouses are hiring. Things are on the move, there are lay…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/20 09:57 PM
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This. There's going to be a lot of "And it was only her job that saved us"
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/20 08:32 PM
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A lot of it may come down to who it kills and how many. And that's going to depend on many things including how fast science can start scoring goals. If you examine, for instance, Europe after the Black Death, the economic situation of many of the poorer survivors was greatly improved due to labor market changes. Will this happen? I don't know... a lot will come down to how many older employed people die. And yes we are less agricultural than then... but on the other hand we use capital in far m…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/20 07:09 PM
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What came after Spanish Flu? The roaring 20s, flappers and the jazz age. Not even Prohibition could slow it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/20 02:20 PM
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Yes and no? I mean women would find find them all attractive because that is by definition what Chad is, but that wouldn't make massive difference to the curve for outcomes for men seeking casual sex? Most women want LTRs and most women exercise the ability to stopper down on casual sex with guys who don't invest enough effort to demonstrate they aren't just playing the numbers. My gut feeling is if all men were attractive in that immediate sense, maybe casual sex would be 50% easier for the Cha…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/20 11:36 AM
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Well it makes sense. He doesn't respect himself and that's how he ends up without some of the building blocks of value, and then he doesn't respect you because what respectable women would want him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 10:34 AM
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Yup. If you already don't like someone you are going to find any reason to pick at them, find ways to interpret everything they did in the worst possible light. https://youtu.be/4bcCj8W6Ok8
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/20 08:59 AM
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I have been impressed with how brave the teenage girls who work the checkouts at local supermarkets are. I mean they are out there every day, thousands of contacts with people a day, touching tens of thousands of items other people have touched, sanitising surfaces over and over, informing people about purchase limits and enforcing those limits... and being utterly professional and community minded about it. And yes they are a lower risk demographic but some of them would have to be asthmatic or…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/20 08:54 AM
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My guess is most hookers are going to pick their medium term relationship to hunker down with from among their clients... who are proven to be willing to hand over money and have a similar need to cut their risks down. Overall the quality and quantity of hookers out there is, I think, going to go down. E-thots? Depends on the type of e-thotery... and a lot of them have partners already anyway they just don't tell their client base... I mean these girls that if I read you correctly you see saying…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/20 08:35 AM
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The sort of women who care to remain a virgin themselves tend to care about a man's count needing to be low or zero.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/20 08:05 AM
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Everyone who enters a LTR settles. Everyone. If you haven't personally examined every available option (which is mathematically impossible with billions of people in the world) and decide to cultivate your feelings and life with this particular one rather than a possible different one who may be out there, you have settled. People who LTR with people they have become crazy for are settling because crazy levels of infatuation is a temporary condition and there's billions of people and it is a sta…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/20 10:50 AM
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Dude, I've done as much work as i'm ever going to do to help you have a starting point understand this. Go do your own work if it matters to you. Shoo. I can knit half a sock in the time it takes to answer one of your low effort questions and then I've got half a sock... when I try to help you all I've got is a stranger online who still won't help himself. Mumma is busy, go read the encyclopedia.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/20 10:27 AM
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> How do we make up for You don't? Well I mean maybe you do in very small symbolic and meaningful part if you have some luck, and are deliberate, careful and motivated in how you live, emotionally accept small gains in lieu of large etc... but on the whole you're not going to be able to get yourself in the same position, emotionally, socially or materially, you would be in if you'd done large amounts of very different stuff 20 years ago. How do I, a woman at age 50 correct the fact I only had tw…
/r/askFDS22/03/20 10:13 AM
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Nah, we're about equal on the stuff we do for each other now as just friends and co-parenters of adult kids. Just it is all on a volunteer basis as and when we feel like, no obligations any more. So if I do some laundry or bring him a couple of containers of homemade pea and ham soup after I've bulk cooked he's grateful, and if he helps me get a bookshelf upstairs or texts me and asks "I'm going to go get takeaway from the yiros shop... want anything?" I'm grateful. And when for whatever reason …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 08:48 AM
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You should read at least one book that touches on the unhappiness women often find in traditional family roles. The Feminine Mystique--- covers dynamics around unhappiness of women in the 1950s and 1960s The Female Eunuch---- covers the way in which conforming to gendered roles in too extreme a manner effectively removes much of the ability to indulge in libidonous thought and behavior that is necessary for a woman to have a good time in sex The above two books are both rather more polemic than …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/20 01:48 AM
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Well... I've never been asked to define that before so my definition is unpolished and lengthy, more an essay than a simple definition.. Masculinity at any one time and cultural context is the bulk of men's widely shared beliefs about themselves at that time as men, and therefore what is socially appropriate behavior given that they are men. Masculinity operates bounded within the limits of things that are broadly possible in the "space" circumscribed by men's biology. This space mostly changes …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/20 07:52 PM
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A lot of different things. But none of it easy to explain in a few hundred words because they (quite rightfully) tend to examine human behaviors and values as part of their cultural context.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/20 03:54 PM
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Socio-cultural anthropology covers most of it, but other fields of anthropology, and archaeology and paleo-archaeology touch upon it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/20 03:39 PM
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We have academic disciplines devoted to working this shit out. A lot of their stuff is out there to be read.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/20 03:28 PM
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If we look at what was left of ancient tribal hunter gatherer civilization once we started actually documenting anthropology... the deal was usually that you became a man upon initiation, which occurred during puberty or early adolescence and often involved being isolated alone or with your age peers, an ordeal, being given secret men's knowledge, and maybe having your body modified in some way. That's what made you a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/20 02:47 PM
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I'm someone who left a guy in her late forties because the treadmill of looking after him was killing me and not actually helping him... the more I worked to look after him the less he wanted to assist by looking after himself a bit. And I can't be arsed trying it again. If i want a grand romance... I'll write one not try to convince some lump of a man to roleplay one to give me an occasional fix of delusion. Can't even be bothered looking for a HVM... I'll happily leave those for women who stil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 12:18 PM
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> Or another thing I've seen lately is that men are encouraged to care for children not their own. Of course if a man starts whining people are going to start suggesting specific efforts and compromises he could make. "Buy from the scratch and dint section" is a very relevant compromise. There's a solution to hearing these suggestions if you can't stand them... whine less. > Men get praised for "stepping up to the plate" and financially supporting another man's kids. Well it is a praiseworthy th…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/20 01:49 AM
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All I have is my ego, and if that's taken away from me like that I won't be able to handle it. Maybe do shrooms, see how it works out.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/20 01:14 PM
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You can only go so far discussing artificial enhancements a s a whole. Every artificial enhancement method is its own thing with its own advantages and disadvantages and its own degree of sense it makes. I know this when I contemplate doing them to myself... and I know this when I see men contemplate them. Some things are really great idea (omg if you have a mole with three big witchie-poo hairs growing out of it... deal with that shit) and some are just creepy terribad such as smile creation su…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/20 05:23 AM
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harming them in achieving their dreams. A lot of dreams are unrealistic, have a great deal of misery involved when you attempt them and fail and should probably stay just that... dreams.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/20 05:02 AM
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Why stop at height? Why not fully embrace eugenics and ensure your children have blond hair and blue eyes? You could create your own little mini-master race! ​ So long as the State isn't mandating it I'm fine. Religious based restriction make me a little twitchy but what the hell, gotta draw the line somewhere and I draw it at state intervention. Try to breed yourself some mini-master race if you wish.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 02:26 PM
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Nobody owes you anything - but you're a manchild if you don't follow the normie plan of life There are a great many available solitary paths to not being a manchild or even just avoiding looking like a manchild. Yes, women are, rather foolishly may I add, complicit in helping a lot of manchildren hide their nature from the world. This does not mean you are entitled to a woman's labor in that regard. You are a manchild if you are a manchild. Might wanna do something about that for your own sake.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 01:59 PM
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I'm a woman. Men, once they are in women's bodies, would be thoroughly disappointed by the subjective quality of the "readily available casual sex" that they expected. For starters, young women tend to have better colour vision and acute sense of smell. Most men smell bad especially once you get their clothes off and are dealing with smells their mother never nagged them to deal with because the smells were locked away a bit by clothes. Most men don't take care of their skin and f they are white…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 12:38 PM
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What do you mean by this? How did you come to that conclusion? Oh dude, everyone feels their mortality at 40. Women deal with it better. Am 50, so I know. blah blah blah Cosmo just fills column inches. One month it does one take on a thing, the next month another, truth isn't the issue for cosmo, entertainment is. Yes there will always be people at age 3, age 13, age 30 etc who are screaming that they can't get what they want... we've got 30 year old dudes wondering where their low n count bride…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 01:14 PM
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Like I said, a few guys manage to get together the value to cat about in their thirties but by the time those guys hit their forties, those guys are feeling their mortality. If you're willing to wait you can have it all... a guy AND the happiness with yourself not to actually need one.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 09:19 AM
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Now they want to have their cake and eat it too by having “fun” in their 20s, then expecting a guy they rejected or would have rejected when he was in his 20s, to commit to her when she’s done having her “fun”. His choice. There's millions more exactly like him if he says no. And if you're not deadset keen on having kids... at age 40 the guys who never married are usually starting to get a whiff of their own mortality and are pretty desperate to have anyone... sex not being the issue so much as …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 04:18 AM
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Because they don't give two shits about the downside risk to the women in doing that... which is that after giving up what could have been the most fun and interesting years of her life to be with him and help him build a solid stable life in which he can be a success, he'll ditch her or cheat on her because even if at 40 he can't get himself another 20 year old he sure can have one 38 year old after another... using all the worth she has helped him build in himself to do that. If TRPers think a…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 04:15 AM
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Even if this was true, I would assume it’s not like this when they invite girls over. https://www.reddit.com/r/NeckbeardNests/
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 12:58 PM
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> her place was incredibly messy and dirty (dirty clothes lying EVERYWHERE, from the main hall to the bathroom, her room and the kitchen - like who the fuck doesn’t even bother pilling dirty clothes in a basket or something?? From what I hear, a non-negligible number of guys are like this too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 11:26 AM
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> Even though the 5/10 would overcome the 7/10 in the future, If one takes the point of view that men only bother to work to get pussy, giving him pussy when he is 5/10 just makes sure he will stay a 5/10. It is totally counterproductive and you and him and the women he ends up with and the rest of the world are much better off with you going for the man who is currently a 7/10 but has no further potential to improve. I don't actually agree with this... much. Maybe a bit. Maybe more than a bit. …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 01:11 AM
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I think it is that they just don't put any value on a woman having her own life and experiences. They put so little value on it that they can't even see how it should be valuable to her. Not even when the woman is standing there in front of them explaining the particulars to them do they wish to see the value to her. On the other hand, they absolutely expect that all women who might no-matter-how-remotely possibly at any stage be involved with them should value their future feelings. So if they …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/20 09:31 AM
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Oh so it is one of those jobs where a lot of it is almost not looking like work... as in you can maybe take a couple of hours for lunch with a contact occasionally or spend an afternoon reading up on something obscure in the field... then suddenly 20 hours of nonstop work? There's lots of people willing to do those jobs, while they are single. And everyone, even most of the dudes, wants out of them once they've got kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/20 09:12 AM
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Would it be literally impossible for that industry to be structured in a slightly different way allowing more of the participants in it to either work more reasonable hours for less pay... or work the insane hours for insane pay while working but have options of greater slabs of unpaid holiday time? If that is possible, it is what might happen if fewer men wish to work like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/20 04:03 AM
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With that said, there sure do seem to be a lot more miserable single women, especially in their late 20s and 30s. I don't think there are, really, on average. I think previously a lot of the unhappiness was kept trapped within families with children, where there was always an incentive to hide it from the outside world and just keep going. I think both men and women are happier on average now... and those who are unhappy are in better position to talk about it and do something about it. Now, peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/20 03:40 AM
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The question you need to ask yourself is... What do you have to offer him ? (a high value man) A woman should not start from that question. She should start, very early in life, with the question "What do I offer myself, what value do I provide to myself, what are the personal structures and dynamics that support me offering this value to myself... sound body, having dealt with my issues arising from my background, personal savings, skills, education, presenting an appropriate public image, havi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/20 03:20 AM
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Wanda looked all around this town and all she found was Earl.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/20 11:34 AM
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I think if men mind melded with women on masse... most men wouldn't want to have sex with themselves either.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/20 09:45 AM
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That's one way they are preventing from gaming women. It means that to make progress with a woman they have to invest effort in understanding that particular woman in that particular situation... not just a set of immutable rules they apply to all women. Men being confused is more of an inevitable part of one of the useful features of the system than it is a bug. And besides who wants an easily confused dude anyway, really? He doesn't need a woman he needs a pack of kleenex... to cry and wank in…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/20 09:43 AM
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I'm not currently dating (not accepting offers to either) and I'm a bit of a homebody not a partying type but even I know many different events/places I could take someone to for an experience that includes drinks but is more than just drinks... open mic nights, jazz night, places that offer snacking type cuisines that are less usual around here, free classical music concerts put on by the town hall, art gallery special events, salsa nights, a wine bar that offers a stunning range of wines by th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 07:52 AM
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I'm fine, don't need one. But hey if they got cheap enough and could do the vacuuming too? Sure. I'd buy a bipedal roomba I could fuck occasionally too, if the price was right. Wouldn't want it to pretend to be a partner though, any more than I want Alexa or Siri to pretend to be a friend. Also if the robot reached a certain level of intelligence and self awareness I'd kinda start wanting to find a way to hand ownership of the robot to the robot because slavery is bad, and fucking people you own…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/20 06:44 AM
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You understand these things but the typical guy doesn't. The typical guy is really stupid then. Throw rocks at him... metaphorically speaking of course. His seed should be spilled on the ground and his line be lost to memory. Most of us can't even tell the difference if it's natural hair or a wig. And yet... if you're getting a car resprayed you have very detailed opinions on what gives the best finish. Lift your game. If her skin is that smooth or if it's makeup. Makeup alone has very little ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 01:11 PM
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Those pictures haven't just used makeup... in many cases they've had the lighting altered, the angle slightly altered and/or been been digitally altered too. Also you can tell in real life when someone is using contouring to alter things if you see them move and you're not just plain hopeless with perceiving shadows and 3d shapes. Spend time at https://www.reddit.com/r/Instagramreality/ to get a better idea of what proportion of what you just saw was digital. You'll see before and afters that ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 01:02 PM
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Society doesn't lie to men, y'all just blind apparently. A+
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 12:36 PM
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So wear cosmetics, give it a go? You can start by getting some concealer and learning how to cover a zit and cover signs of fatigue. Not doing these things is you not wanting to be attractive as much as women want to be attractive. And that's OK, it is your choice. Just you take the consequences of that.. People seek out mates who make the effort. Willingness to make the effort is part of attractiveness. Classic example of this is leg shaving. There's nothing biological stopping men going with w…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 11:28 AM
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To not look tired and unwell, so that they might not be denied general life opportunities or be shied away from in general. That's pretty much it for most times makeup gets applied. Not trying to win female friends or get a man or amuse themselves. Just trying to partially live up to the standard set by those women who most eagerly set a high standard by going after the other three reasons, so they look like they are safe to employ and won't give you a dread skin disease if they sit next to you …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 04:58 PM
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I think group approaches by fairly evenly matched teams of LVM will become a thing. They surround you so you can't escape and chant "Number! Number! Number!" at you. Then to get away you have to pick one to give your number to. Intimidating but the first several thousand times it is done in any city I doubt the police would care. Oh and they'll try to get us to have threesomes with their stupid sex dolls... and start taking their sex dolls to lesbian spaces.Then when sex dolls are banned from th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 03:11 PM
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I'll have the cat called Luna, he can keep the rest of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 02:51 PM
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Is a metaphor for "doesn't do anything so insane you can't ignore it"
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 05:09 AM
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LOL, men, these are their actual standards and most of them drop their standards not a girl you're too chickenshit to approach doesn't tell you to straight up fuck off let's you touch her there doesn't drive you too insane avoids killing your dog or fucking your brother
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 02:47 AM
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No. The less attractive ones, if they want an LTR(which most of them do because duh, ONS after ONS with guys who have not learned to forgive themselves for being with you is terribad) need to wait until guys are willing to settle for them... and the first in a long list of tests of that is if he doesn't approach he's nowhere near ready. The more attractive ones are still going to be swamped by approaches even if they make approaches themselves. Guys will always live in hope that they have found …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 02:41 AM
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I can live quite well without so much of a whiff of sex or sexual response to me. But if every person's attitude to me was unyieldingly unfriendly no matter what I did, I'd eventually want to die. And I don't even really count myself as someone who needs friends as such.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 02:34 AM
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Depends how it is all organised, really. I mean it isn't just the mortality rate with train surfing... it is also that it is being done in such a haphazard manner without the consequences to everyone else worked through.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 02:31 AM
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Terrifying to train drivers and passengers, use public resources needlessly when eventually the dice come up snake-eyes for them. Scum.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 02:05 AM
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Mostly it is just the same girls over and over... two minority populations engaged in a game of "gotta get them all" with each other. Dudes who are failed fuckbois and want to fuck those girls are sad cases too. The ones who want those girls to stop fucking fuckbois in the vain hope that this will turn those girls into something other than what they in essence are... are sad and really really stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 02:03 AM
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> Humans in general praise people who are able to to accomplish difficult tasks. A man who can get with multiple women is praised because of the level of difficulty the man faces in the pursuit. People who trainsurf are scum, and so are fuckbois.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/20 04:23 PM
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female, fifty and whatever damn opinions I feel like at the time Sometimes it can be a waste of time and sometimes it isn't? And life isn't just about enjoyment. I mean there's plenty of people who have had very functional short or medium term relationships that ended sadly but without anger. A lot of young people have relationships knowing neither of them has a real job yet, and getting a real job may take one of them away to situations the other really can't follow. It's a bit unreasonable to …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/20 05:43 AM
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> I’ve been out at college classes, parties, and so forth I’ve sometimes had women who I’m not attracted to approach me, OK... you guys who say women never approach... and get so vicious with women over it when any women say "well yeah we do sometimes"... now's your time to attack another man over that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/20 02:35 AM
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I did. Then I divorced him.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 03:25 PM
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Not sure there is a perfect one for what I think you mean... but in English as used where I'm from, "pariah" or "outcast" would be closer than loner.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 01:37 PM
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Men are such strange creatures... always whining about how unjust it is that women want their men to be more accomplished than them at everything... then they lose their shit when a woman turns out to be more sexually experienced than them
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 01:29 PM
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No I'm talking about actual loners who no one wants to be around. That's not the usual use of the word.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 01:07 PM
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Oh I though you were talking about loners... not about 'cels? Loners are people who desire the alone life in its own right... as in they'd chose it even if given their pick of all possible partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 12:40 PM
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I think girls find broke guys appealing in West. Nah, it is more that if you're broke and he's broke it is an equal relationship, but if you're broke and he's got money then it is inevitable, men being what they are, that he'll try to call the shots so therefore you need to be compensated for that shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 11:20 AM
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Date uglier girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 07:09 AM
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While men are always the loners and social rejects (you never come across a female who is a loner). Why do you think that is? There are lots of female loners. They deliberately seek to avoid their situation being noticed. Women alone are treated as prey by some men. If you are a woman who is a loner you will probably spend many years living in an apartment block because it is affordable and you can save for a bit of financial security, a better house, nice experiences and/or retirement. You don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 05:18 AM
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Loaded statement. When did I say any such thing about myself? I knew it about you because just about everything you've said seems to track back to that... you are failing to be happy with your life and desperately looking to assign blame rather than learn to work with what you've got. casually walk through it, achieving very little along the way. Most people, male or female, achieve very little other than an ordinary life. That's OK. Ordinary goals, ordinary jobs, ordinary pleasures are just fin…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 04:55 AM
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> Is men seeking validation via sex hard-wired or learned in each generation? Some from column A, some from column B? I mean do humans exercise because they have to due to hard wiring or because they learn to? A bit of both... the drive to move is innate, the baby reaches for the interesting thing, levers itself onto its elbows to look around, drags itself across the carpet to get to a parent, stands up and bobs to music, but a lot of the complexity of how we do it as adults and the choices arou…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 04:21 AM
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Dude... I'm not the one failing to learn to live in peace with what I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 04:09 AM
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Who are you to speak for men? You’re not qualified. Who are men to request my empathy and sympathy for "needs" that they clearly treat like wants? I mean seriously... I need a better computer because I need to Play Sims 4 and I am low and sad and in the doldrums because of that. Oh wait. I don't need a better computer or Sims 4, I know that because I'm not selling all my stuff to get them, I just want them, could have had them if over the past year I spent less on making my own house look good (…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 03:58 AM
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And the low value dude likely wasted most of his opportunities for belonging when he spent great swathes of his teen years playing computer games and wanking to porn rather than getting out there and getting on with being socially adept and getting what he needed to make it in the market anyway despite his flaws. They've both screwed up and are facing consequences. Either they find ways to have enough value to each other to be a comfort to each other or they don't. Either they find ways to trans…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 03:37 AM
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What though? Fireworks displays and other public spectacles, community centres with their community centre type activities, providing small amounts of funding to make various occupational and hobby organisations more able to organise events, public exercise equipment and running paths, etc. There's nothing wrong with niche groups. But when they are niche you want a lot of them, in both number and variety. I've always sort of dreamed of holding a pagan midsummer night every year in my city's cent…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 06:04 PM
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doesnt exist. I see 'em walking down the street with their girls. There's average dudes who are doing just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 04:24 PM
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> Let's say you're now the head of decision-making (at a state/government level or whatever)... What decisions do you make based on whatever you've discussed here on PPD? I'd provide more opportunities for people to get out and socialise with each other cheaply... I'd provide more support for people to get and stay healthy and attractive even if they are poor... I'd aim for a less stratified, more socially mobile, less judgmental society where-ever possible to open out people's options more. I m…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 04:20 PM
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So an average young fit man has to settle for an old fat single mom. If he's not managing to get it together to be one of the average men who actually get laid and have choices yeah sure a fat/ugly/old/child-burdened woman is an option. Just like when the average man is unemployed, claiming benefits and eating ramen and frozen veg is an option. I mean seriously if you think these things are NEEDS and tell us they aren't just WANTS then you need to back it up by behaving like they are needs and n…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 03:41 PM
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No she wont. She would only see me as a walking ATM to fix her failed life CHOICES. Being fat and a single mom is a CHOICE, having and ugly face is not. She needs belonging too, as do her kids she's not going to let someone in her family life unless she believes there is some potential for mutual affection and belonging. She's not prime rib steak for sure, she's a plate of ramen with frozen veg and a pat of cheap margarine.. but if you say you're genuinely starving... High value people were born…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 02:56 PM
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Was your attitude much different before you encountered this level of poverty... and if so was the shift in mindset a hard one?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 02:43 PM
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You know what? Love and belonging are indeed important. A fat ugly single mother with four kids by different fathers will love you enough and give you enough belonging. There's other options too, for example porn for sexual release, friends and a dog for love and belonging. You'll have enough to get by. Just like poor people in western democracies mostly have enough to survive but not enough to feel like they have enough. If you're on a beans, ramen, frozen chopped veg and rice budget you eat be…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 02:36 PM
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Women have things they have to deal with, other difficult tensions and complex situations that challenge their ability to become a fully realized adult ticking all the developmental boxes that lead to a secure and fulfilling life. There's nothing particularly special about men in this regard even if certain problems are more common for men than for women and vice versa. No matter the individual details it boils down to the same dynamic of discovering the key challenges of adulthood to be complex…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 12:18 PM
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IDK, they've got other issues, their circumstances are different... I don't think the essence of being a young person changes much generation to generation. Plus y'know... when you're young and you see someone who is being a bit of an asshole because they are young and having trouble adjusting to the complex and thankless nature of life as an adult you think "well look at that asshole he's an asshole" and when you're older and you see someone being a bit of an asshole you think "well look at tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 10:44 AM
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You do realize you basically described millennials right? I described most of every generation ever. Just about everyone has an issue with some aspect of being an adult. There was plenty of it going on in Gen X too and from what I saw of my siblings and their friends, the Boomers weren't immune to it either. It is just being human.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 10:05 AM
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I give less than 0 fucks about random men who can't get their dicks wet. Yeah it is kind of like being asked to feel sorry for a physically able, mentally healthy, employed, adequately housed single person who lives in a messy house but hates it. I mean yeah that's a thing it can be hard if you lack the habits and mindset, you got a serious ongoing problem there if it isn't working out... gonna have to work that out before you are elderly or you'll be tripping over your shit on the regular and b…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 02:26 AM
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There's quite a few women at this point, even more so than men, who have elected to be out of both the RMP and SMP altogether because they want LTRs and the guys they have available to them for LTRs are negative value or zero value men. If all men became like the current top 20%, those women would re-enter the dating part of the combined sexual/relationship marketplace. There would inevitably be more pairings, both casual and committed and all things between. > If one believes in my OP they beli…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 02:10 AM
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What, some theoretical average dude? Not a lot of sympathy except fleetingly when he's going through the occasional individual personal crisis. I mean the average dude in my country is younger, healthier, and richer than me. He grew up with better healthcare and more cool toys and more opportunities... Gen X women of my background had a hard fucking time of it where I'm from and live with the legacy of that hard time. Why should I feel some generalized sense of sadness for him other than the nor…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 01:35 AM
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Those aspie guys, if they rein in any sense of entitlement and put some effort into being socially acceptable, can usually find someone in the same class as them just she's not pretty and she's not a successful member of the FSM and she's a bit spergily odd in her own right. Oddly enough, those guys have more difficulty picking up such a girl from the lower classes than from their own class. I think odd girls don't like switching class much because it means dropping what little social competency…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/20 12:48 AM
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Keep talking dude, you make it worse for yourself every time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 11:26 PM
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Well... I've never ghosted in my personal life (have done when say, looking to maybe buy or sell something... just stopped talking to that real estate agent or car yard and not answered their calls. I've ghosted a dentist who was crap, and a veterinary whose manner I really disliked... still get postcards on that one plaintively asking me to bring the cat in for shots, lol)... but if I was to do it these would be the factors that could be part of sending me down that path. If I believed I clearl…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 11:23 PM
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Dude. Nobody lied to them in any way worthy of the term. They need to get the fuck over blaming others and learn to live a normal life responsible for themselves. Everyone else is out there having fun and making progress, those guys are their own worst enemy. And the more they talk about how aggrieved and victimized they feel, the less anyone believes them. Literally every word out of their mouth makes their excuses less credible.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 10:54 PM
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What do "idiot sons" look like? Doctors? Lawyers? Successful engineers? They can do on occasion in some societies... if those opportunities have managed to be accessed mainly through the workings of privilege and the appearance of competence is continually being propped up by the expenditure of capital. This is one of the reasons why merit protection measures and measures to forcibly hold the doors to education open for all who can perform adequately on fair tests are so damn important in societ…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 10:41 PM
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No. Wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 10:21 PM
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> Women wanted good men. No lie detected. The majority of women want good men just as the majority of men want good women. However there's about a dozen different dynamics that contribute to people who aren't good getting some action anyway. > You’re rewarded and appreciated for your virtues. People often get rewarded and appreciated for their virtues. But surely it doesn't take a genius to look at the world and see that how you package your virtues is pretty important for getting appreciated an…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 03:09 PM
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>This was the most narcissistic comment I have seen all year. Dude, you're full of shit. The media is full of Trump's comments on a daily basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 02:43 PM
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Men's intellectual dishonesty. I really had no idea how many of y'all were willing to engage in sophistry until the bitter end even in totally anonymous settings where fucking up, looking stupid and then having to backtrack doesn't make half a shit of difference to your real lives. They even go to the extremes of having an argument, clearly losing it not just to forceful rhetoric but to clear cut evidence and/or undeniable logic, then wandering off and coming back a few days later with a differe…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 08:05 AM
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Its pretty rare that an UMC man will settle with a fast food cashier cause she is hot enough. This. Such pairings tend to involve the man being an "idiot son" not going to amount to anything and not given the bulk of the fortune, and the the girl being a social climber who will move on to better if she gets the chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 04:25 AM
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Below a certain point that is going to start getting increasingly harder? I mean not impossible of course but think about it... maybe overcrowded accommodations and sharing a room, the streets aren't safe to jog on, can't afford the gym and even if you could getting to it is a problem because can't afford a car, can't afford any supplements or protein powder or any of that stuff, probably working shifts and living in a noisy block so regular sleep might be an issue. I mean I'm not saying it isn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 04:21 AM
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And he's the one who proves to the others why they shouldn't do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/20 04:22 AM
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Secretaries are in general being drawn from at most one class level below. She's got to be well spoken enough and have the cultural knowledge to fit the role, over and over, varied situations, on a daily basis. It is rare indeed to find someone who grew up in a slum with both their parents and their grandparents also from the slum being the secretary of a powerful man.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/20 04:20 AM
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A lot of the girls seek money more than just male attention. If you get to the point where you just want him to cooperate to organise a new lease with landlord so you can go immediately, and he's balking, then paying one of them to give him an unrealistic idea about his prospects may not be out of the question... $100, half on agreeing to the deal and half on you actually moving out ahead of time sounds about right since she wouldn't have to actually do anything but chat encouragingly. Just gott…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 10:49 PM
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High value men don't insist on asking early and upfront because at all points they have more options than low value men. They can choose only women who have good general reputations. They can choose women who are high enough value as short term partners that if they later find out she's done porn and taking her on longterm is too much, the whole exercise has been an enjoyable interlude and not been a waste of time. They have longer timeframes in which to find a marriage partner than low value me…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/20 08:15 PM
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Many people, male or female, have some elements of rough sexual interaction they enjoy performing and some intense elements of rough sexual interaction they enjoy performed on them. Straight women on average enjoy these elements performed on them more than straight men do... but let's not kid ourselves, no group enjoys rough play quite like gay dudes seem to. I tend to think there's a pretty strong correlation between being willing to regularly participate in highly casual sex as a receptive par…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/20 01:30 AM
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Exactly what I said... I read the post and the "voice" that comes through has had two too many whiskeys in the past hour.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 02:29 PM
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Why do I read his post and wonder if he's been drinking?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 12:43 PM
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Whatever, the guys you know are the guys you've gravitated towards. Look if you think it is that way... and it coincides with your experiences and thinking it is that way makes you feel good... go right ahead. I don't think it is that way. I think otherwise. Based upon what I see of the world, I think less than 5% of men (possibly less than 2%... but definitely less than 5%) end up as at any point as highly in demand single 30 to 40 year olds. Most 30 to 40 year old men are in relationships, mos…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 12:38 PM
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Hahaha. Implying that if you aren't married by then you are a failure. Nope. Just that the good ones get picked... Considering how many marriages end in divorce and the good ones have a tendency to actually stay married too.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 10:48 AM
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And most men with their shit together at that age are married.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 08:54 AM
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The realization in men at that age they have become the prize is real Some men. Not all men. A lot of single men, actually the majority, have the start of looking painfully unwell and beaten down by age 35, and it is clear they have very little future career advancement potential. The job as a car yard manager or team leader at the tax office or walmart greeter or whatever it is... that's it, all it will ever be for them. They don't even have convincing tall tales about their potential anymore. …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 08:14 AM
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and in a relevant number of cases Relevant to whom and how? I mean there's a lot of different possible dynamics happening at that age for both men and women. There's femcels dropping out totally to keep cats. There's guys back on the market again and eager for a new wife after divorce. There's LVMs desperate for their last chance. There's guys who have been catting it up and realize they have to marry soon or the fertile age of women they can attract will have passed and there will be no family …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 07:16 AM
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Well he'll probably be paying someone protection money, and rather a lot of it. The thing that makes me most thrilled about all this (other than of course, that there's a bunch of women who are safer) is he won't even have the freedom to consume media at will. Even if he gets to having a TV in his room... there's restrictions. And he's no more important than anyone else when there's a shared TV. He's gonna feel it... falling behind week after week. People he knew making films and he hasn't seen …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 07:07 AM
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Awww man what is all this "men do this women do that" shite? Obviously, everyone has a different life course and at age 30 to 40 you're looking at men not being a cohesive population full of identical individuals with identical experiences and goals. Yes there will be some men realizing at age 30 they can probably afford a few years kicking back and just dating around. There will also be men realising that they have to marry right now or their chances of attracting a decent fertile age woman are…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 06:51 AM
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You're acting like the wearing of make-up is something you do and it stays done for months, like that pixie cut. Ain't so. You're always five minutes, a few supplies and a mirror away from changing it up. And there are whole swathes of a woman's day in which having men attracted to her isn't even a thing she wants and in which if she had her druthers with hair as easy as she does with makeup, she'd wear that pixie cut happily instead of for example the ponytail she now wears while jogging or gar…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 10:46 PM
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His woman is not in his life to make life his easier... they are there together to get more accomplished. If he doesn't have this attitude, he's trash. If he's all the time having arguments the whole point of which is to make sure someone else is so tired of arguing she does the work while he plays and has fun, he's trash. If he doesn't give two shits whether she thinks she's getting stuff done and being productive, so long as his desires are met by her, he's trash. Just consistently don't be tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 09:08 AM
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> Women are far more shallow about far more idiosyncratic things than men are. What a load of crap. Take one look at the picky low value men over on https://www.reddit.com/r/truerateme/ and the dumbass shit they rate women down over.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 11:14 PM
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Add too short, thinning hair, various ethnicities, bad skin, crooked teeth, the wrong shoes, weak chin and too skinny to that list of reasons women will deem a man undateable and you’ll be getting closer. You will find some women willing to compromise on each of those things. Just go for a walk on a city street and spot couples... plenty of fuggos, midgets, fatties, skinnyfats, beanpoles, bad teeth, chinless wonders and men who style forgot. However that doesn't mean women don't care about looks…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 08:01 PM
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I'm like most people... shallow aspects and deep aspects are both there. So here is my most significantly shallow zone. What I care about most after honesty, respect for the safety of all household members and good faith efforts is he isn't for any reason to be a public embarrassment if it can be at all avoided. Yep, don't make me cringe in public. Be as publicly ugly as you want so long as it isn't in a cringe-making way. Be as poor as you want but so long as it isn't in a publicly cringe-makin…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 07:46 PM
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> Browsing through FDS, it’s hard to even see a single sentiment of suggesting self-improvement Said it before and I'll say it again... over and over they suggest that women take the effort they would have put into low value men and put it into making themselves more satisfactory to themselves instead. Yes a lot of times that will include exercise, diet, buying flattering clothes etc. And a lot of time it will include improving stuff men tend not to care about in women and that's fine too. It is…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 07:22 PM
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I never said you needed to be celibate. Just that having a classic girlfriend/boyfriend situation is in the context of the MGTOW ideology a pretty damn naff thing. Just like...oh... declaring oneself a feminist separatist while having a classic boyfriend/girlfriend situation is pretty naff. But being this enlightened turns out to be a bit over-rated... it's LONELY up here! In other words you're not a MGHOW you're a man who wants to go with a woman but they all absent themselves from your general…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 06:31 PM
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He's defective. And boring. I mean I might put up with one like that now if I had to at age 50 now my priorities have shifted to be more about the simplicity of a quiet life, but at age 20? HELL NO. And no, a woman not being able to climax in PIV is not the same thing. When a guy can't do that it means he's not reproductively fit. That's unsexy. The equivalent malfunction in terms of reproductive unfitness in a woman would be more like vaginismus.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 06:24 PM
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Oh. So your flavor of MGTOW is the same as those crazy women who think feminism is just women doing whatever they choose even when what they choose is going along with patriarchy completely? OK!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 06:05 PM
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Dude... if you've got a girlfriend as in the exclusive relationship that usually implies, you're not MGTOW.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 02:19 PM
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*eyeroll* Your damage is obvious, and nobody with any sense or sanity cares what appeals to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 07:17 AM
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Dude, you're MGTOW. No woman in her right mind gives a tinkers cuss what you find appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 06:48 AM
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I'm MGTOW and Red Pill but my BIGGEST weakness is when a woman speaks nerdy to me. Who gives half a shit what your weakness in women is... you're MGTOW, it is totally irrelevant, shoo! blah blah blah blah blah irrelevant shit about what a MGTOW thinks is hot
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 06:41 AM
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Whatever dude, whatever, you're not what they are looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 06:41 AM
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In my opinion, telling dudes what you do in your spare time should largely be left until you're exclusive. There's nothing worse than telling some guy "Nah" after three dates and he goes all stalky on the places, events and people you interact with in your spare time. Also it tells him too much how to pretend he's on the same wavelength as you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/20 10:37 PM
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I'm firmly of the opinion that even if you aren't sharing your interesting stuff, dudes can tell if you're interesting. No point sharing it. On the intellectual level guys are just nuisances. The quickest way to become boring is start giving two shits what guys think.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/20 09:43 PM
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Also, fuck cold calls. Well yes... just about anything that promotes social confidence is going to take a person out of their comfort zone to do so. Still, learning to have a bit of front by cold calling is probably less uncomfortable than being the guy whose job it is to deal with doorknocks at the grow house while the weed is drying and stinking up the whole street.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/20 09:41 PM
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We don't tend to care whether we are boring to men. Men care so overwhelmingly about looks and vagina that any special efforts to be interesting to them on top of that is often just a waste of effing time that you could be spending on yourself. Also if you're too interesting you attract dudes who can't even find other guys to be friends with and meet their social needs, can't be bothered picking up a book to meet their intellectual needs, and want you to provide it all, and those dudes suck bigt…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/20 09:32 PM
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No daddy issues, not a common whore or trashy, so why is she into Jeremy Meeks? I should imagine she was boring as dog shit and dating him was dinner party conversation. Besides by that time he was working as a model.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/20 08:28 PM
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My mother dated a guy who was a bit of a con-man after she left my father. He wasn't exciting, powerful or dangerous... he was confident in social situations though. He was a physical coward. She didn't know he was a criminal when she started dating him (he had a small business that gave him a reputable aura) but she found out later. He eventually fled the country because he'd been defrauding social security and they came a knocking for info. Came back later on when he he felt the heat was off. …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/20 08:25 PM
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Masturbate. That'll drop your T to give you some comfort and if you don't do it too often you will avoid porn dependence and PIED. And don't say I don't offer similar advice to women facing problems with their urges. I've told more than one friend who was suffering strong urges to get pregnant as a fait accomplice with a casual boyfriend who would have been very surprised that maybe getting something else to care for (houseplant, puppy, fish tank...) was a good idea. Be a grown up, find ways to …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/20 10:31 PM
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Nobody gets to pick all the building blocks out of which they have to attempt to put together a satisfactory life. This is part of being human. The general rule is try to improve everything you can because some of the uses you can put those improvements to will only become obvious once you've got those improvements,
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/20 07:48 PM
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I don't care if someone calls me a creep or pedo for dating younger but it is fun to see them get all irate and triggered over it. Deny it all you like but I think you care, I think you care very deeply. You'd like to be a well respected man allowed into all social contexts on the basis of being seen as steady and honorable, not a guy who is regarded as participating in deviant antisocial behavior only one step removed from pedophilia and needing to be somewhat shunned and excluded.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/20 07:40 PM
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Imagine feeling shame from a crappy dating app, get a grip Guys do it all the time, feel guilt and shame in dumbass situations where the guilt and shame is not appropriate. For example you try to strike up a conversation with a totally age, class, culture and appearance appropriate girl at a bar, and her friends, wanting the evening to be a girl's night out and not include you, laugh at you mockingly. Six months later you're laying down to rot and twelve months later you've become a reddit incel…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/20 04:42 AM
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You seem to have some very definite opinions about what our opinions are. The things you list that 18 year olds are allowed to do but we "wouldn't complain about" are actually things I'd be hella worried over if my kids wanted to do. I've got a 19 year old and a 22 year old. There would be serious talks if they wanted to date someone ten years older, if they wanted to drive big rigs carrying dangerous chemicals, if they wanted to join the military or become police, if they wanted to become logge…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/20 08:19 PM
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On the other hand - if she willingly and enthusiastically offered her ass to men in her past, more than once, but refuses to do so with a man who has committed to her for the long haul - that is bullshit. She obviously had stronger desire for men in her past. Or maybe she's just got hemorrhoids now.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/20 05:11 AM
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Actually it makes a lot of sense. As a way to avoid feeling guilt or shame when guys complain. And guys do complain, a lot. A lot of guys don't bother to look for long to do their swiping and err on the side of inclusion not exclusion. If you are a fat liberal chick with bad skin who is not reluctant to be the first to make contact, and just don't want to have certain feelings dealing with the men who can't politely handle an approach from a fat, liberal chick with bad skin then it is a good ide…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/20 12:33 AM
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Height's a pretty good asset but let's face it... a lot of guys have an asset or two or could acquire an asset or two but are still hanging onto the incel identity rather than making the proper effort to integrate their assets into an overall attractive presentation that made sense. Example case... Elliot Rodger. 5 foot 7, OK not tall but not comically short either. He had plenty to work with. He was only 22 years old so still had plenty of time to make changes, his face had quite few strong ass…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/20 11:08 PM
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Women who are similarly "challenged" by looking/presenting like a shit sandwich do not often hang around in those places long because the ugly unattractive unkempt men are surprisingly entitled in attitude and will freely and happily berate their female equivalents, insulting them mercilessly and making the whole exercise pointless. I suggest you try another experiment... make an account that is you (same age, similar deets) but adapted to be a woman who is about as attractive as those dudes. Ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/20 10:46 PM
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It doesn't have to be "much" better for a significant difference to emerge over time. These differences probably start in the teen years. By the time you're looking at 25 year olds, the difference in results is going to be quite pronounced even if the difference in activity does not seem much on a daily basis. It is the magic of forming good routines and one's efforts compounding.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/20 04:28 AM
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> What peer reviewed studies back up the FDS strategy??? Three question marks... lol, scrotes mad. They'll do what everyone else other than idiot spergs do when given a list of principles and suggestions about how to approach a problem... continuously assess them during use and refine and adapt them to their particular circumstance. > Does that mean you’ll no longer be divorced or have kids as a single mother? No... but it may mean they are no longer getting depressed (and therefore less attract…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/20 04:14 AM
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> The advice given in FDS will do absolutely nothing to raise your value. I don't know where you got that from. They seem to repeat over and over... take the resources and effort you would have spent on chasing after individual low value men, and invest it in yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/20 03:46 AM
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Whatever. I'm not trying to stop you playing video games I'm just pointing out it isn't a particularly good use of time if self improvement is something you regard as a significant priority.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/20 12:01 AM
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Video games also can include plenty of reading, problem solving, timing and many other things that are good for you. Yeaaaaaah... sorta... I mean if you look sideways and squint... but the most successful games (ie the ones most of you are playing) are designed to steer you back in by dropping the difficulty or offering you less difficult things to do when you're bad at it and keep giving you enough perceived reward to keep going even if you're not actually improving. And the best that computer …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 11:57 PM
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watch tv/movies... i agree this is largely a waste of time read... better for your mind than computer games and porn be on the internet for various things... too vague to be meaningful crocheting... make stuff, give it away, that's a social asset making artwork... better for creativity than computer games are, pretty good for planning and problem solving too making "artwork".... oh... an art snob social media... not a big fan of it myself but I can't deny that someone who has put in effort to ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 11:23 PM
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A failure that leads to nothing is wasted energy. Don't those sort of things lead to other good outcomes though? I mean it isn't as though getting fit and getting used to being competitive is as pointless as say memorizing the phone book. So there's a fairly decent second prize.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 09:54 PM
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Whatever, if you're not going to listen to others then you'll be stuck where you are at.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 09:39 PM
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I find cocky swaggering fuckbois just as repulsive, It is almost like the fuckboi is in drag... as an attractive man. Has that same overblown performance aspect to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 08:44 PM
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Many women also don't have ambition. My personal observation is that ambition as in "let's climb to the very top of this pile of ratbastards" tends to be rarer in ordinary women... but smaller goals that are relevant to living their lives and actually planning out their time off from employment tend to be more common. I think there's more ordinary guys allowing themselves to just fall into computer games and porn for 12 hours a day on the weekend and moreordinary women doing things like tidying …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 08:42 PM
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The dopamine trap is the biggest challenge of our generation and the generations to come. Yep. I think a lot really needs to be done to study the role of addiction to behavioral sources of dopamine in people's lives. I mean for starters we can look at the different ways different sorts of men and women (intorverts/extroverts, different economic classes, etc) seem to deal with it... not that either sex is without problems just that the differences are interesting. People would probably find it ea…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 08:28 PM
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My point is that this story never happened. It's a revenge fantasy. There is no way an apartment building would block half of their tenants from using the gym all week and no other man living there has complained before. No women in real life act like the ones in his story. This. If they adopt some "women's hours" those are going to be more like 2pm to 6pm Wednesdays and 7am to 10am Saturdays. That's how it pretty much always works out. The peak hours are more or less "safer" anyway because ther…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 08:02 PM
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> Cue basically begging me to come see him for half an hour. He was trying for a push-pull dynamic. He can go pull himself and he can push off permanently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 07:54 PM
41

My feefees and my peepee! OMG. Gonna steal that and use it over and over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 07:45 PM
6

My generation started being sexually active at the start of the world becoming aware of the AIDS epidemic. In the late eighties a lot of young couples did this as a matter of course in Australia... you went to your city's free STD clinic together, had your checkups and then after the last test was back you attended as a couple and gave authority for them to release their results to you both at the same time. There's no faking that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/20 08:51 PM
1

If you want fun... be fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/20 06:13 PM
5

> Do you judge your appearance based on how you look with make-up or without it? Both. I'm me 24/7. It all counts. The times I scrub up good to go out count and the times I've just rolled out of bed count. It counts when I've got the flu and have snot pouring from myself, it counts when I've got a sunburn it counts when I forgot to do laundry and my clothes are not so perfectly tuned into flattering outfits. Currently my hair is a bit greasy but it is the middle of the night and I'll wash it in …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/20 03:26 PM
4

> How can an average woman truly admire her average man? Why are average men in this era so lacking in admirable qualities? I remember my grandfather. He could turn his hand to just about anything, was a deeply religious and philosophical person, never worked a proper job due to illness but always worked extra hours after his tips-only job to grow vegetables and assist my grandma with housework so she could do things like learn to do tailoring to make all their clothes even complicated ones, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/20 07:47 AM
14

"as a guide for other females" gaaaaaaaaaaaah. Feeeeeeemales. Where's the ferenigi meme?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 04:31 AM
1

I don't think there's any one set of circumstances... more a set of things that can contribute to it. A person may not see it as infidelity so feel they have a pass or maybe their partner doesn't see it as infidelity so they feel they have a pass. Differences in opinion on this stuff are pretty common. Maybe the person they become emotionally close to is not ever going to have sex with them (there's a variety of different ways that can be... sexual preference, being long distance, having a profe…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/20 03:20 AM
1

Most of the time you can tell who really doesn't want to be a trad-wife just by looking at her. Don't like it? Don't date it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 08:07 PM
1

> Would it not be in men’s advantage to not enter a LTR until mid to late 30s? Men aren't a monolith and women aren't a monolith. Do what you think is in YOUR best interest as an individual. Take into account the nature of the individuals who are present in YOUR life... for example if you do want kids and marriage and you've got someone good you think you'll never see the like of again it might be foolish to decide to not marry them... on the other hand if there is no such person for you maybe p…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 07:38 PM
1

> has argument ready for everything, And all of it stolen from better thinkers... and most times not directly from them but through third parties who wrote dumbed down summaries... without really being understood, applied to his own life or even enjoyed. His approach is literally "I will do whatever it takes, not matter how deceptive or inauthentic, to argue people down in conversation until they are too exhausted to argue any more, and then they will give me what I want" I hate them and I glory…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 11:38 AM
1

Real life is not the Mean Girls movie. https://youtu.be/KDnsGF-GR2Q
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/20 06:52 PM
1

They didn't raise her to be a good girl. They raised her to be an effective girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/20 06:46 PM
1

What... all about telling you that if you want some of that you gotta try harder and be better? LOL. Like her family is going to do anything other than cheer her on.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/20 06:43 PM
3

You've got no idea about how ruthless the FSM is, have you? Having a plan laid out for how you can get good enough is so much more than we ever give each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/20 06:37 PM
6

I think maybe those were the parts of the world (and more specifically... certain cultures and classes in those parts of the world) in which men were very used to having the option of kicking back and doing almost nothing to help the family once the woman had a few kids. I think booting those guys out is actually helpful and will reduce birth rates and somewhat relieve child poverty... she's not selling eggs and gardening veggies and working as a cleaner to support herself, six kids and a growna…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/20 04:04 PM
0

*eyeroll*
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/20 02:11 PM
1

Yeah I get what you're on about. A man often struggles if he doesn't feel he's done as well as or at least almost as well as his wife. Some women are up for the possibility of applying themselves to looking pathetic and humble so a man can forgive them for having a degree, and others aren't. And that's fair enough we're all wired up differently. If you ever want to expand your criteria (which by no means do you have to do!) you'd definitely need to be looking at what is equivalent to that degree…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:03 PM
5

In the traditional sense, but when the roles are flipped and it’s the woman who wants to make that move, the result is often different. But generally women don't want to make the move. They want the man to make it. If he doesn't make it well whatever, he's soon forgotten. So your advice is crap advice to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 06:03 PM
1

heh. Scrotes mad.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 02:27 PM
2

I'd rather go Dutch with a guy friend who I know will be good company This. If you don't know the guy well enough to know that at least he's not going to spoil a nice dinner by his very presence the answer is either an outright "no" or "He covers the downside financial risk on this or it doesn't happen at all." I'm constantly amazed by the dudes who find this problematic. It is just sensible. There's plenty of ways of getting to know women well enough to end up not having to defray their downsid…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 09:33 AM
2

If you don;t want to hear what other people think about your whining, don;t whine in public. Keep it between you and your pillow.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 09:27 AM
1

Dude, it is this simple. I am not going to pay to drink a coffee that may be ruined by the company it is drunk in. If I'm not being distracted by having a coffee to drink, I'm not going to sit in a coffee shop. If I'm not sitting in a coffee shop you've got precisely twenty seconds to accomplish something standing in the street. And you know what... be well presented and decent and that is totally do-able. Give me your contact details and maybe we'll text a while, organise to see each other in s…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 09:26 AM
3

He should be grateful he didn't get a lapful of vomit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:08 AM
2

Women like a bit of muscle on a dude. But generally not so much muscle he can't run fast too. You ever seen a group of gym bros run for the bus... half of them do worse than middle aged fat women at that task.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 09:01 AM
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Remember kids women aren't escorts. Being shocked into an appreciation of reality by the cost of a coffee or a meal that was the man's idea in the first place and is quite probably going to be enjoyed less in the company of the man involved is not being an escort.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 08:58 AM
2

And yet you bitch about men not being HV. The only time I've really got anything much to say to men themsleves about their value is if they are being whiny little princes about negotiating the SMP and RMP. If they stop whining and deal with reality, I don;t go pointing out to them that being higher value will get them better results.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 08:54 AM
1

I smell an inkwell.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 10:47 PM
1

You can avoid having to pay for a date by keeping interactions to the normal activities for that social circle (possibly in more quantity though) until you have attained enough of a rapport to actually feel OK negotiating together about who pays and when. Over and over again I've seen it happen, people in the same social circles getting together and they have pretty much fucked each other and agreed on exclusivity before any formal "date" happens. Takes longer and takes common sense (something i…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 08:25 PM
1

My teacher in college had us read it so I’m guessing it’s pretty accurate. Depends what course, what subject and what role reading the book is expected to play in the subject.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 08:06 PM
1

All roads end in men who make cold approaches not worth crossing the road to piss on if they are on fire. OK.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 08:04 PM
1

You're certainly free to follow you're own rules and so long as you are NOT WHINING AND ASKING FOR HELP AND CHANGE I'm fine to just let you get on with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 08:03 PM
1

ah. I haven't got round to that one yet, there always seems to be so many other options and by the time I was around to the topics covered he'd written A Troublesome Inheritance which was not well received by experts.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 08:00 PM
1

Use for a cup of coffee? Oh dear god but you guys are full of it. If there's a fair chance you're going to very spoil the thing someone is doing by your presence, they might be looking at minimizing their losses from that before they even let you around them. Tough luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 07:57 PM
1

The one book you've read... that you cant remember the title of?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 07:54 PM
2

>How else should people meet mates? Social circles. > Isn't "meeting a mate" also a thing women want? Attractive pleasant seeming women can easily meet more men than they know what to do with through their social circles. > Do all methods of people meeting mates properly lead to "man pays because she/her time are too valuable to split or pay"? Not necessarily. Plenty of people have been pretty much engaged before they even had an official date > "woman must never, ever,EVERRRRRRRRRRRRR pay becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 07:52 PM
1

It is a gamble. Gambling can be fun. But it is a gamble that is a lot more tempting you buy the ticket only with time and not with money too.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 07:37 PM
1

Oh well then if it is so easy you can do it... since you made the claim. I'm not trying to catch you out, I'm interested in the topic and just don't want to add this to my current knowledge base purely on the say so of an anonymous internet nobody.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 07:34 PM
1

Citation required.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 07:24 PM
2

People were on average more masculine in the Neolithic... which is admittedly a later time frame than you are thinking of. I quote " "Having reconstructed a lot of Stone Age women and men, I think some facial features seem to have disappeared or 'smoothed out' with time. In general, we look less masculine, both men and women, today." https://www.nationalgeographic.com/news/2018/01/archaeology-agvi-greek-stoneage-facial-reconstruction/ As for the clothing... the remaining hunter gatherer populati…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 07:23 PM
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> Women’s attraction to tall men: social or biological? Some from column A, some from column B. I think it is unfair and incomplete to examine women's reactions to height without also examining men's reactions. Tall guys have better careers often being promoted by other men over similar shorter men, they also have to put up with less shit from other men I have seen men back down on a fight when the guy they were provoking stood up and it turned out he had ten inches on them. ... I mean seriously…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 05:54 PM
2

Well... maybe that's a potent sign he should have fewer first dates, and put more effort into his level of value and his social circles?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 05:29 PM
3

Cheap often isn't just for now, it is forever, he'll be cheap on the first date and if you put up with it and send the message "pick me anyway, I don't care if you're cheap!" fifty years later you'll be buried by him in a cardboard box with the now thoroughly corroded $80 pandora wedding ring he bought you on your finger, dead from cancer contracted after a lifetime of stress dealing with raising his kids on next to nothing while he spends on his hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 05:25 PM
0

Most people really don't want to explain themselves and their finances to strangers (especially strangers who want something from them... especially strangers who may turn out to be very persistent and manipulative in trying to get what they want)... and as a consequence there's a long standing social norm that it is rude to do anything that puts a stranger in a position where they might feel obliged to explain themselves and their finances. > I just dont see any other way to satisfy modern men …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 05:19 PM
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> When a girl friend invites to a platonic brunch do you expect her to pay for you? No, because we've got an ongoing thing already. We know a lot about each other and trust each other enough to if necessary say "ooooh I'm on a tight budget can we go to maccas for cheeseburgers instead?" or even "I have NO MONEY... each bring packed lunch to eat on the benches in the park instead maybe?" However... if the new girl at work who I barely have spoken to wanted me to go out after work for a coffee to …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 04:15 PM
3

To call an entire gender stupid and thirsty. Not an entire gender. Just the ones who think that an attractive cold approached stranger should find getting to know them worth the price of a cup of coffee while getting to know them. Seriously guys... nice happy smiling extroverted pretty girls of the sort you like to cold approach are NOT in a position where they need to risk buying a cup of coffee they may not enjoy because it turns out they are drinking it in bad company/ > someone who treats th…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 03:57 PM
4

Not indiscriminately... liking people indiscriminately based just upon their sexual dimorphism is ridiculous. When a guy asks you in the street if you want coffee with him you don't know enough about him to know whether you like him or think he needs to die in a fire. You know he thinks he likes you... based only on your looks at that point though. I'm really not desperate and thirsty enough to think that being liked is enough to overcome the fact the person doing the liking may be a terrible pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 03:46 PM
1

Coffee has its uses... but dude, one instance of coffee doesn't make it so you are dating in the same sense that longer and more varied dates do. Coffee is a chance to eyeball someone to work out whether continuing to talk to them is worth the effort, it isn't enough to establish any sort of IRL relationship. I would feel no obligation to exclusivity of any sort after just a coffee date and would continue the same behavior I'd always had to approaches from other men. So no whining "but we went o…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 02:52 PM
6

"My penis is thirsty for this stranger who I want to take time out of her already planned and full day to listen to me try to persuade her to meet my needs, but I don't know her well enough to know that money spent making this process acceptably comfortable for her won't be just wasted... why won't this stranger who doesn't know me from adam and hasn't formed any significant level of attraction to me yet waste her money instead?" Because she's not as stupid or as thirsty as you are. And she know…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/20 02:08 PM
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Yeah some of them are... because sensible people (that is... most women and some men) tend to work hard to stick with a good thing. But remember a lot of guys are just slow starters and increase in common sense, diligence and empathy a whole lot over their 20s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 05:08 AM
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Yep. "Normal-ish dick" is a common and reasonable ask... one of many. There will be women for whom it is not a priority and nothing wrong with that if they don't mind the three inches or the dick that looks like a traffic cone, but that doesn't give those women or men with weird dicks the right to get snarky with the rest of us. I mean seriously we've all got things we're willing to not set a standard for, that's normality. I don't care about baldness, I don't care about hairy backs. But not for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:02 AM
3

Starting and continuing a conversation with a stranger is physically and mentally painful for me Sounds like you'd make a crap and wearisome life partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/20 10:23 PM
5

> However, here's the thing: putting yourself out there for the sole purpose of getting laid is counter-intuitive. That's because it is the primary or initial purpose.. and you can intuitively add other purposes to create a synergy between your purposes. So you want to meet women and you're going to go out more to implement this. Great! What's some other things you want to do with your life? Fitness? You can do that outside them home in social contexts. Competition? That's available outside the …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/20 06:03 PM
2

Maybe your intrests? Like, um, dick?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 08:12 PM
1

Social circle friends? Yeah sure, we know what boyfriends have been in a friends life and a bit about her casual liaisons. If she has quite a few casual liaisons we don't tend to know ALL her casual liaisons because let's face it not all those things are particularly noteworthy, "Mediocre sex with mediocre man" if it happens often enough is about as worth mentioning as "my Big Mac is exceptionally ordinary today" But y'know... you don't tend to regard your friends as "promiscuous" even if you th…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 08:11 PM
6

Ugh. There's going to be another wave of incels on reddit claiming that we need to pander to low value men or be murdered in the street. And another round of having to smack them down by telling them that the last thing we want to do is give guys like that a family to victimise and to use to pass on their shitty genes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 04:28 PM
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The ring is symbolic. This. There's nothing wrong with a cheap ring as such, in certain situations where you are both, together, as a matter of consensus, putting every bit of effort and resource above meeting basic needs into something else you are building TOGETHER. In that case the best sturdiest cheap ring you can find together is a symbol of your struggle together against a world in which it is hard to make progress. But if he's spending his $$$ on random luxuries and buys you a cheap ring …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 03:29 PM
8

While it is possible to buy an $80 ring that will last and last, it is not possible to do so from pandora and it certainly isn't going to look like whatever the currently fashionable engagement ring style is. It will be from a pawn shop and have an older style gold setting that has had a CZ swapped into it. Or it will be silver and very chunky with something like a garnet in it. Anyway if it was me in her situation, I'd find out how long the warranty on that TV was and I'd be researching ways to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 03:18 PM
1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MOGRTpQZfpE
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/20 05:29 PM
6

Been there done that... I tried I really tried. But there's only so much disappointment one person can handle at one time and the disappointment of infidelity lasts a very long time and fades slowly... so when other disappointments were loaded on top... his messing up his employment repeatedly, his overspending, his laziness and lack of respect for me during his periods of unemployment, his pornsick limp-dick from wanking all day while I was at work, his increasing belly size... I left, and soon…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 07:51 PM
1

I don't know about other women. I know about me. I do not have a history of fucking bad boys. I do like to feel special though. Though whether I like to feel special more than the chumps who complain about women liking to feel special also like to feel special... well lol I think they've got a massive fucking blindspot there. I like to find ways in which I can feel special because there's an awful lot of people in the world and it is good and right to feel appropriately differentiated, not entir…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 05:34 PM
9

Just being upper class isn't enough to exclude you from unhappiness with your context and wanting to escape your context. I mean just saying, there's danger but sometimes there's freedom in the same place the danger is. Some woman can be criminal too, can be bullies too, can fit right in with that. Just as you get boys from good families who randomly turn out to be sociopaths you get girls like that too. Also, to be blunt, within certain contexts such as schools and sports clubs and social circl…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 02:44 PM
1

One of the most notable things about pornsex is the "need" to keep up the pace like a porn video has. Real sex between real people who live together and care about each other has highs and lows, is very often about rapport rather than about action and involves intimacy and acceptance of a bunch of unromantic and unsexy bodily and household stuff. Performance for an audience is not the same thing as real life sexual presence in a personal situation. Y'know it is pretty normal for a young employed…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 01:04 PM
6

I don't want a man who has been trained by the porn industry to like exactly what is in porn. I'm OK with getting down and dirty and even being downright filthy about it, but I don't want to feel I'm having sex with the minds of a tonne of porn directors and actors and the general consensus of the porn viewing public not with the actual man himself and his sexual nature that has grown out of who he is. I also don't like to feel i'm having sex for an invisible audience... if the action lags, if w…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/20 12:43 PM
28

I have no idea if simple name changes are possible but really in this sitch there's no point unless you make a new account, I mean all it would take is remembering one of your comments or locating one of your comments in his browser history and he'd be able to find you. Just make a second account to use for all the things that are none of his freaking business, and maybe if you want keep your original one for stuff you've been using it for that doesn't matter if he knows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:48 AM
111

He promises he won't creep again. Now what are the promises of a LVM worth? Hey Adam... PISS OFF!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:20 AM
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> I mean, for Christ sakes, don't pull out a check list and conduct an interview. Work these things into conversation in a light-hearted and curious way. This is important, Talk about these things but don't present it as an inquisition because if he knows how important his answers are he might just fucking lie and then later on say "oh things changed, I changed my mind"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:16 AM
9

I bet you 100% that the dude who took issue about her body hair preferences is a dude who hates women who don't shave their legs and pits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:28 AM
80

LVM always accuse you of cheating. Always. It solves so many problems they have with explaining to the world how they managed to screw up the best thing they ever had. And I'm totally on board for the "if I have to pay half it turns out I'm paying too damn much" because it fits perfectly with my personal experience. There's just so much nonsense which is only in your budget because of the man you're with. He wants to do this he wants to do that, he wants to eat this he wants to drink that. Befor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:00 AM
5

She's not inviting you deeper into her life or accepting your invitations to be more deeply involved in her life? Doesn't wan't you as a husband. Wants to be able to ditch you without major consequences when she finds a better prospect. Simple as that. It is down to you to decide whether you will go along with the state of things, or try to change the state of things by being more attractive, attentive and suitable, or fuck off and find someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/20 03:46 AM
11

He doesn't even need his feelings cared about if he's fucking you. That's what he'll say it will be like if he gets his dick in. But once he's getting his dick in regular like, he'll complain that he isn't being cared for and that you sometimes just starfish and you treat him like a sex toy when you don't just starfish. This is the nature of men. They always want the sex to be more and better, they are always on the hunt. It is why so many men get addicted to porn, always trying to nut more and …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/20 03:24 AM
10

We see casual sex for what it is. Sex with a man. Many of whom are kinda crap and even the ones who aren't crap you don't necessarily want to risk babies with or risk them trying to worm their way into your life and start controlling you. Some are into that crapshoot, other's aren't. Just think of all the sex with men that men are refusing to take advantage of day in and day out. All you gotta do is get on Grindr, dude. Don't want to do that? Then stop judging women harsher for their opinions ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/20 03:12 AM
1

Oh ffs. The future holds the same as it has always held... if you want commitment and you're not top notch you may have to settle for a shitty man who you know right from the start is unattractive, broke, or un-attentive. Nothing changed there, second verse same as the first.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/20 04:14 PM
3

But I'm not wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 04:28 PM
6

You are the sort of person who if he didn't know he was wrong would already have sought out the proof and shoved it in our faces.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 03:58 PM
10

If you say women's songs are always about relationships and men's are not, then you need to cite a reliable source of carefully collected statistics, or I don't believe a word you say on this one. Counting is required. Extensive counting, using criteria that are clear cut and well described. Numbers, dude, not your feelz. Music is designed to evoke feelings, you are not a particular reliable observer of how much of one or another sort of song are out there, there has to be a process of data coll…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/20 03:25 PM
4

you'll always be some desperate compensating older guy trying to live out what he imagined his youth was suppose to be like. The past is gone. You worked and worked and still you missed out on a bunch of stuff you thought was important. Get the fuck over it, like people who aren't middle class have to do on a regular basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/20 07:07 PM
9

"you could be a chadly grocery bagger though. your efforts could have gone towards looksmaxxing and game rather than grades and internships and shit." It is far more likely they would have been an unfuckable grocery bagger. Look, we all like to play coulda woulda shoulda. We all like the idea that if but for that one time we were led astray in our thinking we would be a super-human super-rich super-attractive, desired by all. Just a single turn in a different direction. If only dad hadn't wanted…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/20 06:21 PM
19

> Many guys I know who are doctors, lawyers, engineers, accountants etc. don't really have much (if any) of an advantage with women. Despite them earning a lot of money, it doesn't make a difference as far as I can see, and some of them have even told me so. Many guys feel angry because they did everything they thought was "right" in order to attract women (get good grades, get the work experience, get the corporate job, be a good upstanding citizen) and they felt it gave them no advantage whats…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/20 05:50 PM
5

Looks, money, status, not being so annoying as to make you want to murder him in his sleep.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/20 09:00 AM
3

> kinda laughable that women here scoff at what is top 10% income We're not scoffing at the money, we're scoffing at the idea that the money makes the man attached to it worth having.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/20 08:59 AM
1

If I'm going to be poor I'd rather be poor alone if the cost of housing allows for it. Pleasing only myself is easier and cheaper than pleasing myself and a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/20 08:49 AM
2

Well porn ain't my thing but seriously? There's dangerous socially-isolating work of many different sorts. Porn's just one of them. I'm not going to go running around telling women not to do porn any more than I'd go running around telling men not to become sewer workers.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/20 08:32 AM
1

If you don't exercise enough to properly take care of the medical need to exercise you should stop asking this question until you do exercise enough for that. At that point you will understand better whether building your fitness has improved YOUR attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 04:34 PM
1

Well it isn't an all or nothing choice is it... you're not expected to choose how many clothes you wear and then have to stick with that forever under all circumstances. You're allowed to jog shirtless and then wear classic business-wear to work. If it comes down to it there's the beach, swimming pools, hot yoga classes. Get out there and show off if you want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 03:09 PM
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I worked a job that involved upsetting people by telling them they had a debt. So I got to see tears and anger outside of relationship contexts. The anger is worse. Visible anger is a form of threat and stresses you out on the level of is this person going to break into violence... even if you're quite capable of handling violence it is stressful to be on eggshells waiting for it. Visible tears are someone's sadness and it sucks that people are sad but it isn't a threat.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 04:10 AM
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There's always cost, but that's fair. You're costing her too. And you're allowed to opt out altogether and don't die or get put in prison if you do opt out. I'm not sure how much fairer it gets than that in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 03:56 AM
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And the case I was talking about was just a normal situation in which a girl found that her date had porn on his phone and next-ed him. If he's keeping it on his phone, as in saved, and not just looking for it as needed? Sure, if he's just a first date and I'm a young woman looking for a serious long term partner I'd add that to the evidence that lends weight to nexting him. Keeping it on his phone indicates a degree of commitment to the porn life. Look you've got to understand... the majority o…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 01:49 AM
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You know what? I've got a life. I do stuff. I work and I housework and I exercise. I get tired. I get sweaty and exhausted. I am not always available for good, focused, top notch sex. This is the reality for most men and most women and if you think that making women not be employed and instead stay home and have kids will improve this situation oh boy have I got news for you, in a great many ways that's an even more tiring life for a women. The upshot of the story is that if a male partner of mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/20 12:34 AM
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" I think the main issue for them is they feel very threatened by it. " Not threatened as such but I do see being straight as in my favor much as men see being somewhat inexperienced as a plus in a female partner,. At least if you cheat with another woman you probably had to either work like crazy for that cheating or she's a busted face fat cow or you paid to do so. If you want to cheat with another man... other men are available in public toilets. I'm not naturally averse to bi men but I see n…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/20 11:34 PM
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I guess I'd have to become an incessant nag to make sure I got the things I want, rather than just, y'know... working for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/20 01:51 PM
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Can you blame a guy with good level of fitness and healthy BMI to prefer to remain alone if his only options are fat women? It isn't a matter of blame it is a matter of consequences. He seeks to date above his value level and thus remains single. This is neither here nor there, it is just what happens. It isn't something for anyone to get worked up over. He wasn't owed a skinny woman unless he could raise his SMV and RMV to a point where a skinny woman would be a likely choice. Also lets be quit…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/20 04:19 PM
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Yeah but did those short ugly enlisted men eventually find someone who met their standards? It's not your opinion or my opinion that sets the market values, it is the market.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/20 10:41 AM
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Nah bro. You've made a leap of logic we never did, and missed the point. You MEET compatible compatible women through shared interests... a lot of those women will have an emotional or intellectual affinity for you... then the TIME SPENT WITH THEM during which you conduct yourself in an attractive manner will lead them to create narratives that lead to them seeing you as more attractive then you are at first sight and eventually one of them might start putting out IOIs . In other words you stop …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/20 05:03 AM
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I start to ramp up the touchy-feelyness, which is normal IMO. So you've also evoked LMR dynamics, at the same time as you take her into the realms of absolute fucking chaos by not being the guy she thought you were all along.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/20 04:46 AM
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It is one of the great pitfalls of creating a false self. Someone creates a false self... maybe they do it because they are a narcissist of some flavor, maybe because they have some level of paranoia, maybe because they are in the closet over some issue... whatever, they create a false self. They then go out and live extensively as that false self. At some stage they have to drop the facade. When they drop the facade the people who they have carefully chosen and cultivated as people who like the…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/20 12:22 AM
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Well, if you really want something that is in high demand, you might have to buy from the as-is section of the store. Might as well ask why guys love the borderline personality chicks and every guy you know seems to have a story about some girl who was crazy, just crazy... it is because you get more pretty for what you are willing to offer in return if you are willing to take a product that has been returned half a dozen times after the deal was supposedly final, due to major flaws. > It also do…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/20 12:04 AM
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Well, before they know you had money they thought you were bold and self assured to live the life you do... you were living their life but better. After they found out, they saw you as just a poverty tourist and lost a lot of respect and then had to pause to work out how they really felt about it. The "better" they were perceiving wasn't due to you being a better man who dealt personally with those challenges it was just due to money. A lot of women don't like fucking guys they don't respect... …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 11:41 PM
2

I hope your straw man gives you splinters when he fucks your arse without lube.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 11:34 PM
2

Wages are stagnant because employers are for the most part... scum... at least in the few moments they consider wages. Guillotines are probably the best solution.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 01:01 PM
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This supposes that everyone has some sort of God-given right to live in, say, Seattle or San Fran or Paris. They don't, though. If you can't earn enough to cover your COL, you need to either work harder/smarter, or move a cheaper area. Very often doing that means abandoning things one feels is one's obligation in the location one is moving from. It's not really consistent with certain actually quite functional and useful ideas about family. I think there really needs to be a balance between prov…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 12:01 AM
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I've never understood people's aversion to hard work. Takes time away from thinking, dreaming, playing, experimenting.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/20 11:50 PM
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I think more women work jobs that are formally constructed to be part time jobs. Those jobs are often easier to get. However, my experience with working in such workplaces has been that women were more keen than the guys to take on more hours. I think maybe we're not collecting and organising data on this in ways that are particularly useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/20 02:03 PM
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Ewwww no.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/20 11:17 PM
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Whatever. People are allowed to put whatever SMP and RMP value on themselves and others they want to. If you feel a woman has become low value then she's low value for you... it may not follow on she is low value for another man. Just don't whine and expect systemic change when your value system results in you not making enough deals for your liking... the consequences of you valuing certain things certain ways is ENTIRELY your problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/20 11:16 PM
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https://youtu.be/GDXYzUlv0S8
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/20 11:00 PM
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This is not a matter for public consensus because it isn't a deal done with the general public it is a deal between two people each of whom provide their own unique blend of assets and liabilities. And she's totally allowed to set the price real high, never get married, and not give two shits about that. There's no such thing as too high a price if she's fine with just not making that deal. That said if you want to be more suitable to more women... don't be poor, don't be ugly, don't be fat, don…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/20 10:59 PM
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> That they'll find women, who will love them unconditionally, All portrayals of unrelated adults loving each other unconditionally are a load of shit. You know damn well you're not capable of loving anyone unconditionally... that if she gets fat, argumentative, refuses to fuck you and kills your dog you'll stop loving her... you're a fucking retard if you think woman are any different no matter what portrayals of women you see in dramas made for entertainment. I'm not in the business of making …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/20 10:46 PM
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If people around you are marrying at say age 23, it isn't unreasonable to at age 20 be considering if it is on the cards with someone you have dated from age 18. I mean let's say your parents aren't going to pay much towards the wedding and you live in a place with affordable real estate and want to move out into a place you are buying not a rental and you'll need to buy another car because one of you is driving a family loaner car that your parents will keep. That's three years of lead-up getti…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/20 07:30 AM
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If you're a halfway good-looking young woman, half the single men in the world either feel that way about you or have potential to feel that way about you. You've got to say no to most of 'em. I married one of them when i was still quite young, he turned out crap. Much regrets. Is it possible that among the others was one who would not have turned out crap? Maybe... but you pays your money and you takes your pick, it isn't like the shopkeeper actively warns you about merchandise with hidden flaw…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/20 07:24 AM
2

A weak introverted risk averse man will break your heart just as easy and casual as a strong extroverted risk taking man does. Only he'll do it by degrees, you'll die a little every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 04:43 AM
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> Let's say an average guy (in height and face) starts putting great amounts of effort Effort has a cumulative effect. You don't get anywhere much overnight, you definitely don't get immediately to the same point as guys who have already been putting in effort for years. And usually those guys who have been putting in effort all along have been doing so in part because they see other benefits to being a healthy, well presented, well rounded and properly social person.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 04:59 PM
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I didn't expect all that... but then again I was a short, dumpy bucktoothed socially-inept girl with a receding chin and thin hair. I probably would have expected at least some of that if I was tall, willowy, athletic, social and had a pretty face. And why not? People have a right to expect to choose from what is available to them. They also have the right to refuse to choose anything or to better themselves to increase their choices. I do however think it is reasonable for any woman to expect t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 04:22 PM
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What everyone else who takes this seriously does. Fix as many of your appearance failos (things you fail badly on) as reasonable, attain as many appearance halos (things you are doing really well on) as possible, and become as rich, high status and masculine as you can... all while getting out there and acquiring social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 04:42 AM
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There's people doing three, four or more hours of gaming every night after they get home from work... if they can do that then a normal person without a gaming addiction can do two dates a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/20 03:22 AM
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> That is why reproduction is the only way of measuring biological success. Donate to a sperm bank, go MGHOW, and stop whining. You can even get paid for sperm bank donations in some countries. Imagine that eh... a regular appointment once every three months to jack it to porn and be given $50, and you have won the game.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 10:55 PM
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So showing legitimate attraction and romantic interest in someone is unattractive. It can be, if not kept under control and expressed appropriately. Most relationships need to have norms, understandings, consensus, changes to one's social context and divulging of secrests worked out fairly slowly. Someone who goes too fast is saying they care less about it being a safe and functional relationship in which both people can flourish than they do about securing a relationship full-stop. That disrega…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 06:18 PM
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Of course we're sometimes attracted to men's physicality among other things. And just like men, there's aspects of the opposite sex's physical appearance we find more attractive than other aspects. You wouldn't want so much to fuck a rude smelly old landwhale just because she's got a crack and we don't want so much to fuck rude greasy flabby neckbeards just because they've got a pole. Just that raw attraction being present isn't enough by itself for most of us most of the time to desire to fuck …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/20 06:03 PM
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There's more people than you imagine who like to avoid having photos of themselves... even modestly dressed photos... out there. Also I've hear there's a lot of negging. And almost no consequence other than being blocked for the guys who neg. In real life if a guy pulls that shit on a date you get to stand up in the middle of the nice place he took you to get to know you and, say "you know what... you're not my type at all, you're mean and horrible and want someone who will sit and take it" and …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/20 11:17 PM
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Mostly these fin dom things occur purely online and there is literally zero consequence to the dude just deleting her details and blocking her.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/20 10:47 PM
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People voluntarily put themselves into extreme debt all the damn time for a huge variety of reasons... Exhibit A, about half of all millenials in the USA. People over invest in all sorts of shit that is probably a bit stupid to invest in. They buy themselves fine arts degree experiences that will never pay off, they travel, they buy expensive cars, some of them just fritter it away on nice meals and clothes ffs. Surely the argument needs to be against predatory lending practices, not against wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/20 10:10 PM
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TIL not being particularly well off anymore is having your life ruined. Look, there's people wandering round voluntarily somewhat poor because they chose particular careers, vocations,occupations. Are we going to make it illegal to quit a good job to try to be a freelance writer?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/20 08:07 PM
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Not everyone... some people don't want what they can get or want something excessively specific. And of course there's people who are too disabled to really have any sort of relationship beyond patient/caregiver. Also if you leave it until you're older it gets difficult, everyone is less flexible and adaptable and a lot of the easygoing ones will be gone because they tend to not only get married but also stay married. But practically speaking it is reasonable for most young people to assume ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/20 08:20 PM
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Dude, it isn't ever hard to form a bond with a willing HVM. Men differ in how important they find partner count. Simple as that. For you it may be most important thing ever... for the next guy it might be somewhat less important than whether she knows how to drive a stickshift. The guys who don't care so much aren't ever going to disadvantage themselves in the SMP and RMP by adding your little obsession to their list of deal breakers.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/20 04:17 AM
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Nope. You're not obliged to give anyone any chances if you don't want to, and second chances are just one category of chance. > Why didn’t you put this much effort in the first place? Trying to see how little effort he could get away with. You wanted more effort from him, so he left to try to teach you a lesson and make you demand less. If you let him back and get together seriously with him, maybe marry, your whole life will become this bullshit powerplay with him trying to give as little of a …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 10:29 PM
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If I were to be considered a HVM, why should I not care? Well for starters if you're a HVM you probably worry a fuck of a lot less about whether having known other guys means she'll cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 10:19 PM
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You're allowed to place whatever value you wish upon another human being (within the limits of law) based upon whatever aspects you choose (within the limits of laws that offer limited protections to certain aspects in very specific circumstances... I can't refuse to rent an apartment to Indian students no matter how I detest the way they always seem to have half a dozen family members as "guests" and the whole place getting to smell like curry) and they will do the same for you. The problem is …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 10:07 PM
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>As far as I'm aware the Reddit Mods have never removed a major Blue-pilled subreddit even once. I don't think there's any bias in play. For a crackdown there needs to be one or more of a certain set of patterns, and it needs to have happened for the right amount of time/severity for that pattern or combo of patterns. Even if reddit doesn't formally have a metric for judging these things and operate with a degree of situational flexibility they clearly have a set of ideas and rules that add up t…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 08:27 PM
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I don't actually date as I don't value relationships at all. So you're complaining that someone's choice of path through a forest you won't even enter is not the path you'd take or wish they'd take.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 07:57 PM
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. And there are plenty of good men that also like to have fun and do interesting things. This too. "Work hard, party hard." is a thing. My sister and her husband had that kind of marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 07:49 PM
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What never ceased to amaze me as a young woman was men's assumptions that girls had no goals of their own and it was natural and normal that they could pursue and fuck any girl and through the magic of having her insides rubbed with a penis she would fall in line with what they wanted. It isn't that she has no discipline, it is that she is self disciplined towards a different set of goals than you'd like her to be. It takes serious hard work to be a party chick who looks great and does well in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 07:35 PM
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At that age you probably need to lift weights to not sag Dudes get saggy little titties like they need a bra even if they lift and have been lifting all along. Butts sag in the fatty bit even if the muscle bit is fine... and if you diet away the fatty bit then your face and neck and other areas get saggy wrinkly and baggy. It's quite ridiculous, but that's aging for you, it comes for us all if we're lucky. The thing that seems to make the difference to that sort of droop in slim folk is underlyi…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 06:53 PM
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I'd rather spend my time doing my hobbies. Also food is delicious. And significant calorie deficit feels like shit and tanks my energy levels. Oh and a long term sinus/dental/ear problem that has fucked with my balance and made exercise a more difficult thing. Sob. I've sort of managed to make a start on it this past 6 months (weightgrapher is a really easy site that helps me iron out the ups and downs and know what figure to aim to get below this week) but really can't be arsed aiming for more …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 01:13 PM
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My experience in that group is everyone's advice is slightly different. I think it is different on this topic too. I don't think many of them advocate immediate and complete transparency though... because that's a really dumb think to advocate, if a guy is asking on first date it is the same as a woman asking on a first date what you earn... too much too soon too many boundaries of privacy crossed.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 01:02 PM
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Yeah if they are asking really specifically and quite early in the dating process they are usually very low value. Most folks work out what the ballpark figure is just by chatty conversations, and don't give a fuck about minor distinctions like 1 vs 2 or 5 versus 7 or 20 vs 25.. I would tend to advise put your biggest grin on your face and outright refuse to answer. You need to know how a guy reactions to a "No" like that anyway, here's a good opportunity. But hey if you want to lie and then dum…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 12:53 PM
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As a young teen, to avoid feeling shamed a man foolishly agrees to fight a stronger teen. He goes home bleeding and concussed. Later discovers he is peeing too much, dismisses it as personal weakness. Turns out it is diabetes insipidus caused by damage to his pituitary done in the fight.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 10:55 PM
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It is pretty normal to support a mixed economy. You're gonna have a hard time finding someone who has no propensity for there being a degree of socialism in among their capitalism. Even people who declare themselves solidly anti-socialist... get the right topic and they will be joyously about something being socialized.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 09:27 PM
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Oh I always gotta post this when such things are mentioned. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RQykYaSN3CI
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 09:16 PM
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Yeah he's kind of like herpes of the "up next" slot.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 09:14 PM
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Dammit guys, lift your clothing game. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PTSky57wkK4
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 09:12 PM
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Jordan Peterson being just painful to listen to. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wd1przXsslQ
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 06:51 AM
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I don't do head games. You do head games. You just get angry when you find out you've been doing them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 10:19 PM
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Never have I desired a woman who "keeps me on my toes". Maybe the cases you've seen included a woman who was above their attraction range. Men are willing to compromise for a hot gf who gives good sex. The sex isn't going to be any good unless you're kept on your toes. That's how men are, they are crap unless some sense of crisis is involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 10:18 PM
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Men are direct and simple. Men lie even to themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 10:17 PM
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Most men just want a nice prude who is a sexy slut only for them. That's what they say they want. But you know what? Sometimes a human being wants something and then once they've got it they don't really give two shits about it until it runs out. And that's how men are about women who are too too obliging.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 01:27 PM
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You're really clueless. All the time people (men and women) stay in crappy situations because they've accepted another person's frame.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 01:25 PM
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What I'm saying is guys in real life who go around referring to women as "the fairer sex" are usually assholes who are trying to make sure women don't get to behave in ways that show power and control over themselves and the actions of others towards them. I mean would a member of the fairer sex stand up sharply when you put your arm around her shoulders and hand on her tit "accidentally" at the movie theater... spilling her popcorn and pepsi all over you and loudly declaim "I felt something cra…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 09:59 AM
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> If he’s sitting down in a chair, come from behind him and reach across his table Pretty similar to the old "yawn and reach" at the movie theatre to get your hand onto her upper breast. Whatevs, humans suck. > How can a man at least defend himself from things like this. Same way women do... by recognising what the person is doing and being angry enough about it to no longer feel any attraction. > Women the "fairer sex" my ass. Yes well that's a very gentlemanly on the surface but ultimately dee…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 09:49 AM
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Nah. They've all of them, even the most stable and decent ones, got at least a pinch of something akin to that dynamic in them. It is deep in their biology. And it is related to the reason why they are more likely to be willing to do things for you before they nut than after. When you say " they want a girl who's cute, fucks them semi-regularly, and makes dinner" well sure that might be how they consciously express their desire. However in it's passive form without playing on the man's conflicti…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 08:37 AM
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What do you mean by pre-civilization? Back when we were closer to apes than what we are now? Back when we'd attained some degree of social development but not to the level of current remnants of hunter gatherer populaitons? Back when we lived tribal hunter-gatherer lifestyles similar to those remnant hunter gatherer populations that until recently still lived that life? Back when we were herders living transhumance based lives? Back when we were neolithic farmers? Back in the bronze age? Early c…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 02:08 AM
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I've only ever been with guys I've known and liked at least several months before I dangled IOI and a romance approach resulted. Every approach that did not fit that criteria has been rejected out of hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 01:09 AM
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It isn't about forgiveness, it is about the moral discomfort caused by continuing complicity. I'm not going to stick around forever in someone's life with a front row seat to them mistreating their SO and/or a steady stream of unsuspecting victims while pretending that everything is normal and fine. I'm also not happy to cheerfully provide social proof to an individual whose way of functioning in relationships is whack due to their crappy beliefs. I'm not happy being the person who threw a party…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 01:03 AM
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Well... tallness is hot. Actually, I strongly suspect other men prefer tall men for nonsexual stuff. Tall men get paid more on average. I'm pretty sure if you did team picking, the tall guys would get picked sooner. So y'know that factors in... he's a more valuable creature all round because of those extra inches of height.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 06:01 PM
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Well we do live in a world in which not everyone is going to be able to have exactly what they want, this is nothing new. That doesn't mean people should stop wanting things, just that people need to learn to deal with occasionally wanting and not getting.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 02:12 PM
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Just peachy if she's got enough SMV and RMV. That's how it works out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 01:07 PM
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Statistically men are mostly about 5 inches taller than women. She likes to wear 3 inch heels and strut around looking 5 foot 7, and have a man who looks about like her tallness match... ie 5 inches taller. But don't fuss. If you're her actual tallness match (5 foot 9) just wear two inch lifts and lie about that last inch like all guys do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 01:06 PM
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That's like asking does eating a nice crisp but juicy and sweet apple feel good. I mean yeah? But not if any one or more of a long list of reasons is in play... already full, feeling a bit off my food, gonna go for a jog and know it will sit in me like lead, felling distracted, just had a tooth filled etc etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 01:02 PM
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Bye!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 12:56 PM
1

Secret paternity tests are illegal in France, you have to go to court to get them approved.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 12:53 PM
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Young women obviously enjoy it, but older women really start to hate it. I'm 50 and fine with the situation as is.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 12:45 PM
1

Depends whether she learns from it. If she learns that a lot of men are scum or in many cases would be if they had the means to be, and therefore to not to treat men like they've got any inherent value, and to have good boundaries and stop believing lies, and to make sure she gets good value from a man from day one rather than trying to "build" something with a guy who hasn't got the right foundations and isn't willing to invest, then she comes out of it much better off than she was. If she lear…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 04:02 AM
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"Send nudes!" "This is one of the versions of The Judgement of Paris that was painted by Peter Paul Rubens."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 01:43 PM
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The "dying alone" threat isn't a real threat for them, That's a lie. We've all seen sad lonely old ladies in nursing homes. It's a real threat, even if you get a bunch of cats and are fine with dying slowly after a bad fall, surrounded by kitties who will then eat you there's a fair chance that some critical incident will result in you locked up in a nursing home for years surrounded only by other people who can't remember you from encounter to encounter and caretakers who barely speak the same …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 10:53 AM
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I tell ya... women in general handle it better than men. That "you'll die alone" threat... women face up to it better than men do. The manoverse can mock crazy cat ladies all they want but it's a solution of sorts, a solution that does not involve suddenly having to change one's religious beliefs and bigtime throw oneself on the mercy of a deity one never really before believed in all that much, it is a solution that does not involve deciding everyone else in the world needs to be going about th…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 07:07 AM
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I think he'd never really thought through and learned to accept the full range of implications that follow on from not partnering and not having a family. Then his sister dies and BLAM! there's the reality of it right in his face... if he survives a goodly long time one by one every significant relationship of his life will be torn away from him with very little of the same nature to replace them. And he's quite possibly too old and has too much history and baggage to convince a fertile woman to…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 12:11 AM
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He hit the male Wall and found jeebus. FWIW I think maybe a good deal of the space he'd like to fill now in the manosphere is already occupied far more effectively by the Golden One.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 11:18 PM
3

Well just be honest about that and you'll cut out like 80% of the reason why a woman might "settle" for you. And Then don't date unemployed losers and most of the rest of the reason you might be settled for is gone. Then if you find someone... well she's not going to be economically getting more out of it than you so you're not being cheated out of anything. Probably as good as it gets for anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 09:23 PM
4

Generally if one has to ask whether something is wrong, there's some degree of wrongness to it. I mean maybe not very wrong like assault or fraud, but still sorta a bit wrongish. My suggestion? Get a vasectomy... so no oopsies. And be honest about having had one as soon as any relationship gets to the point of discussing contraception as a couples issue not an individual issue. That way you cut out everyone who wants you to sire and pay for a family. That just leaves women who might want you to …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 09:01 PM
4

Seems there's more youtube channels about everything. Authortube is booming, there's more witchy channels, there's more indoor plant channels, more sewing channels. People are working out exactly how useful they can make the platform. Personally I like to listen to household sort of stuff while doing housework... it keeps me in the mood. But I prefer SIMS youtubers doing talk and play stuff. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC_TYFButglZuuDbD-0Q_IzQ Also you might just be being offered more such c…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 08:27 PM
3

So who dumped you and how many weeks ago was it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 08:20 PM
20

Let him get real comfy with you doing something for him... then stop doing that thing for good reason but a reason he maybe feels (rather than thinks) isn't good enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 05:13 PM
3

Talking about exes or slutty things she's done. If she doesn't do this a fair number of guys will accuse her of hiding her past.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 11:30 AM
1

Dude, just don't be boring as dogshit. You don't have to go full-on drug dealer, but don't go pale around the lips, wide eyed and scared when you hear that my cousin smokes pot. Women hate cowards. Cowards have to pay to get their dick wet.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/20 03:29 AM
2

Don't use "middle class" to refer to people with low level jobs who are living largely hand-to-mouth and can't afford a short holiday when their kids get old enough to be left home alone. it isn't a term that should be applied to those people,
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 05:43 PM
4

Oh. You're using "middle class" to mean "solidly working class"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 05:27 PM
1

> box wine, Pretty standard where I'm from... you'll get offered bottled wine if I haven't had a party in the past month and box wine if I have. > tic tac house Isn't that just how most people, male and female, live nowadays? I've been lucky to avoid it but that's pure luck. I mean it is like insulting someone for wearing jeans. > Netflix addiction Oh noes, something other than gaming and porn. I don't have netflix though, I'm more a youtube girl, when I want more than that I read a book or list…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 05:23 PM
2

If you're asking whether I'm a curry munching tea-brewing brown skinned asian chick... nah. I'm a white girl from a country very culturally similar to America. I alter my expressions sometimes to be more understandable to Americans... prom rather than school formal, quarterback rather than ruckman, etc, but broadly speaking they are similar cultures in terms of getting laid. The skateboarding and surfing dudes grew up to get a lot more sex than the guys who hung out in the rooms playing games an…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 05:08 PM
0

Yeah most people don't have parents overseas Most middle class kids have parents who at some stage during the kid's young adulthood go off on a holiday. Making mischief with mom's car during that time is a pretty common thing. And this is all gay ass HS shit you're describing. So is fucking the quarterback, so is screwing your prom night date, so is sending a photo of you pretending to fellate a banana to your boyfriend at 14, but I don't see much willingness from risk averse dudes to forget tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 04:59 PM
6

LOL, yes. "Hey Bob, how about this long weekend we hire a metal detector, borrow my brother's tent and go bushwalking up those paths near the old gold mine... sounds like fun eh?" "Ewwww no there's snakes and there's mine shafts and I might sprain my ankle or get sunburned. Sounds terrible, dangerous." "Oh. OK." "Now how about once I've got to a natural stopping point in this computer game we have rough sex where I fuck your arse while choking you?" "IDK dude. Not really feeling it. Why don;t we…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 04:16 PM
1

People who aren't boring/safe tend to either be lowlifes with little to lose or wealthy people who can afford to take risks. Wow, in your imagination it is almost like no middle class kids skateboard, try pot, sneak out to stay out all night, sneak use of mother's car when she is overseas and drive it too fast over spoon drains busting the sump, get thrown out of the picture theatre for throwing candy, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 04:07 PM
2

> I had one friend who had 3 ONS in between relationships and that was it. Similar stories are out there. They have so little idea of what a normal sex life is like that to them, that is equivalent to walking into a biker bar, hoisting your skirts and inviting everyone to line up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 03:55 PM
1

Coming of age movie. Under pressure of reality she harnesses her previously nascent dark side (secrets, deception, law-breaking, blackmail) in service of her overall good system of values and of her own fairly normal desires. Also interesting... go through the movie and observe carefully and think about every time these sort of things are mentioned or played out ... truth, lies, deception, secrets putting up a front, performance, theft, keeping someone from what should be theirs, allowing someon…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 08:25 AM
-1

Would it really have killed you to make a little more effort not to be as boring as dogshit and totally unexciting in your late teens and early twenties? You've got eyes, you can see what guys the girls are getting with... sure physically attractive is good but being a bit edgy/exciting in the right way works too. If you're as smart as you think you are it shouldn't have been difficult. MGTOW is thataway. Enjoy your ROMO (reality of missing out) and if the only thing that makes your ROMO bearabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 07:47 AM
5

I think maybe this is one of those tendencies that thousands of years of patriarchy has probably exaggerated via evolutionary pressure. Patriarchy favors the old rich man/young pretty woman pairing... but the inevitable consequence of that is a bunch of relationships in which the man is of marginal potency even with a young woman. What's a woman of the Bronze Age/Iron Age/medieval era/pre DNA test era really to do in that situation? She's pretty much got to find an alternate source of sperm or r…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 04:28 PM
4

Well if your eggs are a bit old and dodgy it probably makes sense to seek the freshest least degraded sources of sperm.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 01:48 PM
1

Generally we don't care unless you're going to be foisting your sexual choice off on us in some way against our will, such as if you started carrying your doll round everywhere in public and referring to her as your wife and pitching a fit when she don't get any respect. Or if you bought a sex doll and fucked it instead of your wife and then expect the marriage to survive. Also some of us think you should be arrested and sent to prison if you use sex dolls that look like children which is a tota…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 01:29 PM
1

Yeah well take god out of the deal and suddenly you become personally responsible for a lot of the shit god used to do. In this case... inspire a woman to devoting her life to working directly and with great persistence to cater to needs you will have as as a breadwinner, head of household and father. Don't get me wrong, I'm an atheist. I'm a crotchety old woman atheist who is sick and tired of young male atheists who see atheism as a thing that frees them from social and moral burdens so they c…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 03:40 AM
1

Well... man are pretty much allowed to use porn and have sex with themselves 8 hours a day and all day on weekends if they want. I think at the most extreme end of the range male sexual habits would end up pretty much like their porn habits.... a line up of several thousand women, frustratedly flipping between them and barely being able to keep it hard enough to blow their wad. and yes if you let them the worst would do it in public too... at the cinema... in the aisles at the supermarket... etc…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/20 09:29 AM
1

Whatever that stuff is you probably need to talk to someone about it, maybe seek some sort of counselling or therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/20 12:16 PM
1

Go out a bit, just talking to girls and seeing how it is. if you get any interest at all then break it of with her. You both should be out dating and growing personally, not locked in the nowhere land of an LDR, The only reason to stay in the LDR is if you truly believe you couldn't get anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/20 12:14 PM
1

https://youtu.be/umS3XM3xAPk
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/20 11:37 AM
1

No-one expects any particular level of time, it is the level of result that is the expectation.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/20 04:47 AM
2

I don't even have a dick and I have the urge to stick some lube and a dick in there. Or maybe search for a video of someone fucking one. Edited to add; OMG there's lots of different ones... how has this not been brought to my attention before is it because I'm an old fart and none of my peers make sex jokes anymore? https://www.amazon.com.au/s?k=paw+cleaner&i=pets&ref=nb_sb_noss_2 ​ Edited again OMG this one the inside of the washer moves https://youtu.be/Tc-QGdy9PCY
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 08:15 PM
1

https://www.kmart.com.au/product/pet-paw-cleaner---large-to-x-large/2857830 https://www.kmart.com.au/product/pet-paw-cleaner---small-to-medium/2857828
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/20 08:07 PM
3

I recommend you see if you can patch things up with the mother until at least the point where she eases back on trashing you. I don't give a shit if that means you can't indulge your angry and vengeful feelz about her... people rarely become and stay high value without at some stage doing something that involves not following the emotional whim of the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 06:25 PM
2

People tend to judge introverts more slowly because they are less out there, which means that if you only see an introvert for a short time (such as at a party you are both guests at) you may come away with zero impression of them. Guys do this too though. Two girls equally pretty, they'll notice the one dancing extravagently to music in the middle of the room faster and more than they notice the one in the corner talking to one of her female friends. Same with people who are not of your preferr…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 04:18 PM
1

The marriage was in a death spiral due to multiple betrayals by him, and I wasn't quite ready to break away because I hadn't given him all the serious talks, detailed explanations and chances to fix his side of it and/or say something relevant and useful about my side of it that I naively thought I was supposed to... but I was too revolted by him to feel attracted. He took up using porn after a few weeks without sex, and well there was never any return after that, the marriage was never going to…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/20 04:05 AM
1

Grime.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 03:02 PM
2

Not a bot. Look, we've got China flexing, doing a lot of stuff to position itself and all those little islands that are gonna be screwed are gonna go to China (that knows EXACTLY how to shore up a little island and keep it a going concern) before they accept just sinking under the waves. We've already got bushfires in Australia that are causing evacuations of areas larger than many European countries. I'm sure Trump is not the only one who has been eyeing Greenland now that the Arctic is no long…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 12:06 PM
1

I think by 2030 we'll be seriouslydealing with the start of there being climate change refugees and climate change prompted wars happening as countries sort out the resulting wealth shifts, so IDK.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/20 06:45 AM
0

Just some dude who because he hasn't read enough thinks his ideas are new and special.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 06:53 PM
1

Only if it is a felony I too would have been willing to commit if put in a similar situation. Simple as that. If I wouldn't do it I don't want a man who would do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 03:34 PM
2

"Clean your room it's a pigsty." Remind you of anyone... say maybe your mother? Turns out Mom was on your side all along and gave you heaps of good advice for use in the dating market.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 04:55 AM
4

Unless you've got a burning desire to have no kids and take the wheel while he sleeps, a truckie is probably a bad deal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 09:18 AM
6

Like, not even when I bring a couple of friends and a whole stack of board games and we play for hours? They still gonna rape me at the end because I went to their place? Shit why do we let these animals even exist? Kill most of them, keep the rest in zoos.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 01:41 AM
3

Yep. This is how to reduce the chances of just being one of many.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 01:35 AM
6

> I refused to be poked and prodded like an animal by doctors and have my beanbag examined in medical facilities. Cry me a river.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 01:14 AM
6

Same for guys going home with guys too? I mean seriously what should one expect, men are just like that? https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-50987823
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/20 01:10 AM
1

gee dude it really grinds your gears that woman have opinions about men and their behaviors and might limit access to vaginas based upon those opinions. tough luck. suck it up and deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 11:06 PM
1

Dude, nobody gives a shit that men spank the monkey to porn occasionally just like nobody gives a shit if you have the occasional beer. It is when you start showing up adversely affected by that shit and interacting with others and just expecting them to ignore the adverse affects that people start giving a damn. Wank all you like, nobody wants to stop you touching your pee pee, they just want you to realise maybe by doing so to excess and in addictive ways you are choosing your future and that …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 10:03 PM
1

Well feck, never watched that show, it started after I gave up TV.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 03:02 PM
3

So she just needs to be athletic or slim. Now we discover she needs a good personality, OK what other restrictions you got? Single mothers? Unemployed women? Disabled women? Outspoken women whose politics differs from yours? Women who are in serious debt? What about age range? Look I'm going to be blunt, you almost certainly have considerably more dealbreakers than just weight,
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 03:00 PM
1

This is a great idea for a sitcom actually. Fit guy having difficulty finding a girl starts offering cheap group fitness sessions to fat women with pretty faces he finds on Tinder. ALL the fat comediennes could be in it. Anyone who wants to pitch the idea feel free, I won't be asking for a percentage since I believe the real work is in the execution not the initial idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 02:50 PM
4

You've pretty much described similar dynamics to those faced by average sized average appearance women on OLD, flooded by men they find unsatisfactory for good reasons. I mean sure the guys aren't all obese... there's a bit more of a variety... oh look there's a guy with prison tatts, there's a guy with no job and three kids he gets every weekend, there's a guy whose info reads like a psychotic political manifesto, there's a guy who is ewwwww 20 years older than me. Not only that, a lot of those…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 02:30 PM
1

Giving her 0.7 when she paid for 1.0 is predatory.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 12:28 PM
1

If you truly think ditching a date to fuck somebody else right in front of them is "just a bit rude"... well, god help anyone who dates a person with that attitude. If it is a not-quite-first-date with a definitely-not-your-girlfriend-yet, and you're not left without transport, then yeah it is just a bit rude? I mean what have you lost other than a slice of your pride (which will of course regenerate if you don't keep doing dumbass shit) and what have you gained... a valuable insight into one of…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 12:21 PM
1

So Brenda doesn’t get scholded for having a covert contract? If she starts whining to all her friends (who then post on the internet) and acting like Chad is the devil incarnate doing extreme crazy acts rather than just a trifling ass man who is selfish and rude with those he does not value then yeah she'll get schooled. In my original story, no such mercy was extended to the man in question. Only ridicule and derision. Because you were trying to say what she did was crazy, extreme... not just a…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 07:12 AM
1

Dude, whether it is controlling or sensible is all in the details. Many a married woman has been the long-suffering designated driver at her best friend's hens night. Sort it out between you, everyone!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 06:49 AM
1

How do you feel about what Chad and Brenda behaved? So long as Brenda wasn't left without transport, Chad hasn't been more than just rude. Hellishly rude, but ultimately an etiquette sort of rudeness only not rude like stealing someone's wallet at knifepoint or letting your dog crap on their doorstep . A "well that's not the way you should by preference do things" sort of rude. Indeed in a great many ways he has been less rude than if he just forgot and no-showed to the pizza house. He gave his …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 06:28 AM
1

Dude, your friend is a dishonest (to self and others) low-value orbiter. I'm glad he had a painful experience to knock him out of orbit.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 05:46 AM
1

Can't tell because don't wanna know. Don't wanna think the thought. Don't wanna end the crush. Don't wanna leave orbit. And to be blunt if this is the girl he's been crushing on and he has a date with her not just a friendly outing to play pool... a date she knows is a date... a date date... why hasn't he been kino all night all over her? Also... pool, man. That's pretty much a 100% plausible deniability date. Cos you can't play it alone and it is always nice to go with someone who will give you…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 05:37 AM
1

What is your evidence he “didn’t make his intentions known” The description just fits perfectly with how orbiters who are desperately trying to keep their agenda secret and prioritize preserving hope over making progress behave. She's a "shy girl" is code for "has never respond in a sexual manner to flirting or maybe even responded with annoyance/disgust so I gave up flirting and decided to tell myself she must be shy not uninterested or disgusted" and this is confirmed for us by later in the st…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 05:28 AM
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I'd bet good money that "shy" was just the way that orbiter was desperately attempting to reframe "does not appear sexually attracted to me"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 03:56 AM
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"nice girl he was crushing on" it is in the subtext of your post, clear as day, Dude's an orbiter who has not declared his intentions. Playing pool is not an unmistakably romantic activity and is an activity people commonly engage in with friends who are just friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 03:50 AM
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Translation from Hamsterese: “She knew he liked her and was interested in her romantically, but that’s his problem. As long as she has plausible deniability, she can simply claim she thought of him as a friend when she had him drive her and Chad home to bang (despite the fact that she was coy about it indicating she knew it was fucked up). The plausible deniability in that case exists because he has not overtly declared his intentions. He has not declared his intentions because he wants to keep …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 03:38 AM
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Yeah. It is probably one of the least crazy of crazy moves ever. Crazy is things like encouraging a guy to play chicken with trains when he and his girlfriend are giving you a ride home, in the hopes his girlfriend can't handle it and dumps him and you get sweet rebound sex with him. That's crazy. Crazy is being willing to try heroin or meth with a dude in hopes of getting to fuck him. Crazy is breaking in or hacking in to try to find evidence of his pornography preferences so you can learn how …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 03:11 AM
2

Everybody ages and sometimes a particular person will experience a sudden acceleration of aging. But in general the "wall" is not a sharp and definable event and happens to most guys too... if you think it doesn't then check out the low value middle aged dudes on places like OKCupid. > One thing I CAN agree with is that around 35, quite a bit of women tend to "oldify" their looks. Either they go up in weight, or they cut their hair short Karen style, and start to wear glasses five sizes too big.…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 01:09 AM
3

Men are high maintenance. If you don't desperately need one you aren't going to want one unless the deal is sweetened somehow,
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/20 08:25 AM
1

They like people just fine when people are giving them things and experiences they want, and not asking to take in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/20 03:50 PM
0

Yeah whatevs, I've no idea what level of behavior on the disagreeable to abusive spectrum you are talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 05:33 PM
1

Like many people I think the genetics side of it is an issue but possibly the last of the significant issues to show up. A family run along the lines of recreational incest at will (I'm leaving out the traditions that involved selective incest of the top people in elites... that's a different thing) is going to stop wanting to appease outsiders in any way whatsoever... think Sawney Bean, think the Colt Clan. There's an awful lot of the things we do to appease the rest of humanity that actually k…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 04:36 AM
1

Have you maybe considered that a lot of the guys who complain that they have to work so hard to have a relationship are guys who aren't really doing what it takes to have a good relationship with themselves and instead spending hours every day distracting themselves from themselves using porn and games and various forms of escapism? I mean it is a bit rough to hold women responsible for expecting you to be the sort of man who can look at his own self and his own life in detail and not feel like …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/20 01:46 AM
1

Well that's my advice to your imaginary friend then. We bring our problems into relationships. If he wants a relationship that works he should see someone about his depression... he needs either medication or talking until he's at a point where he's not going to be a huge burden on anyone he gets with.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 12:45 PM
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> I'm depressed and anxious BECAUSE I'm alone and I need a partner. Nope. You're depressed because you are of low value even to yourself. Guys can go for years without touching a woman and without getting depressed (agitated between wanks? sure. Looking at any crack that is deeper then it is wide like it could be a cunt? Absolutely! But not depressed) if they have something meaningful they are doing that gives their life value. You do know chances are if you are like this and get a girl, it will…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/20 12:15 PM
1

They seem to want to normalise it. And then they'll be complaining that women have any gripes with it at all. Pretty classic motte and bailey arguing, Giving in under a little bit of nonviolent nonthreatening pressure isn't being raped.... that's the motte and in general most people agree. The bailey that goes with it is always "and you're a bitch who thinks everything is rape if you do anything like dump a guy's ass straight in the gutter or talk badly of him to others for trying that shit on..…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 02:29 AM
1

Mostly they liked fairly bland boring food that didn't take any skill to cook. I was a production line of pot roasts, mashed potato and steamed broccoli. Meh.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/20 01:51 AM
2

I'm 50 and there is currently no-one under the age of 18 in my household. Not cooking anymore is one of my new years resolutions. Cooking just makes me hungrier than is good for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 07:25 PM
6

That chick who helped Epstein find all those teenagers.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 07:12 PM
1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CajCmo9wrb0
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 07:08 PM
0

Pffft. Some of them are pulling other women just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 06:55 PM
3

So the OP wants us to talk to him about our underpants.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 06:51 PM
4

Creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 06:24 PM
1

While I don't think it is likely that legally she's been raped if saying no and making it stick would have been as simple as getting out of bed, I do think that in terms of consequences to the relationship if she feels she was coerced and wants to burn the whole relationship down and walk away because of that night and tell all her friends he's crap in bed and she wouldn't cross the road to piss on him if he was on fire, she's completely justified. Of course that's not what the spergs here want …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/19 03:06 AM
7

Well, from what I see of the youngsters around me using Tinder, it is like being offered a bag of Bertie Botts every flavor beans isn't it? Alas, earwax. Only it isn't earwax it is a fucking psycho who tries to stop you getting out of his car... or a clingy stalker who works out where you live and where you work and shows up there to convince you it was meant to be... or a dude with visible herpes lesions who throws a fit when you won't touch his dick... or a tourist who wants a marriage of visa…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/19 09:07 AM
2

I have, occasionally, wondered what it would be like for an in-demand young woman to respond to men playing the numbers game by playing the numbers game herself. "hey, I'm a busy girl and I don't generally do individual coffee dates with randoms because randoms usually turn out to be guys I've got nothing in common with... give me your contact details and once I've got a few random guys interested in talking to me I'll organize to be buying myself lunch at a cafe and I'll send you all a message …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 01:01 AM
1

Thinking that her time is somehow more important than a mans. The time of the interesting person is always worth more than the time of the boring person.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/19 12:37 AM
2

Oh I'm definitely a fattie right now. But then again I'm not dating, I'm just round there to provide a bit of older woman insight occasionally. And make scrotes mad, of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 06:07 PM
4

You sure don't act like people who don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 06:04 PM
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Well I'm not looking right now... but here's some of my previous dealbreakers. Had kids with someone who is not me and is still alive. Works in the military or as a police officer or a bouncer. Takes anabolic steroids or other similar drugs. Paraphilias. Too far to the right wing. Wants to order me round. Pale eyebrows. Much younger or older than me. Addiction to anything other than coffee. Inconvenient immigration status. Habitual criminality. Had a passive aggressive relationship with his moth…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 05:14 PM
1

She can have him. Simple as that. Not interested in losing a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 05:05 PM
1

>So what do we do with these men? We don't have to do anything with them. They live their life and then they die. Look if you want to try gay sex, work out what the experience you are willing to try would be like and go on Grindr. Just be upfront about the situation and that you might have to wimp out.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 03:34 PM
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I think the thing that annoys TRP guys is that they still want to get the chance to stick their dick in FDS women. They don't want the weeding to be the woman weeding them before the first date... they want it to be them weeding her after the first few fucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 03:20 PM
1

BUT it isn't perfect because there are still shitty men out there who can spend a lot of money just because they have it. I don't think FDS ever claimed it was the only filter women should apply? And most importantly, and it is OP's point, it also filters out some HVM males who are generous and well funded. The ones who aren't feeling particularly motivated. That's OK. If a girl attends to her overall worth it isn't going to matter if a few less keen guys get weeded out.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 02:58 PM
0

Whatever, guys always tantrum when they know a woman looks good enough to fuck but has no intention of accepting them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 02:55 PM
28

This. It doesn't sound like he's looking to do anything other than date and fuck. FDS doesn't want him and has successfully filtered him out.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 02:04 PM
6

women with superiority complexes You mean it weeds out women with standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 02:03 PM
4

You defend yourqelf like "And so what she prefers big wallet ?! You guys prefer big boobs !" Dude, I've never dated rich men. I just don't think the girls who have it as a priority to have a rich generous man have anything to be ashamed of. If that's what it takes to motivate them to be their best selves, to put the effort in, then that's what they should focus on getting. he's just saying that if money isn't a priority to a woman, then a man who doesn't want to spend big amounts of money on the…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 02:01 PM
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> and if the woman turns him down later, he didn't lose much, and she got a free coffee. A FREE COFFEE? Be still my beating heart! Not worth it. Time spent with guys who you after three minutes over a cup of coffee realise are shitty men you never want to see again grates on the nerves. Time spent with shitty men who think a coffee is fair recompense for listening to their bullshit and will make damn sure you stick around and listen at least an hour... most women would rather be at home scrubbin…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 01:01 PM
3

Just after you lost your job and your wife's health insurance is what you're relying on. To be blunt that would be the main reason I'd drop the bomb as fully and completely as I could as soon as it was comparatively safe for me to... possibly if one of us moves on to a new company? Because once I've dropped the bomb I get to just walk away and what is happening back there is whatever is happening back there, there is no longer anything I can do to change it. I've removed the moral hazard that I …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 01:17 AM
3

Who is she going to believe, the man she bought a house with and had a child with, And whose various odd behaviors have had her wondering...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 01:09 AM
2

Nah, you're always going to be wondering how that other poor bitch is going and whether he's received his comeuppance. Offload the info as soon as possible and then you're out. Possibly she'd be best off waiting until she moves on from the company they both work for, then drop the bomb.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 01:08 AM
1

I'd sort of want it off my chest because the temptation to save onto the info until the most ruinous point possible for him would always be there.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 01:03 AM
3

Nah. Cheaters do whatever they feel they can get away with, sooner or later they overestimate what they can get away with. I mean look at what he did... she worked at the same company as him and he let it go on for 6 months. That's not low risk cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 12:59 AM
4

Well for starters she's going to invest more heavily in the fantasy if it is left to run wild. When ultimately the fantasy explodes and dies... should she have one child from the relationship or three to deal with? I daresay one is a more sustainable option for getting on with life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 12:46 AM
3

Or you stay and have to deal with the knowledge that you're living and raising a child with a cheater. Truth is painful but it is less dangerous than the fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 12:39 AM
3

> he told me to never tell her, Yeah that's the point at which I'd for sure decide to let her know. He doesn't get to "tell you what to do" at this point, he gets to beg on his knees.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/19 12:37 AM
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Women are picky because men are physically stronger and therefore can hurt them, and pregnancy is expensive in many different ways. Men are thirsty because women are physically weaker therefore tend to be appeasing of them (who doesn't like to own a servant?) and splooging is cheap.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 07:15 AM
1

I don't see that as a flaw.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/19 12:11 AM
1

Your assumption we're lying is what makes you poisonous. If a dude has to state he's a good man, usually he isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 10:35 PM
3

Here's my perspective on the perennial "But we protect you" bullshit. Society-wide law enforcement is paid for and provided by a great many people both male and female. Involvement in law enforcement as a career is largely voluntary in that nobody is conscripting you into the police force or to be a public prosecutor or to work as an insurance claims investigator or tax officer at gunpoint... the direct acts of enforcing law are not a burden on ALL men they are a burden on SOME men and SOME wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 10:30 PM
1

Good dick connected to good men is neither cheap nor plentiful. Yes well, dudes be "I'm a quality man" and dudes be most of the time lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 09:59 PM
3

Your dick is just a dangling flap of skin, it does not make you attractive nor does it define your gender expression enough to ensure attraction based upon your gender expression. Or in fewer words... your dick does not make you a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 09:57 PM
1

Fat guys can get dick if they want. Anyone can get dick. I mean just saying, dick be cheap and plentiful.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 09:27 AM
1

Men need a degree of upper body muscularity to be more than minimally physically attractive, that is true. It doesn't need to be as much as the body builders have but it needs to be at least enough that you look like you could shift furniture without getting hurt. A lot of long distance runners just don't have that look naturally as a result of their running. This has always been the case. > I’ve definitely felt shamed for not having a muscular body by some women I know. They probably felt you w…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 09:25 AM
2

Gosh the level of thinly disguised incel content has skyrocketed.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 07:37 AM
0

> However, from my superficial observations, it seems that when people are discussing the romantic failure of men, they will nitpick every last detail about their demeanor and personality before even touching on the subject of their looks. Your superficial observations are wrong. Men are regularly told to get more exercise to change the way their face and body look and how they move. to choose flattering clothes and hair styles, to get better Tinder photos, to get their shirts tailored, to shave…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/19 07:33 AM
5

FDS women are absolutely toxic. They're as bad as incels and tradcons. Lol. FDS pretty much just says "kick him to the curb early and firmly if you aren't getting what you want" is that really so awful?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 11:27 PM
8

Combat veteran = once was in combat. It says nothing about how fit he is now for that shit, what actually happened when he was in combat, how often he was in combat, whether he survived that combat without being wrecked by it physically or mentally, how much handout of cash and services he now requires due to having been in combat. And let's be blunt... there's a hell of a difference between being part of a country's machinery of war... trained to task, equipped by other people, with backup to c…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 11:21 PM
1

Many, if not the majority of, genuinely interesting men Yes but do you wish to let those men fuck you?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 09:13 PM
24

Whatever, it is always the dudes who wouldn't even be able to properly protect themselves who make these arguments.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 08:39 PM
2

But we didn't learn that, and most people don't know it right now. So for those guys, why wouldn't they use porn? Does it really take a genius to work out that when you are three hours into a wank session, haven't come yet, your dick is losing all hardness unless you keep touching it, you're desperately searching pornhub... and yet you keep going... that something is badly wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 10:26 AM
1

What's so paradoxical... it makes such good reproductive sense that it is clear this is probably down to evolution. You are significantly better looking than a person probably needs to be in order to get by. You are probably OK risking that your kids will be slightly less good looking than you in return for them being better resourced or occupying a more favorable social position. You are significantly worse looking than a person probably needs to be in order to get by. You are not OK risking th…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 09:33 AM
1

IDK... what sort of drug using trouble making stud? If he smokes a bit of weed occasionally and ran the climate change walkout at his high school well I'm OK with that. Meth and stealing cars not so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 09:19 AM
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> Considering that a lot of people in this sub are left leaning, it's strange to read this thing about dressing better, makes me think of a materialistic view of life where people are overly judged by the way they appear. Dude, being left leaning doesn't stop you tucking your shirt in, having the most flattering number of buttons open, popping the collar or rolling the cuffs if that looks better to you, , and when it is time for more shirts to cover your nakedness trying to get best style and si…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 11:49 PM
19

Swish the glasses in lukewarm dirty water then let them drain to dry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 11:38 PM
66

Leave the dishes for HIM to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 09:25 PM
1

Shouldn’t be too hard. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 08:36 PM
1

Wanna know what works far better than viagra? A hot firm-bodied 18-24 year old woman. If you can't be 18-24, then the least you can do is not be fat. Put the ice cream down, ladies! So that means a non-fat woman who encounters porn related ED in a man has a right to be utterly, completely, totally scornful and mocking of his porn-sick limp dick and the pathetic self indulgent lifestyle that led to it? I mean she's clearly done her part and removed most of the obstacles to him getting hard. And o…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 08:35 PM
1

I understand it is very hard to have self control about the things you have available in abundance when the general situation is one of scarcity. See also "why do some poor people eat all the carbs and end up the size of small sea lions" Anyway, my expectation is that people who must rely upon masturbation as a long term measure pay attention to what the masturbation is doing to them and set themselves some reasonable healthy limits based upon those observations and also some reflective thought.…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/19 12:25 PM
3

What are you after? I'd probably be OK with my immediate family being more out of distress than not on balance, the occasional moment or two of happiness, and humanity as a whole surviving in some form or another. The older you get the simpler your desires. no matter what nature intended for us to be Nature has no intentions, it just is. We've got a time tested manner of surviving it which is that those of us who can cope with it better breed more successfully and that this process becomes more …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 11:22 PM
1

I like being me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 09:13 PM
0

> Nah. I do powerlifting for fun. That's something I just don't believe from anyone I find in manosphere or manosphere adjacent spaces. > What explains your personality? Agreeableness is for Pickmeisha.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 08:57 PM
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It could be you, it could be a person you like that dies out. So? I mean seriously this is the game of life, some win and some lose. I do my best and so do my kids but maybe my kids won't breed and even if they do maybe their kids won't breed. Maybe I'm not what is suited to the future, maybe I'm 10% or 20% less suited than some other sort of person. Maybe I don't win this game. Maybe you don't win this game. I don't feel particularly compelled to jeopardise the entire process of the species sta…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 08:48 PM
0

Wow you must really have a bad personality to have to do all that just to overcome it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 07:18 PM
3

I think we could just let those bloodlines who are having trouble coping with the current situation die out.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 07:01 PM
1

People might think you want a relationship because you keep talking about relationships LOL yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 06:51 PM
2

If you don't want to no one cares enough to try and convince you. So much this. We're happy to point out the upside of relationships but seriously he's not such a loss to the RMP that we have to try to drag him back into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 06:50 PM
0

What the fuck is wrong with some of you guys, a woman opens her mouth and whatever she says you read into it exactly what you want to hear not what she actually said. Is there something wrong with how your brains work around women.... does the routine go oops there's a woman, reading comprehension centres disabled, listening disabled, spew irrelevant nonsense at her? If you want a little goddamn support in old age other than spending money on a nursing home, some sort of pairing up in the next f…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 06:44 PM
0

Imagine yourself at age 75. If you still don;'t need an LTR then, well fine stay single.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 09:31 AM
1

Saturday just been? I look up from the writing I am doing and remind him we have not shopped for some time due to the heat wave that has just ended, and therefore there is no bread in the house until our routine quick shop on Sunday. I offer to grab juice, cheese and crackers from the kitchen in about however many minutes will bring me to a natural break point in my work.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/19 09:22 AM
4

But everyone is open to other people, the problem is only if they are sexually open. Most young women are not running Instagram accounts that are about them being sexually open. Most young women post more shots of food, handicrafts, landscapes, flowers etc than they do selfies. Men just notice the women posting "fitness" pics more so assume there are more of them
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/19 10:22 PM
1

Well if you meet her through your social circle you have met her?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/19 10:12 PM
3

So long as she's not cultivating a mass audience specifically for sexualised photos (once again I state, most women are not using insta that way) who gives a shit? Why is it so threatening to you that others are approving of her? Do you seriously think you alone by yourself are and should be enough human approval and validation for another human being? What if she loves carving soap into flowers, makes lovely creations, and that bores you silly, is she to be expected to give up interacting with …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/19 10:08 PM
1

That's why decent girls still preference approaches from in their social circle. It means straight up that it is less likely he sees her as disposable.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/19 09:55 PM
2

What exactly is so awful and ruinous about a girl getting a few likes of a picture of a sunset for fucks sake?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/19 09:42 PM
3

Lol my 87 year old grandma maybe?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/19 05:00 PM
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I don't think it would make a damn bit of difference if guys left insta and looked elsewhere. Where ever they go they favour the promise of easy availability and surface polish over the carefully guarded and quietly thoughtful. You just have to sit back and watch at a large party, the loud brash party girls in tight short dresses get first choice. They let it warp their perceptions of everything and everyone around them. I'm over it by now, I just accept there is no saving men from their own idi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/19 04:35 PM
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But most of the young women using Instagram are not instathots. From what I have seen of my kids and their peers, most of them post a picture maybe every two or three months, most of the pictures are not selfies. Most of the material they follow is the same as their Facebook stuff but with more scenic content. Once again, is it maybe possible that men, especially thirsty young men, are choosing to see Instagram as being mainly the women on Instagram who they find most pleasing to their dicks and…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/19 04:17 PM
3

Depends on a bunch of different things. In the case of a first date between comparative strangers it should pretty much always be the one who did the asking, thirst has costs associated and you can not really expect the person being asked to be as eager or take as much responsibility for the idea as the one who had the idea. And I don't care that this means guys pay more often, your thirst your problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/19 02:09 AM
5

Bride at a royal wedding.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 02:13 AM
4

The group I was part of in my late teens early twenties contained three couples and a bunch of singles who went through a poly phase. One couple at a time they worked out that it wasn't for them and decided to stop... and then stayed stopped. Only one couple broke up over it (the woman actually fell in love with the side guy and it took him doing something appalling for her to dump him) but they got back together shortly after... then broke up about a decade and a half after that because she bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 12:43 AM
1

The point being if you've told someone that something is OK to do then you desperately need them to stop doing it... you gotta at least ask. I've also never divorced anyone. Ah. So you've got the map as described to you by the manosphere, but think it is the territory.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 10:17 PM
1

Most of the time, women are the ones doing that You're a man, and you just advocated doing it, earlier in the thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 10:00 PM
2

No dude. Putting yourself on track to divorce papers served without some sort of attempt at discussion of the issues, when your partner is honest, nonviolent, non-bullying and working within the definitions of fidelity you both agreed to is always wrong. Male or female, that's always wrong. Even if you feel it is hopeless to have the discussion, not having it is wrong. Even if the problems you've got have a gendered aspect... and you feel a bit like you're getting the raw end of things in this s…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 09:12 PM
2

Dude, stepping straight to divorce lawyers without discussion and attempts at changing the situation when your spouse has only worked within the rules you both willingly agreed to and hasn't been dishonest, violent or bullying is way out of line, It always is out of line. It is frivorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 08:57 PM
2

Just enough masculinity between the four of them to get by on.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 08:53 PM
1

Your stance is "woman always good/smart/moral, man always evil/stupid/immoral". If he leaves because they adopted a dynamic he willingly agreed to and then he's too chickenshit to ask to go back to the old dynamic when it isn't working out, then yeah he's in the wrong. Imagine it this way. You and your wife decide to go live in a different country... you had come up with a shared vision of your future together and that vision was brazil... or Japan... or Australia... or India. You seem to be ada…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 08:51 PM
2

She's an idiot for telling her husband to fuck off after he tells her "let's close the marriage up". But your previous comments just assume that is what she will say? To know that is what she will say he's going to have to ask. Monogamy and open marriages are two different dynamics... both with advantages and disadvantages... and there are people who are OK with the disadvantages of either so long as they are getting to enjoy the full benefits too. There are people who say "well if it is an open…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 08:35 PM
1

How would you feel about it if she sprung divorce lawyers on him after this, no discussion?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 08:21 PM
2

She was a bit of an idiot. And she's going to have to deal with that too in order for them to stay together. Who was more of an idiot will probably depend on who suggested it in the first place. Also it will depend on how they sold it to the other party But then again who is more of an idiot, the idiot who leads or the idiot who follows? Calling a divorce lawyer without trying to fix things first because his pride is hurt by something he was at best complicit in and agreed to and at worst actual…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 08:16 PM
3

They both agreed to it. And if he'd been the one who could get the girls and she couldn't get guys he'd have been all over that like a crow on a dying lamb. He's been a fucking idiot. But that can be OK if it is recovered from, even people who are occasionally fucking idiots can have good marriages. However sooner or later your spouse is going to work out that you've got that potential to be a fucking idiot... and exactly what shape your potential to be a fucking idiot takes. Them's the breaks t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 08:10 PM
3

Depends on whether they are open to continuing to stay oriented towards having a decent life or not. Depressed? Better be seeking treatment and trying to address lifestyle. Unemployed? Better still be trying to do some sort of work even if it is just keeping your home clean. Disabled? Better be exploring what you can do. In pain? Better get good at getting full value from what you can still do despite the pain. Feeling hopeless? At least try to accept how freeing that is to take risks and do thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 08:03 PM
5

Even if she does do it she will never ever respect him ever again. He might have to spend four or five years not being a fucking idiot before the failed polyamory experiment fades into the background noise of their history together. Oh the humanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 07:46 PM
5

No, it's divorcing the wife because she doesn't want to go back to water after tasting sweet wine. You know what? People go from drinking water to drinking wine and then go back again all the damn time if they feel it is for the best. People change their diets, people take up intense exercise routines, people take on jobs that are harder, people give up their spare time to run businesses, people have kids knowing that they will be run off their feet and experience a decade of sleeplessness doing…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 07:32 PM
4

It's very, very difficult to close up a marriage after it's been opened up. Yes well, but is it only a workable marriage when it is easy? Do we end marriages when it looks like things might be getting difficult... or do we end them when we have tried to address the difficulties and failed? "asking their wife for monogamy again" - He might as well cut his own balls off and give them to her. Maybe he should try it and see what happens rather than just go for the lawyer straight up? I mean seriousl…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 07:17 PM
1

I think, maybe it just works out better for them because they aren't so possessive of each other? Also she probably looks better when she's not pregnant. Anyway I see polyandry as a viable solution for some low value men and women. If any one particular "husband" of hers is acting up and being a jerk, the others are there to pull him into line, tell him to stop being a jerk, listen to his bullshit etc. If any one of her low value "husbands" is not getting out there and working, not doing his sha…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 06:55 PM
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I went over to that site for a bare 2 minutes and nothing but posts from husbands upset that they "opened" their relationship and can't get any women at all while their wives are fucking another dude 4 times a week..... I would suggest that they get off reddit and start searching for a divorce attorney...... Divorce... particularly the sort of divorce that starts with lawyers rather than starts with a friendly talk with your spouse about how the situation is making you feel hopeless... rather th…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 06:36 PM
5

But there's a difference between being a man for your sake and being a man to please women. Guys doing the latter are very often miserable. This is one of the things that gets to me about anger phase TRPers having a big old complain about how women prefer naturals. Of course a man who does all that naturally is a happier man, of course he's got the edge over an unhappy man man doing it all resentfully.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 02:24 PM
3

This. There's plenty of flirting instances that please both people in a mildly sexual way and aren't a problem at all. For example an 80 year old man who is working on his front garden cuts a young woman a rose and says a pretty flower for a pretty lady and she replies "If you were 40 years younger...". Or a middle aged female bus driver who regularly works the route a young man uses saying "oooh you are looking goood this evening" when he gets on the bus to go to town all dressed up on a Friday…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 02:15 PM
1

I think if you're still thinking that way by the time you're 17, then unless you were homeschooled with very little contact with your peers, there's something wrong with your ability to tell what is going on while observing human behavior. Definitely your parents would have been tearing their hair out about how to teach you certain things. In your case they were probably desperate to address shyness, possibly introversion, maybe other things too. You've got to understand... parents are just othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 02:15 AM
1

I believe if you've got a son who is spergy, you've got a whole slew of problems and limited time to deal with it... he probably also has a great desire for alone time and limited tolerance for having interventions of various sorts performed on him before he becomes sullen and hard to work with. Learning when to selectively bend rules and push boundaries is one of the hardest things to teach a sperg, one of the highest risk things for them to attempt, and also one of the lowest priority because …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 01:58 AM
3

The big flagon of what looks like milk in the foreground... can only see it if you click on the pic. OMG put it back in the fridge ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 10:34 PM
13

Easier to explain a weeknight absence to your wife as working late.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 08:13 PM
2

That's minimizing the issue and you know it. That's because compared to the general risks of pain, uncertainty and distress in parenthood, the risk of custody issues becoming so severe as to be hard to manage is indeed not a big deal. I've watched my parents at the bedside of my sister who was dying painfully of cancer, been there with them when after six hours of fighting for every breath and the pain medication not working, she finally died. I've watched a school friend whose daughter went alm…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 08:05 PM
2

I have no idea how many? I mean obviously there must be some, plenty of neurotic dudes out there. Anyway, I think it is important to note, anyone who is scared enough of a potential future custody dispute to not have kids should probably be allowed to drop out of the reproductive market even if their assessment of the risk is on the high side and they could be argued around to seeing the risk differently. Because you know what else can happen when you have kids? They can die. They can get cancer…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 05:09 PM
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Pretty much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 04:47 PM
14

Yeah. He's a nutter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 04:22 PM
76

"Just remember everyone, Jordan Peterson says chaos is feminine..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 03:34 PM
3

Feminism isn't just about legal rights, it is also about having the knowledge to effectively use one's legal rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 12:02 PM
59

Deck the porch with his old hoodies Fa-la-la-la-la, la-la-la-la
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 11:17 AM
7

To avoid falling into the trap of doing increasing amounts of emotional labour which is treated with decreasing amounts of respect by their loved ones, women need to make sure they all understand the concept of it and the concept of it is well enough known to be able to be discussed. And so they will talk about it and put it on their agenda. You're perfectly free to point out ways in which men are having problems with the emotional labour that is expected of them. While there's a considerable am…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 11:11 AM
3

And a lot of these these complaints sound like the they come from women who have reached middle age with children and are responsible for holding their family together, which does admittedly entails many responsibilities , yet you’re hearing similar complaints from young women who don’t have as many responsibilities? They've listened to what older women have to say and are just being sensible and strategic and trying to deal with it and resolve the matter in the early stages. Because pretty much…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 10:54 AM
2

Dude, Betas are in some ways the worst. They get to age 40 and all of a sudden it it irritability and picking arguments with their teen kids from dawn to dusk.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 10:49 AM
4

It doesn't have to be actual lashing out... it can be getting crotchety and spoiling things if that is done systematically enough and regularly enough? I mean if someone is socialized to feel that it is their responsibility to make sure everyone has the opportunity to enjoy their day and then the other parent makes sure that every damn day at dinner they gratuitously provoke one of the teenage kids to an angry outburst... also makes sure they are grumpy as hell at breakfast and there is never an…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 10:47 AM
1

Well go ahead report me dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 10:14 AM
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>No. It is not labour to vacuum mom's place. It is being nice and caring. Or doing ones duty. Or something like that. The reality is that it is both. Just like vacuuming the floor is housework and it is also light exercise. > It is economics creeping in the personal and private space. You've only got so much time in the day, and economics is the science of the distribution of resources... including time. Doing stuff unpaid for someone else invariably has an economic aspect to it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 10:14 AM
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Yeah, an overload of emotional labour can pretty much make you feel like the last thing you should ever be doing is the thing that potentially adds a small helpless screaming human to mix.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 10:10 AM
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Yes, men also do emotional labour and I'm not sure anyone has ever claimed differently?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 10:07 AM
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Emotional labour isn't just playing agony aunt. It can include remembering a long list of people's preferences so they can live more comfortably. It can include making efforts to be more distracting when the other person appears troubled. It can include managing the people around another person to give better outcomes to that person.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 04:24 AM
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