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7

No because I'm chicken shit and broke. But I'm also tired of not having an active social life...
/r/seduction28/03/17 02:02 PM
2

Who can say, but so girls do want a more forward guy. Is the mantra "always try to get a girl to fuck"? That seems like a shitty mantra...
/r/seduction06/03/17 03:45 AM
1

My only rule is family/friends before strangers, but everyone is human. I will help you if I can.
/r/seduction26/02/17 06:16 PM
-1

Maybe get to know her a bit and find out if you truly like what she is about. If so, ask her out on a date, like coffee, ice cream or bowling. I don't think getting ice cream with your friend is looked down upon by society. Just wait to have sex until you're 18, you have plenty of life to have adult fun. No need to rush it.
/r/seduction22/02/17 03:28 PM
1

Don't future trip. Be the best you and let life happen. If someone rejects you before they really know you, it probably wasn't meant to happen. But you never know how many fish you will catch if you don't even put your bait in the water.
/r/seduction06/01/17 11:54 PM
3

Seems like you have a good head on your shoulders. I wish you all the best and thanks for sharing.
/r/seduction19/12/16 01:52 PM
1

no..
/r/seduction19/11/16 08:37 PM
5

Is the idea to never Fap?
/r/seduction19/11/16 08:13 PM
2

You will actually take action to become a better person and/or get attention from romantic partners. If you overfap, you will be momentarily "satisfied" and not work out, not clean your apartment, not leave the house, etc.
/r/seduction19/11/16 08:13 PM
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Oh. Yeah, don't contact her. You should have closed. Next time. FWIW - Saw a hottie rushing into the 7-Eleven backroom yesterday. She was moving quickly but her friend was waiting outside. Would have been a great opportunity for me to talk up her unsightly friend in hopes of closing with the hottie...
/r/seduction19/11/16 08:08 PM
1

Why would a girl give you a complicated ass way to contact her instead of her number directly? Is that a weird Europe thing or was she just a uncomfortable and didn't quite know how to say no?
/r/seduction19/11/16 12:53 PM
1

Cheating seems so unnecessary in a world where it is socially acceptable for men to be sluts. That being said, I have no respect for dishonest and/or disloyal people.
/r/seduction17/11/16 02:42 PM
1

It is a lesson we all learn at one point. Always strive to build the connection, contact information is irrelevant if they have no desire to get back to you.
/r/seduction17/11/16 02:18 PM
6

Been there, mostly. Stay clean, avoid stimulants (highs/lows are too much) start pursuing your RN degree again, kick ass and give 110% at work every day, find (or continue) to participate in a few hobbies that get you out of the house or out of your head, seek some counseling (school or counselors in school are very affordable, or check for insurance coverage) and above all, never give up. Also, cherish the time you spend with your family. I wasn't able to spend much time with my grandparents as…
/r/seduction05/11/16 01:15 AM
1

Relax, just be yourself and don't try to be anything else. You will either click with her or you won't. Have fun :)
/r/seduction02/11/16 12:14 PM
4

Not weird. Life is short. Go for it.
/r/seduction02/11/16 12:07 PM
1

Gonna chime in. Take action to make your life better. Just a little bit at a time. Keep your house clean. Keep yourself clean. Keep your car clean. Catch up on your to-do lists. Catch up on some reading. Spend time with some friends you haven't seen in a while. Research new job opportunities. Research new hobbies. Research places you want to travel. In short, work on building your life. You are certainly missing out on life if you don't take regular action towards your goals, but quantifying 'ho…
/r/seduction24/10/16 08:14 PM
2

You are a wise man.
/r/seduction23/10/16 12:16 PM
1

So you just insert yourself into an entirely new group of friends? Interesting
/r/seduction23/10/16 12:16 PM
1

Um, glad you are becoming a man? Word of advice, the pill does NOT always work. Unless you want to have a kid (or worse, STD) ALWAYS wear a condom.
/r/seduction16/10/16 12:11 PM
1

She might not care much about texting, not everyone does. Also, how many dates have you been on? I personally am not a fan of taking girls out for dinner, at least not as a way into their pants. If you aren't having sex, dinner won't necessarily seal the deal. If you are having sex, make dinner at your place or hers. I would only take a girl out to dinner if I just felt like having a nice dinner with someone. Otherwise I generally consider it a waste of time, energy and of course, money, since m…
/r/seduction15/10/16 12:02 PM
3

Instead of envy, be happy for them. I have an old friend who started school the same time as me, but didn't fuck up like I did. He is doing very well. Sometimes I feel resentment that he never fucked up (or got caught) and I did, but that is just life. I will say, that I know he works very hard (has for years) at his job and is a company man to a fault. So am I envious? Yes. Very much. But I also don't resent him because I know he put in the time and focused more on homework than partying...
/r/seduction14/10/16 02:59 PM
3

You are what you think you are as much as what you actually are. If you tell yourself "I'm a broke engineering student who isn't confident or great with women" it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you are out at a bar or party talking with girls, you might be thinking the aforementioned while she is thinking "this guy is okay, but if he doesn't make a move I'm outta here..." So as much as I might says "go talk to women" or "don't worry about money", the truth is, you need to focus on yo…
/r/seduction14/10/16 02:56 PM
1

Planning anything with someone who isn't quite a good friend or SO is always sketchy ... no matter how you ask. Though I do think specific and direct questions are always more useful.
/r/seduction12/10/16 03:02 PM
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Well, you don't have to be as interesting as you think you do. Find a couple of hobbies you enjoy, think about a little community service 1-2x a month, try to hone any random skills you have, set a few goals for the short, medium and long term, and then make baby steps in each of the aforementioned directions on a regular basis. If after explaining all of the above to a girl and she still thinks you're boring, NEXT! Regarding the ladies, you stopped having fun and started just trying to "get the…
/r/seduction01/10/16 01:10 PM
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Wear lot of bling. Put rims on your car and buy a subwoofer. Talk about how "shit is whack" and you looking for a new "shawty". Buy a huge watch. Buy new threads. Wear giant CZ earings.
/r/seduction27/09/16 03:26 PM
1

Why do women like controlling men? Because they can't physically dominate them...
/r/seduction27/09/16 02:40 PM
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So she is trying to make you her exclusive fuck buddy. Well, power to her for trying ;)
/r/seduction27/09/16 02:28 PM
1

"I want to get naked with you" while standing on top of my old hill, in a warm embrace.
/r/seduction22/09/16 10:41 PM
2

In other words, how to you convince a girl who doesn't know you to listen to you instead of her friend, when listening to her friend "feels" right? :)
/r/seduction18/09/16 11:36 AM
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Brother, the job market is weak across most of the globe. To answer your question, I live near Los Angeles, CA. Where 9 million other people live (in the greater LA county area). So... there are a large number of jobs AND a large number of applicants. That is why, over 15 years after my first attempt, I'm once again working towards an engineering degree in hopes of setting myself apart from all the job seekers who can't do calculus ;)
/r/seduction18/09/16 11:08 AM
1

Sounds like you're not getting a lot of joy out of life. Are you following your dream as far as your career and/or life? While this sounds cliche, I can personally attest to having given up on my dream for over a decade and then finally returning to it. While I haven't become quite the person I'm hoping to be, I feel enormously better than when I was working jobs that paid bills but didn't leave me feeling fulfilled. My recommendation is make steps, however small, towards living a life you truly…
/r/seduction17/09/16 11:59 AM
1

For every beautiful woman, there is a guy who treated her like crap.
/r/seduction07/09/16 11:31 AM
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The irritable and impatient is killing your game. Women love nothing more than a "chill" or "relaxed" guy and hate nothing more than an "up tight" or "anxious" guy. Could be a lot of things, could be there is real bullshit you have to deal with, could be life used to be easier, could be pyscological, could be withdrawal from months/years of THC, at any rate, you have to let the small stuff go and try to deal with the big stuff like a patient and non-ragey adult. To answer your question yes, work…
/r/seduction29/08/16 11:25 AM
1

Go out and don't take girls back to your place. I had an active social life when I was living at home after goofing up at college. I didn't try to lie about it, and yes girls laughed and snickered. But it all depends on if you can own it or if you start staring at the ground like a loser. "Yes I live with my parents, no it won't be forever and yes, I am doing something about it." This is much different than "yeah I live with my parents, it sucks, they suck, i hate my job and fuck school" Sounds …
/r/seduction26/08/16 02:28 PM
2

Most kids in college are living at home, or with roommates, broke, stressed about everything, and definitely not "fucking all the time." You're comparing yourself to an imaginary student body. My advice is focus on two things, 1) self-improvement and 2)increasing the regularity of your encounters. For 1, just try your best in school, work out a little, get out of the house when you're feeling blue, spend time with your friends, sleep, eat regularly, etc. For 2, join a club, go to school events, …
/r/seduction26/08/16 02:04 PM
3

WTF are you talking about? Seriously? Where did you learn social skills? Staring at a girl is creepy. Walking behind a girl really close is creepy. Being overly aggressive is creepy. Simply walking up to a girl and talking with her might be unexpected, might be a surprise, might even be unwelcome, but if she isn't interested, and you walk away, nothing creepy about that. You need to get your social skills checked.
/r/seduction25/08/16 04:12 AM
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Approaching a girl directly is probably the least creepy thing you can do.
/r/seduction25/08/16 04:07 AM
1

Tell yourself even though you think you'll see them again on campus, you probably never will.
/r/seduction25/08/16 04:07 AM
8

Chase the girls you want, and anything else you want in life. Girls might be attracted to that guy on the outside, but the relationship might not last if built on shallow pretenses. You could always bulk up a little bit too, are you skinny? Girls resist muscles as well as guys resist boobs...
/r/seduction24/08/16 12:15 PM
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fwiw, when I showed up to meet my last GF, after we started walking around, it became clear that hear knee was supremely messed up, from a skiing accident. So I was dating a "gimp" for several months and honestly, not until right before we broke up did her leg get to near 100%. It did bother her a little in the bedroom, but all things considered, her recovery didn't really affect our relationship.
/r/seduction24/08/16 12:11 PM
1

I saw a beautiful girl walking on the street in my downtown area today. I'm not about to park and get out of my car and go talk to her (should I?), but damn, I need to day game more.
/r/seduction19/08/16 07:09 PM
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Agreed. I used to tell girls I got nervous when talking to them, and that "I wasn't very good at it", which was a half truth, but they mostly giggled and found it endearing. The key is, I kept talking to them, I didn't let my ego shut me down before I got started. I think you just need a couple of jokes or something to help you get through a rough patch in the conversation, if your voice cracks, wait a second, and calmly say "so, have you ever fucked a man during puberty?" and if you are getting…
/r/seduction18/08/16 01:03 PM
2

I have better luck with women than most online games...too bad I keep telling myself I enjoy the latter more than the former
/r/seduction18/08/16 12:38 PM
1

damn, that seems a lil risky, but I'm sure you will get all sorts of interesting answers ;)
/r/seduction18/08/16 12:37 PM
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Not everyone is trying to talk hours into the night with some chick they met at a bar. I do agree that finding meaningful emotional connections is important for both men and women, and that sometimes men look at sex as the one thing they need to fulfill their lacking lives, but if she wants to keep me awake for hours into the night, she's barking up the wrong tree. I don't mind long deep conversations, but usually not in the middle of the night, I need my sleep.
/r/seduction18/08/16 12:33 PM
2

How could he have escalated further with the girl who rejected him at the club/bar to get to her "I have a boyfriend" objection sooner? Sounds like she had that excuse in the bag ready for later that evening?
/r/seduction17/08/16 12:04 PM
0

agreed.
/r/seduction14/08/16 03:11 AM
1

Woman want every other woman to be in their status. So if they are married with kids, they are likely NOT interested in thinking/talking about "gaming"...Just like fatties like to encourage their friends to eat and single girls talk shit about their gf's boyfriends, and on and on and on...
/r/seduction13/06/16 11:11 PM
2

Have fun, dress nicely, don't drink yourself to idiocy and TALK TO BEAUTIFUL WOMEN! I'm jelly!
/r/seduction13/06/16 12:22 AM
3

To get the right answer you must first ask the right question.
/r/seduction12/06/16 12:25 PM
1

Okay, I concede on the button up shirt item. Perhaps a v-neck instead of a tank top, since I find the tight fitting tank tops much warmer than a loose fitting v-neck.
/r/seduction09/06/16 05:57 AM
2

Walk up to them right before the guy who bought them a drink delivers it and then stand your ground as he retreats into the crowd while you're talking to her.
/r/seduction08/06/16 11:48 AM
1

Looking forward to meeting my next date at the 99c or thrift store, seriously :)
/r/seduction07/06/16 11:57 AM
0

If you had 4 girls trying to jump your bones, obsession would go out the window...
/r/seduction07/06/16 11:55 AM
2

She messed up their relationship ;)
/r/seduction07/06/16 11:54 AM
3

wear button up shirts without anything underneath. Get "cheap" but nice shirts, so you're not worried about pit stains from deodorant ruining them. Make sure your shoes are well ventilated or go for sandals. Ditch your cotton socks and go for polyester. Keep your hair short. Don't wear stupid hats (most of them). Drink tons of water. Don't exert yourself between noon and 4pm. Spend more time in pools?
/r/seduction07/06/16 11:53 AM
2

Gay men will teach you a lot about the male species and the male-female hetero interaction model. Very well written post and I agree.
/r/seduction06/06/16 01:59 PM
1

Don't settle. You deserve amazing friends and they are WELL worth the wait.
/r/seduction05/06/16 02:42 PM
5

I'm going out on a limb here, but I'm going to guess your "nice guy" vibe has more to do with your treatment than your looks, though the latter certainly could play a part in it. Men are competitive in nature, and since we don't fight for physical dominance (mostly) there must be other ways to assert dominance, like taking action and using language. If your friends give everyone in the group shit, I would say it is part of their dynamic. If you feel like you are getting more shit than all or mos…
/r/seduction05/06/16 02:30 PM
1

i reco outdoor group stuff. exercise and social rehab in one.
/r/seduction01/06/16 02:46 PM
1

OP, if you truly don't care about chasing women, you're at a good point, but, you do need to show the ones you are interested in that you are. And no matter whether or not you are chasing, most women want some form of IOI in return for their very precious attention. Now just like girls ignoring a guy, a guy ignoring a girl can be very powerful. Quick question, what do you want from these girls? A one-night stand? Girlfriend? FWB? Maybe you don't know what you want and it is confusing your brain/…
/r/seduction30/05/16 11:54 AM
1

GREAT point about priorities.
/r/seduction30/05/16 11:52 AM
1

I'm no expert on openers, but others have written volumes. My advice is be genuinely interested, direct and honest. Flirty is great, as long as you mean it.
/r/seduction29/05/16 08:46 PM
1

If you want HUGE social proof, start your own meetup. Make it a "happy hour and clubbing" meetup or something. As the founder of the group, everyone will always look to you for guidance, even though organizing a group that drinks isn't really hard. For $10 a month (max 50 members) you can have tons of people looking to you as a social master whenever you go out. That has to be worth something right?
/r/seduction29/05/16 07:17 PM
1

You probably want to create some attraction first. If a girl is with a group, just ask "hey, can I borrow her for a few minutes?"
/r/seduction29/05/16 07:15 PM
1

Switch off and get out of the house. The rest will work itself out.
/r/seduction29/05/16 12:52 PM
1

Go to some meetups. Lots easier to get back into the social game when you aren't alone. Tons of activities that have nothing to do with going out at 11pm. Not that going out on Fri/Sat night isn't productive, but go out more in general and you will feel better about life and meeting new people, meaning your Fri/Sat nights will be better.
/r/seduction29/05/16 12:37 PM
5

Ahh, the art of seduction, lmfao.
/r/seduction29/05/16 12:05 PM
1

Rear seats don't fold down? Accidentally have a blanket and some towels/pillows in the back? lol...
/r/seduction29/05/16 12:04 PM
1

Motel. I do not recommend car because cops don't think that shit is funny anymore these days, though a year or so ago, I saw a guy and girl get out of a back seat and I was jealous. Strangely, the car wasn't rocking, so either he mastered the "no rock" fuck or he was just overly excited about getting head...
/r/seduction29/05/16 12:03 PM
1

Isolate and make out or dance. If she is cold to both, let her know you enjoyed her company and 'eject' her.
/r/seduction29/05/16 11:54 AM
1

Some men don't like sleeping with random women. If you want random sex do what other women do, dress slutty and go out. That always works right?
/r/seduction29/05/16 11:39 AM
1

Excellent response. Thank you for the very thoughtful comments.
/r/seduction27/05/16 02:30 PM
2

If you REALLY want to explore this phenomena, make your case a little more involved each time. Like first a wife, then a wife and kids, then a wife and two kids, then an older wife, then a wife who cheats, then a sick wife, then a dying wife, and so on and so on :)
/r/seduction27/05/16 04:09 AM
2

I vote you keep wearing the ring.
/r/seduction27/05/16 03:57 AM
2

Sounds like you're trying to break out of your shell and discover who you really are on the inside (not who you have been). Developing a social life from nothing is no small feat, but it is certainly possible. I recommend two things. 1) Do as much group stuff as you can. Makes meeting new people super easy and the social proof from being at a party (vs some random guy) is huge. 2)Ask girls out. No better way to improve your life and happiness than to start dating. Some guys might say resolve you…
/r/seduction25/05/16 12:18 AM
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Direct, straight forward, polite. Yup, you are unlike 99% of men trying to talk to women ;)
/r/seduction24/05/16 12:38 PM
2

Whoever whispered that shit to the girl interested in you is a fucking asshole. Can you confront them about this? Why not post it on their facebook page that you'd prefer they keep their opinions to yourself and that not everyone values being a slut over finding a connection.
/r/seduction23/05/16 05:36 AM
0

write a good sentencing improves Kelsey grammar.
/r/seduction23/05/16 05:26 AM
2

What I mean is depending on the type of person you are, college is going to present you with a variety of situations where making a good choices rests squarely on your shoulders. (like using a condom, not drinking and driving, whether or not to go to class). All I'm saying is besides thinking about getting laid, if you can focus on not screwing up at college and making it out in about 4 years, no matter what, the quality of your life will improve and you will have to worry about sex much less th…
/r/seduction23/05/16 03:23 AM
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If you are about to go to college, why are you worried about what sex you are getting now? Here is some advice, don't fuck up at college.
/r/seduction22/05/16 09:42 PM
1

Try to find small groups of women to talk with. They are usually open to an approach by one man, especially since your approach instantly proves at least a modicum of confidence. Don't approach pairs of women, at least at first. Do you like dancing? If so, you're golden. If I felt comfortable dancing I'd be out on the regular dancing with girls, they love it, for some reason...
/r/seduction22/05/16 02:05 PM
1

Perhaps the connection wasn't there in the first place? Are you closing for an activity in the near future or just the number?
/r/seduction22/05/16 02:02 PM
1

Are your "attempts" all at a bar or nightclub? Either way, try to add more approaches in your everyday life. Talk to random women everywhere you go, preferably attractive ones, and not always with the intention of "closing the deal".
/r/seduction22/05/16 01:55 PM
0

Congrats on your new freedom :) Are you sure you need any advice?
/r/seduction22/05/16 01:53 PM
1

I find that the end goal drives the interaction. If you feel internal pressure to "make something happen" you might make yourself more nervous. Always try to go out with the intention of "having fun and meeting new people", not "closing the deal", per se. You should be able to start a new conversation with people, men and women perfectly casually when you come from the frame that meeting new people will enrich your life. Once you feel some attraction, you can shift gears and start getting nervou…
/r/seduction22/05/16 01:48 PM
1

I guess find more reliable women. Nothing hotter than a woman who is on time :)
/r/seduction22/05/16 01:08 PM
2

First thought, don't try to be "epic", just have fun and be yourself, but I haven't dated a 10 (maybe she was a 9) in a long time. Best date the 9 and I had was we gathered some friends at the last minute and drove up a mountain to drink and watch the stars. It was nice.
/r/seduction21/05/16 04:24 PM
2

I LOVE IT. Playing "fort" or "house" will brings out the inner child
/r/seduction21/05/16 04:23 PM
1

Perhaps you are confusing "sexual" with sex? There are a thousand ways to increase attraction between a man and a woman without sex, perhaps focus on other aspects of kino to build the connection. If the woman is for you, she will wait. Your ideal woman will LOVE you for not rushing into her pants.
/r/seduction21/05/16 04:18 PM
1

Dude, I love the Ryan Gosling mode :)
/r/seduction21/05/16 04:15 PM
1

"I bet you say that to all the guys." As an example of how this worked in a non-attraction scenario, I was helping a stripper-in-training install a pole (seriously) and walking up to her house she said "You aren't going to kill me are you?" and I responded "No! You aren't going to kill me either are you?" she giggled, and realized perhaps it was a silly question.
/r/seduction21/05/16 04:12 PM
1

check the library?
/r/seduction21/05/16 04:12 PM
1

Tell them you haven't found the right person, you've been focusing on self-improvement, you've enjoyed your freedom and if you want kids, that you felt it was important to be VERY financially secure before having any. Follow up and ask them how many people they know who got married or had kids too soon...
/r/seduction21/05/16 04:08 PM
1

Walk up, "so I've had my eye on you for a minute, can you guess which one?" (goes cross-eyed)
/r/seduction21/05/16 04:04 PM
1

I kind of feel like we "fake it till we make it" in everything in life, which doesn't mean doing a half-ass job at first, it just means you can't possibly be an expert before you have experience.
/r/seduction21/05/16 04:00 PM
1

Love it.
/r/seduction21/05/16 03:59 PM
2

Nothing wrong with having high standards, but there are definitely other amazing women out there for you. Enjoy the search :)
/r/seduction21/05/16 03:57 PM
1

Same girl? Different girl? How far along in the relationship(s) are you?
/r/seduction21/05/16 03:55 PM
1

Does the 10 minute rule apply in a city like LA where women might think driving 30 minutes isn't a big deal to go out?
/r/seduction21/05/16 03:54 PM
1

Plenty of single women from young 20s and up would marry a 30 guy with a full time job and his shit together. And while this is a weird way of looking at it, the worse this economy gets, I think the more marriages we'll see, if only for advantageous economic reasons.
/r/seduction16/02/16 08:59 PM
1

I like having both options always available
/r/seduction10/02/16 03:21 PM
1

you and these girls in the FWB zone exist at unstable energy levels and are doomed to either elevate or degrade over time.
/r/seduction10/02/16 03:17 PM
1

Your inner voice is telling you something in situations when you might be likely to relax, like when out with friends at a bar. Listen carefully next time you're in a situation where it seems appropriate to have "fun" and try to figure out what you are telling yourself.
/r/seduction10/02/16 03:07 PM
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Girls are so busy man (and you should be too), if you want to go out 5-10 times a month, chances are a girl you are "dating" would never devote that much time to a casual friend. So unless you are going GF route, you have to spend romantic time with more than one partner.
/r/seduction10/02/16 02:56 PM
1

well said.
/r/seduction10/02/16 02:54 PM
1

100% agree and have been making advances in my education for a long-term value add
/r/seduction10/02/16 02:53 PM
1

NEXT!
/r/seduction10/02/16 02:48 PM
1

I need video to evaluate how weird you walk
/r/seduction22/01/16 12:50 PM
1

agreed
/r/seduction22/01/16 12:43 PM
1

What kind of life do you want? Who would you be that you aren't now?
/r/seduction22/01/16 12:39 PM
1

Solid advice, especially regarding social proof and inner game.
/r/seduction22/01/16 12:30 PM
1

Lost, you're FREE! Have fun man and keep going down the road of continual self-improvement.
/r/seduction11/11/15 11:26 PM
0

on this point, if you are majoring in something fuzzy like sociology, business, communications, english, etc, don't do it without a very specific plan and talk to people in your field. If you are going for something more technical, like STEM majors, you will probably have a better chance. Wayofthegentleman makes an excellent point that a college degree doesn't guarantee anything these days. A college degree is the new high school degree and a Master's Degree is the new bachelors. I majored in bu…
/r/seduction11/11/15 11:07 PM
0

Perhaps you feel you have to offer something specific to women. All most women want is the real you. Sure it helps to have a car to pick a girl up and some cash for a date or two. But picnics in the park and home-cooked meals and DVDs on the couch can be as enjoyable or more than expensive going out dates. Some women are even turned off by guys who plan extravagant dates before there is a real connection. The fact that you are in school again says you care about your future and that means a lot …
/r/seduction11/11/15 11:03 PM
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Don't ever hang out with those "friends" again and/or build a stronger relationship. There will always be guys who try to "swoop", but if your "friends" are regularly doing this, ditch them. Hang out with more girls, they set you up instead of stealing women. Much better odds :)
/r/seduction11/11/15 10:44 PM
1

practice your pose in those short-shorts in front of the instructor after class, not that I would know...
/r/seduction10/11/15 08:31 PM
2

"be congruent, be honest". Agreed. Women have a sixth-sense for picking up a fraud, so if you aren't being yourself, they will likely be able to tell nearly instantly, clever devils that they are
/r/seduction10/11/15 08:21 PM
1

If you weren't attracted enough to her to have sex why were you hanging out with her? Do/did you want to be or friend or?
/r/seduction08/11/15 01:56 PM
1

I don't and I personally wouldn't recommend it. Not because you can't find someone to lay, but because there are just too many weirdos online and too many LIARS. Get a guy who you can meet in person and get a feel for. Side note, I've always felt that the sexual interaction game has evolved (or devolved) rapidly over the last 40 years but our intrinsic beliefs about connection and love have not. What I mean is that deep down many of us want to form a real connection with someone before we get in…
/r/seduction06/11/15 12:18 AM
1

I cheated and bought a motorcycle. Hadn't ridden in 8 years and I wanted to save on gas, join a new community and have a cheap way to feel the rush of adrenaline without wrestling great-whites or skydiving.
/r/seduction05/11/15 05:39 PM
1

Guys bitch about their role in the game but clearly women have it worse. They have to either play the "come hither" role or the "I'm going to get it myself" role, both of which are a bit tough to master. Best advice is to focus first on improving yourself, buy some new clothes, work out a little, ask your friends who are good at makeup (if you aren't) for a few simple tricks and get out there in the world more. Meetup is an AWESOME website to meet all variety of people. If a guy is worth anythin…
/r/seduction05/11/15 05:28 PM
6

I always want to say "Why don't you put your hand on my crotch and we'll let him decide" ;) But that is a little inapprops
/r/seduction04/11/15 02:05 PM
95

I like it. Straight and to the point. I've found girls always like direct men, flirting and playfulness aside.
/r/seduction04/11/15 01:51 AM
1

I used to tell girls things like "i'm not very good at this" and they would just giggle. You get a LOT of credit just for approaching women. Everything after that is just being yourself and being assertive enough to ask for a date. Never ask just for a number. Always ask "would you like to do X with me tonight/this weekend?" Be specific. Don't just say "would you like to grab a coffee?" One of the best ways is to ask them for a date that same day. "Want to grab a drink tonight?" There really isn…
/r/seduction04/11/15 01:46 AM
4

Girls are obvious and subtle at the same time. Obvious because they will look at you a couple of times, subtle because that is the only sign you get. The easiest way to see if there is chemistry is to approach a girl and start a conversation. Effort breeds attraction so even if you don't think she is giving you "signals", she might after she gets to know you for a few minutes. Also, the more you 'hype' the difficulty of talking to girls in your head the more difficult it will be. You seem like a…
/r/seduction03/11/15 04:02 AM
1

I guess my excuse is I don't want to drink water while everyone isn't. But yeah, not a fan of bars here, even though girls seem to frequent them for some reason I haven't figured out yet, because they know penises are there?
/r/seduction03/11/15 03:41 AM
1

practice speaking in front of small groups. you can't find 10K people to practice in front of, so just do what you can in what time you have. Good luck!
/r/seduction02/11/15 03:46 PM
3

Go for it. Approach groups of two - three women. If I had more funds for bars I would more. Your friends will have either more or less game than you usually, which can be awkward if not managed.
/r/seduction28/10/15 10:07 PM
1

Phenomenal advice man
/r/seduction15/08/15 10:27 PM
1

You're more than good looking enough to be attractive to girls man but like others have said physical attraction is a very small part of the equation. One thing I found is that even subconsciously a lot of guys, myself included, sometimes give off that "will you approve of me" look when approaching women. So before you even open your mouth they get the sense that "great, this guy doesn't have enough confidence and he wants me to make him feel good about who he is..." I would continue to approach…
/r/seduction15/08/15 10:25 PM
1

Before you sleep with a girl there's not really any point in trying to talk about stuff that's too serious or intellectual since more often than not she's either not going to be interested or will have a strong opinion different than yours or a strong indifference that you aren't fond of. I would just try to keep it light, what's going on in her life what kind of things she is looking to do in the future, casual conversation, so to speak. I feel your struggle man best thing I could recommend is …
/r/seduction15/08/15 10:12 PM
2

I see OP's POV. OP is taking the higher road of seduction, radiate positive energy and attract like energy.
/r/seduction08/08/15 03:08 PM
1

winery
/r/seduction05/08/15 01:09 PM
6

Dude if you spend the next couple of years working on your game you're going to have a very fulfilling life
/r/seduction29/07/15 02:49 PM
3

Oneitis is a dangerous disease, but there is a well-known cure and it's available without a prescription
/r/seduction29/07/15 02:47 PM
1

What sort of life would disprove the hypothesis that you are not worthy of love?
/r/seduction27/07/15 02:49 PM
1

Physical attraction comes partly from the way you actually look but largely from how you carry yourself or body language and confidence. I can relate to your second question, no it's certainly not a bad thing as long as you're generally respectful and not a bigot. Some girls might not be a fan so you can either turn it down as needed or decide they're just not right for you.
/r/seduction27/07/15 02:26 PM
1

As a way of practice, you might reach out to the deaf community as far as ways of socializing, since many of the members if they aren't deaf, but family members or friends of the deaf community, know ASL, which would make communication much more organic than a pen and paper You can practice nonverbal or kinesthetic communication with a community that you can also communicate with in a higher context medium. Also feel free to google the term "kino" as it is commonly used by the pickup community t…
/r/seduction27/07/15 02:03 PM
1

associates on a spectrum... Yes. When I realized that most of the people I thought were my friends were really "acquantainces", it helped free me from being obliged to giving them anything but friendly respect (as opposed to my time or emotional investment)
/r/seduction26/07/15 03:15 PM
1

the only thing I learned from older men about women is that "some women just don't have good pu$$y"
/r/seduction26/07/15 03:10 PM
5

Kissing while stargazing would have been key, but no sweat. You don't have to wait to the end of this upcoming date to kiss her either. Just plan a few fun things and enjoy spending time with her.
/r/seduction26/07/15 03:00 PM
1

After years of failing to understand this point, I concede. You are 100% right pureboy, I need to keep my mouth shut!
/r/seduction26/07/15 02:57 PM
1

Perhaps some activities where speech isn't as required? Like sports, volleyball, frisbee golf, pool? Doing activities is a great way to bond with people. Not having any mute friends or knowing anyone in the community, I'm afraid my advice is conjecture at best. If you don't mind me asking, how do you communicate with people you meet when going out, or in everyday situations?
/r/seduction26/07/15 02:49 PM
1

good point. my apologies to OP
/r/seduction26/07/15 02:48 PM
3

Also, guys turn into putty when you touch them. If you see a cute guy that is near you or approaching you, touch him gently on the arm, hand, etc, after there is some rapport. Most girls are physically restrained, at least at first, so being a little more "touchy" can help with easing tension. Eye contact makes us feel vulnerable because you can learn a lot by look at someone in the eye. It is one of the BEST ways to make a connection with someone. Maybe practice some public speaking if you need…
/r/seduction25/07/15 09:47 PM
3

Maybe keep a card that says "I'm mute but your cute, wanna text?" You could also carry a card with like 5 simple sign language words, like yes, no, not sure, etc. This way, you can teach the guy hitting on you simple signs like yes/no, then he can ask you yes/no questions and you can "talk" with him more easily. Relating to guys not wanting to talk with you because you are mute, you just have to keep going out until you connect with the right person. Good luck!
/r/seduction25/07/15 09:40 PM
19

I think if you ask someone out on a date, it is more common to pay for everything. That being said, if you take her out on a few dates and she never even offers, ask yourself if your wallet can handle this romance...
/r/seduction25/07/15 09:38 PM
1

improve yourself to improve everything around you. Start small but like shampoo, rinse and repeat daily.
/r/seduction10/07/15 05:46 AM
2

"Thou art ignoring me and thusly thou doth disrespect me!!"
/r/seduction10/07/15 05:28 AM
1

Ask her if she knows anywhere quiet that you can make out? There is WAY too much info online for me to try and summarize. Watch other guys being physical and flirty with girls for more ideas. Best of luck kiddo.
/r/seduction10/07/15 05:16 AM
4

Just introduce yourself and be friendly. The girl will likely get a strong feeling about you within a minute or so, your job is to get to know her and find out if there is any connection and/or if you want to spend more time with her. Don't think of it as an approach, just consider yourself meeting new and interesting people, and if a physical or romantic spark develops, cool, otherwise enjoy people for who they are and the positive(hopefully) energy they bring.
/r/seduction09/07/15 02:53 PM
1

Dude don't let the college game throw you off, before you get to college your only idea is from what other people tell you and the movies,, neither of which are very accurate. I had both amazing luck and wasted weeks and months chasing the right and wrong women in college and didn't learn much of anything in the process unfortunately It sounds like you're pretty hard on yourself and that kind of negative attitude can be really damaging especially if you're the one reinforcing it. If you don't fe…
/r/seduction07/07/15 01:55 PM
1

yeah, what he said.
/r/seduction03/07/15 01:29 AM
1

"hi, I noticed you and wanted to come over, my name is ...What are you doing now, want to grab a [blank] with me?.. Oh, you're busy? that's ok, what about later this afternoon? I know a great little place over in [place] have you ever been there? You haven't? They have the best [stuff] I'm thinking around 4pm, how does that sound?
/r/seduction25/06/15 05:46 PM
1

are you looking to have fun with her or make a girlfriend out of her or both?
/r/seduction24/05/15 11:30 PM
2

when you're talking with people try to throw in short interesting tidbits about things that you've done to provide them something to ask you about. if someone asks you how was your day, and you respond "it was fine I went to work then went home then went out to the bar and now I'm here", that doesn't leave the other person a lot to go off in the conversation. but if you responded with "had a great day at work went to a cool little place for lunch, got home, looked up a couple events going on thi…
/r/seduction21/05/15 01:20 AM
1

sounds good to me
/r/seduction21/05/15 01:13 AM
1

http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/sapiosexual
/r/seduction18/05/15 08:52 PM
2

you might be smothering her. if you truly want her to be a friend you can't be trying to make out with her all the time. give her space, try to meet some new girls and perhaps it will give you a different perspective
/r/seduction18/05/15 02:36 PM
3

have you tried buying more shiny things?
/r/seduction18/05/15 02:28 PM
2

TIL what sapiosexual means
/r/seduction18/05/15 02:26 PM
3

We all work to improve areas we think we lack. One guy might not think he is handsome enough, another, not wealthy enough, another, not muscular enough, not funny enough, not interesting enough. etc. etc. etc. Bottom line is, when you gel with a girl, none of that will matter because in the moment, she is just attracted to what you are right then and there.
/r/seduction11/05/15 11:52 PM
-1

I've toyed with the idea of leaving subreddits but after I realized reddit automatically subscribes me to every subreddit that I click on, I discoved I have like a hundred subreddits to unsubscribe to
/r/seduction27/04/15 01:09 PM
2

if you're making out with girls at parties you're definitely on the right track. the next step is to continue physically escalating and try to give yourself and your female friend a little privacy so that intimate escalation might be appropriate. getting swooped on does suck and it's going to happen but maybe someday you'll be the guy swooping and you won't care. quick side note, the guy that swooped on your girl made a slick move by taking her into the bathroom, yes a little bit trashy, but can…
/r/seduction27/04/15 01:26 AM
0

IMHO, make your intentions known quickly and clearly, then let her simmer, check back later. I've had only one office romance, at the end of a job. After it was over, good thing, since it didn't end perfectly and she was the receptionist. Not trying to think about that every time I walk into the office!
/r/seduction26/04/15 01:33 PM
2

Czech girls are fun and a little crazy. Many are educated, traveled and sophisticated. put on your A game, show a little class and I'm sure you'll be fine
/r/seduction25/04/15 09:47 PM
1

I'm from the Bay Area originally and while I don't like the average woman from that area there are about 11 million people in the Greater Bay Area so I'd say you're odds at meeting someone you think is a match are pretty good. kind of like San Diego and other urban centres a lot of the social activity focuses on night life but at the same time the weather's pretty good and there are plenty of meet ups in people that do outdoorsy stuff too. there are also a lot of concerts fairs festivals and all…
/r/seduction20/04/15 11:04 PM
2

real talk
/r/seduction23/03/15 11:59 PM
1

look your best, go out by yourself, smile and eye contact w/hotties, light touching, make out, then "you wanna get outta here?" many guys and girls are awkward when transitioning from light conversation to making out, but if the chemistry is there and you're giving giving him clear signals by light touching and smiling he should get the picture before too long. If he isn't, find another guy with more gumption. best of luck
/r/seduction23/03/15 01:11 PM
1

what kind of thoughts go through your mind when you're talking with a girl
/r/seduction23/03/15 12:31 PM
2

-piggyback rides -pick her up off her feet -side hug -gently bump into her as you're walking down the street, possibly into someone coming the opposite direction, for added effect you can add "I'm sorry she's really clumsy" or "I'm sorry she's still learning how to walk in a straight line" -if you're on your way somewhere, tell her she needs to close your eyes because you have a surprise for her and take her by the hand as you lead her there. -gently put your hand in the small of her back as you…
/r/seduction22/03/15 07:38 PM
10

if you're not sure where to take a conversation just start asking some open-ended questions. someone who is a little more comfortable talking about themselves might tend open up and those who are less comfortable talking about themselves might give short answers. kinda depends on the person some people are better at holding a conversation and going back and forth with questions and answers and others just kind of stand there and wait for you to keep it going even if they're interested in you whi…
/r/seduction22/03/15 07:24 PM
7

it's taken me awhile to realize what you said but you're absolutely right.
/r/seduction22/03/15 06:35 PM
1

my advice, dont think too hard. just go out and approach and smile. good luck. ps online dating is way more effort than in person unless you are a pro, imho.
/r/seduction19/03/15 10:02 PM
3

Hard to say if she is GF material, but I wonder if you really need a GF now anyways. Why not stay single and just keep having fun until you meet someone you absolutely do not want to let go. Is this her or did you just want to get a quickie? Why would you be strongly emotionally attached before sex anyways? Puppy love? I don't think the woman of your dreams will be texting you "let's just be friends" after a first date, but like others have said, they all receive similar "shit test" training fro…
/r/seduction26/01/15 08:54 PM
2

Just relax and have fun. If her friends aren't all that, tell her your sick and go home. Then get better right before you get home and...
/r/seduction24/01/15 12:42 AM
1

friendzone
/r/seduction24/01/15 12:39 AM
2

timebridging. there is a new word. agreed that getting potential to visualize herself having fun with you helps. Also sets clear message that you want to see her and do something, not just text.
/r/seduction24/01/15 12:38 AM
2

lol. true story.
/r/seduction24/01/15 12:34 AM
1

Grocery Store. Target.
/r/seduction24/01/15 12:33 AM
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