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CMVpenndelnj/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 06:13 PM
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You’re an autist your opinion is worthless. Go build another model train while stimming or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 04:38 PM
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Sometimes but even those who do need a small push or two
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 04:33 AM
2

I think that’s just your average man. Women have to compel and push commitment. Pretty standard stuff. If you let them do it, men will absolutely be in a long term situationship with you. It’s their dream set up. It’s a women’s job to curb that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 04:24 AM
1

Correct. I’m aware of my own limitations friend. Never had any notions of going into mental health.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 09:13 PM
2

You should be masking and hiding your autism.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 08:23 PM
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I’m trying to be nicer since apparently I’m very mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 05:07 PM
14

None of that matters if he can’t talk to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 03:09 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 02:32 PM
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I would advise him to fix the social awkwardness. That stopped being cute or acceptable 15 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 02:30 PM

It tells us that women are much more susceptible to trends. Most guys find this kind of cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 06:03 PM

Oh no I agree. I’m so not pro LGTB anymore. It’s kind of sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 04:43 PM

Correct!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 04:43 PM

How many of these high school aged Americans are gross anime autists?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 04:22 PM

You’re full of excuses as to why it hasn’t happened and you want people to care about how offended you are. After a certain point, all of these excuses, they don’t matter. Be a man/grown person and get on with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 04:21 PM

Normal society and child development
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 04:15 PM

I should have specified experience not BF/GF so that’s my bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 04:12 PM

Does grad school or work prevent you from going on dates and hooking up? That’s my mistake. Girlfriend/boyfriend is a catch all term for opposite gender relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 04:04 PM

It can’t be helped. These people want to be miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 03:58 PM

Don’t worry doll. They bring the toxic energy with no prompting at all. It’s a talent.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 03:53 PM
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And yours is worth something? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 02:12 AM
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Yes I do. Sorry about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 02:12 AM
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Because men and women are different. I don’t know what to tell you bud
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 02:02 AM
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I guess I don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 02:00 AM
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Because it usually is.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 12:50 AM
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If over a certain age, I’d wanna know why there was such a significant delay.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 11:41 PM
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It’s not. I feel like part of being an adult is dealing with adversities. Being dumped or having a bad relationship is a normal human experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 01:46 PM
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Most people only marry once.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 06:22 PM
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The wedding is usually the prettiest/most handsome people will ever look. Of course they photograph that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 06:07 PM
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You can have both. What’s the point of having a wedding if you don’t get pics? I know redditors love their backyard 16 dollar weddings but normal people want a full shebang. You only get one. Might as well do it up properly. Most weddings function as family reunions too. It’s nice to get together for something other than a funeral.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 05:46 PM

Then stop being a fucking weirdo and pay for it. Or change your body and personality until girls like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 02:21 PM
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Some women just like that kind of thing. Some people just hate peace. It’s not complicated. And like someone else said, they’re usually bad girls too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 02:10 PM
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Woman hating. These people are never well adjusted and usually violent psychos. I don’t care about how gentle or non violent you are as an “older inexperienced” man. They all say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 02:02 PM
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Very concerned. That’s a one way path to inceldom.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 04:52 AM
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Eh. That’s everyone’s youth. That’s what being young is for, doing dumb, shady shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 08:43 PM
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Eh milk this as long as you can. It does eventually go away. Women have this too. “Oh she’s so young.”
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 08:37 PM
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Single moms who refuse to even consider that their value might be knocked down. I understand the emotions of being upset that someone doesn’t see your child as a value addition to your status but face reality. You didn’t give a fuck about other people’s kids before either in all likelihood. The kid is a visual representation of you being creampied before. Guys don’t tend to like that. It’s a biological thing. Dating is gonna be harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 08:36 PM

They would if I didn’t set limits in place to avoid giving opportunities: no drinking, no private one on one meetups, and short time limits. No discussing anything romantic even in the hypothetical. It helps greatly if you generally act like a cold asexual person. They get the message.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:29 PM
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So I’m not young anymore, I’m 30 but back when I was hotter and younger, no. 5 years is my max and that’s pushing it. Older men not only look worse but they also are a little out of touch with pop culture which is important to me. I don’t wanna have to hear some snotty ass lecture about how you “don’t even know who that is” every time I mention anything that’s relevant to me. Not only that, but let’s go back to the looks thing. They’re usually balding. I understand that it’s not their fault. How…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 01:44 AM
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No history of ED, last 5-10 minutes and have the basics of foreplay mastered.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 05:19 PM
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Transition time of my life where I wasn’t sure where I’d be living or working in 6 months but still wanted sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 12:19 AM
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There are some very book smart people with very poor life skills out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 04:39 AM
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Probably yeah. A lot of “lonely” men here who are lousy people.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 02:52 PM
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Please talk to me about the situation or problem when it happens. Don’t push it down and walk around in an angry/sad/depressed haze for months while you alternatively lash out or are quiet saying you’re “fine.” You’re not. Please just tell me what’s up and what I need to do to assist. I’m supposed to be your partner and friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 02:06 AM
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Yeah this gets really annoying. Reddit leftists are so open minded that their brains fell out. Their take on everything boils down to “well is it hurting you??” So fucking disingenuous
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 08:47 PM
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I think I’d rather take a bath in battery acid than date a Jada type 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 09:28 PM
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How many of those unyielding girl bosses with snappy comebacks actually have a man? This is peak loser female energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 09:26 PM
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You draw more flies with honey than vinegar. As much as I agree that we should all be honest with each other, people tune you out if you’re too harsh.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 02:15 AM
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You can see this when you see them bitching about how ugly plus size clothes are. Well…yes, it’s difficult to make clothes that need more yardage look good or modern. Not to mention, the clothes will fall all wrong around the rolls and cellulite.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 01:56 AM
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It’s appreciated :) I don’t mind passport bros at all if they just go about their business and are chill.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 01:51 AM
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This. There is a huge difference between “I would like to date a thin blonde woman” and “western women are trash and fat. I only wanna date thin blonde Eastern European ladies who worship the ground I walk on. Passport bros forever!!!!”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 12:30 AM
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She lurves me too much to bang other men 🤡
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 10:40 PM
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That shit never works 😂if you open your marriage schedule your divorce attorney appointment for 6 months from that day
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 10:38 PM
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Let this be a lesson to all of you that open marriage is a shitshow. He made his bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 09:35 PM
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Yes. Married people have an obligation to sexually fulfill the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 08:56 PM
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Keep your “sorry” feeling. Don’t need it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 08:54 PM
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Cool. Happy for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 08:50 PM
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Then be celibate. Who the F cares.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 07:46 PM
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Yup. Women will try and be like “don’t marry for sex” but why the fuck would a man tie himself down to a chick who doesn’t put out?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 07:10 PM
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You’re fucking. You’re fine. Cool it with the faux outrage. And no, I don’t agree. Marriage means you lose some bodily autonomy. Don’t like that? Don’t marry or cohabitate.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 07:06 PM
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You can have all the lady friendly garbage. Just put out regularly.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 07:01 PM
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No. Addicts are bad news in general. You will lose $$, time and be super stressed. Drug use and excessive alcohol use are one of my dealbreakers.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 06:46 PM
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People in romantic relationships fuck. It’s a wife obligation. Loving someone doesn’t mean you tolerate bad behavior and abnegation of duty.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 06:40 PM
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It’s a comment not a dick. Chill.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:10 PM
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Or don’t tell her. Your life your choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:09 PM
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Then she doesn’t get to be married anymore or have a faithful husband. Simple as.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:03 PM
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You’re talking about how the guy with a good job has it better. So go fucking get one.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:01 PM
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Yup. Make sure she knows that if she stops fucking, that either you’re no longer faithful or you’re no longer married.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 04:54 PM
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It’s not the only goal but stop this whole line of bullshit where people can’t expect to get laid in their marriages. You’re placing too much emphasis on the soft lady friendly crap. I’m a woman and it’s fucking annoying. Let me tell you I don’t get with men to not fuck them. Men are perfectly in the right to expect pussy. That’s part of marriage- fucking. You’re your partner’s only pussy. So use it and give them some.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 04:54 PM
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Then get your shit together and get a good job. Idk what else to tell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 04:50 PM
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There’s a bias here. OP is a repeat mistress. Of course this is what he thinks marriage is.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 07:37 PM
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You’re taking dumb childhood movies way too seriously
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 06:02 AM
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Gotcha
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 05:39 PM
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Neither does sex. Ya crazy fool. Lighten up.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 05:28 PM
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Sex toys aren’t the same
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 03:41 PM
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Sometimes girls just want dick and no relationship. Also, some people actually cum pretty easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 01:58 PM
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I don’t discuss romantic matters of any kind with people I’m not dating. It keeps the relationship strictly platonic. It’s a stupidly strict boundary that helps me maintain good relationships and avoid unpleasant mixed messages and situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 10:05 PM
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I just want them to stop whinging. I find the whinging to be so incredibly grating.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 05:50 PM
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We all do. But you gotta dust yourself off and get up man. Heartbreak is part of dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 05:13 PM
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I mean, yes it does but you gotta nut up and deal with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 04:40 PM

Join the cult friend
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 03:36 AM
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It’s the worst when you can tell something is wrong and they just mask it. The vibe is off and they won’t just fucking say what’s wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 08:34 PM
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Yup. It’s why ED is a relationship killer. Oral and fingering doesn’t mean anything when it’s the ONLY kind of sex you can have.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 07:01 PM

You’d have to ask whoever you wanted to bang. That said, my personal reason for this is that my head gets jumbled up if I sleep with someone too soon and I don’t see red flags as well if it’s hormone soup going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 05:47 PM

Don’t let men pay for me. Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 05:34 PM

Maybe if he was a real exceptional man and I really didn’t like my friend. Otherwise no.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 03:55 PM
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I reserve empathy for friends and family now. The last time I had empathy, it was for my friend and his ongoing job search. We had a phone call where he vented his frustrations.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 08:09 PM
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Who knows what the future holds? I look forward to any and all changes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 07:07 PM
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I know you meant this in a kind way but it’s a bit annoying. Like I said in my response that I prefer the realism. OK? It’s better to know than to continue with delulu. But yes, I get it. It’s not the healthiest according to blue pill. Anyway, thank you and sorry if this came off rude.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 06:47 PM
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Ok well you asked for it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 02:37 PM
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Never get any dates says it all
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 06:19 AM
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Idk do you want me to?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 05:57 AM
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I agree. Lie like a rug.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 12:44 AM
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Thank you. I try not to do the nice response if I don’t actually believe it anymore. It’s a lot easier. I think it’s just hopeful thinking. They want it to be true. In the male mind, it makes sense. Low dating experience matches low dating experience. But we as women know that the expectations of older men are way higher than a guy our own age.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 12:43 AM
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I hate to break it to you bub but younger women will definitely judge you. They don’t think it’s cute that some failure of a person didn’t get any. I would just pray that a girl likes you enough to deal with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 10:53 PM
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They forget to mention all the fertility treatments they did
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 09:36 PM
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Women are written off as emotional and not actually serious a lot of the time. Which is a mistake. There needs to be accountability for saying dumb shit. Men are expected not to say dumbass garbage in a way that women aren’t. So that’s why. That’s your explanation.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 06:07 PM
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Commitment phobes and players have always existed.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 02:18 PM

I think yall def need to cull out the people peeing in the coffee. Which RP isn’t doing rn. It’s cool to just be stoic but at some point you need to come out and say “hey blah blah blah idiot fuckstick is a dick.” You’re letting assholes make you look like assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 04:06 PM
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Because dating apps are awful and women don’t usually pick based off looks. Do you need this spelled out for you more? There’s a reason you need help from TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 08:09 PM
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Because they’re whiny and refuse to man up idk. Babe I don’t have the patience for this boohoo whining and crying not when men literally salivate over punishing women with loneliness and banging 20 year olds when they hit 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 05:54 PM
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I meant that they never think of themselves as not being worth the squeeze
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 05:32 PM
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I think so. They probably feel lonely sometimes but the juice of getting a man isn’t worth the squeeze to them. I know this is a foreign concept to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 04:24 PM

Well hair loss is unattractive and as per this post, he’s got a lot of opinions about unattractive women. So I’m stating mine. Normally I cut men a lot of slack for their aging appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 02:30 PM

It’s pretty annoying when formerly hot guys start putting on the lbs and losing their hair but I don’t hold it against them. Try not to throw stones from glass houses.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 01:00 PM

People who value their relationships don’t go clubbing without you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 01:34 PM
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I’ve seen those podcasts. You couldn’t waterboard that information out of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 01:31 PM
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That can advertise anything. They’re gonna have to bust them open to get that $$$ though
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 02:37 AM
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We don’t. Well I don’t. I think sugaring is a creepy and trashy set up. Both sugar babies and daddies are disgusting. Bunch of pimps and whores. Except the whores won’t admit to being whores.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 01:46 AM
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I can, yes. I’m not built for sharing. I’m way too emotional. It wouldn’t be good for me mentally.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 01:32 AM
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So I can get 1/8 of the pie? No thanks. Gimme the Walmart version of that guy all to myself. I don’t share.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 01:26 AM
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You’re gonna be upset at me, but yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 12:23 AM
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Yeah, I’m sorry. It’s not something I’m comfortable with. I’m glad it works for other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 06:03 PM
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From a female perspective, I feel a lot safer about waiting. Two reasons: less chance of being left out to dry with no money and I genuinely didn’t wanna marry and have kids when I was younger. I would’ve been a terrible mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 05:51 PM
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Sweetie I was being polite. I don’t wanna be friends with them either. I’m mostly friends with women. Guy friends aren’t really my gig.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 03:53 PM
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You just recounted my story of why I don’t date ND. Except in my case, it was being screamed at that he would “get that car towed soon get off my back” for 4 years until our leasing office threatened to get it towed and impounded if we didn’t get it done within 3 days. Then I arranged with his mother how to get the car out of the parking lot. He then joked that “haha PennDel see it got done idk why you nagged so much you’re so neurotic.” It got done because his mother and I stopped letting him s…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 03:51 PM
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They expect you the NT to accommodate them and their weirdness. Not the other way around.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 03:47 PM
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“I find them exhausting and they become frustrated with me” yup…this has been my experience dating ND people. I am the NT there.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 03:34 PM
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No, sorry. I don’t have the patience level required for this at all. I’d be a terrible girlfriend for that person. I don’t enjoy over explaining things and I expect an excellent sense of social cues. I don’t really wanna date someone who takes meds to function. There is nothing wrong with ND people. Many are lovely people…to be friends with. I think I’ll stick with NTs for romance.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 03:33 PM
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Correct. They’re nasty entitled POS exploiting a financial difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 04:04 AM
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That’s not what people get annoyed at. It’s the whole “western women are awful harpies who poop on kids and fuck cats. That’s why I bang foreign women” moaning and groaning. Just go bang foreign women and be done with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 04:03 AM
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Seriously, I’ve worked and paid my own expenses since 18 (when I was actually hot and not mid like I am now.) Even when I was that age there was no one who wanted to bankroll my life. All this is so foreign to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 01:41 AM

At this point, I’ve just accepted that men don’t love us like they claim they do. They want to fuck. That’s about it. Maybe they’ll tolerate us to have a family. Cool, I’ll pull what benefits I can from that. As far as expecting anyone but me to care about me? Yeah that belief is gone. Maybe my parents and siblings love me like that. TL;DR: I’m gonna get the benefits that I can from relationships with men, and temper the expectation of being loved and cared for appropriately.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 04:48 PM
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This is a very specific issue you’re facing friend. I was meaning like going on dates and hanging out and using your social skills to get to know someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 09:51 PM
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It’s not innocuous. It’s rude. I’d never ask a man directly what he brings to the table. That’s so incredibly rude. I’d do my detective work behind the scenes like a normal person. I generally don’t want to make my men feel like contractors or services. Size me up behind the scenes, I don’t care. Just don’t ask me directly like I’m some escort you’re trying to fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 09:45 PM
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The only time women propose is when her man won’t do it. That’s what these women are mocking. Most guys don’t want to be proposed to.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 01:30 PM
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You’re in a for a shock if you think Filipinas aren’t money hungry
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 09:27 PM

Then I’m a bigot. Go cry into your hanky.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 05:48 PM
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He shouldn’t. Go overseas, get your girl. Don’t waste time trying to convince others. Be a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 05:44 PM
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No. I wish they’d just fuck off and do it. This is getting old. No one is gonna approve of this like ever. Just do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 05:39 PM
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OK so go marry someone overseas. Stop trying to convince other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 05:36 PM

Ah ok yeah, I can see how they’d hope they’d be amazing
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 04:48 PM

I agree. Let her move on to someone more her speed.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 04:47 PM

Enjoy!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 04:33 PM

You don’t need communication as much if you have chemistry.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 04:19 PM

I agree. But expecting someone to tolerate bad sex is unrealistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 04:13 PM

I’m talking about late bloomers who seem to expect to be taught how to fuck and for women to put up with bad sex in the name of love.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 04:06 PM

There is a such a thing as over communication. If the chemistry is there, you shouldn’t need to discuss everything going on in the act.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 04:04 PM

My relationship is fine. I just don’t discuss my present day personal life on PPD or online in general. You must understand why.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 12:53 PM

It’s all a matter of opinion friend. I know myself well enough to where I can be sure with certainty that I’m not a good match for inexperienced men. Really I’m sparing them from my short fuse and lack of patience for teaching.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 06:26 AM

All of this sounds like a lot of work that women don’t have to do with guys who have experience. Sorry. I’m thrilled that you’re willing to tolerate mid sex. Good for you. It’s also fine if someone isn’t willing to have mid sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 06:18 AM

Yes. That’s probably a better match for me than a guy who has never been in an LTR or marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 06:17 AM

I’ll just call you a loser straight up. Would that be better? I’m not the lady for these late in life virgins. I was a good virgin taker in my 20s up until 25 or so. Then I got married. Sorry, at this point, I need people who have been in LTRs or married. It’ll be much smoother that way. Late bloomers should stick with other late bloomers.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 06:13 AM
6

I’m down. That way girls night could be suspicion free for guys. I can see and understand the apprehension men’s have with girls night out to the club. This would probably take care of that. No one ever died from paying for their own drink.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 01:08 AM
31

Women would be better served by not doing all of this “well idk if I like blonde or brunette men (insert physical characteristic here,) because it matters what his personality is and how he treats me” or “I dated a short/bald/purple guy and he was so funny.” When people ask about physical features, they only want info on the physical features. Also, don’t lie, you 100% have a preferred look. You just lie out of kindness to men. It’s a lovely intention but stop sparing their feelings- they don’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 08:51 PM
26

I can get another job, I can control my performance and put in the hours. I can’t control a man’s wandering eye, whims or his violence. Also. It’s been made abundantly clear to me that after 30 I’m ugly and worthless and will have a harder time finding a man. So I went the route where I was valued and not ugly and not worthless. My work doesn’t look at my age and my looks and tell me how aged and stupid and ugly I am. You RP men are confusing. You call us names and put down our looks and wonder …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 03:10 PM
4

“I made us dinner/breakfast/lunch.” I friggin hate cooking. I prefer cleaning tbh. I like when my men do the majority of the cooking.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 02:26 PM
1

I ended up becoming the department joke at my old role before I left so when I changed departments, I was determined to change my behavior. No more big personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 02:13 PM
10

I like leaving the house everyday. I don’t wanna sit at home all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 02:10 PM
22

Forced to work. At least at work, I control if I stay employed. It’s not based on looks and I can’t be left or fired on a whim.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 02:06 PM
4

For many adults, having parents all up in your business, is intolerable.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 10:45 PM
2

Yup. Sounds great. Better than getting barked at and controlled by my mom and dad. I’ll spend every last penny before I do that again. I’m not a little girl anymore. Oh and I have furniture and money saved cause I have a great job and a reasonable rent payment.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 10:30 PM
2

I do the boring on purpose thing at work lol. I used to overshare big time. I fixed that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 09:22 PM
4

Probably. I’m a very set schedule, Type A type of person who doesn’t party too much and runs for fun lol. No fun crazy bar stories coming from me. My FT job prevents any weekday craziness. I think I’m just your normal average working adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 09:20 PM
1

I don’t pick these guys. I don’t date people with mental issues if I can help it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 07:07 PM
2

Shit like this is why I moved out
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 06:37 PM
2

Most people have real mattresses and don’t eat ramen constantly
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 06:32 PM
2

Dude. I have tried to do the whole communication thing that you’re talking about and it killed the attraction. I’m not someone who enjoys that level of directness and I never will be. I don’t care if you think it’s toxic. I don’t want to over explain my emotions or desires in a relationship. I’ve tried that. I didn’t like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 04:30 PM
3

You get a private space with a roof over your head for that money. 100% worth it. No nosy parents to bug you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 04:27 PM
-2

Are you also a neurospicy as the new term goes? If so I can understand why you’re mad. Sorry but you guys are annoying to interact with.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 04:21 PM
1

I guess I’m toxic. Good thing cats exist right? Go on sir feel superior to me and my evil evil toxicity.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 04:18 PM

I’m sure you’re a lovely person but you have some real mental issues- you have a diagnosis. You can’t do normal things that normal people do. Sorry if the term is offensive but it’s the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 04:13 PM
3

All the money I spend is worth not being yelled at and treated like a little girl. Moving out was the only way my parents saw me as an adult. I left at 20.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 04:00 PM

I don’t really care. I’m not spelling out basic shit for some retard who can’t read between the lines.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 03:57 PM
0

I’ll stick to normal people I think. I don’t really want to have faith in some person with an issue who can’t function. Not at this age anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 03:48 PM
8

I hint because that’s how I communicate. All you’re writing just confirms to me that I’m not suited to dating a “neurospicy” person. I suspected it but now I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 03:36 PM
4

Because when I sit alone at home, no one screams at me for breathing wrong and no one polices when and where I go out.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 03:29 PM
4

It’s normal for the west
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 02:37 PM
3

The guy paying rent
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 01:58 PM
2

I’m sorry. Do you expect housing to be free? If paying rent “ruins” you- you don’t have money. Most adults have a house payment- they don’t live with mom and dad forever. Seriously how have you lived this long and not realized that things cost money?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 01:51 PM
1

Let me guess you still live at mommy’s house
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 12:01 PM
4

Financial ruin aka having your own apartment like a normal adult? Sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 12:00 PM
0

After 25, it’s time to take whatever you save and pay for your own place no matter the price. No grown adult should live with mommy and daddy. You’ll stop growing as a person if you stay home too long and don’t hit proper adult with their own place milestones.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 05:21 AM
4

I do actually if they’ll stop bitching constantly about their issues and actually do something about their gripes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 01:08 AM
-2

Yes. Exactly that. At least try.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:56 PM
1

Ok I may have misread you and gone too hard. Ope.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:44 PM
4

The homeless shelters, scholarships and other things your gender claims women have that they don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:43 PM
1

Then fight back.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:43 PM
2

Speak English I can barely understand you. Fix your grammar
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:41 PM
-5

Ok. Then things will carry on as they have. I just don’t wanna hear any more men complaining about how men don’t have rights like women do then.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:41 PM
-7

Then ignore the crying and bitching
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:40 PM
-1

Which they really need to stop doing that. Pushback is inevitable with any kind of change.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:40 PM
-2

Oh I’m sorry. Do you think men didn’t fight feminism or claim women were trying to ruin things? Nut up buttercup
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:03 PM
7

Family court wants to give you 50/50. Show up and fucking fight. It’s not 1990 anymore. This kind of defeated acceptance is why things don’t change.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:01 PM
-5

If they were being SA’d then maybe men need to take their own to task. Either way it’s not women’s fault that they’re blocked out of them now.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 08:57 PM
9

We do consider potential- up to a point. I’m sorry but 30 year old men don’t get the cushion of “potential.” 20 something men do. If you haven’t had some measure of success by 30, no woman is helping you hit your peak. Additionally, there is a noticeable trend among men where they will ditch the woman who build them up. So, no, women don’t want to be Barbara the Builder if they can help it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 08:10 PM
6

Awesome sauce. Super happy for you
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 03:13 AM
13

Experienced sure. But does he get tired faster? Does his dick get up every time? Does he cum fast or at all? Men age too. Does he have hair? Or is he pretending like he’s hotter bald?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 02:36 AM
0

You could absolutely not do any hair or makeup at all and be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 06:04 PM
2

Good thing I’m on a pilly sub
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 04:53 PM
1

Dating market is way before marriage. Girls will never signal directly that they want to be approached
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 04:27 PM
4

Your post and the comments on it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 04:00 AM
11

I used to have the naive belief that adult men could control themselves and manage their sexuality. I’m sad to find out that it’s some Herculean task. Gonna go ahead and lower the rest of my expectations as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 03:51 AM
1

Don’t all you PPD men always say women’s advice is worthless? You should be kissing my ass for shutting my mouth. Seriously fuck off and quit annoying me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 03:28 AM
2

Times will have changed so much. I’d give my experience while noting that I’m also probably too old to actually get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 03:07 AM
8

It’s interesting to me how you can’t understand that women aren’t gonna like RP or anything associated with it. It’s very much a no duh thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 02:33 AM
7

Sorry. I’m not a fan of the whole shebang. Don’t ever tell me it works. I’m not open to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 01:37 AM
3

That last bit is crucial. Too many men tolerate BPD nutbags because Mom was like that too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 12:05 AM
19

I’d want him to socialize and be successful with women. I’m probably not the person for that. That’s what fathers and other men are for. I’ll give my own POV if requested, but I doubt it would have any value. I don’t know the first thing about being a teenage boy or a man in general. I can recognize my own limitations. I would not allow Tate or RP in my home though. I don’t like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 12:03 AM
6

Roll with it but request that he not use that weird dick enhancer thing. It’s just an ick for me. The rest is whatever, enhance your appearance however you wish.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 08:09 PM

You gotta let people make their own choices dude. It’s less stressful for you and you don’t waste your energy blah blahing at people who aren’t gonna listen. Go off and get a girlfriend with your minimal list. More power to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 04:50 AM
8

Loneliness isn’t only solved by dating
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 07:33 PM
3

They’re not. But the whole of a woman’s existence isn’t her looks anyway. It’s best for women to develop an identity that isn’t based around her looks so when they inevitably fade all isn’t lost.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 03:40 AM
0

I used to be red pill when I was younger now I’m more blue but I still retained some RP ideas.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 02:59 PM
9

She’s being fetishized. Almost no woman wants to be fetishized. This woman accepts it because she’s fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 02:59 AM

This is the way. Pregnant women are emotional enough- there is zero reason to contribute. Just shut your trap and do what you gotta do.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 05:42 PM
1

It’s fine. Women are allowed to have their own non group think opinions. I’m glad it worked out for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 06:01 PM
1

I would agree with this
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 06:56 PM
4

Take it up with India
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 06:55 PM
2

You aren’t understanding how hard it is to get back on your feet after not being in the workforce. The man presumably was able to earn more and do more because she stayed at home. It’s only fair to help her get on her feet after.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 06:45 PM
5

You just seem angry
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 06:07 PM
6

So you just want to avoid all responsibility? Do you want a woman who stays at home? Or one who works. Because this system will encourage women to always work.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 05:35 PM
0

They can absolutely ask but do they get it? I don’t think so. Things are pretty restrictive now
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 04:20 PM
8

You don’t understand what alimony was originally for
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 03:53 PM
10

You would need “cash and prizes”’if you’d been out of the workforce for long enough letting a man support you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 03:45 PM
9

Does it? Either way, with alimony done away with, it’s a lot better just to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 03:37 PM
5

When will pill bros finally accept that relying on a man’s single income was over a while ago
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 03:36 PM
8

All of those things can’t dump you when you get old and lose your looks and leave you high and dry.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 03:33 PM
4

Chubby chaser much?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 07:47 PM
3

-shorter than me (I am 5’8) doesn’t read -unemployed -doesn’t drink or smoke weed works out too much (over 2 hours a day) -can’t cook wears cargo pants drives a beater This isn’t hard and fast but just some things that I find turn me off.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 07:41 PM
5

Plenty of them and I don’t know what his other prospects are. Not worth worrying about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 12:26 AM
5

Jesus god, all the I hate my spouse “jokes”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 11:28 PM
8

Not particularly. You build a man up and he ends up leaving. A lot of women don’t wanna risk it again.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 11:27 PM
10

I’m 30 so at this point, I’d hope you were the finished product or close to it. I’m definitely not the lady for late bloomers. I don’t tend to do super great with encouraging words and softness. I’m Eastern European so you’ll get like tough love not soft you can do it baby love. It’s who I am and I don’t see it changing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 10:47 PM
1

It’s a mix. If she likes you, she will text back BUT if she’s not a big texter to begin with, maybe don’t take it personal. LBR, I have a bit of a screen issue so I text back immediately usually. I really should change that. So….YMMV.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 02:27 AM
38

This is scaremongering. Men absolutely get custody if they show up and ask for it. Don’t be an idiot. Oh and even if you cheated, you still deserve custody. Cheating is not child abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 12:24 AM
13

It’s such poor character to want someone to be miserable so that you feel better. The guys that do this are not worth dating at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 03:24 PM
2

I would agree that single income family isn’t realistic in 2023, but many women still desire to be taken care of like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 04:47 PM

Being loyal is a choice. Everyone has the ability and opportunity to cheat. If you love someone, you limit yourself from places or situations where you might cheat. It’s part of loving someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 02:43 PM
1

It’s a bad idea to get serious too soon. Yes people used to marry super early but why do you think that doesn’t happen as often anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 04:30 PM
53

Guys aren’t horndogs like the people on the sub say. Yes they like to fuck but it’s not all the time. They might not be up for it. Jr might not wanna work. They can’t cum because they’re in their head etc etc. Sex isn’t just “enter pussy and cum” for them. They’re very much complicated and multifaceted in this regard. And sometimes, 🫣, they actually don’t wanna fuck and do wanna just cuddle and love on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 06:05 PM
2

She’s got a boyfriend and is chatting with some dude? Real loyal. She knew what he was after.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 10:43 PM
1

Yeah I have zero patience at this point for it. It isn’t asked in good faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 03:35 AM
3

Then that’s the girl for you. She will be able to give you what you need.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 04:04 PM
1

You really do have to be pushy with some things. I used to be the person who would tolerate anything until I sat at a table for 1 hr waiting for a waiter to come get my order. Then it took another 30 mins to get my food. 2 hrs in by the time we paid. I should 100% have asked for a manager instead of being patient.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 03:49 PM
4

Beautiful attitude. I wish you well dear friend. I love that you’re trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 04:39 AM
3

I feel for you. You will need a very patient girl who potentially grew up with or has experience working with autists. Your average NT girl couldn’t handle you. You guys need special love and care- and a lot of patience….
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 04:20 AM
4

Yeah, I would agree. It’s far kinder for me to bow out of this than traumatize some poor inexperienced guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 03:07 AM
5

I’m 30 and straight up have been married. I can no longer serve as a man’s first girlfriend. I don’t have that fresh relationship energy anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 03:02 AM
7

Yes, sorry. I’m self aware enough to know that I’m not a good match for this kind of guy. He’s better off with a much softer woman who can hand hold him through a lot of the stuff he missed. I have lots of good qualities but softness and kindness isn’t one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 02:57 AM
4

Keep justifying being a loser
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 03:58 PM
9

No, but acting like a grown adult can help you get love and companionship.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 01:34 PM
20

Well, no. They can’t just “find a man.” Most men won’t date sex workers. They’ll fuck them sure but I hope these women like cats and wine. No man will take them seriously. The decision to do sex work should be taken with great gravity and a knowledge of consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 01:20 AM
1

You ever heard of a starter girlfriend? Has he put a ring on it? He’s probably not going to.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 06:28 AM

No because when they do try they the same old insults thrown at them
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 02:46 AM
0

They do want marry, just not community property skanks like you
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 11:53 PM
1

This is gonna be a hard breakup after he’s done using her for his kink.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 11:22 PM
1

You know they take that as a challenge
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 07:46 PM
9

I’m incredibly fortunate to live in the west. Things are way way better than my county of origin.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 06:15 PM
1

Going to the ballet and getting dinner beforehand. Dinner was great and I appreciated that he went to the ballet when I knew that he wasn’t into the arts at all. The sacrifice was appreciated.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 04:57 PM
6

Yup. I had this realization some time ago as well. BPD women are not to be messed with. Sure the sex is great but is it worth all the other stuff?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 04:57 PM
4

Correct. Either do this or do it behind her back and never tell her.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 02:16 AM
17

No I don’t. Like this is what I’m talking about. You’re projecting what you find hot onto me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 04:36 PM
64

I would absolutely kiss whoever finally kills the Chad concept. I’m sick to bits of hearing about and seeing pics of big muscle bound men I’m not even interested in and being told that that’s who I’m attracted to. Didn’t Chad start off as a general “hot guy” concept? Not muscle bound freaks. Whatever it doesn’t even matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 02:34 PM
5

Men on dating apps want sex and to send dick pics. That’s not love.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 01:51 PM

They’re famous for fucking white girls and marrying other ME/SE Asian people. So you sink years into this guy who never took you seriously and waste your pretty years. That’s why.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 06:44 AM
7

I can cook. Thanks. It’s a basic life skill.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 03:17 AM
6

So don’t have friends. Who gives a fuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 02:37 AM
6

Guess what? Women aren’t loved either unless it’s their father/family or someone who is fucking them. Stop the boohoo whining and crying and grow up. Men aren’t loving women for no reason either. See how much a man loves you when you stop putting out. He won’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 12:22 AM
1

It does not seem like it makes you any happier or more content.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 12:23 AM
1

How can we fix that?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 12:21 AM
3

Looks is definitely part of it. But not the whole equation.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 12:21 AM
-3

No gaslighting here.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 10:55 PM
5

Do you think women want to be insulted or uncomfortable during conversations?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 10:25 PM
-2

They exist. I think men should work with how things are now vs how they should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 10:24 PM
0

Autism can be overcome
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 10:05 PM
5

Those skills aren’t just good for women. It’s basic social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 09:59 PM
3

You seem angry
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 09:50 PM
11

I think you are an example of what I’m talking about. How exactly do you determine if they’ll sleep with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 09:47 PM
3

Sorry :( this is a CMV, might need automod
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 09:39 PM
7

But they do. Women like most people don’t wanna talk to and open up to people who hate them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 09:38 PM
2

Not on purpose but eventually yes. No SO is worth losing good family relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 02:04 PM
2

I’m woman Redditor 1- I’m famous!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 01:57 AM
2

I would not. But only because my parents would be so cunty about it that it would tank the relationship from the get go. They would never accept him and dog me endlessly for stooping so low. I would hate him eventually. I value my family a lot more than “settling” for some guy. I hope this makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 07:52 PM
37

It’s the only kind guys tend to want. They don’t want to talk to you or get any kind of advice. That only want you to slam your pussy on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 12:42 PM
59

The only empathy that matters for guys is pussy wrapped around their cocks. That’s why. Anything else is discounted as worthless.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 11:18 AM
2

I’m scared of becoming one of those women who doesn’t shower. I know women are likely being dramatic but damn if the loss of self care isn’t utterly terrifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 09:17 PM
6

It doesn’t help that society casts Moms and Mom bodies as ruined and post wall. Of course, any woman who reads that won’t reproduce! The hate on single moms doesn’t help either. Heaven forbid you breed with the wrong person and ruin your value. Men have helped create this situation in their own way. Reposted
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 09:15 PM

It doesn’t help that society casts Moms and Mom bodies as ruined and post wall. Of course, any woman who reads that won’t reproduce! The hate on single moms doesn’t help either. Heaven forbid you breed with the wrong person and ruin your value. Men have helped create this situation in their own way.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 05:30 PM

Settling and being stupid loyal isn’t good either
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 03:37 PM

Right. So you don’t have any options
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 03:11 PM

If I had to guess you don’t have many options do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 02:54 PM

If it’s been 3 months and she’s feeling this, I don’t think he’s her man.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 02:29 PM

It’s never wrong to leave. Relationships aren’t meant to be some prison. I’m gonna get downvotes but it’s my firm belief that even in relationships one is allowed limits.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 02:08 PM
3

Yes I would agree. If you’re gonna wear it nearly around the clock- spend the money. It will get beat up.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 01:40 PM
75

Will the younger women even want you? Consider that. They don’t want some nearly middle aged thinks he’s young guy who will throw her over when she’s 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 01:26 AM
4

It’s not white knighting….its true. It wasn’t meant to be literal….you have a mental issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 01:03 AM
4

No woman is gonna say that….its implied….are you socially aware at all? I don’t understand. Nice is code for tall confident man with his shit together.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 12:09 AM
4

It’s not lazy. A lot of the RP/ black pill/ PUAs make it weirdly formulaic. It’s fucking weird. That’s the weird and gross part. FYI
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 04:35 AM
3

Yup. Legalize it. At this point, there are so many workarounds it’s Swiss cheese.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 02:00 AM

I’d have to be down to my last penny broke to consider it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 02:07 AM
2

I date men and I’ve never had one drive me anywhere let alone plan anything without equal input from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 05:38 PM
5

lol. I’ve never had this experience. I’ve driven myself and suggested places. Idk who you are dating….
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 05:23 PM
2

I’ve been on dinner dates and it didn’t validate me like you think it does. But I could be a defective woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 04:13 PM

For what it’s worth- a lot of men have adapted :). A lot of good men out there who grew up and changed their expectations. They’re just not in this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 04:00 PM
3

Some person paying for your food doesn’t mean shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 03:57 PM
2

Ok. Maybe I’m an outlier here but dinner dates never validated me. I have other things in my life that validate me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 03:49 PM
8

Get a job and make your own $$. No need to entertain a man to get the restaurant meals you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 03:42 PM
28

There are far less expensive (in time and effort) ways to get food.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 02:14 PM

What? Who wants a black eye?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 04:54 AM

Marry reality not potential.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 01:22 AM

Finances are important and the least romantic part of this all. Most people cannot bridge a giant income gap. Before men come at me, I don’t think they should be marrying people like this either. However I’m not a man and I can’t change how men think or operate.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 01:21 AM
2

You’re idealistic and romantic in a way that most people who have had LTRs aren’t. Of course you think I’m gross. I felt the same way before my first LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 06:46 PM
2

Your comments make more sense now
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 06:22 PM
1

Hypothetical is the key word. How many long term relationships have you been in?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 02:45 PM
3

Unfortunately, I still have one and all your outrage won’t make that go away. I understand why you’re mad. My POV isn’t at all romantic.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 05:27 AM
4

TRP tends to ruin everything it touches. It makes it so sleazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 04:16 AM
1

That’s probably it yes
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 04:13 AM
1

I’m not trying to test how much self control I do or do not have.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 04:06 AM
2

Thanks! I try and be realistic about things.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 04:06 AM
0

If I am drunk and alone with a man there is a high chance that we will fuck. So as a rule, when in a relationship I do not hang out alone with men at their apartments and I especially do not drink while doing so. I erect some serious boundaries to avoid any kind of tempation. I also try not to go out to clubs alone when in a relationship- that’s just begging to cheat. People aren’t infallible and it’s important to avoid getting into these situations where you might even accidentally be tempted.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 03:48 AM
0

I definitely would if I wasn’t careful about not manufacturing those conditions. I admit it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 03:18 AM
2

Yes. I trust people who acknowledge that they would cheat under the right circumstances (and work to not get into those circumstances) more than people who insist how much they hate cheaters and how they would NEVER cheat.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 02:57 AM

Oh good god Jesus the Sonsband phenomenon creeps me out. Please please please go date a grown man. This is why I think single parents should date. It’s possible to put your kids first too much…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 06:58 PM
-3

It’s not stuck up to not wanna do extra work in a relationship if you don’t need to. Playing Barbara the Builder has never worked out in the woman’s favor. No social skills/shy/awkward is 100% a no respect or turn off thing. Men will certainly judge women on many things. Please do not cry about this standard that is pathetic and not manly. Managing and helping a shy man is a form of hell I wish on no one. All for him to turn around and cheat or dump you once you’ve built him up.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 01:28 AM
10

It’s acceptable to make these mistakes in high school and college- that’s why guys need to make a concerted effort to go out during that vital time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 05:11 PM
22

Sex is fun lmao. What is this garbage.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 12:53 AM
18

Not in the place for a relationship but still wants to get off or the guy isn’t good enough to actually date but lays pipe like a champ.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 12:53 AM
0

We’re not the freak weirdos who can’t socialize or pick up on normal social cues like you autists are.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 12:34 AM
1

Also- no. It doesn’t lie. It’s how normal humans communicate. It’s not straightforward and not everything is directly stated. Grow up and get used to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 01:07 PM
2

No. The crap you’re saying is the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard. Biggest victim cry baby shit ever. Red pill is for autists who don’t have any social awareness.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 01:06 PM
0

Yes it does. Having common sense means reading between the lines. BP advice is real, you and your fellow RP men are just too dumb to take it. That’s not on blue pillers.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 12:55 PM
0

Because people aren’t honest and direct. Grow the F up and learn subtext. You didn’t become a nice guy because people failed you. You became a nice guy because you’re not smart enough for common sense advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 12:16 PM
-1

No
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 12:13 PM
1

So much of life is subtext. They need to learn subtext..
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 04:25 AM
2

Someone has severely failed these autists. They used to be forced to blend in and learn social skills. Is that happening anymore???
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 04:20 AM
3

Be yourself aka don’t put on a front you can’t maintain long term. Relax it’ll happen aka you’re being too desperate simmer it down Be nice to women aka your distaste for women is showing, stop being so mean Touch grass aka stop being online and pay attention to your surroundings Read the room aka notice social cues
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 04:19 AM
13

If you want an LTR, virgins aren’t it. They get FOMO and leave you and you end up a practice girlfriend. So you don’t get a boyfriend and you don’t get good sex either.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 03:13 PM
5

Not really, use your eyes and brain in public when out and about.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 09:53 PM

No, not my baby, I’m not coparenting or doing any work. That’s his baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 11:01 AM
20

They’re trying to tell you not to be desperate. Women aren’t attracted to desperate men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 10:58 AM
20

Men should care about a woman’s money. Are you (general you) really equipped for a dependent? In this economy?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 12:58 AM
21

Yup. The “preferences” wouldn’t be so bad if they weren’t so goddamn annoying about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 12:47 AM
9

Oh fuck yeah! This is way better. I’ve been married. That shit was not what I was told it would be. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 10:03 PM
13

You forget how people supported the guy for how he handled that situation
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 08:02 PM
11

Don’t go on dates that cost 100s of dollars
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 06:59 PM
16

The least you can do is be penetrated! That’s not a fair fucking trade. Sex isn’t some easy breezy starfish affair most of the time. Men expect you to be into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 05:56 PM
55

I actually logged in to desktop for this so ya'll better appreciate this response :D. OK onto serious response: I am a first generation immigrant to the US and my life is so much better than any of my parent's lives when they were my age. I have a job, I have my own money, and I have my own place and car dependent on no one! All in all, I'm pretty free and my life is great. I do what I want when I want and I can enjoy my hobbies unimpeded. I am a runner and it's safe AF to do my runs and have fu…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 05:51 PM
2

I’m not though. Women are happy to help you with the SA issue. You guys make the whole thing a joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 04:53 PM
3

Men are the ones downplaying male sexual assault
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 03:51 PM
19

Nothing, don’t do it if it’s so distressing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 01:32 AM
93

Male sexual assault not being taken seriously. I stopped trying to advocate for that because of all the shitty ass men making “he’s so lucky” comments and downplaying sexual assault and grooming. Also the fact that they only care about male sexual assault when women bring up rape. It feels like a shut the fuck up weapon.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 03:07 PM
1

And you became what?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 02:17 AM
4

Harrassment and emotional abuse
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 10:31 PM
3

Yes I’m realizing that now :/
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 10:20 PM
4

Lucky you. That’s rare
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 08:47 PM
3

Is that why incels exist? Cause being alone has benefits?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 08:47 PM
7

They end up stuck in worker bee positions that make a ton of money and have no power
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 08:21 PM
3

I would agree. That stuff starts early.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 08:18 PM
1

Do you at least have social skills?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 08:17 PM
1

Idk how yall even step outside the door
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 06:56 PM
3

Oh athletics should be mandatory. They will develop a child like nothing else.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 06:55 PM
9

This is exactly the case I’m speaking about. It’s really sad for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 06:55 PM
-1

HS socializing leads to college
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 06:29 PM
7

I would agree partially. You do need the HS skills to succeed in college though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 06:26 PM
8

Sorry this may need to be under automod
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 06:26 PM
1

No. But skills are built between 15-18 that can’t be built any other time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 06:25 PM
4

That Different types of Socialization rationalization is why incels exist….
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 06:25 PM
-5

Your parents fucked you over and that sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 06:24 PM
2

FWIW, these girls don’t seem to be getting the same reception they used to. They’re being mocked more often than not for the “he looked at me” dramatics.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 01:29 AM
8

Women like men. Men are valued and bring a needed balance in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 11:03 PM
2

Yes but not all the time. That’s just foreplay, it doesn’t replace dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 05:42 PM
1

Yes, unfortunately. If I wanted a good friend, I’d make one. If I am with a man, I want sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 05:40 PM
4

It’s their version of AF/BB. Fuck the sluts, and marry the lower N women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 01:18 AM
2

No. Some things can be done in the dark and it’s fine. It’s the pregnancy. That’s it. You will never understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 06:32 PM
6

You are giving up total control of your body and permanently changing it for a guy who isn’t even sure you’re not cheating. Pregnancy is a rough time in a woman’s life. That’s why paternity tests get the reaction that they do. Just do one behind her back. Pregnant women aren’t rational. Men used to be aware of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 06:04 PM
5

I don’t need to sense them. They usually make their putrid opinions crystal clear within minutes. Body language, actual language…..
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 10:35 PM
2

Yeah this my thoughts tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 01:28 PM
1

It kinda does. You might wanna catch to where you live.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 01:11 PM
7

I don’t want it. I see financial dependency as extremely dangerous.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 12:58 PM
1

Well yes. Because I live in modern times. LOL.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 12:57 PM
5

As a rule yes. Or just have separate tabs.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 03:23 AM
4

Yes. Adults are productive and independent.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 01:03 AM
4

I’m glad most men are fine with it. I am not for myself. I’m an adult, adults have jobs and their own money.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 07:52 PM
59

I don’t expect a man to be a breadwinner. I don’t want to be a breadwinner. I want a 50/50 split- so yes jobless men aren’t acceptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 05:59 PM
5

You want that until you wanna go do something with your friends and she loses her mind and wants to go with you
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 03:08 PM
2

I can get down with this actually
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 05:13 PM
2

You have to be good at dating to get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 04:54 PM
0

The married perspective isn’t relevant to people who are just dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 04:53 PM
3

OLD completely changed the game. None of that cold approach stuff works anymore like it used to. Yes you can approach like that but it’s less likely to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 02:47 PM
0

The people who are actually dating now
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 01:44 PM
-2

They have a finger on the pulse of the market now vs what it was 5 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 01:44 PM
6

Not by randoms. By their IRL friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 12:43 AM
6

As much as guys claim not to care about what people think, they probably do care about the optics of it all.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 11:37 PM
3

It’s silly, men next women for physical things all the time. Is that shallow?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 02:21 PM

What is the point of MGTOW?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 02:17 PM
1

I work for a mortgage company. A lot of men use his sales tactics. They work. They don’t worship him as a person usually, some do of course. Usually the young early 20s men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 11:47 PM
7

So she can be abused and called names? No thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 01:41 AM
7

They 100% are
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 09:46 PM
3

You said what we all are thinking 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 02:43 AM
4

Thank you for taking the time to write this 💜 this is so well thought out. Appreciate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 02:22 AM
6

All that fancy stuff doesn’t matter. Bad sex though? No lmaooooooo.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 01:46 AM
7

That attitude is why I’m not gonna tell you any real info. Enjoy your high horse.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 05:25 PM
17

I’m not doing this with you. You don’t want a debate or to really hear my opinion. You want to tell me I’m wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 05:19 PM
17

Well aren’t you just proving my point…..
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 05:17 PM
16

Women are children. All the slut shaming. Trading manipulation tactics. Making fun of women and the routine body shaming. Y’all are one nasty bunch.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 05:04 PM
28

Red pillers don’t want honest debate. And yes they hate women. That’s a fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 04:59 PM

I mean can you blame me? No one built me. I did it all myself. Sorry I’m not a teacher. My job, my car, my personality. It was all me. I was a very neglected child.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 02:54 PM

I don’t build dear. I’m not Bob the Builder
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 02:28 PM

It’s not a woman’s job to finish raising him anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 01:36 PM

I miss when autists weren’t so entitled
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 12:34 PM
7

Yeah, I’d agree. It’s a pink pill when you realize men will fuck women they aren’t interested in, just to get some.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 09:45 PM
2

No you’re not. You’re trying to do a gotcha .
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 02:17 PM
5

Very
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 08:51 PM
4

They might have money but no game or substandard looks. So yeah maybe passport bro stuff works for them. Rock on. Western dating isn’t mega level difficult for a lot of guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 08:43 PM
5

Absolutely lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 06:23 PM
38

The problem is that the “average man,” doesn’t see himself as average. He doesn’t realize that he’s worse for wear and is overweight and balding because it’s not hammered into his head how much his looks matter. So he has these insane expectations of women that they simply can’t be arsed to meet because he low key sucks. His personality is trash and entitled. He isn’t hot enough to be that demanding basically. Harsh? But true.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 05:08 PM

Yeah. I know that I need to save $$$ for daycare, now that I know how much it costs.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 07:31 PM
6

As much as RP sucks, they aren’t rapists
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 06:13 PM
17

Lesson 1: anyone can cheat even the girl dressed like a nun. The only thing you can control is your reaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:02 PM
20

Well this should get sane responses. Take a shot every time “free money” or “cash and prizes” is mentioned….or don’t cause you’ll die.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 06:26 PM
4

Yup! Seriously TikTok isn’t that serious lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 04:05 PM
1

It’s not inappropriate. You’re just too dumb to implement it. Massive difference! And yes, you with the disorder have to do more work. Women don’t want to accommodate your autism.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 10:43 PM
-1

It has been literal years of this shit from them. I’m sorry I ran out of patience. We aren’t the people to coddle and explain social norms to the socially inept idiots.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 05:37 PM
-4

I don’t care. I’m sick of autistic freaks acting like good advice is bad because they’re too stupid to figure out the implied meanings of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 05:21 PM
-1

They don’t literally mean be yourself! They mean all these hidden meanings too! That’s what’s autistic- that you don’t understand. I am saying it. If you need a formula or handbook to date maybe it’s best that you can’t find anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 04:42 PM
-1

Just be yourself means put your best foot forward but don’t fake your personality. Stop being so autistic about it. This is the whole problem with men nowadays. You can’t use your brains. You don’t deserve to procreate if you can’t figure this simple advice out.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 04:33 PM
1

Yup, he’s now married to his college girlfriend. Lovely wedding pics!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 10:57 PM
7

A guy can be attractive but you two can still not have spark. If you don’t understand game, you don’t understand female sexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 01:28 PM
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