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I think if she lost interest, the only way it had something to do with YOU, is if she felt that you should have already asked her out. And if a week of flirting goes by, you DEFINITELY took too long. But if that’s not the case and she lost interest it’s either a shit test, or there’s another guy/reason. BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY & BOTTOM LINE IS: It doesn’t matter what the root cause is. This kind of behavior means that you return the favor.
/r/askTRP10/11/20 02:50 PM
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There’s no turning lesbians straight. Our generation heavily pushes feminism & gender studies. So a lot of girls easily turn to women bc men have lost what makes them attractive. Many women of our generation turn to women bc 1) women tend to pleasure each other WAY better than men do. Which is weird but sadly true. 2) Men of our generation lack masculinity to the point that women would rather deal with other women. I can’t tell you how many girls I’ve met that are bi or Les that tell me that wit…
/r/askTRP02/11/20 01:50 PM
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My rule is, I don’t reach out until the day before I intend to see her. If I want to see her on Friday, I reach out on Thursday. But I only wanna see her on Friday bc that’s when I’m available. No other reason other than that’s when I’m free. So if I got her number and I want to see her the next day, I’m going to hit her up. Waiting to reach out has always been a “fake it to make it” thing. A way of acting high value until you ACTUALLY become high value. AMS from yt is the master of this. That’s…
/r/askTRP02/11/20 01:41 AM
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The easiest way to avoid oneitis is to mess with multiple girls, yes. But ultimately, avoiding oneitis is remembering that no girl is that special. Even if think she’s only messing with you, she’s messing with other dudes. TRUST ME! So focusing on one girl, is just NOT smart.
/r/askTRP01/11/20 10:39 PM
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You’re not admitting to shit else other than checking her for wasting your time. This isn’t about her, its about “people shouldn’t waste my time.” It’s a boundary thing, not a, “you got me upset and jealous baby, I hope you’re not cheating 😢” thing.
/r/askTRP01/11/20 08:07 PM
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Yea in your case, this was clearly foul play on her part. Deff cheating.
/r/askTRP01/11/20 08:03 PM
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No doubt my guy
/r/askTRP01/11/20 07:23 PM
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Flaking with an excuse is different to straight up flaking. In this case I get back to her whenever I feel like. For me that’s usually 4-10 days. It’s literally just whenever I feel like. Usually if the girl wasn’t bullshitting, then she’ll reach out to me first before I get to. Sometimes not tho. Either way, the next time you talk, your mindset should be, “ I’m reluctant but I’ll give her one last chance to make things right.” If the plans don’t materialize, then you gotta next the hoe.
/r/askTRP01/11/20 07:21 PM
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Ask her for random favors, ask her for things that show you that she’ll actually want to help you pursue your life’s purpose. Things that will help you become a better man. Not because you need her help but because she should be willing to help you. Ask her for sexual favors that she might be reluctant to try. More head, longer head, licking the balls, licking the gooch, ass eating, different positions. You name it, the possibilities are endless here.
/r/askTRP01/11/20 07:15 PM
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Anything and everything. I like to push the limits bc the plate stage is the trial period. And if in the trial stage shit goes well, I maybe might buy the full version.
/r/askTRP01/11/20 06:57 PM
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I’m probably gonna get killed for this by y’all but personally I let my girl(s) fw other girls. BUT I set the boundary that it has to be like a stupid hookup & I have to be told about it before it happens. As in I should be invited to join in. None of them have taken advantage of that leeway bc they were hetero. Now if she’s bi, that does change things, but personally not by much. Again I have to be told about it before & invited to join in. But if she’s a closeted lesbian? Well then obviously w…
/r/askTRP01/11/20 06:54 PM
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That’s pretty good right there. You deff gtp. Simply remember that everything y’all talk about (text, call, etc...) is for it to lead to meeting up, bravo playa 👏🏿
/r/askTRP01/11/20 06:24 PM
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I think you should take responsibility for yourself. Whatever she’s been negatively affecting, you’ve gotta nip it in the bud. You’re the man, you’re in charge of what’s affecting you, which in turn affects you both (the relationship). A mistake I made is sometimes I’d knowingly skip on hw bc I wanted to fuck or get some head. Then I stopped that shit & saw that if I take care of myself first, there’s actually MORE time to fuck & get head. And with more freedom cus I’m not stressing about skippi…
/r/askTRP01/11/20 06:03 PM
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I always like to turn it into a challenge of some sort. “You look that good in real life?” “You should definitely wear that for me.” Etc, etc... ygtp I always revert it back towards the idea of “whatever we do here has to be connected to or lead to something with us meeting in real life”
/r/askTRP01/11/20 05:49 PM
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That sounds like a bullshit excuse and anytime I hear something that might be some bullshit I simply don’t respond. Then I hit her up again whenever I feel like, IF I even feel like. Your case is a bit different because she went out of her way to ask if you are upset. In this case, she’s giving you an opportunity to be the rational one. Personally I’d say,” Yes I was upset, because you wasted my time.” You use it to set the boundary without giving her the validation. Without being a little jealo…
/r/askTRP01/11/20 05:41 PM
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Most important thing here is that if you text her, it’s gotta be to to set up dates. Which is the only reason to ever text her. So if she wants to text more, the fact that you’re busy living your life of abundance is why you can’t always get back to her. I wouldn’t say to not get back to her. But do so, whenever you actually have time to do so. It’s not really a shit test, so much as just an opportunity to prove your value. To say, “Hey I’m a busy man who does things with his life.”
/r/askTRP01/11/20 05:13 PM
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Yea in this situation the only acceptable date is one where she comes over. Your plan has to be to get laid & if she’s not about it, hard next.
/r/askTRP30/10/20 02:49 PM
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Personally, I’d go with,” I’m going to be.” But that’s only bc I truly believe that I am. Other than that, fuck these parties dude. Fucking with some superficial ass hoes, you don’t need that bro.
/r/askTRP30/10/20 04:44 AM
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The point of making money is so that you have money to take care of yourself and enjoy the finer things in life. Nothing more, nothing less
/r/askTRP30/10/20 04:41 AM
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You’re saying you kept in touch with them. It sounds like they liked you, dated you, found out you weren’t as Alpha as they’d hoped & then broke up with you. If they kept in touch with you it’s bc they know that you don’t understand that they crave attention. An alpha would know that if they value attention, you leverage it in return for sex. You’re just giving them something they value highly, FOR FREE! Now, about them calling you fuck boy. Women have to shame the alpha with words bc it’s their…
/r/askTRP26/10/20 08:15 PM
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You’d be surprised at how sensitive girls can be. Also, a lot of girls are very aware of “negging” and they lookout for guys who do these pua type moves. Either way, dw bout it.
/r/askTRP24/10/20 10:39 PM
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Start a conversation with her, get to know a bit about her & ask her to hang out. Same with literally every other girls
/r/askTRP24/10/20 08:45 PM
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You probably didn’t neg her so much as flat out disrespected her
/r/askTRP24/10/20 08:44 PM
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Truth is, when women like you they put out. If they don’t put out yet want commitment, they’re trying to pin you down for beta male provider. Women that want you for you will make you feel special, make you feel like they really want you. There’s no doubt, iffyness or hesitance.
/r/askTRP24/10/20 08:26 PM
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The 2 concepts can be confusing but when you really learn how to do both well, you’ll see that they don’t conflict. Indir. vs Dir. The video above is an hour long but it explains that the mystery isn’t supposed to be about your intentions. The mystery is supposed to be about who YOU are. Because she already knows you want to fuck, that IS NOT the mystery here. The other reason why this conflict exists is because you are not supposed to give away validation. At the same time, you do need to be co…
/r/askTRP21/10/20 03:44 AM
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I personally agree that they are on equal footing, especially when it comes to LTR. The only reason that you probably should lead with excitement FIRST has to do with her. Put yourself in women’s shoes for a sec. Most, if not damn near every guy is more than capable of providing comfort. It’s almost like supply and demand in economics. There’s such an abundance of comfort in the sexual marketplace, that it’s honestly lost damn near all of its worth. A guy who is able to excite her on the other h…
/r/askTRP05/10/20 03:32 PM
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If you spent as much time talking to her as you say, you probably killed the mystery. She probably felt that 1) you gave her a lot of non-sexual attention and 2) she already has you figured out. When you reached out to her, idk if you actually went straight for the date or not. But it helps to do some small chit chat before you try to set up the date. Most likely you did fine here so I doubt that was the problem. Other than that, I don’t really see how you might have messed up. Ultimately, rejec…
/r/askTRP05/10/20 03:20 PM
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Online is the worst place to meet people. People who need to make friends online are all weird. Sorry to say but it’s just true dude. Meet people irl by just joining groups of people that do the things you like to do. I like basketball & soccer. I go to the park, join pickup games & make conversation. It’s all about your hobbies & passions.
/r/askTRP04/10/20 12:18 AM
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Y’all think TRP is like “Life Google” This shit is for dealing with women, dating, profession, finance and lifestyle. Nothing more, nothing less.
/r/askTRP03/10/20 08:51 PM
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The sporadic bitchyness is either shit tests or personality. Either way, deal with it the same. You just have to be so sarcastic that if she’s being mean, you just playfully agree with her. She calls you a bitch, be like “yea I’m suuuuch a biiitch, the biggest bitch of all time.” Just douse the sentence with a shitload of sarcasm. It’s what they refer to as Agree & Amplify. Obviously if she’s actually disrespecting you, dip away from a shawty like that. You don’t need that. Something that I like…
/r/askTRP03/10/20 04:02 PM
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Yea seriously... There’s other bitches just as bad if not badder, trust me. Go fuck on them lmfaoo
/r/askTRP03/10/20 03:37 PM
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You’re definitely right I should’ve mentioned that. 95% of girls in the early stages will want you reaching out first. No matter how interested. The few unicorns that DO reach out first, are doing so bc they’re showing ULTRA HIGH interest is all I’m saying. For the 95% of girls, I still wait the 5-7 days for the sake of non-neediness & unavailability. Get her number and depending on which day you got it, you wait 4-7 days to 1) reach out AND 2) setup a date. Repeat the cycle, wether or not you s…
/r/askTRP01/10/20 04:57 PM
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Personally, I always wait a few days to a week to reach out again in all situations. So wether I’m reaching out to set up the first date or after a date, I tend to wait 5-7 days. I want to give her a chance to show her interest first. If 5-7 days pass, it doesn’t mean she’s not interested. If you guys are still setting up dates and meeting, she’s definitely interested. But it does mean she’s just not very HIGHLY interested. To me if she’s not very highly interested, it just means that she’s prob…
/r/askTRP01/10/20 04:23 PM
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You honestly should only take action if she behaves or speaks in an unfavorable manner. Perhaps she is & you’re not seeing it how you should. Maybe your gut is the only thing letting you know. But if your eyes and ears aren’t deceiving you, then some of these replies might be right. It could just be anxiety playing it’s tricks.
/r/askTRP22/09/20 12:09 AM
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Personally, I’d give it a day or 2 and see how you feel about it. Gut instincts are extremely important so see what you’re gut is saying. Being paranoid doesn’t mean act it, though. So, careful with that.
/r/askTRP22/09/20 12:02 AM
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Pretty much.
/r/askTRP21/09/20 11:09 PM
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It’s pretty much her waiting for you to show confidence & assertiveness. If you don’t, she’ll use you for attention & validation. After she gets it (you trying to talk to her) she doesn’t need you anymore. Hence, she gets dry. I’d say if you call her out on her dryness and get to asking her out, things might change. If not, you’d be wasting your own precious time... neeeeext!
/r/askTRP21/09/20 11:06 PM
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I would not send a text next morning, hell fucking no. Wait 5-7 days. If the date went well, girls hyu before that 5-7 day mark. Facts.
/r/askTRP21/09/20 10:58 PM
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You showed her... TRP... adqjakkjsdsk- Women are like ppl at a magic show that know the magic tricks. BUT STILL WANT TO EXPERIENCE THE MAGIC TRICK!! Don’t ruin the mystique that she seeks tryna show her how the sausage is made at the sausage factory. As a woman, SHE KINDA ALREADY KNOWS!! The whole point is that you, DO the right thing. Not show her that you KNOW the right thing!! Wtf is wrong witchu?!
/r/askTRP21/09/20 06:07 PM
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It’s the LMR where I believe he fucked up yea
/r/askTRP21/09/20 02:11 PM
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Girls attraction comes & goes based on if her opinion of you changes. So long as she’s attracted, her actions & words will aim to move things forward. The opposite is true as well. Most likely, you did/ said something that made her lose attraction. Figure it out & don’t make the mistake again is all.
/r/askTRP21/09/20 12:44 PM
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This reads like you wanted to cuddle & like you lost your masculine frame after. This used to happen to me & is actually the reason why I got into rp. I’d fuck but then girls would not reach back out to me. My mistake was that I’d get a little soft & lose frame. This made them lose attraction & not want to hit me back. Even you walking her to her Uber might be seen as lack of masculinity. Which is fucking crazy! But take it from me, it might really all be, her seeing you as less masculine after …
/r/askTRP21/09/20 12:41 PM
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To be honest, there’s a reason why women relate to each other how they do. Full of drama & emotions and yada yada yada, yk the drill. It sucks but with women, relationships are very practical. Including platonic ones. You can’t take it personally. This doesn’t mean don’t feel pain bc of the loss. It just means internalize it in a rational way. This should make you see that it’s not about you per say. She’s made a decision that her strategy in life would benefit with you not there. Yes, women are…
/r/askTRP21/09/20 12:12 PM
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Too many of y’all conflate still feeling the pain with still remembering the relationship. I do believe you’ll stop feeling the pain. That’s what happened with me. But do I forget that it happened? No! Memories will bring emotions. As a man, you don’t try not to feel emotions, you simply deal with them in a rational way. So when I get the memories, I only REMEMBER the pain. But because I deal with it in a rational way, I’m able to get away from it healthily. I do not FEEL the pain. That’s the di…
/r/askTRP21/09/20 11:51 AM
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Honestly, your first message should be a hint of your intentions. As if you’re half asking her out. You should get her digits within lik 5 texts. And even with the digits, only setup a date. Fuck a conversation.
/r/askTRP21/09/20 01:06 AM
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There’s some pretty fucking pennies out there, all shiny and new. There’s also some shitty old, gunked up rusted moldy ass pennies. Worth the same at the store tho.
/r/askTRP21/09/20 12:33 AM
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Pretty similar situation except you did the no contact and I didn’t. Everybody’s recovery timing is different. Mine took over 2 years! It goes away, believe me. But not without you putting in work to meet other women and putting in work to be strong for yourself, by yourself. Do make friends and meet women, but make sure you’re self-autonomous. THIS is how the feeling goes away. And like this community will tell you, if you struggle meeting women, get yourself healthy, good looking, learn to spi…
/r/askTRP21/09/20 12:31 AM
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There’s different ways to be (or act) confident when you let your interest be known. So no, guys wouldn’t all act the same. On top of that, we can’t dismiss that many guys simply do not POSSESS the confidence. So another reason why not all guys act like that. Nothing stops rejection, not even confidence. But confidence does increase your chances. You should have confidence bc of 2 equally important reasons. 1) it increases your chances & 2) keeps you from taking rejection too hard. What I meant …
/r/ExRedPill20/09/20 02:53 PM
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Someone offered you 1 million dollars but said that the longer you wait to take it, the more of that money goes away. It’s more about the fact that you try to get it than how good you are at getting it/ how you get it. Bc at that point, you not taking it, is probably bc you don’t think you deserve it. Essentially, what you’re saying is that it doesn’t matter if you took it or not bc you found better or other ways to take it. To tie the metaphor in, the money is the girl(s). The different (or per…
/r/ExRedPill20/09/20 02:17 PM
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Women tend to be attracted to ambition & confidence and reject the opposite. Being able to communicate that you want her does both. But not doing so makes her relegate you to friendzone or at least not sex/bf status.
/r/ExRedPill20/09/20 01:58 PM
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Usually that stems from the fact that you either 1) don’t go out your way to let girls know you like them or 2) You just don’t do it for these girls you’re trying to get. Usually more the former though, in my experience at least.
/r/ExRedPill20/09/20 06:27 AM
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Suit yourself, no problems here my guy.
/r/ExRedPill15/09/20 12:44 PM
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If you looked at the shit, you’d see that these aren’t even the same guys hahaa
/r/ExRedPill15/09/20 12:43 PM
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Dude, these aren’t my videos.
/r/ExRedPill15/09/20 12:42 PM
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PUA is decisively the WORST part of the manosphere. These guys promote the idea of living for the validation of women. Of seeing sex as a hyper significant part of your sense of acceptance. Like yes, you should care enough to get good at talking to girls. But do not have that be your focus when you should just enjoy yourself.
/r/ExRedPill15/09/20 12:42 PM
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Here’s another link to a video that shows the under-represented side of RP. Hope you guys watch this and try to see what I’m trying to say & not simply dismiss it as “RP cult follower defending RP” ⬇️ Wholesome RP????
/r/ExRedPill15/09/20 12:36 PM
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Very good points were made, my dude! Well said 👌🏿
/r/ExRedPill15/09/20 12:27 PM
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Ah I see the disconnect. You believe that RP guys use their hate to motivate hurting others. You’re definitely right, this does happen. Although this would be a reflection of the person. Not RP philosophy. It’s a case of using a philology & spinning it to mean what you want it to mean. And yes, said person should go to therapy for sure. Best believe I went to therapy! And perhaps that is why I saw RP for the healing concept that I personally saw it as. With that said, my stance still stays on th…
/r/ExRedPill15/09/20 12:24 PM
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The facets of RP that I indulge in do not hate women. The facets of RP that I indulge in, encourages relationships with women. It teaches that women are people. And just like people, you need to learn to relate to them respectfully & carefully. Because some ppl are bad, some people are good. It promotes that you associate with those that will be good for you. I feel the way that I do, because RP is the only thing in my life that helped me understand that. That helped me get to that point, after …
/r/ExRedPill14/09/20 07:37 PM
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I’ve replied to this argument so many times that I’m just going to ask you to please 1) look at all my other replies lmaoo & 2) please watch the video
/r/ExRedPill14/09/20 07:27 PM
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Yeah this is a point that I’m seeing a lot and I definitely do agree with you! As I said in the other replies, the problem seems to be that there is an extreme lack of RP coaches that are on the accepting and compassionate side of RP. The solution seems to be that there needs to be a drastic increase in the amount of those kinds of RP coaches. These guys are getting caught up in the toxic stages. All bc there’s more money in keeping their audience at that stage.
/r/ExRedPill14/09/20 07:25 PM
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You know what, you are definitely right! There is an over saturation of RP coaches that speak on the negative coping mechanisms. It causes most to 1) Not believe that there are other coping mechanisms that might be better suited for them and 2) keeps them stuck in that phase. That was very well said. It makes me realize that I’m very fortunate to see that I need to pick it apart for what works for me. I guess that is the step in RP evolution that needs to take place. WAAAY more RP guys who expla…
/r/ExRedPill14/09/20 07:18 PM
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I’m sorry you feel the need to be so emotional in your rebuttal. I’m disappointed that you cling so strong to your beliefs that you don’t see how healing can involve negativity & negative states of mind. On top of that, I do not condone hurting others in order to heal. I can’t deny that hate is plentiful in RP, but hurting others is not. Hate on the other hand, though extremely harmful, is fairly normal in healing. So long as healing does happen, it isn’t necessarily a bad thing. A la grieving. …
/r/ExRedPill14/09/20 06:54 PM
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It doesn’t make me exRP, as I would still consider myself RP aware. I still follow many of the RP principles. I don’t need it, but the positive effects it’s had on me are still there. Feel me?
/r/ExRedPill14/09/20 03:49 AM
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In the grand scheme, it is not. But it’s like you guys don’t even wanna accept the possibility that, for a a guy who’s mind is out of whack due to being in a fucked situation & suffering, it might be what they need in that moment. The only coping mechanism that allows them to maintain for the time being, until they move on to better things. Until they no longer need the coping mechanism. You guys don’t even wanna accept the possibility that this could be a thing.
/r/ExRedPill14/09/20 03:41 AM
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Bc of what you said I totally see something I didn’t think of. Your point on these young dudes accessing parts of the RP that’s not meant for them. On top of that, RP isn’t this regulated thing. So there’s no OG’s telling you not to spread your intense and unripe redpillness. There’s no explanation of moving on to the mature, centered and accepting part of RP. Again, understanding the different sects of RP & which part each individual needs, is covered in the yt video. I can’t stress this enough…
/r/ExRedPill14/09/20 03:34 AM
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Couldn’t have said it any better! Well said my dude👌🏿
/r/ExRedPill14/09/20 02:17 AM
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The concept of AWALT was only created bc most dudes at the beginning of their RP journey are too angry to understand that they were in the wrong. So for that stage of RP, telling them that AWALT is a placeholder that allows them to improve themselves while healing/learning. Eventually, they move on from the AWALT mindset. Perfect ex is AMS who blew up off his “They’re All Sluts” video. Then later admitted that he never believed in that. He just knew that it would help grow his audience since the…
/r/ExRedPill14/09/20 02:14 AM
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Ah ok, I think I get the concept. And I do agree with you on the fact that too many dudes od on the RP and feel like they have to stick to it cus they started this shit already. Personally, I don’t consume rp content anymore bc I already got the parts that work for me & help me. In my perspective, if you go into RP with that attitude, you won’t stick to it just cus you started. You’ll stick to it until you don’t need it anymore. Until you’ve learned/seen what works for you & what doesn’t. That i…
/r/ExRedPill14/09/20 01:53 AM
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THIS! THIS RIGHT HERE! First of all ppl act like physical/mental health, finances, social acumen and career/entrepreneurship means nothing. That shit is super significant. Also, Too many people don’t realize that there is an end product to this shit. You’re not supposed to get caught up in the small details of RP bc at the end of the day, no matter what you do in life, you gotta do it in the way that works for you. The shit is a guideline & sometimes we need to go to extremes to reel back into w…
/r/ExRedPill14/09/20 01:45 AM
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Could you please explain sunk cost fallacy to me? Also how exactly it applies to this discussion?
/r/ExRedPill13/09/20 11:14 PM
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I’m simply having a discussion m, as I myself see the pitfalls of RP. If I don’t have these discussions, I can’t feel safe continuing my beliefs because I’ll either be proven wrong or right. It’s my fault tho, as I enjoy finding proof in my thoughts and reflections through practicing devil’s advocate.
/r/ExRedPill13/09/20 11:12 PM
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I do agree that too many guys who follow RP become like RP robots and become delusional. To the point, I’ve joined forums & groups where guys will ask things like “why did this girl do X to me, bc RP said if I do X, then Y.” It’s like bro, yk you’re dealing with PEOPLE right? As for you believing that “walking away” is manipulative. I kinda sorta disagree. Personally, I really needed to learn how to walk away from those that are doing wrong by me. Before RP, I was too innocent and assuming that …
/r/ExRedPill13/09/20 11:08 PM
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You actually made me realize that there are different sects of RP. Because as a black man, I gravitate towards black RP coaches and forums. And the thing about black RP coaches is that they tend to be more SPIRITUAL and wholesome. They stress improving yourself and letting your greatness attract women. There’s no control, they teach not to engage in power struggles, but rather just walk away from things that aren’t beneficial. Other sects of RP though, focus on things like manipulative ways to r…
/r/ExRedPill13/09/20 09:48 PM
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Let me make one thing clear. I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH YOU!! But you’re completely ignoring the point that I’m making. Everyone replying to me is completely ignoring what I’m saying. Everything you just said about RP is only one PART of RP. TOO MANY ppl completely ignore the part of RP that is accepting of women and wholesome. The part that isn’t generalizing or ignorant. I’m simply saying that the first stages of RP are the only stages that are actually harmful in the long term, grand scheme of t…
/r/ExRedPill13/09/20 09:42 PM
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Right, anger is a part of the healing process in the same way. You have to remember that rp exist to help men that experience pain and suffering due to lack of knowledge & awareness. Because breakups can be as traumatic as losing a loved one.
/r/ExRedPill13/09/20 09:35 PM
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Answer me this. What’s the second stage of grief?
/r/ExRedPill13/09/20 08:14 PM
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Personally, it seems as though the yin yang dynamic rings true in some regards. But then flips completely in other regards. The real discussions would be when does the dynamic remain? When does it flip. And then why? There are also those few instances in which the dynamic ceases to exist. Usually because both sides are on equal footing.
/r/ExRedPill10/09/20 11:17 PM
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If you ask me, you should smile/laugh whenever you want. But when it comes to interacting with people, it just makes more sense to smile on reciprocation. What I mean is, with people I tend to not smile unless they smile first. Or if they did/said something positive and I return that with a smile. If we’re just talking, I’m going to want to be in frame. That makes me - not staunch/ standoffish on some Terminator shit - but I look focused & centered. As if I’m really thinking about what you’re sa…
/r/askTRP26/07/20 03:39 PM
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You’re dealing with what sounds like social anxiety & awkwardness. Stemming from deep rooted low self esteem. Easiest trick to convos & social interaction is to look people in the eye for as long as you’re comfortable. While doing that, you ask THEM questions & let THEM do the talking! Let others do 70-80% of the talking and you just chime in once in a while. Just sit back & really listen. Really pay attention. People will love you for it. In terms of the low self esteem, affirmations work reall…
/r/askTRP24/07/20 03:47 PM
1

That’s normal & might even be an indicator of interest depending on what other things she does around you. Some people are very comfortable with eye contact and so they naturally hold it strongly for extended periods of time. As a man, remember that you should hold it as long as YOU would like to. 3-4 seconds followed by say 5-6 seconds of looking away is standard for me. If she wants to hold it the whole time, I just consider that her chasing my attention.
/r/askTRP26/06/20 03:55 PM
10

One of the RP dating coaches I follow made a video on how to be more charismatic. He didn’t give out tips on what you could do to come across as charismatic. He simply said that you should talk to hotter women. He believes that men are naturally more charming, and have more motivation to put their best foot forward with hotter women. All that it means is that some part of you recognizes that you are high value. That you can get top tier women. Talking to lesser than that probably just feels wron…
/r/askTRP25/06/20 02:19 PM
1

The religion I practice now is not the same I was given as a child. You have a point that parents should probably teach ABOUT religion and not teaching religion itself. Though I was baptized, my folks did that for me. To let me have a choice. I think people should do their research and then you’ll find that there are spiritually back practices. The ones that are not, tend to be the ones affected by politics, colonialism and recency. Most important thing to remember is that the real truths, rings…
/r/askTRP24/06/20 06:21 PM
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Oh my God this gotta be the most dangerous one of all. It’s hilarious just how much you want it to be true, but the second you do this??? Pussy dryer than Sahara..
/r/askTRP24/06/20 05:38 PM
2

Yea I put that in my comment & man you can’t stress this enough. To this day there’s people who don’t want to interact with me or are very awkward when interacting with me. Just bc I did that when trying to learn how to make eye contact in conversation.
/r/askTRP24/06/20 05:35 PM
11

Whatever you do, don’t be a creep that holds eye contact the entire time. Half the time, look elsewhere off in the distance as if you’re deeply thinking about what the other person is saying. The other half of the time, look into their eyes. If you feel weird when looking into their eyes, then look at the top of the bridge of their nose. Right between the eyes, they can’t tell. Personally, I look into one of their two eyes.
/r/askTRP24/06/20 03:14 PM
3

Look I myself am religious. So I too believe in God. The reason I say The Creator is because I want my views to reach to even those who aren’t of my faith. This is how I practice “Love Thy Neighbor”
/r/askTRP24/06/20 12:31 PM
11

Personally, out of respect I tell girls not to bring up other guys or exes when speaking to me. It’s not bc I care or got jealous. But because I’m not gonna spend my precious time talking to you like I’m your “gay best friend”.
/r/askTRP24/06/20 10:57 AM
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Answered your own question right there at the end bud. You do gotta spend less time thinking on this. The fact that you can smile, laugh, feel joy, excitement, fulfillment is all you need. The opposite of all those things, make them all the more worthwhile. The fact that things work the way they do is simply the “artistic direction” that the creator/ the universe chose for us.
/r/askTRP24/06/20 10:52 AM
1

Well I did say I was talking to other women. But yea she was of higher quality so I kept her as a prospect instead of dropping her. You are tight about that.
/r/askTRP22/06/20 08:32 PM
1

The whole Covid thing isn’t about me being scared to get it. I’m from NYC & she’s from upstate NY. I don’t drive bc in NYC it’s not uncommon for ppl to delay getting their license/ car since you gotta use the bus & subway to navigate. But due to Covid, going upstate through coach bus has been shut down by many of the coach bus companies. Or the ticket price skyrocketed insanely high. But yea I’m sure these inconveniences are the real culprits. Just wanted to make sure I’m not missing out on a le…
/r/askTRP22/06/20 08:17 PM
6

Best way to engage women emotionally is to understand that the attention you give them is both a currency and a drug. Women emotionally attach themselves to guys that allow them to talk about themselves. Release of dopamine & serotonin is off the charts high! Let her do all the talking. This allows you to not give up too much info about yourself, which creates that mystery that women love so damn much. But just like currency & drugs, there more there is, the less powerful it becomes. You don’t w…
/r/askTRP22/06/20 05:41 PM
2

I follow the same rules but just imagine if you put the ball in her court to initiate but when she does, you play ball and she decides to play games again. At that point, she’s just a waste of time & addressing her as such won’t make a difference. In fact it almost makes sense to address it as such. That’s what makes this a peculiar case to me, hence my questioning.
/r/askTRP22/06/20 05:28 PM
2

Which makes all the sense in the world and is how I thought to go about it. But that means either 1) Leave her on read when she reaches out or 2) Reply how I did, get ignored like I did and just wait for her to hit me up again. Is that what you would do? Genuinely asking.
/r/askTRP22/06/20 05:10 PM
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I edited that part out bc you’re right, it shouldn’t even be in the literature used to describe the situation.
/r/askTRP22/06/20 04:52 PM
2

Hope is a bad word, I just didn’t know which word to use. It’s more like “If she fw the program then she’ll submit”. I agree bc if she doesn’t... I could honestly GAF. As for overanalyzing, 2 options aimed at cutting down time spent on low interest women is fairly simple. Just looking for those with experience to choose a better option, out of 2 SIMPLE yet effective options.
/r/askTRP22/06/20 04:50 PM
1

Personally I believe that women who do this, are aware of the fact that feminism has turned shit upside down. And so bc shit’s upside down, men are acting/looking more feminine. Women are acting/looking more masculine. These are the women who notice the trend and are simply looking to get ahead of it. A lot of these women had nonexistent/weak male (fatherly) figures and would change just to ensure they get male attention. Even if it means turning more masculine to get the attention of what is lo…
/r/askTRP14/06/20 10:36 PM
0

First dates should almost always be coffee
/r/askTRP28/05/20 02:57 PM
1

To keep it simple, over here we feel you can never trust. You can learn to better identify who is less distrustful. Who has a higher chance of resulting in a healthy relationship. But increasing the odds doesn’t mean you could ever trust. In terms of what would increase your chances, you are worried about the wrong things. It isn’t the money, progress in life or these things these other guys got. It’s about how you carry yourself, and you’re characteristics that reflect who you are inside. If th…
/r/askTRP20/05/20 04:13 AM
2

I feel you may have worded this wrong but I think I get it. Being the one that pushes for a relationship is a feminine thing to do. Bitches gotta be the one trying to take you off the market. She could lose attraction & respect for you for doing something so feminine. Be weary.
/r/askTRP20/05/20 03:58 AM
2

As for approaching and just having convos, realize that the best conversationalists simply talk less and listen more. Get women to talk about themselves and they’ll love you bro. Talking less also creates mystery. At that point the only thing to worry about is being able to introduce yourself with a smile & handshake.
/r/askTRP20/05/20 03:54 AM
2

Deff make your conscious mind fall in love with yourself. Eat better, sleep better, go to the gym, dress better, groom better, and do shit with your life. The subconscious stuff, for me what worked was affirmations. YT vids of 8hour affirmations as I’m sleeping, promise you it works. No woman is out of your league, you’re taking yourself out the game before it even starts. High value means you think women love you and the only ones you decide to entertain are the ones that show it.
/r/askTRP20/05/20 03:48 AM
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That’s where I give Todd V his props. In Todd’s system, that’s called premise. I recommend you watch all his YT videos about premise I believe there’s 3 different ones. In short, “premise” allows for a girl to know you’re interested, within the context of a normal conversation (so that you’re not giving away validation, putting her on a pedestal, etc). Durdensworld’s suggestion works extremely well bc of the fact it’s so “normal conversation” vibe. You gotta also take the concept and be creative…
/r/askTRP20/05/20 03:41 AM
1

Cold approach is beta bc it literally has you chasing the girl. High value guys expect girls to send IOI’s or social circle game. Improve yourself enough to get to that point. Todd’s concepts are golden good enough to teach from the frame of mind that realizes that “good game is just normal conversation.” My problem is that he doesn’t emphasize this point enough. That is THE MOST IMPORTANT of all things he should teach you. All the conversational concepts are things that most guys do with their …
/r/askTRP20/05/20 02:58 AM
1

There’s a lot of “King Beta” shit in the PUA community. Sometimes they ignore high value behavior or try to be a slightly more RP version of what is ultimately still very BP. Todd V is to me the PUA king & I only care for about 60% of what he teaches. Because the other 40% is BP/Beta and honestly just weird/creepy.
/r/askTRP20/05/20 12:45 AM
3

This right here bro. No matter who it is, keep your guard up. You should expect things to go well if you’re on your shit. Equally, if you’re on your shit be on the lookout for those trying to take advantage. From what OP said, I feel like there’s a chance she’s a little wild/crazy. These the chicks you just enjoy while it’s fun. Really that’s all chicks tho right?
/r/askTRP19/05/20 04:27 PM
2

No doubt, pm me if you got specific questions. AMS on youtube tends to speak on these a lot if you want to look into these things on your own.
/r/askTRP19/05/20 03:43 PM
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Try to set solid boundaries early but yes, certain boundaries will come up later. The difference between being assertive & being a whiny bitch has to do with 2 things. 1) The way in which you address your concern. Do NOT do it emotionally. Don’t be loud, or sound upset or bothered. Do it in a calm yet very stern manner. And mean what you say. Easiest way is to remember that if she’s not with the program, you’ll leave cus there’s women out there that will be. 2) Do not bring up concerns that shou…
/r/askTRP19/05/20 02:59 PM
1

True that
/r/askTRP19/05/20 11:33 AM
1

Going direct or indirect is more about when it makes sense to do one & not the other. Even so, it’s always a combo, just one is a little more prevalent. I’ve found that the quicker you feel an interaction should be, the more direct. Ex: if she’s noticeably in a hurry, you should make it quick. However, the more time you have, the less direct. Ex: You guys might have time to talk for a bit, go indirect because with indirect you always have the ability/choice to ramp it up. Guys like to go direct …
/r/askTRP19/05/20 05:13 AM
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Get kicked out of your crib as a teen & realize that literally anything is better than that. At that point, giving a fuck is not even an option.
/r/askTRP19/05/20 02:40 AM
10

Big facts
/r/askTRP18/05/20 08:30 PM
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This is fucking facts. I’m just saying it’s a shame that hotter girls aren’t as good in bed. It would be the stuff of legends. Alas, tis but a fantasy.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 07:01 PM
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If you’re a real cool dude, then they’ll like you. If you’re nervous, it means you don’t think you’re a great guy. Become that great guy, think of yourself as that great guy & they’ll like you. If they still don’t like you, it’s cus they’re lame. Lame people don’t mix well with great people. Move on and keep finding other great people.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 06:55 PM
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This is shamefully true..
/r/askTRP18/05/20 06:41 PM
1

Makes me think tho, even movie/show writers will be in the writers room and literally only be able to write because they speak to each other, bouncing ideas. I’m pretty sure even novelists might talk to themselves & others to think of what to write. But good point, end of the day if writing is an easier means of communication for someone, by all means they gotta do they thing.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 06:29 PM
2

Try to ignore the hippy dippy vibes on this one and understand the point. Perfection is impossible. Truth is we’re all amazing, simply considering the fact that we’re even alive. Breathing, having thoughts, with DNA that’s unique to us and only us. We’re literal miracles, we just get convinced that if we’re not good at things, we suck. No. You’re amazing, you just suck at things. You’re terrible at things, like trash. The point in life is to remember that were amazing, BUT WE DO NEED to work on …
/r/askTRP18/05/20 06:15 PM
2

If you don’t mind, I’m just gonna attach what I said to another post here. Feel like it works with what you said: Simply put, frame is just short for “frame of mind”. Do you think of yourself as an amazing ass dude. Like a boss? Well if so, you’re the boss & she’s the employee. Act like it.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 05:53 PM
1

Tell yourself, well she’s not worthy of being my gf but I’ll keep fucking her tho.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 05:49 PM
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Simply put, frame is just short for “frame of mind”. Do you think of yourself as an amazing ass dude. Like a boss? Well if so, you’re the boss & she’s the employee. Act like it.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 05:47 PM
1

YESSIRR! This right here for the win!!
/r/askTRP18/05/20 05:43 PM
2

Yes, definitely! Something I forgot to mention is that, upon getting her number, I usually call a girl for 15-20 min. I noticed when I do this, it increases the likelihood that she’d be willing to come over for a first date. My theory on why this happens, is that I feel like girls count that as a “first date” because it gets the “getting to know you” vibes out of the way.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 05:37 PM
2

This might be about self esteem. Sometimes we put barriers up because some part of us doubts that we’re worthy of being happy. Your brain is literally not familiar with thinking of you as someone that gets a lot of shit done. I did affirmations (8 hours) on YouTube when I went to bed, it wires your mind to think highly of yourself. If deep down in your mind you think of yourself as a Kingly workaholic multitasking mastermind, you’ll act like it. You HAVE TO do this for 2 months+ every night. Las…
/r/askTRP18/05/20 04:09 PM
1

“You should stop judging women so hard.” “She’ll like you if you just be yourself, women don’t care about those things.” Hypergamy is only taught for men that have fallen victim to this rhetoric. For them to know that not only do women have their own version of a system of standards, but it’s even more rigid than men’s system of standards. Hypergamy teaches them to not let go of their system of standards & be aware of women’s.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 03:52 PM
1

End of the day, an approach is just a conversation. If your boy was surrounded by other dudes that you didn’t know, would that stop you from going to say wassup & having a convo? It shouldn’t, because it’s just a convo. Same thing with shawty. Only difference is you MIGHT do a little bit more teasing/banter/sexual innuendo. Emphasis on “A LITTLE BIT”. So it’ll still be comfortable. She might introduce you to her friends or make her friends leave. Or, get so wrapped up in convo, she forgets she’s…
/r/askTRP18/05/20 02:52 PM
3

I’m glad people know the effects that your foods have on your mental. The best way to fight rumination is to ensure your endocrine system is in check. They run your hormones & therefore, your thoughts and actions. Your thoughts and actions affect behavior & emotions. That’s why they call it “guts”. Eat unprocessed, unrefined foods full of healthy fats & you’ll think better. That’s a promise. The second thing is, nothing fights thoughts better than actions. If you’re busy focusing on your passion…
/r/askTRP01/05/20 05:09 PM
3

This is it right here!!
/r/askTRP30/04/20 09:14 PM
7

I hate to oversimplify but my personal rule is don’t heavily fw an alpha widow. No matter how alpha you are, that shit is highly unlikely to change. Plating her, pump & dump, and any other casual relationship is fine though. This just my personal rule tho.
/r/askTRP30/04/20 09:13 PM
1

A damn shame, cus that’s RP in a nutshell..
/r/askTRP24/04/20 05:18 AM
4

Centered & rational. Best course of action right here.
/r/askTRP24/04/20 05:15 AM
3

Most women are highly unsuitable for starting a family. But they might be more than suitable to give some top or some box. You practice with them until you’re ready to start a family. Red Pill advocates for how to have the highest chance of being in a relationship with a woman who’ll do right by you and produce healthy, successful offspring. Red pilled men who are married, simply accepted the fact that there’s no guarantee and your best chance is to carry on as red pilled as you possibly can. Th…
/r/askTRP24/04/20 04:42 AM
0

I second that “?”
/r/askTRP24/04/20 04:27 AM
2

Shit is spot on. Girls like you based off what she thinks of you 1) Before you interact and 2) After you interact. In phase 1, you just need to happen to be her type. Average guys fit into the desired type, of about 3-5% of the total female population. The more SMV, you get closer to about 10-15%. That’s actually a lot of women when you think about it. “A guy's looks only get him so far. His behavior is the difference between sex and no sex” Completely agree. That’s what I look at as phase 2, th…
/r/askTRP23/04/20 11:22 PM
1

No doubt, here for you fam 👌🏿
/r/askTRP23/04/20 08:18 PM
1

Serial monogamist
/r/askTRP23/04/20 08:15 PM
3

It’s good you use the word external bc the answer to you question is that these guys mastered “internal” game (or inner game). They have the confidence, charisma, assertiveness & attitude that attracts women. They give no fucks, put themselves first and stand up for themselves. Very RP, but the side of RP that focuses on inner game, mental constructs & frame. Sad truth is most men with money & careers (external) lack these things since they think money & careers make up for it. The point of RP i…
/r/askTRP23/04/20 05:02 PM
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5’8 darkskin black guy, above average but nothing big. I been where you are rn. Telling myself “Someone who looks like me is supposed to have the big package & I don’t wanna disappoint.” The day that I finally got over it, I felt pathetic for ever caring. You’ll some day see that only women who can’t emotionally pair bond, care about that shit. Why? Because they need to overcompensate for the lack of emotional connection with physical pleasure. They’re damaged & you don’t need that. On your end,…
/r/askTRP23/04/20 05:43 AM
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Mfks gotta realize that after a certain point, it’s up to the girl to decide how fast she wants to move. Sometimes same day, sometimes after 3 dates. Don’t tolerate any longer. But also don’t push for it, just expect it cus you’re high value.
/r/askTRP23/04/20 12:23 AM
1

You’re the guy with the girl & yes trying to RP the dude( burning the letter) is best. Let’s pretend he’s a stubborn BP tho.
/r/askTRP26/01/20 12:45 AM
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Aii ya lil bitch the question was if it’s a shit test or not. And what kind of shit test. Truthfully, I agree with you cus in that moment I didn’t care. But sometimes girls run shit tests about things you don’t GAF about & then in their eyes you failed. Just tryna learn to recognize even the shit tests that I don’t really care for.
/r/askTRP24/12/19 05:01 PM
1

This is some solid stuff, I like it! Question tho, what about doing all that right then & there? No private talk.. Isn’t that even more alpha?
/r/askTRP24/12/19 12:09 AM
2

This was BP beta simp me, so ofc not..
/r/askTRP23/12/19 11:17 PM
1

Good question..
/r/askTRP08/12/19 10:06 PM
1

Yes it is... ??
/r/askTRP26/10/19 10:14 PM
1

Had a feeling it had at least some grain of merit. Makes sense about abundance then. Appreciate the feedback a ton!
/r/askTRP26/10/19 09:17 PM
1

I am going to the gym haha. This is a very particular scenario that sometimes happens to me & recently I've found to work on tinder/snap/IG. Wanted to share & get (specific) feedback is all. Still genuinely appreciate the comment.
/r/askTRP26/10/19 08:41 PM
3

THIS.
/r/askTRP25/10/19 07:07 PM
1

They’ve this preconceived notion that alphas will be terrible partners & fathers bc feminists have pushed that agenda. Women will never cease to be sexually attracted to them however..
/r/askTRP24/10/19 08:20 AM
2

Drink water, listen to calming/soothing music, dark chocolate (coco or candy bar), sniffing some black pepper is surprisingly helpful (look it up I swear). Lie down and keep yourself super warm with a blanket and crank the heat.
/r/askTRP23/10/19 09:03 PM
1

Ahh got it, so just make plans on tinder & get to it
/r/askTRP20/10/19 03:38 AM
1

So what does building attraction on tinder look like? Ppl say get the number asap on tinder. I’m guessing in that regard, building attraction while texting her? Would very much appreciate your reply & how you go about it..
/r/askTRP20/10/19 01:04 AM
1

Same for tinder as well?
/r/askTRP20/10/19 12:10 AM
1

This applies for tinder too? I actually got a match today who replied really quickly, I took 1 min longer than her & she hit me back 2 hours later. Can’t help but feel lik it’s a shit test & now I’m thinking message her tomorrow.
/r/askTRP20/10/19 12:10 AM
2

I guess only thing left is when it’s on tinder. Is that a whole different ball game? In terms of timing, idk when I should send the first message. Also, after I let her know I wanna see her, just get to arranging the meetup?
/r/askTRP20/10/19 12:07 AM
2

I’m a newbie just taking a stab at this. So, probably don’t listen to me. In my limited (literally just started RP) knowledge, I feel like RP coaches would say either 1) Cut out the non-sexual attention (bday party talk) and just go for it. Or 2) Ignore the text, to show her you have the power to walk away. Idk which is right, so I’ll learn along with you boss.. Now I’ll wait for a veteran to come in & make me feel silly for my novice level RP knowledge.
/r/askTRP14/10/19 01:17 AM
1

Appreciate this so much! Just to follow up Does a handshake count as a subtle touch? The asking questions/screening, I like to put as part of #3 (convo). Lots of RP coaches say questions/assumptions, listening and concise replies are key to convos with women. So I bundle it in at that part. That last bit sounds amazing man, I really like it hahaa. Only reason why I’m concerned is cus taking the RP recently has made me feel like I’m looked at as beta bc naturally I’m goofy, happy-go-lucky. Not to…
/r/askTRP14/10/19 12:40 AM
1

In my experience, all this here is 100% true. However, bc I (VERY) recently became RP aware, I’ve been following RP dating coaches. One of the few pieces of tinder advice I’ve found (from a RP dating coach) was to only message once a day. At around the same time every day until she caves from attraction based on unavailability. I’m fairly new & literally haven’t tried it yet (old habits die hard). Want to know your take on it.
/r/askTRP08/10/19 08:11 PM
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