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It's my least favorite part of male RP. These broken men perpetuate this myth that women expire after 30. And I can only assume that is because most women after 30 don't want them. But what do I know....
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/25 01:17 AM
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If cleaning makes you feel feminine - rock out with your socks out, sister. As for me and my house? I will outsource that task whenever my budget allows for it.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/25 09:53 PM
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Based on your comment history.... Seems like you only see women as objects. So I will take your observations with a grain of salt.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/25 09:43 PM
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I am 40. The bulk of the men I date tend to be 35-45. I consider that "my age". I have been approached by younger men and I have dated them. I am looking for a man that I have a good connection with and that has the capacity to build a long term relationship with. I am not too fussed about his age/height/job - more so focused on finding the right person for me.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/25 12:10 PM
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I don't think I understand. What do you mean by this question?
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/25 12:37 AM
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I wear the VS collared cotton (not jersey) sleep shirts that hit above the knee or a tank/cami/boxer short combo, matching sweat suit in winter, or matching athletic wear for chores around the house. Athletic wear because I am usually coming or going to the gym. I also really like jersey tube top rompers in the summer. Because if he says "babe let's go get coffee and breakfast sandwiches" I can throw on a jean jacket and shoes and I am ready to be the cutest passenger princess in the Starbucks l…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/25 12:32 PM
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I'm so sorry you are going through this. He has put you in such an awful position and it seems even more tragic to me because it appears you both genuinely love each other. I wish you luck and peace while you think about your options.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/25 01:53 AM
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I think if the relationship is valuable and he is a wonderful co-parent, how would he feel about you opening the relationship for you to date others? And listen, I don't mean slut it up. I mean find a second LTR that you bond to and have a sexual relationship with. I know this isn't going to be a popular idea, but it sounds like you love husband. This is a tragic situation. If that isn't viable, then I would definitely consider how long you can go on like this. Sex is such an important aspect of…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/25 03:21 PM
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This. My style is authentically me. But I am always appropriate.for the occasion. I dress tasteful always. Only time I dress real sexy is for a man I am dating. Sometimes I'll get get a litty racy for a special event or concert. I don't want to attract that kind of attention from the get go. But I do listen to what the man I am dating says. "I love that fragrance." I will probably wear that fragrance more for him. I notice when they say "I like that color on you." I'll try to wear it more. I not…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/25 10:45 PM
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I am going to add this.... Often women come here and tackle the easy things like clothes. There isn't a specific look for a RP woman because we all like different things. I dress well. I dress quirky. I dress down. This week? I wore overalls with some doc martin sandals and a bandana around my neck to watch a basketball game at a winery. I also wore a black sweater dress with colorful stripes and matched it with high heels to a fundraiser event. And then for date night I wore high waisted wide l…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/25 07:48 PM
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I just cackled. They aren't wrong!
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/25 07:23 PM
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You got this!! My favorite easy meal prep lately? Two salad kits (any Mexican flavor), 2lbs lean ground beef cooked in taco seasoning. Divide into 6 containers! Sometimes I'll add extra tomatoes and cucumbers if I have them. It's under 400 calories and 35g of protein. Great to bring to work. Sometimes I'll add one of those little cups of mashed avocado for extra fiber and good fat.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/25 07:17 PM
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As a thicc white girl.... I can confirm your statement about ethnicity preferences. But some white men seem to have come around over the last 10 years. Praise be for me!
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/25 06:36 PM
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If your figure is naturally more curvy, that’s fine, but you can’t be fat. Thank you for saying this! I was starting to worry we were going back to the 90s skin and bones look. I thought I was fat until I was about 30. When I got to my lowest weight. I looked emaciated from the waist up, but I still had thick thighs that touched and needed curvy jeans. Genetics. Curvy girls.... You have to go to the gym!! Trust me. One, we tend to put on weight easier (flipping sucks). But muscle will help keep …
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/25 04:45 PM
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If you are in a Southern city? They like that J Crew, Tuckernuck, boutique look. If you are in a Southern small town? I feel like Belk's crown and ivy line is all things conservative preppy.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/25 04:38 PM
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If you look at my post history.... I wrote a guide about how to meet men without online dating. Might be worth a peek. I am an American, but I think the tips are solid.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/25 11:34 PM
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This is the way.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/25 01:26 AM
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There are men out there who will agree to what you want. Just keep looking. The harder part is finding men who are being honest with others about it. Lots of men manipulate women and carefully select words to avoid honor and accountability. Lots of men say they are in open relationships and are in fact NOT. One guy told me he never promised his girlfriend exclusivity - but I got the impression she didn't listen or understand. Or she assumes they had progressed to a stage of the relationship wher…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/25 11:54 AM
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The untraditional one (me) has poked her head in! ;)
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/25 01:45 AM
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So.... I have been formally dipping my toes into ENM. But I've reflected a bit - I think I was kind of doing this in my mid 20s as well. I won't get into my whole history. But I have been in a couple of open relationships. A previous one, it was open on both sides - I just never exercised my options. I have been dating a man for 4 months . He is openly ethically non monogamous - I agreed to it when we started dating. I have the option to date others - and I have here and there. I am currently mo…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/25 01:44 AM
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In fairness, I don't think most women would be okay with sharing. I am dabbling with it at the moment. It could blow up in my pretty little face next week. Right Now? I am enjoying the low pressure dynamic with this man. You are 100% right. Many people are hiding their bad behavior behind Poly/ENM.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/24 07:53 PM
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I agree with it being easier at 40. I know what I want and what I am looking for in a partner. I just focus on getting to know the man in front of me. I have really enjoyed dating this year. Nothing has panned out for an LTR yet, but the guys have been great. Just not a match for me! As many here already know - I do NOT enjoy OLD. I also live in a small city surrounded by small towns. I find most of the local options actually live at least 45 min away. I have better luck meeting men in my neighb…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/24 05:39 PM
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Nordstrom Rack online is my current fave. You do have to know what brands to look for..... But once you do it's easy to search the site. I also really enjoy Thred Up and Poshmark for second hand items. I have recently discovered Melissa Goodwin on you tube. She has helped me really find the good stuff at Nordstrom Rack and TJ Maxx. I tell everyone, be careful at places like TJ Maxx and Nordstrom Rack. So much of it is not great quality and no better than the stuff you can get at target. If you l…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/24 12:39 PM
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Buy it nice or buy it twice. My former LTR would tell you I am the queen of buying nice things on double clearance. I am typically one of the best dressed in the room. I dress girl next door (jeans, t shirts, simple dresses) most of the time. But when I go to events.... I put a lot of thought and details into my outfits.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/24 12:28 PM
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This is great advice for introverts!!
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/24 11:23 AM
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This is the way.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/24 11:23 AM
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inserts gif of Homer disappearing into the bushes So many women in poly you say?!? Shocking. (Gulps water) Is now a bad time to say I've been dating an ENM guy for a month or two? (fidgets with pearls). I did meet him from OLD - but we formerly met in my tiny private college. Great report!! I honestly believe he is probably right. I am from a much smaller city. When I can find a quality man to date, their reports are similar. Fun fact, my city has been proclaimed as the city with the most single…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/24 11:17 AM
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This question is nonsensical to me. There isn't a short cut to matching compatible traits. You should pick the man where your needs and wants over laps most with his needs and wants. I don't seek affluent men, I just have access to them because I went to a top private college and I live in an affluent neighborhood. Sheer dumb luck (well actually the college part was because I was smart).
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/24 03:10 AM
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I think I actually have a good example of how this is a difficult statement to back up. I dated a man in finance from generational wealth. He was second or third generation wealth. However.... He was average in looks, but didn't take care of his health so he had a dad bod. He wasn't that charming (he thought he was). His lack of game.... Meant he didn't have a ton of access to women. He could barely keep one woman from what I can tell. The likelihood he could get two at one time seemed low. I da…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/24 03:50 AM
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Poly. D/s. Traditional. It doesn't matter what style of relationship you choose. If you are drastically changing who you are to keep someone in your life - they aren't really in your life. It's a scarcity mindset. I don't advise anyone to stay in a relationship because they fear what life would look like without that person. We see woman after woman do everything to keep the wrong man. And will usually convince herself if she just "wears dresses" or "agrees to poly" or whatever... that their ult…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/24 07:21 PM
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Two days ago you were talking about getting the silent treatment. Yesterday you wanted to know how to be less of a feminist. Today you are asking about a break up. You need to lean back and give this man space.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/24 07:18 PM
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I can't speak to specific dynamics because there are so many variables. But for me..... When in an established relationship... During a work day. It is more likely that we text each other "status reports". "hey babe! Just got asked to do something before I leave work. Gonna be late. I'll call you when I leave." "I am feeling really tired today. How do you feel about frozen chicken nuggets and fries at my place for dinner?" "Hey! Can you swing by the pharmacy by your office? I called in a prescri…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/24 06:42 PM
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Might be a situation where you say something nice or don't say anything at all.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/24 06:08 PM
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I understand your POV. It would bother me a lot if someone was not following through on their business ethics. But if the pros of the relationship outweigh the cons - I would probably let it go. BUT - I am not advocating putting your head in the sand. Again, if you are not tied to this man - you can vet him forever. This really comes down to an issue of respect. Can you continue to show respect to him and his business decisions? The saying of "death by a thousand cuts". This example could be one…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/24 04:14 PM
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But my gut reaction is.... Does it matter? Let him run his business how he wants. If he is financially successful - let him figure out his own mistakes. Eventually they will hit a low profit quarter and they will start to analyze all their expenses and maybe he'll remember you told him the designs were AI. My ex kept his work at the office, I never heard much about it outside of passing talk about coworkers and clients. No clue what his operation looked like - all I know is he had built himself …
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/24 01:14 PM
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Red Pill women are a diverse group. You want friends. Do things you like and you'll eventually find your ladies. I found mine in a women's community service organization.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/24 12:01 PM
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It is so hard to articulate. For those of us who have experienced significant loss so young - it really matures you. But not always in the way you expect. My mom was such a huge guiding light in my life that I was lost for several years. She passed a few weeks before my college graduation. I had made no post grad plans. And then I was just numb for several years. Stuck in survival mode. My father wasn't a big person in my life and my aunt was not someone I trusted. So I taught myself how to be a…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/24 08:58 PM
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If it makes you feel better, sometimes being out-going can work against you. I have had at least half a dozen men tell me YEARS later that they always liked me, but they were intimidated by me. I wouldn't necessarily say those were missed opportunities -because I need men who can stand up to my personality. But at least one of those guys I was very attracted to - but at that point we were both in relationships. That one stung a little when he told me. C'est la vie!
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/24 07:01 PM
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This is so interesting. Like you, I am much better at vetting now. If using OLD, I am only going on dates with men who I find attractive and compatible. And in some ways, it does move things faster. Like we both know we are attracted and complimentary personalities. The final question seems to be "is there sexual attraction". Men are so visual - as soon as they see I look like my photos, they are good. But for me? You gotta show me who you are before there is sexual attraction. I think this is w…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/24 05:55 PM
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You have just articulated something I have been struggling to explain to my sister. I called her crying this spring (about the time I gave up online dating) because never in my life did I feel such pressure by men. A man I dated in January talked about me being his wife on date #1. And he didn't let up the gas the whole time we dated. I finally gave up because it was too much for me. I feel like all I do on dates is try to keep the men from trying to touch me. And these men are not bad guys - th…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/24 05:29 PM
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Amazing question! What has your experience been with aging. Recently turned 40. Grew up quite poor on a farm, but my family pushed me to be a good student! I went to the most prestigious private college in the state, gained access to a very affluent and educated crowd. Opened many doors for me. Had 3 major relationships. The longest being 10 years with a man (from college) I deeply loved - but love was not enough. It ended last year - I have been actively dating for almost a year. I am childless…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/24 05:08 PM
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I've seen your post history. Your negativity is palpable. I would absolutely encourage any woman to find a man so confident in himself that he does not care if she wears heels and might be taller than him for a few hours. Confident men are what we all want. You assume the women here can't read and make their own opinions and think critically. But that is the whole point of our community. As the quote goes "You don't even go here!"
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/24 10:23 AM
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Smart man.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/24 01:06 AM
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No. That's not what I meant to say. But thanks for playing!
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/24 12:55 AM
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I'm 5ft 7in. I have dated a fair amount of men around my height. I say all the time.... I'm not giving up my heels. If they are insecure about it, I'm not the one for them. One guy was like "lady do it! I want every man to know I got the tall hot girl!". That is the correct sentiment.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/24 11:07 PM
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Can I get an amen?!?!?
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/24 08:46 PM
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At 23 I was having the time of my life! I was dating a great guy, I had lots of great friends. We were always hanging out and doing stuff. I also didn't have a smart phone and was so poor that my roommate and I didn't get Internet or cable. I had to go to the library if I wanted to get on social media. How much happier would these young ladies be if they push their phones away occasionally?
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/24 08:41 PM
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You always know when a youngling has been hanging out in male RP too long. They all think their life stops at 30. And also.... It's almost 2025. And we still tie our self worth to a man wanting us.... Sigh.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/24 08:14 PM
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Man oh man, when I turned 30 I started growing scales under my clothes. But my dermatologist gave me an ointment. All jokes aside.... Have you seen women in their 30s and 40s lately? Millennials look younger than ever. Sometimes we look younger than Gen Z - who is obsessed with looking like a working woman from the 1990s. Thanks to skincare, sunscreen, and not smoking. In addition to women finally getting into weight lifting. And sometimes botox.... Aging gracefully is easier than ever. I am 40.…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/24 07:31 PM
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This is everything!!! OP, I didn't even start dating until I was 19 and I have zero regrets. I didn't even have sex until I was 22. No regrets!!
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/24 04:20 PM
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It's so awkward when you are young because things happen so fast - but learning to state your boundaries early on is my best advice. But the next time you start making out. Just try to pause and say "This is really nice. But I don't want to do anything more." If he is an ass about it, you tell him to leave. Even at 40, I have to tell men I am dating that nothing past second base until I say so.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/24 04:13 PM
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Whoops. My bad. I was being 100% sarcastic about purity culture. That shit is awful. Makes people feel like having a strong sexuality means you are going to hell. That is not okay to me!
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/24 02:10 PM
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I don't think that was her intention. It does flirt with victim blaming. And it's definitely blunt. But I think it's also a fair idea to push OP to understand her surroundings, upbringings, and learn to assert what she knows and believes to be right. At a certain point, we have to help empower women too. First, by telling her - no, this is not okay. And second, by helping her understand her convictions so she can get out of a situation like this in the future. And also... Women need to embrace a…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/24 02:04 PM
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This is when I hate trad con so much. In certain religious contexts it puts certain women in awful positions. If there was ever a place I was like "the patriarchy sucks" it would be trad con. And then the women convince themselves that it was just the man being a man. What?!! No ma'am. Maybe the trad cons need to trot out True Love Waits again. That program had me scared to hold a boy's hand!! 90s purity culture..... What a wild ride. I still have my ring. One time in nun mode I wore it. Edit: I…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/24 10:29 AM
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Femininity is nuanced and a bit of an art. It will look different on every woman. How she was raised and how self aware she has become will impact her femininity. Too often social media simplifies femininity into a frilly bubbly stepford wife. And that ain't my bag. I love the book A Woman of Strength and Purpose. I am not very religious. But it's fantastic. Below is part one of a podcast about it. Even if you aren't a woman of faith, it helps put strong women in the discussion of femininity. po…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/24 10:50 PM
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And the women said ..... Amen!!
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/24 09:02 PM
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This. I live in a deeply Red State - most of the voters in my state are single issue voters. And that single issue? Abortion. A county commissioner who builds dirt roads has to be pro life to get elected. They are making it harder and harder for reasonable exceptions. I like to think somebody will step up and be the voice of reason. But.... Eh. It's kind of cagey at the moment. I'm someone who has probably aged out of having children, but I have a small sliver of a window left. It does make me n…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/24 02:29 PM
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Hmm, I think you need to explore what is causing you the anger and figure out how to put that to pasture. That could be a problem for you if you leave it unchecked. My N count is still very low for my age. I was a late bloomer and have done serial monogamy my whole life. I have a high sex drive - and I enjoy sex with men I can laugh and have fun with. My FWB from my 20s is still one of my favorite humans. We met in college. He was a tenor and I am a sucker for a straight man who can sing show tu…
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/24 10:51 PM
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This whole situation says more about him than it does about you. He sounds low quality. Thank him for showing his true character to you and focus on finding a man that doesn't objectify women. You'll never regret not sleeping around. But as long as you are smart about it... A casual sex relationship isn't a bad thing. I have a man in my life right now that I just call when I want to have some fun. I met him while I was out one night and he didn't realize how old I was (sorry not sorry). He's 32 …
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/24 09:40 PM
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Just based on what you have written, it sounds like you dress kind of baggy and bland. And when you are young and don't have a lot of money - that can be how it starts. But be careful of going down the conservative rabbit hole. Be your authentic self, just ramp it up. I would say I am a blend. I do not like the old money aesthetic. I am anything but a basic beige bitch. Not for me. I do like a classic look. I shop at Anthropologie as much as I shop at J Crew (well I hunt anthro brands at Nordstr…
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/24 01:35 PM
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That makes sense. I also can honestly say the mods have always been great about reminding people that RP is not trad con. RP can definitely help any style relationship you choose!!
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/24 01:02 AM
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To be fair if I lost a star on a reddit community I participate in for fun - I wouldn't lose any sleep over it. ENM is something I am exploring. I may decide it's not for me. But I am definitely using my RPW tools as I explore. Very interesting. But you are correct. I have access to a certain kind of man. And lucky me.... I love those kind of men.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/24 11:43 PM
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I am hi-jacking this post a bit. For my own curiosity.... How do you manage and care for these relationships? I read your RP post and that's definitely written for men and not women. I have read enough of your posts to know you have quite the collection of women. It seems you have a few that are of a higher status and maybe some that are peripheral fun. A girl in every port. Bravo dude. And I ask.... Because I am open to Ethical Non Monogamy. I am 40 - but look much younger. I have taken very go…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/24 03:40 PM
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No unfortunately his addiction recovery takes up an extensive amount of time, Wow. You blew right past this. This provides a lot of context He doesn't necessarily feel disconnected, its me. What are you scared of? This sounds like a learned behavior from childhood. We all have them. Me? I am hyper independent because I grew up in poverty with adults who couldn't always provide for me. That's just one of my many. I have had to learn to let men help me and trust they won't neglect me. It's very ha…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/24 07:46 PM
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It's not about learning not to care. It's about learning how to self regulate without help when perhaps the man in your life can't pour into the relationship as much as we would like. It's a lot of pressure on him that he doesn't have the capacity for and feeds into a sense of being powerless for us. Disclaimer: there is a point where it becomes blatantly neglectful. But only you know when that is.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/24 07:03 PM
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Lady that sucks I am sorry. For some comfort, I have been there. It's not an easy road. I wish I had more wisdom. And my grandma who was married 53 years told me that it was unrealistic to think you and your spouse will like each other all the time. She said it ebbed and flow. That's why I am always such an advocate for women building a rich and wonderful life for themselves outside of their husband. For those times when the marriage is tough, you have this wonderful community of friends and hob…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/24 05:23 PM
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This man is your spouse? So you see them every day? You didn't really give much context so I assumed you were in the early stages of dating. I still think you need to learn to sit with some discomfort. You seem to be doing great over all. If you are in a long term committed relationship - then I would say it's still a mind set issue. When I am in a relationship, I feel like I steer all my actions to bring him honor and respect. Men feel love by being respected. You almost have to romanticize eve…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/24 10:37 PM
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I would say you would do better to lean back and learn to sit with some discomfort while you wait to talk/see him again. It is not the man's job to emotionally regulate you. I personally think this idea that someone you are not married to has to check in with you every day is absurd. And it clearly is wearing on you. I don't want a lack of text message to make me think a man doesn't care for me. He might just be busy. Assume the best until proven otherwise. Rather, what are ways that you can con…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/24 09:46 PM
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Keep vetting this man. He is just your boyfriend. Not your husband. It would give me a lot of pause for a man who claims to love and respect to force me to talk about something I don't want to talk about. Does he have any reason to want to force this discussion? Meaning behaviors on your part that maybe need improving? And let me be quick to say.... Even if that is true, He handled this terribly!! A good man will lead you in a way that is respectful. Even if the conversation is hard - it doesn't…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/24 11:17 PM
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Yes and amen.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/24 10:17 PM
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Thank you!! Funny enough I identify as an introvert, but I am not shy or have social anxiety. Just have ADHD. 🙃
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/24 01:12 PM
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You must be new here. Welcome. Tell me what success you have had with women in real life? I assume you are a man because you apparently spend your time rating photos of women online. It screams "tiny" energy to me - if you get my drift.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/24 09:00 PM
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every site is an online dating site now. You hear about a couples meeting on Facebook or Twitter or Insta or whatever - Insta is the new Tinder Correct! As I stated above, I met two guys in real life - but online helped solidify those connections. One had some tech issues and we matched on Tinder a month or so later. The other slid into my DMs on Insta because a bar reshared my Insta story. The first man I dated after my LTR ended was a firefighter that I randomly added on FB because I thought h…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/24 08:26 PM
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I could say so much more on OLD. But I will only say this... those same average 5'10" guys... would probably have better success getting some bros together, going to a Taylor Swift trivia night and buying a cute girl a Lavendar lemonade. Female. Male. We all need to relearn charm and game! I think it's the shortcut.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/24 05:42 PM
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I can make that happen! Someone else asked me for a field report about developing charm. Y'all are making me feel so special! 💁🏼‍♀️
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/24 08:28 PM
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I'm charming. Which means I am great at making people feel seen and appreciated. Because of that I have collected an amazing group of diverse friends. I literally can make friends in the grocery store line. Often men I date/in relationships with say how much they enjoy it. Makes me a quality date to work functions because I can make the man look good. I'm curvy in the right way. As much as I hate listing this.... (Because it's so superficial) It's the one attribute men always notice first. I wou…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/24 12:26 PM
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I'm personally not a dating app person. It's a lot of work and it drains me mentally. I am attractive, fit, well groomed and dressed. Instead, I focus on putting myself in places to meet men. Example: I go to the gym almost daily (sometimes twice). I am a 5am person, but most of those dudes are married. So I will pop in after work when I have time to get some cardio in or maybe a quick weight lifting set I didn't have time to do that morning. The 5pm crowd is a much wider variety of men. I go to…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/24 03:20 PM
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I laughed so hard at this. I have an image of your mom standing on my mom's shoulders
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/24 12:49 AM
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My mom was 5'1" and my dad is over 6ft tall. that's how she got a 5'7" daughter that she called her "jolly green giant". So I would be going after my own mother too. 🤣
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/24 07:47 PM
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Did you miss the part where I said they both had some maturing to do? You came to the wrong place to try and make us sound like we always blame men. Try again, friend.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/24 10:42 AM
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How did you end up at 200k this young? My bet is social media. I have heard lots younger men say they really dislike how the women their age obsess about monetizing their social media. It seems to be a big turn off.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/24 07:47 PM
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I do get mad (please note the sarcasm) at the short girls who take the guys taller than me! Greedy. Literally everyone is taller than them. Shockingly a lot of men are my height or not much taller. The short girls need to learn to be a girl's girl and take the short ones for the team. But all jokes aside, I don't know that I have ever dated someone 6ft or taller.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/24 06:37 PM
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Everyone wins. I get a great guy and he feels special cause he got a tall girl.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/24 04:21 PM
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At 5'7" I tend to date met about 5'5" and up. I was wildly attracted to a man at the gym who couldn't have been more than 5'3" And then I found out he was married so it didn't matter anyways. The height is not that much of an issue for me as long as the man doesn't care that I still wear heels because I look too good in them to stop.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/24 03:21 PM
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You hit the nail on the head! The intensity of their energy to get into a relationship - men can feel it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/24 03:08 PM
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I didn't really start dating until 22. Didn't have my first long term boyfriend until I was 24. Relax and keep doing what you're doing to be better.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/24 02:29 PM
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At 20 I was still too chicken shit to stand up to my mom. So OP will get no judgement from me. I think my mom would have pulled my ear off if I had told her to stop talking bad about my boyfriend. But that's a fair point - he shouldn't have bailed and she should have stopped her mom. They both have a lesson to learn. I think once I got to be about 24-27 - I was better about asserting boundaries with family.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/24 02:45 AM
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Solid point.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/24 02:13 AM
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Do you really want a man who gives up on a relationship so easily? You both are quite young. So there is room for both of you to grow and mature. Whether that's together or separately remains to be seen. I would lean back and create some physical and emotional distance and think about the kind of man you want.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/24 01:41 AM
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You gotta adopt a I don't give a fuck what people think about my lisp attitude. Truly - if someone is going to be rude about it to you - fuck them. You don't want them in your life. Thank them for showing you who they are quickly. Work part time in a retail/restaurant/gym setting where men shop/eat. Or.... Volunteer at events where you check people in/take tickets or have to talk to people. You gotta practice small talk. What I love about a retail setting - it's a 2-5 minute interaction and you'…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/24 07:03 PM
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Work on your charm and confidence. Attractive women will always get unwanted attention. It's hard to escape it. I also pay attention to things in my area .... For example, I saw that there was a rugby tournament happening in my city on social media. The fine print said "After Party at Bar XYZ". I immediately called my girlfriends and we crashed the party. My friend ended up dating a guy for 3 months that we met while out. Cornhole tournaments are also a good place. The hotwheel thing was really …
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/24 02:21 PM
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For sure. No one is perfect and we all have our hang ups. My former SO was terrible at problem solving in our relationship. No matter how soft I was, how much I waited for the right time, or how I phrased it .... He was defensive and shut down. It would take days for him to relax again. From what I know about his family life, I assume It was from having parents who had crazy high expectations and feeling like he was never good enough for them. We ended things last year. For me, this hang up was …
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/24 01:46 PM
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So I currently left the apps. They are not for me and I don't struggle to meet men in real life. I would say if you are inexperienced - think about doing activities men like. I think it's much better experience to meet men while doing things you enjoy. Trivia nights at bars Kickball/Volleyball League Gyms Volunteer at running events (5ks, marathons, etc) Join a hiking or running group I went to a hotwheel race (just as it sounds) for the sole reason that men would be there. I had a man slide int…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/24 02:14 AM
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Keep vetting this man. A man that can't keep his composure is concerning. Once you deliver this line to him, watch to see if he improves consistently over time. I have always been able to have healthy debates with my SO and never has it caused anguish because we both know it's just fun to think these things out together.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/24 06:04 PM
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Can you elaborate? Being right about something inconsequential vs being right about something serious that impacts your relationship/family - very different. In general, I rarely care to prove I am right. I almost never argue with a man (or woman) about anything beyond silly factoids. Even then, if you always have to tell him you are right about some random fact - it's gonna get annoying and emasculating. The only time I will put a foot down is when I am being disrespected. Even then I will stat…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/24 04:24 PM
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u/RatchedAngel - hoping you see this! What a sweet compliment!
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/24 03:34 AM
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I would like to echo men like to help women who help themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/24 10:40 PM
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When I really like a guy this becomes natural and instinctual. Truly, I don't have to think about it. But I let him lead me into a room, let him open doors, if we're sitting together.... I usually have my legs crossed towards him, lean back in your seat, and do a little if the Classic Princess Diana look ... Head tilted down ever so slightly, eyes up at him, tuck hair behind ear. I'll touch him on his arm or hand somehow to let him know I am okay with touching. Once established dating.... I usua…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/24 11:08 AM
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Makes perfect sense to me. Men are over compensating their lack of virility with pulling multiple women. Not being able to get their healthy woman pregnant makes them feel weak, but having multiple women makes you feel like a badass. I don't need a ton of peer reviewed data to know that sounds about right.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/24 07:56 PM
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Yes! Sexting and sexy photos are normal. I can't wait until these are considered healthy relationship behaviors.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/24 01:33 AM
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I loved this post when it was put in front of me a few weeks ago. The take away from this should be how to perfect your game to get what you want. I am not just talking about sex and money.... I am talking about a quality man. I have a background in restaurant management and I was very successful at it. Developed a loyal following of regulars in my mid size city. I was fantastic at making them feel appreciated and loved on.... And I did it in micro moments while taking their order or making them…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/24 01:00 AM
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Just so members know what that looks like.... Earlier this year someone found me through - what I suspect - was here. That person went through my post history and figured out what city I am from. He slid into my DMs and made small chat about my city/state. Sent me a car selfie (men, why do you love those dang car selfies?!?). I ignored him mostly, but I could tell something was weird. Months later, I get a DM from someone else using the same selfie about comments I made on RPW. I called them out…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/24 12:52 PM
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Agreed. I was just doing a lot of nodding as I was reading. I don't have anything to add yet. I was also shockingly busy yesterday. So just now reading I hate when work makes me work!
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 01:53 PM
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I always know they found male TRP when the young ones come in here crying about that. Just want to kiss the top of their heads and say 'bless your heart".
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/24 02:01 PM
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Amen. Your life as a woman isn't over if you are single after 25.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/24 01:01 PM
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I didn't understand all the context. That's a hefty two weeks!
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/24 08:59 PM
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Listen, I was a former fat girl. Weighed 250lbs after college and lost 100bs over three years. If you aren't losing weight it's because you aren't in a calorie deficit. End of story. Often women floor their calories and begin a cycle of eating very little until they go out for margaritas with the girls and throw caution to the wind. Goal weight in lbs × 12 = sustainable calorie deficit. 150 x 12= 1800 a day. (My personal goal weight is about 170 because I am tall and a natural hour glass and it …
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/24 08:22 PM
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Love the discussion here! Great choice u/jennaopolis !
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/24 02:00 AM
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Historically in the past, I have encouraged women here to build a life they love and they should meet a well-suited man along the way. But I don't think highlight enough that I put myself in places to meet men. For example, a week ago I saw a local bar was having a hot wheels race event. It is just as it sounds. They served hot dogs and set up an 8ft hot wheel track, everyone randomly selected a hot wheel, and we raced them. Would I normally go to something like this? No. But my brain said "Oh..…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 07:30 PM
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I actually stepped away from online dating this summer because I realized I was overly investing my energy in dates with men that weren't a good fit. I would tell myself to go on a couple more dates to give him a chance. They almost always fell for me, but I never fell for them. It honestly made me feel like a jerk. My sister makes fun of me for being a 40-year-old heart breaker. I don't want to do that to men. OLD is just not a good fit for me at this time. I have enough charisma that I meet pe…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 02:19 PM
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Oh man, I think I am gonna let you down. My secret is that I used to work in restaurants and you learn real quick how to be charming to get bigger tips. But I trained 100s of people on hospitality - so surely I can come up with some examples.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 10:38 AM
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Do you think I should address anything else if I do a separate post? I get so long winded. Haha And i have only been dating for 9 months (after a 10 year relationship). It took me about 7 months to realize I needed to stop carrying the first date. Because I would inevitably go on a second date and let them lead the date... And then they would be confused as to why I was so quiet. No bro, I am just seeing if you think to ask me about my life. Women are such people pleasers. We want everyone to be…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 01:58 AM
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Critical thinkers are my favorite humans.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 01:29 AM
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I guess this is my personal field report on this topic. I am naturally charming and flirtatious. This developed mostly in my 20s and realized it was my super power in my 30s. I also like to take care of people. Being charming and flirtatious means people naturally fall in love with you (platonic or romantic). It has also served me well in my career. I have always done customer/client service in some capacity. Every client I ever worked with - loved me and how well I took care of them. I have act…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/24 04:43 PM
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I am very similar to WifeAndMama. I am hyper independent and head strong because I grew up in poverty and couldn't trust adults to provide my basic needs. The response is that I take care of myself and don't trust others to take care of me. My parents encouraged the behavior because they knew it would get me out of poverty. It did. I have no ill will towards my parents about their lack of provision. They are humans who were doing the best they could. However, I am not interested in changing thos…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/24 12:39 PM
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First of all the 2 year age difference is nothing. Does he have ambition? Do his actions show that he is working towards something better paying? You agreed to 50/50. Have you told him you'd like a man that was more of a provider? Most men can't be big time providers in their 20s. You asked me what I thought..... As long as the man was responsible with his money - attraction is what is more important to me. But being responsible to me means that he isn't struggling financially, that together we …
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/24 11:02 AM
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Regardless, it's better to initiate and meet good men than to stay home, whining about being single. Yes and amen.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/24 04:10 AM
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Give him sexual favors for every day he goes without smoking. You might want to make it every 5 days. Unless you want TMJ. Edited to be less crass. But the real answer is from u/RatchedAngle. You can't change a man, he has to do it for himself.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/24 08:37 PM
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So I'll be 40 in a few weeks. I was with a man for 10 years. We never married. I was fine with it. We actually tried to have kids, but he (yes he) was unable to get me pregnant. Our relationship fell apart last year. It was the closest thing I have to a divorce. And it was ROUGH. I am very similar to you - marriage is optional for me at this point in my life. I still want a very traditional relationship with a man, but I don't care if it's just a long term commitment. In that way, post wall dati…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/24 01:36 AM
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I keep telling u/Jenneapolis that I am gonna write about post wall dating. My so-called post wall life is pretty dang great!
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/24 02:03 PM
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Most people where I grow up marry VERY young. Under 25 usually. (That has problems of its own.) It's very much a "we are gonna pull through the lean years together" mindset. Now, I definitely had guys I dated back then who paid for my movie ticket or bought my hot dog at the high school football game. But in general, financial provision is not the focus. It's chivalry and acts of service. There is nothing wrong with having a man pay for dates. For the most part, I tend to date men who can and wi…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/24 01:06 PM
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They both were penny pinching. He probably bought the pizza and she probably bought the wine. As they dated he got a raise and so then he was able to do more for her but in the beginning no. He did do stuff for her though. Fixed stuff around the house, etc. I grew up in an impoverished area. These financial expectations many women here have seem very extreme to me. But that's my culture. We value Acts of service. When a man offered to detail my car for me because I didn't want to that was huge t…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/24 12:34 PM
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The car selfies are a real problem. 🤣
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/24 10:44 AM
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This totally depends on his age and where he is in life. A younger man may not be able to be as generous in dating as an older established man. Maybe I've never paid attention before... I feel like I've seen more women show up here expecting a very lavish courtship from men. I think some of that is cultural, but I've seen too many women here get hung up on "he's a provider" - meanwhile said provider is a jerk or some other red flag. Instead, you should be looking at a man's ambition. Sure all be…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/24 09:58 AM
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This is tough to answer because it's such a case by case situation. Each kid is a little bit different and each man's a little different and then there's the whole ex-wife aspect. It's probably not talked about much because it's so complicated. But I have always had the position that I will respect whatever the man's leadership is on the situation. Single Dad Green Flags I look for.... 50/50 Custody. If they don't have 50/50 Custody (because that's often not in their control) - I want to see how…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/24 01:35 AM
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It's all in how they manage their mental health! My ex had bi polar. He managed it well though! He saw a therapist weekly, was medicated, and he took care of his health and fitness. Also in the later years of our relationship - he was much better at telling me when something was off. I was always very proud of him for taking care of himself. Was he great all of the time? No. But the effort was what mattered to me.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/24 06:20 PM
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Mostly I worry they are going to expect me to fulfill all their emotional support needs. That's a lot of pressure on me - especially if I also plan to be the one running the home, raising kids, and not to mention my own personal life/interests. Sure, it sounds nice to be some man's entire world - but what happens when you need your own space? Is he going to make me choose between going to lunch with my girlfriends or spending time with him? Especially if I see him everyday and my friends only on…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/24 05:11 PM
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Great list! The only thing I would add - they have to care about their health (fitness, teeth, skin, diet). As a post wall woman who often dates single dads - If they aren't a good dad - I don't want them. A man with no hobbies/friends.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/24 04:42 PM
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Let me just say..... If you are 18/19. You are doing great and have plenty of time! Stay out of TRP. I don't think most women in RPW want a classic RP man. I never go over there anymore. I used to like to go to married RP because I liked the OYS threads. In terms of mental health - I highly recommend lifting weights/finding a fitness routine you enjoy. Lifting, cardio, mobility, flexibility. My SMV is still quite high for being 40 because I am curvy in the right places and trim in the right plac…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/24 11:02 PM
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OP, this is crucial to understand.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/24 09:58 PM
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How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. Prioritize everything by importance. Here we try to encourage you to salvage your marriage. And really I hope you do at least try first. But if that is looking impossible.... focus on saving up 3 months worth of living expenses and make sure to consult with a lawyer before you say anything to him and make a plan. You gotta protect yourself if you are the bread winner.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/24 07:11 PM
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I get it. You just want to help. So do I. But this is a sub for women to get advice from women. We do have a few trusted men who come here. I have never seen your name here before. I looked at your message history. Looks like you are 50s and married to your wife for 25 years. So 1999? Bet dating looked a lot different back then. How old were you when you met your wife? How did you meet your wife? School? Mutual friends? You were in your 20s - so I bet that's the case. And props to you dude, 25 y…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/24 12:45 PM
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Whatever would we do without the men to tell us how to think?
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/24 11:20 AM
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Hate to break it to you. I date mostly what this community considers HVM - not one of them has ever asked me my N count. They can see I have discernment in who I date and that seems to be enough for them. And my RMV is off the charts... So if they have any reservations about my n count, they seem to forget it when I hand them a martini when they come home and cook them an Italian roast with roasted potatoes for dinner. I'm not saying n count isn't a deal breaker for some men (probably the more c…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/24 12:19 AM
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I think the men who come here often hate on the women who sound confident and secure. I get downvoted all the time.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/24 09:29 PM
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Like I said .... Dating multiple people is NOT for everyone. For me, when I was doing online dating (OLD) it would go like this. download app Match with several people. (3-7days) Start going on first dates- probably 3 men. (2-4 weeks) Second and third dates - probably down to 2 men. (another 1-3 weeks). Pick the winner - see where it goes (time TBD). Rinse and repeat as necessary. So I am not dating multiple people long term. I am also certainly not advocating sleeping with multiple people. This…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/24 09:12 PM
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Also to add.... If I went on a couple of dates with a guy and really liked him. If he asked me to stop talking to other men while we determined our compatibility. I would respect that. Dating is an art. You just kind of have to make decisions on a case by case basis.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/24 02:01 PM
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I think it depends on the woman and her personal views. I am not Trad Con. I understand not every woman would feel comfortable dating that way. My grandmother was a very traditional Catholic woman. She told me that she was talking to a couple guys when my grandfather basically told her to stop dating those other guys and just date him. She said that was a pretty common dating practice back then. They were married for 50 years. You say you are engaged. It sounds like dating multiple guys also wor…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/24 01:25 PM
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Love this! The trigger for this post was due to a lot of women coming for help because they fumbled the early stages of dating. Limerence is problem for a lot of women that come through here.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/24 12:23 PM
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A crying emoji?! Is it time for some Adele and wine in the bath tub? You got this girl! Thank you for your sweet compliment!
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/24 01:58 AM
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Working on it tonight after the gym!! I can't remember which community member said she would always think of me with a face mask on candles and wine. This is the case for tonight! 🤣
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 07:42 PM
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I am happy to do that! I actually had a lengthy reply typed up and decided that this girl didn't ask for my word vomit and slashed it down. C'est la vie!
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 06:10 PM
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I can elaborate more, but I'll keep it brief. Assume they are dating other people. You are single until someone asks you not to be - act accordingly. Avoid texting men all day every day (i really could go on and on about this). In fact, my momma said if a man wants to talk to you he will. Momma was right. But when he does text you - keep it brief. Logistics only!! The goal of texting should be to get to the next date. Don't change your plans for a man. I used to be guilty of rearranging my life …
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 05:49 PM
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We have similar dating styles. Glad I am not the only one! I am all about "Well I am going to the museum Saturday to for the Native American Festival - do you want to go with me?". It is just efficient. I also LOVE to look for cheap local concerts that cost less than $30 a ticket. For example, there are 3 concerts in the fall I want to go to. I buy two tickets. If I am dating at that time, I can bring a guy and say "I got the tickets, you get the drinks." They love it! And if I am not dating, I …
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 04:24 PM
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Go on cheaper, more relaxed dates to get to know one another and split the bill. Unless a man outright suggests dinner - I go this route. My general rule for first dates.... it's something small and relatively inexpensive. Something that would cost $15 or less per person - so not a huge investment from him if he foots the bill. I am an activities-based person.... I like trivia, hit up a well populated walking trail, a farmers' market. there is something called Singo in my area. Every now and the…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 02:30 PM
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Welcome to dating! You didn't do anything wrong. Maybe you hyper fixated just a little too much on the men And so now you're disappointed that the two options you chose didn't work out. As Aaliyah said, dust yourself off and try again. This time don't invest so emotionally in the early stages of dating.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/24 10:28 AM
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I take my partner's preferences to heart - but I haven't really changed my style for a man. I have always teetered between down to earth boho look (jeans, t shirts that I cut up, flannel shirts, sandals, and lots of jewelry) and then a more glam in preppy boho look (think quirky top from anthro, scarves, jeans, and heels with lots of jewelry). Hair is a big topic. My ex really liked it long. He didn't care if I wore my natural wavy texture or if I did a more sleek style. He also didn't seem to c…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 03:16 PM
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How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. Just start small. Pick one thing you want to be better at. Just one! Make it small and pretty easy to do. And don't add anything else until you master it. At 25 is when my life started to shift for the better. And now at 40, I kind of have the life I imagined in my teens. It's wild. It's not exactly how I thought it would be - but it's pretty darn close.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 11:33 AM
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And your age and how long you have tried dating? It helps me - promise.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 08:22 PM
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I fall into the curvy category. I have a natural hour glass. I have been objectified by men since I was a teen. It does get a wee bit exhausting to feel like men only want you for one thing. There are worse things... But it does make the vetting process pretty intense sometimes.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 08:21 PM
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Oh, I am going to push back hard on this. I get what you are trying to say - that maybe she needs to assert her boundaries. However, as women - we exist in the world with men. If you are an attractive woman - the men are gonna let you know and you don't have much control over it. I think OP is just hot. She could walk down the street in a potato sack and some man would still find a way to try and interact with her.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 08:12 PM
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Do you have curves? How old are you? How long have you been trying to date? I need a wee bit more info to give my perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 08:05 PM
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And if you could wave a magic wand.....what would your perfect life look like? Career? Relationship? Hobbies? Edit since you ignored me: Whatever vision you have for your life. What are you doing to get yourself there? What changes will you have to make mentally and physically to get there?
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 01:19 PM
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Just curious.... How old are you?
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 01:15 PM
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I would say focus on building a life you absolutely love and it boosts your self worth naturally. For me this looks like..... Family and friends - I invest heavily in time with my family and I have a great group of friends. Health and fitness - I am a gym rat and try very hard to eat a high protein and high fiber diet. Home Cooking and Home Bar Tending - I can cook, bake, and make craft cocktails. It brings me a lot of joy. It also impresses men every time. Service and Volunteer - I volunteer si…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 12:59 PM
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Oh man..... I want to make us a cocktail (I am one heck of a home bartender) and chat in depth with you. I have been mentally dabbling with ENM. Haven't actually jumped in yet.... But I don't hate the idea. But the men on dating apps who say they are into ENM - often seem like they are lying (as in just cheating on their women) OR they are weird fat gamer boys who are NOT attractive (to me). I am also on a dating app break. So unless I meet an ENM man in the wild - it will just continue to be so…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 02:04 AM
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Im an old millennial Xennials... we are an interesting mix. I survived the Southern Baptist 90s purity culture "true love waits" dogma. I still have my ring! I wore it ironically in my late 20s. Call it PTSD if you must.... but I am often distrustful of anyone who puts women on a purity pedestal.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 07:29 PM
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Hear hear! I couldn't agree more.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 04:27 PM
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Jen.... I almost brought up my beliefs on n-count but I was too chicken. But you opened the gate.... I think a lot of it is bullshit. Some women have high n counts because they are impulsive. But I sure do know a lot of women with high n counts who landed themselves in very nice cushy marriages/long term relationships. They all sit in church with their two blonde children with smocked bubbles (if you are Southern... You know). I also LOATHE how men use high n count to shame women in RP. For me, …
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 04:20 PM
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Oh I love this. What would horrify trad con? - That I don't seek fulfillment as a woman with marriage and children. That has never been my ultimate goal. I am not even sure I believe in the institution of marriage. I am much more interested in finding a quality partner and having experiences and adventures in life. I never liked the idea of having to hurry up and marry a man so I can have children. I have seen too many people make hasty decisions just so they can have the pleasure of birthing ch…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 03:36 PM
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And none of them really have to do with his age.... That's what's interesting to me.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/24 10:07 PM
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In laws. I am very lucky that I like most of mine!
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/24 07:16 PM
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Same!!
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/24 06:37 PM
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In the end, those around you do. I have a very strong sense of self. Unless someone pays my bills - their opinion of what I do is not my concern. I understand not everyone is like me. The kind of women who age gap dates younger.....we tend not to care what others think. I have been single for about 8 months after a 10 year relationship with a man I was 3 months older than (so my age). The only person who ever teased me about being older than him - was him. So I get what you are saying, but that'…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/24 06:32 PM
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This is valid. I wouldn't want to go younger than 28. You change so much from 22 to 30. Even now with the guy (28) I am dating, I can tell he is still finding his footing with who he is as a man.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/24 05:27 PM
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I am 39 (at least for a few more weeks haha) and I am dating a 28 year old. I certainly didn't expect this, but he sought me out and I enjoy his company. There is nothing wrong with age gap dating. Unusual, sure. But if you are compatible - who cares about age?
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/24 12:17 PM
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I'll tell you like I told her .... Genetics, a Southern momma who taught me the importance of skincare at 12, good diet, Sunscreen, and various products from Neutrogena and Cerave. Nothing fancy here. I have normal skin. Success not guaranteed. Consult a dermatologist first. Sunscreen . Am: Hydrating Toner Vitamin C Eye Cream Moisturizer with at least SPF 35. PM: Hydrating Cleanser Cleanser w/Salicylic Acid Retinol Serum Gel Moisturizer with Hyaluronic Acid Overnight Moisturizer Sun screen. And …
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/24 04:13 PM
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I am twice your age and there is an expression that I really have accepted in my journey to 40. How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. I have a pretty great life. I am very feminine, fit, accomplished, wonderful family and friends, kind, giving, and thanks to skincare everyone thinks I am 32ish (I turn 40 in a few weeks). A 22 year old at a bar made me text her my routine one night (gotta love the vibe in the women's room). I did not do all this in 5 months. It was very slow and gradual…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/24 11:54 AM
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What venues do you like?
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/24 09:22 AM
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This has been my strategy as well.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/24 11:49 PM
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I keep talking about hinge..... I felt hinge had the best free filters and was tempted several times to pay for the premium filters. If I go back to the apps, this is hands down my favorite.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/24 11:46 PM
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I did eventually get to that place after waking up to the madness of it all. I got to the point where I didn't want to swipe or talk to any of them. After 6 months, I decided app life wasn't for me. I have a very active social life and live at the gym. I have faith I can do this on my own. Wish me luck! Maybe I'll get th balls to ask out my Josh Hartnet looking gym crush who seems to have noticed me after he caught me at the gym before AND after work one day last week.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/24 08:06 PM
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That sounds about right. I jumped back into dating probably a touch too soon after my LTR ended. So panic was very much the vibe haha. I started using the apps because that's what I thought I had to do. I have never had success with them in my 20s Don't know why I thought I'd enjoy them now. I also dropped the apps because I don't have any problem meeting men in real life and those connections are way better. I met a fun guy while out with some friends in February and we have dated a few times. …
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/24 07:57 PM
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I finally gave up on the apps a few weeks ago for this reason. It was making me feel bad for not having a date line up every week. When in reality, how natural is it to meet people every week that you'd want to date (outside of a school setting). I realized the apps were creating this pressure to swipe and match without stopping. I would have loads of matches, but it was overwhelming to sift through them all.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/24 07:23 PM
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Mods, I don't know how I feel about the "wrong answers only". Seems to be ill spirited for the sake of being ill spirited. Looks like they are spamming this question at multiple subs.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/24 11:57 AM
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Well if you need help figuring out the relationship. That's what we are here for! But since you didn't ask about that, I won't pry. This is what I would do.... In this order. Get a current picture of your fertility. I know you said you froze your eggs, great! Just still would check in with a gynecologist. Boyfriend doesn't need to know anything. Determine if this is the man for you. Vet him. Be realistic about your needs and wants. No one is perfect (be it the man or woman). If you have frozen y…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/24 03:03 PM
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How long have y'all been together? Personally, I would rather have a quality relationship with a man than have biological children. But that's been how I have felt most of my life. I have helped support both of my sisters raising their kids. We all helped my cousin with her 3 kids as my aunt was sick with cancer. Unless you have a massive support structure or a substantial amount of disposable income.... It's too much. My friend said a nanny for her newborn to help her when her husband was trave…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/24 02:05 PM
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Maintaining your appearance opens up your pool a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/24 03:23 AM
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I am gonna get downvoted. But just know, I 100% agree that two parents is best. I researched single mom by choice heavily at one point. So I want to bring some light to the perspective. The men who do commit to women with young children do so because they didn't have better options I think this is for childless men. I see many single fathers marry single mothers and the families become blended. I don't know many people under 50 who don't have a step parent, step siblings, or half siblings. At le…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/24 10:25 PM
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OP, I am also 40 and I agree with Jen. I also thought about being a single mom briefly in my early 30s - but then my LTR made us official and we began a TTC journey (later we found out he was infertile). I stayed in that relationship because I loved him and knew it was harder to find a companion than it was to get pregnant (well in a healthy circumstance). I have since exited that relationship. I briefly considered the single mom by choice route. I decided I would rather be an aunt, step mom, or…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/24 07:03 PM
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Totally get it. I have been on a TTC journey previously and found those subreddits massively helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/24 11:54 PM
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There are whole subreddits about fertility and TTC.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/24 09:29 PM
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Lift weights. I have lifted weights off and on for years. But the last 15 months I really dialed in. I look and feel amazing. Genetically, I am a natural hour glass. But the muscle makes everything just look firm and juicy. I am like you, I am cute. But my curves push me into the category of sexy without trying. I am 40, wore booty shorts to a concert the other night, and security escorted me and my friend (also forty, Fit, and in booty shorts) to the second row to fill in some seats that never …
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/24 01:26 PM
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I agree. I just think there is so much we don't know. When she talked about this relationship before..... It just didn't even seem like he cared about her. And now this? She needs to vet this man like crazy on this visit. I worry she will overly romanticize this visit and then not see him again for six months. What is the plan to close the gap? I don't know where she lives. LDRs may be common where she lives. I would only do an LDR if we met in real life and circumstances caused the physical dis…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/24 12:23 PM
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You have come to us before about this relationship. You have never met face to face and at that time you were struggling to get him to even call you regularly or to make plans to meet. So it looks like he finally planned the trip. Great! But now y'all are having miscommunication about expenses. I am not really sure why you are so hell bent on making this man your priority. I don't think it's unreasonable for a man to ask a woman he has never met to help pay for it. But if he promised to take car…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/24 05:26 AM
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Sir this is a Wendy’s. Dead. Thank you for this laugh.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/24 08:21 PM
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Bingo bango.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/24 06:49 PM
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This is where I am. I don't vet for men who will always pump my gas. In fact, I have never thought of this in my list of things I am looking for. I vet for men who are kind and thoughtful and chivalrous. Do those men tend to be the kind that pump gas? Sure. I tend to be a passenger princess (I hate driving). But have I pumped gas with a man I am dating? Probably. I imagine it goes something like this "Babe, will you fill up the tank while I go to the bathroom." I wouldn't batt an eye. My aunt pr…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/24 03:13 PM
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I think I assume whoever the car belongs to pumps the gas.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/24 01:14 PM
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Focus on building a connection and seeing if it's a good fit before you worry about stuff like that. Who knows..... You might hate the way he chews ice and dump him.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/24 07:49 PM
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I grew up dirt poor on a farm. Met my My LTR of 10 years in college. He is from one of the wealthiest families in the state. Like roads and buildings and every plaque in town has his family foundation on it. I have worked blue collar jobs almost my whole career. He loved me for me and what I brought to the table. He didn't care about what I did for work.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/24 06:09 PM
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Right?!? I was even trying to think if I had a Method.... And I don't! Some guys I know within 1-3 dates it's not gonna work. But some men I date a few months before we realize it's not a good fit.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/24 06:01 PM
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What I have noticed is that people don't know how to date anymore. It is an art. It is a balance of asking direct questions and just observing/listening. Personally, I have found many people don't know how to relax and enjoy a date.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/24 05:27 PM
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And another.... https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/8WTFmd4eGE
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/24 01:23 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/B10RQOgSKG Literally, we have a guide.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/24 01:18 PM
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Vetting is 100% about what you want from a relationship. The questions you ask him should be in direct correlation to the questions you asked yourself. You gotta do the work on yourself and know what you want before you ask him anything. What are you vetting him for? There is an art to this. Some things should be negotiable while other things are not. I would not recommend sitting a man down and asking him your laundry list of needs. I was also showing if you search vetting in the sub, you will …
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/24 01:16 PM
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I searched vetting in the sub.... https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/m8a4dUFtM9
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/24 11:54 AM
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Slam dunk.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/24 01:13 PM
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Yes and amen.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/24 04:18 AM
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I need this story as well. Dating for the last six months has been interesting after having been in a relationship for so long. Highs and lows for sure.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/24 02:28 AM
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It's a tough spot. For what it's worth, I had to walk away from a man I deeply loved last fall because his actions would never line up to his promises. But it was six months before we broke up that I began to imagine a future without him. I finally got to a point where I just felt defeated and disrespected. And so I had to ask myself - if he stayed the same and never changed, could I be happy? The answer was no. So it made the decision to leave easier - but woof - the healing from it has been gr…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/24 02:36 PM
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He doesn't want to get married. It's not for everyone. Would you be okay in a long term relationship without marriage? Nothing wrong with that. Just doesn't sound like what you want. Time to put your vetting cap on!
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/24 10:02 AM
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I have made 2 good friends off bumble bff!! Such a great suggestion!
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/24 01:50 AM
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I was always gleefully happy when the library was slow and they would extend my time. I developed an addiction to old black and white movies thanks to the library. I used to check out CDs from the library and listen to them on my little boom box. I distinctly remember listening to a CD of French music (why? I don't know) and laying on the floor with nothing to do but feel all my 23 year old feelings. I have always had the soul of a tortured artist. haha And we didn't have Amazon or grocery deliv…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/24 06:06 PM
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I got so fancy I learned to make pretzels. 🥨🧀 My apartment became the place people wanted to get invited to. I figured if I didn't have a car it was just easier for them to come to me! And then eventually I had friends who would come and get me to take me out when we all scrounged up enough money for drinks (or I brought a flask of vodka and ordered a sprite).
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/24 05:46 PM
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I spent most of my 20s living paycheck to paycheck with no car. You obviously have access to the Internet. Man when I was in my 20s I didn't have a smart phone, laptop, or the Internet at home. I had to walk to the library. You are either hiding your social anxiety behind the idea that you "lack the means" to have a social life or you just are lacking creativity and gumption. Sitting on your hands isn't going to get you anywhere. I learned how to cook - truly. I was home all the time. I got real…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/24 05:15 PM
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On-Line Dating.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/24 10:05 PM
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I don't even know why I responded to a troll. But I always want to ask guys like that how many women they actually have in their life.... But they would never be honest. I haven't had coffee yet. That's my excuse and I am sticking to it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/24 12:08 PM
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What would I ever do without you? Thank you for your input and knowledge. For a minute I was using my own brain and experience to guide my life, how silly of me. I'll know better now. I'll just crawl into a cave and die.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/24 11:39 AM
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Calm down darling. I'm weeks away from being 40. Found myself single again last year after walking away from a 10 year relationship - long story for another day. First, I just wasn't worried about dating at my age. I know my value and what I bring to the table. Dating the last six months has not been bad at all. Sure.... Lots of fuck boys trying to do fuck boy things. Lots of very beta men who just have no chance with me. Despite all that, I've dated some really great guys.... Software Developer…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/24 01:29 AM
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Hopefully Vas will be here soon to help you out.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/24 11:46 AM
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That's probably more accurate to what I would do too.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/24 01:15 AM
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In general, I think texting/talking with an ex is an invitation for drama. I have a couple of exes that are just friends now. One guy I dated when I was in my early 20s. We ended up in a business to business relationship many many many moons later and when we saw each other it was just the biggest squeal and bear hugs that my co workers thought I had found my long lost brother. So it is possible. But that is definitely NOT the norm.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/24 01:14 AM
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This is better than my answer, honestly. My answer was a people pleaser response (I've been found out.).
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/24 07:57 PM
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"Hey! It's so great to hear from you. Just to be transparent, I am now engaged to be married. Happy to talk with you as friends, but anything else would be disrespectful to my fiance." Give it to him straight. Boundaries are meant to help keep people in your life. If they can't respect them, they can see themselves out.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/24 07:04 PM
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Scarcity mindset. You are behaving as if this man is the only option you have - as if no other man would want you. Most women wouldn't settle for a long term pen pal relationship. I am going to indulge you, and give you advice. But as we have pointed out, you are not actually in a relationship unless you have met someone in the flesh. You have romanticized the idea of this man and created a narrative that suits your desires. This sounds like a very 2001 chatroom romance or a mail order bride sit…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/24 08:38 PM
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I am glad someone said it. I was thinking the same thing but was trying to get more information because I felt like there had to be more to it. And there wasn't.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/24 04:23 PM
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Telling a man your basic needs in a relationship isn't leading. That's vetting. It seems to me you have built a highly romanticized version of this man. You are operating in a scarcity mindset. You are fixated on this one man. Now you are worried about expressing your needs is going to push him away from you. This is silly. You should be asking yourself if you really want a man who can't even make a phone call to you. Would you really want a man who gets frustrated that you want to see him in pe…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/24 10:59 AM
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How long are you willing to give him until you feel you need to walk away? Whatever that timeline is..... I would make sure he knows that. I just have so many more questions..... Let's see you meet in the next few months? Then what? How long do you want to be like distance? He needs to know that timeline as well. This definitely feels like a situation where I think "if he wanted to he would". I don't want to say walk away, but currently it doesn't feel like you have anything to walk away from.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/24 03:11 AM
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How did you meet this man? What is the distance between you? How long have you been together so far? Has he ever set a timeline to meet you?
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/24 02:34 AM
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Can I ask why you are satisfied with a man you have never met and is currently not even making time for you? What does he bring to the table to make this worth it for you?
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/24 01:53 AM
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What you want vs what is likely your reality are vastly different. At this point please get advice from a gynecologist and a therapist. You might also need to find a professional match maker to help you speed things up. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/24 09:24 AM
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I grew up dirt poor on a cattle farm. Divorced parents raised by a single mom. Now I am a college educated city slicker who dates really great quality men. My ex was third generation wealth and his family has buildings and roads named after them in my city, I've dated a real estate developer/entrepreneur, a financial advisor, and now I am talking to a scout for the MLB. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Let your story drive you, but don't let it define you. You'll be fine!
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/24 11:26 PM
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I am naturally charming and love to meet people (thanks to my dad). I love a party. I am a wonderful date to these types of events because I am good at asking really neutral fun questions. My favorites: If money was no object, what concert would you go to? What was the first concert you ever went to? What was the best concert you have ever been to? What hobby or hyper-fixation got you through the pandemic? What is your favorite unknown small town to visit? What's the one Christmas gift Santa nev…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/24 11:20 PM
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Head up, shoulders back, smile. As Suzy would tell Midge.. . "Tits up!!"
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/24 10:33 PM
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There is a lot happening here. If you want that many kids, you are going to have to adopt or become okay with IVF. You aren't even in a relationship today. So assuming you can get pregnant, you'd be 45 when you start. And it takes 14+ years to crank out 6 or 7 kids. And that's assuming you can maintain fertility (unlikely). The math ain't mathing for you. Not sure where you live, There are many kids with special needs in the US foster care system. It honestly breaks my heart. Many of these kids …
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/24 01:41 PM
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You’re just a cougar When a friend called me a cougar when I decided to let these 28-34 year olds date me. I said I would prefer to be called a pink panther - because a gap of 10 years or less wasn't quite cougar level. It is no surprise, my friends rolled their eyes at me. I didn't choose the pink panther life, it chose me.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/24 08:41 AM
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Also great points! No matter what.... We all need to put on our vetting caps when we date.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/24 12:11 AM
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These are valid points! Some of the younger men I have dated want to defer to me. And that's about the time I bounce. Much like you said, I don't seek it - but I am open to it. I am talking to one guy right now, he really is just a confident dude. 31, classic southern gentleman, and has a career in major league baseball. He isn't looking for me to tell him what to do, he is looking for a soft place to land. My man - I can do that!
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/24 11:46 PM
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I am 39. Not Autistic. So I can't speak to that. Also not really religious. I was in a decade long relationship with a man my own age. I walked away from that relationship last fall. Dating again for a little over six months. Oddly, I have found that I have had more success dating younger men. 28-34. I did not seek it. It has just sort of happened. Part of that is cause I don't have kids and have aged very well. I am fit, great skin, good hair, good nails. They just assume I am their age. But th…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/24 09:51 PM
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Jen, We are too similar sometimes. Child of divorce. Raised by my mother who died from a long ugly battle with cancer when I was 22. My dad and I only recently really healed our relationship around 2016. And that was after 5 years of no contact. My dad really struggled to have a relationship with my brother and I. But I found out maybe 10 years ago, My grandfather physically and emotionally abused his children. And so.... Subconsciously I think my dad was always scared to be a dad because he did…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/24 11:46 AM
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OP, this is the answer. I don't disagree with his sentiment, but I cringed at the way he delivered it. I also understand that while under the influence, it's not going to be explained eloquently. I can give him grace. OP, it's time to put your vetting cap on. I think most of us here are saying the same thing..... We all prefer men who want to lead and care for us. Sounds like your man has been doing that. Maybe he is feeling a little resentment. I would wait for this to cook down and tell him "I…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/24 01:40 PM
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Winner winner chicken dinner! This is what I was trying to say at 5:30am at the gym without coffee.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/24 12:44 AM
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Tell me how you really feel. ;) All that to say, I agree. I always imagined if I married and had children - I would at least want a job to earn enough money to contribute to an IRA and pay for my own very basic needs. I am a child of divorce before women could get such security from it. I watched my mother struggle her whole life to recover. Told myself I never wanted to give a man that kind of power over my finances.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/24 03:28 PM
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No clue why you are getting down voted. I completely agree with you - You can inspire a man willing to provide. You cannot inspire a man who is not. And if you are vetting correctly, you should be able to determine what category the man places himself.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/24 01:27 PM
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At the early stages of dating - is this something you can ask less overt questions to determine? I understand not wanting to waste anyone's time. But I feel like you should get enough of the basics 3-6 dates to get his drift. I think sometimes we forget to enjoy dating and to focus on creating connections. The rest has a way of working it's self out. Maybe you talk about your goals as a wife/mother and focus on looking at his answers. "i want to have the flexibility to be there for my future kid…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/24 10:37 AM
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Yes and amen. It's a lesson I have to re-learn too many times.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/24 06:55 PM
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Time to put your vetting cap on!! If this man never changes - and they rarely do - will you be okay with that? If he keeps you on the roster but always wants the option to have relationships with other women. Are you okay with that? If the answer is yes, then you are going to have to completely rebuild the image of your life and never begrudge him for that. If the answer is no, then time to hold a boundary. Walk away. Doesn't mean he is an asshole or that you weren't good enough. Just means you …
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/24 05:49 PM
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You should! Though sometimes I am exciting and make myself a fun cocktail!!
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/24 04:30 PM
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OP, this is a fair assessment as well. The logistics of meet ups is maddening. I am close to 40 so I have dated a few dads - let me just say trying to find an evening where they don't have custody and we both don't already have established plans. And I am introverted - so I need one or two nights at home alone to recharge. It's rough! I dated one man for 3 months or so - and we figured out at one point we both had so much going on that we wouldn't see each other for a month. The first 3-6 months…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/24 11:52 AM
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Often, some guys view boundaries as road blocks. But really the wonderful thing about boundaries is that they are there to help keep people in your life in a way that works for you. If they won't respect your boundaries, it's just not meant to be. If your boundaries inspire him to be better - winner winner! And if marriage is your goal - you are vetting that man every day until you say I do. So it's never too late.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/24 07:23 PM
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So it sounds like you don't like how things are playing out. Time to set some boundaries and vet him. It's early. You don't owe anything. Stop being so accommodating. Don't accept plans that you don't like. If it's not enough time for you - then you can say "Aww, I am so glad you thought of me! Thank you for inviting me. I would really love to see you when we can have more time together. What do you think about that?" I personally hate last minute plans. Every now and then it's fun . When they c…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/24 06:31 PM
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I don't mind a man who watches anime, but when it bleeds into his decor or online aesthetic - it just gives me pause. Those anime girls always dress like slutty minors (it's giving pre pubescent at that). It creeps me out. I also get creeped out by adult women who act like little girls. But that's just me!
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/24 03:19 PM
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I identify as very emotional. When mourning... Some of us develop gym addictions, join a book club, spend too much money on concerts and clothes, and even spend $80 on a permanent anklet that probably actually costs $20 at most. Some of us want to cut our hair. I get it.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/24 10:51 AM
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Damn. She must have really loved that cat! I am trying to connect a logical conclusion - and I just can't.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/24 03:28 AM
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The few times a friend has been upset on my behalf for some apparent injustice caused by my LTR. I would gently course correct the narrative. The best example of this is how my LTR and I relax. He liked to play video games or watch tv to clear his mind. I liked to keep my hands busy and listen to music. So I was telling friends how tired I was from a long day and I made some comment "I cooked this really nice pasta and listened to a new album while LTR played video games." It was an innocent com…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/24 02:15 PM
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This is exactly it. All of it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/24 04:07 PM
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It's a great principle. It's not that our friends are malicious, they just have a different perspective that isn't always relevant or helpful. They think they are being good friends - and they are!! They know not what they do. Praise in public, criticize in private. Partners have always respected and appreciated my discretion.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/24 02:58 PM
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Just as a general rule...... I don't talk about my relationship with the majority of my friends. I especially don't talk about our problems. Why? Because most of them are not qualified for advice. And I have many reasons to think that (they often disrespect their partners, they aren't in the same stage of life as me, I think some of them are miserable, etc). So unless it's a happy go lucky story. I keep my mouth shut. I recently had to relearn this because I have been dating again and I made the…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/24 11:49 AM
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Thank you for the big cackle I just let out.. She sounds a bit like an exhibitionist. Or so insecure she wants everyone to see she has a boyfriend. Could go either way, honestly.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/24 02:21 AM
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Ultimately, You respect his preference to keep things private. Time to put on our vetting cap. Is this man worth being more reserved for? If he never changes (and they don't really) would you be okay with being less affectionate in public? For the rest of your life? Is he affectionate in private? If he is worth it - the answer is you deal with it. You move your boundary. If the answer is that you need this part of your personality to be fulfilled, time to hold a boundary. "I need a man who will …
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/24 12:16 PM
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I think your point was.... Like mine.... Don't obsess too much about the weight. Shoot to be fit. You'll get to eat a whole lot more if you shoot to to be fit. I go by jean sizes personally. I'm currently trying to build some muscle (if this summer cold will go away). So I might end up getting closer to 170 to get that look. But I'll have the muscle mass to support it. And I'll look curvy vs bulky. Lifting weights will change the game.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/24 11:22 AM
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When I was 22 i weighed 240lbs at 5ft 7in. It took 2ish years, but I lost 95lbs. My mom died of a long battle with cancer when I was 22. So it triggered me to get my act together. And I completely changed how I ate and started to exercise. I did learn I look best at 150-160lbs. Which if you talk to men in RP - they act like that's huge. But I am quite tall and have a natural hour glass. I looked fine at 145. But I didn't like it. I did not need any surgeries to fix loose skin or anything. I rece…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/24 09:14 PM
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To "yes and" with Jen here... OP, I would like to point out. There is no guarantee you'll get to be a SAHM in your next relationship either. Not saying your current husband is worth staying for, but he is worth pausing to consider your options. I would rather be single and childless than stuck in a miserable relationship. So my advice is.....try every possible solution for compromise before you make any big decisions.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/24 06:46 PM
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Yes and amen.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/24 05:37 PM
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I was raised in the Southeastern US. This would be frowned upon. I can literally hear my Cajun Grandmother scolding me, "You asked him for gifts?!? Honey.... it's only been 4 months. Don't be a spoiled brat." She says he has given her money. I would have used that money to buy my gifts and then say "Thank you so much for the money, I bought this bracelet for myself. Doesn't it look so nice?" I am assuming that he gave her the money to help fill some financial gaps and now she wants financial sup…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/24 11:52 AM
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What are you doing to deserve gifts? In 4 months.... (Which is an incredibly short amount of time)... What value have you brought to his life? How have you made his life better? If you are gonna ask for gifts you gotta be the gift.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/24 02:30 AM
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That was a choice he made. To impress her. He 100% needs to do whatever to get back to a better financial situation. Which should give OP pause. If she wanted him to be a provider - so far, he isn't doing great. It's much easier to learn to live with less trips to the beach than it is to learn to live without electricity.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/24 02:23 AM
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I think if you've read this back you would see how scary this sounds. You're making a decision in a scarcity mindset. You're worried about your finances and this man that you're having a good time with is offering a solution. The issue is you've moved your boundary because it's convenient. Not because it's what you truly want. I think I would rather you spend the energy trying to find a solution to offset your financial cost that don't put you at a mercy of a man who may never commit to you.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/24 10:42 PM
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No. Keep vetting. You say he is a provider, but let's be careful to make sure we understand what a provider is. A true provider thinks of the future. Sounds like to me he made a lot of poor Financial spending choices last year and is now paying for it. I would be concerned about a man who wants me to go ahead and move in to help him offset Financial costs that he chose to make. He's young so he gets to learn that lesson. As an aside: Ladies.... I need y'all to stop thinking that a man who pays f…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/24 10:25 PM
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If it makes you feel better.... If I had an emergency situation right now and I called my ex and said I needed help. I am pretty confident he would help me in some way. Probably not as much as when we were together, but enough to show he cared. And that sounds all warm and fuzzy. But I met my ex when were 18 and studying the same major in college. I was a friend that stayed in touch. We found each other again at a baseball game after his first marriage ended. We became romantic when we were 29. …
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/24 01:49 AM
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It's okay if you're not ready for a relationship at 19. If you want to continue the one you're in, though, I'd recommend you stop borrowing trouble with hypothetical fights. This.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/24 01:34 AM
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This is the way.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/24 01:32 AM
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Let me tell you, it's more than looking feminine and being fit.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/24 08:32 PM
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You cutting deep today!!
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/24 07:57 PM
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I think you are onto something. I also think social media has turned up the volume on everything. Millennials are the last generation to not have grown up with social media. So as Gen Z and Alpha take the stage..... they have consumed so much imagery. Female dating strategy accounts featuring luxurious imagery and talking about femininity traits aimed at attracting providers. I think it's easy to be like "that's normal". I am so tired of seeing reels about bare minimum behavior. I roll my eyes e…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/24 07:35 PM
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Yes yes yes. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be provided for or be spoiled by a man. I try to tell myself that these women probably aren't as shallow as the posts come across. They just aren't very articulate. But someone her made the distinction between trophy and homemaker and that rang true to my soul. Either route you want... Requires a lot of maintenance work. But to be a trophy.... You gotta maintain that shine a little more than a homemaker. A homemaker provides a lot of value and …
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/24 06:43 PM
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That is such a great distinction.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/24 03:51 PM
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Unless you are dating a much older man, this can be difficult to navigate. Men under the age of 30 Don't always have the extra income to support someone completely. But men are very prideful and want to be that person for the woman in their life. So they often will put themselves in a situation where they're spending more than they need to to impress the woman. There is nothing wrong with this but in some ways we have to help our men by protecting them from themselves. I may have missed where yo…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/24 03:40 PM
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Sometimes I feel like this sub has turned into a support system for women looking for a full time provider. I will tell you what I think is a respectable way to view finances before marriage or a long-term commitment. Unless you are on the path to marriage with this man, I would never rely on any financial support from a man. For example, I was in a 10-year relationship with a man who truly cared for me. I make a lower middle class income, he was a trust fund kid in a high earning career. Becaus…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/24 03:14 PM
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I prefer to be a passenger princess with people like this. If I am in a relationship with them, I let them drive my car. Always happy to drive, but if they behave like that it's just not worth it. I do verbally express gratitude to whoever drives me. "Thank you for driving us here safe!! I really appreciate that. " Of course if they don't drive safe I don't think I give them much praise. I saw it in some Adrienne Everhart video many years ago. If they have a problem with always driving I would s…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/24 02:57 PM
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Ugh why are we still telling people to eat 1400 calories a day?!? Unless you are so short you are considered petite this is not sustainable. OP is 5ft 9in. Unless she is calorie cycling between low and high days.... This is not a good everyday target. OP, please consult a doctor for a healthy calorie deficit range.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/24 03:46 PM
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I hit the genetic lottery. If I had a dollar every time someone told me I was a white girl built like a black girl.... I wouldn't even be fussing with RP tactics to date.. I'd be independently wealthy with a pool boy to keep me company.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/24 03:32 PM
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Muscle is the magic. I wish someone had explained that to me when I was in my early 20s..I spent so much time eating as little as possible and doing cardio and never liking my body. Now I just lift weights and get to eat so much more and I look so much sexier!! Op, I attract all types of men. They love the hips and thighs. I have dated affluent men and starving artists. No matter what... They all struggled to keep their hands to themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/24 02:05 PM
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So I went from 240 to 150 in 2 years in my early 20s. By the time I was 26 I had gotten down to 140. I personally did not like being that lean. I did it on a mostly vegetarian diet and loved it. I did eat beans at least once a day. I still gravitate to vegetarian dishes. I have always cooked almost all my food because I could not afford to eat out very often. Hell, I am 40 and still hate spending $20 for a quick meal. https://www.eatingwell.com/ - this used to be where I got a ton of great veget…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/24 11:57 AM
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10k steps a day is a GREAT place to start. Truly, start that today. It's highly underrated. Really - heavy lifting is where the magic happens. Start watching Jordan Syatt immediately. Meg Squats too. You Tube is such an information highway!! OMAD has never been something I am interested in. I won't speak to it, other than - that's not how I want to live my life. I had an ex who really liked it and my dad was kind of getting into it the last time I talked to him. I find that the kind of people wh…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/24 11:36 AM
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Op..... Buckle up I am going to give you sane advice. I don't know how much you weigh, but i know a quick fix is usually a terrible idea. You want to focus on building a healthy lifestyle that you can sustain forever. First, if you have insurance find out if you have any access to a dietitian. My insurance covers 6 hours with a dietician. We zoom monthly for 30 minutes. If you don't have access to a dietician. Then I highly suggest Jordan Syatt on you tube and instagram. I would prioritize movem…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/24 10:45 AM
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For 5'9"?!! I'm 5'7' and 140 is about the lowest I'd want to go. And I look much better at 150.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/24 10:03 AM
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Op, please consult a doctor before doing OMAD.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/24 10:00 AM
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Breathe. It's gonna be okay. I turn 40 this year. I know my family's history of disease. My whole adult life I have taken steps to take care of myself to increase long term health. I maintain my figure, I eat a healthy mostly whole foods diet, I prioritize daily movement (weight lifting, walking, and yoga), I wear sunscreen, I drink water, I limit alcohol consumption. I have quality maintenance routines for my hair, skin, teeth, and nails. I have developed hobbies and interests that give my life…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/24 01:32 PM
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I'm not sure that it's toxic, but it's definitely overly romanticized for views. I also unlocked the dark feminine energy algorithm on Instagram. That's a whole vibe, let me tell you. To put it simply, as long as you are upholding the basic principles of natural male/female dynamics. You're fine. Don't get too hung up on the particulars. Comparison is the thief of joy. Every woman expresses her femininity differently. I have a lot of masculine qualities (which we all need sometimes), but when I …
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/24 03:48 PM
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I was giving you a hard time. I feel the same. I think too often women focus on the easy parts of femininity (clothing, nails, maintenance routines). So I am a pretty loud proponent of doing the inner work. Inner work is not nearly as easy as taking 20 minutes to glue on some press on nails. One time a girl posted asking about feminine vitamins I nearly lost it. And that was probably me... I met my old money LTR in college. I often tell women to make sure they are good in school or their chosen …
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/24 11:10 AM
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I was in a relationship with an affluent man for 10 years. We met in college. So I got lucky there. I also didn't understand how wealthy his family was when we met. In some ways, I think that helped. But I'll say this..... The first link is the best advice I have for you. Maintaining relationships with these men can be a lot of work. Good luck! https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/C0HesAXFfp https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/5r4ATaNW43
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/24 12:43 AM
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If I see one more woman include fake nails in her "glow up" list, I swear... In my defense of my fake nail obsession..... I do advocate women do a lot of mental glow up too. But damn it, I love my nails. ;) I have an old post where I listed what I thought a woman would need to get an affluent high value man. My previous LTR was (is) from one of the wealthiest families in my city/state. So I actually have quite a bit of insight. I will go dig it up and link it.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/24 04:03 PM
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Your standards are hurting your options, no doubt. You've been given great advice from other key members in the community. Please go read it and absorb it. Your post at face value, you are describing a man that is 35+. My follow up to this is .... Continue bettering yourself and putting yourself in situations to meet men. Also - the infatuation with beauty and fashion gives me pause. You don't really talk about your other passions. It comes across as shallow. Not saying you are ..... But just so…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/24 03:20 PM
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It goes without saying... work on eliminating any debt first.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/24 07:50 PM
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This is the way.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/24 03:37 PM
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Exercise. - Create a routine that works for you. I work out almost daily (weightlifting, walking/jogging, and yoga mostly). It's the best habit I ever made for myself. Learn to live below your means and begin to save for retirement. Shows men you are financially responsible and you won't be a black hole for his money. I personally think these two are the biggesr challenges for most women. Super easy to focus on maintainance routines (mine is extensive), but in terms of what's gonna pay back ten …
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/24 02:16 PM
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Agreed. How do we get newer community members to understand this? Do you think it's just that it takes more work to see a man's potential based on his traits? Rather than deciding that they will only date men who can take care of them out the gate? And for those reading.... Let me be clear. There is nothing wrong with wanting a man who can support you financially. It's okay to say "I only date men who make xyz." But what are the other traits they MUST have? If this man lost his wealth in a bad e…
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/24 05:16 PM
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I can't confirm or deny your claims. However, I hate when people use arguments like this to invalidate someone. It is easy to lump character traits with tax brackets. What are the rates of alcoholism and cheating in affluent men? I can find something wrong with any group without trying very hard at all. I am certainly not trying to encourage OP to go find another abusive man. Opposite in fact, trying to help her find a man who will take care of her the way she deserves. The point that I think my…
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/24 02:01 PM
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Preaching the gospel, lady.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/24 01:16 AM
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Amen. Some of the most high value men I ever met in terms of traits have been blue collar guys. They take such good care of their families.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/24 06:02 PM
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I want to say so much because my ex was affluent, claimed to be a coach in the RP male community, and definitely felt entitled to whatever he wanted from life. Be careful, men like this tend to have narcissistic tendencies. They are very good at getting you to behave in a way that pleases them, but if you hold them accountable to their shortcomings- they start looking for fresh supply who don't know their ways. Is your man like this? I don't know. But girl you need to get your vetting cap on ASA…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 10:21 PM
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I wish I could pin this to the top!!! Newcomers focus way too much on the "makeover" as I call it. I have found that men love seeing me be who I am and my sense of self. Whether that's in a full glam look or in frumpy clothes in the garden.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 10:03 PM
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Y'all.... I hadn't been on in two days. I had no idea that encouraging women to get manicures was gonna strike up such a fuss! And heads up..... I cheat and do press ons! I spend too much money on concert tickets to afford otherwise.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 09:56 PM
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Yeah.... Some men really like it!
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/24 01:19 AM
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For sure. They don't pay attention to the tiny details. I usually stick to solid neutral colors medium or short length. For valentines day I got a tiny little heart on each nail for a date night. Dude I am dating says "I like the dots." Sigh. But he definitely was probably just trying not to say "your tits look great in that top". Which is ultimately what he said to me after a few drinks. Something lovely indeed.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/24 06:22 PM
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Sure, men may not care about nails. They like that I look polished and groomed. Which is my point. I look good even when I am casual because I take care of myself.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/24 05:12 PM
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Southerner here. It's pretty great down here! Just don't fool with Nashville or Atlanta. They're full. I like those places for a weekend, but always very happy when I roll back to my small/mid sized city . Also I'm going to say this.... Dating should be fun. I got out of a very long-term relationship last year and I have been dating the last few months and I have been having the best time. I am definitely looking for my forever partner but I'm also just embracing having fun getting to know these…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/24 10:03 AM
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I wear active wear or matching sweats. I do love crop t shirts for lounging. In the summer I wear t shirt dresses or matching shorts sets I also like to wear a bit of jewelry. I have an anklet that stays on all the time (truly, they soldered it onto me). I have a ring and necklace that I almost never take off. And then earrings. This and a small amount of make up. I usually always have my nails done. Don't ignore your nails. As I've started dating again.... Men comment positively on my nails a l…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/24 09:38 AM
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The best actionable and practical advice.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/24 06:38 PM
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Not everyone is going to agree with what I'm about to say but texting is lazy. It creates a false sense of intimacy. I think we as a society have over placed the value of constant texting. It is so easy for men to use texting to keep you on the hook. Texting is lazy bare minimum behavior. My ex texted me every day throughout the day. And I foolishly thought that meant we were so close. It distracted me from seeing him as he truly was - a man using the false intimacy of texting to keep me at arms…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/24 02:25 AM
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Girl, preach. Some of the worst men I have ever met were men with large bank accounts.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/24 06:36 PM
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These are all great ladies!!! I would also like to add.... Let's say you ask yourself these questions (or similar) and you realize the answer is no. You do not think this will be a good match. I want the ladies to remember.... That does not necessarily mean there is something wrong with him. And it also doesn't necessarily mean there is something wrong with you. You just simply are not a match. Much better to get out of each other's way so that you both can find something better suited to you. I…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/24 05:57 PM
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If he never changes from who he is right this minute, do I still want to be with him Yes and amen. This is the #1 question.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/24 05:46 PM
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I think maybe vetting is too vague of a term even Agreed. I know what the word means, but it's not a common word in my vocabulary as a 40 year old. And women in their early 20s probably use it even less. I love talking about vetting, but I can tell they struggle to understand I am asking them to look at a man and does he have the qualifications to be your boyfriend/husband. Too often they change themselves to accomodate the man in front of them and never take the time to see if he is worth chang…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/24 06:28 PM
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I think some women feel drawn to the idea of having a relationship where a man leads, because they themselves are so insecure about their own ability to lead their lives and would rather just go along with someone else’s. So much this!!!!!! I find that many of the women here struggle to have a sense of self. But I never could articulate as well as this.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/24 06:08 PM
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Post from yesterday about the same topic. click here
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/24 11:33 AM
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I agree with you. But sometimes it's better to tell a man what you want and let them infer the rest. This gives him power to make the decision of what needs to happen. "Honey, I love you and I feel concerned about your health. I want a husband that takes care of himself for me and his children. A husband I can't keep my hands off of." Someone more talented with words help me out!
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/24 10:37 PM
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Thank you!! I am currently "pre-game" dating again. So single life/dating strategies are top of mind!
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/24 05:15 PM
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I know this advice might not be for everyone..... But unless he has formally asked you to be his girlfriend. You are single. Act accordingly. Keep texting to the minimum. Logistics only. I don't have a problem with a "how was your day" type text. But I am never going to ask a man I am dating get to know you type questions. I save that for dates. I generally make a rule not to text during the work day. Too much texting can make you appear clingy. Keep putting yourself out there to meet potential …
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/24 03:15 PM
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Wear a padded push up bra or chicken cutlets (that's what I call the little rubber inserts) for 6 months. If it boosts your confidence.... Then at least you'll know. But I know a couple women who got implants in their 20s and then recently had them removed. So just be aware.... How much of this desire for bigger breasts social peer pressure and how much of this is a legit desire for bigger breasts. I don't know many men who would say "honey your tits are too small, can you put your clothes back …
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/24 07:27 PM
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get rid of any social media that makes you feel inadequate. To not do that first is to set yourself up for failure from the start Solid advice!!!
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/24 06:28 PM
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Then I will double down, go talk to a counselor or therapist. Sometimes you just need a little help and there is nothing wrong with that.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/24 06:04 PM
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If you take care of yourself and still feel this way - it sounds like self esteem. Things that helped my self esteem..... Lifting weights. I know you say you take care of yourself.... But lifting weights regularly changed my brain for the better. Every woman I meet who lifts weights has great self esteem. It's the whole Elle Woods theory "Exercise creates endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don't kill their husbands." In this case, happy people typically have a lot of self c…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/24 05:48 PM
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First, When was the last time you took a break? Sometimes it needs to be about your mental health. Dating apps are designed in such a way that you keep scrolling. Take a week or two off. Focus on you. Go to the gym, read a book, go on a hike, get a message, go to yoga, maybe go watch some Adrienne Everheart videos on you tube. Dating should be fun (for the most part). If you are burned out. Take a break! Sometimes a hard reset is what you need. I deleted the apps once I realized I wanted to see …
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/24 08:22 PM
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I have zero social anxiety. I try to use it to help others who do. And HIMYM was such a fun time for me. I was in my 20s. Broke. We would just hangout and watch it drinking cheap booze and snacks. Also ... Theodore is a great name!!
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/24 04:19 PM
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Love the McClarens reference. My recent joy in life is playing "Have you met Ted?" for my shy friends when we are out.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/24 04:09 PM
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I agree and amplify!! I think a good 30% of my happily married friends met online. I put myself out in public to meet men, but when I am already out I have invited men I have matched up with to come meet me while I am with friends. I don't think that's any different than me tapping a man on the shoulder at the bar. The guy I am dating now for over a month? He found me on tinder when I was playing wing woman for a different friend. I literally had on my profile "I am just here to find guys to com…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/24 03:56 PM
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I live in a mid size city in the Southeast. I'm 39, never married, no children. Look great for my age and while I've never been married.... I am a serial monogamy type person. I've had 3 long term relationships in my whole adult life. I've only been dating for a couple months and got lucky and found a few great guys almost immediately. But just from talking with friends..... It's the same guys no matter what app you are on. So I don't feel the need to pay for premium memberships. But I've been d…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/24 03:42 PM
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Don't delete. You bring up good points that I want to expand on!
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/24 01:50 PM
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How many of them have small penises or are two pump chucks? I mean they gotta be over compensating for something, right?
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/24 02:42 AM
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And you are one of my favorites to follow here! ♥️
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/24 05:29 PM
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My ex LTR bread crumbed me into it. Eventually, I wandered to RPW on my own. Even though that relationship ended last year, it is clear what I have learned has been a blessing. I was always a very self assured woman. I think RP has just turned the heat up so to speak. I think it would be easy for me to be a "I am woman, hear me roar" type. But I have learned that I don't have to be so overt and boastful. I am the most feminine I have ever been in my life. Dating has been far easier. I just know …
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/24 03:27 PM
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Okay yeah.... You definitely need to work on that. Sounds like you are making strides. And if you are under 25.... There is just so much maturity that happens in your early 20s. If you are still like this and you are closer to 30 - not a good sign. I asked because my Ex LTR often accused me of being moody and emotional. It was certainly more complicated than that, but the times when he would stonewall me I learned to let him alone. I would say I understand you aren't ready to move on, but I am h…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/24 07:11 PM
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What are the emotional antics you think turn them off? Just curious.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/24 12:22 PM
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I think this is a bit harsh, but if it's a deal breaker for you. It's a deal breaker for you. You do you, booboo. I am the type of woman who would have helped him change it and then he and I could look back and laugh at this experience. My friends would tell you, I love anything that makes a great story later. As others have said, changing a flat doesn't come up often and even I have roadside assistance because I just don't want to deal with it unless I have to. It's not like he let you do it wh…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/24 04:52 PM
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Maybe it's time to step off online dating and meet in person. This is a great idea. I put myself in situations to meet men. I go to the gym, I play in a cornhole league, trivia occasionally, and I will chat with men when I am out. I volunteer at events like film festivals, races, and big sporting events (I live in a mid size city). I am doing things I like and just make sure to look cute and be kind. The guy I am currently dating.... It's a funny story. I did meet him online. Tinder in fact. A d…
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/24 01:30 PM
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Oh man, I also have my share of crazy stories of men staring at me. One guy I have almost reported, because he always comes to stand comically close to me while I'm laying down on a bench. I moved benches one time and he moved again. Thankfully, most of the gym bros are my buddies now. So if I told them to talk to me to get this guy to go away they would. Some of them would probably tell him to quit being a dork. But in general, it's at least men who take care of themselves. I don't get approach…
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/24 10:56 AM
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Single digits! That is shocking to hear, but not shocking to believe. I asked the staff at my gym about the January resolution people. I wondered how many were new members vs people with memberships who just never come. They said it was mostly current members who decided to start using their membership. Also attention all single women..... Men approach me more at the gym than anywhere else. I am usually the only woman in the weights section.I keep telling my single friends the gym is where they …
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/24 04:11 AM
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I'm a 40f who went through a divorce from my husband. We were married 18 years. He became schizophrenic in his 30s and was not a safe person. I'm very attractive and in shape. I can date nearly anyone, based on that alone, initially. I am also very attractive and fit for my age. Most people think I am about 33 vs 39. So I have done okay for myself! And I don't have children, so that does make it a wee bit easier. I have no problem getting matches, but I am very selective about who I meet up with…
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/24 02:05 AM
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There isn't a standard answer. It truly depends on the man. I wait until I trust his character and know that there is potential for a long term relationship. That could take 3 weeks to 3 months or longer. I would also say you have to know and trust yourself first. I know very clearly what I want. And I will hold myself and others to the boundaries.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 05:40 PM
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My personal favorite is Frugal Fit Mom. She is not a fashionista, just a middle class mom doing the best she can.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/24 09:01 PM
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Snake plants, photos, zz plants.... All hard to kill. If you give him something delicate it could turn into the Love Fern scene from How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/24 08:53 PM
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Plants > Flowers Especially if he has an office. I got my ex LTR a plant when he got a big promotion/new office at work..
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/24 07:40 PM
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Look into a diaphragm.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/24 04:27 PM
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This is a great way to implode a relationship. You find out he isn't loyal. -or- He finds out you are an insecure scheming woman. I just don't see how this ends well either way. If you don't feel confident in him... Then you need to start vetting him in SANE ways.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 02:30 PM
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You're welcome! We are all guilty sometimes of not seeing the forest through all the trees.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/24 09:54 PM
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but I fear the future and losing my youth, sexual attractiveness, and beauty. How does Red Pill teach us to cope with this? Aging is inevitable. If he throws you away just simply because you got older then you did not vet him properly. Most men will exit relationships because the women let themselves go, became obsessed with the children at the expense of the marriage, or some other major issue. And listen..... Not all men can pull younger women. So this almost sounds like an irrational fear to …
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/24 04:41 PM
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Yeah once you are pushing 40 the men are divorced. Plain and simple. I don't know how I've gotten so lucky but I seem to be getting a lot of men in their early thirties. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I say that like I don't know that I have taken such good care of my skin and my body. But I don't feel like that's typical.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 11:57 PM
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This is the reality. But it can be done. I just think it's difficult and out of the norm. I had a wonderful step mom growing up. I'm 39 and childless. So in some ways I hope I get to marry a man with kids in case I have missed my window. I had such a a good role model to be a step mom. I could literally call my step mom and ask her to tell me how she handled it all. But I know many people who struggle(d) to bond with a step parent. And you can't force those sorts of bonds. They just have to be e…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 11:12 PM
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Popular first dates for me..... Drinks, coffee, ice cream. Something that can be under $20 and maybe an hour of your life. Not always the case, but often. I also love to do a popular walking trail. Think city park with paved paths. Not remote hiking trails. I'll say let's meet up and walk around. Dating is hugely expensive for men if they are generous. And I try to be respectful and appreciative of that. I always protest a bit when they pay the tab and then thank them. I sometimes demand to spli…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 09:41 PM
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I think it's fun with the right person. It seems submissive but you could actually inflict a lot of pain on him if you wanted. And most men just love it so much that they usually return the favor. It's a lot of trust for both folks.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 07:53 PM
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I don't advocate daily, but there were times when I just needed to get some sleep. My ex has severe apnea.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 11:44 AM
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Yeah, women with high sex drives don't talk about it much for some reason. Honey it is hard to say no when he has been laying the charm on you all day. I am naturally curvy, so I get a lot of interest from good looking dudes, and for some reason they assume I am easy. Wrong! Buckle up. They all say they are looking for a long term partner. Lies!!! They just want to get laid. Most of them give up if you don't put out within the first few dates, but some play the long game. Constant vigilance is n…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 11:07 PM
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Keep your legs closed. These men will say anything to get you in bed. It's the worst part of being single - because I have a pretty high sex drive. I have to protect myself - because a handsome man telling me what I want to hear? I will friggin melt. So just as others said.....I try not to go to anyone's house and I don't bring them to mine early on. I recently went on a 4th date to a man's house to cook for him. We had been dating a solid month.... I felt like it was okay. Ya know, just cook an…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 09:32 PM
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My ex.... Woof. The snoring was awful. CPAP helped tremendously and I had to beg him. Earplugs or earbuds with white noise and a Tylenol PM. Helped tremendously. I used to think people with separate bedrooms were weird. There were times I would end up on the couch so I totally get the appeal now..
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 02:56 PM
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I joined a local women's service organization. I am from a small-medium sized city with a lot of feeder suburbs. We do a lot to help women and children in crisis (a million committees and councils to serve on). I have made some truly amazing friends. It's a national organization. Look up... YWCA Girls Inc AJLI Kiwanis Rotary/Rotaract There are millions of options.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/24 03:10 PM
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In stereotypical girly fashion..... I love all things pink and hearts. What's not to like? I view it as a way to appreciate those I care about.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/24 10:00 PM
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I love Valentine's Day. Always have. But I've never been a fan of going out or gifts. I just like to cook a nice meal at home, pick a good bottle of wine, and see where the night takes us. Easy peasy.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/24 09:49 PM
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I had a distant cousin’s husband tell me just last month, that for women “living a life” the way that I currently am, it’ll be next to impossible to find a good masculine man, because my “working and independence” will scare them away. I want to be led by a good husband one day, but at the moment, this is where life has me! I can’t just not work while I wait for that time to come, lol. I might disagree here... To an extent. My ex SO was very masculine and the guys I am dating now are both mascul…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/24 06:55 PM
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Without complaining (because that's not my intention at all), I realize that I'm usually just used to doing things on my own, helping myself when I've needed help, and basically just not expecting anyone to help me in my sad or difficult times - for anything. From the small things, to the bigger things. Are you a first born/only child? Cause I feel all this. Unfortunately, I have had to be a caregiver for my mother battling cancer who passed away when I was about your age and then I helped a lot…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/24 05:27 PM
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Most women will not entertain a 'hardworking' or 'ambitious' guy who has a lot of passion for some dead end gig like DJing, art, writing etc. I don't inherently disagree. I could cherry pick examples from my life. I know a man that is a wine sales rep by day and a DJ on the weekend. But even I know he is the exception not the rule. This is so ironic because it's beyond obvious you still view the first responder as inferior to the finance guy on some level. Maybe I and other women do see it that …
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/24 11:00 AM
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I didn't think you were bashing her. She genuinely was trying to be helpful, but it just didn't land well with her son. Truly, don't sweat the post.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/24 01:41 AM
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I'm using an example to explain the effects. That's how I perceived it as well. It is a good example. Especially since it's such a relatable example.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/24 01:10 AM
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Oh I have no doubt about that. I hope the lost boys at TRP are taking notes.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/24 07:35 PM
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Very important. Like others have said, it isn't always about the money. It's about work ethic usually. I am currently talking to two guys. Bachelor #1 works in finance. He is incredibly stable career wise and financially. If we married, I could stop working if I wanted to. I could literally go get a job anywhere that made me happy and he'd have zero problems with that. Bachelor #2 is a first responder. I think currently I make more money than him. And my career changed a few years ago, so this i…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/24 10:47 AM
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At work.... We set huge goals (we have a 5 year plan) and each year/quarter make smaller smart goals to get there. And I kind of do the same for my personal life.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/24 11:00 PM
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You cheeky bastard. Haha
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/24 07:13 PM
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You honestly haven't said much. Again, I think this is a question for Google.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/24 12:26 PM
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I could say a lot more, but it is clear you don't want the kind of help we offer here. Perhaps you should Google "why do men desire younger women". I don't know the professions of my peers here, but I am not sure any of them are research scientists. Though I am sure there are women here who realized their man was looking elsewhere and corrected things about themselves to get their man's desire back.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/24 12:18 PM
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Hmm. Here at RPW we focus on how we can improve ourselves as women to maintain healthy and fruitful relationships with men. Instead of putting all the responsibility on the men to change, we take ownership of ourselves. It has generally been a blessing to the women here. Is that something you are willing to learn about?
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/24 12:07 PM
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I don't find younger men attactive, at all, even appearance wise etc. More for me!😁 Couldn't resist!
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/24 12:02 PM
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Woof this statement says it all. I think wanting monogamy even in his thoughts is a tall order, but never the less. I sympathize with the desire. Then I put this back on you..... If you want him to only look at and want you.... What are you doing to be someone he wants to look at and desire? Are you taking care of yourself?
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/24 12:01 PM
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Sounds like you have self esteem issues. I'm 39. I have great self esteem. I work out every day and thicker than a bowl of oatmeal. But admittedly, I have an hour glass figure. Men my age want me. The guys I am dating are 31 and 34. The 31 year old looks like a damn Greek God. Your issues aren't your looks per se..... It's your mental health. We all find younger men and women attractive. But good health and confidence go a long way. Living your life in fear of your BF leaving you for a younger w…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/24 11:40 AM
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If you don't like it. Hold a boundary. Tell him you want to make him happy, but that this feels wrong to you. Remind him, you are just as much to blame because you have allowed it to make him happy. That you want to have this sort of intimacy with your husband. So you'd really like to stop this behavior and see how the relationship progresses. If you are doing this to make him happy so he'll stay.... You need to ask yourself if he's worth it. Maybe he is. Maybe he isn't. Personally, I was a late…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/24 10:06 AM
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Did you say he wasn't in your city? LDRs are always a bad idea unless he is in the military or travels for work- I don't get why you'd sign up for this kind of relationship. They are very hard to maintain.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 08:52 PM
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First, let me say you have some wonderful wise advice....please read it all. Second. How do I recover from not being a virgin? My initial reaction was "by being amazing in bed". I've never had a man tell me to put my clothes back on and leave. If he told me I was too loose I would 100% tell him he was too small. Women too often let men lead and set the tone in the bedroom because they are so insecure about their bodies. And bad men use that insecurity against us. Most men are lucky to even be in…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 08:40 PM
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You can do it!! 💩
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 08:13 PM
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I shop J Crew, Gap, Banana Republic, Anthro Sales, Express, Abercrombie, and then I like the runway section at TJ Maxx. For shoes, I love Sam Edelman, Steve Madden, and Vince Camuto. I also like Ralph Lauren coats and accessories - I get those at department stores. Ralph Lauren purses are usually well made and classic.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 02:27 PM
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I really appreciate it. We had a great romance. I don't regret anything. I hate it didn't work out. It gets easier by the day. Onward and upward! Bachelor #1 is a first responder and bachelor #2 is a successful man in finance. Both very different and I am just enjoying learning about them. Putting my RPW tools to work.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 02:56 AM
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Aww, you are so kind. I am flattered to know people pay attention. It ended as amicably as it could. It was devastating for sure. We had struggled for the last couple of years. We were not married or living together. I was okay with that, most here wouldn't be. He has a high caliber career, kids from a previous marriage, and aging parents. He wasn't meeting my needs and he wasn't willing to address them or change. I did a lot to meet him where he was and lost myself trying to make him happy. Whi…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 05:48 PM
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As I embrace being single again.....all I can think is some men have some hella audacity at the most.... Inopportune moments. I will let the married ladies help you! Good luck OP. I am hoping at worst he was just sexually frustrated and men often struggle to relate as we carry children. Bless em, they know not what they do sometimes.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 01:08 PM
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You currently are not a high value woman worth a man's investment - but somehow you have men providing for you. So good on you girl. But being ungrateful or entitled about money for material items is very disrespectful to a provider. Why is this so hard for women to understand? You have to bring value to a man's life beyond being pretty for an affluent man to put a ring on it. These men have, can, and will play with whatever woman let's him play. They like having attractive women next to them. Y…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 06:06 PM
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Hmm, this is something I vet for. I am very independent, outgoing - but introverted, and I am a busy lady. I try to find men with hobbies or careers that keep them busy. I'm single, but dating. I am happy if I can see a man once or twice a week. If he wants more time than that.... We need to b a committed relationship. I am not sure what to tell you.... You just need to be honest with him about needing space for this relationship to work long term. Let him figure out the rest.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 04:21 PM
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I friggin love in the sea of chaos that is this thread.... We are over here talking about fiber. I love this place.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 09:58 AM
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You are so entertaining. Good luck girly girl. I am going on a date tomorrow night with an affluent man. I'll say a silent toast in your honor of your dating struggles.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 02:32 AM
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I am mentally fine. You are the one asking me how I date affluent men. I told you what I do to be high value (see above post) and how I met them..... My ex I met in college, the others I have met online or through friends. The only difference between you and I.... Is that I don't REQUIRE men to be affluent to date me. I am looking for leadership traits. My long term happiness has very little to do with material items.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 02:20 AM
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Girl, I am not the one.... You are not a high value woman. You are snobbish and entitled. Is it any wonder you can't get the kind of man you want? What man wants to sign up for such shallow foolishness? You want to be an influencer to meet men?!? No you want to be an influencer so simps will give you money. You have tons of people giving you great advice. Go friggin read it and quit wasting our time.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 01:22 AM
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I don't do anything special. I met both of these guys online. The affluent man.... We figured out we had common acquaintances and so that helped move to the dating stage. The fire fighter.... I am a little embarrassed to say FB recommended him to me and I thought he was cute so I added him randomly. Eventually he asked me out. You sound young. Especially when you say you want to be an influencer. Immediately makes me think you gotta be 25 or under. I will respectfully say, you seem to be chasing…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 12:37 AM
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The way I just screamed with laughter. This is the content the active members want, eh? My dietician is also very proud of my fiber intake as well. It's the nutrition factor I feel like no one talks about! But.... High fiber tortillas/bread (this is the real cheat), beans, oatmeal, chia seeds, apples are probably the biggest in my rotation. I really love the Kashi cereals when I can get them on sale. I switch to whole wheat pasta when I can. I am just always looking for things that will add fibe…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 06:58 PM
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Always happy to chat.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 05:39 PM
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In the south we say "Bless your heart".
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 03:54 PM
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You seem too desperate. You need to work on your mindset. Not all quality men are rich. I am currently dating two men. One traditionally affluent man. Another man who is a firefighter, who makes less than I do currently but I can tell would make a great leader. Both men are high quality - they just have different skills. Life would be more of a financial struggle with the firefighter, but with the right man.... I could make any budget work.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 03:52 PM
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I work in finance. So looks are super important in that industry as well. What is your mind set like? Are you too focused on the goal? I ask that to say.... I have found women have their eye on the prize of marriage/children and sometimes forget to just have fun dating. This idea that time is running out can make a woman's energy feel desperate. And then the man feels like you just want him for his cash and prizes. I always ask these women .... What happens if you find Mr. Right and he can't get…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 03:26 PM
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Yes.... They like slimmer women. But it's not that you need to be a size zero. I am thicker than a bowl of oatmeal. I am a natural hour glass. Slim stomach, tiny waist, and ass/thighs that definitely qualify as "dump truck". All that to say..... It's more the fact that Slim women tend to take care of themselves. And that's what is attractive to affluent men. I am fit. I am a 5am gym girlie during the week and usually try to work out on the weekends too. I lift heavy weights almost every day, I g…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/24 02:31 PM
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This is the way.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/23 10:27 PM
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You can have almost anything tailored - regardless of quality. The tailor will tell you what they can and cannot do to the garment.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/23 04:15 PM
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This is a loaded question. Have I changed for my partner or for myself? Mostly myself. My style has evolved. I am older. I also changed careers. 10 years ago I worked a very casual job. I didn't wear much make up, my hair was naturally wavy, and I shopped at the thrift store for a very boho look. I was also in my 20s. I still had a very girl next door look. Now? I'm almost 40 and I work in a very business professional setting. I do my hair, nails, and make up, and I wear a lot of dresses to work…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/23 04:08 PM
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That's a great way to show your appreciation of him! Don't over think it.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/23 11:58 PM
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This is the best answer.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 05:36 PM
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I think this is completely normal. Being an RP woman has very little to do with make up and clothes - that is surface level femininity. I think the fact that you are more comfortable with less make up is a GREAT thing. Most of the time I am very done up .... nails, hair, make up, dress. Especially for work because I am in finance. But it's a lot of work/time and a lot of money. So sometimes I just focus on my skincare and wear mascara and lip gloss. If I don't feel like going all out for work, h…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/23 02:26 PM
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I always think of the movie My Big Fat Greek Wedding.... the man is the head of the house and the woman is the neck. She can turn him in the direction she wants.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/23 08:36 PM
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As women, we have a lot of influence on the men in our lives. A man comes home after a long day of work to a wife that is unhappy because they don't have more money to do or have XYZ. And she doesn't want to sleep with him because he doesn't provide for her in the way she expects. How motivating is that? Vs coming home to a wife who cooked a frugal and delicious meal for him. I would even brag "Babe... can you believe I made this huge pot of stew for us for $15? It will feed us for 3 dinners! So…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/23 08:14 PM
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Gratitude for his provision will go a long way to motivate him to earn more.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/23 07:58 PM
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Specifically for women? What does that mean?
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/23 07:51 PM
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Certainly, are you working? If not, what are you doing to be a good steward of his provision? It's all fine and dandy to want your partner to earn more. But if you both are under 30 - these are the lean years. My frugality has been such a blessing to my relationship. It shows my SO how much I appreciate his hard work.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/23 07:46 PM
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You lost me when you said "moolah". This is your marriage, not a conversation about who buys the cheese dip for girls night out.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/23 07:24 PM
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And this is it..... Op, do you want a plural marriage? If you don't. Then you have the right to walk away and find a man who only wants one wife. But as soon as you agree to it, then you have to be okay with whatever that family structure entails. Would you be happy with that arrangement? It doesn't matter what we think. It matters what you think.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/23 01:52 PM
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If everyone is open about it and consents to it - then it's none of my business. I think RP could be applied to any relationship. People here will act like you are speaking blasphemy. Do I want to do that? No. But you do you, babe.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/23 01:17 PM
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I think you missed the point entirely. Let's assume the best in our men and not the worst. Your partner can be the most trustworthy person in the world. It's about how WE respond when we see other women making passes. A good man won't act on it. But if you lower yourself to jealousy.... especially when he hasn't given you any reason to act that way.... then that says more about you than him. (And this is an example, no one in particular). My SO is hot, charming, has a successful career, and from…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/23 11:59 AM
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I think him saying that says a lot about you! How sweet.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/23 01:30 AM
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It only will be a problem if he likes to go out and you get mad that he doesn't stay home or he gets mad that you won't come out with him.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/23 03:32 PM
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You are right. The man needs to be given a chance to show up for her. Also, if he is as young as she is.... bless it. I hated my early 20s.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 08:19 PM
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I wish I could upvote this 100 more times.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 08:07 PM
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Thankfully she sounds young. If she is finishing university that puts her under 22-25. Op, vet this man. If he never changed would you be happy?
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 08:06 PM
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This is solid.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 08:03 PM
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It's highly dependent on the couple. I have seen successful marriages with "separate bedrooms". My aunt and uncle had separate bedrooms because my uncle worked the night shift. One of my friends, she has been married for 25+ years. She and her husband have separate rooms. They are one of the closest couples I know, but she says they just weren't compatible sleepers and both needed space to make their marriage better. And I am sure I've met a few others that have told me they have separate bedroo…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 07:56 PM
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I snorted with laughter. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 01:32 PM
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I have been with my LTR almost a decade. I've known him two decades. He is very red pilled. LHe's very active on the male spaces and I'm sure he has his own ideas about what is and what isn't right. My LTR and I can have healthy debates about red pill topics but it doesn't impact our relationship. I definitely don't agree with all the points male RP states as fact. He doesn't tell me I'm wrong even if he might believe I am. He loves that I don't just believe things blindly. He is the same. We ju…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/23 11:42 AM
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That makes me happy to hear. Also, please tell your doctor as well. You never know.... it could be something with your hormones as well.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/23 09:32 PM
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There is nothing wrong with dating to have fun and meet new people (just don't sleep with them all). The problem is.....your energy is all on this one man. You are leaning forward when you should be leaning back. What do you want from a relationship? If he couldn't give you the relationship you wanted why chase him. The sperm chases the egg. I have found that young women just don't seem to take the time to get to know themselves or what they want. And they fixate on a man that was like the first…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/23 10:58 AM
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OP, are you both under 25?
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/23 02:09 AM
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Good lord, I don't miss my 20s. Sweet girl, do not date people to pass time. Go volunteer at an animal shelter or soup kitchen to pass time. Then while you do that.... please read everything in the wiki. You need to get a sense of self and then you won't settle for a man who would let you go.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/23 01:53 AM
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Then accept his habit of not texting. I wouldn't even try to change it. If it's not his nature it isn't worth the battle.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/23 10:18 PM
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How old are you? I didn't really get orgasms until I was with my current partner and even then it took a year or so. I was 28-30. I don't know how to explain it, suddenly I felt comfortable and confident with him. We dated briefly in our early 20s. The sex was always hot, but I didn't know what I didn't know. When we found ourselves back together in our late 20s - it's when it just all clicked. I think that was when I learned to not worry about what he thought of my body etc. Let me tell you, me…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/23 07:20 PM
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Try a shared google calendar. This helps. We schedule date nights once or twice a month. We both schedule times we spend with our friends. If he can't watch the kids when I am with my friends, he knows I am gonna get a babysitter. The shared calendar helps with expectations. It also helps him remember. If something comes up on a scheduled date night, he knows he can just move it on the calendar - and he can see my whole schedule. That way we don't skip date night, he just move it. You can set it…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/23 05:00 PM
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My SO is also very work focused. He does indeed see it as his way to provide for myself and his children. And at least for my SO, he wants his life to be filled with very nice things - so he works even harder. Sometimes I worry that he needs to rebalance his work/life schedule and maybe settle for a less grand life. But his career is tied up in his greater mission and I have learned - I just gotta let him do it. I know it's hard. It SUCKS to be frank. As women, we naturally want attention from o…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/23 03:51 PM
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OP, This is the best perspective to have.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/23 03:46 PM
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The dance off was great. And the clothes!!
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/23 09:13 PM
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I got really lucky!! The firm I work with works with folks with major cash - generational wealth. The story of how I got this position is really a Forest Gump type story... but I got it because I have a reputation of being charming and smart. Eventually I hope it turns into a hybrid role. My company's benefits package makes it too good to leave!
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/23 09:02 PM
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Much like you.... I thought there iwassomething to the Ken story arch. I am not sure they really nailed the landing for Ken. Based on who the director was... I think you nailed it... you need to live in your own purpose and not the label that has been put on you ("Stereotypical Barbie" or "Surfer Ken"). Barbieland was a dystopia of what happens in a world where women push men out. The Ken's try to become red pilled, but fail because they are just trying to get laid and not about their greater mi…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/23 06:21 PM
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No sweat! Good luck. Message me if you have any questions.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/23 06:12 PM
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So it's a crazy story and I didn't find it - it found me. I assist a financial advisor. I do everything that doesn't need a license and eventually I will get licensed and take on more. The titles for this position are all over the place... Administrative Assistant, Branch Associate, Client Service Associate. Raymond James, Edward Jones, Fidelity, etc etc - look at their job boards. If it says something about "serve clients" winner winner chicken dinner. This is a GREAT career for RP women who ne…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/23 05:25 PM
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Avoiding vulnerability is about stifling that fear of abandonment through control, whereas cultivating vulnerability is about learning to let go of that fear by creating such a wonderfully intimate relationship that there's no need to be afraid to be yourself. This right here. For someone like me who has always been someone that takes care of her business and is naturally very independent - I have had to learn how to be vulnerable. I have to remind myself my emotional needs are not a problem.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/23 04:19 PM
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Avoiding vulnerability is about stifling that fear of abandonment through control, whereas cultivating vulnerability is about learning to let go of that fear by creating such a wonderfully intimate relationship that there's no need to be afraid to be yourself. You cut me deep with this one. Bravo.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/23 04:16 PM
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Susan is right. I tell all young women who I meet that are in college to make sure that if marriage and children is their goal to date with a purpose. I think people forget that people can have multiple goals. I went to college to get out of poverty. 100% it worked. I just happened to also meet my LTR there. If he dumps me tomorrow... hey I still hit my other goal! I think the quality a lot of modern college women lack is "critical thinking". They want to appear to sound smart, but the puppetry …
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/23 03:59 PM
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This is really it here. University, at least back when I was in college, was an indicator of better economic opportunites for all. Just a pot of like minded young people. It's natural to pair off.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/23 02:03 PM
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You certainly don't need a college education to attract a good man. I have a degree in humanities and work in finance. Life is funny. College is just a good place to meet them.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/23 01:52 PM
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I don't think that's a bad thing. I am from a small farm town. Graduated HS with 50 people. So I mean plus or minus 4 years, I didn't have many men to choose from. I knew I had to get out to meet men. It's pretty common in the South. I don't know that all women consciously go to college to meet men. I went because that's what I was told to do as a good little Xennial. I ended up picking a small private school and was with all the rich kids. But I was absolutely clueless to it all. I think many h…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/23 01:40 PM
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This tracks for the Southeast US too. Affluent men here don't want you to be a breadwinner, but they want you to be intelligent. The old "M.R.S." degree a local private college has a degree called human growth and development. They have a business school and law school. C'mon.... You know that's just a major women study to meet the right man at the frat house.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/23 01:24 AM
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Vetting is the key. I can't say it enough.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/23 10:16 PM
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Roll Tide. I love the South.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/23 04:06 PM
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Buy a rolling cart. I have one that folds up in the back of my car for just this reason. Also, work on your vetting skills. I definitely do things my LTR asks me to do, but he wouldn't ask me to do something I physically couldn't do or caused me pain. He is a gentleman.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/23 04:06 PM
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Vetting is one of my favorite topics!! The danger of not knowing what you are vetting for.... is that you are simply vetting for a man who will ask you to be his wife. This can lead to women changing things about themselves for the wrong man or a low quality man. Then a year or two goes by and you look up and realize you aren't yourself and the man isn't what you really want. Please make sure you know what you want! As I say all the time.... if you find yourself in a relationship with a man that…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/23 01:43 PM
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I will say.... Instead of focusing on what he does that bothers you. Tell him what turns you on. Men want to please us in bed. Tell him you like it when he comes home and tells you how beautiful you are and that he can't keep his hands off you. Or find a way to make the playfulness work for you. My partner and I are pretty playful most of the time. Lots of laughter between the hot passionate moments.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/23 07:46 PM
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Based on your comments to other posters I'm going to say that you are focused on the wrong thing. Women come here looking for help from women who have had success with RP strategies. What any seasoned member of this community will tell you is that fixing your makeup is not going to fix the root of this problem. You are trying very hard to look a certain way so that men find you attractive. There is nothing wrong with that I would say that almost every woman in this community to a certain extent …
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/23 02:36 PM
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There is plenty of information if you search this board for how to look more feminine. But none of that matters if your self-esteem is in the gutter. Go read the post about psychological femininity. Sounds like you need to tap into that first. A shorter answer is if you're worried that the filler is unattractive then stop doing the filler. Easy peasy lemon squeezy.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/23 11:25 AM
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He means he is an asshole who doesn't know how to talk to women in polite ways. You're coming across as very insecure. It's okay to want to look pleasing to men but don't get caught up in ONE man's opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/23 11:14 AM
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I would have told him to fuck right off and gone home. Tell him thank you for revealing how low class he is from the get go. Saved everyone a lot of time. Regardless of what you look like, no man should say such things to you. He might think about it and decide to not go forward. But any man who says things like that to you is not worth thinking about.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/23 10:49 AM
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Femininity is not dressing up or being “girly”. A lot of women seem to think that altering their wardrobe, makeup or hair is sufficient when it comes to making changes. But no amount of skirts, blush or bows will make you feminine if you lack the disposition. Femininity is expressed through appearance but appearance is not the source of femininity. If you haven’t internalised the concepts, you are merely playing dress up. There are no shortcuts. ​ Yes and amen. Say it louder for the girls in the…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/23 04:34 PM
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SOLID ADVICE!
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/23 04:25 PM
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When I first started embracing my feminine nature, I journaled a lot. And I still get it out when I am working through a particularly rough time. For me, I was working on my strong-willed nature (I am very outgoing, over the top storyteller, go getter, and stubborn). Which is a blessing in many avenues of life! Truly, my LTR noticed me because of this trait. But it was getting in the way of my relationship because it is a very masculine mindset, and I would try to lead my LTR. I am not at home, …
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/23 01:37 PM
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We are an eclectic group of women. Never know what you're gonna get.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/23 12:59 PM
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You need to work on yourself mentally. You can't make good decisions when you are in a state of desperation. Vetting is so incredibly important no matter what age you are or where you are on the fertility spectrum. What is going to happen if you don't get your mindset right is that you're going to find a man in front of you that isn't right for you. But you will cling to him because you think you're running out of options or time. You will change everything about yourself not because he's a good…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/23 12:23 PM
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Hey Chrissy! I actually have been working on a post for the community on the same topic. I am pretty passionate about feminine mindset. What kind of examples are looking for? Is there a specific trait that you need help with?
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/23 12:10 PM
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The only thing I do specifically for my LTR is keep my hair long. I would prefer collar bone length hair because my hair is so thick and wild. With it being so long I have to have a pretty extensive routine to keep it healthy. It takes way more time than I care to talk about. Even my stylist told me I take more time to color and style out of all her clients. Eventually I will probably do a big chop and grow it back out. The only other thing I did.... I started wearing press on nails this summer …
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/23 01:33 PM
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I hate when I feel like I wrote quality advice and then I scroll down and see it's just another sister (OP) who doesn't know what she wants and how to get it (via self improvement). I have been working on a post about internal femininity/mindset. I really need to finish that up.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/23 01:54 PM
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Just curious, do you know your fiance's enneagram? I am not sure what RPW feels about Enneagram. We use it a lot at work. I suspected what my LTRs number was and later it was confirmed by him. I find the knowledge helpful in how I approach my LTR with communication. Since I know my LTR's driving motivation it can explain a lot of his behaviors. My LTR cares a lot about his image and his ability to protect and provide. He also very much wants to control his image. Very perfectionist. When things …
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/23 01:46 PM
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Okay cool. UK grocers are probably similar to USA. And I've seen marks and spencers - I am forever jealous. I love cottage cheese (though this might be an American thing) with a little ranch seasoning - I'll dip crackers, carrots, and cucumbers into it. It's a very soft loose mild cheese.... And when I say it out loud it sounds gross haha but I go through 2-3 tubs of it a week. I love premade chicken or turkey burgers. I'll dice a small potato and a green vegetable - season it with oil, salt, pe…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/23 12:59 AM
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This. A trip out of town can be a catalyst for change. Time to connect again. When you get back.... Keep it going.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/23 12:44 AM
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Are you cooking for yourself or for a family? And are you in the USA?
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/23 12:42 AM
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Ah. Okay. Yeah that makes sense. I thought it was a reference to a sexual act.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/23 10:32 PM
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I'm damn near 40 and I don't know what H word means. Hand job?
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/23 10:12 PM
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Yeah it's a biscuit dough. You can either roll it out thinly or drop it.... The broth cooks it. Kind of like gnocchi? I have used premade gnocchi as a short cut. Some people cut up canned biscuits and drop them in. But it's so good!
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/23 12:04 PM
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This. I certainly can't afford to eat out. On busy weeks I rely on a lot of short cut meals (ie tonight I made a Birds Eye Skillet meal) and listen it hurts my soul how expensive that is for not very much food. But I can cook anything. My big guns is chicken and dumplings. so good! So cheap!
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/23 03:16 AM
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Great tip! I do something very similar to this. I know my LTRs favorite types of flavors. When I see a recipe that I know he'd like I save it. When it's my turn to cook I'll send him 2-3 options and let him pick. That way I can cook something I know I'll I like and he gets to pick too. But I say this to let any women know.... If you are cooking for a man who won't tell you what he likes. Pick 2-3 recipes and let him choose the final. And usually this helps you learn what he likes and doesn't lik…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/23 01:35 PM
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Interesting. I honestly haven't heard much about this. I know what only fans is of course. My LTR and I joke that I should do a RP only fans. A la 1950s housewife. 100% modest. Wearing fit and flare dresses and saying things like "Oh silly me, I can't believe I forgot to fix your old fashioned in time." Men will get off to anything. But in all seriousness, I would love to know more how this is actually being encouraged. Any good podcasts?
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 10:19 PM
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I am out of the loop. Pro sex work movement? Do you mean a society that let's the porn industry exist? I am a true libertarian - so if someones wants to be a porn star... I have no problem with it. Or is there more I am missing? However, Once you learn about human traffiking it's hard to stomach the reality of the porn industry. Especially anything eastern european. Y'all those girls are not okay!
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 05:42 PM
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One of my dearest friends is a DE&I educator in California. I asked her for a polite way to not participate in the pronoun performance - because I am a feminine lady and try to be polite even when I don't want to be - she said to say "I respectfully decline to answer." I mean that probably will sound like a Southern "Bless your heart" when I say it, but it's a start!
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 02:39 PM
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Megyn Kelly is great too.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 02:31 PM
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I got asked to state my pronouns for the first time this winter in my WOMEN ONLY service organization. Listen, no one in the room was trans (I knew all of them personally) and so it was just all for performance by the moderator. And half the women in there PUSHED back hard. I was so proud.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 02:30 PM
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And when they say they can have babies. Sure you can bro, with the help of a REAL woman! Just say it! I don't care if you raise children, but stop acting like you are the one going to birth it. Okay, off my soap box. We are all on the same page here. haha
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 02:27 PM
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I have always been an ally to the LGBTQ community and my gay friends have all said the same thing (we're borderline midlife and Southern - so we are built a little different down here)... they are uncomfortable with what is happening. One said "I'm just an old school butch lesbian... I don't want to be a man. But everyone keeps asking me if I identify as he/him. Gross. No!" So there are reasonable members in that community. They just aren't allowed to speak out either!
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 02:13 PM
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I nearly married a man when I was 23. Looking back (now 39), I know I let my own weaknesses think he was the one for me. He was so beta. He broke it off and I am so thankful. I was on the path to be like the women you described. I now have a very alpha man (10 years together) and I *know* that I need a man like that. He doesn't put up with disrespect and because of that, I trust his leadership completely. I recently ran into said ex and he was still living a very pathetic beta life. Dodged a bul…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 01:37 PM
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Well said!
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 01:29 PM
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I have always been quite moderate. But the gender stuff tipped me center right. What is incredible to me.... we fought to be treated fairly and now they are asking us to let men parading as women take things away from us. It's simply too much.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 01:28 PM
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Instagram: traderjoes5itemsorless If you don't have a trader Joe's, just use comparable products..don't over think it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/23 10:22 PM
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YNAB.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/23 03:41 AM
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I am working on a more detailed comment about how to lean into femininity.... As for the lipstick problem... I have found lip liner really helps.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/23 01:56 AM
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Aww y'all are so great. I can totally do that! I'll work on it when I am at my desk! I need a full keyboard to do it properly. The femininity topic just has so many levels. Inner and outer work!
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/23 07:16 PM
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I'm happy to chat too.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/23 06:46 PM
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I have tried writing a post, but it turns into a novel. So I have decided just to recommend my favorite you tube channels that have leveled me up. Lifestyle: The Daily Connoisseur - this addresses all sides of being the best woman you can be. I have followed her for a very long time. Marrissa Breann - a very traditionally minded lady from the single lady's perspective. (And a POC) Frugal Fit Mom - she is just a regular mom in a traditional relationship and I love her. Huge focus on food budgets …
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/23 06:03 PM
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Can confirm. my LTR loves any sort of sausage pasta dish. We cook it together. Add a bottle of wine, Salad kit, and a pint of ice cream or pick up a slice of to split for dessert. 10/10
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/23 12:45 AM
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Between skin care, hair, make up, nails, fashion, fitness, and diet - it sometimes feels like everything I do is for my looks. The cost of it all can be a little overwelming. But like others - I truly enjoy it. Makes me feel more in touch with my femininity. I also am treated better by co-workers, strangers, and my LTR loves it. On the flip side, I have no qualms about not wearing make up in public. I will throw on some comfortable clothes, baseball hat, and no make up and kick around home depot…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/23 08:29 PM
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Thanks for posting this question! It's good for newbies to see we aren't all trad con.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/23 10:51 AM
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I love him.... So I can say this. He operates in a reality where he is the prize. He will not put up with my shit. I am moody and a sassy bitch when I want to be.....and we have been together long enough now that he can just say "Stop it babe" and I know I've gone too far. And trust me I'm such a strong personality that I need a man who will do that. But he's like a mature red pill kind of guy... He knows how to apply male red pill tactics in a long-term relationship. I am sure he withdraws atte…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/23 02:35 AM
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I am pretty center moderate with a toe in the conservative side. I am a true libertarian. I am agnostic but go to church. My partner and I have been together for nearly a decade we are not married we don't plan to be married. We have however committed to be together for the rest of our lives. We tried to have children and we were not able (him, not me). And because I value his relationship with me more than I want to be a mother we are walking through this life side by side. I do have a career a…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/23 12:54 AM
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That is why I love the space because I think we're doing a good job of exploring the depths of womanhood. If you're new to RP I think it's easy to latch on to the low-hanging fruit. The fruit being how to dress in a way that is traditionally feminine hair nails makeup Fitness and nutrition. There are plenty of women that I meet who are very feminine in the way that they appear but on the inside they still are little girls. They are really just so focused on not being single or feeling lonely tha…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 03:44 PM
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Yes but also staying feminine at work can really help your career as well. Depending on what it is! I was in blue collar work for a long time and being feminine usually didn't work well. But now that I am in more of an office culture.... I am allowed to be more feminine and it makes me better at my job.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 09:19 PM
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There is no right or wrong answer. It's just something I am pondering. I think you are absolutely right.... Feminity is maturity.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 09:16 PM
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Agreed. I was just thinking about it because I have met so many single women in their 30s who lead a very girlish life. Wide spectrum, some lower their intelligence and act youthful to appeal to men. While others truly adapt a juvenile almost Peter pan like persona.... They dress like little girls, usually like Anime or are Disney adults. I find these girls tend to attract the most extreme beta males..and I have to say..... I think it works for them! I don't think any of it's bad. I do often wor…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 08:20 PM
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Oh I like how you categorized the difference. Good distinction.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 02:39 PM
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Oh cute nickname!
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 02:33 PM
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Another vote for Allie Glines..I also like Johnny Ross.... I realize he is a dude but he worked at Sephora and did Bridal make up - so he knows his stuff. He also is a big advocate for drugstore. He actually just did a video with Allie Glines on you tube where they built their drugstore make up kit. I also really like Kelly Strack (except sometimes I hate the way she talks on TikTok but I love her you tube content). Edit: skincare is more important than anything. I am nearly 40 and people think …
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 02:26 PM
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And just know like anything here you can use nun mode in a way that suits you. For example many women go into the mode while they level themselves up. Maybe they're going to go on a weight loss journey or maybe they're going to update their look or maybe they're going to go see a therapist and try to work through some things. Maybe instead of looking for a partner they want to focus on finding better quality friends. Maybe they are at a pivotal place in their education or in their career that th…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 11:31 AM
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Also look up a cookbook called One Pan Two Plates. It's a gem!
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 05:43 AM
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It's probably my favorite thing I make. I get the two pack of roasts at Costco and freeze them. I alternate between this recipe and something called Mississippi Roast. https://www.themagicalslowcooker.com/mississippi-pot-roast/
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 12:08 AM
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So honestly the short is you just have to be willing to experiment. I do like the hello fresh suggestion because it'll make you comfortable working with new ingredients and then from there you can kind of peruse cookbooks that you like. I am a top tier cook. I don't get to as much as I used to cause I'm busy but on the weekends I try to cook a really nice meal on Sunday. I am a Crock-Pot Queen and I made this for my LTR and he loved it. I probably make it every other month. So easy. You can serv…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/23 11:40 PM
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Volunteer! I have volunteered at film festivals, art museums, botanical Gardens, and I'm even in a women's service group (The Junior League) that supports the community. I also joined a women's Bible study at a local church. I will say that I struggle to have very close female friends. I got very lucky and made a ton of female friends in college and 20 years later they're still my closest friends no matter where they live but locally I don't have very close friendships and I have actually come t…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/23 10:13 AM
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I am referring to a former mod of RPW... Her user name was PearlsAndStiletto. Whom we all call "Pearl" - that's who I am talking about. I am an active participant in this space - so.... Not a bot. But thanks for that. And our Pearl was cute to boot! Thank you very much. But bless your heart.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/23 08:30 PM
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Yeah a lot of her language around the topic makes me nervous.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 04:33 PM
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There is nothing wrong with consulting a doctor. They can look at your life and make recommendations. Mine has been so helpful in showing me how to build a good food plan based on how busy I am. She also is the one to push me to work out before work because my evenings were too busy most days. They can also get a picture of your mental health and help you create goals and habits that aren't overwhelming. Like my dietician knows I get bad seasonal depression in winter, and so she can help me make…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 01:37 PM
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You need to work with a doctor to learn how to fuel your body correctly. Taking advice from strangers if you have chronic health issues isn't going to help you. You haven't said what your calorie goal is.... If you are trying to eat less than 1500 calories on average a day it's not sustainable. Please consult a doctor who can have a full honest picture of your needs and limitations.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 12:40 PM
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Have you talked to your doctor about supplements? My doctor has me on a high dosage of vitamin d because my counts are always so low and it impacting energy level. Fitness is going to help you more than anything. You can only cut so many calories. And who wants to eat 1500 calories for the rest of their life? Not me. I'd rather burn more.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 12:11 PM
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This is my very generalized advice. I am currently on a fat loss journey and very blessed that my insurance covers a dietician. I literally logged onto my insurance site and looked up dieticians and found one they covered. She is basically my accountability. Goal weight (lbs) x 12 = sustainable calorie deficit. And then goal weight (lbs) x .7 = your minimum protein goal. So for example.... 145 × 12 = 1740 calories a day. 145 × .7 = roughly 100g of protein a day. And I somewhat calorie cycle.... …
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 12:06 PM
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Before I give food advice.... What does your fitness routine look like?
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 11:42 AM
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I did not read this. It's too much. When you say no or stop ... . And the person doesn't respect that. Remove yourself from the situation. If they don't stop or let you remove yourself from the situation - it's not consensual.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 03:13 AM
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I would advise keeping that in the bedroom. People are watching and get the wrong idea. It's not something I'd ever want a child to see.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 07:53 PM
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This is everything!!! Op read every word.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 06:54 PM
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Pure Barre albas always humbled me.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 06:52 PM
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I highly recommend Les Mills online for home work outs. There are barre work outs. It's $80/year I think. I like them better than peleton. Peleton instructors never STFU.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 06:51 PM
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We keep our hands to ourselves.... Unless it's bedroom fun time and everyone has given consent.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 06:47 PM
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This is the best answer, OP. Just remember, you could find Mr. Right and he could have fertility issues. And then what would you do? Also I love the fun calendar! I kind of have been doing this unknowingly. But I might start actually putting them on my Google calendar.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/23 08:24 PM
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The most important part of getting what you want requires a lot of front end work. I have found people struggle to see that big picture. RPW is not about sacrificing your desires for the sake of an unworthy man. It's one thing if you are with a great man with a provider mindset, but maybe he hasn't reached career goals or maybe he is saving for the future. Your gifts might not be diamond jewelry, but maybe he gets you a candle or something. As always, it's not the gift it's the thought. A good l…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/23 08:31 PM
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Yes and amen.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/23 05:56 PM
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I rank myself 7. It does take effort though. I was blessed with some good genetics, but find I have to help things. I am taller. 5ft 7in. Hourglass shaped. I am currently heavier than I like, but I nipped it in the bud once I realized I was about to have to go up a jean size. I'm definitely "fat bottomed girls" type. So I am not every man's type - most white men seem to enjoy thin blondes who watch the bachelorette. I'm a "thicc" brunette who drinks beer at Cornhole. You either like me or you do…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/23 02:48 PM
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The other one I like is The Daily Connoisseur. Not red pilled, just general self improvement and holding yourself to a high standard. I also live in a small city/active suburb - so I find her lifestyle relatable (even if mine is not grand).
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 09:09 PM
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Has she matured? 4 years ago she was too saccharin sweet for my taste. I think her target audience was MUCH younger than me. And so I missed her boat.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 09:07 PM
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Jennifer Moleski - she isn't very active but I find everything she says to be very compelling.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 09:01 PM
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I love Jordan Syatt. He is a sane voice in the diet and fitness community. Move more. Eat less. People truly over complicate it. I am currently on a weight loss journey. So message me if you need some support!
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/23 02:50 PM
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This is the way.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/23 02:47 PM
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A lot of people with the hair loss issue use olaplex incorrectly. Not saying the poster's friend did - but many people try to use it like a conditioner and it's a pre shampoo treatment. I do use it for a few washes after the salon. But! All that to say I really like the Kristen Ess glosses. I use the winter wheat one to take brass out of my highlights (I am a brunette with highlights) and I use the crystal (clear) one when I don't need to tone. I did try smoky topaz because that's what my hair c…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/23 02:40 AM
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This is a wise lesson I also had to learn. And still have to relearn. Our men work so hard to build their empire they often don't have much left for us when they get home. I can say from experience.... It ebbs and flows. My partner's business has exploded in the last two years. After an explosive dramatic fight, we had to do some work to make sure basic needs were being met. For him, he needed the freedom to grow his business without me fussing. And I needed him to check in with me to let me kno…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/23 09:07 PM
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I don't even think you understand what Alpha Widowed means.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/23 10:07 PM
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This is the tactic I use as well. I will ask my LTR to hold me if sex isn't an option. So that way I get that physical touch I crave.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/23 03:59 AM
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Watch Blowout Professor on YouTube. My hair looks amazing thanks to him.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 08:38 PM
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Oh man. That is definitely tough! I think the question is ... Do you want to salvage it? Because that's always the goal at RPW. Either path you take will be hard. I would encourage you to post for help. The diversity of women here can help you.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 06:23 AM
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Oh lady.... I just got past a similar time with my LTR of 9 years. Not that we still don't have issues, but much better. I did the same thing. Explained all my feelings. I just KNEW if he understood how I was hurting he would stop. I would always wait until things were calm and I would speak softly. And it always ended in ways you just described. My LTR has told me.... When I do that. He can only hear that he is hurting me and letting me down. It sounds like I am putting him down. And I acknowle…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 03:23 AM
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I think a lot of people who go to college meet their partner there. I did! Haha
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 10:20 PM
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I think navigating these conversations can be intimidating - especially if you are young and you are just starting to date someone. But man oh man... If you can make yourself do it, it saves a lot of time and heartache.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/23 06:44 PM
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Probably need to edit to bring a little more clarity! You summed it up nicely!
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/23 06:36 PM
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That last sentence tho.... I cry during a Publix Thanksgiving commercial. I will pass haha
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/23 02:07 PM
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I am feeling called to post about vetting/boundaries for the same reason. Young women seem willing to move boundaries for men that don't really deserve it. And then come here unhappy that their needs aren't getting met.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/23 06:41 PM
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Yes and amen! 10/10. Mental health is just as important as a man who eats well and works out. It all goes together IMO. And i'd say there are a lot of non profits helping those without healthcare get mental health care! So truly if they want help, they could find it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/23 11:41 AM
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I think tending - at its core - is just appreciating and supporting your partner. For you.... That could be asking him if you need to swing by the store on the way home to get anything. If you're wine drinkers, pick up a nice bottle to enjoy after kids go to bed. Imo, It's just being intentional with your care.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 09:25 PM
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I see you said you work full time... Homemaking looks different for sure. It's just hard. If you can afford it.... Weekly cleaning service, lawn service as needed, scheduling grocery delivery, and then any other errands. Whatever you can afford to outsource do it. Tending can be that you manage all of them. The slow cooker is your friend. Also freezer meals. I always try to keep about a week or two of meals in the freezer and pantry. The crock pot liner bags? A god send. After dinner I put the l…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 09:12 PM
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I think you have a trauma bond with him. Which is normal... I have some trauma bonding issues as well. So what if he reaches his potential after you - perhaps - separate? I have had 3 major relationships. The two before my LTR? I definitely left them better than I found them. One of them in fact got into his career that he is great at because I pointed out to him. His life time of success in a field all because when I was 23 I pointed out what he was good at encouraged him to go for it. But his …
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 03:03 PM
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I mean no disrespect, but if you were coming from a place of trauma and being so young.... I'm not sure you could fully conceptualize your intentions and desires at the time. Stability was probably your #1 goal and I am so glad you found your boyfriend. Sounds like he was just what you needed at that time. However - that doesn't mean you owe him loyalty forever. Trust me, I wish I had done some things differently at 19. But no point in regretting it now. let's just deal with your issues at hand.…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 02:47 PM
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So if I understand right, you've been with him since you were 19?
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 02:25 PM
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She says somewhere that they are both 25. But agreed. Age can reveal a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 02:41 AM
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Yeah I can't decide if this is just a 25 year old who thinks he's hot shot and will look back at himself in 10 years and cringe.... Or if he is showing who he is to her. And she is the only person who can truly tell.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 02:03 AM
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Are you okay with a provider who plans to cheat on you? If you are, then stay. You'll be a mom with a few kids and they will keep you distracted while your husband finds excuses to get out of town (golf, fishing, work, guys trips). Now I honestly can't say I've never said some of the things your boyfriend said. I live in a very affluent area, cheating is very common and lots of women look the other way while they add a drink to her husbands country club tab. But... These women were legit gold di…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 01:31 AM
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Or they'll have to settle for men who think they are so alpha gold that they can come to women's reddit spaces and try to mansplain female dating strategies to women that never asked for their input. You don't even post in RP. What are you doing here? Jerking off on a Sunday afternoon?
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/23 05:52 PM
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Right? That's what I thought. Those are not relatable examples. And Amal was 35 when she met George. So yes, she's younger than him. But not exactly 24.... And Amal is way cooler and hotter than George. Just saying ....
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/23 05:48 PM
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Preach! Vetting is so very important. Which is why I say you can't let the wedding/baby fever cloud your judgement about the man in front of you! I have seen it happen too often. A woman looks at the man she is dating the age of 24 and says "welp, I'm 24. So it's time to get married." Is he the right man for you? Or are you just scared of running out of time? One is a lifetime of fulfillment (with ups and downs).... The other is managing co-parenting schedules with the person who wasn't the righ…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/23 04:30 PM
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Lots of gold here.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/23 03:50 PM
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At least in my middle class American life this is how it plays out.... You either meet your partner in college. Or you meet your partner in the few years after college. Everyone is generally married by 25-30. Some late bloomers get it together by 32. Are all these matches going to last? Nope. And now a lot of those friends are getting divorced. And from my experience? They match back up with other equally yolked people. So you are 35, divorced with 3 kids.....cool. me too. Let's Brady Bunch this…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/23 03:43 PM
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If she can't salvage her current relationship, she could decide to do that. In the Southeast US, it is still quite common for highly desirable men to be married before 30. So maybe she just needs to move to Georgia or one of the Carolinas.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/23 03:26 PM
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Cool bro. What advice do you have for OP to get her man to commit? Or are you just here to make sure she is so scared of the wall that she says yes to the first guy who asks? Fertility is important if that's what she and he want, but not at the expense of picking the wrong man. Then you are divorced single mom and really hard to date after that. AND I like to remind women, you could find your perfect husband and find out HE can't get you pregnant. Now what? For me, the relationship with my partn…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/23 03:01 PM
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Yes and Amen! It was honestly hard to find a man who didn't subconsciously want ME to be the boss. No no, I want us to be equal. Meaning I'll stand up to you if you stand up to me haha. -sincerely, right of center ;)
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/23 02:10 PM
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Then just wait a while before you reply back. He'll be fine. If he isn't.... Well we can deal with that then.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/23 01:57 PM
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So glad you are here! You would totally kill me in a bake off, because I rarely bake anything. Just started to dip my toe back into bread making. I challenge you to understand the nuance of red pill men. We would actually agree with you the ones that are the loudest on the RP spaces are usually the ones who are hurting and angry and we don't want those men either. To find the RP man for you it's all about the balance of Alpha and beta traits. I'm not over here dressed in a circle skirt and apron…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/23 01:12 PM
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If you don't live together.... Then just give the man some space. Stop texting him. If you're at his house, go home. Go do something for you. My LTR is not my favorite person when he is tired/sick. I'll go to the library/coffee shop and read in a comfy chair. I'll go on a hike or work out. Go to lunch with a friend. Clean out a closet. Literally, I just fill up his water bottle and let him park in front of the play station. It's better for us both.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/23 12:37 PM
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Please go read the link about Alpha/Beta traits. I think you don't understand the differences in alpha/beta traits. Additionally, I am an elder millennial that spent her first career working with young people under 30. I have a lot I could say about Gen Z dating strategies.... But that's a whole post in itself. You really aren't as complicated and different as you seem to imagine (is that my mother's voice?!) You want Alpha only? That's the hot chad who uses women and doesn't commit. Who only ca…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/23 12:09 PM
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What is this fear of the wall?!? It's not like you wake up and look like the crypt keeper. My post wall life has been amazing! My LTR and I became a couple at 29. So I guess I nabbed him in the knick of time? But I am aging like a fine wine. I didn't even start weight lifting until I was 32. I've had a skincare routine since I was 12 (praise to my mother). I eat well and exercise. Drink water. Now that I'm older I can afford nicer clothes and make up. If my partner left me today..... I'd be a ho…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/23 10:57 AM
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This! He could get help with depression easily. I know plenty of high value men who suffer with depression and they are doing the work to be healthy.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/23 10:36 AM
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What is so great about this man? Like what makes him a good leader? A good leader communicates with his partner. A good leader knows his shortcomings and is working to fix them (he has depression, but what is he doing to manage it?). Another person pointed out he drove.... At 32 he should be able to afford to fly to you. Is he saving money or living paycheck to paycheck? Does he own a house? Or have a retirement account? Is he healthy? Does he eat right and exercise. Does he have friends (y'all,…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/23 12:20 AM
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Gosh, I hope that guy found a great wife. What wisdom from an early age. I just wish these young women wouldn't run off when we ask them to think critically and think long term. There are so many of us here who have success and wisdom to share. Now admittedly, I'm probably a little too blunt. And just so ya know.... I got the lodge dutch oven. I've only had it two weeks, but I've been experimenting with different bread techniques. Been so fun! Even the flops taste good with plenty of butter. LTR…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/23 03:40 PM
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Completely agree! That is a wonderful man. I fear, when women are young they don't understand the difference between a man who provides you with superficial trappings vs stability? I mean.... Even I have to say the gifts are REAL nice. (she says as she bakes bread in her new dutch oven her LTR surprised her with from her Amazon wish list)
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/23 03:24 PM
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This is the way.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/23 01:49 PM
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OP deleted. I am unsurprised.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/23 01:39 PM
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Many of the women here read post history. We're little Nancy Drew's like that. It helps us formulate advice. RPW will push you to examine how your whole life has had an impact on where you are today and we can help you be better despite it all. I wish you luck. Hope you find some wisdom here!
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/23 11:06 AM
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The bulk of my advice stands. If he is spending more of his money to spoil you and doesn't save or invest for the future.... He isn't being a provider. What happens if he gets sick, loses his job, or his car breaks? A provider knows the importance of saving.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/23 10:58 AM
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Agreed.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/23 02:40 AM
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Also again.... You are bragging about your parents here. But then in another forum you talk about your parents stalking you and your sister to make you behave in a way that pleases them. So... Ya know, two sides of every coin I guess. RPW can definitely help you.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/23 01:18 AM
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When I don't feel good? Rotisserie chicken, salad kit or frozen vegetables, and then maybe some microwave pouch rice or steam in the bag baby potatoes.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/23 12:44 AM
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As my people say.... Roll Tide.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/23 12:31 AM
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"he may get a little hissy" you must be southern haha.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/23 12:29 AM
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What have you done to improve yourself? What RP theory really speaks to you? What is your main focus area right now?
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/23 12:21 AM
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I made the mistake of reading your post history.... I knew you had to be 22 or under. The post about your boyfriends dirty underwear... Tells me everything I need to know. You also post in BPD.... Please read the wiki here. Lots of good knowledge for you.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/23 12:14 AM
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Ooo lord. No. This isn't a fiscally responsible leader. How old are you? If you both are under 22 - y'all need to stop pretending like you are playing house. Credit card debt isn't something to fuck around with. It can ruin you for YEARS. Do you hear me? I know people digging themselves out of credit card debt from their early 20s- and it's not pretty. If you are older than 22, Have you properly vetted him? It's okay to come from a lower middle class background (I grew up in extreme poverty) - b…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/23 12:05 AM
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I am a strong willed woman and much like Wife&Mother.... I am too much for most men. Men who can't keep up with me or - more importantly - can't call me out... Just won't work for me. I attracted a lot of men who wanted me to lead them. And sadly.... That's a turn off. My LTR is ... Very Alpha. When he was younger.... He was an asshole. But he matured into a stoic capable man. Ambitious and driven. I am those two things, so as a result my man has to be as well. He has become a leader in his fiel…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/23 06:28 PM
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Stuart?!? Haha
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/23 05:44 PM
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Except for the red hair... You just described my LTR and I's dynamic (we are also Southern I've seen you say that somewhere). My man's hair is a reddish brown though, but he struggles to grow a good beard. But he has the chin to make up for it haha.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/23 05:32 PM
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"If I had to choose a major for my dream girl it would be something like Art History (except for some reason that seems to be loaded with Marxists now) or French language and literature. Smth frivolous but which is interesting at parties." I laughed.... English Major, Southern History Minor here.... Not a Marxist, but a rabid contrarian... And I definitely took a Francois Truffaut film class and a professor at the time definitely said "you'll forever have things to talk about cocktail parties". …
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/23 01:39 AM
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"held off for 300 pages" I cracked up! Thank you! I also highly recommend "Love and Respect" as a good modern day guide to successful long term relationships/marriage. My partner and I are not the most religious of people and don't plan on getting married, but a lot of the faith based books just have the best advice for traditional masculine/feminine relationships. We both loved "Love and Respect".
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/23 04:51 PM
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I definitely agree with you. There is a great podcast called The Bible Binge. They did a whole episode called Favored or Forsaken about marriage. If you have a sense of humor about your faith, I highly recommend it.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/23 03:55 PM
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Others may disagree..... I come from a military family. I think it's super noble and says a lot about your character. So I am inclined to say you can make it work. I also believe you can be a strong self sufficient woman and be feminine at the same time. It's probably a little bit harder, but nothing you can't do if you work throughout. You'll for sure meet a lot of men! Makes me think of the old show Jag. So good! Alternatively..... I got a job in finance as a client service/branch associate. N…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/23 03:44 PM
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Have you studied the Bible at all? Men were told to only marry if they couldn't control their sexual urges. it was very transactional. I mean maybe if you had a good dad they gave you a say and who you married but really it was arranged by two households trying to form a mutual benefit connection. And you better do a good job because if your husband divorced you really the only occupation available to you was to be a prostitute. Much like the other person said.... The virtues of womanhood are so…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/23 02:30 PM
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Lord knows where I picked it up from. I know I've heard people at least where I'm from use it. It's a useful phrase haha
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/23 12:57 PM
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This is something I posted and it got a fair amount of upvotes. I think the question - now deleted - was a woman asking where and how to find a high value man - specifically wealthy. Be a high value woman. What are you doing to be the best you can be? I see too many women wanting RPW to tell them just join this church or go to these kinds of bar and you'll find them. Finding and getting are two different things. If you are currently working.... Are you doing the best job you can or coasting? If …
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/23 11:56 AM
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I think it's also important to know.... At RPW high value does not mean his bank account. It's his character that is high value. Sometimes, high value men are also quite wealthy. However, he doesn't necessarily have to fall in the wealthy category. Many women come here specifically chasing wealthy men. They have figured out wealthy men marry a certain type of women..... And she often has RPW qualities. We are not in the business of training gold diggers. But if you truly want a high value 1% man…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/23 11:53 AM
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Women who want high value men.... Specifically the 1%... Sometimes forget that you have to bring a lot to the table. And I feel like it's something that can't always be learned, it's the way you carry yourself. It's your mindset. Truly, you either have what he's looking for or you don't. I am fairly certain I have mapped out what it takes to be with a high value man before. Let me try to find the post.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/23 11:14 AM
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Did you use any of the advice that was given to you? If so, how did it help you with your current situation? What did you learn about yourself?
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/23 03:04 AM
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I have not read The Empowered Wife. But my LTR and I have both read Love and Respect and we found it to be very spot on for us.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/23 01:10 AM
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So what if they do all feel the same? Who cares? does his dick feel good to you? If the answer is yes and there aren't other red flags to this situation I think you're just overthinking it. Otherwise there has to be more to the story than just this one comment for you to come running here. If you don't feel good about this relationship then walk away. It doesn't matter what he thinks it matters what you think. And if he isn't the one that doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with you or anyt…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/23 10:56 PM
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Okay I'm one of those people that looks at all angles so buckle up here we go. First, quit being a sad Panda. Nobody likes a sad Panda and I will give you the benefit of the doubt that this is just how you are with us. But just know that even that energy in the back of your mind is going to hold you back. Second, worst case scenario. What if you never meet Mr Right. How would you live your life? Are you going to worry about what you don't have or are you going to build the best life for yourself…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/23 10:41 PM
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Some additional wisdom from an oldish lady. Keep your relationship private for as long as possible. The last time I was dating my friends would get so mad because I wouldn't tell them anything. I always said "it's too early to tell. But he's been fun to hang out with." And I left it at that. I didn't want to know what my mom thought, or my friends thought, of some guy I kind of know thought. I wanted to know what I thought. You truly have to get in touch with how YOU think and feel about him. Ma…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/23 01:03 PM
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Just keep this information in the back of your mind and continue vetting him and decide for yourself. If it's early, then don't rush. I think we sometimes forget to enjoy dating. I wouldn't bring anything up. Things might fizzle out naturally next month. Or the relationship could thrive.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/23 11:07 AM
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I screamed with laughter. A red pill Jesus joke.... You win, sir. You win.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/23 02:30 AM
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Most recently? This is small, but sweet. I noticed he stocks his wine fridge with more white wine instead of red. We both are red drinkers, but I recently have been getting migraines from red wine and so I have been begrudgingly drinking white wine. He even paid attention and bought the kinds of white wine I said I like. The big things? He lets me be independent. I like to travel solo and his only request is that he gets to approve the safetiness of it all. I told him I could work with that. If …
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/23 07:51 PM
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You are probably right. The hysteria always throws me. A sticky is probably a great idea. These women show up here distraught that they are 23 and single. Like listen girl.... Breathe! Breathe! We can help you. You just gotta calm down first.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/23 05:28 PM
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I somehow think that this might be troll thing but what I'm about to say would hopefully benefit other women scrolling by this post. If my partner walked out on me today I would be 38 and childless. And while I would grieve the relationship for a long time... My self worth is not tied up in my relationship to a man. I would eventually heal and enjoy the life that I've built myself. I am someone who has a good job and has worked hard for it. I serve my community across several organizations speci…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/23 11:38 PM
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Love it! I'll see what I can cook up. My relationship would not have survived without RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/23 05:10 PM
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My "post wall" life has been the best years of my life.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 02:50 AM
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We are the same age. I'll be 39 this year. I don't relate to much of the content here anymore. My femininity is based on being a strong capable woman. My partner picked me for many many reasons - my body count never came up. The body count thing is such an infatuation in the RPW space. Also, I don't remember having as much drama with my younger relationships as some of the young women here do. The topics that DO pertain to my middle aged life.... How to survive and support the "passing ships" ph…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 12:14 AM
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My partner read it first and then gave it to me. It's been a while though... I personally loved it (though some of it is so condescending). It really did help set the foundation for our relationship and probably has been what has kept us together through some very rocky times. Is there something in particular you wanted to discuss? If you can help jiggle my memory I'd be able to!
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 11:57 PM
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I'm approaching middle aged. Been with my partner for nearly a decade. What sort of topics are you interested in? I am genuinely curious. I wouldn't mind drafting some things if I knew what was interesting to others.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 11:50 PM
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Yes and amen.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 03:59 AM
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Good luck! Adrienne Everhart on you tube and a journal really helped me gain some clarity about my true boundaries, wants, and needs. At really critical points in my LTR this helped me gather my thoughts.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 04:19 PM
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The hard part is knowing yourself enough to know your true boundaries. Women have a tendency to create boundaries that suit the men they have attached themselves to. And then can create a lot of misery further down the road.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 03:47 PM
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What is your boundary? Example, do you want monogamy in a relationship? If you do.... Tell him that. If he says that's not for him. Then only you can decide. Do you hold your boundary and walk away and find a man who suits your wants? Or will you accept his no and move your boundary? Is he worth moving a boundary for? Knowing he will never change and there always be other women in his life. If he isn't, walk away. Doesn't mean he is a bad man or that you did something wrong. You just aren't a ma…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 12:50 PM
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And so much more! I find people don't understand the work and sacrifice it is to support a top 1% man.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 12:34 AM
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I am with a man who is high value - in terms of his personality and drive as well as his bank account. He is like third generation wealth. All that to say. Everything you need is here. But it should be noted - I didn't chase him for his wealth. I met him when I was 19 and stupid. We hit it off as friends and then didn't become a couple until our 30s. so if you are looking for a thread on how to chase high value men.... Can't help you. But I can tell you what a woman needs to be someone a high va…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 12:33 AM
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Winner winner chicken dinner. I have an uncle - Overweight, 60s, divorced multiple times. In fact, married a Filipino woman who had come to the US quickly. who then became a citizen. She waited for my grandparents to die and realized he was not inheriting millions. Left him six months later. She had so many red flags that I'm not even talking about. This dude is now chatting with women in the Philippines and hoping to move there (doesn't seem to care he is leaving behind his own children) to mar…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/23 06:46 AM
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It's one thing to want a woman from a country with good family values, but it's entirely different when it appears he is probably talking to multiple women in an elimination strategy type way. Hold your boundary. Tell him you love how excited he is about the future, but tell him that you will only commit to a man long term after a quality courtship. And then ask him how he'd like to go forward? If he says he wants to continue, then make sure he is investing into you and the relationship in a way…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/23 06:30 AM
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Fair point. I can concede I am being mean for sure. I probably just need to leave for the day. But I am frustrated with the content quality. And that frustration is coming out sideways in terms of my sassiness (I battle the sassiness for sure). There are such amazing women here with thoughtful questions, but it gets buried with topics such as "feminine music".
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 04:48 PM
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Would you like me to sing kumbaya now?
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 04:08 PM
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The femininity movement overlaps with RPW. I am someone who walks strongly in her womanhood. I think sadly, women get stuck in the surface level trappings of femininity. It's fun right? For example, I got excited this weekend when I bought a desk and a mirror to create a make up vanity. My LTR got to hear me squeal with delight as I put on make up. Told him I felt like Bette Davis in All About Eve (a movie he most certainly has never seen haha). All of that is very feminine while being very supe…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 03:48 PM
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Music is wonderful. Universally, we all love music. This topic has nothing to do with RPW. I am sure some folks can connect the dots, but I still think it's a stretch. I just feel questions like these belong somewhere else.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 03:05 PM
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Goal weight (lbs) X 12 = sustainable calorie deficit. Example.... 150×12=1800. Sounds like a lot, but if you try to eat 1200 long term you'll hate it and give up.. Additionally, you should eat .7×goal weight (lbs) to see what the barest minimum of protein you should eat in a day. Again, for 150 × .7 = 105. I try to eat about 120g of protein a day. Lift weights..fuel your body. 7-10k steps a day.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 11:20 AM
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This is the answer.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 05:48 PM
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Independent woman here. Who is submissive to her LTR. While I do think you are half right about people not taking care of others like they should. One reason why dependence is demonized is because many of these dependent women act like children. I have a friend who melted down when her car wouldn't start while her husband was out of town. You would have thought someone had died. She called me and she was inconsolable while I went through all the scenarios: what sound does it make when you turn t…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 05:35 PM
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You gave me a good laugh with my coffee, thank you. Just from what I have read and heard from you, you are honorable and upfront about your arrangements with women. And I respect that. I try not to yuck anyone's yum. Unfortunately, like this particular gentleman - some RP men seem more interested in having a hall pass to be lying degenerates and use historical polygamy as justification to cheat on women who want monogamous relationships. I prefer a man to be honest and let me determine my bounda…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/23 04:47 PM
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That is the series I am referring to.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/23 01:43 PM
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I am really thinking about this, but if you want to chat I might could articulate points better haha. I have drafted a couple of things and it just seems so.... Long winded.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/23 01:42 PM
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Did you see where I said "outside of RP/traditionally minded men"? Or are you quick to prove me silly? I am approaching 40, live in the Southeastern United States - bible country, and I am in a long term relationship with a red pill man. Again, you are missing the point. I never said high value men don't want women with low body counts. I said I disagree with RPs idea that women are somehow more unstable and damaged than men if they have too many partners. I simply say that both men and women wh…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 09:36 PM
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Americans early ancestors were puritans. Americans have deeply rooted beliefs about purity. We departed from England and Europe. I'm not European by any stretch, but I have often heard it is more common for wives to look the other way to their husbands relationship with his girlfriend. But usually both women are kept in long term relationships. But again, I'm not European. I never said it wasn't a part of other cultures. Don't assume because someone tries to poke holes in your opinions that they…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 09:27 PM
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You've been hanging out with Uncle Vas? Listen, I love what that man has to say. But every time he says "soft harem" I roll my eyes. To each their own. I don't even mind the idea that powerful men tend to have a couple women. Very European mind set. As long as everyone understands and knows their role.... Great. Que sera sera. But to me - "Harem" and "concubines" implies some sort of forced servitude. And that's when you guys lose me. For the love, let's update the vocabulary a bit. Also for tho…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 07:25 PM
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And that's the point my LTR goes back to as well. the men at the top are always the most coveted. I guess my point of contention isn't that it happens. It's the implication, in the RP world, that women who sleep around are somehow damaged, but the men who sleep around aren't. Like they get a hall pass. And I just do not agree. I think anyone who is promiscuous is dealing with psychological issues. Period. Now I am not saying they are bad people. I know plenty of men and women who are promiscuous…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 06:50 PM
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I think in the world of dating.... Outside of RP/traditional minded men .... No one cares about body counts. Frankly, I think from what I have experienced and those around me. Everyone is slutty. And none of them care. Which is alarming to me because I am a big ol prude. And my problem isn't with people wanting partners with discretion. Hi, that's me. my problem is with RP men who act like when they sleep around with a lot of women that it somehow makes them okay. Nope, dude - you got some issue…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 06:23 PM
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Pearl, you will be missed. Your video series on you tube is what got me into RPW for good. I am an approaching middle aged woman in an " untraditional" long term relationship (we don't live together), but with "traditional" ideas of men and women and how they complement each other for the better. We have been together for dang near a decade. It works for us, we don't care what others think. And yes, agreed - this has become a refuge for tradcon. I am a childless, career minded, high achieving, a…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 05:39 PM
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I mean this with all the curiosity and no animosity. What examples do you have where women are disadvantaged by their body count as compared to men? Outside of the relationship world or religious world. Because I can understand that, a good man doesn't want a slutty wife. And I would say most good RP women, don't want men who are slutty. It's the lack of discernment that worries people. I mean maybe in the corporate world. But again, if you are talking about your 5-9 during your 9-5. Or if you a…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 05:17 PM
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In today's society? I feel like high body counts are celebrated. Only in the RP/conservative crowd does anyone care. Absolutely no one at work asks me my body counts and if you are the kind of person that talks about your 5-9 at your 9-5, you are an idiot. And I stand firm with what I said.... It's a double standard that RP likes to push as facts. Trust me.... I have the same harsh thoughts for the slutty Chads as I do the Slutty Sallys. All of them weren't loved enough as a child.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 04:36 PM
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The double standards on body count. They really like to frame women with high body counts as unstable. And for some of them.... I just want to say... "pot, meet kettle." I don't care about your gender.... If you are sleeping around a lot. In most cases, you probably have issues. And I am not saying you can't overcome them either! So I loathe when RP acts like it's okay for them, but not for women. Pah-leeez. My absolute favorite is when they say women with a lot of partners are more likely to di…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 02:44 PM
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I keep my heels around 2 inches. 3 inches for special occasion dinners. I don't go higher than that. But I am quite tall to begin with at 5ft 7in. And as I tell the young women in my life..... Flats are for standing (aka dancing). Heels are for sitting (dinner). But I can walk in 2 inch heels all day.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 01:59 AM
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A Woman of Strength and Purpose. It's a Christian based book - but I think its message is great for everyone. I loved this book. I am a high achiever, very strong willed and stubborn, and quite independent. But I am also empathetic, caring, and kind. And this book showed me that my strong spirit is a gift to me as a woman. It gives me the ability to serve my community and lift others up who need help, it makes me able to run a home efficiently and orderly, and finally helps me serve the man in m…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/23 09:16 PM
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Peter Pan and his lost beta boys.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/23 07:17 PM
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That tends to be the way of most people. ASD or not. They either under or over explain. But I am happy to answer questions to help other women. But the vitamin question struck me as odd. Specifically related to anti-aging. Vitamins might help that - certainly can't hurt - but again.... Water, skincare, and sunscreen will go further than some biotin supplement.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/23 09:43 PM
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I totally get that angle I guess I just wish she would flesh out her questions better. She has asked about how to dress more feminine, vitamins, and another question. To me the question should be "How does an RPW woman take care of her self to age gracefully?" The answer is lots of water, vegetables, exercise, and sunscreen. So much water. But I take a Costco multivitamin and collagen peptides. I have an extensive skincare and hair care routine. I keep up with tasteful trends so my "look" never …
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/23 07:40 PM
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Is this a red pill question? You are asking a lot of random things that don't really relate to the topic. Sure anti aging efforts makes women more attractive ..... But it's a stretch.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/23 05:19 PM
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We both are high achievers. That works for us. Even if I left the work force, he knows I would fill up my time with service work. So.... Work at least brings in money. He took on a larger role at work that weighs on him a lot. His parents are aging and he is the eldest child, so he takes on a lot of care giving role. He also has children from a previous relationship - and they are entering the after school activity years. I changed careers to have more personal time. And that was a big transitio…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/23 04:56 PM
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First off... This is not my most eloquent writing. But hopefully you can understand my sentiment. Make sure you know how to deal with conflict as your relationship matures. My LTR and I..... I would not say we have ever fought. I've never called him dirty names and we certainly have never yelled at each other. Our early years were all sunshine and daisies. But, We have had problems meeting each others changing needs. Maturing into middle aged adults together has been a big transition for both of…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/23 09:24 PM
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You're welcome! I don't even hate old navy, that just seems to be the popular answer. I'm more of a J Crew/Anthro kind of girl. Just know every time a newbie asks where to buy feminine clothes... I'm sitting in the back sipping my cocktail and rolling my eyes. I'm a wee bit salty and a whole lot sassy. Proof that RP women come in all flavors!
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/23 05:05 AM
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I'm a driven, independent career woman, who didn't want kids. Not religious. Ended up in an LTR with a man heavily involved in the RP community. So ... After a while I put it all together. LTR and I have had a lot of rocky moments the last few years and RPW theory has really helped repair some (not all) of our problems. I take what is useful (stfu and soft place to land) and leave what isn't (ie all the posts about how cheap old navy dresses make women feel more feminine).
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/23 04:52 AM
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Also .... Download a weight lifting app (I recommend fitbod it's like $80/year or like $12/month - but do your own research) and go to any gym. I don't even care if it's planet fitness. I go to my local YMCA. If you want a high quality man.... try going to a gym near a good neighborhood. the men in my gym clearly all have good jobs and care about their health and some of them have built really nice asses (beware of the men who only do upper body - in my experience they are crazy). Go hang out in…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 08:32 PM
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Agreed. I used to be on a kickball team. I can't run worth a flip. But everyone was there to drink beer and have fun. Very low stakes!
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 08:19 PM
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Are you American?
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 03:53 AM
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Yes and amen.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 03:47 AM
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The advice is to work on your self esteem. Join a gym. Lift weights. Get 10k steps a day. Enjoy your blessings.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 03:43 AM
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Are you trying to get advice or just tell your sad story?
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 03:15 AM
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I started a Cornhole league with some girlfriends to make friends. I'm in an LTR, but I am just saying.....we were the only girls there. Our ages range from 28-55. And the same to be said for the men. The men did not know what to do with a bunch of silly women who were out having a good time. Great opportunity to mix and mingle with men in a real world setting.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 03:09 AM
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You are only focused on the perfect "what if" fantasy.... You could have married 10 years ago and struggled with fertility this whole time. And you put so much pressure on your husband that he doesn't even want to have sex with you anymore. So he starts sleeping with a girl he met and then leaves you. You could have married 10 years ago. Had a wonderful happy marriage and raised the kids and sent them off college in another 10 years. But your husband is always at the golf course and your kids ne…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 02:49 AM
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Also.... You were giving wife privileges to boyfriends.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 02:30 AM
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You sound like a sad panda. You think men don't feel that sad panda energy?
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 02:29 AM
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Seasoning and Air Fryer.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/22 02:33 PM
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Hmm. I have the "artistic eye" as they say. I honestly would just ask your mom and sister for help. I love helping people decorate. I imagine they would to. Young House Love is a wonderful blog and Instagram account. They aren't as active as they once were. Also focus on small spaces. An entry way or mudroom is a great place to start. I feel like it gets the momentum going for the larger rooms. Last tip.... If on a budget, save up for statement decor. People get stuck in a loop buying a bunch of…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/22 09:01 PM
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Totally get it. Reddit is a nice semi safe place to express things. After all, I don't really talk about RPW outside of reddit. I will say .... If you have only recently become sexually active it's just awkward in the beginning. I mean I don't think I was a sex kitten out of the gate. My LTR is the one who truly lit me on fire and brought out my sensual side. I was a late bloomer, and he was very experienced. So he kind of took the time to show me how fun it could be. But I can remember just bei…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/22 07:37 PM
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Based on your post history.... You have an engineer type brain. And you like to talk about your "sensory" issues a lot. First, nothing wrong with having an analytical mind. It's a blessing. But those types of people sometimes have problems connecting with others and expressing themselves to others. Secondly, I'm not really sure what sensory issues means. Like you get overwhelmed easily by stimuli? You said you could be sexy if it weren't for your sensory issues and started talking about fashion.…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/22 12:55 PM
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I really invested in quality make up and that has made a big difference. Lifting weights, hitting step goal, and counting calories/macros. I am getting ready to begin Invisalign. I joined a service group, junior board, and a Bible study to make friends and have more hobbies. Considering a book club, dance fitness class, and a public speaking class. Making sure I buy classic quality clothes that flatter my body type. Things I already did.... That others might find helpful. Create a budget that is…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/22 10:08 PM
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There are also used to be stickers that you could stick in the bottom of a tub. My grandma probably installed hers in the 70s and 40 years later they were still doing their job!
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/22 03:18 PM
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Are you American? This sounds very culturally different than the world where I was raised. I have never heard of such in my life. This all sounds very volatile and dangerous. I ask that because maybe this is semi normal somewhere else. Middle East?
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/22 05:48 PM
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Your first three paragraphs articulated something that's been on the top of my tongue a long time. I always wonder who these awful women are these RP guys rant about. And you charted out the traits perfectly!
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/22 01:03 AM
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Oh agreed. 100%. I just get so tired of the RP focus on females. My LTR is very RP and he came up to me one day spouting how women with high body counts have higher divorce rates. A study was done on it. So I asked for the results of the male study? Didn't have it. But I googled it. And guess what? Men who have had lots of partners are also more likely to get a divorce. Who would have thunk it? But much like another person said ..... The body count depends on the person/age. I don't necessarily …
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 08:13 PM
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I think it does. Male or female. There is a lot of focus on women's body count in the RP world. But I would say promiscuity no matter the gender says a lot about the person. Not saying it's bad. But I definitely don't understand why women are the ones who get villainized for promiscuity.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 07:55 PM
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This is an interesting question. And I might answer it more in depth later. I hesitate to answer because honestly.... I don't care for most women. What I would say would be... very harsh. So I don't know if they are toxic.... Or if I am just very judgemental. Probably a bit of both.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/22 01:17 AM
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I just read that book. Probably about to reread it.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/22 03:06 PM
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Aww I haven't read Little Women in 20+ years. I think I might just curl up with it soon. Also this message is timely for me. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/22 12:21 PM
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This is really wonderful. Well said.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/22 11:17 AM
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You are trying to lead the relationship. You are trying to push him into what you want. Lean back a bit and think about what you want. You have to decide what your boundary is going to be. How much longer are you willing to wait for him? Also if he doesn't want to get married are you okay with that? If it's more important for you to be married and he doesn't want to be married. Then you are not a match. Does not mean he's bad or that you're bad. The hard part is holding your boundary and walking…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/22 06:29 PM
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Our Pearl was a guest on a red pill you tube channel. I do suggest everyone watch that. She delivered great content and looked cute to boot!
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/22 02:45 PM
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Not sneaky. He knows I am on here and I know he is on red pill. We just have never told each other our reddit names and then we just kept the game going. Just fun. And yes.... Long term relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/22 02:35 PM
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It's actually a Harry Potter reference and if my LTR sees this he will finally know who I am..haha he is very active in red pill. But I've never told him who I am and I don't know who he is.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/22 02:02 PM
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It seems like you want and lack attention - based on your post history especially. I would rather die than post selfies on Reddit and ask for first impressions. I also just don't give a crap what people on the internet have to say about my looks (I'm approaching middle age... So confidence is not my issue). And you shouldn't either! The selfies are weird and a redflag to me. I would say you are currently too immature for dating. I wouldn't say being daring or outdoorsy is your problem. I would s…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/22 02:00 PM
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Are you American?
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/22 01:47 PM
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So what is your question? Are you worried being daring and outdoorsy is hurting your femininity? Has it impacted a relationship with a man? Why do you care what this guy thinks about you?
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/22 01:41 PM
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I would say most of your examples are not inherently masculine or feminine. Feminine Virtue: Caring, Nurturing, Diplomatic Masculine Virtue: Protector, Provider, Decisive And at truly the root you are wondering what about you is masculine.... Spoiler alert....I would say most of us have some masculine traits. It's only a problem if it's preventing you from having healthy relationships with partners. What masculine traits are you worried about? And we can offer help. That's more helpful than diss…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/22 12:21 PM
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This is amazing advice. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/22 11:42 AM
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Well that's good! I might be too close to it. It might feel worse than it is.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/22 02:16 AM
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We have 1-2 dates a month at this point. Used to be more. This all kind of developed in the last year. And at the moment, if I brought it up it would really feel like an attack and me making demands. So I think I will read a empowered wife and fascinating womanhood again before I go back to him.. I definitely try to encourage him. When he takes me out.....I tell him how much I enjoyed it, thank him for making time, appreciate him taking care of the meal/drinks. And these are genuine statements. …
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/22 10:41 PM
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Thank you for the lovely advice. I started reading that book and never finished it. I definitely feel like I am accidentally being a burden. Sucks! Because my intentions are good. I might make this part of my self care - to read an journal through the book. Hopefully it will bolster me up during this phase of life
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/22 05:10 PM
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This is cute!
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/22 11:20 PM
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Agreed. I simplified this advice for sure. I was trying to help OP see the difference in stating what you want vs saying something that pushes for a certain outcome. 100% recommend everyone to read the empowered wife, Laura Doyle is much better at articulating this nuance than myself. In fact the example Laura includes in the book is about porn.... And so it's dang near identical to OPs issue.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/22 02:39 PM
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I am someone who moved a lot during the first half of my life. So I get it. Really. The end result now.....I never meet strangers. I will talk to any and every one. A bit of a blessing and a curse. Blessing... I seem to charm strangers easily. therefore I make friends easily. Curse.... It gets me stuck in a lot of odd situations/conversations. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/22 04:11 PM
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After listening to the empowered wife by Laura Doyle this week .... I now have the lingo to verbalize my thoughts on this and similar topics. It is not our job as women to control others. We can only control our reaction to it. If my LTR is doing something I do not like - ie being a creeper on insta. That is his decision. Me trying to make him do or not do something.... Waste of my energy. I need to protect my energy. That should be our #1 goal - because if we protect your energy it really is be…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/22 03:44 PM
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I also highly recommend go clean Co on social media. Things I have learned..... Unbutton everything - especially dress shirts. failure to do so might cause stress on the button and weakening the stitching. Which will lead the button to come off in the wash or popping off when you sneeze too hard at work. Especially if the quality of the shirt wasn't that great to begin with (I am looking at you Kohl's clothing). Also.... Learning if you have hard water will help too. Hard water will truly make e…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/22 03:12 PM
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If you don't like your job ..... Get a new one. Just because you dislike your current position, doesn't mean you hate working. I left a career I hated, interviewed for 3 months, and I am now in a field that I am passionate about.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/22 02:40 PM
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Pearl, I hadn't even realized the crutch the lingo had for conversations. But you are 100% right. Bravo!! When some posters would talk about wanting HVM - it seemed they were definitely talking about wealth. And that always lights me up with anger. I like to think RPW isn't a breeding ground for gold diggers. Which is why I always pointed to those women that allfuent men - came with a lot of expectations. But if she was looking for a man with specific traits - high achiever, deciplined, organize…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/22 06:52 PM
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For the fall/winter.... I live in the south. We might have the AC running on Christmas day. So we typically dress in light layers. I like to wear above the knee dresses with tights and boots. I can add a jean jacket, cardigan, and coat to layer up. I also plan to try a long sleeve knit maxi dress with sneakers and a jean jacket. I also love duck boots, jeans, with a flannel, and a vest with a ball cap..that is my favorite errands day outfit in the winter. For a night out... I love a sweater that…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/22 06:31 PM
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We give really honest advice here. No matter how gracefully you say it, Truth is hard to hear and people will "gang up" on an OP . that might not be the best way to put it... But when you have 30 people telling you to do XYZ when you have been doing ABC.... I am sure it feels very aggressive. So I think they remove their posts so they don't have to deal with it. A coping strategy. I try to read through the responses if more than 3 people have already given the general idea... I might agree and a…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/22 07:32 PM
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Yay! Some of my best advice was on these deleted posts!
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/22 03:27 PM
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My health plummeted when I went on the pill. And no doctor would suggest I get off of it - they would just change my dosage or RX. Finally one day I told my doctor I was going to stop taking it. I asked for a diaphragm (funny story). My SO and I decided if we got pregnant it would be a blessing. And I became happier and my sex drive increased. It doesn't do this to all women. And some women I know had it far worse than me.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 11:50 PM
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I did the same. I would go dutch until I knew them better. Some men STILL think paying for the dinner entitles them to certain behaviors. So I played it safe. However, If they insisted, I wouldn't argue.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 02:54 PM
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I just got back into freezing meals. It really does help so much with food waste. My SO is always so impressed by my meal prep Sundays! Haha
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 02:10 PM
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I have so much pickled okra from the neighbors garden! The freezer is full of tomatoes!
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 12:49 PM
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For about 15 years now.... I've been known for my scarf collection. And let me tell you.... Men always have something to say about them. Jeans, flats, basic knit top, with a bandana or a drapery scarf. Basic t shirt dress, with a jean jacket, Sandals, and yet again.....a bandana or a scarf. Always polished. To me... Polished and put together is the most feminine thing. It doesn't have to be about dresses. I wore sneakers, jeans, t shirt, flannel, with a vest and a baseball hat last winter. My sh…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/22 11:41 PM
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I have really been focused on my health the last two months. I have been focused on weight lifting, but I have been delaying adding cardio. So in September my goal is to do two cardio sessions a week. Because I have been focused on health.... My grocery budget skyrocketed. My very sweet SO gave me extra grocery money. I want to show him I am a good Steward of that money and friggin eat the food in the fridge. No food waste! I also want to get some prepper items for hurricane/tornado season. I ha…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/22 11:11 PM
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OP, This is great advice. My SO isn't really into gifts. He buys what he wants. So my gifts always fall flat. But thoughtfulness.... He loves!
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/22 01:04 PM
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It's way more nuanced than that. Yes, for most I'd say that's a goal. But it's also a self improvement space where we better ourselves by leaning into the female nature. We know there are fundamental biological differences in men and women - and we respect those differences and know that when balanced correctly your relationships with men, family, friends, and peers will improve. We also believe in holding yourself accountable. Humans want to look to others to blame for their problems, at RPW we…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/22 11:51 AM
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Oooo I came about my charisma honestly from my father and his family. So a lot of my charm and charisma is just natural genetics at play. I would say Charisma/charm is noticing details about others and pulling it into the conversation. I have a very customer facing career.... And sometimes our clients will share details about their life. For example.... One of my clients is in a bowling league and he mentioned it to me MONTHS ago. I happened to have gone bowling last weekend and he called the of…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/22 12:28 PM
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Lots of red flags here. You are way too emotionally involved in the outcome of a two month texting relationship. It seems like this person isn't interested in meeting you or in having a serious relationship. You need to hold your boundary. Currently it sounds like your boundary is that you want a long term relationship or at least to be able to see a pathway to an LTR. You also need to slow down. You should be focusing on vetting this person more than focused on how quickly you become a girlfrie…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/22 11:51 AM
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You do not have to prove yourself to me. I'm sure you have evidence to prove what you feel. I posted my response not so much for you, but for anyone new. I don't want people to think we encourage women to put their head in the sand.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/22 10:20 PM
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RPW is very nuanced. I would not say we are a "man always knows best" type group. Most of the women who have been here a while.... I would say all of them are strong women with at least the basic ideas of equality. Who has said it's okay for men to disrespect women? And.... If you are vetting your man properly... Then you will know that his leadership skills are trustworthy. So yes... He knows best because I tested him several times to figure out he is worth following. His values match with mine…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/22 07:50 PM
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I'm like you. Very comfortable in my singleness. My partner was burned badly by a first marriage and it left a bad taste in his mouth. Ya know, if he feels more protected without a legal marriage - that's his boundary. And I moved my boundary for him because he's worth it. People confuse RPW with trad con, so people telling you to push for marriage aren't going to be helpful. Just sit down with each other and map it all out financially and relationship goals. If you aren't getting married.... wh…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/22 02:49 PM
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I am not married to my partner and I doubt it's in our plan. Just make sure you are protecting yourself financially. Open an IRA and max it out every year. Have an emergency fund. If you broke up, do you have enough money to move into an apartment, buy groceries, buy gas, and furnish an apartment. I would never put him on my bank accounts. And I'm an advocate for all women to have bank accounts that are just theirs. You can also do a cohabitation agreement. Which is just a prenup for unmarried f…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/22 10:14 AM
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Americans care less and less about religion every year. I am not completely religious. But since I have no immediate family close to.... Building a sort of relational community with church members is a nice substitute. I've also built myself a wonderful group of female girlfriends and they would literally show up if I felt overwhelmed by mother hood. I am literally cooking extra meals to take to my best friend with a newborn and a toddler while her husband travels for work. I have her back. And …
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/22 04:00 PM
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This is the real issue. We have created a very isolating and independent society. I had a professor call it pod culture. You can stuff your ears with headphones and self isolate into a screen. And create this reality where human presence feels like an attack on our privacy. So we distance ourselves from our natural community (family, church, old friends) and then wonder why we feel so overwhelmed. We used to do a better job of co existing with extended family in our homes. When I grew up I rarel…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/22 12:49 PM
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You seem to be drawing a lot of conclusions about her with no help from us.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/22 11:23 AM
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What kind of women enjoys posting about other people's problems to elicit hate from strangers? An RP woman might use this woman as an example of how society makes parenting very hard these days. How motherhood is very isolating because we require women to do it all and so she never has time to connect with anyone on a deeper level. But you seem very disappointed that all of us are empathizing. Are you also the kind of Christian/red pill woman who also thinks homeless people deserve what they get…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/22 11:08 AM
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If you came here to see if we endorse a Handmaid's Tale type culture, you will be disappointed. No blessed be the fruit craziness here. You are young and that's okay. But all these "isms" come with a bit of nuance you learn as you live in the world. I won't speak for everyone, but I'd say most of us (in the United States) are quite okay with our right to vote, equality, etc. Where we separated is feminist culture which you touched on above. The idea that men and women are biologically the same. …
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/22 02:42 PM
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The below is something I posted the other day to another woman who was worried about 30. It seems relevant again. I also have a lot of comments about holding boundaries and vetting. If you are feeling frisky and want to read through my comment history.... But here is the advice I wrote the other day. Remember, this was directed at someone else. Alright lady. Some tough love. First of all, my 30s have been my favorite years so far. So quit your moaning. It's not like at 30 you suddenly turn green…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/22 02:16 AM
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The nice way would be to Always praise him when he is clean and looking good. Like maybe be a little over the top "Oh my gosh, I love when you get all cleaned up like this. Could you do this for me everyday (add sexy wink here)?" Always have sex with him whenever he cleans up. Men are pretty easy in that way. The not so nice way - but possibly needed if plan a doesn't work - is to say your boundary out loud "I want a man who cares about his Hygiene on a daily basis. it makes me feel excited and …
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/22 11:16 PM
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Totally get it. I was battling technology at work today. No bueno.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/22 10:38 PM
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Do I still get a second star even though OP abandoned the ship? 0.o
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/22 09:31 PM
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Honestly..... I would do laundry every day and then do linens on weekends. If you can afford to do it. Then it's a small daily habit instead of a huge mountain.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/22 08:00 PM
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Women get caddy when together. Women would do better to keep their current relationship to themselves. To speak ill of your man in these situations is so disrespectful to him. I only discuss my relationship with my sister and one single best friend. When in group settings.... I only brag about my LTR. Never ever speak ill of him and I never compare him to any of my exes. Also.... I was told by my parents that sexual enjoyment was my responsibility. That it was my job to communicate my needs to m…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/22 10:56 AM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/22 10:24 PM
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Right? I thought saying I joined a women's service organization was a dead give away I was a woman..... At the very least name dropping mid range designers should have been the cherry on top. But I guess in 2022 you can never be too sure!
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/22 04:24 PM
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I am definitely a woman.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/22 01:24 PM
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Alright lady. Some tough love. First of all, my 30s have been my favorite years so far. So quit your moaning. It's not like at 30 you suddenly turn green and grow warts. If you take care of your body with diet, exercise, water, and skincare - you can age gracefully. What are you doing to put yourself in a place to meet men? Or people in general? Meeting new kinds of people is the way to go. Start going to church, most of them have small group gatherings for social fellowship. Volunteer.... And t…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/22 12:47 PM
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I agree with all the other sentiments that you are being ridiculous. But I'll give you my normal vetting spiel.... If you despise anime so much and it's a deal breaker for attraction. That is totally your call. There is nothing wrong with finding anime unattractive. That's just you..Hold your boundary. This man does not have a gun to your head making you stay with him or making you watch something you don't want to watch. You can pack your stuff and leave. But if he's great and you love him and …
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/22 04:36 AM
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Have one or two drawers empty for him. Could be a night stand drawer, bathroom drawer, dresser drawer. I would also make sure he has a place to hang things... Hook on the back of the door is great. But it's for him. I keep a phone charger, a shoe horn (my guy has formal business attire), lent roller, chapstick, and then a spare tooth brush in a little basket. If he comes over often enough.... Then he can store stuff in there.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/22 08:39 PM
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Did anyone read all this? I stopped when she called it a one night stand but they see each other regularly.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/22 02:24 AM
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I'll be nice (see mods.... I can be nice sometimes) and leave the subject of only having one hobby alone. It sounds like you need to develop some self care routines. Which in turn could help you manage your home better by helping you feel rested. Are you getting 7-10k steps a day? At the very least, an hour long walk outside? Take some time to listen to some music or nothing at all while you walk. Exercise actually gives you a lot of stamina and energy. Additionally, I have one afternoon a week …
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/22 09:30 PM
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The Fly Lady system (Google it) or The Secret Slob on you tube. Also asking a sister or mom or friend to come help you catch up. At the very least, pay a maid to come do the laundry until you can get back in your groove. But I also ask that you think about your priorities. When this baby comes.....how will you care for the animals and your home? If you are already struggling now.... I find it doesn't get better as you add more to the mix. Are you really going to choose kittens over a clean kitch…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/22 01:30 PM
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If you are doing IVF, I would switch from Fostering to helping support other pet foster parents. That is such a grueling process physically and emotionally and typically a huge financial investment. You need to focus on that. In general, it sounds like you have over committed yourself. Wedding planning, pet fosters, and IVf? Is pet fostering really more important than getting your body healthy for IVF or keeping your home tidy for your fiance? Is that how you want to show your appreciation to th…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/22 11:15 AM
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Finances. Financial goals. Division of labor to maintain a home. Tidiness preferences. My LTR is a clean as you go person and I am sadly not. Also.... Please please please start a savings account and put money into it every paycheck. This is your personal private emergency fund. It would be enough money to get you into your own apartment if the relationship failed. So think first months rent, deposit, last months rent, and gas/grocery money for a month. Or down the line.....you can use for down …
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/22 03:33 PM
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Check out Jenny's Wreath Boutique and Olivia's Romantic Home. Or Ramon at Home. All have you tube channels. I feel like Ramon's designs are more elevated. Jenny is very wreath focused, but she gives a lot of good tips and skill. Olivia makes a lot of things from dollar tree which is great for a beginner on a budget- but just know those fake flowers don't last as long or look as nice. So what I did was buy one thing I loved at Michaels and then got the filler stuff from dollar tree. And now every…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/22 02:46 PM
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I'm not sure I am hip enough to know how to post photos!
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/22 07:15 PM
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I learned how to do floral arranging with fresh and fake flowers. It's been the single greatest skill I have developed. Fresh flowers truly add a lot of elegance to a home. But I also make stunning holiday arrangements with fake florals. Good fake florals are pricey. But I can get many years out of them. My Fall & Christmas decorations are STUNNING. I also make all our wreaths. And I give floral arrangements all the time. I get tired of some flowers I've used for a couple of years? I make a wrea…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/22 02:27 PM
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I would say focus on you and don't worry about him. Level up. If he comes back great, if not.....then you'll find someone else. Set a fitness goal and train for that.... Maybe it's to do 5 regular push ups or to dead lift 100lbs or run a 5k. Go to yoga twice a week and work on your flexibility. Take tennis lessons. Lots of cute guys in weight rooms of gyms. Girl go do some bench presses and suddenly every man wants to tell you how to do it better just so they can talk to you. Join a service orga…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/22 03:12 PM
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I would tell that person to leave him alone and go join a gym and lift weights. Lots of cute guys in the weight room.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/22 11:47 AM
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OP, This is the right answer. RPW is a toolbox to help you find a man who will be a good leader. If your leader wears nail polish, then it's your decision to decide if you like that or not. I would be far more concerned with the bigger items.....is he driven? A good path in life? Excels in his career? Is he good with his finances? Does he value you what you value in terms of family plans? Etc etc
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/22 11:55 AM
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This and That with Denise Jordan. Wonderful homemaker channel! Her children are grown, but she gives a lot of traditional homemaking advice. She is also just a normal person and her house is down to earth. Which I appreciate!
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/22 11:23 AM
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Goal weight in lbs x 12 = sustainable calorie deficit Goal weight x .7 = how many grams of protein you need to eat daily. Look up calorie cycling. If you prioritize protein being in a calorie deficit doesn't suck as much. Join planet fitness with fitbod app (which has a subscription fee). The fitbod app is great because you can tell it what equipment you have and how much time you have and it will make workouts for you. Get 7-10k steps in a day (aka be an active person).
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/22 02:59 AM
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Well now you can research ways to grow it long and strong! Good luck as you grow it back out!
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/22 01:20 AM
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I have avoided a bigger chop that is much needed for hair health because my boyfriend dislikes short hair. I personally think my hair looks best at shoulder length. But I have told him that I think the ends are going to demand a significant cut Soon and he understands. I ordered a silk bonnet and have started researching ways to grow hair long and healthy. I don't mind my hair long, but I want it to look healthy. I have thick wavy hair.... So it's just a beast to take care of in general.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/22 12:54 AM
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I'm sure it's been said. But do a test run..live off his salary and put your salary in savings until you get an emergency fund (3-6 months). I highly suggest ally bank... Because it takes a day or two to get your money. So it will force you to be strict with your checking account. If it works... Yay you have an emergency fund! If it doesn't work. Trying putting 50-75% of your salary into savings until husband gets enough raises for you to exit the workforce. It's a goal you might have to work to…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/22 11:55 AM
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In winter I like to wear maybe a slightly shorter dress (mid thighs) with warm leggings. Wear a sweater or cardigan over it. I'll layer on some wool socks with clogs or boots. I also buy matching - but not childish - form fitting pj's/sweats for home. Or I'll wear nice activewear looks... Nice leggings, matching top, little zip up, and some little ugg booties. My LTR is always telling me to wear clothes that are easy to pull off. So... I am lucky in that way. I also wear lots of jeans and sweate…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/22 01:03 AM
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You win.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/22 12:35 PM
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1600 calories, 120g of protein, and 25g fiber. These three metrics will force you to eat to fuel your body. I'm eating a lot of chicken, yogurt, and protein powder. But I'm also eating lots of vegetables and quality carbs. I did shell out for some special fiber cereal to put on yogurt mixed with protein powder to help keep things moving. When I hit my protein goal .... I generally don't snack or overeat because I am FULL. I do calorie cycling. 1600×7 = 11,200 calories a week. Which means some da…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/22 12:02 PM
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Hmmm I'm not sure my boyfriend would describe me as demure. But he is definitely the leader in the relationship. I want to point out that submission can be very nuanced. I am a very strong woman. I'm very independent. I know who i am. I know what I want. And I don't suffer fools. My boyfriend likes that because he has a lot of obligations that can strain a relationship and he needs a partner who can hold things down. Would he say I am a submissive woman? No. But would he say I am submissive to h…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/22 01:10 AM
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This should be noted..... A lot of these books are faith based. If you are not a believer.... The values translate regardless. I am not religious and neither is my partner, but these books have helped our relationship tremendously.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/22 04:40 PM
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I also really like the book a Woman of Strength and Purpose by Cynthia Ulrich Tobias. I am a very strong willed woman, and sometimes we get a bad rep! The book talks about how to use that will to be a better servant to your community and family. The first time I heard the author speak on a podcast I GASPED - because she was describing me. I don't suffer fools and I lack patience for those who can't get things done. Which I am sure you can see.... Not the most red pill friendly ideals. But this b…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/22 03:53 PM
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I am an excellent cook. Truly.... I can look at a fridge of random scraps and make a gourmet meal. I think if you cook a lot of family friendly meals.... Then while they all taste good, the flavors just aren't complex. It's a delicate balance between fill the belly family meals and gourmet. And listen.... Gourmet doesn't have to mean expensive. My partner is difficult.... Haha. He has very high brow tastes, so if I make a budget meal he isn't very good at hiding his dislike. I will never forget.…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 12:47 PM
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I would say always put your best foot forward. No need to scare them off before you even eat a meal together. And then as you get to know him and vet him, you will be able to see what he can handle. Not every man can handle or deserve to know your full story. If you are nervous about promiscuity or substance abuse episodes. If it comes up, you can explain things like a lady without going into every detail. "I used to really be into the party scene, but it got old fast." A statement like that....…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/22 02:08 PM
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Showing my age with this reference.... My rule has always been "no what what in my butt".
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/22 10:51 AM
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Agreed. My partner's is significantly higher than me I am sure. I was a very late bloomer. And he has always loved to party since our college years and I am sure he was just as bad in high school. And where there are parties there are drunk men trying to hit on easy (drunk) women. I don't ask his body count, because I know the answer would probably gross me out. But we didn't get together until 10+ years after initially meeting and he matured exponentially. So I gave him a pass. Is that because …
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/22 02:18 AM
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I feel like you can find a rough and dominant man who still isn't a slut. Are you my LTR? He says very similar things as you. He also tried to convince me that women with high body counts are more likely to get divorced and when I found a peer reviewed study about men that said the exact same thing.... He got quiet. Promiscuity just isn't a good look for anyone, IMO. I understand that men have different strategies than women. Even so, There are reasonable body counts and unreasonable ones. I wan…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/22 10:55 PM
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If he's worth it that's great! I think if you can strengthen your bond with him with communication... It will boost attraction..as my relationship with my LTR as matured, I am more attracted to him because he has really created a dynamic where I feel taken care of and loved.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/22 06:31 PM
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I am just going to start copying and pasting.... We apparently need a whole thread just about vetting. You need to come to him with your problem. And you have but you are allowed to come to him multiple times with the same problem. "babe, I would feel so much more attraction if we had more quality time together. I have asked you before for more than once a week. I get really sad because I have such limited time with you. What are some ways we can make this quality time together a priority?" If h…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/22 05:45 PM
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I agree and disagree. I disagree with you about his behavior. A HVM would know how to course correct without acting so harshly towards his woman. He could have said "I really love this photo [whatever photo that is] of you. You look so happy and beautiful in it. Why don't you make that your profile pic?" While you might be correct in that OPs man is just saying out loud what all men think, a good leader knows how to effectively communicate to get what he wants. Especially if he knows his woman i…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/22 10:46 PM
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Okay cool! Sorry if it came across as harsh, I've just met so many women who use social media to get attention and then freak out when guys won't leave them alone. Great that you aren't one of those! Yeah he sounds like he is being too forward then. If he is already crossing your comfort boundaries, move on - no regrets.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/22 08:38 PM
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How exactly are you using social media? How often are you posting things? What kind of content are you posting? Do you know these men in real life? I would say if you are posting content, especially selfies, then you are seeking attention in a less than ideal way. So don't get mad when your actions get you attention. A high value woman should rarely be using snap chat, in my opinion. A high value woman rarely posts on social media. A high value woman avoids selfies of just herself. From time to …
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/22 10:24 AM
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It's not manipulative. It's your boundary. Be honest with him. If he says he isn't willing to wait then you and only you can make the decision. If you aren't ready to sleep with him and he isn't willing to wait. That means you hold your boundary and walk away from this man. This man is not for you. Doesn't mean there's something wrong with him or that there's something wrong with you it just means that you guys are not looking for the same thing. Ladies, Vet these men and hold your boundaries!! …
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 10:50 AM
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I like that it encourages being honest with your self, self discipline, self improvement, and responsibility for your actions. Male or female. That's what draws me in. I know that romantic relationships between men and what women, tend to be the focus - but to me that's just the jumping point. How you behave in relationships has everything to do with how developed you are as a person.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 10:50 PM
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Also.... What if he never gets better at meeting your needs? What is your boundary? If he can't be more affectionate with touch and words - can you move your boundary without resentment? Or is this so important to your happiness that you need to hold the boundary? What sort of timeline do you give this before decide this isn't for you? Let me be clear, I am not encouraging you to break up. But I am encouraging you to vet this man properly. Only you can decide what boundaries you are willing to m…
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/22 10:47 AM
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You have to continue to be vulnerable. I don't know a man or woman alive who doesn't need gentle reminders occasionally. Maybe one day when planning your week you could say "Hey I saw this new movie is out on Netflix.... Can we watch it together on Wednesday? I'll cook us a nice meal and then we can enjoy the whole night." I will say just based on your posts, it sounds like you need to develop your personal life outside of your relationship with your husband. It's sweet that all your energy is c…
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/22 09:59 AM
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Being vulnerable with my partner has been a huge blessing and it's tough! Man, I wanted to tell my LTR off. But ultimately, he doesn't hear me when I act that way because he feels disrespected and just has no patience for it. So I wait.... I wait for a good time to bring it up. One day he was telling me how much he appreciated me. And so that's when I gently said "I am really glad to hear that.... But I've been feeling really neglected and lonely. I know you are busy with work and family, but I …
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 10:49 PM
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Hmm. Your behavior in this situation isn't ideal. If you want quality time with him. You have to tell him that. He can't read your mind and your remarks to him are you trying to covertly control the outcome. Take it from me.... Picking a fight rarely makes things better. Not to say I don't get sassy (I am a sassy one), but I have come a LONG way in this department over the last 2 years. Also, recognizing how your partner needs to decompress and recharge is helpful. My partner needs a lot of alon…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 02:45 PM
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Just make sure you are the lady of the house and that you are gracious to all the help and to all of those in your life. If it's the cleaning ladies birthday or an anniversary in her life that's special make sure you get a card and a little gift and make your husband sign it, the children, and yourself. Make sure you train your children to leave the house in a way respectful to the help. I would totally watch Downton Abbey and just kind of get a feel for how Lady Crawley leads her home. You know…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/22 06:51 PM
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They baked goods is a great suggestion. Homemade Chex mix is a fave of mine to give. Also.... Go on walks in the AM or pay attention when you see the walking ladies. Every neighborhood has neighbors who meet up for morning walks. If you are also walking it makes it easier to make small talk. Finally, look into local service groups (Junior League, Krew, YWCA, Kiwanis, etc). These organizations usually have a large number of women who work at home. Now these women may not be in your exact neighbor…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/22 10:10 PM
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Op I understand what you mean. I honestly think it's case by case and a little bit of personal preferences. I find such public displays are about getting attention. The man may indeed have genuine feelings, but the public display kind of screams "look at me". Some women may love it, others may not. A bit of mate guarding. Maybe some boasting if the man got a woman out of his league. I am very private. I also don't like social media holidays where everyone feels they have to celebrate with their …
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/22 10:57 AM
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That's quite an extreme assumption. OP came to ask if people have similar hesitations. You are making a mountain out of a molehill. I'm sure no one here doubts the sincerity of your cousin or teacher's husband. Note: Undervalued RPW traits: restraint and class.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/22 10:43 AM
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It also might help to say things like "I'm so lucky that you think all this through and make the best decisions for our family. I really appreciate the care you put into decisions." Basically, every time he leads.... Tell him how much you love him for it.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 04:41 AM
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I've said this before.... You can have a career and have a traditional relationship at the same time. It's not an either or scenario. If you want to be a doctor and that brings you joy. Then you have every right to be a doctor. You hold your boundary and say "I'm looking for a relationship where my partner supports my career. How do you feel about that?" If he says he can't.... Then YOU and only YOU can decide what you want to do. You can decide that being a doctor is too important to you and le…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 05:16 PM
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Take me to church!!! We can just turn off comments because you have said it all. And you even brought Pride and Prejudice into it. Are we best friends now? Yes and amen! A million times.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 01:36 PM
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Because it's the right one.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/22 10:56 PM
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I wrote a comment recently about journaling through problems in my relationship. And it truly helps me. I do a whole self scare routine when I can and then I get my little journal out. It may be cliche, but it got me through a very dark 18 months with my LTR. I just kind free write. I usually tackle my anger... And explain why I'm so mad and why he's being unreasonable. And I say everything. No matter how ugly it is (honey if you read this, just burn the journals if I die, k?). Then I usually pl…
/r/RedPillWives18/04/22 02:32 AM
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...I’ve also learned to be okay with an issue not being settled. We can still sit and watch a movie together cuddled up AND have an unsettled issue in the background that he’s not ready to deal with. I’ve also learned to be vulnerable. Like saying, “this is really bothering me to have this hanging over my head. I don’t need to hash it out and discuss it. I just need a little reassurance that we’re still okay”. .... Lady, this is gold. I've done this with my partner as well, but never said so elo…
/r/RedPillWives18/04/22 02:06 AM
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Have you tried volunteering? I used to volunteer at our local art museum, I volunteered every year for a local film festival, I volunteered at the botanical gardens, and now I'm in a large women's service organization. So many ways to serve your community. It's a hobby that brings a lot of joy and I've made a lot of friends as well.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/22 01:56 AM
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When he bought a house a few years back it had a huge bathtub that I loved. I don't typically shower or bathe at his house. So finally I asked him one night if he cared if I took a bath in the amazing tub. He of course let me. So after that it became routine for me to take a hot bath when we had date nights at his house. And every time I came over he had something else.... Bath salts, then a bathtub tray to put my tablet and glass of wine, sugar scrub, make up wipes, bath mat, a candle, and even…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/22 11:38 PM
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I feel like this is the exception not the rule. And a man who does this doesn't sound very high value. I'd say it's more likely the man doesn't take the relationship seriously long term if he isn't introducing you to friends and family.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/22 10:24 AM
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I think you are looking at this the wrong way. Losing weight has a much bigger impact than just looks. Which does help! Caring for your appearance is as feminine as it gets. Additionally.... It shows him you have discipline - quality needed to maintain a home and raise children. It shows him you understand the value of health - so you'll hopefully take care of yourself while pregnant, birth strong children, and then raise them to be healthy as well. Many many other things I am sure I'm forgettin…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/22 10:19 AM
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All of this, Op. All of this. Also.... Wanted to emphasize to OP about developing hobbies and routine outside the relationship. Your partner needs space to miss you. Go enjoy times with your friends or alone. Encourage your partner to go enjoy time with his friends. I have a whole life outside of my relationship.... So that at the end of the day... It keeps my relationship fresh.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/22 01:24 AM
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What exactly are you getting complacent about according to him? When you are harping on him, what is it about? This might help you get quality advice. Edited for clarity.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/22 11:07 AM
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Bonus thought: it's also okay to want a man to pay and pick you up etc. But....you can't act like a brat about it. You gotta be humble and appreciative about it. You gotta be the best version of yourself and strive to be high value enough to earn that level of treatment. High Value women don't put down a man who doesn't pay for dinner. She realizes the man has crossed her boundary, she holds her composure, is pleasant on the date, and then later she has to decide.... Is this relationship worth m…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/22 12:02 PM
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Hmmm, my gut reaction advice "show it, not say it." If you guys have talked about your improvements and he still isn't sure. All you can do is shut up and show him and silently build that trust back with him. If he hasn't broken up with you.... That seems like a good sign. Also.... You need to "lean back". Your energy is all over him. Give him space to miss you and to see the changes. You also need to take care that you don't over-correct because then it would seem fake or forced. Just take a de…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/22 11:48 AM
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If you have never told white lies then I'll wholeheartedly bow to your pedestal. So be careful casting stones in glass houses. And please, I am hardly advocating harm by saying "my stomach hurts" when you have a yeast infection. I was taught to present the best version of myself to new partners. Tell a new man in your life that you have a yeast infection.... While some may have the maturity to handle the truth.... I feel most would find it a turn off in the beginning. I would be shocked if many …
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 12:33 PM
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Great, you do you boo. I'll do me. Two ways of being can both be true at the same time.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 10:16 AM
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Bless him. He asked and got the answer haha. Bet he never pushes you again about lady problems. I've been soooo lucky and my partner has never asked for sex when I've had that going on!
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 02:13 AM
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Okay just making sure it was a substantial amount of time before I invested advice. In my experience, men are not very good nurses. And most men want to be left alone when they are sick OR they are needy AF. So he might be giving you space because that's what he would want. But you'd know that more than me. Just saying, I don't really expect men to do very much when I am sick. I also agree, if you really needed something I am sure he would help you. I would just be aware and as you continue to v…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 01:37 AM
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How new is this relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 01:14 AM
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Recently joined the corporate world myself and I am very worried about gaining weight from being so sedentary, I think exercise is just gonna be very key for balance.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/22 03:40 AM
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Op, Lifting (or any exercise) will also help build your self esteem and confidence in general. Do it
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/22 03:36 AM
2

Confidence. Say it louder for the ladies in the back.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/22 03:27 AM
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Until you have built up your confidence, don't go over there. We can help you find a HVM right here. Over there, It's just a bunch of 18-25 year old lost boys whose bark is bigger than their bite. Eventually, if they put in the work, they'll be High Value one day. Just remember.... People are more likely to write about what goes wrong than what goes right. So the loudest voices in the male space tend to be men who have had truly awful experiences with women and are excited to be told that being …
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/22 02:57 PM
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Y'all are too kind! Maybe I'll start being nicer to the bebes now.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/22 02:10 PM
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You are wasting our time. You don't want to improve, you want attention. I wish you luck on your journey to find a HVM. You will need it.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/22 01:55 AM
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According to that age time line, I guess I am due for a grandchild soon?! I could be a hip grandma. But for serious.... I have a feeling she is not American. Just a guess!!
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/22 01:53 AM
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Don't shit where you eat. That's true for women too! Or it is for myself.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/22 12:50 AM
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You can stop trying to lead. You are too focused on him. Keep improving yourself. Have fun with your friends and hobbies. You will meet a HVM in the process. It is a man's role to lead the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/22 12:48 AM
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Bless her heart. To be 19 and an old maid. What will she do?!
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/22 12:44 AM
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Hire the cleaning service for every other week. I know several SAHM who welcome the help. I also find that I keep the house picked up better when I know the cleaning service is coming. Don't give up your job if you love it. It sounds like you really enjoy interacting with your co workers. And of course, go to your husband and explain just what you said to us. You love this job but the house is getting out of hand, but you don't want to give up working. At worst he says no to the cleaning service…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 02:08 AM
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Made kale and white bean soup in the instant pot. Had some leftover kale I had been using for work salads that needed to be used up. Served with parmesan and crouton croutons on top. Nice budget meal!
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 01:59 AM
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Agreed. If friends means you smile and nod at each other at the grocery store, sure. If friends means he gets to text you when he is lonely so he can keep you on the hook and you'll probably jump for the attention (and this was true 99% of the time when I was younger) then block his number and run away.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 01:55 AM
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People want to make this sub out to be a doormat housewife training. And it's perpetuated by new young users constantly asking where to buy dresses or how to find feminine hobbies. Really surface level things that make me cringe.. RPW is a self improvement space more than anything. We just embrace the reality that men and women are different, have different goals based on biology and nature, and work better together because of those differences. No one here is going to advocate that you become a…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 01:47 AM
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So you basically just said....."I shouldn't tell men what I am passionate about in case it intimidates him." How about you share your passions with men you date until you find one that is excited and happy for you? How amazing would that be. That's vetting! You can be driven and traditional at the same time.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 12:00 AM
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If he doesn't want you to have a degree and you want one. Then nope.... It's not gonna work. That's your boundary. Hold your boundary. Doesn't mean there is something wrong with you or that a degree is off putting to all men. Just take what he said at face value.... You aren't compatible. Move on. Go on dates until you meet a man that is proud of the work you put in towards your degree.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/22 11:55 PM
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This has nothing to do with RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/22 10:49 AM
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100% this
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/22 10:48 AM
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Vitamin D is actually a hormone and most people are very deficient. Feel tired? Depressed? Can't think clearly? You might be vitamin d deficient. It takes weeks/months to get it balanced. My doctor checks mine every year. And will give me RX strength vitamin d when I have gotten lax with my vitamins.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/22 09:50 PM
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I am a woman. And I definitely have never fit in with the dominant culture. In fact, I'm quite a contrarian. Always have been. My point is still the same, we need a discussion to help young RP women build their confidence so that they can find and build quality relationships with other women. It's also the key to finding quality men. And I love that OP is trying to learn from this. I think it's more about building yourself up to a place where if someone says you're fake because you are sweet and…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/22 11:20 AM
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In actual advice for OP, I would say expand your circle. Meet as many people as you can and you'll find your sisterhood. Volunteer at a non-profit you care about, join a women's bible study, join a women's service organization (YWCA, Junior League, Ladies Auxiliary, etc). Just keep putting yourself in positions to meet new people. Like to crochet/knit or want to learn how? I bet Michael's or Hobby Lobby can point you to a group that gets together (truly just ask an employee if there is a communi…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/22 12:56 AM
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Can I ask this community a broader question.... Why do women care so much what their friends think about them or how they live their lives? Listen.... I am who I am. You either like me or you don't. I would tell anyone who didn't like my outfit then it's a good thing I am wearing it and not them. I am sure OP is under 30, I wager she is under 24. I know confidence comes with age but I was not this worried about what my friends thought. Ever. I think a discussion of building confidence would be w…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 10:43 PM
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The best advice I can give anyone.... Only text him one or two times and then wait your turn. Sometimes he will text you right back and sometimes he might make you wait. Sometimes he might make you wait a whole day. C'est la vie - if you are a high value woman then you should be too busy living your life to care.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/22 10:49 PM
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I think there are a multitude of things that could make women happier. A lot of good could be had from improving their looks. And a lot of good could be had if they worried less what men thought of them. In general, I find women trite and boring.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/22 01:46 AM
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Your post history is interesting. I am trying not to make judgements about you, but I have to say I am not shocked you continue to have problems. I'm also American - and so maybe the problems you are having are not completely relatable. What is your goal by posting this to us? You seem as if you just want to rant and that's definitely a way to feel better. But ultimately, we are going to push this back on you to reflect. Once you calm down, what is your plan? How are you gonna be better for your…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 11:46 PM
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How long did you date before you married him? These are things that should have been addressed in the vetting process. Maybe he is a private person. My partner holds his cards very close, that is just how he is built. Or maybe he is hiding something from you. But you should have caught onto behavior like that before now. I will say.... you will drive yourself mad thinking about it. Is he being a good leader? Does he provide comfort and safety to you? Is he interested in you? If yes then don't cr…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 01:12 AM
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My opinion is that women need to choose men wisely. A woman shouldn't settle for a man who abuses her time and kindness. That's a bad captain. If both of them work as a team.... They should be able to discuss ways to make their lives easier: hired help to deep clean, landscaping, babysitters, sending laundry out to the cleaners, grocery delivery, meal kits etc. If they can't afford to do that.... Then mutual understanding that they both have to work together. Women need to vet these guys.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/22 09:08 PM
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Totally get it! Sounds like this is her love language. Again it doesn't sound like it's worth it to try to put limitations on her. I would just control it at home. I would take the bag of treats and spread them out over time. Maybe share some with friends when they come over to play? Good luck! And breathe.... MIL dynamics are hard!
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/22 01:40 PM
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I'm of two minds about this. Grandmas are gonna be grandmas. She isn't with them enough that this should have a big impact on your kid's health. I would just know before and after a grandma visit.... Salads and veggies are gonna be on the menu and the treats gets moved to the top shelf. And I would keep it civil in front of the kids. Nothing I dislike more than adults speaking badly about other adults in front of kids. When the kids tell you what they ate.... Try to keep an even keel about it. "…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/22 12:12 AM
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I think the question is.... How you can you help with the demands so that your husband can get some much needed air?
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/22 06:45 PM
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Oh man, I feel this. That's how I am.... Life gets tough, I cling to my partner for support. I just want to curl up next to him and feel safe. When life gets tough for him? He just wants to be left alone to clear his head. So when life is tough for us both, it gets ugly. It is our biggest hurdle. I'm not joking. But we work through it! Doesn't mean it's not hard. I often ask myself "who is more stressed right now? Me or him?" If it's him, I back off. I call my friends more, work on projects that…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/22 01:05 PM
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I guess I should have asked how long you've been working there, but your tone made it sound like you had been suffering a long time. If you are just a student.... Then go find a retail store that isn't as stressful. Grocery store maybe?
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/22 03:28 AM
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It's time to change careers. I was a very successful restaurant manager for 10+ years, but it turned me into a negative, exhausted, and emotionally unstable person. The pay was great, but it came at a great cost. The worker shortage made it even worse! I used to be so sweet and naturally feminine - and by the end I was just surviving. Even my health had deteriorated. My partner, my parents, and friends all said it was time. It took about 3 months, but I finally found something that was a good fi…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/22 10:06 PM
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Yes to all the things already posted. Find an exercise you like. Walking is often an overlooked exercise. if you don't have a Fitbit, there are apps that you can use to track your walks to get miles in. 30 minutes before work, 30 minutes at lunch, and 30 minutes in the evening. You can start with 15 minutes and build up. On weekends go on a long walk. Also put a hitch in your giddy up. as brisk as you can handle. There are also tons of things on you tube. In a world with plenty of free options, …
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/22 11:54 PM
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You just made me laugh. We definitely know how to keep them distracted for a little bit to get the job done. Also, budget bytes for cheap recipes. That blog + Aldi = as cheap as it gets!
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/22 09:10 PM
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She is my #1 favorite on you tube right now.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/22 02:23 PM
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I'm also much older than Mrs. Midwest and she is just not my taste because of it. She is great for young women in the beginning stages of adulthood, women who don't work, or women trying to embrace a traditional mind set for the first time. But I am in the trenches of life (late 30s, career change, family obligations /young kids + aging family members, service work, and then my long term partner and I holding it together), .... Mrs. Midwest, sorry darlin... I don't really care how you grew your …
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/22 02:20 PM
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See Mindy Mom and Frugal Fit Mom are probably my top two favorites. They are not femininity based, but both of them are really showing you how to run your home on a budget (specifically food). Plus Frugal Fit Mom is quirky like me and I appreciate that!
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/22 01:33 PM
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She is the queen to me. Mrs. Midwest has nothing on her.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/22 01:31 PM
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I will probably be blasted for this suggestion.... But if you can, set up an emergency fund account with just your name on it. Stash money in there until you get about a 3 month emergency fund. My grandma who was a SAHM had her own account that she would stash money into here and there. When they got older, she ended up telling my grandfather about it because she wanted to be a nurse after the kids left the house and she used the money! But it helped her feel safe through those younger years whi…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/22 01:16 PM
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Yes yes yes!! The whole job vs career mentality! Op needs to find her passion!
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 05:08 PM
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I agree with this in theory, but I looked at her post history. It sounds like their romance developed quickly. Not saying that is a bad thing (my grandparents met and married in six months and were married 50+ years). I just have concerns about her vetting process if they are newly married and he already is not working. Those are red flags to me, but I certainly don't know the whole story. We are not sure if she has even talked to him about wanting to exit the workforce. But yes... The principle…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 03:05 PM
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It's a valid and valued goal! But at its core, this is a self improvement group - not a venting group. Now you know your goal.... Work towards it! Good luck! We will be here to help you achieve your goals.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 01:42 PM
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Just from what you have given us..... It doesn't sound like you both are in a financial position to leave the work force. Instead of dreaming of staying home and complaining about working. What are YOU doing to work towards your goal of leaving the workforce. Is it even possible? Will your partner make enough money to support you and your children. If not, then sorry charlie you gotta buy shoes for the baby so you'll be working. And that's a sacrifice you need to be willing to do for your child.…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 12:59 PM
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Make a budget! It's easy to get excited and overspend. For me it's $50-100/month. I also took a few bonus checks and did big hauls. I've only been doing this 2 years and we add a little more each week/month. The couponing will really help you maximize your budget.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/22 12:33 PM
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Unless you live in Eastern Europe.... (And if you do, I hope you find a safe place to land and send prayers of protection). Let me give you my family mantra (we are a family of strong women). Suck it up buttercup. I know we like to talk about being soft and sweet, but women are also strong. Hello, we have to give birth. You are about to be a mom. That's a gift not every woman even gets. You get to show this child how to navigate a cruel world. How to be the light. How to be strong and kind and m…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/22 12:09 PM
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To add on to that.... I also think young people don't realize that it's not always perfect. I know I just listed all the reasons my partner and I are amazing - but we are human and we do flub up. But we have the maturity to work through those times. Those tough conversations are only had with my sister and best friend. My very inner circle. And they are not me dogging him, it's me asking advice to help the situation. Can I gripe/vent a bit? Sure. I was raised with the mentality that long term re…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/22 04:30 PM
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Let me preface this by saying.... There isn't much you can do without being rude or a nag. you want to show him respect at all times. So you have to decide on your boundary and timeline. How patient will you be before you realize he doesn't care to change? And if it comes to that you can have a conversation.... But talk about you not him "I want a partner who takes care of himself and likes to be better than he was yesterday. A man who will lead this relationship and be a good example of health.…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/22 01:56 PM
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This is my best recommendation.... And it's very 90s old school, so I am showing my age. Go to a nice strip or outlet mall. And visit 3 or 4 stores you have never been in and just look. Try things on even if it's not in your price point. If you find things on a good scale, go for it. Do this every couple of weeks. Now you can go to poshmark, thred up, thrift stores, and local consignment and kind of know what brands and styles you like and how they fit you. I personally would rather buy nicer br…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/22 04:09 AM
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I truly don't understand the downvotes. He is traditionally high value. So sorry (not sorry) I didn't say he holds my hand while I cry about the Bachelor?
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/22 04:04 PM
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-I respect him. -I am down to earth. -I am his soft place/escape from the drudgery of life. -I am intelligent and have good manners. -I am warm and charming in group settings (super helpful for a man who is a pillar in the community) -I am very driven in my career (something he respects and encourages). -I am attractive (hourglass body with long well kept hair and good skin). -I take care to dress tastefully, modern & classic and have good make up & nails. -I maintain my figure through diet and …
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/22 03:56 PM
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This is sound advice.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/22 03:14 PM
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He's very alpha (which I like). He very much commands the room whatever the situation. He is intelligent and has broad interests. He is stoic. He is charming. He is very disciplined. He is meticulous. He is wealthy and knows how to grow money. He has a beautiful home in a sought after community. He is attractive (if you like blue eyes with strong shoulders and chest .. ooo la la - but he's mine, sorry). He exercises and keeps fit. He is a wonderful father. He is well respected and a figure in th…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/22 11:53 AM
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What kind of homemaking tips are you looking for exactly? Cooking? Cleaning? Efficiency? Routines? Without that here is what I do.... I always have what I call "heat and eat" meals for when it's 7:45 and a meal needs to magically appear. Examples? Pizza & frozen broccoli. Turkey burgers, bag of buns in the freezer, sweet potato fries, and California medley. Chicken nuggets and frozen mixed vegetables and maybe a just add water mashed potatoes mix. Frozen meatballs, frozen ravioli, jar of pasta s…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/22 11:54 PM
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Truly.....he is my rock solid foundation. I'm very down to earth, but I am an overthinker. He calls me on my BS, he knows when to tell me to relax, and he knows when I need comfort. Daily! The man deserves everything just for navigating all my moods. He also flirts with me. Tries to make me laugh. Makes sure I am safe and that I have everything I need to be safe. Daily. We do not live together.... But he has a coffee pot and coffee for me (he doesn't drink coffee). I love baths.....so he got me …
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/22 01:02 AM
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Outside of the normal acts of service things. I take care of myself. Grooming, weight, exercise. It's not just for him, but he definitely appreciates the efforts. I'm a happier partner when I am taking care of myself. Men are visual, so I want to be the best in his eyes. I also try to only bring him problems that directly impact us. So while sometimes I can't hold it in - ultimately - he does not want to hear about the drama in the women's group at church. So I just try to keep that kind of chat…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/22 02:58 PM
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After the fight, space to calm down, and the talk it out stage.... Those next several days can feel prickly. And for my partner and I.... I find just if I bring the softness to our evening routine it's everything. I try to make sure I have a little make up on and nice lounge clothes, I'll cook, and truly I just try to be attentive. I'll offer to get him some water while I'm up, if we ate at the coffee table.... I'll ask him if he is done and clean up, I'll brush his arm as I walk by, usually I'l…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/22 12:29 AM
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Don't make noise? While having sex? Do you live next to a priest? who wants quiet sex? My man definitely likes to hear the noise. Now I'm not over there belting out an opera solo, but he knows I am a happy lady.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/22 12:17 AM
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For those women like me who are not married or live with their partner.... My Friday nights truly vary. If the week has gotten to me.... I'll have a night at home without my boyfriend or friends. I'll heat up some leftovers, take a long shower, and do some self care things (I have really been into at home manicures). Other times I'll meet up with a girlfriend for a drink (and then send a cute pic to my boyfriend in hopes he'll tell me to come over when I am done). If I am having a date night wit…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/22 02:21 AM
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Be a high value woman. What are you doing to be the best you can be? I see too many women wanting RPW to tell them just join this church or go to these kinds of bar and you'll find them. Finding and getting are two different things. If you are currently working.... Are you doing the best job you can or coasting? If you are in school are you a good student? Are you involved it networking groups such as Young Professionals? Do you take care of your looks, health, and fitness? Long hair, fitness, a…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/21 04:32 PM
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I'm not anti plastic surgery, but I am very cautious about it. 19 is very young.... I would wait until you were 21-25 before you make big decisions. I too have the puffy eye problem and I am interested in botox or anything else that will fix it. I'm not really trying to change how I look.... Just trying to age gracefully.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/21 02:55 AM
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Grateful for my apartment. I have really done a lot with it this year to make it functional. It's very cheap rent while I save up and pay student loans. I was growing very tired of my apartment.... But the changes have made it my perfect little nest. Grateful for the new friends I've made this year! Not sure they will be my best friends, but I am learning to have fun again. I tend to be way too serious! Grateful for my partner who is such a rock to me. I've had a crappy year and I def let that s…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/21 02:50 AM
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Bissell Zing. Love it. Watch go clean co videos.... And they will show you how awesome it is. I live in the south.... And I always make a white pizza on Christmas eve... I say "Let's have a white pizza since we aren't having a white Christmas". I decorate my home and help my partner sometimes with his decor. Bake a few special things for coworkers.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/21 02:02 AM
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I have always decorated even when I was single. I am still childless. Pick a theme you like and set a budget and buy a little each year. One year I bought a basic Garland and a bow. The next year I added lights to it. The next year ribbon and floral. The next year ornaments and picks. Now it's gorgeous and something I am very proud to show off to my partner and friends. It also will show any man you are dating that you have taste or at least know how to have a little fun. My partner always seems…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/21 01:58 AM
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With prices going up.... I'm getting creative with cutting the amount of meat and adding extra beans or vegetables to make up for it. I also try to get an extra serving out one pot meals by serving it with large portions of salad or vegetables. Also.... I highly recommend watching Frugal Fit Mom on you tube. Because of her I have started checking out discount grocery stores and have been able to buy a lot of things close to their sell by date.... But I know I'll be able to eat them up before the…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/21 01:49 AM
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Work on developing a productive morning routine. I am naturally an early riser, but I am often lazy in the morning and drink coffee for 3 hours before frantically getting ready for work and being late.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/21 01:44 AM
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What a good example!!
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 02:26 PM
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There was a thread similar to this a few weeks ago with a girl named Sad Crayon. I think she removed her post, but the suggestions are still there. If you are American, then I would suggest counseling. If you aren't enjoying sex you aren't doing it right (you in the royal sense). There are ways to find common ground. Perhaps just asking for counseling will prove to him how much you don't enjoy his requests. If you can't find common ground... That might escalate things in a different direction fo…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/21 01:01 PM
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Oh man.... The times I didn't stfu stand out far more. The only recent example I can think of.... I had gone over to his home that morning to do some things for him and to set up the crock pot for dinner. We don't get to spend much time together because we both have busy work schedules and obligations. I had a big hair appointment that afternoon and he had things to do as well. The plan was for us to enjoy a late dinner together. My appointment ran way longer than I expected and my partner eats …
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/21 06:06 PM
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Yes!!! That's all I want.... To be alone and be pampered! Haha
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/21 05:54 PM
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Women are chatty communicators by nature! So yes....you are me! 🤣 I can just feel myself overwhelming him. He seems so bored with all my chatter. God bless him, so it's time for me to STFU.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/21 11:06 PM
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Great topic! I have realized that I am a complainer to my partner and close friends. I complain too much about work and the stress of daily life. I am trying to be funny, but no.... I realized it's just complaining. Definitely a goal is mine is to stop complaining!
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/21 05:19 AM
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That opening line tho... Amen. That hit me in my heart.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/21 01:50 PM
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Please go see a therapist. You are not in a healthy place to be dating and you are going to continue to have issues with the wrong kind of men until you fix your self esteem. I've told you before. You are young. I know this a sub all about how to be the best women possible and tends to be about relationships, but it's first and foremost a self improvement sub. Women don't just exist solely to entertain men (I don't have that kind of energy haha). Really and truly, you need to read all the posts …
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/21 01:34 PM
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Agreed. I totally respect women who run their homes well! And love that her husband trusts her. Sounds like your friend is doing a great job. To kind of bring it back to you, just make sure you have a similar dynamic with your partner before you go to home Depot and shell out a few hundred on a freezer. But if he needs convincing, I got a freezer this summer and I love it! I stock up on meat and seafood at Costco. I also look for manager specials at my regular grocery store.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/21 01:09 PM
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Hmmm.... I think you can take this two ways. You can either hear her being a controlling wife. Or you can hear a woman that runs the household and her husband trusts her. I am going to give her the benefit of the doubt and go with second. If I came to my partner and said I think we should get an upright freezer.... That way when I find meat/food on sale I can store it for later and this will help us stretch our food dollars. Then I am showing him that I am being a good steward of his money. I th…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/21 12:58 PM
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Quick Google search of how much should I spend on groceries... Gives us some insight. Moderate to liberal amount is $600-800/month. And if he doesn't like leftovers.... Then you're gonna spend more. I reccomend the Cookbook One Pan Two Plates and Eating Well Serves Two. If he doesn't like leftovers, start halving recipes. There are even crock pot recipes for two. Start posting the weekly meal plan for lunch and dinner on the fridge. If he decides to eat out, fine. He might just want to get out o…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/21 11:54 AM
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OP this message spoke to my soul today. Wish I could give you all the upvotes.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/21 12:16 PM
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Are you American?! This sounds like some weird old school thinking so I am thinking you aren't.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/21 06:12 PM
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You are indeed a sad sad crayon. You don't want help, just attention. No one here believes in non consensual sex. And no one here is going to condone the behavior of your ex. Like I said before, you need to work on self improvement and quit worrying about sex. You don't even sound like you are in a place where you could have a healthy relationship. Exercise, therapy, friends. You have self esteem issues and unless you fix them you are just gonna keep finding these guys who prey on weakness. You …
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/21 01:26 PM
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Then you need to simply focus on knowing yourself and vetting. You shouldn't even be worried about sex at this point. Your question really should be.... How do I improve my vetting process to avoid scummy men? How can I build back my confidence so I don't let men take advantage of me? Once you find your self feeling confident and strong.... I feel like your next match will be a better suit and you won't have to worry about the sex life. Work out, take a self defense class, talk to a counselor ab…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/21 12:31 PM
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I think you are missing my point.... If you don't feel sexually attracted to him, I'm not sure why you are staying. I would never be with a man who guilted me into having sex when I didn't feel like it. But even more.... I wouldn't be with a man I didn't want to have sex with. Especially if we didn't have children together. I'd rather be single than having pity sex. You sound young. I hope you aren't staying with him because you feel like you have to make it work. You can absolutely find someone…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/21 02:56 AM
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Mark West Pinot Noir. Red wine. Yellow label. At almost every grocery store/target I've been to. Affordable.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/21 02:34 AM
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If you don't enjoy sex with your partner, time to find a better partner. For me.... Sexual tension is what makes a relationship special. I love that one minute my partner and I are watching TV or making dinner.... And then a split second look has us heading to the bedroom and taking our clothes off. And then back to making dinner.... It's the best! If you aren't having fun, then someon ain't doing it right!
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/21 02:29 AM
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Love that you added that about being a pillar of a community. I also think you have to be somewhat charming. Dinners, fundraisers, etc.... You'll be interacting with his peers and you can't embarrass him. I'm sure between the two of us we could really flesh out the expectations affluent/wealthy men have for their partners. It can be a really great partnership if both people are working together. I like nice pretty things just like the next woman, but I definitely earn them. And also double yes o…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 01:50 PM
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Bless your heart (I am southern). You need to STFU. Only tacky classless women say out loud they want a wealthy man. And what wealthy man wants a tacky wife? Also... You need to focus on what you bring to the table! A wife of a wealthy man is a reflection of their husband. So you need to be able to run an efficient home, stick to the budget he gives you and not squander his money on bullshit like golden goose sneakers, you need to be active in the community (service work or volunteer at your chu…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/21 02:37 PM
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Ah! I literally quit online dating and got with my partner within a few months. I just don't have a high opinion of those apps. You either get alpha man sluts or loser hipsters who lack the social skills to carry on a conversation. Just my opinion. Delete the apps, go out into the wild. I have met every successful relationship I have had.... At trivia night, taking a class, film festival, kickball, or some other gathering of friends. Again... Get off the internet. Go out, be social!
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/21 06:23 PM
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I must not be familiar.... Are you saying the men focus on your age or is OLD an abbreviation for something?
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/21 06:05 PM
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I do mostly Les Mills on Demand. But I also have the peleton app, old yoga DVDs I love, and then I mess around on You Tube as well. I also LOVE to walk. Love it. I'll do a few laps around my neighborhood while listening to a podcast and it's my favorite thing.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/21 05:50 PM
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The correct question should be.... Have you gotten to a point in your life where you are confident in who you are, what you want, and are improving yourself daily? Too many women focus on getting the man and not enough focus on having what it takes to get a man. There is no age that fits one person. My partner and I found each other at 30. We had dated when younger, but it wasn't until I "grew up" that I was ready for what it takes to maintain a long term relationship. We have been together clos…
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/21 05:48 PM
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Buy a subscription to a service called You Need a Budget. Tons of you tube videos to help explain the set up. I've used it for years and have bought a car in cash, paid off most of my student loans, I have a 3 month emergency fund, and have saved 10K for a down payment on a house. Also look up the 20/30/50 method. 20% debt/save, 30% wants, 50% needs. I'd also create a separate account for business and have a separate budget for that (you can do this in YNAB). Men love a woman who is a good stewa…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/21 12:25 PM
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Read this post as if you were a stranger.... And you'd realize how whiney you sound. Focus on yourself and not boys. Keep your legs closed. Find a new best friend. Move on with your life.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/21 03:33 AM
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Simple answer. Don't do it for him. He has to learn that you are serious. You taking over is just as much a turn off to him as him not being leader is to you. I didn't say it wasn't hard, but you gotta draw the line. If he said he would do it, let him stumble and grow as a leader. You just focus on being a good steward of your resources during the inflation crisis!
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/21 03:19 PM
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It's a lot harder than you think. My older sister homeschooled her three kids and it doesn't look like any of them will be high earners as adults. She isn't very structured. So they are a direct result of her inability to lead them. I personally would rather move to an area with a better school system, send my kids off to school so I could have time for myself and maintaining the home, but maybe in the summer do some home school stuff while they were home with me.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/21 02:58 PM
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First of all, inflation and shortages are a real issue and a problem I can help you with. I am also saving for a house... So I get it. To deal with shortages, start by buying a few back ups to everything you use often. Things like ketchup, pancake syrup, olive oil, coffee, boxes of pasta... Whatever. You can wait for a BOGO sale or something. Then after that, every time you open the back up you buy a new one. I spent the last year building up my food supply. I have enough on hand that I would be…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/21 02:52 PM
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This is what I would do as well. If my partner said he was going to do something and doesn't. It's his problem to deal with. And I know him well enough at this point that me pointing it out.... Doesn't help anything. I am trying to think of an alternative solution for OP. Like is there a way she can get the result she wants by being submissive or super feminine.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/21 02:38 PM
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First, I wish all you young ladies would chill about finding a man before you turn 27. Getting married before 25 usually is an early indicator of a future divorce. So BREATHE. Secondly, just keep your legs closed and keep dating. you are single until someone asks you to be exclusive. Go on a movie date on Sunday with bachelor #1, go grab coffee with a different guy on a Tuesday, and go to a concert with a third guy on a Thursday. Saturday is for the girls. Rinse and repeat. I also reccomend volu…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/21 02:18 AM
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I am not necessarily strong willed in that way. I have a lot of drive and stubbornness that pushes me to complete things and I often get frustrated with others who I feel aren't as effecient or effective as me. I use my drive to serve my community through a service organization I am involved with and I have to be pretty strong for my job (I'm a manager). My partner and I have been together long enough. He knows me very well. I don't have problems defering to his leadership. We are amazing commun…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/21 09:44 PM
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I think the same. If not a prostitute, then a woman spoils for a bit then he doesn't mind throwing away after he's bored with her.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/21 05:16 PM
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Yes!!! Agreed. Those of us older definitely need to speak up more. We have so much wisdom and it's definitely missing from this community. I actually don't check it much anymore because it's so many young women asking where to buy dresses and for femininity you tube channels. Or them freaking out cause they are 26 and hitting the wall. Pah-lease. I was talking to my LTR about how there is so much more to femininity and red pill women than long hair and dresses. How does my feminity help me in th…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/21 04:09 PM
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First off, what triggered this post? What does it matter to you what other women want? I don't care for most women, so their antics usually make me laugh. I'll say this, if a woman wants an affluent man... She better be on her A game. You will get all the luxuries you want, but you are a direct refection of him to his peers and family. And the affluent can be quite cut throat. To keep him, you'll have to bring a lot to the table. There is a lot of pressure on an affluent man. And his partner is …
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/21 01:59 PM
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Wow I am shocked at the answers. I am guessing a young crowd. So I think it depends on the quality of the man. A man with a ton of kids with different mothers? Hard pass. He will knock you up and leave you too. But a man who is an upstanding father who takes care of his kids but his first marriage was a mistake? I'd give him a chance. I'd totally be a step mom. I'm older mid 30s and childless, so it's probably a fact of my life that i'll be a step mom (also, my step mom is a badass so I had a go…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/21 12:46 PM
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How old are you? This sounds like a young person question with low self esteem. Because honey listen, men love boobs. PeriodT. My boobs are tiny, little droopy, and kind of wide set.... guess what men always asked me for? Tit pics. They don't care. If you are thin, all the better. Supportive sexy lingerie might help you feel better about your body if it really bothers you. But honestly.... Get out of your own head. If you still hate them in a few years, save up a few thousand dollars and get the…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/21 12:57 AM
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Right now if you actively keep up with the news, it gives you a skewed sense of reality. It seems like gender is being blurred everywhere - and to an extent yes (especially marketing wise) - but I'd say it's some pitifully small percentage of the population that actually is gender bending. I looked it up once, I don't think it's even a double digit number of people - hell, I don't think it's even a whole percentage point. It's just a hot topic that is getting a lot of buzz. So I think it seems l…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 10:47 PM
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This is the best advice, OP.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 04:58 PM
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Look, I get it. My partner gets wife privileges on girlfriend level - I'm definitely not trad con. It works for us. But in general.... I have my own life. Just have the self control and self respect to leave him alone. Looking needy is always a turn off and drives men away. I don't think it should be so difficult to go enjoy your life. You should be able to have a life that doesn't center around him. Give him a reason to ask what's going on with you! If you are guilty of the daily word vomit whe…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 12:53 PM
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I'm older (mid 30s), and I am telling you to stop wasting time on an online relationship. Been there, done that - and it doesn't work. Focus on meeting men in real life. If you are nervous or lack the confidence, there is plenty of self improvement/tranaformation advice here!
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 11:46 AM
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My momma always said if a boy wants to talk to you, he will. In the meantime, go hang out with your friends, go on a hike, take yourself out to dinner, get your nails done, read a book. You aren't married, don't give him wife privileges on a girlfriend level. You are trying to control him to get the outcome you want, let him lead.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 11:38 AM
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Hmm... I feel like this is a nuanced question. When I was obese, I didn't feel attractive or that I had a chance with mwn. So I wouldn't even try. No confidence to even flirt. So I didn't tap into my sexuality at all. But this was a time before obesity was shielded by the body positivity movement. No one was telling me that my thick thighs were beautiful. In fact, you were pretty much invisible if you were overweight. I lost 90lbs (over 2.5 years) with diet and exercise, and then I had the confi…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 02:46 AM
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In my 20s, i rarely had an orgasm. I've been with my partner for 7 years almost (we also had a fling in college before reconnecting at 30). He thinks I'm pulling his chain, but he is the only man who has ever made me orgasm on the regular. And it took about a year of relationship building to get there. Basically.... We are complicated creatures. Some women need a lot of trust and comfort to get there. If it really bothers your BF, fake it or tell him that you still enjoy sex without it.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/21 11:09 AM
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Yes!! I use similar on my partner and he seems to like them. And all of these are genuine compliments. I don't say shit to say shit.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/21 01:48 AM
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Ooo you minx I love it! If I tried to get my partner to do a scavenger hunt he'd think I was torturing him. He has told me not to get him gifts, and I always ignore him and get him something. But he finally told me to stop in so many words. What about a candelit dinner? Al fresca? My partner loves loves loves acts of service and words of affirmation. So yes, that means he loves that I keep things tidy or that I don't complain about housework. Not saying that you are untidy, but maybe a focused p…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/21 11:42 AM
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Most men don't want the little trinkets. No money? No problem. Cook him his favorite meal, bake him a cake, and take off your clothes to give him the good time he really wants.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/21 11:24 AM
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I'm in my 30s, and I can tell you that feminity is a mindset and not just a look. I understand there is a lot of activity based upon clothes and appearance - and as another commenter said, RPW is about looking put together and healthy which in turn is attractive to high value men. You definitely want to be attractive to your partner and you should also have the self respect to want to be healthy and put together for your self. Now, if you are looking for a style. I totally get it! When I was bro…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/21 02:41 AM
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#1 rule Focus on quality not quantity. Buy nice or buy it twice is what I say. I prefer a preppy look - very classic, modest, but I feel like I can have fun with it. It never goes out of style! Look up Kelly Prepster on you tube - she is young and talks a lot about the preppy look.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/21 10:24 PM
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IMO, women abuse their social media. Don't be a thirst trap. Avoid selfies. Document your life sparingly - leave a little mystery. Just be classy.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/21 10:18 PM
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Cut the split ends off! It sucks, but it's gonna be done. From there you can focus on hair care. Just go in and tell the stylist to cut off all the unhealthy hair. Scraggly hair is NOT a good look, even if it's long. I had to do a big chop after I got happy with blonde highlights. My split ends had split ends. I use a scalp massage brush regularly to wash my hair with and to massage my scalp nightly to help stimulate growth. I have a "wet brush" and a wide tooth comb to detangle my wet hair. I u…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/21 02:13 PM
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In the south we just say "bless your heart" which I think says all it needs to say! Haha
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/21 12:13 AM
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This has been so fun to follow along with in my journal! Love the exercises!
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/21 06:20 PM
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I've really been focused on decorating and organizing my home - it's just so nice! And I know my partner appreciates it when he comes over.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/21 12:13 PM
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https://www.mccormick.com/spices-and-flavors/recipe-mixes/mccormick-one I have tried most of these and I love them! Also crock pot is my friend!
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/21 12:09 PM
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Exercise - I'm junk at doing anything besides vigorous walking. Gonna start small and add one strength training workout this week. texting my partner less in general - especially my stupid chatter. I am definitely texting him because I am trying to elicit his attention. I can tell I am doing it, but still fall into my own trap. I do have the self control to stop texting when he doesn't respond. But once he does, it's just word vomit of me saying how tired I am of work, every single thing I have …
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/21 11:58 PM
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All the science says that a spiritual life - no matter the belief system - make people happier. So yes, any belief system that helps you understand and relate to others would probably have similar effects. While I am personally never going to be wiccan/witchy, I am quite spiritul. However, I will never yuck your yum.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/21 01:20 PM
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love magazines. Have my whole life. My sister and I love to bring our old magazines and trade and look at them together. Food and Wine (if you are a foodie), Southern Living, eating well (healthy eating), Cottage Living (one of my faves), HGTV, and Martha Stewart (she is the goddess divine). I think all of these are $5ish a year through amazon. I also love the special edition magazine but beware those are like $12 each.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/21 03:03 AM
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I shop J Crew and J Crew Factory and have a very classic and pracitcal feminine look. Belk (belk.com) has the crown and ivy line - quality and sizing is spotty, but the clothes are cheap and cute. I also love Kate Spade dresses (via poshmark). I work in hospitality so I have to have kind of a sporty look. I wait for the double clearance sales. Follow respecttheshoes on instagram! Love her style and she shops at regular stores. I will go make a list of my favorite instagram influencers and post l…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/21 08:39 PM
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Totally appropriate. It's what they want anyways! Easier for me to pick out than a tie or a bottle of nice liquor.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 04:47 AM
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I pay for YNAB (You Need a Budget) annually. It's a zero based budget software/app. I've used it for 3 years. Was able to buy a nice used car in cash last year, made huge progress on my student loans, and have begun to save for a house. All on a single lower middle class budget! I also love the podcast How to Money! Keeps me motivated and I've learned a lot! Being a good steward of money has got to be a good thing for an RP woman! Makes you a way better partner!
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/20 05:33 AM
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I want to be tidier. Make up the bed daily, keep clothes picked up off the floor, and do a quick 15 minute tidy up session every day. Even if this means I need to make room in my budget for a regular cleaning service. The whole you have to clean for the cleaning lady really does help me be tidier in general!
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 01:14 PM
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If your partner wears a suit.... Ties, pocket squares, collar stays, and cufflinks. I always love to give nice bottles of liquor. If you are crafty.... Make some Christmas decorations for him. We have a really cool local print shop.... So love the t shirts and posters they make. I give those a lot. No matter what.... I drown all his gifts in his favorite candy.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/20 01:22 PM
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I didn't read all the responses, so if this has been said I apologize. Start living off just his salary immediately and putting your salary in savings. That way you can see if it's feasible. If it is.... You'll have a huge emergency fund by the time you to exit the workforce and if it doesn't work out yet, you at least have enough to stay home as long as you need when the new baby comes!
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/20 11:59 PM
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Read the book Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs. I listened to it. Warning though... It's religiously based, which is not my thing. I am not religious, but appreciate Christian teachings. It's a short book and I think does a good job setting up the dynamics. All of these words respected/appreciated/loved.... It's the same principle just nuanced. The whole point of these books/rpw is to appreciate and respect the differences in each gender and what you bring to the relationship so that you bo…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/20 11:53 AM
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Dress more professionally and put together and it does bring less attention to you. I never wear sweats or gym clothes in public. I'll have on jeans with a belt, sneakers, and a long sleeve cotton shirt. Or some other put together outfit. I am in the restaurant industry as well. So I def dress for comfort, but I draw the line at sweats.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/20 11:11 AM
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I have used ralph lauren towels for 16 years! Love them!
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 04:21 AM
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This is awesome! And I needed to read this! I need a career change, but not sure how to shift. I have the same feelings.... No time to keep my home clean, see my family and friends, or have energy for hobbies that I love. My career is so high stress that it is having super bad effects on my physical health. Asking to go part time isn't an option, they would show me the door. Love hearing your success!! Please keep us updated as you transition.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 04:10 AM
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Financial awareness is so important. I'm often disappointed how many women don't know how to be good stewards of money.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 01:22 AM
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I'd go on a picnic with you.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/20 09:32 PM
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I once saw a lady at a place I worked.... She had on white fish nets under her skirt (just above the knee) and with a blouse. She totally rocked it and was not trashy at all.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/20 07:49 PM
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It includes carrots, potatoes, and green beans in the recipe! One of the reasons I love it!
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/20 06:21 PM
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Hmmm hopefully a moderator swings by after their cup of joe. This person gives off troll vibes.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/20 12:20 PM
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As many have said.... It sounds like you struggle with self esteem. Until you resolve this, you'll be robbed of so much joy! And in this case I have to agree with what the men on TRP often say... Lift!! Exercise will literally rewire your brain in ways I never thought possible. I say "lift" but I really mean just exercise in general. Long walks, cardio, yoga, dance fitness - whatever floats your boat. I highly reccomend Les Mills on Demand. Super cheap. Can do it at home! Most of the work outs d…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/20 09:40 PM
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I'm not that religious so I get it. If you just think about biologically it still makes sense. He thankfully saves the full on religious part for the end and I just skipped that part. It's a short book.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/20 03:13 PM
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You can Google it. But if you just lay there and moan pathetically while he does all the work. You are a starfish.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/20 02:57 PM
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I definitely reccomend the book Love and Respect. It's a little condescending and religious in nature, but still really helpful. I'm also listening to the Five Love Languages.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/20 02:55 PM
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Men like hot sex. Not sure they really care about who is on top. The biggest thing is.... Don't be a boring dead starfish in bed. Be an active participant. Sex is a pretty strong expression of each gender. Should give your partner a a hitch in his giddy up.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/20 01:56 PM
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Agreed. I have traveled to some major cities all over the country and Southerners tend to look put together. There is always trashy people, but on the whole I have found I am the one over dressed when traveling.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/20 03:11 PM
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Look up Damn Delicious Honey Garlic Chicken for the slow cooker. Made it yesterday already plan to make it again next week! I do suggest squeezing lemon on it at the end (I love lemon on everything.)
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/20 01:03 AM
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Girl, I have no help other than to say.... preach!! I live in the South as well and men are just absolutely enamored with blondes. She could have a knot on a log personality, but they will fall over themselves to talk to her. Different strokes for different folks. Ironically, I don't care for blonde men. The only thing I have learned is to keep your hair long and styled.... That does help a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/20 01:02 AM
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I was single most of my 20s and even now in my 30 that I have a partner, we don't live together (it works for us) and so I have lots of free time. He loves that I have my own life and the skills I taught myself Things I do... Fitness/Health - cause y'all, high value men like healthy trim women. They just do. Volunteer/Joined the Junior League - this is huge for me. It's a way to make female friends or network to find better jobs. It's fun and gives back! I also volunteer at the botanical gardens…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/20 10:22 PM
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I track my cycle with a free app called clue. It will tell you when you are most fertile. I have learned a lot about my body just from this app. So if you want to use extra caution, use protection and avoid fertile days. You can track all kinds of things in the app which are super helpful when talking to your doctor. I use the app to track my headaches/migraines. The pill when taken correctly is the way to go though! Best advice I can give you, always have condoms with you and never sleep with a…
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/20 04:12 PM
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RP isn't a red flag inherently. What does he want and what's your boundary? If you are worried he is gonna spin plates and cheat and you aren't okay with that... That's your boundary. But don't assume he is sleeping around just because he's reading RP. Go watch Adrienne Everheart on You Tube. Great tips on talking to men, letting him lead, and it improving your relationship. My partner has been RPed for a long time (from what I can tell), he lead me to it. It's been a blessing to our relationshi…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/20 01:27 PM
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Try Les Mills on Demand. Cheap. I've slowly collected equipment. But you can do Sh'Bam (dance fitness) with no equipment until you build up stamina. Then you can get a big step and do step class or body combat (kick boxing). Body bump is my fave! And you can Google what set up you need. But worth the investment! I have it all in my living room and I inevitably break down and work out at least once a week. And just start tracking calories. Be honest about it. I lost most of my weight by just redu…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 05:57 PM
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I reccomend Adrienne Everheart on you tube. She talks alot about leaning back to give space to your man for him to lean into his masculine energy. I took copious notes from her. You have to let your man do his thing. If you are focusing on how to be a great feminine co captain, it should help him feel confident in taking the lead. Every single fight I've had with my partner is because I was trying to do his job and lead/control/fix our relationship. You gotta let your man lead. And I know that i…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/20 01:40 PM
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I enjoy Les Mills on Demand and there is a good FB online community. Body Pump is great to get you aquainted with weights.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/20 01:52 PM
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Soma!!!
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/20 07:33 PM
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I'm a J Crew addict. Modest and timeless! I buy it second via poshmark and thred up, and I also hit up the outlet. Follow respecttheshoes on Instagram! She has great combos and shops all over the place!
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/20 12:36 AM
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Nope, I am all for whatever consenting adults want to do with each other. I'm not trad con. It's mostly a safety thing. Let's say I'm in an open LTR with a man who has other plates. I want him to vet those plates!! If he (and especially she) isn't careful he could get an STD or knock up a plate. I don't want that kind of drama in my life. I just want my captain to be respectful of himself and me and make sure he has quality women in his life. If an RP man just wants to spin plates, doesn't want …
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/20 02:32 AM
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That men need to sleep with as many women as possible to pass on their DNA? Sure, I get it. However my opinion stands, I want my LTR partner to not be a man slut. He should be confident enough in his value and an abundance mind set to say no to cheap/easy women. If he can't see her being the mother of his child, then he needs to next her. I'm not expecting him to be an angel. But a man who takes home any girl that says yes grosses me out. I will concede to you and say it's a difficult double sta…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/20 01:33 AM
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There is definitely data that supports low n-counts corelate to longer marriages. I've only seen the data for women, i'd be curious for the same data about men. Though a red pill man would say they don't want to get married anyways. C'est la vie. Reading the RP boards, they all sound like man sluts. Which makes me cringe. It should be noted, I feel like women downplay their n-count and men up play their n-count... So a message board where a lot young men wander and want to display and prove thei…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/20 05:13 PM
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Hey! I've been cooking since I was 11 because my mom was single and working so I was often put in charge of the Hamburger Helper. I have definitely slowly evolved into an incredible cook. In my 20s I got a vegetable box subscription and would just Google recipes with that ingredient. I made ratatouille with garlic bread, I remember making macaroni stuffed acorn squash, I can remember learning how to make a home made cheese sauce. I was so broke but had an adventurous pallette. So cooking was che…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/20 01:00 PM
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I second this. I just keep it neat with a trimmer. Shaving is too irritating and waxing is expensive. My guy also does the same. No complaints from either of us.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 07:31 PM
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I've been watching all of these lately. This one I ended up getting the handy dandy notebook because Stephanie had some really great things to say! It's a must watch ladies!
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/20 03:15 PM
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As you are in Ireland I won't wax poetic about all my favorite brands too much.... J crew (my fave), Madewell (only for jeans), Lilly Pulitzer, Vineyard Vines, Kate Spade.... I'm classically preppy. I first got into higher quality clothes when I was broke. I'd go to thrift stores and consignment shops and just dig and dig for the best clothes. I focused mostly on buying 100% cotton, wool, or silk. I'd make sure it all fit. I feel like my staples are my jeans, button up white shirt, button up cha…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/20 03:33 AM
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If you haven't checked out the blog Budget Bytes it is a truly amazing website. I can't reccomend her enough. I was on a $35/week (or less) budget for a couple years and I am currently also trying to keep my cost low. Tasty recipes, a lot are freezer friendly, basic ingredients, I'd say you can get most of the ingredients at Adli/Wal Mart!
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/20 05:46 PM
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