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| 16 | Things my suspected high quality man does.So happy for you OP! Aside from the masectomy (good luck with that!!!)1 I can relate to all the things you listed. Some additional things mine does: *I have a pretty severe case of leaky gut and have to do this extremely restrictive diet for 6 months. Cant have gluten, sugar, lactose, wheat nor eggs. He went out of his way to find me some great recipes and diet approved snacks. Last weekend he found some glutenfree baker and bought over €30 in bread to stock my freezer with. *Whenever he sees so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 07:49 AM |
| 25 | Trauma BondingI ended my abusive relationship as soon as I discovered the thing that had us still running wasn’t love but trauma. I first read about trauma bonding here on FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 07:26 AM |
| 2 | Tips on how to fall in love but not get attached?The thing your parents have going on sounds great to me though! | /r/askFDS | 27/11/20 03:14 PM |
| 4 | Tips on how to fall in love but not get attached?I agree to some extent! But I think it's more complex than that. The suggestions you made are definitely things that would make leaving if necessary easier but the ego can be very persistent in both terrifying and wonderful ways. Even if you're practicing self care and holding tight to your independence, it's very easy to get attached to a certain person or outcome. Our brain likes permanence, for things to stay the same. So to just brush over certain issues because they don't seem "bad" enough … | /r/askFDS | 27/11/20 04:54 AM |
| 11 | That really puts it in perspectiveI agree with you. Most women don’t even realize they were raped. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 11:42 AM |
| 158 | That really puts it in perspectiveThose numbers are generous. 1 in 6? A year ago I took it upon myself to compare all the figures that’s out there on rape & sexual assault to police reports etc. Let me tell you, 1 in 5 is a far more realistic number and when we’re including sexual assault it’s -most likely- around 1 in 3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 09:12 PM |
| 26 | That really puts it in perspectiveDo you have a link to this study? I love to have these kind of resources for whenever I bump into a “#notallmen” type | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 09:08 PM |
| 3 | It’s the little things...Aww this is very thoughtful. And it’s refreshing to see a man who has decent handwriting lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 12:14 PM |
| 1 | It's hard to meet HVW and have fulfilling female friendships.I feel like it also has something to do with the vibration you are in. Since I was able to raise my confidence, most insecure women in my environment were turned off by me and slowly disappeared from my life & I started attracting more positive, succesful and confident women in my life who are incredibly supportive. This year it honestly only happened once that some woman was acting catty/jealous towards me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 12:02 PM |
| 3 | Caribbean Edition 🏝 Roll it Gal - Alison Hinds. "Free yourself gal, you got class and you got pride. Come together cause we stronger unified"The Carribean have so much uplifting, empowering & positive music. I really love genres like soca & calypso. Amazing culture ❤️ Thanks for sharing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 11:57 AM |
| 7 | My abusive NVM ex and his perfect girlfriend are the best lesson I ever receivedMy ex wasn’t a hobosexual nor did he try to make me cut off my friends or impregnate me but everything else in your story sounded extremely familiar. He always told me I was the only one he ever did this to but then I found his ex went through the same thing. It just makes me feel horrible knowing there’s women who will have to go through to the same things like the ex & me with him because surely these kind of people never change. I honestly wish I had your courage and reported him to the polic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 11:51 AM |
| 56 | what are you proud of?I left an abusive trauma bonding relationship & got myself the cutest dog ever and leveled up financially, professionally, socially & spiritually. I saved 10K this year and now have enough to soon buy my own place (added to what I saved in the 10yrs before that), I went from being unemployed to being a consultant with multiple side projects, I started eating clean, beat my substance addictions, ditched all my low vibrational friends and expanded my social circle with people who are more aligned … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 09:57 AM |
| 8 | Found this lol. "What myth is still widely circulated as truth?" Sorry, didn't know what flair to use.Well said. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 11:38 AM |
| 6 | Found this lol. "What myth is still widely circulated as truth?" Sorry, didn't know what flair to use.Genius | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 11:35 AM |
| 21 | Found this lol. "What myth is still widely circulated as truth?" Sorry, didn't know what flair to use.A pencil that needs to be sharpened all the time is a bad pencil. But a sharpener that can sharpen all types of pencils (& lots of them) is a really great sharpener. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 11:34 AM |
| 27 | Stop calling Jason Momoa a HVM. He's lowest of the LVMS.Lol im not surprised at all. I dated a guy who was built like Jason Momoa and acted like him too. All masculine and fake woke and silly and shit. Tiniest dick I have EVER seen. I couldn’t even feel it when he entered?! I cut him off immediately after that, I was shook & unable to ever look at him the same way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 04:58 PM |
| 4 | THEY JUST BANNED ABORTION IN POLAND 😳THIS! This was extra highlighted to me during the first lockdown. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 01:56 PM |
| 3 | I don’t know how to feel about this...LOL @ the entire redneck south except for maybe Texas & Arkansas being obsessed with BBC & ebony. Bruh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 01:46 PM |
| 3 | Just a little something to brighten up yall’s day ☺️☺️😆😆I don't care for any of it either lol. Maybe im broken | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 12:53 PM |
| 21 | 'No' is a full sentenceI also assumed the coach was a woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 06:57 AM |
| 23 | Your age is your age....it’s not a sliding scaleLol I had this dream about Tinder and decided to reinstall the app yesterday to if there was a sign. First guy I talked to: bingo! Listed his age as 32, later on told he's turning 49 in December but "he looks really young and always attracts younger women so he felt 32 was a correct way to market himself" lmaooo. I stopped replying then he said "so apparently love DOES have an age" and unmatched me. I deleted Tinder a few hours later lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 07:23 AM |
| 4 | I think all ladies could benefit from Dianic Wicca, even if they aren't religiousI’m interested. I read the wiki but where would you suggest to look for more in-depth information? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 02:40 PM |
| 3 | (NSFW) How to respond to unwanted sexual attention?It has nothing to do with sexuality and everything with intimidation. These creeps just love to see us being uncomfortable/feeling unsafe. I don't like to waste too much words or energy on them but I also don't like to give them the satisfaction to think I'm intimidated. I usually just give them Lucille Bluth type energy, snickering + a strong side eye It is what it is. As much as libfems would like you to believe it, these men are not going to change anytime soon. Not during our lifetimes, prob… | /r/askFDS | 02/10/20 09:37 PM |
| 2 | I’m going on a girl date with a girl of a much lower social class than me. Is it okay if I pay? Is it condescending?As much as I would love to believe there are no differences between dating men vs women, there are. Therefore, for me, the same rules don’t apply. Most things that justify having a man pay for everything just don’t apply to women (for example compensating for privilege) If this is a date with romantic undertones I would advise you to just observe what happens when the bills comes. Just observe her body language and draw your own conclusions from that. If it’s just platonic, I’d pay if I were you… | /r/askFDS | 29/09/20 10:04 PM |
| 5 | Dating as a HVW when you’re not at your ideal weightThe fact that so many people came in with inspiring messages is a sign from the universe that it's time to start changing your course. Time to heal ❤️ No wonder you're so confused Queen, abuse really fucks you up and especially when it happens so early on in your life. Almost every woman who's been through abuse has been on the same journey as you and I. It is absolutely normal to feel this way (but it's also absolutely possible to overcome this). And I'm SO sorry that happened to you. This worl… | /r/askFDS | 29/09/20 08:29 AM |
| 3 | Was this lovebombing? I still think he can do no wrongI just don’t understand why he got into this relationship and deceived me like that. I think you're asking yourself the wrong questions. Let me explain: you stuck around after those odd comments (which was textbook negging btw). The thing is, we accept the love we think we deserve (maybe consciously he pissed you off, but your subconscious mind was persuasive enough to make you stay). Everybody attracts manipulators, there's so many in this world. But not everybody keeps them around. Instead of … | /r/askFDS | 29/09/20 08:08 AM |
| 10 | Dating as a HVW when you’re not at your ideal weightI agree it's too early to say he's a HVM. And maybe this is somewhat controversial or too direct, but I also don't think this is the time for you to get into a relationship. Why? Because I really believe you can't experience true love before you love yourself. And not loving yourself makes you susceptible to blurring your boundaries for people and being easily manipulated. I used to have an eating disorder as well. I realized the real journey wasn't loving my body, but learning to love myself as… | /r/askFDS | 29/09/20 07:51 AM |
| 1 | I think she discovered FDS.. better late than never 👑I'm glad our sis dodged the bullet but I'm secretly sad we're missing out on this FIELD REPORT | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 07:03 AM |
| 12 | 😂Having a field day just got a whole new meaning to it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 07:02 AM |
| 38 | 😂Haha someone posted a reddit post on here (I think it was an AITA but not sure) about this guy complaining he secured this coffee date with a girl he met on OLD ("we we're going to have coffee and then I was gonna take her to this field") and she backed out last minute (or so he said) and told him she'd rather go on a proper date and have sushi or something. He was appalled she had the audacity to expect him to pay for a whole sushi dish ("sushi is like 60 dollars!") while he'd never seen her an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 06:56 AM |
| 8 | Is it possible to find boys who want to cuddle/nap together/fool around above waist/ without it escalating to sex?My experience is, if a guy is really into you and really respects you, he'll take whatever he can get and go as far as you allow him to. I'm pretty sexually closed off as well due to some trauma and I have this reputation of being *hard to get* (even though I hate that term) so most guys I allowed to touch were just over the moon they even got the privilege to cuddle me. | /r/askFDS | 28/09/20 07:35 AM |
| 9 | I made you all a guide to the PERFECT walking date outfit - just to keep it nice and "casual" for him 😉it's the hat for me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 07:03 AM |
| 5 | Pick your friends CAREFULLY!I started walking my dog in public parks in the middle of the city in hopes of meeting some cool new women because most of my friends are pickmeishas lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 11:23 AM |
| 218 | If you are serious about levelling up, you need to get comfortable with taking accountability for your actions and behavioursYou do not have to be a victim of circumstance. We know that patriarchy and men, as a class, screw women over. Unfortunately, that is unlikely to change anytime soon. Your armour patriarchy and low value men is accountability. I agree. We're a majority so it's ridiculous to still beg for a spot at the table while we could just build our own damn table. That's why I like FDS so much. It's not ideology driven, doesn't have this 'woe is me' 4rth wave feminism rhetoric but is just pure, dry pragmati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 11:19 AM |
| 16 | Let's talk about gaslighting for a secYou're not pathetic sis. You're just a work in progress and still learning, that's all. Don't beat yourself up. If anything you need to direct more LOVE towards yourself, not anger. Happy birthday btw <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 03:32 PM |
| 9 | Let's talk about gaslighting for a secDamn that's a really good way to put it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 03:20 PM |
| 42 | Let's talk about gaslighting for a secSis I get to hear I am a man hater on a daily basis. While most of my friends are actually men and I grew up around mostly men. My male friends would never claim I'm a man hater though because they agree with the majority of my opinions and they're mature enough to not take any of it personally and/or to interject their personal feelings in every discussion about men as a whole. I feel like the only ones offended by our statements about men are men who're proof the statement is true. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 01:25 PM |
| 115 | Let's talk about gaslighting for a secDamn that sounds fucked up sis. Glad you made it out of that relationship in one piece. Take all the time you need to heal. I have to say that I do empathize with you on this one, always wondering if a guy isn't abusive in some way or another | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 01:11 PM |
| 81 | Let's talk about gaslighting for a secI read this book, 'Borderline Times' by a psychiatrist who says the difference between a BPD patient and a non patient is almost non-existent. It's the product of hypercapitalism and hyperconsumerism, individualism, social media, the crumbling of community sense etc, ... Almost all millennials have unstable relationships, a bad self image, engage in self destructive behaviors, deal with chronic feelings of emptiness and fear of abandonment/rejection. I believe it. So I believe our society could … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 11:56 AM |
| 54 | LibFems: Women don’t need UBI because Sex Work is part of the “Divine Feminine” and “empowering”🤡The 'divine feminine' is a spiritual concept and literally has nothing to do with sex work. Moreover, the divine feminine did nothing to deserve her name being tainted like that! Smh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 10:40 AM |
| 71 | Was I too harsh to block him so quickly? He didn’t even ask me how I was and couldn’t fathom why I couldn’t instantly see him... also telling me how “fit” I am 3 times in our 2 minute conversation just comes across as desperate and creepy...Reread the title of your post, you basically answered your own question. Enough with the scarcity mindset, sis. You can do better! There's plenty of fish in the sea but we want caviar. This... Ain't caviar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 10:32 AM |
| 3 | Friendly reminder to all the women who are told by LVM yOuRe bEiNg dRaMaTicThis is something I see happening all the time: men gaslighting women when these women are simply communicating their needs. When women get confronted with their flaws they (immediately or eventually) will work on them (or yeah you know, most of the times, since we get conditioned to always keep improving). Men just hop right into defense mode and STAY there. Even when they eventually tell you you were right, they just see it as a lost battle. So whenever a woman confronts them with something ab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 11:00 AM |
| 26 | Charlize Theron Reveals She Hasn't Dated Anyone In 5 Years: 'I Don’t Feel Lonely'You worded this so well omg. Using this for my manifestation scripting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 12:10 PM |
| 42 | Pickmeshia Tomi Lauren being called out. Thoughts?Ok these guys are hilarious lol and I really dislike Tomi Lahren but that video was one of the only times she made sense to me (SOME of the time). The way they react to what she says is that typical gaslighting bullshit 99% of men pulls out when you’re trying to discuss uncomfortable truths about men (i.e. yOuRe JuSt pRoJeCtiNg YoUr nEgAtiVe ExPeRiEnCeS BuT tHeRe aRe GoOd MeN ToO; comparing her to incels etc). They’re right that all those guys she’s describing just weren’t that into her though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 06:14 AM |
| 5 | Queens don't settle or compromise.Doing the Lord’s work 👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 06:43 PM |
| 18 | Queens don't settle or compromise.Definitely. I see it all the time and some of my 30ish year old friends have told me how easy it is to get in a relationship with a woman their age compared to 5 years ago. I'm so happy I don't feel the clock ticking | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 02:50 PM |
| 30 | Why are these nasty ugly lvms even called men?Why eat the gf tho, just eat him and leave the women alone lol This reminds me of this one time I was walking to my car at night and this flasher pulled out his dick. So I just lol'd at his tiny ass dick and was like "lol what were you gonna do with that sad excuse for a dick?" Him: ........ rape you Me: LOL yeah you can try but imma fuck you up and rape you first Him: *comes closer* Me: *actually fucked him up & knee kicked him in the face.* (his eyebrow was kinda bleeding) Then a bunch of guys… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 02:45 PM |
| 28 | FDS Role Model: Eartha Kitt CollageThe "AHAHAAAHAHAA... stupid" always gets me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 02:31 PM |
| 59 | Queens don't settle or compromise.I wish this were the truth but I've seen so many badass queens stumble into the LV dicksand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 02:30 PM |
| 5 | Almost 100k Queens!!!I'm trying to spread the word about this community as much as I can because it was so tremendously life changing to me. I always hated being co-dependent and needing a relationship to feel whole and I was so jealous of women who were genuinly happy being single because I wanted that too. Last weekend I realized that I am finally one of them and I credit FDS for that. What's also beautiful is that there aren't many women-only spaces, let alone ones that are so no-nonsense without being harsh to e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 10:12 AM |
| 9 | MeN aRe VeRy ViSuAL CrEaTuReSI travelled to Zambia with my mom and we both noticed none of the men over there checked me out. It was so hot and culturally it's okay to have bare arms and legs over there so I always wore short dresses and skirts. Not ONCE did I catch a man looking at my legs. Maybe because I'm white and they're not into that. Or maybe it's a cultural thing. But it definitely stood out to me and I felt really safe and comfortable walking the streets over there, even without my mom. Like I didn't even realize … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 10:06 AM |
| 5 | Practising FDS the spiritual wayI reposted the OP here: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleLevelUpStrategy/comments/isnm2d/practicing_flsfds_the_spiritual_way_a_few_pointers/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 02:24 PM |
| 4 | We’re retiring the “Seeking Advice” flair and redirecting all personal relationship questions to r/AskFDSHow does one evolve from being a Newbie? Do you have to get to a certain amount of posts / comments or be a member for a certain amount of time? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 10:42 AM |
| 11 | WAP glorifying sexual violenceWhew I never caught those lyrics but that's fucked up. Not a tinfoil hat wearer but things like this make it hard not to believe those conspiracy theories about pop culture being led by an agenda to dumb us down and turn us into depraved, sex crazed, super divided idiots so some messiah can take over. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 01:15 PM |
| 11 | FDS Mantras as quick reminders. Any suggestions?Imma get this embroidered, hang it everywhere in my house & gift it to all my female friends on their birthdays | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 08:08 AM |
| 37 | FDS Mantras as quick reminders. Any suggestions?One I catch myself using extremely often when female friends talk about their guys to me is "he KNOWS, sis." https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/fm5xsr/he_knows_sis/ It's amazing how often I hear women making excuses for men. "He doesn't know better, he's just not that emotionally developed, he's had a rough childhood, he just didn't think it through, he's just a guy, ..." Lol. Nah. They KNOW. They always know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 08:04 AM |
| 4 | And that’s why you have to leave these cowards at the first sign of disrespect. You’re in for a ride if you don’t.But why are they like this??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 08:42 AM |
| 17 | I have never respected myself on a date with a guy.You still had your aha-moment earlier than most so you should be proud of that instead of lingering in the past. I'm happy you are stepping into your queen energy. Let the past be the past, you can't blame your past self for not knowing what you know now. I'm convinced your confidence will grow rapidly now you've started this journey <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 08:39 PM |
| 2 | I hate the trend where women are praising men for not drugging them. We need to do better. 🤦🏾♀️I watched the rest of his videos and he seems kinda off | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 04:15 PM |
| 5 | Notice the Way His Dog BehavesLol this is so true. My sisters ex was a NVM and his dog was batshit crazy. Poor animal. She always says she wishes she took that as a sign | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 01:01 PM |
| 5 | I found a HVMHe looks dapper! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 12:58 PM |
| 20 | Summer Walker shames Future’s baby mama for wanting $53k a month in child supportFrom what I gathered most of his baby mamas were casual hookups so I don’t think a lot of them actually believed he’d actually play happy family with them however, he’s the one who hits them all raw so nobody should feel bad for him lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 07:22 PM |
| 3 | Speaking your truth & confronting covertly sexist comments can be done in a clear, kind, yet direct way & you don't have to EVER feel shame or guilt for standing your ground in a poised, confident way. Men do this shit 24/7 without any reprimand. Reasonable, healthy people listen, learn & growThis is my daily vocabulary | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 07:59 AM |
| 2 | I’m so lucky to have my mom (FDS’er by nature). My LV husband keeps using the ‘pity poor little me’ move and this is what my mom wrote me this morning.Your mom is a BOSS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 09:35 AM |
| 5 | Ladies, without FDS I wouldn’t even have considered this one. But we’re together for 6 months now and I can confidently say I found my HVM! 🌹My dog was 4 years old when I adopted him and he’d been in the shelter for over a year because nobody wanted him (because of his age). So you can only imagine how the older puppers are doing. I’m never adopting young dogs ever again | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 09:53 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, without FDS I wouldn’t even have considered this one. But we’re together for 6 months now and I can confidently say I found my HVM! 🌹Haha I agree, humanity did nothing to deserve them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 05:55 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, without FDS I wouldn’t even have considered this one. But we’re together for 6 months now and I can confidently say I found my HVM! 🌹I just googled them and you might be right!!! The body shape, the fluffy tail, ... very similar! What a cute breed!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 05:55 PM |
| 39 | Ladies, without FDS I wouldn’t even have considered this one. But we’re together for 6 months now and I can confidently say I found my HVM! 🌹I only apply for jobs that allow me to take my dog to work! He's our office dog | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 02:21 PM |
| 20 | Ladies, without FDS I wouldn’t even have considered this one. But we’re together for 6 months now and I can confidently say I found my HVM! 🌹He’s a rescue from Romania so no official breed! His body is built like a Corgi, long torso and short legs, but he’s serving shepherd face :D | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 12:14 PM |
| 13 | Ladies, without FDS I wouldn’t even have considered this one. But we’re together for 6 months now and I can confidently say I found my HVM! 🌹He’s a rescue from Romania so no official breed! His body is built like a Corgi, long torso and short legs, but he’s serving shepherd face :D | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 12:14 PM |
| 1 | 4 ways women can test a guy to see if he is serious / FDS MINDSET TO A TAw thank you so much! And don't worry about it, I didn't take it personally at all. Also, good luck with the surgery!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 08:09 AM |
| 4 | 4 ways women can test a guy to see if he is serious / FDS MINDSET TO A TFair point and I agree! English isn’t my 1st language so sometimes I fail at picking up or communicating certain nuances. I will edit my comment so nobody gets misinformed— if you have recommendations on how I could word it better feel free to share! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 06:34 PM |
| 6 | 4 ways women can test a guy to see if he is serious / FDS MINDSET TO A TI did, in a separate reply | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 11:50 AM |
| 32 | 4 ways women can test a guy to see if he is serious / FDS MINDSET TO A TCliffs Ask him what he's looking for. This is best done before anything turns sexual. Also don't act cute or flirty when you're asking. The only valid answer should be one where he unambiguously tells you he wants a relationship. Say no to sex and be ambiguous about when he might expect it. You should know where things are going with the guy before you sleep with him. Set guidelines for the type of communication you prefer. Ask him to call instead of texting because you think texting is kinda la… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 11:49 AM |
| 40 | And to think, I used to consider merely having a bookshelf a green flag 🤦♀️Also any hotep book, so watch out for books about the Nubians/Ancient Egypt etc. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 10:09 AM |
| 8 | And to think, I used to consider merely having a bookshelf a green flag 🤦♀️Came in here to say this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 10:08 AM |
| 99 | Welcome to the other side, sis. This ex friend decided to badmouth me behind my back, because I have standards and started to talk about them. A while later she sent me this apology. Better late than never, I guess.People really hate it when other people have higher standards than themselves because you're holding up a very uncomfortable mirror to them. It's nice she was able to overcome her ego, that's pretty rare actually. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 10:07 AM |
| 54 | I Keep Drifting Into Meaningless Flings. Giving up on dating/guys.Yeah no strings attached casual flings can seem great as a concept but it's never how reality turns out. For most men basic respect seems to be one of those strings unattached so the sexual gratification usually quickly becomes outweighed by the lack of human decency. However, we are all 100% responsible for our own feelings and reactions so I think the guy was problematic but not THE problem-- it was you being unable to quit the situationship as soon as you felt this wasn't emotionally fulfilli… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 07:11 AM |
| 2 | Another badass FDS anthem for y'all. This one's to commemorate all the LVM we turn down.Thank you!!! Yeah the way I interpreted is she got fucked over by the men from her previous label and now she's more famous bc 'Money' blew up on the internet they're hitting her up again but she's like hell naw and she doesn't want any men managing her ever again-- she grew up in a matriarchy with single women raising her so she learned she doesn't need men anyway. So basically it's about turning down labels (I think) but it may as well be about turning down ain't shit men haha It has so many F… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 05:15 AM |
| 1 | Since FDS... I’ve been unable to trust men. ANY man.Unfortunately I agree with you. It's sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 08:54 AM |
| 2 | Since FDS... I’ve been unable to trust men. ANY man.Thanks for the secret advice :D and sharing your story. A lot of it resonates and I stopped taking birth control and all that too. It's comforting to know my situation isn't that uncommon. I was about to say it's slim pickings for queer women but it's no different with men now that I think of it. The pont just seems bigger but very few quality fish out there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 08:38 AM |
| 3 | Since FDS... I’ve been unable to trust men. ANY man.Can I ask you about your journey? Because I feel like I may be bi but it is so difficult for me to explore. I'm 100% demisexual and I never catch feelings before I have deliberately opened myself to that possibility and a certain trust bond has been established. I've had a few small crushes on women in high school, my first sexual experience was with a girl, I exclusively watched lesbian porn up untill a few years ago, and have always fantasized about being in a relationship with a woman. Howeve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 07:34 AM |
| 1 | Since FDS... I’ve been unable to trust men. ANY man.Hahaha amaaaazing description!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 07:13 AM |
| 1 | Since FDS... I’ve been unable to trust men. ANY man.I LOL'd so hard at this!! That's what it is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 07:12 AM |
| 2 | Since FDS... I’ve been unable to trust men. ANY man.Yeah that's why I deliberately didn't use the word 'relationship' because I don't even know if that's really what I want or if it's just my programming, if that makes sense. It's more the feeling I'm chasing, that kind of intimacy. But I'm not ready to compromise for someone again or put my healing in jeopardy and I don't know if I ever will be. My attitude of not wanting a relationship feels like it's becoming more permanent every day and I think that's what scares me. I want to want it, but I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 07:09 AM |
| 1 | A book EVERYONE HERE should readI forwarded this thread to some male friends of mine and said: "it can't be that bad, right?" and they were like no it really is that bad. Like that's exactly how we think :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 02:55 PM |
| 3 | Doing my best to internalize this when reminiscing of how 'nice' they are in the beginning.Where I am street harassment has gotten worse actually. Can't leave the house with bare legs anymore without at least 3 cars honking at you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 09:39 AM |
| 5 | Doing my best to internalize this when reminiscing of how 'nice' they are in the beginning.I've heard a lot of similar stories. Hope you don't blame yourself in any way. Hugs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 09:38 AM |
| 33 | Stop playing games if you’re looking for character. Character is consistency. Players are the sum of their cards. By definition they have no character. Don’t be fooled.I'm not letting my guard down too early. Call it playing games or having a facade, but I just have benefited more from being cautious and even being a bit more calculated because it helps you weed out narcissists and i'm prone to attracting them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 11:57 AM |
| 16 | My friend is seeing a guy who keeps sanitary pads at his house for his female friends and she thinks this is a HVM traitReally good point! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 07:08 PM |
| 9 | My friend is seeing a guy who keeps sanitary pads at his house for his female friends and she thinks this is a HVM traitThat's what I was thinking!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 07:07 PM |
| 18 | My friend is seeing a guy who keeps sanitary pads at his house for his female friends and she thinks this is a HVM traitwait whaaaat | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 07:07 PM |
| 36 | My friend is seeing a guy who keeps sanitary pads at his house for his female friends and she thinks this is a HVM traitI don't know if this makes a different to you, but she didn't discover this because she went to his house. She discovered it because he told her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 05:12 PM |
| 6 | Is there a way to recover from oversharing in the earliest stages? + I need help dissecting some red flagsAw thank you, this is what I was about to say. It takes some growth to be able to trust your own instincts (well for me at least) and I’m not completely there yet. So I’m so happy I have this community as a soundboard. If it wasn’t for you guys I’d probably would’ve kept entertaining this mess | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 06:52 PM |
| 14 | Is there a way to recover from oversharing in the earliest stages? + I need help dissecting some red flagsYou’re right. Blocked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 12:57 PM |
| 37 | Is there a way to recover from oversharing in the earliest stages? + I need help dissecting some red flagsYou are right. My pickme brain did that thing where you just waltz around the big red flag aka the racial thing in this case. Apparently I needed someone else to point it out to me and you and this other commenter did that. I blocked him effective immediately, thanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 12:56 PM |
| 6 | Is there a way to recover from oversharing in the earliest stages? + I need help dissecting some red flagsThank you for your well formulated comment! I think I’m doing ok in regards to your 2nd and 3rd bullet point but your comment made me realize there’s still tons of work 😅. I don’t think I was oversharing to display some type of value because while I was doing it I was very aware of the fact that the info could harm my personal brand. But yes it is definitely interesting to dive into what my motivations were behind the oversharing. I think I wanted to make him feel more comfortable with his own o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 11:22 AM |
| 2 | What’s your enneagram?I’m a 7w2 & Entertainer | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 07:06 AM |
| 2 | Five star laziness is what I’m calling it now...he suggested drinks for a date.The scrotacity | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 05:08 PM |
| 1 | TherapyDBT & CBT | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 04:42 PM |
| 1 | I need some outside perspectives on this situation with my bossAgree with everything you just said. I’m sorry had to go through all that at work. Thank you for sharing. It’s not my first time either— the country manager (45ish) from my previous workplace was hitting on me hard, constantly staring at me and blaming me for him not being able to focus on work anymore, blaming me for his relationship going to shit, and whatnot. Eventually I left because I was sick of him and the company and had been offered a job that was wayy more exciting. Even after I left, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 06:23 PM |
| 2 | I need some outside perspectives on this situation with my bossFortunately I don’t feel special nor do I secretly want a relationship with him. The flirtatious vibe I got was just... a vibe. At one point he came to sit next to me to show me something on his laptop and that’s when I noticed the slightly longer eye contact etc. We have similar ideas and interests, similar views and the more we talked the more those similarities surfaced and I could tell it really excited him. But nothing flirtatious was being said, his colleagues were in the room. He’s also n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 05:42 PM |
| 3 | I need some outside perspectives on this situation with my bossSome poster just posted an article about it. The method really makes sense. Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 05:26 PM |
| 3 | What is Grey Rock and how to use it to shut down creeps, abusers and narcs. *Text in the notes.Thanks!! I just came out of my own thread and this method was mentioned a lot to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 01:22 PM |
| 1 | I need some outside perspectives on this situation with my bossI see you’re assuming I’m younger than you in your mid twenties and he’s way older than me. But I’m 27 and he’s 28 or 29. So I think you’re maybe imagining a different dynamic— we’re very much on 1 foot in terms of assertiveness and intelligence, he’s not banking on my naivety. Doesnt make it more acceptable though. His youngest child is 1,5 so I really despise what he’s doing. I read The Rules actually!! I’ll try to pick up the other ones. Haven’t read those. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 01:18 PM |
| 1 | I need some outside perspectives on this situation with my bossWill do. Thank you for your nuanced and considerate comment! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 01:11 PM |
| 2 | I need some outside perspectives on this situation with my bossEw I’m so sorry you had to experience that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 01:08 PM |
| 2 | I need some outside perspectives on this situation with my bossVery valuable advice thank you. I don’t live in a 2 party state lol. We don’t have HR. We’re 10 people, 8 guys and 2 women including me. They’re all developers, coders and designers except for my boss. He’s the owner and he’s HR, finance, accounting, management all in 1 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 01:07 PM |
| 0 | I need some outside perspectives on this situation with my bossI expressed myself poorly on that one. I meant that he was also private & commited to his wife and family. I don’t consider him a HVM but I did consider the others being one because of all the things they do for their wives (buying them gifts just because, being super involved in wedding planning, being very considerate with their parents in law, travelling to random countries to visit them etc) and how they are talking about their wives and how they are with me. But as I previously said in this… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 01:04 PM |
| 1 | I need some outside perspectives on this situation with my bossThank you I will do that and i think im going to put my microphone on on my phone whenever i have to be in a car with him again I never dated ANYONE at my workplace even in the places where this was basically the culture. I wholeheartedly agree with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 01:03 PM |
| 3 | I need some outside perspectives on this situation with my bossThank you for your perspective!! As for the HVM thing I think I worded that poorly. I meant that he was also private & commited to his wife and family. I don’t consider him a HVM but yeah I did consider the others that because of all the things they do for their wives (buying them gifts just because, being super involved in wedding planning, being very considerate with their parents in law, travelling to random countries to visit them etc) and how they are talking about their wives and how they … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 01:01 PM |
| 1 | I need some outside perspectives on this situation with my bossI think that might be the case but I’m on the fence because of the job interview. I feel like he’d be ashamed of being that guy fucking the new colleague because I feel like this would make the office turn on him & he’s very concerned about his image and doing everything “correctly” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 12:54 PM |
| 2 | I need some outside perspectives on this situation with my bossThank you, can you recommend some places to find out more about this? Or should I just google? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 12:51 PM |
| 5 | I need some outside perspectives on this situation with my bossI’m only 1 or 2 years younger lol but I follow your line of thinking. I’m glad you guys don’t downplay it like my friends do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 12:50 PM |
| 1 | I need some outside perspectives on this situation with my bossI think I expressed myself poorly. I meant that he was also private & commited to his wife and family. I don’t consider him a HVM but I did consider the others that because of all the things they do for their wives (buying them gifts just because, being super involved in wedding planning, being very considerate with their parents in law, travelling to random countries to visit them etc) and how they are talking about their wives and how they are with me. But you’re right it’s probably way too ea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 12:49 PM |
| 3 | I need some outside perspectives on this situation with my bossI don’t really feel like I’m really turned on. It’s like when overcoming addiction, your body wants one thing but your mind wants something else. It was a purely physical reaction and I have not been fantasizing about being with him. I would never date someone with kids that are not mine, testing the waters with other chicks while still being married, hitting on employees etc. I never stooped that low nor will I do now. Yes I am starting the grey rock thing effective immediately. Just found out … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 12:43 PM |
| 15 | Absolute CRETIN cum-brain husband literally poisons his wife with his own SHIT because of his fetish. Men are literal animals and I have no wordsOnly sligtly related but a friend of mine’s ex boyfriend was a chef who always refused to cook for her. Then one day he surprised her with a full 3 course dinner, she was over the moon thinking he’d become a changed man. After they broke up a friend of his told her he cooked for her because he contracted chlamydia from cheating on her & he mixed the anti chlamydia pills with her dinner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 02:35 PM |
| 13 | european ladies; where are you from and at what places can you meet HVM?I’m from Belgium and have lived in Amsterdam, NL as well. In BE marriage is perceived as ‘an outdated institute’ by MANY people. ‘Do you ever want to get married’ is a common question, it’s not a given. So if you date a Belgian man you should ask the guy about his opinions on marriage asap. Belgians are VERY relationship minded though. I don’t know many people past the age of 27 who’re still single except maybe in the bigger cities. There’s a lot of rich men in Brussels but I don’t know if I wou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 04:15 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone else feel like most men have a predatory stare?Yes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 09:41 AM |
| 17 | Vietnamese women shutting down sexpat losers on OLDThese men are degenerates. Disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 04:18 PM |
| 1 | 😖😖😖These guys will never bang a chick as gorgeous as Margot Robbie. They wish | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 04:13 PM |
| 26 | I stumbled upon this and have never given thought to this before, but daamn did I overestimate my physival strength compared to that of a man.Jiu jitsu is a great sport to learn. It is truly a sport where the tiniest, weakest person can still win. Krav maga is great too. You really learn how to touch the weakest spots of the body to immobilize your opponent | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/20 02:25 PM |
| 6 | Finally leveling up after 27 yrs of LVM.Thank you so much sis ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/20 01:50 PM |
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