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Some of these comments are kinda ridiculous tbh. Obviously this is one scenario but there are many in which you can make a man wait for sex until you’re exclusive. It doesn’t have to be five months, it can feel and be different for everyone. I didn’t even want to kiss until we were exclusive lol. My now fiancé tried giving me a kiss and I pulled away and said I don’t do this with people im not in a relationship with! And he laughed and said of course he wanted to be in a relationship with me. An…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/26 02:30 AM
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Thank you so much. You’re so right! That’s the scary bit too I think, having a job and operating all on my own, no advisor or anyone to really guide me that’s rooting for me there. He’s always expressed loving my company and I genuinely don’t think he feels smothered but that could be our codependency talking from both ends LOL. Thanks again, you’ve given me a lot to chew on. 🙏💖💖💖
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/26 04:48 PM
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I think the hugest hurdle right now is the anxiety over money then it all spirals from there. I haven’t had any actual friends in years, even prior to dating him, my best friend moved states and I never put in any effort to make new ones. I think that’s part of my issue too. ☹️ Thank you so much for your words. I have to remind myself this is all for a better good, not anything negative as much as my whole entire body is screaming in panic haha!
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/26 04:45 PM
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Ah God bless you for this reminder. I really, really cannot stress enough how much I needed to read this. 😭💖💖 The uncertainty is drowning me and I’m trying hard to stay afloat, so this is a beautiful reminder. Thank you so much for the warm wishes, I pray the same for you!
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/26 04:42 PM
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HUGE no. Plain and simple. Yes, you’ve been dating a short time, but this is also the time when you set the precedent. Also, he hasn’t known her for that long either. A friendship of 1 year? Meaning when he was with his ex, there was all this drama over a girl he met right around the same time as her? Think about that…why was he prioritizing a friend he just met over the woman he’s dating? AND doing it again! If this was a lengthier friendship I’d be more understanding but it’s very concerning h…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/24 06:11 PM
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Thank you for the breakdown! I really need to master this because I’m just coming off as accusatory, my thoughts/insecurities get the best of me. I don’t know how to just be lighthearted about it lol.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/24 03:05 AM
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How could I successfully do this? I think this is what I really failed at yesterday lol. I tried to play it off jokingly but I came off more accusatory. Today I saw he added her as a friend in their group and that really irked me too but I don’t want to build resentment or have her painted as desirable/forbidden fruit due to pushback.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/24 02:46 AM
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Yes definitely - he really wants me to stay with him instead! But he lives in Tijuana, Mexico (I live in San Diego) so itd definitely put a halt on job searching (which he has said it’s no problem since he doesn’t want rent but id like to have the option to work), he lives in a 2br and I’d share a room with a 5 and 11 year old, I don’t drive over there so I’d be stuck inside all day. I don’t want to depend on others to go to the store and such, feels like id be regressing…lots to think about.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 06:19 PM
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He was planning on proposing last week (he has the ring) but I told him to wait a bit so I can get back home and sort some stuff out, so if I were to move in he’d propose soon! I would love to move in with him, I love him and want to start our life together. I’m just a little hesitant because I don’t want to upset my dad haha.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 04:11 PM
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We definitely spoke about marriage long before my home situation got worse. We love each other very much and can’t see our lives without each other, he already has a ring ☺️. We want to get married but compromised on being engaged and living together since we want to save getting married for when we have enough money for a small ceremony with friends and family.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 04:41 AM
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This resonates deeply within me as well but couldn’t have worded it as beautifully, thank you ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/23 03:16 AM
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I second this completely, not married but I think my boyfriend is the most handsome guy alive. I am completely smitten by him! I always tell him how cute he is and I’m waiting for an “enough!” one day lol. His personality and how he treats me definitely increase my attraction as well.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/23 07:16 PM
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That’s really disrespectful in my opinion, not only viewing but saving? It’s time for a talk about what you both deem inappropriate in a relationship. Porn is so normalized that most people just take it as a given that it’ll be watched.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/23 02:06 AM
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I share similar sentiments to other commenters here. I also have no respect for men who watch porn and find it to be degenerate behavior tbh. If they’re single, I can understand it a LITTLE bit more but overall I still think it is one of the hugest red flags for me. The porn industry is horrible and the whole thing adds to our sex-crazed society. If a taken man watches porn I think that shows zero self-control and no respect to who they’re with. More likely to cheat too because their lust overco…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/23 11:00 PM
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Perfectly stated. There are things that you can have healthy disagreements on, but can you truly trust a man to take the lead on subjects that you wildly differ on? I personally would not be able to ever fully trust him and that would definitely cause some constant turmoil in me.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/23 01:52 AM
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Aww this is so so sweet. 🩷
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/23 05:55 PM
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I completely agree with all of the comments here so far. The second someone starts lying to you over things they could’ve simply been honest about: RUN. Sadly, not everyone is mature enough to communicate better and understand that it’s ok to be wrong at times and learn from it. From what you’ve shared he has little respect for the relationship if he’s actively seeking other women. It is no use to attempt to build a solid foundation with someone whose already showing huge red flags and cracking …
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 05:22 PM
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A crazy ex gf story 😭 Love that reference hahaha her stories really are insane
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/23 09:57 PM
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I am so sorry you’re going through this but please, do not waste ANY more time with this man. He has shown you numerous times where his intentions lay and how little respect he has for you and your relationship. It sounds like you have this idealized version of him in your head that doesn’t actually exist. I know it is hard to let go but if you don’t you’ll be stuck wasting your time on someone who hasn’t appreciated you and holding you back from meeting someone who will (cause trust me - he is …
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/23 07:08 PM
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I’m completely against it because I find it disrespectful and gross. However, I am also aware that porn has unfortunately been heavily pushed on children since a young age and I know it is hard to find a man who does not watch it. It is soooo normalized. I’ve kind of come to terms with whoever I’m with will be a watcher even though it totally gives me the ick lol. Don’t know if it’ll eventually become a dealbreaker - I guess it’s all circumstantial depending on the man and how porn has affected …
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/23 01:05 AM
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Several things can be true: you aren’t his property, he should trust you, but his feelings towards wanting a girlfriend that is not involved in those scenes are also valid. The concerts thing seems weird to me out of everything. I don’t understand that one. However, the rest seems pretty aligned with a man who does not wish for his girlfriend to be part of places that are filled with men and women trying to hookup with each other. Of course there are people who aren't going to these places for t…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/23 09:56 PM
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Pilates have been amazing for me for this exact reason. You tone up your whole body and strengthen your core without building up too much muscle in unwanted areas. I go to the gym for leg days but leave all upper body to Pilates and I’ve personally had great results in the past. :) Currently jumping back into that groove of things after focusing mainly on weight loss at the gym.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/22 04:36 AM
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I agree with your points, that’s why I usually avoid it but I wondered if I was maybe being too uptight about it. Definitely learned my lesson now though! Thanks for your input. :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/22 04:32 PM
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Yeah I would’ve been incredibly hurt in your shoes as well. It sucks because he’s your first in everything, it’s harder to let go when that attachment is there (especially for women). However, you know what’s even harder? Dealing with all of these negative emotions daily! The waste of energy on overthinking and stressing, all that time that could’ve been much more fruitful. Trust me, the right guy will come along and you’ll be mind blown that you ever settled for someone like this. I also cannot…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/22 03:59 PM
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he acts like total strangers in public???? girl. that is incredibly disrespectful. i understand that you like him but let this be a huge sign that this man is not the one for you. the right man would never make you feel like a stranger, leave you so confused, feeling like you’re losing touch, etc. run run run, please. i completely empathize with you because i also haaaaate wasting my time more than anything. time is so precious and valuable and it is so not worth it losing it on someone like thi…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/22 04:47 AM
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