Need help with dealing with the “forbidden fruit”

ivysaurah · 2024-03-29T00:40:45+00:00

In my experience, for innocent little things like this, I would just openly (in a non dramatic way, making it clear you know it’s irrational) ask for validation. As long as it isn’t a frequent and exhausting experience, I find most men like when their women get a little bit jealous and need validation. It’s healthy to think your partner is so desirable. Just make sure you don’t turn it into a fight, more like a playful and vulnerable conversation.

Repented_n_revised · 2024-03-31T20:30:54+00:00

Honestly? My partner is a very HVM - as in has a 9 figure net worth, is kind and empathetic to women, is a great father, very stable job, strong work ethic, homes on both coasts (has a *house* in NYC/Gramercy) and (in my humble opinion) he is very attractive.

I am no super model. I take care of myself, I eat well, and I am intelligent, but I know that he could do better (physically). The thing? I doubt he could do better intellectually, personality, and home wise. I know I am his home and I am secure in that because I am consistently good to him and treat him like a God (as long as I get the same treatment in return).

When we do have issues, I give him a wide, wide berth to breathe in and address the issue when HE brings it up/IF he brings it up.

Men do not *almost ever* respond to nagging or long texts/speeches. They respond to *energy* and they are very, very tuned into it. If you do not believe me, next time you are in the car with him (and are the passenger) shift your knees to pointing away from him and point your toes away from him. (Toward the door of the car.) He will ask what is wrong within five minutes.

So when you do not like something he does, train him with silence. Let him chase you. Mystery and intrigue. Controversial on this sub, but it sounds like "Why Men Love Bitches" (the book) might be great for you.

Further, if my partner were in this situation and asked "you seem distant are you okay?" I wouldn't break down about how I am nervous about other women, I would state objective facts "You have been spending more energy on your video game lately and I feel neglected." AND THEN CONTINUE TO ACT DISTANT UNTIL HE FIXES THE ISSUE. There is no mention of other women, just a statement of how I feel.

Desperation repulses, mystery pulls them in. The only thing asking him about another women will do is make him think "hmmm if she is jealous this other women must have SOMETHING to be jealous over." You are CREATING mystery for this other woman and creating desperation for yourself.

AutoModerator · 2024-03-28T23:25:45+00:00

Title: Need help with dealing with the “forbidden fruit”

Author pinkparadigm

Full text: My fiance and I have a great relationship overall, he never gives me any reason to be jealous.

However, recently he’s joined back into this group of friends he has online and plays a video game with them. He’s been absent for a while and in his absence they added two new girls to their group so they all play together.

Well..I’ve been feeling REALLY jealous for a variety of reasons. The main being I feel jealous he’s spending his time playing with her and his friends vs spending time with me. I feel like he’s choosing to spend time with her instead of me which I know isn’t rational thinking. But hearing him address her really irks me lol. The game they play is really relaxed so it’s mostly them chit chatting about random things with a few game stuff sprinkled in. Secondly, I got a glance of her (everybody has their webcam on) and she’s actually really pretty which makes me feel even worse. Now whenever he makes jokes with his friends I feel like he’s trying to make her laugh.

I know all of this is irrational but I couldn’t help but make a comment (or two…) about it yesterday and I instantly regretted it because I don’t want him to feel like this has to be secretive or have her as forbidden fruit. How can I handle this situation, my feelings?

On the plus side, I’ve met one of his friends and in their call yesterday his friend referred to me as “fiancé’s Brazilian supermodel girlfriend” and my boyfriend replied “yep she’s a supermodel!” which was sweet lol. However I’m still internally going crazy because I really feel like I went into the forbidden fruit territory and want to backtrack. :(

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Purified-water2020 · 2024-03-29T01:04:43+00:00

Slightly unrelated , I’ve been in multiple online friend groups and non of them turn their cams on, im jealous , I must be missing out

Sea-Contract-447 · 2024-03-28T23:39:32+00:00

What’s preventing you from playing with them?

Title	Need help with dealing with the “forbidden fruit”
Author	pinkparadigm
Upvotes	21
Comments	11
Date	March 28, 2024 11:25 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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