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Thanks for the recommendation! I love the FDS podcast but it’s not enough for me haha! If anyone has any similar recommendations I would love to hear about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 01:47 PM
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So I guess it’s normal if my employer adds a mandatory bj in the contract before the morning meeting. SeX wOrK is work 💀 /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 08:29 PM
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What do you mean by men in wigs?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 04:41 PM
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Exactly! I read the post and wondered what the issue is lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:37 PM
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This ideology they preach is so damaging and every time I think about this libfem idea it angers me. Why? Because I feel so damaged being raised with this idea and doing different types of sex work myself. Also feeling like everything is my responsibility, providing men with sex, providing men with understanding, providing men with emotional labour. I am exhausted from having heard this my entire life and also feeling like I need to fight to receive any of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 01:27 PM
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Awesome! Thank you ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 11:51 AM
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Do you mind sharing some of the mental health YouTube channels that were helpful for you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 09:12 AM
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Yes! I am also working on expanding my social life and would love to read about someone else’s journey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 08:55 AM
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Sorry for sounding bitter but I do feel like congratulations is not in order here. True, Netherlands is a progressive country as most European countries try to be I guess. Racist songs that I grew up with are no longer okay but racist jokes are still very common, though more people frown upon it now. We are starting to look more critically at Dutch history and people are speaking up more and more even though they might get death threats. Being a woman in a “big” city in this country is very diff…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 10:15 AM
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Your last sentence really hit me. It is so painful when a parent doesn’t choose your safety and well-being and I am sorry you have to live with that feeling. Hope you are doing well and sending you love ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 08:35 AM
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It’s interesting that you bring up Scandinavia. I am from the Netherlands but my mom is Nordic and this is a conflicting thing for me sometimes because I do feel a culture clash when it comes to standing up for others. Also so many more women in high tier jobs over there! The interesting thing is that even though she wasn’t the most prominent person in my life growing up, I do feel more connected to the communication style of her country. And when I meet with my cousins we are creepily similar a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 08:21 AM
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Muchas gracias cariño eres muy amable 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 10:11 AM
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Yay FDS is back and I can finally answer! I’m starting with Duolingo and one of my best friends is Mexican so I hope to practice a little with her in the future. Are you also planning to learn Spanish?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 10:04 AM
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Thanks!! I loved making it and every time I see it I feel excited about all my goals. Also posted it to female level up now 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 02:08 PM
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A little while ago I saw a post on this sub of someone’s vision board and it inspired me to make one too! I used their tips to create it by using a collage app and then saving it as the background for my phone. A little explanation of the goals I am working on: Graduating from my university! I am in the middle of writing my thesis and am experiencing some difficulties and lack of motivation but I keep going and looking at my vision board helps me remember what I am working for. Taking driving le…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 01:20 PM
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I agree that all the depraved men posts have opened my eyes to how men actually think and act. It has also turned me off dating completely for the first time in my mature life which is a wonderful thing because I am experiencing the same as you. Massive self care, self love, ambition. But the female oriented posts inspire me greatly! Seeing all this fighting and name calling within the sub makes me scared to lose this awesome community that has given me self esteem and confidence I have never ex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 01:04 PM
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It actually does look very engagement-y lol. I was getting too much unwanted attention from the most scrotey men you can imagine and decided to get something that is very visible to ward them off. I also bought a different vintage ring from the same seller which looks less like a engagement ring but still fancy with beautiful red garnets. The way I chose these rings was by looking at different vintage jewelry sellers on Instagram and kind of deciding what I was looking for and then started using…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 05:50 PM
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I bought myself a 2.1 carat pepper and salt diamond ring. It was a good deal because it was second hand (no bad energy stuck to it, she had it made for her but then decided the stone was too big and got a different ring). This cost me €1600. If I come in a situation where a man wants to buy me a ring it will have to be more special and more beautiful, so a big diamond and some added diamonds on the side would be great and it has to be worth more than the one I bought myself 💅🏻 Added: it also has…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 12:31 PM
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Wow this is so well said 👏🏻👏🏻❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 08:58 PM
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Ewwwww 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 07:29 PM
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It’s so wrong and disgusting on multiple levels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 03:01 PM
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Also disgusting for the mom who probably has no idea this is happening with her pictures. I can imagine she would feel very violated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 03:00 PM
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What’s the limit? 😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 05:03 PM
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Definitely ass-hat but he already knows this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 11:02 PM
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Hahahhaha yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 06:21 PM
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I’m thinking it might also be a boyfriend as he doesn’t even want to sleep in the same room as his gf. Could she maybe be his beard?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 05:30 PM
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I don’t have Twitter so I can’t report but the replies on this tweet make me scared to go outside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 07:22 AM
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Not OP but I get an email when someone replies so I see it before they remove it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 07:18 AM
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Someone is married to this scrote!!!! 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 09:06 PM
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Love your energy! I aspire to be more like you 🤩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 01:05 PM
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Yeah bedroom abuse seems to be normalized now and a lot of women are so traumatized by all the sexual assault that they don’t even see this as a problem/assault anymore (I speak from experience). Great advice!!! How would you start a conversation about this without someone immediately becoming defensive?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 01:04 PM
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Yesss! Would also be a great title for a FDS inspired movie :p
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 12:52 PM
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You are so right! I love that you see it is THEM and not you and that you see your worth! I feel like I am starting to learn this too and finally finding my own power and worth. You and the women on this sub are an inspiration for me to keep going and to keep trying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 12:51 PM
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Wonderfully said!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 12:12 PM
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This could have been me. I once expressed curiosity about BDSM to a guy I was dating and he decided to spontaneously put me in a choke hold from behind on a later moment. I thought I was dying and needed therapy for the ptsd this experience gave me. Even if you don’t die on the spot there is a chance that you get complications later on. Choking is not something to play around with!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 07:57 AM
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Yeah, dated a small chubby guy with a tiny peen (what was I doing?!) and he just kept talking about it and also his IBS 🤢 it was very uncomfortable. Still unlearning the pickme behavior of being too nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 06:50 PM
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I’m curious, I heard the statement on the podcast recently that men with lower voices have bigger dicks. Did any of you experience this? And yes size does matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 05:14 PM
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I still need to learn to trust this feeling but you are so right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 02:54 PM
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Thank you so much! That is such an inspiring answer ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 06:29 PM
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May I ask what ended the relationship? I have only had terrible abusive exes so I’m curious what it’s like when that’s not the case. If you don’t want to tell that is completely fine too of course! I’m happy that you had a good experience with a man, it gives me hope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 05:06 PM
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I love it!! This scene played in my head like a movie and made me laugh so loud!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 05:10 PM
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Oh no I love raccoons! This does explain a lot about my past choices..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:38 PM
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Oohf painfully accurate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:35 PM
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Ahahaha love this description!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:25 PM
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Thanks, now I want a claw machine 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:30 PM
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Yesss! I love reading this! Proud of you for seeing your worth ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 06:02 PM
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Yes, it is amazing to find support from other women and have your experiences and feelings validated ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:37 PM
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Above 32 with no kids, never married and an okayish job. Why would anyone even care? I’m not bothering anyone with it lol. Don’t plan to have kids either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 11:28 PM
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It means a lot that I am being understood and heard, it really moves me. Thank you for that. I can’t wait for the moment he will be out of my life completely. Might do some sort of exorcism lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:01 PM
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Thank you, you are so right that it only matters if it benefits him. I will definitely be putting in the work to heal again. The FDS handbook has already helped so much but I feel like I need to study it again to protect and heal myself more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:50 AM
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Looking back there was a lot of manipulation and he definitely put aside my feelings all the time. Or he would say he cared but nothing changed and there was no compromise in the end. Things just went the way that benefited him the most. It’s so strange because everyone thinks (and I used to think this too) that he is this caring and gentle person. But now that I am looking at the relationship in a different light there were so many iffy things. Thank you for your input it really helps me see th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:45 AM
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At first I thought it would be a great experience as I never really dated in my life. But now I also realize it was a pickme way of keeping him in my life. I always thought that if you love someone you would do anything to make it work... combined with very low self worth. My experience was that men saw me as even less than human when they dated me during this time. I was some kind of kinkfleshlight and even had a very bad traumatic experience. That is actually when I didn’t want to continue bei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:39 AM
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You are so right. Till we are completely rid of each other I will only say the bare minimum that is needed. Sadly we have a house together that is being sold right now. Can’t wait till that is done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:34 AM
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I trusted him too much and not my own instinct. And yes he is definitely putting up the my ex is crazy act and now I understand even more deeply how horrible men can be who say this. I think it actually isn’t worth the trouble trying to keep these friends if they aren’t asking me about my side of the story. Thanks for your input it helps me put this more into perspective 🙏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:29 AM
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Thank you sis, this is bringing tears to my eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 09:04 PM
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Thank you so much, it means a lot to me to be able to come into this space and get support from wonderful strong women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 09:03 PM
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You are probably right, looking back it should have ended then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 09:01 PM
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Yes and this makes me so sad. Only recently did I realize that all the men I have dated have also sexually assaulted me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 08:10 PM
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Wtf :o how did he get people to send him money?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:20 PM
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I’m triggered.. I cringe when I think of all the pick me things I used to do and am still unlearning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 01:34 PM
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Yep, I actually got my diagnose for BPD scrapped yesterday (!!) and I think my healing was quickened by FDS and regaining my sense of worth and boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 07:07 AM
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Yepppp
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 11:15 PM
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This is horrible and hilarious at the same time. The collection part got me screaming! Is there a way to see the collection?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 08:30 PM
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On one hand I think the pick me tag is useful and I actually think I am still working on not being a pick me.. looking back I did need the critical voice of someone saying wtf are you doing?! I think we should not consider it as derogatory but maybe more like an affliction that can be helped and like she said be empathetic towards women who have pick me tendencies. But I also understand your point where it seems like putting other women down. I am confused but I think it’s because I’m still lear…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 01:33 PM
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This is such a good explanation to why we need to heal ourselves, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 09:43 AM
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Yess! Got dumped during the pandemic for another woman and I think it’s because I turned into a total pickme as I tried to be caring, attentive and blamed myself for everything at the end of the relationship. Want to get my power back and level up! I feel like FDS is saving me from a life of unsatisfactory relationships and I’m taking this time to reflect and work on myself for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 09:40 AM
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