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Why you didn't open? I guess you came off as creepy to her.
/r/seduction25/11/11 07:03 PM
17

It seems that chasing girls and having sex is become your primary mission. Girls probably feel that you have no direction or purpose in your life. Having an intimate relationship should not be your primary goal. You should have a mission/purpose other than this and bigger than this (unless you want to be a PUA). You should become the warrior that can leave his wife at home to go at war with the risk of never coming back.
/r/seduction16/11/11 05:52 AM
11

Thanks, I need to be kicked in the ass once a week..
/r/seduction13/11/11 10:34 PM
0

Survival. They attracted to who can guarantee it admist adversities.
/r/seduction13/11/11 02:59 PM
2

You need exposure. Go and confront your social anxiety when you feel it but start with small steps. Go around for a walk and set a timer, 1 minute the first time, 5 minutes second time, 10 minutes and so on. Your brain should re-learn gradually that there is nothing to fear.
/r/seduction11/11/11 11:20 AM
1

Honestly, even if in your case it has helped, I think that the blueprint is something to see when you have already reached a relatively stable emotional state. There are no exact recipes to work on core inner game in the blueprint. OP would be better off addressing his depression with cognitive behavioral therapy.
/r/seduction11/11/11 11:16 AM
1

This will be my iPad wallpaper for a while.
/r/seduction10/11/11 10:50 PM
-2

Hey, you can just down-vote if you don't like it. The answer was based in my experience.
/r/seduction04/11/11 06:35 PM
1

Not a PUA here. I think this was due to scarcity mentality: you close as soon as possible and as many HB as possible because you don't know when the next will be. If you are abundant, you have more options open in your head so you don't have any need to rush an existing situation.
/r/seduction04/11/11 06:01 PM
1

Yeah, I've lost 1 hour reading this shit ಠ_ಠ
/r/seduction02/11/11 08:12 PM
3

As a 38yo, I approve this message.
/r/seduction31/10/11 10:01 AM
1

Semi-comical with some bits of truth, especially about girls' self-esteem.
/r/seduction27/10/11 07:36 AM
1

Jesus Christ, that link was great..
/r/seduction26/10/11 04:31 AM
3

Actually, I screwed up at least 2 times with negging (the girls disappeared). I've learnt the hard way to use it very carefully.
/r/seduction25/10/11 07:05 PM
5

Welcome to the jungle
/r/seduction24/10/11 06:52 AM
10

Independence from outcome. here you go.
/r/seduction23/10/11 09:08 PM
1

Is it car pooling? All day game suggestions apply of course. Don't make it evident you are focusing/hitting on her in particular. Just talk to everybody in the car and convey DHV/attraction subtly. Be very subtle.
/r/seduction23/10/11 07:21 PM
7

Upvote for the intent. I can share your experience (I too was isolated until a year ago). Now everyone sees a different 'me'. Keep doing this, keep track of the efforts but don't over analyze them. Frame it like a social experiment, it can even be fun ;-). I have a few personal suggestions which help me in this 'venture': take small steps and enjoy your successes. talk to anybody (for me it is become something that ups my mood, and I am an introvert)
/r/seduction23/10/11 06:30 PM
1

Yeah, I also miss throwaway. If anything, he was older than me :-)
/r/seduction23/10/11 07:35 AM
3

Look, she probably was a drug for you but you wasn't for her, if she is gone away. Try to rationalize it, she is probably seeing someone else without all this drama. Is it worth it? Things we really need: Self-Love: you come before anyone else (except your kids) Lust/Sex: you can satisfy your sexual needs even without a lover Happiness: find happiness in the simple things you do alone Comfort: treat yourself well Security: be financially independent
/r/seduction22/10/11 09:08 AM
4

Solid inner game is when you don't self-sabotage.
/r/seduction21/10/11 06:18 AM
2

Kino during day game is pretty dangerous IMHO.
/r/seduction19/10/11 07:19 PM
1

Book on Body Language. You are welcome.
/r/seduction19/10/11 07:07 PM
2

wow, that's a long ass article
/r/seduction19/10/11 01:13 PM
3

Take it this way: she is wondering about your sexual orientation, because, at least once, she might have thought about having sex with you.
/r/seduction17/10/11 06:58 PM
36

I have to say that you have some fucking balls for the 10 approaches. I whish I had this willpower. Have you considered improving your conversation skills? I've found girlschase.com pretty illuminating for improving convos.
/r/seduction16/10/11 03:36 PM
7

Eventually, most girls choose among those who hit on them (either indirectly attracted through flirting or not). As a man, you can choose who to hit on. Conclusion: we have a much broader set in which to choose our gf/mate/fwb.
/r/seduction16/10/11 02:33 PM
4

Hey, every girl can leave you for another guy.
/r/seduction12/10/11 05:06 AM
5

Maybe you are afraid of success?
/r/seduction10/10/11 09:37 PM
3

libraries, bookshops (books can stimulate discussions) cooking classes, philosophy classes, dance classes, any cultural event cine-forums I am just guessing
/r/seduction10/10/11 02:45 PM
2

No, I think they won't know.
/r/seduction09/10/11 06:42 PM
3

I am on the same page. I'll give you my current understanding of this issue and how one can cope with it. I think that this is due to a fundamental 'core belief'. Deep inside, you may think you are not made/worth or adequate for such a relationship. Core beliefs are the result of our personal history and, unfortunately, they reenforce themselves with time unless a strong action is done to 'restructure' them. One way of restructure this way of thinking is acting 'as if' (it is called here 'fake t…
/r/seduction08/10/11 11:55 AM
6

Drop her, you have better things to do. And do not try to use logic to convince her, either she is very immature or she is seeing someone else. Those texts demonstrate that you are already in the friend-zone.
/r/seduction08/10/11 07:31 AM
2

No. Cancel. She has to reschedule.
/r/seduction07/10/11 07:35 PM
3

She's afraid to lose my friendship if we date/breakup. She'll lose it anyway. So why is she waiting? You seem only like an option here.
/r/seduction07/10/11 09:37 AM
5

Honestly, don't put too much hope on this girl.
/r/seduction07/10/11 05:49 AM
4

Sidebar
/r/seduction07/10/11 04:20 AM
1

Are you serious?
/r/seduction05/10/11 03:02 PM
1

Introduce sexuality it the topics you are discussing. Make her understand that you are a sexual being.
/r/seduction05/10/11 04:22 AM
9

I guess it's a common technique used by sedditors
/r/seduction04/10/11 06:18 PM
14

kino silence and eye contact bring sexual subject but don't brag
/r/seduction04/10/11 07:42 AM
3

Learn, make them your wings. Fuck, I whish I was in the same situation.
/r/seduction04/10/11 07:06 AM
1

Abundance in your mind first. Next!
/r/seduction04/10/11 07:02 AM
1

Hey, I can relate. My suggestion would be just to have fun with whatever activity you may enjoy. Just pump up your mood and try to not to be so centered around getting girls; it seems it is become a sort of validation for you. This may probably impact on your game in subtle ways (like being overly nervous, just saying).
/r/seduction03/10/11 10:27 PM
9

Be unreactive.
/r/seduction03/10/11 10:00 PM
1

Allright, this will be a little harsh: You seem to look for mostly masculine traits (logic reasoning, strong psychological stability, physical reassurance) in women, to trust them 100%. Lot of guys here look for a nerdy girl, who plays video-games just like them and has their own mindset; they are just looking for a 'guy with a pussy'. Femininity is not just having only a pussy, it means a whole lot of a difference in terms of emotional/physical needs. As a man, I feel this characteristics compl…
/r/seduction03/10/11 09:34 PM
2

Awesome. Now, don't wait too long to text her and arrange a date. BTW, I too was in high school when "No rain" came out :)
/r/seduction03/10/11 06:04 PM
1

This should go in askseddit.
/r/seduction03/10/11 10:42 AM
4

I am not as experienced as the other guys in this forum, but I have age on my side. I've seen a lot of girls as you describe, but at the same time I have seen girls who are emotionally stable and faithful (I think they are called high-quality in this forum). They are outside, they probably hide, but they are there. It is a number game, eventually you will find the one. As for drama, I think it is an intrinsic characteristic of females so you have to deal with it.
/r/seduction03/10/11 10:26 AM
10

Nay, you have been too soft. Remember, YOU choose, not her. YOU don't wait. YOU have your own terms. Waiting is for pussies.
/r/seduction03/10/11 07:28 AM
3

Not everyone. I think the commenter is spot-on, look for eye contact.
/r/seduction03/10/11 07:25 AM
1

Have fun; BE the fun!
/r/seduction02/10/11 10:13 PM
0

Girls are like shadows. If you try to get them, they run away. If you run away, they try to get you.
/r/seduction02/10/11 10:09 PM
1

Been there. Open/keep open other options. Act unreactive, as If nothing happened, do not show any resentment; remember, your life is awesome and she has to chase. Almost LJBF though.
/r/seduction02/10/11 02:59 PM
19

How old are you? You can't be there all the time and you should trust your girlfriend. Otherwise you show up too much insecurity, and THAT's a problem.
/r/seduction02/10/11 02:35 PM
2

Move on.
/r/seduction02/10/11 02:32 PM
3

Date on your own terms.
/r/seduction02/10/11 01:42 PM
-1

I am not a hotel The fuck? You just dodged a bullet. This girl seems not stable. Honestly, I wouldn't have responded to her first message. Don't try to clarify things or be passive aggressive. Who knows what was on her mind when she wrote that. I think she was on a serious guilt trip, even if she's in an open relationship.
/r/seduction02/10/11 12:48 PM
7

Look, I relate to some level because I was like you up to last year, and I am much older than you (38). I'll tell you what I have discovered/helped me: your lifestyle may reinforce isolation. Staying at home and playing videogames or watching porn (in my case) reinforces the desire to isolate yourself. Basically, your brain thinks it can satisfy your needs at home and does not push you to go outside to look for real rewards. Porn in particular was really deleterious for me. Low testosterone decr…
/r/seduction02/10/11 08:31 AM
3

A post that everyone in the community can learn from. I think that everybody who submits a post should first ask him-self if it is going to help the community, either directly or indirectly (through its comments). Basically, think to what you can do for the community and not what the community can do for you. This does not rule out questions about one's own game, if enough information/generalization and boundary conditions are described.
/r/seduction01/10/11 08:45 PM
1

For the sake of completeness, how did she turn you down?
/r/seduction01/10/11 04:39 PM
23

Have you ever encountered Last Minute Resistance before? Have a look at the sidebar.
/r/seduction01/10/11 03:48 PM
4

I did things to that girl, no other girl will ever let me do again. ಠ_ಠ
/r/seduction30/09/11 06:29 PM
1

38 here
/r/seduction30/09/11 05:19 PM
16

Sunk Cost Fallacy.
/r/seduction30/09/11 04:08 PM
9

Nay, it is not worth the drama and craziness that may come after.
/r/seduction30/09/11 12:03 PM
1

How did you get her phone number? For conversations, I'd suggest this link.
/r/seduction30/09/11 11:22 AM
2

I am more or less like you; except that I am probably older. I am the first to admit to invest too much at the beginning with a girl only to become disappointed later. First I have to say that seduction/inner game/self-help and cognitive psychology have taught me more in 9 months than psychodynamic therapy in 10 years. My general stance is that you should be always ready to leave, whatever happens and whatever the investment is; whenever boundaries are crossed or simply because you may become di…
/r/seduction30/09/11 10:39 AM
8

One-itis is a delusional stage in which: you consider a specific girl as the only one in the world that can take care of your emotional and sexual needs your investment and expectations exceed by far those of a specific girl. E.g., I am checking every 5 minutes my phone for texts from her, and she is probably fucking another guy at this very moment
/r/seduction29/09/11 09:32 PM
1

Also lets say I did want to just try to sleep with her, what should I have done and when? Man she was all around you. You are not retarded, you fear the success.
/r/seduction29/09/11 07:45 PM
1

You are at the FWB level. Take it as it is, don't make it a big deal; dont count the days. If you did your job well, she'll come back for some.
/r/seduction29/09/11 07:36 PM
2

E S C A L A T I O N
/r/seduction29/09/11 07:27 PM
1

Buy some rare records and get her listen to it
/r/seduction29/09/11 09:38 AM
1

Go radio silence for two days.
/r/seduction29/09/11 07:02 AM
1

Escalate physically. If she complains, freeze and do something else, like checking the mail and play video-games. Lead the fucking game.
/r/seduction29/09/11 06:24 AM
1

Behavioral activation. Find a set of pleasant, rewarding activities and schedule regularly to do them. Everybody has his own set (excercise, learning an instrument, hiking and so on..). [edit: If you can, try to avoid meds; I've solved more with the cognitive behavioral approach than with years of meds]
/r/seduction29/09/11 06:15 AM
2

It is an accentuated form of anxiety that cannot be categorized as AA (because, in fact, you have already approached). Behavioral theory suggests that gradual exposure can eventually solve it. Thus, start with a very small goal (like, 10 seconds for the first 10 approaches - E.g. ask the hour) and increase gradually the time of the interaction (20 seconds for the next 10 etc.). Plan it in advance and make it regular practice.Your primal brain will re-learn gradually that there is nothing to be w…
/r/seduction28/09/11 08:59 PM
5

I lost it here
/r/seduction28/09/11 08:49 PM
1

Props for having won social anxiety in NYC. Keep working on yourself, improving your skills; you will find lot of material here. Gradually, I think you will come out from awkwardness too.
/r/seduction28/09/11 07:58 PM
14

Your job as a PUA is to make them want to sleep with you. Man, this could be the spoken intro of a video-game.. ;-)
/r/seduction28/09/11 07:26 PM
3

A woman has the key of sex for a man. A man has the key of a relationship for a woman. You can see that there is a clear difference in terms of investment, at least in the initial stage. Thus, while I dont justify manipulative behavior from a woman, it is reasonable that they take much more precautions. That said, I think that if they are gaming you, it is a good sign.
/r/seduction28/09/11 07:24 PM
1

I can't, cause that's what I want. Look, I am from the same background. The only thing that I've learnt is that shit happens when you don't care anymore. Women are not looking for romantic guys. They say the do, but in reality they don't. Stop thinking this shit; I think that reading No More Mr. Nice Guy from Dr. Glover would help you a lot.
/r/seduction28/09/11 06:54 PM
1

Hey, things are difficult also for us others, but one thing we just learn here is to be happy with what we are. If you think that sex evolved into a complex issue, then go with a pro, release and restart. Hell, it can even help in developing abundance mentality. Just forget all the romantic issues for the moment.
/r/seduction28/09/11 06:21 PM
2

Confidence, resourcefulness, wit, intent.
/r/seduction28/09/11 02:39 PM
2

You seem already too attached. You can't convince her to go, either she wants it or not. Keep other options open, i.e. abundance mentality. Create attraction by making her chase you, not viceversa.
/r/seduction28/09/11 01:46 PM
2

Whining like a pussy will not change anything. Your issue is not 'game'.
/r/seduction28/09/11 11:04 AM
1

Don't think that who started having sex earlier has a perfect/better life. You are attaching too much value to sex. If you feel your life is miserable, a girlfriend or sex will not make it better.
/r/seduction28/09/11 07:53 AM
2

For the terms, read the sidebar (Kino ~ touch, ONS=One Night Stand, PUA=Pick Up Artist) You will find links to material on physical escalation in this subreddit, keep reading/searching previous posts. Reopen the door when in LJBF? I don't have any magic answer but you will find some interesting views here. Let pass some time, date other girls and don't be too much available to this girl. You have probably shown some lack of confidence or intent that may have changed her mind. It is difficult to …
/r/seduction27/09/11 08:10 PM
2

We played drinking games with my two roommates (who are dating) until 6am. My roommates went to bed, and we went outside to have a smoke. here, at this point you should have been way into kino and physical escalation; the fact that she talked about her ex (and it did not last) may have meant that she was ready for an ONS. Obviously now it's LJBF; I know man, it sucks. Next!
/r/seduction27/09/11 06:51 PM
1

Also, is this actually game or am I just reading into things? Half. You may have successfully created attraction by playing hard to get and exploiting your status, it remains to be seen if you are able to make her qualify, build comfort, and seduce her. Do not assume that these stages will go smooth only because you were able to attract her. In fact, you may screw up things at any moment. As said in other comments, it is also possible that you are playing with her insecurities.
/r/seduction27/09/11 06:46 PM
1

I remember when I saw the first time the Blueprint Decoded in which Tyler Durden was suggesting to take two or three times breath and focus on your nostrils or lungs, just to bring yourself in the moment. At that time I thought it was BS. Now that I am more in secular meditation (relaxation response) I really understand what he meant. Sometimes it helps me to get over some AA.
/r/seduction26/09/11 09:42 PM
1

Keep a copy of all the messages, just in case..
/r/seduction26/09/11 05:58 AM
1

You could work on your body language / sub-communication You could use to your advantage the fact that you are american; you can teach english to chicks in a playful manner. Bitches love learning..
/r/seduction25/09/11 09:17 PM
1

Another issue is, and this has started to concern me, I tend to look at porno alot. Like to where I might be too dependent or even addicted to it. I've tried too, and have, gone for a few days to a week without looking at it or jerking it, I've been doing it once a day for a week now when I said I wouldn't. How much of that is/could be an effect? In my case, it has been one of the major causes of my tendency to isolate. There are several reasons for this; you tend to fulfill your sexual needs at…
/r/seduction25/09/11 06:05 PM
1

Look, if this is stressing you to the point of being depressed or neurotic, it is no more a matter of seduction or inner game but you may need therapy (CBT I would suggest). You have said that you are self isolated. You should identify the behaviors and cognitive processes that keep you stuck in this limbo. Deep inside, you don't want to be like this otherwise you wouldn't be angry. You have to address this neurotic state of things. Although therapy is highly preferable, there may be some self-h…
/r/seduction25/09/11 05:27 PM
8

I guess, you should disqualify yourself before inviting her home, especially if it is the first night. Like, "Let's have a drink/Let's see a movie at my place, and, no, we are not going to have sex. I am not that type of guy." Also, did you try to build comfort before inviting her? You might have gone deep in seduction without building enough assurance that this wasn't going to be a one night stand. Just my few cents. Oh, I too screwed up last week by inviting a girl home, without even making ou…
/r/seduction25/09/11 04:29 PM
1

What age are we talking about?
/r/seduction25/09/11 08:58 AM
4

In reality though, if I ever went to the beach I would stare at the horizon, contemplate eternity, but surely not pick people up on my shoulders. Dont contemplate eternity, it is mental masturbation that pushes you far from others. Indulging in this kind of para-fantasies drains energy and, in the end, it makes you sad. Healthy women, of course, are not attracted by sad guys. Live the present moment.
/r/seduction24/09/11 11:51 PM
2

Awesome Bro. Remember: abundance mentality. Go out and meet another one. I am saying this also to myself. At the end of the day being social pays off, in one way or the other.
/r/seduction24/09/11 06:27 PM
2

Of course, I was implying that I have status (job and age) to use suits, not that it is a practical pick up tool. The general suggestion is to take care of your looks congruently with your personality, age and status. Also, make sure you communicate aestetically that you are a sexually active man (in my case watch and tie but it can be whatever it is congruent with you). Find the right match of colors as if a girl at home had chosen it for you (I guess some pre-selection comes into play here). J…
/r/seduction24/09/11 12:00 PM
3

Bro, I am more or lesa like you. Just a few tips Cut down all communication with her. She is become a negative influence on your life. Dress well and take care of your grooming. This gives some ego boost. Fuck, I am completely AFC and a very average looking guy. Since reading this subreddit I started wearing suits and now girl open me. Small steps, talk to everyone. This will open more opportunities than you might think.
/r/seduction23/09/11 07:42 PM
4

Triangular gazing. Look at her eyes, lips and back to the eyes. If she does the same, kiss. (I guess it was Tyler D. suggesting this)
/r/seduction22/09/11 08:52 PM
4

a girl is either a 0 or a 1 Jeez, turn off that fucking digital computer and get out!
/r/seduction19/09/11 08:24 PM
2

McPhillamy & Levinsohn, Pleasant activities schedule. Go at the end of the paper for the list of pleasant activities. Choose the ones that you like.
/r/seduction19/09/11 12:35 PM
25

porphyry's law n.1: The probability of oneitis is directly proportional to the length of the post.
/r/seduction19/09/11 12:18 PM
3

Sounds like cheap NLP. If you struggle maintaining good mood, try behavioral activation (aka pleasurable activities, google it). They have way more effect on your mood.
/r/seduction19/09/11 06:03 AM
1

what the fuck does that statement mean? it means that she is not for you. What do you want from her? If you want a relationship then forget it unless you completely nullify your sense of reality by adopting her own. And you dont want to do that. Fuck, she is only a girl. Be yourself. If you only want to fuck her, then you will be given a hard time given her background. However, my opinion is that this kind of girls are very insecure. With the right guy, they open up. But, is it worth it?
/r/seduction18/09/11 04:51 PM
4

Dont fucking waste time with religious nuts. I once went out with a girl that was seeing jesus everywhere. I find it impossible to talk to this people.
/r/seduction18/09/11 04:29 PM
1

lets say this is legit I honestly doubt so..
/r/seduction18/09/11 04:21 PM
1

Thanks, I didnt understand the first paragraph. ಠ_ಠ
/r/seduction10/09/11 06:22 PM
15

"If you want to get what you never had, you should do something you've never done". Instead of changing my-self, I am changing my habits. So far I am getting some positive feedback.
/r/seduction14/07/11 08:06 PM
1

Dunno, some months ago I just dated a girl who, during the first date, started to talk about jesus, and how he is everywhere, how she is talking to him and he is talking to her. At one point she said: "we dont see jesus just as we don't see electrical current but he is here" I JUST FREAKED OUT.. There has not been a second date.
/r/seduction10/07/11 08:31 AM
1

Instead of saying "wow that's interesting, I'd love to join you next time you go, give me your number" you basically apologized for not already volunteering and gave up, assuming she wasn't interested. (at that point, your assessment was probably correct) Why he has to fake interest? He shouldn't. He has to keep his own standards. If she does not want to lay with a non religious guy then that's her problem. He has lot of better options. On the other side you are right, sometimes we can be messed…
/r/seduction10/07/11 08:26 AM
1

Hey, you have your own standards and you did what you felt.
/r/seduction10/07/11 08:21 AM
1

When I saw Tyler doing the analogy of the pilot's manual it really cracked me up. It was so funny..
/r/seduction09/07/11 08:31 AM
1

jesus christ, this book is really in another league..
/r/seduction28/06/11 04:05 PM
5

welcome back, Mystery
/r/seduction26/06/11 10:15 PM
2

"Mindfulness" is not necessarily to be indended as a buddhist-only concept (although buddhists have been the first to explore it). It has been integrated as an effective tool in the third wave of cognitive behavioral therapies (ACT, MBCT). edit: links http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Acceptance_and_commitment_therapy http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mindfulness-based_cognitive_therapy
/r/seduction24/06/11 09:44 PM
3

"You are sitting on it, dont you know?"
/r/seduction23/06/11 06:16 PM
0

Happens bro. If you are looking only for fcloses, the girl may understand and enable some protection mechanisms (if she does not want to become an FWB of course). Just be a little bit detached next time. AND HAVE FUN!
/r/seduction23/06/11 12:56 PM
2

Seriously, you are a fucking genius dude
/r/seduction21/06/11 12:34 PM
39

"Hey.. so what are you doing at 7:13 PM on Thursday night?" ...takes notes... [e] Awesome, dude
/r/seduction14/06/11 02:45 PM
8

It's a cheap version of a bootcamp. I somewhat admire this guy. At least he identified his sticking point.
/r/seduction14/06/11 06:43 AM
7

Tyler from RSD suggests to start by approaching girls with the only intent of approaching them. Dont raise the bar at the beginning. Your goal should be to approach; when you got success your "state" gets higher. I guess that the number of "completed missions" (even if very small) can help pump your mood at the beginning.
/r/seduction12/06/11 08:54 AM
3

Fuck, all 15 girls had a boyfriend and went to the concert without him?
/r/seduction12/06/11 08:48 AM
3

Upvote for the nickname and for the encouragement ;-). I am currently at that stage. Thanks.
/r/seduction10/06/11 04:08 PM
2

It has been discussed elsewhere in Reddit. It is a very controversial subject and it seems that there is no strong evidence (in the scientific literature, I mean) supporting the thesis presented on that site. That said, I do not associate with people that jump to the conclusion that this is part of a "conservatives" agenda (or better, Christian fundies agenda) - I am an atheist by the way. My personal experience (and you can find a lot of anecdotal evidence around the internets) is that excessiv…
/r/seduction10/06/11 11:33 AM
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37 here. You are my hero.
/r/seduction07/06/11 07:24 PM
1

what?
/r/seduction02/06/11 04:30 PM
2

I appreciated also the post on "Women and drama": http://www.girlschase.com/content/women-and-drama
/r/seduction01/06/11 08:30 PM
8

There is this this old saying: "Men feel how they dress, women dress how they feel". In my experience, a good dress can provide some ego-boost and temporarily improve your confidence. But there is another, I guess more important, aspect. A man who is able to dress himself well and take care of his looks can sub-communicate autonomy, high self-esteeem, resourcefulness. My few cents.
/r/seduction29/05/11 02:45 PM
2

Then there's unconditional self-esteem where you feel good about yourself just because you exist (zen-like). Or Unconditional Self Acceptance (Rational Emotional Behavioral Therapy)
/r/seduction27/05/11 01:59 PM
3

People respond to social ques and shyness and timidity indicates low social rank and a self admitted tendency to be subordinate and inferior. Social queues make me angry. Maybe 'cues' is better ;) Good point though.
/r/seduction27/05/11 01:54 PM
2

Dont be misled by how Tyler presents his material. I find some points within Blueprint Decoded very similar to A. Ellis Rational Emotional Behaviroal Therapy (that, in turn, influenced CBT). The whole stuff on core confidence is deeply rooted in Unconditional Self Acceptance (a REBT concept). The guy (Tyler) has studied a lot, he is not superficial.
/r/seduction22/05/11 10:23 AM
1

Classy
/r/seduction14/05/11 08:03 AM
2

The line on photoshop at the end is very funny. It could be a nice neg to a girl: "Hey, nice hair, did you use photoshop?"
/r/seduction11/05/11 09:42 PM
2

Instead, this time I'd maintain neutral posture, give a medium amount of eye contact. I tend to prefer this kind of posture too. Especially when in line or at the train station.
/r/seduction02/05/11 07:43 PM
2

I think I saw Style doing this game, am I wrong?
/r/seduction28/04/11 10:28 PM
2

Nice try Richard Gere
/r/seduction28/04/11 10:16 PM
6

Am I done? Yes. And you probably dodged a bullet.
/r/seduction10/04/11 04:48 PM
7

Fuck a girl's mind, and all things good come. This is fucking gold.
/r/seduction20/03/11 10:43 PM
10

Let's create /r/SeductionGems
/r/seduction18/03/11 12:43 PM
3

She was probably a weirdo. I knew a girl who was afraid of being touched even from her boyfriend.
/r/seduction13/03/11 10:44 AM
1

Takes notes...
/r/seduction06/03/11 01:09 PM
0

This. OP, try to repeat this at home then send us an FR.
/r/seduction09/02/11 10:28 PM
1

Are you Keith Richards?
/r/seduction05/02/11 11:39 PM
17

Like a BOSS!
/r/seduction01/02/11 09:54 PM
2

You should go out with women to have fun during the process. At least initially, dont be result oriented, dont go out to prove yourself. That's the worst frame possible.
/r/seduction17/01/11 11:27 PM
10

Forget her and move.on.
/r/seduction15/01/11 11:51 PM
1

Relationship management may be a very different beast from PUA techniques, I guess. Does anybody have interesting links to literature on this subject?
/r/seduction14/01/11 09:44 PM
1

It seems that she is a good candidate for your pedestal.
/r/seduction14/01/11 12:10 AM
3

How to be a value giver? I am interested on the subject.
/r/seduction14/01/11 12:05 AM
7

So, Y U HERE?
/r/seduction09/01/11 10:25 PM
3

This. Enjoy the journey, dont be stressed by the goal. That should make you much more confident.
/r/seduction06/12/10 12:29 AM
2

You may want to consult a pro who is in the behavioral/cognitive field. You've already identified the repetitive thoughts that inhibit you and that is a very important step. Maybe the issue is much more related to a mechanical thinking pattern than to an actual self-esteem problem.
/r/seduction06/12/10 12:15 AM
1

I'd start with basic kino and see the response..
/r/seduction05/12/10 06:36 PM
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Quantum reality? Enough with pseudo-science here..
/r/seduction05/12/10 06:29 PM
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