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Great post. As a guy that is going through divorce right now, it is good to hear that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/17 11:16 PM
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Man > woman = child
/r/askTRP24/02/17 03:11 PM
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2gunsgetsome made some great points. It's not the pussy that is different, it is everything that surrounds it. The chase as well. Believe me, it is a great feeling when you find another to take interest in you, especially after having oneitis for so long. I was in a similar situation as you. I was quick to jump on the new freedom that I had and plated 2 rather quickly. I didn't do the proper vetting though. Drama quickly popped up and I dropped them both. It was then that I realized it was nothi…
/r/askMRP23/02/17 04:02 PM
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Anything more to add or is the best you can offer up? At least explain your touretts outburst.
/r/askMRP30/01/17 11:01 PM
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I take nothing on here personally if it needs to be said. I expect responses to be blunt and harsh.
/r/askMRP27/01/17 05:56 PM
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No, I don't think I have my shit together. I said in my post that I know that I have months or even years before I am where I want to be. Won't these relative comparisons be made regardless? Won't women always have a comparison to make? Even once I have my shit together, I suspect that I will be compared to the last best thing she had, whomever that may be. Hell, my STBXW left me for a violent sex offender against children. I suppose I must be a really shitty person (in her eyes) for this to hap…
/r/askMRP27/01/17 03:23 PM
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If you truly don't give a fuck, take her back. How much self-respect are you willing to loose for HER to be happy? I played this game with my wife. I even did the open marriage thing briefly and also started to see others. In the end though, the trust had been broken. I suppose trust is high on my list for a value added woman. I was not willing to change what I felt was valuable to me. Most of this happened before I even found this sub. I had no issues finding younger and hotter women than my wi…
/r/askMRP23/01/17 10:02 PM
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I will not make him feel like it is his fault. Sure, he may have done some beta shit that led her in that direction, but he did not tell her to cheat. That is on her. This is how I feel about my situation as well. I was shocked that he had already kicked her out. Not a move I would have expected from him.
/r/askMRP19/01/17 10:13 PM
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No pun intended (or pun intended), but RM was the only book that started to rationalize things for me. It was the starting point for my unplugging. It allowed for a why and then I was able to move on to a how.
/r/askMRP19/01/17 05:10 PM
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I will wait a couple of months before I do anything. I know his mind isn't right at this moment to absorb anything. Hell, I had to read most of the books 2-3 times before they started to sink in. The mental barrier of beta is strong. It's a funny thing though, one day the shit starts to click. Not all of it. Just a little at a time. It then allows the brain to open up wider to accept more.
/r/askMRP19/01/17 03:40 PM
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*Ever notice when a guy who runs all the time walks into the room? That's okay, no one else did either.* I will be sure to use this one on him when I tell him to lift. He might get a little but hurt, but fuck it. We have almost 30 years of joking with each other. I was not at all suggesting that he doesn't need to lift. I was just saying he is coming at it from a better starting point than most.
/r/askMRP19/01/17 03:25 PM
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I can tell you that he is through with her. His family, especially his brother will push him in the direction of divorce. He has already kicked her out of the house. The only thing I can see going badly is the potential for being divorce raped, but his own background in law should help with that. This shit just happened over the weekend and he has already filed a shit load of paperwork. He has also deposed most of her friends, family and the "Chad" as his witnesses to any legal proceedings. I gu…
/r/askMRP19/01/17 02:58 PM
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That makes sense. I will point him towards NMMNG. He will benefit from the message in that book greatly. I have read most of the sidebar plus some others not listed. In my case, RM was the most helpful in realizing the almost "scientific" reasoning behind my situation. It also gives the cold, hard truth. I also started into the sidebar knowing that I was not going to be married in the next year, so I have been looking at the material as a single guy. There was nothing for me to fix in terms of a…
/r/askMRP19/01/17 01:45 PM
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He is one and already has a list of friends and colleagues that he is meeting with. He will have it locked down real quick from her being able to find a lawyer that is close to where they live.
/r/askMRP19/01/17 11:25 AM
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Do you think Rational Male is too much too soon? Personally, this book opened my eyes to the world we live in as males. As I mentioned, NMMNG is a sure thing for him. My buddy has the body thing down. He is a runner that hits weights a couple of times a week. It has been like that since he was 12. He did this to train for many sports that he played. Other friends used to call him "the ab."
/r/askMRP19/01/17 11:23 AM
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He knows and understands my situation with my STBXW. He asked me what I did to get through the situation. I told him I've been focusing on me with out going into detail. I do think he would be open to suggestions from me as he does have a level of respect towards me.
/r/askMRP19/01/17 03:45 AM
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Thank you for this informative and inspirational post.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/17 04:12 AM
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TFA, thank you for this post. The timing was perfect. This is the first Christmas I have been away from my kids for most of it. It was inspiring to say the least.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/12/16 11:05 PM
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This is true. Even though I don't know any of you personally, I look at you guys as brothers in arms as well as mentors. Again, I can't vocalize (type) what this sub has done for me. I have been able to create an entirely new outlook on life after being in a dark place. Friends have your back. You all have my back. Thank you. If this sub ever gets to a point of being "PC" or nice, I will feel let down. I have a long way to go yet. I am hoping to rely on the honest words of you guys to let me kno…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/16 04:08 AM
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Sure, the first time or two I was pissed at the ball busting. I realized it was needed. I expect more in the future. I've coined these jabs friendly bitch slaps. If I'm acting like a bitch, I expect to be called on it. The advice that follows these bitch slaps has changed my world. I appreciate all of it more than I can say in words. There are a few guys that respond to posts with "faggot" and nothing else. I will call them out. If you have the balls to call me a faggot, back it up with intellig…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/16 01:38 AM
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"Well...I bet Jenny has DSLs."
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/16 07:49 PM
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I saw this on the front page as well. The first thing that came to my mind was her not being able to figure the puzzle out and breaking it in the process. When she finally gets to the ring she holds it and says "What, you didn't go to Jared." I pictured him standing there with steam coming out of his ears and a caption box that read "You ungrateful bitch." I hope it works out for the guy. He certainly put a lot of work into the proposal. Hopefully she is grateful (but I doubt it.) He is very tal…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/16 07:14 PM
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I get it. I was at a conference about a month ago. After the long day of meetings I went out for drinks with a couple of the guys. During the evening, one of the guys threw around some terms I knew were exclusive to rp. I didn't mention it, but I began to see this person in a whole new light.
/r/askMRP20/12/16 02:48 AM
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OP, I commend you for making this choice now. I don't know your age, but you seem young. I'm 36 and just recently becoming single. I've never been single. I was 16 when I met my stbx. I understand the nervous part. After 20 years, it is an entirely new world. The world is your oyster. Treat it as such. If I can drop the nerves, anyone can. Believe me, it feels weird having the nerves of a teenage boy when you are almost 40.
/r/askMRP20/12/16 01:36 AM
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By all means, please don't make any moves until you know for sure things are over or at least not getting better. It is difficult with children involved. In my case I hesitated too much because of the kids. I feel like they could read this even as young as they are. Once I changed my thoughts on her and the marriage, I have had better relationships with them. I guess my priorities changed. Once the mental drain of dealing with her and the bs that surrounded her was lifted, I was able to see the …
/r/askMRP20/12/16 12:08 AM
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Why, because a piece of pussy landed on his dick. It was thrown at him.
/r/askMRP19/12/16 10:54 PM
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She did have me fooled. It's one of those situations where I wish I could shake the shit out of here and tell her to wake up. Ideally the legal process will do this though. If not, she will soon realize (maybe) what she is doing to the kids. This will be for her to figure out though. I will no longer spell it out for her.
/r/askMRP19/12/16 02:21 PM
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OP, IMO I would take the job with the MIL. Whatever the job is, make sure you are the best at it. Learn the ins and outs. I know it might not be your ultimate career choice, but you never know what opportunity way present itself while there. You may end up being able to utilize your IT skill set within her company or with someone related to her company. I own my own company, but I don't know jack shit about IT/computer coding. I wish I did. I am always looking for someone to help with those type…
/r/askMRP19/12/16 02:00 PM
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I guess I am stupid. In the beginning i went with she was clouded by NRE. Shit isn't changing though. I don't think she truly knows the sevarity of his offence, but that's for me to know and not her. I know I have something in my back pocket.
/r/askMRP18/12/16 06:33 PM
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The restraining order paperwork is already drafted. As I mentioned earlier, it will also restrict him from visiting my stbx's home (she is moving out next month) even when the kids aren't there. My lawyer is really focused on this issue.
/r/askMRP18/12/16 03:44 AM
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I just subscribed. Will begin reading through the material and posts. Thanks for the link. My daughter is just turning 6, but going on 16. FML.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/16 05:41 PM
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I hadn't really picked up on that with this girl, but probably so. Great. Now I'm gonna be paranoid as fuck about my daughter.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/16 04:26 PM
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My emotions towards her in front of the kids are always neutral. Aside from some fucked up choices she has made recently, she is still a good mom to them. No doubt this "clearing the air" is about how he has changed from the time when he was a swim instructor. How he can be around kids because he doesn't have those thoughts anymore. Blah, blah, blah. He already knows to not cross the line. He has been warned. Not by me directly, but through some friends of mine. These friends happen to ride Harl…
/r/askMRP17/12/16 03:30 PM
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Sometimes this can bite you in the ass though. I met a girl about a month ago that was a freak. She contacted me through an "alternative" website that I'm on. Very submissive. She aimed to please for sure. After we had met for a couple of sessions, we started to talk. Turns out she was the daughter of one of my employees. She doesn't know this, but I was able to put 2 and 2 together. It's hard to look this guy in the face now.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/16 12:09 PM
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The only reason I responded to this question from her is I knew it indirectly involved the kids. Beyond business, kids or logistics, I don't entertain her conversations. We do still live in the same house, but she is a piece of furniture. Something to walk around in the house that isn't living.
/r/askMRP17/12/16 11:29 AM
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Yes! Thank you for this link. I had forgotten about this scene.
/r/askMRP17/12/16 03:47 AM
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I agree, she is trying a power play. She is starting to realize that she no longer has this power though. She is getting concerned that her tactics + the old me responded much differently as compared to the new me. I do have to talk to her every day. We own a business together. We both play critical roles within the company. At this time we can't split on that front. I am re-structuring how I have the company set up though.
/r/askMRP17/12/16 03:29 AM
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My kids are my main focus at this time. I, along with my lawyer, have worked on making sure that they will be protected. I've done this first before I have worked on my own protection. The world that I've inherited is trying for sure. I think about where I was a year ago and can't believe this is where I'm at now, but I also look forward to a year from now. I know that my life and my kids' lives will be better.
/r/askMRP17/12/16 03:17 AM
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I get it. My answers in the past would have been much different and would have displayed butthurt on a jumbotron. I can assure you I don't give a flying fuck about her. Just need to show it rather than speak it better. Thanks for the response.
/r/askMRP16/12/16 11:03 PM
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This is true. They become things that are harder to obtain. Not because they are out of sight or impossible, but because there are greater things to focus on. Kids do change you. For the better in the long run, but you have to realize the focus will change from you to them. I'm going through divorce right now with kids. I have begun to unplug, but the process is slower with children. I am willing to sacrifice my own gains for the gains of my children at the moment, but I'm okay with that. This, …
/r/askMRP15/12/16 01:38 AM
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OP, consider yourself lucky that you can end things and there are no kids involved. That brings a whole other level of legal and mental issues.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 12:21 AM
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OYS 12/13/1 Goal- To become the best man I can by working on myself. Lifting, learning and living to the fullest is my path to this goal. I look forward to 2017 and the possibilities it will bring. Lifting/Nutrition- 5'4" - I'm down to 160 from 210 in May. Down to under 32" waist from 36". This progress has really boosted my outlook on myself and the world around me. I have hit new PR as of this morning at the gym. BP is now at 235 for 5x5 (started at 140.) OHP at 155 5x5 (started at 95.) Row at…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/16 02:54 PM
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I would like to know this as well. I've tried no carbs, but I don't feel the ability to progress with lifting. I just felt drained at the gym. Has anyone had success with keto and lifting?
/r/askMRP10/12/16 03:42 PM
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My situation worked exactly as you described. She began cheating about a year ago. A few months later (on my birthday) she asked to take a break and see others because of some minor argument we had a couple of days earlier about the dishwasher. She began to make me the villain because I said no. I already knew what was going on. All this shit has to be in the woman's handbook. How else would they all know the same play?
/r/askMRP09/12/16 01:28 AM
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If everything seems to be outwardly good in the relationship, you can use this to your advantage if you do decide to leave. It will give you time to get your ducks in a row before you pull the trigger. Most of the time, both parties have their guards up because they are pissed at each other. If she thinks everything is good, she won't be able to see it coming. I know you have kids involved and I know it is tough to pull the plug on the family dynamic, but remember, she did this. It was she that …
/r/askMRP08/12/16 05:26 PM
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You are riding the fence with your emotions and logic. How can you say you regret it and say that everything is good at the same time? You need to pick a side and stick with it. Your aren't doing yourself any favors mentally being stuck in the middle. You won't be able to progress past a certain point unless you have chosen a side.
/r/askMRP08/12/16 04:14 PM
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I made the similar mistake of sticking around for a while as well after she cheated. I then found this place and began working on myself. Though it took longer than it should have, I realized an eventual better me is nothing she deserves. She no longer adds any value to my life. The question you need to ask yourself. Does she add value to your life?
/r/askMRP08/12/16 01:13 AM
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I'll gladly PM you next time if it will keep your level of butthurt down. Until next time.
/r/askMRP06/12/16 11:21 AM
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Welcome to the party. It ended days ago, but you got your appearance. Can I send the same link back to you now? It would apply.
/r/askMRP06/12/16 03:17 AM
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That was my reaction in the past. I have some how learned to channel it a different way. I know I take a lot of anger out on the barbell and dumbbells.
/r/askMRP02/12/16 03:58 AM
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TFA, I had not read this one of yours yet. Holy shit. Good read. Eye opening. Thank you.
/r/askMRP01/12/16 11:36 PM
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Wow. I'm angry, but not that angry. I did remove all guns from the house, hers and mine. She's a really good shot. Edit: This was a couple of months ago. I'm not as angry as I once was.
/r/askMRP01/12/16 11:30 PM
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I like what you said about showing rather than talking. It is a much better way to convey my feelings towards the situation. I'll give it a shot. BTW, she was very cordial to me when I arrived home tonight. The 1st time in a while that I wasn't met with a fuck you. Hopefully my actions, though poorly executed, allowed her to realize she won't get anywhere with the shitty attitude. Again, I don't care for my sake, but for the kids. As you said, she doesn't matter.
/r/askMRP01/12/16 11:18 PM
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I get it. The manner in which I'm trying to convey my positive attitude may be wrong. I can see how it is passive aggressive. The attitude is positive though. Last night and this morning is the first time in almost a week that she has changed her tone with me. I think she finally realized she wasn't going to get a fight from me. I may not have used it properly, but it finally calmed her down. The kids don't have to see her shitty attitude anymore. Again, as mentioned in the last part of my post,…
/r/askMRP01/12/16 02:10 PM
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My whole situation went from 0-60 in about two weeks many months ago. I DNGAF about the outcone with her. I don't want her anymore. I am using this constructive criticism from you guys for the next. One must learn from mistakes.
/r/askMRP01/12/16 02:43 AM
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When you have something constructive to say, respond. Until then quit looking for YOUR Internet validation. Have a good night.
/r/askMRP01/12/16 02:19 AM
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To keep all communication from my end positive. This isn't necessarily the reasoning behind my actions. If the judge asks my daughter how I treat her mommy, she will only have this as her answer.
/r/askMRP01/12/16 12:07 AM
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You can call bs, but I'm being genuine with what I say to her. I'm not aggressive with any of it. I simply came to the realization that shit will only change if I make it change. I can't change her attitude towards the situation, but I can change mine. There is nothing to loose at this point. I may as well try to be positive.
/r/askMRP30/11/16 11:50 PM
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I agree, but I can't STFU. She is using my STFU ability against me with her lawyer. Claiming that I'm not willing to discuss (argue in her world) the details. It's a damned if you do, damned if you don't situation.
/r/askMRP30/11/16 11:45 PM
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I'm not gloating, just providing a field report of sorts. I'm not pretending to be someone other than a guy that is in the middle of a divorce and has found a positive path to follow for the moment. It may sound stupid to you or others, but it is working for now. I know my kids have noticed the change from negative to positive. They are my true gauge.
/r/askMRP30/11/16 11:40 PM
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That is what I suspected. How can I confirm? Hair sample? My experience with drugs doesn't go beyond weed.
/r/askMRP27/11/16 12:11 PM
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WTF is wrong with your ex? My thoughts exactly. She has completely lost it. I am also concerned that she is using some form of drugs. She has lost an extreme amount of weight in a very short period. She has admitted to others that she goes 3 days without eating and 2 days without sleeping. I will stick with the lawyer's advice and go into monk mode. This will insure the safety and we'll being of my kids. That's my focus at the moment.
/r/askMRP25/11/16 08:59 PM
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I am in a no fault area as well. I think the lawyer wants to make sure my character is held to a higher standard than hers. I have already received primary custody of the kids. I will not introduce my kids to any woman I'm seeing until after divorce is final (that's my own rule.) The woman would have to be exceptional to meet them anyway.
/r/askMRP24/11/16 01:52 AM
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The law is one year. Kids involved. 6 months with no kids.
/r/askMRP23/11/16 06:46 PM
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I need to add that the reason for divorce is she left me for another guy. I just received primary custody of the kids based on her actions. She left me for a sex offender. Against kids.
/r/askMRP23/11/16 06:45 PM
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Divorce process with kids takes at least a year. If contested, even longer.
/r/askMRP23/11/16 01:21 PM
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I should also mention that I've never been single. I was with my wife since high school. I'm 36 now. This 180 has been an interesting uphill battle mentally.
/r/askMRP23/11/16 12:17 PM
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Yes. I've done fairly well in this department in a short amount of time. I've impressed myself to be honest. If I now have to go a few months (up to a year), I feel like I'll be taking steps backwards.
/r/askMRP23/11/16 12:15 PM
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Mentally, yes.
/r/askMRP23/11/16 10:42 AM
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I have no issue being alone. I'm a bit of an introvert. I'm talking about having needs fulfilled.
/r/askMRP23/11/16 10:41 AM
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TFA and /u/[deleted]. Us civilians like you Navy guys. You often times leave the ladies "lonely" for extended periods of time. All kidding aside, thanks for your service. Here's to hoping Trump restores things to where they should be with the military, especially the Navy. I live in the major Navy area on the east coast. I see this happen all of the time. I would say you military guys (ex or current) must be on your game. Those deployments have to be tough for everyone involved. How did you guys…
/r/askMRP21/11/16 02:54 PM
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I will say this to the OP, you do you, but be ready to accept the outcome. Good or bad. As mentioned in one of the other replies, you will be opening Pandora's box. From my own experience with an "open" set up, it will not work. Have a look at some of my past posts. Regardless if you are RP or BP, it is hard to judge where your SO is at in terms of hypergamy. Also remember AWALT. In my case, the guy that she eventually left me for is a hippie beach bum that is extra sensitive (her words, not min…
/r/askMRP21/11/16 02:35 PM
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Great post. Congrats on the physical and mental gains. As a noob myself, I too have realized that lifting is the keystone to transformation. Not just physically, but mentally. I didn't understand all of the comments on here of "lift, lift, lift, but now I do. I still have a ways to go, but seeing and feeling results makes me want to work harder for more. It allows me to see the world from a new perspective.
/r/askMRP11/11/16 01:35 PM
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Amen to that.
/r/askMRP09/11/16 09:59 PM
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Is there a short and bald club? I blind the hell out of people when the light hits my dome and it glares back up into their face. I'm in no way saying it is a good idea to share custody based on the current information. I do believe that she is in the fog of NRE and can only see this guy and the whole situation through rose colored glasses. I would bet that once the custody papers (with the new revisions) are presented to her, she will wise up. If not, then it will be her loss. Up until recently…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/16 03:51 PM
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I look at these little bitch slaps a little differently than some of the other noobs. I don't get butthurt by them. Every time some one responds with one of these "slaps" it leaves a red mark. Ideally the mark won't go away.
/r/askMRP27/10/16 02:51 PM
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Thank you for explaining further. I agree with what you have said. Much of the negative that I am assuming is based on posts I've read on this sub. I will need to do a better job of filtering the information. Thank you again for the friendly bitch slap.
/r/askMRP27/10/16 10:24 AM
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Sure, there is a little victim puke, but I am truly seeking advice for the future. I'm aware of my role in the past, but I'm done dwelling on it. I have a future to look forward to with my kids. I don't know how being the better parent in the situation can be considered a martyr. Please explain?
/r/askMRP27/10/16 12:46 AM
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This was a recent discovery (within the last day) so I will be presenting to my lawyer today. I have the print out from the registry as well as the documents that pertained to the court case. He was a swim instructor. It makes me sick to know she would be with a guy like this, much less want to bring my kids around him.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 03:32 PM
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The problem is that most courts will give her the 50% automatically and then most of yours. It is on the man to fight for his 50% and also explain why hers is wrongfully dealt out. I'm not complaining, just telling how it truly is. I am fine with the fight.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 02:29 PM
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Good shit. Thanks for the link.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 02:24 PM
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I know that I was a complete faggot in the past in regards to the wife. Yes it was her suggestion to open up. I knew what it meant even before I read about hypergamy and the other RP material. Though I sulked in it for a while, I finally came to my senses. Mainly due to the suggestions and comments of the guys on this sub, good or bad. Many of these comments came from you. Harsh at times, but the truth isn't always nice. I can only thank you guys for bitch slapping me in your past replies. It wa…
/r/askMRP26/10/16 02:12 PM
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Technology is your friend on this one I imagine. What do you mean by this?
/r/askMRP26/10/16 12:44 PM
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I agree with your statement. I do however have an issue with the choices that my wife is making. She decided to leave me. She is the one that the kids see leave the house on a daily basis at 5 pm and not return until 2-3 am. It is not for work mind you. I am the main parent in the house currently. She is never home. She is also the one that is currently dating a sex offender that committed the offense against a minor.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 12:42 PM
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OYS 10/25/2016 This is my first post on OYS. Lifting - I have become completely addicted to lifting. I have lifted on and off in the past, but never with so much reason. I am seeing success in terms of weight loss and the eyes of women. I have lost 50 lbs. and 3 pant sizes since May. I am short, 5'4", and stocky, so gains are easy to see. My entire upper body is getting big with muscle rather than fat. My current 5 rep bench is 195. I hope to be well into the 200 range before the end of the year…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/16 01:42 AM
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It was too late for me. My problem is it all happened so quickly (based on the beta cloud I was in) that I was in shock. You guys slapped the shit out of me and woke me up. I absolutely plan on being a success story on here. Forgive me for being new and dumb. What is the protocol if you are no longer married? A year from now will I be typing on TRP or can I still hang with you fine gents?
/r/askMRP04/10/16 12:19 AM
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It stings doesn't it? It was the tough words of these guys that made me wake up and truly see what was happening. Focus. You and kids. Only.
/r/askMRP03/10/16 10:58 PM
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OP, please read through my posts. I am in no position to offer you great advice regarding RP/MRP, yet. Many others on here can offer you that. I can tell you that, based on my experience, you should start contacting lawyers. The open marriage proposal on her part means it is over for you. It's time to think about you and your children. Nothing else. Good luck.
/r/askMRP03/10/16 02:11 AM
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I am well aware that the relationship is over. That is a given. I do wonder if I had been more RP aware if it would have gotten to this point. I know that female hypergamy is a beast that is hard to tame. With the right frame, is a man able to contain the beast? I suppose this would have been a good question for Rollo yesterday. I question this purely from an educational standpoint. I am not questioning for my own sake. In my case, what's done is done. It would be nice to understand this for fut…
/r/askMRP01/10/16 01:50 PM
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Well read through my past posts and see the history unfold. The fact that it was proposed means exactly what you are thinking. Get out while you can. I hope you aren't in as bad of a situation as me. Kids and a business to fight for custody over.
/r/askMRP29/09/16 07:58 PM
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No doubt I've received some posts int he past along those lines. It's all good. I know the why and how it all happened. Lesson learned. Now I'm moving on. It's not worth dwelling on the past at this point. I have the future to look forward to. Of course, after about a year or so. Luckily in my area, there are quite a few firms that deal only with men. They all have good track records. Based on the specialty, they are not cheap. I hope they are worth the coin.
/r/askMRP29/09/16 04:25 PM
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I've already spoken to 5 different ones.
/r/askMRP29/09/16 04:20 PM
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The worst part is the guy she is with is a total beta. I met him on a personal level a few months ago. She asked me to be nice because he is really sensitive. He is the hippy, beach bum, toker type. Love not war type. He started buying her flowers after their first date, which was only drinks. The guy before him was a mutual friend. He was in the middle of being divorce raped after having been a captain save-a-ho and raising some other dude's kid. His now ex was riding the CC all over town and h…
/r/askMRP29/09/16 10:34 AM
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Yeah I get it. I knew it was over when the open marriage proposal was brought up. Even before I started reading side bar material I knew that there was a mindset that she was in. Of course Rollo explains it quite clearly as hypergamy. I swear there are chapters he wrote about me. I guess I feel some comfort in knowing I'm not the only schmuck that has been through this shit.
/r/askMRP29/09/16 10:08 AM
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Thank you. I'll get through and be a better man on the other end. I do still blame myself for allowing it to get this point.
/r/askMRP28/09/16 11:07 PM
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Well look at that. I've already provided my first helpful post and I've just started. From one new fucker to the rest, your welcome.
/r/askMRP28/09/16 10:20 PM
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Beyond that? I am trying to protect myself. I want to keep the kids.
/r/askMRP28/09/16 08:46 PM
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I just finished the Shortcut To Size program by Jim Stoppani. You can find on bodybuilding.com. in 12 weeks I've lost 40 lbs., two pants sizes and have added definition that I've never had, even as a wrestler in high school. His programs combine strong lifts and high volume low weight lifts to maximize muscle growth. My strength has increased by double from when I started. It has an app that is very informative. It breaks down the exercises and nutrition suggestions. The only area I'm lacking in…
/r/askMRP18/09/16 06:55 PM
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I wish that were the case. One 5 year old and twin 3 year olds. Plus we own a business together.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/16 04:03 PM
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Thanks for posting this. Very similar to my situation (which you have commented on in the past.) Of course it wasn't a good comment, but the truth nonetheless. My wife also brought up the open marriage idea. I didn't exactly say yes, but she ran with it anyway. Of course after some initial butt hurt, I realized that this was the fire I needed to be lit under my ass. It brought me here. After reading much of the sidebar and books (will need to re-read because I've jammed too much in at once) it h…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/16 03:23 PM
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The wife has dated two. Fucked two. I've dated three and fucked one. One more ready for moving forward. 3rd was in a divorce situation and didn't want to fuck up the legal issues. I know both of hers. One is a former friend and one a customer (we own a business.) She does not know mine. This is based on hall passes or separate situations.
/r/askMRP28/08/16 09:38 PM
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Yes, it was I initially a unilateral movement on her part due to my beta ways. I'll admit that. Some other shit added to it as well. I fucked up and am man enough to say it. After 20 years together (me 36 and her 34) we decided to act out our twenties again. It has opened our eyes to things. It has been beneficial to us both. The separate situations have not been the only part of our openess, just the most difficult to deal with. There have been situations that I never thought would happen outsi…
/r/askMRP28/08/16 09:13 PM
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I've been following this sub for a while. The lack of "traction" has had me looking for answers in areas that could be extra critical. I appreciate your response that included a lack of judgement. The DNGAF aspect plays a huge part. It took me a while to realize, but her being with others effects me none. As long as safety is being practiced, which I know it is.
/r/askMRP28/08/16 06:52 PM
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Can you explain?
/r/askMRP28/08/16 06:45 PM
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This is a very good article. I have read some of his stuff and still reading more. He is a genius. I don't claim to be a snowflake in this situation, but I do involve myself in her extra marital "situations." I decide if her interest is good to move forward with. I have sat down and had a beer with the current. She even warned me that he is sensitive. I'm not the most alpha dude out there, but I don't see this guy being an issue. Sure he takes her on fun dates and buys her flowers every week, bu…
/r/askMRP28/08/16 06:44 PM
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I know my past posts showed a bad start to our open marriage. It certainly didn't start well, but that is in the past. After great discussion, we are on the same page regarding this part of our lives. In a life or death situation regarding the marriage, we would close things up. That has always been agreed upon. Not saying it would come easy, but it could and would happen. Neither of us are looking for replacements. We are enjoying our life and learning things about ourselves. Being with others …
/r/askMRP28/08/16 04:49 PM
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I don't disagree with you. I do wish our shit would've been together before things opened up. It of course adds another hurdle for us to jump over. Sure, knowing that she is "getting plowed" by others isn't the easiest. Jealousy is a very strong emotion. It is all based on insecurities. I've come to realize what my insecurities are and have been working on them. Ironically by fixing those, it has allowed me an easier time at finding my own to "plow."
/r/askMRP28/08/16 12:44 PM
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My frame has changed over the last couple of months due to the help of the sidebar material. I used to be very jekyll and Hyde. I would either completely loose my shit or I would follow her around like a puppy dog saying sorry even for her wrongdoings. These days I keep things very low key and even. If she tries to get shitty, I simply ask her to let me know when she is done so that we can have a good conversation rather than an argument. Funny thing is this really pisses her off and causes her …
/r/askMRP28/08/16 12:23 PM
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I agree. My beta ways clouded my view of our relationship. It didn't allow me to see the hints that I was fucking up and driving her away. Now that I am starting to see the world through red tinted lenses (though still very pale pink) I feel that I have an obligation to right the ship. If she wants to hop back on, great. If not, I have no issues finding another first mate.
/r/askMRP28/08/16 10:50 AM
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Believe me, I question why we are married. Never did I think I would spend an anniversary evening at the bar, alone. I can only say that she does add value to my life. We have been together for 20 years (married 11 of those today.) None of this is an excuse. Even though we are open, I still want to have someone that has my back until the end. It may sound beta, but that is my opinion. Sure, I might date/sleep with others, but that is for fun. My wife is the serious part of my life. A base (more …
/r/askMRP28/08/16 03:08 AM
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Actually neither of us can have kids nor want kids beyond the three that we have.
/r/askMRP28/08/16 02:25 AM
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Yes. She is fucking someone else. I am too. We are open. Doesn't mean we don't have married shit to deal with though.
/r/askMRP28/08/16 01:14 AM
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I'm not walking out all together, just don't want to hear her shit. I'm better off away than there.
/r/askMRP28/08/16 01:04 AM
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