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This guy doesn't understand how markets work. Using the same tactics, we can drive down the price of [insert and product] if we collectively refuse to pay a certain amount for that product.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 01:20 PM
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I never mentioned direct line of report. Usually in diff departments.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 04:28 AM
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You're right, VPs dating cashiers may be a bit extreme, the more realistic example would be sales directors dating graphics designers, operation managers dating receptionists, etc, which one makes 2x-3x the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 02:23 AM
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We're talking about modern day "successful", right? Not the 0.0001% Rockefeller, but the average successful director or VP of a company? Maybe a lawyer or doctor? Most aren't from ivy leagues.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 12:02 AM
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No I did not
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 11:59 PM
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OP's question was dating, not marrying. This is besides the point, but corp VPs sometimes marry barristas. Most people just don't know it because baristas become "art and craft shop owners" and "stay at home moms" after marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 10:25 PM
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I think most of the time, men would love to be taken care of by a "successfuly woman", the way corporate VPs take care of cashier or barista, while the barista protects her own ego by claiming "independent strong woman". (Edit: OP said date, and not marry. Also VPs dating cashiers may be a bit extreme, the more realistic example would be corp managers/directors/VPs, dating designers/teachers/(lower level) nurses, which one makes 2x-3x the other.) The problem is that few women want to be the prov…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 09:21 PM
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Divorce is only a threat if he has significantly more income or net worth, or there are children involved. If none of those things are true, divorce isn't a crippling financial event.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 03:06 AM
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Maybe we just know diff types of RP'ers?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 11:01 PM
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I have acknowledged 1+1=2 almost my entire life, and will reference it once in a while when needed, never harped on it or complained about it. This is true for most RP'ers about men vs women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 10:28 PM
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That is correct - men have to work harder self-improving to attract women than vice-versa. Now that we accept that fact, we go do our self-improvement work so we increase our changes to attracting women, what's there to complain about? Or do you simply equate acknowledging that fact as "complaining"?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 09:48 PM
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Most RP ment don't complain, we understand it's human nature. Things I'm attracted to are also "shalow". And yes, finding what women are attracted to and basing their self-improvement to become that does make total sense. Those who self-improve and those who complain are two totally separate groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 09:42 PM
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It's not approval, it's attraction. RP has a set of beliefs on what the women they want are attracted to, and works on self-improvement to be that. Seems like the logical thing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 09:28 PM
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That's like saying "nobody should buy X until most sellers drop their prices". It's a market, you're always competing with other buyers who're willing to buy if the price is right and the value is decent, and their price/value meter may be different from yours. Most markets are at equilibrium, people adjust their behavior until things reach equilibrium, include dating. If some men walked away and women are in weakened bargaining positions, they'd naturally drop their standards/requirements until…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 10:23 PM
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<<Men and women are different.>> Was that the whole point? Cuz nobody is refuting that. << say that all to say, most dudes in history have never gotten easy NSA sex outside of these avenues:>> Most lottery players don't win the lottery, people still play for the chance. Why be such a Debbie Downer?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 09:17 PM
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Misleading title. Men already don't have "reproductive rights". For men to reproduce, they need to convince a woman to reproduce with him, and hope the woman doesn't cancel the pregnancy (in most states). All the bullet points have nothing to do with the "rights to reproduce".
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 11:06 AM
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Most women don't actually believe that you're obligated to date single moms. Your roommate tried to emotionally bully you into "making the world a better place" for her selfish needs knowing it's a bad deal for you. Imagine the ridiculousness if you tried to bully any woman into thinking she's obligated to put out against her own desires. Also, some roommates are suited to be friends that you'd have drinks and hang out with. Others are suited for splitting rent while keeping things light and ple…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 05:57 PM
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I think most people who say "Nobody is entitled to a Relationship" would agree with you - both parties are entitled to leave whenever they want, that's how relationships work.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 05:37 PM
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<<I, personally, think minorities are smarter than whites.>> Please check the existing statistics on IQ before making such claims, especially if you insist on IQ test before voting.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 07:12 PM
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OP may not understand what makes men attractive to women. Unlike women's attractiveness, which is 90% physical, men's attractive is more comprehensive. Confidence, humor, (display of) wealth, leadership qualities, respect of others (social proof), etc, all goes towards a man's attractiveness. It's hard to quantify how much looks matter, but I'd say 40% max comparing to the 90% vice-versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 04:24 PM
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Your whole rebuttal was "if that dude is beta, how is he getting sex without committing? Don't beta males have to commit relationships first before obtaining sex based on your beliefs? Your views rebutted!". I'm just explaining there're spectrums of alpha vs beta (again, cringe term) and spectrums of committing, such as "hinting that he'd commit and would in theory make a good provider". I'm just adding clarification in case you didn't understand the original point. If you did and disagree, plea…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 08:03 AM
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Spectrums of alpha vs beta (cringe terms). The "average guy" can obtain sex by hinting relationships via going on many dates with the same girl, acting "dad vibes", etc without actually committing to a relationship. That's what OP was referring to.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 07:39 AM
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<<I think when you are saying large groups of people are outright lying about what they’re attracted to you are moving in to conspiracy territory.>> No, it goes into the "polite" territory. The same way we say "big is beautiful" when we don't really believe it. RP is crass/honest enough to verbalize something unpolite. <<Basically the answer is no, she doesn’t know. When I reference RP I mean the online movement.>> I don't know what "online movement" you're referring to, but RP is the idea of us…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 08:29 PM
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"some people" did, sure. But your statement was about "most people".
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 08:09 PM
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RP man here with a long term girlfriend. <<I know a lot of you believe you won’t ever find a girlfriend.>> - Don't know how true that assumption is <<Some of you have partners who I assume are on board with your RP ideas? Do they know?>> - As in the belief that women are attracted to rich, confident, successful men, and men would be more successful with women if they became that? I'm pretty sure that's common knowledge. <<But realistically some of you who are single will meet someone eventually.…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 08:08 PM
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I don't know how true that is. I don't think most people have online friends they don't know IRL.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 08:00 PM
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We may have different definitions of what's red pill vs blue pill. A lot of everything you described, actually are extremely agreed upon by the PUA/Red Pill communities. You just phrased them in everyday languages instead of nerdy lingos. Women like confidence over looks Do not supplicate Observe what works and mimic those Watch what women respond well to, not what they claim to like (watch what they do, not what they say) I call my good friends in my 20s "blue pilled" because they're the tradit…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 11:49 PM
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Gotcha, thx for answering my questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 08:01 PM
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As in they're less likely to do business with minorities with similar qualifications? And do they usually say "because he's X race"? Or do they justify it via other reasons?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 07:21 PM
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Makes sense. I haven't been single forever, but remembering my late 20s. None of my friends would be fit to give me "meet girl at a bar" advice, because they didn't know any better, and some are "blue pilled" enough with advice like "You don't wanna meet girls at bars, only trashy girls give out their numbers in bars", "their parents must be very proud", etc. I think it's just sour grapes for their inability to at least try to pick up girls at bars. So for the guy I was describing above (me in m…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 07:18 PM
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Outside of moving to all-white places and claiming "better schools", can you tell me what "upper class white racism" looks like? We all know the caricature of what lower class racism looks like "THOSE people are dangerous", "they took our jobs", "They're no good hoodwinks", etc. What do upper class racism look like?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 07:07 PM
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Appreciate your insights. What type of things did Ed say that was killing his game? Were you able to hear it in a loud bar? For the same reasons, if a guy lacks successful friends, would you recommend every unsuccessful guy hiring a dating couch or a "PUA couch" (as cringy as that sounds)?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 06:36 PM
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I can see that. I literally just Googled what Noodling is. It sounds like country lifestyle vs city lifestyle. Lower class people in NYC also wouldn't go Noodling or (probably) loud races. I'd love to hear about your thoughts on upper class racism. I've always imagined it's the upper class racists that were smart enough to keep their months shut and justify their racism with other reasons such as moving into all white neighborhoods and claim "Oh it's just a better school district", or "I don't g…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 05:50 PM
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the guys who approach women and succeed and the ones who don’t. i have a first row seat Can you share the main major differences on what type of guys, or what guys do that separates successful ones vs unsuccessful ones?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 05:41 PM
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I think before online dating was popular, in major cities, that's just what men did. There wasn't a "art/science" behind it like the PUA groups. It was the most natural/normal thing for them, the mentality was like "If I'm looking for food, I go to a grocery store. If I'm looking to meet new women, I go to a bar".
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 05:32 PM
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I'd love to hear in which ways the MBA/investment banking culture is different from Corps and poor AF culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 05:10 PM
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<<I think it would be interesting to know if going into certain professions means lack of sexual success for men.>> Kinda disagree with this premise. I don't think RP men are any less or more successful with women, I could be wrong. I know this is just one datapoint, but I definitely had more success as RP than previously, but I'm also willing to put in the work, which is something RP teaches.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 06:43 PM
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Well, yeah. But that's just like fishing - 99% of the time you don't catch a fish. But if you really like catching fish, you can increase your odds by getting better and fishing more often, and nothing is guaranteed. Nobody ever says "this is bullshit", it's just something we agree upon and move on and still continue fishing. I don't see attracting women as anything different.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 06:32 PM
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While that's true, lots of things aren't directly connected to success, only increase the chance of it. IE "If you study STEM, you aren't guaranteed to graduate, and when you graduate, you aren't guaranteed to find a job (Dotcom crash with tech jobs), etc. RP is just a different view of looking at things, it's not a set of tactics that "works on the worst of women". We do generalize a lot of things, because without perfect information, the best is an educated guess. IE "this person has this attr…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 06:28 PM
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Because looks is subjective (women to men), that's why there's such a disconnect on what "average" is. The stat mentioned is real. A dating site asked lots of women to rate each man's pics, 80% of men got "below average" in terms of ratings.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 08:32 PM
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In a world where women rate 80% of men's looks as "below average" (real stats), the real "average men" may be struggling more than you realize.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 06:58 PM
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Is that pre tax or is your paycheck that much? Also you have bigger government safety nets and social services instead of high earnings.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/04/22 07:46 AM
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"I don't like what you're saying, therefore I will assault you physically" seems like really shitty logic in western culture, especially when most speech are legal and most physical assault are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 06:06 PM
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I wasn't born with a vagina, so I don't know much about FDS. But does FDS tell me to "lose weight, take care of skin, and become feminine?" If so, then it's doing what it's supposed to do. Cuz TRP tells me to "Make money, Lift, travel more, get life experience, learn to be outgoing and charming".
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 11:15 PM
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Can you really call the average man ugly when statistically women rate 80% of men as "below average" in looks?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 10:55 PM
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"My wallet my choice"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 06:26 PM
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Even higher courts with no financial gains?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 09:53 PM
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<<Paternity by Estoppel occurs where a Father holds a child out to be his own regardless of a biological relationship between the Father and the child.>> Gotcha, lots of gray areas here on how "holds a child out to be his own" is defined, and whether he declares it, etc. Seems challengeable.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 09:04 PM
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Can you fight it by going to higher level courts, all the way up to the Supreme Court?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 08:56 PM
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Wait, without legal marriage contract, and not being the biological dad, you could get hit for child support simply by banging the mom and living w/ her?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 08:49 PM
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Merely taking on a fatherly role while cohabiting with the mother is insufficient. Does this happen currently?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 08:27 PM
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Same percentage towards a common goal isn't very equal when one partner is contributing the same percentage of a much higher number. It doesn't have to be "go broke to afford a lifestyle" - the lesser earning partner could make up for it by doing extra chores, proportional to actual money pooled, not percentage. You've repeated what you said at least 3 times as so have I, we're just talking in circles by now. Let's agree to disagree and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 11:41 PM
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Doesn't seem very equitable when one person is contributing significantly more in real dollars at 30% comparing to his partner's. Real rent is paid in real dollars, nobody cares whether your $1000 is 30% of our income or 100%. The only way that one person doesn't have power over another would be the lesser contributing partner to make up for it via household chores. And yes, 30% of a lesser number is in fact lesser.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 10:47 PM
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Well he kinda is, by paying more for a house that they both live in. You can think of the diff of his payment and her payment to be "paying for her housework services" if that helps you rationalize payments.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 10:24 PM
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It wouldn't be irrational at all. Why would anyone care about "percent of income" when your income has higher purchasing power? Real world goods and services are bought with real dollar values, not a percent of your income. While you think you'd be an irrational asshat, I wouldn't think you'd be - at least not specifically for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 10:20 PM
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<<Because say one person makes 3x as much as their partner.>> Let's first make a distinction first between how much someone "makes" vs "contributes". Obviously if A makes 3x but only contributes as much as B and pockets the difference, house work should be 50/50. In your example. If A contributes 3x as B, I think it's perfectly fair that A has 2 more hours of free time due to higher contributions. B should realize that s/he is at a standard of living 4x the level of himself/herself alone, and co…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 11:40 PM
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If you're talking about SAHM's, then like I said, 90/10 or 80/20. If you're talking about two working adults with different income levels, then house work should be done proportionally. Where in my statements did you get the "one partner sits on their ass after work" type strawman argument from?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 11:21 PM
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If your perceived benefits are only financial or help around the house I would say you have bigger issues. Ahhh....the "If you disagree with the way I spin the situation, you have bigger issues" argument. Are you able to make a point without attacking the opposition? A civil debate forum may not be suited for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 10:59 PM
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I think I addressed exactly what you just said in my previous statement. Again, when you're talking about SAHM's, the income is 100/0. As I stated, "when the income ratio is 100/0, then house work ratio could be reasonable at 90/10 or 80/20.". You said "Equal hours total per day of paid and unpaid work". I mentioned "While I get your point about "equal hours", but if people contribute differently for the same hours, it should be considered accordingly." I respect your personal experiences with y…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 10:55 PM
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Sure it's easy to to say "Tit for tat type tallying in this regard doesn’t seem like a healthy way to go about it IMO" if you're the person benefitting from that logic. But when you're the one contributing more money into the relationship for no additional benefits, resentment goes both ways. If your partner was richer, what if your partner only contributed as much as you did into the relationship and pockets the remainder, then splits chores 50/50? Would you be okay with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 10:35 PM
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Yeah, when the income ratio is 100/0, then house work ratio could be reasonable at 90/10 or 80/20. But when the income ratio is 66/33, I think it's perfectly fine that the house work ratio is 33/66. While I get your point about "equal hours", but if people contribute differently for the same hours, it should be considered accordingly. IE: If I make a meal in 15 minutes while you make a meal in 60 minutes, I shouldn't be making 4 meals to make it "fair". In case you didn't get the comparison, mon…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 10:30 PM
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That would never work. So they both work 40 hour weeks, and then she does all the domestic work because he makes twice as much at the office? He's a piece of shit and she will come to hate him. Bad assumptions + strawman argument + name calling. A civil debate group may not be suited for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 09:55 PM
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Sure who makes more doesn't matter, if they both contribute equally financially and the person making more pockets the difference. But if one person CONTRIBUTES more, it absolutely matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 09:45 PM
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While no marriage you know functions healthily, I'm sure there're lots out there that does. Hours =/= hours if one person's hour can be traded for a lot more than the other person. If the marriage is "Well honey, even with your second shift I STILL contribute more economically" like you say, then the less earning person is experiencing a MUCH higher standard of living than his/her salary thanks to the partner, and definitely should contribute more in terms of housework in exchange.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 09:42 PM
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I think men do their fair share of work around the home, if you define "fair share" as "if one person I pays more of the rent/mortgage/etc, it's fair that the other does more of the house-work".
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 09:38 PM
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Females possess different traits in comparison, we tend to attribute them as "feminine" traits. We don't think of them as positives or negatives. Examples of feminine traits: More nurturing, less competitive, more emotional, less logical, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 11:25 PM
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Oops, deleting my comment. Thx for the reminder.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 11:16 PM
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Not sure about more than me, but lesbians care a lot less on what the woman looks like. So I assume you'd do fine as one.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 09:58 PM
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Enjoy your cats. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 09:47 PM
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Whoa you seem pleasant, I can see why men are rude to you. Anyways, you like men's personality while men like your looks. It's human nature, let's not pretend one is shallower than another.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 09:43 PM
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When you meet people in real life, they already see your whole body shape. You're essentially selecting from the pool of men who see your whole body shape and still want to talk to you. That's the equiv of you having a full body pic up, and talking to men who you still match with. Also, in online dating, women can use face pic camera angles to hide their figure. Similar to you being on the fence of their personality, they're on the fence about your looks. You wanted additional information on the…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 09:17 PM
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Pretty sure this information is already well known, that's why everyone recommends "photo of you having fun", "photo of you doing cool stuff", "photo of you with a dog", etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 08:59 PM
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Red pill believes this is a shit test and not take that question seriously, regardless of what the answer is. But if you're gonna answer seriously, do Not signal that you have a hard time getting dates, that's an unattractive trait.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 08:50 AM
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I think for urban millennials, your couple of hours used to cook and eat dinner would easily be dating time - just go to a restaurant as a date. I know when I was single in my 20's, here's how much I spent doing the things you listed when I wasn't going out: Cook and eat dinner: either pick up some takeout from a restaurant such as a sandwich, or heat up some frozen food. 5 min for my work of stopping in a restaurant or cooking, not counting oven heating time. I'd eat in front of the TV, probabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 06:22 PM
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This always makes me wonder how much free time they've got to be able to date multiple people. Assuming you get off work at 5pm, What do you do after work everyday? I can easily see people doing dates after work, on days they're not seeing friends or pursuing hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 07:44 AM
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It's just the current equilibrium of the dating market - this is what the average man is willing to put up with. Anything more unfavorable men will leave, anything more favorable men will flock to participate.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 08:28 PM
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The moment there's less dudes in any dating app, there will be other dudes filling it. Because other dudes would realize there's less dudes in that dating pond.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 08:08 PM
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But the moment there's less dudes, there's more dudes. Because other dudes would realize this pond has less dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 08:07 PM
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It's just natural order for men to approach women. Most women would rather be alone than risk being rejected.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 08:19 PM
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That's true, those terms aren't used. I think the most popular insult for men nowadays is Incel, or Small Penis, those get thrown around loosely by women towards men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 04:54 PM
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That's true, I'm thinking of attacking another member. If I called another member a bitch over a disagreement, if probably get banned. But you see women names calling men in those groups openly.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 04:27 PM
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And a lot of Facebook groups
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:56 AM
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Most mainstream internet communities
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:04 AM
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While I agree that there're equally as many bad names towards women as they do men, only side of the attack is acceptable in society. Girl calling a guy "neckbeard" or "nerd" or "incel": Everyone LoL Guy calling a girl "slut" or "bitch" or "cunt": Banned
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 08:40 PM
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Doesn't have to be submissive beauty queen, just someone more submissive and more attractive than her, for her to be 2nd choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 08:44 PM
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I was in my late 20's, having 2-3 drinks 3x per week wasn't that big of a deal. And I was used to stumbling into my office job half asleep here and there. I still walk into my office job half asleep (pre-pandemic) but now it's from staying up playing video games till 3AM. The trick is to take a 2 hour nap after work so it adds up to a full day's sleep. I don't think my body deteriorated, but I didn't pay attention to my weight. I'd eat/drink whatever I wanted. The small city I lived in had a lot…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 06:45 PM
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Yes, I'd have 2-3 drinks over the whole night during the work week. I was in a small city so the drinks were fairly cheap, I'd spend around $20 total per night that I went out. I also lived downtown, within walking distance to the bars. I was in my late 20's and I had a Monday - Friday 9-5 office job. When I went out during weeknights, I'd go out, get half drunk, get home by 1AM, brush/shower, get my 6-7 hour sleep, and wake up the next morning and walk into work semi hang over. This would happe…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 05:48 AM
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But it's not one tomato manufacturer, it's half the population each having a few tomatoes to sell. Similar to men competing with other men in the sexual market, women are doing the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 10:46 PM
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During my prime dating years, I almost made "meeting women" a part time job. I'd have a small group of friends who were semi-serious about it, and I went out 2x-3x per week to different bars, I could always find someone from that group of friends to go out with. We'd have a set route in the downtown of a small city, one bar after another after another. I'd average around 1-2 phone numbers per night, which 90% of them did not result into first date. In addition, I'd spam hundreds of girls on dati…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 08:04 PM
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Not gonna disagree. In exchange, majority of bills are paid by men, and that evens it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/21 07:03 PM
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Because all else equal, people would prefer someone who's healthy over unhealthy. Depression is just one form of bad mental health.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/21 07:01 PM
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I don't think men are upset over this - I think it's just understood, that money is a part of a man's attractiveness. And youth and beauty is major part of a woman's. While some people may whine about either, but that's a small minority of loud voices. Most people just instinctively acknowledge it and move on. That's why men are (on average) more successful career wise, and makeup is such a huge industry.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/21 05:02 PM
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Those same women would've love to be in relationship with alpha instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 09:47 AM
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The women that gets AF, mostly wished for relationships with same. But they'd settle for BB.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 09:30 AM
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<< However, for women, physical attractiveness can be influenced by non physical-means. Women can literally see a non-conventionally attractive man as genuinely physically attractive when they display qualities and personality traits that she is attracted to. >> Yes, it's pretty understood that female to male attractiveness is the "whole package", and not just conventional good looks. But the package seems to be fairly universal - All the "alpha traits" in the FAQs of this sub. It's debatable wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 11:12 PM
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What about a guy who tells you interesting travel stories, or a guy with a really expensive car? Or a guy in expensive cloths? And again, it's the overall package that's attractive (including the round in a bar), him buying a round in a bar is probably the smallest display of wealth possible, I wouldn't expect most women to be attracted to a guy specifically for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 10:55 PM
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Again, I agree. Wealth isn't the attraction trait, it's the display of wealth. A middle class guy buying a round at the bar is equally as attractive as a rich guy doing so.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 10:50 PM
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By what I understand, wealth on its own isn't the alpha trait, but the display of wealth. IE: Pre-historically, it's saying "I have so much resources, that I get to waste it and still be able to feed everyone that's in my circle", and women are hard-wired to prefer that trait. In today's world, it means that having more 0's in my bank account isn't attractive to women. But buying everyone in a bar a round of drinks, or driving a Lamborghini is attractive. Status - Again, prehistoric trait, villa…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 10:45 PM
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I can see the logic here. But can we at least agree that most women wouldn't get into a monogamous relationship with a man that they aren't attracted to, or wouldn't have sex with?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 10:34 PM
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Of course not, women don't think like that. The alpha man are generally attractive to women "just because". Women don't consciously calculate "I'm attracted to the man because of these alpha traits". Similarly, I am not attracted to the pretty girls because of their "facial symmetry, hip to waste ratio, smooth skin, healthy hair, etc". I just look at a girl and know she's hot. Anyways, this conversation probably reached the "agree to disagree" stage, so I hope you have a good day.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 10:30 PM
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Those things I listed are just alpha traits that are fairly universally attractive to women. This may go back to self rationalization - could it just be the flip side of "I can't get him to commit, therefore I wasn't attracted anyway"? IE: "This guy has a high probability of committing to me, therefore, he's attractive to me"? Back to the fox vs sour grapes example - the grapes that the fox is able to get, are "the sweetest grapes of all" according to the fox.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 10:21 PM
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I agree, female to male attraction isn't purely looks. It's the whole package - looks, confidence, wealth, status, etc. Back to attraction mechanism - I agree, in today's world it's terrible for you and very unsafe. But it's an evolutionarily mechanism, we're hard-wired for it. Just like in today's world, it would be VERY easy for my life if I was attracted to women that nobody else wants, but my attraction mechanism isn't built that way. But I do understand that women tend to equate "comfort" w…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 10:13 PM
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I try to be kind and use the word "rationalization" instead of "self lying". It's the classic sour grapes fable - fox can't reach the grapes, he believes "Didn't want the grapes anyway, it's probably sour". But specifically in your case - I don't think additional information affects how attractive they seem, at least not enough to tip a scale. Attraction is a primal instinct for humans to mate. Maybe you just haven't been truly attracted to someone for a very long time. And it makes sense, 90% o…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 09:54 PM
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Right, exactly what I meant when I said " Woman can't get a relationship with the man she wanted: "I didn't like him anyway". You specifically want a relationship. But instead of understanding that "I'm attracted to this man, but I'm unable to have a relationship with him.". You rationalize it into "I can't have a relationship with this attractive man who doesn't want a relationship. He's romantically unattractive to me".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 09:33 PM
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This is a debate forum, and for us to debate honestly, we would at least have an agreement on definitions of words. IE If we can't agree on what a "man" is, all other arguments are worthless.. There're some pretty set definition in this forum, we can assume that when we talk about a "high value man", we meant "sexual market value". Let's do the kind thing and assume this is a misunderstanding of definitions, and not someone deliberately muddying the debate with the incorrect definition for no re…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 09:21 PM
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I understand - I do notice women do a lot more rationalization in general. IE: Man can't have sex with the woman he wanted: "She's hot, but couldn't get her". Woman can't get a relationship with the man she wanted: "I didn't like him anyway".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 09:18 PM
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I will respectfully disagree - while I do believe that you consciously think that, I think if you find a man you're really attracted to, you'd "wanna be his girl", even if he can't cook, is messy, or has 100 other women throwing themselves at him, etc. In addition, there's always the "I can change him" thing once a woman is attracted.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 09:04 PM
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Most people don't really consider that. Because it's fairly understood that the more sexual market value a man has, the more women want to be in a relationship with him. No matter how "relationship-bad" that man would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 08:50 PM
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You may have a misunderstanding of what a "high value man" is. It's not "what his morality value is", it's "what is his value/worth in the sexual market". If lots of women desire a man, he's a high-value man. Regardless of whether you specifically consider him high value or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 08:32 PM
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I think that's only online, your picture is the only thing that comes across online. I still believe that for men, combination of "whole package" attracts women. And being top 1% of any attractive attribute is equally as attractive as 1% height - whether that's social status, charm, confidence, wealth, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 08:06 PM
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Blue Pill: When you're a No, flowers, candy, big gestures turn a No into a Yes! Especially last minute declarations of love at the airport!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 11:00 PM
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Because "Love" is fickle and "Necessity" (historically) was a much stronger bond.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/20 07:20 PM
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I think the diff with men, is that our clocks tick longer. "when it comes time to settle down" may not always happen, we always have the option to keep playing the field. We aren't biologically driven to "settle down" at certain ages, and we can be attractive (confidence, wealth, etc) for a lot longer time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 07:54 PM
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I think men care about your career slightly less than you care about a guy's looks. As in unless I'm in the top 10% or bottom 10% of looks, you will be fairly indifferent about my looks and judge me on a bunch of other things.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 07:45 PM
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Don't know, that's what I meant by "Unless you're okay with him fucking other women while "dating" you for 6 months, that works too."
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 07:38 PM
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Right, not what OP was referring to. Apparently for her, "Most guys drop me but always end up coming back stating they are willing to wait.".
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 07:34 PM
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Yeah, but not the girl you'd wait for 6 months for, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 07:29 PM
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Don't ask men about what we want, this isn't beneficial to you. I'd never ask a woman how to attract them. "If you want to learn how to catch fish, don't ask the fish. Observe the fish, and ask the experienced fisherman". Figure out what you want in life, and ask those people who have it. IE: If you want the "sex and the city" lifestyle, then ask a woman who lives that. If you want a "American Dream" type life, find a girl woman who does it and see what they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 07:28 PM
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If all guys end up coming back to you, then you must be super hot. Because if you're just average looking and make guys wait, the ones with options will just move onto the next girl. If you're hot girl, then congrats, the world is your oyster. If you're just relatively hot (average girl in an ugly geography), then congrats, your region is your oyster. If you're just average, the only guys who are willing to stick around and waiting 6 months are the ones who aren't able to attract/fuck other wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 07:22 PM
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This is more of "Women like men who are preselected by other women, and it makes them feel good to achieve that type of man". She mental-gymnastic'ed her way into believing you are that man - "Of course my friends are with me because they want to be close to that man I have"
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 10:27 PM
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You being significant better than all his other choices would make him want you. Fear of losing you would make him commit to you over playing the field. Also, while men are hard-wired to spread our seeds, we also are hard-wired to not want other men fucking the women we're fucking. Your commitment to a man will also help generate a commitment from him to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/20 11:48 PM
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Men want sex, women want committed relationships. They make a transaction. If you want to talk in terms of rewards, women "reward" men's commitment (relationship) with sex, men "reward" women's sex with commitment. Obviously we're a mature group, things like "in general", and "not all women" and "yes they both desire both things, but they want one more than the other" do not need to be said.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 10:44 PM
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Yes, it's a dick move. You'll have to choose whether you're willing lose your good friend over a girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 09:27 PM
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<<Then why isn't a universally attractive thing on males? >> I assumed we're talking about females. Because evolutionary, males served to "provide and protect" while females served to "reproduce". Male attractiveness traits are mostly signs for ability to provide and protect, such as height (seeing wilderbeasts coming sooner), muscles. And in more recent times, confidence, wealth, popularity, etc. <<"Obese" is hardly good for child-bearing, but it's often remarked that Marilyn Munroe would look …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 08:43 PM
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Well, yeah.....what's attractive to women is VERY different from what's attractive to men. I agree that most men are unremarkable looking. There's even a study that indicates that most women believe 80% of men are "below average" in terms of looks. But men differ in status/confidence/wealth/ambition/etc, and it's pretty established that THOSE are the things women are attracted to, much more than a man's looks. Men can be attractive and unremarkable looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 08:15 PM
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This of this is pre-historic terms, where people's hair fall off due to illness and malnutrition, not because they "wanted a brand new start". Long hair is DEFINITELY a signal for health. Our attraction brains evolution was from hundreds of thousands of years ago. But you're right about the fat percentage, but I think having obese people during our evolution times is unnatural, that's why we aren't attracted to it - we were evolved to be attracted to humans of that age, not to something we haven…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 08:04 PM
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I think that's mostly self delusion. For men, when they truly love someone, they understand "This isn't the hottest one out there, it isn't even the hottest one to me. But this is the one I got and love, and this is the one I shared most of my history and memories with".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 08:01 PM
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Is she really though? Or is she just the hottest one you're able to achieve without wrecking your life, therefore you mental-gymnastics yourself into thinking she's the hottest one to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 07:37 PM
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Yeah, I think it's pretty well established, that "female beauty" is just signals for "ability to have many healthy babies", and men are hardwired to be attracted to those traits. Youth / Health: Smooth skin, facial symmetry, long/kept hair, not obese, etc Fertility: Wide hips, big boobs, etc This isn't "subjective" at all. Edit: Keep in mind these signs of "beauty/youth/fertility" is from pre-historic times, where the male brains evolved to be attracted to those. Evolution takes a long time, far…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 07:36 PM
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This is the free market at play - they figured out that a subgroup of people are willing to pay more for pink razors instead of just buying blue razors, why wouldn't people just mark up the pink razors? If nobody paid more for pink razors, pink razors wouldn't cost more. This is the same for steaks vs burgers, even though they provide similar nutrition content - people are just more willing to pay higher prices for steaks because they enjoy steaks more. If people preferred burgers and are willin…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 07:32 PM
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This makes sense. I think real stats show that (most) women's "preferred age" is somewhere close to her age, no matter what age she is. While men's preference is around 21ish, no matter what age he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 07:27 PM
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Sure, having a pre selected wronged group makes no indication of percentage of people who wrong others
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 08:37 PM
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Because that group doesn't seem biased at all and it's a accurate representation of all interactions?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 07:52 PM
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I don't think people who "spin plates" by definition mislead or lie, I'm sure some do. Others take the "I'm just dating around and see what happens" approach. I assume neither of us have the data on "what percentage of men mislead/lie" in the process, so is more of a "my guess vs your guess" and probably isn't productive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 07:48 PM
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Wait, they needed a study to confirm that people who have been shitted on their whole lives, are more likely to shit on other people when they get into a position of power?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 07:27 PM
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Sure, but most men are hard-wired to sleep with lots of new women, while society discourages that. If you choose to follow your hard-wire instincts, TRP is one of the most efficient resources for achieving that, excluding prostitutes. But I'd agree with you, following your hard-wire biological urges aren't necessary, and some are manipulative, depending on the route you choose to take.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 07:25 PM
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It's just a metaphor for the type of relationship - plates are harder to start spinning, while they start spinning, they are easier to maintain, and you can't spin too many plates without them dropping. The metaphor just continues calling women "plates" and calling your actions "spinning", etc. Nobody actually believes women are actual dinnerware.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 07:18 PM
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How quickly people there recommend "nexting" a girl over every little "red flag" as if every guy has an endless supply of girls in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 07:09 PM
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Well, to be fair - that's always the advice I give in real life when a guy is depressed over a girl: "Go out and fuck 3 more girls and see if you're depressed about this one". It may or may not be realistic based on him being able to achieve that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/20 07:07 PM
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The definition of "soft next" is that she has an opportunity to re-initiate. Keep it brief, learn some phone game, and try asking her to hang out again after a while, and see if your luck changes. This time she has something tangible to lose - she knows you'll ghost if she continues to reject you.
/r/askTRP20/06/17 08:54 PM
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Sure, even if you're not successful with women, you can still live for yourself.
/r/askTRP13/06/17 05:32 PM
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When she re-opens line of communications, you shut her out for a while. Then resume like nothing happened. If she has the audacity to bitch about it, you just casually say "Oh, I just assumed it was acceptable to do, cuz that's kinda what you did". And casually move on. She will cry, whine, scream to break your frame, to get you to regret what you did, DON'T. Do NOT apologize for that, even if she apologized for hers. Keep your frame of "I just assumed this was okay, cuz you do it a lot". If she…
/r/askTRP13/06/17 05:31 PM
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Invite her out for a drink and make a move, try to kiss her, hold her, etc. Whether she responds positively or negatively, you'll be out of the friend zone. Of course, you risk losing a friend over this, so weigh your risk/reward carefully.
/r/askTRP05/06/17 06:23 PM
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I'm semi-sure that the laws are set. Without the presence of children, laws are pretty objective. Unfortunately, most men make more money than most women, and women initiate 3/4 of all divorces.
/r/askTRP26/05/17 04:29 PM
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Not always. "pressure flipping" isn't always the solution to shit tests. Here's an example of pressure flipping while you genuinely don't care: Girl's shit test: I bet you're a player. You: Your mom would agree
/r/askTRP26/05/17 04:27 PM
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Yes, but I assume most women are realistic enough for prenups if they married a broke artist.
/r/askTRP25/05/17 09:46 PM
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Only if you come out looking butthurt. If you act like you don't care and you're just amused, you don't come cross as butthurt.
/r/askTRP25/05/17 09:45 PM
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I don't know how "hard" most people work, especially in offices. I think 70% of people work just hard enough to get by and not be fired, especially when they reach the "I'm fine with this easy gig for the rest of my life and don't care to advance my career" mode. This usually happens when they find other things that are more important than a prestigious career.
/r/askTRP25/05/17 09:12 PM
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Can't think of any, they're all scattered through lots of random things I read. I'd Google "pua text game", use your own logic filter to see what's usable and what's just stupid, and go from there.
/r/askTRP25/05/17 09:10 PM
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Throw just enough text game to invite the first girl out by herself. Her Italian friend can't cockblock you from afar if she isn't with you that night. Also, if you'd be ashamed of your text on a jumbo-tron for all to see, then it's probably not good text game.
/r/askTRP25/05/17 04:51 PM
1

Yeah, I think modern men lack a "purpose" in life. We substitute it by "getting by" with jobs that're good enough to support whatever we enjoy outside of work.
/r/askTRP25/05/17 04:47 PM
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Not sure about the short thing - a lot of people seem to struggle with that one. The bald thing - shave your head and grow a goatee and look like a badass? Got the idea here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AD-E2B5GfI8
/r/askTRP25/05/17 04:40 PM
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I live in one of the highest CoL places in the US, I pay $2800 rent for a 2BR. I assume Austin/Dallas are a lot cheaper comparing to the "tier-1" cities.
/r/askTRP25/05/17 04:27 PM
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In addition Bulder/Denver idea, here're some I'd recommend you consider: Charlotte - #2 financial city in USA after NYC, classic "mid sized city", has everything you need. San Diego - #1 weather in the USA, lots of hot girls, drive across the border to Tijuana anytime to party cheaply, nobody hates SD. Austin - "Gem" of Texas, really liberal, but liberals don't turn into loud obnoxious bullies because the rest of the state keeps them in check. Mid-sized city feel, money goes a little further bec…
/r/askTRP24/05/17 11:22 PM
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Well, he specifically said "I heard to avoid, LA, Chicago, because they are also leftist AF". Who are we to judge his preferences?
/r/askTRP24/05/17 06:07 PM
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Depends, what do you value in a city? Big cities: LA/NYC/DC/SF/Chicago: Higher cost of living, more things to do for young singles, not sure if your cost of living adjustment with your job will cover the higher CoL. You'll never be bored there. 2nd tier cities: Charlotte/Austin/Dallas/San Diego/etc: Fairly cheap to live in, still lots of things to do but not infinite, less people to do it with if you got obscure hobbies such as Chess or Foosball, but still almost infinite amount of women. 3rd ti…
/r/askTRP24/05/17 04:51 PM
3

I wouldn't recommend the whole red pill, but definitely the "Hollywood approved" version of the red pill. Example: Look better by lifting and keeping fit, act confident around women even if you're not, etc.
/r/askTRP24/05/17 04:45 PM
0

Avoid major cities. Do a Google search on how each voted in the 2016 elections. Go from there if that's your main moving criteria.
/r/askTRP24/05/17 04:43 PM
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Go through the comments, maybe it'll have additional info. But my personal perspective: stand with feet apart shoulder-width, feet pointing slightly outward, hands with your thumbs in pockets - this subconcously points to your crotch, which is an alpha display. Like this. https://kennyspuathoughts.files.wordpress.com/2014/02/posture22.jpg?w=326 Good luck
/r/askTRP24/05/17 04:34 PM
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There ya go. https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2009/06/05/alpha-body-language/ Good luck
/r/askTRP23/05/17 11:03 PM
3

Then you may have to be a little more direct. "Yeah, you can't be doing that, not cool" and continue talking about something else. You don't want her dwelling on it, but you also want her to know that isn't cool, and subconsciously think twice before doing it again.
/r/askTRP23/05/17 10:03 PM
1

I once had this idea to join a sex addict anonymous meeting to meet women. Never followed up on it, thought it would be a similar concept.
/r/askTRP23/05/17 09:56 PM
7

That IS the solution: Don't stick your dick in crazy If it's already in crazy, withdraw and ghost.
/r/askTRP23/05/17 09:53 PM
1

Nothing, he's your boss. Assuming you have zero respect for him, just roll your eyes and smile and let it go. If he continues, just agree and amplify "Yup, you're totally right, I AM a chump cuz I lift". Why do you care about what that guy does? Do you care if a homeless person talks badly about your fashion sense?
/r/askTRP23/05/17 09:52 PM
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Try to internalize this concept: The attractiveness of a man is confidence + looks + wealth + social status + charisma + lots of other things. The attractiveness of a woman is looks + femininity If you can internalize the shit outta that concept, then you realize "looking the way you do" is only a minor ding on your overall SMV.
/r/askTRP23/05/17 09:48 PM
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No, don't "reject" her, no girls likes being blatantly rejected. Be polite and nice at work, radio silence outside of work, if she calls you out on it the next day, apologize and make an excuse, "oh, sorry, got busy". Think of all the time you got rejected passively by women, do that.
/r/askTRP23/05/17 09:45 PM
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Agreed, go radio silent for 2-3x the amount of time you usually don't talk to her anyway. Bare the storm of craziness as she tries to track you down, keep radio silence. Then return like nothing happened, "yeah, sorry, I was busy", continue your relationship, hope she can link this to her comment.
/r/askTRP23/05/17 09:42 PM
1

Not sure about anything else, but this is for sure: If you're feeling up her leg, she knows your intentions. She's just playing dumb because she enjoys the attention and validation without any investment on her part.
/r/askTRP23/05/17 06:20 PM
3

Take a walk with her, hold her hand as you do. Let go and see if she continues holding. If she does, you know you're in the right direction. When resting after the walk, stare at a great view. Have her stare into it, stand behind her and wrap your arms around her waist, you two are staring at the same grew view together. After the great view, turn her around so she's really close to you with your arms still around her, kiss her. Make up some bullshit excuse to end up in your place, such as "I re…
/r/askTRP23/05/17 06:18 PM
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Don't worry about missing out on wild oats, you're only 25. Your SMV will increase over the next 5-10 years, you'll get more and more attractive while women decrease, "getting some" will get easier and easier for you. If you want to live the wild oats life, move to a NorthEast major city, you can rack up your numbers. When it's time to settle down, I'd recommend smaller cities/towns. I met my gf in a 2nd tier city that has less than 300k in population. The problem with that, is you either have t…
/r/askTRP22/05/17 05:04 PM
1

There're a couple of explanations: Do you have really bad English and understanding of American culture? If so, do you mostly go after Asian girls because you think they will probably also have really bad English, therefore will forgive your bad English? You assume non-Asian girls will have better English, therefore unapproachable? You hamster your way into thinking "I just like Asian girls" and "I like everything Asian" to feel better about it? One of my current acquiescence does that. PS, he's…
/r/askTRP22/05/17 04:56 PM
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She seems kinda bad for your life (lack sleep) and also seems like a liability (car rides). To be fair, most women / family kinda are liabilities, but you gotta make sure it's worth it for you. Priorities in your life: You > Her
/r/askTRP22/05/17 04:51 PM
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In situations where she's being more difficult than she's worth, or more difficult than it is to approach/find another girl. Attentive girl > girl you haven't approached yet > difficult girl The last group should get "soft next" because then 2nd group is infinite. If she comes back for you and you think she moved to first group, then that works out for you. If not, again, 2nd group is infinite.
/r/askTRP22/05/17 04:47 PM
1

Again, 95% of people you meet won't give a fuck about you, you just have to accept it.
/r/askTRP21/05/17 01:16 AM
2

Keep us updated how it works out for you.
/r/askTRP19/05/17 09:18 PM
2

Afternoon dates and she can't legally drink - I don't know. Picnic with a great scenery, and you bring a bottle of wine to share? Putt putt? Row-boat rental in a park? Why're you going on a 2 hour date in the afternoon? It's like guaranteed that you won't get to fck her.
/r/askTRP19/05/17 09:17 PM
1

Am I like the only person feeling bad for this kid? He's in a race that's least attractive to women, has high desires, and we're just kinda telling him to fuck off and quit being annoying. But yeah, Adanrarian, no name-calling please. You're the first one bring up race, and wtf is a neckbeard?
/r/askTRP19/05/17 08:54 PM
1

Depends: How old are you? What time is the date? Is it a weekday or a weekend?
/r/askTRP19/05/17 08:50 PM
1

95% of people you meet couldn't give a fuck about you at all. 1% will hate you and 4% will enjoy your company. Focus on that 4%, be nice to the 95% and maybe they'll move into the 4% later on.
/r/askTRP19/05/17 08:48 PM
1

Do the best job you can, have a good relationship with your manager. When he publicly displays your mistake, smile, and say "good catch, thanks". Roll your eyes, continue talking and move on. If you don't treat him like a big deal, he won't be a big deal to you. If he does it too often, imagine this flow: 3rd time he corrects you You: "Dude, chill out with all that" and continue talking to the rest of the group. If he doesn't stop: Him: "I'm just trying to be helpful, this is important because..…
/r/askTRP19/05/17 08:45 PM
1

45 hours a week isn't all that bad, most full-time jobs are pretty much the same. In my experiences, most people who worry about "missing out" are usually bored with life. My recommendations: Find your interests via meetup groups, and attend some of those. This goes double for "causes" you care about, having a purpose in life works wonders against boredom. Spam the shit out of online dating sites, spend 30-60 minutes a day doing it, see how many dates a week you can line up. If you do #2 and sti…
/r/askTRP19/05/17 08:38 PM
1

Unfortunately, at any time, most people don't have 3 places who would love to have them, and happen to have an opening for exactly what he does.
/r/askTRP19/05/17 08:31 PM
2

I'd agree with this.
/r/askTRP19/05/17 06:09 PM
3

If they're actually friends, maintenance should be low. Sure keep them around as friends. What TRP doesn't recommend is being in the friend zone, where you put in a lot of effort and maintenance and she gets attention and validation. PS, if she fades away if you treat her like any guy friend, then she probably isn't a friend.
/r/askTRP19/05/17 06:07 PM
3

Maybe you missed the "isolate" part.
/r/askTRP19/05/17 06:05 PM
20

Because you can go for 5's in addition to going for 9's.
/r/askTRP19/05/17 06:03 PM
3

There're very few things that're obviously "wrong moves", unless it's blatantly stupid. Figure out what works for you. That's what TRP is all about - it's not about replacing a set of unproven beliefs with another set of unproven beliefs. TRP is about using real-world data to make smarter decisions on how to get better at life. If complimenting early on works for you, that's real-world data.
/r/askTRP19/05/17 04:45 PM
4

Yeah......DEFINITELY don't shit where you eat here. Smile, nod, acknowledge, continue doing a good job and let it go. She seems unstable, I'm sure the single mom thing isn't helping out. Good luck.
/r/askTRP19/05/17 04:39 PM
1

Pills? Take one when you reach your/her place, if that's what you're worried about?
/r/askTRP19/05/17 04:38 PM
4

Most things aren't true when you add the words "every time" into a sentence. But I CAN tell you that since "women's liberation", their overall happiness has decreased, there's REAL DATA stating that. http://freakonomics.com/2008/08/05/happiness-inequality-2-differences-between-groups/
/r/askTRP19/05/17 04:36 PM
-2

Think of something funny from a TV show or something, it'll make the sad moment seem less sad.
/r/askTRP18/05/17 09:36 PM
1

Be professional, dont' shit where you eat, and be an overall helpful coworker.
/r/askTRP18/05/17 04:49 PM
1

Being in your profession, you should find another job easily. Go find somewhere that's not female dominated that may suit you better. Yeah you may feel like "the enemy won", but who cares? It's good for your life.
/r/askTRP18/05/17 04:48 PM
2

If you're scared of being homeless or be in a low-paying job you hate, CPA is definitely a MUCH better choice than Art. Even entry level CPAs make good money, you'll gain experience from there, don't worry. Getting stuck in a high paying job you hate - now that's a separate problem that CPAs may face.
/r/askTRP18/05/17 04:45 PM
1

If she keeps her word and you two progress fine, then you save some money. If she breaks her word or you two break up, you're kinda fucked, and you can't go back to this sweet deal you currently have. I'd say don't do it. If your current place really is "stupid cheap rent", keep your place and move in with her, see how it goes for a year. And if she bitches about your safety net, tell her you use it as a storage for all your stuff.
/r/askTRP17/05/17 11:16 PM
1

Continue to be friendly to her with your social circle, mentally move on, ghost when your social circle isn't around. Make some weak excuse about you ghosting if she asks you during social circle time. IE: "Yeah, I totally got busy with XYZ and meant to txt you back, sorry"
/r/askTRP17/05/17 08:57 PM
1

As long as it's clean and it works well. It won't "help", but it won't be a liability.
/r/askTRP17/05/17 07:07 PM
3

Before investing any real money into it, I'd recommend "testing the market" to see if people actually want to buy it. Here's how you do that for under $500: Build a website and pretend to sell it. This can be done via upwork cheaply offshore, both the design and the building of website itself. Put Google Analytics code on all pages to track activity. Bring traffic to the website via online ads. Spend $200 with any type of online ads (Adwords, Facebook, etc) and bring relevant people to your webs…
/r/askTRP17/05/17 07:06 PM
1

If you're talking about specific events, such as "going out tonight", rest is what worked best for me. I'm "on" a lot more often when I take a 1-2 hour nap before going out. Happy hours after a 8 hour workday? I'm like a zombie on autopilot. Not sure if this helps, but I wrote something about it like years back. http://www.seductionadventures.com/2009/04/mood-and-state.html
/r/askTRP17/05/17 07:00 PM
4

Well, no one likes getting rejected. You seem to know everything there is to know, you just have to believe it. I think of it like this: Free throws - the more you miss, the more you make, because you'll be taking more shots. You will dislike each miss, but each miss increases your chance of making more.
/r/askTRP17/05/17 06:54 PM
3

Don't take it seriously, she's just trying to build rapport, what you say doesn't matter. "Bruce Lee, Princess Peach, and the Chinese writing character for sky". Then ask her something to build rapport, keep it fun, etc.
/r/askTRP17/05/17 06:51 PM
1

Oh, you're not from USA. Then I take back all advice I've given, I do not understand the cultural differences or how women react there.
/r/askTRP17/05/17 06:46 PM
1

Charisma - heck out Mystery Method or Magic Bullets for the Attraction part (Playfulness, disqualification, Demonstration of High Value, etc). For the comfort/rapport phase, check out more mainstream "blue pill" things, Google "how to be a great conversationalist". Ask her about herself and make her feel important, etc. The thing that's holding you back - I can't make random guesses. Your best bet would be finding a friend to go out with you and watch you. If you don't have any, try attending a …
/r/askTRP16/05/17 11:27 PM
1

Didn't see it, used ctrol+F scan "Athol" and "Kay", couldn't find it.
/r/askTRP16/05/17 11:21 PM
29

Be physically attractive and feminine. Think of where the guys you want to be with are, be in those places. Have an open, inviting body language and smile. Send a vibe that you'd respond positively if anyone approaches. Continue to work on 1, Repeat steps 2 and 3. None of the other things you mentioned about yourself are relevant. Good luck.
/r/askTRP16/05/17 11:16 PM
3

You can't control what other people do, you can only influence it. The only thing you can do is show your disapproval, and hope she values it enough to cooperate.
/r/askTRP16/05/17 11:14 PM
3

But his blueprint is still a great classic.
/r/askTRP16/05/17 11:08 PM
1

Conversational skills isn't just the ability to talk to them without anxiety. If that's the case, every ghetto kid that yells "Yo, yo, girl with that big ass, yo, come here" would be considered great conversationalists. Charisma - that's definitely a learned thing. It's being interesting while making women drawn to you. There're diff schools of that, from "clown game" to "most interesting man in the world game" to everything else that may work for you. You don't need to be president to have soci…
/r/askTRP16/05/17 11:07 PM
1

Because at that time you felt supreme confidence - getting positive reaction from a hot girl. Confidence + adrenaline rush.
/r/askTRP16/05/17 10:30 PM
1

What happened to Athol Kay? I remember him from his blog MMSL. He stopped writing to work on his money-making services, and I kinda lost track of him.
/r/askTRP16/05/17 10:03 PM
1

Beggars can't be choosers, I do believe "being alone > being with someone you're not happy with". Because at that time, she's a liability who offers nothing that you can't get from friends/family except sex. I'll leave it to your imagination on the quickest way to acquire sex. SMV is multi-dimensional. I'm glad you dress well and are fit. Those alone should get you a lot of women, as long as you're not just totally bad in any other area that defines you as a man. Those are: Conversation skills, …
/r/askTRP16/05/17 09:48 PM
2

Same as any other leads - invite her to join you for a drink close to your place, and go from there.
/r/askTRP16/05/17 09:20 PM
2

I'm gonna assume this isn't a troll attempt and take this seriously: Were you happy with her, or was she merely "the best you could've gotten"? If it's the 2nd one, then you made the right choice. From an internal perspective, you gotta get over the regret, what's done is done, regardless of whether it was a good or bad decision. Obviously raising your SMV and letting go of your anger is the solution. From there, work on acquiring more women. If you're getting numbers and they're not replying ba…
/r/askTRP16/05/17 09:18 PM
2

Find some wing-men in your area to go out with, or friends who are good with women. See what they're doing, etc. I had some great wing-men who helped each other out when I was single, and the "community" was the best thing I've ever had in terms of refining game. PUA/TRP taught me game theories and tactics. Community and friends taught me practical things along with "balance" of game, such as comfort vs neg; chastising when she flakes vs faint acknowledgement, etc.
/r/askTRP16/05/17 09:11 PM
3

I think both require you to be kinda fit, or at least will train you to be. They're both great arts for actual combat and building strength and confidence, I'd recommend either. I think boxing is more practical, but both have its drawbacks. Boxing: You get punched in the face BJJ: You roll around on the ground with another dude.
/r/askTRP13/05/17 08:18 AM
1

One thing I do see though: Indian guys with some really hot Indian girls.
/r/askTRP12/05/17 10:39 PM
1

Because that's all they can get, and they'd prefer an ugly girl to no girl.
/r/askTRP12/05/17 10:33 PM
1

I do remember wearing gi when I was learning Judo. But I've always imagined it to be a little practical on the street. Front gi grab = shirt grab gi sleeve grab = arm grab back of neck gi grab = head grab or head lock
/r/askTRP12/05/17 10:30 PM
1

I don't think Judo's Gi specific at higher levels. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=60Sl7HoLBtU
/r/askTRP12/05/17 09:58 PM
3

By reacting negatively each time she does something negative - never give into her demands if she proposes it in a bitchy way, etc.
/r/askTRP12/05/17 09:13 PM
1

The first thing I'd say is "Quit specifically chasing white women, it's kinda unhealthy". But given that: Move to a more racially diverse city, and people don't self-segregate as much. Don't even acknowledge race, be as "cool" as possible without any Indian traits. Do something to visually separate you with the rest of the Indans. I'm Asian, I dyed the tip of my hair like this guy. Run your game, whatever it happens to be - day game, night game, spamming PoF, whatever works best for you. Good lu…
/r/askTRP12/05/17 09:07 PM
1

"Show me a picture", decline if she's ugly.
/r/askTRP12/05/17 09:02 PM
29

How would a CEO deal with this? They'd realize that those people are so far beneath them, roll their eyes, and move on with a smile. They wouldn't even give this a 2nd thought. Do that.
/r/askTRP12/05/17 09:00 PM
1

In western cultures. In most eastern cultures, everything's a huge competition, everyone talks about how good of grades their kids got, then what prestigious university their kid got into, and then much money their kid makes.
/r/askTRP12/05/17 08:07 PM
2

Judo's better than nothing, except it's too "friendly" of a sport - you throw them down and let him back up. But if you're high level Judo, you can just throw him down over and over. But low level boxers can do lots of damage without being too skilled. So yeah, the learning curve vs real life uses are kinda against you there. Basketball - Most of the Bball games I play are with other middle aged professionals who're all afraid to get hurt, and they're really friendly. It's a good workout, but it…
/r/askTRP12/05/17 07:59 PM
1

You're not bothering us, this is why we have this thread - for men to help each other out. Factors to consider: Are you pulling the women in SoCal? I'm guessing no because you say you're lonely. If that's the case, the abundance of beautiful women don't apply to you. Besides women, will your life better in Sac? I know bills will be lowered, but do you have friends there, besides the 1 friend that you don't respect? If not, then why move there, besides to save money on rent? Things to think about…
/r/askTRP12/05/17 06:59 PM
1

Training in martial arts would work - the point isn't to kick someone's ass, but to have the confidence of knowing that you can. This confidence will show. And it also teaches you that even if you get your ass kicked, it's not all that bad, this would help your risk-avoidance life. And learn a "real" martial arts, where sparring is main goal - boxing, kickboxing, muay thai, jujitsu, etc.
/r/askTRP12/05/17 06:53 PM
0

If you're Asian and it's family (especially mom and dad), just fucking tell them. Family that you don't care much about? "Hah, enough to buy some ramon noodles and play video games with"
/r/askTRP12/05/17 06:49 PM
11

Wait - you got friendzoned and you now say "but I'm obviously not interested in her"? Those seem kinda contradictory, cuz the definition of being friendzoned was that you were interested in the first place. The Machiavellian thing to do is keep doing whatever you're doing and keep getting free shit. The high road is to tell her "I like you more than a friend, that's why you and I can't be friends. Asking me to try otherwise isn't fair for either of us". Hopefully after your soft-nexting for a wh…
/r/askTRP11/05/17 09:13 PM
3

Go to home depot and ask them about a clogged toilet. My guesses: Try plunger first, then Draino, then a toilet snake. Edit: Don't try Draino, it's bad for toilets.
/r/askTRP10/05/17 10:48 PM
1

This probably made you realize your friends really aren't that good of friends. Sorry you have shitty friends, but it's better that you find out now than not finding out at all. Take this as life lesson, find better friends, try to not have one-itis, go from there.
/r/askTRP10/05/17 10:45 PM
3

Anything else feels too much like a date or screams "innocent", including coffee. You could get a Sprite with 2 wedges of lime. It makes it looks like you're drinking an alcoholic drink (clear, lime, etc), but not actually drinking. Some other ideas, not sure about them though: Play a few games of pool at a pool hall near you Invite her over for video games if she's into it Tell her you got this exotic bottle of wine you've been meaning to try, and invite her to join you. Play it up, such as "I'…
/r/askTRP10/05/17 10:36 PM
1

If you do something everyone else can do, then you'll be looking at min wage. I'd look into the following that not everyone can do: Office work if you speak well and can use a PC: Assistant, clerk, secretary, computer repair assistant, etc. Physical labor: If you're a guy and are willing to do some physical work, it would pay more than min wage. The work sucks, but think of that as "working out". Office workers like myself go out of their way after work, and pay a gym so we can do that. If you c…
/r/askTRP10/05/17 10:26 PM
7

Meet up for a drink at a bar close to you. Each grab a drink, make some small talk, get to know each other better, and make an excuse to get to go to your place. Both of you know what's up, but women still like the pretense. Few girls will say yes to "wanna come over my place and fck", but lots will "come over and let me show you my new art piece I recently acquired", and it just happened from there. It doesn't have to make sense.
/r/askTRP10/05/17 10:20 PM
7

There'll be 3 whole months where she'll be getting fucked up at bars and you can't join. There'll be the rest of your life where she'll be fucked up at bars, and are you gonna "play guardian" each time? I'd recommend making other plans instead of joining her party if she's already preemptively ditching you that night. You either trust her or you don't.
/r/askTRP10/05/17 09:29 PM
3

The world is BP, it's safe, warm, fuzzy, and PC. Most offices are like that. You don't need to be friends with your coworkers or share your beliefs, you go in there, be pleasant, make money, and live your life outside of work.
/r/askTRP10/05/17 09:26 PM
2

Wait - is she asking you to pay for the whole thing? Or is she asking you to pay half of it? If she's hinting you to pay for the whole thing, say "Sure, just pay for whatever you think we'll need, and tell me how much I owe you for my half". That'll politely tell her you're not paying for it all, and hold your frame from there. No bullshit about "how much she likes you" or "fairness" or "how much more you make" will change your mind. "Hope, I'm not gonna contribute more money into this just cuz …
/r/askTRP10/05/17 09:24 PM
4

"You seem like bad luck, I'll make sure to avoid that number when playing the lottery"
/r/askTRP10/05/17 09:02 PM
2

Stop doing anything nice for her. If she asks, tell her "Remember when you didn't do X because you said I didn't do Y? Well, now I'm not gonna do Z, I think it works out". Pretty soon, she'll start not being so ungrateful, or she'll be pissed enough that this relationship will fizzle out. Both scenarios, problem solved.
/r/askTRP10/05/17 09:01 PM
1

Not sure how this one relates, but I have a friend who's very junior (despite similar age as me) in his career and very naive but likes to randomly dream without the initiative to do anything, and doesn't really know how the business / tech world works. He'll randomly tell me things like "Hey you should start your own business. This way nobody can tell you to show up to work on time, and you can make millions and do less work!" I usually go "Okay bud" and let it go. Once in a while I'd say "Sure…
/r/askTRP09/05/17 06:43 PM
1

Some TRP beliefs are no-brainers, such as "If you looked better, are richer, had more charisma and confidence, more women will be attracted to you". Some beliefs are a little more "anti-hollywood versions" that need more proof by science. This may be a good start. It's a collection of links to actual studies and TRP's interpretations of those studies. https://heartiste.wordpress.com/category/science-validates-game/
/r/askTRP08/05/17 05:17 PM
2

Well, if you fluster when someone has a cig towards your face, you fail and she's no longer interested. A situation she puts you in to see if you fluster, and if you fail that situation she will be less attracted - isn't that what a shit test is?
/r/askTRP05/05/17 05:16 PM
1

It'll come more natural if you do it more often. Not sure if this helps, but I always had a false sense of superiority when I did it - like "wow, I'm dressed nicer than 99% of these losers around me". Not sure if you want to take it to that extreme, but better than insecurity about dressing nice.
/r/askTRP04/05/17 05:11 PM
1

Do it anyway - try to be a little more careful, but run your game just like anyone else. You'll never get anywhere if you don't touch her. It's better that you take a risk and lose her, than to play it safe and definitely get into the friend zone.
/r/askTRP03/05/17 09:47 PM
2

Txt a pic of Birthday Cat. Specific reasons below: https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2015/05/14/birthday-cat-game/
/r/askTRP03/05/17 09:45 PM
8

Google "Dicarlo Escalation Ladder". It's a step by step breakdown of how to touch her more and more. It's a little too "structured" for most people's taste, but you seems like someone that needs it.
/r/askTRP03/05/17 09:44 PM
1

Haha. I actually like Sac, I go there once a year. But not sure what happened here. http://www.sacbee.com/news/local/article145687274.html
/r/askTRP03/05/17 07:36 PM
2

Follow Carnegie if you want people to like you as a person. Follow Commandments if you want to build sexual attraction.
/r/askTRP03/05/17 07:33 PM
1

Not really sure - I think somewhere in the 80's, there was a war against men in USA. They demonized all things "manly" in schools and the media. I'm not really sure why that is, but it probably had to do with rise of feminism and those ideas taking over our government education and media. 90's kids were led to believe "women like sensitive men" and "real men cry" and all other things. Those kids grow up to be adults and those ideas got further reinforced by the media and higher education, and th…
/r/askTRP03/05/17 07:29 PM
2

What if I asked you to give me $100 via PayPal right now? You'd think it's really stupid and just say "no", right? That's the mental trick, try feeling like that. Also, "Dude, I already said I'm not going, I think you're better off asking someone else." "Oh, I didn't know me going was that important to you. Yeah, sorry, still not going. Would really appreciate you stop asking. No means no, ya know".
/r/askTRP03/05/17 07:23 PM
2

Prom's easy. "Not into prom things, sorry, not going". "Sorry, I'm broke. Gonna go to Taco Bell instead" with a smile. Most people wouldn't harass you about it after you just tell them "no". I doubt you'd be the only one, a study shows most people actually don't go to their proms. https://today.yougov.com/news/2014/04/28/proms/
/r/askTRP03/05/17 07:09 PM
1

Good stuff bro. Yeah, I really should drop around 40 lbs.
/r/askTRP03/05/17 07:06 PM
1

Yes, both are great cities. Your life will be "busier" in NYC, but that comes with lots of opportunities to meet women. I also think the gender ratio is slightly better in NYC than DC, both are good though. DC has its advantages too - it's cleaner, smaller, and a lot more relaxed if you live in the suburbs. I lived in the DC suburbs for years on the Virginia side.
/r/askTRP03/05/17 06:47 PM
1

How tall are you? I'm around 220 lbs, and I'm at 6'. I look terrible.
/r/askTRP03/05/17 06:45 PM
2

In San Francisco Bay area, living w/ girlfriend for 8 years. She and I met while I was living in a small city for 2 years. She moved to DC with me and when I lost my job and got one there, and she moved again to California because I wanted to be here. Decent professional job in an area with lots of jobs. Not super "successful", but been a marketing manager forever. Not sure if I have the "drive" to advance my career, decent steady paycheck to support a pretty good life.
/r/askTRP03/05/17 06:44 PM
4

Wait 3 hours, "Nvm, made other plans"
/r/askTRP03/05/17 06:39 PM
2

This has to be a troll attempt.
/r/askTRP03/05/17 06:31 PM
1

I personally think it's easier to pick up a single girl. As a regular guy, single girls judge me as "good enough" instead relationship girl judging me as "better than this other guy" she's seeing.
/r/askTRP03/05/17 06:26 PM
3

If you want to be courteous, tell them that you have a conflict that day (assuming outside of school hours). And no amount of them trying to change your mind will work. "Nope, can't reschedule my event, sorry". "Nope, this isnt' a request for permission, this is me notifying you that I won't go". If they have a Email / phone contact, do that. It's easier to say "no" over Email or phone. If the event is after graduation and you'll never see them again, just don't go. What're they gonna do? Find y…
/r/askTRP03/05/17 06:25 PM
1

I'd be kinda surprised that a very good looking man has "negative charisma". Was he just shy and doesn't talk to anyone, and when he does talk it becomes awkward? Or are you imagining the "asshole" type, where you think it's bad charisma, but in reality it's very attractive to women?
/r/askTRP02/05/17 09:47 PM
1

Men's attractiveness is a very "holistic" thing, and resources is just one of them. Other ones including looks, confidence, charisma, social status, etc. While you out-perform in one aspect, you may lose out on others.
/r/askTRP02/05/17 09:33 PM
2

It's a shit test, and her attempt to flirt. If she didn't like you, she would've just rolled her eyes and moved on. Smile, say "thanks for the offer", take the cig from her and take a drag (and don't inhale if you don't smoke). This would also be a compliance test from your part - seeing if she willingly gives up the cig as you take it. If she does, it's a good sign.
/r/askTRP02/05/17 09:24 PM
2

No such thing as "girl code", they just don't like you enough. Maybe she liked you when her friend was dating you, almost like "other kid's toy" mentality. Keep being friendly with her, keep gaming other girls, run the same game you normally do, go from there.
/r/askTRP02/05/17 09:21 PM
1

Basic supply and demand - women have a lot more options online than men do, therefore you have to do all the work in the initial conversation until she gets a little more invested, and you differentiate yourself from her other 100 options.
/r/askTRP01/05/17 09:59 PM
2

Yeah, I was being polite and at least pretended to grab a drink with her. My first instinct was to leave, my upbringing made me sit through the pretense for 10 minutes before leaving.
/r/askTRP01/05/17 09:58 PM
1

I don't know about this life thing your referring to, but I do know you and i should grab a drink tonight. 8pm? (Yes, with grammar mistakes and all)
/r/askTRP01/05/17 08:54 PM
1

Thought it was a lost cause, she preemptively brought a cock block.
/r/askTRP01/05/17 08:08 PM
1

I assume when you say "higher class women", you mean women with certain incomes - yes, you need to at least match their incomes. From a pure hotness perspective, "her class" is pretty irrelevant. I don't totally agree on the (Fitness + Good job) > (Fit Bartender) in terms of fcking attractive women. I do believe this: Charisma > Fitness <> Job.
/r/askTRP01/05/17 06:52 PM
3

Semi-related story: Asked a girl to "meet up for a drink" (1st date), She showed up with a male friend. He did sit at the bar while we sat at the table. But that told me that this wasn't going anywhere, I awkwardly finished my 1 drink over 10 minutes of small-talk, dropped $20 (felt obligated to buy her drink too), "I need to get going, was good seeing you" and left. My friends got a good laugh out of it - I left dinner w/ them early to "go on this date", and joined them again for dinner 30 minu…
/r/askTRP01/05/17 06:41 PM
2

It's a shit test, seeing if you'd fluster under an awkward question like that. Not sure what the thing w/ the bf is about - maybe it's just her display to her bf that "I have options and can have additional options anytime I want"?
/r/askTRP01/05/17 06:27 PM
5

Her: "Who else you seeing?" You "Yo mama" Her: "Seriously, who else are you seeing?" You: "You mean besides yo mama? I hear your sister's cute" Her: "No I mean it, who else are you seeing?" You: "Come on now, don't be silly. <<kiss on forehead>> I was thinking of pizza for dinner, what do you think?"
/r/askTRP01/05/17 06:16 PM
2

While you aren't "set", you can live your life VERY comfortably with $1mm in the bank, assuming you still have a full-time job. Especially if you move somewhere cheap to live, and not places like NY/SF/DC/etc. You're already above 90% of Americans. I don't think $1mm is enough to attract women PURELY based on the ability to throw money around, at least not long term. Learn charisma, learn other things that attract women. "Poorfag" is probably something in your head, most women have a huge range …
/r/askTRP01/05/17 06:14 PM
1

Probably, but it definitely communicates that it's a date. Obviously the draw back is her getting freaked out and your date canceled.
/r/askTRP28/04/17 08:18 PM
3

Wear your pretty underwear for me This line may risk your date canceled, but will definitely communicate it's a date:
/r/askTRP28/04/17 08:06 PM
2

Because anything that hurts women's feelings are "mean". And words like sexist is a lot more effective than saying "an idea is mean".
/r/askTRP28/04/17 08:04 PM
3

I was wrong, 90% under 120, not 98%. Edited. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intelligence_quotient
/r/askTRP28/04/17 08:01 PM
1

Roll your eyes, laugh it off like the childishness it is, and continue on with life. If specifically asked, the answer is always "sure" with a chuckle and an eye roll.
/r/askTRP28/04/17 06:35 PM
3

Didn't read the whole post, but to answer the titled question: Yes, I truly believe that anything over 140IQ is a detriment to social interactions. 90% of humans are under 120IQ, people too smart have a harder time relating with most humans.
/r/askTRP28/04/17 06:34 PM
1

TRP is a belief, on how things and people work. It's an "awakening" that Hollywood's version isn't really true, and this is what human nature is really about. PUA/Seduction is a subset of TRP, specifically about how to interact with women to get the results you want to get.
/r/askTRP28/04/17 06:30 PM
1

Read lots of red pill blogs / forums, figure out what beliefs complements your world view. Internalize those and go from there. You won't always make "red-pill decisions", but you'll at least be able to reflect back into your life and understand why things happen, from a red pill lense.
/r/askTRP28/04/17 06:09 PM
6

While you'll never get the truth, you probably would know based on her personality, where she lived, etc. I recently made a female friend - super cute, mid 20's, outgoing, and is very experienced dealing with guys. Faints (or genuine) interest with all people, can find something in common with everyone, almost a "salesperson" type personality. She also told me she used to cut herself when she was younger. Without asking, I'd put her N-count to be 20-30. I think for a "real" LTR that may lead to …
/r/askTRP28/04/17 06:07 PM
3

Listen to everything she has to bitch about, then continuously answer her questions with "It's up to you, dear". If she asks you why you keep saying that, "Because it really is up to you. You have more information to make this decision. This decision affects you a lot more than it affects me, so you're probably best that you make this decision".
/r/askTRP28/04/17 06:04 PM
1

Well, you probably started knowing that WAY before now. You probably just didn't care until it hit home for you - literally.
/r/askTRP27/04/17 11:38 PM
1

A isn't gonna help you. Hang out with A and B together, try to get B to like you. Exchange contact info with B message casually - if you don't like FB , then get additional contact info that works better for you. For example: If she's talking about being interested in X, "Yeah, let's trade numbers, I'll send you the info I was talking about on X". if B is having fun and liking you, she isn't going to care that you can already send stuff to her via FB message, women aren't logical like that. They…
/r/askTRP27/04/17 11:36 PM
2

You can't help others who don't want to be helped. That's a life lesson you'll figure out eventually, might as well start with one closest to you.
/r/askTRP27/04/17 11:27 PM
2

No, you're not becoming a rapist, you're becoming a man. Also, I wouldn't go around touching women's asses. Majority of the time you'll get a flirty reaction, 1% of time you'll get sued for sexual assault, no matter how good you are at predicting people's reactions. Don't play Grab Ass Russian Roulette.
/r/askTRP27/04/17 11:25 PM
6

Totally. You haven't experienced easy wins in life until you've beaten up a 4 year old
/r/askTRP27/04/17 01:41 AM
1

Not sure what it feels like - I personally believe it's different for different people. I get temporary happiness all the time, but I don't know what overall life happiness is. In terms of how to achieve it, try looking into Maslow's hierarchy of needs. Maybe that's a start.
/r/askTRP26/04/17 10:34 PM
1

No prob, good luck.
/r/askTRP26/04/17 10:28 PM
1

I'd recommend trying a casual pickup game, seeing how it goes. I live in a good-weathered area, so there're lots of pickup basketball and soccer games organized on meetup.com.
/r/askTRP26/04/17 10:05 PM
2

Sucks that you've been lied to, he was married and you didn't know. You (I assume) were hoping for a possibility of a LTR and he had no intentions. Men want lots of sex with lots of different women, women want commitment from 1 man. Battle of the sexes, right? And don't think of TRP as a "club", while there're definitely TRP reddit forum members, we actually represent a small minority of men who think like this. He probably understands a lot of what we do, but he understands it intuitively, prob…
/r/askTRP26/04/17 09:41 PM
1

What should you do - nothing. Understand she's in the "cockblock" category and treat her politely, but understand she's NOT on your side. Maybe ignore her as you're flirting w/ your girl (You tried being nice to her, didn't work out for you), do what you normally do against cockblocks. As for why - the short answer is "doesn't matter why". But if I had to guess: could be that she's bitter that she wasn't getting the attention her friend is; she thinks of you as a "low value man" and doesn't thin…
/r/askTRP26/04/17 09:24 PM
2

For me the shock is mostly on my knees and feet. But try it and see if it hurts your back. Obviously don't do it if it hurts.
/r/askTRP26/04/17 08:21 PM
2

I have lower back sore, had it for 10 years. Probably not at your level, but still annoys me. Can you still run and jump? If so, I personally play soccer and basketball, they're contact sports, but they don't put extra weight on your back. If not, let us know what you still CAN do, I'm sure there're fun things within your physical capabilities. I'm also the last person to tell you this, cuz I'm really outta shape. But I've been researching this lately: Look into body weight exercises. IE: Instea…
/r/askTRP26/04/17 07:21 PM
1

Because men can compartment sex and the rest of his life, women can't. Men can cheat and still love / cherish his wife. Same cannot be said about women. Evolutionarily, men trade resources for women's bodies. That's why it hurts men most when women have physical affairs (unknown sharing of her body). Women hurt most when men have emotional affairs(signalling sharing of his resources).
/r/askTRP26/04/17 07:12 PM
1

"Mutual friend" is NOT your friend, she's subconsciously cockblocking you for no reason, proceed with caution there. With the girl: Txt her sometime: "Thinking about grabbing a drink as a break from exam studying this week, join me". If she says "okay", go from there, work out logistics.
/r/askTRP26/04/17 07:07 PM
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I agree with others' comments. Your GF has to be upset for you to get involved. If she doesn't get upset, then she isn't GF material. If she does, then yeah, get involved.
/r/askTRP26/04/17 07:03 PM
7

In a playful manner, "I hate you" is better. In a serious manner, "I love you" is better.
/r/askTRP26/04/17 06:59 PM
1

Only "More than half" of your numbers flake? That's actually great ratio. Most numbers flake, that's life. Especially ones that you get at night-game, where she has a momentary mood boost and you took the opportunity to get her number. 75% of my numbers flaked, I just accepted it. The only thing that worked a little better for me to "solidify my numbers" was below: Keep talking to her after I got her number. I used to "get her number and move on", that was bad. Tentatively make some plans, like …
/r/askTRP26/04/17 06:06 PM
1

Wipe off the ketchup, roll your eyes and let it go. If he does it again, wipe off the ketchup, and wipe your hand on his shirt. Don't get into a fight unless he throws the first punch.
/r/askTRP26/04/17 06:03 PM
1

Say nothing to your plates until you get results, do not have sex until you know what's going on. Nice things you can do for your plates: Any fun date would do, from dinner, to wine tasting, to climbing walls, to archery lesson at your local archery range, to anything else you wanna do.
/r/askTRP26/04/17 06:00 PM
1

I got that a lot when I was dating. Two possible explanations: Could be buyer's remorse: You were able to spike a temporary peak in her mood, and you got intimate, and to her "it just happened". But the next day her mood is back to normal and realizes she made a mistake and there was no emotional connection to bring her back. Could be that you're just bad in bed Again, I used to get that a lot, I never figured out what it was for me.
/r/askTRP26/04/17 05:55 PM
1

By trying to fck 3 additional girls. If you're able to do that, I think your 1-ntis will fade.
/r/askTRP26/04/17 05:51 PM
1

From the comments, seems like you couldn't find the hole. Next time, just get into the position and ask her "Wanna put it in for me?" She'll do (almost) every time.
/r/askTRP26/04/17 05:37 PM
1

Not sure what type of success you're getting so far, but I'd recommend going to the traditional route - blast your resume to hundreds of entry level job openings in your field, see who responds. You won't get your dream job, but you'll get your first job after college and a good resume builder.
/r/askTRP26/04/17 05:35 PM
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My girlfriend is a preschool teacher, and tells me how her 4 year old students claim to be her boyfriend once in a while, and give her play-ground picked flowers and playground pebble rocks. I think it's kinda cute, and dismiss it as it should. "Oooo, lucky you". Or "He sounds VERY cute". Or "Hah, how cute". If you can genuinely care as little about yours as I did mine, then it shouldn't be hard for you. Obviously mine was pretty stupid.
/r/askTRP26/04/17 05:31 PM
1

No rule is absolute. 2/3 text rule is so she knows you're interested, but not always available, and she's investing more than you are. Never send her a pic of yourself - I wouldn't say "never" as an absolute, especially if you look good. Women aren't as turned on by looks as men are, they're attracted to personality/confidence/display of wealth (not actual bank balance) far more than looks. A lot of those can be conveyed in txt that are more important than your looks.
/r/askTRP25/04/17 09:21 PM
2

They tend to prefer doggy a little more in my experiences.
/r/askTRP25/04/17 12:02 AM
1

I pursue useless hobbies I'm into - billiards, chess, basketball, video games. I'd recommend you joining some meetup groups pursuing your hobbies.
/r/askTRP24/04/17 11:42 PM
2

TRP is a mentality, a concept of realizing what's "real" in our society and what's "make-beliefs". If you choose not to work out, then you don't work out. But there're real-life consequences of not working out, you should know that before making that decision. Make educated decisions is what TRP is all about.
/r/askTRP24/04/17 11:40 PM
1

Treat them just like any other girls. The only diff for me, is that they're a lot more likely to flake out after you set a date. But once you do get them on a date, they're more likely to go further.
/r/askTRP24/04/17 11:34 PM
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Enjoy dating and meeting many women, enjoy their companies. Don't worry about marriage material for now.
/r/askTRP24/04/17 06:11 PM
1

Park somewhere close and uber from there to reduce costs? Or ask her to pick you up from your parking spot, and drop you back?
/r/askTRP24/04/17 06:09 PM
1

What a troll
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/17 05:06 AM
1

This could be confirmation bias as well, but on a dating website, didn't women rate 80% of men as "below average" in looks? I know, statistically impossible. But if that's the perception, does that mean 80+% of men can't win using their looks?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/17 05:05 AM
1

You think both genders are equally likely to do different shitty behaviors? You dont' think one gender nags more than the other, or one gender is more likely to get drunk and into a fist fight than the other? In TRP, we care about statistics and averages and likeliness vs non-likeliness. We do not care about "this one time" or "I've seen multiple times" arguments. Unless 1000 people tell you "I've seen multiple times", then it becomes (somewhat of) a statistic. Not a very scientific one, but sti…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/17 11:02 PM
0

Because there'll be lots of men lining up to have casual sex with you, anytime you want. If that's something you enjoy, wouldn't it be a VERY fun life, to get that type of joy whenever you want?
/r/askTRP21/04/17 10:52 PM
1

Of course people categorize - it's a "more likely based on average" thing than a "definitely are because of your gender" thing. I doubt any RPers will insist on "you have to be this because you're that" logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/17 10:43 PM
0

I assumed in TRP forums, I don't need to include "in general". I assume I can make a statement like "men are taller than women", and will not get comments like "to say a woman can't be taller than a man is ridiculous". But to humor you: Yes, there's a minority of girls that enjoy casual sex without commitments. If you're one of those who can genuinely enjoy it without subconscious regrets, then it'll be VERY easy for you to have a fun life.
/r/askTRP21/04/17 10:40 PM
0

Sure, but women are not hard-wired to have casual sex. They're hard-wired to have commitment from the best guy they can find. You "using him" like that is kinda against women's nature. Your version of "using him" would be the friend zone - getting attention and validation from a guy without having to exchange your body in return.
/r/askTRP21/04/17 10:30 PM
1

No prob, but all guys will try.
/r/askTRP21/04/17 10:14 PM
3

The sign is "He is a guy". By definition, he'd like casual sex without commitment and he will be striving for it if believes he has options.
/r/askTRP21/04/17 10:07 PM
2

Degenerate like other commenter says, but good for picking up women. "Degenerate" is a proxy for "alphaness" in today's ulta-PC society.
/r/askTRP21/04/17 10:05 PM
3

Have a goal in mind. Some people are motivated "just be better than yesterday". You seem like the type who's only willing to be motivated if you get something out of it. Example: "If I can make $$$, I can get my own apartment and it would be easier for me to fck women" Example 2: "If I lose XXX pounds and gain more muscle, women will be more receptive to my game" Bad examples, all involve getting laid, but you get my point.
/r/askTRP21/04/17 10:04 PM
2

All guys want casual sex without commitment, all guys want casual sex with multiple women, it's hard wired in our systems. Is that what you mean by "plating you"? If so, the answer is "all of them are". It's up to you to convince the guy you aren't the casual sex without commitment type, women are hard-wired to find commitment with the best guy possible. Hence the battle of sexes in the mating game.
/r/askTRP21/04/17 10:01 PM
1

For your first question: TRP theory is that Women desire commitment while Men desire sexy. They make the "exchange", commitment for sex. If there're a lot of articles on how to get men to commit without having sex, men would be pissed. Same for the opposite, articles for men on how to get women to have sex without giving commitment. Since women are the "victim class" in today's society, there'll be lots of articles on how they're victims and how everything is against them, including this. For yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/17 09:54 PM
1

Nope, it's common, all men do it. From her perspective, she can't tell the diff. Enjoy doing it and don't feel guilty.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/17 09:48 PM
2

I'm a red pill guy: We believe you do what works for you. If you like women, and you think skin cleansing will get you more women, then go for it. A little feminine for my taste, but if it works for you. What we're against, is doing things that don't work for you, but you keep doing them anyway in a brainwashed way. Then we'll look down upon you for it. We don't always use the correct adjective when doing so, and "you're being a bitch" is a good catch-all.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/17 09:45 PM
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TBP's strategies is what works in Hollywood movies. Think of all the romantic comedies, that's TBP strategies. Of course, you'll have to look like Leonardo DiCaprio for beta strategies to work, if they do in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/17 09:42 PM
1

Of course women can get casual sex easier. Biologically, men are hard-wired to spread their seeds to many women, women are hard-wired to select the fittest seed from the best men. Women are a lot more discriminating than men when it comes to sex. Socially, men trade commitment in exchange for women's bodies, and vice versa. Almost every man would be willing to have women's bodies without commitment, which is what casual sex is.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/17 09:40 PM
2

Yes, America's gotten fat. Besides the abundance of food, there're lots of red pill theories on why that is. My take is that women no longer need men to survive, therefore they put less emphasis on attractiveness. When women's attractiveness decrease, men has less incentive to be attractive. The festivals from those pics are probably from "less racist" areas, such as California. Also, I think race relations have been worse now than ever. Silencing every comment you don't like by calling them "ra…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/17 09:36 PM
1

Because some segments don't understand "averages" and "in general", I consider it the "snowflake" mentality, where "you have to look at the individual". Also, it's a very convenient way to ignore reality. A neutral reality that people can agree on is Men are taller than Women. There're lots of other realities that are more offensive, that people would rather ignore than accept.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/17 09:31 PM
3

Yes. Even the greatest players have a low success rate of each girl. They just move onto other girls. Also, learn to increase your percentages, learn better text game.
/r/askTRP21/04/17 09:18 PM
0

It's up to you, I don't think we at TRP in general are against LTRs. If she really is just looking for more "commitment signs" from you and you want that, show her that. Ask her out to lunch or do the movie thing, just to show her that you're willing to hang around her even without sex involved.
/r/askTRP21/04/17 09:15 PM
2

She had buyer's remorse after the first date, but still likes you. She wants to turn you into a potential boyfriend by "dating" more than "Fcking". If she's just a rotation for you, recommend another day. "I want you to be able to concentrate on your paper, let's do it some other time". Hit her back up in a few days, and go from there.
/r/askTRP21/04/17 08:17 PM
3

It means she isn't interested in continuing the conversation. Wait for a couple of weeks and start something new with her, with something a lot more interesting hoping she'd re-engage. Int mean while while, learn better txt game. And chat w/ other girls.
/r/askTRP21/04/17 08:13 PM
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Shit test: Her playfully teasing you, putting you into tougher situations such as asking you if you're a player, etc. Isn't interested: Total indifference towards you, polite smile and nod as you talk to her, 1 word answers, doesn't engage, hoping you'd go away.
/r/askTRP21/04/17 08:08 PM
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Actually, having other people do things for you is not against alpha at all. Women who do favors for you are already interested in you. the tough part is for her to like you enough to do things for you. That's why PUA's have this technique called "hoop theory" for compliance test. Casually ask her to do something most people would do, and see if she complies. IE: "Do me a favor and hold my drink while I tie my shoes". As the date progresses, the hoops get higher and see what she's willing to jum…
/r/askTRP21/04/17 08:06 PM
1

I dont' think TRP says "dont be monogamous" at all. It teaches you to be the best version of yourself possible to achieve what you desire, based on evidence from reality and not hollywood ideals and fairy tales.
/r/askTRP20/04/17 11:20 PM
1

She thinks of you as so out of her league that she doesn't even give you shit tests. Shit tests only exist when she isn't sure about you. Raise your SMV, learn to flirt, shit tests will come. Also you could be getting them and not recognizing it.
/r/askTRP20/04/17 11:17 PM
2

You can be both. MGTOW doesn't mean "Virgin-TOW", it just means you have your own purpose in life. You stop worshiping women, but it doesn't prevent you from living the best life you can, and having women in your life, on your terms. I'd never call myself a MGTOW, but I have a live-in gf for 7 years, she moved to 2 diff major cities across the US with me because I wanted to be there. I'll never get married because we already live the married life and I have nothing to gain from signing a gov't d…
/r/askTRP20/04/17 04:57 PM
1

This is some petty shit on my part, but yeah, I'd like to see bad shit happen to her for tattling.
/r/askTRP20/04/17 07:42 AM
2

Yeah, totally changing your personality will be strange to people. Also don't take any of the tactics too literally, any tactics taken to the extreme are "clownish". For example, simple rule: Be Alpha. Music stars with lots of women chasing them, Alpha. Rappers who go out of their way to show off how alpha they are, those guys are clowns.
/r/askTRP19/04/17 10:34 PM
2

Break up w/ her. Be honest w/ the govn't about visa. If the Visa says she has visa because she's your gf, and she's now not your gf so be it.
/r/askTRP19/04/17 10:32 PM
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Assuming he isn't gonna get violent with you, fuck with him back. Examples of reframe: Example: Why are you so awkward? You: Why is yo mama so ugly? Example: Why do you always look angry? You: Why do you pay so much attention on how I always look? I don't swing that way if that's what you were hoping for. Examples of agree and amplify as a joke: Example: Why are you always so angry? You lightheartedly: Major world problems aren't resolved, people in Africa are starving, ISIS is still killing peo…
/r/askTRP19/04/17 10:24 PM
2

Get additional knowledge by reading additional material, sidebar is a good compilation. Spam lots of women on dating sites, see which ones respond. Don't be too discriminatory on their looks to start, you want to build up some experience on how to talk to them, think of ugly girls as "training wheels". Also at your age, few girls are truly ugly. Read other similar materials, until the frame of mind is solid and 2nd nature into your brain. This won't do anything about your luck w/ women, but TRP …
/r/askTRP19/04/17 10:19 PM
1

It was the correct move. She told you she would get back to you when she got home, she didn't. You made alternate plans without her. You're a backup option for her. She now is a backup option for you as well.
/r/askTRP19/04/17 10:15 PM
1

Dating sites - spam the shit outta free ones and see who responds. People who don't go to your school have no concept of your social status. Cold approaches - "tried before and fucked up" is universal, you need to try at least 5-20 before having some positive results. I've approached 500+ women and I still "fuck up" 3 out of 4 approaches.
/r/askTRP19/04/17 10:14 PM
2

Erase the concept of "fairness" from your brain, TRP teaches what's "real world" and not what's "ideal" or "should be" or "fair". Guy did dumb stuff, got fired eventually. Girl tattled, you should (anonymously) tell guy who tattled and maybe with some proof if you have it, to punish tattler. I also don't like tattlers and would like to see bad things happen to them.
/r/askTRP19/04/17 10:05 PM
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Shit tests. Learn to pass them. Also learn smoother transitions from date to home - those comments occur probably because there's too much "friction" during that step. Example 1: Date is a couple of drinks. During a high note: "I just acquired a great piece of art, I'm gonna show you after this drink". Afterwards, don't make a big deal of it, just put her in the car and start driving like it's the most natural thing to do. Example 2: During any activity: "Have you ever had wine that's not made f…
/r/askTRP18/04/17 09:56 PM
1

I'm not in HVAC, I have an office job, I have a few friends who do HAVC and other trades. Their job is definitely tougher than mine from a physical perspective. But personality wise, I dont' think of them as any "tougher" than I am. I usually suggest trades for any able bodied men who don't want to go to the college route. He probably knows nothing about any tools now, but I assume he can learn. Assuming he's not stupid, he can be an apprentice and pick that up pretty quickly.
/r/askTRP15/04/17 05:13 PM
1

While I don't think trades are just something you can jump into because of short term life issues, I do believe they're good options for people who don't want to go the college route. It will be hard. And the comment about being Indian - if he doesn't go to school and takes a trade, he's already doing something non-stereotypical. There's no reason he can't succeed in trades.
/r/askTRP15/04/17 08:23 AM
1

Internalize TRP beliefs, this will do you wonders for the rest of your life, not just in your current dating mode. Learn how to interact with women, flirt with them, text game, push-pull, all the other techniques people talk about. Lots of this can be found in pickup books/blogs, TRP, etc. Figure out what works for you to get first dates. Some people are very good at social circle game, but can't approach for shit. When I was single, I personally got drunk and hit on girls in bars, along with sp…
/r/askTRP14/04/17 10:45 PM
1

I don't think you can totally shut it down - at least not towards inconsiderate girls. But here're some things that may help: Belittle the guy passively. "Oh, he sounds like a nice guy. Maybe you should set him up with [a fat chick you both know], she's a really nice girl and they will get along well". She'll never admit that being set up with her fat friend is an insult, but she'll feel it. Ignore it. "Hah, that's cute, you got admirers and everything. Oh yeah, speaking of that, guess what I di…
/r/askTRP14/04/17 10:36 PM
0

Most people get off around 5-6pm, and have 5 hours of free time to themselves after work. Lifting usually takes 1-2 hours, dinner can be 15 minutes in front of the TV. Given that, you should still have 3 hours to yourself after work everyday. I personally don't lift, get off work at 5PM, and my commute's around 40 minutes. I have around 5-6 hours of "do whatever I want time" every day after work.
/r/askTRP14/04/17 09:57 PM
1

Started reading pickup blogs (Roissy/Heartist, RooshV, etc) since 2007, expanded into "society blogs" in 2009/2010, still read those today. Those concepts have been ingrained in me around 2-4 years into it, before "TRP" was its official name.
/r/askTRP14/04/17 08:03 PM
3

Besides the getting a reaction out of you, women do this "projection" thing. They're subconsciously attracted to men who other women like (preselection), so they subconsciously assume that by subcommunciating preselection, she'll raise her "Value" (SMV) in your eyes. It's the same thing when they brag about being "independent and confident". Unfortunately, few people understand projection, and lots of people do it. That's why there're so many dik pics floating around on the Internet. Men assume …
/r/askTRP14/04/17 08:00 PM
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Hotel's your best option, car 2nd if you have a big car. Also consider abandoned places at night, such as outside office buildings, secluded huge parks, etc.
/r/askTRP14/04/17 07:56 PM
1

I'm sure you can Google it, "intro to Feng Shui". But if you're looking for just wall decor, that little tip would do well for you. Most of other stuff is just space arrangements. They use mystical-sounding names for simple environmental psyc concepts. For example, the bright vs tranquility I talked about above, they call it "Yang vs Yin energy". They recommend positioning desks and beds facing the door. In modern day times, it's basic psyc to "not be surprised", and over the long run, it's bett…
/r/askTRP14/04/17 07:43 PM
3

I actually like David D's materials. I hear bad things about his personal life, but his materials are great. I was first introduced to all these concepts when I stumbled into "Double Your Dating - Advance Series" audiobook. I highly recommend that as an overall fundamental about dating dynamics. I assume you won't get as much out of it as I did, because I had 0 TRP experience, but I still always recommend it to everyone.
/r/askTRP14/04/17 06:36 PM
1

No prob, good luck. Maybe keep us updated on how you do.
/r/askTRP14/04/17 06:32 PM
1

Yeah, live under their roof, have to deal w/ their bullshit. Your current options: Suck it up till you're out of college. Whether it's a 4 year or 8 year college, just deal with it and look forward to light at the end of the tunnel. If you choose that route, try having some (parent approved) hobbies such as chess or a specific sport or anything else, where you can do it with others. You don't have to be friends, but at least you'll have "chess buddies" or "basketball buddies", it would help w/ y…
/r/askTRP14/04/17 06:28 PM
1

Go out and try to acquire other girls, whether you're into cold-approaches, social circles, spamming Match.com, etc. This advice is from 10 years ago about 1-itis: "Go out and fck 3 girls, and see if you still miss your ex"
/r/askTRP14/04/17 06:06 PM
1

Feng Shui concepts here (aka environmental psychology): Living room should have "Bright and energetic" type pictures, such as something aspirational, a poster of a tiger fighting a dragon, high-energy hobbies you are interested in, etc. Bedroom should have "low energy, tranquility" type pictures, such as leaves, still water, etc. Enjoy it.
/r/askTRP14/04/17 06:04 PM
2

Yeah, it's an uphill battle, similar to men who are short. You'll have to REALLY raise your SMV in other aspects to make up for it, such as looks, charisma, confidence, dominance, etc.
/r/askTRP14/04/17 05:58 PM
1

Dates are opportunities to fck her. Suggest cheap dates that increase your opportunities to fck her, such as "grab a drink or two and take a walk". You should pay for it all, then work your magic from there.
/r/askTRP14/04/17 05:56 PM
1

Yeah, it's hard. I couldn't get out of my own head when I tried doing it, I always felt "unnatural", where I'm the loser drinking in a bar by myself. What I've done is finding local aspiring pickup artists online (during the rise of the PUA days), I found other aspiring PUAs and they became great "wing-men". We met at a fastfood restaurant, chatted for 15 minutes and had some food, and then went out for the night. I lived in a smaller city, so I usually only had 1 or 2 other guys when we went ou…
/r/askTRP14/04/17 05:53 PM
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Not sure about your culture, you dont' seem American, because this doesn't sound like an American thing to do. But if I were in your shoes, as an American, and a self-sufficient adult: Please verify that they're living with you, and not the other way around. As in you're paying rent, you have the rights to kick them out, not the other way around. If they're supporting you instead, then you're their bitch, you let them treat you however they want, because you don't have a choice. If you're splitt…
/r/askTRP14/04/17 09:53 AM
1

Everyone has approach anxiety, it's hard-wired into men. When I was actively going out, these are the things that helped me: Alcohol - I find myself doing best when I have 1-2 drinks in my system. Less-commital openers. I'm not gonna geek out and talk about all types of openers, but below are the most casual openers: --Functional opener: "Do you know what time it is?" "Excuse me, my friend and I are trying to get a drink, what are some bars around here you can recommend?" These are the easiest o…
/r/askTRP14/04/17 09:43 AM
2

This has nothing to do with the question, but if I had 2 months, I'd travel. I wish I traveled more, but I don't have the time due to full time job. If you have money, travel wherever you can afford without breaking the bank. If not, work something out with a single-friend who lives in a far-away city - crash on a $20 air matress for a 2-4 weeks in his living room, see the city, buy him a few drinks. Do that with a few friends so you don't wear out your welcome with anyone specific. Enjoy your 2…
/r/askTRP13/04/17 11:43 PM
2

No prob
/r/askTRP13/04/17 11:37 PM
6

You're in a shitty relationship. I understand it's not totally her fault either, but you're in a shitty relationship because of her. Everyone here seems to in the "dump her" camp, depending on how much you love her, I'd like to offer an alternative. Do not re-engage, let her re-engage and demand an apology. Do not accept bad behavior from her ever again. If she does that, make plans without her, and not talk to her for a few days. This may "train" her that one specific type of behavior is unacce…
/r/askTRP13/04/17 10:50 PM
2

If you have the charisma for her friends to like you, go out w/ them and enjoy their company, hang out w/ all her friends. I'd say your attention should be 60/40: 60% spent on ALL her friends combined, 40% spent on your date. She'll be even more attracted to you if her friends like you (in multiple ways). If you're not charismatic and believe her friends will think you're boring/goofy/unsocial, then you probably got more to lose and not much to gain. Make an excuse, don't go.
/r/askTRP13/04/17 10:44 PM
1

Google laws in your area from credible sources. You don't want to risk this by believing commenters in Reddit.
/r/askTRP13/04/17 10:41 PM
1

By trying to pick up new women - whether in bars, clubs, shopping malls, online, meetup groups, whatever your stomping grounds are. This advice is out-dated from the rise of PUA days: "Go out and fck 3 girls, and see if you still miss your ex"
/r/askTRP13/04/17 10:39 PM
1

Make a formal complaint about her raping you - you were drunk. Do some research about other cases where the girl was drunk and the guy was charged with rape, bring up those cases so your case will get taken seriously in name of "gender equality", go from there.
/r/askTRP04/03/17 12:23 AM
1

Thank you, that helps a lot.
/r/askTRP16/02/17 12:55 AM
1

Thanks for this. You're right, I can do harder pushups without additional weights. Can you tell me the rational for 20 pushups? If I'm trying to mimic Lifting, isn't the process to lift the amount of weight that you can barely do 5 reps, and do a few of those? Just checked out how to do pullups on a door. I'm heavy at 220 lbs, I'm scared I'd break the door.
/r/askTRP15/02/17 07:21 PM
1

Thanks for this, I probably need that kick in the ass.
/r/askTRP15/02/17 07:18 PM
1

Thanks for the encouragement. And no, there isn't any hamstering of "don't want to get big" - I'd love to get big, or get toned, or both. I assume anything's better than my current "dad bod". I'm just not actually motivated. I have a very loyal girlfriend of 10 years. The only real reason I'd want to do it is for my own health, and the ego-stroke of having new women more "receptive" to me as they do with some other guys while I'm out doing social events. Thanks again for the encouragement. You'r…
/r/askTRP15/02/17 07:17 PM
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I don't think she'd make that connection if he waited a few days. At this point, he's trying to salvage this spinning plate, when women get jealously distant, it's not a shit-test, it's a need for reassurance. some "beta-game" actually works well in this situation.
/r/askTRP07/02/17 10:02 PM
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Wait a couple of days, txt her for a non-bedroom date. ie: "bought a Groupon for a tasting in a winery, interested in joining?" If she brings up other girls, don't acknowledge it and change the subject. "Come on now, you're being silly. Meant to ask you while I was gone for a couple of days, how was [xyz she talked about before]?
/r/askTRP07/02/17 08:16 PM
1

No prob, good luck.
/r/askTRP07/02/17 07:56 PM
3

"We're gonna do your sister"
/r/askTRP07/02/17 07:42 PM
1

Depends on your options and what you want. I personally would recommend you continue hanging out with the new girl, and see where that goes. Continue to raise your SMV and be the best you can be, and improve your life overall. But your ex: If you really really want her back: If you're in a setting where you bump into each other often (small town, common social circle, etc), then take the casual approach. Just let her passively see how much your life has improved without acknowledging her. After …
/r/askTRP07/02/17 07:34 PM
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Congrats on discovering TRP and your progress even in 1 short month. Damn that's impressive. Disclaimer: I don't know how things are when kids are involved, this is general "relationship management". About the coat: You telling her to do something without any way to enforce it just isn't the way to go. "You will bring my coat back up" while she doesn't, just makes you look stupid. And if both of you leave the coat in the basement for long, it's only hurting you and not her, because now you're th…
/r/askMRP07/02/17 12:25 AM
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Sounds about right. Clubs (and to a lesser extent, bars) generate a lot of attraction "spikes" where her mood will be lifted very high temporarily. She'll give you her number during that spike, but has buyer's remorse the next day. The solution is either play a numbers game, get a bunch of numbers and accept your 1 out of 5, or learn how to "solidify your phone numbers". Good luck.
/r/askTRP06/02/17 11:39 PM
4

"Thanks, I think I'm really cute too". And continue talking about something else like any other approach.
/r/askTRP06/02/17 11:37 PM
1

Invite her to join you for a drink at a bar close to you, and go from there.
/r/askTRP06/02/17 09:07 AM
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The other explanation would be now you're a "serious contender", so the girl has to behave like she's actually being hit on - the whole deal with approaching, dealing w/ unfriendly girls sometimes, etc. Maybe before, your SMV was so much lower than hers, that she risks nothing by being friendly because she was so out of your league, and you both knew it - almost like Beyonce being friendly when being approached by a fan, but has a higher bitch shield when approached by a "real contender".
/r/askTRP06/02/17 08:51 AM
1

Unless you say it with a tone of superiority, almost like you semi-pity him. Then you'd be the intelligent jerk. Sheldon Cooper attitude isn't that unattractive, if that's not all you are.
/r/askTRP06/02/17 01:11 AM
1

Thx. It's pretty easy to think of correct responses when there's unlimited time and no pressure.
/r/askTRP04/02/17 07:10 AM
1

Learn from red-pill guys, develop your social skills and build up from there. But whatever you do, do not think you have a "mental illness", that's just limiting beliefs and excuses to fail. Think of it as a small handicap - some guys are short, some guys have no money, they all can overcome it by improving other parts of their lives. Good luck.
/r/askTRP03/02/17 08:35 PM
1

"Hah, that's cute. Speaking of that, guess what I did with YOUR mother last night". Change the subject, keep sptting your game bro..
/r/askTRP03/02/17 08:30 PM
1

If it's just the two of you, he's just fucking with you, no bad intent. If it's with a group of people and he's just trying to (subconsciously) make you look bad while thinking he's just being funny, shut that shit down by putting him down, in an agree and amplify way. "Fuck yeah, super smart bro. Tell me about your [less smart] class, I'm sure that's pretty hard too, at least for you."
/r/askTRP03/02/17 08:27 PM
1

This is like 6 years old, but still a good read. http://www.rooshv.com/open-letter-to-the-parents-of-american-daughters
/r/askTRP03/02/17 08:00 PM
1

By being more "outgoing" than you naturally are. Be more outgoing, talk louder in a controlled way, especially in a circle of chit-chatting people, leaning back when someone can't hear you so they come closer to you, instead of leaning in to be more considerate to them. Try to remember a few can'ed jokes, stories, or interesting things to talk about when your charisma "runs out" and you feel yourself getting boring, and try to naturally bridge the conversation into that, etc.
/r/askTRP03/02/17 07:40 PM
2

As an natural introvert, I know I fake charisma when needed. It drains me a lot more than my natural state. Similar to being on a 1 hour job interview drains most people due to higher concentration. On the other hand, I wouldn't call it "faking" it though, it's a part of me, just an unnatural part that I've learned to be congruent with when needed - 1 or 2 drinks also help me "get out of my own head". You seem to need to get out of your own head as well. See if 1 or 2 drinks doe the trick for yo…
/r/askTRP03/02/17 10:59 AM
1

Bad timing by a decade. I used to live in Greensboro in 2008 and traveled to Raleigh and Charlotte a lot because I had friends there, and there was a group of us PUA wannabe's back then, supporting each other, giving each other feed back as we went out to bars - most of it was just circle-jerk style, but I genuinely made some friends from that community. I'm no longer in the area, and I heard my former friends also "grew up" and had LTRs. I hope you meet a great bunch of people like I did back t…
/r/askTRP01/02/17 10:01 AM
1

Kinda late to the party: but consider sending this pic below, then make some jokes about sending her a cock pic and how super it is. http://image.shutterstock.com/z/stock-vector-cartoon-illustration-of-super-rooster-87211930.jpg
/r/askTRP01/02/17 09:41 AM
3

To have that type of confidence - to do something like that and assume the girl would react positively and the world wouldn't judge him.
/r/TheRedPill31/01/17 05:44 PM
1

Well, to be fair, the girl DID keep arguing back. I assume he's calibrated enough to take that as a green light.
/r/TheRedPill31/01/17 05:40 PM
2

See update, it elaborates a little more.
/r/TheRedPill31/01/17 04:51 PM
3

I think that was more "natural game" than anything else, he did act very emotional while he was "fighting" with her the whole night. I assume he doesn't subscribe to PUA theories. If he did, it was the most natural performance ever.
/r/TheRedPill31/01/17 11:57 AM
2

Yeah, I think that's what the "misplaced altruism" I was referring to early on was about.
/r/TheRedPill31/01/17 11:47 AM
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Thx. I guess it wasn't a FR in a traditional way, but I get your point. I was really really annoyed about the guy who tried to cock block through me due to all the lays it cost me back in my 20's, for no apparent reason at all. That's why I dedicated the whole story to it. I'll add FR to the title. Edit: Just realized I can't change the title.
/r/TheRedPill31/01/17 11:39 AM
4

Not sure about this specific scenario. He was clearly with an uglier girl. I doubt he was trying to get laid there, I think he was just subconsciously bitter.
/r/TheRedPill31/01/17 11:30 AM
3

Women do not "date down". We just judge attractiveness (SMV) differently. Women's SMV is mostly in her looks. Men's is his whole package, which includes looks, confidence, leadership qualities, wealth, social status, etc. In terms of SMV: plain looking male CEO = hot female supermodel; Manager of a Walmart = cute cashier So yeah, women do not "date down" at all - there's even a theory that women try to "date up", that's why you have the phenomenon of (exaggerated) 90% of women all going after th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/17 12:36 AM
1

I'll read through these, I stand corrected.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/16 05:32 PM
1

Yeah, I can see "mainstream views" today that the woman's body is sacred while the flip side is "just money". But evolutionarily, that's always been what each gender brought into a sexual relationship. From that point of view, the comparison becomes a little more apparent.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/16 05:30 PM
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It's not a poor analogy if you believe in the red pill belief of "men's material resources <> women's reproductive/sexual resources". But no, it's not "rape" in the traditional definition of the word. But then again, very few things are outside of forced P in V.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/16 02:41 AM
1

Would love to see some of the heap of sources you were referring to.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/16 02:38 AM
1

The whole phrase came from the evolution concept: Women provided their bodies (child bearing, sexual pleasure, etc) while men provided resources. "Rape" in the traditional sense was the woman unwillingly and was forced to "contribute" her part without the the long-term resources as repayment. Men forced to give away lots of money without the repayment of a woman's body is just the mirror image of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/16 01:08 AM
1

Which part is true for men?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/16 01:07 AM
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I think most men do, most men would prefer their partners' notch count to be low, while this isn't a real concern to women. There're studies that reflect that women with high notch counts before marriage show less happiness during marriage. But the same isn't said for men. I believe most men and women instinctively know this, and it reflects in their preferences. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2733220/Women-don-t-sleep-wedding-happier-marriages-men-play-field-without-worry-study-finds.h…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/16 12:18 AM
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