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I've been in the fence about committing to a volunteer position using my skills and helping orphans (I live in a third world country), and I think you nailed it and what had been motivating me to sign up. For the past year my interpretation of Red Pill has been heavily dating focused (though I lift and have my mission), but I agree it's the job of a man to be an Atticus Finch or a George Bailey or Bunny Colvin, silly as that may sound.. The world needs respectable men who stand for something and…
/r/TheRedPill07/08/16 02:16 PM
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Most importantly people want to feel good about their jobs, if the guy believes you're likely making the mistake, well... That's not why he spent 10 fucking years becoming a doctor, is it? To fuck up people's lives? OP get a grip, the man owes you nothing.
/r/TheRedPill07/08/16 02:05 PM
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It helps to identify IOIs and put yourself in her shoes - e.g. Why did she decide to meet you alone, to go to a secluded place with you, to nudge up close to you, etc etc at a certain point the only answer is because she likes you and wants you to escalate. If you need more confidence convince yourself with those IOIs. When you know in your mind she wants it, fear goes away.
/r/askTRP07/08/16 05:14 AM
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Imagine he is a 5 year old child. Same voice and everything. It's cute he is using these big boy words. Treat it literally the exact same way, maybe minus actually saying anything.
/r/askTRP07/08/16 12:24 AM
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No. Why would you be thinking with your dick? Your dick has been fucking this girl for 4 years and is tired of it. Your dick is waiting for your head to get its shit together and realize there are billions of other women out there. Even remotely thinking this is a good idea, or even a possibility, is evidence of scarcity mentality. Sex is cheap, it's the bare minimum cost of knowing you, if marriage is on the menu she needs to bring a lot more to the table.
/r/askTRP07/08/16 12:22 AM
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Depends on the nature of the past relationships. If you never fucked them, sure sound strategy. If for whatever reason the idea of fucking them gets you as excited as a new girl, then go for it. I caution the same about scarcity mentality though, especially if they were relationships that just ended as relationships do. Time to move on.
/r/askTRP06/08/16 02:38 PM
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If she doesn't tell you on her own, it's bad. If she does tell you, proceed to observation cues to confirm or deny. You can get to it over time by relationship history of lack thereof. E.g. a plate I had fucked on the first date had never been in a relationship longer than 10 months at age 21. You can do the math there and figure she's had some one night stands and other short term relationships. Remember women are never truly single. Based on anecdotes alone I had 5 guys (don't have to be sexua…
/r/askTRP04/08/16 05:16 AM
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No. But I remove dread, e.g. I turn my phone to silent when she's around and ignore it. Her reward is my full attention and the illusion of commitment, which is all most women really care about anyway in the medium term.
/r/askTRP01/08/16 02:56 AM
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Outliers. I don't think enough attention is paid in TRP to the concept of losing face, girls need plausible deniability that they aren't being ordered around. Some of the game tips there are laughable, no you won't come across as alpha mysterious you'll just seem like a socially inept dick. Mark Manson is much more spot on with Models.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/16 03:18 AM
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It really depends on the job. Many supermarket employees could stand to lose their job and find something else quickly.
/r/askTRP29/07/16 01:37 PM
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It's really up to you. I've fucked ugly girls, chubby girls, just because the circumstances made my dick hard. I mean she doesn't have to be a 10 for me to get a thrill from unzipping my pants and rounding third. I do think it can be negative to chase these girls, though. I mean take the lay ups but be aware of your self respect if you're finding yourself dealing with LMR with a 4, ya know?
/r/askTRP29/07/16 01:28 PM
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She knows anything that involves leaving with you is sex. Women aren't clueless. But she needs plausible deniability. You saw some examples here but you can use anything, if you're funny/sarcastic game tell her you want to bake cupcakes with her, it does not matter. 98% of women I take home for a movie, never ask or care about the movie and we never pay attention to it.
/r/seduction29/07/16 09:18 AM
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As someone who sort of uses this method, I suggest not being so straightforward online about sex, but do flirt as a screening tool. Invite for coffee nearby your place (I have a cafe next door). I do get caught up in inviting straight to my place, out of laziness, but the available pool of women is much larger if you meet in public. Frankly girls that come to my place kinda gross me out. If you do the coffee method you'll develop some ratio of success, I started at 25% then to 50% including like…
/r/seduction29/07/16 09:09 AM
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Good stuff - as someone who found his mission, I'd say key indicators are having and setting goals related to your mission that you actually care about. If you are naturally setting goals to being a better novelist, and working towards them, and generally find yourself trying to improve your craft, then yea that's a true passion. If you find yourself wanting to be promoted because you get $X more per year, and kissing the boss' ass because that's how you get there, then no that's not really a pa…
/r/TheRedPill29/07/16 01:51 AM
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In terms of their product, I can specifically point three I stopped using after Mayer became CEO - Yahoo Sports, Yahoo News, and Yahoo Mail. Whether or not she was responsible, I'm not sure, but the functionality of these became horrible after she was hired. Especially Yahoo Sports, which had an awful awful resdesign.
/r/TheRedPill26/07/16 02:39 AM
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I hate that this place is a quarter infomercial
/r/TheRedPill25/07/16 04:22 PM
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I actually got complimented on my voice last night on a date. It's not the first time. I agree it's important. I don't think pitch matters as much as strength - a strong voice comes from your chest. A weak voice starts in your mouth. A good estimation is if you can imitate a used car salesman. I actually got the voice I have from being in phone sales, and probably the amount of public speaking I do in my current job.
/r/TheRedPill25/07/16 08:12 AM
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I have to disagree. In my experience a woman who cooks but rarely cleans is more wanting to show off what she does for you, e.g. the date is centered around her doing XYZ. Whereas a woman who cleans will often just do it. It's almost completely selfless for her to clean my kitchen when I didn't ask - and yes, I do notice as a man because it's one of those gifts you wouldn't have gotten yourself (I don't scrub the corners with Lysol but damned if I'm not satisfied when it's done). Cooking can be …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/16 01:29 AM
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Seriously, I've got very thin balding hair on top now, now hiding it, nobody gives a fuck. I noticed no change if anything I get more pussy these days. Just keep it short so the bald area doesn't stand out so much.
/r/askTRP16/07/16 01:39 PM
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Avoid questions whenever possible Don't ask
/r/askTRP11/07/16 02:07 PM
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Yea I get what you mean, what I found was I started having longer relationships with different types of girls than I had before. More submissive, maybe flirty girls, where it's almost like a role play being alpha and she's your woman. She might cook me a steak and give me a massage while I ate it. I liked to think of it like a mobster talks about his goomar, these women were real outlets for relaxation for me. It's the only relationship I'm interested in now. As a trade off you have to stay alph…
/r/askTRP10/07/16 10:06 AM
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Is this novel your wrote about one chick? If yes, next.
/r/askTRP10/07/16 06:02 AM
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She's fishing for closure. If she was a good plate and things just didn't work, I might acknowledge it with a blablabla, take care, then ignore. If she wasn't great or was bad, I'd ignore. I wouldn't engage in conversation because she didn't put herself out there enough with this message, I,e, she is trying to make you chase and I don't appreciate that. Just my take Really there is zero benefit here for you, the good plate response I gave is just to be nice and feed a hamster if you want
/r/askTRP10/07/16 05:03 AM
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Ah yea I see what you mean, I don't mean that though. I mean how can I do better screening for quality girls who wouldn't otherwise have shown up to my door and fucked me within 10 minutes. Like can I get a harem of low n girls who I had to go three dates with, and am not disgusted by, and could actually compete for LTR. I can't LTR any current plates because I fucked them so quickly.
/r/askTRP09/07/16 03:44 AM
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Get a blowjob. Don't set a precedent of not getting off when you see her, if that expectation isn't set she will try to withhold sex in the future.
/r/askTRP09/07/16 03:30 AM
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This is why the lay count is useful to increase for recovering BPers. You have to see this to believe it. A plate I recently dropped, had her 9 months, she fucked without emotion and sucked cock like a prostitute (like I was a machine and she was the mechanic). I knew her n count was high from that alone, and later did find out it was over 10 (she was 21). Compare that to girls with <3 and no ONS, you see their eyes squint or open wide when you go inside them because it's a deeper (heh heh) expe…
/r/askTRP09/07/16 02:41 AM
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Some tells: -When is she online messenger services like WhatsApp - 2am? -How often does she change her profile pic on such services and elsewhere - sexy? Do you know anything about the context of the picture (e.g. does she share these new sexy pics with you)? -How does she treat her cell phone - protective? -How needy is she? Women are goddamned needy. If you are her only source of affection, she will seem very needy. Most importantly though is to approach every relationship as if the girl will …
/r/askTRP08/07/16 12:11 AM
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Usually girls who are explicitly afraid of being pumped and dumped are the sluttiest, and the easiest. They're very, very bad at 'the game,' kind of the equivalent of an unplugged male, they give up sex easily hoping commitment magically appears like a Disney movie.
/r/askTRP08/07/16 12:02 AM
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You might as well dump her, you can't stay with her with that kind of insecurity. Insecurity is a dirty word but I mean lack of security. You don't feel secure in your place. You don't feel secure in your frame. You're hitched to her wagon, and fear it taking off. If she was hitched to your wagon, you don't give a shit where she goes because you're still on your own path. To not give a shit in a situation like this requires two things, both key pillars of TRP. Be confident in yourself and know s…
/r/askTRP07/07/16 02:29 PM
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If you know the person it's ok, to not do it can come across as a snub. To strangers? Why? I live in a city I'd never get anywhere if I did that.
/r/askTRP07/07/16 01:43 AM
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I just switched to PHUL a few weeks ago, too, after 8 months on Starting Strength. Very happy, and I disagree now with the advice you often see that you have to absoutely max out linear gains before switching. That's a different story though No problem with 3x5 or 5x5 to get your numbers halfway respectable quickly. OP check out SS it's 3x5, personally yes 5x5 squats three times per week would have been ridiculous for me to do.
/r/askTRP06/07/16 11:15 PM
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Never go full beta. I get what you're saying to some degree, but the perception needs to always be that anything beta you do is out of character and special for her. To put it more broadly, it needs to not come from a place of neediness. Suddenly changing and going full beta is going to turn off any woman.
/r/TheRedPill04/07/16 11:37 PM
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Yea I did, functionally she's perfect but she has kind of a bad history and there are hints at bigger problems. I really don't like the way she angled for exclusivity, there were many points I would have acquiesced but she didn't just ask, she did some attention seeking behavior including self harm. It sucks because when I'm with her she isn't crazy, but little things like that crop up and you just wonder how much you really know a person. In terms of communication I did treat her like a gf, she…
/r/askTRP04/07/16 01:06 PM
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You're not a special snowflake. You're getting laid on the latter no matter what, to which I'd add a more generic "success." If you aren't successful at something, you aren't getting laid. Maybe you're successful as a college partygoer, just knowing all the right people and having great social skills. Maybe you have a cool job and keep fit by going to the gym every day (discipline success). And yea maybe you won an Oscar or otherwise reached the peak of your professional field. You aren't gettin…
/r/TheRedPill02/07/16 05:11 PM
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Never say never. If a woman has been overall a good plate or LTR I will give them closure. What kind of value do I offer women if I can't leave them the opportunity for the best relationship (exclusive or otherwise) they ever had? Why leave a trail of tears? And that type of SMV - that type of SMV that isn't readily apparent but you know is there - goes a long way towards being the prize and having abundance mentality. Granted, most plates don't break cleanly and they don't deserve closure. But …
/r/TheRedPill20/06/16 04:49 AM
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I really disagree with this, and therefore the whole post. Once I got more selfish with sex, I got better at sex. Do what you want and your passion will come through and increase her passion. When I was treating my cock like a dildo and trying to pleasure her first, I was trying too hard. Treat her like she's the last pussy you're ever going to get, love that shit, and the sex will be good. At least it works for me. Edit: actually don't disagree with what you said, but a different point was made…
/r/TheRedPill20/06/16 01:28 AM
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Listen to this man. No games no bullshit. Running dread here is entering her frame. Simply let her choose and continue on your way. You may choose to stay but just in terms of how she budgets her time Id say she doesnt value you highly. You do this filtering enough you end up with much better women. You come to expect quality and thats what abundance mentality is.
/r/askTRP16/06/16 09:50 PM
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The truth is, however, that I do want to be with her exclusively and to know that no other man is touching her. Never let yourself be blackmailed into a relationship like this (whether explicitly or implicitly). Truth is, if the girl is worth LTRing, she will naturally be exclusive anyway. Non-exclusivity is a screening tool and lets you fuck other girls, it is a complete win-win. It's why the bar is set so high for commitment, we really get nothing out of it. I feel like this point is missed in…
/r/askTRP09/06/16 01:36 AM
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Not sure what India has to do with anything
/r/TheRedPill30/05/16 01:13 AM
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I feel way too much emphasis is placed on it especially in the younger crowd. Fact is it's useless at 18-24 or thereabouts, just because you find her at 21 with 2 doesn't meant mentally she isn't capable of 30 by 30. Maybe she happened to have an LTR. You can make some inferences from her history for sure, but it's more about context than pure numbers. If the number gets high enough then that is sort of it's own context, treating men in general as disposable.
/r/TheRedPill30/05/16 12:49 AM
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I live here too. Saying its equivalent is just flat wrong, no way you could make that statement with any experience. Sure there are cliques and people dating western style but as a general rule, men who will take you home to mother will want you to be able to cook and not have free sex views.
/r/TheRedPill30/05/16 12:46 AM
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Mostly correct but with some variation. A lot of the girls just want the western dating scene they can't get with locals. Local men tend to demand virgins and not be as beta (though I wouldn't necessarily call them alpha). Western men have a reputation of being tolerant of the past, having less pressure to marry, being freer with sex, etc. and yes having more money to pay for dates. Having lived and fucked through SE Asia I'd say the gold digging whore is less common than the average girl who is…
/r/TheRedPill29/05/16 11:24 PM
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"Did I learn nothing with Richie? Nip it in the bud." -Tony Soprano Dump her. White lies.. Radio silence hurts.. You're making excuses for her. A) she lied to you, b) she lied to you about contacting her ex. Game. Set. Match. This girl doesn't respect you, you've already been dumped you just don't know it yet. Sure it might last another six months but she is mentally checked out.
/r/askTRP05/05/16 08:07 AM
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We shouldn't be prescribing anything. TRP is descriptive, we had the mod post about not preaching and I'd say that applies to marriage also. We can talk about the downfalls of marriage but ultimately it's up to each individual to make that informed decision.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/16 12:58 AM
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You can only deduce. My general rule, though, is if a girl is like Fort Knox and never says anything about her past, it's probably bad. Low n girls are proud of it to some extent, they have had to make a decision to keep it low and deny sex for many years.
/r/askTRP23/04/16 05:49 AM
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By not fucking other chicks he will continue to pedestalize her as she was the exclusive provider of sex and affection. Getting that elsewhere goes a long way towards eliminating her value and importance to him. Studying without eliminating her value will make all of the study revolve around her. If he's lining up a lot of dates it shouldn't be hard to not fixate on one girl or choose the wrong one.
/r/askTRP13/04/16 04:02 AM
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Same with yahoo mail, sports, and news. All garbage. It's like none of the people who work there ever visit the website. Who could objectively try to use yahoo mail and say 'This is fine.' I used to use all of these and visit yahoo daily, but rarely do now.
/r/TheRedPill12/04/16 03:04 PM
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You don't have a girlfriend.
/r/askTRP12/04/16 02:23 PM
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You're right, you can't. Move on, focus exclusively on fucking chicks for a while. You'll get bored of that and hopefully along the way find a woman who treats you well. Keep the same mindset you have/develop while fucking these women, which is you don't give a fuck about any particular one. Eventually you'll allow the best one to work her way to the top spot while still keeping one foot out the door and fucking other women more selectively. At least that's how it worked for me. Never pedastaliz…
/r/askTRP12/04/16 10:31 AM
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Socialization is a learned skill. I avoid pool parties etc as well, and don't drink, but I've leaned social skills. I can fake it when I want. You can't just call yourself an introvert and absolve yourself of all responsibility. The goal here is still forming human connections which by definition is using social skills. Try and fail and try and fail until you see what works for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/16 06:38 AM
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The problem for me is the longer it goes the more solid proof of a lack of attraction. If she can overcome my doubts, e.g. Explaining her virginity or whatever, then I'm flexible, but generally speaking Ill give up after three dates. Realistically I give up after two because I don't get stuck on pursuing a single woman like that, so this is in theory with crushes I've had.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/16 03:48 AM
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This is tough because my last relationship told me why this is a bad idea, and I decided it was a deal breaker. But now I'm seeing a girl who is treating me better than anyone has in my life, she's working real hard for that LTR status, I'm struggling with it (there is another couple flags also). So I'd say under the right circumstances, but it's a huge red flag for me. I think it increases the likelihood of cheating, and that she is getting into the relationship for the wrong reasons (e.g. Conv…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/16 03:44 AM
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I agree but there is a logical component to this, it sounds like these people will undermine him. In fact a lot of the old blood is at risk of this because they don't see you as a real authority figure. Make a logical case, or don't. But keep revenge out of it.
/r/askTRP03/04/16 03:30 AM
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He's right though, prepare to move on. Fact is you will seem boring when compared to some dude who she is at a concert with and clubbing with. Especially if he has higher SMV than you to begin with. I'm the same way in that women to me are for my down time, when I'm at home. I work and am out a lot and when I'm done that's when I like to hang out with a plate or GF. In my experience if they ever complain about not going out, they will break sooner than later.
/r/askTRP01/04/16 11:04 PM
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Here's the thing, you're already her orbiter. You're thinking of how you can be her best dancing monkey and maybe get laid that way. The best way to distinguish yourself is with a date, and game. If she isn't interested in meeting you alone then you are rejected.
/r/askTRP01/04/16 12:49 PM
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At a certain level of SMV, flirting with men and managing orbiters becomes a full-time job for these women. It wouldn't surprise me if you are one of many in the hopper despite the amount of time it appears she spent on you (dancing, messaging, etc.). You have to treat her like any other woman. Since you made it a little goal of yours to bed her, I'd give it one more shot (propose a time/date), if it fails, soft next. Really you should have soft nexted after she turned you down last time, but yo…
/r/askTRP01/04/16 12:19 PM
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Monk mode is a break from pursuing women to focus on yourself. If you're a virgin you aren't taking a break from anything, that's just your life. It's like if I told you I was retiring from professional basketball.
/r/askTRP30/03/16 11:52 AM
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That's not called monk mode it's called "still a virgin."
/r/askTRP30/03/16 08:54 AM
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It's not monk mode if you've never been laid, man. Come on now. You need to go fuck a vagina. This should be your #1 goal. It will probably solve your problems. I have a pretty high N count and still start feeling like you do after a month or more without sex. In high school we'd joke that your virginity can grow back if you don't get laid often enough, in a way I think it's true.
/r/askTRP29/03/16 11:03 PM
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Red Pill is more about the rules that govern the behaviors of men and women. Out of that, there is a certain brand of TRP game that gets bandied about, e.g. texting only for logistics, kino, a lot of it a legacy of PUA. It's gone so far that some people see TRP as a pickup community and you'll see here on askTRP many if not most of the questions are about game. Models is specifically a book about game. In that way it takes a more nuanced, and in my view better approach. Look - women can be as pr…
/r/askTRP28/03/16 11:57 AM
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God damn dude. Damn. Maybe you can find comfort in it being so fucking awful, I mean at a certain point you've gotta laugh and realize she just wasn't for you.
/r/askTRP27/03/16 05:12 AM
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Yep, OP is really condescending. Even throwing around the most feared word of BPers, "creepy." Oh no, someone says I'm creepy! OP you think sex is like buying groceries, nothing at all, that's fine for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/16 11:06 PM
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The chase tends to be a waste of time. It's basically a demand for power before she has put anything on the table (sex). However, fucking anything and everything gets old after awhile. For that reason you'll see guys do different things, like be persistent with a softcore porn star, just because it's a new experience. I'm kind of in this phase now where I'm being super selective and patient, because I have enough plates and am busy.
/r/askTRP23/03/16 11:09 PM
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I knew it was time to break up with her when I'd look at other girls and think 'You know what? She didn't do that.' Would she? Maybe. Does she have a past? Sure. But sometimes that context just riles us the wrong way. Millions more prospects out there no point crying over spoiled milk.
/r/TheRedPill21/03/16 03:30 PM
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So much this.. After my N went past 20 I lost interest in romance and realized all women are basically the same. Like that, the same, whatever, the whole dance is the same. I hate most first dates. Online I next any girl who asks me more than two boilerplate questions, just can't stand to answer.
/r/TheRedPill21/03/16 11:18 AM
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Why are you telling her what you're telling her? To placate her? Sounds like you're slowly being put into a relationship you don't want, simply because she's your last option left. Now she's going for the close and you're not in a position to walk away. Tread carefully, the place you are at now is precisely when you need abundance MOST and you lack it. Bang two other women before you commit to this girl.
/r/askTRP21/03/16 11:01 AM
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Your first point is probably a bridge too far for this sub, but I agree about context. My ex had an n-count of three, owing to a 4-year relationship, and then me, but the circumstances sorrounding #2 involved celebrity worship and chasing and quid pro quo to a disgusting level, that I broke up with her over it. She was alpha widowed, absolutely done for, no guy would ever be able to provide the experience #2 did. I dated a girl after that had an n count of 6, including a fucking gangbang (MMF), …
/r/TheRedPill21/03/16 07:04 AM
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Sexual strategy is amoral, meaning the strategy in itself does not have morals, however many of us do apply some. We do have a no preaching rule of some kind on this sub, though, so I'll just say that I try to avoid heartache as it's unpleasant to me. And I only pursue women for pleasure so it defeats the purpose. In the context of this post it's worth mentioning that dealing with 0-2 girls may lead to stronger emotional consequences, good to know for people who find that relevant. I don't want …
/r/TheRedPill21/03/16 06:58 AM
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Girls are so bad at covering their tracks I am almost disappointed in them when something like this happens. Like, couldn't you keep the illusion going for a little longer please? You're kinda cute and we're having a nice time on our date here, and without knowing it you have to tell me you're a slut. You poor, stupid girl now I'm just going to pump and dump you.
/r/TheRedPill21/03/16 06:45 AM
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These women are a dime a dozen, the sluts-in-denial. Anytime I'm out with a woman and she talks about or alludes to her problems in dating I think one of two things: a) time to go, or b) I'm going to fuck you tonight. Really just depends how attracted I am. But I pretty much know she isn't going to be a plate for long (she'll nag too much and break) so I'm not going to put a lot of effort in. Anyway you can always see why they have problems in dating. It usually is some form of needing to be cha…
/r/TheRedPill21/03/16 06:34 AM
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It's his first relationship so he isn't going to listen to anyone here and there is just enough daylight for him to ignore the reality of the situation. Poor bastard
/r/askTRP15/03/16 02:28 AM
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Aka always have the last word and pull away. If you had the last word that's a sign it got boring. I mean, you didn't really choose to end the conversation if you had the last word, did you?
/r/askTRP14/03/16 02:16 PM
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Two kinds of social proof here. One, for her, one for others. It's more social proof to her if you don't tolerate hickeys. First, you have standards, so that's good, but also it means you're concerned about someone else knowing you fucked her. Who is that person? Let the hamster choose. Social proof for others? Yes. But how much social proof is it really to have had sex with one undetermined person. I wouldn't tolerate the taking of shirt on top of leaving stuff, just crossing lines that need to…
/r/askTRP14/03/16 12:32 AM
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I'd avoid the situation if she's throwing around the c word, probably one of those girls that expects a written contract before you fuck her.
/r/askTRP12/03/16 11:25 PM
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Tinder is an effective enough messenger that asking for or giving a number is a waste of time, just set up a date in app. Get number after for logistics if needed. Surprised more people didn't call you out on giving a girl your number. I do that on OKC and elsewhere, because I have a lot of abundance, but it does result in some lost prospects. Girls hate to take initiative.
/r/askTRP11/03/16 12:23 PM
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If you want to be rid if the stress of distrust, simply minimize the damage any person can do. Be less emotionally invested in women, for example. You can then 'trust' them to your hearts content and smile amusingly when they betray you. Becoming less emotionally invested is hard but can come after some time of adopting TRP.
/r/askTRP10/03/16 11:42 PM
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Don't ask how can I keep. Ask should I keep. What's this woman bringing to the table? If you're generally awesome then the rest will take care of itself. This assumes you had some game to get her in the first place. If you sit at home playing video games all day you aren't keeping her anyway.
/r/askTRP10/03/16 11:39 PM
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I'm cracking up right now, the blatant hyper gamy that led me to TRP (found out about an LTRs past) was a manjaw. I want this to be true so I'll believe it.
/r/TheRedPill10/03/16 11:23 PM
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There is no response to that you change the subject. You passed the shit test, the whole point is to not give a fuck about the other guy. If you do give a fuck then show through your actions e.g. Nexting her ir soft nexting, but don't get into an argument over it. 'Go date him,' is a perfect response if said nonchalantly and not butt hurt
/r/askTRP10/03/16 11:18 PM
1

To add to this she'll usually have a covert indictment of her partner at the ready. My last LTR, pre TRP she said after SHE fucked up.. 'It feels like you don't even respect me.' I knew then it was done because she revealed her hidden excuse to cheat on me in the future (she hadn't as far as I know).
/r/askTRP10/03/16 03:51 PM
1

The best part about this for me is it's the best way to find quality women. Way back when I'd latch on to a girl and try to convince myself she was special. Not until you've gone through dozens do you realize how rare special is. But even then, there isn't just one special. It's just rare. So it's more of an annoyance than anything to lose it.
/r/askTRP10/03/16 03:43 PM
2

After 20 it became much more about quality for me. I mean honestly one 7 is as good as another and if you have a couple few plates already it's much easier to just bypass all the bullshit and fuck them (I usually plate 7s they tend to be the lowest maintenance while still hot enough to keep me coming back). So I do that and that and casually work on 9s when I find them. I never keep 9s for long though. You can actually try some experimental game with them, you'd be surprised how well it works ju…
/r/askTRP10/03/16 02:26 PM
9

Violation one was reasonably well handled in an LTR, you made it clear it violates your boundaries without looking like you gave a shit. Some guys do let their girlfriends do that shit or girls can just be idiots and not know what's what. Personally I won't LTR a girl who doesn't intuitively know boundaries, because it can't really be taught. Violation two is absolutely unacceptable and for your boundaries to have any value, she must be nexted. The rest of the shit is just icing on the cake. You…
/r/askTRP10/03/16 07:50 AM
1

You can't control how other people feel. If I pump and dump a girl it's a risk she took, what am I supposed to do fake a relationship for six months? And I have needs too so I'm not going to go not fucking when I want to. The most you can do is not lie
/r/askTRP10/03/16 04:37 AM
3

I wouldn't say it's a red flag for her (depending on how many partners we're talking about), if she does that in committed relationships. Might be a red flag for you if you can't fuck right
/r/askTRP09/03/16 08:09 AM
2

Nobody here can answer that for you man. The general answer would be don't give a fuck, but obviously there are unique circumstances and nobody here knows what they are.
/r/askTRP09/03/16 08:06 AM
3

Anyone older I've talked to about it has said they feel like they are mentally 30 but stuck in an old persons body. As I get older I understand completely. You're still you inside that body and as you age.
/r/askTRP09/03/16 12:27 AM
45

I'm the same way. Actually it makes the whole plating lifestyle great because now I just aim for quality, stay true to myself, and only let in chicks who genuinely adore me. It makes women a very affirming and supportive influence in my life while taking little or no energy, if they are negative or reject me I simply... Deny them my essence Mandrake.
/r/TheRedPill08/03/16 03:29 PM
2

I have no statistics to back this up, but I believe the girls in your peer group, the girls that are roughly the same age as you as life progresses, are NEVER suitable for an exclusive LTR. Oh absolutely. I'm female-wall-age (29) and using tinder or okc sometimes I remind myself all the girls I'm skipping for being too old are actually my age or even younger (27, 28 starts to exponentially lose points). It gives me a chuckle. As you get older it gets worse I'm sure. And when you're younger.. Wel…
/r/TheRedPill08/03/16 03:20 PM
10

ITT: Japanese Christmas cake
/r/TheRedPill08/03/16 07:23 AM
3

I'm a big fan of positive reinforcement. If a girl is following your lead generally, she will love anything positive you say. I really like stylish girls and will comment on their clothes, only genuine comments and compliments. It'll get them to try to dress up whenever they see me, or ask what they should wear. So if you like a certain lipstick, just make sure she knows it, make it obvious through your actions that it turns you on.
/r/askTRP08/03/16 03:38 AM
2

How long have you been dating? Never fully invest in a woman, whatever that even means. She,l be more attracted to you if you have your own life.
/r/askTRP08/03/16 02:43 AM
4

You've 'engineered' this whole trip, you have all these steps laid out, I'm going to be honest man it's kind of creepy. Like Dennis Reynolds and the "implication", why is this chick forced to be on a business trip with you before you start showing overt interest? That puts her in a really weird spot and doesn't make you look good either. Also with you being her boss, and habitually 'insisting' on minor displays of interest that are distracting her from her job, you are inviting a sexual harassme…
/r/askTRP07/03/16 05:52 PM
1

Talk to your parents, that's what they asked the doctor
/r/askTRP07/03/16 12:46 PM
6

I advise you read into stoic philosophy, a really accessible book is The Obstacle is the Way. You need to take something you've already learned from bodybuilding and apply it to your life. It's that notion of slow and steady progress, of chipping away at a goal a little bit at a time. And of not stopping before you even begin because you look at your weak frame in the mirror and know you can never be Arnold. Choose a direction, point your feet towards it, and the only comparisons that matter are…
/r/askTRP07/03/16 08:53 AM
3

Thanks for sharing this I needed it today. Was going to tell OP Im going through something similar but you have to realize the infatuation isn't about the girl. It's about something else going on in your life. For me I just quit smoking a few weeks ago and it's fucked with my emotions. The tricky part is you try to analyze the situation and you just end up elevating the girl because now she's some issue in your life.
/r/askTRP07/03/16 01:17 AM
2

Not sure why people are giving you a hard time. My blowjob standards are lower than my fucking standards too, there have been girls I refused sex to and got to blow me. Had they insisted on sex the encounter would end, not sure if that specific scenario has played out before. You stayed true to what you wanted, nothing wrong.
/r/askTRP06/03/16 03:29 PM
1

I keep a shell account for various reasons but have not used it actively for most of ten years. Having moved around a lot, I've found its kept me from living in the past. I used to have this big network of people from everywhere but once I realized how many flaked out when I was actually in town, or who I didn't care to meet up with anyway, I felt like it was just a distraction and I should cut these people out.
/r/askTRP05/03/16 10:53 PM
1

just trying to put steel in dem balls, you're fine. It's actually better when they treat you like shit in this way because it leaves no doubt about the right move.
/r/askTRP05/03/16 10:20 PM
3

Hahahaha dude wake THE FUCK up. When does anyone ever hand over their phone to kids to play with, and just forgets about it? And this weird thing happens in a night she has an overnighter while drinking with new people... Open your eyes man.
/r/askTRP05/03/16 02:54 PM
3

Last one was that she hadn't even talked to other guys since we met. Then on her Facebook apparently some guy gave her a gift, they call eachother bro and sis and apparently it's plutonic but it's a lie nonetheless this guy gave her a CD. And just the rapid fire chat they're having and at that time she was ignoring me. I thought I overreacted and took her back, never even mentioned why I dumped her. She ends up being a constant liar, the kind that offers up lies even when the question isn't aske…
/r/askTRP04/03/16 07:41 AM
10

This is a lie. Shit talking prior sex is always compensating for something, usually trying to diminish n count like this case.
/r/askTRP04/03/16 06:51 AM
4

knee-jerk Well it is and it isn't. I mean you have your standards. You made your choice and it's important not to waffle, make it right, go with it. Remember your gut is probably playing a part here too, even if you don't realize it. Every time I've unnexted a chick after something like this, the same issue has come back to bite me in the ass. Your gut knows, and it made the call here.
/r/askTRP04/03/16 06:47 AM
5

It can warrant a hard next, sure. Thing with these ex issues is, you never know, and really anything outside ignoring/blocking him is not acceptable. She gets brownie points for telling you but even that could have been a shit test. She didn't do anything off the charts wrong but I've been in enough of these situations that I'd have given up after four months. The most important thing is you don't handle it like a bitch, like don't throw a tantrum just matter of factly get her out of your house.…
/r/askTRP04/03/16 06:18 AM
1

Save your dignity man. Some of the bad things you did are cringeworthy and will be moreso when you gain some perspective. There's really no need to ever argue with a woman much less take action out of anger. In terms of a plan, figure out what your goals are before you break up. E.g. Do you want to keep the apartment. I found it easier to move because it's a free opportunity to leave behind all the random shit that piles up over time. Ymmv
/r/askTRP29/02/16 05:15 PM
4

She wants more attention, ignore. She thought she was in control being flaky until you soft nexted. It was a shock that you just moved on easily. IF she can draw you into some bullshit heart to heart friendship shit, then her hamster is at peace for having dumped you. I get this a lot because I tend to give comfort freely and some girls mistake that for weakness. It's a hard drop if the girl just has the flat wrong idea about you, and you see this turn its like a 180. From bitch to beggar. This …
/r/askTRP29/02/16 05:08 PM
2

I actually came to this before TRP and in business, I learned to never trust a family man. There's something about having a family that seems to turn on animal survival mode whereby people will ruthlessly fuck you over. I suppose having the cover of doing it for your family helps make it possible. Seen it multiple times with multiple business partners, family insulated them in their own little world that was sovereign and didn't have to abide by any ethics for outsiders. Similarly, single mother…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/16 04:56 PM
1

One aspect you're missing is that when looking at the past with some perspective (time), we have learned lessons and gained objectivity that we didn't possess at the time. So that ex gf might have upset you for such and such but you came to realize her recognition of a certain part of you was unique and really important, so you want to reconnect. Or you remember a trip,fondly because you know your current self would handle the hardships much better and take advantage of the good times. The bad s…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/16 01:05 AM
4

I dont practically see the difference between this and plates. I have a favoritebplate that is becoming kind of like an LTR but I dont want to commit to her. I just dont choose to label it poly. Shes like a main squeeze
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/16 02:23 PM
32

Bigger red flag is a person who talks about their relationship on social media.
/r/TheRedPill28/02/16 01:44 PM
1

I'd go for the quick kill. You're close by, if you're free one night try to schedule something last minute. Accept an alternative but next for anything else. She is either honest or backed out of meeting at yours.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 12:32 AM
38

No I didn't realize they are all going to get sex changes
/r/askTRP27/02/16 06:36 AM
3

1.5 hours.. Awkward? Nervous? Sounds like you aren't leading. Neither of you wanted to be there for 1.5 hours so why let that happen? In terms of guessing how she felt about it, when you should call etc., that's all answered with an attempt at kissing her. Ok it takes practice then it comes natural, go on more dates
/r/askTRP26/02/16 12:24 AM
0

Any friend group led by a man who lives in a van is not a friend group worth leading.
/r/askTRP26/02/16 12:19 AM
1

If you want to get detailed about it, check out Blooms Taxonomy https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blooms_taxonomy. You can use these verbs (understand analyze, etc) while talking to yourself. E.g. Define key terms, Summarize, then compare with something else, then maybe try to critique, etc
/r/askTRP25/02/16 03:30 PM
1

Well they're marketed as 'up to' 99.9% effective. 92% is really low, a lot of people rely on it exclusively you'd think we'd hear about it if that many people were having unplanned pregnancies.
/r/askTRP25/02/16 03:22 PM
8

Summarize what you read, talk to yourself like you were explaining to someone else.
/r/askTRP25/02/16 12:26 PM
1

Other way around, not even sure of that stat to begin with
/r/askTRP25/02/16 11:28 AM
3

You can flip it like she is using you for your body, jokingly. The key is to let her save face.. If you say 'yea whatever bitch' you're killing her hamster which is no good here, her hamster is justifying fucking you with zero commitment. More often than not though this is simply the beginningbof the end. For that reason its most important for me to preserve self respect rather than salvage. I'll give her a shot to save face and back off, else I soft next. Hard next if she subsequently refuses s…
/r/askTRP25/02/16 06:17 AM
3

I'm one year sober. If you feel like you're losing control or generally can't control how much you drink, check out /r/stopdrinking. It can be hard, it was the hardest thing I ever did, but I feel like I've been given a second shot at life.
/r/askTRP25/02/16 02:19 AM
1

In some cases like this I would actually embrace the oneitis. Oneitis for first girlfriend can be strong as fuck. If you're successfully getting past it with a new crush that's not necessarily bad, because your average oneitis is probably mild if you're like me. This is actually the strategy I use. If heartbroken and fucking a lot of girls isn't helping, I'll open myself up a bit more, catch some feels for new girls, and that'll help me get past the old one. Then separate and go back to spinning…
/r/askTRP24/02/16 02:49 PM
1

They don't matter at all, to you, because you'll never have them. Don't worry about things you'll never have.
/r/askTRP24/02/16 02:44 PM
2

It helps me to schedule a break so there is a clear beginning and end to laziness and it doesn't infect your life indefinitely.
/r/askTRP24/02/16 03:58 AM
1

Set some kind of goal, maybe one at the gym. I always ultimately feel good about a breakup if I look back and see I would never have done X if I had stayed with her.
/r/askTRP23/02/16 05:31 PM
2

You know the textbook responses aren't perfect, and they'll fly over a lot of girls' heads. Sometimes LJBF can be treated like LMR, ignore or laugh it off. Judge by actions. Let's just be friends... But we're basically going on a second date? Ignore her conditions, set the time. Treat it like a date with kino etc. Now sometimes she really meant it, and she'll reject you or it'll be an uphill battle because she really didn't want a date with you. Up to you whether you invest the time and risk tha…
/r/askTRP23/02/16 05:27 PM
-5

Man you were doing so well. But I never take a girl to the gym and cant sign on to advice to do so. Like work, lifting has its own time and purpose and you lose frame by letting this girl, this nobody, interfere. I'd also disagree you need to be a master. Having creative fun plans alone is enough, even if its newish for you too.
/r/TheRedPill23/02/16 04:48 PM
1

Whats the problem? My spank bank is exclusively past partners. However if these thoughts bother you, do NOT jerk off to them. In my experience, spank bank memories are tattooed in your brain after you spank. Never completely gone. Can be replaced and muted over time. Not necessarily indicitive of missing her. I had a ex on my mind a long time but never had the slightest urge to call her. Or care what she was doing. I cant explain it
/r/askTRP22/02/16 03:07 PM
4

Most women don't have a secret ploy to cover their tracks, though. Circumstantial evidence will exist on social media, slut tells when dating her, stories she tells or you hear where the scenario typically leads to sex. You posit that men won't know unless a woman wants them to know, I say men will have a basic idea unless a woman specifically tries to cover her tracks from day one, which 99% of the time doesn't happen. The motivation to cover tracks usually comes later when she wants commitment…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/16 09:36 AM
4

Some people must hate blowjobs.. Sometimes I'm happy if the girl will 'only' give head. Maybe she didnt have condoms
/r/askTRP21/02/16 11:42 AM
6

I go a completely different way. Stay warm and maintaining rapport through LMR. Less you arent actually 'disregarding,' youre letting her control your frame. Stay positive, maintain kino, try another play
/r/TheRedPill21/02/16 11:08 AM
2

Id say you're onto something about it not having to be a conscious strategy. Average girls will get pressured to give head more because they will be borderline lays. Don't think I'm alone in saying my blowjob standards are much lower than my fucking standards. So their experience will be giving blowjobs to get romantic interest. Maybe they always hope it leads to sex, and sometimes it does, but maybe a lot of the time the guy just busts in her mouth. That and most people like to downplay the sig…
/r/askTRP20/02/16 02:37 PM
0

In your dreams Segway later into 'The man of your dreams' somehow... E.g. 'Grab a drink with the man of your dreams' Signed sealed delivered. Yes it's corny but that shit will work
/r/askTRP20/02/16 10:59 AM
2

Thailand is a military dictatorship
/r/TheRedPill19/02/16 04:30 PM
3

Dated a girl obsessed with classic rock/metal. Frankly I found it a bit childish and close minded. The whole thing was just a social media image thing, never heard her actually listen to metal just the same 5 rock songs. When I found out it spilled over into some past groupie behavior, also shared onnsocial media, I dumped her.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/16 11:10 AM
1

Depends on what you value. What youre saying can be nonsensical. The goal is to find one woman, better lower your standards to attract more women? Typically if you get too many search results you want to narrow, not expand the criteria.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/16 03:03 AM
1

The woman in that post was making value judgments first. The OP was responding in kind, hey lady if you're going to judge this guy as not good enough, take a look in the mirror you aren't a catch yourself. Additionally I wouldn't accept all posts as canon, even by endorsed contributors. A lot of them have conflicting viewpoints the core of TRP is in the sidebar.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/16 04:22 PM
2

TRP doesn't make a value judgment on the prostitute in terms of morality. It might caution against her being LTR material, but that's value relative to a potential partner. And it's hard to argue there aren't pitfalls to dating a prostitute, I don't find that too extreme a position.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/16 10:43 AM
6

You shouldn't invest so much time in a commitment from tinder, then you wouldn't care. Tinder chicks get my spare nights, very last minute, or are backup plans themselves. E.g. I'm working until 9pm, I'll be pretty fucking tired so if she doesn't show I'll go to sleep. Instead you got all tingly and excited and shaved your balls, investing your days happiness in this random slut from Tinder. Recipe for disappointment. How are you supposed to practice abundance when she has been your focus of att…
/r/askTRP18/02/16 03:20 AM
3

This right here. Be fun, in the moment, don't have to get into deep conversations. Girls this age tend to be a lot more fun because they actually participate in flirting, by age 25 they are so jaded from the CC they get defensive and downright mean. Younger girls love to flirt with an older attractive man, if you take the lead you may as well be George Fucking Clooney because that's how they'll treat you.
/r/askTRP18/02/16 03:17 AM
2

You shouldn't care. If you do care you shouldn't show her you care. You fucked up twice. Read the sidebar
/r/askTRP18/02/16 03:12 AM
6

Where do you live? I find the good looking white brunette to be the most common breed.
/r/askTRP17/02/16 10:21 AM
1

Well, see you're the winner here. You didn't marry any of these chicks you just fucked them. So while their hamster is working on lies and rationalization and games, you're just nodding and smiling and fucking them. This is a huge part of TRP imho, understanding this dynamic and using it to your advantage. I have a fantastic plate, she lies to me about all sorts of shit. But she brings me fresh fruit and let's me fuck her any way I want and is generally pleasant to be around, so I just smile pol…
/r/askTRP17/02/16 05:01 AM
0

Number 4 for sure, this is such a soft invite from you (not even a date just a social gathering with friends) and she's being a cunt about it. Sometimes it helps to act as if she were a man. What if a man responded that way to a friendly invitation? You'd fucking delete his number and not invite him anywhere again.
/r/askTRP17/02/16 04:56 AM
1

Got to remember your self is much bigger than her. Think back to your childhood, teenage years, adulthood, your entire life. How many people have come and gone? Who has always been there? Maybe your mom or siblings, a very select few. She was just around for what? A year or two? Not even junior high, man, she's just a bit player in your life story. You've always been there, will always be until you die. And more will come and go.
/r/askTRP17/02/16 04:46 AM
-1

This right here. The fuck is wrong with this sub lately? Talking about the other responses
/r/askTRP15/02/16 03:36 PM
7

My biggest takeaway from TRP is how valuable my commitment is and how selective I should be with it. Just imagining the time I spent on infatuations, heartbreak, etc., it's a huge investment and now I'm much more thorough in vetting potential girlfriends. The fucking lots of girls is just a pleasant side effect of that process.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/16 02:49 PM
1

It's easier and more dangerous to fall for someone who pretends to care but doesn't. All manner of people and women will listen to you bitch and it's open to interpretation if they really care. With that in mind I say it's smart to err on the side of caution.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/16 02:47 PM
2

Agreed, TRP, if implemented positively provides a foundation for self improvement and providing value to relationships without compromising yourself. I don't see any reason to be negative in my interactions with women. The "sexist" aspects of TRP, even if not 100% perfect, are roughly accurate to anyone who isn't a day old. They provide a good starting point to any man clueless about a woman's motivations or interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/16 04:54 AM
1

It sounds like you dont have much rapport with her, it can be hard to say yes to a complete stranger. Flirt a bit and set a date, she needs a reason to want more
/r/askTRP12/02/16 01:18 PM
3

Reply whenever. No more activities with her. She can come over when you have nothing else to do. 100% convenience fuck for you is all she can be now. Dont tell her this. Just give a short notice invite someday. No call/no show is already breaking so dont waste time with games, just get what you want and let her fall.
/r/askTRP12/02/16 01:14 PM
8

Up to you. But dangerous to wait til you have oneitis. Then you'll pedestalize your girl as being your first love bla bla bla. It'll be hard to move on
/r/askTRP12/02/16 04:41 AM
1

Speak from your chest. Practice that and consciously turn it on. I used to be in sales and do this even when nervous. Sort of masks it. Stereotypical sales guy voice. Hear it in frats as well.
/r/askTRP12/02/16 03:28 AM
2

You dont know what strawman is. And accuse me of it with an ad hominem reply with an appeal to authoriyy. Funny
/r/TheRedPill12/02/16 02:34 AM
2

When you make a decision, make it right. Go all in. You broke up that means you cut contact. After that you're better off assuming she fucks other guys, which makes things permanently ended. It also lets you taste that sting, realize you will both die without ever talking again so it doesnt matter what she does. Take a deep breath and move on.
/r/askTRP11/02/16 08:18 PM
16

Oh it was my favorite part of an otherwise awful experience
/r/TheRedPill11/02/16 07:45 PM
3

Yea I progressively give them worse garbage times, or short notice. E.g. I have a First date at 8, schedule her as a backup for 9. Also limit it to house or next to house. Basically remove any commitment on my part. Or just next. Depends. My top plate now started as a flake because of her job. It happens, especially if the chick doesnt know you.
/r/askTRP11/02/16 07:35 PM
28

Thank god I watched this years ago. Got arrested, awkwardly stayed literally silent under questioning. Got a lawyer, turns out they botched the case. Caught a lesser charge. 10 days in jail and $5k is instead 8 hours highway cleanup and $1k.
/r/TheRedPill11/02/16 07:19 PM
2

Why are you bringing a girl to your workout? I'd hit on her too
/r/TheRedPill11/02/16 06:23 PM
8

Important to know the reason for rules so you can implement appropriately. You're an awesome guy. Of course you are or she wouldn't want to be with you. Texting does not convey your awesomeness. Even if it does a small degree, too frequent of texting is frequently putting out a diluted version of your awesome self. No good. Next is texting is easy validation. It makes you more accessible. If you're too accessible for her validation, you become less valuable and easier to take for granted. Becaus…
/r/askTRP11/02/16 04:10 PM
3

Yes my general attitude is I don't want anything from an ex, not even validation or dread for a current girl. If anything I want to instill in the current girl the idea that when she's done she will be done for good, kind of a no return policy. Different strokes.
/r/askTRP11/02/16 12:31 PM
5

Context? Usually ignore. I'm an observe and act type guy. Showing your cards (your knowledge) usually isn't practical.
/r/askTRP11/02/16 10:18 AM
4

Dont approach, if forced to interact treat like a female co-worker. Polite with zero sexual interest
/r/askTRP11/02/16 09:40 AM
3

He tried therefore he succeeded. Not always going to end the night with your dick in her mouth.
/r/askTRP11/02/16 08:34 AM
2

Shit test, for jealousy. She is letting you know she has options, trying to strongarm commitment. Ignoring tactfully is a pass.
/r/askTRP11/02/16 08:32 AM
2

Yes to some extent. As a football fan I get a lot of philisophical takaways from our coach and team. I like to see them win to see how far that approach takes them, to validate it. I have a lot of respect for them. But worshipping famous people in general is beta, you can approach it as learning from others.
/r/askTRP11/02/16 07:02 AM
149

Yes. Retaliation is a form of mate guarding. This whole post is idiotic. If any of this shit happens you dump her. Most girls who get screened to LTR will not do this shit, they worked too hard for commitment.
/r/TheRedPill11/02/16 06:35 AM
1

I think you give this girl too much attention. Also your game is probably easy to see if youre doing shit like openly talking about the wall. Youre trying to convince her your game should work which is going to look needy. Basically all of her behavior is power plays, she doesnt respect you enough. Talk less act more. She tells you maybe Friday, say ok. If you have another date, ignore her Friday. She says take it slow, say ok, move to another topic. Dont do anything until she strts refusing sex…
/r/askTRP11/02/16 05:58 AM
2

I mean this won't help, but when a girl says this youre toast anyway. I might try a 'can't help myself' or something to give her a chance to keep it positive but not a lot you can do here.
/r/askTRP11/02/16 05:50 AM
3

Meh, I use cool. Basic etiquette for setting a meeting is that you confirm receipt of the agreement. E.g A: 5:30 B: Ok A: Ok If you said nothing I'd assume there was no meeting as you didn't confirm acceptance of your offer. You can try cutesy mysterious shit but why bother you have the date. Game then
/r/askTRP11/02/16 04:57 AM
3

Youre not using any tactics. By sharing all this shit with her, you think youre special, you think she is special, you think youre better than the game.
/r/askTRP11/02/16 03:10 AM
1

Ha, close. I didnt read that far. Read the sidebar, you have much to learn
/r/askTRP11/02/16 02:58 AM
2

You think youre above the game. Youre not. I'm going to guess youre 19 years old
/r/askTRP11/02/16 02:48 AM
2

If you have a penchant for diddling kids, the advantage of displaying that vulnerability is offset by the strength of your weakness. If you get nervous on roller coaster rides because one broke down upside down when you were a kid, it's reversed.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/16 06:31 PM
3

The question is if to ever display vulnerability. You are talking about becoming strong or weak or less vulnerable. The question is not how to get rid of vulnerability. Anyway that's strike two for your grasp of logic, all A = B does not mean all B = A.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/16 06:20 PM
3

Read the texts. Its over dude. The rest is hamstering, dont even confront her walk away.
/r/askTRP10/02/16 06:03 PM
3

I said what I said. I did not say what you said. That said, yes. Any vulnerability you hide is a weakness. The absence outwardly of any vulnerability exposes this charade. The display of vulnerability in general, then, allows you to conceal some. Note my premise here is that all humans have vulnerability.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/16 05:47 PM
3

Logical fallacy
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/16 05:35 PM
2

All humans are vulnerable in some ways. If you never show vulnerability it means you're hiding it, which means you are afraid, which is weakness. And people can tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/16 05:19 PM
16

To add, the reason for this discrepency is clear. A man usually must be valuable to attract a mate in the first place, a woman can just show up and get a boyfriend. Our lives as men necessitate creating value so it's not surprising we see most of our dates as lopsided.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/16 11:21 AM
2

TRP doesnt have an opinion its just a set of truths. If you want to be a sugar daddy nothing wrong with that, as long as you understand whats happening
/r/TheRedPill09/02/16 10:07 AM
1

Yes, he was 17. He was really skinny and gangly, not ugly per se but just awkward even for that age. Actually had a lot of confidence though and wouldve done ok. Morphine overdose is what we heard after initially being told heart defect by his parents, so I dont know really. He died in his sleep.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/16 02:37 AM
1

Because experience will prove to you how all women are like that. Only experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/16 02:25 AM
-1

Excellent, screening social media is huge. Also want to look for current lying/inconsistencies. Girls have no game and are idiots when LTR fishing, easy to spot an act usually
/r/TheRedPill08/02/16 05:54 PM
9

I dont often see a lot about not having friends and being ok with it. My job is very social and between that and dating I want alone time. Also with men in general its hard to find someone who isnt a beta loser or trying to AMOG you. Overall I find it not worth the effort. Activity friends are good
/r/TheRedPill08/02/16 03:55 PM
0

If youre starving you would start to think if eating those rocks was doing anything for you, or maybe you should try a supermarket
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/16 10:00 AM
1

Lighten up. As long as you aren't functionally beta, e.g. Spending money on them, getting distracted by their inane text conversations, etc., you're doing good. If it's not actually negatively impacting your life and you're getting what you want from the relationships then you aren't beta.
/r/askTRP08/02/16 04:37 AM
2

TRP is kind of like lifting. It's better to start lighter than to try to pull the absolute max, if you're not sure what your max is. Sprinkle it is slowly, and you'll find your own game. What might be happening is you're losing some of your naturally attractive qualities by adopting too stringent a plan from someone else.
/r/askTRP07/02/16 02:27 AM
3

Women don't know what they're looking for until you lead them to it
/r/askTRP07/02/16 02:22 AM
-2

Freer there? Youre a foreigner there, you dont have the same relationship with the government as a citizen. You have no idea.
/r/TheRedPill07/02/16 01:14 AM
22

Might not be to gauge, but a power play. I've had girls try to reverse do whatever I did, so if OP is portraying abundance she might be saying 'me too!' It's also really amateurish though
/r/TheRedPill06/02/16 03:06 PM
3

Sometimes there isn't a lot of depth to their views on feminism if all they know of it is from TV and their culture hasn't progressed towards it. So first chance they get living in or accepting what they call feminism they go wild and gangbang. Say what you will about feminism dude, at least it's an ethos. If all it is is becoming a slut then it's kind of shallow. These girls still hold on to their cultural values when it benefits them. That's my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/16 01:18 PM
4

You fucked up delaying whatever happened after making out stopped. You should have basically ignored the movie, made her laugh to maintain strong kino like hugging and tickling or whatever, then went in again and escalated each time. The end of the movie is hard because it's a natural stop point for the date. I've never made it to the end of a movie personally, I've either done the deed or been handed a red card. If she says this you say ok, make her laugh about something else and escalate kino.…
/r/askTRP06/02/16 12:49 PM
1

It's polite to respond. The trouble most people get into is feeling the need to explain themselves all the time. 'Hey wanna go to the party tonight?' 'Sorry can't.' Not... 'Sorry I really want to but I have an exam at 7am and you know how it is we always stay out too late haha maybe tho will Sheila be there?'
/r/askTRP06/02/16 12:42 PM
1

Yea they're different kind of goals. I mean even with lifting I try to stay grounded and realize this is something I do to make my life better, so don't get too stressed about it. Don't get too stressed about doing the gnarliest climb, or being a pro surfer. Compartmentalize these things, but they are still goals in the sense that you put them in a list and say yea, I really want to do that and am going to do that because I'll enjoy it.
/r/askTRP06/02/16 12:38 PM
7

I live in a third world country and am from the first world. Had a conversation about TRP stuff with a chick here once, sharing ideas. I came to realize her viewpoint was as someone who is from a place where women actually are "oppressed," as in the double standards significantly impact all of their life options for example having to live at home until married. Whereas for us Americans it seems like we try to find things to get offended about, when in reality women are more educated than men and…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/16 12:29 PM
2

Bigger and/or thinner, make sure she gets you rock hard before going for it. Make sure you're putting it on properly and it's not bunching up at the base. I usually start with a lot of foreplay until I'm basically about to cum. Still there are only a few positions I can cum with a condom. For me if there is even a little bit of constriction I have the same problem, it's really got to be firm but not tight.
/r/askTRP06/02/16 08:38 AM
2

Any kind of experience that can lend itself to sales. Like being a waiter or valet. If you don't have a degree you need sales experience, most people had a degree. You need have a reasonable nose for business and be good at talking to people. You need good negotiation skills but this can be taught in the job. I don't mean to say it takes no skills but the bigger firms make a point about training you from the ground up anyway.
/r/askTRP05/02/16 03:48 AM
1

Yes, I made 50k my first year though I was better than most. At the bigger firms you get a salary, let's say 35k, then you can make commission on top. If you didn't get to 40k you probably are getting fired anyway. My second year 80k was definitely in the cards but I pursued another career.
/r/askTRP05/02/16 03:43 AM
1

Did you break up with her or what? My ex and I have been no contact 5 months, she also was very upset about the breakup but I figure she's got it in her to realize contacting me won't solve anything and at this point has probably moved on. Don't understand what you're after, easy lays are all over the place why bother here
/r/askTRP05/02/16 02:31 AM
3

Best type of job is a salary plus commission which moves to commission only after some time. Means the company has some investment in you. Business to business is where you want to be long term but often you need experience. Recruiting is a good place to start because you get exposure to business to business sales but you're 'selling' to inexperienced or moderately experienced targets, depending on the quality of candidates you are targeting. If you have an arts degree you can leverage that into…
/r/askTRP05/02/16 02:25 AM
0

No, you don't bring it up. The ultimate test is if she is dating other guys and if she is almost always available for you or tries to be. These are the big ones. If she flakes or is dating other guys she isn't that into you and LTR is off the table. If she passes these tests, then ride that gravy train of freedom as long as you can until you have to give her exclusivity.
/r/askTRP04/02/16 01:24 PM
3

She values her virginity. Do you value sex? You sound like a dog begging at the table for scraps. You're not. You're a man with needs. You haven't given any other information on this girl other than you have oneitis and she doesn't put out. To answer your question there are different types of good girls. N count alone is not a good indicator because you never know that number. A good girl knows how to flirt well, be loyal and know boundaries, and have few or no red flags. This coupled with a low…
/r/askTRP04/02/16 01:16 PM
2

Yea it's like closing the barn door after the horse has run away, if you wait until the LTR. I've never had success establishing boundaries that late and if I did, her secret resentment/flouting of it came through eventually. Breaking of obvious boundaries is a power play and if she is doing it you've already lost, your only card left is outside the door.
/r/askTRP04/02/16 11:49 AM
4

Clean! We use water sprayers in this part of the word, much cleaner than the United States of Smear It Off Your Ass. As an American I go for the bidet with TP close for maximum freshness.
/r/askTRP04/02/16 11:45 AM
15

I'm the same way but I have done a lot of awesome shit in my life that gives me some credit in that department, even if our daily lives are "boring." It could help to have some personal goals outside of your career and lifting. Like climb a mountain, learn to surf, spend a week in the wilderness, whatever might interest you. As for other people, they'll still think you're boring because excitement to them is sitting at a bar and being served drinks. Real trendsetters them.
/r/askTRP04/02/16 06:59 AM
-1

On the extreme end I don't think any woman is worth what some guys pay. But in certain parts of the world it's pretty cheap to buy a girl dinner. Hell I had one girl tell me she thought my place was awesome because I had toilet paper. It's all relative to your wealth and status in relation to her.
/r/askTRP04/02/16 06:56 AM
3

Boundaries by and large should be automatic, you determine this when she's a plate to see if you proceed to LTR. Anything you say or do at this point is going to come across as mate guarding and lower you into her frame. She now controls your emotions through her actions.
/r/askTRP04/02/16 06:49 AM
2

Making your bed, or you may have heard the phrase 'putting one foot in front of the other,' are about giving up daily control of your life to a higher purpose. That purpose being your goals. It takes an attitude adjustment and not fighting for happiness or amusement or WANT at every moment. If I'm at work and having a bad day, mentally my attitude is I'm just a passenger along for the ride. This is part of the life I'm observing. Ties into stoic philosophy as well in being able to accept what li…
/r/askTRP04/02/16 01:32 AM
1

Start a business you can start with yourself as labor. E.g. Mowing lawns. You have two advantages: you get to tell people it's for college, there is little financial risk just spend some on basic marketing. Third if you do well you can use the experience to get a scholarship somewhere. If the business does well you can easily hire unskilled labor to take over.
/r/askTRP04/02/16 01:19 AM
1

Ok, so you're going to send a dick pic. We've all had that fleeting thought at one moment or another, even if as a joke. Ok ok. But man, why would you take a toilet POV dick pic? 'Hey babe this what it look like when I take a dump'
/r/TheRedPill04/02/16 12:58 AM
3

If you can say 'it's up to you' without sounding butthurt, that's what I do. I'm kind of a cheeky fucker though so I can do that. Early relationship it's best not to play your cards and see how much she wants you and only you - i.e. how much she wants an LTR. If a chick is fucking around when she's my plate I don't care I just cross her off the LTR list. In many ways it makes things easier because you are protected against oneitis, maintain low expectations for the relationship, and maintain pow…
/r/askTRP02/02/16 12:42 AM
3

Personally I find humor mixed in with serious/intelligence/passion is a dealmaker. If you can be interesting, unashamed of being passionate about life, and make her laugh, she's going to open dat mouf Humor is #1 for ASD/LMR, that with kino. Make her laugh away the rejection, use it to escalate kino, when you two are tickling and hugging and giggling on a bed she's going to open dat mouf In terms of how to transition.. don't? I don't know man I just say/do funny shit when it comes to me, say ser…
/r/askTRP02/02/16 12:34 AM
6

The reason why every man owes it to himself to play the field for some time during his life, right here. Once you have been with a woman who actually contributes to a relationship, you notice, and there is no going back to girls that just 'show up.' And those good girls are rare, I'd say less than 5%. I mean even small shit like bringing you food or cooking for you randomly. Most just show up, shit test, get fucked, and leave.
/r/TheRedPill01/02/16 11:11 AM
2

Red pillers don't care about the past for girls they're fucking, they care for girlfriend material and forming a deeper connection. So it's not blatant sexual insecurity like you're describing not having. My 'plates' IDGAF what they've done, a girlfriend I do care about how she's acted in the past especially fidelity and decision making in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/16 05:24 AM
2

Why? Nothing suggests he was nervous. I don't do parties and whatnot and also wouldn't want to go to her work functions. I have a busy life myself and value my free time, any kind of function like that feels like work to me. Is it really that enjoyable to make small talk with a bunch of strangers/acquaintances? maybe for some
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/16 05:34 AM
2

It sounds like people just disagreed with you. I dont see the oppression. I disagree, too, the President holds more power than what he can get through Congress. So the topic is relevant regardless of where you stand.
/r/TheRedPill29/01/16 11:49 PM
1

As something of a natural stoic I'd say it's a total attitude change and not something that can be applied here or there. If someone is in an argument with me, first I see they are angry. I just see it because anything more is out of my control. If there is something I hope to achieve with this argument I do what I can to make my point, but 99% of the time I have nothing to argue about so your problem is probably at the source.
/r/askTRP29/01/16 02:18 PM
1

pretty funny for a girl to add a notch she may not even want to try to make you feel jealous when you truly don't give a fuck. I've seen it happen and it is the like the ultimate breakup win, as long as you're getting laid per usual.
/r/askTRP29/01/16 02:13 PM
1

Hello from the other side. Had a buddy while studying abroad. He invited a girl out to visit to string her along, just be polite etc, didn't expect she'd actually come. Imagine his surprise when she said yes, I'll come. She's been programmed her whole life to find Italian guys sexy as fuck, you think she's not going to get some strange out there man? I can't imagine a scenario where an American girl studying in Italy would want some guy she's been seeing off and on for a little bit to come see h…
/r/askTRP29/01/16 04:45 AM
1

I don't think it's nuanced. The problem is the excuse-making is already there, and she's shared that with him. What matters is not her telling him 'You're loosing me [sic]' or 'You don't know me,' it's that these thoughts exist in her brain at all times and will be there when she gets fucked by Chad ('He doesn't even know me,' 'He lost me'). My last LTR told me 'You don't even respect me,' which was total bullshit, but I knew right then and there we were done. There isn't coming back from shit l…
/r/askTRP28/01/16 11:12 AM
3

Because they are trying. Your average 'beta loser' doesn't know how to escalate or lead. Even if you are really bad at these things, even if you are an asshole, if you at least TRY to do these things, eventually you will find success. Because some woman will be attracted enough to you to overlook you, will be turned on by it because she's personally likes it, or whatever. The point being you put your hat in the ring. Nice guys never give themselves a chance and have to fall ass backwards into se…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/16 08:43 AM
6

I lean TRP in many regards but have to agree. In my experience a lot of the rules of attraction are absolutely true (if interpreted correctly, which is not just being an asshole). However what TRP misses is that just like men can control their instinct to fuck everything they see, women can control their instinct to fuck the hot alpha when that woman is in a relationship. The sub in general gets bogged down a lot by forgetting one of its own mantras - all women are LIKE that. It's not all women …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/16 08:38 AM
3

It's worth a shot but yea all signs point to not interested. The counteroffer thing isn't a hard and fast rule, it's not like girls have a checklist to counteroffer if interested but it's a strong sign either way. Depending on how well you know her the medium matters. I mean it always matters but you're right if she is into you it won't. If she doesn't know you well then building some rapport before asking in person will make her evaluate you and decide to go (if she never thought about you and …
/r/askTRP19/01/16 10:59 AM
0

I'm not disagreeing with that I'm disagreeing with the oft-stated sentiment that a plate must be one of many. For example I like new pussy but I'm also very busy, so between approaching and working I never have time for more than two plates if I'm trying to bang new broads on top. Trying to maintain two plates sometimes leaves me with one, that doesn't make the chick my girlfriend. It's illogical to think it would. The only thing that matters is the nature of the relationship.
/r/askTRP18/01/16 05:09 PM
0

So sick of this shit. Number has no relevance to status, it's not logical. If I move to a new city and see a chick just to fuck, she's a plate, period.
/r/askTRP18/01/16 04:14 PM
1

"She" doesn't exist dude. There is a sack of flesh and blood walking around that looks like "her," but the girl in your head is not it. You're projecting a shitload onto her. OK, so accept that. It's just an avatar in your brain, not a real person. Next remove "she" and "her" from your vocabulary when narrating your life. This bag of bones your refer to is not part of it and the concept you hold in your brain in place of it is not real.
/r/askTRP18/01/16 04:11 PM
3

Until it was proved. That's kind of a key step brah
/r/TheRedPill15/01/16 02:54 PM
2

Well done. Now you are vetting her I'd keep an eye on the situation but don't say shit. As said already she is checking if you'll be possessive. Also, it might be the beginning of her bargaining for commitment. Some girls will start sharing more like this and expect you to reciprocate, it's a good way to ease you into committing to her.
/r/askTRP15/01/16 01:25 PM
4

This is the type of pseudoscience we get mocked for
/r/TheRedPill15/01/16 05:56 AM
0

Frankly if your game relies on omitting modal verbs from your texts then you are something of a 'fake alpha.' What I've learned is that game doesn't have to be perfect, in fact it can be better it's not because you're getting girls who are legitimately attracted to you and don't need to be pitch perfect for every moment. Models is about creating a game for yourself that comes natural and can be consistent, but I suppose this is an argument for another time.
/r/TheRedPill15/01/16 04:38 AM
1

you'll only make it worse if you speak to the girl like you're the Terminator. ha, agreed. I do tend to use one command like OP at least once before meeting, to test/establish my lead. For example if she has just one or two pics I'll say 'send more pics'. If she sends them that's a warm lead to me because she's following my lead, which confirms interest.
/r/TheRedPill15/01/16 04:35 AM
5

In an LTR there are unspoken beliefs about power. If you've ever shocked a girl by dumping her or vice versa, you've experienced this. My last LTR was being a cunt to me in an argument then begged and pleaded immediately when I dumped her. That was because she misunderstood the balance of power, the ground she was standing on disappeared beneath her. Dread game is establishing your power in a relationship so it's known before that. At its most basic, it's letting your girl know you can and will …
/r/askTRP14/01/16 03:00 PM
3

I've found a good way to do this physically is to get on your knees facing her while your finger her, and she is jerking you off. Slowly you get your dick closer to her face. If she's enjoying stroking it she'll be down to suck it, or might just go for it herself. If she's more focused on herself then she might be more difficult. There is kind of a point of no return where it's obvious your trying to put your dick in her mouth. But make her like a frog in boiling water
/r/askTRP14/01/16 02:50 PM
6

For me there is a thrill in fucking a new girl, part of that is giving the girl new dick. Cuckhold porn could also be a byproduct of that, here's this girl taking random dick for the sake of getting fucked. It has that and an element of reality to it. Kind of like how stepdaughter or MILF porn isn't really about the relationships, they just become keywords for the style.
/r/TheRedPill14/01/16 02:42 PM
9

Lifting isn't just for women it's for yourself. I lift for many reasons but sexually speaking I don't do it primarily to attract girls, rather I feel ten times better when fucking. Fucking with muscles just feels awesome. That speaks to the validation aspect we get from women. Practically speaking it's cheaper and not very time intensive to just stick to online dating if you don't care about the chase. Once you get plates the idea of a prostitute is kind of laughable, why would I pay 300 dollars…
/r/askTRP14/01/16 10:20 AM
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Most girls still want some level of plausible deniability. If Brad Pitt started walking around NYC saying 'I want to put my cock in your ass, come with me,' while he'd have a high success rate I'm sure it'd be lower than if he asked girls to join him for a drink in his hotel room.
/r/askTRP14/01/16 05:25 AM
3

I agree it's a red flag but the nudes mean she is still in your orbit, I.e. She still feels she owes you something. The logistics of this may just be your downfall though, props to you for maintaining her doing that three bus trip for you for five months.
/r/askTRP14/01/16 05:07 AM
6

Did I read this right? You haven't even fucked this girl?
/r/askTRP13/01/16 05:42 PM
5

Dude this is Female 101, I don't say that to belittle you but to say how common what you just experienced is. It's a sort of shit test, she takes something you say, and gets her feelings hurt. Or she takes something else and gets her feelings hurt. Either way she then moans about her feelings being hurt. The test here is whether you say 'OH I'M SO SORRY HONEY! HOW CAN I FIX IT FOR YOU' or whether you maintain frame. In an LTR this is the most common shit test there is from some girls. Now you fu…
/r/askTRP13/01/16 05:09 PM
1

You can do a better job at ending the conversation naturally. It's hard to explain how. Humor her for a couple and then give her little/nothing to respond to. The easiest 'out' is to schedule the next meet, of course this isn't always possible. 'Cool see you then' is a natural send off. If it's an every day thing then slow it down a lot and then start to ignore for progressively longer periods of time.
/r/askTRP13/01/16 05:04 PM
1

Stop imposing limits on yourself, imaginary limits which are evident in nearly every sentence of your post. Be a fucking man and do what you gotta do. If that sounds unhelpful because it's too hard, good. Because the truth is it is too hard for most people and that's why most people are fat boring fucks.
/r/askTRP13/01/16 04:14 PM
3

They've had a constant stream of validation and therefore haven't spent much time idealizing the perfect man. Men on the other hand may go through long periods of solitude, whether in teen years or later, where they develop the woman as an idea. They have crushes go unfulfilled, rejections, etc. When you get oneitis you attach that idea to an actual woman, and when she is gone her use as an idol for this idea continues. The woman herself is not really important to this idea surviving, she's just…
/r/askTRP13/01/16 04:12 PM
3

I've always taken LTR to be less about the length of the relationship but more about the commitment and exclusivity of the relationship. It's called Long because while in them people expect them to be long, are taking them seriously, etc.
/r/TheRedPill12/01/16 04:44 PM
5

Ted Bundy didn't really care about porn. He was trying to justify his insanity and get attention, and he knew a good way to do that would be to be a spokesman for an Evangelical boogeyman. Remember this guy was a sociopath. He's doing everything he can to get sympathy before his appeals run out. Oh trust me reverend, I was a good boy. But you're right it's that evil satan porn that is to blame, warn your children.
/r/TheRedPill12/01/16 05:10 AM
6

Asian unicorns don't exist. I live here buddy it's a false hope, trust me.
/r/TheRedPill10/01/16 03:29 PM
2

Comfort test, deflect lightly, provide comfort some time after (as to not reward the test). She's your girlfriend not a plate, you should, you know, like her, and she should know that.
/r/askTRP09/01/16 11:05 PM
2

Very, very difficult, often comes down to either luck of the draw (e.g. you found super ho) or circumstance (she just moved to town etc.). A very small percentage of all online approaches will have the potential to lead to a same day lay. If I'm going for same day, I usually operate as normal but keep the date a vague 'Let's meet' to test the waters. If she says something like 'What? Now?' Then I might back off depending, a throw another day at her. That, OR, I run through all the extra girls I …
/r/askTRP09/01/16 11:00 PM
4

For me, N count is a tool. I'm mainly looking at her quality of character, impulsiveness, and her stability. For that reason it isn't the number itself but how it was arrived at. Quality of character - how did she get her N? Blatant branch swinging, cheating, opportunism, thinly veiled prostitution (i.e. quid pro quo)? For me, for whatever reason past boyfriends have never bothered me at all, so there could be a huge difference to me with two girls both N count of only 3. Impulsiveness - how qui…
/r/askTRP09/01/16 05:04 AM
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