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I think a huge reason for the change is the massive growth of technology. Men have too much instant gratification though technology (i.e. porn, webcams chats). Also women are now easily accessible. I.e. Tinder gives them matches, and the "match" is what feeds his ego instead of actually taking a woman to a dinner date and paying for her. Just my guess/thoughts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 04:30 AM
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Loved reading through this! Some basics about my routine: Skincare: The Ordinary is my go to brand. I start by using their cleanser, followed by their Buffet serum, and then their moisturer. I do the same morning/night but looking to change it up at night. And I do a weekly exfoliater and face mask. Makeup: Mascara and lipstick are my every day go to. I'm obsessed with lipstick and own way too many at all sorts of prices and colors. If I want some color on my cheeks, Nars blush and Fenty bronzer…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 03:31 AM
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Did she offer to fold his tighty whities too? P.S. A Netflix Watch Party is not a date either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 10:09 PM
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Hmm... I don't know if I'd personally write all of that. I'm the type to say a short "Ha, nice try" or something, but curious what other ladies think on that. I've peaked at your post history. Sounds like it's been seven dates in a month right? That seems like a fair bit. How are YOU feeling about him at this point? Is there an attraction/spark? His texts come off as a bit too formal to me... it's not my cup of tea, but of course you know how the dynamics are in person between you guys. I don't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 05:53 AM
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I feel like this statement puts wrongful blame on women who chose to have casual sex at some point in their lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 01:18 AM
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I don't understand why this is a big deal to him. I mean the way I see it is she waited to have sex with him because she seemingly saw value in him when they started dating... so he should be flattered that she waited to have sex with him... but instead he is going to judge her for her past...? He seems super insecure to me quite frankly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 12:54 AM
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Janelle Monae - Q.U.E.E.N. Alicia Keys - Brand New Me Beyonce - Sorry Mary J. Blige - Just Fine Christina Aguilera - Can't Hold Us Down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 12:19 AM
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This is the greatest thing I've seen on the sub yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 10:44 PM
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The things people say to themselves to try and convince everyone around them that "everything is ok... my my life is perfect....my husband is amazing"... this is just sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 05:17 PM
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"OmG hE pLaYz tHe keYboaRds...a MuSIcIan!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 03:52 AM
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"I might even see if I can get them to pay for me"... TF? Pickmes + LVM. I can't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 01:48 AM
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But it isn't just me, it really is that bad Exactly this! For the longest time I thought I was the problem... and wondered what I was doing wrong. And I finally realized, after hearing similar stories among tons of attractive, successful, and single women...LVM are the problem...not us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 11:55 PM
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100% agree. I never understand the "post photos of you living your best life on social media" advice or whatever after a break up or bad date to show him you don't care. If you're posting that shit to SHOW him, then you do care. Block, delete, move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 05:07 PM
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I never thought of it like this until I've been reading similar advice on this sub. It makes SO much SENSE! Major mindset change for me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 04:39 PM
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I'm 100% the same way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 06:50 AM
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The real question is how did the man have the audacity to wear those shoes on a first date?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 05:53 AM
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Truthfully, I want a partner... the right partner of course. BUT I am definitely okay if that doesn't happen for me. I will never (have never) settled for less than a HVM in regards to an actual relationship. And no matter what, I will not lower my standards or compromise my values. My ultimate goal in life is happiness (and a man does not guarantee this happiness).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 05:48 AM
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There are women's only gyms in my city fortunately. There's even a women's only boxing club that I love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 05:36 AM
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We have to look out for each other. 100%. Glad you dodged a bullet and what a great reminder than the vetting process is never ending. Thank you for sharing your story and stay strong!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 03:43 AM
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Is there really a woman who is going to swipe right, excitedly guess "said ethnicity" just so this scrote can heat up some $0.99 noodles for her? I can't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 02:48 AM
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This guy has seen too many Bollywood films.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 01:21 AM
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My advice is keep things around your house that make YOU happy. For me, this is the artwork/decor in my place. I have black and white photos I took placed in antique gold frames in my kitchen... a photo collage of my closest friends on my fridge... a banner of my favorite sports team in my living room... and so on. I love looking around my place and seeing things that specifically make me happy. I also believe greenery in the household can uplift one's mood. Get a house plant or some succulents.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 06:58 PM
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Exactly! I truly believe HVM aren't trying to date right now. And neither am I.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 04:52 PM
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This past week I left all other Reddit dating subs to focus my energy soley on FDS. It's been great shifting my energy on helping those who wish to be helped while helping myself by being around like-minded women. Been spending my week doing a lot of reading... currently on book 2 out of a pile of 6. The reading has done my soul some good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 03:32 AM
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They're always "joking/being funny" when you call them out of their shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 03:23 AM
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To add: "Not looking for pen pals" translates to they're instead looking for a quick lay. "MeEt mE nOw" "Tall enough for you to wear heels" means he has nothing to offer but his height and is using that to get women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 02:42 AM
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I loved reading this, especially the way you have been focusing on YOU this past year. Sounds like your journey is getting better and better. Happy for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 02:34 AM
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Eek, I'll have to read up on that. I truly don't know about her relationship with Swizz Beats as I don't follow celebrities and their personal lives too much. I've just always loved this song... been my anthem for awhile. Sigh. I will have to dig into this story of her being a mistress.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 01:11 AM
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Agreed 100%. The negativity...yikes. To me, this post was merely an example of a man showing effort to make/do something that he knew his partner loved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 02:15 PM
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I do not know the full story but IF he was willing to (or has) cheated on his wife with you (even emotionally), then he will not hesitate to cheat on you. Do not get caught up in thinking "you're different." He is a LVM. Both you and his current wife deserve better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:18 AM
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Hm interesting perspective. I am also in my 30s and now that I read this, it makes a lot of sense to me. I think these younger people are also more concerned with growing their social media followers and presence...hence they use these dating apps to build that versus actual dating. I had a colleague recently gush to me that she had a boyfriend... said "boyfriend" was someone she had been chatting to for a month and lived on the other side of the globe... I was baffled when she told me and didn'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 02:52 AM
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Seriously! This sub has taught me the importance of putting my sexual needs before his... like a fool, I spent so many years concerned about their pleasure... LIKE A FOOL. So many faked orgasms in my life for what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 02:26 AM
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Amazing! Happy birthday! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:55 PM
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I'm sure his wardrobe is full of Hugo Boss suits and Calvin Klein button ups. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:27 PM
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I've thought about this when I was younger and I'm 90% sure I would keep my last name. I can't imagine being anyone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:22 PM
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I figured out that something, SOMETHING, in these guys is telling them that I wouldn't put up with their bs YES! Exactly this... you excude that you are a HVW and these LVM know better than to try any BS. I 100% feel the same way. For example, I hear so much about women getting sent dick pics... I've never gotten one from a random guy in my life and I've online dated a loooot. I'm convinced these scrotes know better than to send me something so disgusting because I would not put up with that cra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 04:05 AM
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It's all "fun and games" until the man doesn't get what he wants out of it. He wouldn't be complaining if he was banging both of them. Or if Deliah proposed getting to know him alone instead of Tomi, how much you want to bet he wouldn't have a problem then? Also he said it is "unfortunate" that Deliah is extremely attractive... tf? Naw bruh. What is unfortunate is that you were too busy thinking with your penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 02:19 AM
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Yes!! Curious of what it's in the Sephora bag, ha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:17 AM
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I'm on a break from OLD but when I was on it, my rule was ask me out within a week (for a date the following week). Not here for pen pals or time wasters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:16 AM
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Literally just put on India Arie's Video on YouTube to uplift my mood tonight and thrilled to see that it's also on this playlist. 🙌🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:13 AM
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Yup thank you! Had three mesaages this week. I laughed and blocked. No time for this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:55 PM
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Preach sis! We need to come together as women and I love this sub for that. For too long a lot of society has taught us to accept less than we deserve and undermined our value. No more of that BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:37 PM
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Love this! "He's just in your way"... yes. Push any shit away that is blocking your path. And agreed, I don't know who invented this "wall" bullshit but I'm 33 and a hell of a lot happier now than in my 20s....oh and still as hot (ha, humbly said). And I have plenty of friends in my 30s and 40s who feel the same way, whether they're single or taken, so this "wall" theory needs to die.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:54 PM
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Definitely not funny. Women need to stop accepting this kind of behavior from man childs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 02:39 PM
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Stop the blame and don't beat yourself up so hard. Shit happens. Stop and reflect on how far you have come in recognizing the LVM that he is. And now focus on how to take the next leap in eliminating him from your life. The sooner he is out of your life, the sooner you will have your strength back. Keep putting yourself first. And remember, this man does NOT deserve you. Also, who cares if he does not convince you to stay? Seriously. Who gives a shit? Your only concern should be getting this LVM…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:55 AM
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I think you should take a break from dating/FWB and focus solely on this journey of self-love. Kudos on the therapy and keep at it. I suggest finding social activities (make a list of things you've wanted to do, join a club, volunteer, etc) and make an effort to make new friends. Female friendships are healthy and important; look for local groups on social media, try Meetup, or maybe Bumble BFF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:09 AM
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Love this! It is exhausting to constantly please people and put their needs ahead of yours. You HAVE to put YOU first. "You are not responsible for how someone else feels" is such an important lesson that more people need to learn. Thanks for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:54 AM
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PREACH!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:03 AM
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How the eff are people in the comments praising the husband for being honest? He is such a brave soul for coming forward about his crush and did his wife such a HUGE favor... right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 02:15 AM
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You should have cut him off the first time he touched you. Better to have no friends than "friends" like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 09:10 PM
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THANK YOU!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:14 PM
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You know, I got three direct messages this week from people calling me names/things not worth repeating. The first one I was a bit taken aback for two seconds (as I'm new on reddit and didn't know why someone felt the need to message me as such) but smirked to myself and block/deleted. The second one I just laughed to myself and block/deleted. This morning I got a third. And this time I didn't even accept the message so now idea what it says but from the "69" in his username, I can only imagine.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:10 PM
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I started dating myself last Saturday. First date went well and second date is this weekend. Fingers crossed date two goes as good as the first...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:30 AM
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I actually prefer spending my birthday alone. I used to celebrate it for so many years with friends and it stressed me out. So now I consider it a day for ME. My advice: Celebrate it doing the things YOU love... indulge in that cake, splurge on that spa day, go for that hike, binge watch that show... whatever it is that YOU love. Go on a day or weekend trip is also an awesome idea. For holidays, I'd say do the same thing... do what YOU love. Again the day/weekend trips, that fancy bottle of wine…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:51 AM
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The way his balls crawled back into his insides as soon as a wife was mentioned... P.S. Spit out my tea at sad endings, well played ha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:59 AM
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The last time I tried to give a women healthy advice on another dating sub, the response I got was "because I love him". That's when I decided to stop giving advice unless it's FDS or its sister subs. Can't help the pickmes who don't want to help themselves. Go on and live your "perfect' lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:42 AM
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The "sandwich" wrapped in the maxi pad wrapper... Bahahaha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 12:02 AM
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Sadly I already used my 7 day trial few months back to binge The Morning Show, ha. I'll convince a friend to sign up for one and use that account to watch...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:23 PM
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Can't wait to read her book. Some of Mariah's early music has been quite healing for me. I've been a huge fan since the 90s! Sadly I don't have AppleTV to watch the interview. Anyone know if it's airing anywhere else? Imagine YouTube will have some clips after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:19 PM
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Sand? SAND?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:43 PM
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What the actual.... and she still wanted to be with him....? What is happening in the world... this is some next level low.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 12:47 PM
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You know what gets me aside from the obvious shit? Her last paragraph... how it sounds like if she didn't have this seeminly new guy (although one date don't count) in her life, then her ex would be a viable option? Like what was the point of that last piece... that if she didn't have this new guy then her ex would get a chance because the overall point is any man is better than no man? I cannot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 12:32 PM
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Watched this documentary last week. Pisses me off that she got called all these derogatory things when the sex tape came out yet no one seemingly said anything bad about the scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:11 AM
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I only joined FDS (and Reddit) two months ago. When I joined, I'd say I was a princess, ha (knew a lot of this stuff thanks to my own learnings in the last few years) BUT after reading the handbook and being part of this sub, I learned a hell of a lot more. FDS has notched me up to a queen! In honor of 100k members here, today I left the "datingoverthirty" sub. I used to love giving dating advice but I just can't do it on that sub any more. Too many PickMes and I found reading it mentally draini…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:22 AM
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Same. This joke will never get old. Ha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 12:50 AM
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I had to stop watching like three seasons in because Jane annoyed me too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:38 AM
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Also people need to stop mistakening this shit for "dates". Going to the grocery store is running an errand and not a date. These LV people can't seem to tell the difference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:28 AM
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Classic LVM wanting all the traits in a women that he doesn't have himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:08 PM
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How does that have over 1k likes? I can't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 10:58 PM
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100% agree. I have such a strong belief that female friendships need to be vetted the same way as relationships with partners. And the same way you'd break up a relationship with a LVM, you should break up a friendship with a LVW. Too many people think they need to cling onto people because they've been friends for X number of years or it's too hard to make new friends as an adult. Heck no. Always ask yourself "what value is this person bringing to my life?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 09:56 PM
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Why are these men still able to view your Instagram account? Why are you posting pictures for THEIR attention? Just a hard no all around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:26 AM
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You are doing your part by identifying these red flags to your friend and genuinely wanting the best for her. It's up to her if she wishes to really listen and understand what you are saying. Some women's judgements get so clouded by any form of attention from a man that they don't think straigbt. One thing I learned in my life is "Women have to realize for themselves." You can only do and say so much. Some women will finally learn and others won't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:19 PM
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PREACH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:04 PM
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Yes! Exactly! I had a similar lightbulb moment recently. It is so incredibly freeing! Thank you for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:52 PM
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This is why I can't do social media much anymore... the whole photos for validation thing. A lot of those "happy couples" with pictures to specifically flaunt their relationships are hardly happy from what I have seen. I knew a colleague whose husband had just cheated on her. You know what she posted on Instagram the next day? A family photo of smiles with some fake ass caption. They were/are both LV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 12:54 PM
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Similar to you, I've always had a high standard of dating befote FDS (although FDS has taught me a hell of a lot more than I knew). My issue was I was convinced I had to get my worth by getting married (and asap, like in my 20s). I watched a friend (who was also eager to get married) rush into a marriage with a LVM. A month after they were married I watched as his drugged out self verbally abused her on a public street corner. Three months later, she was pregnant and thought the child could save…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 12:36 PM
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I find stories like this heartbreaking because when the relationship ends, these are the women who come out with no friends. I hope more women learn to recognize these red flags, gain self respect and never settle for LVM. And learn the importance of healthy female friendships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:48 AM
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Clearly a Benjamin Button case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 02:40 AM
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Love love love this! What a beautiful photo. I set up a little date at home for myself this evening. Flowers, candle lit dinner, my fave wine, and even threw on a hot dress for kicks. Love that I'm not alone doing a self care Saturday. Always take care of yourself first!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 01:53 AM
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You know what's worse? When they are unattractive and their profiles state they are poly. Like who the hell is feeding your ego to think someone will be with you and allow you to screw other people? No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 12:53 AM
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You know, it's funny because I made one of those screenshot posts last night, but before posting it, I paused for a moment and was like "Wait, do I really need to share this? I did my part in blocking and deleting so why give this more attention?" But I shared it anyways thinking it was funny and might be helpful to other women. Then this morning, I looked at my post again and I said to myself, "Naw, no need to post these type of screenshots again". Laugh off the LVM chats to yourself but in ter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 12:59 PM
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"You don't need a man. A man needs you." Going to repeat that to myself daily. And 100% agree regarding "fake it until you make it". A friend started telling a man this week about all the awful dates she had been on... I was like "girl, fake it until you make it. Don't ever tell a man you been out on lame dates. Tell him you're used to men treating you like a queen. Set the damn standard.".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 03:51 AM
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Thank you! The tattoo was inspired by one of my favorite short poems. "I am a lioness who is no longer afraid to let the world hear her roar. -an ode to me" from Amanda Lovelace's book "The princess saves herself in this one." Amazing collection of poetry!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 10:38 PM
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Love all of these, especially when women treat themselves to the handbag they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 10:35 PM
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Yes I second this in regards to dump those friends and not jumping into dating just yet. Letting go of toxic friends in your late 20s may seem hard, but as someone who did it, I can assure you that you will be so much happier. And you can build new friendships with like-minded women who will not try to convince you that you must be married by 30...or ever. I don't know if Meetup is popular in your city, but I joined women only social groups when I first cut out my old friends, and it did me wond…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 10:31 PM
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Yes! Picked up my flowers yesterday. Self love all the way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:09 PM
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My first post on FDS. Wanted to share a tiny bit. Seven years ago I made a conscious decision to start living MY best life. My issue was a bit of LVM/pickme but it was primarily LV friendships. I cut out toxic people and realized my value as a person. I am incredibly proud about the person I've grown to me. I got my own place, the job I wanted, traveled alone to incredible places, built my self esteem, and most importantly, learned to love myself. Finding this sub and women who think similar to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 01:09 PM
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Yes! Always love yourself more!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 05:48 PM
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That erectile dysfunction pic had me dying!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 10:27 AM
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Yes!!! I went skydiving by myself on a solo trip to Hawaii and you should too! Don't wait around for no one to make your dreams into reality, especially no man!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 10:25 AM
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Yup. I'm all about "erase you from my life".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 12:33 AM
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Don't forget the one where he caught a fish bigger than his head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 12:29 AM
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Yes!!! 👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:38 AM
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I'm tired of men not stepping up to the plate and just asking a woman out by defining a time/place/date. It doesn't take that much effort to set up something proper. A HVM will always set it up without you thinking twice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 12:03 AM
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Brilliant analogy! 🙌🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 01:56 PM
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100% agree. I listened to this book on Audible a few months ago and it definitely was a life changer. Learning my own attachment style has benefitted me mentally. Highly recommend as well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 01:11 PM
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Just like there are high value men for relationships, there are high value women for friends. I'm single and plenty of friends have gotten in relationships but continued making time for me. Any friend who has acted any other way when getting into a relationship has been dropped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 12:22 AM
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Love love love!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:29 PM
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I would say no on a first date. My ex got me flowers on our fifth date and it was perfect. I would wait until a month or so into dating.
/r/askFDS12/09/20 06:00 PM
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A coke and bubble gum? Is he in the 3rd grade?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:38 AM
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