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You deserve to not just be accepted, but revered. I hope you find someone special that does that for you and helps you heal. I'm still holding out for someone who adores me...it feels like a stab when the guys I like are either into Asian, latina, blonde girls. And if he does like a black girl, she's either lightskinned or mixed. I just want flowers, to feel beautiful and desired by a good guy. As horrible as it sounds, I wish I had more men complimenting me and not women so often. I want to be …
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/23 12:21 AM
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Yoga used to be my go-to to alleviate stress; I noticed how tense my body would react before i got a chance to, so it helped me relax. I'm trying to get comfortable smiling at other men but I don't want to come across as too flirty, especially if they're in a relationship. I also worry about coming across creepy and wouldn't want to make people feel uncomfortable.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/23 10:18 PM
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That is true; I'm just worried that me not having a car would look weird to other prospective men, especially at my age.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/22 07:46 PM
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I need to work more on my jealousy issues. I keep comparing myself to other women and I know any man I date would see me as a COMPLETE nightmare. It's not healthy to see other women as my competition. I'm also learning to cook, and while I'm not the best right now, I'm sure I'll be able to make a delicious, full-course meal. Another one is laziness, especially with exercise. I need to shed off some pounds but haven't gotten up to work put like I should.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/21 03:32 PM
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I mean, I did exclude women who are genuinely assertive and strong, as I mentioned prior on my post. I'm referring to the ones that have shown blatant disrespect and rudeness towards others. Though I understand that I come across as very upset. Of course, I'm human with such emotions and I'd just like to find someone someday. edit: just a word
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/21 10:51 PM
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You know, now that you mention it, I have heard of that before. Those types of women are seen as a 'challenge' to be conquered, right? Admittedly, I can be a little too formal and polite, and I'm sure some guys might find it to be a huge turn off. And I probably should gain some sort of confidence, I feel like I need to change who I am 'cause being "mean" is attractive and I'm tired of being seen as boring.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/21 02:36 AM
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I think your next steps should be finding/shadowing a female doctor that can be a role model/mentor to you who has success with career and family who can give you great advice. I don't know why I didn't think of this lol, I'll reach out or at least look for some female neurologists. Do not rush into a marriage just because you are getting older because you do not want to be a single mom a few years later. Yeah, I'm trying not to force myself into anything that's not meant for me. I've done so in…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/21 05:17 PM
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You're right, that's a good point. As far as weight is concerned, I'm more on the slim side, but I have a few more pounds to lose. I'll also focus on toning my body afterward. (5/10) When it comes to everything else...I definitely wouldn't say I'm the most beautiful. I have acne scarring, which has yet to be solved despite going through countless OTC products. I'll have to make an appointment with a dermatologist sometime in the future. I also have slightly crooked teeth with a noticeable gap. D…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 12:30 AM
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Well, I consider myself to be pretty patient. I'm also loyal, especially to those I care for and I'm empathetic. Other than that, I don't think I'm the greatest candidate. I've still yet to get my life together at the moment. I've got no car, driving license, or job. I also can't cook or bake, among other faults, which I am working on. That alone not only makes me look childish but also makes me unfit as a quality traditional partner. I'm sure the men I desire want a mature adult.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/21 06:18 PM
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Hate subs? I've been here for years, and I've yet to find anything that have ever come across as hateful. It's clear they made assumptions instead of actually looking through the posts here lol. ETA: what do you know, I'm permanently banned from not one or two, but three subs! How awesome is that?! /s
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/21 06:50 PM
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I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers <3 I pray that you get through it!
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 03:54 PM
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Neither will I; I'm not a mom, but I always said that I'd never post pictures of my children on the internet. Stuff like this is why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 03:43 PM
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I'm so sorry; if I could, I'd send you the biggest hug right now. Sending you loads of love!
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/20 05:08 PM
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As far as the type of men I'm into...I picture my ideal type to be rather handsome (if using a 10-point scale, he'd be at an 8). He keeps himself neatly groomed, physically fit and is very mindful of his hygiene. I also aspire him to be romantic and of great character, treating others and himself with respect and kindness. Someone with a strong work ethic, as well as firm conservative/traditional values. A man who can provide as a potential husband and father, someone in excellent financial stan…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/19 03:44 AM
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I much appreciate the thorough response; it led me to think a bit more about the way I felt around other females I thought to be way prettier. It made me feel insecure; I felt much more comfortable with women who I perceived either to be as attractive if not more. As for male friendships, I actually find it way harder to cultivate one myself, as I notice how little I connect with most in comparison to women. Self-care and compassion are what I'm focusing on at the moment; really just treating my…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/19 03:20 AM
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I'd like to attract high-quality men, as I'm wanting to date in the near future. I still find myself with people, not just guys, who I describe as 'different forms' of the same toxic people I tried to distance myself from. I also don't attract the type of men I aspire to be with. I understand it all starts with me, and am still working towards self-improvement...but I'm still unsure as to what I'm doing wrong. How can I improve both SMV and RMV in smaller bits?
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/19 09:10 PM
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I felt so insecure around the pretty girls you talked about. I felt like I didn't belong. At my job I literally work with a bunch of models. They all have the perfect hair, perfect smiles, perfect makeup, perfect bodies, perfect everything. Absolutely; I felt this way for the longest time...envying the women who'd walk back to their respective offices on our campus, with nude pumps and nicely ironed outfits. From their hairstyles to their makeup and matching scents, I deemed myself inferior to t…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 11:34 PM
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This definitely puts me at ease; I tend to think if I fail once, then I won't be able to regroup and bounce back sometimes. It's my absolute dream to earn my PhD; I know deep down that I'm capable of it, so I intend on holding on to those hopes in bringing me closer to my aspirations.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 11:23 PM
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I'm learning not to be so hard on myself; there're times where I'll kick myself in the butt for 'wasting' both my teen and college years. I've always heard of many claim that they'd be the best eras of your life, as many of us enter the real world once we graduate. I have to catch those moments and focus on what I can do now so I won't make those huge mistakes again. Like, for instance, implementing a daily sleep schedule. So far, I've done fairly well as I'm slowly resetting my internal clock. …
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 11:20 PM
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Yeah; as far as social media goes, one look at my timeline and my self-esteem drops the further down I scroll. One's engaged, the other's found a new love to dote on. At the end of the day, I understand that it's my fault as I've a tough time being as proactive as I'd like to be. Right now, it's me building and revising my resume through new experiences and opportunities. I don't want to look back a year later and wonder the same thing all over again.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 11:13 PM
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Hi ladies; I did talk a bit about what I aimed to accomplish this past November: sleeping and waking earlier I am managing to do a fairly decent job, though I will admit to falling off the wagon every now and then. Right now, I'm looking into getting Melatonin in creating a habit so I can fall asleep quicker. meditating at least 1, 2 times a week So far, I've made it into a small habit :) I'm really proud of myself for sticking with it by now, and intend on continuing this daily routine. turning…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/18 12:48 AM
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For November, I intend on: sleeping and waking earlier; meditating at least 1, 2 times a week; turning in my schoolwork before the due date; finding a job outside of home in better honing my social skills.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/18 01:26 AM
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...you need to worry about getting better. Are you seeing a therapist? To answer this; yes. I see a therapist, as well as the psychiatrist on a regular basis. I've been asked how it'd been more than four years since I paid my first visit, and I still 'rely on them'. It's suggested that I come up with a plan not only to not have to visit them anymore but also wean off the medication. I understand where they're coming from; I should learn to be independent and not rely so heavily on others, but at…
/r/RedPillWives30/10/18 11:57 PM
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I'd tell her to set boundaries; with no only other people in her life but also herself. Place stronger focus on schoolwork and work towards things that actually matter in the long-term. Cultivate a self-love routine and remind yourself of how worthy you are. Oh, and don't eat so late at night!
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/18 12:08 AM
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Thank you, a million times, for this. ...Stop feeling sorry for yourself and seeing yourself as a victim. You were a victim but now you are not because you are no longer in the same situation. Everything that happened is in the past, and the situation holds no tangible power over your life anymore...You also have to realize that your struggle is nothing special, it's nothing unique. You are nothing special and you do not need to be. Your worth is subjective, it's what you make it. I took some ti…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 05:06 AM
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Yes; I understand whatever is said to me regarding all this should be taken with a grain of salt. I've been discussing this in much greater detail with my therapist, and have also been coupling the session with a workbook I'd recently started using. I've done both yoga and meditation on a regular basis, though I've admittedly been slacking when it comes to maintaining those habits. So far, mindfulness sessions have been recently added to my daily schedule. As for relationships, I feel it's neces…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 06:48 PM
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To be honest, I found it pretty difficult following this point. You explain who you are, along with attributes you deem positive. While none of that is bad in and of itself, the correlation between that and internalized misogyny. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I'm guessing you compare yourself to, say, other women who don't live by the same values? Like, you find yourself to be more 'valuable' and 'different'? All in all, I personally feel it's not something you should be worrying over; as long as…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/18 10:41 PM
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Hi :) I'd been meaning to catch you last time, but wasn't quick enough :p In finding high-quality men to have a meaningful romantic relationship, what should I need to focus on in 'preparing' myself? I feel I'm getting closer to being comfortable dating these days, but I'm unsure as to what else could be holding me back. Thank you! <3
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/18 03:35 AM
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Hi :) I'd like to know what's in store for me regarding a romantic partner. What can I do to prepare, and open up to high-quality men? Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 03:47 PM
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In regards to what I have to offer, now that I think deeper of it, I feel like there's not much that I could provide for my prospective partner. For instance, I could provide emotional support, which I do feel I can do...but only to a certain extent, as I'm learning how to properly care for my own emotional needs myself. I'm currently learning how to implement healthy coping mechanisms when dealing with stress or any other negative circumstance. I'm also without a job, or even any means of trans…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/18 12:36 AM
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Yes, I absolutely love Urban Flora; her voice is nothing short of soothing!
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/18 02:46 AM
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Here are the goals I aim to achieve this month... Fitness: I'd like to focus on obtaining toned abs; of course that won't happen over the course of just April, but I plan to start by completing a 30 day workout routine, mainly for consistency. Skincare: I've been using the Cetaphil cleanser for my face, which works well with my combination skin :). I plan on establishing a more solid routine as I start using another product and slowly working up towards the third one for this month. Adult Respon…
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/18 12:34 AM
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How can I truly learn to love and appreciate myself? I'd like not to rely so heavily on a man for validation; I still notice that how I might feel a guy would perceive me sets the tone for how I would look at myself. And I understand that with the insecurities I still have, I'd be more likely to attract the wrong type of guys. When it comes to taking care of the outside, I'm getting slightly better with time, yet when it comes to self-love...I have absolutely no idea where to start. Any suggesti…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/18 06:10 PM
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Hi :) I also wondered if you can send me a link as well; thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/18 05:45 AM
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This came to me at the perfect time; thank you! :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/18 09:15 PM
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Oh yeah, I wholly agree with you on that! On finding love, getting married and having kids, they're all what I aspire for. Ideally, I'd like to find love and settle down by my late 20s/very early 30s, followed by kids before the age of 35. I've always been aware of the fertile window and take it seriously. The tricky part for me are a couple of things... At my current age (23), I'm nearing the 'quarter-century milestone' which has caused me to reflect and plan accordingly or at least try. Nun mo…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 06:08 AM
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Really enjoyed this read :). It reminded me of a conversation I had with someone not too long ago, where they felt that it'd be best for me to start dating around 27. Further explaining, they mentioned how guys don't really think too much about settling down before they reach their mid-to-late thirties; basically all he said was written in the article lol.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/18 07:33 AM
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Thanks for the advice! I want to ask though; exactly what do you mean by subtle sexiness? And what would be some ways to cultivate that organically, because I would like to present a more mature, feminine and alluring side to me. The one thing that comes to mind is me finding certain women as role models and take what I aspire and make it my own...?
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/18 11:07 PM
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Yeah, I keep getting that message that women have to be fun, wild, adventurous and sexy. Not saying that they're inherently poor qualities on a woman; women are multifaceted and can be however they want to be, as long as they're not hurting themselves or anyone else. The problem I've had was just how people would imply that it was a requirement. Because I have different values than another female my age, which by the way, she has every right to have and live accordingly, I've been perceived as '…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/18 12:58 AM
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It's funny you mention how it's not a viable long-term strategy to be a 'bad bitch'--and I agree with you; mainly because I've seen so many women get their heart broken that way. Like, I know that sex can only take you so far, and I'd have to bring a lot more to the table. But at the same time, especially in this age of social media, and also years of living in a college environment, I constantly got the message that being fulfilling their fantasies would raise my worth. I hate it, and am workin…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/18 12:41 AM
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that last part doesn't entirely make sense, but I do understand about having a lot of masculine energy. Some women are higher T than others, that's just a fact, and if you are it's a struggle to not act like a man sometimes. Hey, it happens. Sometimes grown men act like bitches too, and that's also not attractive -_-. Yeah, sorry for the confusion; I meant to say how living in a household without a sister (Of course, there's my mom, but there're different dynamics I've seen in sisters), I guess,…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 10:46 PM
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Hi! :) I have a couple questions; What do you feel is holding me back from being tapping into my most inner feminine self? How can I learn to be more vulnerable? Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 07:34 AM
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Yes, I'm incredibly shy to the point where I often make others uncomfortable with how stiff I become sometimes; it's something I'm working towards, as I'd like to be presentable. When it all comes down to it, I do like how reserved and introverted I am, as I've learned that you can give a more 'mysterious' aura to others, and I personally find that attractive now and days. And yes; though I enjoy outings with friends, I'm not a big fan of drinking, or even being pressured/asked about it. I've be…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 03:09 AM
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Thanks for the advice! :) I'll admit; during college, I actually used Tinder to meet guys. In my head, I was convinced that I'd meet someone who'd want to take me on coffee dates and we'd hold each other's hands surrounded by beautiful flowers lol. But seriously speaking, I later learned the hard way that it was the place, specifically at my university, to get a booty call. I've also done OKC before, but am not opposed to back on it in the future. As for right now, I'm not looking for a relation…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/18 02:57 AM
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Yes :) I'd love something like that!
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/18 03:34 AM
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Thanks :) Yeah, just even the thought of becoming this feminine woman...it sort of makes me uncomfortable in the sense that I still have feelings of drawing attention, especially from those who want...something specific lol. I also feel like part of me would look 'superficial', but I constantly have to remind myself not to care so much of what everyone else says when they don't serve any relevance.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/18 01:36 AM
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Speaking of water, I've been making it a top priority to drink as much water as I can these days. And as for my eyebrows; I'm glad you mentioned that because they really get out of hand when left untrimmed, and fixing them makes all the difference in how I look overall. I need to keep reminding myself that this won't happen overnight; you're right. I look in the mirror and immediately wonder why nothing's changed but then remember that I'd been careless over my looks for, pretty much, all of my …
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/18 02:45 AM
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Yes; manners are definitely what I need to work on. I've been told that I come across as too informal; not that it's necessarily a bad thing, but it can make others uncomfortable. I need to find a way not to be too informal, but also not portray myself as a slob. As for skincare, I'm going to take it slow this time around, as my skin's especially acne prone and sensitive. I'll do as much research as possible in choosing the right product for me.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/18 01:54 AM
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Thanks for responding! :) I, too, utilize Pinterest in finding clothes which I think would best suit me. And as for the app you've mentioned, I recently downloaded it, and have been speaking with one of my stylists in finding the right style for me. Yeah, I've noticed the girls who've gotten more attention over the years, and a common trend I see is not only how feminine they are, but also how they have all these stuff in their bags like mints, hairbrush...I remember one girl (who plenty guys we…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/17 10:46 PM
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I wish I had her hair, to be honest; my hair is actually more like this
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/17 02:29 AM
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Thanks for the reply :) I believed I worded it wrongly when mentioning my hair; it has grown where my bra strap was, but it wasn't full. That, and due to me not caring for my natural hair, it fell off :(. I will say, though, I do have thick curly hair which is pretty hard for me to manage, but I'm getting the hang of it. And you're right; I value skincare more than makeup. Though I love to have it on during special occasions, taking better care of my skin makes me a lot happier. As for being a b…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 10:07 PM
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