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I wouldn’t date a woman who spends time on Reddit You don’t see women is equals. If you don’t grow out of this, you fully deserve the lonely life ahead of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 12:46 AM
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What subreddits are you talking about? When women talk about abuse and harassment they’ve experienced at the hands of men, that’s not your fault and you shouldn’t take it personally. If you’re not harassing or abusing girls and women, you have nothing to feel guilty about.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/21 04:48 PM
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Same. I start liking them again and then they say some dumb low effort contrarian shit
/r/ExRedPill30/03/21 04:06 PM
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Just the same old cringe libertarian grift that targets alienated young guys
/r/ExRedPill14/03/21 03:33 AM
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You’re confusing “make women not scared of you” with “make women feeling protected.” This is not the same thing.
/r/ExRedPill12/03/21 09:37 PM
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I mean child rearing and domestic work are highly valuable. If they weren’t there would be no pressure on women to serve those roles
/r/ExRedPill12/03/21 02:16 PM
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it’s the best option right now That just shows how little they know about it
/r/ExRedPill10/03/21 05:03 PM
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They’re always doing this enlightened centrist walk the line bullshit. It’s their gimmick
/r/ExRedPill10/03/21 05:02 PM
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Pretty shocked by the number of comments genuinely suggesting he would ever want to be “rehabilitated” at this point. He didn’t just “fall down a alt right pipeline” while in a bad place in life... He is a middle aged man who is shamelessly misogynistic, racist, anti-Semitic, and you are (rightfully) repulsed ... Those views don’t come from nowhere. They were always there, he never worked on them, and now with Qanon he gets to feel smart and part of a “club” for having them. The only way this en…
/r/ExRedPill10/03/21 03:02 PM
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You need to relax. Focus on taking care of your physical and mental well-being. You’re a baby. You’ve got 10 prime years for meeting a partner ahead of you. This doom and gloom is absurd at your age
/r/ExRedPill09/03/21 10:27 PM
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Dude if you’re only 23 I fucking swear
/r/ExRedPill09/03/21 08:00 AM
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I thought relationships were a safe haven They are. The functional ones anyway. The problem is unmanaged “insecurity” can manifest as extreme jealousy and other abusive and highly dysfunctional behaviors, and insecurity reaches a level that is a dealbreaker for all self-respecting people, regardless of gender. I’m friends with a hetero couple where it was actually the women who was very insecure and this insecurity had several times manifested in dramatic episodes where she accused him of cheati…
/r/ExRedPill09/03/21 07:56 AM
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Your feelings and concerns are valid. This may not be a popular opinion, but I have been the 18 year old and the 24 year old in this scenario. I never cheated but I did hurt two of my older boyfriends by not knowing what I wanted. She may think she knows what she wants, but she almost certainly doesn’t know what she wants next month nevermind next year... I would urge a lot of caution with forcing yourself to pour energy into something when you’re having these feelings. Yes you are both adults, …
/r/ExRedPill20/02/21 11:09 PM
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oh yeah tatoos and frat parties a regular Al Chapo that one hahaha. I’m sure she fucked him because of the muscles and confidence. So what? Those are exactly the sort of guys that have the most options for casual sex and no one is disputing that. People care about poetry when they’re looking for a romantic sexual attraction, not a purely physical ones Fact is with exception of the frat party thing being a bit creepy given his age, none of those descriptors make him a “bad boy” or even a bad guy.…
/r/ExRedPill05/02/21 12:43 AM
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Also just want to add that you’re trying too fucking hard saying a staff member hooking up with a student of similar age is a problem or that she was “risking her job.” What a joke. University Librarians are staff, not faculty and I guarantee there are no school rules against it. That’s like saying you can’t date the janitors or an RA. They do not give out grades. There is no power dynamic concern. You just don’t like that this “special” girl got off with a guy you thought you were better than o…
/r/ExRedPill04/02/21 10:55 PM
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You didn’t have to say it. It’s the only explanation for why you’d be so worked up over this woman you perceive as nerdy and “high quality” fucking a guy you perceive to be a shallow “bad boy.”
/r/ExRedPill04/02/21 10:44 PM
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falling head over heals Says who? Did she tell you this or are you basing this off of his weird bragging he did to you about the hook up? Even if that’s true, there are plenty of smart and attractive people with deep insecurities who pick people they aren’t compatible with, but that doesn’t make it a rule or something you should live in fear of. You are way way too fixated on this one dude you don’t like getting the attention of one type of woman you think you have some right to because she’s “a…
/r/ExRedPill04/02/21 10:34 PM
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I may eat yogurt. I still really want ice cream This is your problem. You’re so fixated on ice cream (the most sexually exciting person you can think of) that you don’t understand that relationships aren’t built on that. A healthy relationship is just like a healthy diet; interesting, dynamic, and nutritious. Do you eat ice cream 24/7? Does it haunt you while you’re eating a gorgeous multi course meal that doesn’t involve it? If so, you need counseling. This isn’t a TRP thing. This a you have a …
/r/ExRedPill04/02/21 08:48 PM
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what made him a hot body Who gives a fuck? What is it about this guy that threatened you so much? Is it purely because your personalities and physical appearance were opposite? Maybe she liked tattoos. Maybe he’s conventionally attractive. Maybe he has muscles. Maybe it was his confidence. Maybe he did have a bad/mysterious vibe. Unfortunately some people (usually insecure) do like that. Why are you so obsessed with this one particular type? Different strokes for different folks. Get your own vi…
/r/ExRedPill04/02/21 08:37 PM
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I am not some alpha bad boy No one is dude. Even the original study the whole “alpha” concept in wolves came from was entirely debunked by the very scientists who first proposed it; they realized what they were observing was just the behavior of distressed wolves in captivity and was not apparent in packs in the wild. That’s just called being an emotionally stunted asshole and it only works on people with low self esteem and little sense of self.
/r/ExRedPill04/02/21 08:33 PM
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if she thought he was hot who would not? Okay? Even assuming all women have the same taste, are they dating? Doubt it. It sounds like you’re conflating empty sexual attraction with romantic preference. I can’t tell you right now as a woman in my mid 20s the idea of dating any 18-22 year old college dude, no matter how attractive, is creepy. There’s a pretty big developmental jump between those years, but I see no issue with casual sex between consenting adults of any age as long as it’s understo…
/r/ExRedPill04/02/21 08:28 PM
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That’s deeply disappointing. I thought millennials/zoomers were better than our parents’ but I guess not as much as I thought. I’ve made a conscious effort to prune people like that from my life, but I realize it may be such a pervasive mentality it’s impossible for most men to escape, and I also have few friends so maybe that’s why
/r/ExRedPill28/01/21 05:44 PM
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This is so sad and bizarre to me. Is this specific to cis straight women in your experience? Most of my friends are queer so this kind of thinking is maybe foreign to me? I have seen many of my partners and romantic interests of both genders become emotional and it’s never caused me to respect them any less. If anything, I take it as a sign of emotional openness and resiliency. My current partner of over 2 years is a very masc straight man who I have seen break down several times. In fact, when …
/r/ExRedPill28/01/21 04:18 PM
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If you don't love yourself and don' take care of your mind and body, I dont know why you'd expect someone want to partner with you.
/r/ExRedPill11/11/20 04:08 PM
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Okay but you realize that's very normal, right? The majority of my friends, male and female, didnt have sex until college and it was less by "choice" and more that the opportunity didnt arise with someone they were attracted to.
/r/ExRedPill11/11/20 04:00 PM
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Or she is telling the truth but has no self-respect and unhealthy ideas about love and relationships. We don't really know what OP's on or if he's telling the truth about her cheating.
/r/ExRedPill02/11/20 04:52 PM
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Are you ex red pill or not? Non-red pill adults don't play games. If you're really sure she cheated, then you block and move on. Also that last line of her text is creepy and possessive even if she's telling the truth about not cheating. Y'all's shit is toxic. Move the fuck on. One more thing, the moment you call a woman "a hoe" if she has any self respect she will end it right then. Don't behave like that and don't be with someone who tolerates it.
/r/ExRedPill02/11/20 04:49 PM
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I think that when I think 'sex work', I often think of the glamourous side, like your porn stars, your high-class escorts, sugar babies and so forth, whilst overlooking the more seedy side I think it's worth clarifying that this too is the seedy side. Most porn stars are very young and get far far less money than you think. Even the success stories make far less than non-sexworker celebrities relative to screen time and often express regret soon after their careers end. I'd strongly recommend th…
/r/ExRedPill06/10/20 07:49 PM
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For practical purposes I agree, but there is nothing "practical" about TRP mentality and this runs counter to their narrative.
/r/ExRedPill06/10/20 12:01 AM
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True and by your own account it's also only 10% of women who get alimony, so given that the percent of men who admit to cheating/infidelity is way higher (20-25% at least) then there are many women who are cheated on by their husbands and never get alimony. Not sure how women who stay with cheating spouses factors into that, but it's certainly not enough to account for the huge difference. Edit: now realize this is what you were saying but just more roundabout lol
/r/ExRedPill05/10/20 10:38 PM
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You're pathetic.
/r/ExRedPill05/10/20 09:59 PM
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She provided statistics showing only 10% of divorced women get alimony, and you try to refute that with nothing but your feelings. Lmao. You're exactly the kind of "my feelings don't care about your facts" kind schmuck she's talking about.
/r/ExRedPill05/10/20 09:57 PM
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That isn't "about the same" that is a modest but statistically significant difference, with men cheating and having affairs at higher percentages than women.
/r/ExRedPill05/10/20 09:54 PM
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Just want to point out there are more options than marriage or "going your own way." It is possible to have a longterm monogamous relationship with no intention of marriage. It is possible to be polyamorous and truly respect all your partners. To me there is nothing wrong with non-monogamy as long as you're not trying to play games or manipulate with false promises.
/r/ExRedPill05/10/20 09:53 PM
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Do you also find yourself strongly drawn to conspiracy theories? We all like to feel special and smart, and TRP and other cults of belief give us that. When we're vulnerable and mentally unwell, we are at greater risk for believing these things or becoming invested in them even if we intellectually know they're wrong. Therapy is great, but that can only help so much without strong (platonic) social connections. Invest in your friendships and your (emotionally healthy) family members. Your vulner…
/r/ExRedPill30/09/20 10:44 PM
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Reading your other comment that clarified you weren't commenting on "looks" but on failure to wear a uniform as part of safety procedure, I dont really think you're displaying much misogyny. Seems like maybe some language and cultural differences you could stand to understand better, but not anything particularly misogynistic or even "red pilled." You just managed to make yourself sound as bad as possible with some slight misuse of language lol
/r/ExRedPill28/09/20 03:15 PM
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This seems like it may be a language barrier issue. It is perfectly fine to comment that a coworker needs to change into their uniform, especially when it's a safety issue. We thought you were commenting on female coworkers personal appearance, as in how attractive they are or how appealing or revealing their clothes are.
/r/ExRedPill28/09/20 03:10 PM
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Immigration...? People do immigrate to smaller towns you know.
/r/ExRedPill28/09/20 02:06 PM
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want to talk about stuff at the work place about their looks, advice, criticize them I can't personally speak to the rest of Europe, but this is wildly inappropriate behavior for the workplace in the US, Canada, UK, and Ireland. Is this really "okay" in Switzerland? Sounds like you're still living some red pill beliefs. You should never talk about your coworkers looks, regardless of gender, and it really isn't professional to "criticize" your colleagues either (unless you're providing feedback a…
/r/ExRedPill28/09/20 01:57 PM
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I have no idea if they actually have a personality disorder or not. For all I know it's OP who has the personality disorder and he's distorting the truth about his family. What I do know is that TRP tactics tend only to work on women who manifest Cluster B traits. I don't think it's such a stretch to say that if he sees TRP manifest in his sister's and parent's relationships that they likely consistently present in Narcissistic or other cluster B traits to a far higher degree than average.
/r/ExRedPill06/09/20 09:24 PM
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lmao yeah bro not much else to tell you. You're family sucks and you've long been old enough to distance yourself from them. Time to let your sister just be someone you see around holidays and start surrounding yourself with your own chosen family. As long as you're surrounded by low iq narcissists whose actions and values make you feel worthless, you're never going to recover from this RP mindset. For people like them elements of the TRP are absolutely true lmao
/r/ExRedPill06/09/20 06:31 PM
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How old is your sister? If she's a teenager idk what you expect. It's normal to be shallow at that age. That said, if you're an adult, then it's on you to surround yourself with people with more depth. Just because your family is basic and never emotionally matured doesn't mean the TRP is valid by any stretch.
/r/ExRedPill05/09/20 08:22 PM
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Interesting. I'd always thought people outgrew TRP mentality by like 35. That's kind of frightening.
/r/ExRedPill18/08/20 04:05 AM
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What age group/region do you live in if you dont mind?
/r/ExRedPill17/08/20 02:45 PM
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Because they think it's a zero-sum game... either they're winning or women are winning and they are losing
/r/ExRedPill17/08/20 06:05 AM
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Just because it didn't make sense to you doesn't mean it "fell off."
/r/ExRedPill15/08/20 02:28 PM
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Have you done research as to why that stuff is actually bunk? The whole "Alpha" thing is fake. It doesn't even exist in wolves. Look it up.
/r/ExRedPill15/08/20 05:22 AM
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if the number of men she would be willing to have casual sex with is greater than zero and I’m not eligible, isn’t that just me being fucked over No. It's not that you're "not eligible." You're still not understand that women are operating from a different framework when it comes to casual sex, and are behaving exactly as men would if roles were reversed. You need to get some perspective on the "numbers" here. Let me put it this way. If you had endless access to horny, indiscriminate women, but …
/r/ExRedPill14/08/20 05:14 PM
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So this was stupid when I first read it, but I can kind of see what you mean. If OP wanted to meet and get an opportunity to party with lots of hot basic sorority girl types so bad he should've joined a frat and done Business school lmao He's far more likely to meet cool nerdy women who are either STEM students too (or are impressed by his career choice), but he's clearly not in the mental space to appreciate that sort of woman and I'd bet he wouldnt give her a second glance if she wasnt signifi…
/r/ExRedPill12/08/20 10:44 PM
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Let's stop using 'virgin' as a term that we use to self-describe since it comes from an outdated and unhealthy mode of thinking, and you're using it here in a newer but just as unhealthy mode of thinking. Right? Literally no one cares about "virginity" anymore, but the red pillers and incels are absolutely obsessed with it lmao
/r/ExRedPill12/08/20 10:41 PM
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This is a good point. I was always really turned off by the frat and athlete guys because the life style was often all encompassing and those guys often didnt have a lot else going on, and they certainly couldnt "nerd out" with me and werent usually other STEM majors (whose personalities I usually found more appealing). But women who are similarly oriented in the college social scene would of course be into that... why wouldnt they and what would be wrong with that?
/r/ExRedPill12/08/20 10:39 PM
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Dude... right? It seems like he's mad that basic women like basic hot dudes, and resents that women more compatible with him might have ever used one of these hot basic guys for sex... as if he wouldnt do the same with some basic hot girl in a second if he had the chance? Lamo. So salty
/r/ExRedPill12/08/20 10:35 PM
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maybe I just view myself as a guy whom girls don't view as "instantly fuckable," Errr so? It sounds like you're bitter about the fact that men are more open sexually and that straight women consequently have more options. The vast majority of women view few, if any men, this way. It is true that some will be interested in casual sex with exceptionally hot guys, but won't be looking for a fling with average and below. For women, we have a ton of men willing to have sex with us, but, especially in…
/r/ExRedPill12/08/20 10:31 PM
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I see the very opposite. Either you're not very attracted to women or you're in a low income area where pregnancy and childcare really does a number on women.
/r/ExRedPill02/08/20 10:42 PM
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Interested in them for what? All of these guys could have a partner if they knew how to treat a potential partner with respect and form deep relationships. I think you'll find the lack of empathy for incels and "red pillers" comes down to people not feeling overly bad for someone throwing a tantrum because they can't get easy sex with a bunch of people more attractive than them. If they need it so badly, they can pay for it. And if it was that great or important, and easy for straight women to a…
/r/ExRedPill01/08/20 10:52 PM
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"Ugly" women may have men willing to fuck them, particularly men much older or even less attractive then them but that's it. They are likely to have an even worse time finding a partner to date because men on average, while less discriminate for casual sex, weigh looks even more heavily than women do when it comes to relationships.
/r/ExRedPill01/08/20 10:42 PM
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Just tell her you like her and ask her out. Don't over complicate things. She like you or she doesn't. You can't trick her into liking you like TRP leads you to believe.
/r/ExRedPill20/07/20 03:22 PM
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F for low effort. That joke wasn't even funny 4 years ago
/r/ExRedPill20/07/20 03:21 PM
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Dude YES I think so many of these guys have a mom or first girlfriend with untreated BPD or NPD and they get the idea that these traits are common or universal in women. Also, disordered father figures with permissive mothers who do everything for the men in the house, with no respect in return, and the son grows up expecting a woman to sign up to be his glorified maid as well
/r/ExRedPill06/07/20 08:12 PM
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Wait have you even met this person? Sounds like a catfisher
/r/ExRedPill27/06/20 05:40 PM
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And they're missing out on so much more than romantic partnership. They're missing out on human connection entirely. It really is pitiful.
/r/ExRedPill21/06/20 07:57 PM
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I'm pretty sure a lot of redpill types don't believe in the human connection at all. This is so spot on. So often the guys drawn to TRP barely have what could be called friendships, or they think the two guys they play online games with or met in their toxic subs are "friends." I've made the mistake of feeling bad for and trying to "help" so many of these red pill boys only for them to come back and call me ugly/direct slurs at me or my partner cause I mentioned some aspect of my identity in pas…
/r/ExRedPill21/06/20 07:43 PM
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We both have good jobs and are solidly middle class, which I realize is lucky for mid 20s. I make a bit more than he does currently if you count my expected bonus, and I am actively encouraging him to go to grad school for a less lucrative field he is passionate about. So no, it's not about money. When all his other hookups occurred he was a broke college kid, so it wasn't about the money for them either.
/r/ExRedPill20/06/20 08:41 PM
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Did you miss the part where I said I dont date 9+ men? I date 7s on average. The guys I date are just above average in looks, not top percentile for our age group. "Players" lmao. My last boyfriend had only had sex with 3 women before me and was 24. Guy before that had hooked up with 4 and was 27. Current guy is a big nerd and less attractive than both of them and has the highest count. Why? Personality. He makes people laugh. They feel safe around him. Women would much rather hookup with a mode…
/r/ExRedPill20/06/20 03:12 PM
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Not my experience, nope. They're 6s to 8s themselves and I look at the guys they're disappointed dont want to be serious and cant think of a single instance where he was actually more attractive.
/r/ExRedPill20/06/20 03:00 PM
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then why do girls spend their younger years screwing around while ignoring the guys who would be good longterm partners Please show me any evidence for this. In my experience it is men in their 20s, not women, who will almost never commit to a woman unless she is quite significantly more attractive than him. I've sadly seem this myself as a 9+. Men treat me very differently than my more average counterparts. They get all the hookups they want from average guys, but when it comes to getting them …
/r/ExRedPill20/06/20 06:30 AM
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Not what I'm saying. Those same guys will continue to be ignored if they don't mature. I've seen it happen. The median number of sexual partners men report in the US is 7. The median for for women is 4. It is generally believed that some men exaggerate by a few and some women minimize (given that women are shamed for their "body count" while men are applauded, this should be no surpside; not to mention 15-20% of women will be raped in their life time, it should be no wonder theyd choose not to c…
/r/ExRedPill20/06/20 06:21 AM
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There is nothing "beta" about choosing not to waste your time chasing strange. And it certainly isn't all about money. If that was the case, then every middle age man making 6 figs would have a hot girlfriend lmao. People, not just women, people want a life partner with substance and compatibility.
/r/ExRedPill20/06/20 05:41 AM
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It's true, if they have matured and have decent jobs by then. What time and age does is increase the value of intelligence, good personality, and a career path (thing people want in their partner) and takes some of the pressure off of looks. Women in their teens and early 20s arent all just hooking up but their "pickers" arent going to be as good and they're more likely to be in a relationship with someone who is dysfunctional just because they're cute or they were the first person to make her f…
/r/ExRedPill19/06/20 03:15 PM
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No one cares about your shitty content, grifter.
/r/ExRedPill18/06/20 05:33 AM
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So instead of working on finding people who respect you for who you are, you're turning toward an ideology and group of men known to have misogynistic tendencies and for shaming men who value and embrace more traditionally "feminine" traits? That's just self harm man. I'm glad you reached out for help here, but if your social circles are really so backward and unsupportive you need to find a professional who can help you unpack all this and find a way to escape this path and whatever people or c…
/r/ExRedPill18/06/20 05:29 AM
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Your feelings are valid, but please realize that it is perfectly normal for people not to have a relationship or sexual experiences in high school or even college. There is nothing wrong with you that wont change with time and maturity (both of yourself and peer group). As others have said, the hormones are real; but, unfortunately, until you chill out and get comfortable in your own skin again you're not going to attract sexual partners or dating partners (or at least not emotionally healthy on…
/r/ExRedPill18/06/20 12:43 AM
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That dude is a grifter and you're eating his shit right up. There is nothing factual about his claims. A dozen random women at a bar with cherry picked quotes are not a representative sample of most woman. Give me a fucking break. Those women are what women who know what healthy partnership is mean when we say "she has a bad picker." Crawl back to your sad TRP subs saddo. Stop trying to drag down other young guys with you.
/r/ExRedPill18/06/20 12:27 AM
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I see. Yeah that does give me pause they she isn't flirty or even tell you you're cute back or anything on Skype. That's a deep amber flag for sure. It's entirely possible she just has some kind of hangup/guilt about her sexuality and it's not you at all, but that's a tough situation. Not sure I could stay with someone who wasnt able to he romantic with me. Wish you the best.
/r/ExRedPill16/06/20 07:07 PM
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That's a tough situation. Just because she's coping better on the surface doesn't mean it's not hurting her, although it does make sense that it would be harder on the male partner in these situations for the reasons I added in my edit to my previous comment.
/r/ExRedPill16/06/20 06:53 PM
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Hmm maybe it's different in your state, but where I am hotels never fully closed. Motels with outdoor entrances particularly are no more dangerous than going to the grocery store. Just wear a mask at the front desk, spray down surfaces with alcohol, and if you stay more than one night just leave the DND up so cleaners dont try to come in. Have you seen the new guidelines that have come out? Infection from surfaces or from being in a room that an infected person was in hours earlier isnt common. …
/r/ExRedPill16/06/20 06:44 PM
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It's not unreasonable for someone to hate PDA; maybe she can feel imaginary people's eyes on her through the windows, maybe cars just aren't romantic for her. And you put her through that for hours and argued about it? Right?!. The only people I've dated who are even somewhat comfortable with intimacy in a car or a parents' home were people who had a bit of a exhibitionist fetish. My boyfriend when I was 16 tried the same shit and was always pressuring me to do stuff at the park before I dropped…
/r/ExRedPill16/06/20 06:39 PM
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She is being very reasonable. Making out in the back of a car is trashy and anything more than making out can lead to public exposure/indecency tickets. You're an adult... get a motel room ffs. My partner and I both hate PDA but need intimate alone time (not just sex) so we would get hotel rooms to hang out on weekends a couple times per month back when we still lived with our parents. It's like $50 for a not entirely gross motel room. Get it together. For $200 per month you could be getting the…
/r/ExRedPill16/06/20 06:32 PM
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Dude... your perspective is so skewed. Like half of teens have no sexual experience. You're not missing out on anything special. All you've "missed out" on is awkward (and often less safe sex) lmao. Early 20s to mid 20s is exactly when most people are their most promiscuous.
/r/ExRedPill15/06/20 02:28 PM
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What are you? Like 14?
/r/ExRedPill12/06/20 06:04 AM
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The fact that you felt lonely at the young age of 16-18 signals that you had a serious problem with your family and friendships that was never addressed, not girls. It is very normal not to have a girlfriend or boyfriend in your teen years and it didn't lead to these feelings in isolation. The fact that you still feel you don't have real life friends or family you can confide in confirms that it is lack of strong relationships and community in your life that continue to be your problem. I wish y…
/r/ExRedPill11/06/20 02:28 AM
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I'm really sorry to hear that. Having an inherent racial bias, sorry I mean "sexual preference," is one thing, but her trying to blame her disinterest on your race is just disgusting. Like who the fuck is she to say that? Has she seen every asian man? In the city I live in I see and know asian men dating attractive women of all races regularly... honestly, I think I might see more young asian guys with white women than with asian women around here. I know that's purely anecdotal but maybe it's t…
/r/ExRedPill09/06/20 02:22 AM
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Asian men do struggle with American women, but that changes pretty quickly when you get to a large multicultural city. What makes you so sure that it was looks only that explained different levels of attention in different countries/regions? Women of different cultures have different expectations for attitude, style, and behavior too.
/r/ExRedPill08/06/20 01:59 PM
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I'm sorry I meant no offense by that. I consider "dont be fooled by xxxx" to be an expression, not to assert that you have necessarily been fooled yourself.
/r/ExRedPill07/06/20 09:43 PM
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I gather you're just a kid, but regardless, if you're regularly hearing that you're any less valuable because you're not in a relationship, then you are hanging out with very "low value" people. Stop worrying about what people think and surround yourself with better people. True friends don't give a damn about who you date, and they sure as hell aren't calling you a "loser" for being single. Edit: Also, holy shit, if your parents actually said that to you they are abusers. Did they SAY that or d…
/r/ExRedPill07/06/20 12:41 AM
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No thanks. I found a partner who is accountable to himself and has high standards, but has been emotionally open and honest from day one. I show him respect. He shows me respect. We acknowledge each other as equals with complimentary strengths and weaknesses and help one another to grow. You don't get that with a "red pill" guy. Ex red pill maybe. The few good parts of red pill are pretty standard "self help" that are good for anyone, regardless of gender or sexual orientation.
/r/ExRedPill06/06/20 10:30 PM
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"Keeping frame" is such a turnoff for me. It might have worked when I was 16 and had no self esteem, but now I take it as a sign they're not that interested or they're emotionally stunted. Then again, I guess the purpose of these tactics is to get vulnerable, easily manipulated women, the younger the better.
/r/ExRedPill06/06/20 10:25 PM
20

I haven't read Erased, but just want to say I'm happy for you. Your life will be so much richer for having realized these truths.
/r/ExRedPill06/06/20 04:09 AM
-3

Take what this guy says with a grain of salt. It's actually not cost effective to grow your own pot if you only smoke a small amount and having large quantities at once is risky in an illegal state. Similarly, if you are just looking for sex and not a relationship, turning to sex workers is far more "time effective" and is also safer for you, and the woman your having sex with, emotionally. There is no risk of either of you getting confused about what it is and also good sex workers are going to…
/r/ExRedPill04/06/20 02:29 PM
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women have to have plausible deniability in accepting a request for sex because they don't want to risk possibly being labeled a slut. This is not a concern for most young women in progressive areas. There may be some truth to this in sexually repressed places, but if you're somewhere where you don't feel a ton of shame for hiring sex workers, then that's not it. As the other commenter said, women have little incentive for random sex. It is high risk for us (way more likely to be victims of viol…
/r/ExRedPill04/06/20 02:20 PM
0

They may have the appearance of options, but the truth is that many men treat us like prizes or want us to be their mommy. If you gave a fuck and actually wanted to improve yourself and learn what it means to be an equitable partner, youd have your choice of high caliber women. It does get easier for good men a d women agets easier as you get older because people do grow up and both genders realize there is more to partnership than looks and money. Sadly it also gets easier for shitty men becaus…
/r/ExRedPill03/06/20 11:34 PM
6

You still aren't understanding. This is not how mentally and emotionally sound people think about relationships or marriage. There are women, and men, who think this way and are always look for the best "prize." Early on that is hot people to fuck and later when they get bored of that, or start running low on appealing options, it will be someone with money and status. What you're not getting is that the majority of adult women don't think like this. Most women are looking for partnership with a…
/r/ExRedPill03/06/20 11:19 PM
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It really sounds like you may be struggling with disordered thinking. I am an exceptionally attractive woman. I have a lot of options, yet I don't think that way and alarm bells go off whenever I interact with people who think like you are right now. Relationships are not a contract with expectations of perfect ROI. People, mentally healthy people, not go into a relationship constantly asking themselves if this is the hottest, richest person they can score. That is not the point of a relationshi…
/r/ExRedPill03/06/20 02:37 PM
10

I've been reminded, constantly, for my entire life, that I'm exceptionally attractive. I have never gone for the most attractive or the wealthiest person I could score. There is so much more to attraction and compatibility than "maxing" out you options. You really need to rid yourself of that mindset. It is frankly a disordered way of thinking that comes through as narcissism or even sociopathy... and it will mean you stay single, or end up with an unstable, emotionally immature woman who cant r…
/r/ExRedPill03/06/20 02:18 PM
1

You need to make it clear in your dating profiles that you are looking for a partner, not a hookup to take out to nice dinners. You communicate this by posting flattering pictures of you with friends- no more than one selfie- and actually put some effort into bios. In your bio, it is great to mention an interests you have. Don't make demands, but there are slick ways to communicate what you like. Eg. if you're ending up on dates with woman with no ambition add "career oriented- looking for someo…
/r/ExRedPill03/06/20 02:11 PM
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He probably is.
/r/ExRedPill03/06/20 01:58 PM
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That theory is just a butthurt take on human nature. Men do it too. If you're just looking for sex, do you prefer an extremely hot woman or an average woman with a great personality and decent career? Do you honestly not know men who make the mistake of also trying to date the hotter woman instead of a woman that matches his looks/intelligence/success?
/r/ExRedPill03/06/20 01:58 PM
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Most women, most people, want someone who is similarly ambitious, as others have said. As a bit more of the home and emotional labor tends to fall on women, even in increasingly modern/equitable families, it is still common for the man to advance more quickly in his career and make a bit more money than his female partner... This does not make her a "gold digger". Similarly, a man who is the homemaker, which is increasingly common, is not a "gold digger" because he wants a spouse with a reasonab…
/r/ExRedPill03/06/20 01:49 PM
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No. You do not pressure her or your friends to do your dirty work. You can only offer your apology and wait and see if she, not your friends, wants to make amends. You weren't together long. It is unlikely she'll want to make up and you need to respect that.
/r/ExRedPill30/05/20 02:04 PM
7

I get what you're saying but did you have to say it like that?
/r/ExRedPill20/05/20 08:05 PM
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Dude chill out. Some of these comments are absolutely mental. Has there honestly never been a single might where you didn't feel like sex? You've never gotten gassy from a burrito? If this us a regular thing then maybe there's a problem, but it sounds like she's just reacting to you behaving oddly after a single incident of your desires not lining up. Calm the fuck down. The whole passive aggressive act is just pathetic and manipulative..
/r/askTRP14/05/20 02:41 PM
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To add to that, the whole "Alpha" behavior doesnt even exist in wolves. The scientists who first publish the paper claiming to observe these alpha individuals have since found that to be bunk. You do observe something like a pecking order in captive wolves, but apparently in wild wolves there are actually no distinctive alpha "leaders" or beta "followers"
/r/ExRedPill08/05/20 08:21 PM
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I was not suggesting that you should hire a sex worker. I dont think you read my whole comment. Thank you.
/r/ExRedPill30/04/20 03:27 AM
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People who hire sex workers arent all "desperate." Sometimes people want a particular experience or just sex with no drama and that's okay. That said, if you feel sex is for marriage/serious relationships only then idk what you're worried about. The women who will want to date you will feel the same way and wouldnt expect you to have sexual experience. They expect to learn together.
/r/ExRedPill30/04/20 03:22 AM
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how dont I end up being 1 big simp that's get walked on Easy. Have standards and have firm boundaries in your relationships. Don't think with your dick. Also, literally no one worth dating will give a fuck, or even know unless you tell them, that you've never had sex before. Particularly if you pick someone who shares your views of sex then the lack of experience won't matter to her at all and will be a plus.
/r/ExRedPill30/04/20 03:18 AM
5

I'm so sorry you went through that, but so glad to hear you are free and see through it all now.
/r/ExRedPill27/04/20 04:47 AM
1

Err ook
/r/ExRedPill26/04/20 06:00 PM
1

impress people with your italianness Not sure if you're joking but if you set out to "impress" other kids with anything about yourself you're likely to get bullied, regardless of where you are in the world. I'm a citizen of both the US and UK and my parents are Irish and Ukrainian/Jewish. I grew up in the US. I never tried to "impress" anyone with those facts in school. All I got was mild interest when it came up that my parents were both immigrants or that I had 4 citizenships.There was a Scott…
/r/ExRedPill26/04/20 05:27 PM
1

If you've worked through all your anxieties that's fantastic, but it sounds like you're still working on it and professional assistance is critical to undoing the kind of damage you've described. I certainly wasnt suggesting you were born disordered or are stuck that way but being uprooted as a young kid and then being raised in a hyper religious emotionally distant family generally arent things that just and little time a distance undoes. It can come back to bite you in the ass. Are you living …
/r/ExRedPill25/04/20 03:17 PM
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I'm sorry if that fucks with your your worldview that helps you assure yourself you're not the problem or whatever, but this is well documented. Statistically far fewer women seek hookups. Also, women who do hookup are more likely to go for an acquaintance and to have sex with them multiple times, rather than multiple randos. It's not a good or bad thing. It just puts men at a statistical disadvantage for hookups on dating apps. Maybe educate yourself instead of turning to online cesspools full …
/r/ExRedPill25/04/20 05:36 AM
3

Hookups. Sure. Fewer women go for hookups so of course they have more choices and of course they're going to be shallow. It's a hookup. As for dating, that's highly debatable and I'd like to see the stats. It may be true for women 18-30 but that's because men of all age ranges want attractive women in those age group
/r/ExRedPill25/04/20 01:42 AM
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You think only men deal with shallow "standards"? Lmao
/r/ExRedPill25/04/20 01:18 AM
4

men are told their worthless if they don't have a girlfriend The fuck are you talking about? Who are these people who think any person, regardless of sex, only have value based on their romantic relationships? I've certainly never met one of these people IRL. Well, except for red pillers who project their own personal insecurities
/r/ExRedPill25/04/20 01:11 AM
1

You're doing great and your strength of will and introspection, at the young age of 20, is very impressive. It sounds though like you are almost certainly living with General Axiety Disorder. You're doing a lot of the right things already, but it will be an uphill battle on all sides if you dont get some help for a very real very physical/chemical condition
/r/ExRedPill25/04/20 01:07 AM
1

Oh yeah life is so fair for women
/r/ExRedPill22/04/20 02:28 PM
1

You're confusing correlation and causation. I can point to Portugal's total decriminalization of drugs in 2001 and say the very opposite.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/20 02:41 PM
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Lmao you think the only reason people go to work is because they cant get legal prostitution or pot? All jokes aside. If the only thing keeping you from self destruction and spending all your money on drugs and empty sex is "the law," then you have serious fucking problems.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/20 03:51 AM
1

Oof. Yep. I was afraid of what my ex might do when we broke it off because he was more on the unstable side of BPD but he actually seemed to get a lot better when there was a conclusive end to our relationship. Same as you, I really adored him and wouldnt have stopped reaching out if he hadnt finally made the choice to cut off communication
/r/ExRedPill15/04/20 12:43 AM
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Huh. Yeah! That's an interesting way to describe it. I agree. I think intellectual honesty is exactly what keeps me coming back to this sub and others like it. It's rare on reddit but almost unheard of IRL, sadly
/r/ExRedPill15/04/20 12:40 AM
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Your self awareness, focus on your personal progression and empathy for your ex shows a great deal of emotional maturity. Congrats man. You should be proud. Only thing I'll say is dont just hope she stays away. Don't give her the opportunity. I had an (unintentionally- he was molested and saw some messed up shit growing up and I believe has BPD as a result) emotionally abusive ex who blocked me for years after years of on again off again. It was the best thing he ever did for either of us becaus…
/r/ExRedPill14/04/20 06:13 PM
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Just because you're taking the right lessons from TRP and your brand of masculinity is appealing to some (I'm guessing very traditionally femme women who prefer a dominant male partner) doesnt mean OP is wrong. He even acknowledged that TRP is "right" about some stuff in the comments.
/r/ExRedPill14/04/20 06:06 PM
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If I was an ugly woman I'd probably hate men with reason cause they blast ugly women You are correct. This isn't about being a man or a woman. This is about looking for validation in the wrong places and thinking that normal people "blast" anyone for being "ugly." Stop associating with garbage people. Be a kind, decent person and put in the work to make friends with decent people.
/r/ExRedPill10/04/20 05:14 AM
1

Because of the genders were reversed I will be a creep or pathetic if I said anything like that. Anyone who would shame any person for opening up about their past abuse is beneath contempt. I can see how some people, regardless of gender, may make dating prospects uncomfortable by seeming to attempt to artificially illicit sympathy or manipulate someone if such personal things are mentioned too early or in a way that seems forced/inorganic, but mentioning in passing that you have experienced abu…
/r/ExRedPill03/04/20 09:39 PM
1

What damage? Unless you're actually a kid still in school or live in some strange small community, no one is going to gossip about you after turning you down for a date. I was just talking to a girl a couple of days ago and she has stated that she's been abused multiple times and that could be misinterpreted as a social penalty. Uh what? A social penalty to you? Friend, can you please explain? Sounds like she was confiding in you because she was potentially interested in you and wanted you to be…
/r/ExRedPill03/04/20 05:54 PM
1

some girls will reject you and spread rumors Bro your desperation is apparent to me from these messages. The energy with which your approaching women probably is making them uncomfortable. You need to relax. Adult women do not "gossip" unless you are being aggressive and they feel the need to protect other women from you. You are either much younger than you claim to be or you are struggling to take basic cues from women. Either way you are thinking about this WAY too much. Playing games and try…
/r/ExRedPill03/04/20 05:37 PM
1

That's not crazy at all. Older women are often more confident and sure of themselves. Also if you're talking much older, like late middle age, they're probably not as afraid of being harassed. We young women have to be careful about being nice to strangers. Things can escalate very quickly and unfortunately there are men who misread our kindness/ casual interest and who feel entitled to become aggressive. As we age, we become invisible to many men as we're perceived as less "fuckable," but the t…
/r/ExRedPill03/04/20 04:56 PM
1

That's normal but if they've "bullied" you for being a positive and fun/goofy person, dump them. They're trash. As far as women go, time to bust out the dating apps and avoid significantly younger women, unless they're exceptionally mature, and those who have lots of heavily edited pics and no bio. It's also important that you post flattering but not overly serious or edited selfies and a bio that showcases your humor and amiable personality. If you post "sexy" pics of you brooding in the mirror…
/r/ExRedPill03/04/20 03:35 PM
1

Respectfully, how old are you? If you recently became an adult, I think you'll find when you start making friends as an adult things will be very different. Be prepared that many people never grow up, though, so you do need to be selective, but if you work at it you can surround yourself with good people who value your positive attributes.
/r/ExRedPill03/04/20 03:07 PM
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To the contrary, I find most people are attracted to optimism and humor. That was not the point of my comment at all. I was referencing the toxic positivity of self-help books like the Power of Now.
/r/ExRedPill03/04/20 02:10 AM
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I don't think that book or any book are a magic pill. Nothing is. I experienced a similar spiral after a bad break up, although I've always struggled with some "darkness" for as long as I can remember. What you're facing has no real cure and a dose of placebo/misguided optimism may help you get out of your rut and find something to live for... but there certainly is no cure-all and if you dont think it's for you, then it won't work. This may miss the mark for you, but something I've realized in …
/r/ExRedPill02/04/20 11:02 PM
4

So because you had a limited and un-intersectional understanding of feminism you're thinking about running the other way now? That doesnt make sense. Feminism is about defending men too. I suggest you do some research on how feminism is meant to help men too before you go off the deep end with TRP. You know it's wrong pr you wouldnt be posting here.
/r/ExRedPill01/04/20 04:24 PM
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If you're running into a lot of people using "faggot" and "pussy" on a regular basis or who call you "soft", you really ought to rethink the people you surround yourself with. You also need to understand that the reason that gendered slurs like that are so insulting is because women are seen as less than. Yes men "suffer" from being called soft, but not because your entire gender is seen as weak. It's not the same.
/r/ExRedPill01/04/20 04:19 PM
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What is it about gender that you're struggling with? Therapy isn't going to change the fact that men and women are treated differently by a lot of people, but it can help you with your identity and it can help you to see more clearly, to value yourself, and attract people who will respect you. Have you ever heard the expression “If you run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you're the asshole.”? I think that's something that almost every pe…
/r/ExRedPill01/04/20 03:54 PM
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Exactly. The only people these tactics work on are either just there to use you too or have extremely low self-esteem and no self-love. I think low self-esteem sounds good to some of these men who are really lonely and desperate, but what they don't realize is that a relationship, and even sex, with someone like that is going to be very unfulfilling.
/r/ExRedPill31/03/20 07:52 PM
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I'm imagining only if you're exceptionally attractive (be it due to looks, money, or charisma) or happily go for people less attractive than yourself if you're average. OP admitted it only attracted a certain sort of person.
/r/ExRedPill31/03/20 07:43 PM
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You still havent answered why you're telling people you're a virgin. Just dont fucking tell them until you know they're not a piece of sh*t. Frankly wondering if people are making fun of you more for being weird about it than for actually not having had your dick in a vag. About half my friends were "virgins" well into college. I was until I was 20. Didnt tell my first partner until after. They didnt suspect a thing. Some guys I know were until a few years after. 23 is not a big deal. You need t…
/r/ExRedPill30/03/20 05:46 PM
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23 is young and there is no reason you need to tell the people your dating that youre a virgin anyway. The internet exists. You know the mechanics. It's not rocket science. Jif it's such a burden let you, just get it out of the way. Pay an escort if you need to. It is absolutely mental that you're allowing this to hold you back.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/20 03:26 AM
3

Definitely more than a coincidence.
/r/ExRedPill28/03/20 02:42 PM
1

None of them have kids.
/r/ExRedPill25/03/20 02:12 PM
3

Fair point that there are other factors but differences in immune system rigor are a significant piece of it.
/r/ExRedPill25/03/20 02:00 AM
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Uh what? Do they realize that men are 89% more likely to die from covid-19 if they catch it? Women have stronger immune systems. This is a biological fact. We have higher risk of immune diseases, but lower risk for cancer and communicable disease.
/r/ExRedPill24/03/20 05:03 PM
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Im sorry you had those disappointing experiences. Those were cool gifts and, even if it wasnt her thing, an intelligent, mature woman would be stoked that someone cared enough to make a homemade gift. That said...how many dates had you been on? If only a couple, homemade gift like that could be perceived as too personal. What sounds depressing? I'm not saying I never go out lmao. I'm just saying that my introversion and preference for staying in or activities/small social gatherings over partyin…
/r/ExRedPill15/03/20 10:54 PM
2

If you have no trouble meeting people but have to be fake all the time just to be tolerable to be around then you're 1) not attracting the right people or 2) have a personality disorder beyond the autism spectrum. Based on your comments im starting to lean toward the latter. Unfortunately you cant fake empathy and interest in others and if you dont have it intrinsically it will always be exhausting to pretend to have a genuine social interest in people.
/r/ExRedPill15/03/20 10:49 PM
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There are a lot of women who are interested in programming but are intimidated because it's a male dominated field. I majored in economics but always admired people who could code. When I was looking to date I pretty much exclusively found myself matching with people who were software engineers. I just find that kind of mind very appealing. I now have a great job in the field thanks to my partner supporting my interest and being happy for me to look at and sometimes collaborate on projects toget…
/r/ExRedPill15/03/20 05:52 PM
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Got to make your luck man. I'm not saying waste a bunch of time with OLD but maybe update a profile or go to meetups for one of your interests from time to time. Just be very honest. There probably aren't a ton of people out there who are compatible, but if you do nothing you're giving the 0 percent chance of finding you. On the other hand, if it's not important to you, then forget about it. You dont need another person to be fufilled.
/r/ExRedPill15/03/20 05:40 PM
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programming, paper notebooks, fountain pens Another woman on the spectrum checking in. Those are attractive interests to many women, not just those of us on the spectrum. Are you willing to teach a partner and create gifts for them using these interests/skills? If so, you should have no trouble finding someone. Many people are suckers for a smart person with neat interests. As the other woman here said, I suspect the Red Pill is stifling you. If you are young, it may be harder to filter for wome…
/r/ExRedPill15/03/20 05:36 PM
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This very solid advice. You don't have to be in a relationship to be a complete human. but I actually disagree that "masking" becomes harder as you get older. For some, like me, the intensity of special interests faded a bit and I've found it much easier to tolerate social situations and conversations I once found uncomfortable and boring. As you get closer to your 30s, I think you'll find there are more people also who admire the focus and unique interests and perspectives that we autists tend …
/r/ExRedPill15/03/20 05:31 PM
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What you're calling "masking" is just normal behavior in a functional relationship. I'm on the spectrum too and it does take more self control not to drive people crazy with my special interests, but ultimately most people share this struggle to some degree. You don need to "be red pill" to benefit from some of their better advice.
/r/ExRedPill15/03/20 05:23 PM
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That may be true. I always hid it and shut it off if a teacher caught me. I didnt become confrontational. Lucky for me I went to a small public charter (one of the few good ones) and it extremely rare for kids to be that level of oppositional. Plus I liked school and my teachers. I just liked my games more and have bad impulse control lol
/r/ExRedPill29/02/20 11:25 PM
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support the needs of students with neurodiversitu or learning disabilities- who are, as statistics have it, typically male I respect your insights and expertise but ask that you please be careful about this claim. While diagnosis leans heavily toward boys/men (about 2/3 with over 2+ times more ADHD diagnosis in boys), as a neuro divergent girl with ADHD and on the autism spectrum I ask that you please be careful with your use of "typically," as that would insinuate that the majority of neuro div…
/r/ExRedPill29/02/20 02:34 PM
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Yes many young adults in college are still very immature, but you're running in the wrong circles if you think it's all of them. College age women are not "girls." They are women and if they're still behaving like kids then that's their problem, but it is up to you to surround yourself with more mature people.
/r/ExRedPill29/02/20 01:58 PM
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women dont care about your heart until the decide to settle down Not true. Women with any inkling of self confidence find selfish or deceitful people repulsive and wont settle for them for hookups, nevermind casual relationships.
/r/ExRedPill29/02/20 06:48 AM
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That woman was mentally ill. You fucked a severely mentally ill or mentally handicapped person. Congrats.
/r/TheRedPill20/02/20 06:01 PM
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Sorry. I see now how my comment was dismissive of folks with that trauma. I've tried out kink and it's just not for me, but all power to you! I don't think anyone should be ashamed of their sexual desires as long as they're between consenting adults.
/r/ExRedPill11/02/20 08:03 PM
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No. Most women enjoy being submissive part of the time, but rarely do we want that all the time. Same with men. I have dated both men and women and I have never been with someone who wasnt a "switch" as someone has described it. Sometimes my boyfriend just wants to be fucked and he's straight as hell. I'm sure there are exceptions but to suggest most women just want to lie their and be submissive is very silly.
/r/ExRedPill10/02/20 05:15 PM
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every girl I've been with You're being downvoted because you're sharing what amounts to an irrelevant anecdote, not because it's bad that the women you dated have those preferences. There's nothing wrong with your observation except that it could be read as you saying all women are like that, which is not helpful to OP who is trying to overcome their tendency to make assumptions about straight women.
/r/ExRedPill10/02/20 05:09 PM
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I don't know any women who find fem-dom "disgusting" and most enjoy a bit of it. I guess I'm fortunate not to be in a community with a lot of people sexually shamed/traumatized by religion.
/r/ExRedPill10/02/20 05:02 PM
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