What are some warning/ red flags that a guy is into redpill or using their tactics?

Fluorenone · 2020-06-06T18:28:31+00:00

Really you should just look for general red flags.

Black and white thinking

Misogyny

Deceit

Apathy

Callousness

Arrogance

Disdain and contempt

Glib persona

WestAtmosphere · 2020-06-06T20:13:53+00:00

Guys can play mind games regardless if they are redpill are not but I’ve seen from a lot of posts on here men that all of a sudden turn callous and cut out their girlfriend, or start being rude to someone they are seeing. And then all of a sudden they want their partner back.

Tbh you should just avoid men in general who ghost you/leave you on read. They aren’t interested.

General red flags as the poster above mentioned. He obsesses over your ex bfs/sexual activity prior even if he doesn’t really know you, assumes you to do all the stereotypical female roles/caretaking, makes remarks about say if you are a career woman and discouraging you from it.

In general the personality traits that I look for in men is your level of responsibility/integrity and if you are kind. Its fine he has a past, but does he shit talk his ex? Thats a big red flag. I mean I have bad past exes, but I wouldn’t go out of my way to speak about them lol, I just try to forget.

forefatherrabbi · 2020-06-06T20:13:49+00:00

Not someone who has subscribed to the red pill, but these are some red flags I would suggest observing in any relationship.

1: They don't respect your opinions. This doesn't mean they have to agree or even not argue with them, but if they instantly dismiss things with out even being able to listen to your logic is a read flag that they might not care about what you think. Everyone is guilty of this every once and a while, but if it happens a lot, that's a flag.

2: a relationship that is one sided. It is a partnership. We both can't always split stuff evenly, but the goal is that everyone is equal and sometimes when things are hard they take some of the load and when they have a hard time, you jump in to help. If they don't give you support, that's a flag.

3: no interests in your interests. No one is going to like all the same things you like. But there is some overlap. If they are not willing to try your things but insist you like theirs, that's a red flag.

4: mind games. If you feel like you are constantly wrong or they keep telling you one thing and expecting something else, it could be gaslighting. Try to make you keep doubting yourself. We all have doubts, but when people set up doubts and traps for you to doubt yourself, they are playing mind games on you trying to make you rely on them.

5: negging and put downs. A good partner is supposed to build you up. Help you and not hurt you. If someone is constantly giving you negative feedback and telling you how things about you or the things you do are wrong, take a step back and think. Ask yourself "if they think all these things are bad about me, why do they want to be with me?" odds are, they don't like you, they like the idea of you or the idea of having a relationship.

End of the day, there is no perfect partner, but a partner is going to show you love and respect and make you feel good about yourself. If someone is making you feel bad and putting you down, don't stay.

Rhazelle · 2020-06-06T21:28:04+00:00

Hey, girl here! I've never dated guys like this in my life even before I found out about what red pill was.

The key is to respect yourself and have standards for how people treat you. That's really all you need.

Red pill strategy has a lot to do with disrespecting the girl, playing mind games, acting avoidant, putting them down, all to make you chase after their attention and validation.

Thing is, no self-respecting woman would go for a guy who does that. If you carry yourself every day in a way that you surround yourself with people who love and respect you, you'd never settle for anyone who treats you any less and naturally see their shit behaviour for what it is - because you know better.

For example, I have a super great circle of friends (that include guys and their gfs) that I go on vacations and find fun things to do with, and we even emotionally support each other as well.

You better believe if I'm DATING someone I better be having as much fun or more with them than my regular group of friends. I don't need to settle for someone who treats me "less than" when there are plenty who will treat me like a goddess. I'm not going to waste my time chasing attention and validation when I could be using that emotional effort on someone who reciprocates it.

Every guy I've dated has treated me well, taken care of me, puts me and my well-being first in their life and told me I'm "wifey material". Shit even the guys I have short flings with treat me well and adore me.

Treat yourself with respect and demand respect, love, and care from the person you're dating, and it'll filter the red pill guys right out.

quickbucket · 2020-06-06T20:26:33+00:00

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MelissaOfTroy · 2020-06-06T23:43:35+00:00

My ex started talking about other men as either alphas or betas. I pointed out to him more than once that based on his own definitions, I was actually more into betas. He told me I must be misinterpreting what alpha and beta mean, since all women naturally want an alpha. This was the first taste of this whole new worldview he was espousing and I am so, SO glad that he did since it enabled me to realize I didn't want anything to do with this relationship or this guy. Now I'm engaged to a wonderful man who laughs at the idea that anyone could possibly be into this stuff.

SuchBarracuda · 2020-06-06T18:37:31+00:00

Sounds like a mgtow friend of mine...

Carloverguy20 · 2020-06-06T21:19:43+00:00

Uses the world "alpha male, Beta male" "Hypergamy" "Normie" "Beta male cuck soyboy", is a "right winger", idenifies as a "Mgtow". talks about "Chad" "Tyrone" and "Girls love alpha males", they treat women as second class citizens and say "Women belong in the kitchen" and "Feminism is cancer" "Feminism destroyed women". When i was "Redpilled" i said some of these words and thought this way because it was true, i realized these groups are full of shit, and ignore facts. The 1950s was not the perfect time, Women were forced to be stay at home moms and had no choice and divorce was frowned upon, It wasn't until the 1960s and 70s when the world changed.

Medical_LSD · 2020-06-07T00:44:06+00:00

The likelihood of meeting someone who is redpill in real life is insanely low. Wouldn’t put too much time trying to avoid them or you will be on a self fulfilling prophecy, and everybody will seem redpilled to you.

onlyforsex · 2020-06-07T02:44:51+00:00

Negging is a big one

Beerubill · 2020-06-07T05:05:49+00:00

Honestly, the difference between a healthy, redpilled guy and a normal guy you may be attracted to is probably nil. That's the point of being red pilled-the obsession is how to be attractive to women. So much of red pill discussion involves standard dating advice for men. Don't be clingy. Don't be creepy. Keep mature and control of your emotions. Groom well. Know how to maintain an interesting conversation. Being red pilled means being aware of and somewhat comfortable with the dark side of human attraction and dating.

The only flag I can think of is if they're selectively distant during the early stages of a relationship. That's a hard one to overcome, especially for me. I'm naturally coquettish.

On the other hand, if a guy is redpilled and is still maturing, the language they use is the easiest way to identify them. Someone else posted a list, and I can't top it, but I'll list the big ones I can think of here, too.

Beta and alpha males Holding frame Cock carousel High value male/female

Immature guys turning to red pill forums are probably a bit creepy/awkward around women already, so there's another potential flag.

Good luck.

quickbucket · 2020-06-06T18:54:21+00:00

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Title	What are some warning/ red flags that a guy is into redpill or using their tactics?
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Date	June 6, 2020 5:40 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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