TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

rabbit_hole86 Archive

View 2 posts and 49 comments by rabbit_hole86 on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
157

rabbit_hole86/r/TheRedPill06/05/23 10:44 AM
29

Red Pill Theoryrabbit_hole86/r/TheRedPill07/07/23 02:22 PM
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
1

Man I forgot how tedious it is to perform when you’re dating. Reading this makes me realize I’d be awful if I had to go back into the dating scene because I’d have zero motivation to pretend like I give a damn about stuff like this.
/r/askMRP07/03/24 12:43 PM
2

Love is the highest of the classical virtues. The virtues are actions and attitudes, not feelings. They are cultivated. They are most manifest when you feel like doing the opposite to what you should do (e.g. courage is not the absence of fear, but doing the right thing despite fear). This is why Christ said, "Anyone can love your neighbor, I tell you to love your enemy. Do good to those who persecute you. Turn the other cheek. Etc." Retribution is natural. Love makes us transcend. Eye for an ey…
/r/askMRP01/12/23 04:00 PM
2

Here to validate/confirm what you're talking about. I call it "zen masturbation" and it definitely can help a person connect with self in a meaningful way. In his well-known book "Sizzling Sex for Life", renown sex psychologist Michael Castleman talks about the importance of a healthy "solo sex life" as foundational to a healthy partnered sex life (and cites lots of research to back this up). Removing erotic fantasy to be more present is great, and also I would recommend allowing oneself to be s…
/r/askMRP01/12/23 12:14 AM
3

It sounds like she is seeking to feel sexually desirable and when she gets it, she is satisfied. I would play the game by being indirect and making her work for your sexual attention (e.g. "So we're horny are we? Well I'm going to have to spank you for being a bad girl. But if you're lucky, afterward I might have a treat for you." etc). Let mystery and imagination do the work for you. Don't show outright arousal until your cock is in her. I've come to believe that men want sex as an end in and o…
/r/askMRP18/08/23 01:44 PM
1

Marriage might be more palatable if you live in a country with fair divorce laws, though definitely not the case in the US. Right now it is really a tough sell. If the woman plans to give you a bunch of children and contribute substantially domestically then one could justify materially providing for her but otherwise women should work like a man. They fought for independence and that comes with responsibility.
/r/askMRP23/07/23 12:40 AM
3

Did you read the best-selling book itself or are you basing your opinion off the shitty movie that flopped? I agree with your point that his charisma and attractiveness are primary, but you need to realize that attractiveness/handsomeness is not as much about physical body structure for women as it is for men (even though women do appreciate a fit body). In the book, it is written entirely from a female solipsistic point of view and most of what is written about Christian Grey is how the way he …
/r/TheRedPill12/07/23 01:37 PM
1

What do they call it when someone is good at manipulation? People skills.
/r/TheRedPill11/07/23 05:55 PM
29

true nature is revealed when all restrictions are removed This is obviously true. The famous Stanford prison social psychology experiment verified this. Average people will do blatantly evil things when there exist systems of unchecked power. Over 500 years ago Niccolo Machiavelli wrote "It is better to be feared than to be loved, if one cannot be both." This is also true in relationships, for men or women. If there isn't a healthy fear of the consequences of cheating in a relationship, people a…
/r/TheRedPill11/07/23 04:01 PM
34

Your theory that rich men get cheated on more than non-rich men seems possible in some situations (particularly if the man is rich by luck/family privilege and displays a lot of Beta traits), but I'm skeptical your advice can be applied across the board because "rich" is a heterogenous group of men. Bill Gates is vastly different than Genghis Khan. Ever wonder why "50 Shades of Grey" was a top selling literotica book and millions of women were lusting over the fictional rich male (Christian Grey…
/r/TheRedPill11/07/23 02:29 PM
1

the deadbeat tatted up linecook at the local burger joint is "more alpha" than a billionaire that raises his kids and takes care of his wife. This is a great conceptualization, from now on when I think Alpha/Beta I will think STA/LTA traits. The terminology seems to suggest that Alpha is always better than Beta, but as far as the human species is concerned, stable income and paternal involvement with raising children (by your definition both arguably Beta traits) confer a greater likelihood of f…
/r/TheRedPill07/07/23 09:24 PM
4

much like many guys want a hot slutty girl that fucks like crazy but also doesn't fuck other men, is super loyal and a great submissive housewife God, isn't that the fucking truth. Thank you, this is a very helpful clarification—to think of Alpha/Beta in terms of the psychological effect a man has on the woman, not necessarily about what traits he possesses (though of course certain traits help induce desired psychological effects).
/r/TheRedPill07/07/23 07:02 PM
4

You are coming off as having an ulterior motive, which you do (getting contact information which will hopefully lead to sex). Approach beautiful women with no expectation or desire, intending only to have an interesting interaction/experience. Lean into the conversation, take a genuine interest in people, and let the conversation take its natural course. In fact, don't just do this with beautiful women, do it with everyone around you. This way, a beautiful woman is just another person who is not…
/r/TheRedPill06/07/23 02:07 PM
17

The whole fucking essay above could have been condensed to this.
/r/TheRedPill01/07/23 06:37 PM
1

Stress is a big libido killer, you may want to consider better work-life balance. And use that extra time for health as sleep, good diet, and exercise/muscle building increase testosterone and libido. Also abstaining from masturbation and porn helps as well.
/r/askMRP20/06/23 04:00 PM
2

Not about the hand you’re dealt or the outcome, but how you played the game. This really sucks and I’m sorry for you to go through this pain. Allow yourself to grieve, surrender, and transcend.
/r/TheRedPill04/06/23 11:39 PM
5

Growing up in the Midwest, I’ve always been impressed with the psychology of the stag deer. Definitely way more intelligent than young spike bucks who are driven by horniness, running around in the open trying to fuck females. They get killed the most easily. Doe are a bit more intelligent than spike bucks but still pretty dumb. They go around in packs with fawns and other doe, but still often are killed stupidly standing on the road staring at cars. The stag deer represents a survivor. A highly…
/r/TheRedPill04/06/23 12:04 PM
1

If you take on the persona she wants (e.g. you feel comfortable with tattoos and t-shirt but she wants you in pink polos, khaki shorts, and boat shoes) then you are entering her frame.
/r/TheRedPill01/06/23 06:29 PM
7

This is spot on. This place feels like a powerlifting sub. I exercise 6-7 days per week and lifting is a big part of that but progressive muscle loading and muscular hypertrophy can be achieved not only by higher weight, but also higher reps, higher sets, increased time under tension, longer workouts, and more frequent workouts—essentially whatever gets you to failure. Weight lifting numbers are loosely correlated with physique and even more loosely correlated with being an attractive male, so I…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/23 09:30 AM
4

Game and Frame. But I’m still very new and working through the sidebar. Commenting here in case anyone has advice on how/where to start learning this, both in theory and application.
/r/TheRedPill30/05/23 06:30 PM
1

Yeah that makes sense, I’ve also heard the data that women tend to become sexually uninterested after about 3 years into a relationship whereas a man can continue to have sex with her indefinitely (though wanting sex with other women as well). I’ve spoken with my wife about this and she agrees with it. She also admits that she desires me more sexually when she feels in competition from other women noticing/admiring me (e.g. when I look good at a cocktail party, playing guitar for an audience, gi…
/r/TheRedPill29/05/23 11:05 AM
1

You say you are short so you have to make up with being more fit. You should know that shorter limbs naturally look like they have bigger muscle because there is less length to stretch it over. Also shorter limbs can lift more weight with less effort and strain on the joints because of the torque equation T=r*F (https://courses.lumenlearning.com/suny-physics/chapter/9-6-forces-and-torques-in-muscles-and-joints/). This is why tall people are much more likely to develop arthritis than short people…
/r/TheRedPill29/05/23 08:05 AM
3

It may “enhance style” or “elevate look” but I’m skeptical it enhances getting laid. Tens of thousands of dollars for clothing feels way excessive to me given that I‘ve picked up beautiful women while looking sweaty in a cut up T-shirt at the gym. To each their own.
/r/TheRedPill28/05/23 01:13 PM
2

Striving for balance in the things I mentioned above. One thing I wish I discovered sooner was psychotherapy. Eventually becoming self-employed also gave me a lot of freedom to structure life how I want. I wasn’t so good at balance in my 20s due to the pressure I felt to professionally get ahead but looking back I probably could have learned to take more time for self care while still working hard because life is a marathon, not a sprint. The guys who become truly wealthy are the ones who can pa…
/r/TheRedPill28/05/23 12:54 PM
20

Don’t fall into the trap that many men do which is to use alcohol or other states of intoxication to talk with women. That shit will be awful on your body and will cause you to peak in your 20s (I’m late 30s still in shape and all the former college party boys look like shit, which means more women for me). Also in cognitive behavioral theory, using substances is avoidance and can actually entrain social anxiety, so don’t start going down that path. It’s way more satisfying to walk up to the hot…
/r/TheRedPill28/05/23 10:28 AM
9

Agree with this 100%. Never ask a woman for advice on appearance (unless you wanna become a metrosexual twat). Seeing that women dress little boys like Paddington Bear for childhood photos is enough to realize they know jack shit about being masculine. Respect yourself by becoming the best version of you, which will earn the respect of other men, which will earn the respect of women. If you try to earn the respect of women first, you'll end up with nothing.
/r/TheRedPill28/05/23 02:32 AM
1

Women are wired to get a fresh batch of seed Curious if you have any sources to cite on this. I know about the Coolidge effect for males of many animal species, but didn't know this was a thing for females.
/r/TheRedPill28/05/23 12:15 AM
9

There is a Jewish proverb: “Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise.” It is not inauthentic to practice choosing words carefully and speaking only when necessary. There is a reason the Buddha is portrayed with two large ears and a small mouth.
/r/askMRP22/05/23 09:30 PM
8

Good luck homie, report back if it works out 💪🏼 my concern has always been that the wife would initially be ok but then change her mind later, particularly influenced by societal norms (even for an alpha male, hard to pull off long-term polygamy in a monogamous society, not even High Hefner could do it).
/r/askMRP21/05/23 12:55 AM
2

“Sex is your purpose for living and you realize that you are the reason women turn out this way.” This response resonated with me. Are you able to articulate what is your purpose for living? I know people talk about mission, joy, calling, etc but I’m struggling to feel this on a deep level. Getting back into therapy actually to do some soul searching.
/r/askMRP16/05/23 01:47 PM
1

You have not lost your value as a person because of your N-count. RP theory is helpful in understanding the relational world from a biological perspective, yes that’s true. BUT humans transcend their biology all the time, it’s called evolution. Brushing our teeth was once unnatural. So is posting on Reddit. You can’t change the past nor control the future, all you can do is choose how to be in the present. Men and women are both insecure by a partner who has too many previous partners (which is …
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/23 07:08 PM
3

This 💯
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/23 05:48 PM
10

Growing up I was always taught about the “Gentleman’s Rule”: lower limit for a man to date a women is half his age plus seven. Go any lower and the guy looks like a creep. According to this, your upper limit right now would be 30. As a 22 year old, you may think it’s because you are so special that a 45 year old man wants to be with you. One day you will become 45 and realize how psychologically stunted/creepy he is to prey on a vulnerable younger woman who could be his daughter (likely why his …
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/23 05:41 PM
8

I love that first sentence
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/23 05:39 PM
1

That’s an interesting idea, gonna read more on this
/r/TheRedPill07/05/23 11:51 AM
1

Haha I’m enjoying all this new vocabulary. Didn’t mean to misuse vocabulary or point fingers. There is validity in your comments, the research shows 2/3 of long-term married couples endorse sexual dissatisfaction because novelty is an important ingredient of sexual desire for both men and women. If a lifetime of hot sex is the goal, LTR is definitely the wrong choice and you are right that commitment is inherently unsexy. Daniel Tosh once said it doesn’t matter being with a 10 when you can have …
/r/TheRedPill06/05/23 11:01 PM
3

Thanks for your kind remarks!
/r/TheRedPill06/05/23 10:45 PM
1

I must have missed that, I didn’t realize TRP is anti-marriage/anti-children, I figured that was MGTOW. Thought TRP was about understanding how men and women operate and using that knowledge to achieve one’s own personal life goals.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/23 09:50 PM
2

Haha appreciate the frankness :)
/r/TheRedPill06/05/23 09:47 PM
6

Your article cracked me up, thanks for sharing. There are some good points in there though my one critique is that a lot of TRP philosophy seems based in some very deep fear or aversion of both women and pain itself. I was optimistic about this community because it makes sense to be aware of the evolutionary influence of hypergamy but it doesn’t dictate all female actions any more than the fact that all of men’s decisions are not based solely in spreading their seed. A healthy fear of emotional …
/r/TheRedPill06/05/23 05:07 PM
1

Thank you for this perspective
/r/TheRedPill06/05/23 04:53 PM
1

There’s a lot of fear in this sub about divorce and losing kids and paying alimony. Yes it’s fucked up and laws should change. But I guess having faced a lot of trauma in my childhood and nearly jumping off a building 15 years ago, this really does not faze me that much. All roads in life lead to pain. I say if you want kids, fucking go for it. But if you want to be Hugh Hefner, then go for that. Life causes immense pain no matter what, especially when it comes to love (either it’s rejection or …
/r/TheRedPill06/05/23 04:34 PM
3

That’s fair and I can relate to this. The problem I found eventually (at least for myself) was that repetitive fucking became meaningless and lacked pleasure (felt like a drug addict chasing the dragon) and then I lost my reason to strive for prestige, money, and fitness (though it’s true we are not all the same, Hugh Hefner rode that train forever). I feel for most people short-term reasons for living wear out and have to be replaced with deeper and longer-term reasons. Career, health, and rela…
/r/TheRedPill06/05/23 04:00 PM
9

I’m glad you mention this. Actually it feels like there is a lot of warring going on between the sexes when the real enemy is the insane concentration of wealth in the US without a system of checks and balances. Hypergamy can be beneficial for the species to some degree but not when there is such an unfair system that allocates all the wealth to individuals based almost entirely on luck. This is what will regress us back to a feudal/monarchy system where the privileged undeserving few have all t…
/r/TheRedPill06/05/23 03:29 PM
2

Thanks! I came here to learn myself as I’m not too familiar with TRP theory, though I do like to think about philosophy in general i.e. the game of life and how to play it.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/23 03:02 PM
10

Oof I’m so sorry to hear that :/ not to be simple and naive but I truly hope it has made you a stronger person, the best people I know in this life I’ve gone through the most pain
/r/TheRedPill06/05/23 02:59 PM
7

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I have actually wondered whether the overturning of Roe v. Wade in reality represents a backlash against excessive hypergamy leading to societal instability.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/23 11:31 AM
7

That's a helpful concept. Would love to see more discussion along this line. Might clarify that TPR theory looks different in action depending on the life path chosen and at different ages. Reading a lot of posts on here makes me think that TRP espouses a womanizing/sexually disinhibited lifestyle in the name of evolution/biology.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/23 11:24 AM
6

That's helpful insight, thank you.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/23 11:10 AM
42

I realize this, but shouldn't folks be talking about the end game and purpose of all of this theory? By the conversation here, one may be tempted to think that a man should lift weights and philander his whole life.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/23 11:05 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter