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LTR/MARRIAGEraeonmon/r/RedPillWomen30/11/19 01:03 AM
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ADVICEraeonmon/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 06:21 PM
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You cannot fix him. The desire to change has to come from him.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 07:11 PM
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How behind on math? What level are you at? Khan academy has great videos, do lots and lots of practice questions. You took thr test once so now you know what to expect,
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/19 11:02 PM
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Laura Doyle explicitly states that her strategies will not work in an abusive relationship. And this is abusive. You need to leave him. I could give you the exact reasons why if you'd like, but only if you're considering these replies seriously. Because this is serious. You are NOT pathetic or weak or silly or stupid. You are a woman suffering the leadership of a controlling, angry, abusive man.
/r/RedPillWives31/07/19 07:01 PM
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Idk if many women here read askmrp, your husband is going through all the phases of swallowing the redpill, but he is going about it the wrong way. He is going full Rambo and then lashing out at you because he doesnt have enough frame for him to make demands of you (am I using the terminology right?). I'm sure he is reading all the stuff on trp when he should be reading askmrp which is more ldr and marriage oriented. Maybe see if he'll post on there and ask for help. I'm sure the veteran's will …
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/19 12:18 AM
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People saying they are young and so they have time to figure things out is a wishy washy answer so they don't have to self-reflect and figure out what they want. Not knowing what you want to do when you're 13 is fine. When you're in college, sure maybe you don't have the specifics down, but you should have a general idea of what you want! I've found that people who say the above let life happen to them and think that as time goes on they will magically find out their goals. That's not how that w…
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/19 11:08 AM
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I didn't want to come across as judgemental, but we see a lot of marriages like this in the military especially among recently enlisted. The couple is young and "in love" so they get married. Once they are married reality sets in and usually divorce occurs. Unfortunately, a good friend of my husband's is going through a divorce right now from this exact scenario.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/19 12:41 PM
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I didn't want to come across as judgemental, but we see a lot of marriages like this in the military especially among recently enlisted. The couple is young and "in love" so they get married. Once they are married reality sets in and usually divorce occurs. Unfortunately, a good friend of my husband's is going through a divorce right now from this exact scenario.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/19 03:09 AM
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I didn't want to come across as judgemental, but we see a lot of marriages like this in the military especially among recently enlisted. The couple is young and "in love" so they get married. Once they are married reality sets in and usually divorce occurs. Unfortunately, a good friend of my husband's is going through a divorce right now from this exact scenario.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/19 03:09 AM
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I didn't want to come across as judgemental, but we see a lot of marriages like this in the military especially among recently enlisted. The couple is young and "in love" so they get married. Once they are married reality sets in and usually divorce occurs. Unfortunately, a good friend of my husband's is going through a divorce right now from this exact scenario.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/19 03:08 AM
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I'm a current military wife and we were married a year and a half ago so I can give you some practical, true advice. You need to have your dependent ID ASAP. This is how the military knows that he is married. That is why he's not getting a living stipend. This should have been the first thing you did after getting married. (We married Saturday and went on Monday). To get your card you need to go to a DEER office because they take your picture. There should be a website online that tells you loca…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 11:55 PM
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I read the 100/0 principle and I think itd help you. Its a short read so its not a big commitment. The TL&DR is that to have great relationships you need to take 100% of the responsibility without expecting reciprocity. This doesnt mean let people take advantage of you, but rather in terms of reaching out to others. You mention your family members don't reach out, but do you? You are responsible with maintaining your relationships with them. I live out of state away from my family and friends wi…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 03:59 PM
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My husband is not "rich" yet but is on his way to making six figures. (Low cost of living state) I come from an affluent family and I'm finishing up school which will lead me to a guaranteed career of just under 6 figures as well. My parents are generous fiscally (though we often do not accept gifts and try not to rely on them too much). With our earning power and potential inheritance, I would say by our thirties/forties we will be quite well off. (Not hollywood levels of rich though lol). Howe…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/19 06:01 PM
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If you live near the geography for it, gorge jumping is popular. Just make sure you know what the depths are and are safe about it!
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/19 09:33 PM
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Yes, my husband and I opted to not live together before marriage. Mostly due to family pressures, but also because I noticed at least among people I know that moving in together slows down the timeline which was not what I wanted. However, it does work for some! My good friend just became engaged with a wedding date for next year and her and her fiance are living together
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/19 08:59 PM
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I've been married for a year and a half now. Here's my take: if you haven't lived together yet, there will be growing pains. Sit tight, it will pass. Be vulnerable, and communicative. Set the tone for your marriage. This is the time where the patterns of your marriage will form. Meal planning cuts down on food waste, financial waste, and time waste. Set out defined roles for chores, and get into a cleaning schedule. Figure out your finances and budget now, if you haven't already. Learn your husb…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/19 05:16 PM
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The definition of fury is "unrestrained or violent anger, rage,passion, or the like" while the definition of anger is "a strong feeling of displeasure andbelligerence aroused by a wrong" Therefore anger would be the correct term as it is driven by injustice against oneself whereas fury is uncontrolled and cannot be directed.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 09:10 PM
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He's not your captain. You're his plate. Unless you're into open relationships, a captain shouldn't be gaming girls around you. I'd cut your losses and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/19 04:39 PM
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For myself as I'm 24 now: married for 1 year completed my bachelors and worked professionally for 2 years about to begin my first year of professional school (I don't want to say what for privacy, but it is in healthcare) following a lifting program and seeing gains have decent sized retirement assets from work period have a set skincare routine have become skilled at cooking and baking focusing on fostering family and friend relationships learned to keep up with housework so it doesnt pile up U…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/19 03:47 PM
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What research have you done? Unless they are from PEER REVIEWED journals or from established health organizations I.e. mayo clinic. The information your recieved is unreliablem. What vaccines have aborted fetal cells?? Do you understand how the healthcare system and the FDA works. Theres no way that would ever be approved. Use your common sense. Do you even know what vaccines are? They are not chemicals they are non-virulent viruses meaning they DO NOT cause disease. They are injected so your im…
/r/RedPillWives03/02/19 05:57 AM
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This isnt really a great solution, but what works for me is when I'm walking I always "walk with a purpose". Meaning I'm walking quickly and have a very no nonsense affect. I usually also employ the RBF and I refuse to make eye contact with men around me. It doesnt stop the stares, but it stops most verbal catcalls. If they say anything, I just completely ignore them. I don't even glance at them. That usually keeps it from escalating.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 01:08 AM
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Usually people who say they "can't cook" just mean they won't try. There are a ton of recipes online that are beginner friendly. You don't even need to own a cookbook anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/19 02:07 PM
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Just politely shut down her comments whenever she says one. When she talks about planning together, "I'm actually getting help from my mom/sister/aunt" If she gives you opinions about the wedding, "Thank you, ill keep that in mind." When she talks about being invited, "Oh I'm sorry, but we're keeping the wedding small. You know how expensive they can be nowadays!" You need to enforce boundries or she will continue to make comments and I'm sure ball bust her way in.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/19 01:31 AM
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Oh man I have quite a list for you! since you're practicing your cooking, spend some time figuring out which are your and FH favorite recipes and also have a dozen EASY ones for those nights where you just want to lay find out FH favorite baked good and practice it a lot. if you're good at excel, you can make a recipe bank for yourself where you select the recipes for the week and a grocery list will be populated. (Meal planning takes me forever and this is something i will be doing before I sta…
/r/RedPillWives28/01/19 10:03 PM
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I'm a military wife, we were married at 23, so I understand the thought process and desire. However, I really caution you to hold off. Yes, there are some exceptions where getting married that young works out, but that's not the rule. Wait until he brings marriage up. When he is surrounded by his married coworkers, it will be on his mind more so I'm sure you will have more discussions in the future. You don't currently know how his training is affecting his personality and you are both still ver…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/19 03:19 AM
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Are you attracted to him? Attraction is nonnegotiable and honestly, it doesn't sound like you like him that much. Just because you get along with someone doesnt mean they're a good romantic match.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/19 08:02 PM
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Seriously. AWALT. We need people to be reading the sidebar and participating in the community before posting things like this.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/19 01:40 AM
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So basically, you want someone who aligns with your political views and isn't a bigot. Great. But what character values are you looking for?? Do you want someone adventurous, or dependable. Or someone who really values family, or a person who prioritizes athletics or knowledge or what have you. You need to figure out the QUALITIES you desire in a man before you can look for him. When I was single I wrote down my quality wish list. It consisted of things that I know I needed in a man and that I v…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/19 01:35 AM
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Don't reach out to him. You did the right thing by walking away since he was still figuring things out with his ex. That's usually more trouble than its worth. The only reason you want to reach out is to fan your ego by making him react to you. Stop that. Go live your life and find someone else who is emotionally available.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/19 03:43 PM
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I wouldn't worry about being a virgin. I think the media like to portray that it's unusual for college kids, but reality is that there are a lot of virgins in college especially the first two years. I was a virgin till I met my husband at 20. I didn't know he would be my husband then, and we had sex relatively quickly. BUT, I followed my gut. My gut told me that I could trust him, that he was a good guy, and that he would be sensitive to the fact it was my first and it was important to me. I pre…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/18 05:23 PM
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Do you have Netflix? YMMV but I've found watching media that shows the hardships of parenting helps curb my baby craziness (the desire is still there, but it doesn't drive me insane lol). The show the Letdown I think is great at showing some of that. It's about a new mom struggling to fulfill her role. It's a really great show, and I think the acting is good. ​ I try to remind myself that there are benefits to both stages of life and to enjoy the freedom I have within this stage right now! Paren…
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 10:24 PM
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Spend a day or so out of your house (doing errands or something). Come back after several hours and you will be able to smell the actual scent of your space. You get used to scents you are around, but being in a different environment for several hours will make the scent "new" again.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 10:18 PM
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Do you live with your mother-in-law? I would try directing her attention to something she can be useful at that she does well using a compliment sandwich. "Mother-in-law, I really appreciate all the help you do around here. You are so thoughtful for helping around the house. I'd really prefer to do such and such chores myself though. But, would you be able to help me with such and such instead? It'd be such a big help to me. I'm really lucky to have you as my mother-in-law." ​ Or something like …
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 10:15 PM
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Do you have friends or family members that have babies/toddlers or young children? Spend some more time with them and give yourself a small dose of parenthood
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 10:08 PM
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If you're willing to spend the money, NARS creamy radiant concealer is my favorite. It's really great for under eye circles. I also love Bite Beauty lipsticks. Chai of their amuse bouche line is my favorite. It's just a couple shades darker than my natural lip color so it's just enough when I want something more understated.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 02:26 AM
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Current goals for this month: lose 2 lbs get through my finals (next week ahh!) begin my fitness routine finish paperwork for grad school make and decorate a gingerbread house with husband :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/18 04:32 PM
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Thanks! I spend about an hour a week planning meals and making my shopping list. I do rotate dishes when I'm having a busy week but I try to include new recipes when I can!
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/18 04:30 PM
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I'm starting graduate school next spring and I really wanted a new (small/basic) laptop so I could take notes and carry it around easily. My current one is massive and not something I want to carry everywhere. I also wanted a laptop that was a touch screen so when taking notes I could draw diagrams and have everything in one place. Well, my husband gave me a lot of pushback saying I didn't need a touchscreen laptop, but then he surprised me after a really rough exam week with one! He's always sp…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/18 07:10 PM
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I'm not sure if you celebrate Christmas, but a fun date-in that's a little different could be you guys assembling and decorating a gingerbread house kit. It can be very relaxing to just play around and be creative. You could also go shopping for the candy decorations together.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/18 11:27 PM
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We had it tonight, and it was delicious! Husband and I demolished it. Pro tip: brown the butter before adding the apples.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/18 04:42 AM
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Just dug out the recipe! It's the link minus the broccoli. I eat low carb so that's why it calls for sugar free maple syrup, you can obviously sub in regular and I'm sure it'd be even more delicious. https://www.tasteaholics.com/recipes/dinner/pork-chops-with-maple-spiced-apples/
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/18 09:00 PM
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Yes, I do that as well! If you're only doing the natural family planning method, you can also take your temperature daily to see when you're ovulating. I don't since we use condoms except for the least risky of days, but most of the women in my family have success with it.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/18 02:48 PM
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This was why I never went on the pill. Condoms work just fine, and timing unprotected sex with my cycle (do at your own risk) works for my husband and I. We've been doing this for four years and haven't had one pregnancy scare.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/18 01:42 PM
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I've only made lamb shoulder so far, and I threw that in the crock pot with rosemary, garlic, tyme, and some wine. It made it very tender. It was delicious!
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/18 05:02 PM
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Oh, my husband and I love lamb. Do you have a particular place you buy yours? It's always so expensive where we are.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/18 03:08 PM
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I second Budget Bytes. This recipe is amazing. My husband and I love it. Throw in some homemade rolls and you've got a great winter meal. ​ https://www.budgetbytes.com/thai-coconut-curry-carrot-soup/
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/18 03:06 PM
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That sounds amazing! Is the harvest bowl served warm or cold?
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/18 03:05 PM
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Frozen skillet meals are where its at when you're busy! If you're single, the healthy choice bowls are pretty good too. There's no reason to resort to fast food! You got this :)
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/18 03:04 PM
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We've been eating leftovers the last two days, so it's back to some new dishes tonight! Though, the complexity is a lot lower this week as I have three exams :'( tonight - creole chicken with Andouille sausage served over rice Tuesday - pork chops with maple spiced apples, roasted potatoes and carrots Wednesday - blackened tilapia with roasted squash and cous cous Thursday - Herbed pork tenderloin, rice, asparagus Friday - BBQ pot roast, mixed vegetables, and french fries Saturday - Shephard's p…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/18 03:01 PM
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That really depends on your friend group and the situation. If its casual, at someone's house, and it wouldnt be out of place, sitting on his lap would be okay. Massaging is over the line I think. Don't make your friends uncomfortable with your PDA. Hand holding would be a good compromise though,
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/18 03:27 PM
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I'm a young woman, currently married. My mom was an awesome mom. She balanced being a caregiver and traditional wife while pursuing her career dreams. She went to medical school when I was young and balanced studying and taking care of young children, I think amazingly well. I cant imagine how much stress she must have been under. While in school, she still cooked us homemade dinner every night and did most of the cleaning. She couldn't participate in PTA and sometimes couldnt remember my teache…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 10:39 PM
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If you look at the comment replies, people come to the realization that its the girl posting from the perspective of the guy. This girl is crazy.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 05:25 PM
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Well, I would say that even though you're "red-pill" you don't seem to be acting like it. If you want your man to be more RP and lead, you need to let him. If he wants to talk about the emotion side of the argument, that's his call as captain. You shouldn't argue with him over what the better conflict resolution is. Have you read any of the recommended reading? Even if he is BP, your actions and submission can allow him to take the lead more often causing him to be more RP naturally. We encourag…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 04:42 PM
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I'd say this is pretty common. It was the same with my husband and I when were dating. Every time it happened, I would just reiterate that it hurt or was uncomfortable. He always apologized and backed off. It seems like your husband is doing the same. It may take awhile for him to instinctively know how much you can handle, but just keep doing what you're doing and I think he'll get there.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 04:36 PM
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It takes two parents to create a child. It should be the two who raise the child. It is completely INSANE that he wants to be the only one to control how the children are raised. ​ Your example conditions sound like how my father-in-law raised my husband. Do you know what happened? He forced them to learn the alphabet and count in different languages starting at five. (Are they bilingual? Multilingual now? No.) They could never just "hang out". They always had to be productive. My husband grew u…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 04:24 PM
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I'm going to copy part of a comment reply here so OP can see it. it sounds like you're still recovering from the past relationship. It's normal to think about exes from time to time especially if it ended in a disappointing way. The mind likes to play the what if game. It's human. It's also hard to resist the influence of hearing everything you've ever wanted to hear from someone who may have hurt or disappointed you. It is natural for you to be confused by it. Don't let that confusion ruin what…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 05:18 PM
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Though some may believe it, there is no such thing as "the one". There are many possible "ones" someone could end up with. Also, from the way this was written, it sounds like she's still recovering from the past relationship. The mind likes to play the what if game. It's human. It's also hard to resist the influence of hearing everything you've ever wanted to hear from someone who may have hurt or disappointed you. It is natural for her to be confused by it. That doesn't mean she's not happy wit…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 05:12 PM
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Are you managing your depression with a therapist and/or medication? That's the first step.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 05:19 PM
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If it starts to smell mouldy, that's from excess moisture so maybe putting a small dehumidifier in there would help?
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 03:44 PM
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Taking care of my hair! That means different things for different hair types, but for me I have naturally curly hair so when I started using leave-in conditioner and gel. Removed sulfates and silicones from my hair products, it was a world of difference! My curl pattern is awesome now, and my hair has that shiny healthy look to it.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 03:43 PM
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I read in a study once (can't find it on mobile right now) that 23 is the earliest you'd want to go because that's the age you see a dramatic decrease in your risk for divorce. My hubby and I were married at 23 (engaged at 21) and we're still going strong! I agree with Kara_El that it more depends upon the mindset of the people involved. Ive found that people who view marriage as this romantic next step in their lives (usually corresponds with them being more obsessed about the wedding as oppose…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 03:38 PM
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I would say to the small of your waist is the longest I would go. Unless your man likes your hair that long, I think it looks a bit strange for hair to be excessively long unless you're styling it all the time. Plus hair is hard to control at that length!
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 03:29 PM
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If you're interested in the health care field, being a respiratory therapist, nurse, or physician assistant are all good options. Those are all options where you're not the boss per se but you get to help make medical decisions and care for your patients. You can make good money in those careers and They are also jobs you could easily work part time if you family life dictates.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 05:49 PM
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There's also bumble bff. Ive had a friend have some success with that when she moved to a new city
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 02:55 PM
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When a man is inconsistent and his words don't match his actions, he's not a quality man. He's not into you. He's trying to give you just enough so you'll stick around and maybe sleep with him. Find someone who will be consistent and not play games. You'll be much happier.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/18 02:52 PM
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I would urge you to look into CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) especially REBT (rational emotive behavior therapy). I'm not telling you that you need to see a therapist, but if you research it and some of its methods you can employ them for yourself (especially since this is a mild thing). CBT is based on the following principles Cognitive activity affects behavior; Cognitive activity may be monitored and altered; and Desired behavior change may be effected through cognitive change. Personally…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/18 10:55 PM
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Unfortunately I learned this from experience! My apartment is dominated by a sofa and dining table lol
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 06:26 PM
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Don't make the mistake of buying furniture that is too big for the apartment. It'll make the space seem smaller.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 03:35 PM
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I think you're pretty spot on with your second part on the phrasing of the desires. These are very similar to the style Laura Doyle reccomends. Its about expressing desires not making demands. "I would love..." Vs "I want..." Are very different tones on paper, but I suppose the tone verbally will greatly change whether you're demanding or expressing desire. I think everyone would like to be spoken to respectfully regardless if "they have shields up". Which, I hope they wouldn't if you're in an e…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 12:53 PM
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I'm so glad it worked out well :) I wish you the best for the future! This will be a learning process, but once you get the hang of it, it's so worth it!
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 12:39 PM
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Be careful about branching out with skin products. You never know how you're going to react to a product. Honestly, a simple straight forward routine is best especially if its working for you. I use witch hazel as well and its wonderful. It makes the skin look so fresh and healthy. The only thing I might add to that is I have heard that vitamin E serum under the eyes is really good for the skin, but I still need to do some research on that!
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 11:57 PM
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I have curly hair as well! I have my first Deva cut next week. What's your routine?
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 11:52 PM
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If ideal personality traits were all that was needed for a romantic partner, we would not have the issue of guys being "friend-zoned". Attraction is innate. While women can sometimes see attraction grow with time, if there's none initially, it will not work out.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 10:29 PM
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I think you should let this go. Like Kara_El said this was a communication issue. For the future, have you read any of the recommended reading esp by Laura Doyle? I read First, Kill All Marriage Counselors which isn't as touted on the sub, but I thought was very good. The author talks about what I'm about to explain, and it definitely helped me when I was going through the same thing. You're still feeling mad and upset...which I have a feeling is due to a similar thought pattern as the following…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 09:50 PM
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Body shape tends to stay regardless of weight. Though you can try to influence it through building muscle. I'm pear shaped and have always been from my highest weight to my leanest
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 03:58 PM
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Have you read the sidebar? The whole premise of RPW is self-improvement. There is such a thing as "nun-mode".
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 01:51 PM
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I was going to comment, but you perfectly expressed my thoughts on this post. Mental illness is difficult, but it does not absolve you from responsibility of your actions. You can not have "panic attacks" where you yell and scream and cry at the person you supposedly love, blame it on your illness, and still expect them to want to marry you. People want stability in their lives. They don't want the anxiety of wondering when the next time they'll have to deal with OP's fits.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 01:15 PM
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Why would you need to it to increase RMV? RMV is a set of characteristics and behavior that help increase your desirability as a romantic partner. Religion is wholly separate from that unless your desired partner requires religion from you.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/18 06:10 PM
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No problem!
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 07:49 PM
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Agree!
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 07:30 PM
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If he isn't giving you a direct answer it is likely because he knows telling you no directly will cause issues, which is indicative of some things you may need to work on I think it's more that he doesn't want to disappoint me since we were supposed to go on a date. I told him I was perfectly okay with staying at home, or doing something else. But, I will keep that in mind for the future! I generally don't assume I should get invited to anything work related. I didn't assume. He told me that we …
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 07:20 PM
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Thanks for the input! Yes, those are usually the guidelines I follow as well unless he tells me otherwise. Unless he wants me there, I'll probably go visit my friend who just had a baby :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 07:15 PM
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Okay, duly noted, thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 06:52 PM
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Yes, I plan to ask him when he's done with work, but when we talked about it, it seemed like he didn't have a preference.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 06:46 PM
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I would say keep the menu simple to avoid being over the top! I would do a main, a couple sides, and a dessert. For recipes, I would do "traditional" picnic foods. For the main, maybe a variety of finger sandwiches such as cucumber, chicken salad, cold cuts. If you want something warm, I would bring burger patties (you could make the patties yourself and make them "gourmet"with goat cheese and herbs) or hot dogs and have him use a park grill (activity and dinner lol). For a couple sides, I'd bri…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 06:37 PM
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I agree with Kara_El. Cooking a man dinner is a pretty forward/intimate gesture. It can often imply after-dinner "dessert" which you don't seem to want. Also, men are not stupid. Most of them know that when you are going out of your way to cook for them in that capacity, your trying to demonstrate girlfriend qualities, so this could end up coming off too strong too soon. I also think that baked goods (for a special occasion), or a more casual picnic outing is a good way to demonstrate your cooki…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 06:02 PM
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I feel the same way! My husband and I almost have a running joke of it. He'll mention girls who find him attractive or that he thinks are attractive. We joke around about it. Its all in fun because he never makes me doubt his committment or love for me. BUT, it does help me feel like I DO need to upkeep myself to continue to be attractive as he does the same for me
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 05:01 PM
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If you're only dating for three days and you get upset by him often enough you need to learn how to manage yourself, perhaps you're not compatible? You might need someone who is softer verbally. Regardless, when you are upset, STFU is usually a good tactic unless they are trying to communicate with you (I'm guilty of this as well). The best thing you can do is calmly state what youre feeling. When you acknowledge your emotions in a calm manner they are usually easier to control/resolve. In this …
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 02:49 PM
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Unless he's telling you how hot and sexy she is, I'd probably let it go. Men are attracted to looks primarily. You never really hear about a man leaving or cheating on his girlfriend because "she was just so nice". If he is playing games with you, I'd bring it up during a neutral time with something along the lines of "I feel insecure when you compliment the girls you work with," and see,what he says. He might be oblivious and not know what he's doing. If he's playing games, I'd be wary.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 02:08 PM
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If you're determined and realistic about marriage, and willing to put in the work, youth should not be an issue (esp if you're redpilled). I began dating my husband after my 20th birthday, and knew he was the one about a month later! We were engaged a year and a half later (much to the chagrin of our family--"we were too young" hilarious since my mother was engaged at 19!) and were married at 23. Our marriage is still going strong and it's so wonderful to already have my life partner while many …
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 01:57 PM
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I've been trying to kick this habit as well! My issue is that I bite out of stress or anxiety, but only ever do it in private when there's no one to feel embarrassed by. What I've had succes with is mitigating some damage by only allowing myself to bite one nail on each hand (my thumbs), the rest of my nails are growing in nicely and when I can't stop myself at least the rest of my nails look okay. The other thing I've had success with is the glue-on acrylic nails. They're easy to put on, and th…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 01:47 PM
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If you haven't read it, First Kill All Marriage Counselors is a great read and gives you tools in how to express yourself and help your man lead!
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 01:12 PM
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I'm grateful for this sub! I found this place right after I got married and was having a really hard time with the transition (I not only got married, but moved 600 miles away from family, and went back to school to change careers). Husband and I were having horrible fights. This sub really kicked my butt into gear in how I should be treating my husband, and dealing with my emotions. I know,the surrendered wife is often reccomended, but I actually read First, Kill All Marriage Counselors and it …
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 01:10 PM
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Girl, you got this!!
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 01:02 PM
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Hey, I had the same thing happen to me last year when I had never really had bad acne before. It was horrible, my self-esteem plummeted. It resolved itself when I realized what was happening but it took months. What helped me the most was just doing what I could in terms of concealer and foundation. This will pass in time, keep your chin up!!
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 12:59 PM
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Stop feeling sorry for yourself and stop sleeping with guys when you're not in an ltr. Like someone else suggested go into nun mode and sort yourself out. The best way to make yourself "not a plate" is to stop being one. Improve your style, hit the gym, improve your social skills, and decide what you want in life and the kind of man that will fit into that. Only when you start being the type of woman who guys want to date, will you find the right kind of guys. YOU are responsible for your action…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 12:54 PM
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This should be on /r/asktrp. This is a space for women to seek advice
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/18 09:53 PM
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Barkeepers friend has helped me with some of it. But, ive mostly accepted that I will have one horribly stained pan for messy things. Maybe someone else will have a good suggestion
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 02:56 PM
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There are individuals that aren't stereotypical on campus. I happened to find my group through a sorority (we went to a research/stem school so the environment of social sororities was very different from typical). However, I also made plenty of friends other ways. Friendship comes from familiarity and common ground. Therefore, you will naturally become friends with people you see often. Here are I think the four main ways to make friends in college and ill talk about each of them. Living situat…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 02:21 PM
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I love this! Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 09:08 PM
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It wouldn't matter so much to me if his past women were low SMV. What would bother me is if he used low value ways to get those women, I.e. craigslist. It hints that he can't get women to sleep with him by himself(even when his SMV is higher) or that he's too lazy to put the effort in even in a low risk bar scenario. It would make me question if he can't close for some reason or if he has some sort of personality flaw that hasnt shown itself yet.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 06:12 PM
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Based on his reaction, I'm,wondering how you bring up issues. Are you using I statements? Are you non-accusatory. Are you stating a desire or a feeling instead of a critism? Are you bringing them up at the wrong time (when he's stressed or right after he gets out of work, before he's eaten, etc?) What are examples of these issues? Regardless, withholding affection would be a dealbreaker for me...but that's my love language, and if you alter your behavior you may be able to remedy the situation.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 12:08 PM
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Right! Its mostly that I'm wondering if there's a better way to do the dishes i cant use the dishwasher for.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 12:03 PM
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I used to be an avid reader of /r/skincareaddiction. One of the best takeaways I recieved from there is to look at the products your using, sometimes you can be sensitive to certain ingredients. Many people are sensitive to cetyl alcohols, others it was algae extract, some were just using products that were way too harsh on the skin which dehydrated it, ramping up the skins defense mechanism---oil production. Essentially making it worse. However, I've had really good results with using thayer's …
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 12:00 PM
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I usually use a solution of half white vinegar and half water, which cuts through grease really well. That may help!
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 02:30 PM
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I prewash my dishes too! Haha I might try your method. It sounds like a good way to loosen all the gunk off the pots and pans before scrubbing. Thanks :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 11:28 AM
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How do you girls deal with dishes when you have a small sink? Growing up my mom would fill one side with soapy water and then use the other to rinse. Right now, my sink is so small though, I've been making do by using the dishwasher as much as possible and then washing what I cant dishwash under running water (as opposed to filling the sink). Is there a better way to be doing this??
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 07:31 PM
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That's wonderful that you could find a partner that exhibits all those qualities! I think one of my big struggles (as with many women) is becoming overwhelmed by stress and being over emotional. My husband is very understanding, but I know I could do better.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 07:23 PM
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I see your point! I agree, kindness seems to be the center point of most feminine women that I meet. Beauty from within to complement the external
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 07:18 PM
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Do you have a wife? And what would you say would be the most important cultivated quality a woman could have?
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 04:59 PM
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I Like using candles and renunzit. You can get the latter at the dollar store! They come,in a variety of scents
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 04:36 PM
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I would become a full-time homemaker tomorrow if i could, however I need to be realistic about finances: my boyfriend works part-time at McDonalds (nothing wrong with that, but it doesn't pay enough to live a decent life) and doesn't have a higher education. Moreover, he comes from a poor egyptian family and regularly sends his parents money and lives with his four brothers in a tiny apartment his brother bought You say it yourself. He can't support you and his family working part-time at McDona…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 01:59 PM
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Some other music that makes me feel feminine (that is current) is Julia Michaels, Billie Eilish, zhavia, bebe rhexa,and marianna and the diamonds
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 04:49 PM
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I think men, especially confident men who attract many women, will not stop seeing others if you are in an established friends-with-benefits scenario. Why would he stop seeing other people if you are not receptive to his romantic advances? Why would he get rid of his options if you're not a guarantee? It does not make sense for him. Men do not equate sex with love. That's a women's perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/18 08:32 PM
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Not necessarily, but they are what I grew up with! Both of my grandmothers were Italian so a lot of my cooking is from there. But, I'm American so I usually am making a fusion of something lol. My husband's grandmother is Slovenian so I have to make potica this year, which thankfully his grandmother gave me the recipe. ​ Those cookies looks so cute! I will have to try making them at some point. That's a lot of places! How many cookies do you usually make around the holidays?
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/18 06:10 PM
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I love your Christmas cookie goal! What recipes are you looking at? My typical christmas cookies are: italian "S" cookies, and thumbprints.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/18 04:28 PM
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You could turn working on your projects into a date. Pick out a cute coffee shop or cafe, bring your laptops, and work on your projects there as you chat and bounce ideas of each other. You could do this once a week or once every two for an hour or so. The gym is most likely something you will need to do on your own. Could you go with a girlfriend? Or, you could join a club that's activity is physical aka rock climbing, hiking, ultimate frisbee, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/18 04:27 PM
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I meal plan weekly as well! It really helps reduce food waste and the grocery bill. I will pick one or two past favorites, and then the rest are usually new recipes (unless it's a horribly busy week, then I pick from my recipe bank). I tend to pick a protein, starch, and veggie for each meal. My husband is always appreciative that I put in work to make varied meals! This week's agenda is: sriracha crispy baked chicken, green beans and rice smoky bacon, cauliflower & cheddar soup with homemade ro…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/18 04:18 PM
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I love your perspective! I have felt I've lost a lot of my purity of heart as I have gotten older. What has helped you gain purer intentions? I'm Catholic raised, but I no longer feel like the Church is the place for me. I'm dubious about many of their practices as an institution and I also no longer believe in some of the core tenants of the faith. I would classify myself as agnostic, and ever since I stopped going to church and believing fully, I have felt the definite lack in my spiritual lif…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/18 04:09 PM
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When you are vetting your current partner, I think a lot of it has to do determining what mix of alpha/beta traits he has that you need and if you both have similar morals and life goals. ​ Determining if you're a good match based on similar values and goals is pretty cut and dry. I think the big topics would be children, financials, religion, politics, lifestyle, and ambition. Does he not want kids and you do? Dealbreaker. Is he a extremely frugal or loose with money, and you're the opposite? D…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/18 03:34 PM
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Relationships are built on trust. If he doesn't trust you, your relationship will not survive.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/18 02:48 AM
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Cliche as it is, having someone you know you can count on no matter what. We both actively work to make each other's lives easier. There is a definite difference between being married and being in a committed relationship. In marriage, there is no easy way out. You know that you guys are a team no questions asked. You are both bonded and working towards shared life goals as opposed to two individuals working towards similar but individual life goals.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/18 03:50 PM
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