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Iron Rule #6 Women are incapable of loving men in a way that a man idealizes is possible, in a way he thinks she should be capable of. Your post is full of "she she she, women don't, she holds, if she decides, the only way it can ever work is if she she" sheeesh.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/26 03:38 PM
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OYS is what you're looking for. Start a new account to post there because this one is permanently banned. Give it a serious try and have some faith that I'm doing you a favor.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/26 04:55 PM
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This is all good. I remember tyredbiggums once saying something along the lines of, it's not necessary to be doing some epic adventure all the time, all you need to do is be present with them (like not on your phone or distracted by whatever). Stupidly simple/short advice used to come out of that guy all the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/25 08:51 PM
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oys' from 4 years ago. and it sounds like your only complaint is something that is imaginary/in your head only. what gives?
/r/askMRP14/08/25 07:02 PM
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probably talked to much yes, don't live in the past
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/25 07:16 PM
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plates
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/25 07:07 PM
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show cause and effect. This might be a hole in your thinking, like the button pushing/dancing monkey. Better to think of this in terms of "be attractive, don't be unattractive" I'll reiterate that the words matter very little. WMP is serious about what he would say, but I really doubt he would follow that up with waiting around for an entire month to have his big breakfast with a girl he likes to fuck. her guilt would be immediately dissolved What you write here indicates that you aren't as inte…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/24 08:35 PM
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"you figure it out" It's worth pointing out, a woman will know how to please you, maybe even before you know it. If it's not happening, there's no mystery as to why.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/24 07:46 PM
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What I like about this is that you've included some evidence you're focused on your wants, big breakfast....extremely practical That's not a fat joke either. I actually like that. It's one of the only parts that's not "she she she" with you examining her behavior. I wouldn't encourage "calling out" behavior unless you're able to be specific about the actionable behavior you do want...."I want you to cancel/reschedule/skip this other thing." People here will say to focus on the actions, not words…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/24 11:39 PM
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nice guy since childhood....still is my biggest obstacle What's stopping you? most of my “self-development focus” on this. I’m not sure how to get to Thinking you're not there, makes it true. still struggle with sexualizing/flirting......can’t come up with some lines when I sincerely want to flirt. but rethink the point of doing it. Are you afraid to admit that you're fearful, lol. to get the sex I want See above re nice guy sex-life and relationship being reciprocated when our daughter is at my…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 05:32 PM
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When I first started reading this, I felt 'envious' of whoever this is that was keeping up with blarg so well. lol
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/24 11:25 PM
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Great report. Well done. I never get tired of reading these.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/24 11:12 PM
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add strings to my bow so that there is nothing my wife can do that I don't know how to do silly, shit like this builds up my self esteem a bit Not silly.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/24 04:17 PM
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If it's fun for you to think this way, that's okay, but you are for sure overcomplicating this. Be attractive, don't be unattractive. Alpha fucks, beta bucks. If you believe that you are enough or you're not enough yet, you are right. Realize that a lot of your own measurements for who/what you want to be are orthogonal to arousal. (The post I was going to link is gone, uggghhhh)
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 06:37 PM
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stop thinking so much. Instead of complaining or explaining in bed, try to BE the source of whatever it is you imagine you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 05:43 PM
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Almost rule 9'd you but you have plenty of good stuff. See how you can get that to take up more space
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 05:39 PM
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And I'm not sure what to do Sex from her partner would ideally be a great way for her to deal with tears/anxiety/stress/etc. Realize that you're either withholding that from her OR your fear of her emotions is causing you to hold her hostage in a relationship where she cannot get that outlet.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 05:28 PM
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All he needs to do is see his marriage for what it actually is and his wife will see it reflected in his eyes and realize how replaceable she has made herself. Nail on the head u/Red_Pill_Professor
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 05:11 PM
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how/when I should initiate A lot of ppl will say "whenever you feel like it". I would say you'd be better off to do this every time you interact with her. EVERY TIME. Instead of thinking of it like initiation, try making it constant 'escalation'. I'm not suggesting it because I think it will go well, I'm suggesting it because I think you will move farther and faster through this process. possible a lot of her sexual deactivation since kids is due to her feeling unattractive due to the massive st…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 05:10 PM
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10/10 SMV Pedestalization at it's finest. Your whole section here is BANANAS. If you want to financially support a 10 with good genes who's not interested in sleeping with you, get an onlyfans subscription.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 05:02 PM
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at least 2 and possibly 3 SMV points higher Why are you measuring yourself in this way? How far off are you from your current idealized version of yourself?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 04:55 PM
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Start telling yourself that feeling fear (which is mostly from things that are in no way dangerous) is actually exciting.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 04:46 PM
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The thing I like about long term reports is how succinct they get. Simple.... across three lifts Not easy... Nearly a decade in the making. Total 2170
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/24 11:35 PM
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Well done answering my questions. stfu, and i did, for about 60 seconds This is your starting point. Keep improving it until it becomes easy, then you can move on stfu with yourself on all the cc's, validation and shame stuff too.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/24 11:26 PM
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Self deprecation is unattractive. Sincere talks about your sex life are unattractive. Thinking that you're not attractive enough yet is unattractive. Good news is these are habitual behaviors, like picking your nose. Knock it off.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/24 11:46 PM
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Covert contracts Shame Validation Seeking Name one of each specifically. failed to stfu What will you do before the next time you see this start to happen?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/24 08:18 PM
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This is true not attractive enough yet. But not for the reasons you're thinking... Abs are starting......Game is ok It's this I had a sincere talk
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/24 08:13 PM
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set up couples counseling........I do not expect it to actually help Haha! What the hell? Is this self sabotage? Or do you need a better strategy?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/24 08:09 PM
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Can't tell if it was a shit test or a comfort test Assume it's a shit test always.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/24 08:02 PM
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You're separated. Are you working on divorce?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/24 07:56 PM
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Ask mrp. she she she she she..........shesh.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/24 07:54 PM
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inner game Do you believe you're a worthwhile person and the interactions you have are of value and importance? When you find yourself in a group making judgments of others, especially other men, this is your opportunity to shine a light on your subconscious insecurities
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/24 03:32 PM
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Mission statement is mostly about other people. This is why you keep getting picked on in here.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/24 12:22 PM
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This is too long and detailed but I'm keeping it up as contrast to red's post.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/24 03:24 AM
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If a guy just gets attractive enough and willing to generate the sexual heat he deems sufficient, the rest of his life’s design becomes pretty open ended
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/24 01:48 PM
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This all seems fine. Be weary of changing your goals to suit your situation vs changing your situation to suit your goals
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/24 09:50 PM
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This all seems fine. Be weary of changing your goals to suit your situation vs changing your situation to suit your goals
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/24 08:46 PM
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the zero initiations approach helps me to reflect This seems counterproductive I killed oneitis elaborate. can you tell me what's different without talking about your thoughts/feelings? recognized that being bitter about rejections is a mistake What will you do with this realization?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 04:02 PM
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My wife gave me a huge comfort test. No she didn't.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/24 05:23 PM
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I keep telling her 'next time ......... not sure how to make progress in this department, When you do this, you're communicating that you wanted it all along but you're too ?nervous? to do it in the moment, you're hoping that she'll initiate it for you, like she initiated sex. Also, you're passive aggressively communicating disappointment with her, yourself, the blowie. This is bad for everyone.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/24 03:15 PM
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rejected with something like a comfort test This is not a comfort test. I do think it's helpful to just think in terms of escalation as opposed to 'initiation'
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 05:18 PM
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Don't be too discouraged by all the negative feedback. It IS correct but all the caution about "slow down, your wife won't like this" is a) probably made up and b) not really your problem. ​ For now, things are stable.....My wife....She wants....I like these results I hate that I had....I hate that I put....I need results.... This is worth chewing on. You have a TON of she's in this post AND the only things you point to that you're happy with are about your wife's behavior, her fixing your feelz…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 04:53 PM
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Don't do things that don't align with your highest values. You probably value paying bills and advancing your career so work and school are going to align with that. You can probably figure out a way to enjoy that pursuit, even if it's a slog sometimes. (do you not want to slap people who go to the gym but then complain about the time they chose to spend there?) ​ time to reintroduce it and show a little passion This part of your comment is how I know you're doubling down on the "performance for…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/24 06:58 PM
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I don't have a social circle This is a fine thing to work on if you want to ​ and I'm not interesting. This has little to to with your hobbies/lifestyle. It's more connected to how you communicate and if you're a good storyteller. If you're actually not interested or passionate about the things you're doing, this will be clear to others around you.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/24 04:50 PM
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5'9 @ 207lbs, ~12%BF For real, well done. ​ Cold: indifferent to these, and I don't care about my wife's emotions anymore : ) ​ When we're hot, we're red hot. When we're cold, it's ice cold. What's stopping your from believing that your hand is on the thermostat? ​ Covert Contract: I've sacrificed so much............................................. ....................................................................................................................................................…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/24 09:46 PM
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These are bid's for your attention. It will continue until it's clear this is not a good way to get your attention.
/r/askMRP03/01/24 04:53 PM
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I have basically told my wife I want out of this marriage. She wanted........... harder ........(sex?)therapy.......... If you want out of the marriage, you don't have to ask for her permission (or ours). If you're wanting to scare her into submission, this is about as overt as she's going to get.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/23 05:07 PM
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Something is not right in the world right now. LMFAO. People who say this are completely unfamiliar human history.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/23 05:00 PM
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This reads like you are an uber driver who imagines that his next customer will be his girlfriend and get's upset when the imaginary girlfriend doesn't show up to the pickup spot. ​ very successful financially. Every uber drives says this, adding that they're just driving because it's interesting. lol
/r/askMRP27/12/23 11:23 PM
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Merry Christmas : )
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/23 07:02 PM
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Not using credit cards (for me) is a tactic, not a strategy. If you can afford it, not using/having a cc is one of life's greatest luxuries.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/23 06:24 PM
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Mostly I am reading (which is on my phone/iPad) or in the gym training. So, actually it was mostly to create awareness that my wife was a little ‘obsessive’ with her phone/series. I can't think of anything to say that would be funnier than what you wrote here.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/23 09:41 PM
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experience what it feels like to make progress she she she she she, think about making this more about you rule 9
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 08:29 PM
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notice her bodylanguage is very Stay out of her head, don't try to be funny
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 08:25 PM
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rule 9
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 08:14 PM
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not spending time with our phones or tv after our daughter had been put to bed, but instead be present Why aren't you doing this without her? That's not rhetorical. Tell me
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 06:51 PM
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many indicators that I am in an anger stage/feedback loop related to the divorce since last week. Wouldn't it be completely normal for your oldest son to mirror you emotionally? ​ I want my children to grow up well-adjusted and to have a fair shot at life. As long as you're not on the brink of homelessness, this is a pretty imaginary worry. But I wouldn't be surprised if you're son isn't also hamstering about this. ​ I often want to just neutralize the situation at hand if it's particularly stre…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 04:34 PM
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rule 10
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 11:08 PM
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I was going to keep this open because I recognized your name but then I read your oys and remembered why I recognized your name. r/askmrp
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 11:06 PM
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Is that like a hard rule? Ultimately it's my decision. also... Gentlemen, my life is the nightmare
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 11:00 PM
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Apart from the episode above, How bad was that really? Sounds like they fought with each other and you 123'ed both of them.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 10:30 PM
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Successful Initiations: 0/0 on my end. My wife did try to initiate last week. I could tell it was dutiful and did not allow myself to get deluded into thinking she could physically handle it. I was correct as she vomitted like 5 seconds later. Stay out of her head. If she's vomiting from sips of water then she's probably vomiting a lot regardless. Why are you denying her the ability to choose what causes it? #relieveallwomen ​ I was complemented for my wisdom… If you're here for this, and not to…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 10:19 PM
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8 years, dates with 129, cohabited with 3 single mother's I have been dating to marry Almost nobody here shares these kinds of stats. TY
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 09:49 PM
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Iron Rule #8 Let her figure this out. Your post and all your commenting here reeks of desire negotiation and you don't even have someone to avoid negotiating with yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 09:46 PM
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Your language betrays you I told her what it is about deer porn that I'm hooked on. weak, controlled, submissive I started getting This is the same lack of prize mentality that has followed you around for a long time. It's not the worst thing in the world but it's getting in the way of what you say you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 05:39 PM
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turned my dick into an 'innie' with how unattractve this post was. lol
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 05:28 PM
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HIgh Protein / Low Calorie instead of eggs, use egg whites. Instead of ground beef, use ground turkey/venison. meal recipes Realize that to lose weight, your meals are not supposed to wow you or fill you up. ​ What are you doing about hygiene and style?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 04:55 PM
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I could only make it through your first huge wall of text. I'm sure the rest is all the same. I am a Nice Guy Faggot. Don't self deprecate. Even if it's true. ​ refuses to let me get rid of anything This is a perfect opportunity for you to 'acta non verba' and live with the consequences.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 04:39 PM
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The theory here What's your theory?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/23 09:52 PM
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rule 9
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/23 09:35 PM
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Still sucks. Can you CLEARLY define what you want your romantic life to be like? Do that first.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/23 04:01 PM
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What I have been avoiding I'm tempted to rule 9 you for these paragraphs speculating about what your wife wants/has wanted but you made an effort to shift back onto yourself. ​ What’s next feel like and idiot......“I’m leaving you because I saw you are ready and likely willing to fuck other guys”. This is EVERY female under the right circumstances. Why can't you make this about you instead of her?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/23 04:52 PM
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no girls
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/23 04:30 PM
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"Who cares what other people think about my clothes? Fuck 'em." I love that you point this out. Plenty of guys will bend over backwards at great cost to themselves to prove and that they DNGAF. They are paradoxically desperate to demonstrate to others how they are different.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/23 04:39 PM
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I need more info on your wife...........schedule more excursions to get more sex. You have got to be kidding here?
/r/askMRP08/11/23 10:21 PM
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God damn dude. You're so close and she probably wants to fuck someone who earns her attraction *who cares, this is up to her to figure out and she'll make this clear ​ not someone who thinks he deserves it. Absolutely
/r/askMRP08/11/23 10:19 PM
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Rule 9
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/23 12:37 AM
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The language you used in this paragraph stands out to me; ​ invoke genuine desire from her and I'm starting to believe it's simply not something I can get as her husband. I think being married just reduces relative SMV by 1-2 points by default, but only in the spouse. This reeks of what I've brought up before with you which is that you still see it being on your shoulders to earn all this transactionally. If you think about breaking up with her and going into new relationships, how much time (an…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/23 12:28 AM
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Rule 9, good story though I'll unban you early if you get the scale under 250
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/23 12:10 AM
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to do that will invoke genuine desire from her also dumb imo. Your want for this gets in the way of it happening.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/23 12:01 AM
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d.) My wife starts actually This is fucking dumb. I'd advise against designing your life and happiness to be contingent on someone else delivering for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/23 11:53 PM
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I was the only dad doing Halloween stuff in a group of moms yesterday and I didn’t get laid. Maybe a rhetorical question, what did you do to escalate? When/where/how and who stopped you?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/23 12:12 AM
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This has been covered before over and over and over and over again. I think it was J10 that said these things are at best, orthogonal.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/23 05:31 PM
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this should be in r/askmrp ​ Sounds like you made your own choice about social media, then you had sex with your wife and had a good night sleep and now she's trying to get even more of your attention.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/23 03:42 PM
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I'm guessing some of these commenters posted pics on instagram last night where they're wearing matching costumes that their wives picked out
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/23 03:37 PM
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You seem to be in the wrong place. There's no moralizing here.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/23 03:20 PM
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I'm tempted to rule 9 you because your relationship section is mostly about her but your dl and squat have both gone up in the past 2 weeks so you're off the hook for now.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 11:44 PM
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Way too long but it's your #1 so I get why it sounds like a catholic confession monologue. Stick to your goals you outlines and report on what you do with them.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 11:38 PM
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rule 9 I'll unban you if you can improve ONE of those lifts.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 08:06 PM
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RemindMe! 90 days
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/23 08:09 PM
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I've also recognized that my wife shit tests non stop,..... female co worker.....oldest daughter does this too. I will recognize shit tests/control flooding What's the actual plan here? You probably ought to replace flooding with something else.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/23 04:17 PM
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DEERing his experience and credentials and why he's the best to make certain decisions I might depend on the situation, but don't waste an opportunity to creatively validate someone when they start doing this. You can set the tone that you are the one they need to impress.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/23 04:12 PM
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There's like 4 billion women in the world. Two in the kitty just means you're not repulsive to at least 3 of them. I can see why it seems like a big ask though. You are unbearable. Take a few weeks off.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/23 03:50 PM
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Feel free to experiment but I'd encourage you to worry less about all the reasons and more about what you want and if you're effectively driving at it.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/23 03:43 PM
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I don't see the contradictions? woman are beneath men Where did you get this idea?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 10:36 PM
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feeling healthy and a strong libido is key to succeed It's probably not though
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 09:11 PM
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RP that don't harmonize with my faith Which part?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 09:08 PM
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Rule 9 she predictably she never she may she ignores she resists... etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 03:21 PM
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I'm absolutely not in a position to create a lot of high quality dread, but I'll accept the challenges Giving up before it starts + self deprecation. Are you trying to get banned before this even begins?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/23 03:09 PM
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​ I'm angry that so many guys here seem to know something that I don't. I know exactly what you're describing here and while it's normal/natural to feel that way, this is a misguided way to look at it. You said about your depression; I know how to fix it reliably, And this is 1,000% true for your sex life. Nobody here has access to sidebar info that you don't. The difference is some guys are proving with their own experience that the sidebar applies to them and some guys keep reading and thinkin…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/23 05:33 PM
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“Man shows up late in clothes different that his wife instructed, hogs the only cigar…………………..…marriage counselors hate him.”
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/23 04:06 AM
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Do you get Jordan Peterson vibes from me btw? Because I DON’T make my bed :)
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/23 02:59 AM
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I’m confused by this because it sounds like you’re describing abundance or lack thereof, not oneitis. Rollo defines it as believing the soulmate myth. Nobody on here is worried about that though. whisper describes it as a slippery slope of: ‘I have feelings for this ONE>>paralyzing infatuation’ fueled by your imagination running wild. There are plenty of guys who have all the options and the knowledge of it but STILL get afflicted badly with oneitis.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/23 02:55 AM
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Are you saying there is a definite line in the sand? Is it simply those who believe in soulmates?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 10:15 PM
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I've always thought of oneitis as a spectrum as opposed to a binary affliction. Continuing to be married by default puts you somewhere in the middle of that spectrum. Having long term plates is low on the spectrum but not as low as swiping ONS's for eternity. I have idealized attachments to all sorts of things that might be no big deal and might also crossover into being unhealthy (MY truck, MY dog, MY kids, MY girl, MY money)
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 09:38 PM
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You don't think these are intertwined? Per Rollo, oneitis is an unhealthy attachment to an idealization of a girl. Have you been attaching your idealizations to specific girls over the last two years? Is it not for you to judge weather your idealized expectations are healthy or not?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 07:18 PM
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Love, commitment etc aren’t Oneitis. Maybe I'm using an inappropriate definition. Oneitis = bad One-forrightnow-itis = fine
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 06:02 PM
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this is my fucking trip Any tips on this whole trip would be appreciated. Try not to eat too much.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 04:40 PM
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I still don't understand how to apply "healthy oneitis" Horns has an excellent point here. Oneitis is a potentially unattractive behavior but if you maintain your ability to move on, if needed, your oneitis/possessiveness becomes her problem to deal with. It might even become an enhancement.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 04:31 PM
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Having a goal of “making your kid laugh” is dumb af in my opinion. This makes it a chore for you and for them. Having said that, I play with my kids all the time time and it’s permanent laughter mixed in with screaming and terror and lots of drama (for me).
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/23 03:02 PM
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Paradoxically, a lot of red pill is learning to respect women enough to offer them more of what they want and less of what you want to believe they want.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 04:11 PM
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He's on the list to do a 60 dod post. I'm not gonna comment on plans beyond that.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/23 08:34 PM
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example of responses to 'Game' is a game just like all the other games. If you think about playing chess, you don't want to be in response mode, just keeping up with the other player's moves while they run the board and slowly grind you down. You want to be the one running the board and having them respond to your moves. Also, if you think about when you're playing around with your kids, wrestling or chasing them or whatever, you can't just throw them to the ground and knock the wind out of them…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/23 03:56 PM
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Great first post. I like that there’s so many comments. Always wondered why you avoided this but I guess you wanted 2 (or 3?) years worth of experience before coming to a conclusion. To everyone trying to explain that their attempts at comfort aren’t worthless/ineffective to their women; SEX IS COMFORT. This is rational male 101. Men and women want to find ways to relate to each other and fill each other up in their relationships. She’s going to seek you out for some kind of comfort. You get to …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/23 10:03 PM
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Talking about sexual strategies is cringeworthy. Wow, kids too?! You're clearly too advanced for this place. rule 6 & 4
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 01:58 AM
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thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 01:51 AM
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She has her own push pull game; grabs your arms, walks around naked, "I'm on my period" "we don't have time". She's flirting with you. You get to show/tell her what kind of flirting works on you. It's still on you to be attractive enough for your expectations to be realistic.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/23 06:59 PM
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Here’s the point. Just because we’re married doesn’t mean she’s not going to make me work for it. This is a good story but I would argue that you might be missing the point. The only work involved ought to be you making yourself attractive to whatever degree you determine is necessary. Once there, your wife gets to compete for your attention and she has a real competitive advantage because you're married. She has her own push pull game; grabs your arms, walks around naked, "I'm on my period" "we…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/23 06:28 PM
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you are, and always will be, hardwired to simp BOOM
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 11:00 PM
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rule 9 & 10
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 07:24 PM
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she got what she wanted and I got shit. rule 9 ​ Suggestions on how I should have handled Instead of complaining about her watching tv while you want sex (the visual of this is hilarious given your weight, I'm not sure what she thinks she supposed to do with you) think of ways you can non verbally communicate that you're ready to give her sex. Roosh said something like "be strong in your head, vague in your words and assertive through your actions"
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 04:35 PM
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sons is *most likely* on the spectrum He's probably going to be the easiest one to get along with. You just need to read the users manual.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 03:59 PM
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However, I failed to provide enough comfort (pull/stability) to balance the dread on her emotions. This is definitely not what you're describing.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 03:33 PM
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Specifically, saying no to picking up certain people for their convenience when they could easily meet us partially through the journey. HAHAH Going from 100% supplication to 'meeting in the middle' might be progress but it still lands you as a 'master compromiser'. Do you realize how you write? We're still pushing things along meet us partially
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/23 07:15 PM
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One of the funny things about red pill is you need to learn about all these things and eventually you need to recognize when to shed your worrying about them. This is obvious hamster burnout and I think you need to work on controlling that but I'm not opposed to us all experimenting with speeding it up just to see what happens to you. ​ I think about that saving the best article and I used to feel so bad for that guy. As of now, when that article comes up I smile, and think of what a fun/cool sp…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/23 06:11 PM
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rule 9
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 09:28 PM
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rule 9, she she she she she
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 09:22 PM
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We’re still pushing things along but the compromises feel suffocating. What makes you think that compromising now won't just lead to more compromising in the future?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 09:01 PM
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5'9" but I like 6' tall girls rule 8
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 08:51 PM
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I don’t necessarily disagree with you here (and this is splitting hairs) but I don’t know if there’s be any problem with a guy believing that. I think the problem comes from his frustration that nobody else believes it, specifically her. He can either make peace with that or troubleshoot with the sidebar.
/r/askMRP26/09/23 02:21 AM
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The thing that really sucks for guys who come here and are in shape is that they are emotionally unattractive. high net worth If you think that money adds your sexual strategy, you are likely broadcasting your desired role as a beta provider constantly IRL. It sounds like you've done some stuff but you have a chip on your shoulder about people not recognizing what a top guy you are. This attitude will cancel out all the good things you have going for you.
/r/askMRP25/09/23 03:58 PM
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mmmmmm.....no. Start doing oys.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/23 06:21 PM
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The thousand foot tow rope is tight now and I'm keeping an eye out to watch for slack. Stop this.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/23 05:04 PM
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This chart...OMG!
/r/askMRP22/09/23 04:08 PM
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I’m slowly using my own measuring stick and it feels good. When these behaviors are new, you do need to use external sources to validate your trajectory. Being skeptical of your own thoughts and feelings is a valuable skill you can develop here. Keep your foot on the gas.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/23 04:01 PM
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be better at leading her hamster out of its maze when its obsessing over something, cuz she is having a hard time letting go of stuff. I’m quite laissez-faire in those episodes, perhaps I could more actively lead and let guide the hamster to let go of whatever it is chewing on. If you're talking about her hamstering over you and/or your relationship, then use your control game appropriately. If she's just hamstering over work or her mother or something, then fixing it is not your job and probabl…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/23 08:42 PM
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“You are addicted to cycles of release from tension.” It made so much sense to me. I was an addict to easy ejaculation with porn, I relaxed from responsibility with alcohol, I escaped down time and self-reflection with social media, I still feed the emptiness inside me with food and overeating,........ I am a recovering addict to pleasure, This doesn't need to be so complicated. None of this will be going away or getting extricated. You'll just replace the former cycles with others that you deci…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/23 08:30 PM
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Being the peacekeeper is a cop out. Your wife doesn't want a peacekeeper, because a peacekeeper lets everyone walk all over them I think peacekeeper is a fine thing to aim for. But he's misinterpreting how to do it. Because everyone who has ever had 'peacekeeper' in their job description is either carrying a firearm or driving a tank. And they are very skilled at NOT compromising.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/23 08:20 PM
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me being accused I am selfish living for myself Everyone has already piled on here this but it's worth repeating: Hearing this above is probably THE BEST external indicator that you're pointed in the right direction.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/23 08:06 PM
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200 posts deep and stopped looking. I hope usefulwalk4 posts to help, but he's like 95 OYShit's Idk if this is what razzmatazz is pointing out but I'll say, useful walk was in great physical shape, he had proven results outside of his marriage but he was 95 oys's in still waiting on her.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 08:24 PM
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read a lot of hack3ge’s comments and posts after you mentioned him in a prior exchange. Idk if he ever hit eject, but it seemed like he wished he had I remember seeing this comment to you about former users who wished they'd divorced but didn't feel like they had a good reason or excuse. Anyone who thinks they need a reason other than "I want", isn't really switched on.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 08:09 PM
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I want to fuck her.... ....I probably won't This means you're the orbiter. Nothing wrong with that. This is way more valuable than using your wife to guage your attractiveness. You're getting flak for this because you're building her up (pedestrianizing her) to a status she's not earned.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 05:07 PM
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Your writing isn’t bad.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 02:37 PM
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Is English your first language and if it’s not can you tell me what accent to imagine while I read this?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 04:22 AM
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A lot of hamstering for sure. Good to see it’s all about you.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 04:18 AM
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She’s an orbiter.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 03:40 AM
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“She actually said to me….” I don’t like the term shit test because it implies it’s a bad thing but this has to apply. Watch what she does, not what she says. “Advice or irony” Experiment outside of your comfort zone and progressively overload. Don’t write things off because of initial discomfort.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 03:28 AM
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Haha! Girls like guys that just “get it”
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/23 09:37 PM
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And it feels absolutely shitty to get only compliance. Consider dropping your worries about this because you're getting inside of her head here. Speaking of getting inside of her head; your disappointment about the sex you're having makes it impossible for her to feel anything other than disappointment about having sex with you. Eventually, you might consider sadistically leaning into caring ONLY about compliance. You might end up surprised how much you like it. Also, stop thinking about it in t…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/23 02:15 PM
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ILYBINILWY speech last November. OOOOwf
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/23 01:55 PM
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Even at work, the people who progress the fastest are not generally the ones heads down grinding for years, but the ones who deliver the key stuff consistently. This is an excellent point.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/23 04:13 PM
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This advice it try hard negotiation and you know it. “Buy a suit!” Lol U/fataddict consider the possibility that you could become the type of guy women will try hard for, and put effort into courting you
/r/askMRP17/09/23 03:35 AM
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“Women need to be courted throughout the day” This is false. “Kiss her good morning, rub her shoulders, tap her ass” This is bad advice, especially for a guy in his situation.
/r/askMRP17/09/23 12:17 AM
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but something that I need. If this was true, you would be seeking out alternatives on the 26 days/m that she's not draining your balls. Do you know the names of your top 3 potential alternatives? It's fucked up, but if you don't, you are DEMONSTRATING that it's not a need. All that plowhorsing and money is fine IF it's tied to things you want for yourself. It will at best be neutral and at worst detract from your sexual strategy in your relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/23 11:19 PM
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I'm tempted to tell you what it means to me but I'm going to wait a few weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/23 10:57 PM
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I think it's you who has said, Frame is your agenda. Whinemoreplease says it's your worldview. I can't remember who said it, but someone once described that having a good frame doesn't mean you can convince lots of others to adopt your worldview, it is not having to convince anyone else of anything. So, I'll ask myself often about a specific agenda or perspective I have, "If ZERO other humans were to ever understand or support this goal or perspective of mine, would I still want it?"
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/23 06:23 PM
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Have sex around 4 times a month, but enthusiasm has basically not improved. I get a lot of pushback when initiating (tired, headache, stressed, not in the mood, uncomfortable, etc.) but then compliance. My initiations really suck as I basically wait for the evening and then move to the bedroom and initiate. The way your post describes this is that you bring 10x as much horsepower to the plow as she does and in return you ONLY GET unenthusiastic compliance sex 4x per month. I'm assuming you think…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/23 06:13 PM
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Have you read this?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/23 04:36 PM
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So not sure what I can and can't say here anymore as she's a big part of my life. Write out what happend and what you did. Once written, press "Ctrl F" and add she or her in the "Find in page" box in the lower left. If your post (and your life) is overly focused on her, it will look like a Christmas tree. Try to rewrite it with less focus on her and more on yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/23 04:18 PM
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The amount of effort needed to convert these women to IRL dates and the logistics involved as a single father dealing with single moms is alot. You're probably trying too hard. Also, lose some weight.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/23 03:48 PM
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The state will do this before putting you in the electric chair. This isn't because they care about the inmate so much as it is to make everyone in society feel better about themselves.
/r/askMRP11/09/23 11:03 PM
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Am I wrong for wanting to be loved? Not wrong ​ Where can I get this deep seated need satiated? If anywhere? There are lots of creative ways to do this. In my opinion, the ideal is to learn ways to create love for yourself internally and when you're feeling like you have more than enough, start sharing it with others. The second best way, and by far the easiest is to get a dog. ​ Or is it possible to completely kill the desire to be loved? If so, HOW? Killing the desire for it seems like the wro…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/23 04:35 PM
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I asked what you would tell you to do. Instead of pointing to a solution you outlined 3 (further refusing to make the choice for yourself). 1 which you know is appealing 2 which you know is unappealing 3 which you're unsure about and you reveal why you're stuck. ​ The kind of girl you consider good wife material, however you define that, is not born, she's made. Maybe it's a modonna whore complex, or NAWALT, or a scarcity mentality but you don't think you can replicate what you have with her wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/23 04:19 PM
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DON'T self deprecate. Don't do that. You're thinking right now about saying, "yea, darn, I should know better, I suck and I'll try to cut it out" but don't do that either. You're doing fine. You just need to reward women you like with your touch. Don't look at where you touch them, start with their upper arms or shoulders, then their thighs and/or lower backs and escalate until you're touching their privates.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 09:00 PM
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I remember a 'trick' I used on myself early on is when I felt like I was getting solicited for an argument, I would imagine everything I might say would be interpreted as 100% not true; "I deserve______. I expect_______. You need to_____. ____ is important to me" Unless the other person is soliciting your guidance with frantic desperation, these types of statements are easily interpreted as something you don't believe. You are the one who is desperate. And you want the other person's help convin…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 08:48 PM
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Try giving some examples of the interactions. also,
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 08:19 PM
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So do I just like stop talking to my wife? Walk away anyways? yes and yes. I was temped to put some links in here but you're probably right that you ought to read less.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 08:18 PM
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Comfort tests my foot. good point. u/Environmental-Top346 you will never need to worry about identifying a comfort test.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 08:05 PM
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Was about to approach a table of women and hesitated for just a second and a guy I've met at other meetups who is awkward AF just went for it. So yeah, be more bold. ...... Again, failed to kino despite a few obvious opportunities This is all good experience and you're very aware of what you're missing.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 08:00 PM
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The app has been trying to get me down to 4 drinks a week and there is steady progress in this area. The app has been trying? How many drinks do you want each week?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 06:01 PM
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Social Are you really working 70 hours a week? Are you able to inject socializing into what you do for a living?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 05:40 PM
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I said I’m on a trajectory to get another margarita .....It was Heaven sent. This story is terrific. ​ I told my wife it seems my new career has found me and if she’d be into filming shit. This is a perfect tease btw. Subtle disqualification without any personal attack.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 05:18 PM
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I'm certain there's a more graceful way to get through this Your behavior though all of this seems fine. You talk about it like it's all happening to you and you're just a helpless passenger, "Got another shit test, got this, got that, led to me getting laid." Start thinking about it like you're the one in charge of what's happening in your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 05:01 PM
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Contrast this story where you un-apologetically told her what you wanted with the part where you asked her about the rent, open, house, marriage/divorce and she mirrored your uncertainty back at you.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 04:01 PM
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This week has been focused on withdrawing attention and affection from my wife. rule 9 Don't do this unless you're going to replace this with attention for something else. Fantasy football and fantasizing about vacation homes doesn't count. Also, when she gets mopey and serious and starts talking about friendship, this is the perfect time for you get very silly and start taking her shirt off. That's what a real friend would do.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 03:46 PM
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I've got no game... If you read bang by Roosh V, you'll see that game has less to do with technique and more to do with unflappably pursuing your agenda of escalation. Related to what you're worried about, it probably has more to do with your willingness to escalate as opposed to your probability of succeeding. ​ I'm not there yet... Thinking this way IS your problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/23 05:39 PM
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keep them in here as examples These examples are valuable : )
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/23 03:46 PM
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Hard to practice unprompted blowjobs rpeed could probably teach anyone. ​ Legacy is in work but I need to get my footing here. I want to pass down a shitload of rental properties for my child(ren). Need to have more kids but want to move first. 90% of all inherited wealth is consumed by the second generation. This isn't everyone spending 90%, it's 90% of the kids spending everything and it's because most 'kids' aren't taught how to handle it. Your 6yo is going to inherit you financial values and…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/23 04:25 PM
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I believe I'm good at both but take it too far sometimes like a moron. Maybe, but maybe you're not going far enough. My favorite example of this was a guy here guessing the age of some woman in front of a group of people. She was probably 40, and he guessed 50 (cus that's really funny) and when everyone in the group reeled back in horror, he chimed in again with "60!?" ​ But if you want to pull her into YOUR frame, you'll probably need to figure out whatever the fuck it's actually about. I reali…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/23 04:07 PM
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brought up a cocky, selfish thing I’d done days prior, accosted me about it, Good for you. Rian stone once pointed out that shit tests are when she's saying "you did, you do, you will, you, you, you, you" and comfort tests are when she says "I feel, I think, I, I, I, I,". Of coarse this will be confusing when she says, "You did, I feel, and you always do, and I think," and you shouldn't be trying to get in her head anyways. Something I found to be way easier is to just treat all of this as her t…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 10:38 PM
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I can get passive aggressive in a teenage type way Can be snarky/mock deeper than a typical negging Insecure in a way where I second guess or overthink things. A good tease is an obviously false accusation. The last I plan to not sure how have a stronger frame and not be too worried on what others think when I don’t care about them Why not let everyone think/feel what they want? Especially the ones you care about. *also- needy with intimacy and sex. I’ve made improvements here overtly but not in…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 10:11 PM
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Failed a comfort test on Friday, but in the fallout I finally felt what it means to be the oak and filled that role, and she actually got super horny and we did it in the shower 10' after she was crying. Are you sure you failed this?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 08:57 PM
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​ I want to be a 1% income earner (<500k/year). I'm okay with falling short of this, but I'm making ~150/yr currently and want more. I want to do whatever I want, and not feel guilty for it. Ever. I want unprompted blowjobs and sex regularly. I want a legacy to pass down to my kids. Are you practicing these things with what you have available right now?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 08:50 PM
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With the current logistics, as we still live together, dating would be ineffective There's a guy on here who's experimenting with homelessness and meth to enhance his romantic life so this is all just approach anxiety excuses.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 08:43 PM
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Stay plan/Go plan - by August '23 (one year since starting OYS - well I now have reached this deadline but not the goal, so I will keep it here to keep me honest) My LTR is long distance for the next while. What would you tell you if you saw some other guy write all this? There's lots of "I can't, I wouldn't, I never, haven't tried" throughout the rest of your writing. What do you make of that?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 08:32 PM
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I’ve shifted from unconsciously incompetent to consciously incompetent with all this stuff What are your worst/most unattractive behaviors? What improvements have you made or are you planning to experiment with. Be brief.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 08:23 PM
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I have conflicting thoughts about this situation If you were giving advice to another man that you respected and admired, what would you like to see him do?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 06:56 PM
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My wife stopped me and said, “do you think there is any reason I would want to have sex with you?” I said with a smile, “I can think of lots of reasons.” Don't do her thinking for her. This is a classic example of your rational self trying to negotiate and "sell" her something in exchange for transactional sex. ​ It feels like a game of chicken She's going to play whatever game your container makes, so be aware of what you allow to go on in your head. ​ I shouldn’t have to bat 1000 to get some n…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 04:57 PM
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Mentality: I’m struggling in terms of a “true” mission in life. Doesn't have to be some big grand "change the world" bs If you're in doubt about the longer term, focus on something shorter term that you can envision clearly.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 04:25 PM
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The trick is to make these judgements for yourself and if you feel regret about how you've spent some of your time, you're not being selfish enough.
/r/askMRP25/08/23 07:48 PM
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If you want unsolicited blowjobs, telling her that will do very little, but daily guiding her to her knees and unzipping gets her there. This from Sepean is exactly what I mean by demonstrate it, don't deer it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/23 08:40 PM
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Back to reality: Try taking your daughter to a park with other kids and parents who are bored ​ Social: Find some friends without young kids with a shared hobby ​ Relationship: Have you done the 'letting go of anger' exercises referenced in Steel's guide? imo, it shouldn't be about blaming yourself so much as forgiving yourself (and realizing you can't blame anyone else)
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/23 04:32 PM
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The last couple weeks even more so, with complimenting me more frequently, saying..... Put more stock into what she does ​ I’ll be having the second part of my anniversary this weekend where she’ll be the one wining, dining and entertaining me. I’ll report back next week on how everything goes This could be fine, let her work for you. But don't report on how she's doing in oys, especially if you're not going to be a guy who's just letting life happening to him.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/23 04:22 PM
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rule 9
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/23 04:11 PM
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Don’t do tldr. Write out what’s important and if you think it can be summarized, the details probably are not relevant.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/23 05:22 AM
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This example seems fine.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/23 03:21 AM
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Why. Life is a struggle, I've got my own internal shit to deal with, my wife struggles with anxiety (HOA stuff is sort of what brought me here), my son is 5 and thats hard as it is. You've got this backwards. Read your post, YOU are the depressed and anxious one. Life in 2023 is as good as it gets. Kids from age 2-10 are (probably) as easy and simple as it gets. I've started taking on more of the parenting and pointing out flaws in my wife's "gentle parenting" approach. This shit flows downhill …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 05:36 PM
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An issue I see with the approach relying too much on her I remember rpeed once telling a guy to stop looking for green lights and just accelerate into yellow ones. Escalating slower can be really fun for you, because you get to take your time and observe what you're doing to her. Your speed of escalation shouldn't need to be calibrated to avoid 'no'. If she's down, calibration won't matter.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 05:06 PM
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I am using more compliance tests to better gauge the level of interest, DO NOT do this to make judgements about yourself or her interest in you. from the 16 commandments: I. Never say ‘I Love You’ first Women want to feel like they have to overcome obstacles to win a man’s heart. They crave the challenge of capturing the interest of a man who has other women competing for his attention, and eventually prevailing over his grudging reluctance to award his committed exclusivity. The man who gives h…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 04:28 PM
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I have failed all of my goals since my last OYS Don't be so hard on yourself. Your plan to replace your non-preferred behaviors with ones that you like better can be very effective.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 04:18 PM
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I have made a decision not to accept anything into my life which doesn’t align with my values, desires, goals and mission. I will be more assertive expressing this overtly wherever possible to ensure others who I care about are aware of and can consider my perspective. You are soooo close here. Why do you think it's important to DEER this instead of simply demonstrating it? To me, it sounds like you're going to walk around asking for permission and support.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 04:11 PM
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That said, I just reinforced my wife’s tendency to throw a tantrum to get her way. amen. don't forget it
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 04:03 PM
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"Women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally. Men are only loved if they can provide something." This is balony...baloney...balogna? idk You can become the source of the thing you're looking for. If and when you do, you can make some judgements about who you want to share it with.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 03:46 PM
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This is a good question and I bet what PD is pointing out is that your focus is on the outcome, instead of the behavior. If you're working with a client and they say, "I want a 6 pack", this is a fine goal, but they can't get there by thinking about their tummy fat and looking in the mirror all the time trying to get the light to hit them just right. They might want to reframe their goal as "I want to eat 'xyz' and perform 'abc' workout with excellent discipline for 90 days" or whatever.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/23 06:43 PM
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having 2 in the kitty. *keeping
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/23 06:29 PM
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I found myself frustrated a lot. I took my spouse on a date. We may get to go on a quick date once a month if we're lucky. We were both dressed up. We had a great dinner and came back home. Within 3 minutes of getting home, my spouse is getting out of her clothes into pajamas and into the bed to play on her phone. I don't know why, but this infuriated me. Bullshit This kind of thing is maddening to me since I have communicated over and over again in a variety of ways that I am not needy at all, …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/23 04:29 PM
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her trying to get you to tell her no, you trying to get her to get you to tell her no. I think she was trying to get me to say "yes" but knew I wasn't going to. I'm saving this FOREVER.
/r/askMRP21/08/23 03:46 PM
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A couple of questions I have, You broke iron rule #2. You describe it as if this was good sexual strategy. Do you actually believe that or do you think you had enough attraction generated for this unattractive behavior to not derail you? Would it have been better to say like wmp "Are you sure you want to know?" (I don't expect you to answer this one) You say, don't hand over your balls in exchange for saving the marriage. Do you now have an unspoken or spoken agreement in your marriage that your…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/23 03:44 PM
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remember that this is all not so serious I like this part of your post. The rest makes you sound pretty helpless.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/23 03:12 PM
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There were some comments from u/Sepean in the “dont let ppl treat you like shit” post that seem to directly apply to your story. You’re saying that you repeatedly tried to stand up for yourself and you still get this infantilizing treatment. Not only do you have a perfect excuse for why she does this to you. You say that you’ve moved on, despite writing about the event here and remembering everyone who was there and somehow feeling like there was some “price you paid”. What was the price? Who’s …
/r/askMRP01/08/23 03:29 AM
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If I had to Handel it again, knowing what I know now I would have waited untill we were alone and just told her "don't talk to me like that ever again" then ignore all "what do you mean, Have you even had the chance to try this second approach? If not, what do you make of that?
/r/askMRP31/07/23 04:55 PM
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That makes perfect sense. Pain for pains sake(like a cold shower) is silly. Pain resulting from failure pursuing something worthwhile is what butters so eloquently describes as beautiful.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/23 03:53 PM
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True. Rpeed’s description above is like poetry, but nobody has described it better than this: https://youtu.be/mZOM6hOnEBE I have to admit, I do need you to spell out the ‘that said’ :)
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/23 10:27 AM
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What’s wrong with your smv in your opinion? With your stats, I cannot tell if you’re fat
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/23 04:24 PM
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I really love anytime I see a big fat hunk of the sidebar getting squeezed into a tight little post like this. Especially when it’s with actual details from a guys life and experiences. The main things I see you talking about here are “You cannot have an easy problem/heartbreak free life” “Indifference can be an effective tool in relationships but it is the antithesis of love.” I’ll elaborate here to say that the way we all love our children (and most people love their children more than themsel…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/23 04:05 PM
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“An unattractive man trying to control a woman is repulsive but an attractive man will become repulsive without control.” This is a valuable dynamic to be pointing out. At some point, lacking willingness to be protective and control is perceived as not being invested in her and the relationship. https://www.forums.red/p/TheRedPill/5104/indifference_and_control_why_you_don_t_wanna_be_chad/683281 It’s not exactly easy. I’m curious to know, with the first gf, do you think you were still learning an…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/23 10:55 AM
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Dude, awesome story. Everything you think was a failure was definitely NOT failure. After these other guys told this girl you were trying to fuck her and she continued to hang out with you, that is as green of a light as you could ever expect. She told me that.... vibe is good.... Everything after this was her being really patient, waiting for you to escalate. There was no more shit tests, nor barriers, anything like that. ​ I didn't feel natural....would've been forced You can't do anything new…
/r/TheRedPill13/07/23 06:44 PM
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My 4 year old likes to sing and dance and pretend she's the little mermaid. It's ridiculous because she has legs, not a fin, mermaids aren't real, her dad's not yoked like king triton (yet), and she often doesn't get all the words right. I could explain all of this to her and tell her why she's so off base with this fantasy, I could tease her about how absurd it is, but this is probably missing the mark for teasing. Or I could just enjoy the show.
/r/askMRP12/07/23 03:36 PM
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Me too : )
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/23 11:00 PM
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unwillingness / inability to adapt in both of us Spot on. I don't know his credentials or job prospects but he's gonna have to work at mcdonalds to pay some bills soon while he searches for the real job. You're 48, 6'4", successful and not fat. Your perceived prize level to women will only be limited by your own prize mentality.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/23 11:00 PM
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I have a strong feeling that I should.......I feel I could You brought up that you already know better than to commit energy to worrying about this. You asked; how to move past it? ​ When I'm otherwise busy and I choose not to worry Your two levers for this are focusing on something else that's worthwhile or being deliberate in choosing to NGAF.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/23 10:44 PM
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I am getting quite frequent shit tests, and I am less afraid of AA my way through them. My injury has for example been a constant source of shit testing. Lately the testing feels more fun than annoying, and no nuclear shit tests in a few weeks. Things got so much simpler when I stopped trying to decipher what type of test was coming but to interpret everything as flirting. There's flirting I like and want more of and flirting I don't like and don't want or I'm just not in the mood sometimes. ​ S…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/23 08:19 PM
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glazed over emotionally when dealing with her
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/23 07:41 PM
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I have known this for a while ......yet I don't seem to able to move to being someone who gets it and just grinds away, welcoming each next obstacle. knowing this, what's stopping you from simply dropping your concern about it?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/23 07:37 PM
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In case you skipped this, it's one of the best posts here, period.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/23 07:23 PM
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Your dating pursuits sound pretty thirsty, texting this woman who's not into you about your 'wants'. You already know it though, Namely, bottom feeding It's not a waste. You can use this as your real world evidence for how that goes. ​ Being a young man needy for income and a 48 year old needy for female validation are two entirely different things, but I wonder if your internal self talk relates to how you're talking to your son He's been struggling to get _______, mostly because he was too sur…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/23 07:16 PM
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Wow!!! Damn.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/23 10:33 PM
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per steel, Just a reminder before you post in this thread this week. OYS is to talk about what's important, not what is unimportant. So many people who post talk about the latter. Before you hit that save button ask yourself if you are talking about what is important. There's your warning this week. Be selfish, dismissive, amused and communicate less....WITH YOURSELF
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/23 03:42 PM
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Try a salad next time.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/23 04:11 PM
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The last couple weeks have been great. Stop kidding yourself. You can do so much better. ​ ​ Went to the mall and got some more clothes, also ended up picking up a cologne for the first time. Continued lifting regularly and had someone spot me for bp which was cool, helped to push a bit further than I usually do. This part is all fine. ​ Returning home went as I expected it to, met with avoidance and anger which I didn't engage with. Ended up talking with the wife and clarifying things. Expectat…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/23 05:59 PM
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I'm glad I asked about this. It doesn't seem that complicated to me. You are the DADDY in your house, right? I'm not sure if this makes a difference but how old is he? You said yourself, you already let this habit slide and develop. You understand better than most that a devoloped bad habit won't turn around without some whining and confusion from the kids. It's great to seek out things you want but I wonder if you're just going around looking for faults in others to be upset about. You're fucki…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/23 06:15 PM
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I'm unclear about the expectation here. Does he wear pajamas at the park and you want that to stop? Or do you want hit to wear jeans while he plays with his legos?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/23 05:18 PM
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Suggestions welcome. Does he have anything to do in the morning that calls for non pajama clothes? Do your kids have chores? Do you make them play outside? Do they help you with tasks?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/23 04:06 PM
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Based on last year earnings, wife can demand ~30k a year for 3.5 years (over 100k). This is absurd, as she is expected to graduate next year and land on a high earning job which will put her earnings higher than mine for at least a year. This is probably nothing. Multiply your anticipated net income by the ~50ish years left in your life and ask yourself if that 100k sounds like a lot compared to one third of your 30's. Especially if you're the breadwinner, the only reason to stay with her is bec…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/23 03:59 PM
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Early on, you had some nudges for me that took a while, but turned out to be groundbreaking. It's worth saying out loud, I found you to be very brash and irritating when I first arrived here. Luckily, I had the resourcefulness to understand that I wasn't here to get told what I wanted to hear from guys I already agreed with or related to.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/23 03:44 PM
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It ain't rocket science, This here. "Be attractive, don't be unattractive. Buy low, sell high. Calories in, calories out" People are desperate to convince themselves that it's more complicated. The benefit of reading the entire sidebar is you keep flipping rocks over and after you've turned over every rock in the forest you realize it's all the same bugs you saw under the first one.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/23 03:35 PM
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Holy shit, that link! :D
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/23 03:22 PM
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difference between objective and mission I like this post. Those who complain about moderation, harsh reddit words and lack of content, do not deserve it. Also, the fact that whinemoreplease would come here to slap you around for reacting to some rando's grievance should make you feel pretty lucky. Don't waste that.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/23 06:04 PM
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Happy Birthday! Sorry to hear it's been disappointing so far.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/23 04:04 PM
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I’ve been more successful when I straight delegated or just gave a clear expectation. Is it this simple?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/23 03:53 PM
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You might check out the book "this naked mind"
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/23 07:14 PM
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easily solved by bringing him back over to where I was doing the laundry and including him in the folding and putting away of the clothes, I liked this part of your story. I liked that you probably had planned on finishing this laundry the night before and you weren't going to let anyone's whining stop you. ​ Plans away from home Setting goal for myself to go camping alone for a weekend. Will start with creating minimalist packing list and then identifying good locations. Then will schedule it i…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/23 07:12 PM
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This is exactly where I'd push back on you. Do you actually "need" to live in a house that isn't water damaged, falling apart or has rodents and ants everywhere? Plenty of homeless people all over the US are proving that they do not need that. Maybe living in a house that's properly maintained is something you "want". So you have to make a decision about spending your time (and resources) on that vs: - Eating food you don't need -Working for clients who can't pay you -Going shopping when you wan…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/23 03:21 PM
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Damn, I'm glad I asked. I want to watch that again now too.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/23 08:48 PM
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things/stuff at home that need maintenance/fixing Ayn Rand really helped me piece this together, even though it was a long time ago when I read those. She talked about sacrifice and how it can't exist unless you're subjugating your values to something else. The extreme example used in Galt's speech was that if you fight and die in a war but you actually value your country and cause more than your life, this would not be a sacrifice. If you work to feed your kids because YOU want your kids to sta…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/23 03:41 PM
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I accept this explanation completely. Maybe where I was getting stuck with you saying you can't eliminate it is that I'd define resentment as something negative and your definition is broader and doesn't always have to be negative? BTW, I only watched it once way before mrp but I loved Mother! I thought this movie was supposed to be about the relationship between God and (mother) Nature and the story of the bible.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/23 03:30 PM
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Women stop (and start) resenting men whenever the hell they feel like it. Their dread can mitigate or exacerbate it, but nothing can eliminate it. I just had a wild thought about this statement and I want to argue against what you're saying. I think you can eliminate resentment. This guy's resentment comment absolutely grinds my gears just like it did yours. I suppose it's because he's happy to have her be his judge and he thinks he deserves whatever judgement she has. Even though it ought to be…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/23 10:09 PM
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Get time for myself You already have 24 hours every day for yourself. The next time you're feeling pinched on time start asking yourself what the worst case scenario would be if something takes too long or what if you let some things slide so that you can put your actual priorities first.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/23 05:51 PM
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excellent comment.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/23 05:10 PM
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3 years of what I truly desire at max Are you able to define and spell out what this is?
/r/askMRP19/04/23 09:09 PM
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I’m full of anger Man, you are making me feel like a fortune teller. Thank you. You can do your fishing however you like but my recommendation is to dogmatically bring a rod and/or net to a body of water. If you can't enjoy that because it's not unique enough, then get a bow, a jet ski and spear gun, grab catfish with your bare hands. Tell us how you like it. u/steelsharpenssteel
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/23 09:30 PM
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think I described my past runs as clearly I meant, can you describe what a good run would look like. What's the story, what did the guy do? ​ ​ can you define what [progressed where it mattered] is? Consistency. Sustainability. I keep wiping out. Each wipe out is a referendum on the ship and the guy who built it and captained it. I'm not sure I like this mentality. To me, wiping out is a part of the natural cycle. Holding some expectation that you'll avoid it or that it's proof that you're flawe…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/23 06:35 PM
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This means I don't know who the fuck I am Man, you walked right into that one. lol
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/23 05:20 PM
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I never really have been pleased with my past runs at it. Could you clearly define what this above would look like? I would actually encourage you to spell this out. ​ If I didn't have frame. I like wmp's definition that frame is just your worldview. So you always 'have frame'. If you feel like you don't have it, that's an indicator that yours sucks and it's time to browse around zillow or home depot to see if you could fix yours up or should move all together. But you ought to do this with inte…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/23 04:42 PM
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You mean ignore her comment as in just continue to escalate despite the comment? This. Feeling up her legs isn't gross. Who knows why she said that or feels that. \Maybe she thinks you're gross? Maybe she thinks her legs are gross? Maybe she's flirting and it's a test to see if you're actually capable of doing something legitimately gross (and exciting) in the bedroom.* Bottom line is she's having some kind of feeling or idea around that. Let her have her feelings without trying to react properl…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/23 05:58 PM
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I upped the escalation in the car on the way home by feeling up her legs, but got a “gross” from her. I think I needed to more smoothly escalate, or go for a kiss first. For where you're at (140lbs, 19%), this kind of comment should just be ignored. Depending on how you feel about it, you'll eventually want to start thinking about NOT rewarding this kind of comment with further escalation.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/23 05:17 PM
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spot on.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/23 05:03 PM
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Rewrite all of this and replace "my wife" with "my mom". Then read it back and ask why you're letting this woman have authority over your wiener.
/r/askMRP15/03/23 09:11 PM
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Whoa! Good to see you.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/23 06:44 PM
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but the conversations were boring me, so I'm sure they were boring them as well. Sometimes a great 1/2 step that doesn't involve sexualizing a conversation is to go into some unique topic that you're fascinated by. This is assuming that you enjoy sharing about it and the point is to make the conversation interesting for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/23 06:24 PM
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I’m struggling with being attracted to most women. I have a certain type, and it seems if they aren’t that type, that I’m not really into them. The type is nerdy or really intelligent women. I bet when you used to watch porn you weren't exclusively searching for 'really intelligent' women. This is a buffer. You're using this to talk yourself out of women you're scared to approach.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/23 06:08 PM
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This is the most selfish thing I’ve done in recent memory. More of this can alleviate this: haven’t been able to fully shed the resentment ​ Being selfish can absolutely include things like keeping your own kids fed and thriving plus lots of chores around YOUR house. But, if there's things you don't actually care about, feel free to keep it that way. Don't deprive yourself of your desire to initiate and escalate sexually.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/23 05:53 PM
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yikes, u/broadbread the best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago, the second best time is today.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/23 03:26 PM
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You're like 5'9" and 139lbs. You have so much writing here and I can't find where you're going to the gym or planning to go to the gym or anything. This should be the only thing on your MRP to do list.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/23 06:16 PM
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This is an incredible post. I remember once how unfathomable it was to imagine posters I looked up to could have ever been in a bad place with their relationships with their wives or themselves. Yours is probably the best example I can think of where a person can go back to see you like this and read in great detail about how you made these changes. Not to mention you, you are excellent at describing where you're at to someone who's not there and maybe hasn't ever been there. ​ As WISNIFG notes …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/23 04:41 PM
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The constant interaction makes it difficult to see where my frame ends and hers begins. I'd encourage you to devote less time to thinking about this. ​ constantly asking myself, "Is this really how you want to spend your time?" This question will simplify your life tremendously.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/23 04:28 PM
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That’s the reaction, but the point isn’t to ignore them as absurd. .......Therefore I choose to notice the places at which she is picking, and use that as an opportunity to see if my ego is preventing me from being more free, consistent with who I want to be. This is a great observation
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/23 04:08 PM
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Just say what needs to said especially if its logistics Clip your fingernails bro Do it for her
/r/askMRP07/03/23 10:38 PM
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We decided that I would have to talk up 10 girls by the end of the week as a challenge. I tried A+
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/23 11:25 PM
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"I made a commitment to you when I married you to stay with you no matter what \am committed to you* while you're so shallow/onlythinkofsex/somethingelse, \becoming attractive* I don't feel secure in this relationship, \feel anxiety* what if Igetfat/stopfuckingyou/something else." \Please tell me what to do or* fix it for me. If not this, then what do you want from her?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/23 06:03 PM
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it’s seems like it’s obvious that I’m approaching someone with the intent to hit on them This is ALWAYS obvious to someone who is attractive, so worry less about trying to hide it.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/23 04:21 PM
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congrats on the creatine?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/23 12:00 AM
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terrified of doing cold approaches Just focus on talking to strangers when you're in line at grocery stores for now. And being simultaneously less fat and heavier.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/23 11:54 PM
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I’m happy to have steady, incremental growth and progress in these areas together for the next 40 years, and have an awesome combined life as a result. Excellent place to be. Basically the opposite of this guide to misery.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/23 11:50 PM
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I need to work on my comfort tests. There’s a reoccuring one lately where she is looking for me to provide her reassurance that I will love and stay with her no matter what. That's not a comfort test. If she'd doing this in a way that is sweet and enjoyable, you might consider treating it as her flirting with you.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/23 11:41 PM
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u/uemcgill described here how detailed his plans were. I'm guessing he wasn't talking to her about it a lot beforehand. And if he had gotten to the point of bringing it up, it would've been because his mind was already made up. (He can correct me if that's wrong)
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/23 12:28 AM
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My plan is to have the conversation about starting the process, then file and provide her a copy a couple days later, but also state that I remain open to working things out. This (talking/FMOFU) seems like a horrible idea and I think you know it. You're open to working things out right now right? This is just a stab in the dark but I wonder if this is coming from you thinking that you haven't covertly communicated clearly enough (through a lack of your time and attention) that you're seriously …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/23 08:55 PM
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The (real) problem is she’s incredibly lazy and selfish. This should be working to your benefit. You've been clear in here about your expectations and vision IMO so I've little doubt you've conveyed this to her clearly. For whatever reason, she might not see it as her best/easiest path that she would selfishly want to compete for, but there will be plenty of girls who will see it that way.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/23 11:05 PM
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Getting my weight down to 165 lbs (from current 178). I have always liked a lean physique and it helps with my running. 8 months ago you weighed 5lbs less with the same lifts as above? Most of your OYS is copied and pasted from that first draft. Even your goals? Did you make progress on anything you chose in the last 8 months? Are you just counting down the days until you die?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/23 10:39 PM
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once rewarded for solipsism you are fucked. This is absolutely not true. Solipsism is a feature not a bug
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/23 10:23 PM
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This is hilarious and it sounds like you know it too. ​ other times it's like walking on eggshells when Stomp on those eggshells until they turn into sand.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/23 10:12 PM
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Identify something YOU can do about it and do it. Apathetically let it go.
/r/askMRP08/02/23 06:18 PM
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I think you're correct here and I think it's valuable for him to recognize it BUT I'd also say that it's not necessary for him to figure all of this out or go through all of these steps with his wife. More dangerous than ejecting too early is staying and yoyo-ing his self evaluation based on her behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/23 05:05 PM
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What do you think? ...No kids, wife pregnant I think you need to prepare for being even more frustrated with your mom (and feeling even more neglected) when this second baby comes along.
/r/askMRP08/02/23 04:40 PM
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#1 Quite a hard three years #3 lived in different countries #4 proposed to move with me #5 it is a mine baby girl #6 reading a lot of books to integrate her uncontrolled femininity #7 I asked her to consider moving together #9 I felt enormous guilt #2 ,#8 Dude!! You're only two away from an IRON RULES grand slam!!!!!!! Keep it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/23 08:36 PM
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I want to live alone, not have anybody walk in on me on the toilet....as I please and enjoy *myself to the company of many different females \pornhub videos* Please post to oys, 1 month for every year you've been married, and then we can have a vote on allowing you to divorce or not.
/r/askMRP26/01/23 05:21 PM
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instead of me being anxious about sexual rejection and the associated self-pity death spiral, we are having good sex and I am telling her “this is your reward for working so hard all week this is a fantastic thing to turn on it's head.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/23 06:29 PM
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Being reactive and unable to control your stupid feelings is unattractive and should be avoided. But I don't think(?) you believe that's FF's issue. I absolutely think this. It's not looks. I don't think it's his frame?(worldview). And the bar for game within a marriage is abysmally low, just avoid being needy/unattractive. My advice to him is that these goals are too low. If he stays on this track he's going to blow way past all this respectful tone and willing sexual participation within a cou…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/23 04:57 PM
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I'm never gonna not want to pay extra attention to the things you say. Your path and experiences here have been unique IMO. ​ But don't forget to play your nice card. What in the report makes you say this? What in u/FutileFighters sexual strategy would be improved by it? Once a guy is not a fat weakling but he's still having sexual participation problems, I wonder about the "don't be unattractive" issues. I can recall in the oys 20+ range, a lot of stepping on my own dick adjusting to being comf…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/23 11:31 PM
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Respect Tone. ...allowing it kind of sets a norm / precedent. My time. I've gotten a lot better about saying no or answering in ways I know my wife won't like,......I'm fine with and want her to be social, but not at my expense. Appreciation - . put some energy into things I care about (and don't waste energy on silly things and then tell me you're tired). Keeping in shape - She's actually kicked into gear here, so I give her credit for this (and praise heavily). She still needs to lose more wei…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/23 05:24 PM
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I hope you don't feel like I'm stepping on your toes with these questions for him because yours is the ONLY example of OYS > divorce I've witnessed on here that was well organized/executed. And I know you know your sexual strategy. Respect, appreciation, “genuine desire” and all the container words usually bandied around here are just like obscenity. You know it when you see it. And, crucially, when you don’t. Either the girl is willing to crawl through broken glass or she isn’t. This is 100% a …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/23 04:49 PM
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Your oys is good I think, well organized. I like the act like your wife is dead strategy. But don't forget to play your nice card. ​ ​ I wouldn’t even say my expectations are all that high Why not? Why shouldn't they be? Also; - respect, What is this? How would you define respect? Once defined, how do you visualize your ideal of getting it from her? And how would you define not getting it? (because maybe that's just her being a woman). Sometimes I think guys think they're supposed to level up un…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/23 05:24 PM
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hadn't thought of this distinction. Are you able to elaborate and explain how this looks practically or give an example? To be honest, it's not unlike how Roosh describes it in bang. Touching > playfulness > isolation > clothing removal and/or kissing > penetration. And as he points out, if you hit a block, you take one step back and two steps forward. Have you seen the fix the nail video ? When you're trying to get your wife to relax first, you're mistakenly thinking that the proverbial "nail" …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/23 09:27 PM
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Also, u/Tines0 You got a lot of she's in your post. Even your description of keeping your phone away when you're with your kids sounds like an "i'm doing this for them" kindof effort. You are absolutely correct in your self assessment that YOU ARE NOT FUNNY. But this doesn't mean you need to be some kind of serious, dark, brooding dom. Think about how you're probably using humor to cut the tension that you're building. For whatever reason I started to see a real difference in my situation when I…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/23 04:56 PM
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A caveman and his cavewoman are out looking for a cave. They happen uponone. It looks nice, except, who knows if its occupied, empty, or safe? The mostbeta thing the caveman can do here is say "go explore the cave" tohis woman. She'd of course say "hell no". Not because shesself-righteous. Well maybe because shes self-righteous. But because shes a tiny little cavewoman and you're a big caveman with a big stick. And there could be a predator living in there. Why the fuck would she go explore the …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/23 04:25 PM
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pushing my buttons, I get angry and react I wonder if instead of trying to quiet down your reactions (like a nice guy), you might ask why you have these buttons built into you that your girls can press on? For me, I really had to work to embrace the idea that I get to selfishly do whatever I want and if that includes family provisioning, that's my choice. And if I'm doing it all for me, then what I'm doing on a given day is lining up exactly with what I want for myself. I do not have to convince…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/23 10:42 PM
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that shit was fun and not fun all at once as i learned to control my own emotions Do you do control your emotions? Or do you control your behavior in response to your emotions? Because I have never really gotten to a place where I have emotional control. I experience the full spectrum of emotions regularly. And I've found a kinda cool freedom in embracing the idea that I will just stick to all of my plans and desired behavior and let the emotions just do what they want. And it kinda relates to h…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/23 09:59 PM
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weather she's 'keeping up' with you. Not sure I fully understand this point, care to elaborate? ​ When a guy writes in his OYS "She complained I didn't xyz but SHE'S the one who didn't xyz the day before!" he's scoreboarding. Even though laughing it off was appropriate, you still felt the need to tell us about it here. So, you're probably still score boarding in your head OR you're so boring that her complaining like this is somehow a noteworthy part of your week.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/23 09:49 PM
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I think all the time about the way you pointed out that a guy breaths out 85% of his fat loss. A very underrated strength.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/23 04:19 PM
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Morning. She comes downstairs and complains I didn't put the soup pot in the fridge before going to bed last night. The same pot she was eating from and forgot to put in the fridge yesterday. This was so absurd I just laugh out loud and STFU. This is oldest teenager stuff. The fact that it's in here tells me you don't have much else going on in your life and you still care a lot about what she thinks and weather she's 'keeping up' with you. ​ I'm making coffee, and she asks if I can make her too…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/23 07:12 PM
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There's a lesson there, somewhere... fat. You dance around this saying health is your problem...your workouts are inconsistent.... You could lose >100lbs and look like a pretty normalish not-fat guy. That's a 350,000 calorie deficit. Think of that in terms of food and consider how much you'll have to say no to before you get there.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/23 06:46 PM
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I don’t care how these dates go. You're allowed to care about it. Just don't let it be a problem for you. The fact that the outcome is unknown is a major part of why its so tremendously exciting. You can't have that excitement if every date is a slam dunk.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/23 06:38 PM
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In that post of yours, you mention that you suggest or "propose" sex. Don't meekly suggest it. Act like you're really serious about it and let yourself get rejected painfully. Regularly, even daily. Feel free to experiment with the idea that she will forgive you over and over again for being an asshole but she will never forgive you for being a pussy.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/23 06:34 PM
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No arguments is a part of this. You mention this a couple of times. What are the nature of the arguments that you engage in historically?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/23 06:20 PM
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LOTS of words about your past here. Now that this is out of the way, think about behaviors you might want to fold into your future. Meditation is nice because it teaches you to simply suck air while NOT stuffing food in or spilling words out.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/23 06:16 PM
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298 pounds (down 17) Good start. Long ways to go. Familiarize yourself with the sunk cost fallacy and think about how the 45yo old version of yourself will look at what you did with the decade right in front of you.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/23 06:07 PM
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I am also very insecure. I am out of my depth, and additionally alone Wow. Not everyone backs up the claims they make in their ask post so well. Good job.
/r/askMRP10/01/23 05:58 PM
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​ Thanks. It wasn't actually an initiation. It was just an attempt to build some tension via text during the day. Here's how it went. Me: I keep thinking about your perfect _____ and how good it feels to _____. Also, I really like how you are _____ more...sexy AF. This looks like praise. And that's fantastic assuming you really like her ___ and if she's been ___'ing more. You're just speaking the truth as you see it. IF, however, you're saying it because you want something else from her, this is…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/23 11:07 PM
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but I had still been timid about it with my wife. If you were timid with a stranger, your game would suck. You know that. It's not different with your wife and while your conscious mind knows this, your subconscious is screaming at you to hold back for ego protection or whatever. It's scarier because you "think" you can't just move on like you could with a stranger (but you can). ​ Well, I shot my shot but kept it pretty mild in a mid-day text that would typically lead to some sexy back and fort…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/23 08:17 PM
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Like a symphony.... of DEERing Gallop of the stags
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/23 07:43 PM
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Plate means she gets regular sexual attention with no non-sexual attention from you. Open marriage means she gets your time, attention and provisioning and she's someone else's plate.
/r/askMRP04/01/23 06:09 PM
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Do you still weigh 230#'s? Oneitis is a great thing if you have it for yourself. You say you deserve better, so prove it.
/r/askMRP30/12/22 06:23 PM
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One of the main things that has been on my mind (in my life and in this discussion) lately is how whisper described in one of his posts how love flows; Man -> Woman -> Child And not the other direction. I wonder if when you say a woman doesn't understand some of these things (honor, virtue), you mean it like the way a child doesn't understand "I love you". I have little doubt that you remember being a kid and your parents would say "I love you, you really have no idea." and you'd be like "Yea, I…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/22 07:11 PM
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She knows what she wants and sounds Alpha as fuck! Let her get you pregnant and when she moves on, update your dating profiles to be like, "Had my fun. Ready to settle down. I'm pregnant btw and my kid comes first!! Looking for someone family oriented who knows how to treat me right."
/r/askMRP26/12/22 06:19 PM
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​ And while I disagree there, I think in the case of virtue, honor, chivalry...I think women try to understand it. I think they acknowledge it exists and try to characterize it as a thing (put it in a box). I don't want to derail from a point you're making if it's different from where I'm going but wouldn't you say these traits are rightfully in the good beta signal category? They're all great. We need them, but they're not unique or special. You're never going to be surprised after meeting anot…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/22 07:37 PM
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the attempt to do laundry was an attempt to add value that I failed to recognize and praise, and that the apology was a plea for validation and comfort, essentially a comfort test, I would encourage you to not think of it as a test so much. Imagine your 9 year old tried to do the dishes but didn't do it quite right and then she got frustrated and started to act like you wife acted here. You wouldn't think: "oh, this is a shit and/or comfort test, I must pass the 9 year old girl test" You'd proba…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/22 05:23 PM
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I have never seen this post of his. Good shit. I love the distinction between value and virtue. I am excited! Because I think we're reading this differently and now I have dozens of thoughts buzzing around my head. I linked this not just because he points out value vs virtue(orthogonal to attraction). But he mentions intrinsic value vs doing things value (the more valuable you are, the less valuable things you have to do). ​ It highlights that difference that has been known throughout time, that…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/22 09:43 PM
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Sounds like she tried to do some laundry (in an effort to get on board with your newfound cleaning efforts) and she made a couple mistakes in her attempt. Then you approached her about doing it wrong, she acted defensively and tried to blame you for her failure (pretty normal girl behavior), and she later apologized for acting that way and she DEER'ed to you more. Which is exactly what someone who is making a bid for your validation and leadership would do. I don't mean this disparagingly, but d…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/22 05:29 PM
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husband that was fit, had rock-solid frame, was fun, resourceful and not a bitch Intrinsic value vs butler/supplication value
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/22 10:12 PM
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I repeatedly had to fight the urge to run back to my truck and live there again. Instead, I held my ground and asserted myself. The cost was high, but it was worth it. I don't know your living situation but I can hardly imagine how scared of your wife's feelings and words you would have to be to consider living in your truck. Maybe you have a really bad ass truck too. ​ I am encountering less and less resistance. I had been essentially dodging these tests for fifteen years. Now I realize that re…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/22 09:56 PM
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But yeah I need to set this strong boundary now. Think hard about this. You need to be realistic about what you can and cannot control.
/r/askMRP21/12/22 06:08 PM
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I’ve told her that I’m not interested in a relationship anymore if the excessive drinking didn’t stop. You said this with words but your actions have all been: working out, building a better life, demonstrating more value, owning shit, exciting dates, giving her better sex and giving her lots of kino (supplicating attention) when she's on her period. You're basically rewarding her and showing her you're interested in bringing MORE to the relationship where she drinks and stays on the couch. As s…
/r/askMRP21/12/22 05:43 PM
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she called needing my support after a fight with her parents I know that feeling of "I'm so smart and good at relationships, she probably wants my rational verbal feedback". In truth, this was a missed opportunity to solve her problem with some out of the box, dark, degrading and humiliating sex.
/r/askMRP20/12/22 06:17 PM
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sabotaging I absolutely believe all of that about SSRI's but I don't think that's your issue here. (If it was, you'd already be there or well on your way with her, right?) The statement I quoted above was a clear dancing monkey reactionary problem. "I did good thing for sex response and the girl didn't appreciate it appropriately!!" You're not going to be in a position to enjoy her reckless uninhibited femininity if you're so focused on her reactions/progress/appreciation etc. ​ pragmatism Of co…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/22 07:50 PM
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I got her to go off anti-depressants (apparently I'm now the reason for any/all mood swings) You're more invested in her reactions to your dance than you would like to admit. Maybe you're fine with sabotaging her in this way (seriously, that might be what you want) but realize that even if you split, you'll probably just shift this focus over to your favorite plate, constantly measuring her enthusiasm, ect.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/22 05:26 PM
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Good comment, and u/futilefighter everything KTB's ever commented to me has shown to be irrefutable when I've actually put it into practice. Boundaries work better. Set the standard you want, add/withdraw attention, affection, commitment commensurate with how it is met, or not. If she's not acting right, get your attention away from her. And this is almost harder to remember to do, but if she does start acting right, do not let it go without showering her with YOUR CHOSEN form of attention. Then…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/22 04:05 PM
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[I’m really tempted to ask her whether she’d prefer to get in shape and fuck my brains out or take her chances with the dating pool where she’d have to do the same for a lesser guy, but I haven’t gotten that fed up…yet.] You asked last week "what's my weak spot?" or something and it's this temptation. You're wanting to press the issue on her and leave it up to her to decide what she wants for BOTH of you. Could you sleep with the pilates instructor without it being some vindictive "cus muh wafe …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/22 04:44 PM
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Can we invite that guy over to MRP? he'd probably deny it but I think it's u/_rpeed
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/22 12:45 AM
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Good for you. I spent decades of my life trying to get into better shaped and nothing ever worked as effectively as getting fat shamed on the internet every tuesday for an entire year. ​ Whenever I worked on something around the house, I checked in and gave her something to do. Careful not to be scoreboarding. You can ask her to clean up while you're taking a nap (or visa versa). ​ I want to reward her for good behavior, but i need to get away from sex being something I barter for. I think i res…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/22 10:23 PM
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I don't want a divorce right now. If this is where you're at, then don't worry about anything else. The struggle you speak of is irrelevant IF you know this is what you want. That doesn't mean, don't be prepared/know where you stand/have a handle on what could happen etc. But if you don't want it, then you literally don't have to care at all weather or not she wants you to kill the puppy etc. For your control game. I have to admit that I've never seen what I thought was a serious threat of divor…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/22 07:20 PM
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I am torn between...........Do you all think she wants me to kill this puppy I can tell you're not sure what you want. If you're giving her lots of emotional reactionary attention in response to her divorce threats, then it's pretty clear to her that you don't know what you want either. ​ You're here telling us tremendous amounts about her. Wife 41. 5'11" 180 Bench 225x12 And she sounds pretty buff, so I can understand why you want to figure out what she wants and give it to her. Maybe this coul…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/22 06:50 PM
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Let those 6 kids have some of the christmas cookies over the next few weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/22 06:21 PM
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but I've chosen the first strategy so that I have a stronger foundation. That's a fine direction to go in. But right now, you are fat and weak. You can probably only change those things one at a time. And until you change them both you're going to have the sex life of a weak and fat married guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/22 06:16 PM
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6'3, 175 lbs, Let me point out that it is NOT a coincidence you're one of the only guys posting who is not fat. And look at the problems a guy starts to deal with when he's not fat.... ​ Running through the usual steps to get over oneitis. I hooked up with a regular from the harem, and took out another girl that I had been ignoring for a long while. Ended up talking to two sisters there and pulled them back to the spot. Had sex with the one that was more in to me the next day. This last weekend,…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/22 06:12 PM
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40s, 25%bf Had sex three times this week. Went soft during one session and couldn't get it back up. It was a downer for me, so I reflected on it. This never used to happen to me. Obviously I'm getting older and that can cause it. Cialis & cardio.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/22 06:04 PM
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Stats: 36 yo, 6'4”, 222 lbs, Wife 36 yo, together 15 years, 2 kids - 1y & 4y Lifting: strong lifts 5x5 since 11/10: Squat 230, Deadlift 280, Bench 140 Fat AND weak.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/22 06:02 PM
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Summary: Married with Children, Mid-To-Late 40’s, Weight: 208.5 lbs, Height: 5’ 11.75, \Fat and harboring a complex about being less than 6' tall* Top 10% earner, \proud beta bux* Recovering Functional Addict \used to be exciting*
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/22 05:51 PM
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18.9% ​ My vice is Twitter, various tech forums, and a couple of news sites. *Food.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/22 04:38 PM
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I don’t like the frequency. Over a few months now, the escalations pretty much only work on the weekends, so I end up having sex once a week. My problem isn’t what the actual number is to compare, but how I feel \fat I still am* two or three days after, which is pretty much a hormone fog *18.3%. I don’t like being in that state for four days *fat, it is physically uncomfortable and a mental drain.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/22 04:27 PM
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What's her ex's last name? Couldn't you just change your name to that?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/22 10:37 PM
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...by reducing my spending and saying “no” to just about everything... ...amazing how things change when you're not a pussy. Maybe you're back posting in the "married sexual strategy" sub legitimately wanting to talk about your business and debt reduction. You have a 9-5 job and a business on the side that grosses 50k/m and you're weighing out putting and extra $1k/m towards debt or retirement. For this, you could just weigh your interest rate to your expected return. Do you have a question or c…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/22 10:01 PM
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I assume you're saying that a guys' current body weight shouldn't affect his goal.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/22 07:48 PM
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check out the strength standards mentioned here. Within 2 years, Bench press 1.2x, 8 chin ups, squat 1.6x, deadlift 2x.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/22 05:41 PM
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Telling this for her approval? I’m not sure what “this” By "This" I mean, are you telling her "I want a satisfying sex life. And I want it to be with you." with a tone that is seeking her permission. Are you, raising the pitch of your voice on the end of that sentence, "....want it to be with you." in a way that delivers that statement as though you're asking for her permission to have your satisfying sex life with her. Only you know how you're delivering it. ​ Risks in showing her this is what …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/22 11:45 PM
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Nobody is gonna stop you from reading J10 posts if you want. Does she treat you like you have intrinsic value to offer her? It doesn't sound like it.
/r/askMRP28/11/22 10:20 PM
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so wrote it down No problem with writing it down. Do it as much as you need to until her acting like a girl no longer surprises you. I like your sex section. You know what you want and you'll either make it happen or move on to what you want next.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/22 07:24 PM
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Women want masculinity / strength / dominance. Don’t ask questions or for approval. All things we “know” from MRP but reading it and experiencing it have different effects. But it has to be authentic / congruent.] ​ Shit tests and comfort tests ensue. I can’t exactly A&A these but I maintained frame, apologized for the poor judgment but stood my ground where appropriate (no, I’m not a sex addict; yes, I want and intend to have a satisfying sex life, which I want to be with you; no, the pace of p…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/22 06:36 PM
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Good job kicking alcohol. Your description of being 5' 11.75" is very hilarious to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/22 06:23 PM
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I'm doing StrongLifts 5x5. BP, BR, and OHP on pause as I work through some shoulder tendonitis. Meet with an actual pt. You might actually be better off continuing these movements with very low weight. ​ What I did poorly: I talked to my wife about masculinity, feminism, and sexual strategy. Don't ever do this with a woman you want to fuck. If you have to share what you're learning, show her.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/22 06:10 PM
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5’10”, 148lbs, ~15-20% Body Fat How the fuck can you possibly maintain these stats?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/22 06:02 PM
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It was very weird to see the words be entirely different from actions. Watch what they do, not what they say. This is basic 101 stuff and your wife is NOT different or special here.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/22 05:58 PM
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I wanted to comment on here but there's honestly too much shit wrong and I think you know what it is mostly. ​ I need to stop binge drinking multiple times every fucking week need to or want to?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/22 04:54 PM
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First of all, EXCELLENT and succinct OYS. ​ If this were in the context of work or my oldest child, I intuitively want to train them to not waste time asking dumb questions they should have been able to reason through themselves. The straightforward way to educate them is to explain the “why” behind things. Think about that. You're saying that the way to teach a kid to reason through something for themselves is to talk over their own internal monologue, explaining it for them? Doing the reasonin…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/22 09:17 PM
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it’s not just being a brain dead ass hole There is more to life than being a brain dead ass hole. But for sexual strategy this is pretty much all it is.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/22 08:20 PM
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Open marriage is an absolute shit deal for men. I'd agree with this for exactly the reasons you outline. But I disagree on this mentality: At its core, (M)RP recognizes that women bring sex to the table and men bring commitment. Anyone who thinks like that, is only going to have is transactional sex with women who want to lock you down or (like this guys wife) keep you locked down. This idea that "I bring commitment to the table" is very un-prize-like. You get to decide what you bring to the tab…
/r/askMRP17/11/22 08:26 PM
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I've done all the things.....beta mistakes in the past. But I'm finally turning a new leaf. ​ ....we have started couples counseling ....discovered some of her texts ....I realized she put me in the Beta category ....libido floodgates opened.....eventually we settled back into ....I'm feeling the need to tell her....I think it kicks her ass into wanting me
/r/askMRP17/11/22 08:05 PM
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Lifting: Trying 5x5 to get back in after wrist surgery \masturbation injury* ​ Sidebar: NMMNG (pretty sure I'm not a nice guy oh boy. ​ interested in other audiobooks because I don't have time to read) \authority over how I get to spend my time*
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/22 06:50 PM
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DUDE! Not sure how long your ban is but I hope you return after. Origin stories are usually so boring but yours was worth the read. ​ The begging huntress met the fearful denier. 3 years ago.....That was the time when I had sex with her for the last time. WTF dude?! 2 years ago..... Of course, I am the prize. I'm tall, athletic, I can kill someone with my hands, and I make all the money. That was the period when I moved out of the bedroom That'll show her! 1 year ago I have read the whole sideba…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/22 05:13 PM
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The difference between a boundary, an expectation, and a covert contract is pretty obvious How do you define these? I'd say Boundary is what you won't do. Expectation is what you want to happen. Covert contract is what you "need" to happen.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/22 06:14 PM
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You could do the opposite of both of these: I tend to associate her with all the frustrations that come with getting it ready to move in. I see her as synonymous with an endless to-do list -- one I don't particularly want to handle and one that takes away from things I actually want to do. Stop doing shit that's not your priority. If there's stuff on the to do list that aligns with your priorities, great! Otherwise, stop doing it. ​ As a result I've been cold to her and "have made what should be…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/22 05:50 PM
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Hi, welcome. ​ alluded to newborn at the top, which hasn’t been great for sex, Your newborn probably weighs like 12-15lbs. But you have like 80-90lbs getting in the way.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/22 05:44 PM
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but still seem to be inherent contradictions. That's okay. I just saw you're on #2. Don't worry if you need to write some stuff off and come back to it later. It used to blow me away when I'd read my own OYS from a few months ago and go through the comments again. ​ Two rhetorical points: 1. Be attractive vs do what you want. Of course I want to be attractive, that at least a big part of why I am here at MRP. Is that not a covert contract in and of itself - not with a person per se, but with the…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/22 05:11 PM
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Dude! What's up with you? Are you still maintaining relationships with multiple ex's simultaneously?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/22 04:57 PM
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Do you think my priorities are out of whack? This is a good question to discuss because it should be YOU who decides if your priorities are "out of whack". And to be clear, I didn't read your oys, just this comment. ​ I don’t want to get too philosophical here but I don’t see how working to be attractive (which involves often changing your behavior) isn’t a covert contract. It is not you who decides what is and is not attractive about yourself, it is external things ( people, evolution, the univ…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/22 04:54 PM
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lay off all the obvious jokes Let's hear the best 3 that you have. I'm a little disappointed to not see any here.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/22 09:36 PM
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The enneagram is a personality test that I find pretty interesting but it's a little horoscope-ish. There's 9 different personalities on it. The useful thing about it is it can illuminate some of your core fears which can drive your behavior more than your core values and thus allow you to recognize when this fear is rearing it's head and dropping it. Type 3's are very outgoing, charming, confident, assertive. Their core fear is having little or no value to others so they're measuring themselves…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/22 09:35 PM
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Great realization. ​ I’ve always loved lifting, cardio, team sports, outdoor sports, you name it. That’s still true now, which I’m rediscovering as I get into a good rhythm in the gym and the trails. As I mulled this over I realized my past self had decided to stop carving out time for all those activities I enjoyed, just so I could spend more time hanging around my wife, praying that proximity alone would bring me a crumb of pussy. Now prove it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/22 08:35 PM
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Split the kids in half, King Solomon style.
/r/askMRP04/11/22 05:49 PM
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I've always liked rule 9 (for myself). Not only does it force me to re-write/think about my interactions but it also drove me to intentionally add activities to my weeks besides the score boarding "I did/she said/she did/I said" reactive play by play bullshit. The downside of the rule is that it cuts out some pretty entertaining stories.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/22 02:54 PM
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I want to be the kind of guy that's invited to things rather than the one doing the inviting. I do not like this post you've linked to. I would discourage you from worrying over "am I getting invited" vs inviting ppl to things. Guy #1 sucks for obvious reasons. Guy #2 sucks less but he still kinda sucks because he's kinda waiting around to be entertained (like a chick) and he's worried about there being too many other guys at the event and he's definitely in his head about weather or not he's br…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/22 06:52 PM
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I get what you are saying and you are probably right. If you think I'm trying to say now is the right time, I'm not. But there will never be a time where it's not terrible. The infant needs you now. 5 years from now all the young kids will need you. 10 years from now it'll be a terrible time to give your horny teenage daughters "male abandonment" issues. How about when they're in college, will that be better? Maybe you're just talking about finances.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/22 09:54 PM
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I think you need to tell us the city and the name(s) of the clubs they plan to go to on Friday so we can better determine how bad the situation is.
/r/askMRP02/11/22 07:20 PM
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In my time here, I have spent a ton of time worrying about weather she's treating sex with me like I'm an alpha or a beta. And I couldn't turn this off until I switched my focus to treating her like the kind of meaningless bar slut that I would seek out as an alternative. I'm pretty sure my own modonna/whore complex has tripped me up way more times than any alpha/beta/shit test/shitty comfort test/whatever.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/22 04:34 PM
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Unattractive traits: PTSD and panic attacks suck. My symptoms have been in check for a few months but unfortunately this week I had a bad episode which has started me back to square one. This is definitely my biggest weakness and one that I know if I can't get over, will eventually stop me from making progress. I used to keep my wife updated with my symptoms but I recognize that now that's not the best way to go about it. I don't know much about ptsd and panic attacks but I'm guessing that most …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/22 04:09 PM
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Seems like terrible time to pursue this. And the right time would be?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/22 03:55 PM
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235 (<3 lbs), 25%bf • I like lifting, always have, and I already feel the more aggressive mindset shift brought on every time I move iron. BUT - I fucking love cardio. It’s possible I’m sacrificing energy in the gym because I like my runner’s high more. Hahahaha.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/22 03:50 PM
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Once the work situation clears, we will have a talk re: open marriage vs divorce and detailed plan You're putting off your divorce momentum because you're so busy working, drinking, projecting your insecurities on your dad, and pathetically qualifying to women who cross your path but you're still finding time to start up a side gig hedge fund? You are seriously fucking desperate to be liked. What do you make of that?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/22 03:42 PM
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Sex: Fucked 1x. I'm getting a lot of complaints and resistance about how often I want sex and how I am introducing new things "all the time." I handle the rejection fine with OI, but I'm getting a bit fed up with the shit tests and shitty attitude towards sex that follow the rejection (ex: suggesting i lower my libido instead her increasing hers). I've mostly used fogging and AM, with a little A&A here and there, but apparently I'm not hitting the nail on the head with these because they keep co…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/22 11:26 PM
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1) She feels I didn't help out enough with our 1st son. I was working 50-60hrs/week in US times (we live in Europe). She's mad because 3 years ago, you, a new father, had the AUDACITY to put more hours into your work! Thus providing more to your family unit! You selfish fucking prick! ​ 2) I take 4hrs blocks of time on Sat and Sun to do work and family admin. Again! working! family Admin!! how dare you. ​ STFU has yielded some results, but it feels it's getting more "rotten". Any thoughts about …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/22 09:06 PM
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Five years ago I disclosed a sex addiction to my wife, mostly porn. All men are addicted to porn. It's addictive. I bet I'm 100% addicted to heroin too, I just haven't tried enough of it to find out. Since then we've been working our own recovery programs. I never had any success with treating porn like it's wrong, problematic or against my religion (Catholicism). Porn is pretty awesome and in the grand scheme of things, its a harmless vice. For me, the only thing that ever made a difference was…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/22 07:45 PM
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Feeling like I need to reread NMMNG so I started that up again yesterday. I read it about a year and a half ago and half-assed the exercises. Going to really focus this time. You don't need to read more! You just need to start more convos like what you did above.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/22 06:26 PM
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I need more willing suffering in my life. How bout barbell lifting? ​ but if I'm wrecked from excess caffeine and sleep deprivation I won't do anything but play video games. nevermind I guess. ​ Working on the recommended routine from r/bodyweightfitness. At least your fat enough for this to be considered lifting heavy. ​ Relationship: Having a hard time dealing with my wife. One day, she'll be constantly picking fights, the next she's constantly coming over for hugs. I think it's just her being…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/22 05:05 PM
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It helps me separate out the usual business of being married, with kid planning or shopping coordination or whatever, and expressing my desire. I don't like this. I like the dr roleplay and maybe it's just personal preference but it comes across to me like you're intentionally sidelining your sexuality in a shameful compartmentalizing way. Like the difference between a guy who's so happy his wife "lets him" have a man-cave part of the house vs treating the entire family home like it's your man-c…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/22 03:16 PM
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What a sad bunch of first world problem bullshit. Good for you for admitting it, as opposed to using oys trying to convince yourself and all of us that you're not completely miserable. Life will often be pretty miserable feeling, especially this time of year. You're designed that way, it's a survival instinct you inherited from your caveman ancestors where your brain uses anxiety as a whip to push you into action so that you can get good things, avoid bad things and replicate your genes. And you…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/22 08:38 PM
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So pray, lift, sidebar to build focus and discipline. Then carve out and guard some time I can work on my own projects. u/_rpeed can say so if I'm wrong but THIS is what he's poking at you about. How can you be a human being in 2022 Anno Domini and be under the impression that your own projects in YOUR OWN LIFE need to be carved out and guarded?!?! And you list, lift/pray/love like they're pre req chores you have to do prior to "being deserving" of carving our some of your own life choices.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/22 07:23 PM
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tips or advice (specifically on overcoming social anxiety) Force it. blurt out your internal monologue.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/22 04:33 AM
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Threats are useless. Kill the cards. Amen. Not having a cc is one of life's most underrated luxuries.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/22 10:38 PM
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My relationship with my wife is a complicated one. When we got married, I was making most of the money, had a successful career, and set the social agenda. Over the years that's flipped. Shortly after I made my career transition, my wife started her own business, and that business has become wildly successful. This has been great and I've supported her and been genuinely happy for her, but my response to her success has been to become passive, and let her drive a lot of the decisions, big and sm…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/22 10:32 PM
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Travel google.com/travel/explore can be good for finding deals if you're destination is flexible
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/22 10:09 PM
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Case #1 – gas station, she was behind me in line. I walked out and waited for her outside. Me: Hi, I saw you inside the gas station, I thought you looked nice, so wanted to introduce myself … Her: Leave me alone Case # 2 – Trader Joe, cute, young black chick Me: Hi, this is really forward, and I should probably not do it over here, I noticed you looked nice, so I wanted to say hello and introduce myself Her: Oh, that’s, OK. Thank you. But how old are you? Me: I am 47 Her: Oh, wow, you don’t look…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/22 05:38 PM
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I was tempted to comment to you sarcastically but I'm worried you won't see what I see if I do that. ​ But I am increasingly angry with myself, so tired of this cycle. The time between sex dragged on a bit as I traveled alone aggressively generate a victim puke narrative about my wife, what I am owed the usual complaining about what I imagine she does and doesn’t think. he butthurt is hardwired into the hormones, and those get dumped into my body every 2-3 days. You have a bunch of beginner bull…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/22 05:28 PM
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278 %bf: fat fuck. Agreed but don't self deprecate. Let the other posters call you names. We are in a good place today. We? What about you? My wife wants a trip to the Caribbean this winter, What do you want? if things go according to plan I think we can make it happen. Turn your thermostat up to 90 and let her audition for the trip.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/22 05:02 PM
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123 Magic. Want to get wife on board and then start implementing this week. Don't wait for her to get on board. Start parenting your kids better with or without her. That book is good for dealing with her too. Less talking, no shaming, give them space to hamster.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/22 04:51 PM
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has mostly been me jacking off on her. Not very attractive agree with coolsocks. She probably loves it and wishes you'd film it for her
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/22 04:45 PM
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I set up habits that would help me succeed. You NAIL it here. This is it. Habits with discipline. Don't wait around for "motivation". I grinded it out for months. A year. Almost two years. Same thing every week. Literally every man on here IS going to "make it". But they're going to make it to the exact location that their habits lead to. Whitening your teeth, exhausting yourself at the gym, going to bed (feeling) hungry, and habitually introducing yourself to new women will lead to a completely…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/22 04:36 PM
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She decided to hide my work laptop in response. I might've pointed this out last week, you could treat this like her flirting with you. So I find myself in a negotiation to get my work laptop back and have to hand her the TV cables ( I am still a VP in the office). I am completely ridicilous and an embarrassment. Will not do something like this again. Are you talking about you will not do your original removal of the tv or your negotiation for your laptop back? If you wanted to remove a tv from …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/22 10:17 PM
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but the wife won't let go of the "problem" that I want to have sex all the time. Who is this a problem for? ("you should be concerned when I don't want sex"), it escalates to "the only reason we have sex is to keep [FF] happy" -- that she could go months without it / doesn't really need it at all / isn't "a very sexual person". Muzzy said it too. This is deferring to her to sign off on what you want and getting her to TELL you she likes your dance moves. ​ I probably engaged too much verbally, P…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/22 06:13 PM
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"You're such a cheap guy. I knew I shouldn't have married you. My friend's husband lets her have his credit card." A non-stop stream of attacks and complaints. "Yep, big meanie"
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 08:08 PM
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187, 18%bf, 35" waist B-247, SQ-300, DL-420 (are you using strengthlevel.com to calculate these? I am)
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 03:23 PM
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I feel like I could have handled this smoother, but not 100% sure how; thoughts? (context: my daughter CAN be a shithead, but in this case she's just 6 and didnt know how to explain why she needed privacy in the midst of being accused). If you had a 6 year old daughter and a 30 year old daughter and the 30 year old did this, how would you handle it? Do that.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/22 05:38 PM
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Great comment.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/22 05:34 PM
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Family: Went to a theme park with the family. Did not really enjoy it, as my wife organized the whole thing and lots of stuff was poorly organized. Will not let her organize stuff like this again, as I felt basically trapped for three days. Example 1: She organized for family dinner at a restaurant. She asked my permission beforehand. It was 100 USD for a buffet for 4 people, 1 alcoholic beverage included, and prepaid. I said: ok, fine with me. We turn up at the place and she talks to the waitin…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/22 05:23 PM
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DL 373, SQ 289, BP 216, Are these 5 reps per gslp or calculated 1rm? If they're 1rm, I'm ahead of you on our bet and you ought to catch up.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/22 04:10 PM
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I returned to my sport Thank freaking god. ​ ​ Continue developing My Frame. This has been hard with a partner who has checked out. This should make it easier, not harder. It's your worldview you're developing. Quite a bit of what you say about your kids sounds needy and I'm certain that's prevalent in all of your relationships.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/22 03:45 PM
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3 hours per session?!?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/22 12:03 AM
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You get zero attractiveness points for wealth and career status. If anything, it's counterproductive if you're using all that to simp for a girl that doesn't want to have sex with you. Your masculine ideals are not arousing. There's likely some low status interns who work under you that can't tie a windsor but are drowning in pussy because they don't gaf about anything, least of all their "big boy" job title.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/22 12:01 AM
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I just think there's an artificial ceiling on it from the SSRI. Could be that. Maybe you're too short. Or still too chubby. I think it's fine to encourage her to stop SSRI's but I would encourage you to have fewer discussion with her about why she's not more into you and spend more energy clearly defining and demonstrating the kind of raunchy enthusiasm you want. Maybe she's just mirroring the level of enthusiastic sexual adventure that you bring to the table and it's boring because you're bored…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/22 04:46 PM
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No, I don’t want to open the window, is there something you need? No, I am not lost looking for your clit, I am where I want to be, is there something you need? I can't exactly tell from your oys but some of this might just be her flirting. She might be bad at it though and if you fuck her anyways you'll reinforce it as effective flirting. Your prescribed actions of telling her what to do and doing the things you want is sound.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/22 08:33 PM
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So, the point of my potential conversation would be to say that "a satisfying sex life is important to me and I want it to be with you, but I think your SSRI is hindering our ability to have that connection" (or something like that)...and then present a couple of options -- reduce / eliminate SSRI (my strong preference), try adding wellbutrin, and/or her doing therapy for anxiety. This is probably worse than the speech you had planned before. It's an overt negotiation for desire and putting the …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/22 08:16 PM
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6’3”, 216lbs, 27% Body Fat Physical: Bench 182lbs (3x5) DL 286lbs (3x5) SQ 176 (3x5) OHP 110lbs (3x5) Chin Up (3x4) I also get quite constant comfort tests like “Is your office affair going to take care of this?” “You only want me for sex” “Why dont you get an affair already?” You're fat and weak. She's not seeking comfort, she's making making fun of you for trying.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/22 07:47 PM
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but I think I need to be more direct. You eventually do need to switch into dominance and control game. Be wary of making this grandiose statement about what you want in your life(this is not a secret that you want a satisfying sex life). Do you know any fat people who talk all the time about wanting to get into shape? You know how it sounds when they say that, right? You know that they really believe they want it but you can see they're not really doing anything about it. When you see a formerl…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/22 05:19 PM
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These points will accumulate and she will eventually I think you misunderstand that women will literally follow a sociopathic drug addict fuck up anywhere if they're sufficiently attracted to him. You do not have to "make good calls" or be "open minded to her suggestions" to lead them back to trusting you.
/r/askMRP22/09/22 03:53 PM
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​ > you did fuck all for helping yourself this week This confused me at first, but I figured it out: I tried starting OYS last week, but.... He means you didn't DO anything, like trying to take a girl's pants off. ​ Taking a day away from family This is what you did. Reading is good. Planning is good. Reflecting is good. But you have to do new things if you want something different from what you have.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/22 05:47 PM
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a legitimate concern (ie., leaving your underwear on the floor or whatever) then it might require a change in behavior You have got to be kidding?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/22 05:27 PM
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This is a good first oys.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/22 05:24 PM
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Yep you’re getting under the skin there. I am practicing being social and fun to be around, not really game, is what I’m telling myself. That's fine IF that's what you want but I'm guessing you want something else (sex and sexual excitement) and you're shamefully hiding that behind the the more "honorable" goal of being more social. ​ Wasting time in the safe zone is a weakness. I’ve gotten around it in the past only by escalating 100%. I don’t know the middle ground. This is a great realization…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/22 04:45 PM
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not actually committing resources Your time and attention are your most valuable resources. Doesn't mean you can't give them to pretty girls but don't forget they're YOURS to give. ​ practice for what I care about more If you're practicing and experimenting with game, be careful not to waist to much time in the safe/friend/acquaintance category. How much did you touch her? Did you take her by the arm or put your hand on her lower back to lead her to the bar? Did you tease her? Did you sexualize …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/22 10:48 PM
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If this ends up being like a history on the way this place has developed, that'll be real interesting. Your book fuccfiles is very entertaining.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/22 09:54 PM
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What do you mean you "thought" about it? This was done already. Have you read it? lol
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/22 03:43 PM
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If I can't do that, why even be in a relationship. GREAT fucking question.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/22 04:26 PM
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Anytime you feel like someone is jumping down your throat, they either recognize themselves in what you wrote OR they're trying to convince themselves of something they haven't experimented with yet. I remember from that OYS#2 how impossible it seemed that I might say no to it, especially when I had agreed to 4 sessions and I think we had done two already before I decided to change my mind. There is nothing wrong with couples counseling. My memories of it are pretty good in that it was fun tryin…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/22 03:31 PM
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My wife and I go to couples therapy once a month WTF (at her request). WISN(to couple's counseling)IFG. WISNIFG is everything. You should have the assertive bill of rights memorized. not doing enough for date nights. I handled it by asking about the last three dates I organized (two of which she bailed on). DEER. Then she shifted to complaints about my drinking. I handled this by explaining my new breathalyzer approach (explained below).* II. You have the right to offer no excuses for justifying…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/22 10:08 PM
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she asked me straight up if I still "liked her" and said she was worried that I was going to improve and then leave her behind. I never really know how to answer these, so I just took them as loyalty tests and played the good husband role for a little while. If you like her, this is an opportunity to demonstrate it with physical escalation. Start taking her clothes off, honk her breast, start taking your own clothes off, whatever comes to mind. The point is to "show her" you like her, instead of…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/22 09:18 PM
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If I follow this I lose weight and build muscle ridiculously fast. When I don't, my muscle stays but I add on fat ridiculously fast. I get the feeling you spend a lot of time looking for things to "fix" or "work on" that are ultimately distractions from the fact that you probably need to control your mouth better.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/22 06:09 PM
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Giving all the power to others to determine your self image is suicide, nice guy covert contract annihilation. Taking all of it for yourself and not calibrating against feedback from relationships, networks, the market, that seems in a sense blindness. I interpret dancing monkey and fake it till you make it together also, because it’s being purposeful about picking a new place in the social fabric, aiming at it because it will make you happier and more sexually fulfilled (incidentally not as the…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/22 04:18 PM
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Pretty much, but your list still includes unnecessary "what's in her head statements" ​ Firstly, she can handle the kids. They are perfectly safe with her. She just doesn't want to handle the kids.She thinks its unfair that she has to handle the kids and she blames me for it because I'm her easy-out of the situation. She is indignant.I do not need to let her indignation affect me. I am right. I am not affected when the kids throw a tantrum about not getting ice-cream. I am right. I calmly hold m…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/22 03:22 PM
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I'm remarking that there is no way we can talk about that topic without inherently insinuating that he should put his mind into one of the three states above. Okay, this makes sense and we are pretty much addressing different things but I'd say we're in agreement on probably all of this.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/22 03:06 PM
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Because these descriptors are spoken from duality...a person looking on another or you looking onto your future self. And while it is true that they (or you) are that person, they are not doing what they do so you or someone else can perceive them as that person. At the risk of blowing away all of my free time for the next 24 hours, could you try to explain to me what you're saying here or confirm if I understand it? What I think you're saying is that "why you're doing it matters" or that the wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 09:12 PM
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You know what? I agree with you. I love hanging with the kids and it frustrates the hell out of me that she can't handle them. Let her figure it out. Damn, you're close but I don't want you to take this as, she should like it just because you do. If her parental frustration is her is her problem, your frustration with her naturally occurring feminine indignation about parenting is your problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 05:37 PM
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I think that's fair to say. To go back to your original statement from OYS, that's all stuff every guy wants. I'm asking if you can change that goal from being an "I want to get ___" to a goal of being the guy who commands that reaction from women regularly? Are you moving in the direction of becoming that kind of guy soon? This is like the difference between having a goal of "I want 6 pack abs" and a goal of "I will eat and workout with extreme discipline"
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 03:20 PM
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when it’s like this, it turns me on, and I want to have (*create more of) it. THIS. It sounds so woo woo-ey Disney-ish but it's within you to make it this way for yourself. ​ Another thought is this connects to a bigger pattern for me. My work is to make things, things that are fairly complicated and that are valuable when people interact with them. So I have a similar motion there. I work on myself to be able to make a thing well, I practice that, and then I need others to interact with it to h…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/22 09:26 PM
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For sure there's no guarantees but if you've picked a path that you'll like regardless, it shouldn't matter.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/22 09:07 PM
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evidence of desire. Sex every day with a girlfriend experience, which means the default yes, default being wanted, someone finding me so hot they must fuck me or else they feel they are suffering on missing out. It’s not the special acts, though yes of course they are fun, but rather the evidence of desire that I want. Not desire for a relationship but for the sex, authentic emotion released through sex. Duh. Not the rejection dance about protecting feelings and unspoken expectations, I don't kn…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/22 06:17 PM
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Here's what I want when I want evidence of desire. Sex every day with a girlfriend experience, which means the default yes, default being wanted, someone finding me so hot they must fuck me or else they feel they are suffering on missing out. It’s not the special acts, though yes of course they are fun, but rather the evidence of desire that I want. Not desire for a relationship but for the sex, authentic emotion released through sex. Duh. Not the rejection dance about protecting feelings and un…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/22 04:25 PM
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17.5% BF Mission: Be the best version of myself. Is this really the 'best' version of yourself? ​ From a 'Captain' perspective, I left her abandoned and unsupported on the home ship in rough seas. Are you kidding? Driving around with my kids listening to the radio is one of the highlights of my days when I do it. If she doesn't like (and maybe she doesn't) that's for her to figure out. ​ Perhaps I could have looked past the bad behaviour and let her know I could leave if the kid started vomittin…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/22 03:14 PM
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Looks like you lost ~19lbs in 2 years and added some weight to your bench press but you're still pretty fat and very weak.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/22 05:25 PM
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I'm gonna disagree with u/sea-tease a little to say that there ought to be very little reading/writing/thinking involved. That's why I picked on this read and journal and "wait for a new realization" plan in the first place. I'd say experiment with something you're afraid of. Small at first, then progressively overload.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/22 04:01 PM
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"snake charmer" is more like it
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 11:30 PM
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Life is a game, I am a player in it I don't have to explain myself or my strategy to anyone The power is with me to play the game how I want I don't need to be fearful of losing I like this.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 11:05 PM
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So the absolute peak of your bad behavior is that you took your kids out to dinner with some other family while your gf was out of town at a spa and the other parent happend to be a fun divorcee? And this was double bad because you didn't take your harpy obligation sex gf out to dinner on fridays? I bet you still remember what the leftovers were that you were supposed to eat. This is being held over your head still today. But only because you allow it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 10:48 PM
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talkin up any and all ladies that I dig because it is pretty fun This is great. There's nothing wrong with it
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 07:50 PM
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Like Ariel in the Little Mermaid.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 07:48 PM
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fear fear fear fear fear. And the plan is........lift, journal, read? Is that what you would recommend to somebody else?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 07:45 PM
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Wife is (slowly) starting to open up a little more. *futilefighter
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 07:38 PM
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"Eat the Frog" I love this.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 07:36 PM
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She started giving my daughter moon eyes (this is common as fuck bitches love my daughter). Women have a dual mating strategy and while they admire/adore the "weak-fat-doting-dad" types, they're not secretly wishing for him to pull their skirt up for a quickie in the Costco parking lot.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 07:35 PM
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You're not "above" the tools on the sidebar that describe how to be attractive, not be unattractive. What makes you think you are different? What makes you think she's not a normal woman? It doesn't matter how much you've read about it if you're not doing it. Oh really? Man, is there like, a book I could read that would like, tell me what to do? I really need someone to tell me what to want. (Defensive)EER The reason I disagree with your take here is that I did all the work leading up to this mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 07:19 PM
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Demonstration>declaration absolutely.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 06:06 PM
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I asked (denied once).........super weakly (essentially just asking if we were doing anything) ooooof! Don't ask. Lead into it physically and if you absolutely need to use words, try commands or "I want/I'd like" statements. Once you're strong enough to lift her up off the ground this will all get way easier.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 03:56 PM
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She's started doing some weird, physical intimidation stuff where she body checks me or tries to stare me down when she's upset. This is also a decent place to laugh in her face. I set a boundary on the body-checking, I told her no one bumps me like that and it won't be tolerated. I think that's fine, but make sure you're also demonstrating this is a boundary by leaving her and not accidentally rewarding her with your own emotionally charged attention and words about "muh boundaries".
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 03:52 PM
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I lose composure during arguments (with wife). Why are the arguments happening? It takes 2 to argue. ​ Prioritize remaining calm and collected in my words, thoughts, and emotions with her Have you read WISNIFG yet? or j10's advanced fogging description
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 03:46 PM
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use minoxidil (takes around 1 year starting from no facial hair). Are you trans? It's okay if you are, all are ridiculed equally here. Also, I would caution you on completely snuffing out your feminine side. There's lots to be enjoyed there too.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 03:39 PM
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the best version of me can include things that aren't necessarily arousing, and the things that can be very arousing to a woman wouldn't exactly be on the list of things that make me the best version of me. Kind of like the alpha/beta blend. yes. ​ FYI, I remember that day cause she wanted to leave me cause I did something stupid and it was the straw that almost broke the camel's back. What was it? It seems like you're looking in the past trying to point out one little thing (she became sahm/I d…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 03:16 PM
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You're not completely ego-deluded, which is kinda refreshing. But I think you're still majorly wrong about some things. I'm going to go into it but it might come across as conflicting information. ​ Aug 16th three years ago was: If I want my woman to be the best for me, fuck me enthusiastically and follow me anywhere I need to be the best version of me possible. Absolutely not true. The best version of you is something that YOU define as really awesome. That's important and a great thing to prio…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 12:04 AM
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the same standards she holds you to (which is huge). ...finally realized after year of shittiness... ...leaned quite a few lessons over the last three years... ...take care of his kids and to get off the damn phone... ...not out of the woods by any means ...I did warn her.......I'm shaky on this part though You are glossing over some of the best parts
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/22 11:13 PM
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I think you should install a basketball hoop in your bedroom. Then you can "implement dominance" by dunking into it and lead her into kicking her legs around like a cheerleader, or clapping, or whatever you want. Just tell her.
/r/askMRP26/08/22 07:28 PM
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Oh man.... ​ My mission is to make it to end of my life Think about the fact that one of your biggest dreams in life right now is just getting to the end of it. You're building your life around the antithesis of "it's the journey, not the destination". But the unshakeable piece is a happy end of life with my wife and family. In a way I feel for you, 4 kids, age 5 and under, unhappy wife. No wonder you're looking at the clock wondering when it's all going to be over. But getting to the end of you…
/r/askMRP26/08/22 03:46 PM
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mission involves her being with me and happy You think it's your job to control who your wife is with and how she feels?
/r/askMRP26/08/22 03:02 PM
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I'll have to think about this more. I have a german shorthair and I'm pretty familiar with advanced dog training, the main thing being that praise/punishment be given immediately. And I totally have a lot of unspoken (covert?) contracts with my dog. I can see how that would be a great way to approach praise (in the moment, call her out on what she's doing well). I don't think I've ever leveled immediate punishment at my wife that didn't come across as a reward of negative attention.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/22 02:55 PM
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Relationship: Next Step: Observe my own behaviour, stop betashit in its tracks, slowly integrate new character-traits through deliberate self-affirming behaviour. If I was in your shoes I'd narrow this down to STFU. No talking about relationship. See how long you can go.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/22 10:34 PM
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Exhilaration. Challenge. Discovery. Development. Physically, intellectually and professionally. Are you developing more specific definitions of what these look like?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/22 10:31 PM
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but I'm fucking awful at game. You're way too fat to be worried about game, lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/22 10:28 PM
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Sound's pathetic but wasn't katey sagal chasing him down for sex all the time?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/22 10:26 PM
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I had lied and told my wife that I wasn't looking at porn throughout our entire relationship even though I secretly was. It came to a head a year and half ago, when I couldn't take the guilt and confessed to her and sought therapy. It was like a bomb went off. Because I wasn't an honest captain, owning my shit both good and bad, being real and straight up about my failures with her, this absolutely eroded the trust in our relationship. You're probably right that your wife doesn't trust you. It h…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/22 10:22 PM
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This is a question that I'd only ask a MRPer about their book recommendations: "If these books changed you, what did you do as a result? Or how have you ended up behaving differently?" I feel like I know people who read a lot of books about adventure and inspiration but they themselves almost use it as a substitute for having any kind of inspiring adventures in their own lives. Not saying that's you, but I'm curious about your tangible results with these. Anyways, here mine: Mating in Captivity …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/22 07:35 PM
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Bitch Training 101 I want to read this again. My difficulty with praise being a part of training in the past probably comes from believing I can use it to make changes swaying future outcomes. Better would be to think of using it solely for the purpose of rewarding the past. If/when she does something good, I can give her a validation cookie, without tying it to expectations for the future.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/22 06:40 PM
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This has to be johnnyappocalyps doing like a multiple account troll right?
/r/askMRP24/08/22 01:55 PM
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How is sex her reward This is a decent question and it's why I thought on it a while before answering. That idea developed for me because it kept getting pointed out to me that I discussed sex in a "I'm getting/got/get/recieved" kinda way. Virtually every guy in this sub has a woman who solicits their attention. A lot of time she'll tell you that she wants you to do some things or listen to some things or she'll try to solicit some DEERing out of you or engage you in a little fight if she can ge…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/22 04:43 AM
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By all means, go after what you think you'll enjoy the most.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/22 03:05 AM
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Finding the exact bullshit I just pulled in someone else's OYS If you're doing this, STFU. Keep track every week of how long it's been since you "talked" about your sexual wants and needs and see what kind of record you can set.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 09:53 PM
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As in...you literally schedule out your next year as if you were divorced? And then live that way? I'm curious as to the logistics. No, not really. What I'm describing is that my time/attention removal was not immediately leaping off the couch and leaving the house. But the next day or week or whatever I would try to intentionally, punitively keep myself out of the house with stuff to do. This is not an ideal way to go about being married. It's just way better than the victim puking or jumping u…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 09:51 PM
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This part you quoted, really sucked and was about getting sympathy... "look at everything I've done/been through". The talking I intended to point out was: That evening I initiated again, “if you want some of my time,GET INTO OUR BED.” What got expressed to me next really floored me. “Ragnar, you’re hotter than me and better than me at socializing and taking care of our house and even parenting and bla bla bla. It’s like you’re on this pedestal I’ll never be able to reach.” It was in this moment…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 09:14 PM
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I am bulky. I started to cut two weeks ago. I'm not sure if I can judge it until I get back down to 12% and see if I weigh more than 162#. Before that low point, the last time I was at 182# was about a year ago. I had 19%bf and 150# less on my lifts. I'm glad you spotted this too, because it's not lost on me that I said above I wonder if I'm missing out + anytime I've felt a deficiency tool on the sidebar I'm ignoring or misusing ....17% bf
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 07:09 PM
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good replacement for "desire" For some reason I don't like the idea of thinking of compliance as a replacement to the misguided goal that many of us arrive here with, negotiated desire. To me, it makes more sense to drop desire as a goal completely but I'd consider my compliance focus as something different. Not even a goal really as much as a measurement tool. do we really care about someone's internal state, which is unknowable, I think you can care about it and know about it to the extent tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 06:53 PM
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I think you're thinking of someone else. But that doesn't mean that she hasn't, wouldn't or couldn't. Cheating would be easier to pull off, keep secret, and move on from than we all realize and I'd assume is twice as easy for women. Communicating with men behind your back is pretty definitive proof imo. ________________________________________________________________________________________ For anybody that worries about "everyday with muh kids!!", I'd encourage you to examine your current time …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 05:29 PM
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not meeting my needs for more sex, better sex, more variety, more intimacy, etc. This is vague. If you're going to call these needs you ought to be specific. Maybe you are when you talk to her, but if you're not, it's no wonder this is an exhausting chore. More sex? Is that once a day? 5x a week? 2x a day? Whenever you feel like it? Better sex? More variety? More intimacy? This is stuff you should really only be defining, discussing or demonstrating while you're inside of her. "look me in the ey…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 04:09 PM
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37yo 182# 17%bf B-190x8, SQ-230x8, DL-310x7 Compliance (This is what I’ve done and how it went) With sex, I have for a while now focused on compliance only. Do I get what I want when I want it? If not, am I able to figure that out for myself quickly. The answer is yes. Anytime I’ve felt a deficiency, I can identify a tool on the sidebar I’m ignoring or misusing. I have had sex every other day going as far back as December. Sometimes multiple days in a row. I can think of one week where it was 1 …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 03:33 PM
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I know people dog on that idea but it's not that bad of a strategy. Just sprinkle more and more alpha on it until 90% of your recipe tastes like self interest : )
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/22 09:04 PM
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Do you all have any pointers for me? OYS for 8 months ​ I don't lift......don't want to put on too much weight You think this guy knows how hard to bump her from behind? He can still dunk too.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/22 07:46 PM
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Good question. Maybe lots of practice or reading other people's stories? I agree, some people can tell a story about making a pb&j sandwhich and make it more interesting than another guy's "swimming with sharks" story or whatever. There has to be a good resource or book on like storytelling 101. For me, I think; beginning->middle->end and just put some snippet in the beginning that you can use to tie it up with in the end.
/r/askMRP19/08/22 07:35 PM
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You have some great gems in your post history. And this one counts too.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/22 04:27 PM
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show wealth/status without seeming flashy? The non-verbal answers are "fitted clothes on a fit body, fresh haircut, good complexion, confident posture, and a big fucking smile." You could include anything that fits into the confident category here. Probably the best verbal demonstration of it is to be a good storyteller. You can share snippets about travel or interesting experiences. The biggest luxury in the world is having complete flexibility with your time and schedule and people will pick u…
/r/askMRP19/08/22 03:03 PM
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very brief “pukes” calling her out unnecesarily a few times over the past few months STFU never really ends but it eventually gets way easier. I've actually had times where I went so far as to track how many day's it's been like it was a workplace accident. Eventually a week was a big streak, then two, then a month, then 2 months and so on. Also, with mouth diarrhea, better to err on the side of asshole as opposed to being a pussy.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/22 09:10 PM
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this is an area that is improving, though I'm not yet at the level I want to be. This is a good observation. Because you'll never get there. So instead of always asking yourself if you're there yet, you might just ask if you're progressing as fast as you like. This is enjoying the "journey not the destination". ​ I certainly don't think the sidebar doesn't apply to me, as I'm a textbook unassertive NiceGuy, but I see your point. Careful boxing yourself in with "I am____" statements. You are not …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/22 03:19 PM
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Weight: 206 lbs. BF: 27.8% Have you always been this fat?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 10:54 PM
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course corrected and now life is better? This. I used to lack the ability to connect with men who were different or into different stuff. This is how boys end up just playing video games and having friends who only play video games. My career in sales turned that around A LOT and I have access to so many different interesting people and experiences because of it. In my first year at mrp I got pretty obsessed with comparing myself and other men, who's the most alpha/beta? Who's high value? Who's …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 06:25 PM
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special but only in the autistic sense Don't self deprecate. Stopping this will be more powerful than you realize.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 05:31 PM
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and if she did any of those things I would be handing her divorce papers Do the divorce papers you speak of currently only exist in your imagination? ​ I reiterated over and over again This is like, the definition of not meaning it. Something that helped me with STFU was eventually looking at every "relationship thing" I said to my wife as something that was a desperate lie and envisioning that she would interpret the opposite as the truth. The medium is the message and your lack of doing anythi…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 04:11 PM
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I think you posted the same link twice. I did. Here's the other.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 04:03 PM
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there is scarcity. Attention and time This is real. And worth being careful about. As long as this is what you're talking about. I think you're fine. ​ Like with bitches.......This bit is there to document that I've been pursuing the best ones, This is what I'm poking at. Because men are not women. And even though a lot of red pill tools work on men, you're going to miss out if you're treating male friendships like plates or rungs on a friendship bitch ladder. Probably the main difference is tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 03:25 PM
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Bench press more. Also read this. And this. Good for you for not puking out a big ol' life story on your oys1 but that honestly makes me curious about it. Are you possibly aware of how un-special you are? If so, that's a superpower.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/22 11:50 PM
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I really don't like your bolded negative statements about yourself. You ARE undoubtedly brooding and enervating. Why don't you cut it out? And start with how you write about yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/22 10:25 PM
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Upgrading my friendships is something I’ve kind of unwittingly been doing for a while. I would say 5 high quality ones have been established over the last two years, while a few existing ones have dropped down the list. Spent the last month consolidating them. This will continue in my new location as well, much like I’m constantly upgrading my roster of bitches. I understand the desire to keep good company. The people you spend the most time with will rub off on you. This section strikes me as s…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/22 09:51 PM
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Definitely an area for improvement. Do you feel this way? Pook wrote that if somethings not living up to your standards you've got to lower your standards or raise your standards on yourself. I think every sexual problem a guy has boils down to him thinking there's parts of the sidebar that do not apply to him.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/22 09:43 PM
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What about the sex? Your last mention on it here was of sleeping with your ex and having no tinder matches that you wanted to meet with? So how's it going?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/22 02:48 PM
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If you've never been with a guy where you think his genitals are a treat, I feel sorry for you. And I don't mean this as a burn. Every girl ought to have that....:)
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/22 09:43 PM
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The lists of books is kinda silly but the body comp and lifting stats are one of the best ways to see if a guy is "doing" anything. I think pancake here has been around 18-21% bf since oys1. He's made some lifting progress but not like a 38 year old ought to see in their first year. He has always been adamant about this: I am FAR ahead of my wife And those three things tell me that he doesn't think "don't be fat, get strong, and don't be a hypersensitive score boarding pussy" apply to him.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/22 04:55 PM
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This all sounds good. I think time management skills are a beautiful thing to develop but I pity guys (including myself) when they're simultaneously anxious about working too much and dissatisfied with their "unproductive" relaxation time.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/22 06:34 PM
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I do enjoy some of the work that I do, yet I do yearn for some relaxation time. Yet, when I have that time, I'm twiddling my thumbs and then I get up and just go do more work. Are you able to easily make yourself relax at work? I have to remind myself all the time that even though I'm in charge of a ton of important shit, if I just stopped showing up most people's lives would barely be affected. Also, can you make yourself relax about twiddling your thumbs? See how long you can keep it up withou…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/22 05:02 PM
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a bit too overweight. Early in lifting Can you define this more specifically. ​ Your descriptions of these texts are really damning. Like worse than if it was just trading nudes: "miss you handsome" My God dude! I can't say I'm surprised you're in denial about it but you are and it's bad. I cannot believe that meeting with a lawyer isn't mentioned in the choices you think you have. ​ laying out printed screenshots and simply asking for an explanation Your explanation is on the sidebar. She will …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/22 07:24 PM
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The big thing that sticks out to me is in the title. “getting your wife’s bj” followed by a description of living your life in a certain way to earn this like it’s a reward. A better mindset to get to imo is to live the way you want and let the bj be something a girl earns for her good performance.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/22 02:30 PM
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Doesn’t sound that terrible. In general, the second best day of a guy’s life will be getting the boat, do you know what the best day is?
/r/askMRP31/07/22 02:22 PM
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It’s a lot like a toddler tantrum. It’s likely they will end (or you will actually stop noticing them) but you have to demonstrate that they are never ever a good way for her to get what she wants.
/r/askMRP30/07/22 03:05 AM
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The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second best time is today.
/r/askMRP29/07/22 10:39 PM
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Some of your flashcards make me think you have a bad madonna/whore complex and what you really want is to ask your daughter for some hair to do a 23 and me. On a serious note, if you really want to teach a girl about the red pill, the best way to do it is to demonstrate it.
/r/askMRP29/07/22 10:19 PM
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I think you’re banned right now and I realize you can’t respond to this. This sounds very close to what my aim has been for a while. Compliance only. Your terms you were looking for here SUCKED big time. “Happy to see me” “horny to fuck me” those are her feelings dude. This is completely different from saying I want you to get in bed and spread your legs. You are expressing to us (and undoubtedly her) that you want to own, control, and negotiate for her to maintain specific feelings and you shou…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/22 11:39 AM
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This is great to hear. I'd also like to add: Women love their indignation. This is so f'ing true sadly. I know what you mean here but if/when you eventually just get over it I think this is one of the most fun and entertaining things you can observe in a women, IMO.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/22 06:42 PM
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I admire you having a sense of humor about all this. Let yourself grieve about it when you need to. Also, good lifts btw
/r/askMRP20/07/22 03:08 PM
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My decision making engine is currently broken. I will focus on: DivorceDietGymWorkReadingOYS None of these are governed by emotions. Action only. Excellent.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/22 03:17 PM
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idk, but it certainly wasn’t out of desire. Her attraction has most definitely started to climb back up, I think a lot of denials are some level of testing at this point; at least that’s how it feels. The other night hit with some LMR, ‘I thought that was going to go somewhere then, but then you bla bla’. Wasn’t a big deal, the vibe felt very much like I’m going to see how far I can push you, to see if you’ll break. I would encourage you to stop caring so much about what's going on in either of …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/22 03:12 PM
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Try to write an OYS that is NOT just a bunch of reactions to your wife doing something.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/22 06:09 PM
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If your wife told you you're handsome and that she loved you all the time, on it's own, that wouldn't be very valuable to you. If she constantly put her hands in your pants, rubbed her fingers through your hair, squeezed your butt and texted you throughout the day to say her pussy is aching for you, that's "showing you" she thinks your handsome and she loves you. It's fine to tell her nice things, she'll only take is seriously if those words backed up by your behavior too. And you can have fun w…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/22 05:59 PM
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Do you think being joyful is the result of something? Or do y think it's a choice?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/22 08:39 PM
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I tell her she’s beautiful and that I love her way too often Until she's receiving these compliments from a guy who's got himself on a bigger, taller, pedestal this will all be worthless to her. Even at that point, she'd likely rather have that guy "show her" that he thinks she's beautiful and loves her.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/22 08:35 PM
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I've been improving in it a lot lately. Currently a rating of 1250 on the chess website. progress with what? chess? planning surprise dates?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/22 05:38 PM
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What are your priorities? How do you align YOUR values? Not hers, or your families, or the entire culture of china, YOUR values. Make some decisions about what you want and prepare to live with all the good and bad consequences. There is no smooth/problem free life. ​ Also, a central tenant of the red pill is that you've got to be more successful than your wife hahaha, bullshit. You can literally do whatever you want.
/r/askMRP07/07/22 04:55 PM
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Lifts: DL 373, SQ 285, BP 212, IBP 192, OP 132Are these 1RMs? Yeah, I take the estimated 1RMs from strengthlevel.com and use that. When I put my own lifts into that calculator I get the exact same total as you on the big three, bench 242, squat 262, dl 366 = 870 Lets plan on touching base at the end of the year to see who's closer to 1,000 and who's less fat. How about the loser has to comment advice to at least 10 people on r/DeadBedrooms, lol Regarding your daughter, we've talked about this so…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/22 03:11 PM
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Lifting - GZCLP 4/4 this week. What are the lifts?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/22 06:35 PM
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stfu! You have got to be kidding!
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 10:20 PM
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Is it though? Personally I wouldn't not want to be home with (4) kids with no help. SO I see that has objectively harder than pushing paper all day 5 hours or less like i do now. But I did give her the choice a few times, work or stay home without paid daycare. She chose the latter. This is all fine. I think you should become more comfortable with letting her make decisions she's says she's not happy with. And this is why I think guys have to get completely divorced from how their wife thinks/fe…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/22 07:52 PM
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funnier and funnier It sure doesn't seem fair. But sometimes no matter how nice a guy is, no matter what a good leader and advice giver he is, no matter how much he cares about pleasing her in bed and wants to build up her confidence and make her happy and comfortable...... that girl might still gravitate towards the toxic powerful guy at work who treats her like shit : )
/r/askMRP30/06/22 03:03 PM
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I'd like to put my hat in the ring for doing the illustrations for your book. Step 1&2 Step 3&4
/r/askMRP29/06/22 09:48 PM
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so far up my wife's ass makes me want to puke. I don't want to disappoint her $18k in CC debt inability to deal with impulsiveness I am "scared" of her her cutting off sex or finding some other guy shrink down don't want the discomfort.... confrontation...negative emotions. wait until "someone else" gets something going skipping leg day impatient with my kids alcohol weed porn food escape/avoiding reality sex and/or validation from my wife is my latest drug I have no idea what I want I have very…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 09:28 PM
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Whatever it takes to buy that t-shirt without being accused of selfishness, lol
/r/askMRP29/06/22 06:39 PM
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I think if she was getting laid somewhere else the way she wants, he wouldn't be picking up on this unhappiness. He'd be one of the "my wife seems perfectly happy even though we haven't has sex in _____months/years/whatever" guys.
/r/askMRP29/06/22 06:18 PM
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Ahh you beat me to this! I actually love that comment about not being able to buy a t-shirt without appearing selfish. oh boy
/r/askMRP29/06/22 05:59 PM
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his wife needs to get laid too.
/r/askMRP29/06/22 05:55 PM
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literally the dumbest fucking response. You didn't answer his question because your mind is stuck on whether this will get him laid or not. How fucking retarded are you ? \her*
/r/askMRP29/06/22 05:29 PM
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Lots of info on your wife, her finances, mental models, some of her problems like online shopping, but you forgot to tell us her lifts. She probably just needs to get plowed well by a hawt guy. If she starts doing weekly OYS, we can help her improve herself and uncover her blind spots until she's drowning in hawt guys who bone all the stress and anxiety out of her on the regular.
/r/askMRP29/06/22 04:51 PM
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Teasing bitches. ​ I believe bitch is an acronym used by hsp and u/ImpatientZen zen that stands for; Beautiful, Interesting, Tantalizing, Cock-hungry, Heroine
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 03:46 PM
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This jumped at me because I recognize it. Nothing wrong with rushing for your kids to go to bed. Better yet, put your wife in charge when you’re ready to be done parenting for the night. You can do it all on the nights you have enthusiasm for bing with the kids. After bedtime, ask yourself if you REALLY can’t reward yourself better than sedentary brain dead time on the fucking couch
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 03:36 AM
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“So I doubled down and said……75?” When I started reading this and saw you said 65 or 70, I was like oh god, no! Teasing is misunderstood because it does not need to be harsh at all to be effective. But this doubling down was perfect. And a perfect example of DEMONSTRATING “I am joking” instead of deer’ing it. The words I’m joking should never come out of your mouth when you are teasing a girl.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 03:13 AM
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Maybe I’m not there yet, but I don’t know you if you can undo the link between sexual attention/results and validation. Thinking about “wanting to get rid” of a thought or feeling or craving is way harder than replacing it with something else. So maybe make a mental list of internal ways you can feed validation to yourself until sexual attention is a smaller piece f your validation pie. I get validation from mowing and trimming my lawn. U/hornsofapathy gets validation from detailing his vette. A…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 03:05 AM
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feeding her narratives (dare I say mental models) to produce whatever behaviour change you desire. I've found decent ROI in using some RP mental models for this. I've curious if you can give an example. Anything I've ever done that's even close to this ends up being super disappointing. I feel like it's like watching a magic show together, or performing a magic trick for a girl. And if you point out how it's not real magic, and explain where the smoke and mirrors are placed, a girl's reaction is…
/r/askMRP28/06/22 05:31 PM
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But objectively she's overwhelmed with (4) kids while I'm gone 8-5 making her life difficult. No way dude. Do not ever fall for this. Her life as a sahm is fucking awesome. And if she doesn't like it, she should get a job and you guys should hire some hot, part time, college girl babysitters. Now having said that, I think it's fun for my presence at home to be helpful. I love plowing through chores, getting the kids in line in ways that she can't, and I really like getting into bed and spending …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/22 11:12 PM
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abs and a lower back that could stop a small calibre bullet. .......horse legs and an ass like two bowling balls. "I want." said the caveman that lives inside my head
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/22 08:36 PM
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anyone will suck a dick if you leave in front of their face long enough. This statement deserves it's own field report
/r/askMRP27/06/22 05:11 PM
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She wouldn’t be having sex with you that often if she didn’t want to. “in order to not ruin my opportunity to cum.” Consider changing your mindset to you cumming in or on her is HER prize/reward. It’s yours to give to whoever you want. Make her do what you want to get it.
/r/askMRP27/06/22 01:53 PM
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For the breathing pause squats. Is this guy going all the way down and essentially resting there? or is he holding/suspending himself there with his leg muscles, like a heavy wall sit?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/22 06:08 PM
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You are fucking ridiculous. ​ may actually help her be aware of herself......discussing it in friendly conversation.....aspects of female psychology........she might "change" by understanding better I get it. I have to remind myself of this all the time. This urge you have to get her to see things your way is "depolarizing". Teach her redpill with your cock, not your words.
/r/askMRP23/06/22 03:28 PM
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I’m relieved that your post wasn’t just a “I got mad and had a big realization clarity moment after a furious masterbation session”. You’re listing days of dread activities. Keep it up and pile on when they become easily repeated habits. Also, if you’re high functioning autistic, lean into that. You don’t need to give any fucks about reading your wife’s emotions on her face. None. Get obsessed with your preferred interests (maybe being attractive) and use masking when it suits you.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/22 04:08 AM
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dude. Think less. Stop thinking so much. Your lifts and physique are good but they're worthless if you're DEERing insecurities and crying about things that are going on inside of YOUR OWN HEAD that you should be in charge of. ​ I said that I presume she wants me to stop Unless she's mentally incapacitated, she'll tell you to stop when she wants. Until she tells you, let the brain-dead, meathead caveman who lives inside your brain run the show. Unshackle that mother fucker. (pun intended! you're …
/r/askMRP17/06/22 03:38 PM
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We have u/happygoluckysun has* not technically had sex for almost 5.5 years now I was going to point out that you're fat and you need to lose weight but it looks like you got in good shape before. This is still necessary to do again if you want to be attractive. The quoted text above IS the most unattractive thing about you. I know, you know and your wife knows that you want sex. You've demonstrated to everyone in your life, including yourself that you're not willing or not able to take care of …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/22 04:09 PM
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recognize things like psychological parents, de facto custodians, etc. What if the girlfriend calls him daddy in bed? Will he owe child support to these grandparents?
/r/askMRP15/06/22 05:56 PM
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installing an outdoor sink WTF dude? ​ This triggered grandma and she came......Later her husband, my kids' grandpa I don't even know if this is the right link but redsfplus had a post where he excellently described measuring your "bullshit to great sex ratio" If grandma and grandpa are NOT a source for lots of great sex, you have no reason to put up with any of their bullshit.
/r/askMRP15/06/22 04:30 PM
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I love you to
/r/askMRP15/06/22 03:16 PM
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"let's just have sex and get it over with so you are nice to me today." I've heard this A LOT. I'm not positive but I don't think I've heard it in a while. I never turned it down, but it wasn't ever the "rip her clothes off" kinda sex like u/hornsofapathy describes. If I had to guess, the thing I would do now is continue to be the same asshole after sex as I was before. Maybe it was changing the idea of sex in my brain to being something I give to her and not something I'm looking to get.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/22 03:43 AM
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She want's that $2,000 testicle satchel : )
/r/askMRP14/06/22 09:20 PM
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Holy shit!!!! I've read a lot of your oldies. Are you still married? Edit: I see your ring. And read you're dating her.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 04:20 PM
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OYS42 (6,2’’), (209 lbs), BF22%, Lifts : SQ:(132lbs), BP: (137lbs), OHP: (88lbs), DL: (227lbs). wtf dude?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 04:09 PM
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You get 0 attractiveness points for your income and wealth and it's often counterproductive because you're probably being a pussy about using all that money for things you actually want. How much of that $8-10k/m is going towards socially programed responsibilities that you and her decided on TOGETHER(tm). Except for the 20 year olds that show up here, virtually every mrp'er is a millionaire, alpha a work, income earning badass but a total pussy inside of his own bedroom.
/r/askMRP14/06/22 03:22 PM
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Have you ever considered that maybe it’s you who is going into sex differently on the nights that you did bjj? Maybe you could bring that big dick energy around with you anytime you want regardless of what you’ve done that day. Maybe you're just getting really horny pinning, snuggling and asphyxiating these other men.
/r/askMRP14/06/22 01:51 PM
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Stfu to yourself. Make a list of priorities, like you started. Lifting > diet > stfu > eye contact > smile. When you’re feeling really on top of it look for something to add on after smile. When you start to feel overwhelmed, go back to just lifting a diet.
/r/askMRP14/06/22 04:12 AM
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united parenting team that get along I see over and over again that "this" is the dynamic that will make or brake how traumatic divorce is or is not for the kids.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/22 07:29 PM
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I can only imagine what a happy swole fucking beast your little boy might be by the time he's in his early 20's
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/22 07:25 PM
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This is all good. As long as you’re satisfied with your time, where you’re taking yourself with it and you realize that only YOU are in charge of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/22 01:21 PM
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haha
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 11:16 PM
2

unless they’re tied up in your basement send dick pics for the sex slave you want, not the one you have
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 06:51 PM
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yes, lifting and mouth control. I remember an old post where Rian Stone and someone else were arguing over weather lifting or stfu were more important/productive from the get go. Which one do you think is the top priority?
/r/askMRP08/06/22 02:53 PM
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Does toddler game translate to wife game? Yes.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 11:50 PM
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Dunlop, I'm having a kneejerk reaction where I do not agree with this comment. It's sounds dancy/covert contract-ey. "If I demonstrate fun dominance and that I can have fun with non-sexual play, she'll be turned on and attracted to it and it'll pay off later." ​ - Tickle her when you want to tickle. - Squeeze her ass when you want to squeeze her ass. - Escalate to penetrative sex when you want it.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 10:44 PM
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I don’t know why, but I will “think” and/or hampster -------> So, I just decided to initiate There you go : )
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 06:31 PM
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OP could look at my OYS history for results. I was never skinny, just fat. But I remember seeing some of your oldies and being like WTF does this guy look like!?!?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 06:28 PM
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I've been having circular blue pill/red pill thoughts. I've been evaluating my value - reasonable physique, hygeine and style, good income and provider, and capable father, getting frustrated that this value is not more overtly appreciated, then catching myself that these are beta values and blue pill thoughts. Then wondering what alpha traits I need to develop, then realising that these are all covert contracts. I think it helps to NOT think of red/blue pill stuff as traits or parts of who you …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 06:19 PM
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that I would be SO much ahead in my project if the family was not around - these are the shitty thoughts that I was feeding myself for too many years. The good thing is that I am able to identify them and not allow them to influence my mood. I am focusing on work too much; I love working on my project, but I tend to optimize everything out of my life if it gets into my head too deep. Taking time off more often seems to work here. I read lots of contradiction all over this. Are you just unhappy w…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 05:38 PM
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I initiate on the balcony, then in the shower, and we have sex on the bathroom counter. fuck yea! > Next Action: Have *Give her sex during the day in a new room this week. FUCK YEA. (notice I like what you did and what you're planning to do next, not your result)
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 05:33 PM
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I find all this real interesting. ​ it was always an ultimatum, they develop feelings for me and it eats them up that I see other women. And if it's not an ultimatum it gets to this point in a few weeks. This should all be their problem. A person who gives an ultimatum puts THEMSELVES in a position of complete powerlessness. You don't ever have to view this as a negative but as a sign of them really wanting to defer their big decisions to your judgement. Maybe that's kinda sad for them, but wome…
/r/askMRP07/06/22 05:24 PM
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I still feel like my "game" is a performance at times. I almost have to get in the right head space and tell myself, "Ok, now it is time to practice some game, so turn it on." I think that's fine. I was never a drama/theater kid but that kinda thing actually does appeal to me and I think game is like that, perform/pretend that you're mad, that you're in love, then that you're going to do something physically wild to her, perform like you're a caveman, or a horny pirate. And do it with someone wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 04:26 PM
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if they ask for exclusivity I leave. You can choose your own boundaries but I don't know why their ask has to warrant leaving? Does it make you feel too guilty to just say, no thanks, without dumping them? ​ Other times they don't ask for it but they let me know they get hurt by it. I know I shouldn't care but I'm just not that ruthless, I don't get any joy knowing I'm hurting those girls If a girl gets hurt by your sexual choice to not be exclusive, that's not ruthless and it's not your fault i…
/r/askMRP07/06/22 03:57 PM
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just wondering whats the contingency plan right now? Get your bodyfat under control.
/r/askMRP07/06/22 02:35 PM
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You say, she’s capable but won’t provide you value. Are you leaving it up to her to decide what that value is? Or do you tell her? Then you say, I will have my needs met. Are you doing that? Or waiting for your mommy to figure it out for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 01:22 PM
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Thank you man! I'll consider it
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/22 04:32 PM
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Thank you sprout. Are your wife's friends still asking you to give them your meat right in front of her face? I love that story.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/22 02:38 PM
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What are you practicing game? Curiosity? I'm not totally sure. It was more fun than watching tv in the hotel room. ​ Secondary to that, Why are you avoiding the area where you are most likely to actually be rejected? I'm definitely not out here trying to blue ball these girls' pussies right at the finish line. That sounds abhorrent.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/22 02:36 PM
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https://www.forums.red/p/TheRedPill/3524/humansockpuppet_s_guide_to_managing_your_bitches
/r/askMRP06/06/22 11:39 AM
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Thoughts on approaching groups of girls 4+? Rian said it in fuccfiles and it's explained well here. Bigger groups are kindof a waste because there's too many female witnesses for her to be herself. Girls go out in pairs specifically for behavior that they don't want to be seen by their friend group at large. ​ She appeared to be enamored and delighted with me coming up to her and I pretty quickly bounced, deciding that I didn't want to subject this sweet beautiful girl to my scummy, adulterizing…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/22 02:59 PM
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go back to Nashville and bar crawl again I think you and me eventually doing this together is inevitable.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/22 02:43 PM
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This is not a prescriptive "how to live your life" post The mental hurdles were heavy and not sustainable. I would meditate prior to going out to purposefully discharge all the thinking.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/22 12:45 AM
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(Like you're looking for a pat on the back) I wouldn't disagree with you here. ​ decisions to make about where your boundaries are. I question weather or not there's any need to hurry on this.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/22 07:05 PM
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Her words mean nothing in the now. My actions mean nothing in the now. Across time though, ego is averaged out. And I think this is why a lot of guys don't see results instantly. One day they just look back and go "holy shit". YES. But right now, if you were to look into her mind, do you ultimately care what she thinks? Or are you good either way? It's not like I don't care. But instead of viewing this communication as a way to sway her or move her or get something I want it's more of a "just en…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/22 04:23 PM
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It doesn't interest her at all. If anything she thinks it makes getting together challenging for the hobbies we all share (like camping). OMG Dude. Eventually, you want to get to a place where you're doing things because it's what you like regardless of what she thinks.... BUUUUUT, since you're probably not that aware of what you want, you might as well look to activities she says she hates as a way to get laid more while you're still figuring this out.
/r/askMRP01/06/22 08:58 PM
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What's the hobby of all these other husbands that you don't intend to participate in? Is it arousing your wife?
/r/askMRP01/06/22 05:25 PM
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That perspective is the thing we have to teach each other. It's almost like you and your wife speak different languages and as a consequence your entire marriage is going to be teaching each other not just what words represent, but the meaning (mental/emotional) behind them. This is interesting. But I really have an instinct to push back on this because I feel like I really just recently got out of the trap of wanting to teach my perspective to others, especially my wife. ​ Now here's the big ki…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 05:22 PM
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I've got a part 2 reply coming tomorrow morning. Don't skip ahead on me yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 12:01 AM
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This is so much fun! ​ I think you're saying the guy is still beta either way, but he's using that beta to beat her into submission. Rather than her beating him unwillingly into beta. Which is the difference between "I was once alpha" guys on MRP and "I was always beta" guys. I think what I'm describing is that I can see how she's always filled the container exactly as I designed it. Not necessarily an alpha or beta thing. But I used to demonstrate clearly that I wanted her to be an egalitarian …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/22 11:53 PM
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Lifting and dieting is the perfect way to weaponise your autism. Dude, great comment. Both of them.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/22 02:43 PM
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You say "why bother" from the perspective of the sandals being "better" because they are a solution in the Now and better than Before. You say "get tired of" as a qualifier that sandals have to reduce in value to allow a search for an aquifer. But what's so wrong with saying "okay, I will" in full acceptance that at any moment you can simultaneously enjoy the Now and watch out for the aquifer? Why the rank value? I'm comfortable admitting that I'm not on top of my ego but I'm wondering, can't a …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/22 09:28 PM
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I just finished a huge reply to this and it got deleted. I'll get back on soon.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/22 06:36 PM
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I meant to expand on your communicate with the woman question further but got interrupted. And this is where I’m at now on that: I still agree with all the marriage counselors out there that “communication is essential” in a good relationship but my definition of communication has broadened tremendously to include all sorts of non verbal communication (and often shut up) that’s more powerful and effective than my previous approach. Basically everything is communication. I think mrp in a nutshell…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/22 04:21 PM
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I’ve continued to think about this daily. The more I’ve thought about it, the more I’ve felt like our conversation here is pretty well summed up with your “man and his struggle” post. It’s like, I have these fancy new sandals that make my journey to the water way easier than it’s ever been. You’re telling me to keep an eye open for the aquifer that closer and I’m saying back to “why bother, look how good these sandals work”. But maybe I know deep down that I will get tired of the walk with sanda…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/22 01:55 PM
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Btw, your mom is totally going to ground you for stealing the car and watching fringe youtubes. She’s going to take her frustrations out on your daddies cock.
/r/askMRP30/05/22 04:15 AM
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Are you 204#? Are you less than 4’tall? The Strongur calculator won’t even let a guy put in your lifts for someone under 4’ tall
/r/askMRP30/05/22 04:11 AM
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I do not give a shit. I want these special sex acts. Op put the answer to his question in his own post. But HE is the one who is not willing.
/r/askMRP27/05/22 11:33 PM
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Assuming you find your wife fuckable and you aren’t just looking for validation points, try to make less of big deal out of what is or isn’t an initiation. But that doesn’t mean be a pussy about it and don’t be humorous about it. Roosh said something in Bang about being vague with your words, readable with your actions and crystal clear with your touch. This was indispensable for me to quit verbally bringing up initiations.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 05:31 PM
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Ive often noticed you using language that sounds pretty supplicative, drenched in scarcity. “I hope my turn with her lasts as long as possible”. You’re not hers, it’s just her turn.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 04:25 PM
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You said may 1st or it’s going into the garbage when you have time. You used the time you spent had on Sunday checking on it. Hamstering about if you should talk to her about it again, then giving her attention and sex. I wonder where she gets this “all talk and no follow through” behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 04:09 PM
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The storage unit thing could probably be applied to every part of your life and relationship. How often do you say “this is how I want it” or “this is how it’s going to be” and then you completely puss out on doing what it takes to follow through?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 12:46 PM
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I have some interesting thoughts for keeping this discussion going that I want to bring up. Mostly as it relates to my MPO hierarchy. I am going to follow up with you on it more.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/22 04:30 PM
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You've got some wording in here that I want to point out but I think you're probably kindof aware already. It's been real dark, for as long as I can remember. It's gotten slightly lighter over the last couple of months. I finally feel like I've got some degree of control over my situation one way or the other. You know the idea of like, you're already won, you're in control of all of this? Why don't you think that applies to you? I'm a work in progress. I'm still sorting myself out, that's not a…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/22 04:17 PM
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Agreed. The first time I read NMMNG I thought only like 1/3 of it applied to me (being a special, not that bad case!) lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/22 03:29 PM
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I should clarify too. I didn't bring that quote up to describe why divorce might be scary. I think of that quote often to remind myself that I can probably maintain my relationship for as long as I want without all the blue signals. I don't have to do chores, I don't have to be a good dad, I don't have to buy vacations or suv's or be some impressive businessman or leader in my community. I can do all those things for me if I want but I do not need any of them for maintaining the relationship. Sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/22 03:26 PM
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Yours has been a pretty interesting example of a guy who I'm assuming lived all the different lives (with a lot of different gals) and ended up in marriage. I think sometimes people here assume that once a guys seen and experienced it all there's no way he'd end up married. There has to be more to that choice than just 'no condoms'.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/22 03:18 PM
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This is what I wanted to make sure you were NOT suggesting: Now, if you actually feel better about yourself BECAUSE a guy at another table has a shit meal, that is a problem. I used to be like this all the time with other people's life decisions, especially financial. And I've found a lot of joy/happiness in dropping those kinds of external judgements.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 04:37 PM
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If you double your gas mileage, and currently spend $10/day on gas, you’ll save $5/day. If you work 5 days a week, that’s about $100/m, $1,200 per year, or $6,000 saved in the next 5 years. All that’s subject to change if gas prices go up or something else changes, but the price of gas doesn’t exactly justify it. Maybe the more important question is; you’re going to spend like an hour a day in the car for who knows how long? Do you absolutely love it? It’s maybe worth getting something you love.…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 03:46 AM
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Dude, GREAT post. Most of the best advice you will come up with comes from things you're on the verge of figuring out for yourself. ​ There’s something about the level of excitement involved with a woman genuinely giving herself to me that’s overwhelming me. I’m not sure how to remedy this issue. I think it may be connected to a lack of confidence in that I deserve it. Don't worry so much about it. Foot on the gas and keep fucking until you're so drained you can't finish. ​ Another example is wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 10:53 PM
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Again, I think maybe you have some work to do in the frame department. I agree. My worldview is tremendously malleable right now. ​ I also agree that: It isn't what you spend money on, it's why you spend it that matters I'm going to repeat what I think you're saying to confirm I'm not misunderstanding you: "A guy who buys an expensive gift with a covert contract for a better sex life is terribly misguided." I agree with that 100% from a standpoint of it being a poor sexual strategy. I'd argue th…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 06:20 PM
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That redsfp quote if from one of your oys' u/ImpatientZen lol
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 12:14 AM
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Hint: It's mostly putting time into me. So a lot of guys on the outside would look at my life and say, "What does he even fucking do?" Because to them I would seem lazy. I look at myself and say this sometimes! I eat less junkfood and drink less beer but I enjoy it more these days in a way that's makes it feel more significant. I work less and make more. I don't try hard with the women in my life and I can see the relief, relaxation and excitement in their eyes over this. ​ So, its with a SAHM y…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 12:12 AM
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failing to lead them or failing to teach them Agreed.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 10:50 PM
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Every time I really spill my guts on here I get rewarded with pretty significant insight and feedback. I remember you saying to me, don't settle for an acceptable woman when you could be working with something awesome. I also remember a good discussion you had with u/hornsofapathy and u/oobertas around last december I think where you convincingly described that there's no 'good' reason to stay legally married. Essentially, even if you want to let her keep the relationship, you can do it (and she…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 10:29 PM
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I'm glad we're clarifying this. My wife has what I would consider an 'expensive purse' and I think it costs like $200. I agree completely that gifts are a lousy, probably counterproductive, for a guy's sexual strategy and I've essentially proven this to myself this last year. But for me, or anyone else who is the breadwinner, wouldn't it be delusional to point some woman's purse and feel like I'm financial superior in my situation. (For sure I can conclude I'm sexually superior to the guy who bo…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 09:10 PM
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This week I will be setting up the 401k contribution with my employer, and figure out whatever percentage that is left over needs to go into my own investment account to make 10%. I will also start setting aside 10% for an emergency fund. I like this plan. It's up to you to do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 08:07 PM
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I loved this book. What I got out of it was essentially stopping lots of horrible parenting tactics; don't DEER to your kids trying to get them to buy into your boundaries, just make boundaries and enforce them without all the emotional shaming that many parents do with time outs or other consequences. The counting tactic IMO is a strategy to get the constantly DEERing parent to STFU for a minute. u/SBIII was a stay at home dad pre-MRP so this childcare stuff might be so fundamental to him he ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 04:26 PM
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A few people poked at your divorce pain and your constant use of "bitches". I remember it used to bother me a lot last summer the way you would post with "bitches this, bitches that". I figured I was just being a pussy and I should not let that grating behavior keep me from gaining something from you but I also wanted to ask you about it because the only time I ever heard you NOT refer to a woman as a bitch was about your ex while you were waiting on your divorce. You would refer to her as your …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 04:02 PM
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I know too many guys who are high earners who live like a slave to their wife's reckless spending and whims. Agreed. I think this is a problem with not understanding who has the weapons and not believing you're entitled to the assertive rights in WISNIFG. Kinda like with sex, people will very emotionally use money and their approach to money as a way to symbolize their values: "look at how fancy/frugal/cunning/adventurous/disciplined/successful/virtuous I am" I don't think there's anything wrong…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/22 10:21 PM
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Also, I'm dying to know more about your 90% savings and no cash. I think I went in the reverse direction when I got to mrp realizing that so much of that wasn't benefiting me. I used to keep 1/2 month in cash and saved over 20% for the long term. Last year my wife became a sahm. Now, I maintain about 8 months of income in cash and save closer to 15%. I have more than enough long term savings for my age. To me, this is tremendously liberating.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/22 06:02 PM
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You don't need a budget if you can control your spending and save, but I'm guessing that the readers here are either set (like you and I) or they should probably run a budget to get there stuff sorted. Spend less than you make is the key, if you can do that without a formal budget then you are set. Agreed. This is similar to counting calories I think. You probably have to do it for a while but eventually you can get through the month, living on the deficit without tracking it all.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/22 05:51 PM
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My comment about thinking you struggle with this is based on what I remember from you around Dec/Jan. You’ve maybe changed some behaviors and I haven’t kept up.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/22 11:56 PM
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You mention the comfort of sacrificing your own happiness. I recognize your description of that limitation exactly. Typical nice guy shit. One way to switch how you think about this is to consider sacrificing the comfort and validation you find in limiting yourself for the sake of those around you. This is only halfway to what you want as your final destination of doing it all for yourself but it can be illuminating to notice how much the women in your life will adore you for behaving more selfi…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/22 07:00 PM
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Hahahah! Careful with that 1x/week at home intensity!
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/22 05:42 PM
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I mentioned you in someone else’s oys a few weeks ago to point out your good physical stats. Guys who come to Mrp that are already in shape are generally some of the most emotionally repulsive and immature people on the planet. You’re no doubt recognizing this with your mentions of anger. And it sounds like you’re getting yourself pointed in a better direction. This is great. I’m going to guess that your “nuking” a boundary encroachment above or your previous bitch fit you threw about your daugh…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/22 05:20 PM
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Life has better blood trails to follow.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 07:29 PM
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This is the first tie I’ve noticed you commenting on oys. I’ve always been curious about that.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 02:25 AM
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This guy found NMMNG in 2010, u/ocboa704, 12 years is a long time. That's about 25% of your life, 66% of your marriage. Normally, for guys over 25% bodyfat, the extra weight is big unattractive elephant in the room but if you've "shown" your wife and everybody else in your life your ability to let 12 years go by without any meaningful progress towards this: Mission: ......Be a high value man with options That might actually be more sad and repulsive than the (almost 100lbs?) of fat on your body.…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/22 03:52 PM
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What was it? .....where did it come from? My best description is "living in the moment". If doing drugs or playing on your phone is escaping reality, this was as far on the other end of that spectrum that I can think of ever being. And it's funny, cus it felt like a drug. ​ from where did it come? How did it come? This has to be a result of practicing meditation. Hollowing out my mind and being completely without all the what if/what next/how to/what was/when do/which/why/where/who with thoughts…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/22 03:30 PM
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“via your view of the shadow” I can see my humility sitting there begging me not to say this but just to admit that I don’t get it so blarg might give me his description. But here is what’s in front of me that you might be curious about. A few weeks ago I was walking to my office with my 7 year old. This was after my first week or two of 15min/day meditation and I was eating an apple and there were birds chirping and my 7 yr old was chattering on and I was just floating along, ABSOLUTELY FLOATIN…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/22 04:54 AM
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It's too bad. It's such a mystery why a guy like that would ever get rejected.
/r/askMRP28/04/22 03:21 PM
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Where did you find that one? I didn't see it with this search feature
/r/askMRP28/04/22 03:08 PM
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Daddy vibes This is the thing in my garden that I'm watering the most.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 11:38 PM
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his previous posts were about getting a drivers license and worried about marrying her because she'll likely always earn more.
/r/askMRP27/04/22 10:32 PM
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That first part is what I think you could use in these situations. When I think of advanced fogging, I picture the examples he gave of the boss right after what you quoted. This was/is huge for me to understand how to express understanding her without dismissal or judgement that she shouldn't feel a certain way and without unloading a bunch of my worries onto her or commiserating with her. To me, this advanced fogging is the kind "ride the waves of her emotions and don't be scared of them" mascu…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 10:14 PM
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So I'm going to reply here to keep this conversation public. I think it has a lot of value for guys sitting at the third seat at our discussion table. It pains me sometimes to think of the gems that are probably hidden in private messages. I am over the moon with how much fun and educational this discussion is. ​ Who is it then, that is seeing these things? In the caveman scenario, are we describing the actions and dynamics of the caveman and woman from the caveman's perspective who understands …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 08:08 PM
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I have a widower uncle in his mid 70’s. He’s not ripped or tall or a crazy world traveler or anything. He’s just not fat and not needy and ALL women age 50+ throw themselves at him constantly. It’s insane. Some women were driving through his neighborhood last summer and they picked him up while he was watering plants in his front yard and took him back to one of their houses for breakfast. Being not fat is like a superpower.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 03:48 AM
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Everything you said here shows you know it. I know all too well that in this moment somewhere in you (ego maybe?) thought, “oh well me and her are different and if I deer it right just a little bit this one time she’ll see it, she needs a little help seeing it”. But she doesn’t need that help. She can “see it” anytime she needs but doesn’t need to as long as you’re focused on “it”.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 03:37 AM
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How much water do you drink every day? Raw vegetables?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 11:56 PM
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I could not stop my urge to get her to see things my way. Good realization.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 11:54 PM
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Relationship: I had to give a small FMOFY speech this week. I had gone out the night before instead of staying in with her, and the next day, she wanted to talk about my communication and level of commitment. I gave this mental model to all questions about why I'm not doing this or that or what my feelings are. "I'm making offers to you. You can accept or decline those offers. If you accept, the relationship will grow and flourish. If you don't, I'm not going to wait around and ask why." I said …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 11:51 PM
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I couldn’t tell if this was good of me or not, but I felt like it was both the right thing to do and I was fucking up. I started to initiate sex but got rejected. Don't do this unless YOU are horny or you're rewarding her for some seriously good behavior (like turning around a bad attitude). I have been re-reading WISNIFG and looking online at fogging techniques and guess I just need to focus there. I had at times really confused fogging with being agreeable/supplicative and it did take a second…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 11:36 PM
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Dude, good story, I really liked that. Figure this out: I briefly lost my shit over this, weak. I have no logical reason to even be mad about it That really sucks.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 11:18 PM
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I forgot to STFU and open my big fucking mouth again which led to another pointless “talk.” Save this urge to "talk" for the next attractive girl you come across and make it light, fun, and positive.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 11:10 PM
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Dude! Are we going to do running of the bulls 2023?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 11:06 PM
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Watch what she does, not what she says. says; I like you the way you are does; not want to have sex with you and u/Hot_Cactus don't get upset at her about this. She's probably truly thinks she likes you the way you are and doesn't really even know why she doesn't want to have sex with you.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 11:03 PM
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We had a good time on vacation. Don't lie. She was sick, you waited until the last night to offer up a softy and you were both deprived of hot vacation sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 10:47 PM
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Good comment. My wife never read it either and now I 123spank her. u/arm_candy you can embrace this kind of thing as her leaving space for you to be the parenting authority in your house. If you do it well, she'll probably want you to coach her on her own parenting.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 10:40 PM
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6'2" 185 lbs BF 11.4% Bioimpedance (12.8% InBody scan March 2022). I’m doing what I want to do when I want to do it. Sex has continued to improve with some downright filthy sessions. Just wanna let you know, this guy u/outamymind3 is 50
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 10:33 PM
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I imagine a world where my wife is engaged proactively in our sex life, and prioritizes or checks in on some version of my “needs” \mommy*
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 10:24 PM
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amen. keep it up u/guerillajayne
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 10:21 PM
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You spent time taking action to make yourself more attractive, and eventually your wife recognised it, your relationship improved and your needs were met. \put myself in a position where I am capable of getting my needs met for myself.* I know exactly who would be in line to take my wife's place if our relationship ended.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 09:48 PM
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It's definitely not that I do not care. I like the time that I spend with my wife. She is sexy, extremely funny and fun to be around. She is unbelievably emotional in a way that I admire and appreciate and she has a very unique set of opinions, attitudes, likes, dislikes and a way about her that I love interacting with. I would be sad if we separated. Having said that, I'd be alright. I would get to continue being who I am and doing what I do right now, which is fucking awesome. (She'd be fine t…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 08:20 PM
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EXACTLY.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 08:04 PM
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However, many guys from MRP seem to have achieved what I am hoping to - i.e. they have turned their relationship around to a place where they are sexually fulfilled again. What I want is to get to that point with my SO. It's weird, but caring about this makes it worse.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 07:12 PM
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abs on a skinny dude are about as impressive as big melons on a heavy girl.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 06:52 PM
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Acknowledging and confronting the fears helps me tamp the ego in the same way expressing my desires helps me maintain congruence. I'm interested in hearing you expand on this or describe an example of each.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/22 09:20 PM
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Estoy contento a practicar. Yo vivi en San Sebastian cuatro meces en 2008. ​ I started to work on my weight since February. No puedo creer que esperastes tanto mucho. Tu controlas esto y la oportunidad es grande. Mantente en el camino.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/22 08:53 PM
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My man, are you okay?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/22 07:58 PM
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Amigo, en el ultimo ano, has perdidos 7kg. No puedes saltarte el consejo, "no seas gordo".
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/22 04:00 PM
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the fear is positive feedback I've continued to think about this too because I agree with your thinking of fear as a "on my edge" diagnostic tool but it still seemed funny that you had so much fear mentioned in your OYS. And I think the reason is that can't really tell what your mission or #1 priority is; Do more at work? Not overwork yourself? Acclimate to your current client/imposter syndrome? Keep yourself in a state of fear on all fronts to validate what you're doing? (Not bad validation, th…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/22 03:12 PM
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Are you reading 3 books at the same time? I want to know what you think of this. I've almost never been able to do 1-2 at a time.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/22 05:50 PM
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Weight 207lbs. Feel like I'm losing direction with MRP to be honest. Just currently putting all my focus into lifting and training at the moment. You have no reason to distract yourself with another focus until you're not fat.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/22 05:45 PM
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...is the most hollow existence I can imagine. IF a man subscribes to this, he has no agency. This is not wrong and it's interesting you said this because this is something I've been deliberately exploring and experimenting with in 1x/day 15-20 minutes of meditation for about 3 weeks, lol. Complete non-identification with everything inside of and around me. I'm not my feelings, fears, hopes and dreams ect. I'm not my physical body (which is mostly made up of water that's just passing through on …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/22 11:51 PM
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...and I answer "I find value in getting closer. Do you?" I think we're both in agreement on this thing but describing it in different ways. Also, I'm going to write a big reply to all of this but I want you to know I've been absolutely beaming with energetic excitement over this discussion so much that people around me are asking me what's going on and I'm pretty sure my wife felt compelled to screw me yesterday afternoon because of it. I think that's all mostly because I've been embracing the …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/22 04:35 PM
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“Perspective which is a HUGE problem in MRP….solutions he learned are true or not.” With my teacher hat on, I think I understand the problem you’re talking about but I want to ask you, why is that a problem and for whom is that a problem? Not a problem for the sociopaths and losers. They’ll be fine. Not a problem for the current clueless or their wives who are getting their beholes rubbed on the regular. Maybe a problem for the future of Mrp and the potential future clueless, but is that your an…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/22 04:33 AM
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Some women hurt your feelings in your 20's! This is a terrible injustice. Godspeed on your worthwhile mission.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 11:57 PM
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As if you have this massive imposter syndrome that you dont want confirmed. Almost as if by always being a student, even if you're wrong you can be okay with that because...it's not like you were trying to be the teacher or anything. God damn dude!! lol ​ ​ Teach me now from your perspective because I dont know if i'm not seeing something: did you purposefully try and teach him anger? Did you think he already knew anger and so you tried to teach him hoping he'd see that it's not the right path b…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 11:37 PM
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A Failure of Nerve, Tao of Abundance I'm putting both of these on my list. What do you make of how much you mention fear in your post?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 05:06 PM
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This time it was physical stimulation that killed the starfish. I seriously doubt it. Maybe there was some physical enjoyment going on but I'm almost certain it was mostly turning her on mentally with your non-needy wanting her to react/act/fuck a certain way. The prison is yours, created by you. And it psychologically turns her on to see you break out of there. The paradox here was that maybe it was you not caring about killing the starfish that made her want to come out of the prison with you …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 04:57 PM
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My SO and I live together in my home country, but she doesn’t have a citizenship in my country yet, so we would need to actually get married before we move in 2023 (this would prevent any difficulties for when we move back home in a couple of years). What's in it for you? This is all for her benefit and all you get is the covert contract. ​ However, moving abroad would be amazing, and if I continue working on myself, my sex life should improve (CC/DM alert). This can all be true but it's not goi…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 04:40 PM
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play a quick game.... Do you think I'm smarter than you? Yes, of course. But.....(there's always a but(hole to get rubbed)). This question of yours has got me digging into some interesting layers. I really think I believe you're smarter than me. But I think even if I didn't think that, deep down I would still say that because I know that's the best/right answer to that question for me to get more of what I want which is just to get more useful words out of you. And I think I have got some type o…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 03:40 PM
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You ever catch what your mind is thinking right before you fall asleep? You're so far gone that dream-logic has almost taken over. So when you assess what it was you were thinking about you find that the guy watching you through a kaleidoscope on the street corner while you were flying through the city trying to deliver newspapers to waiting customers was some sort of important father figure and you felt judged but the judgement was eminating from anthropomorphic skyscrapers to your left and rig…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/22 11:03 PM
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When I read my own words there, I see anger. Sunk cost. There's no real use for it, but it's there. I'd be thrilled to see you take a stab at verbalizing your twitchy eye.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/22 03:52 PM
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The only thing I can think of is to call the police, which I actually did and found out they are actually closed in the evening. This is the funniest thing I've seen on ask since the fancy boxers guy.
/r/askMRP13/04/22 11:09 PM
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I didn't read the rest of your post before this btw. Good for you for not being fat. Your wife is almost a senior citizen but she absolutely, desperately, wants to feel like a little girl worthy of attention from a strong, fun, energetic, non-needy daddy.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/22 10:55 PM
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Consistent affection- drip affection tagging u/blarg_risen who asked what I think of this now. It was way over my head at that time but I have a (somewhat mentally erratic) version of how I dealt with this. I might be missing some of his points so I hope he chimes if I'm leaving out important details. If weakandsensative were here, he'd ask you "what do you want?" and this is what you should be attempting to illuminate and organize in a hierarchical list of priorities. I more or less dropped 'cu…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/22 10:50 PM
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Do you have a boat to invite her to? Or are you battling for her spot? For her boat. That's a hilarious image BTW. The first mate on a boat calls a mutiny, takes the captain's spot, and the captain then falls in line on what used to be her own ship. This is a great distinction. There's a real risk to a guy thinking he's taking control when he's really just holding a toy steering wheel, sitting on mommy's lap.
/r/askMRP13/04/22 04:30 PM
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Dude, you are amazing.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/22 05:50 PM
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Some math for my fellow rednecks: ​ Ht 172cm Wt 69.7kg 172cm = 5'7" 69.7kg = 154lbs + Fitness i have begun to develop a basic workout routine. No access to a gym heading for divorce. wife has even told me her plan Facing shit tests daily. most don't go well. Having trouble making STFU work sends me into DEER responses ​ Also, I have always been the one to stay calm/quiet in conflicts and try to compromise or appease. had a minor breakthrough this week when i took charge of the argument. fighting…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/22 05:47 PM
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First, I decided what I wanted simple, not easy
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/22 05:22 PM
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This is textbook watch what she does, not what she says. I know what she wants based on this but I cannot tell if you know what you want.
/r/askMRP07/04/22 09:04 PM
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I believe that divorce will be a significant likelihood in the next few months. However, I am determined to stay this course. What the fuck does this mean? Stay this course? Waiting for divorce to happen to you. Jesus christ.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/22 03:10 PM
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Sex has been frequent and enthusiastic. New things have been on the table. My wife has opened up about what she enjoys. All in all, things related to sex are great at this point. Are you going to embrace this as something YOU have done and YOU are responsible to continue (assuming you want to)?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 10:07 PM
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Thank you over60. This has been such a weird and crazy experience to say the least. I really appreciate this place.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/22 11:52 PM
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plus it might fail What the fuck do you have to lose? You really worried to disrupt things with that sexually disinterested creditor? The extra 40lbs on your bod? Your boring fucking life?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/22 09:18 PM
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you pretty much address all this in your comments with blag. I'm looking forward to your book, especially the chapter on butthole rubbing technique.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/22 09:10 PM
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Just plain vitrol mean shit said to me that was intentionally said to hurt me. I wasn’t hurt, just really flabbergasted at the behavior. Is this kindof the same as Praise and Compliments should be worthless to you? but more like "hurtful mean words should be worthless to you" Or watch what she does, not what she says? Was this that much worse than the kind of ways she'd verbally blow up at you in your first 50 oys's or was it just flabbergasting because that kind of behavior seemed like it was g…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/22 09:06 PM
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Things have improved here substantially. I've been light and fun to be around and it's vastly improved my time with my daughter. I've come to realise I've got a much shorter fuse with her than I do with anyone else and it's not fair. I can go all week without getting irritated with anyone but she's not getting the same patience and understanding which is shit and unfair. I must have some pre-programmed emotional responses to her actions that bypass the logical part of me. I'll work hard on this.…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/22 08:40 PM
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It was absolutely incredible.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 10:41 PM
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Your example of OYS (which I referred to frequently as you were several months ahead of me) is still the best I’m aware of where a guy figured out how to stfu properly and did it consistently for dozens of weeks. Your description of the panic you can experience when you first start trying is so accurate. Great post.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/22 06:13 PM
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Even if it's shit, I am sure any plan is better than no plan. 100% You want to aim for something that really clearly and specifically defined AND you can count on it being something you're going to change a lot. "Plan" on it needing to be adaptable. Then fill in the middle with the behaviors "you" control that get you there.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/22 06:59 PM
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I didn't do this on purpose but if you wanted to explain the oys experience with a cyclical graph this would be it: you can do better --> tap your potential --> you're fucked --> you can do better
/r/askMRP25/03/22 02:44 PM
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I take this back. Im writing too fast. Based on your comments that you’re staying with her while you “improve” yourself is the absolute pinnacle of beta supplicant “I’m not worthy mindset” I think you’re probably doomed to drop your body fat to 18%, then get weekly sex and an annual bj for as long as you earn good and keep up on your chore chart.
/r/askMRP24/03/22 12:26 AM
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The most INSANELY HUGE advantage you have right now in life is that you’re aware of your deficiencies (which are cringe-y) and you’re actually being honest with yourself about them. You probably have no idea what a fucking superpower that is. Almost nobody arrives here with this kind of self awareness.
/r/askMRP24/03/22 12:13 AM
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Do not continue to date her while you improve. DO NOT. You will realize your desired improvements so much faster if you get experiences meeting, flirting with, and fucking other women. And to be clear, you’re a fine guy, there’s nothing wrong with you, you’re just recognizing that you’re not that good at some things you want to get better at (behavior and fucking) Also, do oys.
/r/askMRP24/03/22 12:10 AM
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I don’t know where you live or what your financial situation it but I cannot imagine living with an ex and our kids for almost an entire year. ……unless I was “hoping” to work it out
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 05:57 PM
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I remember your wager on the feminist organization. Lol I do think it’s worth noting that you’re fat and unable to bench press your body weight and you’re making up for this “be attractive” deficiency pretty completely with: Lack of commitment + the (likely terrible)game of a guy on OYS 19
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 02:46 AM
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This is a Great comment.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 02:28 AM
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Listen to what she does, not what she says. What did she DO to show you she appreciates the bath time and childcare? Looks like she just gave you some verbal gold stars.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 02:21 AM
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What’s your reddest area? It’s food man. None of the rest of this matters much yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 02:05 AM
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This isolation week sounds like it was a waste. You will NEVER spend that much uninterrupted time with your wife and young kids again in your life. Not to mention what did you do with the time not in the gym?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 02:00 AM
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Hey dude, nice lifts. Oys 26
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 01:52 AM
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What’s your plan for independent living?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 01:17 AM
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“don’t have a strong vision for my life” What’s the plan for this? Take any area of your life and define where you’re at (point A) and where you’d like to be (point b). What’s the story of a guy who moves it from a to b? What’s he do?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 01:12 AM
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becoming more fit and healthy is a good way to do that, but not the only way. Tell me you're not lifting without telling me you're not lifting. ​ ... more charming and charismatic in comparison to other men ....you use as a vehicle to bring her new places ...make yourself look better than your old self and her friends husbands. ...Make sure half of your experiences with her are outside the house in public. ...Places she sees you ...Make more deliberate opportunities for her to be forced Good gri…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/22 06:23 PM
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You’re correct that your best answer to this is stay out of her head. Why’s she doing that? I don’t know? Doesn’t matter, got laid (or will get laid soon). But to take a stab at it because maybe you could benefit from knowing why to not dwell on it: “we really are still pretending, and don’t want to actually acknowledge that?” This is the 1,000ft rope. She’s permanently married to whatever version of you was interacting with her 3 months ago. Look at you three months ago. Huge askmrp and a bunch…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/22 03:42 AM
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In the end however, you know that you can't change the past. You also can't change other people or get angry if they are not changing the way you want them to. Absolutely 100%. And know that you can get to this level of acceptance with a smile on your face because you're enjoying the experience of being alive It might be that your wife will not be able to become an open-to-sex, slutty girl that you want her to be, but it's not a reason to be angry at her. For sure, might never happen. And on the…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/22 06:18 PM
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Need to become a better monkey. You don't NEED to. You GET TO do whatever you want all of the time with every minute you have and live with the consequences of all those decisions. ​ I don't think I will accept the alternative. Could've fooled me. You've spent 40 fucking years accepting the alternative.
/r/askMRP17/03/22 10:22 PM
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Yeesh! dude you're acting like you think "be attractive, don't be unattractive" doesn't apply to you. ​ In our first session I expressed some of my “nice guy” traits and how I want to get out of them, which was not really anything new to her. Nobody wants to see how your sausage is made. Just make a good sausage and share it with your loved ones. Stuff it into all the holes of all the people who will appreciate it. ​ But for the next 3 weeks all I heard was “what’s wrong with you?” kind of shit.…
/r/askMRP17/03/22 08:08 PM
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The Alabaster Girl (not sidebar) +1 you're MY girl
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/22 05:47 PM
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Please give us a field report on when you were pushed to do something you didn't want to do. A FR looks like this: 36, 5'9" 167 14%bf BP195x5 Squats: n/a (injured knee) DL: 65x10 Two Fridays ago I was at all day networking event made up of mostly women. There was one girl in particular there who I'm attracted to and while I've flirted with her a lot over the last year, I have repeatedly messed up with over doing it on my interest in her. Basically, nervousness interacting and other DLV. She's a …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/22 05:06 PM
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Maybe that's me having problems writing correct english sentences which does not sound like complaints. Writing about lack of sex results was for informational, not for making me feel miserable. That makes sense and I've noticed this with others who are using English as a second language. What you wrote in this comment above helps a lot. Having said that, what I'm picking on you for is this: The way I am behaving right now .... seems retarded though. I am doing my thing and pretend all is fine. …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/22 03:56 PM
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Wow! okay I agree 100% I've had another thought based on what you wrote here and that is that a guy might think about treating his own emotions in the same way he might treat a woman and her emotions. Let the emotions be, don't try to fix or control it (LETTING GO). But don't let it get in the way of pursuing your real priorities. Give yourself some internal boundaries.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 09:59 PM
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Paradoxically, you gain control when you let go. I'm curious to know more about what you're thinking here. To me, this is a discipline vs motivation question. Like a guy can't expect to always control how he "feels" about going to the gym or how he "feels" about eating healthier. An expectation of having control over those feelings will just set him up to fail. He's going to feel too tired to go to the gym some days and he's going to "feel" like eating garbage sometimes. Over the long term, expe…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 06:07 PM
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Dude. Sorry about your family and your dad. ​ We had to take certain financial decisions with my wife that involved schools. There has been a month of "discussions". At a certain point, I was no longer sure whether I wanted what I wanted for the kids, for my ego, or to get back at my wife. I deliberately hit my head against hard stuff a couple times when I was alone. I got to a point where I wrote on a piece of paper the shit I will get, the shit my kids will get, and the benefits of each of tho…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 05:46 PM
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but I am still treating my wife a lot like she's a feral cat that can come and go when she pleases What's wrong with this?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 05:27 PM
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I used to think I was the one that brought this book up first. But just a few weeks ago I came across a post by inchargeman discussing it like 5 years ago or something, lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 03:36 PM
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dealing with a wife that gives depressive vibes. No emotions, no response to my behaviour. just bouncing off of her. Children can see it too; lock herself in the bathroom lay down on the floor there for 30 minutes. her getting angry at the child cry out "I'm sorry". I've heard multiple times that she is not good enough for us, she does not fit into the family and that I have much better contact with the kids than her. I've heard that she does not know why I am with her. she recently damaged the …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 03:09 PM
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I still have shit initiations. I wait until bedtime, then I either half ass it and protect my ego by trying to be funny, ...initiating more, with very overt initiations. This sounds familiar. Eventually, this shifted to where I wasn't initiating sex as much as just permanently escalating, ESPECIALLY, at times when it's inappropriate or there is no way for it to logistically happen. And guess what, it can happen at times and places that you currently would never consider.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 11:43 PM
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I could refuse to acknowledge the message because of how it was delivered (what i have been doing), or I could listen to the meaning and refuse to engage further with how it was being delivered. The difference you're describing here is a valuable way to think of this. What you did describes exactly how I would define 'boundaries' and is so much more advanced than the askMRP post where a guy announces "I will not put up with your treatment!!!" while engaging in an argument. ​ I don't want to dism…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 11:34 PM
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Weight 211lbs. How tall are you? ​ not sure how I would go about initiating bj's during shark week. Your gaming and playfulness with your wife could be identical to when she's not on her period. Something I wish I had done early on was ignore all of the pua/game "look at her cycle/ read her tarot cards" shit. ​ For the most part- it's more just gropey than actual Kino with a purpose. I've tried implementing the 10sec kiss , goes about 5-6 before she pulls off. Going to do this consistently for a…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 11:15 PM
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I should not try to maintain control of my emotions? 10,000%, yes. Control your behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 11:06 PM
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45 weeks in. Ht 169cm, Wt 73 kg, BF 19% BP 5x70kg/154lbs, ​ I informed my wife about this decision. Judging by the reaction I'm gonna have even more free time to myself this week. What makes you think the advice of "don't be a fat, reactive, weakling" doesn't apply to your sexual strategy?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 10:48 PM
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Email the guy. He sounds cool and he'd probably tell you. You think I'm joking but I'm not. This will ruin your relationship but it wasn't gonna last anyways.
/r/askMRP15/03/22 08:42 PM
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I've always had this belief that I just don't meet expectations and am going to get found out, whether it was school, work, religion, or relationships. Since you're just getting started here this might get worse before it gets better. When you start to make changes and act more selfishly you're going to want to see results (validation). Just be aware. ​ I think I held together something approaching frame in college Everyone did in college. It's kinda the one place where the complete lack of adul…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/22 03:50 PM
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No kids, 3 year marriage, you're not fat or pathetically weak and your wife was sleeping on the couch prior to your OYS 1. Is is just that you're boring and directionless? Are you a NMMNG poster child? What's your honest assessment of yourself?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/22 05:05 PM
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I’ve almost finished remodeling a guest bedroom now, and oddly enough, I’ve been able to do it by addressing my binge eating. This is a great strategy imo. Having some activity or focus to pivot to.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/22 04:52 PM
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I have trouble opening up, developing connections, networking, building rapport (especially with people above/better than me). Maybe I am introverted, anti-social, or paranoid. Maybe I am lazy, don't care enough to put in the effort. I think EVERY person feels this way, even (maybe especially) the people you think are above you or better at it or something. It's very comparable to being the newbie at the gym. You look around like "fuck all these guys are huge, shredded, confident and they know e…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/22 04:47 PM
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BF 27 6% (-2.38%) I caused a problem where I was sexually aggressive in my sleep with her. Didn't realize I had done that so that's caused a problem/break of trust. I know a messed up. Don't even recall doing it since it felt like a dream. Care to elaborate? Are you just rolling around squishing everything?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 10:20 PM
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Out of curiosity, what kind of child custody arrangement are you aiming for?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 10:16 PM
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Good job on your weight loss so far. Unfortunately, almost every detail about yourself and your life still sucks really bad. ​ Have downloaded Bigger, Leaner, Stronger Don't waste it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 10:13 PM
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Her = 38 years old, 238 lbs, 8 months pregnant Why is your pregnant wife's weight in your oys? ​ I text messaged him congratulations. Obviously radio silence Posted an IG story and didn't care who saw it. Are these seriously things you consider noteworthy actions from last week? Texting a guy who didn't text you back and posting to instagram without "fear"?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 10:00 PM
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I have commitments until at least 9pm each evening Stop wasting everyone's time, including your own!
/r/askMRP09/03/22 07:05 PM
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I sat at the bar and engaged everyone who approached the bar for about 3 hours. I was admittedly way out of my comfort zone. That is awesome
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 12:40 AM
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I will have a good time and initiate. Why not tonight? Or tomorrow morning? Be weary of convincing yourself that you ought to "time it" right.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 12:39 AM
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Mr. Pussy. I have a friend. When he was single and we planned to do something - he always made fun of married guys that needed to check with their wives. Yeah, it is anti-MRP but it was annoying at the time, especially as somehow our group got pretty good wives and checks were kind of "my kid is getting a vaccine somewhere around that time, let me check when I join" (I'm DEERing. Shut up.) (problem solved long time ago by introducing an online family calendar. Boring? Maybe. Effective? Fuck yeah…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 12:29 AM
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How did you show your wife you valued her? ​ tl/dr: pedestalization and prioritization of the guy she's stuck with.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 07:10 PM
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The first attempt at the new method was not over quickly. Stick to it.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 06:51 PM
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Raising toddlers is very triggering for me. What kind of a man can't handle toddlers? Ohhh, right! I've been acting like a needy toddler on occasion
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 06:48 PM
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but I'm not looking for her validation, lol ​ The way she looks at me is literally different. She has that "Oh, here we go again, I have another man-child in my hands now, gotta baby the poor darling" face.
/r/askMRP07/03/22 07:22 PM
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to fulfill your need for the next cycle of profit. It doesn't work like that. Horns, can you elaborate a little on what you're talking about here? Something I started last week was, based on my mission, I've been redoing my MAP (excel sheet) where I track my stats and what I'm doing and/or avoiding doing. In addition to this I'm writing out what I want to be lifting, weighing, accomplishing, and working towards in each month over the rest of this year. All the way down to what books I want to re…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/22 05:32 PM
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Adventurous (camping, leading family to take chances and go experience the world) Confident / self-assured Present with kids, and not being pulled lots of directions (ironically, just got to that chapter in TWOTSM) Actions and decisions are made, but with enough humility to learn and factor in feedback from the crew Ahead of things Disciplined (food / liquor / workouts) Active with kids… playing, bike riding, throwing ball, etc That's not pithy. I like this list. Try to let yourself off the hook…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/22 05:06 PM
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hilarious dose of reality I don't think I'm arguing that the FIL is wrong. When I read his description of this it sounded like u/SufficientNorth- got upset about another man's judgement of his wife's behavior and emotions. And I would definitely file that under "Shit that's not his responsibility." Now maybe, in the treat her like the oldest teenager way, a guy might feel like it's his responsibility to make sure his wife is treating other adults and especially her elders with respect. That seem…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/22 04:37 PM
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Dude, your gf was here posting about this just a couple of days ago. She doesn't know how to tell you.
/r/askMRP02/03/22 10:19 PM
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Better oys this week regarding talking about what you did and observed. Sounded way less "inside the heads" of the other ppl in your interactions.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/22 06:02 PM
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Good for you for posting to here instead of pm. You're going to get way more out of OYS that way. RE love. I'm saying you're maybe coming to terms with IRON rule #6 about men and women loving differently. The love you "used" to think mutually existed between you two was only ever one sided and imaginary. Everyone here has to come to terms with the fact that something they thought was one of the most important aspects of their life was actually being faked in their own mind by themselves. Nobody'…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/22 05:08 PM
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Rasputin from Neil Stauss' the game. Sidebar dude
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/22 12:59 AM
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5-10 rep range did not know this. thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/22 12:57 AM
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A major problem I have acknowledged earlier but still dealing with is that I have major resentment for my wife. I acknowledge I am angry. I didn't want to get married, I caved to pressure like a nice guy/people pleaser and have been such a fucking bitch that I've held onto that resentment for this long. Is this about punishing her for your sunk cost? Or is this about blaming her for your current circumstances (being married). And if it's the latter, what's stopping you from filling your days wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 11:26 PM
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"thanks for your hard work in going to the store and getting everything ready for our trip" and that clearly I had failed to meet her expectations.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 11:17 PM
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You've had zero physical progress in the last 8 months? Also your OYS 1 says you read the sidebar 10 years ago? What is the best version of yourself you've ever been? and what is that in your mind? (be specific)
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 11:02 PM
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reading your oys, I'm worried you're not going to find it on your own, so follow this link to tyred's post.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 10:53 PM
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GOAL: finding something to care about and establishing a plan to get it. Post your age/height/weight/bf
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 10:48 PM
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Kids I've also always been able to figure out a way to lighten the mood and turn the situation into something fun. How old are they? I don't know if you're dealing with feeling like you have to choose each evening between fun with kids and getting stuff done but I've been folding in more of involving my kids in stuff I'm doing and making it fun. What are the shit hits the fan situations you're talking about?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 10:38 PM
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"I wish I didn't have to clean the kitchen when I came home" You definitely don't have to do anything. ​ Even though it is not perfect, I wish I had this skill where I did not let my emotions control me, Practice.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 08:04 PM
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Practices: Food: 7/7 The weight is not coming off like it was before. I ended up losing well this week, but my weight was all over the place. I could pop back up another pound tomorrow, and it wouldn’t surprise me. So I’ve cut another 250 calories a day. I’m pleased with where I’m at on lifts. I know it ain’t shit, but 275 DL, 225 Sq, 185 BP has been a goal for a long time and I’m going to hit it this week. I’m ready to cut to 195lbs, and I’ll accept any slowing of gains at the gym. Keeping prot…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 07:35 PM
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You read my post last week. .....Ragnar has been providing valuable feedback I want to be pretty clear. I look at most oys' for what a guys bf and lifts are. If they're over 17%bf and they can't bench their bodyweight I skim the rest to see if there's a good fight scene. Occasionally there's some fun erotic literature, which I love. Usually though, there's just like an entire screenplay of their inner post hoc rationalization meant to DEER their current circumstances and help them feel like they…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 07:25 PM
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I am trying to take the reigns in any way I can I agree with red letters. Don't worry about leadership. You have a lot of YOUR OWN SHIT to take the reigns on. With your list in the morning, you need to have your own list for the day. It's great if it's productive like house projects, gym, etc. But it needs to be YOUR list and some days that's going to be frivolous recreation. ​ “you don’t train her right.” This is so funny. There's a million fun a productive ways to respond to or think about thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 06:07 PM
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Her: (Silent just standing there smirking) At least one of you can stfu ​ I questioned what was meant by that, and the shit storm started. I did have to respond to was mainly handled with a pressure flip. got the ILYBNILWY and responded that, we finally agree on something. broken record from me “if sex & intimacy is removed from the relationship, then we’re just room mates, if we have problems, let’s sort them out. If not, then we can agree on just being co parents.” AA here, followed by I’m not…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 04:03 PM
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Last night, I ate a healthy dinner before the gig, resisted the buffet table, and then (most importantly) didn’t snack when I got home. I went to bed without eating anything more Last week had 7 days in it. How many of those did you eat your target calories and macros?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 03:51 PM
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I'm imagining you there, in the corner adjacent to this guy, watching the show unfold on the bed, tv remote in your hand.
/r/askMRP01/03/22 03:46 PM
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start here: jinx!! I love the advice he got for the spells.
/r/askMRP01/03/22 01:06 AM
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Your household needs DADDY. Even your wife is trying to tell you to nut up or move out and make room for someone who's up to the task.
/r/askMRP01/03/22 01:01 AM
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I'm so glad horns commented on here because I did not realize that you are taking hallucinogens (explains a lot because you're delusional) and that you actually have high functioning autism spectrum disorder. I feel for you because I know that you want to see reliable and predictable results from your actions and you probably put an incredible amount of value into "justice". What I commented to you before still applies, what do you want that goes beyond divorce/response/punishment for your wife?…
/r/askMRP01/03/22 12:51 AM
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She want's a backyard patio and a hot tub!!! Why no mention of what your plans are? What you want? What I know from YOU about this post is you: supplicated to going to counseling with a self-described femenist and you were happy to see it not work out. CHECK blame your wife's personality for the relationship problems. CHECK hang onto *EQUALITY* idealism. CHECK She has engaged in physical violence......not accepting any fault maintaining her sense of superiority think your wife is having an unusu…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/22 08:46 PM
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Now that she's given you permission, ask her what the guys doing it to her are like. If you're lucky, she might let you hang out and watch to see what their energy/flow/vibe is like.
/r/askMRP28/02/22 03:54 PM
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What are you the most afraid of doing? If it’s cheating…..or trying g to put yourself in the position of cheating………do that….. cheat on your lifts and flip your body around like a fish while you bicep curl…….!just don’t waste your seconds on planet earth
/r/askMRP26/02/22 03:29 AM
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I wanted to share something authentic, as making something up or completely hiding isn't me at all, u/nosleep4oldman I'm so glad seatease quoted you here because I didn't see it before. This attitude is terrible. "That just isn't me" You can be anything you want and behave any way you want. You really can. You know how many guys show up here and say "whoa! weightlifting? No way, that's just not me" BS. You choose to be the way you are.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/22 11:55 PM
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u/academicdumass horns can see who you are and what you're doing better than me, I have no doubt. I trust his judgement on this implicitly. Do you know what his voice sounds like? I do from listening to whinemoreplease's youtubes and I literally hear that voice all the time inside of my head asking me: "Do you want that, or not? Are you going to commit to doing it, or not? Make up your fucking mind and come to a decision."
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 10:14 PM
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Fucking yikes. This is why the treat her like a kid or your oldest teenager is good advice. You can do all this talking but it's sounds very victim-ey like you're crying to her to be your mom or boyfriend or your strong oak to lean yourself on. You're clearly telling her that you think YOU can't fix your main problem (bolded below) and you really want to shame her into stepping up and fixing it for you, I confirmed to her that my friend is a better fit for me to work these things out (based on p…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 07:56 PM
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And remember - it’s a mission, not a life sentence. This is an excellent thing to point out too. WOTSM does a good job of describing how you might just wake up one day and find that you're done with some purpose and ready to move on.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 07:04 PM
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That's my problem. I meant to respond to this a few days ago. This 100% is just your own problem. Inside your own head. You can't necessarily eliminate it but it's completely up to you to hang onto it all day or let it go immediately when you recognize it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 06:15 PM
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Kevin Costner's BEST movies were the ones where he was writer, director, lead actor. His co-stars were nobody's. It didn't matter who was in it with him because he made it great for himself.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 05:33 PM
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As of today, that knee is feeling dramatic improvement which if it keeps up will be normal in a week or two. I can do a lot of bench and pullups and stretching in the meantime and eat at maintenance. Amen I'm scared of being fat and being unable to squat, deadlift, OP. yikes.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 05:30 PM
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Maybe that's an important distinction. I'm not limiting myself to only financial compensation any longer. It's more like "I'm going to help who I want to help when, where and how I want to if and when I KNOW that I'm going to ENJOY doing it."
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 05:26 PM
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I may not have been a stereotypical alpha, but I was certainly my own man who, at least in many ways, owned my shit. One of the most important comments I've ever come across. The good news is, your past doesn't really mean shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 05:17 PM
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BF 23,9% (scale) Gf 32 years, 2 year old and baby Lifts: Sq 80 kg x 4, BP 70 kg x 4, DL 120 kg x 3. At one of my daughters activities there is this pretty hot mom I think is flirting with me. I don’t know if this is me becoming more attractive or just a fluke. What do you think?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 01:02 AM
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but the enthusiasm is not too strong and it’s clear its mostly for me. Still GF does her best to get the baby asleep so we can have time for sex and I appreciate that. Occasionally we have a hot session and she suprises me with her sluttiness but most are pretty standard. Most tries at pushing limits has not been too well received. Some things she does for me but not too happily. Who's responsible for the sex in your household?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 12:58 AM
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A lot of what you wrote was your perception of the inside of other people's heads. being fun to be around, I noticed my son wasn’t really into to seeing the animals. It seemed like he was content with us running around and playing on the animal themed playgrounds throughout, pretending like we were Ninja Turtles. I sensed this caused some anxiety in the wife. my son who is pretty tuckered out by now, I see the wife is getting pulled in I can see my wife loosen up too but Perhaps when I explained…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 12:39 AM
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Game: negging is hard, especially with your wife because you know her well enough to be seriously mean and when you're actually trying to 'neg' your wife you're looking for a reaction which is counterproductive. That's okay in a way because "she'll forgive you for being an asshole/never forgive you for being a pussy" and it can result in more sex but make sure you're doing it for the sake of it being fun for you. Then there can be no 'falls flat' result. Also, never backpedal.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 12:21 AM
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I'm glad you asked because it makes sense to be more specific. Also, I love Ayn Rand, I fucking hate altruism and I think this is why this has evaded me in the past. In my main career my compensation is directly related to how wealthy the people I'm helping are. I sometimes find myself heartbroken by the complete lack of help for families in my age group (especially ones who live at or below the poverty level) and their kids who have nothing to do with the families circumstances. Essentially, I'…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 12:12 AM
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your mass is great, time for a serious cut agreed
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 12:05 AM
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I noticed this, felt the urge to say more, but tried disengaging. I was successful in doing so, but I was still angry internally. I am purely reactive I wish I could remember where I read it, might be in a post about frame but it's something to the affect of: Frame is not being able to convince other people of your world view. Instead, frame is you feeling no need to convince anyone else of anything.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 11:52 PM
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With current injuries basically eliminating most of the stronglifts program my plan is to cut some fat and try to maintain muscle with lower weight sets or machine exercises. good
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 11:34 PM
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I am SOOOO happy you captured this in your response because he deleted it all before I got to see it. Jesus Christ. lol "hit a snag, working on myself" Oh my gosh!
/r/askMRP22/02/22 11:02 PM
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+1 god damn!
/r/askMRP22/02/22 11:01 PM
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I’m not “broken” enough Sorry, but fuck that too. That's just another excuse you grabbing onto because it's easier than respecting YOUR OWN AUTHORITY. What's going to happen if you take a week off or a weekend off or an extra day off of eating too much? Seriously, what's going to happen if you just experiment with pushing your discipline out a little longer than your best previous streak? On purpose, go for 5 days then binge, then do 6, then binge, then 7. Then eventually pay attention to the fa…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 10:01 PM
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BF 30% (navy) Divorce Prep When you got that much to lose IT DOES feel like you're divorcing an entire person.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 09:53 PM
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been married for a little while now....great marriage.....hit a snag.......I've worked on myself. Dude. This sounds horrible but first off, be specific. How long have you been married? How bad is the sexlessness in your life? What are your physical stats; height, weight, lifts?
/r/askMRP22/02/22 09:29 PM
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OYS 52 Age 36, Married 10yrs, kids under 10 5’9” 169lbs, BF 15% navy Lifts: BP-195x5, SQ-225x5,DL-315x5, OP-85x10 Read: NMMNGx2, MMSLP, TWOTSMx3,Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, TRM blog year 1-5, SGM, Pook, MAP,WISNIFGx2,The Natural, Art of Seduction, Mystery, The Game, Practical Female Psychology,BiggerLeanerStrongerX2, Models, Enlightened Sex Manual, Dirty Talk Master Reading: Unchained Man Physical: Prompted by Impatient Zen I started eating more and focusing on adding weight to my lifts jus…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 08:20 PM
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What's the bullshit to sex ratio you're getting out of your MIL? Do you have anything of value to offer the other members of your family who seem to see so much value in your MIL's leadership?
/r/askMRP22/02/22 07:28 PM
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I can’t seem to figure out why my life isn’t changing. Why my true emotions are still influenced by others. Why I get so grumpy, tired, annoyed, This is bad. This is what I really want to pick on. WTF are true emotions? They're imaginary. You emotions are like a bunch of fucking lobbyists, vying for your attention. You're just looking over at whoever is talking to you the loudest and mistaking it for the real me, this one's true because it's the loudest. You need to make the leap to realize that…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 04:21 PM
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questioning the authenticity of my development. Something has felt off and fake, like the true conditioning and evolution of my authentic self has been nebulous at best. This comment you made in your OYS stands out to me as being related to your food issue (and maybe everything). I don't know if you just started lifting with MRP but if you did you definitely felt like "whoa! barbell weight lifting?! That's just not me" I guarantee you're doing this with food too. You go out to dinner and look at…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 04:13 PM
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More sex, Who with? What do you make of your desire for more sex but your lack of enthusiasm about it? Is it porn? Or just your wife is unattractive? Most men would fuck a wooden fence post with an appropriately sized knothole if they're horny enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/22 03:40 PM
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Next year it's going to be dick pics.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/22 12:37 AM
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“Bf% 11” Horseshit
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 02:47 AM
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Don’t do this single rep estimate stuff unless you lifted that. List the the weight and reps you actually did.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 02:40 AM
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Kids I get frustrated with them a lot. 123 Magic
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 12:38 AM
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Frankly, I’ve reached the point where I am pretty ambivalent about my wife. I am still attracted to her physically, but not to her level of femininity. Probably most importantly, I don’t really respect her. She is a classic anxious and depressed wife. And a SAHM who can’t figure out what she wants to do with her life. This is all projection for how little you respect yourself. You're looking at your reflection when you see her and you hate the boring, androgynous, directionless lump of unrealize…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 12:32 AM
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I tell myself that I should want to have sex. But it just seems like a real chore and I don't have the drive. Why are you here?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 12:13 AM
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29% bodyfat in spain is like being 50% bodyfat in the USA. Good for you for not wasting your oys on anything but the physical stuff. Now buy a fucking food scale.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 09:55 PM
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getting jacked is a great outcome, but it’s an outcome. The real benefit is discipline, great comment!
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 09:46 PM
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I run out of breath before I can nut, and then I have to slow down and catch my air before I can go hard again. If I had more (cardio) stamina, I could get things wrapped up in 20 or 30 minutes, and maybe have enough left in the tank to go again I'm telling you guys, we need more pics here at MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 09:42 PM
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I'll take what I can get. It doesn't matter if it's a blow job or a regular man on top. I'll take it. With this attitude, prison is gonna be dope.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 09:39 PM
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Do not ask her for advice on how to sex her. If you really feel like you need it, try to get in touch with guys she used to fuck before you and ask them. A better alternative to both of these is to have sex that you want in the ways that you want while respecting her enough to let her choose if she wants any part of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 09:31 PM
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You gotta be pretty nasty to be getting slut shamed by him.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 09:07 PM
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You have good lifts and you're losing weight fast so don't stop what you're doing. You're still pretty fat though, don't punish your wife with increased sexual stamina until you've fixed that.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 07:36 PM
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​ ​ I don't want to settle for a life where I work as a plowhorse and am tolerated by the woman in my life. I want to be adored. I want the best a woman has to offer. \I don't want to settle for the life I'm currently providing myself. I want to be the best I have to offer myself and to adore myself for it.*
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 07:36 PM
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Who cares?! 15 years later I'm still sitting here thinking about it, lol.
/r/askMRP15/02/22 07:01 PM
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I had a room-mate in college who had a girlfirend who always kept her bra on. He'd been dating her for like 3 years and never saw her nipples or touched her tits except for on top of her shirt/bra. He did get blowjobs, he also fucked her in the ass and pussy but she was saving her tits for marriage. They broke up eventually. He never saw them. I bet whoever she's married to brags all the time about how she was so prude that she saved even her tits "for him".
/r/askMRP15/02/22 06:32 PM
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One night early last week, I was rejected, and a few boundaries were broken. It was my mistake not addressing them immediately as they happened. Then I got butthurt and dissapointed by my own mistakes......she she she sheshe.........I responded by putting cologne on for the dread olympics...........she she she she she she she........then I made an ultimatum.........and she said some things.....and I realize that I shouldn't pay attention to what she says but my situation is different. ​ Do you h…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 06:02 PM
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Diet: Obesity is my biggest failure. You don't need cardio. If you really love it, fine but in general it's not productive. IMO. The significant success you've had so far is coming from your diet discipline.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 05:36 PM
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“When i was single, i had a harem of women. I am in a LTR because i found a woman who brings value to my life. At any moment if things aren’t going right, I have no problem ending it and just being co parents. Remember the 5 love languages, don’t just talk about them, be about them. Im not here to be taken advantage of. If sex isn’t on the table then, no prob. I won’t beg for it. Just always remember my dick isn’t going to suck itself, so you don’t have to give it to me, doesn’t mean I’m not get…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 05:25 PM
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My biggest regret is that my kid had to witness all of this. I have never seen my parents wrestle each other. Ever. Goal for next week: Seek for opportunity to reduce fight It takes 2 people to fight. It sounds like you're both enjoying this in a dark way but you're going about it in a non-controlled non-consensual way. She's getting all the indignation and the sex from you to boot. You're enjoying it too but you're the one that has everything to lose from that path.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 05:14 PM
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If you "focus" on losing weight or not eating it'll be harder than if you focus on an alternative activity like drinking water, eating veggies, or more valuable distractions
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 04:55 PM
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at what point should I just give up on myself and seek professional help? It seems like counseling is frowned upon at MRP. Couples counseling to negotiate sex for chores is frowned upon. I'd view this no differently than you hiring a trainer to make sure you're lifting correctly. Realize though, at the end of the day, it's your mouth, you're the only one who gets to say what goes in or comes out of it. What you describe sounds so familiar to me, doing well --> feeling skinny --> have a harmless …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 04:52 PM
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Despite writing less about this area, this is where I spend the majority of my time. This is REALLY valuable to point this out. Because of the way OYS works a lot of what a guy is doing well at happens behind the scenes and it's not really clear to everyone else why things are working for him. This shouldn't change because OYS would just become one big circle jerk, maybe it's just valuable to point out that YOU have not fallen into the trap of thinking that some or any of the sidebar material do…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 04:25 PM
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A bit of digging suggested the issue wasn't the content, but the fact that I did it throughout. What do you mean digging? Like asking her what's wrong?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 04:19 PM
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- BF 29% (navy) How much water do you drink every day? How many raw vegetables do you eat every day.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 04:13 PM
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Actively saving approximately 50% of my income to save for financial independence, with a possibility of early retirement. Being able to live below your means like this is probably way more powerful than any increase in income you could get.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 04:08 PM
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Not true. A shit week is thinking but doing nothing. Doing something gives you feedback to assess. You did something. I agree with this. u/along-the-reeds The only shitty part about it was you were dissapointed with by the results.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 04:04 PM
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Are you slut shaming him? WISNIFG Assertive Rights #1 - You have the right to judge your own behavior, thoughts, and emotions, and to take the responsibility for their initiation and consequences upon yourself #2 - You have the right to offer no reasons or excuses for the justifying your behavior. #6 - You have the right to say, "I don't know."
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 04:02 PM
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Has she been reading some new books lately or weird stuff online? Is she lifting weights, like with a barbell? If she has a book in her nightstand called ‘when I say no, I feel guilty’ then she might be into this praxiology called red pill. It’s disgusting toxic masculinity. Basically a person starts to care about themselves and what they’re doing and they become super apathetic about controlling others. It’s so gross. If her lifts get very big, nothing will stop her
/r/askMRP15/02/22 03:08 AM
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not asking her how it was, not checking if she wanted something different, not thanking her, not mentioning how I want to do it more often. This is excellent to be dropping all of this and stop all complaining. It's hard, I know.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/22 03:41 PM
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I know who you are and it's worth mentioning that something like this 'could have' completely flattened/destroyed the guy you were on OYS1. Your wife and kids are lucky to have you.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 11:03 PM
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FFS. I would love to watch you buy a car. Seriously. I just bought a new Jeep. Shopped around. Told a lot of places no. Straight up lied about prices competitors were giving me and got free leather seats and a front grille. Lied about my interest and baited them by telling them "how good" their customer service was so they'd offer even lower. When they said they had to reduce the offer of my trade in I said "No." When they said they'd meet me half way in the reduction (a compromise) I said "No".…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 06:51 PM
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I've used my fitness pal a lot. I made progress from 20% to <15% when I actually started paying attention to how many party/bbq/family gathering/crazy saturday cheat days I had. That was in August and there were 13 days out of the month that were above my goal at that time (1,900 cal). I'm sure you've been trying to lose more weight since 2018 but it won't happen with whatever you've been doing. It's austerity, repeated, for many days in a row. You're not going to starve, you're going to eat ple…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 06:09 PM
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Two weeks or so ago I was mulling over the question of: what do I actually want to get out of talking to other women? I want the practice. This is a good question to ask yourself. Early on, I used to feel like I had this responsibility (ie dancing monkey) to escalate and potentially get laid, like "I better suck it up and go flirt with that stranger so the dread/confidence/abundance and practice will start to glow and give my wife the tingles." What I would describe my behavior now is that I'm j…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 06:01 PM
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lol. Btw, I still eat tremendous amounts onions and ground ginger just because this mod from my favorite reddit page once suggested it. Maybe a coincidence but all the girls in my house got covid last week but no me.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 05:25 PM
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is this productive, does this energy gain me anything? No, then let it go. A-ha, I can apply that logic to all these other issues I'm facing. Exactly!
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 04:15 PM
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Dude! Good to see you here!
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 04:57 AM
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I think, probably on purpose, you’re leaving out the details of “how” you were able to truly nuke your ego. “You say it’s nothing, nothing, nothing. Like you.” Maybe there is no ego to nuke? No one on here is special. We’re all the exact same guy living out the different consequences of our different behaviors? The ego is imaginary?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 04:43 AM
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Try new stuff and write about it here. Part of why I bring this up is that a few weeks ago you were being very negative towards yourself. I came down on you for it and you then said, NO MORE NEGATIVE SELF TALK. And that’s a great goal but be careful not to be too hard on yourself for thoughts and feelings which can come forward like involuntary reflexes. I’m curious about this speaking to yourself book. I’ve started to adopt the idea that bad and negative feelings are mostly not actually part of…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 04:29 AM
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Grinded spark was not getting laid at home. I believe Northern Asthma here has been progressively overloading his entire Map from the get go. I'm assuming this is all about opsec so he can use his regular account in the future.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 11:53 PM
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I was confused. I saw Grinded Spark deleted and this guy (Asthmatic) shows up with a new user name.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 11:50 PM
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This might be a bad idea but I know you've tried almost all of the good ideas. Have you ever meditated on the bad shit? I know you're doing this unintentionally all the time (like when you're not sleeping) but I mean have you ever intentionally spent an hour trying to stay focused on one of these bad thoughts and refocus on it over an over on purpose? Eventually, you might start to realize that the absolute worst shit in the world doesn't have to be a deal breaker. It's just some bad shit. Your …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 11:47 PM
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do I choose (A) the salad or (B) the doughnut. I was enjoying your reply here so much and then I read this which I didn't see in his original post and I stated to feel a little guilty. lol ​ 17% I don't know the metric system that well either but i think it's like 2.2x so he's at 37.4% bodyfat. What a supple exotic cat!
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 11:25 PM
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Start something, start small, see if it is worth your time. This is good. You told me a while ago I could end up here, standing on this little hill with my wiener in my hand.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 11:08 PM
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I was confused about who you were. You have all the options. You just need to nail down what you really want, long term. Kinda sounds like you're weighing a few hundred thousand dollars against a bunch of strange not realizing that both of these things *can become abundant whenever you choose to make it that way in your life. Maybe you're lacking a purpose that is bigger than the $500,000 or the extra pedastalized pussy. (mission?)
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 10:43 PM
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My only advice would be to consider transitioning to an actual gym instead of a home workout. There are benefits to getting out of the house, away from the wife and kids when you work out. Less interruptions, less excuses. Her hamster wheel will spin hard whenever you're there. 100% agree. I have all my stuff at home but mostly just go to the gym now.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 08:51 PM
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If you left for that workshop what's the worst that would happen? A dried up old post-wall pussy might not fuck you 1-2 times a month anymore... for a while or forever. Dang, right? 1,000% u/Hot_Cactus you've got all the weapons.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 07:37 PM
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If your wife is a SAHM, then I’d lean toward telling her tough shit. Amen. You said you need to pass shit tests but don't think of it like that. DNGAF + WISNIFG.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 07:34 PM
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My starting high body weight was 195# and ~25% in July 2017. I cleaned up my diet, cut booze and tracked macros using My Fitness Pal and hit a low body weight of 181# (19% BF) in June 2018. It’s been a yo-yo of up and down but never getting rid of the dad bod. What do you like so much about this?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 07:28 PM
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Game: I tried to take an honest look at my game and initiations. What about game with other women?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 07:23 PM
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no kids. Dude, fucking keep it that way for now. Because, ​ Lifts: OHP 145x1, Deadlift 345x1, Bench 215x1, Squat 320x1, 6'3", 191 lbs. BF 13% (mirror). This is fucking awesome. Aside from being sexually boring in the name of religion and having no hobbies you are the fucking prize. Keep doing OYS. You're (potentially) in a fucking phenomenal starting position.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 07:15 PM
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Took my son camping for some individual time, and loved it. fucking awesome!
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 07:02 PM
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I did not refuse a half hearted handjob. I was horny, she was in a rush. I was asked 'do you want a handjob, I *am not attracted enough to you right now, so pick whatever excuse* to do more than that. I said 'yes, better than nothing'. Immediately regretted saying that. Didn't enjoy it. Let her play with your dick if she wants to. Re frame it so this is something YOU GIVE TO HER assuming you're not to busy with more important shit. If it sucks, save your climax for an interaction that worth it t…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 07:00 PM
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Rubbing her butthole Keep it up
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 06:47 PM
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lose some weight, lift some weight
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 06:46 PM
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I really got off on the power, eventually telling this girl that I could make her do whatever she wanted, including getting her to shove a TV remote up her pussy. She called me a pyscho, smiled, grabbed the remote, and I wrestled it away. I fucking loved this, and I felt very shameful about this. I didn't feel guilty because I was going outside of the marriage or taking advantage of anyone. Rather, I went through quite a few stages where I didn't believe this was me and didn't believe I had this…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 06:43 PM
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progress photos are great but this guy was at 18.4% bodyfat 5 months ago. Those decimals, lol!! since then he DID make the change from lunges and planks to compound lifts but most of this progress is drowned out by his emotional complaining and actual literal screaming at his wife about her lack of enthusiasm for sex with him. LOL (I'm rooting for you pancake but you keep complaining about your wife in here and to her face and you seem to think that the advice about becoming strong and not being…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 06:27 PM
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You look 10 years younger in your current pics. I'm no expert but is your deadlift kinda small compared to the others? ​ I just wanted to throw this update in here because I think it's fucking hilarious. She just sent me a message asking me to make a video of myself chopping up wood like a lumberjack for Valentine's Day. Put the video up here next week. lol
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 06:08 PM
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Got a carton of egg whites instead of using whole eggs. Way more protein per calorie. Chicken sausage is a good replacement for sausage with less calories and more protein. Pickles are a satisfying super low calorie snack I keep a ton of herbal tea and flavoured soda water on hand for when I few like having a snack while relaxing. I love all of these. What's up with the 120# bench press?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 04:24 PM
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27.4%bf ​ ​ Psychological I've hit some lows but have felt better being back in my garage gym. I have considered speaking to a therapist but everything in my (*FAT) gut and from what I've read makes it seem like I'd be better off burning (*bodyfat) stacks of cash. Cutting out the self gratification behaviors (*fattening junkfood) that mess with my head. Personal Marriage is on life support. Haven't had sex in months and haven't had sex where it wasn't duty but actual desire in years. I've been (…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 03:57 PM
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OYS 51 Age 36, Married 10 yrs, kids under 10 5’9” 163lbs, BF 13% navy Lifts: BP-190x4, SQ-225x5,DL-315x3, OP-70x13 Read: NMMNGx2, MMSLP, TWOTSMx3,Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, TRM blog year 1-5, SGM, Pook, MAP,WISNIFGx2,The Natural, Art of Seduction, Mystery, The Game, Practical Female Psychology,Bigger LeanerStrongerX2, Models, Enlightened Sex Manual, Dirty Talk Master Reading: Unchained Man Physical: I had a great week with diet discipline. I tried to eat~2400 calories a day and it looks li…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 03:27 PM
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500,000 / 16 is 31k per year. It’s worth even less if you account for inflation. You really gonna be “happy” 16 years from now because of whatever you spent that money on?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 02:57 PM
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pile of validation cum on your face. Hope you like it Absolutely fucking stellar post man. Thank you man. One of the really nice things about oys is that you can spend like 5 weeks feeling like you're doing nothing, just going to the gym, acting like a sad silent mute, and spending hours reading amateur erotica on reddit written by a bunch of guys you don't know. Then one day you look back at one of your own posts from 15 weeks ago and you cannot believe how pathetic and weak that guy is? Like y…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/22 05:17 PM
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While he might deserve that, I don't want the rest of us to be deprived of the amazing "asks" he's going to start posting when his wife gets back from deployment. Read the comments here : )
/r/askMRP07/02/22 04:57 PM
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Thank you. Seriously, I owe you.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/22 03:54 PM
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Double yikes! To answer your question though, all in all, one shall go for a good deadlift.
/r/askMRP07/02/22 03:48 PM
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That’s a great way to test that out imo
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/22 12:21 AM
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modification on AWALT I made awhile ago. Okay!!!! I remember that 'have the capacity to be'. The reading list only grows.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/22 11:34 PM
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There is a lightness in this Good. This has really crept into me recently. I think it comes from being around the 1 year mark. And the effort, opportunity and work just keeps coming unrelentingly and it can be so exhausting sometimes and since I'm realizing there's not really a finish line it's like, well I might as well make sure this is all enjoyable and entertaining for myself. I'm glad to see you around btw.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/22 09:30 PM
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Thank you
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/22 09:12 PM
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Thank you man. Your OYS's are still "the example" in my mind for what it looks like when a guy just finally ShutsTFU and incrementally changes his life.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/22 09:09 PM
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Thank you man. I really did have some hilarious 'ah ha' moment where I realized that your seemingly lazy "lift,sidebar,stfu" commenting couldn't really be improved upon.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/22 05:21 PM
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simple (not easy!) This is IT. It's like the biggest secret to all of this was that there are no secrets. Virtually everything you'll read about in this space is something that you 'knew' but never wanted to believe it applied to you. ​ You're in all probability still going to need some "mental gym" activity as dirty nuke would call it to keep simping under control. For sure, I have plenty of regular OYS to continue doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/22 05:14 PM
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Yes for sure. All people. I'm racking my brain on MHTCB? All men humans tyrones chads and bitches are like that? lol, you can be so confusing.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/22 04:27 PM
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Thank you Steel and Horns. I want to tell you guys how much your writing and participation on here has meant to me this past year but I have no doubt you already know.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/22 04:23 PM
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OR do I just read what others have done and try to copy them? This sounds kinda stupid but it might be one of the most elegantly simple descriptions of the phrase "you need to sidebar" that I've ever seen. Rian Stone has good posts on how to OYS. So does weakandsensative, like here and here.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/22 04:21 PM
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Here's a preview for next years recap.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/22 12:00 AM
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Absolutely not a farewell. I feel proud of this year but to some extent quite a bit of it was about uncovering how far from the starting line I've been. Like I said my "want to do/read/try/learn" lists are all longer than ever.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 11:35 PM
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making their own progress Thanks Blarg. I'm not exactly sure what you mean by this. Something that I feel like has been helpful since I've been here is embracing the idea that: "I AM every guy on MRP and every other guy IS me. We're all married to the same girl and we're all just filling our days with different behaviors"
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 11:24 PM
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Thank you man. It feels good. At the same time, something really interesting is to look back at myself in that pic 1 year ago (down 50lbs, just became rEd pIlL AwaRE, thinking things aren't that bad) That guy had a lot of work to do and a lot of room for improvement. I hope I'm self aware enough to not delude myself into thinking I've done it all. I'd like to believe I don't yet know how much better it can still get.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 11:12 PM
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Enjoy some external validation. It's been fun reading you lean straight into fear. If this is your way of saying I'm finally hawt, thanks bro! On fear, I have a halfway developed idea that this should somehow be an easy way for a guy to identify where his next biggest opportunity lies; - kino'ing girls at the soup kitchen? - giving up beer and junk food forever? - a vulnerable, non-comical sexual initiation? (i still struggle badly with this) - being alone? Not just for a hike, but accepting tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 10:49 PM
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Non-linear for sure. To me it feels like whack-a-mole or cleaning up your yard where you just take care of the biggest eye sore and afterwards you see several other things you want to fix up that you never even noticed before. Toughest thing? That's a weird question because it's all tough (and quite a bit of it still is) but then one day you look back at it (like the above) and it seems so trivial that you ever struggled with eating right or deering or pedestalizing the wrong things. Most reward…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 10:26 PM
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It's unreal. I basically ignored my professional/career life for the last 50 weeks and I still saw my income jump considerably. The non-verbal signals that you send out to other people's lizard brains are loud and powerful.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 10:03 PM
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Thank you
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 09:36 PM
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Thank you man. And seriously, seeing those pics of yours was such a “holy shit! This is serious” moment for me. I owe a little shoutout to the bears too. That was the thing I got interested in where my wife brought me to marriage counseling and many people in my life tried to shame me out of that activity and I just remember thinking “how can this be? That I have just a few days of free time in a given year and I’m not able to choose for myself how to spend them?” Critical moment for sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 07:59 PM
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Also thank you for posting a real situation instead of blabbing opinions and feelings. +1
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 04:42 PM
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I love my hobbies I love hanging out with my kids after dinner Good. I saw very little joy in your OYS overall. ​ Also, it wouldn't be too hard for me to go out and find someone who wants to fuck me I think you know this thought is BS but don't know how to argue with it. Tell yourself "prove it!" when this is in your head. You don't have to actually cheat. In all likelihood you won't be able to pull it off. Are you touching women in your social interactions? Are you drawing sexual innuendo and e…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 04:25 PM
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When she treats you like this, does your pussy get wet? If yes, then she's on the right track.
/r/askMRP03/02/22 04:06 PM
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She's also mad this came out and is embarrassed by it. You gotta get your ass to the gym TONIGHT. If the trainer isn't available, wormchad here is my goto for beginner lifting tips. Get ripped and her embarrassment will melt away.
/r/askMRP02/02/22 10:39 PM
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I really appreciate hearing that on lifting. Throughout my whole life, I NEVER expected to be close to as fit as I currently am, so I struggle with that. ​ Women For some it might be have a life partner (or partners) completely devoted to your Mission, contributing in XYZ ways - sex on tap, home on lock, raising kids, making money to fund your artistic pursuits, whatever. For now, I might boil down the woman part of my mission to; Don't be a pussy. I know that's vague but it seems like my missio…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 08:58 PM
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I also want to know about the sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 06:15 PM
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I'm so glad to get some feedback from you on this. On the physical part of my mission, my short term goal is to get my lifts up to ~1,000lbs and get my body comp in the 180's with <15% bodyfat. I'm just not sure what's realistic in the long run 200lbs? 220lbs? Maintaining in the 180's? So my long term goal for now is to end up being one of the most big juicy 50-60year olds that anyone comes across and to maintain a spectacularly healthy diet forever. For women, those words might hold different m…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 04:53 PM
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I like the way Caleb Jones talks about finding happiness in helping people. Like Ayn Rand, not altruistic social justice, but selfishly helping others for the sake of your own good feelz.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 04:37 PM
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I have a feeling that the ONLY problem with this as of right now is just my own comfort with dolling it out and that is definitely bound to change if I keep it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 04:34 PM
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See, I'm really glad I asked because I would not have been able to identify it like that. I haven't really thought of this as her game as much as I've thought of it as me being unable to engage her in these new games.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 04:18 PM
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I'm now double checking like every phrase that pops into my head about myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 04:11 PM
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Wow, ok. Interesting.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 02:11 PM
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To be perfectly clear (with the only real example where I probably did this right), bj starts and she wants me to come on a towel, so I just don’t finish. “Ah thanks baby, that’s enough, it was really nice.” Then, when she’s coming back to finish the job the next day I get all the way to the end, “lay back and close your eyes. I’m coming on your face.” Good times had by all. Right?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 04:45 AM
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4 days ago in askMRP I brought up that you had almost no lifting progress in 4 years here. Since then it looks like your bench press dropped by 10 lbs. what’s up with that? Also, what are 2 things that you like about your life?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 04:33 AM
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There was a severely retarded man in his late 20's Be careful dude. You're going to dox someone from askMRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 01:11 AM
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If you have notes on that (pushing for more after a shutdown), I really do want to know. I'm still figuring that one out.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 12:21 AM
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reality check and the laugh. Thank you for the laugh, you fat commitment-phobe bad boy!
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 12:17 AM
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It should be noted, I'm certain "most" of the affirming words I've received have been to get me to pump the brakes. "Good boy. Sit. Stay."
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 11:38 PM
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That's fair. I take lot of pics when I'm outdoors. I have dozens of pictures of potential bear dens and bear shit and I always put my boot or hand in frame to show how big it is. If it's steamy, I take a video : )
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 10:50 PM
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What do you want? I want to create. Expand on this more. Do you have a hobby? or a desire to start something?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 10:44 PM
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Be a competent father and husband I'm curious to know why you see cc here? I'd criticize this just because it's fucking lowbar lazy. Even Netflix is a "competent" father and husband, wowing masculine starved wives and children all over the globe.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 10:38 PM
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u/anothabanga aren't you the one that celebrated Christmas day with like 3 of your baby moma's a few weeks ago? Now you've fired the butler and the maid knows her job is next unless she can convince you to keep her! Damn dude!
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 10:33 PM
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BF 31% (navy) I was going to tell you that you need to forget everything else in your oys and focus only on losing weight but then I saw that teeth are literally rotting and falling out of your mouth so I guess like buy a toothbrush and brush/floss every time you start to feel hunger cravings. Just general mouth stuff. Focus on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 10:29 PM
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Everyone is shitting on your weighting question but I wholeheartedly believe You'll see 80% of your problems go away when you fix this: BF 17.5% You're actually close. ​ Another 15% of your problems will go away when you fix this. SQ: 0 (not performed), OHP: 10kg (3x 8), DL: 0 (not performed), Bench: 0 (not performed) Whuuu Ohhh?!? ​ Once you get those locked down, you'll be 95% of the way there, but now 100% of the problems you have left will be this: ​ Mission Working this up. Get my family Be…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 10:21 PM
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I did this on Sunday night and it's sill marinating. I think I'm going to end up with something that goes in phases, starting with becoming physically and financially unstoppable. I'm really liking the idea of making goals (or a vision) for you life in the short term and in the long term, then write a narrative for what happens in the middle and THAT is your mission. To me, hunting and and meat processing is a really cool way to immerse yourself into learning every fucking little thing about a s…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 10:07 PM
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I know that one day I'm going to hurt them and I'm feeling the guilt from that upfront. .......I've made no commitments or promises and have warned her that I'm not going to be a long term option. Was it commitment and unconditional supplication that made your first wife so happy? TBH, when your bodyfat is over 20% and your big 3 lifts are 2.8x your bodyweight, a lack of commitment is about the only attractive thing you could offer a woman.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 09:52 PM
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Those notes would not add any value, You tease!!! Damnit ​ Hiking Alone. Very cool.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 09:37 PM
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Just to be clear, u/red_koan I'm saying why not do both. I agree with usefulwalk that it'd be a waste to make social media your outdoor priority but hopefully, the time you get to spend outdoors isn't so rare and sacred that it's "off limits" for tinder pics. Is there an element of "validation seeking" by putting your medals up on display? Who cares? Those medals are bad ass.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 09:32 PM
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Could be. I don’t think either of us really knows how tf we feel about it. The second instance of this (where I wasted no time) was no problem at all.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 08:34 PM
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I TOTALLY forgot to mention. I spanked my wife twice last week in a non sexual, not even fun kind of way. The first was following a loooooooong fit about the fact that I wouldn't give a serious answer to the "how many beers did you have at the golf coarse?" question. The answer was 3 but I was a total fucking asshole about it and just amplified that(it was 10, okay fine 11, 12...). There was tons of shitty character attacks, tears, scratching the shit out of me trying to give me a bj, etc. Event…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 07:25 PM
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But with that mindset, even a serene wilderness becomes a commodity to be packaged up and filtered and framed for the approval of others, Don't worry about this too much. Imo, this doesn't have to be that different than buying a new outfit. You can take cool pictures of your adventures to impress people or you can do it because you're the shit,your adventures are awesome, and you care about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 06:44 PM
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OYS 50 Age 36, Married 10 yrs, kids under 10 5’9” 165lbs, 13% bf Lifts: BP-185x2, SQ-220x5, DL-305x5, OP-65x15 Read: NMMNGx2, MMSLP,TWOTSMx3,Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, TRM blog year 1-5, SGM, Pook, MAP,WISNIFGx2,The Natural, Art of Seduction, Mystery, The Game, Practical Female Psychology,Bigger LeanerStrongerX2, Models, Enlightened Sex Manual, Dirty Talk Master Reading: Unchained Man Physical: Way better diet discipline this week. Lifting on the GSLP seems like there’s way less total volu…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 06:08 PM
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This is new to me, but you can start to reframe that the sex in your relationship is something you give to her as a reward and validation for her good behavior. You can still make her coffee and do nice things for her but when that inner voice goes (this'll put her in the mood) tell it to shut up. Make your inner voice say "She worked hard today, plus she made me that coffee this morning, I should probably give her some physical validation." You have to be ready to have her reject this and be to…
/r/askMRP01/02/22 04:10 PM
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Don’t do this. Maybe after you’ve gotten yourself on track and sex is abundant you can joke around with the favor stuff but assuming your starting here, you probably want to avoid any kind of ‘provisional trading’ for sex. Make sex happen first. Then afterwards YOU say “ahhhhhh, you’re welcome, you’re gonna make me a coffee now right?”
/r/askMRP01/02/22 03:02 PM
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“this chat I got with my buddies that post sexy girls in it (I don’t post in it and don’t check it)” Phewwww! Better start dropping more of these disgusting activities that are just going to make her mad. Do you spend time with these ‘buddies’? Maybe she’ll argue less if you cut them off. She might appreciate that you put her above all that other stuff too.
/r/askMRP01/02/22 02:48 PM
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Maybe I’m not sure what shitposting means but I’m definitely not trying to make irrelevant jokes bringing that up on your post. The fancy boxer guy is the textbook example of the covert contract guy you’re talking about here.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 01:08 AM
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Thank you man! That was such a good one.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 01:03 AM
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I remember a really good askMRP where a guy wore his "fancy sexy boxers" on their anniversary. I think she didn't know he was wearing them until after their nice dinner out when he emerged from the bathroom wearing only the fancy boxer briefs. There was an extra effect (*see immersion, SGM) because she bought him these boxers specifically for him to bust out on these occasions. Unfortunately she was tired and ready for bed. He had to point out to her, "hey lady! I wore the fancy boxers!!!? WTF" …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/22 09:57 PM
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Okay, u/Grounded_spark What I see in your OYS that I recognize is this attempted hamster nudging that comes from a place of powerlessness. Basically, it's "wife, if you would just get on board with xyz, everything will be fine" "please grab onto the rope" It's such a little subtle difference but you could start to approach these situations from more of a position of power and confidence (knowing you have options). I'm absolutely a fan of getting completely naked when my wife starts to engage me …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/22 07:26 PM
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No, sorry. NO. What the fuck could you possibly get out of that? You're the one who told me about CBT and here you are basically therapy-ing yourself into low self esteem. You would be better off error-ing on the other side of the spectrum. You're not going to ever be the shit in the eyes of many many many people and when you recognize that people feel this way about you it can be funny and even make you curious about it. But you should strive to ALWAYS be the shit in your own eyes. Imagine what…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/22 06:57 PM
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That makes sense. I've spent so much of my life overeating I cannot imagine what it would be like to be on the other end of that spectrum.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/22 06:26 PM
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This discussion sounds identical to conversations I've had over and over again. I'm going to think on this and respond to you again soon. Remind me if I don't.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/22 11:46 PM
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Related to guys who are too light and have to try to gain weight, I'm genuinely curious; would alcohol ever help a guy like that? When I'm drinking a few beers and eating snacks I can easily turn it into 3-4,000 calories.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/22 11:30 PM
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Dude, stop self flagellating. This is one of the most triggering OYS's I've ever seen. (If you can feel yourself starting to agree with me on the inside, that you're somehow the worst or whatever, imagine that Terry Crews is also inside of your head telling your inner voice to STFU and stop being such a little bitch) Don't self flagellate. Talking down to you is what the rest of us are here to do. Put yourself up onto a fucking pedestal and understand that you can keep making that pedestal bigge…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/22 11:22 PM
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Hiring a hot, energetic, solipsistic 20 year old nanny should be the easiest part of your whole map. Source her from one of the daycares who don’t pay these girls shit. You know how fucking horny that girl is going to be when she gets to spend all day playing with your triplets but then go home and get a good night sleep at her house? If you have any game to go with that 10% bf your wife will be paying you and the nanny alimony by this time next year. How does that sound for relieving stress and…
/r/askMRP29/01/22 08:48 PM
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You’ve been around long enough that there are no “new” secrets. No extra books or games. Figure out what you want your life to look like and GET THAT LIFE or die trying. Or die not trying, sounds like you’re coming around the last turn on that strategy.
/r/askMRP29/01/22 08:42 PM
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I’m very confused but also nervous and also excited about wtf has been going on.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/22 06:21 PM
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RP is learning to think like a girl, Amen! So much of this last year has just been taking the dynamics that brought me here and flipping them on their head: - replacing the wife/pussy pedestal with one for yourself and your big beautiful dick - "I'm not hers, it's just her turn" - She only wants me for sex - Cultivate and entertain orbiters - Become her dad, instead of trying to make her your mom
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/22 11:05 PM
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I didn't know before today that you were not brand new here with OYS <10. I'd diagnose this as you thinking the sidebar doesn't apply to you: -" I don't need to be able to bench my own bodyweight" -"I AM funny and my humorous game is great! (even though it's not working)" -"she she she she she her she. That strong silent confident whatever... that's just not me"
/r/askMRP28/01/22 10:54 PM
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it's not congruent or interesting for me. Also, get over this weak and poisonous belief. Before a few weeks ago "not yelling at my kids" was not congruent or interesting to you. I was about to say the same about lifting being a new thing that until recently was "not you" BUT YOU'VE BEEN DOING THIS FOR OVER 4 YEARS WITHOUT ANY LIFTING PROGRESS SO MAYBE THESE THINGS ARE NOT EVER GOING TO BE CONGRUENT OR INTERESTING TO YOU.
/r/askMRP28/01/22 09:51 PM
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I was genuine DNGAF You were not this. Or if you were you can not maintain it throughout the interaction. We can see it because you wrote a pretty big post about it with a lot of she's. I also think you're lying to yourself about your humorous gaming not being ego protection in these moments. Game is supposed to be fun but it's also great if it's suspenseful, exciting, maybe even a little scary. There are a lot of emotions you can insert into it besides jokey banter.
/r/askMRP28/01/22 03:46 PM
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So for me, your conundrum here is stupid simple. It's even in that Code you wrote for yourself. "What do I want?". Then do that. The more you come into your own the more you'll realize that answering this simple question in whatever situation you find yourself in will get you out of whatever problem you believe you are having. I really appreciate this. Doesn't mean I always know what I want but it's seriously helpful to be reminded of this. What I want has changed a lot since I first started her…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/22 03:27 PM
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Lol. These “what choice should I make” posts would be easier to answer if these guys shared photos of all the women involved.
/r/askMRP28/01/22 04:34 AM
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I do not understand why a guy would delete these posts like that. Maybe his wife saw it,
/r/askMRP28/01/22 04:33 AM
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I think this cycle might be unavoidable but maybe if a guy's aware of it he could avoid wasting too much time in steps 3-5, give himself a quick pat on the back and get back to chasing step 1 again.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/22 10:49 PM
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relationship is perfect except for the sex.......she isn't that kind of girl.....sexless and sexually frustrating.....I could be satisfied...... First of all. Second, you sound like you have "two-itis" for the options you identified and are refusing to believe that your options might actually be unlimited. Some examples include: - build a new life that's not dependent on the 20year old - setting your family up for amicable divorce - improving sex with your wife - finding a hunky boyfriend who kn…
/r/askMRP27/01/22 10:44 PM
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I think weightlifting, (being patient about your body’s physical changes but being relentlessly persistent about your effort) applies.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/22 06:04 PM
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I’ve been thinking about this comment a lot in the last day. I’m glad you linked that Seapan ways to fail post because I don’t remember the dominance/boundary enforcement part probably because it didn’t apply to me at all when I read it. I can see that I might totally end up with that problem. I have continued to experience what we talked about a month ago where I see slutty progress with a lag. The progress though usually feels like it conflicts with “special act validation” where I’ve more or …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/22 05:55 PM
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Amen. I’ll never forget that comment you made to me. Wanted to link it to this guy but I’m traveling/on my phone.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 09:29 PM
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Now that you have a diagnosis, a lot of stuff is going to get way easier, especially because you looked into this early. https://www.amazon.com/Parents-High-Functioning-Autism-Spectrum-Disorder/dp/1462517471/ref=asc_df_1462517471_nodl/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312136554937&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=2507004748969928527&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9029767&hvtargid=pla-516358693594&psc=1
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 05:46 PM
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If dominance is your goal, start with being dominant over the month old leftovers you choose to put into your own fucking mouth.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 05:35 PM
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I’m not poo pooing your point about the command of performance either. Maybe you’re saying that a guy with frame and prize mentality can make it work at any stage. I am also my own worst enemy relating to telling myself “I can’t do that. That’s not me. Or I’m not there yet.” Over and over I’ve thought that and later realized my limitations were imaginary.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 04:47 PM
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Good to know that surplus difficulty is normal. I think it’s tricky because it ‘sounds’ easier but there’s definitely no reason it can’t be done. All my other diet success came from thoughtful prioritization and making my diet one of the most important things in my day. I know the ICM post you speak of. Im assuming that story glosses over a lot of the extremely critical work that he put into himself before getting there. I loathe the men who come here and spend 6 months in the gym, 2 months acti…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 04:43 PM
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“I expect things to work my way” Ugh I hear this. I’ve relied so much on being lucky but have realized since being here that this is a recipe for misery because you’re rarely if ever getting the satisfaction of doing your best.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 01:39 PM
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OYS 49 Age 36, Married 10 yrs, kids under 10 5’9” 166lbs, BF 13% navy Lifts: BP-180x5, SQ-220x5, DL-305x4, OP-55x10 Read: NMMNGx2, MMSLP, TWOTSMx3,Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, TRM blog year 1-5, SGM, Pook, MAP, WISNIFGx2,The Natural, Art of Seduction, Mystery, The Game, Practical Female Psychology,Bigger LeanerStrongerX2, Models, Enlightened Sex Manual, Dirty Talk Master Reading: Starting Strength,Unchained Man Physical: Shakey start to my first week at a calorie surplus. Essentially, I trie…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 12:14 PM
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“The sub as a whole end up replacing their wives,” Fuuuuuuuck!
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/22 10:57 PM
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Alright. Thank you!!
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 07:09 PM
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If I could change one thing, I would have went from deficit to estimated maintenance calories for several weeks before going into a surplus. I really appreciate all of this feedback. Especially this because I've slimmed out tremendously and don't want to fuck it all up and be delusional that I'm 'bulking'.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 06:42 PM
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GSLP, right? Only 3 days a week? Could a guy do every other day (3-4 days/week)? Never two days in a row I'm assuming? Based on 3-4 days a week of just those lifts I'm thinking my tdee will be more like 2,300/day and if I'm going to gain 3/4#/week (20# in 26 weeks), I should be eating around 2,670 a day? Do you have a macro suggestion? (I currently do 40% protein (over 170g) and 30/30)
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 05:19 PM
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Correct. I cannot explain why my bench regressed. As of now, until my shoulder (which started hurting from OHP) is back to normal, I've not planned on pushing more. My change in body comp is pretty stalled because of weekend diet cheating. (It's also not a coincidence that this occurs after sex sessions where I get the validation of slutty progress). My bf calculation from above is larger from overeating on Sunday and Monday. Most of the week I'm measuring it between 11-12%. It's definitely at t…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 04:23 PM
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I’m finding that I’m still an emotional tampon and frequently sought out to be a comfort source for complaints and depressive thoughts. However, I realized recently that I can simply state how I want her to act “don't be that person; stop giving up; let's have a good outlook; etc.” But I still see major gaps here and a tremendous amount of growth needed on my part to lead her to a better place emotionally as long as it is in alignment with my purpose and goals throughout the day. When I hear thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 12:52 AM
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it’s about acknowledging to myself that I have and want options try acknowledging your options next time you open the fridge.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 12:05 AM
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23% mirror Fix this and almost all of your problems will melt away. Even related to parenting; show your son (and daughter) an example of what a man looks and acts like when he's not a fat beta.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 12:01 AM
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overpaying for anything is against my grain I hear this. Also though, I sometimes catch myself saying this for ego protection because I'm not as affluent as I'd like to think I am.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 11:50 PM
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All and all It was a nice change of pace to notice another women checking me out. “I got validation from the lounge lady who’s paid to be nice to me. It made me feel good because mommy doesn’t give me validation at home.” These girls might've just been discussing how a guy who fucks them also happens to be fucking the wife of that oblivious fat guy over there.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 11:41 PM
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She is consciously makes it impossible for me to initiate sex. She is doing you a favor. DO NOT have sex with this woman who currently has no kids with you and is likely having unprotected ovulation sex with someone who's less fat. ​ I would have loved to plate this chick but my extreme lack of confidence and game \body, 1/4 of which is made up of fa*t prevented me from walking up to her. If you can avoid having sex with your wife while she preps divorce, your secondary goal should be reducing y…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 11:37 PM
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Everything Dunlop is saying is spot on. This can be a terrific opportunity for OI and developing an unflappable attitude. I for one fucking loved late term pregnancy sex. Also, long term in the back of your mind, DO NOT let this turn into a covert contract (I was supportive during pregnancy so you owe me slutty enthusiasm 6 weeks post delivery). She won't owe you shit for your supportive, un-needy, contributions. You have to do all that completely for YOU. Because YOU want pregnancy and delivery…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 11:21 PM
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One of the things I'm still really bad at is simply standing up to her. Is WISNIFG missing from your list?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 07:32 PM
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I am still trying to buy a second home in a specific area of interest but this market is brutal to get a contract and I will not over pay. It was hard to find anything to pick on in your oys. (that's inspiring) Why not get your finances to a level where there is less concern about this. You want a house in this specific area (so do many other people). You're looking at the actual market price. You either want the thing or you want to keep your money/time/whatever more.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 07:30 PM
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as my wife has wife’s behavior has not earned it all and we have not had sex in over a month now. I asked you on your comment before and I genuinely want to know; what do your initiations look like? What is your game and escalation like? She's looking at the internet to answer questions about her husband nailing the dark triad arts and how to deal with the resulting, overwhelming horny-ness. I can't help but wonder if you're being a pussy about initiating or trying to protect your ego with humor…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 06:19 PM
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This is a great response. If you follow through with action (no eating), your body will have no choice.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 03:46 PM
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“It won’t be good for me until I will be having it with a partner who is……” I think I might’ve commented this to you before, if you’re going to rely on your partner to make sex good, get a boyfriend.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 05:45 AM
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If this is true, then your wife knows that she’s the only one who will ever receive this fun flirty treatment from you. Or she at least has no fear of it effectively getting you laid elsewhere. Your wife knows about MRP, right? You can’t even get monkey dancing results if that’s the case. Your only options are to actually become a physical/mental/emotional stud or start over with a new woman. You will have no success in between those two choices.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 05:26 AM
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Agreed. u/earl522, try to make a plan and to do list so long that you’re never doing this. Your list should be made up of whatever you want; chores, hobbies, house projects, reading. Fill up your days and don’t waste them. Sometimes when I’ve had trouble with it, I’ve just asked myself what I’d be doing if I was a single dad? This had made for productive weekdays and fucking awesome weekends.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 05:02 AM
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Losing your temper (yelling) is like junk food. Abstaining completely is easier than indulging a little. Once you start to experience this you’re going to be so relieved.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 04:53 AM
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but it does not lead to sex. *grounded spark does not lead her to sex. ​ But I initiate and get met with a full stop strong rejection, What do your initiations look like? A lot of mine right now do not "look" like an initiation at all but are more like horns' taking your depressed and anxious wife's feelings into the bedroom. Basically, I've made it where one of the only places my wife can approach me to talk about her feels are inside of our bedroom in our bed and I don't often strongly initiat…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 09:40 PM
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An overall recap FR of your journey so far would be incredibly valuable. What you’ve done with stfu and striving to follow rule 9 in oys and your actual real life should be used as a model of what a guy here should be aiming for.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 08:56 PM
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OYS 48 Age 36, Married 10 yrs, kids under 10 5’9” 165lbs, BF 13% navy Lifts: BP-175x5, SQ-215x5,DL-295x5, OP-n/a Read: NMMNGx2, MMSLP,TWOTSMx3,Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck,TRM blog year 1-5, SGM, Pook, MAP, WISNIFGx2,The Natural, Art of Seduction, Mystery, The Game, Practical FemalePsychology,Bigger LeanerStrongerX2, Models, Enlightened Sex Manual, Dirty TalkMaster Reading: Starting Strength,Unchained Man ______________________________________________________________________________________ P…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 05:04 PM
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While Its clear you suck, I SERIOUSLY appreciate your inclusion of some stats. You need to loose weight ASAP through diet and weightlifting. This will mitigate problems faster than any other thing you can focus on. Second to that, prepare yourself legally, logistically and emotionally for the end of this relationship.
/r/askMRP17/01/22 08:38 PM
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Male 32 yrs/5 9/185lbs/15-20% bodyfat (mirror) Holy shit, I'm so glad someone else asked about your stats because I've always been in shape is fucking vague. Maybe you're in the top 20%. Great, women view 80% of men as below average looking. So, now you're average. Congratulations. You're comparing your looks to 1 woman, your wife. You need to be comparing your looks to other men. All of your hamstering about talking about her is your brain trying to distract you from the fact that you're still …
/r/askMRP14/01/22 09:35 PM
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You can't make her "do" or "change" anything. You ought to know by now that your own fitness journey was probably jump started by a very real, very personal fear of loss/desire for more within your own life. Your wife probably doesn't experience either of these as evidenced by the enormous pile of "she/hers" in your post. Not to mention: My relationship is in a good place........I've been getting BJs.......She cums.......I could very easily get with younger and hotter........keeping the family t…
/r/askMRP14/01/22 06:08 PM
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Thanks. I've always felt confused about ego and prize mentality being at odds. I'm saving this comment.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/22 12:13 AM
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You have a long ways to go but you ARE pointed in the right direction.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 10:38 PM
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but I'm organizing a little shooting outing with them Awesome! ​ overcoming a deep insecurity I've carried for the entirety of my marriage. ......At first I thought was I'd felt insecurity about her, but it really was insecurity about myself. ......If I were in my head, I would be foolishly comparing myself to others and wondering about this or that. .......... I have a job to do, and being in my head is counterproductive..........I had some bad moments over the break, where I slipped into some …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 10:28 PM
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Sex every night, multiple times a night. She’s moving fast. ....And then the REAL fun begins. You're fantasizing about revenge and starting to live it out too. I can't say I wouldn't be doing it if I were in your shoes but it doesn't serve you at all. She sucks and she doesn't deserve your commitment but she's the mom of your kids and YOU REALLY FUCKING SUCK TOO.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 05:06 PM
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I don't need words from her. I get action. That's what I really want. Which explains the lack of words. If I needed words, my frame would be kinda brittle. I think the words I get are sabotage. Not vindictive so much as a subconscious desire to see the changes slow down.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 04:05 PM
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What about the sex?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 12:59 AM
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A lot of us avoid this type of shit because we convince ourselves its fake or we're supposed to have success just "being ourselves". Just like "I'm not really a weightlifter guy. That's just not me."
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 12:17 AM
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I eventually got a comment to the effect “I only do this for you, I don’t need this at all.” I hear this comment too and it's recently been happening under circumstances where she has every excuse under the sun to reject sex but is pursuing it. I think this is definitely a don't listen to what she says, watch what she does: I feel like my wife misses me, And like Horns says above, just fucking BELIEVE that she does. And realize she might never say it. My wife gives me affirming words and express…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 11:47 PM
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Don't you know by now Not sure why I'd have any lingering doubt. I DO believe everything I've ever seen you say and I've usually seen it with my own eyes.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 10:01 PM
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If you really gave a shit about yourself, you ought to give yourself the experience of getting into the 12-14% range (I'm telling myself this same advice about getting all the way to 10% or below). You've got ~51 more weekends left in 2022. Try getting through 2 weeks cutting with lots of planned diet discipline and not fucking up your progress over the weekend. The numbers you talk about above are all mostly the same and by the standards that women look at you, when you're hovering below 20%, y…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 08:34 PM
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Yes, exactly
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 08:20 PM
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Wow! Seriously u/jack_wraith, buckle up and stick around.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 06:45 PM
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Still actively disengaged from my wife. My wife keeps trying to start arguments over small things and I keep not engaging in them. I’m still not playing that game. Maybe I missed something. Are you planning divorce? Are you just silently, pouty and reserved when you're around her and she's trying to play the argument game or are you energetically playing your nice card and showing her what a fun game looks like. No judgement if you're leaving but if you're not leaving, try treating your wife lik…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 06:32 PM
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17.4% BF What's your diet like? What's the lowest this has ever been?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 06:09 PM
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The latest weeks I've been switching between very energetic, motivated to everything and kind of low and sad. I am in a sad state of mind right now............. A moment later I am back to the happy me, where I see the possibilities this brings to me. I've been noticing this kind of thing in myself these past three weeks and it seems like, because I can see it happening I can filter through the negative, sunk cost, ego driven, validation seeking, what about the kids?, it's so sad thoughts way fa…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 06:06 PM
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everything you want is on the other side of fear Amen. I have a real funny memory of when I first read about DEER'ing and in my head I thought, "How the fuck am I supposed to continue on living and breathing oxygen if I'm not verbally defending, explaining, excusing and rationalizing everything I do?!?!" hahahaha
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 05:46 PM
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Thanks for pointing this out. I "do" believe it's that simple but I could do better a spitting this out with conviction because it often comes out like an attempt at humor right now. I feel like I just now realized, I AM avoiding doing this seriously as a form of ego protection. I tell myself that I'm not ready for that level of prize mentality but that's likely imaginary. I'm probably scared of witnessing rejection if I were to assert this with authority. (ie: What if she doesn't agree that I'm…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 05:23 PM
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Mid December i found a second job *another employer found me ​ Just this past weekend I decided to enroll in a diploma course for my career which would enable me to go from being a bank teller to financial advisor. Read this book by Nick Murray and everything else he's ever written that you can get your hands on. The link I posted has used copies available for a few dollars. ​ My wife still isn’t fucking me on the regular, but I am more comfortable expressing my sexuality and my body than I was …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 05:04 PM
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being chauffeured is prize level 10,000
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 04:35 PM
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OYS 47 Age 36, Married 10 yrs, kids under 10 5’9” 165lbs, BF 13% navy Lifts: BP-175x5, SQ-210x6,DL-285x6, OP-n/a Read: NMMNGx2, MMSLP,TWOTSMx3,Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck,TRM blog year 1-5, SGM, Pook, MAP, WISNIFGx2,The Natural, Art of Seduction, Mystery, The Game, Practical Female Psychology,Bigger LeanerStrongerX2, Models, Enlightened Sex Manual, Dirty Talk Master Reading: Starting Strength,Unchained Man Physical: Since my shoulder and overhead press have been painful, I’ve been focused on…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 03:48 PM
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She said no. Fine. I knew I blew it. Dude, what you did here was not blowing it. I'm pretty sure there are very few guys (myself included) that are going out to lunch and escalating all the way to sitting and eating with women that they meet at the restaurant. The fact that you did it is excellent. The blowing it part was not putting on more weight last year, increasing your lifts, doing all the various 60dod stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 03:41 PM
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If she weighs as much as you say she does, you’re going to need 1,000 ft of industrial grade towing chain. https://www.murphyindustrialproducts.com/chain-grade-100-alloy-made-in-the-usa.html Keep lifting and pulling and eventually, she will be your greatest creation.
/r/askMRP11/01/22 04:10 AM
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That’d be great but it seems like the guys who try that are the ones who fool themselves about being over the anger phase on OYS #5. Lol
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 03:59 AM
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Get ready to get angry, like REALLY angry. Then remind yourself how confused you were by me telling you that and have yourself a good laugh. Or cry. Or angrily punch a pillow or whatever.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 02:39 AM
4

I have a lot of female friends who see me as funny and safe .....so frequently do my female friends turn to me .......they need a shoulder to cry on .........I made some new friends online.......I'm friends with two girls ... Okay. You're 20. You have a huge opportunity here. You need to STOP SETTLING FOR FRIENDSHIP. Do not settle for an online friendship. WTF DUDE. Friends online, they tell you that you're handsome over instagram or something? How on earth is this serving you at all? My guess i…
/r/askMRP11/01/22 12:52 AM
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M20, victim puke, SUPER LONG, lol
/r/askMRP11/01/22 12:29 AM
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I listened to a book recently called "why buddhism is true". It's not religious as much as it's about the psychology related to buddhism and something groundbreaking that it points out is that many of our very strong feelings and thought are NOT coming from ourselves but they are programed mechanisms molded into us by natural selection and evolution that are 'meant' to help us survive but it's 0% useful to those of us living in our modern world. The best example of this is the powerful compulsio…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/22 09:56 PM
3

No one needs immediate answers I don't know if you read the post but this guys wife is ON HER PHONE!!! Not to mention she's criticizing HIM for stuff that she herself does! If you can think of a bigger emergency, Rian, I think we'd all like to hear it.
/r/askMRP07/01/22 06:38 PM
4

Gaming problem? Doesn't this guy weigh like 300lbs? Not to mention, we don't know how tight his schedule is.
/r/askMRP07/01/22 06:28 PM
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Ok, here's what you got to do. YOU ARE GOING TO BE AMAZED HOW YOU CAN TURN ALL OF THIS AROUND! ​ 1st - get your wife a gym membership. She needs physical activity to be happy and productive. This will get her to focus on herself more and hopefully stop wasting time on her phone. 2nd - get her setup with a reddit account. She will need to read this first, then this, this, and this. (sounds like maybe she's already read WISNIFG but another go around never hurts). 3rd - Once she starts to Own Her S…
/r/askMRP07/01/22 06:22 PM
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Maybe somewhere I’m afraid that somehow MRP will end up being ‘wrong’, Christianity will be ‘right’, I'm catholic and I continue to be FLOORED by how little my MRP participation has conflicted with my faith. When I first got here, I thought this was like selling your soul to the devil and/or redsfp but the longer I've been here the more I've seen this end up being well aligned with my religion. Your post here looks SOOO familiar because I do this too and it's just my brain trying to rationalize …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/22 04:44 PM
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What did the escort look like? cost? where did you meet? what all did you do? Also, if you were going to leave for some work stuff, how did your fight end with you suggesting she leave? Did you actually go do what you originally intended after she retreated to your room?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/22 04:11 PM
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I stopped myself in reaction to her. If she threatens/implies that she's going to burn the house down and she gets a reaction (or fight) from you over it, you are reinforcing for her that this is an effective way to get attention from you. In that moment while she's hysterical, her lizard brain which she is probably unconscious of, is saying "is this ramboville, is this what it takes to get attention". You want to retrain that lizard brain of hers so it uses sex to get your attention instead of …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/22 04:07 PM
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