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A little girl holding a kitten.
/r/MensRights20/05/17 12:37 PM
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If they kept the old Piggy, they'd be perpetuating the trope of the emotionally unstable harpy.
/r/MensRights03/09/15 04:46 PM
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I tend to assume that most public figures are telling the truth when they say they get threats. There are a lot of bitter cowards in the world. When they act like they actually feel threatened, and their feelings mean there Oughtter Be A Lawr, is where I get suspicious.
/r/MensRights05/08/15 04:28 PM
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If I recall correctly, the craziest of the crazies in that protest outside Farrell's event had her identity posted here and elsewhere. It's not exactly the same since she was in public crazying it up with no reasonable expectation of anonymity, but the intent was The same and I'm sure she got threats.
/r/MensRights05/08/15 03:37 PM
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This is fucking poetic.
/r/MensRights04/08/15 07:27 PM
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No female version? Women's health getting neglected by the medical establishment once again, I see.
/r/MensRights04/08/15 04:55 PM
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I tracked the IP and it's literally coming from under a bridge.
/r/MensRights30/07/15 07:46 PM
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I missed the part where she wasn't an actual victim. Unless it was there and I missed it, you are actually doing The "perfect victim" thing we get accused of so often.
/r/MensRights30/07/15 07:44 PM
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To this old salt, it sounds like you have a thing for this young lady.
/r/MensRights30/07/15 07:41 PM
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I always wondered why I feel like half of a grapefruit trapped in a man's body.
/r/MensRights24/07/15 04:44 PM
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Everybody knows it's a slippery slope. One minute you're cooking some chops, the next minute you're mansplaining at a networking conference, and before you know it you're calling your secretary "sweetie" and slapping her ass as she fetches your coffee. And you don't even know how you got a secretary.
/r/MensRights23/07/15 05:56 PM
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Unusually, the security worker was a woman, and the victim a boy. Where the fuck has this journalist been the last ten years?
/r/MensRights21/07/15 04:48 PM
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Are You trolling MR to get someone to say something rapey, or did you just post this without thinking exactly one logical step from the proposition?
/r/MensRights21/07/15 03:52 PM
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Just when some ladies WANT to be subjected to the Male Gaze, that's when we deny them it. What bastards we are.
/r/MensRights20/07/15 08:12 PM
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"Douche" doesn't cover it. In a world where this phrase is often thrown about far too cheaply, with the above sentence this motherfucker is actually being a rape apologist.
/r/MensRights10/07/15 08:21 AM
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Exact text: I'm sorry, but when did girls get so stupid? In the old days--when girls were apparently both smarter and tougher--a girl who didn't want to have sex didn't have sex. She said no thanks, grabbed her purse and walked out the door. The boy may have been disappointed and frustrated, but he wasn't confused. "No" meant "no." And "yes" meant yes to the finish line. If you want a guy to stop midway through the first act, pick an older boyfriend. Say fiftyish.
/r/MensRights09/07/15 01:33 AM
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I was with you until the part about consenting to sex meaning consenting to "the finish line." That is fucked up.
/r/MensRights08/07/15 04:35 PM
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When something can get someone out of a prison hitch, and that thing happens to someone facing prison, that thing is unexpected to who now?
/r/MensRights26/06/15 03:56 PM
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So, you're linking to illegal material that could potentially put the viewer in jail?
/r/MensRights24/06/15 12:04 PM
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Historically, there was a very real wage gap with women being denied entry into many professions and being paid lower wages for the same job due to official, in-writing company policies. Don't whitewash the past.
/r/MensRights22/06/15 05:22 PM
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The True Believer is worth a read. Hoffer is analyzing the nature of mass movements, and the qualities they share in common. It's an important book to read to help prevent yourself from becoming The enemy you oppose.
/r/MensRights22/06/15 12:39 PM
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I'm in favor of individual freedom and I'll do anything reasonable to make people comfortable, and all I ask is a little patience if I use the wrong pronoun once in a while, out of habit. Interesting though, as trans rights progresses, what will be the government's stance on conscription?
/r/MensRights22/06/15 12:25 PM
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When my clothes aren't fit for the office, they become weekend wear. When they aren't fit for that they're work clothes for chores and projects. After they're not fit for yard work, they're shop rags. I may be an extreme case, but I suspect many men do similar stuff.
/r/MensRights22/06/15 12:09 PM
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Read the fucking article. She was a kid, threatened and manipulated by her actual abuser into framing an innocent person. Sounds like he'll for him and her both.
/r/MensRights18/06/15 12:40 AM
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For those who are curious, I put "objectifies" in quotes because I don't buy into the idea that acknowledging someone's physical attractiveness = denying their humanity, male or female. And I wouldn't be annoyed at it, except for my near-total conviction that if I wrote a similar piece irrelevantly referencing a female actor's hotness, this lady would be all over me like stink on shit.
/r/MensRights15/06/15 10:32 PM
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...aaaaand it even casually "objectifies" Chris Pratt in the telling. One of these clickbait diatribes wouldn't be complete without a little clueless hypocrisy, and this author delivers.
/r/MensRights15/06/15 10:29 PM
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Only women working there or only women on staff that day?
/r/MensRights11/06/15 06:20 PM
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I think you've got a good point to consider, but I would add that just as women's liberation requires them to learn to assert themselves more than they have been traditionally taught to, men's liberation requires men to learn to ask for help, show their pain, etc.
/r/MensRights08/06/15 10:58 PM
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There were similar comments about Keira Knightley when she doubled for Natalie Portman in the prequels. Probably helped launch her career. How about we not emulate the feminist moan circle on stuff like this? Appreciation of beauty isn't an affront.
/r/MensRights08/06/15 04:34 PM
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I think we should call it "the engine room." I remember rewatching Titanic after being exposed to the MRM. There's this scene where the young lovers flee through the engine compartment, past all the blackened faces of the guys who just fling coal into a giant furnace all day long to keep this floating paradise moving.
/r/MensRights04/06/15 02:43 PM
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Men's rights how now?
/r/MensRights03/06/15 02:28 AM
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Present.
/r/MensRights02/06/15 04:07 PM
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She had every right to call the cops. And they did their duty by investigating... and dropping it. Because whistling.
/r/MensRights27/05/15 01:36 AM
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Yeah, making a stink and naming the company on a public forum says a lot about her level of professionalism, maturity and the kind of drama and entitlement you could expect if you hired her.
/r/MensRights17/04/15 03:03 PM
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Bentivegna says she told them she was running late ahead of time. Yeah, that doesn't actually change fuck all. If you're an entry level applicant for a professional job, and you're late to the interview, if I'm making the call there isn't going to be an interview. I'll call you in for another try if we run through the first round of candidates without finding a good fit.
/r/MensRights17/04/15 03:00 PM
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women demand to be paid for open source work so that more women will contribute Who advocated for that?
/r/MensRights14/04/15 11:57 AM
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We need immigrants to do the work Americans can't be bothered to do... you know, roofing, picking produce, and thinking.
/r/MensRights14/04/15 11:54 AM
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I just made up a number. Exact figures not important for my point.
/r/MensRights13/04/15 06:36 PM
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1970, women receive 35% of bachelor degrees: women aren't getting enough degrees. 2015, women receive 57% of bachelor degrees: women aren't getting enough computer science degrees.
/r/MensRights13/04/15 11:30 AM
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That's the sign of a good comedy bit.
/r/MensRights08/04/15 11:44 PM
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Here's a pamphlet from Doctors Opposing Circumcision. http://www.doctorsopposingcircumcision.org/pdf/DOC_trifold_brochure.pdf
/r/MensRights07/04/15 07:57 PM
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Both are important. I personally put more energy into men's issues because they aren't even part of the mainstream dialogue yet. Imagine two packages that have to be delivered at the same time. They are both equally important but one has been held up in transit. That's the one you put your effort into moving forward, not because it's a more important package, but because it's the one that's in danger of not being delivered.
/r/MensRights07/04/15 12:26 PM
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I'm in the US, and a moderate liberal progressive. If there's ever a candidate foolish enough to run on that kind of platform but with a men's issues plank, I'll vote for him/her to show support but I wouldn't expect them to win.
/r/MensRights03/04/15 11:45 AM
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Uh, you're not thinking like a feminist, you're thinking like a person with a moral compass. Feminists don't have a monopoly on standing up for women, they have a monopoly on standing up only for women.
/r/MensRights02/04/15 10:49 PM
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Sometime in the past 15 years, men started pointing out stuff like this, and the definition of sexism got retconned to include "institutional power" or something like that. So, depends on what year your dictionary was published in I guess. I think the old definition of sexism that I was brought up with is fine: discrimination or prejudice on the basis of sex, full stop.
/r/MensRights02/04/15 10:35 PM
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...riiiiiiiiiight up until there's a spider on the wall
/r/MensRights02/04/15 02:33 PM
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When women are pressured by social forces to be feminine, it's oppression of women. When men are pressured by social forces to be masculine, it's oppression of women. Anyone who needs help understanding that the above is absurd, was beyond help in the first place.
/r/MensRights02/04/15 02:27 PM
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Sorry to hear it. Nice to have you back, hadn't seen your handle in a while.
/r/MensRights01/04/15 07:00 PM
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Not you too, TMF. Making every statement that isn't carefully couched in promasculine cheerleading into a misandrist statement? You're smarter than that and I didn't think you trolled, so hopefully you're just drunk. I didn't say anything about rape, I merely suggested the prisoners might be rowdier with women on board. Rowdy and airplanes don't mix. And we're not talking about men in general, we're talking about men who are serving time for criminal offenses. Dismount yon elevated equine.
/r/MensRights01/04/15 04:39 PM
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On prisoner flights: there's actually a sound reason for that. Take a bunch of dudes with impulse control issues who haven't seen a woman in years, then lock them into a metal tube with some women (wearing a uniform featured regularly in pornographic fantasies, no less) for a couple of hours, at 1400 ft. You don't have to bring the safety of the female attendants into it: that plane is going to be quieter and more manageable without the ladies on it.
/r/MensRights31/03/15 07:54 PM
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Dem split infinitives.
/r/MensRights31/03/15 07:48 PM
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Am I the only one who thought it was a kind of a funny prank?
/r/MensRights26/03/15 10:59 AM
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I don't need #2. The mission isn't complete for women. It has yet to begin in earnest for men, but that doesn't mean women have got it all worked out for them.
/r/MensRights24/03/15 11:36 PM
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Note the obligatory dig at the MRM. But it's progress: we're past the "first they ignore you" stage. And the concession that we have at least one solid grievance is better than unilateral dismissal.
/r/MensRights24/03/15 03:37 PM
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attempting to take action toward the fact that boys are discriminated against in school without hurting girls will take deep care. You said something there. We should strive to understand how boys and girls are different, and how they are the same, and design education around their needs - girls and boys both. We shouldn't roll back initiatives that help girls, we should integrate those initiatives into a larger program that aims to serve the different needs of all kinds of kids. And we should p…
/r/MensRights18/03/15 04:47 PM
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Yeah, can't be bothered to find the old article right now but I remember a few years back seeing a study, the finding of which was that the programs studied (programs like this) did not have the intended effect. The girls were less likely to say they wanted to enter such a field after the program than before it. Same with pink tools "for girls" or those godawful fucking Lego Friends sets. Basically stuff like this frames the girls as girls, not as students interested in science and technology. S…
/r/MensRights17/03/15 08:56 PM
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Funniest comment on reddit today.
/r/MensRights17/03/15 08:41 PM
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Of course you should do this for the girls also but bear in mind it may mean more to the boys. In general yes, but I hope OP won't see his rareness as a man in elementary education as a mandate to focus on boys. My wife grew up with a classic emotionally unavailable father who only opened up to criticize her. Her mother overcorrected for dad, and lavished praise on her for every little non-accomplishment. Her teachers would praise her and tell her she was talented, but she'd grown up in this pat…
/r/MensRights17/03/15 08:25 PM
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I think the movement is not inherently sexist, inherently handicapped at seeing and combatting anti-male sexism within its ranks. It's not the disease, it's an immunocompromised host.
/r/MensRights13/03/15 06:02 PM
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In a nutshell, there are two camps. One embraces the feminist view of what is rape or sexual assault, but wants it applied both ways. The other camp still thinks the rules should be applied both ways, but does not agree that drunk-but-enthusiastic sex is rape, or that going from 1st base to 2nd base without a verbal check-in is sexual assault, for instance. And then there are more than a few jackoffs who will bounce flippantly to whichever stance is convenient to complain about something some fe…
/r/MensRights10/03/15 09:16 PM
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Sometimes there just aren't enough downvotes.
/r/MensRights10/03/15 01:25 AM
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Nope, if you abdicate your parental responsibilities to your partner's ill-informed decisions, you are just as culpable. Unless your partner lied to you and told you they had had the child vaccinated when they hadn't, it's on you too. We can't advocate for men being respected as equal parents and then hold them blameless when they don't ACT like equal parents, just as we can't advocate for women being empowered decision-makers over their own bodies and then treat them like powerless children whe…
/r/MensRights19/02/15 02:21 AM
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I guess they should change "consent is sexy" to "consent is sexy but only within the paramaters of erotic pursuits that don't make us uncomfortable."
/r/MensRights13/02/15 12:59 PM
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I've read several instances of people being beaten up or killed as a consequence of being accused, but not as a consequence of being raped. OK, now that I think about it, it depends on your cultural milieu. In places like Saudi Arabia, that shit does happen. Really, this whole discussion is rather perverse - weighing terrible deeds against each other. I think I would just say both fall under "Despicable" category and leave it at that.
/r/MensRights13/02/15 12:56 PM
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Well, that's not rape, that's rape and murder. Two crimes. If you asked me what's worse, being raped and murdered vs. falsely accused of rape... yeah, I'd go with raped and murdered. Kind of a no-brainer.
/r/MensRights12/02/15 11:06 PM
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Worst case scenario to worst case scenario? False accusation, because the worst case scenario of that is being murdered by a vigilante who thinks you got away with a crime (or murdered in prison by another inmate). Best case to best case, being raped is worse, because the best case scenario of false accusation is a swift and resounding exoneration that is widely accepted by the public, whereas the best case scenario of being raped is still being raped.
/r/MensRights12/02/15 09:59 PM
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I took it to mean that he was passed out when she took the picture... not when the sex occurred. The hubbub wasn't about the sex, it was about the photo, and posting it on social media.
/r/MensRights06/02/15 02:42 PM
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Oh, I would agree. Just not about what the lesson is.
/r/MensRights05/02/15 01:39 PM
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The way I see it, there's substantial evidence that prehistoric, pre-agricultural societies were highly egalitarian. The move to agriculture set in motion a chain of events that became unstoppable: after a few generations, key survival skills and knowledge disappears, making a return to the old ways impossible the community becomes irretrievably dependent on a patch of cultivated land, which must be defended reliance on a handful of cultivated crops instead of hundreds, even thousands of natural…
/r/MensRights03/02/15 01:47 PM
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This is disingenuous. The author is taking the university's quick, decisive reaction to an unusually clear and unambiguous rape situation, and suggesting that it's the proper response to rape cases in general. But - reality check time - the vast majority of rape complaints don't involve an unconscious victim and two witnesses. The university did respond in an appropriate manner to this particular case, but to suggest this is the proper response to rape cases in general is absurd.
/r/MensRights01/02/15 02:09 PM
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Valentine's Day is a symbolic ritual that encapsulates the traditional male/female role structure. If you believe in reinforcing that traditional structure, it works just fine the way it is. But if you don't support that structure, you have to discard or reinvent the courtship rituals that embody it.
/r/MensRights29/01/15 03:14 PM
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Masculinity boils down to strength. There are many kinds of strength, and many directions in which it can be applied. If toxic masculinity is strength for hurting, positive masculinity is strength for helping. I could elaborate in great detail but it all circles back to this. For my part, I would describe my focus not as trying to be a good man, but trying to be a good person - within the context of being a man and not a woman. That means the vast majority of ways in which I strive to be good ap…
/r/MensRights28/01/15 11:54 PM
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She draws a line between tracking someone without their knowledge, vs. with their express consent. If you consent to being monitored, that isn't stalking.
/r/MensRights23/01/15 11:23 AM
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If you're going to hang your idea over a framework of "primal" manhood, try to sound like your research on prehistoric people didn't begin and end with a Flintstones marathon.
/r/MensRights20/01/15 12:47 PM
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You're only a teenager for a few years, whereas you're an adult for decades after that. And those stats take into account mobile games, facebook games, and all those shitty internet games where the viruses come from, which is why I'm constantly working on my 70 year old mother's computer. Sarkeesian's doing a bit of a bait-and-switch here; she uses a definition of video game that includes X, Y and Z when she's talking about the prevalence of women in gaming, but her complaints about content rela…
/r/MensRights17/01/15 03:07 PM
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That's not rape that's discrimination against gays.
/r/MensRights15/01/15 10:50 PM
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She's a living embodiment of the the state of affairs in the western world. We've broken through some of the deepest-held assumptions about sex roles to the point where we can have a female rabbi, but people still take their little boys to her to cut their penises.
/r/MensRights14/01/15 12:34 PM
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Yes, name-calling isn't helpful.
/r/MensRights14/01/15 02:30 AM
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Dogs can't say no? I beg to differ.
/r/MensRights13/01/15 07:20 PM
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Good for him, not really a win for the movement. The school may have been pressured from outside to settle and avoid a ruling, buying time to circle the wagons. Sometimes it's simply a matter of waiting to really fight it out until you have a lock on a sympathetic judge.
/r/MensRights09/01/15 05:55 PM
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Maybe maybe not. I think those of us who oppose the practice would do better to focus on the primary complication, losing part of your dick, and the ethical issue of performing amputations on babies without a pressing medical need. Those are rock solid.
/r/MensRights09/01/15 05:50 PM
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Man this sub makes me appreciate my wife.
/r/MensRights09/01/15 05:27 PM
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Uh, click on the sidebar link labeled "Suicide Rates by Demographics" and then one more click gets you here: http://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/suicide/statistics/rates04.html
/r/MensRights08/01/15 09:59 PM
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Yes, there are a number of very valid reasons. Women's facilities indeed should be a bit bigger and have a few more accommodations because women do indeed use them more, and take slightly longer to do so. The ridiculous part is constructing a lunatic conspiracy theory around it.
/r/MensRights08/01/15 02:30 PM
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Trough urinals taught me two things: "float the stray cigarette butt to the drain before you run out of pee" is a fun game Irishmen don't do boundaries. Seriously, old Irish fellows will tell you jokes and fucking elbow nudge you at the punchline, while you're both holding your dicks. As an American, that takes some getting used to.
/r/MensRights08/01/15 02:22 PM
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Seriously, we want men more involved in their kids' lives and this is the fucking welcome mat?
/r/MensRights08/01/15 12:46 PM
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It's not a cure for AIDS or anything, I mean it's not the most pressing issue the world faces, but there's nothing wrong with putting up a few posters in the subway reminding people to be considerate of other passengers. I have no issue with the campaign except that it focuses on maleness instead of the undesirable behavior.
/r/MensRights08/01/15 12:40 PM
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Language reform run amok is terrible, I agree, but this is one case where I'd say it's worth a look. Changing "history" to "herstory"? That's insane; the etymology doesn't even relate to sex. Changing "mailman" to "mail carrier"? I'm for it. It's an accurate term, and if it helps kids understand there aren't supposed to be "man" jobs and "woman" jobs, great. Although we've done much to reshape culture to encourage girls to think past traditional roles, we haven't done much to help boys in that r…
/r/MensRights07/01/15 06:03 PM
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It's named after the river
/r/MensRights07/01/15 05:45 PM
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Tripe.
/r/MensRights07/01/15 05:29 PM
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Yeah, but drawing attention to women's violence against men undermines the narrative of domestic violence as a mechanism of patriarchal oppression and threatens women's perch atop Victim Mountain.
/r/MensRights07/01/15 05:13 PM
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Being inconsiderate of fellow passengers by taking up more space than you need when conditions are crowded is a minor form of antisocial behavior and we should encourage awareness about it. I'm comfortable with the assertion that more men than women are guilty of this particular kind of inconsiderate behavior. But given that it's not an exclusively male behavior, it's unnecessarily divisive to make it about Men Being Bad. If nobody had coined the phrase "Manspreading" and if the blog that kicked…
/r/MensRights06/01/15 04:16 PM
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Also, the sexualisation of the childrens' reactions to the girl are pretty creepy. Most Italians would be baffled by this statement. They see sexuality as something that grows slowly throughout childhood, not something that flicks on like a switch when the first hair pops out on your groin. Also, this is a country where they had a game show where husbands competed to get their wives to strip off the most clothes on camera, so...
/r/MensRights05/01/15 04:05 PM
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I don't think so; you can't sign away someone else's rights. Under the law it is the child who is entitled to financial support by a noncustodial parent, not the custodial parent.
/r/MensRights05/01/15 02:36 PM
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It's not your job, but this is a public forum of discussion, which means that requests for information are not unreasonable. If you can't be bothered, maybe don't respond instead of making the movement look bad by attacking people for honest questions.
/r/MensRights31/12/14 02:21 PM
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Fuck off troll.
/r/MensRights30/12/14 11:59 PM
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Did you even read the article? The bill requires more than notification, it requires the man's consent. Sorry, you don't get to veto someone's medical decisions just because you came in her.
/r/MensRights30/12/14 04:43 PM
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It shouldn't even matter that pregnancy has risks, pains, etc. Even if it was a cakewalk, which it isn't, it should still be a woman's choice whether or not to use available medical technology on her own body. And no, it's not fair that women bear all the costs of babymakin'. That's why we had to make up a story blaming the first woman for all the evils in the world, to reconcile the idea of a just and loving God with this huge reproductive injustice :)
/r/MensRights30/12/14 04:03 PM
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Does my right to my unborn offspring trump my wife's right to bodily autonomy? I would say no.
/r/MensRights30/12/14 03:54 PM
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The right to veto my sexual partner's decisions about her body is not a right I want. The people pushing this agenda don't want more freedoms for men, they want fewer sexual and reproductive freedoms for everybody.
/r/MensRights30/12/14 03:49 PM
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There you go.
/r/MensRights28/12/14 11:55 AM
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When you go down that road of thinking far enough, at the end of it is a mechanistic moral wasteland where there is no difference between good and evil. Yes, almost everything a person can do can be labeled selfish at the deepest level, but if you don't draw a line of distinction between being selfish at the expense of other people, and being selfish to the benefit of other people, you're missing a key point. There are psychological mechanisms of gratification to reward social behavior. A person…
/r/MensRights24/12/14 11:13 AM
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That's tactical. They don't want to stir up resentment against the law during peacetime, when popular opinion could turn against the draft and demand an end to Selective Service. They'll enforce the law plenty harshly when/if there's a draft in motion, but in those circumstances it'll be War Fever and nobody will want to do or say anything "unpatriotic."
/r/MensRights24/12/14 10:56 AM
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It's more than just announcing your presence. Registration is like a contract where you agree to serve if called up. That's why you have to do it after you're 18, when you can enter into binding contracts. If it was just about making a list of male citizens, it would be done at birth. Now, what IS interesting is that contracts made under duress can be challenged. Threatening to throw you in jail if you don't sign certainly sounds like duress to me...
/r/MensRights24/12/14 10:52 AM
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Clarification: the right to vote is not directly tied to compliance with the Selective Service Act. Failing to register is a felony, and different states have different laws regarding felons' voting rights. Some ban felons for life, some ban felons for a certain time period, and some do not prohibit felons from voting.
/r/MensRights24/12/14 10:45 AM
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I love it. "Neglecting to include a single metric that only applies to one sex" equals "excluding that sex."
/r/MensRights22/12/14 12:35 PM
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Hey man, if you reconsider something you said, don't be afraid to just walk it back a notch in a further comment. Not everyone here is waiting with baited breath to catch someone in a retraction. I'm OK with anyone having some hot anger if you have been wronged.
/r/MensRights15/12/14 02:58 AM
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Ah, gender partisanship at its ugliest.
/r/MensRights14/12/14 12:23 PM
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That's true, but it's not what I'm talking about. At the extreme end, they're telling young women that we live in a "rape culture" in which the authorities are disinterested in seeking justice for rape victims. That's not the same as "it's a hard crime to prosecute so a lot of offenders slip through the cracks."
/r/MensRights13/12/14 11:01 AM
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This is a plea to emotion, but you might try having him watch a few videos of babies having the operation. You can see quite clearly they're suffering. Then ask, why would we make one of our child's first experiences in life one of extreme pain? It fucks with my head that I live in a culture where people who wouldn't dream of wrapping their baby in anything but the softest blankets washed only in carefully selected additive-free detergents, think nothing of strapping that same baby to a miniatur…
/r/MensRights11/12/14 05:54 PM
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A greater percentage of nonstudent (19%) than student (9%) victims stated that they did not report to police because the police would not or could not do anything to help. I wonder who could have planted that seed in their heads?
/r/MensRights11/12/14 05:43 PM
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Lighten up, Francis.
/r/MensRights10/12/14 08:40 PM
5

Name a situation where people receive forcible amputations as a reward.
/r/MensRights10/12/14 03:34 PM
1

There are plenty of body parts that are even less necessary or sensitive than either the clitoris or the foreskin. The tops of the ears, for example. And yet if you surgically removed the tops of a newborn infant's ears, you would rightly be called a monster by almost everyone, and you'd get a nice little stretch of prison time. Why don't we just add the foreskin to the list of things it's not OK to amputate from babies without a pressing medical cause, which at the moment includes every other p…
/r/MensRights10/12/14 03:23 PM
12

As a cyclist I'm all for it. Get the ladies on the bikes. When it's women getting pasted by shitty drivers and horn-blasted by dumbass teenagers maybe the cops will start giving a shit.
/r/MensRights09/12/14 12:27 PM
1

The antidote for crazy religious fundamentalist zealots isn't to invent an equally crazy religion and be equally fanatical about it. The antidote is cool-headed reason.
/r/MensRights04/12/14 07:35 PM
3

I think of them as the "prurient prudes." Say it ten times fast for a challenge.
/r/MensRights04/12/14 02:40 PM
4

I never thought it would be a sex-specific thing, but I can confirm that my son responded very well to iPad games. And I advise every parent I meet to ignore the authorities and give their kids moderate amounts of parent-supervised touchscreen game playing. Those two italicized bits are really important. For parents out there looking for apps, I can't recommend highly enough Endless Alphabet and Endless Reader. My kid knew the names of all his letters and the sounds they made by 18 months (nonpa…
/r/MensRights01/12/14 06:55 PM
1

Nope, baldness is kick-ass.
/r/MensRights25/11/14 02:49 PM
1

Earlier this month, state Assemblyman Troy Singleton (D-Burlington) introduced the bill (A3908), which would create the crime of “sexual assault by fraud,” which it defines as “an act of sexual penetration to which a person has given consent because the actor has misrepresented the purpose of the act or has represented he is someone he is not.” Gendered language right in the language of the bill much?
/r/MensRights24/11/14 10:24 PM
1

Male minor victim of statutory rape by woman. He lies to protect her. Police cajole the truth out of him. Headline is that he admitted to a crime (perjury).
/r/MensRights22/11/14 12:15 AM
7

Insecure young men goading each other when they express tender emotions. Everyone trying to prove to each other they don't care about anything. I remember it well from my teens and early twenties. It felt toxic at the time and I tried to distance myself from it, but even for me some of it sank in. The solution isn't finger-wagging at boys, it's giving them positive ways to prove their manhood to themselves and others.
/r/MensRights21/11/14 02:44 PM
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It's never about broadcasters, it's about advertisers. And advertisers only care about image and sales figures. So it all comes back to public opinion. Either he's a serial rapist or he's being very successfully painted as one. Whichever it is, telling advertisers to associate their brands with him... you might as well shout into a hurricane.
/r/MensRights20/11/14 05:37 PM
1

Are you kidding? I personally know half a dozen pacifist extremists. Saying you will not fight, for any cause or against any threat... that is an extremist position my friend. Sure, pacifist extremism looks different from other forms, but it exists. And if you take "pacifism" to mean being opposed to organized war but not against violent means, then Weather Underground.
/r/MensRights20/11/14 12:34 PM
1

It's not legal - currently defined to exclude circumcision. Big difference. By the way, what's your point exactly? In case it wasn't clear, mine is that while every negative of circ is worth pointing out, the focus has to be on the right of every child to bodily integrity. Anything less is niggling. As I said, I'm open to roundabout tactics on a lot of issues, but this is one area where I can't give an inch. We're talking about cutting healthy body parts off of babies. To acknowledge a "middle g…
/r/MensRights20/11/14 03:26 AM
1

I agree it's a valuable talking point for getting the message out, and generally I'm all about playing politics to achieve results at the expense of truth, when needs must, but on this one I have to be a purist. I can't stand the thought of contributing to a precedent where abusing infants is only wrong because a vanishingly small minority of them could later be inconvenienced by it... it's wrong because it's wrong. Because it's fucking SERIOUSLY, INCONTROVERTIBLY WRONG. I can't do half measures…
/r/MensRights20/11/14 02:00 AM
1

A parody religion doesn't really qualify as a movement. I stand by my challenge.
/r/MensRights20/11/14 01:53 AM
13

As a "real MRA" who is also not a brain-dead circlejerk devotee, I thank you.
/r/MensRights19/11/14 11:27 PM
3

The point is to help build an environment where we don't view it as a vaccine to be weighed against esoteric concerns like the simplicity of reassignment surgery, but rather as a barbaric crime against helpless infants.
/r/MensRights19/11/14 11:25 PM
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"Mommy-tracking" is real, and complicated. Should people be passed over for promotions because their family obligations make them less available to grind out long hours? Yes, we are paid, and promoted, for the value we provide, full stop. Should a woman be passed over just because she has a kid and it's assumed that she, and not her husband, will be stepping up to those extra responsibilities? No. That is the part that's wrong and has to stop. I'm currently on the "mommy track" because I stepped…
/r/MensRights19/11/14 08:38 PM
2

It's valid to add it to the list, but we should never take the spotlight off bullet point numero uno: don't cut healthy body parts off of children.
/r/MensRights19/11/14 06:42 PM
2

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Time_zone
/r/MensRights19/11/14 06:39 PM
0

Of course there will be. There already are extremists, but the movement isn't big enough yet to split. Name a movement that doesn't have a lunatic fringe.
/r/MensRights19/11/14 06:38 PM
3

Let's all stop being surprised when this brand tries to be modern and progressive and fails spectacularly. Updating Barbie is like trying to update the Klan - you can only fix something so much when it's rooted in so much wrawng. If I had a daughter I would definitely resist buying Barbie crap. I'm not a gender neutral toy zealot by any means, but Barbie's just gross.
/r/MensRights19/11/14 06:30 PM
5

Nope, there's a really pretty, very feminine young woman who works at my county landfill. If you saw her on the street you would definitely not think "she probably works at the dump." Talk about thankless, hard and dirty work. I see her busting ass and doing all the shit work the other guys are doing, and she's smiling and laughing every time I see her. I made an ass of myself one day, she was taking her turn running the scales and taking money, and I noticed her hands. I asked how she kept her …
/r/MensRights19/11/14 06:24 PM
1

I get what you're saying, it's not really a huge gulf between us. I just don't like the way they phrased it. I readily celebrate the fact that my grandfather made enormous sacrifices in both world wars. I'm not going to celebrate the expectation of his sacrifice... an expectation that fueled a campaign of propaganda that grossly misled him about what he was fighting for, in the first one. His obligation to sacrifice himself was taken for granted, and the powers that be felt justified spinning an…
/r/MensRights19/11/14 06:15 PM
1

Yeah both men and women sacrifice their needs in various ways, but we no longer consider it tasteful to pin a woman's womanhood to her willingness to live for others.
/r/MensRights19/11/14 05:21 PM
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To me, it doesn't read like a celebration of the sacrifices men make, it reads like "you're not a man if you're not willing to sacrifice yourself." Also, those "rites of passage" they're referencing include some pretty fucked up shit. I would be more specific if I had written that. Let's try our favorite game around here: The ability to sacrifice your needs on behalf of others is fundamental to womanhood, as is purity. Womanhood rites of passage the world over recognise the importance of sacrifi…
/r/MensRights19/11/14 05:19 PM
1

Play reverse the gender on everything you've written in this exchange and you're playing the Big Red feminist to a tee. And if you think immaturity is calling for diplomacy and respect, and maturity is "who cares what other people think fuck them," well...
/r/MensRights19/11/14 03:43 PM
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It's not the diehard feminist diplomacy is for. They've got their assumptions firmly in place and they only come here to troll or feed r/againstmensrights. It's the open-minded woman who comes here and bounces right back out when she sees one-sided, rancorous crap like this. Here's a woman who didn't call herself a victim, who went out of her way to apologize for participating in something that demonized men, even though she really has nothing to apologize for since she was misled also. And inst…
/r/MensRights19/11/14 03:23 PM
8

You've been making us look bad for 16 whole years! Congrats! Maybe when you reach my age you'll have learned something about diplomacy.
/r/MensRights19/11/14 02:53 PM
2

That's fine, the problem is that we lack a universally understood etiquette. She clearly didn't take the meaning you intended.
/r/MensRights19/11/14 02:49 PM
2

Just picture a man perfectly cast as a cranky, cantankerous and perpetually annoyed dad, and you'll have it.
/r/MensRights19/11/14 02:47 PM
3

We need some Miss Manners type to create some modernized etiquette rules and make them stick in the popular consciousness. Lots of etiquette rules are about exactly this type of thing: saying something clearly, without having to spell it out and make it awkward. Something like: "Would you like to have dinner with me on Friday" means split the bill, wherease "Can I take you out to dinner on Friday" means the asker will be paying the check.
/r/MensRights19/11/14 02:29 PM
1

Yeah, and springing it at the end wasn't awkward at all /s
/r/MensRights19/11/14 02:24 PM
7

That's some mighty fine femsplaining there.
/r/MensRights19/11/14 02:19 PM
11

Dude this is why we're hated.
/r/MensRights19/11/14 02:05 PM
1

British English slang, loosely means "taunting, making look stupid."
/r/MensRights19/11/14 02:01 PM
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I'm not promoting International Men's Day while it has shit like this on the front page of its website: The ability to sacrifice your needs on behalf of others is fundamental to manhood, as is honour. Manhood rites of passage the world over recognise the importance of sacrifice in the development of Manhood.
/r/MensRights19/11/14 02:00 PM
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Thank you for being one of the handful of other people who actually saw that this lady has a message that's positive for men. Women competing neck and neck with men in the workplace, but expecting to marry a man who's more successful than they are, is a recipe for widespread misery. Locking women back up in the home and the pink ghetto of low-paid secretary jobs is not the answer, so hypergamy expectations is where to look to fix the problem.
/r/MensRights19/11/14 01:50 PM
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Yes, and sometimes stay-at-home moms find they're not fulfilled and want to go back to work. And sometimes dads burn out at work and want to spend more time with their kids. This shit happens, but the more we abandon the preconception of hypergamy, the more flexibility everyone will have to adopt strategies that work best for their particular family/relationship.
/r/MensRights19/11/14 01:46 PM
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Yes, men who prioritize marriage have been motivated to find high-paying work to pay the bills, but I'm talking about men who are career focused. They have the liberty of living in a social system that legitimizes the family-focused woman - therefore freeing them to seek out a partner who will support their career goals by doing the majority of home and family work, without negative judgement from the community. Likewise, women have been free to seek out a career-focused partner who will facilit…
/r/MensRights19/11/14 01:43 PM
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Please point out to me the language you think is blaming "male brainwashing." I don't see it.
/r/MensRights19/11/14 12:49 AM
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The title is annoying, but this is smart advice for people interested in a more egalitarian world. What she's basically saying is straight out of this sub: "Hypergamy bad." Career-minded men have long sought wives who are interested in full-time parenting. Why shouldn't career-minded women do the same?
/r/MensRights18/11/14 11:56 PM
13

Lighten up, everyone calls people within their movements who disagree with them "fake Xs." He isn't a REAL Christian. Republicans have their RINOs, Democrats have their Limousine Liberals.
/r/MensRights18/11/14 07:17 PM
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Just the fact that "feminism" was on the list says that the winds are changing. The bummer is, most feminists probably read that and assume the sentiment expressed is some dinosauric traditionalist "enough of equality, let's get 'em back in the kitchen" instead of "it's time we pan out and include the other half of the human race in the equality movement."
/r/MensRights18/11/14 07:13 PM
1

Exactly! There's nothing wrong with creating a viral video to foster discussion and awareness of a topic you want to spotlight. But presenting it as a "social experiment" vaguely implies that it's some kind of scientific endeavor, and people have certainly put a lot more stock in this thing than it merits. Any talk of examining the full footage sounds like peer review, which is in itself giving this thing credit as worthy of such. It's not. You don't peer review commercials, you accept them as p…
/r/MensRights18/11/14 07:04 PM
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It was not a scientific experiment, it was a viral video produced by a commercial firm. They aren't obligated to show their work.
/r/MensRights18/11/14 12:49 PM
1

That depends on the state you're in. It's a felony charge, so... http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Felony_disenfranchisement#Classifications
/r/MensRights17/11/14 12:27 PM
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Acc. to a metastudy I can't relocate right now, it might be that high for men who have serious doubts about the paternity of a child. But for fathers who are very confident about the paternity of a child the rate is very low, under 1%. It's an important distinction, if you throw the 30% rate around like it's representative of the population as a whole, it's very misleading. It would be like saying 30% of everyone has Lyme disease because 30% of people who are tested for it test positive. People …
/r/MensRights16/11/14 04:38 PM
1

Her trying to externalize the blame is not the same thing as the police buying into her bullshit. The title of the post is just plain incorrect. She's being prosecuted.
/r/MensRights15/11/14 10:43 AM
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This is stupid. The song contains the line: "Cuz I'm a nightmare dressed like a daydream." She's telling a story from the point of view of a dysfunctional person, and it's very unambiguous that that's what she's doing. "I'm a nightmare" is pretty goddamned unambiguous that the "narrator" isn't someone to be emulated. Condemning this is just as pitiful as when people shit on the Stones for "Under My Thumb." Telling a story about someone fucked up through their own voice/words isn't the same thing…
/r/MensRights14/11/14 06:02 PM
2

Um, they slapped her with four charges. That doesn't sound like the police saying it's all someone else's fault. If he did ask her for such pictures, he should be charged also, that's solicitation of a crime.
/r/MensRights14/11/14 05:54 PM
1

People use personal assistants in different ways. Some are called on to carry a key to the employer's house, handle their (literal) dirty laundry, and other personal matters.
/r/MensRights11/11/14 07:15 PM
1

I didn't realize we weren't allowed out of our ghetto.
/r/MensRights11/11/14 07:08 PM
3

https://help.cbp.gov/app/answers/detail/a_id/268/~/children---child-traveling-with-one-parent-or-someone-who-is-not-a-parent-or
/r/MensRights11/11/14 02:18 PM
3

Important question: do you think she punched you as hard as she could? Is it possible she meant to do something playful but miscalculated? Intent matters. If she intended to hurt or injure you, it's serious business. If she simply escalated your office's everyday irreverence a step too far, you can resolve it with a mature discussion.
/r/MensRights11/11/14 02:16 PM
1

Infant genital mutilation. Harassed constantly in high school to play football because I was a 6' sophomore with broad shoulders and strong legs. The coach didn't even know my name, he'd just see me around and wanted me on the field. He'd walk into a class I was in to deliver something to the teacher, make a detour to my desk, stand behind me and grab my shoulders, saying "Look at these, we need to get some pads on these... when are you coming out to play for the school? We need all our big boys…
/r/MensRights10/11/14 02:52 PM
1

Who cares? It's like asking if the Model T gets good gas mileage. These religions are already outdated on so many fronts, just bin them already and stop obsessing over the details.
/r/MensRights10/11/14 11:58 AM
2

If someone admits committing a crime to you, report it. Fucking duh.
/r/MensRights08/11/14 02:04 AM
1

Uh... how is this MR? If being female isn't a requirement and you want more male presence in the pool... sign up?
/r/MensRights08/11/14 02:00 AM
0

Not only would I not use a male midwife, I would strongly prefer a midwife who had given birth herself. A big part of the job is coaching and encouragement. If you're climbing a mountain, who do you want telling you "you can do this!"? Someone who's climbed a mountain before, or someone who's studied mountainclimbing but never done it?
/r/MensRights04/11/14 02:25 PM
2

Because the whole world is the men's section, shitlord!
/r/MensRights04/11/14 09:45 AM
1

If we see women as nurturers and protectors of children, when a woman harms her own child for cold profit, that's deeply offensive to our ingrained values and assumptions. Yeah, if she just goes crazy she can expect a bit more sympathy and leniency than if her husband flipped his lid and hurt the kids. But this is exactly the kind of situation I would expect the pussy pass to go right out the window, which it did.
/r/MensRights30/10/14 09:17 PM
1

Breaking News: Looking at people in public is not rape. Pass it on.
/r/MensRights29/10/14 02:24 AM
6

That's body shaming, which is also misogyny :P
/r/MensRights28/10/14 01:45 PM
2

Most of the advice seems pretty on-point. The tone is a little obnoxious, is all.
/r/MensRights21/10/14 11:36 PM
3

You wear lipstick to look attractive. OK, what makes discolored lips attractive? To whom, and why? Once upon a time, women put belladonna (Italian: "beautiful lady") extract in their eyes to dilate their pupils. They didn't think "I'm going to dilate my pupils because people's pupils dilate when they're sexually aroused, and I want everybody to think I'm drenching my petticoats at the sight of them." They just wanted to look attractive, and somebody somewhere noticed that men found women with la…
/r/MensRights21/10/14 02:39 PM
2

Summary: Somehow women are pressured to wear sexy costumes because other women choose to. The evidence given for this is the prevalence of sexy costumes. It can't be possible that sexy costumes are prevalent simply because a lot of women like them, it has to be the result of some external force. Those women who choose sexy costumes do so because they desire male attention, which is bad because that's what immature teenage girls do. (Note: there are apparently two classes of women - those who wan…
/r/MensRights21/10/14 02:19 PM
5

If there were a true egalitarian movement that had enough traction to be a viable force for change, I wouldn't bother with a men's rights movement. I hope that the MRM can be a stepping stone to such a movement, and that that movement would push feminism and the MRM to the outer fringes. Because men and women should be on the same team, engaging in productive communication to forge compromises that will create the most benefit for all. But if that's not possible and we're stuck with two opposing…
/r/MensRights20/10/14 09:28 PM
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The whole question is meaningless by itself. There are a lot of things that could taint people's perceptions, and bias the way they answer. Men might be on guard against seeming sexist. People in general might lean toward saying they prefer a male boss because the higher your direct boss is, the higher you are... and when we picture some hypothetical top boss, we might have a tendency to picture them as being male. Just more garbage survey science.
/r/MensRights20/10/14 09:18 PM
2

I would have supported certain aspects of it, like women's suffrage, the Women's Property Act, and criminalizing spousal rape. But, at least in the US, what we call "1st wave feminism" was also connected to things I would not have supported, such as the Volstead Act. So, yes... mostly.
/r/MensRights16/10/14 06:33 PM
2

Don't forget the international Communist conspiracy to sap and impurify all of our precious bodily fluids.
/r/MensRights16/10/14 01:44 PM
2

I think it's fairly well established that people who grow up in homes with abusive relationships, or who enter into abusive relationships early in life, can be imprinted with an unhealthy concept of what "normal" is, and find themselves repeating the cycle again and again even though they don't "like" abuse. This is true for men and women alike. Also, the classic manipulative controlling abuser isn't always mean. In fact, they might be super sweet and affectionate most of the time, deploying ver…
/r/MensRights16/10/14 01:37 PM
2

I would say it's a progressive equality movement, but a one-sided progressive equality movement. And as one might expect from a one-sided movement, it has unconsciously retained the traditionalist memes that are convenient to the side it takes.
/r/MensRights15/10/14 01:44 PM
3

It's not just the literature, it's there in the activism. Just one example is the campus sexual assault push going on right now. Activists are pushing for rules that criminalize drunken sex, but only for the penis-haver. The inescapable implications are that women are inherently sexually and emotionally fragile, that men think sex a good under any circumstances, and that in the murky area of consent under the influence, the sensible course is to treat the woman as a child and transfer her half o…
/r/MensRights15/10/14 01:38 PM
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I came to MR from a left/liberal background and still consider myself a liberal, although many liberal circles would cackle me out of the room if I outed myself as an MRA. Personally I think the MRM at its best is a liberal/progressive movement, albeit one which questions some of the assumptions that are widely held as gospel among liberal/progressive circles. At its worst... yes, there are people with traditionalist views who frequent MRM spaces. Interestingly, an accusation you'll hear from MR…
/r/MensRights14/10/14 08:03 PM
2

If your parents were deceived by false facts and the suppression of alternative views, as mine were, there's really no reason to blame them. I'm staunchly against infant circumcision. I'm very, very grateful that I had access to a wealth of information to make an informed decision about my son, and also grateful that my intelligent, thoughtful wife joined me in that research and came to the same conclusion without us having to battle it out. But I don't hold it against my parents that they were …
/r/MensRights13/10/14 12:57 PM
1

I see RoK articles linked to here from time to time. I don't click through anymore, if I see that URL. I believe it to be an intellectually dishonest swamp of clickbait. If I'm wrong and the content is in earnest, it's the product of a very immature mind. Most of the articles contain some grain of real insight, but the author/s invariably ruin it with unnecessarily hostile language, paranoia-mongering, and puerile sexist generalizations.
/r/MensRights12/10/14 02:06 PM
2

most murdered men are killed by their spouse Citation needed. Bigtime.
/r/MensRights11/10/14 12:46 AM
45

Please use the correct term: "statutory rape." Very different crimes. Conflating all sex offenses with rape is not something we should be copying from feminist circles.
/r/MensRights02/10/14 07:27 PM
6

Yes, because bringing back relationship terminology from before the industrial revolution will totally help dispel the misconception that we're a bunch of reactionary neanderthals.
/r/MensRights02/10/14 10:43 AM
1

Staring is impolite and can feel threatening. Glancing is not staring. These are glances.
/r/MensRights30/09/14 07:26 PM
7

Prostitutes aren't preferred victims because they dress provocatively, they're targeted because they are out on the streets late at night, they'll voluntarily get in the perp's car, and because of community/police apathy about them. Other than prostitutes, you know who gets attacked by ambush rapists most often? Joggers. It's not the outfit, it's opportunity.
/r/MensRights30/09/14 11:24 AM
1

Paglia is a sensible person, but also a sharp writer. This is the best, simplest description of the situation I've read yet: Despite hysterical propaganda about our “rape culture,” the majority of campus incidents being carelessly described as sexual assault are not felonious rape (involving force or drugs) but oafish hookup melodramas, arising from mixed signals and imprudence on both sides.
/r/MensRights30/09/14 11:19 AM
0

He's an ambitious but untalented YouTube attention seeker. Laci Green, being of the same ilk, doesn't understand that "exposing" him just plays into his hand. Don't look at them and they'll go away.
/r/MensRights30/09/14 11:16 AM
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Feminists aren't to blame for circumcision, but the issue highlights the entrenched feminist disdain for men's issues perfectly. When American feminists actively campaign to end female circumcision in remote countries, but can't be bothered about the mutilation of infants in their own backyard - because those infants happen to be male - that puts the lie to their "equality for everybody" rhetoric.
/r/MensRights30/09/14 11:08 AM
2

Women's Studies professor teaching it. Should be a knockout. http://www.keene.edu/sitemedia.catalog/pdf/faculty_staff.pdf
/r/MensRights25/09/14 07:26 PM
2

This doesn't have the ring of truth, but if you really think it's happening, go to a party, get a beer, and take it the police to have it analyzed.
/r/MensRights25/09/14 05:31 PM
3

Holy shit, someone had to adjust their personality to get along in the workplace. Better call the cops.
/r/MensRights25/09/14 05:17 PM
5

Right. They have good intentions but the framework of definitions they're building is reaching into the absurd, if you apply it equally to both sexes. If I promise to clean up the garage but instead I bingewatch Lost all day, and my wife is still mad at me when we go to bed and says no sex until I do what I promised, then she's controlling me through withholding sex. So I'm the victim, right? But if I complain too much about it, then I'm pressuring her for sex, which is supposedly sexual assault…
/r/MensRights25/09/14 02:01 PM
25

These crazy fucks are so far gone down the rabbit hole of man = perp / woman = victim, that they don't even realize when they're starting to pathologize traditional female relationship tools as abuse.
/r/MensRights25/09/14 11:55 AM
7

Contrary to public perception, research shows that the most likely physical abuser of a young child will be that child’s mother, not a male in the household, although the mother’s plight often is complicated by a cohabiting male. There you have it. Even when writing about people who are hurting little kids, if they are female we can't help but to frame them as victims, especially if there's a man nearby to pin some of the blame on.
/r/MensRights24/09/14 09:35 PM
2

Google's algorithm isn't sexist. If no content matches your search string, or nobody uses your search string but a similar search string is quite popular, then Google thinks you made a typo and throws you its best guess.
/r/MensRights24/09/14 12:10 PM
57

Step 1: Find out how to add names to list. Step 2: Add names of a few high-level university administrators. Step 3: Popcorn.
/r/MensRights23/09/14 01:42 PM
1

Hopefully there will be more work on this. It might be more helpful if we started talking about it as a problem of "different learners" instead of boys vs. girls. For one thing, there are certainly girls who have some of these same problems (my wife was one when she was a girl, actually). And secondly, if it's framed as a boys' issue then it will be met with the predictable resistance from you-know-who.
/r/MensRights20/09/14 07:54 PM
3

I can't think of any male-specific issue that feminists have done anything meaningful about, but to some extent, what's good for the goose is good for the gander. Feminists broached the topic of pigeonholing people into this or that role because of their sex. Men are freer from confining societal norms because of feminism. Unfortunately there are respects in which it's still more acceptable to gender police men than women, and that's down to feminist neglect of men's issues. But despite that neg…
/r/MensRights17/09/14 06:45 PM
2

After a period of time, request some before and after sign-in info. Find out if the female students are actually taking advantage of these hours. My bet is that the vast majority of female students don't give a rat's ass about sharing their workout space with men, and will be no more likely to use these hours than they did before. The easiest case to make to remove the privilege is to demonstrate that it's not being used.
/r/MensRights17/09/14 10:42 AM
3

Exactly. Underage possession of alcohol? Check, they were 20 years old. Failure to ID? Check, she was 18 and they were charging money at the door for alcohol. In my state they would have gotten booked just for that.
/r/MensRights11/09/14 08:35 PM
9

Because volunteers get to set policy, right? You're an asshat.
/r/MensRights06/09/14 11:33 AM
5

For the same reason that the police don't want to pursue a lot of actual rapes. Because in many instances they can look at the scant evidence and make a confident assessment that it won't go anywhere in court. Everything about rape is murky and difficult to deal with in the courtroom. This is why police chiefs keep cautioning citizens to protect themselves proactively, even though they come under fire for it... because they know that it is a crime they cannot adequately protect people from becau…
/r/MensRights06/09/14 11:29 AM
1

I was being a little tongue-in-cheek. Actually we have a lot of evidence that some Norse women trained with the shield and sword, but no evidence that they took part in raiding. There are numerous written accounts by the people who got raided and if there were women among the raiders it certainly would have been noteworthy. It seems more likely that high-born women were encouraged to have some skill at arms to protect their homesteads (and maintain their domination over household slaves) when th…
/r/MensRights05/09/14 06:30 PM
1

You and I have different definitions of sane, I guess.
/r/MensRights05/09/14 10:37 AM
17

If you think like a PC robot stupefied by ideology, then yes, all services must be provided equally for everybody no matter what. If you prefer to inhabit the real world, then you understand that businesses can't be expected to build and staff for what would probably amount to about 1 customer per decade.
/r/MensRights04/09/14 08:47 PM
31

Googled her, and turns out she's a women's studies teacher. That makes it sound less like a simple misunderstanding ending in her feeling insulted, and more like she found out there was a business that only serves men and decided to fire up the Shitstorminator 5000. Her rejection prompted about a dozen women to call the shop for appointments in protest. This was a missed opportunity. They should have told these ladies they'd changed their policy and would happily give them haircuts. And watch no…
/r/MensRights04/09/14 07:27 PM
13

That's a situation where it should be legit to discriminate. Sales clerks have to be able to go into the dressing room with the customer and help her with the fit.
/r/MensRights04/09/14 06:58 PM
-2

Kind of puts the lie to the claim that women in combat alongside men will diminish fighting morale. The Vikings were anything but dispirited :)
/r/MensRights03/09/14 01:22 PM
1

No, I'm saying that OneBigCosmicHorror is OneBigCosmicDouchebag for taking the default position that all rape accusations are lies. And I hope s/he isn't a sincere MRA because that would be one more MRA basically fulfilling the worst negative stereotypes of the MRM.
/r/MensRights02/09/14 08:01 PM
0

God I hope you're a false flagger.
/r/MensRights02/09/14 06:30 PM
1

According to her story, she didn't just get drunk, she was unconscious. That's not regret sex, that's rape.
/r/MensRights02/09/14 04:14 PM
6

If you're going to have a long-term cohabiting relationship where you're sharing resources, you need an agreed-upon arrangement for what happens if one or both parties want to end it. I think there should be a variety of options available that are equally recognized and enforced by the state.
/r/MensRights14/08/14 09:13 PM
2

As is just so happens, my mother is a woman! That makes me a woman's child! So I can get in on this right?
/r/MensRights09/08/14 12:27 PM
2

And here I just thought it was a shameful waste of booze.
/r/MensRights09/08/14 12:19 PM
-6

I just want to point something out. I have a toddler boy. I spend a lot of time with other toddlers at playdates etc. Boys and girls sit differently from the minute they learn how to sit in chairs. Social patterning reinforces these behaviors, but they're there from the beginning. And yes, not all boys sit wide and not all girls sit prim, but the boys who sit prim always sit prim and the girls who sit wide always sit wide. Taking up space and appearing large is a natural masculine display. Don't…
/r/MensRights08/08/14 11:19 AM
1

Tell her to watch a few episodes of Hoarders.
/r/MensRights07/08/14 11:08 AM
1

You can't give men "a say" without denying women bodily autonomy. Abortion is a men's rights issue in that access to birth control of various forms benefits men and women because family planning.
/r/MensRights07/08/14 11:03 AM
1

Criminalizing it would lead to a huge black market and make everything worse for everyone. Because social conservatives will see the logic of legalizing something they think is wrong but people are going to do anyway, rather than persist in a pointless, endless and costly, oh let's say war on drugs? If you want to continue to fuel the "war against women" victimhood fire, go ahead, but I wish people wouldn't. I hate that "war on women" bullshit. It's a religiously motivated culture war, a war on …
/r/MensRights07/08/14 10:48 AM
1

Are you being serious? Create a system where the survival of the nation is occasionally predicated on felony conviction rates? Yeah.... I'll just take the draft, thanks.
/r/MensRights07/08/14 10:30 AM
-2

Not me. A recent history of pointless and politically motivated wars may have disillusioned us, but the fact remains that if there is a real existential crisis to our civilization, we must retain the ability to press people into service for the greater good. Think WWII, people. It's an ugly and unfortunate fact that tyrannical regimes will triumph if peace- and freedom-loving societies refuse to become tyrannical when tyrants loom. It sucks, but it's the truth. Women should be drafted in equal n…
/r/MensRights07/08/14 01:10 AM
2

The Supreme Court has done some pretty whacked out shit lately, in the partisan conservative direction. If they can declare corporations to have citizenship rights, then they can declare embryos to.
/r/MensRights06/08/14 11:23 AM
1

He's traveling in the middle seat with a baby - that's on him. Pay the extra money for a bulkhead seat, and schedule in advance so you can pick aisle.
/r/MensRights06/08/14 11:20 AM
1

Misleading title.
/r/MensRights03/08/14 11:06 AM
1

If there was a switch in body types among the sexes where women were then bigger/stronger it would only make sense they would become the protectors It's not that simple. This stuff is hardwired into our brains and has a lot more to do with the fact that the female is the chokepoint in the reproductive capacity of the social unit. If women were bigger and stronger, it would change things, but human instinct would still have evolved to protect them at the expense of male lives, if necessary. But t…
/r/MensRights02/08/14 12:28 AM
2

Mirroring the paranoia of patriarchy theory isn't the answer, man.
/r/MensRights01/08/14 01:24 AM
2

Remember, they have to have the same trust in you.
/r/MensRights30/07/14 11:42 AM
2

I'm happily married to an awesome woman who understands what real equality means. They exist.
/r/MensRights30/07/14 02:18 AM
2

There's nothing wrong with any sexual behavior between consenting, informed adults.
/r/MensRights27/07/14 10:13 PM
8

I don't know if it's the biggest problem, but the most actionable is probably circumcision. Fixing it is as simple as passing a single law. Hell, you don't even need a new law - you just have to remove gender from an existing law. And if there's any time when a male can evoke public sympathy it's when he's still a babe in arms.
/r/MensRights18/07/14 04:47 PM
7

Yes, exactly. This eye for an eye shit has got to go. If the system treats men as guilty until proven innocent for sex crimes, applying the same shitty standards to women doesn't help men.
/r/MensRights17/07/14 02:15 PM
71

If you're expecting your opinions to be held at arm's length because you're not a man, I hope you're pleasantly disappointed :)
/r/MensRights17/07/14 02:06 PM
1

Yep.
/r/MensRights16/07/14 08:48 PM
1

If you request a second be present, will they arrange for it? If so, there is no problem.
/r/MensRights13/07/14 01:24 PM
2

Being suicidal and murderously angry is a result of being the scum of a particular scene for a long, long time. There has to be more to it than that. I can swap high school horror stories with the best of them, but my moral center was untouched. I can understand someone being pushed to the point of lashing out at a bully, but these spree killers usually don't target the specific people who have hurt them, they go after "types." That has got to be a symptom of a disorder that goes deeper than jus…
/r/MensRights11/07/14 11:00 AM
13

"Because circumcision is essentially universal among Jews, this can shut down a community" TIL Jewish people will just walk away from each other and stop associating as a community if they have to wait until the age of consent to cut their foreskins off.
/r/MensRights09/07/14 06:49 PM
2

Rape kit showed extensive tearing, couldn't have been consensual.
/r/MensRights09/07/14 03:19 PM
163

What. The. Fuck.
/r/MensRights09/07/14 03:14 PM
2

Take any Lego character. Snap long hair piece on head. It is now a girl. Now tell your mom to stop dictating letters to you and let you play with your Lego.
/r/MensRights09/07/14 12:21 PM
4

Worked on a landscaping crew. There are women who like the sight of young fit guys working hard, sweaty and shirtless. Some of them will whistle or catcall. You'd expect it would be immature young teenagers, but it seemed more often to be mature women. More confident. Nobody minded that much, or if they did they didn't mention it. Some of the guys would yell back at them, but playfully, not in an offended way. This wasn't in public, but one lady set up a masturbation station in her living room w…
/r/MensRights08/07/14 08:10 PM
10

This is a point beyond gender politics etc. I don't understand what the fuck people are thinking when they say things like "rape is not in human nature." Whatever we define human nature as, first and foremost it has to encircle the behaviors that people actually do. You might not like it when your dog licks its balls in front of you, but it wouldn't occur to anyone to declare that behavior an unnatural abomination. Likewise, it's unproductive to declare human behaviors that disgust us "unnatural…
/r/MensRights06/07/14 10:27 AM
15

Yeah... when an article doesn't even mention the counterpoints brought up in a recent well-known bestselling book on the subject... hit piece.
/r/MensRights05/07/14 10:56 AM
4

I can't remember which book, but I saw it posited that the methods men use help conceal both real and attempted suicides. The most important one was intentional car wrecks. Sometimes with alcohol, sometimes sober. There was enough evidence (self-reporting from failed attampts, and most importantly studies that asked people, "if you were going to commit suicide how would you do it?") to suggest there could be a much larger number of suicides-by-car that went unnoticed as such, and that they would…
/r/MensRights05/07/14 10:52 AM
15

Somebody is pushing for this research as ammunition to fight fathers' access to testing. Seriously, why else would you even conduct a study on whether or not it's beneficial for people to know something that is true? EDIT: I just realized how very toxic this is to men. By framing the issue they way they have, they're making the damage and disruption in the family the result of the man seeking the information, not the woman getting someone else's baby in her in the first place.
/r/MensRights04/07/14 10:21 AM
-2

Yup. The best defense against bigotry is oneself is vigilance, not denial.
/r/MensRights03/07/14 11:00 AM
2

It might have been a barb aimed at Elam. I would say he deserves it. AVFM puts out some good material, but Elam in particular goes off his meds or something every 20th article and writes something indefensible (the jury sabotage article springs to mind). Loose cannon on deck.
/r/MensRights03/07/14 10:50 AM
2

Upvote for The Blank Slate. It's about much more than men's rights, it's about a paradigm struggle that is central to our cultural story at the moment.
/r/MensRights03/07/14 01:01 AM
5

I would wave my wand and give everyone the ability to change sexes at will. If everyone could live as the opposite sex for a day, a week, a year, we'd ALL learn some shit. Discrimination would evaporate because anyone could be a lady today and a gent tomorrow. Men would finally know how bad period cramps really are. Women would finally know how bad getting kicked in the balls really is. My wife could have a baby and then we could swap sexes and I could carry the next one, if that's what we wante…
/r/MensRights02/07/14 09:16 PM
1

It's still relevant. All it takes is a nice, big war. In the last 100 years the United States has used the draft four times. That's almost once per generation, averaged. Yeah, we haven't had ourselves a nice, big war in a while... and that shouldn't comfort you, that should scare the shit out of you.
/r/MensRights02/07/14 08:47 PM
0

Misleading title. This is a boy being subjected to crazy parenting by a feminist couple. Also there is no evidence that they wouldn't have fucked up a girl in the same type of experiment.
/r/MensRights02/07/14 08:33 PM
2

Nobody's taking your fucking money, dipshit. Unless you're a member of Hobby Lobby's owning family?
/r/MensRights02/07/14 01:00 AM
3

Tradcons can't make BC illegal, so they're chipping away at access whatever way they can. I can't see how saving a few bucks per plan is worth the legal battles and bad PR, it's got to be ideologically motivated, not just cost-cutting.
/r/MensRights01/07/14 03:58 PM
0

It's not a war on women, but it is most definitely part of the culture war that tradcons have been waging for years, and women's bodies are a popular front for that war. Make no mistake, Hobby Lobby isn't doing this to save a few bucks. What little money they might save isn't worth fighting a Supreme Court case with an army of lawyers. The owning family is opposing birth control and the sexual freedom that comes with it, period. If condoms were covered on health insurance policies, they'd be try…
/r/MensRights01/07/14 02:19 PM
2

Fox News "debates" are like forensics club meets foxy boxing.
/r/MensRights01/07/14 10:46 AM
3

Probably money concerns are an obstacle, but I'd gladly donate deep for my local facility to have such a setup.
/r/MensRights30/06/14 05:59 PM
8

Thanks for the clarification. Yeah, I don't like what these goons do to emotionally vulnerable people, but the price of freedom is freedom for all. I wonder if you could re-engineer the building so that patients drive into an enclosed parking lot and enter the building from inside it? At least that way they would only see the signs and hear the chants from within the psychological bubble of a closed vehicle.
/r/MensRights30/06/14 11:14 AM
11

The idea behind it is to show young girls that the things they love, from apps on their smartphones to their favorite movies are made with code, and they can apply the skills they learn to their own individual passions. I'm looking forward to the Made With Raw Materials That Have To Be Dug Out Of The Ground program where we try to get more girls interested in mining. Oh wait... that shit is dangerous.
/r/MensRights27/06/14 05:10 PM
6

According to new UK government statistics, women claimed 51.2% of jobs in the ‘Music, Performing and Visual Arts’ industry in 2013. Wow, that's a pretty underwhelming disparity.
/r/MensRights27/06/14 05:01 PM
8

fyi satire
/r/MensRights27/06/14 04:57 PM
3

This is one thing I do insist on - fundamentalist religious groups (at least among the three big monotheistic faiths, I'm not well informed about the nuances of eastern faiths and less prominent faiths like zoroastrianism) are indeed patriarchal in nature, and the degree of their fundamentalism and the degree to which they control society and people's actions correlates to how patriarchal a culture is, generally. To deny the existence of strong patriarchal societies in some cultures, and in cert…
/r/MensRights27/06/14 02:12 PM
6

I remember really enjoying it, but at the time (early 90s, me about 20 or 21) all I got from it was a nightmarish cautionary tale about allowing religious fanatics to run shit. I'm curious how I'd read it now.
/r/MensRights27/06/14 10:46 AM
2

A fedora would cover up the beautiful swastika tattoos crowning my glorious shaved head. Do I really have to? Oh, I guess I do. OK. Here it is: /s
/r/MensRights26/06/14 06:11 PM
1

Yes. The rules on college campuses have been changed in many cases, but the law in most places still says you're responsible for what you do while drunk, as long as you're operating under your own power. Once you pass out, anything sexual anyone does to you is a crime.
/r/MensRights20/06/14 10:06 AM
1

the fuck was that
/r/MensRights19/06/14 07:06 PM
6

We don't want to send cops after every d-bag that makes a hateful comment, but remember people: when you're on the internet and you see a credible threat, report it. You could save lives. So glad the police caught up with this guy before he ignited.
/r/MensRights19/06/14 07:01 PM
3

The first and second rules of Baby Club.
/r/MensRights19/06/14 02:26 PM
6

A publication that would produce this editorial is not friendly to our cause in the first place, so I don't think it's that paranoid. Also bear in mind that curating comments sections is low level intern shit for recent grads.
/r/MensRights19/06/14 11:04 AM
3

I can't wait for my son to wake up so I can hug him.
/r/MensRights19/06/14 10:53 AM
15

TIL when men drink beer they need a handler to prevent them from raping people.
/r/MensRights19/06/14 10:50 AM
10

TIL only women employ apologies as social softeners.
/r/MensRights19/06/14 10:42 AM
2

Do you use a razorblade or ginzu knife when you split these hairs?
/r/MensRights18/06/14 04:58 PM
2

What strikes me is the mixture of superiority and inferiority, both of them cranked to 11. That's a dangerous combination.
/r/MensRights18/06/14 04:19 PM
8

I disagree completely. Her dad isn't a deep thinker, but he's heroic in the first minutes of the film, risking his life (and losing a limb) to save his community from the killer bear. It is her father that Merida is trying to emulate. In the course of the story she learns to respect her mother's courage, but she respected her father's courage from the beginning. Both the mother and father try to uphold tradition and make Merida act like a "proper princess" but her mother is the one who's the har…
/r/MensRights18/06/14 04:02 PM
1

I suspect this is actually true of young babies, but you have to pay attention to the degree of change and weigh it against other factors (like successfully forming a bond between baby and father). Formula fed babies have slightly lower average IQs than breastfed babies, but we're not banning formula. Well, they did in the UAE but that's a terrible law.
/r/MensRights17/06/14 04:50 PM
1

A degree from this program is going to look about as good on your resume as a geology degree from Liberty.
/r/MensRights16/06/14 11:24 AM
10

More premature reporting on a tiny little scrap of science. All this proves is men's physiological responses were stronger. It could mean that they had a stronger overall emotional response, or it could mean that men experience emotion more physically.
/r/MensRights13/06/14 11:51 AM
2

Does it occur to anyone that if kissing without obtaining consent is sexual assault, than every parent on earth constantly sexually assaults their children?
/r/MensRights13/06/14 09:52 AM
3

Don't phrase your requests in terms of you. Don't say "I need to see my girlfriend/child." Say "I need to be there for her." Make it about the patient and her well-being. That's all I got.
/r/MensRights13/06/14 09:30 AM
1

Why are you posting link after link to the same story on different outlets?
/r/MensRights13/06/14 09:27 AM
1

Common Law refers to a body of unwritten traditions from English history, many of which were encoded into English and US law. Common Law itself holds no weight in either country any more, although there are encoded laws based in Common Law tradition. In the US, in states that adopted laws recognizing this kind of marriage, the term "common law marriage" became the term used to describe such marriages.
/r/MensRights12/06/14 08:31 PM
1

You can leave race out of it, it's irrelevant to this.
/r/MensRights12/06/14 08:17 PM
1

Guilt presents for life.
/r/MensRights12/06/14 08:11 PM
1

That's really cool. I think a huge part of why the practice keeps rolling along is that people can't face the pain of admitting to themselves they made a big mistake that hurt their child.
/r/MensRights12/06/14 08:10 PM
2

There is little that my wife and I are more thankful for, than that we happened across the facts about circumcision when we did, before we had our son. Every time I change his diaper I look at him and I feel thankful for the timing of it. I know a couple who came across anti-circ information, and became staunchly anti-circumcision, between the births of their two sons. So the older one is cut and the younger one intact. I think that's the worst, because every time they see the younger one's peni…
/r/MensRights12/06/14 08:07 PM
1

I'm not 100% about this but recalling stories from my officer friend, there is no protocol about who to talk to first, and if there's one person acting nuts and another acting calm, you talk to nuts first because you want to get them to chill out.
/r/MensRights12/06/14 07:48 PM
1

No disintegrations.
/r/MensRights12/06/14 07:45 PM
3

Don't take jokes too seriously. Comedy writers will take anything that has the slightest bit of comedy potential and riff on it. Personally, I think "we're pregnant" is a little smarmy. There are better ways to show your dedication to the cause, like massages, fixing up the house, getting up to make her a sandwich at 3am, and daily cunnilingus.
/r/MensRights12/06/14 07:28 PM
7

Can't wait for the videos to start popping up. And the next Big Red is....
/r/MensRights12/06/14 06:48 PM
1

Holy shit people, this is a comedy bit. I'm pretty sure referencing a baby as "your little love goblin growing inside of us" is a solid tip-off that's it's in jest.
/r/MensRights12/06/14 06:46 PM
1

Another study I saw cited in a book called The Male Brain (it has a companion volume for female brains) suggested that another thing dads contribute is taunting and tricking. Dads tend to play more "mean" games where they either tease their kids about things they're insecure about, or trick them by giving false answers to their questions and then laughing at them for falling for it. Teasing your kids helps them develop the "thick skin" they'll need on the playground and later in life. Tricking t…
/r/MensRights12/06/14 01:02 PM
2

Damn. Spent a few years on this sub and I can still be surprised.
/r/MensRights12/06/14 12:52 PM
3

Or, I could hold my cat's face up to my ear, yank on its tail real hard, and save myself a plane ticket while achieving the same effect.
/r/MensRights12/06/14 08:34 AM
0

Who's giving away free legal counsel, where? Never heard of that.
/r/MensRights12/06/14 08:29 AM
2

On my FB, someone posted an anti-circ (male) article. Another person responded to the effect of "yeah, parents need to understand that it's a choice, it's not necessary." She was trying, bless her heart. I responded by saying that it shouldn't be a choice - if it's not necessary, and it's invasive, it should be illegal. Then she accuses me of derailing. Bear in mind, neither the comments nor the article itself had at any point mentioned FGM. Just saying I think MGM should be illegal, is "deraili…
/r/MensRights11/06/14 09:05 PM
1

Let me get this straight. Fathers aren't doing enough, therefore we should not encourage them to do more by praising those who do the most. Yeah, makes sense.
/r/MensRights11/06/14 06:53 PM
1

You're supposed to be into it from beginning to end. Even in the hypothetical (and I suspect rare or nonexistent IRL) scenario where you're forced to have sex and then start enjoying yourself from the stimulation, you're still not consenting at the beginning and you're still not enjoying it for some period. Consenting + not enjoying = normal bad sex. Not consenting + enjoying = sorry still rape.
/r/MensRights06/06/14 06:14 PM
3

It's blaming men! Hallelujah it's blaming men!
/r/MensRights06/06/14 10:57 AM
1

Yes, that.
/r/MensRights06/06/14 10:39 AM
2

Well, actually it is entirely predictable, because it keeps happening over and over again.
/r/MensRights06/06/14 10:10 AM
3

That's true, but a common mistake as we are all adjusting to the realities of social media. Remember, the article itself said nobody at the conference said they were offended. He read the room OK, he just forgot that rooms don't have walls anymore. Once a pic of the slide got on Twitter (probably from an attendee who thought it was funny, not with the intention of red-phoning the Shame Brigade) was when the trouble started.
/r/MensRights06/06/14 10:09 AM
2

Not me, but you're right a lot would. I personally advocate for everybody to lighten the fuck up about jokes. Jokes is jokes, sometimes funny, sometimes lame, always harmless. You know who never told jokes? Hitler.
/r/MensRights06/06/14 10:02 AM
1

I really hope it doesn't come to counter-accusations as a means of defense. Because you know who won't hesitate to use that? Sociopath rapist fucks.
/r/MensRights06/06/14 09:55 AM
2

It sounds high because those stats are using the old feminist trick of making a category called "sexual assault and rape," then handing people a survey with a bunch of really minor shit on it like having your ass grabbed on a dance floor, and guess what, everything gets lumped into "sexual assault and rape." You don't tell the survey respondents that when they check yes to ass-grabbings they're checking yes to a category called "sexual assault and rape," and you don't tell anybody who doesn't as…
/r/MensRights06/06/14 09:47 AM
2

Franki Didntcatchherlastname said that when her organization was forced to add services for men or lose their public funding, not one man has called them for services. Then Poole got in a little comment about how they weren't doing the services right if men didn't want them, because the stats say there are definitely men who need help from domestic violence. This exchange made me curious so I thought I'd check out their website. Bear in mind, they were told to offer equal services to men or they…
/r/MensRights06/06/14 09:38 AM
1

I don't think you get to decide that. In this conversation, he was advocating for men and boys to be treated with equal compassion and demanding resources not be denied them when in need. Sounds like men's rights advocacy to me. Purity tests are shit.
/r/MensRights06/06/14 09:05 AM
2

1) I lament these posts. Generally I only read about 1/4 of the stuff here. I'll only say this in our defense: bear in mind that r/mr is an anonymous internet forum, and a lightly moderated one at that. People sometimes just come here to bitch about women without anything very useful or interesting to say. Read published authors for a real look at the issues. 2) Men were drafted for WWI, WWII, the Korean War, and the Vietnam War. That's four times in a century, or just shy of once per generation…
/r/MensRights05/06/14 06:18 PM
14

Nice closing statement: "That's why I don't slap anybody."
/r/MensRights05/06/14 04:19 PM
1

Who went to prison because of her claims?
/r/MensRights05/06/14 04:09 PM
4

There's nothing wrong with or irrelevant about wanting to advance the well-being and freedoms of women. Feminism has just taken an ideological wrong turn into dogmatism. There's no such thing as a bad idea, it's how we treat ideas that make them a problem. For example, the big bad Patriarchy. The concept of our culture as a patriarchy is a legitimate and useful lens through which to examine society and history. But an intellectually sophisticated person knows that there is never just one lens to…
/r/MensRights05/06/14 08:29 AM
3

Kids get up to all kinds of shit. Adults taking advantage of children's innocence is one thing; children innocently crossing boundaries they're too young to know exist is another thing entirely. Cut yourself some slack.
/r/MensRights05/06/14 01:11 AM
1

This didn't make her quit the show, but a forced kiss did. K.
/r/MensRights04/06/14 02:14 PM
2

Hanna Rosin being Hanna Rosin.
/r/MensRights04/06/14 02:04 PM
0

Man, Weird Al got fat.
/r/MensRights31/05/14 10:07 AM
11

Sounds like people calling a woman a slut is equivalent to people calling a man a fag - a socially aggressive behavior leaning on a prejudice that shouldn't exist in the first place.
/r/MensRights31/05/14 01:19 AM
1

She's not comparing celebrity media to rape, she's saying it can make you feel raped. It's called a metaphor.
/r/MensRights31/05/14 01:10 AM
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The two are inextricable in my opinion. Feminist "hypocrisy" as you put it is rooted in that very sexism - it's nothing more than the failure to see the other side of a coin.
/r/MensRights31/05/14 01:04 AM
2

If you find it so mystifying that a man could be indoctrinated into thinking his own kind is inherently evil and can only find solace and redemption by ritually humbling himself like this, just think about Christianity for a minute.
/r/MensRights30/05/14 11:08 AM
2

It's called a marriage license not a rape license. Yes, marital rape is a real thing and of course it's wrong and must be punished.
/r/MensRights30/05/14 10:59 AM
3

"There's no greater threat to women than men." Nice try, cancer and heart disease.
/r/MensRights29/05/14 10:45 PM
1

That kind of crazy causes itself. Life experiences only shape the form it takes.
/r/MensRights29/05/14 09:14 PM
2

I drank a pot of coffee and stayed up all night reading to him to distract him from his immense pain, on what turned out to be the last night of his life. This guy was three inches taller than me, robust and fit when I met him a few years previous, but now I was carrying him back and forth to the bathroom. When I picked him up most of what I felt was bones, it was awful. In the wee hours he cried with me although his body couldn't produce tears anymore, and I gathered the courage to tell him som…
/r/MensRights29/05/14 02:09 PM
3

This is at the heart of the misunderstanding of the MRM, the assumption that there has to be an oppressor group and an oppressed group. The biggest hurdle for men's issues is replacing this binary with a new paradigm that points out that most sexist assumptions are in fact barbed at both ends. To be assumed weak because you're a woman sucks when you're strong, but you don't hear much complaining about it from women when they actually need a hand. To be assumed strong because you're a man is grea…
/r/MensRights29/05/14 01:48 PM
1

Easy - because we teach our children not to get in strangers' cars...
/r/MensRights29/05/14 11:46 AM
5

Well, that escalated quickly.
/r/MensRights28/05/14 09:15 PM
11

It's not a big deal, but there are practical issues that sometimes arise. I used to work an office job at a company with on-site manufacturing. Everyone in my dept. at some point has to go back in the production area to get a sample of product, or whatever. Open toed shoes are prohibited in the production area - OSHA rules. As the only male in my department, during the summer months it was just about a daily occurrence that I'd have to go fetch something for one of my coworkers. Annoying, althou…
/r/MensRights28/05/14 01:09 PM
2

More stellar scholarship from the Spearhead. Big fat citation needed.
/r/MensRights28/05/14 11:17 AM
1

shouldn't use this expression anyway, it's offensive to the mentally petarded.
/r/MensRights28/05/14 10:48 AM
2

I'm only concerned with the kind of man I want to be, and the kind of man my son will grow up to be. That's it, the two people I have a responsibility for. I'm not interested in developing any one-size-fits-all schema of gender identity.
/r/MensRights27/05/14 11:21 AM
7

Fellow dominatrixes are tying their best to prevent it Best typo ever.
/r/MensRights27/05/14 11:02 AM
8

TIL suicide by self-immolation = "firebombing."
/r/MensRights27/05/14 10:57 AM
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Experts say Ballard's death is only the latest example of how poorly equipped the city's jail system is to handle the mentally ill, who make up about 40% of the 12,000 inmates in the nation's most populous city. A third of those inmates suffer from serious mental illnesses such as schizophrenia and bipolar disorder. That's a big problem right there. On an episode of Morgan Spurlock's show 30 Days, he spends his month in a county jail. One of the inmates there had been institutionalized (schizoph…
/r/MensRights23/05/14 11:20 AM
1

That moment on reddit where you hope you've changed someone's mind, but suspect sarcasm instead.
/r/MensRights22/05/14 01:29 AM
1

Do you have a point regarding what I wrote?
/r/MensRights22/05/14 01:22 AM
2

The idea that there are severity thresholds on unnecessary genital amputations conducted on newborns is repugnant to me. Some things belong in a big ol' bucket marked Just Fucking Wrong, and trying to sift through that bucket for wrong, wronger and wrongest is in poor taste. To me such comparisons sound like "well, if you think THAT was a bad genocide..."
/r/MensRights21/05/14 07:39 PM
4

The non-religious rationalization for MGM is precisely to reduce the temptation to masturbate by making it less pleasurable. All the other crapola about cleanliness etc. is retroactive justification to protect the industry after the moral panic over masturbation was over. Clitorectomies were recommended and performed at the same time, for the same reason... they just didn't catch on. The original religious rationale for MGM is lost in history, but it's parsimonious to suggest it might have had s…
/r/MensRights21/05/14 03:34 PM
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The problem is that this insistence that you can't compare the two is part of a larger cultural strategy to keep male circ out of discussions of female circ because if you admit the two are in any way comparable, then people might start wondering if males might also face systematic gender-based injustices. And as long as people like her keep pushing MGM out of the discussion, a boy gets a partial penile amputation every 30 seconds, with full legal sanction.
/r/MensRights21/05/14 01:27 PM
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Every time I get into this debate, I go ahead and grant that female circumcision is worse. Yeah, there are detailed points about different types, but I just concede that point quickly to move onto what I think is the most important thing: In my country, one is a crime being carried out in secret, punishable by law and is discouraged by extensive public awareness campaigns. The other is legal, carried out by licensed doctors, paid for by health insurance, and despite a thumbs-down from the AMA is…
/r/MensRights21/05/14 01:16 PM
2

Thank you for this. This is the same as "we'll start working on men's issues when women's issues are solved." It's combative victim mentality on steroids, and it's the recipe for an endless and bitter stalemate.
/r/MensRights21/05/14 12:55 PM
1

I'm not deliberately avoiding a fact, your "fact" is an opinion that I don't think is well-supported. Ever since it became passe to mass-crucify people for challenging the status quo, elites have been successfully co-opting movements they couldn't destroy. Marginalize the most radical, raise up the moderates and then watch their messages naturally swing into line as they follow the urge to protect their newfound status. It doesn't require active collaboration or secret machinations - it's as ine…
/r/MensRights21/05/14 12:48 PM
2

The central thesis seems to be that 2nd wave feminism is a plant orchestrated by the ruling elite. You offer no evidence other than that feminism has benefited the elite. Guess what: fucking everything benefits the ruling class. It's a giant game of Hungry Hungry Hippos and the board is on a slant - any movement at all sends more marbles into the same few mouths. Do prove a conspiracy you have to do more than just demonstrate that rich people benefit.
/r/MensRights21/05/14 10:54 AM
2

A feminist, a MRA and a rabbi walk into a bar... I'm not sure what the middle should be, but I'm pretty sure the punchline is "RAAAAAAAAAAAPE!"
/r/MensRights21/05/14 10:45 AM
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First they ignore you, then they accuse you of misogyny, then they tell you to stop mansplaining...
/r/MensRights21/05/14 10:37 AM
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TLDR: When research shows males might be underserved, whooooaaa it's time to stop focusing on gender.
/r/MensRights20/05/14 09:20 PM
1

I've got 99 problems and a stupid internet meme ain't one.
/r/MensRights19/05/14 10:01 AM
1

Dan Savage is often the voice of reason. His replies to these types of questions usually do a great job of balancing sensitivity with common sense.
/r/MensRights18/05/14 12:12 AM
1

Some research has claimed to demonstrate that women are on average more sexually fluid than men (responding with measurable arousal to a wider array of erotic scenarios and images). This suggests an explanation for why when we're fed up for whatever reason with the opposite sex, men go it alone and women go at it together.
/r/MensRights16/05/14 09:58 AM
1

It was a most unpleasant experience, holding my wife's hand in the ER when she was really sick and having the nurse ask her "is there any violence going on at home?" and look me up and down. If it's helping, sure, my comfort isn't as important as DV victims' safety, but if it's not working please let's bin it.
/r/MensRights16/05/14 09:46 AM
3

Nice work. Every victory counts.
/r/MensRights16/05/14 09:35 AM
1

I don't think it's very common anymore for women to stay at home with no kids, but definitely I agree that's a dumb idea in today's world. But I'm for individual liberty, and if two people want to live the 1950s dream, I say go for it, let them forge a marriage contract that requires him to pay alimony if they break up, to protect her. There's nothing wrong with alimony as a mutually agreed-upon term of marriage, we just don't need it as a default setting that you have to sign a special contract…
/r/MensRights16/05/14 06:06 AM
4

I knew who all but two of these women are. Their accomplishments are far from hidden history.
/r/MensRights15/05/14 03:54 PM
2

Exactly. The doublethink is really pervasive when a sentence like this can make it all the way to publication without anyone involved noticing how absurd it is and, at bare minimum, noting that this finding complicates matters.
/r/MensRights15/05/14 02:12 PM
2

Woman in orange says "no mainstream feminist advocates pulling fire alarms." Then woman in black complains that Fiamengo is unfairly characterizing the people who shut down her talks as "radicals." Which is it, ladies?
/r/MensRights15/05/14 11:03 AM
1

“If liberty means anything at all, it means the right to tell people what they do not want to hear.” ― George Orwell
/r/MensRights15/05/14 10:56 AM
3

Just out of curiosity I had a look at the 2007 Campus Sexual Assault Study that the White House is citing for its 1-in-5 claim, and came across this gem: The vast majority of incapacitated sexual a ssault victims reported that the assailant had been drinking and/or using drugs before the incident.
/r/MensRights15/05/14 10:37 AM
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The MRM is about men's issues - r/mensrights is disproportionately concerned with bitching about feminists and feminism. Go look at r/atheism and you'd think all atheists spend their whole day seething with rage at the religious. It's just how anonymous internet forums work.
/r/MensRights15/05/14 10:23 AM
0

This sounds like a bunch of people imagining how people would react if something that's never happened to them happened to them, and then picturing a far worse response than would actually occur. It reminds me of r/TwoX and the inevitable threads there complaining about all the vicious catcalling that mostly never happened.
/r/MensRights15/05/14 10:19 AM
1

It sounds like a bunch of judges basing decisions on a right they assume is fundamental but which isn't constitutionally codified.
/r/MensRights15/05/14 10:08 AM
1

How are they going to enforce this, exactly? It's a court order, so if he has another kid he's guilty of defying a court order and can do a little time.
/r/MensRights15/05/14 10:04 AM
2

I agree with you that marriage is at foundation a legal contract, and I wouldn't necessarily disagree with prenups. The only concern might be that people in love aren't always very sensible, and the "romantic" ideals of either partner could end locking them into a very inequitable agreement that couldn't easily be changed later. A very real concern for both men and women. There would have to be an accompanying cultural shift in which romantic notions of marriage are balanced by a pragmatic view.…
/r/MensRights15/05/14 02:01 AM
1

I don't speak for all MRAs, in fact I'm frequently accused of being a concern troll et. al. for my views, which I assure you are sincere. That said, I think that joint custody should be the default, accusations of abuse that materialize during divorce proceedings should be subject to a higher level of scrutiny (not to trivialize abuse, but the system has got to take into account the obvious motive to falsify in divorce proceedings), and above all, prenups should be mandatory - marriage is a cont…
/r/MensRights14/05/14 11:50 PM
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I don't understand why everyone's so desperate to read something into Beyonce's inaction. There's a huge-ass professional bodyguard right there. Guess what - he's got this. They pay him to handle crazy people. In this case the crazy people was family. Whatever, he fucking handled it. You don't wash the dishes in the sink when you have a dishwasher.
/r/MensRights14/05/14 03:42 PM
1

This article is bad for the MRM.
/r/MensRights14/05/14 12:57 PM
2

Just a little time to live, time to join Reddit with a brand spanking new account. Sounds plausible.
/r/MensRights14/05/14 12:49 PM
2

I can imagine that women are capable of terrible things, but it is hard to imagine that they would not put their children before their petty revenge (and I would find it equally hard to imagine a father who would not put his children before petty revenge). Some people are shitty people to start off with, but divorce can make decent people do shitty things. First off, a lot of divorces come at the tail end of a lot of fights and bitterness and sometimes outright betrayals. It can be easy to justi…
/r/MensRights14/05/14 12:46 PM
4

You weren't talking about feminism, you were DEEEEEERAAAAAAAILING.
/r/MensRights14/05/14 08:12 AM
2

Do MRAs or feminists want to end gender roles entirely...? I don't see how pushing gender neutrality on people is any better than pushing gender roles on them. Let people act like they want to, as long as they're not hurting anybody, and stand up for them when someone else tries to give them a hard time - why can't we let it be that simple?
/r/MensRights13/05/14 07:48 PM
1

Peasant skirts: https://www.google.com/search?q=peasant+skirt&safe=off&client=firefox-a&hs=Bme&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&channel=sb&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ei=i3JyU_GRForTsASciYHgBg&ved=0CAkQ_AUoAg&biw=1181&bih=759
/r/MensRights13/05/14 07:30 PM
1

Help, I make so much money I can't find someone who makes more money than me!
/r/MensRights13/05/14 03:15 PM
2

I agree with you except for the gang colors thing. In practice, innocent kids get caught up in the dragnet and punished. Also, gangs change their colors in response. Around my way one gang went to white. So the school actually tried to ban white t-shirts - but button-downs were OK. So the gang kids started wearing button-downs. It's an endless cycle and the gangs will always be ahead because they only have their stupid gang shit to think about, they don't have a whole school to run. There are be…
/r/MensRights13/05/14 03:09 PM
3

I used to wear a long, loose skirt to parties sometimes in college. I have no compulsion to look or feel feminine, I just thought it would be a good laugh, which it was. Takeaways: so comfortable 1% of assholes will yell shit at you, but the other 99% will just steer clear of you of their own accord. it's like an asshole repelling force field, so that's pretty cool. a girl who will carry on a conversation with you like nothing's different is trying to act cool; a girl who asks about the skirt, a…
/r/MensRights13/05/14 03:00 PM
8

Wow, there's a steaming pile of horse shit in my living room. Better get some more horse shit to pile on top of it, that'll fix it.
/r/MensRights13/05/14 10:20 AM
1

I really like this term, "reproductive abuse" to differentiate these things from rape, which is an act of violence. Expanding the meanings of terms like rape waters them down, and we should never trivialize one of the worst crimes a person can do to another person. A woman taking a condom out of the trash is more akin to a man telling a woman he's put a condom on when he hasn't (although the risk of STD transmission makes the latter worse, and far far worse if he knows he has an STD). Neither sh…
/r/MensRights08/05/14 01:41 PM
2

“For example, if a married man is having an affair and he tried to break it off with the girl, and she became upset and decided to present this fake pregnancy test and demand money, otherwise she would tell the spouse. That would be a level of blackmail,” Overland Park, Kansas, police Officer Gary Mason told CBS affiliate KCTV-TV, Kansas City. Ask for hush money = blackmail. Ask for diamond ring and lifetime commitment = ?
/r/MensRights08/05/14 01:31 PM
3

Downvoting for dishonest work. You didn't just type in "men" to get those results, or these are cherrypicked from further down the results.
/r/MensRights07/05/14 10:48 AM
1

Yes, rough play with daughters too. And learn to anticipate limits based on the individual child, not the sex. Yes, boys are more likely to like it to be pushed a bit farther, and girls are more likely to have more conservative limits for rough play, but statistics are for statisticians, not for parents. If your boy isn't into rough play, don't push him past his limits. And don't baby your girls. Just work up slowly for all kids and pay attention to their responses, stop at their comfort level, …
/r/MensRights07/05/14 01:17 AM
4

Where I went to school at least, the only power the school had over fraternities and sororities was official sanction. There were frats that lost official sanction, which simply reformed as "off-campus" fraternities. Alternate solution: don't feel safe at fraternity parties... don't go? I went to one frat party my whole college experience, and it was too noisy, the music was lame and the place smelled like a bar that used to be a gym locker room that used to be a mortuary. And although I had fri…
/r/MensRights06/05/14 02:08 PM
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The worst thing about this is the boy. It's grainy video and I might be projecting my own stuff on it, but my impression was that he wasn't digging this, but felt like he was supposed to enjoy it or at least find it funny. He's laughing and looking at his friends, but his hands keep going to push her away again and again. I can imagine how I would have reacted at that age. I would NOT have liked what was happening, but I probably would have pretended, even to myself.
/r/MensRights06/05/14 01:48 PM
0

You missed the part where his wife said she wasn't going in to work and he should catch up on sleep, then left without telling him.
/r/MensRights06/05/14 01:36 PM
5

Oh man, I just encountered this same thing except I was the one who found somebody else's kid. I was at the park with my son just a couple of weeks ago when I saw a kid about two years old running down the middle of the street, toward an intersection with a much busier street. It sounds like what happened with this kid was the same thing - his mom was taking a nap with him, he woke up and wandered out a door that one of his older siblings had left open. It could happen to anybody. Side note: I d…
/r/MensRights06/05/14 01:36 PM
5

I don't care what she looks like, going up against your religion and standing up for baby boys makes you beautiful in my eyes.
/r/MensRights05/05/14 05:15 PM
1

Came to comment on this same snippet. It's a symptom of people being over-sensitized to the hurt of women, and desensitized to the hurt of men. Yeah, the stories depict a lot of violence against women, but... gigantic mind controlled eunuch army.
/r/MensRights04/05/14 11:19 AM
0

You're not the first person to bring this up here. It's not a good parallel and frankly even if it were, I'd be hesitant to bring it up because Godwin's Law. It's not a good parallel because although Western culture hasn't been a pure patriarchy for a long time, it was once, and until quite recently there were still strong patriarchal features encoded in law and enshrined in tradition, with some of the tradition hanging on to this day (largely depending on what family you grow up in). Whereas th…
/r/MensRights02/05/14 10:55 AM
2

She and her professor concluded that people might be extra nice because they were overcompensating for their own feelings of racism. They overlooked an important possibility - maybe the majority of people are unconsciously trying to compensate for the minority who yell "go home ragheads" out their car windows.
/r/MensRights02/05/14 10:42 AM
1

The pissing contests are just a symptom, not the disease. The disease is the oppressor/oppressed paradigm.
/r/MensRights02/05/14 10:29 AM
4

Here in the US cunt is also pretty much only used at women. My experience in the UK was that it was used at men and women alike.
/r/MensRights01/05/14 11:05 AM
4

TLDR: "If you think apples exist, just look at all these oranges. Don't you feel silly now."
/r/MensRights01/05/14 07:10 AM
2

Yes, I get it. I just would have found it more disheartening (even more, I should say) if there were a written policy.
/r/MensRights30/04/14 05:57 PM
2

Heh... my wife and I were just talking about how we prefer unpadded chains on swings because every opportunity to slightly hurt yourself is an opportunity to sharpen your dexterity and learn to be aware of your surroundings :)
/r/MensRights30/04/14 03:11 PM
3

Oh yeah, forgot to mention - there weren't any more bruises nor has there been anything remotely suspect. Probably just found a new way to hurt himself on the playground equipment.
/r/MensRights30/04/14 12:28 PM
3

Thank you for clearing that up. It's good to know it's not an official discriminatory policy. My wife and are trying our best not to be infected by the culture of perpetual terror that has permeated parenting these days. It might sound like a simple matter of not assuming everyone's out to hurt your kid, but it can be challenging sometimes. When my son started daycare, he came back after the second day with a bruise on his upper arm, exactly the kind of bruise in exactly the kind of place that y…
/r/MensRights30/04/14 12:25 PM
5

Actually there's a case that could be made for this, for the child's welfare. Knowledge of the possibility of genetic defects etc. I would tend to agree that mandating it by law is maybe a bit strong-arm, but I would like to see a day when it was the recommended thing to do. If doctors recommend it, then hubby doesn't have to be the bad guy and ask for it. Because doesn't everyone love dropping fresh drama bombs on a pregnant woman / new mother.
/r/MensRights30/04/14 11:49 AM
5

Not if it's his kid.
/r/MensRights30/04/14 11:40 AM
2

Are there actually written policies that specify only males this, only females that. Or are these decisions made by the principal?
/r/MensRights30/04/14 11:27 AM
2

Ugh. So instead of debunking this rape culture theory for the sham it is, we're just going to make up our own version now? Count me out.
/r/MensRights30/04/14 11:15 AM
1

Seriously.
/r/MensRights29/04/14 05:28 PM
-1

How is this supposed to relate to whether or not it's likely that a feminist movement in Afghanistan would be a radical one?
/r/MensRights29/04/14 05:13 PM
-1

A morality that values the labels put on things over the character of the things themselves, is a very shallow morality.
/r/MensRights29/04/14 05:08 PM
0

I can't even imagine such a thing existing in a country where women are working on basic rights like not having acid thrown on them for trying to learn to read. This is either trolling or a red pill overdose.
/r/MensRights29/04/14 01:54 PM
4

There are folks on this sub who wouldn't pick up a solid gold bar if it had the word "feminism" stamped on it.
/r/MensRights29/04/14 01:52 PM
1

Yes, but it's a personal variable, not a statistical variable. When you sign up, your rep asks you how many miles you drive per week. When you drive more miles per week, you're effectively buying more insurance. Complaining about this is like complaining that women get charged more for makeup because they buy most of it. I know that in my market at least, males pay higher premiums just for being male - but I think that's a different part of the formula from miles driven - if not, why would they …
/r/MensRights29/04/14 01:40 PM
2

That doesn't sound right about car insurance. Why would they ask how far you commute every day, if they're only going to throw that data out and set your premium based on some average for your sex?
/r/MensRights29/04/14 11:18 AM
-1

Brevity is the soul of wit.
/r/MensRights29/04/14 11:15 AM
-1

I give a shit. The guy calls himself Angry Harry. The movement will continue to be despised while people like this are the predominant face. Activism is mostly about perception management. It's about branding.
/r/MensRights29/04/14 11:14 AM
0

Massive influence, yes... but positive influence?
/r/MensRights29/04/14 01:24 AM
-3

Childish.
/r/MensRights29/04/14 01:23 AM
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From Elam’s point of view, the vitriol engrained in the movement is a necessary evil in order to draw attention to worthy causes. He says he knows the inflammatory language has to be temporary. “I very much hope the day soon comes when it isn’t necessary,” he says. And maybe he’s right. Maybe the movement needs the attention to grow, and maybe once it grows to sufficient size its leaders will be able to sit down with opponents and have those rational discussions." Elam's "don't worry, we'll turn…
/r/MensRights28/04/14 08:38 PM
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Because it's small-minded and inaccurate. If the human species is "successful" in any meaningful way, it's that we've increased our numbers and guaranteed the survival of our species. All our fancy innovations ultimately serve that purpose (or, if they don't, are peripheral and irrelevant to any discussion of species success). While individual men were usually behind these showy innovations, those men were largely nurtured and educated by women. Chicken and egg stuff, man. Also, civilization was…
/r/MensRights28/04/14 06:23 PM
1

I consider myself an egalitarian, not a feminist nor an MRA. I'd prefer to operate in the context of a single transformative movement that sought mutually beneficial changes and solutions. But dominant ideological elements in modern feminism refuse even to contemplate the idea that men can suffer from systematic injustice, or when forced to confront concrete examples, offer this tired old cliche: "Yeah, well Patriarchy hurts men too." Which is simply retreating behind terminology instead of enga…
/r/MensRights28/04/14 02:38 PM
2

You don't have to work so hard for an explanation. Madison Avenue knows how to make about ten commercials. With a few inspired exceptions, just about every commercial is just a regurgitation of one of these few successful formulas. The smart spouse / dumb spouse is one of those formulas. In the 50s and 60s the dumb spouse could be either sex, although it was usually the wife. Now, it's verboten to depict a woman being outpaced in any way by her husband, so it has to be the husband. It's got fuck…
/r/MensRights26/04/14 11:07 AM
3

Now that's going around your asshole to get to your elbow.
/r/MensRights25/04/14 11:05 AM
1

Not outraged in the slightest. The motherfucker who raped my sister would be lucky to get something this merciful if I ever catch up with him.
/r/MensRights25/04/14 10:57 AM
0

Read the article.
/r/MensRights25/04/14 10:44 AM
-1

Read the article, not just the incendiary title - there were two offenders, one male, one female.
/r/MensRights25/04/14 10:41 AM
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For those who don't watch the video, the bait is just an audio recording in an empty bathroom stall. The men who burst in to stop what sounds like a rape of a woman by a man, are greeted by an empty stall and a mirror facing their direction with a sign: "This is what a rapist could look like." Fuck you people. I get that it's well-intentioned, but the mirror is a message that can only be seen by the good guys who are willing to risk their safety to protect a stranger. I just don't get how somebo…
/r/MensRights24/04/14 09:51 AM
-12

Two people, a man and a woman, were the culprits here. Enough with this hate baiting bullshit already.
/r/MensRights24/04/14 09:41 AM
1

Pair that with the assertion that women should occupy half of what Farrell calls "the death professions," and we can talk. Until then you're just saying you want half of the butter but men can keep doing 90% of the churning.
/r/MensRights23/04/14 02:11 PM
9

Men are not entitled to the love of women. Women are not entitled to the love of men. The type of woman depicted here seems to be the flip side of the "bitter nice guy" stereotype - and I suspect that, like the "bitter nice guy" stereotype, the women who truly fit this description in all of its negative aspects are pretty rare.
/r/MensRights23/04/14 02:06 PM
2

OK one more comment from me: here's a pamphlet from Doctors Opposing Circumcision. It's written by a doctors' group, and the intended audience is doctors and not parents, so I think it carries a little more gravitas than some shrill anticirc site material. It's concise and has a nice little summary of risks vs. benefits that I think is very powerful if you let it sink in. http://www.nocircmo.org/pamphlets/DOCbrochure.pdf
/r/MensRights22/04/14 08:36 PM
3

Good advice to put it on the doctor. If the doctor hasn't provided a lot of information from both sides, then you bring up the fact that a growing number of doctors actively discourage it, so she's being poorly served by the doctor who is neglecting to provide all the available pros vs. cons information. That creates a blame receptacle who isn't in the room. Then the next step is simply to plant the idea that it's a permanent irreversible decision, so wouldn't it be best to do some research and …
/r/MensRights22/04/14 08:26 PM
1

I will take a contrary view to what a lot of people are saying here. Don't try to coax her into watching videos of crying babies being circumcised. Media researchers have known for years that, when confronted with disgusting/horrifying stimuli, the mind tends to reject the message associated with the stimuli, and form a negative opinion of the perceived "sender" of that stimuli. If you're old enough to remember this, back in the day PETA used to run magazine and TV ads that showed cute bunnies w…
/r/MensRights22/04/14 08:15 PM
3

I don't, nor will I call myself an MRA. I'm an egalitarian currently more interested in supporting men's issues than women's - not because I think men have it worse than women, but because I think men's issues are in society's blind spot. If we reach a point where the majority of people in my culture respond to the phrase "men's rights" with something other than a disapproving glare or a dumb stare, I won't feel the need to focus more on men's issues anymore. In short, I lurk the "manosphere" no…
/r/MensRights22/04/14 07:59 PM
2

This proves only that testosterone produces fairness in women while they're playing a game. It says nothing about testosterone's effect on men, or its effect in other settings. It's entirely possible that testosterone increases can push one toward fairness in a peaceful setting, but increase aggression in another setting. Just like oxytocin gives me the urge to make sweet love to my wife and change my baby's diaper frequently, but not vice versa.
/r/MensRights15/04/14 10:35 AM
2

How is this unfair to men?
/r/MensRights15/04/14 09:55 AM
9

I think you have the right not to be offended in your home. But not if you look out a window - be it a physical window or a technological window like turning on the TV or radio or going online. Amish folk don't go around barking at the rest of us to tone down our act; they want to live in a world of tightly controlled stimuli, so they create that world on their private property and don't leave it except when they have to.
/r/MensRights11/04/14 03:59 PM
-1

Proof of something that shouldn't be taken seriously in the first place.
/r/MensRights10/04/14 11:08 AM
1

I don't even care. It would shock me to the core if it turned out she hadn't gotten threats. The point is, anonymous internet threats aren't very credible, and shouldn't be assumed that they even represent one of your actual ideological opponents, given the prevalence of entirely apolitical shit-stirrers on the internet.
/r/MensRights09/04/14 05:04 PM
0

How about we lampoon the Rebecca Watsons of the world for making a big goddamn deal over anonymous internet threats, and then turn around and do the exact same thing?
/r/MensRights09/04/14 04:27 PM
7

Those are quotations from study participants, not part of the scholarly article itself.
/r/MensRights09/04/14 12:46 AM
18

Furnace room scene. When the lovers run in slow motion through the stinking coal-fired hell that powered the floating paradise above. If you can see that scene and continue to focus on how shitty it was that some rich girl was going to have a marry a jerk in order to stay rich, you've got some king-size empathy blinders.
/r/MensRights07/04/14 11:25 AM
8

That's about the worst advice you could give someone who has finally, after a lot of work, cleared their name of stalking charges.
/r/MensRights07/04/14 11:00 AM
1

That's a swear word now?
/r/MensRights06/04/14 12:05 PM
5

I usually don't like Thunderf00t's style (too combative for me usually) but in this case he nailed it.
/r/MensRights04/04/14 03:13 PM
3

These guys are all super polite in response to the inappropriate questions and invariably decline when invited back to her place for a random fuck. If anything, this is something that the MRM should help popularize. While it doesn't disprove the existence of predatory, woman-hating men, it does a lot to argue against the prevalence of such in the general population.
/r/MensRights04/04/14 02:58 PM
14

Pictures taken of people with their permission, or in a public space - I don't care, snap away and share all you want. Pictures taken of people sleeping that reveal what a person might reasonably expect to remain private is an ethical transgression. I have a photographer friend who likes to take pictures of people sleeping on planes. She shares them on FB and her blog. I have no problem with this, but none of the pictures show people's genitals. Once again, reasonable expectations - a territory …
/r/MensRights04/04/14 02:39 PM
2

That's what flip side means - the other side of the coin.
/r/MensRights04/04/14 10:47 AM
3

You'd still have to connect some crappy statistics to the harm the men suffered. Did the crappy statistics make someone rape them? Simply not having your rape included in some official report is not an injury.
/r/MensRights04/04/14 10:43 AM
6

It's a mens' issue because he didn't do anything wrong. If you read the actual article, it says quite clearly that he texted back and forth with her until he found out she wasn't 18 - although the headline makes it sound like he was actively trying to nail someone he knew was 17.
/r/MensRights04/04/14 10:40 AM
3

I overheard my ninth grade health and gym teacher telling one of my female classmates how she graded boys down to "even things up." Not sure which is wronger - what she was doing, or the fact that she was telling one of her students.
/r/MensRights04/04/14 10:20 AM
3

Does nobody understand that RationalWiki is basically a response to Conservapedia? It carries no weight.
/r/MensRights04/04/14 10:17 AM
4

My understanding is that you can't sue people or organizations for being shitty at their job (in this case, putting out bogus stats). You have to be able to demonstrate that their actions harmed you. Not harmed society, not harmed some abstract group called "men"... if you're on the suit, you have to have been demonstrably harmed and you have to tie that harm to the actions or negligence of the named party.
/r/MensRights04/04/14 10:15 AM
1

"Naive" is a euphemism in this case. Don't press for details if you don't want your feelings hurt.
/r/MensRights04/04/14 10:08 AM
4

Chicken and egg. You could just as well argue that male domination through force happened first, and females adapted by becoming more adept at deception and manipulation. This feels like an attempt to place some sort of Original Sin (Gender Wars Variant) at the doorstep of womankind. It's basically Patriarchy Theory in reverse - paint an unrealistically negative picture of one sex and blame all of history's problems on that half of humanity. Except instead of portraying the "good sex" as the hap…
/r/MensRights04/04/14 10:05 AM
2

All this article says is that this handful of superficial behaviors can increase tips for women but not for men. It doesn't mean that competent male servers are going to make less... in fact, unless something has changed since the 90s, male servers make a little more - however, tall servers get better tips than short people, and the difference in tips between males and females was proportional to their average difference in height, so heightism is an equally good explanation as sexism. As a form…
/r/MensRights03/04/14 05:39 PM
1

Take it to the extreme. Bring a variety of cleaning tools and cleansers in a little toolbox, detail the motherfucker after every use and tie it off with one of those paper ribbons like hotels use. Then insist that this is the only proper and considerate way to leave the toilet and break balls whenever someone doesn't comply.
/r/MensRights02/04/14 10:47 AM
2

Where in the article does it say he was taught not to defend himself?
/r/MensRights29/03/14 10:18 AM
4

Good point.
/r/MensRights29/03/14 10:07 AM
5

The story is that the wife deliberately riled them up and painted a dangerous picture of him. Of course they came prepared for a standoff, that's what she told them HE was preparing for.
/r/MensRights29/03/14 10:07 AM
8

You know, I've never questioned that it was commonplace until you asked the question. I searched Google and YouTube for "cat calling caught on tape/film/camera" and I found like one video, from Egypt. You'd think with all the SJWs and their love of amateur videography, there'd be something. It sounds far-fetched, but I find myself considering the possibility that the phenomenon has mostly died out, and has turned into a myth perpetuated by groups of women, none of whom want to seem like they're …
/r/MensRights28/03/14 10:24 AM
1

Maybe it doesn't have the pejorative connotation that it sounds like it would. Here in the US there are a lot of people who hold construction workers etc. in disdain and feel free to make all kinds of negative assumptions about them... including a lot of people who do indeed make less money than those tradesmen.
/r/MensRights27/03/14 04:39 PM
6

And nobody sees the irony that calling men who work blue collar jobs "tradies" is an element of a culture that pigeonholes men by their status and earning potential just as much as it pigeonholes women by their attractiveness...
/r/MensRights27/03/14 01:28 PM
8

That would make some feminist t-shirts really dirty.
/r/MensRights26/03/14 05:16 PM
4

It's morally repugnant to attempt to "weigh" different forms of abuse against each other, especially in an attempt to justify the continuation of one of them. What the MRM is fired up about, can be summed up by the fact that well-meaning people like you are still saying "FGM" and "male circumcision," instead of "FGM" and "MGM." Torture is torture, murder is murder, and child abuse is child abuse. Socially condoned mass mutilation of children does not come in a "lite" version.
/r/MensRights26/03/14 01:51 PM
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The earring thing is technically discriminatory, but the motivation is professional appearance, not allowing freedom for some people but not others. What constitutes "professional attire" is 90% mindless tradition, and since earrings are traditional for women but not for men, there you go. If you need a practical rationale, consider elderly patients who might be weirded out by a man with earrings. If you work in a coffeehouse, I'd say fuck'em, but in a hospital you need to take all reasonable st…
/r/MensRights26/03/14 01:32 PM
1

You're high, Prankster Bob.
/r/MensRights26/03/14 10:44 AM
2

That whole site is drivel, and I don't even think it's sincere drivel. Someone has figured out there's a lot of dissatisfaction among young men and has tailored that POS to capitalize on it. "You'll be bagging chicks aplenty" at the end... yeah, that's mature commentary.
/r/MensRights21/03/14 10:51 AM
2

Forget that it's a birth, which is ideally a family event (but that ideal has no place in law), and it's pretty damn clear. If I'm being treated for whatever, and I don't want my wife in the room, she has to leave or be escorted out. Same goes in reverse. I don't see how this is even controversial. After the baby is born, what are the father's rights to hold/see the baby, is a trickier question. But his legal paternity isn't sealed until the baby is born and she puts his name on the birth certif…
/r/MensRights19/03/14 12:51 PM
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Exactly. And it sounds like they did a good job. She played hardball negotiating her first job out of college and got jilted, so she runs straight to the media to tell her story of how she was clearly treated unfairly because she's a woman. Imagine what she'd do with her first bad performance review.
/r/MensRights18/03/14 10:19 AM
2

Don't forget the slapping. Must do the slapping.
/r/MensRights18/03/14 10:08 AM
3

Came to say this. I'm not for the extreme ghettoization of toys and books either, but the author totally lost me at this sentence. Given the volume of peer-reviewed work on the subject, the word "credible" for him/her must mean "agreeing with my preconceived conclusions." So who taught the monkeys to be sexist?
/r/MensRights18/03/14 09:56 AM
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I love how this is all men's fault, because things. The researchers found that before they had children themselves, women not only accepted but encouraged the masculine culture of the workplace. So, if childless women as well as men are perpetuating it, maybe "masculine culture" isn't a good name for it. They must do so because working culture is still organised by men, who are less involved in childcare. Working culture is organized by bosses, who have stay at home partners, or nannies, taking …
/r/MensRights14/03/14 10:33 AM
4

I’ve had work copied, I’ve had another woman launch a campaign to stop me getting promoted. It’s the sort of aggressive behaviour you’d expect from some of the pushier men, but in my experience it happens more with women.’ This right here.
/r/MensRights07/03/14 12:08 PM
20

This is classic.
/r/MensRights07/03/14 11:49 AM
4

All carpentry is rape.
/r/MensRights01/03/14 11:04 AM
5

I don't see how these laws could criminalize innocent people I agree that in spirit, a law against actual revenge porn (intended as such) wouldn't criminalize anyone behaving themselves in a civilized manner. But unless the law is crafted so carefully that it's almost impossible to enforce, it will open up a whole frontier of abuse. Consider this scenario: I take nude photos of you on my phone, with your consent. I make you angry. You get on my phone and post them on internet, call the cops.
/r/MensRights28/02/14 07:34 PM
2

If only 8% of current active duty Army women actually want anything to do with combat, that says that the other 92% didn't sign up to fight - either they like the uniforms or the college money. No judgement here, I have plenty of friends who joined not out of patriotic fervor, but plain and simple economics - except for them, the possibility of getting shot at was part of the calculus. When it starts to sink in that, in a conflict, enlisted women could now be reshuffled involuntarily from safer …
/r/MensRights28/02/14 11:36 AM
3

"One cause at a time" he says. Yeah, I'm down with that. It's called "end child genital mutilation." See? Nice and easy - a single tidy little cause.
/r/MensRights22/02/14 11:50 AM
2

Way to start with the conclusion and research your way back to the facts. I'm not saying you're wrong in this case, but you're missing the spirit of honest inquiry. Most of the bad research and fake "facts" we complain about on r/MR start with exactly this kind of attitude.
/r/MensRights22/02/14 11:44 AM
1

How about writing a response pointing out that everything everywhere is mocked by somebody, and taking such mockery personally and using it as yet another brick in the construction of your paranoid persecution complex is the problem behavior here. Let's take music as an example. Somebody will make fun of you for liking: Metal (testosterone soaked anger noise) Boy Bands (manufactured pop for tweens) Country (you must be a hick) Classical (effete snob) Techno (mindless repetitive noise) The list g…
/r/MensRights20/02/14 11:57 AM
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“It seems to me that we value fair and equitable processes more than we value the safety of our students." There's your nutshell quote.
/r/MensRights20/02/14 11:31 AM
3

You adapt to the place, not the place adapts to you. Shouldn't we try to meet in the middle? Women and men both need to adjust their behavior in a mixed-sex environment, from how they would behave in a single-sex environment. Women shouldn't be able to dictate, by themselves, what an acceptable working environment should be - but neither should men.
/r/MensRights18/02/14 06:27 PM
1

There shouldn't be quotas for either. We should be looking for real, legitimate barriers to entry and remedying them. But we should also be willing to embrace the possibility that, with total equality of access, some jobs won't attract men and women in the same numbers.
/r/MensRights14/02/14 12:01 PM
8

"A movement that demands belief in one person’s accusations against another as a matter of faith, not fact, is not a movement for justice. It is a lynch mob waiting to happen." Perfectly put.
/r/MensRights14/02/14 11:45 AM
1

Nope. There are plenty of roles that can be filled by either men or women. In WWII, many of those roles were filled with WACS and WAVES - they weren't conscripted, but the fact is they were essential to the war effort, doing behind-the-front duty so more men were available to fight. If their contribution was real, then it stands to reason that if the situation necessitates conscription of men for fighting, then that same situation justifies conscripting women for noncombat duty.
/r/MensRights10/02/14 03:41 AM
2

Heart disease IS a women's issue, precisely because of what you said - that you had associated it with men. So do a lot of women, and therefore they aren't as aware of the risks and pre-attack predictive symptoms. Also, a lot of the awareness that's been built up over the years doesn't apply to women. Shit, a lot of people don't even know that the symptoms of actually having a heart attack right this moment are very different for women than they are for men. A parallel would be eating disorders …
/r/MensRights07/02/14 12:34 AM
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“Patriarchal men have always found it in men’s collective interest to… generally reduce the price of sex and erotic entertainments by lowering the value of women’s erotic capital (“Beauty is only skin deep, hence worthless”) and by squeezing the cost of sexual entertainment (“Only depraved women would sink so low”)…. Women who openly deploy their beauty or sex appeal are belittled as stupid, lacking in intellect and other “meaningful” social attributes. Nope, nope, nope. Rigid patriarchal struct…
/r/MensRights29/01/14 04:26 PM
4

Who was complaining? I was saying that small children could be exhausting, and it's best to pick a division of labor that gives both people some time away from the kids, to recharge. Telling people they should rest between sets at the gym isn't the same as whining that working out is too hard. Dismount that elevated equine, sir.
/r/MensRights29/01/14 02:20 AM
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The article touched on that, with kid gloves. To anyone who wants to have a family, I advise you not to be instantly dismissive of information like this. One takeaway here is that all forms of work involved in keeping a house and children are not equal in terms of stress and emotional pressure. Small kids can be really draining. It's a special kind of fatigue - none of the tasks are that hard, but what is exhausting is this combo: neverending stream of demands having to be 100% vigilant every se…
/r/MensRights28/01/14 11:29 PM
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Yeah, not to mention nobody calls it "The MRA." You want to false flag a movement, at least put in the effort to get the fucking name right.
/r/MensRights27/01/14 05:48 PM
2

And every one of them who doesn't off himself in the process will get marriage proposals from crazy women. Now let's diagnose the entirety of womankind based on the actions of a handful of nutty dames.
/r/MensRights24/01/14 01:54 PM
2

So, this isn't the first time he's said the same wrongheaded thing. Big deal.
/r/MensRights22/01/14 02:56 PM
2

There would be a grace period.
/r/MensRights20/01/14 12:57 PM
6

The problem with this is that the people who need convincing have expanded their internalized definition of rape to the point where, indeed, most men (people in fact) are rapists.
/r/MensRights19/01/14 01:29 PM
1

Not true in NC. There's a form with no space for a father's signature. Source: I filled it out last year.
/r/MensRights16/01/14 10:44 AM
1

What's good for the goose is good for the gander, and what's good for the gander is patriarchy :)
/r/MensRights13/01/14 02:02 PM
1

There are a limited number of ways to sell a product in 20-40 seconds. One of them is the dumb person / smart person. The buyer is supposed to identify with the smart person and get a good laugh at the dummy. The product choice is connected with the smart person, so the message is: don't be a dummy, be a smarty and buy our shit. Once upon a time it was usually the dumb wife / smart husband. This pattern was rightly called out for being insulting to women and teaching young girls that being femin…
/r/MensRights11/01/14 07:00 PM
2

Everywhere has class differences, but the "back of the bus" bit is a peculiarity of US history.
/r/MensRights10/01/14 01:36 PM
1

Slavery yes. The intricacies of post-emancipation Jim Crow laws, maybe not so much.
/r/MensRights10/01/14 01:35 PM
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Uh, probably because it's a different country?
/r/MensRights09/01/14 05:38 PM
2

So... women are lazy?
/r/MensRights09/01/14 05:34 PM
2

Not really. There are brain differences that make girls and boys average abilities disparate even before puberty makes boys bigger and stronger.
/r/MensRights07/01/14 03:29 PM
1

Most of the places I've been that didn't have a changing table in the men's, didn't have one in the women's either. I'm a SAHD, and I don't really find it that frustrating. I think it's more of a convenience for the people who don't want to see/smell a diaper being changed out in the open, than it is for parents. You can change a baby just about anywhere - the changing station just keeps it in the bathroom with all the other bathroom smells.
/r/MensRights07/01/14 03:26 PM
1

But what if he'd used a pointed stick?
/r/MensRights03/01/14 03:03 PM
1

regardless of color, black families usually don't adopt white babies and white families usually don't adopt black babies. And yet, white people (at least around here) will adopt the shit out of some little Asian kids.
/r/MensRights26/12/13 11:06 AM
1

My cock prefers to show itself off sans adornment. For the same reason that bodybuilders don't pose in tuxes...
/r/MensRights26/12/13 10:54 AM
3

The message is this: We've conned society into thinking that, for one sex at least, it is absolutely essential for persons aspiring to allure and self-respect to spend loads of money on fancied-up versions of what is essentially a drip tray for body fluids. And now that we've got society buying that, we're starting in on the other sex.
/r/MensRights26/12/13 10:52 AM
4

Of course - you just have to raise a shitty engineer!
/r/MensRights26/12/13 10:47 AM
1

It's good you brought up instinct. Instinct is when your deep animal brain compels you to act in preprogrammed ways. The mechanism the brain uses is pain. When you need food, you feel hunger pains. When you're separated from the person you love, you feel emotional pain until you are reunited. Physical pain is the brain's way of compelling you to respond in various ways to being injured or sick. Yeah, parenting involves a certain amount of hardwired instinct, but it's not like you instinctually k…
/r/MensRights26/12/13 10:46 AM
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Fuck logic, go for the jugular. Say this: No job is hard if you love what you're doing. I guarantee you it will shut them the fuck up. Source: I'm a full time stay at home dad, and I use this routinely to shut down my fellow SAHPs who are being fucking crybabies. No doubt, there are trying days, there are difficult days, there are days that are more emotionally draining than anything I experienced in the workplace. But the day I call it hard work, I will go back to my job and send my kid to day …
/r/MensRights26/12/13 10:32 AM
8

The fuck is your problem? This "man is always the victim even when he's the aggressor" bullshit is a perfect mirror of the worst elements of feminism. Don't bring that shit here.
/r/MensRights23/12/13 10:47 AM
2

Hey, is that guy in the picture holding the door open for those two?
/r/MensRights19/12/13 05:27 PM
4

Oh, it happens.
/r/MensRights18/12/13 10:47 AM
1

This is a really great, pithy way to put it. They don't cancel each other out, they add up. 3 quarts of misogyny plus 1 quart of misandry doesn't leave you with 2 quarts of misogyny, it leaves you with a gallon of hate.
/r/MensRights15/12/13 11:56 AM
5

Yeah, I know the dismissiveness of which you speak. Not hostile, just... like he's some guy who may or may not have any interest in what's going on. Prenatal care is a little funny, because everything that's happening is going on inside the mother's body. But I took my part very seriously, and since I do all the cooking at our house, they might as well have talked directly to me and ignored HER when they were talking nutrition, since every morsel that passes her lips was planned, bought and prep…
/r/MensRights12/12/13 03:08 PM
4

Cranking up the draft for laughs would be political suicide. If an administration thinks it necessary, you can bet they'll turn the propaganda machine up to 11 first, to make sure everyone's good and terrified.
/r/MensRights12/12/13 11:38 AM
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I have a suggestion for the pediatrician. Let him take your daughter to a few appointments by himself. The staff at our pediatrician knew I was a full-time stay-at-home dad, but they still addressed my wife and treated me like a bearded balloon floating behind her, until my wife stopped coming along for all of the visits. Now, if we both happen to be there, we get addressed like a set of parents, not like a female parent and some dude who wandered in off the street.
/r/MensRights12/12/13 11:20 AM
5

BAHAHAHAHA! I've never heard of this particular phenomenon before, but I love your response to it. I was a waiter for years, and I hated people who tried to wheedle higher tips out of people with flirting, ass-kissing... anything other than excellent service.
/r/MensRights12/12/13 11:07 AM
2

This is not discrimination by gender. They're not turning guests away because they're male; they're tailoring a subset of their rooms to what they think will appeal to female travelers.
/r/MensRights11/12/13 12:42 PM
7

Sounds like they figured out a way to make the system a little better for everyone. Dads drop kids off at day cares facilities too.
/r/MensRights11/12/13 12:34 PM
2

I was going to say, this doesn't sound like a very intrusive law. But I see your point about placing liability on parents who wanted to rely on their own methods of parental control. "You had to go OUT OF YOUR WAY to allow porn into your household!" thunders the prosecutor...
/r/MensRights10/12/13 01:15 PM
10

said on Reddit
/r/MensRights10/12/13 01:04 PM
3

Lighten up, Francis.
/r/MensRights07/12/13 11:04 AM
1

Any dating advice that purports to be the one true way to succeed in finding a partner is outdated. Equality and the opening up of gender norms means exactly this: there isn't going to be a new normal, there just isn't going to be a normal anymore. Some people's natural tendencies and preferences will be to approach relationships and dating in a more traditional way, but others will respond to entirely different stuff. The only good advice is to be yourself and not to try to fit some mold define…
/r/MensRights06/12/13 03:16 PM
-1

I see there's a chapter called "The Rapist as Political Prisoner." No, I don't think I'll give it a read.
/r/MensRights06/12/13 12:25 PM
3

The problem is, newcomers show up and see stuff like this and it really dilutes the message and makes the sub look like a bunch of dudes scouring the internet for reasons to hate women. Sure, that's a misinterpretation, but considering it's what most people are expecting to find, it would be better if we did less to play into that expectation.
/r/MensRights06/12/13 12:22 PM
12

Either you are presenting a false dichotomy or you are Hitler.
/r/MensRights06/12/13 12:17 PM
1

I forget, how many wrongs does it take to make a right again?
/r/MensRights04/12/13 12:09 PM
2

Anecdotal: I went on a heavy dose of steroids for a pinched nerve, and was warned by the doctor about "roid rage." I was cautious about it, but not paranoid. What actually happened was I felt extremely warm and filled with love for all human beings. I started to tear up with joy and love at even fairly mundane exchanges with coworkers. I experienced pretty much the exact opposite of anger and aggression the entire time. I have no doubt that "roid rage" is real, but it might be less common of a r…
/r/MensRights03/12/13 02:41 PM
8

Folks, the next time you feel frustrated at how many people think the MRM is just a bunch of immature assholes, remember this article. Remember the following line from it: If women sucked dick half as well as they suck at sports there would be no more divorces in the great US of A. Stay classy.
/r/MensRights03/12/13 12:05 PM
2

She was still pregnant when she moved.
/r/MensRights30/11/13 10:37 AM
2

I think MR's version of "trigger warning" should be for self-important quavery-voiced poetry readings.
/r/MensRights28/11/13 11:29 AM
3

I have two friends who have been terrorized by female partners with violence, controlling behavior and legal threats. One of them called the cops on his wife once, but only when he felt she actually posed a danger to their kid. My other friend was routinely kicked, hit with objects and threatened with deadly weapons (a baseball bat, for example). He suffered through it, trying to "fix" her, until he found himself locked in the bathroom, with her announcing that if he didn't come out she was goin…
/r/MensRights26/11/13 02:17 PM
3

This reminds me more than anything how much we need a Children's Rights Movement.
/r/MensRights25/11/13 12:02 PM
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I doubt anybody cares as long as you're making the decision yourself. You can get huge dinner plate earrings or get your tongue split in half or have horns implanted these days - circumcision is pretty minor compared to any of those. But the thought of doing any of that shit to a BABY would have most people's skin crawling in horror - except circ.
/r/MensRights22/11/13 12:20 PM
1

There are different kinds of rape and different kinds of murders. The most sadistic and brutal rape is more horrific and unthinkable to me than some unpremeditated crime of passion murders. Kidnapping and imprisoning multiple people for years of sexual slavery is definitely worse than giving someone a fatal brain hemmorhage in a bar fight. But murdering your parents for the inheritance money is worse than someone who's having consensual sex but doesn't stop when consent is retracted.
/r/MensRights21/11/13 10:50 AM
1

I knew a guy who would borrow a wedding ring to wear to job interviews.
/r/MensRights20/11/13 10:39 AM
1

It's a harmless, almost innocent little gag. It's absurd that similar things with women in them get outraged responses, but two wrongs don't make a right.
/r/MensRights19/11/13 03:22 PM
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It relates because this woman tried to murder a man with her car, but the wrap-up is all about her condition. Doesn't even say if the guy lived or died.
/r/MensRights18/11/13 11:06 AM
2

Changing the baby on the floor of a public bathroom? That's idiotic. When they don't have facilities in the men's, I change my baby out in the middle of the store. That's what everyone did back in the day anyway, these changing stations are relatively new. If the manager doesn't like it, they can solve their problem with a $250 purchase. Also, just try to give me a fucking hassle while I'm wrestling with an uncooperative baby and holding a diaper full of hot baby shit over your nice clean floor.…
/r/MensRights18/11/13 10:53 AM
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Internet high five for your little girl.
/r/MensRights16/11/13 12:03 PM
3

"He's afraid of commitment" is a counterexample. Used by women to protect their egos when a man ends a relationship or refuses to take it to the next level. Yes, there are men who are afraid of commitment, just like there are women who deserve the "crazy" label. But both are also frequently misused as defence mechanisms.
/r/MensRights15/11/13 03:45 PM
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I don't think it's bad what she wrote, although posting it publically is in poor judgement. But OP seems to be talking about privilege, and when men have to walk on tiptoe around a very simple, common and NORMAL thing - being attracted to someone too young, not acting on it, and moving on - and women feel free to express themselves about it, then that's a node of privilege/disprivilege.
/r/MensRights13/11/13 12:06 PM
1

Good Hearted Woman, Willie Nelson
/r/MensRights12/11/13 11:39 AM
2

Public displays by the male are ancient courtship behavior evolved to prove to the female that the male hasn't been playing a numbers game. If a male was stringing several females along with promises, then a public pronouncement would be impossible without risking social fallout - a reputation for honesty was a critical asset before written contracts, and there would be angry girls and their male kin to deal with. So it demonstrates not only that he's committed to one girl, but that he's already…
/r/MensRights11/11/13 12:07 PM
1

There's a certain personality type that never stops competing. Everything's a competition with them, and their satisfaction when they get what they want is just a fleeting pause, then they set their sights on the next goal. For them, the high-status mate is a goal until she's acquired, then she becomes another prop in the competition game. Having a "fashionable" partner is helpful in convincing career gatekeepers that you're an up-and-coming winner. It's a weird sick world that I want no part of…
/r/MensRights11/11/13 11:55 AM
1

DARVO, except "reverse victim and offender" isn't quite what's going on; in this case, Farrell isn't (and I wouldn't either) suggesting that workplace deaths etc. are symptoms of men's oppression at the hands of women. But I think it's telling that these women were so entrenched in the one-way oppression model of gender issues that they seemed to hear Farrell blaming women when he wasn't.
/r/MensRights10/11/13 11:46 AM
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One of the speakers repeatedly insinuates that Farrell is "pitting men and women against each other" and "blaming women for men's problems," when he does no such thing. I have to wonder, is this a calculated rhetorical tactic, or is she simply programmed to hear an attack on women every time someone brings up something that might not be going swimmingly for men?
/r/MensRights08/11/13 03:00 PM
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The hero grapples with the villain at the top of clock tower. The villain has him over the side, almost tipping our hero off the edge... Cut to two women having a conversation that is not about a man. Back to the clock tower...
/r/MensRights06/11/13 11:46 AM
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Oh, thanks for clearing that up. Your authoritative tone and use of italics has got me completely reinterpreting my entire life experience. /s I know how dictionaries literally define "sexual orientation," but you're in the wrong sub for taking dictionary definitions as the gospel truth. See also: Rape
/r/MensRights06/11/13 11:43 AM
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"After all, the same gross cultural pressures that make women into objects force men into instigators" Precisement. When I try to explain this to people I ask them to think of "object" in terms of grammar. The thing which receives action. I have no beef with women complaining about being pushed into being the object of the sentence, the recipient of action. But they need to understand it ain't all gravy being expected to always be the subject. Slinging all these verbs all the time can get exhaus…
/r/MensRights05/11/13 11:10 AM
1

If homosexuality is an orientation, then so is a predisposition to dominance or submission. True, there are people who casually experiment with SM, seeking to spice up a jaded life with a new thrill du jour, but then that's also true of homosexuality. But there are people who can only fully express themselves intimately in this context. It can be so much a part of you that it colors your earliest childhood memories. In short, if it's not a choice, it's an orientation.
/r/MensRights05/11/13 10:58 AM
3

HuffPo's own list of books every woman should read: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/03/29/good-books-for-woman_n_1387950.html
/r/MensRights02/11/13 05:43 PM
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For anyone who doesn't have the stomach for it, here's a summary: I tried being nice to women and they didn't have sex with me, so now I'm doing this crappy self-deprecating spoken word routine about how awful I was for being slightly resentful about it when I was nice to women and they didn't have sex with me. Then I tangentially equate my self-absorbed teenage resentment feelings with rape, because penis.
/r/MensRights31/10/13 10:11 AM
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The coverage is not piecemeal, is all Sebellius was trying to say. The plan covers maternity, and it also covers penile reattachment, which women will never make use of. This is a manufactured issue.
/r/MensRights31/10/13 09:56 AM
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Note that she's still framing the false accuser as a victim of some kind of "sexual intimidation," if not outright rape.
/r/MensRights31/10/13 09:45 AM
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A gorgeous exercise in art direction, with a plot hung together just well enough not to distract too much from visual ride. I don't consider a little grrrl power theme threatening in any way. It's fun to play with the little girl lost archetype and turn her into a badass warrior figure. There are male villains but there's also a male father figure/sensei type who is positive. Not anti-male, just anti- being a little helpless waif.
/r/MensRights28/10/13 01:45 PM
1

After a full rack of slow-cooked baby back ribs, I'm way too mellow to oppress anybody.
/r/MensRights25/10/13 10:58 AM
0

The GOP is way ahead of you.
/r/MensRights25/10/13 10:55 AM
1

Heh... "Driving Misandry." Some of them were pretty funny. But it still amazes me to see how many people think the MRM is about nothing but reversing women's progress. See "Silence of the Ma'ams" and "American Beauty Standards." Who here wants to silence women and enforce narrow beauty standards? Come on, show of hands.
/r/MensRights25/10/13 10:52 AM
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Well here's a scientist's argument then. It's perfectly clear, at the very least, that there is a significant medical controversy about the procedure. Would you sign your baby up for a controversial new medical procedure? Uh, hellnope. So, why would you sign your baby up for a controversial OLD medical procedure?
/r/MensRights25/10/13 10:46 AM
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Holy shit, I read through that PsychToday stuff and got to this: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/moral-landscapes/201110/why-continue-harm-boys-ignorance-male-anatomy So, the prevalence of circumcision in the US has led to dangerous ignorance about how to handle uncircumsised boys, namely telling parents that they need to pull the foreskin back to wash their babies properly, which rips their little junk and can cause scarring which BECOMES phimosis later - phimosis, the bogeyman used to scar…
/r/MensRights25/10/13 10:42 AM
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You're not going to get an unbiased source. Sift through the info from both sides, and try to figure out what's BS and what's not. Then, don't goddamn circumcise your son :)
/r/MensRights25/10/13 10:33 AM
0

Nice reference. One of my favorite short stories.
/r/MensRights25/10/13 10:26 AM
1

When you get right down to it, men's and women's biological wiring are both about one thing: caring for the next generation. Be careful what you try to fix.
/r/MensRights25/10/13 10:26 AM
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Wikipedia isn't working because academia hates it. The whole idea was that academics would join in the fun, because love of human knowledge. But academics bristle at the thought of having to rub shoulders with degree-less self-appointed "experts."
/r/MensRights25/10/13 10:10 AM
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Lighten up, Francis.
/r/MensRights25/10/13 10:04 AM
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http://hypervocal.com/news/2011/update-man-who-set-himself-on-fire-on-courthouse-steps-did-so-in-name-of-fathers-rights/ This guy only hurt himself, but when someone lashes out at others in the name of men's rights, it will likely be a dad who's been fucked over every which way in the legal system - looking at jail time due to child support that's impossible for him to keep up with, unable to see his kids, or both. In my opinion a radical "wing" would be a bad thing for the men's movement. The p…
/r/MensRights25/10/13 10:01 AM
1

Yup, this.
/r/MensRights24/10/13 02:14 PM
2

Politicians don't belong on the battlefield, but I propose you should have to vote for them with a show of hands... in a bucket. You want to put other citizens in the firing line, you have to be willing to give up a hand. With combat veteran lawmakers being exempted, they already know what war means to those who fight in them.
/r/MensRights24/10/13 02:11 PM
1

Autocorrect simply plugs in common search queries that start with the characters you've already typed. People don't construct queries with a mind for PR. If you looked at my recent Google history this way, you'd think I was trying to give my son diaper rash.
/r/MensRights21/10/13 11:24 AM
2

For context, what's "harshly shamed" look like? I ask because when my girlfriend stopped shaving her legs and pits, she was not deluged with commentary from the peanut gallery.
/r/MensRights21/10/13 11:06 AM
1

Somebody had to.
/r/MensRights21/10/13 11:01 AM
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Correlation doesn't prove causation. I would interpret the data this way: Women who engage in anal sex are probably less inhibited in general, or less inhibited with that particular partner. Either way, less inhibition means more orgasms. However, the reward model isn't without merit. Although I prefer to picture it as "a happy partner wants to make her partner happy," not "good doggie, have a treat."
/r/MensRights21/10/13 10:49 AM
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It can be both a male power fantasy AND a stepping stone to increased female pleasure. Additional: the idea that a "male power fantasy" is inherently bad is worse than any particular sex act being off the table.
/r/MensRights21/10/13 10:38 AM
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It would be plenty coherent if you read up on the pogroms. I don't mean the definition of the word, I mean the history of them.
/r/MensRights21/10/13 10:32 AM
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A reasonable body modification, like tongue bifurcation. The same rules should apple to both. Anyone of sound mind and legal age of majority should be able to get one. Nobody should be allowed to impose one on anyone who isn't of age.
/r/MensRights21/10/13 02:31 AM
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You didn't actually look up "pogrom," did you?
/r/MensRights21/10/13 02:27 AM
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No. Google "pogrom."
/r/MensRights17/10/13 10:04 PM
2

Once you pass a certain ethical threshold it's somewhat obscene to draw comparisons like this. It's like saying sure, the Khmer Rouge were bad, but they weren't NAZI bad. When you're cutting bits off children for reasons other than to treat a serious condition, I would argue you're well into that territory.
/r/MensRights15/10/13 01:47 PM
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Even with anaesthetic, it's very painful. Sometimes the operation is botched, leaving permanent damage. It's a wound site in the diapered area, and newborns' immune systems aren't fully developed yet, so, no shit sherlock, there are infections. And then there's this little matter: What if - crazy, I know - what if men have the right to have their penis look and work the way nature intended, if they want that? What if it's wrong to just make an irreversible decision about that a few days after th…
/r/MensRights15/10/13 10:40 AM
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Rossmanith: Of course! But one already assumes that men have the potential to be violent, brutal and egocentric. They don't have to cover up that side of themselves. But we women are supposed to act as if it doesn't exist in us. Riiiiiiiight. There are some women out there who have a comically distorted view of the male experience.
/r/MensRights11/10/13 10:28 AM
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Unfortunately the people who are activated around socialism (as in, belong to orgs that have IRL meetings) are usually radicalized to the point where you can't have a real discussion with them. Don't let their obnoxiousness turn you politically. I say that because I've seen it happen to good people.
/r/MensRights10/10/13 11:27 AM
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a belief that we are trying to redirect actually suffering experience by women and make it a men's issue Part this, and partly out of the fear that abusive men will claim abuse and use the system against their victims - but of course, they're ideologically blinded to the possibility that VAWA enables female abusers to do exactly that.
/r/MensRights08/10/13 02:36 PM
2

Yes, precisely. Sexism always cuts both ways. The negative effects aren't always equivalent, but for every assumption about one sex there is a shadow assumption about the other. This is, I think, the most essential paradigm difference that causes MRM and feminist discussions to fall off the rails most of the time. It's leftover old-school sexist thinking that prevents many people from seeing men's problems as important - an enculturated revulsion at the sight of a man announcing his weakness, sa…
/r/MensRights08/10/13 02:33 PM
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"Benevolent sexism" includes situations like a woman in a broken down car on the side of the road being far more likely to be offered help than a man would. It does not bash men or take anything away from men. I beg to differ. Your example here actually is a perfect illustration of our cultural blindness. You talk about a woman being more likely to receive aid, but the hypothetical aid-provider is anonymous and genderless. But we all know who is going to stop and help that woman whose car is bro…
/r/MensRights08/10/13 10:06 AM
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The problem here is framing. As long as you participate in this linguistic framing, you're keeping alive one of the core obstacles for mens' liberation - the co-opting of ALL gender issue discussion by women, for women. Traditions of chivalry, such as the expectation that a man hold doors open for women, are rooted in assumptions of female weakness and vulnerability, but the counterpoint is the assumption of male strength and obligation. The term "benevolent sexism" is just a way of keeping the …
/r/MensRights08/10/13 09:52 AM
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I think we should avoid the word "oppression" entirely. Some words are best left for the more extreme situations. Blacks in Jim Crow South? Oppressed. Women in Saudi Arabia? Oppressed. Women in 1955 USA? Disadvantaged in many important aspects of life. Men in USA today? Disadvantaged in a handful of important aspects of life, and subject to cultural deprecation, the effects of which on developing boys is unknown but concerning.
/r/MensRights08/10/13 09:34 AM
1

This. A girl I went to high school with took one of these classes. I asked her to show me what they taught her, and it was laughable. I told her, in my opinion, unless she was being attacked by invalids or kindergarteners, she'd be better off trying to run away.
/r/MensRights07/10/13 07:04 AM
1

Men are victims of violent crime more frequently than women. That's a fact, and it's a real issue. People not liking you as much because you're fat or short is a real thing, but complaining about it makes you seem childish, whether you're a feminist or an MRA. People liking you and/or wanting to fuck you is not a human right. People not liking you and/or wanting to fuck you is not oppression. It sucks, but it's not oppression.
/r/MensRights05/10/13 08:28 AM
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That's exactly what I'm talking about. If we're just trying to counter every manufactured feminist complaint with a complementary complaint for men, the MRM will become bad for men in the same ways feminism has become bad for women - namely, turning them into endlessly whinging professional complaint artists.
/r/MensRights04/10/13 09:52 AM
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Encourage all people to dig themselves, but for god's sake let's not emulate the feminist complaint machine and tell ourselves we're being oppressed because we're not all equally attractive. People are not going to stop treating people differently based on their height, because motherfucking evolution.
/r/MensRights04/10/13 09:20 AM
1

Not when her phobias become the basis for public policy, no.
/r/MensRights03/10/13 10:42 AM
1

People who don't like dogs and don't spend any time with dogs can become phobic of dogs very easily. They don't have to be mauled or even snapped at... just being growled at can be traumatic enough for their brains to form a permanent and all-encompassing fear association with all dogs. Whereas someone like my friend B, who loves dogs, hangs out with dogs, and understands dogs... he was attacked by someone else's fucked-up vicious dog at the park, seriously mauled (his calf muscle has halfway de…
/r/MensRights03/10/13 10:40 AM
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There's a lot of BS, but this bit always chafes my ass (fromt he section on paternity fraud): They hold biological views of fatherhood, emphasizing the imperative of the genetic foundation of paternity rather than social aspects of fatherhood. Picture a woman who finds out the hospital isn't sure if they sent her home with the right baby. Imagine her getting (rightly) distraught, and then someone saying with disdain, "Ooooooh... you must hold a biological view of motherhood, don't you?"
/r/MensRights03/10/13 10:12 AM
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This is a typical low-effort ad spam site. You pick a phrase, optimize a site around it, and then hook it into Google Ads. A night's work, and it'll trickle in tiny amounts of revenue for years. Not hugely profitable per site, but if you throw a few up per week it adds up. Don't pay attention to it, it signifies nothing.
/r/MensRights03/10/13 09:52 AM
1

A large, complex society never has just one -archy going on.
/r/MensRights30/09/13 10:58 AM
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It's not what they gain from boys getting circumcised, it's what they stand to lose if whole generations of men come to be deemed victims. And it's not even that they're thinking in such machiavellian terms - their worldview does not permit the idea that The Patriarchy would allow something bad to be done to men, wholesale and exclusively to men. QED, circumcision can't be bad.
/r/MensRights18/09/13 05:26 PM
1

Quick question: would you rather extend the taboo of "gutter talk" to women, or relax it for men, to reach parity?
/r/MensRights17/09/13 10:52 AM
1

There's a bunch of hair-trigger reaction going on. I'm not validating Patriarchy Theory in any way. The article contends that patriarchy never existed; I'm just trying to clarify what the term meant before it was coopted and distorted into a grand unifying theory of everything by Marxist feminists, and that it was a valid and real element of historical society. Not a system of systematic one-way oppression of all women by all men, but a system of governance at the most local level, in which the …
/r/MensRights11/09/13 04:13 PM
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Patriarchy means rule by the father, and it was real. Everyone (not just women) was subject to the judgement of their pater familias, and community matters were decided upon by a council of them. In a feudal system, everything is hierarchy and everyone owes fealty to someone, who in turns owes fealty to someone else, on up to the king, who was accountable to God. You could say that the father was the smallest, most granular unit of government under feudalism. A family wasn't just some people wit…
/r/MensRights11/09/13 11:22 AM
1

Attacking and raping? Did you read the same article I read?
/r/MensRights11/09/13 01:34 AM
1

The morning after pill is powerful medication. In the case of complications, not knowing you'd taken such medication could cause a misdiagnosis, leading to serious problems.
/r/MensRights11/09/13 01:32 AM
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Just because the law doesn't allow you equality of choice, doesn't justify taking that choice away from someone else (and putting their life in danger). Not one bit.
/r/MensRights10/09/13 04:06 PM
2

Check out the femininity article too. Together they really tell a story of dysfunctional thinking.
/r/MensRights10/09/13 11:14 AM
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I remember that article. It was junk, making mountains out of molehills, data-wise. Don't panic.
/r/MensRights08/09/13 09:38 AM
1

10% is a lot. If 10% of ladders collapsed when you climbed them, you'd approach all ladders skeptically.
/r/MensRights06/09/13 10:28 AM
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No, the gender disparity in assault doesn't substantiate it. People get assaulted for all kinds of reasons, and sometimes it has nothing to do with their actions.
/r/MensRights05/09/13 11:05 AM
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I watched the Blurred Lines video. Saw some topless women. Heard a song that was mostly unintelligible. So I looked up the lyrics, and I couldn't for the life of me figure out how this song was supposed to be rapey. The only thing getting raped here is Marvin Gaye's Got to Give it Up.
/r/MensRights05/09/13 11:00 AM
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Untestable hypothesis.
/r/MensRights05/09/13 10:36 AM
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I support anyone trying to find their happiness in life.
/r/MensRights04/09/13 11:21 PM
4

Ah, I see what you're getting at. This isn't a "men as victims of women" thing, it's a "men as victims" thing.
/r/MensRights29/08/13 01:29 PM
2

The parents, the doctors, and society as a whole for condoning the practice?
/r/MensRights29/08/13 01:27 PM
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From the sound of it, she's experiencing cognitive dissonance. I've seen it before on this topic. Many people, feminist or not, are not accustomed to thinking of men as being systematically victimized. No, they're not just "not accustomed" to it, it goes against the grain of their whole worldview. I've found it essential in my marriage to recognize when my wife (or myself) is experiencing cognitive dissonance. It's best to leave them some time and some space to get comfortable with questioning t…
/r/MensRights29/08/13 10:56 AM
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It's your parents' job to work this out. The only thing you can do is to tell them BOTH that you will lose respect for them if they can't do this gracefully and cooperatively. In your mother's case, maybe acknowledge that she has a potential advantage due to her sex, and if you see her exploit that advantage for all it's worth, she basically loses the right to talk about equality to you ever again. The only leverage you have, as a child/dependent, is the relationship you have with your parents. …
/r/MensRights28/08/13 10:38 AM
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Lighten up, Francis.
/r/MensRights23/08/13 10:12 AM
3

This is the whole wage gap debate encapsulated perfectly. The education stat is telling. Women musicians are better educated than their peers? Sounds legit. But what that means is that more of the female musicians are going the college route, which typically leads to safer, more dependable careers in music - but careers that almost always apex in the middle of the socioeconomic ladder. Whereas the males are more likely to forgo the safety net and roll the dice on fame and fortune. And for every …
/r/MensRights17/08/13 01:23 PM
2

Mainstream pop has always been mostly manufactured shit. The bubblegum stuff gets forgotten, and the good stuff stays around and more people discover it until, 30 years later, the good stuff is seen as defining that time period. Boomers talk about how music sucks today and reminisce about Creedence and the Stones and the Beatles, and forget how many times they bobbed their heads to Yummy Yummy Yummy.
/r/MensRights17/08/13 01:04 PM
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The wedding ring... that shit is real. I was working part-time as a bartender when I got married, and as soon as I put the ring on I started to get the occasional drunk gal trying it out on me. It never happened once before the ring. I actually started taking it off for my bar shifts, dig the irony.
/r/MensRights16/08/13 10:30 AM
2

I think I seem more approachable and less dangerous with a baby in tow. Also, he's unusually cute, so people of both sexes and all ages are constantly coming up to see him, and we'll chat. If any women are thinking naughty thoughts about me, I'm none the wiser. But of course I do live in a small enough town that you can't just go flirting with married men without word getting around eventually. I did get a wolf-whistle recently from a moving car when I was pushing the stroller, though.
/r/MensRights16/08/13 10:22 AM
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I'm into geek culture, but I'm more - let's call it well-rounded - than some of the people who go to cons. I don't like being shibbolethed by obsessive know-it-alls either. It's obnoxious and pathetic, whether or not you entangle gender into it. There are a lot of scenes that have people like this. Indy music springs to mind. They're into their passion to an obsessive degree, and the only thing that bothers them more than someone who doesn't share their passion is someone who shares it, but only…
/r/MensRights11/08/13 09:43 AM
1

Anonymous internet message boards are great for exposing people to new kinds of information, but not good for serious in-depth discussion or organizing.
/r/MensRights08/08/13 10:37 AM
3

All power is predicated on violence. You just have to be better at, or more willing to use, violence in order to force a power advantage.
/r/MensRights04/08/13 08:51 AM
1

My wife and I have a rule that covers all such acts. Namely, we talk through our problems, but at no point is it either person's duty or right to punish the other. That is part of a parent/child relationship, not a relationship of equals.
/r/MensRights04/08/13 08:35 AM
3

I don't think it's sexism that men work hazardous jobs. I think it's sexism that nobody cares as long as their garbage magically disappears from the curb.
/r/MensRights03/08/13 08:51 AM
3

OK lady, you're a shitty mother. Happy now?
/r/MensRights03/08/13 08:47 AM
1

Who's "we"?
/r/MensRights03/08/13 01:08 AM
2

Exactly. I'd like to think one or two of them were disarmed by actually sitting through the presentation and finding devoid of misogyny.
/r/MensRights02/08/13 11:09 AM
4

It's not an entirely negative label. It's a cultural reference to a now-respected arts movement. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Angry_young_men
/r/MensRights02/08/13 01:44 AM
1

HIPAA prevents the doctor from calling the wife and telling her her husband asked for a vasectomy. It doesn't prevent the doctor from withholding the vasectomy until the patient comes in with a signed form. It's still up to the patient to decide who he wants to tell about it, he just can't get a vasectomy from that doctor if he still wants to keep mum.
/r/MensRights01/08/13 02:54 PM
1

seems to be saying that if a doctor feels that a patient doesn't really need a certain procedure then the doctor is free to threaten them with public shaming A really distorted way of looking at it. There is only one other person (hardly public) the doctor is asking to be involved, and that person is the patient's spouse. And shaming isn't the motivation here, it's making sure the patient isn't making a choice that will create a serious problem in their lives - and, yes, to protect the doctor fr…
/r/MensRights01/08/13 02:45 PM
3

That term covers a lot of ground, but the most recent example I witnessed was, I was pushing my baby in his stroller yesterday and these boys, maybe 13 years old, crossed our path. One of the kids said "Aw, what a cute baby." And the others proceeded to razz him about it - good-naturedly, but also pointedly at the same time.
/r/MensRights01/08/13 10:57 AM
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Gender policing.
/r/MensRights01/08/13 02:00 AM
1

Actually the doctor is usually going to make the case that s/he believes that the best thing for the patient is not to undergo sterilization without consulting their spouse about it. Consider it in the same neighborhood as a doctor insisting on extensive psychological counseling before starting a sexual reassignment process. The key point that distinguishes these procedures from other medical procedures is that they aren't necessary to keep you physically healthy. They are wants, not needs, and …
/r/MensRights30/07/13 10:59 AM
1

NOPE. There are indeed doctors here in the US who impose a spousal consent requirement for married women who want a tubal ligation. There are also doctors who have refused to do one on a married woman who hasn't yet had kids, even with her husband's sign-off.
/r/MensRights30/07/13 12:07 AM
1

The doctor would be breaking confidentiality if he called the wife up and told her her husband was looking to get a vasectomy. The doctor is NOT breaking confidentiality by saying he won't perform the procedure unless the patient demonstrates her agreement. This isn't a treatment for a disease we're talking about here, it's a totally optional convenience procedure. Doctors are fully within their rights to make their own determination about under what circumstances they will or will not perform s…
/r/MensRights30/07/13 12:01 AM
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Yes, a suit from the wife. She probably wouldn't win, but the doctor's liability insurance doesn't just cover awards, it also covers legal representation. Therefore even unsuccessful suits can drive up the insurance premiums for the practice.
/r/MensRights29/07/13 11:57 PM
1

You would also probably have to look around for a doctor who would perform the procedure.
/r/MensRights29/07/13 11:55 PM
1

Yeah, I noticed the article dodging the shit out of this. It discussed a possible evopsych adaptativity for the response, but suggested only that it might prepare the girl to form other relationships. No mention of the fact that it's just as likely to intensify her bond to the abusive partner. I wouldn't go that deep down the rabbit hole. I would hypothesize that you'll see this reaction in females who have been subjected to other kinds of stressors and threats, not just an abusive relationship.…
/r/MensRights29/07/13 11:20 AM
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That was addressed in the article. There was no oxytocin spike in the boys, either in the abused group or the control group.
/r/MensRights29/07/13 11:13 AM
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Just to clear this up, this is not just a matter of your rights, it's about the doctors' right to protect themselves from liability and their right to practice medicine the way they think is best. There is no law in the US (not sure about elsewhere) requiring spousal consent for either male or female surgical sterilization. But many doctors impose this requirement themselves, because they think it's usually the best thing for the patient. You can probably still get your procedure if you have a f…
/r/MensRights29/07/13 11:04 AM
3

Complaining about this is like complaining about actuarial tables.
/r/MensRights26/07/13 11:17 AM
2

Modern diapers make a better seal!
/r/MensRights26/07/13 11:08 AM
2

On a positive note, congratulations! On a practical note, as a circed guy I admit I was a little worried when my son was born last year, about keeping him clean. A year later, I can say at least from our experience it's all a load of hogwash. His little weenie is practically airtight. It's easy as hell to keep it clean, just make sure to point his little weenus northward when you put a fresh diaper on, and no fecal matter will get near the foreskin area.
/r/MensRights26/07/13 02:52 AM
1

What this article is missing is a mention of the #1 obstacle preventing abused men from seeking help: the fear that he will be the one who ends up going to jail.
/r/MensRights23/07/13 02:23 AM
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If you care about equality in general, the last thing you should be giving a ratfuck about is what type of baby aristo fell out from between some other aristo's legs.
/r/MensRights23/07/13 02:17 AM
2

Uh, she's got a legit point. A court order that separates a nursing infant from his/her mother is a fucking stupid court order. Taking the baby away for two days at a stretch is going to mess with her milk supply.
/r/MensRights21/07/13 10:08 AM
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It doesn't work like that. Boobs don't have on/off switches and just generate however much milk whenever you want them to. A mother's milk supply is maintained by demand (nursing). Pumps don't extract as efficiently as a baby, so pumping for extended periods will "dial down" the supply. Also, being apart from the baby for extended periods of time will reduce mom's supply.
/r/MensRights21/07/13 10:06 AM
2

Yes, the box seats are for wanking privacy. She's just now realizing this?
/r/MensRights20/07/13 08:33 AM
1

Yes, clearly what's needed to break down gender lines is for women to do more cooking. /s
/r/MensRights20/07/13 08:30 AM
1

Couldn't have said it better.
/r/MensRights16/07/13 02:27 PM
2

The article would have been more insightful if it tried to delve into how the kids got their assignments. For example, what role does parental fear of a girl getting injured play, vs. simple numb obedience to tradition?
/r/MensRights16/07/13 10:22 AM
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Just an FYI: numerous studies have shown that images that invoke revulsion tend to turn the viewer against the message that accompanies them. The conscious mind gets the point, but the unconscious mind just gets angry at the messenger who caused the feeling of revulsion. This is why PETA has switched from pictures of baby animals with chemical burns, to half-naked starlets fellating fruit and veg.
/r/MensRights16/07/13 10:11 AM
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I don't really want to perpetuate the PC parade by enforcing in both directions. In my view, men and women are different creatures, shackled to each other by nature. We have to learn to put up with each other, and most of the time we do, but we need to let off some steam about it sometimes. There are radicals who want to silence all criticism of women (at least, if it comes from a man), but I don't see the point in reflecting that dysfunctional behavior out of a sense of balance.
/r/MensRights10/07/13 09:20 AM
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Sorry, but this is fucking retarded. If you get a woman pregnant, and you both want an abortion, and she can't get one, you're both fucked. She's more fucked until the baby is born, at which point you're both equally fucked.
/r/MensRights10/07/13 12:22 AM
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That's a good question. I can think of three answers off the top of my head. Freedom, simply put. In my society we claim to value it, and do most of the time. Now, giving men the freedom to decline fatherhood after conception would have been monstrous, before the woman had a choice about whether to keep it or not. But now they do. Which brings us to... Equality. The current legal situation creates a serious power imbalance between men and women once a pregnancy happens outside of marriage (and, …
/r/MensRights09/07/13 10:20 AM
1

And my axe!
/r/MensRights09/07/13 01:02 AM
3

Your parents should monitor your internet usage more closely.
/r/MensRights09/07/13 01:00 AM
2

So, we should roll back the rights of one sex until the rights of the other sex are completely sorted out?
/r/MensRights09/07/13 01:00 AM
1

Oh, there used to be a lively trade in telling women what they had to be and do in order to be a "real woman." We put a stop to that when it was decided it was oppressive BS. But nobody gets offended when we discuss the same for men. It's almost enough to make ya think.
/r/MensRights08/07/13 06:02 PM
5

It's different, absolutely. But if I have a stake in it, then it's an issue for me, isn't it?
/r/MensRights08/07/13 06:00 PM
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And that legal decision will be challenged until the end of time. And if it's reversed, then THAT will be challenged.
/r/MensRights08/07/13 05:59 PM
2

I'm a SAHD and I have to say I've felt none of that. Maybe I live in the nicest town in the world. People are usually indifferent or actively positive about it. Especially older women, those from generations where it was just assumed they'd be the primary parental caregiver, and some of whose husbands didn't participate as much as they'd have likes. A lot of those ladies treat me like a damn rockstar.
/r/MensRights08/07/13 04:53 PM
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Giving men equal rights to refuse parenthood is something I wholeheartedly support. Abortion is a complicated thing as it relates to men - it's not a right we have, because we can't get pregnant and shouldn't be allowed to override a woman's decision. But when women have the right, men benefit.
/r/MensRights08/07/13 04:48 PM
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I think you miss my point. Something can be a women's issue, and also be a men's issue. I'm not saying that abortion isn't a women's issue, or that child support isn't a women's issue, when I say that they are men's issues. You could very reasonably ask, "why call them either, then, why not just call them people's issues?" To which I would reply, I would love to, and when the world starts thinking in those terms, I'll enthusiastically play along.
/r/MensRights08/07/13 04:43 PM
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It only affects women's bodies, therefore it's a WR issue. If child support laws are a men's issue, then it seems like a no-brainer that abortion would be, too. Imagine how many more men would be working two jobs and still not making their payments, if it weren't for Roe V. Wade. Add'l: There is definitely an argument to be made about when life begins, when a fetus becomes a person etc. It's important to know and to draw a line, especially in cases of murder etc. It's impossible to resolve that …
/r/MensRights08/07/13 04:22 PM
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Anonymous internet forums are good for some things, and productive debate isn't one of them. Debates work better when the debaters' reputations stand to be tarnished when they prevaricate and abuse logic. And the debaters need reputations to begin with. They need to be people that the audience feels actually represents their "side," so when their arguments don't hold up, the audience feels like those were the best arguments that "side" could put up. I'm a fan of Hitchens' debates; he was a bette…
/r/MensRights08/07/13 03:54 PM
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The thinking seems to be that women will join men in protesting unfair alimony laws when more women are getting screwed over by them. But this presumes that the messed up laws will actually be applied to female breadwinners, which isn't a given.
/r/MensRights04/07/13 03:32 PM
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by educating those who care to listen. Well, that won't take long :)
/r/MensRights29/06/13 08:34 AM
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Other good answers here - especially the suggestion that you guys watch a few videos. I know two different couples who circumcised their first son and did not do it to their subsequent sons, because they were present at the operation the first time. Something else that I haven't seen addressed here is that many people think the kid will get a complex if he doesn't look like his dad. I can speak to that; my dad wasn't from the US, so he wasn't cut, but I was since it was the norm here. So I had t…
/r/MensRights29/06/13 08:32 AM
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Either parent can sign off on a procedure. But provider will almost certainly refuse to do a non-essential procedure like this if they are aware there's a nonconsenting parent. "If they are aware" is the key point. If hubby wants to be underhanded about it, all he'd need is an afternoon alone with the baby in his keeping.
/r/MensRights29/06/13 08:23 AM
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Came to point this bit out. Just imagine this reversed and your head will explode. "I know the law says I shouldn't give you a break just for being a man, and I can't really think of a good reason why I should, but I just feel like I should go easier on men than on women, and I think we can all agree there's a good reason to do that, even if we can't actually think of one right now."
/r/MensRights28/06/13 09:21 PM
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Really really hard to say. On moral grounds I'd say circumcision, because nobody is more helpless and deserving of society's protection than newborn babies. Selfishly, I'd say the way the education system fails boys, because I've got a baby boy and I worry about his future. In a big-picture way, I'd say the Cult of Patriarchy is the lynchpin, the plug in the bottleneck stopping progress for men's issues. The common assumption that sexism is a one-way street prevents our issues from even being ta…
/r/MensRights28/06/13 09:14 PM
1

It's a paradigm clash. Growing up, I totally bought the simplistic picture of a male-dominated world of female oppression and male power. I gradually came to have a more nuanced view of things, and came to see that men and women were both pigeonholed, and both suffered indignities and injustices great enough than any discussion of "who had it worse" is, frankly, distasteful. Distasteful in the way that it would be to ask that question of Jews and Gypsies during the Holocaust. But if you're still…
/r/MensRights28/06/13 02:46 PM
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There's no mention in the article of putting the burden back on working mothers though, is there? It's not pitting women against women, it's saying EVERYONE (with 2 X-chromosomes) should get to have work/life balance.
/r/MensRights27/06/13 09:25 PM
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This is a valid subject of inquiry. The title is crappy, clearly, but it's an interesting line of thought. Another way to phrase the findings is: "Boys need positive male role models," which is a very popular sentiment around here.
/r/MensRights26/06/13 01:09 PM
3

You know you're a SAHD when this makes a tear come to your eye.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 03:05 PM
2

No we don't. That's a really fucking nice changing station for a public place. I don't care if the one in the women's bathroom has cherubs floating in the air who hand you wet wipes, this thing is awesome.
/r/MensRights25/06/13 02:56 PM
0

Well put.
/r/MensRights24/06/13 07:01 AM
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Yeah I always thought "bromance" was positive. If you were trying to imply that I and my friend were gay, wouldn't regular old "romance" do the trick?
/r/MensRights20/06/13 10:46 AM
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Abortion is NOT a women's issue - it is a reproductive freedom issue, for both parties. Just because a woman is, and should be, the final word on what happens with her own body, legal and safe abortions still give men more de facto reproductive freedom. Just because a woman doesn't HAVE to consult her boyfriend, husband, fling or whatever, they still do so frequently. And even if she doesn't consult the man, if he would have wanted an abortion and that's what she decides to do, it's the same net…
/r/MensRights19/06/13 03:14 PM
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canaries in the coal mine That's a great way of putting it! Good insights too, thank you.
/r/MensRights19/06/13 03:04 PM
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This article reminded me of my fourth grade teacher, who was straight-up awesome. I don't know if she was thinking of boys in particular, she just recognized that kids get fidgety, and when they're fidgety they don't learn or cooperate very well. She used her lesson plans as a framework, but was always ready to improvise based on the mood in the room. When we were being a pain in the ass, she'd tell us if we all piped down and got through what we were supposed to be doing, then when we were done…
/r/MensRights19/06/13 03:02 PM
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in the comments: * The opening premise that birth control and abortions are readily available in the US to all or even most women, can hardly be considered accurate at this point in time when even Roe v Wade is threatened, and many groups (unfortunately) are actively trying to stop birth control access, abortions, morning after pills, and insurance payments for these services. After it becomes true that reproduction control is truly available for all women, then you can bring up this discussion.…
/r/MensRights13/06/13 05:29 PM
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Help remedy the disinformation about the MRM that is rampant. Tell your friends it's not just a bunch of woman-hating troglodytes, and there are legit men's issues, and addressing them doesn't have to mean setting women back to 1955.
/r/MensRights10/06/13 04:01 PM
2

I could imagine something along the lines of reckless endangerment applying to this behavior. It would be a very difficult law to enforce, though, and it would be easy to abuse. Calling cheating a form of rape is, of course, an insult to one's intelligence and an insult to the actual victims of rape. But some people just can't get enough of that word.
/r/MensRights06/06/13 05:21 PM
3

Reminds me of an old joke: How many feminists does it take to change a lightbu THAT'S NOT FUNNY!!!
/r/MensRights31/05/13 02:59 PM
2

But the rape thing is fucking out of order... forgot to say that. Sign of a mind obsessed with rape, to call it down when discussing toddlers' antics.
/r/MensRights25/05/13 02:55 PM
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She's straining the point a bit, but I'd have to agree with one thing - "boys will be boys" is supposed to mean having patience with boys' destructive play, and not vilifying them for it - not giving them a free pass to run amok and abdicating the responsibility to teach them boundaries. "Boys will be boys" should be about loving them for who they are, not a rationale for not bothering to parent them.
/r/MensRights25/05/13 02:53 PM
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Quoted comment: 'It also sucks that women are routinely presented as f***ing putting up with it as if it's a given that a man would be a manchild whom you'd have to clean up after and do everything for. It's almost like an excuse for men to be useless.' Classic. Ads insult women, that's oppression. Ads insult men, it's giving us an excuse to be jackasses.
/r/MensRights25/05/13 02:34 PM
4

BAHAHAHAHA I just pictured coming home and telling my wife I cheated on her because I "wasn't feeling adequately celebrated."
/r/MensRights22/05/13 09:32 AM
1

Using power to coerce someone to do something they wouldn't otherwise do - there's a whole ethical spectrum just within this category of behavior. For example, is it just as bad for a person in authority to offer special unearned favors in return for sex, as it is to threaten to threaten to deny the person what is their due (a promotion they deserve, a job they perform well at) if they won't do something sexual?
/r/MensRights20/05/13 02:47 PM
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having sex with your students is problematic and very open to abuse. I consider the price of not having sex with your students is acceptable for a teacher to pay to prevent abuse. Worded like this, it's a very different statement, and one I wholly agree with.
/r/MensRights20/05/13 12:40 PM
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You can't have consentual sex when you are not equal. Bullshit! This is the kind of prudish hysteria that's turning sex into a minefield. A power differential can be abused to coerce someone into sex, but that doesn't mean that every time one party is in a position of authority, it's an abuse of power. Also, coerced consent is not the same as lack of consent. Two different things.
/r/MensRights20/05/13 09:42 AM
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she couldn't believe I trusted my husband with my daughter all day Whoops! Bad news honey, I'm afraid I put the pork roast down for a nap and cooked our baby for 80 minutes at 400 F. My bad.
/r/MensRights15/05/13 06:09 PM
4

True child support also wouldn't involve a hefty kick-back to the state.
/r/MensRights14/05/13 10:59 AM
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The answer is, "No, I'm not aware of that ever happening. So, what's your point?" Don't try to find examples of individual women doing bad things as a counterargument - that's just mirroring the faulty reasoning. Make her come out and state that she thinks men as a group should be judged by the actions of the worst individuals among us, and then ask her if she thinks it's OK for you to do the same for women.
/r/MensRights10/05/13 01:58 PM
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I suppose the weight rooms are full of dudes who just like picking up heavy shit.
/r/MensRights09/05/13 02:13 PM
0

It used to be standard visual shorthand in old movies for the drunken lout of a husband character.
/r/MensRights09/05/13 02:08 PM
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What on earth makes you think guys don't care if they're seen as desirable? Check out r/askmen and witness the avalanche of nonchalance /s.
/r/MensRights09/05/13 02:04 PM
2

I'm sorry that my gender has successfully undermined men all over the world, and that so many of you are scoffed at when you challenge the oppression you experience. You don't have to apologize for people you aren't, actions you haven't done, or ideas you have discarded :)
/r/MensRights02/05/13 02:39 PM
13

I love my circumcised dick, it's treated me right so far, and I don't have any negative feelings about my circumcision. And I think circumcision is barbaric and should be outlawed asap (except when medically indicated to correct a real issue). If you were done as an infant, it's best to just move on and love your body the way it is. That doesn't mean shrugging in apathy while they continue to fuck with subsequent generations of kids.
/r/MensRights23/04/13 04:12 PM
2

If you can interpret chemical cues from the baby's saliva and mix that formula differently each time to meet the baby's changing nutrition and hydration needs (which is what breasts do), I'll agree, hats off to you. If you've figured out how to get antibodies from your bloodstream into the formula to inoculate the baby against diseases to which you've been exposed, congratulations and enjoy your Nobel Prize money. If you mean you're impressed by the ability to follow instructions written at the …
/r/MensRights18/04/13 05:05 PM
3

Lactation is a pretty cool trick.
/r/MensRights18/04/13 02:27 PM
1

Why the fuck do you people even go there? Are you the kind of person who finds an old container of food in the back of the fridge, see through the plastic it's covered in mold, and have to sniff it anyway?
/r/MensRights13/04/13 09:45 AM
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Um... what he did was illegal, and he's facing a bunch of felony charges. Sounds pretty regulated to me.
/r/MensRights12/04/13 08:06 PM
4

You're looking for logical perfection in a textbook that's not only probably committee-edited, but has to be marketed to a variety of institutions where it will be committe-reviewed before purchase? You're going to have a bad time. That little line "because women have historically suffered most as the victims of sexism," that's what we call a Sop to Cerberus.
/r/MensRights08/04/13 09:58 AM
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I believe age 16 is the age when your cock begins to emit dangerous levels of Patriarchy Rays.
/r/MensRights08/04/13 09:40 AM
2

Yes, the present, the past, the future. Even if you completely got rid of any concept of gender roles, you'd only be losing one facet of normative behavior.
/r/MensRights08/04/13 09:34 AM
2

I think the best thing about that show is how it portrays men and women sharing their lives while living in separate worlds. And although much is made of the caddishness of the men and their attitudes toward the women, if you're looking for it you see how everyone, men and women, are stuck in their appointed roles, acting out this charade of who they think they're supposed to be. We all do that to some degree, but these people are living in some really small and tightly-defined pigeonholes.
/r/MensRights07/04/13 02:21 PM
4

Since atheists are the most distrusted minority in America, do I get free stuff too?
/r/MensRights07/04/13 02:08 PM
6

you beat me to the punch
/r/MensRights05/04/13 01:03 PM
3

When comparing grades with test scores, by gender, there are some other factors to consider. First, grades in many subjects partially reflect written assignments, where girls shine a little brighter on average because of their language abilities. Second, boys have a little bit of an edge in multiple-guess tests because they tend to be more comfortable with risk-taking. Risk takers are more comfortable skipping a question, or marking an answer they aren't sure is correct, and moving on... allowin…
/r/MensRights04/04/13 05:48 PM
3

I think Azrael-sama is talking realpolitik, not principle.
/r/MensRights03/04/13 07:13 PM
5

When they say that, what I hear is "Hey, I turned 35 before they activated the draft, what's the problem?"
/r/MensRights03/04/13 07:13 PM
2

There's a saying, "clean up your own backyard." In other words, before you lean over your neighbor's fence and start critiquing how he's doing things, make sure you've got your own shit straight first. Most of us who make the comparison are not saying we think that a procedure done with anaesthetic by trained professionals using sterile equipment is as irresponsible and inhumane as the third-world FGM practice. What we're saying is the same is this: both are unnecessary procedures done largely f…
/r/MensRights03/04/13 06:57 PM
3

Uh... are you really asking?
/r/MensRights03/04/13 05:17 PM
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Something you really need to understand about these people (I'm assuming it's the same crowd who protested the Farrell event) is that, although they're using the student union as cover, it appears that the core is connected by their involvement a socialist radical group. I've brushed up against the ISO in the States, and if it's anything like ISO, cult is a very good word for it. They use a lot of cult techniques... approaching people with a very watered-down and friendly version of their ideolo…
/r/MensRights03/04/13 02:04 PM
3

There was one an organization that put a lot of effort into that particular endeavor. They weren't nice people.
/r/MensRights03/04/13 01:43 PM
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I don't feel a lot of feelings about my own circ, because it didn't damage me in any way I'm acutely aware of. Liking your body is healthy, and this is the body I have and have always known... so it's better not to dwell on whether I would like my body more if my penis was whole, since there's no going back. However, I'm more curious to wonder how different I might be psychologically. There's no significant controversy among psychologists that childhood traumas, no matter how early, can affect h…
/r/MensRights03/04/13 01:36 PM
2

It's a crude and not very witty caricature of conservatives. The only tinge of misandry I see is that it perpetuates the stereotype that the neanderthal bigots of America are all rural white males. Nope sorry, can't blame all this shit on us. Plenty of women, plenty of black and brown people, plenty of everybody on board that crazy train.
/r/MensRights29/03/13 01:43 PM
1

This man can't stop rape - because he never started.
/r/MensRights29/03/13 01:27 PM
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Don't worry, just engage them about it. Just make sure they know that most people won't look like that without dangerous steroids that shrink your balls and shorten your life. You might also want to point out that wrestling is fucking stupid (I'm assuming you're talking about the theatrical fake wrestling, not actual wrestling).
/r/MensRights29/03/13 01:25 PM
4

You're not what folks would call a people person, are you?
/r/MensRights28/03/13 05:53 PM
3

Why on earth would an unemployed man who doesn't want kids resort to strong-arm tactics in a desperate attempt to avoid being financially responsible to a child with a woman who's a "broke student," has debilitating anxiety issues for which she's illegally self-medicating, and is delusional enough to even contemplate having a baby under these conditions? I'm not saying that he's being nice about this, but it sounds like a situation where being nice isn't rational. If you care about either of the…
/r/MensRights28/03/13 01:56 PM
3

Ask her what she thinks about the men's rights movement. Open-ended questions are the best for starting a dialogue. Just ask questions for a while - if she says something you don't agree with, don't launch into a rebuttal right off the bat. People tend to reflect back at you what you show them, so the less combative you are, the less she will probably be. If you do find yourself in disagreement about something and you're offering a counter view, begin by establishing common ground - for example,…
/r/MensRights28/03/13 01:32 PM
5

Big victory for any sons she has in the future.
/r/MensRights27/03/13 04:06 PM
1

Uh, I hate to split hairs here but... awaiting the birth of his first born son and start a family with his girlfriend He and i are very traditional in views but he really doesn't want to raise a bastard child You're not that traditional in your views if you're having children out of wedlock, and the kid was going to be a "bastard" whether or not your friend kicked in half the chromosomes.
/r/MensRights26/03/13 07:16 PM
1

Jesus Christ, r/mr is on a hair trigger today. I'm not saying that normal men can't not rape any woman in revealing clothing who walks by, OK?!? By "keep his shit together" I mean keep his attention on the task at hand, and be cool instead of posturing for the attention of the attractive gal. And I don't think it's misandrist to say that a lot of teen boys have difficulty with that. It IS misandrist to criminalize their natural, immature-and-barely-under-control sexuality. And I appreciate that …
/r/MensRights15/03/13 01:42 PM
1

They might be trying to stop misbehavior by the boys, but the fact remains that the boys will be better off and less distracted from their studies if they're not surrounded by close-to-naked girls.
/r/MensRights15/03/13 01:29 PM
6

I coached my wife through the birth of our son, and I was glad to be there - both to support her, and to witness the moment. However, I think the "old ways" had something going for them. My job was to encourage her, tell her she's doing great, tell her everything's going to be fine (and squirt Gatorade in her mouth and some other practical stuff). We took classes and read books and I did everything I could to prepare for this. But when the day came and I was leaning over her, I felt like a total…
/r/MensRights14/03/13 06:10 PM
2

I don't see this as an anti-male policy, in fact I think it's a good attitude. While it is true that a grown man should be able to see a woman in tight clothing and keep his shit together, high school boys aren't men yet. They are awash with hormones and important regulatory functions of their brains are still in development. Whatever the language that gets used, this policy reflects an understanding, and acceptance, of teen males, their sexuality, and their difficulties. For the record, I think…
/r/MensRights14/03/13 05:51 PM
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Some kind of aggressors prefer "easy prey" - women, children, elderly people, etc. I have little to fear from these people. They wouldn't have to look far to find easier pickings than me. The kind of person I'm afraid of bumping into is the "spoiling for a fight" tough guy. He's pissed off at his life and he's on a hair trigger, always ready for what he considers to be a socially acceptable excuse to whale on somebody. He will twist your words so that he can take offense at them. If you change l…
/r/MensRights13/03/13 10:24 AM
1

Regardless of whether I agree with the sentiment, that's pretty clever.
/r/MensRights08/03/13 02:12 PM
1

I grew up an Air Force brat. When we were stationed at forward bases in Europe, there were regular "exercises" where our dads took home nuclear/chemical/biological warfare suits and had to bounce out of bed in the middle of the night, throw on the gear and drive to the base and get in a bunker. It was not lost on me that they were practicing my dad to leave us for dead in the event of such an attack by the Russians (this was during the Cold War). I'd hear him bumping around in the night getting …
/r/MensRights05/03/13 03:15 PM
7

I think it's equally absurd to say it's inappropriate because children. If they know what it is, they already know what it is. If they don't know what it is, it's a rocket ship. Besides, I completely disagree with the bizarre notion that keeping everything related to sex concealed from children helps them in any way. Keeping children innocent (which I consider a euphemism for "ignorant") is for the peace of mind of the parents only.
/r/MensRights01/03/13 06:27 PM
3

No, those are just half-submerged bollocks don't you know.
/r/MensRights01/03/13 06:23 PM
6

r/mensrights wants to know - was it circumcised? Those guys should have said they built it to watch it gradually melt from the enveloping heat of the sun, representing the ultimate powerlessness of male pride before the white-hot power of the feminine. Fight bullshit symbolism with bullshit symbolism.
/r/MensRights01/03/13 06:22 PM
5

I read a newspaper article about this a long time ago about an interesting survey. Male waiters make more on average - however, there's a big caveat. Tall servers also make more than shorter ones. The discrepancy between what male and female servers make on average is proportional to the average difference in height between men and women. So, the study suggested, it might be that heightism is the culprit - or at least just as much of a culprit - as sexism.
/r/MensRights27/02/13 06:14 PM
2

Either society would survive. The surviving sex would limp along until enough people picked up the skills predominantly held by the other sex. What would be really interesting would be what happens if you separated men and women for several generations and then brought them back together again. Would they get along better or worse?
/r/MensRights26/02/13 10:46 PM
2

Yes, the phrase "low impulse control" springs to mind.
/r/MensRights21/02/13 02:45 PM
42

Disclaimer: honorary internet penis does not allow you to write your name in the snow. Do not attempt.
/r/MensRights19/02/13 02:55 PM
1

"Sexism" isn't men oppressing women or even women oppressing men; it's society creating archetypes that hurt anyone who falls outside a standard deviation. I couldn't agree with you more, but that is a view of things that contemporary feminism rejects, which is, in a nutshell, why the two camps can't work together.
/r/MensRights19/02/13 11:23 AM
1

My wife might not agree with every sentiment expressed on r/mensrights, but then neither do I. But she's on board with what I think is the central idea, which is that historical gender roles were oppressive for both men and women, and that gender equality means fixing some stuff for both men and women. I think it was easier for me to talk to her about some of these issues because we'd already, years ago, researched circumcision (in preparation for having kids) and we both came to the conclusion …
/r/MensRights16/02/13 03:08 AM
1

Same thing occurred to me. Having once fallen down the rabbit hole of political conspiracy theory and drug myself out of it, it was an interesting revelation.
/r/MensRights14/02/13 01:51 PM
1

?
/r/MensRights14/02/13 01:37 PM
3

John Birch called, he'd like his nativist paranoia back.
/r/MensRights13/02/13 11:37 AM
5

Fair enough. If you go to a church and raise your hand and try to ask the minister to explain how the Holy Trinity is supposed to make sense, you won't be welcome there. r/feminism is for people for whom the wholesale global oppression of women is an article of faith.
/r/MensRights13/02/13 11:35 AM
2

There is so much else wrong with clubs like that, who gives a fuck about two bucks. An extra two bucks or your self-respect, which is the greater cost?
/r/MensRights13/02/13 11:27 AM
3

That's a pretty extremist and one-sided way to look at it.
/r/MensRights13/02/13 12:14 AM
8

School isn't just about learning the curriculum though. Boys and girls have to learn to socialize successfully with each other. Also, if you divide by sex then the girls who have a more typically boy-like learning style, and the boys with a more typically girl-like learning style, will be even more underserved as teaching methods are even more specialized.
/r/MensRights12/02/13 05:23 PM
2

I have to disagree. A shit test is where you mistreat, belittle, manipulate or control someone to see if they will allow themselves to be bullied. Picking up the check for dinner to see if a man feels threatened or uncomfortable with that, is a different animal entirely. I'm OK with someone engineering harmless situations that will expose a major incompatibility early on, before either of us have wasted a bunch of time on a non-starter.
/r/MensRights11/02/13 06:24 PM
3

It's possible that your crazy-radar is impaired because of what you grew up around. But it's really not that complicated - the same advice works for gay and straight, man or woman: if someone is trying to control you through fear, guilt, deceit, etc., it's a red flag. You don't have to end every relationship at the first sign of controlling behavior (after all, love is an intense emotion that doesn't always bring out the best in us, unfortunately). But don't let it slide - confront the behavior …
/r/MensRights11/02/13 02:32 PM
5

Yes. She didn't offer to pay, she waved the waitress to give it to her. At the time I figured that she was paying because she asked me to dinner, but when I got to know her better I realized she had a few tests she liked to do to evaluate a guy's attitudes about women and sexual politics. They weren't deceitful or manipulative tests, just a few little arranged scenarios that would reveal if I was old-fashioned in any of the ways that she wouldn't be interested in.
/r/MensRights11/02/13 02:06 PM
1

I'm reading The Blank Slate by Pinker right now. It's a pretty tight summary of the case for a human nature, and of the history and current state of opposition to a concept of human nature.
/r/MensRights08/02/13 02:23 PM
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"Women [sexual abusers] are much more likely to be mentally ill, much more likely to to have something going on in their lives," Wilson added. Uh... is she saying that there are people who want to fuck kids that she would consider mentally well?
/r/MensRights08/02/13 10:29 AM
6

The housekeeping part isn't the demanding part, for stay-at-home parents - it's the taking care of the kids part. What's hard about housekeeping is squeezing it in around the demands of the children.
/r/MensRights07/02/13 04:55 PM
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His daughters are aged 12, 14, and 16, and his son is nine. DNA testing revealed the son is his only biological child. Anybody else have a problem with these two sentences?
/r/MensRights06/02/13 06:54 PM
8

Ah, it's a retread of the old "If God is with us, who can be against us?"
/r/MensRights06/02/13 02:31 PM
2

I think the unfortunately worded part was this: As parents, while we focus on our child's confidence and character, we perhaps don't always consider that we are also raising someone's future roommate, boyfriend, guest, husband, or father. I wanted to know that I'd reared a boy who would never ask the woman in his life, "What's for dinner?" The argument is not "I don't want him to be a hapless incompetent," but rather "I don't want him to be a burden on others, implicitly women." Of course both a…
/r/MensRights05/02/13 02:34 PM
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Yeah, people generally feel more entitled to guilt-trip women about having kids. And they feel more entitled to guilt-trip men about making sacrifices to provide for the kids when they're born. Objectification is a strong word - you can't just throw it around every time someone wants something from you.
/r/MensRights04/02/13 02:47 PM
8

I'm pro-choice re: gender roles.
/r/MensRights04/02/13 02:38 PM
1

Interchange "primal" for "primitive" and you see the appeal.
/r/MensRights04/02/13 09:23 AM
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In the comments - "Only if men are subject to the draft. It's an all-volunteer army." Why oh why do people insist on endlessly humping this fallacy? It's an all-volunteer army until Congress decides it isn't anymore. That's like saying you don't have to worry about catching a cold because you don't have a cold right now, QED colds don't exist.
/r/MensRights04/02/13 09:14 AM
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Patriarchy Theory is an article of faith, not a scientific theory. You're going to have about as much luck debating your professor about it as you would attending a seminary and asking penetrating questions about the Holy Trinity. There is no amount of intellectually dishonest squirming the devout mind will not stoop to, to avoid confronting its own illusions.
/r/MensRights01/02/13 02:25 PM
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I can't imagine what would give them that idea, majesticpenis69 :P
/r/MensRights01/02/13 02:10 PM
2

You’re Jack, and you take a girl out to dinner at Blue Ribbon, and she spends three hours deciding if you’re the kind of guy who will like her more if she sleeps with you or if she doesn’t. If you like her enough, it will mean East Hampton on Memorial Day and Nantucket on Labor Day and New Canaan for life. And God help her, there will be golden retrievers. I found it funny that this article unintentionally poses Jack's choice as being between prostitutes and... this?
/r/MensRights30/01/13 04:25 PM
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"There are still too many women unnecessarily imprisoned ... and too many women reoffending on release." In the same sentence.
/r/MensRights27/01/13 02:29 PM
15

Tempest in a teacup. This is about as relevant to circumcision as stem cell lines originally harvested years ago is relevant to abortion. As in, not very relevant. If nobody got a circumcision ever again, it wouldn't interfere with the manufacturing of this product. QED, the product does not promote or motivate the practice of circumcision.
/r/MensRights27/01/13 01:19 PM
10

Time to do a piece on the MRM. Hire lesbian feminist.
/r/MensRights24/01/13 06:43 PM
5

I agree. It's funny because there's a grain of truth there. I've put on a dark navy sock and a black sock more than once... only to have my wife spot it from across the room.
/r/MensRights20/01/13 12:55 PM
2

I feel terrible for this, but the first thing I thought (as a new dad product-testing various baby carriers lately) was: "damn, this would make a hell of an ad for whatever baby carrier she was using." Most of them, it's really hard to DO stuff when you're carrying the baby. If you can kick someone's ass wearing it, then you could probably, ya know, like make dinner or do some laundry.
/r/MensRights19/01/13 12:20 AM
1

This is why I put my kid in a crate and ship him freight when he has to travel alone.
/r/MensRights17/01/13 09:48 AM
2

I prefer to think of women and men like peanut butter and chocolate - both good, even better together.
/r/MensRights14/01/13 01:53 PM
6

Racism doesn't matter when it empowers women?
/r/MensRights14/01/13 01:48 PM
2

If the assignment is to analyze the situation of a marginalized group, I suggest you go to great lengths to make it clear that the marginalized group is not men, but men's rights activists. Men aren't a marginalized group - men suffer from certain legal and cultural disadvantages, in addition to benefitting from certain advantages. People, both male and female, who actively try to draw attention to the disadvantage side of that equation, are the marginalized group. At least that's the position I…
/r/MensRights10/01/13 03:18 PM
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Learn to read tone. The "back off" part is tongue and cheek. The article is about how well SAHDs are doing, and how threatened that can make women feel sometimes.
/r/MensRights09/01/13 05:11 PM
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It wasn't in there. I was just trying to pin down whether you think he had a valid point, poorly phrased, or not a valid point at all.
/r/MensRights08/01/13 01:59 PM
2

That's fair. How would you feel about a statement like this: With traditional masculinity demonized and denigrated, the types of boys who need and respond to a traditionally masculine role model...
/r/MensRights08/01/13 02:00 AM
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Actually, women's life expectancy only surpassed men's recently. Might have flip flopped back and forth over time and in different nations though.
/r/MensRights04/01/13 09:52 AM
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I think they mean it's become a shorthand term to imply that someone is a misogynist.
/r/MensRights31/12/12 09:24 AM
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If this is happening to me, I'm not noticing it.
/r/MensRights31/12/12 09:22 AM
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This post makes it seem like the number of women who report a rape because they 'regret their life decisions' entirely outnumbers the women who report being raped BECAUSE THEY WERE RAPED. I think you're projecting that onto the poster, which is pretty straightforward. I don't see it at all. I would also think INFINITELY more of a guy wearing a t-shirt or putting up fliers that say 'Don't be THAT GUY-- if she's not interested; SHE'S NOT INTERESTED...' than a guy acting like this post is so righte…
/r/MensRights30/12/12 12:21 PM
0

Taxation is a completely voluntary arrangement! If you don't want to pay the taxes your government demands, you're completely free to move to another country and pay taxes there :)
/r/MensRights30/12/12 11:56 AM
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Your tax money already goes into medical research, presumably including research into birth control technologies. You can choose to be outraged about this, or you can choose not to be... but remember that pacifists have to pay for the military, people who are revolted by animal testing have to watch while their tax money funds labs that spray shit in the eyes of helpless little bunnies, etc. It's best not to think about it as "I'm paying for X." The money stops being yours when you give it to th…
/r/MensRights29/12/12 05:51 PM
9

Ouch. 1998 called, it wants its GUI design back.
/r/MensRights29/12/12 12:39 PM
1

If someone ever invents something like a breathalyzer lockout system, but for penises, they will be buried in riches.
/r/MensRights28/12/12 10:21 AM
7

I didn't see any anti-MRM comments.
/r/MensRights28/12/12 09:43 AM
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It's strange how a little bit of happiness and normalcy can sometimes be the trigger that unlocks bad stuff from the past that we've kept locked away.
/r/MensRights28/12/12 09:35 AM
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Don't make excuses for women in your life. Don't put up with irrationality because all woman are at least a little crazy. They aren't. The only woman you should marry is your best friend. Ask yourself: if a guy acted like her, would he be my best friend? If the answer is no, end the relationship and move on.
/r/MensRights27/12/12 10:04 AM
1

don't marry a stripper!! aw, but they're so sparkly!
/r/MensRights27/12/12 09:25 AM
3

Every day is how often it's applied. It's not a law the police or prosecutor can choose to slap you with or not, this is the classification for what level of misdemeanor the assault is when you've assaulted someone. If you're a man over 18, and you're convicted of simple assault on a woman, it's a class A1 misdemeanor, period. The same that she would get if she was convicted of assaulting you with, say, a knife.
/r/MensRights19/12/12 12:20 PM
2

I'm from NC and this is not a dusty old relic, it's shiny and polished from use. Perusing a copy of The Slammer, you'll see "assault on a female" all over the place.
/r/MensRights19/12/12 12:16 PM
2

It's offensively unfunny. Other than that, mostly harmless.
/r/MensRights18/12/12 02:21 PM
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You don't understand. It had to be a woman, because otherwise there might be a hue and cry that they're making light of sexual harassment in the workplace.
/r/MensRights16/12/12 10:37 AM
1

upvote for deep cut movie reference
/r/MensRights15/12/12 12:54 AM
1

Well, we no longer have dueling in the streets and generations-long feuds, so that's something.
/r/MensRights14/12/12 11:53 AM
4

There is absolutely a social pressure for women to be primary caregivers to children. And the reverse pressure on men to be the resource provider and not the caregiver. As Farrell said in his book, we need to stop stigmatizing male parenting in order to finish the job of equalizing the sexes at work. But bringing this up in discussions about the wage gap is a slithery move, because the wage gap is supposed to be about employers discriminating against equally qualified and dedicated workers and p…
/r/MensRights14/12/12 11:46 AM
1

I'm not proposing that the sub filter content, it's just a call to the community to voluntarily refrain from talking about feminists one day out of the week, to spur us to better things.
/r/MensRights14/12/12 11:36 AM
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to my knowledge, a vasectomy doesn't prevent any male health condition That's correct, but it does prevent a certain female health condition.
/r/MensRights13/12/12 10:50 AM
5

If they pass it, the courts are going to have to run 24 hours a day.
/r/MensRights12/12/12 02:37 PM
4

Are the ratings anonymous? Because only a fool would take them seriously if they were. If anyone can hop on and fuck with someone they don't like, someone will. Likewise, with anonymity anyone could just get their friends to create glowing ratings. If it's not anonymous, I smell trouble when somebody games the system to view their ratings, sees who rated them poorly, and starts looking for revenge.
/r/MensRights12/12/12 02:36 PM
0

Or maybe there are already options out there.
/r/MensRights12/12/12 02:29 PM
0

It's called a new business loan. If you think there's an underserved market, you can: take a risk and make your pile take a risk and fail, demonstrating that the existing companies were right not to make the product because the market for it wasn't there do nothing, and shut up about it do nothing, complain than nobody else will do it, and get called a whiny cretin by me
/r/MensRights12/12/12 02:25 PM
0

Complaining about how "they" don't make products ideal for your needs is something that pisses me off. Start a company and make the product, or shut up about it.
/r/MensRights12/12/12 12:44 PM
1

I wonder if people who have experienced coercion or force are more or less likely to use them on others later. Anyone seen research about this? It seems to me that our sexualities are somewhat plastic and our early experiences help mold them. If women are doing it too, there could be cycle-of-abuse thing happening as with child molestation. Abusers creating abusers. Of course, if the data shows that victims are LESS likely to perpetrate the behavior on others, that would invalidate this line of …
/r/MensRights12/12/12 11:24 AM
1

Soooooo... the information is available only to females, guys with female friends or sisters who will let them use their accounts, guys who stumble upon a computer where a woman has forgotten to log out, and guys who can spare the breathtaking 7 minutes it takes to create a fake account. How will we ever pierce this veil of secrecy?
/r/MensRights12/12/12 11:14 AM
1

I like almost everybody in my life, male female and undeclared. I love some of them all of the time, and a lot of them some of the time. I really try to like people - you really have to fuck it up to get on my shit list.
/r/MensRights12/12/12 01:20 AM
6

Too many people reject everything in a book (or a movement!) because they reject some of it.
/r/MensRights11/12/12 06:56 PM
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The Industrial Revolution replaced man's muscle with steam and then electrical and internal combustion motors for doing much of the work necessary for production. That was the first blow to the old arrangement. Medical advances reduced the infant mortality rate until a couple losing a child became a devastating tragedy, not the normal state of affairs. Without every woman having to bear and tend to a bevy of children as insurance against early childhood disease, it became more feasible for her t…
/r/MensRights11/12/12 06:54 PM
9

I quite like Camille Paglia, as a dissenting voice from within feminism. She's a real gadfly.
/r/MensRights11/12/12 03:43 PM
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You're going to get some responses saying you can't be a feminist and still support some men's issues. I just want to get in here and say that we don't all think like that. To me, it's getting overly hung up on words. As far as broadening your horizons, the sidebar is always a good start. I also recommend The Myth of Male Power by the oft-maligned Warren Farrell. I thought it was a pretty reasonable book - I didn't agree with every word in it, but it got me thinking in new ways. Here's what it b…
/r/MensRights11/12/12 03:41 PM
5

That's gold.
/r/MensRights11/12/12 11:24 AM
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The military prefers to make the call whether you're disabled or not. During the last draft there were a lot of fakers. Some used to fake being gay, but I guess that won't work now :)
/r/MensRights11/12/12 10:32 AM
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Nuance and subtlety don't fare well here.
/r/MensRights11/12/12 10:24 AM
2

Copy/pasting, but I'm not bothering with formatting. Men are like Laxatives. They irritate the crap out of you. 2 Men are likeBananas . The older they get, the less firm they are. Men are like Weather . Nothing can be done to change them. Men are like Blenders. You need one, but you're not quite sure why. Men are like Chocolate Bars .... Sweet, smooth, & they usually head right for your hips. Men are like Commercials . You can't believe a word they say. Men are like Department Stores... Their cl…
/r/MensRights11/12/12 09:48 AM
1

Yep. Race stuff bothers me a bit more, or rather I should say there are fewer contexts in which I find it harmless. But men and women have our frustrations with each other, and sometimes we need to blow off some steam about it.
/r/MensRights10/12/12 06:18 PM
3

I don't have a problem with this campaign. I'm not a blank-slater, I believe in what I can see and what I see is that boys and girls have different innate tendencies, which are then amplified by stereotypes. What's wrong with getting rid of the stereotypes, and then letting the chips fall where they may? I absolutely love cooking, and if it wasn't presented as a "girl hobby" when I was growing up, I might have found my joy earlier, maybe even made a career out of it.
/r/MensRights10/12/12 04:11 PM
2

Heheh. This very morning I got two emails from a coworker. The first was a huge list of "a man is like..." jokes. The second one was an apology explaining that it was meant to go to a different (female) coworker whose name starts with the same letters. Damned autofill! Some of them were pretty mean-spirited, but I chose not to take offense. My favorite one was this: A man is like a snowstorm - you never know when he'll come, how long he's last or how many inches you're going to get.
/r/MensRights10/12/12 04:07 PM
1

Yo means yo. Sorry, I had to.
/r/MensRights10/12/12 10:24 AM
2

Of course, if it's the best solution for a legitimate problem.
/r/MensRights10/12/12 09:26 AM
4

Nevermind.
/r/MensRights10/12/12 09:12 AM
5

I know, right? There's nothing like starting the day with a hot fresh cup of coffee and ignoring me some ableism.
/r/MensRights10/12/12 08:58 AM
1

Bit of both, I think.
/r/MensRights10/12/12 08:57 AM
3

Yeah. I identify with socialism as a political philosophy, meaning I favor state solutions to many challenges that, say, a right libertarian would prefer to be left to the Invisible Hand. But I have very little in common with the International Socialists. I've had some dealings with them, and in my opinion they are, if not a cult outright, then more than a little culty. IS people have a tendency to speak in absolutes, and they get a look in their eyes when you engage them on certain topics. You …
/r/MensRights10/12/12 08:55 AM
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There is socialism as a political movement, and socialism as a political philosophy. There's a difference.
/r/MensRights10/12/12 08:03 AM
0

How dare you? At least half of us wouldn't even consider going on a rampage like this without arming ourselves first.
/r/MensRights07/12/12 10:49 PM
1

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cisgender
/r/MensRights07/12/12 10:37 PM
5

No, because something about something starting with cis-.
/r/MensRights07/12/12 10:46 AM
3

Is the boy born yet? Also, although technically all that is required is the consent of one parent, most practitioners won't perform the procedure if you make it clear you're opposed. They'll probably tell you both to go home and talk until you come to an agreement. For a completely optional procedure that carries risks, they'd be exposing themselves to additional risk of liability if one parent is clearly against it.
/r/MensRights07/12/12 10:40 AM
2

I literally had someone say "because I have the vagina" in a debate once. I replied, "I don't think you understand how this works. A vagina is indeed a powerful tool. But you have to actually use it on me, to have any leverage."
/r/MensRights06/12/12 11:29 AM
2

You should swallow more frequently.
/r/MensRights06/12/12 11:16 AM
7

I think this is confusing empathy with altruism. They're not the same thing.
/r/MensRights05/12/12 11:56 PM
2

Nice.
/r/MensRights05/12/12 11:53 PM
1

This is a pretty good idea. If not OP, then someone should do it. How could you not win this? It's clearly discrimination.
/r/MensRights05/12/12 10:19 PM
3

Next up, banning the "You Might Also Like" feature. How dare you assume I'll like Lost because I bought all 5 seasons of Alias?!?
/r/MensRights05/12/12 08:35 PM
1

hadn't heard of him until just now. wikipedia page scan has whet my interest. if i could only read one of his books, which would it be? warning on Hoffer: he tends to get wrapped up in his own ideas, and rarely if ever puts on his "of course, this is just one way of looking at things and its all obviously a bit more complicated than this" hat. i read him for his great observations, and forgive him his grandiosity. one of my favorite quotes: "You can discover what your enemy fears most by observi…
/r/MensRights05/12/12 08:20 PM
3

That was directed at the police officers I think. Because yeah, preventing you from bullying other people and blocking them from listening to someone with whom you disagree... that's got fascism written all over it. /s
/r/MensRights05/12/12 05:22 PM
5

It's called sex for pleasure. It's been pretty popular these last couple of thousand years.
/r/MensRights05/12/12 05:10 PM
4

Eric Hoffer, one of my favorite thinkers, points out that radicals of left and right have more in common with each other than they do with any moderate on their own side of the aisle. He notes that after WWII, former fascists of East Germany went communist in droves. Hoffer's thesis (read The True Believer for more) sums up like this: it's people who hate themselves who become radicals. They project their dissatisfaction with themselves onto the world, and seek to remake it - either to create a …
/r/MensRights05/12/12 02:43 PM
3

Me too. Men's issues do not fit comfortably within the left/right dichotomy, in my opinion.
/r/MensRights05/12/12 02:32 PM
7

The context of the date rape quote was, he was talking about the far end of the gray area that is now being called rape on certain college campuses etc. He wasn't trying to defend holding someone down and forcing sex on them, he was arguing against a definition of rape that now, in some places, includes such heinous acts as asking for it more than once (that's coercion, don't you know). The incest quotes are harder to pin down. It seems Farrell did a study in the 70s on incest. He wanted to know…
/r/MensRights05/12/12 02:22 PM
3

Yeah... in sharp contrast to the Tea Party and its measured tone. /s There are nutwhacks on each side, and sensible moderates on each side. You don't tend to see the sensible moderates on YouTube, because they're at home, watching the nutwhacks make asses of themselves on YouTube, and laughing their asses off at them.
/r/MensRights05/12/12 02:03 PM
1

I've seen the interview online, but can't find it again. Might have been removed? The context as I remember it was about moving the goal post of consent on college campuses, to explicit rather than implied consent.
/r/MensRights05/12/12 02:00 PM
1

So, if an MRA says something objectionable, I should stop calling myself an MRA?
/r/MensRights04/12/12 06:36 PM
1

No True Scotsman fallacy. "Feminism" is just a word. Calling yourself one doesn't mean you hold with every idea ever spoken or written by any feminist ever, any more than calling yourself a Christian means you believe in every last bit of Christian dogma. And conversely, dissenting from some of those ideas doesn't mean you're not a feminist or not a Christian.
/r/MensRights04/12/12 02:41 PM
4

Yes, it's a hangover from decades of preparing to fight the Soviet Union. One of my parents emigrated from the UK, and I've lived in both places, so I've got a little bit of perspective. You have no idea the amount of propaganda that this country has been marinating in. The ignorance is our own fault, though.
/r/MensRights01/12/12 11:12 AM
7

Yeah, because two wrongs totally make a right.
/r/MensRights30/11/12 12:23 PM
5

The whole world is the men's wing, don't you know.
/r/MensRights30/11/12 10:04 AM
3

You want to form an armed militia to resist the evil cabal who run things from behind the scenes and will someday act out their evil plans. This is an old script with a new villain scribbled in. And it never ends well.
/r/MensRights29/11/12 11:53 AM
-2

The outrage is predictable, but I doubt that Toyota pulled the ad strictly because of it. The controversy probably just made them re-examine the ad, at which point they realized it was the stupidest car ad ever made. You don't sell sports cars with a promise that men will get LESS sex if they buy them. This looks like an attempt to take the staple "empowered woman" script and flip it onto men. It's like they didn't realize that "empowered man" ads have already been mastered, and it's what sports…
/r/MensRights29/11/12 11:50 AM
3

If you're not a troll, I think you need to take a break from the internet. Maybe a nice long walk in the park on a pretty day.
/r/MensRights29/11/12 11:36 AM
5

Correction: in some cultures, it's considered normal to have homosexual sex while claiming not to be homo- or bisexual.
/r/MensRights29/11/12 02:05 AM
35

To anyone who doesn't think homophobia can sometimes have its roots in repressed desire, I present Exhibit A - punishing slightly effeminate behavior with an ass-fucking.
/r/MensRights28/11/12 08:18 PM
2

That's some funny shit. I admire good execution even when I don't like the assumptions behind the humor.
/r/MensRights28/11/12 03:11 PM
199

"Don't dress like a woman, that's gay." Rapes him. Yeah, no internal conflict going on there. What the fuck.
/r/MensRights28/11/12 03:03 PM
2

Same sting, less likely to use it?
/r/MensRights28/11/12 11:45 AM
4

I was joking. I was pretending to interpret "yellowpages" as slang for "asian." Sorry, sometimes I forget that on Reddit, such accusations are hurled willy-nilly to the point where you can't joke about it without labeling it as a joke, or you're likely to be taken seriously.
/r/MensRights28/11/12 11:19 AM
85

Racist.
/r/MensRights28/11/12 12:36 AM
2

You're right, I read that wrong. I think I was unconsciously inserting symmetry where it wasn't.
/r/MensRights27/11/12 10:49 PM
2

Please stop talking about Wilde "trolling." Fucknuts on the internet troll. A literary genius employs sarcasm, irony, and subtext.
/r/MensRights27/11/12 12:01 PM
7

Fucking A, another "women suck" post. If the results were opposite everyone on this board would be howling "small sample size" - which it is. 26 total subjects... it signifies NOTHING.
/r/MensRights27/11/12 11:52 AM
7

Yup, identity politics sucks.
/r/MensRights27/11/12 11:46 AM
9

This article contradicts itself. It says "Additionally, girls tend to believe male teachers will look upon them more favourably than female teaching staff, but men treat all students the same, regardless of gender." Then later in the article it says "Female students' behavior is not consistent with male teachers' grading practices, since male teachers tend to reward male students more than female students."
/r/MensRights27/11/12 01:16 AM
1

In certain philosophical circles, what you're talking about is called "essentialism," and it's double-plus-bad.
/r/MensRights22/11/12 09:48 AM
-1

And the male mind.
/r/MensRights22/11/12 09:09 AM
2

thanks!
/r/MensRights21/11/12 05:04 PM
1

| I believe that custody cases involving teenage girls should give priority to the mother. Is this reasonable? Why? Hard to evaluate the idea without understanding the reasoning. | Is it possible that some cases of supposed anti-male discrimination are simply misunderstandings or results of other factors? Yes - and the same applies to anti-female discrimination. | Is it possible that we see male college rates declining because they are finding out that many male dominated trades seem to have dec…
/r/MensRights21/11/12 03:39 PM
8

She shouldn't lie, and she doesn't have to. She can just go do it; he can't stop her from having an abortion, nor can he make her get one she doesn't want. Which is perfectly just. Her body, her choice... the way it should be. For both men and women.
/r/MensRights21/11/12 03:28 PM
7

I've found great joy in putting my wife first, but I can only experience it because she puts me first. We both give each other more, I think, because we don't feel a lot of expectations coming from the other person. The whole thing would fall apart if either of us started focusing on what we get out of the relationship, rather than what we can give into it. It's like a mutual simultaneous continual trust fall.
/r/MensRights21/11/12 12:11 PM
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| Nobody is entitled to anything other than respect from one another. I always say that the two things you owe your SO by default are respect and honesty. Everything else must be agreed upon. I add honesty because if every relationship has to be defined through good communication, communication breaks when one or both partners aren't being honest with each other.
/r/MensRights21/11/12 11:52 AM
9

You say you're still in college, so you're likely pretty young, but you've already got some stuff figured out about relationships that it takes a lot of people years to get... and a lot never do.
/r/MensRights21/11/12 11:50 AM
1

The only thing I can come up with is that it's in the spirit in which the less-wealthy party enters into the relationship, but that renders it a useless term, for non-psychics anyway.
/r/MensRights21/11/12 11:42 AM
2

Then it isn't hypergamy every time a woman stays at home with the kids either (or we're just being hypocritical). What I'm trying to get at is, what's the definition of hypergamy for our times, when you have such a blend of arrangements? What's the essential difference that separates them? Or is hypergamy just becoming a useless term?
/r/MensRights21/11/12 11:41 AM
20

Gloria Sass. Never heard that one before. You rock.
/r/MensRights21/11/12 01:03 AM
3

Is it really reverse hypergamy every time a man stays home to raise kids? Or can it be a genuinely egalitarian situation?
/r/MensRights21/11/12 12:34 AM
11

I've got a folder full of old x-rays that says different.
/r/MensRights20/11/12 10:47 AM
11

Equality in education. Good idea, not even a bad execution as things go, but it's a dinosaur dating back to an era when every college administration and local school board were old boys clubs, female students were presumed to be going for the ol' MRS degree, etc. The part of it that relates to sports says that schools have to spend the same on men's and women's programs. The dicey part is, sports is sex-segregated (much of it is, anyway), but other programs, like arts programs, are not. So men's…
/r/MensRights20/11/12 10:38 AM
3

Bahahaha, this is like Stormfront scratching their heads wondering why they don't see a lot of ethnic diversity at meetings.
/r/MensRights20/11/12 10:18 AM
3

| Men's rights is perfectly in their blind-spot. It does not fit their worldview, so it can not be. Very well put. This is why when MRAs say "men need to be legally protected from false accusations of rape," what they seem to hear is "we need to protect men's sacred privilege to rape women with impunity." They simply cannot process the idea that anything in this world might possibly be even the slightest bit unfair to men.
/r/MensRights19/11/12 05:52 PM
2

The way I've always looked at it, shoehorning people into roles is the "bad," and how much that shoehorning sucked for you depended on how well that role fit you. There were undoubtedly men and women for whom those preassigned roles felt comfortable... especially since they were raised for them from birth. But there were also people who would have been much happier, emotionally healthier, and created greater benefit to society if they were allowed more freedom. For every Marie Curie in history, …
/r/MensRights19/11/12 02:13 PM
3

I don't speak for anyone else. I believe that the idea that the narrative of male oppression of female is flawed. I think a better way to describe the history of men and women is that the interests of the individual were subordinated to the interests of the community, and part of that subordination was the enforcement of rigid sex roles. The impositions traditionally put on women were more obvious, I believe - but not necessarily more odious. How do you really compare the two situations, anyway?…
/r/MensRights19/11/12 11:25 AM
4

Comedy shouldn't have to be politically correct. It sucks that if the genders were reversed there would be outrage, but let's not follow the feminist model of getting butthurt over every little goddamn joke someone makes.
/r/MensRights18/11/12 09:31 PM
2

Being careful with your language so as not to give the opposition ammunition isn't appeasement, it's politics.
/r/MensRights18/11/12 02:14 PM
0

I just finished The Victims' Revolution by Bruce Bawer. It doesn't go into the free speech fiascos that much, but it's a good look inside the ideological movements involved.
/r/MensRights18/11/12 01:46 PM
2

Imagine how comical it would be if we took the same approach to dangerous situations where the threat is not another human being. Don't tell me not to pet a mother grizzly bear's cubs, Boy Scout Manual... that's blaming the victim! Don't tell me to stay behind the yellow line when the press is running, OSHA-mandated safety sign... that's blaming the victim! Don't tell me not to eat this salami after 2/25/13, expiration date on food packaging... that's blaming the victim!
/r/MensRights18/11/12 01:34 PM
-2

Weak, dude.
/r/MensRights18/11/12 12:54 PM
8

Thank you for sharing this.
/r/MensRights18/11/12 12:52 PM
2

So, one blog post, with typos, on a site I've never heard of. That's the avalanche of feminist outrage that was worthy of comment?
/r/MensRights18/11/12 12:45 PM
3

Can you provide a source for the supposed outrage, to put this in context?
/r/MensRights17/11/12 09:29 PM
1

To be fair, "all hetero sex = rape" isn't mainstream feminist thought. I guess you could call that camp the radical fundamentalists.
/r/MensRights17/11/12 09:03 PM
1

On college campuses, an essential function of men's centers would be to provide advocacy and counseling for male students during disciplinary situations where they would face the forces of the women's centers and sexual assault coordinators, etc. It's a sad recipe for conflict, but as long as those offices keep behaving like lynch mobs, male students need someone in their corner.
/r/MensRights17/11/12 03:21 PM
30

So everybody is born out of rape. Awesome. It's like they found a replacement concept for Original Sin.
/r/MensRights17/11/12 03:14 PM
16

I think the people who think like this, would think that she's being degraded simply by coming into contact with a penis.
/r/MensRights17/11/12 03:04 PM
2

Hey man, it's just some anti-perspirant. Don't sweat it.
/r/MensRights17/11/12 01:16 PM
9

I wish you'd taken video of that. It would be really nice to juxtapose some footage of the protest to some footage of Farrell. As other people have said in this thread, it's hard to conjure up an image of a less menacing figure than Warren Farrell.
/r/MensRights17/11/12 01:12 PM
1

Well, we want to make boys better people, but not if it means admitting them into the Club of the Wronged.
/r/MensRights17/11/12 01:05 PM
1

Women who are mothers take a lot of sick days to take care of a sick child. I wouldn't be surprised if, controlling for that, you find that women actually do take a little fewer sick days, for themselves, on average. However, it's got nothing to do with men being pampered wimps, and everything to do with biology. Women have slightly hardier immune systems, which is important because even a catching a cold at the wrong time during pregnancy can cause prenatal defects or even miscarriage. Of cours…
/r/MensRights16/11/12 11:48 AM
3

I think the first global mainstream movement for men's health would be the antiwar movement :)
/r/MensRights16/11/12 11:39 AM
3

Bad at presenting ourselves? That's an understatement. Today, I got shit from someone here because I snarked him for quoting Ted Kaczynski.
/r/MensRights14/11/12 11:34 PM
1

I don't think he's insane because he tried to kill people with bombs. I think he's insane because of his written statements. The bombs just add the "criminally" part.
/r/MensRights14/11/12 10:08 PM
0

You said you disagree that Ted's criminally insane. I was just wondering how the hell anyone could regard him as being the picture of mental health, is all.
/r/MensRights14/11/12 10:07 PM
0

What exactly about Ted Kaczynski's biography smacks of sanity to you?
/r/MensRights14/11/12 07:01 PM
3

I get shit on this sub for saying so, but it's not just some sick joke, it's a necessary power for a functioning government. But we have got to hold politicians accountable for committing to armed force (whether they call a draft or not) only when it's truly necessary. Not for political reasons and not just to line the pockets of profiteers. And we have got to fix it so that women bear their share of the burden. Honestly, I think the country's ready for that - but there's no political will when …
/r/MensRights14/11/12 06:31 PM
0

When the best writing you can find that aligns with your views is produced by the criminally insane, that might be a signal that it's time for new views. But that's not really my point. My point is that we're struggling for mainstream acceptance of the ideas floating around this sub, and you're quoting the goddamn unabomber. As far as leftists and complaining... neither side of the aisle has got a monopoly on complaint. Liberals complain about the way things always have been, conservatives compl…
/r/MensRights14/11/12 06:13 PM
3

There's a visibility bias at work here. Veterans who have their shit together don't hold signs that say "Vietnam Vet, Please Help." I'm not saying we shouldn't do more for vets, just saying that "all Vietnam vets are homeless and on drugs" is a gross mischaracterization.
/r/MensRights14/11/12 11:21 AM
8

It's cruel, but it's necessary, if he's trying to fly the plane.
/r/MensRights14/11/12 11:17 AM
-2

Keep game, return girlfriend.
/r/MensRights14/11/12 11:00 AM
5

Yes, let's quote the unabomber as if he's a font of wisdom most sage. People give this sub way too much respect, let's try and fix that.
/r/MensRights14/11/12 10:53 AM
8

Yeah, keep the pendulum swinging, good idea. /s
/r/MensRights13/11/12 10:16 AM
3

Happily married.
/r/MensRights12/11/12 10:38 AM
2

I just want to point out that this line of thinking is very similar to when people cry "victim blaming" when someone says that women should take precautions to avoid being raped. You can make every moment of every day of your life a political statement about how things should be, or you can take reasonable steps to stay safe, given the way things are.
/r/MensRights09/11/12 03:57 PM
1

LOL, no. I was young and dumb... and she was even younger than me. Since she just made a mistake, and thought she was defending herself, I didn't make trouble for her. It wasn't insane paranoia on her part. It was a rough area of town and on weekend there would be guys slinging rocks in that very same parking lot. I probably had my keys laced through my fingers myself, the night in question.
/r/MensRights09/11/12 03:52 PM
1

Enjoy.
/r/MensRights09/11/12 03:36 PM
3

I'm not talking about right and wrong, or ideals here. I'm talking about how not to get pepper sprayed. If Trayvon Martin could do it all again, do you think he'd walk down that street again, just because he should be able to? If I could do that night over, I'd have stayed a few more paces back. Not for her peace of mind, but because pepper spray in the eyes hurts like a motherfucker.
/r/MensRights09/11/12 11:57 AM
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Actually, these are sensible guidelines to follow... for your own protection. Being oblivious to my surroundings got me pepper sprayed by a coworker at my first job. It was at a grocery store, and the employees had to park at the far end of the lot. So it seemed to her like I was following her across this empty lot, late at night. She probably glanced back and saw that I wasn't wearing a store uniform, which is why she got scared. The thing is... in the meat dept. we didn't have uniforms, becaus…
/r/MensRights09/11/12 11:26 AM
1

Just go back to the original pre-"advanced" rules if you want something simple and quick to play. I don't need an official rule for how fast characters can climb up a rope.
/r/MensRights09/11/12 10:46 AM
-2

IRL rape isn't funny. A fantasy RPG character choked out and sleep-raped by a zombie... that's funny.
/r/MensRights09/11/12 10:43 AM
11

Since when did the emotional state of the victim change the nature of the crime?
/r/MensRights09/11/12 10:23 AM
3

Rand's philosophical works (I can't speak to her fiction, never read any of them) are persuasive because they have a lot of these gems sprinkled throughout. The problem with her isn't that everything she says is bullshit. The problem with Rand is that she builds her case on faulty premises.
/r/MensRights09/11/12 10:14 AM
1

| Why should a man die defending a country who treats him as a disposable commodity? That's a valid and penetrating ethical question. But the business of state security doesn't trouble itself much with ethics, except for show. The real-world question would be, how would a nation go about preserving itself, when the barbarians are at the gates, without treating people like disposable objects?
/r/MensRights08/11/12 12:13 PM
4

Aaaaaaand then some nutwhacks start calling themselves "egalitarians" and spewing dumb shit, and the treadmill turns anew.
/r/MensRights07/11/12 10:07 PM
2

I think I poked the hivemind.
/r/MensRights07/11/12 10:04 PM
1

Yes of course there is a difference - in proportion but not in kind. The point is simply that when the bill comes due - whether the currency is blood or treasure - governments must use force to enforce that everyone pays in. Because of a little thing called diffusion of responsibility.
/r/MensRights07/11/12 10:03 PM
2

The draft mechanism has to be in place during peacetime in order to be spun up fast into active mode when needed. Some of the wars the draft was activated for were unjust uses of the power... I would argue that WWII was a legitimate crisis for the safety of the nation. If we'd waited to actually be attacked, the Nazi regime could have consolidated control over Europe and built an unstoppable war machine. Even if they'd lost to the Soviet Union (which they probably still would have), don't think …
/r/MensRights07/11/12 07:23 PM
1

Yes - bad regimes also conscript. In fact, those with the most contempt for human liberty will always conscript. That is exactly why we have to have the power of conscription - so we're not at a military disadvantage when we find ourselves confronted with one of those regimes. I liken the draft to nuclear weapons - terrible even to contemplate using them, but if your enemies can use them, you'd better have them in your corner too.
/r/MensRights07/11/12 07:12 PM
2

The kinds of regimes that go on invasion sprees aren't usually the grooviest to live under.
/r/MensRights07/11/12 05:58 PM
1

You could make the same argument (voluntary actions) about taxation. There wouldn't be a standing government on earth.
/r/MensRights07/11/12 05:55 PM
0

A lesser evil, sometimes. If you disagree, don't bother arguing with me... find someone who was liberated from a Nazi death camp by a bunch of conscript soldiers, and explain it to them.
/r/MensRights07/11/12 05:03 PM
8

As long as young men are ashamed to be called cowards, they can be shaped into soldiers.
/r/MensRights07/11/12 11:19 AM
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In a legitimate crisis, the government needs the power of conscription. I personally don't think it's a good idea to even the balance sheet by including women in the military draft, because while some women make good soldiers, I don't think the average woman who is unenthusiastic about being a soldier can be molded into a good one. I'd prefer to rectify the gender imbalance with a separate conscription service for women, for nonmilitary roles. As a side note, my pet proposal is that the draft sh…
/r/MensRights07/11/12 10:54 AM
10

Pointed sarcasm, and reductio ad absurdum, are useful tools in politely pointing out the kind of prejudice that doesn't think it's prejudice. When they make comments like these, don't oppose them, double down on their comments to point out how ridiculous they are. They say: "This stupid machine must be designed by a man." You say: "Yeah, why do they even take a chance hiring a man to design anything, when we women always do everything perfectly and never make mistakes? DUH!"
/r/MensRights05/11/12 02:50 PM
3

I have never heard of this tradition, but I'm adopting it this year.
/r/MensRights04/11/12 03:08 PM
3

Evolution, baby. Even a simple cold at the wrong time during a pregnancy can result in a birth defect.
/r/MensRights03/11/12 10:18 AM
6

Please don't.
/r/MensRights03/11/12 10:09 AM
1

Yeah, that book is great. It was a real eye-opener for me. Also, I'd suggest that you point out Farrell's feminist credentials when you hand her the book. He was a feminist and would continue to be one, if he hadn't been essentially excommunicated for heresy. If more voices in the feminist sphere had stuck up for him and his ideas, he'd probably be calling himself a feminist to this day... he might even still call himself one, for all I know. So he's ideologically pretty sympathetic to a feminis…
/r/MensRights02/11/12 03:36 PM
2

It's priceless when they get indignant at a measured response to their aggression.
/r/MensRights02/11/12 11:34 AM
5

Holy shit people are getting sensitive about this. It's NOT a sexualized photo, it's an appreciation of her very funny costume.
/r/MensRights01/11/12 01:02 PM
39

I thought women did 100% of the labor. When did men start getting pregnant???
/r/MensRights31/10/12 10:39 AM
2

Oh China, you so crazy.
/r/MensRights28/10/12 02:05 PM
2

I think women and men both have a lot they can teach each other.
/r/MensRights28/10/12 02:03 PM
3

Yes, a lot of women are doing sex work as a last resort, faced with the specter of poverty. But... who the fuck goes down a coal mine for laughs? This is a tale as old as time - at the very last rung of the ladder, women must accept degradation while men must accept danger... or we're "free" to enjoy our dignity on an empty belly.
/r/MensRights27/10/12 11:11 PM
3

A gentleman doesn't come where he isn't wanted.
/r/MensRights27/10/12 10:26 AM
1

One more thing: please, please, please report these monsters. I know that it will be hard, harder than anything I've ever had to do in my life. But this attack in the shed - his cold-blooded premeditation, the fact that he could think about attacking you again when you confronted him, instead of being paralyzed with fear of going to jail - and, especially, the fact that he's already linked up with two other predators - these aren't just warning signs, these are flashing red towering billboards t…
/r/MensRights22/10/12 02:00 PM
1

I was snapped at by a dog when I was 4 or 5. It wasn't a mauling, she only caught my shirt and tossed me around by it a bit. But it was terrifying, because the dog was huge compared to tiny me. My parents weren't dog people so I never had a wealth of positive experiences to counter this one bad experience. Consequently, I was afraid of dogs for a long time. It wasn't an outright debilitating phobia - I was nervous and adrenalized around peaceful dogs, and only really scared around dogs that were…
/r/MensRights22/10/12 01:47 PM
1

Well stated.
/r/MensRights21/10/12 10:31 AM
2

You wouldn't believe how many people on Reddit have thought my username was some kind of rape joke. We are abandoned.
/r/MensRights19/10/12 11:42 PM
2

They don't let inbreds run shit, they let a clan of inbreds haplessly cavort in a perpetual public sideshow of jeering distraction. The U.S. saw how well it worked, and now we have reality TV shows.
/r/MensRights19/10/12 04:50 PM
20

Better yet, bring in a treat for everyone and ostentatiously don't do the same thing.
/r/MensRights19/10/12 04:38 PM
8

Aye, remorseless eating machines they are. But worst is the eyes. Black eyes they have. Like a doll's eyes. When they look at ye, they don't even seem te be livin'... sorry, got carried away there.
/r/MensRights19/10/12 04:36 PM
2

What discipline or area of study is this for? That could inform topic suggestions. Without that knowledge, I'd like to point out a popular MR topic that's actually a seriously overlooked (for political reasons) women's issue. There's this popular head-in-the-sand denial that intimate partner violence involves a hefty component of mutual violence. We constantly hear that men shouldn't hit women under any circumstances. Which is a good message, in itself. But by narrowing the frame, the implied su…
/r/MensRights19/10/12 02:07 PM
14

Uhhhh... "I suppose I could have a child via artificial insemination but I'd rather do it the old fashioned way." THIS. IS. FAKE.
/r/MensRights19/10/12 01:48 PM
43

I think Hillary just told women to man up.
/r/MensRights18/10/12 07:53 PM
7

My girlfriend in college took a women's studies class and she was getting a lot out of it. It was spurring her to reconsider a lot of the assumptions she'd grown up with, and we had great conversations about this stuff that lasted into the wee hours. I later bumped into her professor at a mixer, and told her how much [girlfriend] had gotten out of the class, and did she think they'd ever have a men's studies class because I'd love to take it. She glowered at me, "It's ALL Men's Studies!" and sto…
/r/MensRights18/10/12 01:16 PM
37

Here's a little speech I've got saved to the ol' memory banks: "You know how male privilege is all but invisible to men unless they try reeeeeally hard to perceive it? And white privilege for white people? What makes you think that your female privilege would be so obvious to you?"
/r/MensRights18/10/12 01:05 PM
4

According to this, the Saudi royal family is more underprivileged than a homeless person in the US. Riiiiiiiiight.
/r/MensRights16/10/12 10:01 AM
8

Sub is a couple of days old, modded by some recognizable usernames. http://stattit.com/r/Cshots/
/r/MensRights15/10/12 11:02 AM
2

TIL military maneuvers = "prancing around with a gun."
/r/MensRights14/10/12 10:15 AM
2

On your edit - isn't it sad that you feel like you have to put a stake in the ground that you're not against your own gender, just because you support fixing some issues that the other gender faces? It's a common enough assumption that you, I or anyone else can be for women's issues and not be against men, but unfortunately the opposite idea is a hard sell with a lot of people.
/r/MensRights14/10/12 10:12 AM
11

Or addition.
/r/MensRights12/10/12 05:35 PM
6

I'm a bit taller and stronger, so it's hilarious when I take a shot to the nuts? Yeah, makes perfect sense.
/r/MensRights12/10/12 01:22 PM
1

After 15 years of the internet, everyone's officially Hitler. Perhaps that was his plan all along...
/r/MensRights12/10/12 01:21 PM
7

Man, I love my dad for not laying that on me. He was pretty old-school and chivalrous, but he also grew up in a very, very rough neighborhood - the kind where a lot of the girls were as vicious and violent as any of the boys. His speech went something like this: Son, you never hit a girl. No, scratch that. You never hit a lady. But a lady won't hit you. If she hits you, she's no lady, and you don't have to put up with it. Just be careful and only do what's necessary to defend yourself, because i…
/r/MensRights12/10/12 12:56 PM
1

LOL. My understanding is that men get tipped more, actually - but the advantage is proportional to men's average greater height, and the fact that tall people get tipped better than short people.
/r/MensRights11/10/12 06:57 PM
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Do those subs represent movements that are routinely vilified for being rape apologists and woman haters?
/r/MensRights11/10/12 06:54 PM
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It will be perceived as the same thing outside this sub. I'm talking about PR here, which should never be confused with reality.
/r/MensRights11/10/12 06:38 PM
4

Also, majority of pics aren't creepshots. They're mostly posed, and many are just celebrity pics from regular promo shoots.
/r/MensRights11/10/12 06:35 PM
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I checked them both out, to test the waters. Technically the same kind of content, but the comments sections make them feel very, very different.
/r/MensRights11/10/12 06:33 PM
1

Something new, or something old that seems like it's on the rise because every incidence of it can now be recorded and distributed worldwide in seconds thanks to camera phones and the internet?
/r/MensRights11/10/12 02:54 PM
20

An open letter to atheists from an atheist: Leave the thought policing to the fundies.
/r/MensRights11/10/12 02:17 PM
5

I believe that there are potential allies for men's issues among the ranks of feminists, but feminism will continue to be considered a hostile ideology by most MRAs until those potential allies emerge as actual allies, and start speaking up in support of reforms that are important to men. There are two major obstacles to that happening: MRAs largely perceive feminism and feminists as hostile to men's issues and welfare. Confirmation Bias & Friends here are the yeast that leavens the loaf, but le…
/r/MensRights10/10/12 05:00 PM
2

You're putting a moral overlay onto nature here. Male breeding competition is common among mammals because it's a meta-evolutionary adaptation. Meaning, it's an adaptation that accelerates future adaptation. Females who reach maturity almost all breed, but their offspring are limited to the number they can sequentially produce in their lifetime. Male competition weeds out inferior gene combinations and spreads superior combos across the population faster. Male competition only works when it rest…
/r/MensRights10/10/12 12:44 PM
5

I love the implication that the opposition does tolerate violence against women and children. Who's running against them, Judge A. Strawman?
/r/MensRights10/10/12 12:01 AM
1

If the victim didn't die on the spot, it's standard to separate the the act from the death like this. But usually they will say "he later died from _" or "he died in hospital of _."
/r/MensRights07/10/12 09:26 AM
5

I'm not racist but...
/r/MensRights07/10/12 08:59 AM
5

Penile adhesion - shit, I'd never heard of that. When I first started getting real erections, my dick would hurt around the scar area when it was a blue steely. I never connected it with circumcision, I just thought that it's a flexible organ and some pain was natural as it was being stretched out to its full size. Now I wonder.
/r/MensRights07/10/12 08:57 AM
1

Best speech ever - something to offend everyone.
/r/MensRights05/10/12 02:05 PM
4

Pussies don't like dicks because pussies get fucked by dicks. But dicks also fuck assholes. Assholes that just want to shit on everything. Pussies may think they can deal with assholes their way. But the only thing that can fuck a asshole is a dick, with some balls. The problem with dicks is they fuck too much or fuck when it isn't appropriate. And it takes a pussy to show them that. But sometimes pussies can be so full of shit that they become assholes themselves. Because pussies are a inch and…
/r/MensRights05/10/12 02:04 PM
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Bitch, bitch, bitch....
/r/MensRights04/10/12 07:29 PM
1

You've answered your original question pretty succinctly right here. This is why your PUA nonsense is the subject of derision. I don't buy into your little religion of the notched headboard, so you pretend to know that I can't possibly be getting laid... You sound like you're trying to convince yourself, not me. You don't know where I've been, Lou. You can't scare me that I'm going to die a virgin if I don't buy your magic beans. I had me some girlfriends in my younger days, and these last 12 ye…
/r/MensRights02/10/12 09:07 PM
1

IDK how much bashing there is in MR, I haven't seen a lot of it, but here's why I snigger whenever I see someone using the term. Because the term reeks of PUA, which is a mythology manufactured out of thin air by a handful of charlatans to exploit bitter, lonely guys. Little men desperately pursuing the dream lifestyle of a spotty 13 year-old. Because if we're going to use wolf pack terminology to talk about being a man, then "alphas" are rightly leaders, and leadership means leading - which is …
/r/MensRights02/10/12 07:52 PM
2

Also, if someone's calling you a neo-nazi and even a few people are believing them, it might be time to talk to someone (like a guidance counselor) at your school. Spreading lies and inciting hate to persecute an individual is textbook bullying, and that kind of thing can get out of hand really fast. It's in your best interests to speak up earlier rather than later. If you just go and voice your concerns, and make it clear that you're not trying to use the system as a weapon in some fight betwee…
/r/MensRights01/10/12 12:12 PM
1

This applies to any kind of dogma - whether it's political, religious or other. You don't debate people to change their minds. If two people are both willing to hold a reasonable conversation about a topic they don't see eye-to-eye on, and both are open to new ideas, yes, one of them (or both) might come around to a different way of seeing things. But most of the time it doesn't work like that. It's the bystander, the onlooker who is most likely to be persuaded. So, if you continue to stand up f…
/r/MensRights01/10/12 12:01 PM
4

In sociology scholarship, "minority" can refer to a majority group that is oppressed in the power dynamics - think black South Africans during Apartheid.
/r/MensRights01/10/12 09:32 AM
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Ah, I see. I have all this extra power because I'm a man and The Patriarchy privileges me in ways I cannot even appreciate. But I'm also simultaneously powerless, and that is also, mysteriously, down to Patriarchy. Well, if people can believe in the Trinity, I guess I shouldn't be surprised they can believe this. TIL what Patriarchy is - a one-way valve for blame. When women are oppressed, that's Patriarchy, in which all men are complicit and share the burden of shame. When men are oppressed, th…
/r/MensRights29/09/12 11:37 AM
-1

I read the title and at first thought some men were trying to stop something called Rape Club. I thought, "Yeah, I'd definitely be for stopping that. That sounds like the shittiest club ever."
/r/MensRights27/09/12 10:55 AM
3

When you explain to someone how they're labeling themselves wrong, as if you're the final authority on the matter, you tend to come off as both condescending and rather simple, simultaneously. I don't recommend it. Labels are like clothes; sometimes people pick ones that are an ill fit, but pointing it out is the wrong thing almost all of the time. You have to let people dress themselves.
/r/MensRights27/09/12 10:50 AM
2

Your girlfriend is probably just a nice, well-adjusted person who doesn't have a chip on her shoulder or a constant jones on for a superiority fix. Congrats, hang on to her :) Just like religion, feminism is a buffet. People take what they want from it.
/r/MensRights27/09/12 10:39 AM
1

I understand that it's a support group atmosphere, a safe space kind of deal. I accept that a few proverbial deceased equines are going to continue to receive their sisyphean drubbings. But I swear if I came on here tomorrow and laid out a theory for how feminism is causing global warming, I could count on at least a few upvotes. The strident butthurt about feminism really puts me off. I've called Patriarchy Theory a conspiracy theory before, and that assessment met with some approval around her…
/r/MensRights27/09/12 10:30 AM
1

De juris, yes. De facto... a woman's tears have been known to lubricate the rusty wheels of justice, in her favor. You say "the law will not protect [men] from female abusers." So, you don't trust the law to be gender-blind if you bring charges against your hypothetical female abuser, but you do trust the law to be gender-blind after you "defend yourself" against her?
/r/MensRights27/09/12 10:12 AM
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Yeah, I noticed that bit near the bottom. Wow. What I imagine happened is, a few women came to them for legal help, and naturally claimed they were innocent, and the assumptions kicked in and now they're on a crusade against the local police force and court system which is obviously on a campaign to falsely imprison abused women because evil.
/r/MensRights26/09/12 10:54 PM
4

uhhh... good luck in jail?
/r/MensRights26/09/12 10:50 PM
5

Maybe this is irrelevant, but if one of your problems is that there's only one email address field in their database, you can set up a third email account, give that address to them, and set it up to forward all mail to both you and your ex. It won't help with snail mail of course.
/r/MensRights26/09/12 10:33 PM
3

No, I'm referencing the BJS stats that truthjusticeca linked to. Unless I'm missing something, the numbers for total violent victimization show males on the receiving end of 51%.
/r/MensRights26/09/12 05:39 PM
3

| Gentlemen: We need to stop treating feminism with kid gloves. In a feminism world, being a CSWM with a brain is as bad as being a black man at a clan rally. Gentlemen, we need to ease up on the hyperbole.
/r/MensRights26/09/12 03:19 PM
2

I usually avoid running down feminism/feminists. However, this reminds me of an old joke: How many feminists does it take to screw in a lightbuTHAT'S NOT FUNNY!!!
/r/MensRights26/09/12 02:18 PM
4

And yet violent crime statistics keep going down across the board. Curiouser and curiouser.
/r/MensRights26/09/12 02:15 PM
6

I have to say, the victim complex in the air around here gets a bit stifling sometimes...
/r/MensRights26/09/12 02:11 PM
1

Constantly?
/r/MensRights26/09/12 02:10 PM
3

Yes. The law is not cosmic justice and crystal balls are not standard issue police gear. Most people have a bias toward action, in questions of justice. But sometimes, when it's impossible to feel confident you have the truth of what happened, the closest we can come to justice is simply to do nothing. It's a painful concept for most people... and the nonstop stream of police shows where everything gets wrapped up nicely just in time for the commercial break only reinforce the childish expectati…
/r/MensRights26/09/12 02:09 PM
3

51% and some change... hardly overwhelming.
/r/MensRights26/09/12 01:43 PM
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It stands to reason that, if male children can thrive with a female primary caregiver, then the reverse should be true. From your story, I'd say the thing to focus on is making sure your wife spends enough time with your daughter, not worrying that you're spending too much.
/r/MensRights26/09/12 01:01 PM
6

That's 5 to 7 for Assault With A Stereotyped Weapon.
/r/MensRights25/09/12 09:08 PM
0

I've never been to r/anarchism before. That was hilarious. What a clusterfuck of utter stupefaction. That place makes MR look like it's got its shit together!
/r/MensRights25/09/12 09:02 PM
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