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rboller/r/Divorce_Men19/07/23 01:23 AM
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rboller/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 08:20 PM
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rboller/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 02:33 PM
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I’m stealing that 👆
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/26 04:40 PM
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I feel you homie
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/26 02:50 PM
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1/2 ask are you ok the other half say congratulations
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/26 02:08 PM
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Go to Asia homie
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/26 04:58 AM
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I’m in almost the same situation. Just be explicit and honest. No need to feel guilty. I think a little validation and warm companionship is healthy after what we’ve endured.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/26 02:40 PM
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I’ve traveled a lot alone, but not while I was married. Getting back to it was very liberating. It forces you to be present and takes you out of rumination patterns, professional and social roles, and daily reminders of things that bring stress and grief. Just buy a ticket and go. Don’t overthink it. 50-100$ a day budget for SE Asia is solid. Other countries/continents the travel costs vary significantly. DM if you want more info.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 07:37 PM
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I took a month to Thailand/Vietnam. Highly recommended
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 06:30 PM
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Absolutely not. I repeatedly took responsibility and worked on various things to improve myself and the marriage with sincerity and devotion. Ex did not. The more I tried, the more she withdrew and neglected our relationship. I’m seeing a distinct pattern in these comments.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 08:44 PM
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I spent over a year trying to win my wife back while getting constantly brushed off. Paid the bills, worked out, blah blah blah…acted like a kind prince. Nothing worked and in retrospect, I wasted a year of my life, felt less and less worthy every day, and was reduced into a shell of myself. Temporarily lost confidence, sense of humor, but ultimately not my pride. I’m walking away knowing I did everything I could to save the marriage. Unfortunately, she did not and was somehow ok watching me str…
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 02:36 PM
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I did the opposite. I stopped drinking to clear my head as my marriage was failing and my mom was dying. Best decision I ever made. No way I would have kept my shit together over the last 2 1/2 years without sobriety. Don’t do it bro.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 11:59 AM
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I think you bring it up subtly and perhaps abstractly like via a discussion of gender roles. If not it seems like it will be a grain of sand that will eventually cause resentment. Gotta be able to negotiate values, whatever they may be, with a longer term partner.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/26 10:48 PM
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Considered separation &/or counseling?
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/26 03:47 AM
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I tried so much harder than she did. I got tired of feeling like she didn’t give a shit.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/26 04:48 PM
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Calmer than you are.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/26 01:42 PM
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It’s definitely hard to make a big generalization like that, but man I feel you from my situation and I had the same question because I read posts here first years and it seems to be the same story over and over…taking no responsibility/gaslighting/victim mentality/walk away wife. My divorce was finalized yesterday and I look back at how hard I worked on myself to save it while she constantly blamed me for everything wrong in the marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/26 01:28 PM
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I have zero patience for anyone who doesn’t meet me 1/2 way, which is nearly everyone
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/26 08:09 PM
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Upvote can relate
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/26 07:53 PM
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Neither. Koh Yao Noi & BKK
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/26 02:10 AM
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Spent a month on the beach in Thailand & bought a Cadillac
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/26 01:27 AM
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Great post. Lean on your homies. Dig deep and remember who you’ve always been.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/25 02:06 AM
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My lawyer is currently writing up our marriage settlement agreement in CA. I’m on an idyllic beach in Thailand. It’s pretty sweet fellas
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 05:06 AM
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Oh yes, the ledger. This post will most certainly be added to it.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/25 07:59 PM
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You lost me at engaged
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/25 08:08 PM
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I agree and I’m lifting. I’m stronger, have some agency over looking and feeling better. Why else might it be particularly helpful during divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/25 07:02 PM
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Dude you’re 31. I’m 53. I basically lost my chance to have a family bc I stayed too long way too long in a relationship that wasn’t working out.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 12:01 AM
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I’m going through it atm and I appreciate this sub very much. Consistent thoughtful, constructive and empathetic feedback from the homies.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/25 03:24 PM
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I definitely would not get married again. Travel for long periods of time. Meet people outside of the U.S.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/25 12:35 AM
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Feeling similar, but I’m 53. Would love to start again in my late 30s.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 06:47 PM
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Let’s host a stbxws Thanksgiving party somewhere
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/25 02:51 AM
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Beautifully put. This really hits home with me. The lack of sexual and emotional intimacy, the distance and inability to be myself. I always knew who I was, but my humor and spontaneity eroded. It was so hard to just be me around her because she had one foot out the door for years.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/25 04:32 AM
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Dude plenty of time. Im 51 with the same regret
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 01:14 PM
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Not ok with it…feels violating and even as I type this I’m feeling uncomfortably conspicuous like I’ve not felt before on this sub. Also probably 99% of men on here would never consider posting on a divorce women sub.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 12:22 AM
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30s are awesome. Enjoy every moment
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 09:56 PM
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You’re 31. You have heaps of time.
/r/Divorce_Men09/02/24 06:01 PM
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There’s definitely something to this. My wife has been to multiple therapists over the years. Each time she changed therapists, she has new language to diagnose our relationship. I’d say fair enough IF the diagnoses weren’t consistently about what I was doing wrong coupled with zero accountability for her communication and actions.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 06:38 PM
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Agree to disagree. Some women prefer taller men, this is true. Some do not. Some don’t care. Why be concerned with what you can’t control? That’s not toxic positivity.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 06:14 PM
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Reality is relative. You have a lot of control over your attitude or you live a victim mentality and reap what you sow
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 04:23 PM
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So what’s your advice?
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 02:44 PM
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Self-confidence is 1000% more attractive to women then height. I speak from experience. If they’re looking for tall, they are looking for a show pony. It’s shallow bs.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 01:43 PM
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5’6” ain’t that short bro. Stop tripping and get on with loving yourself. That’s what makes a person attractive
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 04:02 AM
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Every day. I’m eight months post filing. We live separately, but share a dog we both adore, and get along better than we have since we met. We’ve talked about reconciliation, but both of us are scared shitless of it imploding again and are protective of our hearts and sanctuary.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/24 03:26 AM
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Hide a significant amount of cash
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/23 04:59 AM
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Man does this resonate with me
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/23 07:03 AM
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I call bullshit. Two way street.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 03:11 PM
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They only want equality when it benefits them
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/23 07:28 PM
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Omg same. Zero responsibility for anything. I’m such a shitbag in her eyes. Gets exhausting
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/23 09:47 PM
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I actually went to the courthouse (15 miles away) twice. The first time I was gonna file I was partially delirious and I forgot to make copies so they told me to scram. I slept on it yet another night. When I finally filed yesterday, I couldn’t wait to get on with it. I gave her a million opportunities to be the person she vowed to be. At the end of my rope, I know I upheld my end. I’m out.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 02:11 AM
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Same. F%#!. I’m not happy about it. We had a plan together. But you pushed me too far. I’m glad I was the one to file bc, wtf, you didn’t uphold your end of the contract & I need to live my life.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 01:35 AM
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I filed yesterday. Weight lifted. I waited patiently as she continued to put me down. No mas
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 12:42 AM
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Filed today. We do have some community property as my portfolio has been partially funded with income. We keep separate bank accounts. There are records of the financial gifts. The co-mingling of investment monies is where I see the potential for disagreements. Here we go.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 11:54 PM
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NOPE
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 10:29 PM
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SE Asia tour to start. I did it for a year at age 40. Best yr of my life.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/23 05:02 AM
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Fortunate you. I’m 50, gonna lose a bunch, got flabby, no clue who to flirt with so as not to be a creep. Not down for dating aps.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/23 11:18 PM
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I have the same question. My stbx and I have been physically separated 8 months and are about to try to a meditated D. I made a significant amount in the last six months that went into my personal account. Are you contesting the separation date?
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/23 06:03 PM
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What’s mine is ours, what’s your’s is your’s
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/23 03:23 AM
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This hit hard. I’ve been in limbo for a year. I’m writing this down and taking action
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/23 01:38 AM
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My money was our money but her money was her money. Thats my situation exactly.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/23 07:31 PM
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Thats exactly what I anticipate unfortunately.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/23 02:41 AM
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I get that & it likely would precipitate divorce. I’m no longer financing her, except for health insurance. When she moved out, I told her I wouldn’t pay her rent. The only benefits to her would possibly be expediting a divorce & being true to her word that she wasn’t after money. Yeah I know you’re likely thinking I’m fooling myself. Maybe I am. This decision would be easier if I didn’t still love her.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 09:30 PM
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I think that scenario would be brutal, but it might make things easier for a clean break. But no, I don't believe she has been with anyone, unless she's lying to me. We share our dog and talk almost everyday. I've already raised the possibility of a postnuptial and she's not filed. I told her today I want a postnup or I would be filing for divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 08:39 PM
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