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red_blue_and_hot/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/16 11:14 PM
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red_blue_and_hot/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/16 07:07 PM
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red_blue_and_hot/r/askMRP23/08/16 10:00 PM
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Sounds like you are suggesting Males here have an Action Plan. Hmmm, a MAP. Where have I heard that before?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/17 05:03 PM
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Apparently you got the male-chastity model, not the ravish-me one. Good luck with that.
/r/askMRP28/08/17 11:17 PM
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Try establishing safe words.
/r/askMRP28/08/17 09:20 PM
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This is more graduate level, but AA can be wonderful when she's being pissy. Once she's in your frame, it's a good way to get her to realize for herself that's she's being pissy, and since it's not about you (you're owning your shit, right?), she's trying to take out whatever js really bothering her on you. Usually it lightens the mood and prompts her melt in your arms for a hug and an "everything is going to be alright" from her oak after an apology/explanation from her. (I put "apology/explana…
/r/askMRP28/08/17 08:56 PM
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Not a shit test. Fart test, maybe? See if you can stand just a whiff of shittiness. Think of this way. Mentally replace her with a male friend. One of them says you jinxed the order. What's your response? Joke around about it, likely. That's all that was going on here. She was just bantering, and he took it personally/seriously.
/r/askMRP15/08/17 01:06 AM
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Ever watch volleyball? See the play where the one player just pops the ball up, and the other comes flying over and smacks it across the net? That was her setting it up, expecting you to spike it hard. You didn't even touch the ball. Do me a favor and ask her, next time she wants to banter with you, to light a fucking flare first. Maybe that'll make things obvious enough to you. I can feel from here her boredom with the dry-ass ribs in the same shitty pub. She was begging, pleading, for just a l…
/r/askMRP15/08/17 12:55 AM
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Yep, it's a complement. Treat it as such.
/r/askMRP14/08/17 12:47 AM
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Don't cover it up, we all know /u/weakandsensitive figured out the password to your account. Now, OP, he's 100% right. All of it. Remove your head from your ass so you can go unfuck yourself. If you're worried about slipping back to old behaviors, there's a reason why it's better to frame (word choice on purpose here) a date as "I'm doing X. Want to come along?" rather than "Will you pretty please do X with me?" But, if you always leave off the "Want to come along?" part, you're not having a rel…
/r/askMRP13/08/17 03:46 PM
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I think it's less how many pieces you cut your leave into, and more of a lack of mission during it. Were you at home the whole time? If so, why? If you're in your own town, you know what activities there are, and you can spend some time out of the house doing them. I seem to remember a dread level about being social and finding stuff other than her to do. Hell, even grabbing a coffee and sitting on a park bench reading alone will get you away from your wife for a while. And, don't tell me you ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/17 03:29 PM
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I fucked my wife last night and again this morning, so that seems like a good rewarding of work to me. But, if you get off to Participation Gold Stars from some bot on the Internet, well, people are into all sorts of things.
/r/askMRP09/08/17 03:57 PM
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In each case, you assertively paired a "No" with a more attractive "Yes". 1: No, not the usual routine. Yes, a playful family and a good time with your wife. 2: No, not focusing on his wife and marriage. Yes, focus on the man and his desires. 3: No, we're not communicating like that. Yes, you can calmly ask for a $150 change and get it. WISNIFG teaches how to say "no", which rejects the other person's frame. This is a necessary first step, but also where a lot of people get stuck. They don't tak…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/17 02:36 AM
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Your wife as you walked in the door: "Wow, he looks happy. Almost like some other woman hit on him. But, nah, wouldn't happen, would it? He hasn't found where I hid his balls, has he? You know, he does look pretty happy, and... kinda sexy. Let's throw a shit test his direction... see if he's worth fucking. Hope he passes it, that'd turn me on." "Nope, same Jimbo... sigh I really wish he could pass my shit tests... I could use a real good fucking. Maybe next time."
/r/askMRP29/07/17 10:20 PM
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With the Matrix, I don't remember at all what her hair looked like. I do remember a nice round leather-clad ass as the police tried to handcuff her, though.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/17 02:10 AM
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I've become more and more convinced it'd be better to change "withdraw attention" to "redirect attention" when talking about this. "Withdraw attention" is what you do when you are butthurt and want to punish her. It's all about not giving her attention, but as a result, your still in her frame. You are basing your actions on her actions. As a result, it's picked up as Rambo by newbies and their wives. What's implied (or even outright said) by the levels of dread is that you have a social life an…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/17 02:02 AM
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Fuck her first thing in the morning, before breakfast. Add "of herself" to her excuse, and A&A from there. Tomorrow night, give her a dinner plate with exactly 5 peas and the tiniest sliver of chicken, with the required smirk, so she won't be too full. Offer to plunger with your cock from either or both ends to help clear her out. Go out to eat because you're still hungry because she obviously ate all of the food. Point out that you can tell, since her clothes have been "shrinking" lately. Offer…
/r/askMRP13/07/17 09:27 PM
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Don't tease the comment... what changes did you make to get her to stop in public?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 06:06 PM
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I mean, there are so many possible replies... Her feet aren't working, oh my. Or, she must really be hungry, to think of such bullshit. Warn you if she is going to faint. Or, you remembered you have a date. You can drop her off on the way. Or, great, you can pick up your girlfriend, and make it a threesome. Or, you got dinner for her already, but she kept running her mouth and you got hungry, so... it was a delicious dinner. Or, well, you knew I was bad before we got married. shrug It's not my f…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 02:07 PM
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Turn it sexual: "I've got your dinner right here, with a cream-filled dessert." "No, a good husband would fuck you silly.." (as you initiate) Or, amused mastery: "Oh, really? Is that a rule, or more like a guideline?" "Is that on one of those Cosmo lists? Like 10 best sex positions, or how to tell if he's into me?" "You know I'm terrible. I'm so horrible, I might even make you wipe your own ass, too. Oh, the horror!" Or, agree and amplify: "You're right! What would my highness like? Should I get…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 01:26 PM
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I've gotten the "you have to be quick" before, too. It's amazing how the tune changes when you've gotten her revved up, and then stop, repeating the same thing back to her.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/17 02:18 PM
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Funny, right afterwards, she loved when I took off my shirt and showed her my dick. At least, it seemed that way with all of the dirty, slutty things that came out of her mouth as she was fingering herself to "the best orgasm I've had in months." But, anyway, you do you.
/r/askMRP30/06/17 05:12 PM
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It's done fast, half-assed, with things broken. Sounds like he doesn't put forth the effort to do it correctly.
/r/askMRP30/06/17 01:52 AM
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Shit tests that you fell for -- hook, line, and sinker. Translation: "I'm doing my duty fucking you, you unattractive loser ass, but you keep asking for more. This is more work than I bargained for." Answer: become more attractive, and work on DEVI, so that it turns from work she does for you to a treat she gets from you.
/r/askMRP18/06/17 07:41 PM
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To reply to my own comment, about what to do. You following her around to "make sure she's ok" is pretty beta behavior. Her feelings are her own. You need to become comfortable that sometimes she'll be angry or unhappy or whatever at something you don't know, something you can't control, or sometimes at basically nothing at all. Said another way, your default assumption that her anger is at an actual issue shows you are still in her frame. It should be an understanding that if she's angry at an …
/r/askMRP18/06/17 07:33 PM
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Need more info... Or, maybe she let herself go and forgot about the kids. Then the baby intrudes, and she feels guilty and angry at herself, and takes it out on you. She's "not good enough" at being both a wife and a mother. Or, she was really into it, and wanted a few more orgasms. The baby intrudes, but she can't be mad at the baby for being a baby. So she takes the anger at the intrusion on you. She's "not good enough" at being a mother to not be angry at her own child. Or, she has really bee…
/r/askMRP18/06/17 07:20 PM
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Ask a different question, get a different answer. "How did you like the food? Do you want to go back?" "Eh, it was ok. Maybe try it once more." "What are your feelings about date night? Story time!" "I had an awesome date night! I love my husband so much! Oh, and there was some food too, whatever."
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/17 04:36 PM
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A thought: the two different reviews served two different purposes. The one with you was forward looking, answering the question "Do you like this enough to go back?" As a result, she was more analytical and honest about it. I mean, she doesn't want to back if it sucks. The one with her girlfriend was about social standing, not about the restaurant. Does she has a good enough relationship to not be bored (remember boredom equals death)? Your wife knows the other girlfriend doesn't give two shits…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/17 03:48 PM
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You don't. Women say, men do. Look at it this way. Let's assume he was cheating. What would be the last thing he'd say? Anything about other women, because he doesn't want to be caught cheating! But, his actions would change. He becomes more fit and more social, providing the means to cheat. He starts getting out the house more often, creating the opportunity to cheat. And his motive changes away from constantly chasing her around the house for sex. He becomes more relaxed and more fun, if he is…
/r/askMRP17/06/17 02:09 PM
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Actually, I think he absolutely should go stir some shit up. Start an argument, treat her like the oldest teenager in the house, use A&A, display AM. The whole post reeks of "Mommy, look at me now." and him being afraid to offend her. Offend her! What is she going to do... be a bitch about it? Sounds like she is already. Get the feelz going, and show that IDGAF attitude. Another thing I notice from the post is fitness and income, but I don't see anything about activites. Where's the social step …
/r/askMRP17/06/17 02:35 AM
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Pick one thing: be it cooking a single extra meal, sleeping an extra hour, going out a single night this week, whatever. Pick a single thing, and commit to doing that one thing this week. After you've accomplished that thing, pat yourself on the back, and then pick another single thing and do that in addition to that first thing. You need to treat willpower like a muscle. Right now, you've loaded your bar up with triple your body weight, and then you are kicking yourself that you can't get it of…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/17 12:25 AM
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I laid off the donuts all last week, and only lost 7 pounds. I feel totally cheated. At this rate, after 6 months, I'll be huge at 42 pounds on a 6' foot frame. This is terrible; please send donuts to make me feel better.
/r/askMRP13/06/17 01:17 AM
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Slightly less flippant reply: STFU is going to help you not fail shit tests, but won't let you pass them. As you lift and read, you can start to use AM and A&A to pass them. Reading will also point you to creating a MAP, which will chart your course forward. And, reading and applying what you read will make next steps obvious. The other thing is that by focusing inward, you're less likely to go Rambo and blow everything up. The thing to remember when you fail a shit test is that before this you …
/r/askMRP06/06/17 08:04 PM
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STFU. Lift. Read. Repeat.
/r/askMRP06/06/17 07:57 PM
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About the date, instead of "Let's go bowling", do "We're going bowling, so dress for that." The former is a first officer making a suggestion to the captain; the latter is the captain charting a course. Of course, she can (and probably will) still balk at going bowling. Assuming it's just a garden variety shit test, the answer is really, "You're going to be bored by yourself while I'm knocking 'em down." (i.e. you're going anyway, she's just welcome to tag along). Likely she will continue to giv…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 07:49 PM
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She apparently doesn't know it yet, but she has it backwards... she gets to have sex with you frequently, not she has to provide you sex frequently. Need to keep working on the dread. On the plus side, should be easy to AMOG, and could provide an opportunity for some preselection from the other two wives. You're being given wonderful practice for A&A, AM, etc. And, don't forget to game, kino, push/pull, and tease your wife in front of the other couples. That'll pay dividends in the long run.
/r/askMRP19/05/17 08:32 PM
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(My response to your deleted comment:) Fuck your marriage. We only care about the man here, not the relationship. Few things going on here: Oneitis: you've got it, and you've got it bad. Obviously all you care about is her, and your relationship with her, and her feelings for you. Which means you don't have: Abundance Mentality: You have to realize you have other options out there, and that you are the prize, and then treat yourself accordingly. To do that, you must: Dread: the thing she should …
/r/askMRP12/05/17 05:29 PM
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Yes. Next?
/r/askMRP12/05/17 04:59 PM
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"You're not affectionate" isn't "I want more cuddles.", it's "I want to fuck. Can you please fuck me good and well?" Dread is to get her to want to fuck you. The good news is: she wants to fuck you! The bad news: you still haven't gotten the memo. Right now, get off the Internet, go to her, rip her clothes off, and fuck her brains out. Be dominant, be out of control, be completely overcome with her sexiness.
/r/askMRP12/05/17 04:05 PM
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You have to be in right frame of mind, finding amusement in your situation, and not really give a fuck if your humor bombs (which it will -- shit seems way funnier in your head hours later than it really is to other people). Hmm... frame, AM, and DGAF... where have I heard that before? It also helps (for specifically this only) that my default response to most things is sarcasm or dry humor.
/r/askMRP11/05/17 09:08 PM
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You gave way too many fucks... Perfect time for AA and AM: "Yeah, I'm a terrible man. Wanted in 10 states. Most of the stories are true, but that incident with the clown and the balloons was someone else." "Oh really? Got a daughter?" "News to me, but guess we weren't married then. MIL/FIL would never lie, after all."
/r/askMRP11/05/17 04:10 PM
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Well, yes, but there are usually more subtle ways than burning bridges with C4. You do you, though.
/r/askMRP11/05/17 04:03 PM
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Also, from a practical standpoint, calling your MIL a gold digger and threatening to hit your FIL is not a way to get invited to future family gatherings. A smarter approach would have been to play it cool, STFU, and put it all on your MIL/FIL. You got your fee-fees hurt because you gave too many fucks what the neighborlady thought. Use the anger, instead, to lift more heavy weights. That's all in the past though. What happened was that you were a low-value man, and then you got angry that you w…
/r/askMRP11/05/17 03:56 PM
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So, in a nutshell, you want to tell them No to apologizing without feeling guilty? Fortunately, there's a book right on the sidebar all about saying No without feeling guilty...
/r/askMRP11/05/17 03:42 PM
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Fuck you, I work hard for this shit. I ain't no special snowflake, just expecting everything handed to me, so I can Just Be Yourself. No one's going to give me shit, just because I showed up. Life don't have a Participation Award. I don't get to be lazy, and put on the the pounds, and still expect to get laid on the regular. I gotta work hard to get my ass to the gym and lift. Lifting is hard work, motherfucker. And then what do I get? Sore. I gotta work hard to read the books in the sidebar, an…
/r/askMRP02/04/17 01:13 PM
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Translation: "I have to say 'No', but then I'd feel guilty. How do I say 'No' without feeling guilty?" Lucky for you, there's a book right on the sidebar with the title of "When I Say No, I Feel Guilty." Seems related? As a side note, a regular thread here is "Own Your Shit." Your child's safety is definitely "your shit." Own it.
/r/askMRP03/03/17 03:25 PM
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Try this: "You're preventing the first time we're all able to be together in 10 years!" "Yep."
/r/askMRP03/03/17 03:11 PM
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Constant thirst, frequent urination, and fatigue are symptoms of diabetes. From the rest of your description, it doesn't sound likely that you have it, but a blood glucose test is very, very simple.
/r/askMRP31/12/16 07:41 PM
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Agreed. Beyond inviting Jack to your place, you could also hang out with Jack somewhere other than your place. Spend time with a good friend, don't deal with the drama of the wives not getting along, and build some dread. Sounds like win-win-win to me.
/r/askMRP13/12/16 05:35 PM
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Oh, I would have informed her that, yes, I did all of that. I also managed to not stop breathing in the meantime, and not forget my name, and not fall on my head while walking. Now that we're done with the complicated stuff like keeping my heart beating, is she ready yet, because the car is leaving in ten minutes. Also, did you brush your teeth because, woah, I can smell your breath from here. And, change out of your houseclothes into something reasonable... really, you were going to wear that? …
/r/askMRP13/12/16 02:08 AM
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There are some women that have no desire to fuck like this, but there are many, many more that do, but are with a man that is sure she doesn't. Having a covert contract of having her cum is not caveman. You can't be focused on getting yours if your primary goal is her getting hers.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/16 11:56 PM
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First, my response to "wanna chat?" would have been "sure, later, when I am awake" or simply "no" rather than a Nice Guy yes. How do you expect her to pay attention to boundaries that you don't enforce? Second, like most people, if you ask me for something when I'm disagreeable, I'm more likely to disagree. Waking me up early to talk, especially after I've said not to, makes me very disagreeable, and so might likely get whoever wakes me up the exact opposite of whatever they want. Outside of tha…
/r/askMRP30/11/16 04:35 PM
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Sounds like you need to add some variety.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/16 12:16 AM
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Also, you probably added to her stress with the cleaning service, rather than removing it. Social presentation is very important to women, even presentation to a housecleaner she might see only once in her life. She doesn't want the cleaners to think she's dirty, so of course, she has to have the house clean before the cleaning service arrives. (Yes, not logical. That's why she's the woman and you are not) Given that, arranging a cleaning service while you are gone means you've put an artificial…
/r/askMRP18/11/16 05:43 PM
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I read the sex being off the table as hard no's from her, not punishment from him. Something that sticks out at me is that it takes an extended period of time for her to get her wits back. You know how sometimes in war movies, everything is fucked up chaos, and the the general shows up? He calmly starts issuing orders, people kind of exhale, and shit is instantly better. That's what you want when you show up. Even if she has a massively stressed out week, just seeing you should make a bunch of t…
/r/askMRP18/11/16 05:08 PM
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There are two problems here: you and her. Of course, you are the bigger problem (or probably the only problem). Recognize that her anger is her anger. She is texting you vaguely aggressive stuff because she wants some place to put her emotion. She is begging for an oak to lean on; you are not even cooked spaghetti. Basically, you are taking her problems way too seriously and giving way too many fucks. Don't get drawn into her frame. Be the oak. Your first mistake is to engage by asking what's wr…
/r/askMRP16/11/16 08:26 PM
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The pets were just the drama du jour. Now, if you're not sure how female virtue signaling relates to drama, I can't help you, son.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/16 06:49 PM
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Keeping you up once is just an argument. Weeks of deliberate action that will put you in the hospital is abuse, and for me, abuse is grounds for divorce. But, you want to divorce well-rested. In the meantime, as others said, get a hotel, apartment, or crash at a friend's place. Also, because I'm an asshole, the idea occurs to wake her up early in the morning on the way from the hotel to work to continue the discussion.
/r/askMRP09/11/16 09:39 PM
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Immediate answer: "ViriliterAge said no. Call him and talk with him if you have any questions." Longer term solution: your wife needs to read and implement WISNIFG. Basically, she needs to set some boundaries.
/r/askMRP08/11/16 04:09 AM
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Out of curiosity, what makes you feel like I have little frame? "I certainly hope so, but this hasn't been the case for anything in my life really."
/r/askMRP31/10/16 10:01 PM
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Your frame is your reality, of which you have little or none. Ignoring her and the relationship, you still need frame to get through the process of divorce. And, then there's the next relationship afterwards. The fact that this is a bad relationship is your fault, and if you don't get your shit together, the fact that the next relationship is bad will also be your fault. When it comes time to initiate divorce, you won't have to ask, you'll know through and through, right down to your bones.
/r/askMRP31/10/16 09:26 PM
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Don't. The fact that you're even asking this means your frame isn't ready yet.
/r/askMRP31/10/16 07:41 PM
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Marcus Aurelius was obviously a morning person, given his ability to construct sentences with actual nouns and verbs.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/16 08:17 PM
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Step 1: WISNIFG. Read it. Re-read it. Step 2: Decide what you want to do. If the decision has any consideration of guilt from Mommy or your wife, start back at Step 1. It might help to locate your balls at this point, too. Step 3a: If you want to go, use Step 1 to inform your wife. Then, once there, use Step 1 to set boundaries and defend your wife from Mommy. Step 3b: If you don't want to go, use Step 1 to inform Mommy. Do Step 3a next time you visit your parents, because you'll have to anyway.
/r/askMRP17/10/16 08:11 PM
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Why did your wife have to text you? If you change up the routine, inform your first officer. Don't DEER, just logistics, like a one-line text as you are going out the door.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/16 07:18 PM
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If only there was a entire book around about saying no and not feeling guilty about it... nah, that's just silly. Obviously, you should learn from the master: start to ask her to fetch water for you and she how she responds. That thing she's doing there, that's called frame. You want some of that. This is a place where STFU doesn't really work well. It makes you look either butthurt or hard of hearing. A&A works better. Would her highness like anything else? A full body massage? Her enemy's head…
/r/askMRP11/10/16 12:27 PM
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It also helped me to eat half as much as I think I need, wait 30 minutes, and then ask myself if I'm still hungry. More often than you would think, the answer was no.
/r/askMRP23/09/16 08:31 PM
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Keto worked great for me. If by "acid buildup", you mean ketoacidosis, there's a very big difference between that and dietary ketosis. You really only have to worry about ketoacidosis if you are diabetic, and really then, if you don't have enough insulin on board to feed your cells the carbs you are eating. Look into /r/ketogains as well as /r/keto for building muscle while on keto. Obligatory mention: the books by Gary Taubes. Also, make sure you aren't researching until the middle of October t…
/r/askMRP23/09/16 07:58 PM
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OP, read and internalize this first, and then work on the other comments later.
/r/askMRP22/09/16 06:08 PM
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What the hell, I'll assume this is legit and be nice to you. Out for drinks, pick up another bottle of wine on the way home, and this is typical. Does your wife have to get drunk to get herself to fuck you? Also, typical for "date/sex night"? Interesting that you would put those two concepts together. Is it because you've got a covert contract that a dinner date begets fucking, or is it something she's insisted on, because she needs the time at dinner (and the alcohol) to mentally prepare hersel…
/r/askMRP22/09/16 04:41 PM
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When little kids fall down, they tend to look up at Mommy and Daddy to see how to respond. If the parents come running over hysterical or even concerned, the kid starts balling. If the parents act like it's no big deal, usually the kid is up and playing happy within a minute or two. Seems like the same sort of thing happened here. She got riled up, and afterwards he was able to talk with friends like nothing bad happened. So, in her mind, nothing bad happened, so why did she get so riled up? Led…
/r/askMRP21/09/16 02:54 PM
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Obviously, you can't just leave it at "No, I didn't do it." but you can still own your actions. Usually, it's followed by "I will go do it right now." or "I will as soon as (some condition is met)." Sometimes, it's "It can't happen, because (reasons)." That's still way better than "Ugh, no, I couldn't because (whine whine whine)."
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 09:06 PM
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It is totally a shit test, not a comfort test. She's seeing if you will wait around for the possibility of pussy, rather than doing what you want to do. First of all, you shouldn't feel bad about missing Sundays. You're at work, not out partying. You have Fridays and Saturdays off. You are available to be with her, and she doesn't want to. The real issue isn't a logistical problem, it's just that she doesn't want you as much as you want her. She can have cock whenever she wants, with you waiting…
/r/askMRP17/09/16 04:08 PM
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Finish WISNIFG, and make every therapy session all about fogging and negative inquiry. You aren't there to make judgments on her progress. It isn't the time or the place. Hell, she isn't even there for judgment in her progress - she's there to get her feelz out and get validated by the therapist. Handle expectations outside of her therapy, and focus on specific actions instead of an overarching "cure OCD" target. You already know not to DEER, and to STFU. This was just a learning experience. Eve…
/r/askMRP16/09/16 03:41 PM
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The Elysian Fields were basically heaven for the ancient Greeks. If you pleased the gods, when you died, you were sent off to a paradise where you didn't have to toil. You could relax, because things were good and they were easy. They were safe. The Garden of Eden was paradise on Earth. Every need met. Things were simple, and you could relax without toil. When man and woman fucked up, they had to leave all of that and go work the hard land. They had to worry because things were difficult. Death …
/r/askMRP12/09/16 10:27 PM
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I thought that was exactly what /r/askmrp was for?
/r/askMRP09/09/16 05:54 PM
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Not signaling you are unhappy with the relationship puts you in her frame, because you are still basing your actions on her feelings. You are unhappy... own that shit. Just don't expect her to fix it for you. It's your marriage -- you fix it. I suggested this to another poster, and he completely missed my point, but what would happen if you ignored your wife and went out with a younger, prettier woman? Don't fuck her if you don't want to cheat, but go have legit fun. Go to a baseball game or som…
/r/askMRP08/09/16 01:18 AM
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Answer honestly: "No, I'm not pissed, but I am going to sleep now. Good night." (and then broken record the shit out of "Good night")
/r/askMRP03/09/16 12:21 AM
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But, but, I like that truck...
/r/askMRP28/08/16 01:08 AM
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Agree with the comments already here, but one thing stood out to me: The date night to a 5-star restaurant. If there's a particular place you've been wanting to go to for forever, and she can come along, ignore this and go right ahead. But, more likely is this is a covert contract where spending a lot of money "entitles" you to sex afterward. This just leads to increased shit tests. If you "get lucky", you might get duty sex. Thinking more, even if it's just a place you want to go, tread lightly…
/r/askMRP27/08/16 06:38 PM
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Yours and the other comments show from a strategic point of view I need to lower my expectations, keep improving, keep escalating, and expect a slow slog. There's no quick fix here. From a tactical point of view, there's some good approaches like the coconut spa that will help lower her ASD. Thanks for those.
/r/askMRP24/08/16 04:53 PM
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I think a bot might work here. One that replies with something like: "A. You're a faggot. I know this and I haven't even read your post. B. You probably haven't read shit yet, have you? There's the MRP sidebar (here), there's whole fucking books right (here) that have the answers to exactly your faggot problem, there's askMRP (here) for newbie shits like you who don't know shit about shit, and there's only been a thousand other victim puke posts like yours before here from other faggots who don'…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/16 03:47 PM
1

Rock bottom is a solid place to build a foundation. Love this. Have an upvote, and I'm shamelessly stealing this.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/16 10:35 PM
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You do you, but for me, it'd be a cold day in hell if I have to buy a safe to keep someone living in my house from touching my stuff. My wife used to move my stuff around, too -- wasn't gaslighting, she was just cleaning (as per her definition of clean) and didn't pay attention to what she was moving where. I solved that by getting angry a few times and point blank telling her don't touch my shit, especially when I'm working on something, in about as many words. Now, we have an agreement that th…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/16 06:58 PM
1

Nope, you misunderstood. I fucked up a ton with a lot of things, but something I did get right was that I did not have a victim mentality. Way before MRP, I knew the issues I was having was my fault. I just didn't have the knowledge of how to fix them until MRP. Hence, if you check my post and comment history, you won't see any "I'm slowly taking the pill, and signed up at the gym... next week I'll go and do some cardio. Now that I've decided to work out, why won't my wife start fucking me again…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/16 02:31 PM
1

I'm that guy, but you didn't hear me say it because anyone with that attitude will also do what I did: STFU, read, and lift. You only get victim puke from victims, who by definition have a victim attitude, instead.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/16 05:58 PM
4

According to WebMD, everyone has cancer.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 03:44 PM
3

So, basically, AWALT. Seems like a perfect time for A&A. Of course you took her wallet and sent it up to the North Pole to show Santa how bad a girl she's been this year. It should be a short step from "bad girl" to having her blush and giggle. Or, you stuffed the wallet in the dryer, and now it's visiting all of the socks that have disappeared from there over the years, chilling on a Bermuda beach drinking a Mai Tai. Or, you put your hands all over that dirty, dirty wallet, and did things that …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/16 06:12 PM
1

On this point, he'll know he's "made it" when he laughs at her bitchiness instead of being drawn into an argument. OP, you are giving way to many fucks to what she's thinking or how she's feeling. You need to look at her like you would a six-year-old who just got told she couldn't have ice cream. Also, a thought... some women just need to get fucked. If she's both being bitchy and accusing you of withholding sex, those two facts might be related.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/16 02:55 PM
1

I brought you flowers. Don't worry about your back -- you know you're the only one for me, hairy back or no.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/16 07:18 PM
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There's deeper theory here. I'm just not sure what it is. I'd encourage you to keep notes while you are reading, follow this train of thought further, and see where it gets you. Just from what's here, it seems it could be very useful.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/16 04:24 PM
1

And possibly cheating and projecting on him, since she's constantly worried about him cheating.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/16 09:12 PM
2

I agree it applies to raises, dealing with pushy people, and all that, but I disagree that it applies to getting your wife to put out. First, you can't negotiate desire. Second, negotiating sex for a price... sounds like you married a whore. You didn't marry a whore, did you?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/16 11:59 PM
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Sounds like a teenager begging for attention. Maybe I'm just an asshole, but I would have "quietly" mentioned that "she's not feeling well, if you know what I mean (wink), so please excuse her attitude." And then I would have left her at home for dinner, because, you know, she's not feeling well. Maybe some embarrassment will do her good. On the other hand, you could just straight-forwardly inform her that she can like it or not, but your family is your family, they're not going anywhere, and th…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/16 05:24 PM
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Translation: "I'm not feeling tingles any more, and I don't know why."
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/16 01:46 PM
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The fact that she sees it as a "reward" says it all. Slow it down, lift, read the prereqs, and work on you. Remember, you are the prize. Act like it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/16 01:45 PM
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A comfort test was likely the undercurrent, but it was presented mostly as a given, hence my solipsism comment. My response was that honestly, it was about the same amount of stress, but a different type of stress.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/16 01:25 AM
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Maybe one day
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/16 01:16 AM
3

Mostly a ten second kiss, or something along the lines of "Yeah, I missed that." after sex. There was also some joking in there, too.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/16 01:06 AM
2

Somewhat less than a year. Although I had been making MAP-like self improvements for a couple years before that, without having the framework to put it all together. Having a victim mentality or an external locus of control was never an issue. In fact, some of the lowest points in my life have been me fighting far longer than I should have at no-win situations. Level 5-6, although I know I'm weak in levels 3 & 4 and have been working on those, too. Kind of a special case though, because right be…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/16 04:48 PM
2

Be sure to read the /r/keto FAQ about ketosis strips, because they can show little to no ketones even if you are in ketosis. More generally, be sure to read the /r/keto FAQ. Also useful: /r/ketorecipes and /r/ketogains
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/16 02:19 PM
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Nope, they totally felt they would be honest when the question was asked of them. That's not lying, right? /s
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/16 06:01 AM
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Sounds like you're the dog who caught the car, and now doesn't know what to do with it. Which, first of all, shows it was always about the car, and secondly, means that you don't have to keep sprinting and now start riding. A different metaphor: you've won the war, now you've just got to keep the peace.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/16 08:37 PM
1

What's the phrase... "It's just your turn"?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/16 04:13 PM
1

Way to go. Not only did he get to go, but got life lessons about delayed gratification and the value of money. Awesome
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/16 03:58 PM
5

Seriously, I want to sincerely thank you from the bottom of my heart for your time and sacrifice to protect and defend my right to tell you are being a little bitch right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 04:06 AM
3

"Prior planning prevents piss poor performance." Sounds familiar?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 12:48 AM
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He's Canadian, so you're going to have to convert from metric dicks to Imperial dicks, which sounds like a lot of work for a pair of dicks.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/16 11:36 PM
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Just from the title: covert contracts and validation seeking. Reading the post: yep. Since you're just venting, you already know all of this. What are you going to do next time so this doesn't happen again?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/16 11:18 PM
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Sounds like you are on the right path. A pound every week to ten days is considered a healthy rate of weight loss, so just keep that up, and keep keeping him happy in the bedroom. Twenty months will pass by quickly, and is nothing compared to the decades I know you want with him. You can decide to tell him you are losing weight, or not, but I'm sure he'll notice way before you lose the whole 60 pounds, anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/16 06:50 PM
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Good. And, you should have gone originally, instead of chatting with Jack below deck. LifeProTip: when you have a disagreement with someone, and are getting it resolved by some authoritative third-party, you actually have to show up. Default judgement doesn't just happen in courtrooms.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/16 06:39 PM
2

Are you going to get riled up when your son gets disrespectful or doesn't listen to you? (you know, after he grows a bit more and starts talking) If so, you're going to spend the next 18ish years permanently riled up. If not, same thing here. As a matter of fact, if you want a master course in frame control, talk with a toddler. Just think of this as practice until he gets to that point.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/16 06:28 PM
1

"No, I absolutely don't want something to happen to my son due to the birth control, but I'm confused how Paragard would. Schedule another appointment. I'll go with you this time because I want the doctor to explain it to me, too." You'll have to "remind her" a few times, it sounds like, because she'll "forget" to schedule it or be "too busy." But, after she does schedule it, this time go with her, hash it out, and get it done.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/16 06:23 PM
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I know there's likely more to this than a bullet point, but if it were me and I found out my wife was having an affair, I wouldn't rush to the bank to combine banking accounts. I mean, there's a lot of other stuff I would do and wouldn't do, but I do wonder how becoming even more financially entangled would look if a divorce does end up happening.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/16 05:05 PM
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Six weeks, eight weeks, hell, even twelve... this is all weeks and based on the advice of a doctor. Eighteen months, though, that's just insane. She thinks that now that you have a baby together, she owns you. Game's over... she wants to take your balls, and go home.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/16 06:25 PM
2

"It feels so much better now" This is the key phrase in the card.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/16 11:51 PM
3

I'm down about 60 pounds at this point from my heaviest. My diet changed because of getting diabetes and changing jobs. I got a glucose meter and starting measuring before a meal, one hour afterwards, and two hours afterwards. Watching as my blood sugar spiked after eating carbs, and replacing those carbs with fat and protein led naturally to eating a keto diet. This was all around the same time as getting a new job that came with a gym. So, diet and exercise led to a huge reduction of weight re…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/16 11:31 PM
1

For both you and OP... you do you.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/16 06:55 PM
2

No, you absolutely did not understand what I was asking. Here's some basic 101. You were shot down 100% of the time. Twice she slept in a different room, and has reacted with hostility to any sexual conversation. I don't care where you think you are on the dread scale, but she's feeling no dread whatsoever. She is 100% confident that you are going nowhere. Now, why would she think that? You are attempting to sext with a woman who has literally slammed the door in your face. You've initiated 8 ti…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/16 09:51 PM
1

Honest question... what do you think your wife would do if you started dating this new woman openly in front of your wife? (not fucking her, just allowing her to be your beta orbiter and giving her attention) Do you think she'd feel some dread or do think she'd be happy you are out of the house? I think that would tell you if this marriage still has a heartbeat.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/16 04:44 PM
1

That's probably the worst approach actually. You are thinking of it logically, but for her, her feelings are likely that you are first butthurt before submitting to her after a bit. You should just say "You're right, I should do that" and then go do it (or whatever you had already planned to do before she said anything). Anything else is entering her frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/16 02:22 PM
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I guarantee that if she got butthurt enough to break out another set of keys, she shit tests you constantly. It's just that you are too incompetent to see it. If she really thinks you should put things back to where you took them, put her out at her father's house. Maybe he'll put up with her shit, because you sure shouldn't.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/16 01:28 AM
1

You can make Satan look practically angelic if have the right graphs. Edit: for those without a theology background, the belief is that Satan was, in fact, an archangel who became prideful and was thrown out of heaven. And, yes, I know humor doesn't work when you have to explain the joke, but we've already covered that me making a living as a stand-up comedian is a long shot.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/16 03:26 PM
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She'll never be cool and you need to go re-read about the concept of a shit test. As a gimme: would right after you delivered on something emotionally important to her be an expected or unexpected time for a shit test? What does that shit test say about her opinion of how you handled the double date? If you want cool, get a dog.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/16 01:10 PM
1

Oh, I'm hilarious. Puns and knock-knock jokes... I can do both kinds of comedy.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 10:48 PM
1

Or, you know, both in fourth grade and unsure about your sexuality
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 09:30 PM
1

Well, when a man and his penis love each other very much...
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 02:27 PM
1

And thus, you've clarified in my mind why I vastly prefer MRP over TRP. They're running a religion over there, but over here, it's practical and about what works.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/16 02:24 PM
2

Seems like there are two different issues here: her medical issue and how she is approaching it. About the medical issue, assuming I'm reading this right and she went to a medical professional, did some tests, and got an official diagnosis of some specific issue, then generally it's going to involve that (or another) medical professional in fixing the issue. I mean, if she had a broken leg, it'd be pretty obvious what to do. Treat this the same way. Also, I've found it frequently necessary with …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/16 03:30 PM
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Not sure if this is really a way to fake alpha body language... ...or just a complicated way of saying "Go lift!"
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/16 09:46 PM
6

Apparently you hurt someone's feelings, and feelings are reality, don't you know? If iron sharpens iron, what does play-doh sharpen? Also, I wish them well holding frame in a real-life discussion with a breathing girl, if they can't even handle some comments from some anonymous guy over the Internet. And shit tests? Don't make me laugh. MRP really is TRP on hard mode. Doesn't look like he could handle it.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/16 07:28 PM
1

She married you, which means that at some point you were what she wanted him to be. Now just to get back to there.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/16 06:13 PM
1

I agree, actually. The point is to own the fact that marriage is a sexual relationship, so yes, you want sex with your wife, and if your SMV is high enough, she really wants sex with you.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/16 02:31 PM
1

"All you care about is sex." "Sex, you say? Sure, you might get lucky tonight, if you play your cards right." (with a wink and/or a smirk) If you've cooked, or even better, gotten takeout: "You want me cook and then fuck me, too... you really like to take advantage, don't you?" (with obvious mockery) "No, I care about getting some sleep afterwards, too, so we're going to have to limit ourselves to only half a dozen orgasms each." "I don't have a one track mind. Wait, did you say 'sex'? Sounds li…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/16 07:59 PM
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Ok, so I refrained from wading into this bullshit before, but fuck it. RPS's position is that marriage is always a bad deal for men. TFA writes that if he were to do it again, he'd still get married to his wife. Whoop-de-fucking-do! If a cow had balls, she'd be a bull. If your mom didn't fuck all those guys, she wouldn't be a whore. Who gives a fuck?! The fact remains that if you are visiting MRP, you are very likely already married. Maybe you were always blue pill, maybe you were alpha before a…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/16 03:29 PM
1

It's a small difference between "This is the way it's going to be. If you don't like it, I can find someone who will." and "This is the way it's going to be. If you don't like it, you can choose to leave." The latter is what happened back when both husbands and wives considered the union immutable, and there was a stigma associated with divorce. We're on the former because those social mores have changed generally in the West, but maybe not so much in particular subcultures.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/16 08:54 PM
1

Third possible reason: you have no game and are expecting her to initiate as if you're the one wearing heels and a thong. Frequent starfish sex means she's mentally into the relationship, but you've got to get her vagina wet and on-board. Remember, attraction is not negotiable, and that's exactly what you are trying to do. Looking at it another way, she's seeing you mostly gone and busy, doing nothing to warm her up when you are around, and then complaining about the sex when it does happen. Wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/16 09:04 PM
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Nothing new. Back in Small Town, USA, didn't you think the milkman knew Mrs. Robinson was married? I'm sure he shook the guy's hand after church on Sunday, and delivered extra cream to his house on Tuesday and Thursday.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/16 09:19 PM
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Does your carpenter friend have a son? You know, because a husband would never subject his wife to something as dirty as sex, so if they have one, it must have been a virgin birth. I'm guessing he's a bit old for the birds and the bees talk.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 08:16 PM
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If you do end up getting a divorce, (quietly) let it be known that she didn't have sex with you for years, yet you tried to maintain your vows. One, everyone will understand the divorce. Two, it might encourage some of the single women to "comfort" you. And three, maybe it'll motivate a little action into some of the other dead bedrooms. Just a thought.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 05:26 PM
1

Simple. Sit them both down together at the same time, and in turn with the other listening, say exactly these words: "Listen, I'm tired of you being a bitch to her. She is a part of my life, and there's nothing you can do to change that. You don't have to like her, but you do have to get along with her. If you can't or won't, there's the door." The part about together with the other hearing is important. It makes it clear that you are putting yourself as the prize and not the other woman. It's a…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/16 03:29 PM
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I subscribe to and comment at MRP. I just ignore TRP. Make of that what you will.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/16 01:39 AM
1

About the shit tests the day after enthusiastic sex, I saw that too. I used to get pissed off by that, thinking "WTF. I thought things were turning around, and now it feels like I'm back to square one." This is showing that things are improving, though, and she's trying to convince herself of it. She gets attracted to the alpha, which is why the sex happened, but the next day she has doubts how alpha you really are, which is why the shit tests happened. I found that, at least for me, AM and A&A …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/16 11:33 PM
2

There's no immediate and virtual; it's all internal. You don't relate to people -- you relate to your own conception of those people. We see that all the time with victim pukes and newbie intros talking about their wives. Everything, virtual or physical, is to you magnified, diminished, or distorted by your own thoughts, feelings, and previous experiences. And, it's the internal that is subject to control, and always has been. It truly is a prison for your mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/16 08:22 PM
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A good barometer of whether you are doing something for yourself or as choreplay is what you do afterwards. If you run off to tell someone, usually your wife, then it's choreplay. Better is to look at your work with pride for a moment, and then move on to the next thing stoically. Word of warning: the biggest thing we see with the newly unplugged is that they get gung-ho and ruin their marriage the first week or the first month. This isn't a sprint; it really isn't even a marathon... it's a life…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/16 12:06 AM
1

Counterpoint: sometimes guys need it pointed out to them how much their are in her frame by the ratio of "I" to "she" on their post. Granted, just once, and even then, most guys don't get it, but still.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/16 04:34 PM
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Let's see what has happened so far. She denies sex, you improve your diet for her. She denies sex more, you improve your fitness for her. She keeps denying sex, you improve your appearance for her. Now you are here asking what to improve next for her. Why did I put "for her" on each of those? Because your actions speak loud and clear that you are doing all of this for her (look at actions, not words, remember?). You make an improvement and then ask her if it's enough by asking for sex. You get b…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/16 05:55 PM
1

That's some super advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/16 02:05 PM
1

Read WISNIFG. After that, if you don't have the answer to this question, re-read WISNIFG. If after that you still don't have the answer, do your wife a solid and divorce her, because she would be better off with, well, pretty much anyone else.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/16 08:30 PM
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She might come around or she might not. But, the real answer is it doesn't matter. The general rule of thumb is 1 month of work for each year of marriage. If you have four kids, I would bet you've been married for a lot longer than 2 years. Right now, you still need to lift, read, and work on your MAP. You need to work your MAP no matter what she does, because the goal is a better man, not a changed woman. Anything else is oneitis and a covert contract. You haven't been at this long enough to ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/16 01:52 AM
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My AWALT moment was realizing how hard my wife really wanted to be pounded. For her, hair pulling and choking are turn-offs, but it's amazing to me how much I can punish her pussy fucking her, and how she's sweet, smiling, and cuddly afterwards.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/16 03:20 PM
3

Completely agree. What do you think the chances are that he ends up watching the kids when she has a girl's night out, and Chad "just happens"?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/16 07:28 PM
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You know, after 4 hours, you should call a doctor.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 10:06 PM
2

Got mine skittles, like this: http://www.candywarehouse.com/assets/item/large/skittles-candy-valentine-heart-133088-im1.jpg She thought it was cute, and I got a laugh in my head that she was happy to get skittles.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 04:26 AM
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You're confusing "how" with "what". "Just be yourself" is instruction on how to get what you want. It says to keep eating pizza and playing video games, and somehow, sex (or whatever you want) will fall into your lap. As we all well know, that shit don't work. "You do you" is a comment in what you want, rather than how to get there. It's an indication that your goals are not my goals, but they are equally valid for you. As a recent example, if you like the ballet, you do you, and go get prime se…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/16 03:49 PM
1

Given her past abuse, I'd say Domination needs to come last and you need to work on Immersion, with positive reinforcement, but very slowly. Start by praising her after the BJ you're getting now, without guiding her head or coming in her mouth. After a while, dial down the praise until she does something that expands her boundaries, even a tiny bit, or when you can tell she gets more immersed when you are fucking her. For example, depending on your position, just rest your hand on her shoulders …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/15 04:50 PM
1

Like you, I'm new to MRP, but I can see exactly when you fucked up this time (I'll let the others talk about the overall principles). You took her "waste of man juice" response as a hard no when it was token resistance at worst. The "I'm horny" and "I want your babies" is her initiating... a very good sign. She's begging you to bring the Alpha and take her. You respond pretty alpha with what you want, and she puts up a bit of resistance. Note, it wasn't "Eww... that's gross." or "Fuck no, what a…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/15 06:28 PM
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