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redwzrd/r/Divorce_Men20/04/25 03:11 PM
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redwzrd/r/Divorce_Men06/04/25 01:20 AM
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I found that on my last long bike ride I couldn't stop thinking about the loneliness. And riding use to bebmy zen place
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/25 08:35 PM
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I canceled most of my TV subscriptions I want to use every second in a more productive way
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/25 08:32 PM
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It's not that it's about her it's more just being lonely. But will try to redirect thought to something else
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/25 06:40 PM
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Thanks. glad it's working out for you now.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/25 04:06 PM
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I feel your pain and am going through those thoughts of how, why and wtf. I know you can't keep her if she doesn't want to be kept. And I can accept her leaving. But it has left me so broken and depressed that I don't know how to deal with my self. I don't do well sitting in my own thoughts. How do these woman become so heartless, so cold. How do they just turn it off.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/25 02:59 PM
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Uggg this thread gives me no hope... 8 months out and I'm still struggling with the loneliness from time to time. Want what I had just not with her. I'm going to delete the apps. Haven't met up with anyone yet but talked with a few. Kinda feels like desperation on there.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/25 12:29 PM
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I try and break my mold I had for her, who she was to me in my head. I would have taken her back up about a few months ago. But I've talked my self into reality. She didn't care enough to stay she didn't care enough about you she didn't care enough to work through it. Fuck her. She left because she probably wanted someone else. If she left she wasn't the one and longer you take to except that the long it will take to meet the right one. It's a cold world out there and most of those woman will ju…
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/25 12:14 AM
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Good to stay strong. Think you should cut her off and maybe she will really feel what she lost. And you can move forward with your life
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/25 01:52 AM
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I'd say set your own boundaries. It's a divorce and its over you don't have to keep contact. Is she just reaching out because she's lonely? Would she still reach out if she had some one else? Mine has reached out multiple times and I go no contact. Think she reaching out because she's lonely. And in my head I'm like fuck her she wouldnt be reaching out if she was still involved with the guy she left me for.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/25 01:18 AM
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Sorry to hear this. Hope you find your strength. Focus on your self your well being. Focus on the kids, you can't control what she does. She's like a blackmore and she will destroy you if you let her. Be your own star to yourself and your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/25 03:30 PM
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Yes how do they just turn it off. Like 16 years she was my lover my best friend then boom she doesn't even care.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/25 03:21 PM
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Yes I had an episode about a week ago were I was so deep dark I felt lost. I was at the gym trying to not cry. I was apart of something the best thing now I have nothing.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/25 03:19 PM
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unfortunately those thoughts are there but its not the answer. i have felt so lost with who i was and am that i wasnt sure i wanted to exist. step by step day by day and you will move past and beyond those thoughts. got to find things to do keep busy. "this too shall pass"
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/25 04:36 AM
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its a cold world out there. i never thought id loose trust in woman but this one did it to me. i dont know if i will trust agian
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/25 03:41 AM
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yea i couldn't look at her the same like she was a different person and i wasnt attracted to her anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/25 03:31 AM
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glad your in a better place. mine tried to villainize me and say i was abusive to make it okay with what she was doing. she was similar with money never saved never invested. then took a bunch of my savings when she left. i know she will be the first to move on and the thought of that hurts. but i know im not ready. i have been talking to a few but not with plans to date.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/25 03:29 AM
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thats tough man. mine lived at home for 4 months while we filed but moved into the spare room. she was having an online affair with someone.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/25 03:24 AM
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that's why we are here, a community for each other. i used this platform to vent, ask for help and to help others. sharing helps even if its just typing whats on your mind.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/25 01:37 AM
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i dropped 30lbs and have been in gym for 7 months.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/25 01:35 AM
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6 months here. But I haven't really tried to find anyone. Before my ex I had a bunch in rotation now I feel like I'm not that guy anymore. Still want to jump on everythingbi see but also kinda just don't want to deal with anyone right now.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/25 10:26 PM
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It's definitely a factor. That stats don't lie. Heard a stat the 70% of divorces Iniciated after the age of 40 is done by woman. Heard so.e woman defend it by saying that after the kids move out they are just done with our bullshit... definitely hormones
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/25 12:49 AM
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Thanks and hope all is well for you too. It's like we are walking on a bed of ashes and only way to get through it is that next step. Step by step day by day we move closer to being out of the fire. We may not see the end because we are focused on the pain, but I'm sure we will make it. The gym has been really good for me and I'm in the best shape in over 20 years. My focus is to be ready for beach season. 😄 I try and do just small things around the house aswell. Stuff that just got neglected be…
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/25 02:56 AM
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I bought a new bike with the what I precived to be ring funds that will be replaced with said sale. I'm calling my bike "broken promises"
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/25 04:54 PM
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Mine are in a bag. I'm going to have them cleaned fixed and appraised. Then I will sell to put back into my saving to recoup some of my losses. I was also able to get the promise ring that preceeded the engagement ring along with a few other small pieces.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/25 04:44 PM
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I am okay sometimes haha, just riding the wave.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/25 12:03 PM
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Thank bro. I'm good most the time and as time passes it gets easyer. But It wasn't a clean cut I had to keep having interactions with her. It co.es in waves but as it passes I know I can do it
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 05:25 AM
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Correct we want what we thought we had. If it was so great she wouldn't be leaving. In her head she probably moved on a while back. Like this guy said they are calculated she's already got other plans and it probably has a six pack abs
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/25 08:52 PM
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You hit the nail on the head no accountability. I never got any from my ex either even though I caught he talking to another man. It's all my fault...
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/25 07:32 PM
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Sorry bro just went throught same thing except she vilianized me to make her self feel better about what she was doing. She's not even calling out what and why she's leaving you. She's betraying g her younger self....wtf... that's a bullshit reason she probably has someone else in mind. Or already started a nother relationship ship. Things to remember going forward and it's going to be tough but you can't keep a woman that doesn't want to be kept. I'd advise looking up Rachel sloan on YouTube Sh…
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/25 07:30 PM
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Same I found her talking to a new guy and she just wouldn't acknowledge what she did it was all my fault because she wasn't happy. She will never see her fault in any of it. She just villinized me to make her self feel okay with what she did.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/25 02:42 PM
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She said she wasn't happy for a while I caught her talking to someone. She never once said we should need to do so.ething or we are heading towards a divorce. We were not perfect but we weren't bad enough for that. We always were doing things together and going on little adventures. She was happy she just let another man distract her.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/25 04:10 PM
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i am and will. been hitting the gym 5 days a week for the last 5 months, got some reno plans for bathroom and living room. looking forward to summer got plans to do more solo hikes.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/25 02:22 AM
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its all crazy . today just processing the fact that its over and shes gone. the person i was to spend the rest of my life with and slept next to for the last 16 years is just gone.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/25 01:30 AM
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yes im catholic and thought we entered a contract with each other and god.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/25 05:06 AM
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already got new cabinets for the bathroom and plan much more in the house. you hit the nail on the head with the betrayal. i thought we made a promise to each other to be together for ever. broken trust
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/25 04:42 AM
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i tell everyone the truth, i tell them i found her talking to someone else then she said she wanted a divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/25 12:44 AM
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Same she held off on telling me because she knew it would be hard for herself. Well I don't feel bad if she struggles, but the truth is she will probably just find someone else to take care of her. She can't manage her own money. She's already blowing through what she got in divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/25 01:22 AM
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Sucks sorry man. I know what it's like and it's not easy. Don't get locked in your thoughts wondering what you could have done or care what's she's doing moving forward. The thought cycles are what eats away at your mental health.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/25 12:47 AM
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My Friday night routine is the gym and then stop at a good pizza joint and have a big beer. Then go home and watch a movie with my dog
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/25 08:13 PM
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I'm living g that same life she just moved out now my house feels empty. Feels like I'm living in ghost house
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/25 01:11 AM
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I k ow hard to just move on from the one you gave your everything to. I don't think I'd be ready for a while
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/25 12:09 AM
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It's all been filed with court and should be final within the week
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/25 12:08 AM
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I'm moving her so she won't be able to steel anything
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/25 09:07 PM
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I'll take alook
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/25 04:02 AM
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Not with her. My daughter and her two step son
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/25 03:40 AM
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I know I'll make it through just struggling right now. In the gym every day but that only temp distracts. 2025 will be a year of self improvement and pushing myself out of my comfort zone. "Fear is the mind killer "
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/25 12:29 AM
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Sorry for that I'm glad we never did have any together.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/25 12:20 AM
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Sucks when they just change and there not your person anymore. Glad she got clean for the kids but sucks that's her main focus. Acknowledge it's not your fault and you will be better off with out her.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/25 04:39 AM
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Can't shes o. The deed. Soon as paperwork is final she's out
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/25 08:56 PM
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My divorce ist even final and she hasn't moved out yet. She has plans to meet up with her online lover. Told her she need to be gone before that happens because she's not comming back to my house after her little affair.... talk about kick in the nuts.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/25 09:44 PM
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Sorry you had to do that I know it's hard. My daughter's 21 and I cried telling her that me and her stepmother were getting a divorce. I felt like a failure like I ruined the family we had built because I failed keep her happy. Chin up he's still your son hopefully the coparenting thing will work out. My marriage gave my daughter 2 brothers by marriage. No regrets there.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 10:31 PM
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dam similar with my wife. she got caught talking to a guy online from another country. she made it clear she has too meet this person. they have plans to meet he is flying to the states for a fling. even if its what she dreamed of then what.... she threw away everything we built and had for this fantasy..
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 06:29 PM
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gym as much as possible to be bigger and better Work on house bath reno and living room Ride my bikes as much as possible 4, enter in to a race to prove and push my self. (also it was her dream F her) spent every second i can outside at beach and hiking
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 06:18 PM
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Any time. I'm down 25 bls because I couldn't eat for like a month when I found her talking g to someone else. But I rolled with it and have been in the gym for the last 4 months looking the best I have in 10 plus years. Focus on you and your kid. As hard as it is you can now do what you want for you. We tend to loose our selves being a dad and a husband sometimes or just make sacrifices for the family.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 07:47 PM
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Same here emotions are wild if you let them be. Learning to control them and not let them control me. Things I've learned. It's her choice not mine and I can't control that. The sooner you make peace with that it will help lighten the load you are carrying. What she does from here on out is out of your control and you can't let it bother you. You have a right to feel the way you do. There will be lots of ups and downs. When I'm in my downs I reach out to family or friends. I also found a divorce…
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 04:14 PM
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Ranks today she texted me that she found an apartment. So maybe for the first of the year she will be go b e and I can really start the process of moving forward
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/24 03:45 PM
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We didn't have kids together. We raised our together 16 years. Then found her talking to someone else. It's over We are going our separate ways and won't see each other agian..
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/24 02:02 AM
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slay it king... i hope soon to be there as currently dont feel alot of self worth and tons of reservations about getting back out there.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/24 12:36 AM
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Keep your chin up man. We go through trials and tribulations but it will only make us better and stronger. We are here for you and each other. They say steel sharpens steel. You are not alone alot of us know what your dealing with.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/24 11:58 PM
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im not at a year out yet only 4 months but have same thoughts that who is going to measure up to my ex. they will never be her. but your going to be stuck in that thought cycle to you change your way of thinking. i went deep down the rabbit hole of divorce coaches. found rachel sloan on youtube and alot of what she talks about helps. your going to have to rewire your brain on how you think. free your self of that burden or it will drown you
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 04:20 AM
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thanks appreciate that. i know alot of other men get the shit kicked out of them in this process. and honestly this whole group has been therapeutic for me and not feeling alone.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 04:02 AM
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thanks. i know trials and tribulations make us harder, sharper and better in the end. maybe she finds what shes looking for. if you love them let them go and dont look back
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 03:52 AM
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wow..... sounds like my soon to be ex wife. but the kids all just hit 18 and older now she want this fantasy romance she seeking out with someone else. she just villainizes me so she can make her not so clean exit. we could have worked on things i told her i was willing. and we wernt even that bad off we did a ton off fun things and had a great sex life. my 80% didnt do enough for her so now she seeks that 20% with some one else.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 03:50 AM
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sound different but sounds kinda nice, especially when we are at our most vulnerable. going through what we are going through its natural to want some of that contact that was ripped away from us. i was talking to a coworker about how upset i was and how i just want a hug. she asked if id like one and she gave me one. it was nice and instantly made me feel better.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 03:30 AM
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That's good to hear and congrats on your growth. I'm new to this and going throught it all right now. Sharing and reading what others are going through has helped. The more we share as a group the better off we all are.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/24 12:38 AM
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I have been listening to Rachel Sloan on you tube it helps. Have to retrain your brain. Re wire your thought patterns. What they have done to you will never be okay but it doesn't have to own you. You can forgive her and give up the power your giving her over your life. I was with mine for 16 years and a couple months in she's telling the new guys she wants to be his wife. I'm choosing to ot care what she does with her life. I let her go mentally. When the intrusive thoughts creep in I recognize…
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 01:02 PM
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Same here. She's thinks we are just going to be friends. She tells my daughter we are fine and we are not. I'm just trying to be an adult till the divorce is final. Once that happens I don't ever want to see her face agian. She wrecked my whole world, my mental health and my trust.the betrayal is so deep and she's so nonchalant about it.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 03:15 PM
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welcome to the club.... same here 16 years together and she loves someone else. blind sided by it all and my head and emotions are still spinning. how quick she seems to forget our vows and all we have been through. im not even two months in to all this. i look at our wedding pics and its like its not the same person anymore i dont feel the same about her because the depths of betrayal. im just in the gym every day as a distraction and on here sharing because it makes me feel better. theres a go…
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/24 03:42 AM
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same just found out two months ago when i caught her texting another man when i caught her she said she wants a divorce. we still live together but she sleeps in spare room. i went through her search history today and found out she was searching for lingerie and crotchless panties. made me so sick and set me back mentally. this guy is also older by ten years and he lives in a different country but they have plans to meet up........ stay strong check out rachel sloan on youtube shes a divorce coa…
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/24 03:03 AM
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i felt the same way how could i fuck up so bad to drive my wife away. im such a loser, but the reality is its not all me its not all you. you may have had a hand in it but she could have worked on things too. it takes two committed people to make it work. i definitely had a hand in the unhappiness of my wife and i could have done more. but she also didn't communicate so i understood her true feeling about us. i would have gone to counseling i would have taken her seriously if i knew she was thin…
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/24 02:51 AM
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