Its been 4 months sense i caught her talking to someone else and she told me she wanted a divorce. hit me like a mac truck i didnt see coming. first few month were pretty dark and depressing but im doing okay. i know it wasnt my choice and i cant change her mind. sill have a hard time wrapping my mind around how she could just pull the rip cord after 16 years. she wanted to just walk away didnt want anything out of the divorce. so i moved quickly to agree to let her go with the terms she wont come after my assets. she signed off and we filed the final decree today. lawyer says probably within two weeks it could be final. then i try and start the healing process on my own. still think my brain hasnt caught up to the reality that she will not be here any more real soon.