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when people say women need skills to get a guy Again, a woman doesn't need skills to get you and other's like you. But, that doesn't apply to men who know how to deal with women.
/r/seduction20/07/22 09:26 PM
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i'm talking about in terms of starting the relationship Yes, that's what I am saying. For a guy like you, they don't have to do anything. But, for certain men, they have to earn the relationship. You're not one of those men that's why your experience is different.
/r/seduction20/07/22 09:25 PM
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and then as soon as they reply, don’t open it and go to sleep. That’s just weak. I take it you’re still in high school so you’ll know better in time. it’s just a neat little psychology trick. The only person you’re tricking in yourself. If the girl was into you, this is not the kind of stuff you’d be texting. But, I’ll admit, it’s a great way to impress guys who don’t have much experience having sex with women.
/r/seduction07/07/22 09:16 PM
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So i just replied” tfti. Why? Did I handle this the right way No, you didn't it. how should I have responded You should have unmatched her. At the very least, you should have ignored her. You know this already but it may be worth repeating: she's not interested in you.
/r/seduction06/07/22 12:01 AM
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ya but women don't need to do jackshit to make a relationship happen or start with a guy, That's accurate with regard to you and the average male. A woman doesn't have to do anything to get with you. That's because you're not the kind of guy who'd reject a woman or turn down pussy. since women never have to initiate or escalate anything Yes, they do. They also have to be bound by certain rules. For instance, I have a rule that the woman should not wake me up in the morning to have sex. She must …
/r/seduction28/06/22 02:07 PM
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i didn't doubt them I said I didn’t believe you. I think you’re lying - that’s different from doubt. In any case, the simple solution is stop approaching white women since they don’t want you. You don’t have to complain, just accept it and keep it moving.
/r/seduction22/06/22 01:53 AM
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Fair enough, but I want you to know that I don't believe you.
/r/seduction21/06/22 10:46 PM
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your opinion. Not opinion, experience. The woman's skin color doesn't make a difference in my experience. So there has to be something different about white women. Or, you behavior must be different. Let's follow this logic. If you think they are different, you have different expectations. Are you saying seeing them as different doesn't affect your behaviour?
/r/seduction21/06/22 09:56 PM
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I think you lack self-awareness. If anything, white women tend to be easier.
/r/seduction21/06/22 09:46 PM
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u/stupidbabeidiot this is the correct answer to your question.
/r/seduction21/06/22 09:41 PM
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I have realized I have a habit if friendzoning guys accidentally! No, you haven't. Lady please.
/r/seduction21/06/22 09:40 PM
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it's like there is this barrier that they put up between us. Is this a cultural thing? do white women just prefer to take it slow and put up more hurdles for men in general? No, it's you. You have this belief and so you act differently around white women. In my experience, women are women, regardless of the culture. Sure, there may be differences in public but once you get to the bedroom, it comes down to you being a man and her being a woman.
/r/seduction21/06/22 09:29 PM
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It honestly takes more effort than I am willing to put into these two. Yes, that's what exactly I thought. It does take a certain level of intellect.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 07:37 PM
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what they say And still, you can't articulate one thing you have a problem with, and back it up with proof.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 07:26 PM
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Tell me why you have a problem with these two men. Have you paid attention to them or are you judging because the people you listen to judge them?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 07:09 PM
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Are you saying because I appreciate Rogan's and Peterson's work I'm a cult member?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 03:49 PM
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his fans are not the type of people I care to associate with And yet, that's who you attract. Whose fans are you interested in?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 03:44 PM
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she had to find him somewhat attractive to begin with. That's not true. Free dinner, attention, a potential orbiter willing to do favours - there are so many other reasons why a woman goes on a date.
/r/seduction21/06/22 03:35 PM
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. I hope that, if I continue to work on myself and keep improving, I'll eventually get to that point No, you won't. It's not about improving. It's about changing your mindset completely. Right now, you think like the average male. As long as you think this way, you'll keep having this kind of problem.
/r/seduction21/06/22 03:33 PM
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I have genuinely not gone in with a beta-mindset but more-so thoughts of 'she seems really lovely, maybe let me try things differently this time' That's a contradiction. Be honest with yourself, your thinking was weak. Why would you do things differently just because she seems lovely?
/r/seduction21/06/22 03:30 PM
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So I've been told that I am good looking, handsome etc, That's irrelevant to your issue. "you're really handsome, interesting guy, I had fun but there isn't that gut feeling What am I doing wrong, what does that mean? The root cause is, you don't have a clue about how to deal with women. You value what women think of you. You also think your looks are important. Because you're thinking the wrong way, you're doing things the wrong way. You're not doing what attractive men do. Again, attractive do…
/r/seduction21/06/22 03:28 PM
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since women don't have to do anything to make a relationship happen with a guy This is not true. Yes, a woman can have a relationship with a guy, but can she have a relationship with the guy he wants? I don’t know about you but it takes work for a woman to get me interested in a relationship.
/r/seduction20/06/22 02:28 PM
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That was not my question to though. You said: a girl who wouldn't let me go out And, I’m asking, how did she possibly stop you from going out?
/r/seduction17/06/22 09:52 AM
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who wouldn't let me go out What power did she have to stop you from going out?
/r/seduction16/06/22 11:05 PM
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I'm confident AS FUCK. Give us an example of what happened when you confidently approached a woman you'd never met before but found attractive.
/r/seduction16/06/22 11:01 PM
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they aren't really displaying any sort of value. To you, they aren't displaying value to you. but I think there's a difference between bad boy and loser. The bad boys are the ones getting the girls. The loser is the guy complaining about the bad boys getting the girls. And I don't like judging others Yet, here we are. Maybe its really as simple as that, and the fact they have muscles and tattoos. Maybe. Also, they go for what they want according to their own rules. You follow what the society ha…
/r/seduction16/06/22 10:59 PM
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What girls are into guys with my body type? Check under your bed, or maybe the ones hiding in your closet. Seriously though, the only way to find out is by approaching women. The ones who reciprocate are into guys with your body type.
/r/seduction14/06/22 08:43 PM
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I have an awful time bringing dates to an end after 2-3 hours if there’s no physical escalation You just have to be willing to walk away. If we go for a drink, and within the first 45 minutes I determine she's not attracted to me, I'll end it. But, I'll start flirting much earlier. In practice, I let the girl know I'm attracted to her sexually within the first 5 minutes of conversation. She doesn't have to do anything or jump into anything right away. All I want to see is that she's also attract…
/r/seduction14/06/22 08:31 PM
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A girl that I have feelings for and I think she has them too No, she doesn't have feelings for you. is probably mad at me cuz she saw me She doesn't care. And now she doesn’t even ask back. She's focused on whoever she's having sex with. So my question is, should I go up to her and be like, hey is something up? No, you shouldn't do that. Now Im worried that she will think that im overreacting or whatever, which might be true. Don't worry, she doesn't care. But I just want things to be the way th…
/r/seduction14/06/22 08:15 PM
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No I was talking about income from other sources. The post is about OP wanting to give drugs to women so they sleep with him. Now, it appears that super average males, to use OPs term, take exception to the fact that I pointed out this practice could mess up your life. To be clear, depending on where you live that's a criminal act, to say the least. I won't go into the level of low self-esteem you must have to think this way. That would require professional intervention. What has my income got t…
/r/seduction14/06/22 07:14 PM
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Drugs? No, that's what OP gives to females so he can get laid.
/r/seduction14/06/22 07:05 PM
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she mentioned at least twice how she is afraid I'm gonna kidnap her At this point I'd unmatch her.
/r/seduction14/06/22 07:03 PM
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So I might as well just chill in the fz and forget about it romantically. No. Have some self-respect and just let it go.
/r/seduction14/06/22 05:50 PM
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So you're saying just totally forget about it/her? You should be focusing on women who are actually interested in you. Plus, I don't know what the rules at your work are but if her mind switches, it could go bad for you. Respect yourself.
/r/seduction14/06/22 05:47 PM
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Should I apologize for trying to hit on her? No, don't do that. I would love to hangout again. Don't do that either.
/r/seduction14/06/22 05:42 PM
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Good job on whatever successes you’ve been having Thank you. I appreciate the support. like you’re trying to sell a book or something Yeah, but you don't make much from books. I've got other stuff too.
/r/seduction14/06/22 05:34 PM
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We’re both virgins, You mean, you and your imaginary friend or you and the girl? She's not a virgin.
/r/seduction14/06/22 05:32 PM
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It makes mad that people are talking to her in such a way, but also makes me wonder is this even normal? Ah. You see, it's normal for a small percentage of guys. Most women interact this way with men. But, average males get to see more of the "good girl" side. To make it simple for you, you're lucky. She's showing you the reality of what goes on. She's not different from other girls, she just let you see what dating is like for women. She's breaking you out of the naive view that most guys have.…
/r/seduction14/06/22 05:31 PM
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super average guys You would know. This is the kind of thinking that can mess up your life.
/r/seduction14/06/22 05:27 PM
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Right. When I say meet women, I don't mean walk past them on the street. What I mean is make moves. If you were making moves you wouldn't be making irrelevant assessments.
/r/seduction14/06/22 05:26 PM
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What are you texting for?
/r/seduction14/06/22 05:18 PM
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I’m more just curious if my assessment about it is right It's wrong. Also, you should meet more women in real life.
/r/seduction14/06/22 05:17 PM
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Curious, what's wrong with a long first date? The simplest answer is that it results in exactly what's happened to OP. Also, I've realized that most guys on here have a completely wrong understanding of how to deal with women. It's hard to give you an answer without adding more background so you can have context. But, I'll try to explain an important part of the game. In most cases, women don't get as enamoured with guys as the other way round. Sure, they pretend because most guys are naive. The…
/r/seduction14/06/22 05:00 PM
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spent over 5 hours together. Why? Why did you do that? We got along super well & had a lot to talk about, but there wasn't really sexual chemistry. No. You're not confident in your sexual attractiveness and so you suppressed your desire. Every time you thought of making a move, you held back. Or should I give up and focus on being friends (do I really have no shot)? The reason why you're struggling is the very fact that you're asking this question. You know what you want. You're not getting what…
/r/seduction14/06/22 11:20 AM
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Your problem is not what you did. Your problem is that you think that what you did is a problem.
/r/seduction14/06/22 10:59 AM
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Also, you didn’t answer the questions. What makes her great? Why didn’t you kiss her instead?
/r/seduction14/06/22 09:42 AM
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Not long out of a ltr You will achieve a breakthrough when you realize you were having the same problem in your relationship.
/r/seduction14/06/22 09:41 AM
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She was texting me constantly up until we went out Contrary to popular belief, that’s not a good sign. What’s worse, you texted her back. she seemed off, she spoke of her exs Most likely the guy she was going to see after her date with you told her something she didn’t like. And, she was using you to vent.
/r/seduction14/06/22 09:39 AM
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Why would you be with a woman who disrespects you?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 07:45 AM
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How can you even be so confident in doing anything with that much conviction. That’s what makes you masculine. Everything is questionable down to our very core That’s true but at some point you’ve got to make a decision and take action. How do we know gym and cash grindset is the way Those are not the way. As a man, you have to figure what works for you to get you what you want. why not join the monks and sit on our ass singing kumbaya all day. Same as above, as a man you have to figure if that’…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 07:40 AM
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No, don’t do it. It’s not the same thing as sex with a woman who wants you. And, you’ll still struggle, maybe it will get worse.
/r/seduction14/06/22 06:48 AM
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But the amount of her friends Iv talked to or hooked up with What’s the amount?
/r/seduction14/06/22 06:46 AM
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She didn’t get cold feet. She wasn’t attracted or interested.
/r/seduction14/06/22 06:44 AM
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I took out a great girl last week What makes her great? I kept slowing it down and teasing Why didn’t you kiss her instead? Then out of nowhere the next day doesn’t want to meet up again. It wasn’t out of nowhere. You did a a lot of things wrong. Your whole comment suggest you have the wrong idea of how things work.
/r/seduction14/06/22 06:44 AM
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Super low self esteem and it shows. Yes, it shows.
/r/seduction14/06/22 05:27 AM
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Plus, people around me keep succeeding. That’s why you shouldn’t believe me. Don’t approach women. Just do what ever else you do instead.
/r/seduction14/06/22 05:25 AM
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Ah, one of those who want to keep OP where he is. Crabs in a bowl are fun to watch sometimes.
/r/seduction14/06/22 05:21 AM
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Those insecurities will just magically go away? No, it’s not magic. It’s called learning. You take action, you gain experience. I don't know how much I believe you dude. Don’t believe me. Also, when will you meet that girl that's really into you? And then what? Whoa, that’s a lot of questions for someone who doesn’t believe. Look, don’t apply what I am saying. You obviously know better. If you want help, you’re gonna be respectful.
/r/seduction14/06/22 05:19 AM
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Of course, you must be right. Just keep doing the same thing you’ve been doing.
/r/seduction14/06/22 05:15 AM
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Lmao, some girls want to work as a waitress in order to meet someone, because they are shy, The thing is, you may be right. But, they want confident guys. You are not confident.
/r/seduction14/06/22 01:22 AM
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you never addressed my statistic on incelibate men growing drastically over the past decade These are males who think like you.
/r/seduction14/06/22 01:17 AM
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how can I utilize my “quieter personality” to my advantage If you're asking in the context of seduction, that's irrelevant and inconsequential. What's more important is the answer to the following question. Please answer truthfully. How often do you interact with women?
/r/seduction14/06/22 01:08 AM
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Well unlike you I didn’t start from the top, I didn't start from the top. I've been through it the hard way. I just didn't give up on myself. And, I'm still improving, every day. if you think I’m clueless You are clueless. Any male who complains about women is clueless, that's why he's complaining. If you had a clue, you wouldn't complain, you'd get on with it.
/r/seduction14/06/22 01:05 AM
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Also, you aren't even giving me any advice. Here's my advice. Reflect on what I said in the comment that triggered you. If you think I'm talking B.S., ignore me.
/r/seduction14/06/22 12:59 AM
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But is it a must to always kiss on the first date. It's not a must. Still, I don't date girls that I don't kiss on the first date. If there's no sexual vibe, I'm not interested. At least I flirted with her on the first date and she laughed a lot. Yeah, it doesn't matter. The thing is, you're doing a lot of things wrong but it's impossible without knowing more about your situation.
/r/seduction14/06/22 12:52 AM
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You're just proving my point. You don't have the confidence and you're rationalizing it. I don't have the kind of problems you have. The men I associate with don't have the problems you have. First of all, there's not such thing as SMV and all this B.S. As long as you listen to that stuff, you'll keep going through this. I gave you some painful points in my comment. Truth hurts. You need to reflect on those points. If you can't accept you're wrong, right now, you'll never be good at getting the …
/r/seduction14/06/22 12:43 AM
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move on and not reply That's the correct course of action. There's no way in hell I'm arranging to meet a girl I didn't kiss on the first date.
/r/seduction14/06/22 12:33 AM
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Everything has changed in the last 10 Like what?
/r/seduction14/06/22 12:32 AM
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Yeah, but why the long intro? Did you kiss her on the first date?
/r/seduction14/06/22 12:29 AM
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To put it in context, my set up is completely different from the way most people do it.
/r/seduction14/06/22 12:28 AM
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how would you have sent that first message and acted. I wouldn't have sent it. I'd have called her up to arrange a meeting. During the date, I'd make a move. If she's not interested, I'd end the date quick time.
/r/seduction14/06/22 12:27 AM
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I'm bringing her up to use my past as a reference. Your ex is irrelevant. Look, you don't have to accept the reality. Just go on complaining. There's lots of people who are happy to keep you in the position you are now. It's your life, your decision.
/r/seduction14/06/22 12:25 AM
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All your comment says to me is that you're clueless. That's why this is your experience. Yes, I do understand most males go through this. But, that's why it's great to be a man - because guys will put more energy to prove why they can't women than to overcome their false beliefs. So, more for the men who actually go for what they want.
/r/seduction14/06/22 12:22 AM
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You still haven't given a specific example.
/r/seduction14/06/22 12:20 AM
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I havent even seen her in like 7 years or something. And yet, you thought it was important to bring her up. In any case, you're not much different from most guys posting here. You're not going to convince me, I've seen your situation many times in my work.
/r/seduction14/06/22 12:18 AM
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What made you reach that conclusion from your perspective? Your initial message you've posted here shows you're not very confident with women. That implies you're sexually timid and you acted timid when you went out. You're also trying too hard to be nice and friendly. So, those things would turn her off very fast. Then, I read her replies and that confirmed it. She's avoiding you because she has no real use for you at this time.
/r/seduction14/06/22 12:16 AM
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What do you guys think about her responses? She's not attracted to you.
/r/seduction14/06/22 12:10 AM
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Simply, how do I become the best version of myself when it comes to interacting with women By interacting with women. How often do you interact with women?
/r/seduction14/06/22 12:07 AM
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Like the title says, I am great with first impressions and first dates. Give a specific example of a great first impression and a great first date.
/r/seduction14/06/22 12:05 AM
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You should get an affiliate link for that magic potion, cause I'll take that whole stock There's no magic potion. Also, you can send me money directly. How will I build up confidence over time? The points below will only work if you're consistent. You have to approach women. You have to be honest with yourself about how you feel and think. And, you have to make up your mind that, ultimately, you want to rely on yourself - not a car, not looks, not money, not fancy dinners, or gifts. You, the man…
/r/seduction13/06/22 11:50 PM
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They'll call these men little boys or claim that they aren't real men. Why do you care what they say or think?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 11:35 PM
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I don't get or understand why people still think men have to better end of the stick, I'll tell you why I think as a man I have it better. I get to choose who I approach If I get rejected, there's always another girl I can approach I can easily improve the things I want better in my life I can have kids for decades after women struggle with that I lead my relationships Most guys are clueless about women so that means more for me I don't have a period every month. I don't have to wear make up. I …
/r/seduction13/06/22 11:33 PM
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What in the fuck am i missing? I'm going to paste quotes below with all the things you're doing wrong. We were very in love, At this stage, you should know that it was infatuation. I had emotional problems when we lived together You still have emotional problems. beautiful, smart, not a hoe, You have an idealize view of women fuelled by societal conditioning. We still txt every couple weeks as friends, You're not friends. You still have feelings for her. I have been with maybe 2 pretty attractiv…
/r/seduction13/06/22 11:23 PM
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Now... 9/10 times would I have been successful from a cold approach in this same situation? Probably not. You'll be rejected more often than not, that's just the game. Well done, keep it up. Don't fall for the trap putting all your energy into this girl, approach others, deal with the rejection.
/r/seduction13/06/22 10:59 PM
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is fun and has received good feedback. Has it now?
/r/seduction13/06/22 10:55 PM
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I’ve found by far, double stimulation is the most well-received, Which book did you find it in?
/r/seduction13/06/22 10:54 PM
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And am usually rewarded with head Rewarded?
/r/seduction13/06/22 10:53 PM
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For OP. Oh, in that case, don't worry. The OP will get the answer when he wants it.
/r/seduction13/06/22 10:51 PM
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I think it has more to do with my age. Nope, it's because you've been conditioned to be this way. The society sends a message to men that they have to earn their value. And, most men are emotionally and sexually deprived. You don't value yourself as a man, it's as simple as that.
/r/seduction13/06/22 10:49 PM
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How will he "build his confidence up over time"? Are you asking for yourself or for OP?
/r/seduction13/06/22 10:45 PM
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You are a keeper Oh, such sweet words to a naive man's ear.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 10:41 PM
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One instance sure but OP has been rejected 15 times. Even the best players can get rejected 15 times in a day. 15 rejections is nothing. OP needs to approach more women, at the very least. He'll build up his confidence over time.
/r/seduction13/06/22 09:52 PM
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Round 15 That's not a lot of girls. You could get rejected 15 times in an hour on a night out. You need to do at least six times more before drawing any conclusions. Also, you don't have to share everything but you definitely don't have to lie to women.
/r/seduction13/06/22 09:50 PM
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but they don't want to have a serious relationship with a guy who "doesn't has his shit together" I don't know. I still had girlfriends or girls asking to be my girlfriends when I was in your situations. Probably you're catching feelings too quickly that's why they say this to you.
/r/seduction13/06/22 09:48 PM
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Then she asked me if I was a virgin She asked you this because you were already doing something wrong. You have to learn how to deal with women, that's for sure. Your first step is to accept you don't know what you're doing. You said you have plenty friends. Do any of your friends have a lot of girls?
/r/seduction13/06/22 09:46 PM
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I have a good job I am going to school I am smart I am good looking I have my own place and I have lots of friends. Maybe the problem is that you think this is what women are looking for. I'm sure you're aware of guys who don't have any of these and yet they have women. It's time to rethink your approach.
/r/seduction13/06/22 09:43 PM
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But no, sex doesn’t just happen like that. How does sex happen?
/r/seduction07/06/22 03:48 PM
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Man, you just sound salty. Let it go. Nobody cares.
/r/seduction07/06/22 03:44 PM
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Women don’t care about looks as much as most guys think. The problem is, people believe the seducer image they see in the media. So, they never learn what actually works to attract women.
/r/seduction07/06/22 03:42 PM
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Do girls like when a guy fights someone for annoying them or being disrespectful to them Yes, often they do. But, that doesn't mean they like the guy. If you're thinking of doing this to get with a girl, don't. It will end badly.
/r/seduction07/06/22 02:50 PM
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"I can't believe you would be friends with that guy he is so wired" or "dude your friend is killing our vibe"... shit like that.. I've never met a guy who knows what he's doing with women who pays attention to such comments. You're just jealous.
/r/seduction07/06/22 02:45 PM
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because they’ve never been in that social situation. That's what's weird. Because, as long as you come out of your house, there's definitely a situation that could lead to sex over the past 12 years of your life.
/r/seduction07/06/22 02:43 PM
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Because I don't like dive bar chicks with a bunch of shitty tattoos? Nobody mentioned that. You're reaching now. Or because Todd v is a fraud? I don't even know who this guy is. It just sounds you, OP, and a bunch of others are jealous. Not just because you don't know how to deal with women. But also that nobody would pay you $4500 for a few hours of your time. Don't hate, learn how to provide value to a market. You think a master PUA would be able to get a barbie,porn star, striper, someone who…
/r/seduction07/06/22 02:39 PM
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It is the top comment Truth, spoken with such eloquence.
/r/seduction07/06/22 02:35 PM
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Bro just give me two years and i will marrying my girl. Yes, that's exactly where you're heading. Now, there's nothing wrong with getting married if you know what you're doing. But you don't. So again, remember this comment. This was your chance. By the way where are you from That's none of your business.
/r/seduction07/06/22 02:18 PM
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I've been dealing with women longer than you. I've coached many guys and I can tell their experience level by the questions they ask. And, you Sir, have no idea what you're doing. Plus, you're not humble enough to learn. I suggest you keep doing what you're doing. In five years, look at what you'll inevitably go through because of how you think. Then, remember me.
/r/seduction07/06/22 02:11 PM
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Why else would I approach a random girl I'm attracted to and strike up a conversation? There are more interesting things to do with a woman than to get her phone number. Your answers are part of your problem. You can't even state what you really want. You're too vague for a woman to take you seriously.
/r/seduction07/06/22 02:07 PM
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You think you have experience but you don't. You don't sound experienced - if you were you wouldn't ask this question. You'd definitely not be looking for a soul mate. There's levels to this.
/r/seduction07/06/22 02:00 PM
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Yup, That's why this place exists though, to gain knowledge Nope. This place exists because people want their delusions validated.
/r/seduction07/06/22 01:59 PM
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Most attractive women are absolutely taken. Please answer these three questions: So, they all happened to be taken just as you appeared on the scene? When do you think we're gonna have the next batch of available attractive women? Also who has been taking them?
/r/seduction07/06/22 01:53 PM
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Actually a lot of guys might not be getting action, because they are not weird enough That sounds like a way to cope with the fear of going out to meet women.
/r/seduction07/06/22 01:51 PM
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So, all you want from women is a phone number, correct?
/r/seduction07/06/22 01:50 PM
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You sound like someone who has little to no real life experience with women, based on how you judge females.
/r/seduction07/06/22 01:49 PM
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any girl anyone can get Really? Even you? high-quality girls the Lawyers, nurses, or women with a master's degree What makes these women high quality?
/r/seduction07/06/22 01:48 PM
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The unfortunate reality is that most women are taken This is not reality. So what is the solution for men being forced to approach in numbers? Nobody is forcing you do anything. If you care about yourself more than you care about what others think, this will not matter to you.
/r/seduction07/06/22 08:53 AM
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I’ve declined them because I don’t want a relationship, or sex for the time being. That's fair, and you are within your rights. However, in the context of dating, that's weird.
/r/seduction07/06/22 08:50 AM
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How dare people focus on other activities that don’t involve getting their dicks wet. Nah, you're misrepresenting the comment. All he said is, something is wrong if you're not pursuing females. Which is true. This means there's some kind of psychological block stopping the heterosexual male from going after sex. You figure out that block, you'll most likely solve the problem.
/r/seduction07/06/22 08:35 AM
2

Ive only ever put the tip in once Please wear a condom next time.
/r/seduction07/06/22 08:32 AM
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It’s more common than you think. That doesn't remove the weirdness. Now, the issue is that the traits the make these guys appear weird are the the reason why the don't have experience with women. Of course, it can be remedied but you first have to acknowledge the problem so you can solve it.
/r/seduction07/06/22 08:31 AM
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I actually agree with the first part of your comment. The guy should let her know why she's coming over. So, yeah, if that's the point you've been making all along, I stand corrected.
/r/seduction07/06/22 08:04 AM
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so youre gonna kick a woman out of your house in the middle of the night because she wont have sex eith you to look like an "alpha"? No. You kick her because she doesn't want to have sex and you do. i guarantee you itll just make you look like an asshole What if you already look like an asshole?
/r/seduction07/06/22 08:03 AM
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Yes my advice is to move on and find Women who are actually attracted to you. Finally, some good advice on this sub. This should be copied and pasted on 99% of the posts here.
/r/seduction07/06/22 08:01 AM
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I don't use the same terminology as you but in principle, you're right.
/r/seduction07/06/22 08:01 AM
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I have given signals Don't give signals. Tell them directly. You probably doing something wrong earlier on. They see you as a source of attention, maybe a good boyfriend placeholder.
/r/seduction07/06/22 08:00 AM
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In other words, if they knew they wouldn't get sex, but they'd get the attention, they'd still be on Tinder.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 07:57 AM
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I mean, my woman friends are there for sex but what do I know right? You don't get it. The attention is more important than the sex because they don't need Tinder to get sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 07:56 AM
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How do you spit game on LinkedIn? The closest I can think of is, load it up on your screen, gather as much saliva in your mouth as you can, then forcefully eject it. Try to hit the logo.
/r/seduction07/06/22 07:52 AM
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It would not bother ME, but I guess I’m in the minority. Why don't you make your move? She's single and available.
/r/seduction07/06/22 07:50 AM
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What do you guys think? Your job requires you to cultivate masculine traits. That makes you less attractive to men because they prefer feminine women. And, most people don't trust cops.
/r/seduction07/06/22 07:47 AM
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What do you guys think of Fresh and Fits dating tactics? I don't think about Fresh and Fit's dating tactics.
/r/seduction07/06/22 07:44 AM
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Maybe give data proving this redpill delusion that men are magically more visual? I don't know much about redpill so I don't know about any magic. Biologically, it's how we're hard wired. We look for signs of fertility and that's what attracts us. Are you saying men don't find you visually attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 07:19 AM
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How do I approach this situation? What do you want from women, exactly? Describe an ideal scenario honestly.
/r/seduction07/06/22 07:17 AM
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What about being skinny can I still attract women? Yes, you definitely can.
/r/seduction07/06/22 07:16 AM
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Women do date guys from Tinder, you're correct about that. But, that's not what attracts them to Tinder. If Tinder disappeared today, females can still date as many men as they want to. What they won't get is the same amount of attention. Now, my premise stands on the fact that female love attention, especially male attention. This doesn't mean they want to sleep with these men or that they're even slightly attracted to them. But, guys fawning over them, trying to prove themselves worthy, is an …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 07:15 AM
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sometimes that hot guy is wondering why he can't date that same chick. Nah, the hot guys doesn't want to date the chick. You can sleep with a girl for years, even if she gets married. When a hot guy wants to be in a relationship, he gets into a relationship. It's because she's more than about looks, bro. No. She's not about looks at all. That's what majority of males can't understand. When it comes to sex and relationships, women don't prioritize looks. Again, they do enjoy good looks but it's n…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 07:11 AM
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I don’t think women fully believe us when we say we experience our sexual drive in a fundamentally different way. This is where I disagree with you. They know it's different. But, it is counter-productive for them to admit it. Think about it. Women can still get sexual satisfaction from the few men who know what they're doing. That's what they do in secret. We all know that women get shamed and attacked when they're perceived as promiscuous. So, it works well enough for them to hide it. The rest…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 07:07 AM
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Can you put that in words? What's your actual question? In any case, you don't have to believe me. Just keep doing what you're doing, I'm sure you'll continue getting the same results.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 07:00 AM
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You my friend, are acting quite shitty But, thank you!
/r/seduction07/06/22 06:59 AM
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I don't know any women who does this. Yes you do. I'm not sure what we the thought process behind such statement. I know you don't know the thought process. That's why you think the way you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 11:57 PM
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It's difficult to exist outside social constructs You have a point but social constructs only go so far. And, this is one of the reason why so called bad boys get the girls - they act masculine regardless of what society thinks. One thing I'm sure it's that we are more the same than people usually think on this sub We do have a lot in common. But, the few differences are critical and disproportionately affect sexual interactions. No amount of social constructs can change that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 11:56 PM
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the first thing women look is behavior. This is correct. This doesn't mean they don't notice good looking guys. and if that was tall there'd be no apps like Tinder Wrong logic. Women get a lot of attention on Tinder. That alone is worth it for them, even if they don't date anyone. Saying that women aren't visual it's insane. We're talking in context of sexual attraction. The man's looks are not the primary factor. Indeed, the man's appearance does play a role. But, behaviour trumps all.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 11:53 PM
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Most times a cigar is just a cigar. All the candlelight and flowers in the world won't do as much for a long time partner as just listening. Literary excellence.
/r/seduction06/06/22 11:47 PM
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First, you have to admit that you struggle women. How do I know? Just read you question again. Until you admit you have a problem nobody can help you.
/r/seduction06/06/22 11:32 PM
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She is cheating on him. You know it. I know it. He knows it.
/r/seduction06/06/22 11:28 PM
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I think there's a belief if that you get money the women start coming. I didn't realize I subconsciously believe this until I had my highest windfall. I went to the club with shitloads of money in my pocket. Man, that was one of the hardest nights of my life. The most women I had was when I didn't even have a home. I remember the hottest chick at work taking me out to a fancy restaurant. In fact, that's the first time I'd been to a nice restaurant as an adult. She just wanted to feed me. And, sh…
/r/ExRedPill06/06/22 11:24 PM
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I'm really not into instagram So, why are you bending over backwards? Anyway, if she was into you, she'd have given you her number. Forget about her.
/r/seduction06/06/22 11:20 PM
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But that is not game, That's exactly what game is. You don't play if you stand up and leave. That's how people with weak game think. That's my point. If your game is weak, you'll stay with a woman like Amber Heard.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 11:15 PM
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Then why are more men complaining about being ugly to women? Those are not men. You're talking about inexperienced males who don't understand who they are. They don't know what attracts women and they focus on the wrong things. who's generally more attractive The word attractive doesn't mean the same thing when applied to males as when it's applied to females.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 11:13 PM
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Have you tried writing for women's magazines? You might do well.
/r/seduction06/06/22 11:11 PM
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Those are just some general principals. Nah, this fantasy or conjecture. The root cause is that he was never good with women before he got married. She probably has been cheating on him for a long time. He needs to reassess everything he believes to be true. In other words, he needs to wake up.
/r/seduction06/06/22 11:10 PM
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I've never been married but I've had sex with married women. The best remedy I've found is to either dump her or let her know you're fucking someone else. At that point she'll either have sex with you or reveal whoever she's been cheating with.
/r/seduction06/06/22 11:08 PM
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Depp had played the manipulating game where she was forced to be submissive Depp should have dumped her way before things got as bad as they did.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 11:06 PM
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Not looks? not money? are you sure about this? What about dominant women who like to run the relationship? Yes, that's what they look for in males. The original statement was referring to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 10:59 PM
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I don't really see the point in numbering all the differences both groups face in society... I agree with that. That's not what I asked you. I asked, "What are the differences between men and women?"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 10:51 PM
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And men rarely become fully aroused instantly. You must not know many men. They can (and do) lose an erection if a woman behaves wrong too. Ermm... not necessarily true. If a woman's appearance is sexy enough she can get away with a lot. Which means that looks don't matter as much as you're making out.... I'm not making out that looks matter. What I'm saying is looks can get a woman much further with a male than in the opposite. A man doesn't need looks to have multiple women. A woman struggles …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 10:50 PM
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Do you have any tips/suggestions? Approach women on campus. Start going to events. Go to a bigger city. Also, often attractive women are in groups. So, learn how to approach groups. I'll give you are a recent example. I saw a guy with three girls. They were standing by the bar. I said, "Which two are your girlfriends?" He said, "All of them!" I said "No, you can have only two." They all laughed. The guy said "Which one do you want?" The girls repeated "Yeah, which one?" I pointed to the one I li…
/r/seduction06/06/22 10:45 PM
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I’m struggling because i want a to find the best one for me. You're struggling because you think there's a soul mate for you. That's your first mistake. The reality is, you have no experience with women. Even if you meet one, she will cheat on you for this very reason. Start meeting women, have fun, get to know yourself better.
/r/seduction06/06/22 10:39 PM
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Men and women are not the same So what are the differences?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 10:34 PM
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Women are absolutely as visual as men are. This is not true. Women enjoy looking at men, yes. But, a woman's vagina doesn't instantly get wet when a guys good looking. In situations where it does, his behaviour can dry it up very quickly. On the other hand, a woman can behave like Amber Heard and still have a long line of men wanting to stick their penises in her - even after the trial. She doesn't even have to be that good looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 10:32 PM
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She was just an apex predator She's a predator alright but only those with weak game are susceptible to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 10:18 PM
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How do watching IG stories come into play here? If this is a real question, you have a lot to learn. A lot. Still, to answer your question, it won't make a difference. She's not interested. Let it go.
/r/seduction06/06/22 09:35 PM
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Incorrect. She could only have men who have weak game.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 09:17 PM
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That’s how you get rejected because you don’t know what you’re doing.
/r/seduction06/06/22 09:14 PM
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Well done, keep it up. I’m looking forward to your success story.
/r/seduction06/06/22 08:46 PM
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am in love with with a gir You're not in love. You have an obsessive fantasy. honestly I dont know what to do. You know what to do. You just don't want to do it. do you have some other ideas? Yes. Stop talking to her. Get some professional help for you emotional issues.
/r/seduction06/06/22 06:20 PM
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why they wouldn't make losing fat their main priority. Because that's not the most important thing when attracting someone as a man. Being fat won't stop you from attracting women if you're confident.
/r/seduction06/06/22 06:17 PM
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the problem occurs the next day No. The problem occurs before you get the number. Describe some of approaches honestly.
/r/seduction06/06/22 06:12 PM
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Why is that appealing to her? Why do you care?
/r/seduction06/06/22 06:04 PM
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It is that bad. Reframing it doesn’t change reality. Insisting that your white cat is a dove won’t make the cat fly . Now, what you’re describing is a common root cause of issues on the dating subs. You have to realize that the majority is wrong and find a better way. Or, keep doing what you’re doing.
/r/seduction06/06/22 05:43 PM
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She's also a key motivator for me to just do better in life so it's just hard to see my life without her You need to speak to a good therapist. Other than that, if you can accept that you have no self-respect maybe you can figure it out. At some point, you’ll have to focus on meeting other women. The sooner you do it, the better.
/r/seduction06/06/22 03:19 AM
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What you’re describing is not game. The core issue is you don’t value yourself much, especially relative to women. Also, as an extension of that, you have a very weak sense of self. But, let’s see if we can make it easy for you. What do you want, when it comes to women?
/r/seduction06/06/22 02:43 AM
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Wow, are you that inexperienced?
/r/seduction06/06/22 02:21 AM
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Thank you for sharing.
/r/seduction05/06/22 06:51 AM
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I’m not white either, it has never reduced my chances of getting what I want.
/r/seduction05/06/22 01:29 AM
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You don’t have enough experience to know what you’re talking about. All that you’ve said is conventional advice, not applicable in real life.
/r/seduction05/06/22 01:29 AM
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It's improved quite a lot, but it's still there sometimes. Yes, it takes time. Focus, take action, face yourself, and you’ll get to where you want to be.
/r/seduction04/06/22 07:36 PM
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Well done.
/r/seduction04/06/22 05:40 PM
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I thought as much. You’re working with your imagination. But, you need real life experience here. Your assumption is wrong.
/r/seduction04/06/22 05:33 PM
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Relationships are built on reality. In reality, if you act like a boyfriend a woman will interpret your actions not your words.
/r/seduction04/06/22 05:28 PM
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What’s the basis of your assumption?
/r/seduction04/06/22 05:09 PM
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Figure out why you are talking to these women. Lead the conversation in that direction. Don’t waste time on women who don’t want you. You’ll be fine if you apply the above.
/r/seduction04/06/22 09:17 AM
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You know, I was going to tell you the true answer but you don’t want to know it. So, I’ll give you the next best thing. So: find a good therapist deal without your issues focus on women who are genuinely interested in you.
/r/seduction04/06/22 08:58 AM
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Also, you can’t afford it.
/r/seduction04/06/22 07:40 AM
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whatever happens is on her because she knew what it was upfront. Nah, that’s not true. That’s not how it works. Actions speak louder than words.
/r/seduction04/06/22 07:32 AM
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So, that’s what I’m saying. You’re saying one thing but doing another. It looks like you’re the one who wants a relationship but you’re scared of her rejecting you.
/r/seduction04/06/22 07:26 AM
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Or, if you’re me.
/r/seduction04/06/22 07:11 AM
0

And so what?
/r/seduction04/06/22 07:10 AM
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I don’t know… virtually every woman I date has more money than me.
/r/seduction04/06/22 07:09 AM
1

So, why aren’t you sleeping with anyone else?
/r/seduction04/06/22 07:07 AM
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Stop acting like her boyfriend and don’t spend so much time with her. You’re probably giving her mixed signals. You have to back your words with actions. Also, if you sleep with her she’ll think you guys will end up being a couple. Be wise.
/r/seduction04/06/22 07:06 AM
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No, it’s a bad idea that will lead to horrible situations for you. Why don’t you work on your confidence instead?
/r/seduction04/06/22 06:00 AM
2

Have you considered editing your writing?
/r/seduction04/06/22 05:53 AM
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She doesn’t want you. Even if she did, you don’t have the confidence to make a move so it doesn’t make any difference. Find another girl.
/r/seduction04/06/22 05:49 AM
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Is that based on your imagination or you actually took a $4500 bootcamp with Todd V?
/r/seduction04/06/22 05:47 AM
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I find it very depressing What steps are you taking to deal with the depression?
/r/seduction04/06/22 03:40 AM
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Have you sought any professional help to deal with your depression?
/r/seduction04/06/22 03:39 AM
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the results would have been different if I was white (I'm brown). The results would have been different if you were more confident and led the interactions somewhere. You didn’t even tell any of them to call you or give you their phone number.
/r/seduction04/06/22 03:35 AM
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So much good material out there for free or at low cost. Hmm… so, what have you done to inform those who willingly pay $4500 about the free content? Or, is this post your attempt to help them avoid spending the money?
/r/seduction04/06/22 03:33 AM
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Fair, if you were more direct about what you’re saying it would be easier to understand in the first place
/r/seduction04/06/22 02:32 AM
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Ok, so you want to know how a victim thinks, right? Read your last comment again for a perfect example.
/r/seduction03/06/22 09:40 PM
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in a good way. What's the good way?
/r/seduction03/06/22 08:13 PM
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I know I should moove on Yes, you should move on but since you're asking the question, you don't know it.
/r/seduction03/06/22 08:12 PM
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Focus on what you want out of life. When you interact with people, pay attention to them. Self-confidence comes from going after what you want and challenging yourself. But, the hardest part is, accepting yourself regardless of how other people feel about you or what they think about you. Most people who ask your question want to be liked. That's the biggest obstacle to becoming self-confident.
/r/seduction03/06/22 08:11 PM
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If you're saying my mindset is the problem, then what part of it? Stop looking for tidbits, bits, and pieces. It's not about improvement. It's about a decision. To stop being a victim. Right now, you have acceptable reason for failure. Most of the society will say, "Yeah, it's not his fault." Heck, they may view it as normal. You have to decide it's not normal. You have to say, "I can't accept this!" Even if it means everyone and everything you know will reject you. This is an internal decision.…
/r/seduction03/06/22 07:36 PM
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I don't think you understand anxiety. I don't think you understand anxiety. And if there was an off switch I probably wouldn't hesitate to use it. There isn't an off switch. You can still make up your mind to change things. It won't happen overnight but it can change. There's no single tip or secret that can help you until you make that step. It's a process. But, it can't work until you've committed to success. Until you make the decision to change, you will keep failing with women.
/r/seduction03/06/22 07:15 PM
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That’s all part of the learning process. But, until you make your mind, you will just be like most other guys, waiting to get “lucky.” If that’s good enough for you, just keep doing what you’re doing.
/r/seduction03/06/22 04:35 PM
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other easy ways Aha, there’s another issue. If you want to attract women, you have to commit first. You can’t start out by looking for easy stuff. Right now, your attitude is like you’re ready to bolt. How do you think women perceive that?
/r/seduction03/06/22 04:25 PM
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As I’m sure you’ve realized at this point, nothing can come out of this approach. Or, more precisely, lack of an approach. There’s no point analyzing what you did because you should not have done it in the first place. Next time, you could simply signal the girl to come over or meet you halfway. If she shakes her head, smile, shrug it off, and move on with your life. If she does walk over, good job, she’s interested, take it from there. There are many other ways you could have approached, this i…
/r/seduction03/06/22 04:04 PM
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I think it’s weird how often I notice that women look at me So, it's weird but why is it important?
/r/seduction03/06/22 12:06 AM
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How do they do it and why can’t I? They do it because they approach woman without caring about getting rejected. When they get rejected, they approach another woman. and why can’t I? Because you think like a female. You want women to approach you because of your looks. There's no value in a male who acts that way. Except, of course, potentially the money and other resources you spend on them. But, they won't want you as a man.
/r/seduction03/06/22 12:03 AM
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even though I do not consider myself “ugly”. That's your first mistake. You think looks work the same way for girls. As you have experienced, you might get some attention but that's where it ends. But women in real life still ignore me. What do you mean? You talk to them and they ignore you? or even just some attention from women I consider attractive. Your post indicates you want as much attention as a female. That's a feminine trait and will make you unattractive therefore invisible.
/r/seduction03/06/22 12:01 AM
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So, that would be the first thing you have to change. Have you tried Salsa classes?
/r/seduction02/06/22 01:48 AM
1

A good game means you have to pull-push. That's in your mind. Do you guys have anything It comes down to knowing what you want and going for it. That's all you can really do. If she likes you, and you relax, the interaction will naturally feel pleasant. You just lead her towards what you want. Yeah, it takes some practice but overthinking it won't help. What are some of the actual situations in which you struggled?
/r/seduction02/06/22 01:27 AM
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What do your interactions with women look like at the moment?
/r/seduction02/06/22 01:25 AM
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Is my fear warranted? To a degree, yes. But, nothing stops you from socializing after you're done with work. As long as you go out and keep meeting women you'll be fine.
/r/seduction02/06/22 01:24 AM
2

How often do you approach women?
/r/seduction31/05/22 08:24 PM
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In general, a worthwhile conversation happens when there’s mutual interest in the other person as a human being - not necessarily the topic. Focus on learning more about the other person and you’ll soon be considered one of the most charming and interesting people around.
/r/seduction31/05/22 07:54 PM
1

What do you have interest in?
/r/seduction31/05/22 06:36 PM
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If I rhymed a response I would have repeated it because it would amuse me. I’d probably laugh and think of another rhyme. Same situation different reaction. The point is, nobody cares
/r/seduction31/05/22 06:35 PM
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Yes, first of all you have to accept that your anxiety will reduce over time. So, it will still be there in some of your interactions. When it comes down to it, you’re anxious because you overextend yourself. You’re afraid of negative reactions so you constantly play scenarios in your head and try to figure people out. You’re a flawed being but you want to appear perfect. So the strategy is, learn to accept yourself, including things other people might dislike or even hate.
/r/seduction31/05/22 06:31 PM
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You don’t need to get good with everyone to get good with girls. You don’t even need to get good with all girls. What are you trying to achieve as your end goal?
/r/seduction31/05/22 06:27 PM
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You can’t hide the fact that you’re desperate, you have already made it obvious. Just remember these comments when she dumps you or starts treating you even worse. Just remember.
/r/seduction25/05/22 11:20 AM
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Also, she’s not playing hard to get. She is delaying sex because she doesn’t want you. She already knows you’re desperate so you’re a perfect mark. But, you’ll find out the hard way.
/r/seduction25/05/22 10:41 AM
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Even if she sleeps you, she still doesn’t respect you. You obviously don’t value yourself much either. Based on how she treats you there’s no reason to be with her.
/r/seduction25/05/22 10:39 AM
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Because she has low sel-esteem and wants the attention. Whoever she’s sleeping with ignores her and guys like you keep her entertained.
/r/seduction25/05/22 10:37 AM
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she's been on 3 dates with me, that doesn't happen when she's not interested Yes, it does. You’re giving her attention and boosting her ego because the guy she’s having sex with doesn’t have this kind of time for her.
/r/seduction25/05/22 10:35 AM
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You need to dump this girl already. You’re asking the wrong question. She doesn’t like you or respect you. Unless you want to too get hurt very badly, let her go and never take her back.
/r/seduction25/05/22 10:32 AM
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I work out, i teach and play guitar, i'm an accountant Oh, we’re you born with these skills or did you make an effort to learn them?
/r/seduction25/05/22 04:56 AM
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What if I genuinely want to text a lot and lay out all my cards? Then you’re in for a lot of pain. You have to learn to take care of your own emotions and understand people would rather spend energy on theirs. It’s all part of being an adult. I really don't see myself 180ing and becoming stoic, emotionless, gigachad That’s good because none of that will help you. You claim you want to be authentic but I’d argue you just want to be coddled. You don’t want to face yourself.
/r/seduction25/05/22 04:54 AM
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, I think it's all about charisma. Nah, he dates women that others pump and dump. The public gets phased by the celebrity status but these women are not the the best out there. It's just an illusion. That's why true players for real like Leo don't bother with them.
/r/seduction25/05/22 12:04 AM
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is he more aggressive about pursuing these women? He is dating women nobody else wants. As in, yeah there's millions of simps but those who have game in the industry don't take these women seriously. He's basically a high level simp.
/r/seduction25/05/22 12:03 AM
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Don’t be so needy.
/r/seduction24/05/22 09:03 AM
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plus it gives a better idea of who the person is This is correct. With guys like you, it's safer to give out social media.
/r/seduction24/05/22 02:05 AM
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The conversation was still going, problem was we got interrupted mid-way through That's just your excuse and you know it. You could have taken her number before she left, it takes a few seconds. But, you didn't have the confidence.
/r/seduction24/05/22 02:03 AM
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So they would offer their number if they were actually interested? Yes, if you ask. Social media is for guys they don't really like but want to check out in case they're somewhat useful.
/r/seduction24/05/22 02:02 AM
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Would it be advisable to ask my cousin for her name and pop her a follow? What's the point of that? Can't your cousin arrange for you to meet? But, considering that you were slow when you met she probably lost interest. At the same time, you never know. Tell your cousin to set it up.
/r/seduction24/05/22 01:42 AM
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I bet you’re fun a parties Congratulations, you just won a bet.
/r/seduction24/05/22 01:35 AM
1

I wish men were as fixated on and fascinated by female genitalia as they are with male genitalia. What do you think has to happen for your wish come true? And, do you really really want your wish to come true?
/r/seduction24/05/22 01:33 AM
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Have you considered that you might be doing it all wrong? You seem to think that it's all about looks and muscles. Do you approach women in real life?
/r/seduction24/05/22 12:39 AM
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You need to connect and meet her for at least 5 to 10 minutes before you ask for her number. That's not true. That's way too long. Talking longer won't make her want you more.
/r/seduction24/05/22 12:16 AM
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Don’t say anything about finding them attractive. Which dating guru taught you this?
/r/seduction24/05/22 12:10 AM
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I am 23M, about 2 months post breakup. I’m ready to get back out there Nobody cares. Do you walk up to them, introduce yourself, strike up a convo? You just answered your own question. What kinds of things do you bring up to initiate a conversation? I tell her what I like about her. I steer the conversation towards whatever it is I want from her, usually sex.
/r/seduction24/05/22 12:09 AM
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I saw this 8/10 black chick Be a man and stop using this B.S. scale. If you want a woman, stand for it. If you don't let her be. she was just turned off from there She was already not interested, that's why she offered her social media. The craziest part of this cold approach was the sense of confidence it gave Well done, keep up the good work. I’m going to need social media and build rapport first before asking for her number. This incorrect albeit that's the most popular advice. Sure, you can …
/r/seduction24/05/22 12:06 AM
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I’m on the thicker side and always thought maybe it was my body guys didn’t like but I’m starting to think it’s my face? What made you start to think it's your face?
/r/seduction24/05/22 12:00 AM
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she’s kinda a hoe Ahh, you see. That's one of your core issues. You judge women. You just met her. You're expecting too much. In reality, you're expecting her to fill the voids and give you comfort with issues you need to deal with yourself. The thing is, it's not your ex's fault or this girl's fault. Sure, they're wrong for treating you in a certain way. But, you haven't taken responsibility for yourself, your emotions, your actions. As a result, you end up in unnecessarily vulnerable positions…
/r/seduction23/05/22 11:48 PM
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Also, if she dumps you now, thank your stars.
/r/seduction23/05/22 11:35 PM
1

I profusely and sincerely apologize because that sounds scary. This woman is going to hurt you. I don't think you have what it takes to walk away. I'm saying this because of your attitude and all the stuff you've written. Your self-worth is really low. And, it seems you've only been with a couple of women. Again, she knows all this. The best thing you can do is to back out. But, you won't. So, make sure you stay in touch with friends and people who care about you. Don't end up in a position wher…
/r/seduction23/05/22 11:35 PM
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No, I don't vote.
/r/seduction23/05/22 11:32 PM
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So you're admitting you're bad in bed. No, what I'm saying is I'm my own priority. So you're admitting you're bad in bed and no women want to have sex with you repeatedly? No, I'm alright with whatever you think of me.
/r/seduction23/05/22 11:31 PM
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I have no political affiliation.
/r/seduction23/05/22 11:29 PM
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Is that too much? Everything other than you scheduled, met up, and had sex is too much. I can tell you need, women are 1000x more intuitive about this kind of stuff. She knows you're needy. I don’t let the conversation drag on You shouldn't have had the conversation. I’m willing to admit I’m thinking about this way too much/hard right now, She can tell by the way you act. Do you think you're the first guy or even the only guy she's seeing?
/r/seduction23/05/22 11:28 PM
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What should I do in that scenario without seeming angry or desperate and to, basically, leave with grace? Delete and move on to the next girl.
/r/seduction23/05/22 11:25 PM
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Stop pussyfooting around and just say what you want to say. I'm not a female and I'm not your friend.
/r/seduction23/05/22 11:25 PM
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Is it better to ask for her phone number Yes, get the number. Since it is a girl I've just met, I wouldn't really be that comfortable with her having my phone number or asking for hers If human vagina is of any interest to you, I suggest you revise your point of view. what do you think of this and what's your experience? My experience is, I let her know my interest and get her number so we can meet up.
/r/seduction23/05/22 11:23 PM
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They constantly tell me about the douchebag guys they meet. Oh, I see why you think they're your friends. At least we know you're a really sweet guy. Trust me when I tell you I've heard countless stores of dude bros just like you over talking and underperforming in bed. Really? To be fair, I'm mostly concerned about my own pleasure so hey... Gueantee you have a small dick Ahh, so that's what you're thinking about. never get repeat lays but sure you know women 😉 You're right. Because, after they …
/r/seduction23/05/22 11:20 PM
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Because I have female friends? You don't have female friends. You just think you do. Females don't trust guys who think like you.
/r/seduction23/05/22 11:16 PM
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she is out of my league. That's just in your mind. It sounds like she's not good enough for you but you seem to want to learn the hard way.
/r/seduction23/05/22 11:15 PM
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Like I said this girl is really pretty so it does mean something to me. Ask your ex if you can have your balls back.
/r/seduction23/05/22 11:14 PM
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This girl is really pretty so I don’t wanna blow it. Oh, you're starting to lose it. If she wants me to wife her up I will if she wants to be FWB I will. You lost it. I would like to show I care about her, but obviously don’t want to come off as clingy or needy. She already knows you're clingy and needy. All you had to do is invite her over, all that texting is just a waste. But, the bigger problem is, you don't know what you want. You're waiting for her to take the lead. Since she knows this an…
/r/seduction23/05/22 11:13 PM
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Is this normal? It's because they don't realize the advice on here and other subs is B.S. They think they're "building attraction" and such.
/r/seduction23/05/22 11:07 PM
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If I trust and respect them I call them friends. They're not your friends. But hey, we need guys like you, so keep it up.
/r/seduction23/05/22 11:04 PM
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My point is that they do. That's why you loose.
/r/seduction23/05/22 11:03 PM
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Women don't care about whether or not you have female friends because you're not sexually attractive. How do I know? Because of how you think. Your think like the kind of guy who's girlfriend gets screwed while you're out shopping for her birthday present.
/r/seduction23/05/22 10:43 PM
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You've got the wrong understanding of who a friend is. What you're describing is associates and acquaintances.
/r/seduction23/05/22 10:40 PM
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Agreed. The problem is, OP is too nice to realize this.
/r/seduction23/05/22 08:46 PM
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Unless you are especially good looking or have social proof, there is NO REASON for a complete stranger to initially find you attractive. This is not true. Sexual attraction is not logical, it’s not about having a reason. And, looks are the least important thing when it comes to attracting women. Your whole point is based on a faulty premise.
/r/seduction23/05/22 08:44 PM
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What’s your definition of a friend?
/r/seduction23/05/22 08:42 PM
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You’re assuming every man wants to be friends with women. In any case, if you don’t know how to be sexually attractive women don’t even think to at far about you. If you are sexually attractive, they don’t care anyway.
/r/seduction23/05/22 08:41 PM
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Am I being too hard on myself? You are, in the sense that you expect a lot from each approach. You're worried about rejection and you think you must also make each interaction "work." Plus, most of the advice out there is total B.S. that will give you the wrong idea about how to attract women. This includes all the nonsense, gimmicks, and indirect "techniques." The reality is simple, but hard to implement when you're starting out. You have to face your fears and your emotional traumas especially…
/r/seduction23/05/22 06:11 PM
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to feel physically attractive without having to be romantic to reach such means. That’s still a self-esteem issue. He can get women and have sex with them without commitment if he changes his attitude. Insecurity is one of the biggest turn offs, not far behind neediness.
/r/seduction23/05/22 12:10 AM
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What do you mean, your girl?
/r/seduction22/05/22 02:19 AM
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Before social media, guys we’re already complaining. The whole seduction community started way before social media became a thing. It has nothing to do with social media. Guys don’t have game, that’s all there’s to it. Most guys are not competition because they’re to scared to make a move anyway. Gimmicks, tricks, tactics- sure there’s a lot of that. But most guys can’t look a woman in her eyes and tell her what they want from her.
/r/seduction22/05/22 01:19 AM
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That’s why they’re not fucking him.
/r/seduction22/05/22 01:01 AM
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This is not correct. Older women don’t want to fuck him.
/r/seduction21/05/22 11:58 PM
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The thing is, you care about what women think about your looks. So, that makes you less attractive. Older women are just being nice to you.
/r/seduction21/05/22 11:58 PM
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You sound like an incel What’s an incel?
/r/seduction20/05/22 07:13 PM
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Have you considered therapy to help with your depression?
/r/seduction20/05/22 01:31 PM
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I sense you might hold some type of resentment or animosity. I thought it was obvious, no need to sense things. Yes, my intention is to push people like you away. I don't like people who lie and pretend, the way you're doing here. All your behaviours suggest you have almost no sense of self-worth. You are describe ways to act as someone who doesn't value themselves. Younger people read this and think it ends well. You're describing a fantasy. There's no way a woman would respect you based on how…
/r/seduction20/05/22 12:34 PM
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Lol that’s okay, you don’t have to. It's not OK to pretend. You and I know you've left out the way she hurts you.
/r/seduction20/05/22 12:23 PM
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I don't believe you.
/r/seduction20/05/22 12:21 PM
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She was mean You should have ended it there. You're ignoring her actual behaviour because of her looks. but I knew that if I did, I would sound pushy. That's only because you knew she wasn't really into you. We are now boyfriend/girlfriend That's questionable based on the rest of your post. At best, she's abusing you.
/r/seduction20/05/22 11:57 AM
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Introduce yourself, tell the girl why you’re talking to her, lead the conversation where you want things to go. If she’s not interested, let her be. If she is, you’re good. Accept rejection, enjoy yourself.
/r/seduction19/05/22 09:47 PM
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It matters for his sel-respect.
/r/seduction17/05/22 08:18 PM
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There’s only one way to find out.
/r/seduction12/05/22 09:05 PM
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It wouldn’t have made a difference. She doesn’t find you attractive.
/r/seduction12/05/22 09:04 PM
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She said you can go as friends. If you want to go as a friend, you spend that time with her. If you don’t, go and do something else. What’s confusing about that?
/r/seduction12/05/22 08:52 PM
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Again, your advice leaves him with a 0% chance. Reality leaves with a 0% chance. My advice gives him a 10% chance. Your advice gives him false hope. How would my advice make the situation worse? She could start stringing him along and he gets really hurt. Or, he could keep along the lines you're advising and the girl will feel pestered or worse. Stop making up stuff I didn't say. You're not me, and that's OK.
/r/seduction12/05/22 07:07 PM
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How does that help him either with this girl It helps him to keep it moving and prevent him from making the situation worse. It teaches him to respect boundaries. or set him up for future success, If he focuses on women who want to date him he will be successful in that regard. It's the 10% of opportunity that I'm interested in There's no 10% opportunity. She's not interested. It seriously get the impression you fuck mostly easy girls. Nobody cares what your impression is.
/r/seduction12/05/22 06:56 PM
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Is there a cure or a way to work around lack of self-esteem/confidence? There's no work around that works long term but you can build your confidence. What are you afraid of?
/r/seduction12/05/22 06:49 PM
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What’s wrong? You are the only one who can answer this question. Go to a quite place, turn your phone of for a couple of hours, and think about your life. You will find your answer.
/r/seduction12/05/22 06:47 PM
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I asked what he should do in this situation. Here's a link with my answer, for you convenience: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/uo5c8t/comment/i8c75k3/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
/r/seduction12/05/22 06:44 PM
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What exactly was you advice again? He shouldn't text her about sharing a friendly bottle of wine.
/r/seduction12/05/22 06:37 PM
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OK, so if you know the answer to your question, why are you asking it here?
/r/seduction12/05/22 06:31 PM
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It seems you have figured it out. Keep doing what you're doing.
/r/seduction12/05/22 06:30 PM
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she doesn’t have any other options. Are you saying nobody else wants her?
/r/seduction12/05/22 06:21 PM
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You are saying, 'give up on this chick and find some girl who is receptive to being direct.' That's not what I'm saying. I am saying she's not interested so he should let her be. Respect her boundaries. So, again, wtf is your point exactly? My point is you are giving convoluted advice that has no basis in reality.
/r/seduction12/05/22 06:20 PM
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Solid game =|= being direct and taking whoever says yes I agree with you. That's not what solid game is about. I don't know how you got that impression. Again, I know guys who do the direct verbal game. That has nothing to do with me. That's not what I'm about. Good luck recruiting students though Luckily, I don't need luck.
/r/seduction12/05/22 06:17 PM
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but no girl gonna give me her phone number like that That's what you think but it's not true. Girls want to date too. If she likes you, she'll give you her number. Heck, many girls will give you the number even if they don't want to date you. Also, the fact that she gave you the number doesn't mean anything. then please teach me your power, It's not my power, every guy who is willing to make the effort can do it. I would love to be able to see a girl for the first time and ask her her number and…
/r/seduction12/05/22 06:14 PM
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My point is you're giving advice OP based on weak game that you've imagined in your head.
/r/seduction12/05/22 05:54 PM
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Have you learned the language in any country that has a conservative culture? Yes, I have. Nothing wrong with that Of course, as long as you're satisfied with weak game. Have you ever fucked a virgin? Yes, I have. But, I don't sleep with virgins, it's never been my thing.
/r/seduction12/05/22 05:54 PM
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what do you guys think? What do you think?
/r/seduction12/05/22 05:51 PM
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In any case, next time, when a girl is clearly not interested, let it go, don't push it. You have to read a woman. There's a difference between pursuing a woman who is actively showing interest (flirting with you, touching you, etc.) and a woman who you think likes you (even if she likes you.) Sometimes the best move is to lay back.
/r/seduction12/05/22 05:50 PM
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So, if you ask a girl out, and they say they're busy or whatever, you just unfollow them on social media and stop pursuing I imagine That's correct. And if they don't seem to want to escalate, you drop them again. Again, that's correct. I fear that there wouldn't be any women left if you keep dropping people... That's what I'm talking about. Most dating advice is for guys who have this fear - which is most guys. On the most basic level, that's lack of self-esteem and low confidence. It takes con…
/r/seduction12/05/22 05:47 PM
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What was the confrontation?
/r/seduction12/05/22 05:43 PM
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Ya, like I said, it's a slim chance but he has nothing to lose. You need to learn how to take a hint. I tend to shoot for girls with lower notch counts. 6th sense I guess. Please give me an example of when a your 6th sense told you how many men a woman had been with. I also live in a more conservative country than you likely do, I've lived in many countries, and I've never been to a place where you can tell how many guys a woman has had. But, please enlighten me.
/r/seduction12/05/22 05:42 PM
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What happened, exactly?
/r/seduction12/05/22 05:39 PM
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No, because I don't say retarded shit that causes girls to say they just want to be friends. So, it's not from your experience, it's just your imagination. rather that banging girls who've had 10 dicks inside them already. Make that 11. Also, how do you determine how many guys a woman has been with?
/r/seduction12/05/22 05:33 PM
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To show my confidence, I ended up being confrontational How does being confrontational show your confidence?
/r/seduction12/05/22 05:30 PM
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What's the unconventional and better way to do things in your opinion? Learn how to deal with women without tricks or techniques. Focus on yourself and what you want. Let go of anyone and anything that's not in line with who you are. Most advice centers on avoiding rejection, impressing the girl, or trying to change her mind. But, it's a waste of time considering how many women there are. There are so many attractive women who want the same thing you want. You have to be willing to let your ego …
/r/seduction12/05/22 05:19 PM
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What you're saying sounds like you're one of those guys who can't take a hint.
/r/seduction12/05/22 05:14 PM
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In my experience, it might lead to getting her out again and then he can run game to make something happen. So, you're saying you applied this in real life and the girl ended up willing having sex with you?
/r/seduction12/05/22 05:14 PM
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unlucky in finding them. You're not unlucky. You're following conventional dating advice. You're doing what most guys do, that's why you're getting the results most guys get.
/r/seduction12/05/22 04:59 PM
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'Cool, let's split a friendly bottle of wine soon' What is that going to lead to, in your experience?
/r/seduction12/05/22 04:57 PM
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a minor roadblock The girl is not interested. What is your advice?
/r/seduction12/05/22 04:55 PM
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Well, are you talking for talking sake or are you trying to take the interaction somewhere?
/r/seduction12/05/22 04:52 PM
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Wouldn’t ignoring have been petty considering I have been talking to this person for a little bit at this point? Nobody cares. Well, except you.
/r/seduction12/05/22 04:50 PM
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what about all this advice on how girls say they're busy a few times to test your interest or whatever? Nah, they're just not interested. The only thing you're missing is meeting a girl who actually wants you. But, you won't meet her if you get stuck on the ones who don't want you. There are millions of girls out there, many of them will like you.
/r/seduction12/05/22 04:50 PM
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You should have just ignored it. Focus on the other woman who want to date you.
/r/seduction12/05/22 04:47 PM
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why is it when it comes to me, these obviously adventurous women turn into nuns? It's because you're very, very special.
/r/seduction12/05/22 04:44 PM
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any way to do get over this? Yeah, talk less and make more moves.
/r/seduction12/05/22 04:40 PM
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I meant a few rounds of rejection from the same person No, that's not right. One rejection is enough. Think about it - would a man who has option keep coming back to someone who doesn't want him? You're sending the wrong message to yourself and to her. But then how do you know who's into you? Are my assumptions always wrong? You have to test your assumptions. The way to know if someone is into you is tell them what you want to do with them. If they're down, they like you. If they're not, you mov…
/r/seduction12/05/22 04:38 PM
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who obviously likes me (complimented my t shirt, said something like "kudos" This doesn't mean she's attracted to you. but when I ask her out she says she's busy That's because she is not attracted to you. maybe a few rounds of rejection are normal? A few? If you want to be good with women you have to face a lot of rejection. You have to learn how to deal with women. You need more experience. It all starts with knowing what you want and going for it. Remember, most guys never become good with wo…
/r/seduction12/05/22 04:20 PM
0

Sh*t Testing Me or Just Being A Gold Digger? Why does it matter?
/r/seduction12/05/22 04:13 PM
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Share an example of a situation you have been involved in.
/r/seduction12/05/22 04:03 PM
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So that doesn't turn her off, or push her away. If you are confident in yourself, you don't worry about such stuff. Worrying about it is what pushes her away. What makes you think this is a problem for you?
/r/seduction12/05/22 02:46 PM
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the problem is fixed guys I don't think it's fixed for you though. Let's keep this open.
/r/seduction12/05/22 01:28 PM
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Say you have a $250,000 to buy a car. You get to choose between an Audi, BMW, or a Mercedes. Which one will you choose? It all depends on your taste and what you want. But, you'll inevitably reject the other two options. Does it mean that the options you rejected are not worthwhile? The more you approach, the less you get affected by rejection. That's because you realize you are not everyone's taste. And, not everyone fits your desires. You also build your confidence. You know there's a woman fo…
/r/seduction12/05/22 01:27 PM
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Yeah but i have a full time job, aint nobody get time for that. It takes less than two minutes to approach a woman and get her number.
/r/seduction12/05/22 01:19 PM
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Point is, she came with an opener, meaning she’s at least interested in something about this guy. So, how can you tell she's highly interested if you don't know what she's interested in?
/r/seduction12/05/22 09:43 AM
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It's supposed to be fun. That's one of the rationalizations.
/r/seduction12/05/22 09:42 AM
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I see. So, high interest in doing what exactly?
/r/seduction11/05/22 11:25 PM
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So what is a shit test? It's a PUA term used to rationalize that it's still worth pursuing a girl who disrespects you if you can respond with something clever that shows you have value.
/r/seduction11/05/22 09:46 PM
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At least she's high interest. What shows she's high interest?
/r/seduction11/05/22 09:28 PM
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This girl is displaying high interest. What makes you think that? And, high interest in what?
/r/seduction11/05/22 09:27 PM
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sleeping around with strangers when away from home I'm just going by what you say. Regardless, your comments all imply you don't have game.
/r/seduction11/05/22 08:58 PM
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I found myself feeling more disconnected and alone That's because you don't have game. Sleeping with women in occupied countries while wearing a uniform is not game. My opinion is that honesty is the best policy. Opinion? Why not a principle? find a lot of the stuff that gets talked about here could easily be boiled down to methods of manipulation so guys can get laid Yes, that's correct. So, did you just make post because you wanted to share your findings?
/r/seduction11/05/22 08:42 PM
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People's reading comprehension is all fucked up today. Which people? You're not very good at expressing yourself. And, you don't know much about women. But then again, you've already admitted that dating is hard for you.
/r/seduction11/05/22 08:07 PM
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I got that phase out of the way a few years ago No, you didn't. everyone has a different opinion. What's your point?
/r/seduction11/05/22 08:05 PM
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Both parties need to show interest That's flawed thinking. You can't make the woman do anything. Focus on what you're doing. Women don't act the same way as men when it comes to dating.
/r/seduction11/05/22 07:57 PM
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They will show interest if you make a move and they like you.
/r/seduction11/05/22 07:33 PM
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I was referring to the quote in context of your post. So, women don’t necessarily openly show their interest. In your post, you show lack of understanding of how women act. I wrongly read the quote as your expectation from women. As a man, you should show your interest.
/r/seduction11/05/22 07:33 PM
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If you are interested, show your interest. That's not how women operate.
/r/seduction11/05/22 03:28 PM
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Its almost like they have lost how to connect with a human male. No. The truth is you don't understand the difference between how males and females operate on the sexual level. You're not the only one. Most males in our society have a very wrong premise on how it all works. That's why this sub exists. Dating is not pretty bad right now. You just have to learn how to deal with women.
/r/seduction11/05/22 03:26 PM
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Also, if you’re making a statement don’t a question mark at the end.
/r/seduction11/05/22 08:43 AM
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So, you’re missing a couple of things. One is that you’re focused on talking. That’s friends vibes and probably turns women off. If a woman likes you she wants you to at least kiss her. You’re acting like you don’t care about sex. That’s another friend vibe. And , if it’s breaking your self-esteem, you lack self-confidence. That’s another turn off. In any case, your approach to dating is vague. You don’t take it anywhere so the women have no reason to continue seeing you.
/r/seduction11/05/22 08:40 AM
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it indicates a lack of respect from her to me You are correct. I am looking to somehow regain her respect so that she will stop annoying me with her dumb joking comments That's not going to happen. You don't respect yourself so she's just following your lead.
/r/seduction10/05/22 11:01 PM
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Someone that replies back and would like a second date? Is that a question? The reason why you're not getting what you want is that you're either not clear or honest about what you want. Nobody goes on a date just to get a reply or a second date. What do you actually want?
/r/seduction10/05/22 10:57 PM
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Is there some sort of magic formula I’m missing? There's no magic formula. What do you want to happen that is not happening?
/r/seduction10/05/22 10:43 PM
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Does she feel the same?? Unfortunately, my mind reading skills don't work long-distance. So ask her instead.
/r/seduction10/05/22 10:29 PM
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What makes a first date awesome? Spending time with someone who you like and who turns you on.
/r/seduction10/05/22 10:28 PM
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Unattractive women rejecting him? Are you taking about yourself?
/r/seduction10/05/22 09:28 PM
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What if he gets rejected even more lol He’ll get over it. Rejection affects you more when you hardly approach the women you find attractive.
/r/seduction10/05/22 09:17 PM
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Raising alpacas.
/r/seduction10/05/22 04:53 PM
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So the only reason you’re saying she’s not interested in me No, that's not the only reason. That's a definite sign. The exact phrasing she used leaves no doubt. (you said she found it creepy. That's the stuff women say to guys they are not sexually attracted to.) Turkish people are a little different I've had sex with a Turkish girl in less than a week from meeting her. There's no such thing as Turkish people are a little different. The fact that a woman marries a guy doesn't mean she really wan…
/r/seduction10/05/22 04:34 PM
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This doesn't mean she's interested. It only mean she's vaguely flirting with you. It's obvious you're willing to shower her with attention so she'll do enough to string you along. When a girl really wants you she can't wait to meet with you in person. There's a small chance you'll get with her but you'll be back an forth posting about the trouble you're having. Most of the questions in this and other dating subs have one thing in common: the guy can't accept that the girl is not really intereste…
/r/seduction10/05/22 04:13 PM
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just hope they fall for my wit and charming good looks Yeah, I see why being upfront won't work for you. You don't have enough confidence in your value as a man.
/r/seduction10/05/22 04:09 PM
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Tell them what they want to hear What do they want to hear?
/r/seduction10/05/22 04:08 PM
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That hardly ever works especially when you have no money to offer them. For you, it doesn't work for you. But, please share what works for you.
/r/seduction10/05/22 03:21 PM
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She is not interested in you. She is keeping her distance to see what you have to offer her. But, you're not gonna build any attraction here.
/r/seduction10/05/22 03:13 PM
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You have to address in on two levels. One, you have to approach more women. Inevitably, you'll become more confident and you'll attract some women. Then, address the emotional roots of what you're going through. Try the exercise I have pinned on my profile.
/r/seduction10/05/22 02:22 PM
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does that mean you just arent good looking enough? No, that's not what it means. In general, it means your behaviour turns her off sexually.
/r/seduction10/05/22 02:19 PM
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Be honest and upfront with women about what you want from them. You don't have to use explicit language or anything like that. There are many, many, horny women in this world.
/r/seduction10/05/22 02:11 PM
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Yeah, all that's weak.
/r/seduction09/05/22 04:10 PM
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Or, she was attracted to you and thought you were a real man since you acted like one.
/r/seduction08/05/22 02:35 AM
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I have to agree with you about being ambiguous. But, I’m sure you know the guy secretly wants to have sex with you.
/r/seduction08/05/22 02:34 AM
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Keep in mind you have to read the woman. If she’s not comfortable or clearly not interested you let it go. I don’t believe in trying to sway a girl. It’s much better to find one that wants you.
/r/seduction08/05/22 02:31 AM
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It always depends on the situation. In general, I’ll say something like “I want to take you home” or “come home with me.” I’ve said “I wanna know what’s under that skirt”. If we’re kissing then I’ll tease with the way I touch her and suggest we go to my place or hers. It depends on the mood and the timing. Regardless, within 5 minutes of meeting, usually less, I’ll let her know what turns me on about her or what attracts me to her. That way I can quickly move on if she’s not interested in that.
/r/seduction08/05/22 02:29 AM
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Are you asking for an example? Please clarify your question.
/r/seduction08/05/22 02:06 AM
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Could it be one of those shit tests as well? No, she already knows she can control you. Let her go, unless you have little respect for yourself.
/r/seduction07/05/22 11:13 PM
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Is this a sign of a high maintenance woman? It's a sign of a woman who has no interest in you but has temporarily run out of other options.
/r/seduction07/05/22 11:05 PM
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what is likely to be attractive to men Look through PornHub, Sports Illustrated (before the woke era), Victoria's Secret catalogues, and Playboy. Those would be good places to start. Also, top ranking strip clubs will also be useful in your research. These businesses depend on employing women who are attractive to men. What approach could a woman use with you to be the most attractive/ effective. I don't like being approached by women per se. I prefer is she makes sure I notice her. Eye contact …
/r/seduction07/05/22 11:01 PM
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90% is your physical appearance. While everybody has different tastes, there's a range of physical features that tend to attract men and turn them on. The rest depends on what kind of man you are looking for and what you want from that man. What kind of man are you looking for and what do you want from that man?
/r/seduction07/05/22 10:56 PM
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It's fun for me cuz before I used to be needy You still are, that's what I'm driving at. and always crave validation from girls too Besides the fact that you're scared to be honest, this is one reason why you like to waste time on this stuff. I have a bunch giving me validation by texting me This proves how insecure you are. Are you going to answer my question? I'm pasting again, for your convenience: Also, do you mean only calling and texting for a couple of minutes to handle logistics (which I…
/r/seduction07/05/22 10:53 PM
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Any advice on the ‘feel good’ part? I take it you are referring to making women feel good. On the most basic level, it starts with you being relaxed and comfortable with yourself. The more you value and respect yourself, the more women will feel good about interacting with you. Staying relaxed is an essential key. Your ability to relax comes from two things: dealing with your emotions and traumas (when you are by yourself) meeting a lot of women and making moves with honesty Be genuine. This mea…
/r/seduction07/05/22 10:19 PM
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You dont even need to do all that, just tell her when to come through. OP doesn't have the balls.
/r/seduction07/05/22 09:23 PM
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i hate all the dating formalities , i just like to fuck. In that case, you're asking the wrong question. after thinking about it some more thinking about going w the original gameplan of going to get tea first Whoa, I thought you said you wanted to fuck. What happened?
/r/seduction07/05/22 09:23 PM
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but self confidence and humor makes them attractive. Confidence is essential if you want to attract women. It's something you must have. So, workout it's just an extra for you, but it's a great extra. No, it's overrated when it comes to attracting women. You workout for yourself not to attract women.
/r/seduction07/05/22 09:11 PM
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For sure, yet a ton of people meet their spouses at work. OP obviously has serious issues, are you doing this on purpose?
/r/seduction07/05/22 09:04 PM
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I feeling like being attached to her You're a prime target for abuse. Consider therapy.
/r/seduction07/05/22 09:02 PM
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I dont think its the city issue. You're right, actually. It's you. You're full of excuses. Go to a city near you and approach there if there aren't enough women where you are.
/r/seduction07/05/22 08:48 PM
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you need to workout to being more attractive Working out won't make your more attractive if you're not confident. Yes, I do enjoy working out because I like to feel my body. And, working out makes sex more enjoyable for me. But, it's not necessarily helpful when it comes to women. I'm sure you know a lot of guys who have ripped bodies but can't get a girl.
/r/seduction07/05/22 08:03 PM
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including a South American beauty queen Oh wow! I don't need losers like you to validate it. OK, I won't validate it. Keep acting like a caveman. That's nice of you to say. Thanks.
/r/seduction07/05/22 07:59 PM
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Isn't there a bigger city close to where you are?
/r/seduction07/05/22 07:56 PM
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Also, the work never stops.
/r/seduction07/05/22 07:28 PM
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The most important thing is to be brutally honest with yourself. You have to trust yourself above all else. And, you have to be willing to deal with rejection, mockery, and other forms of backlash. The society we're in wants to mold you. By being your true self, you'll inevitably go against the grain. It's not an easy road. Start by being very clear about what you want. Be quick to reject people who disrespect you or violate you in some way. Work towards being as self-reliant as possible but don…
/r/seduction07/05/22 07:22 PM
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What words do you say? It's not about the words. It's about who you are.
/r/seduction07/05/22 07:11 PM
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I don't want to go off-topic so I'll keep this short. Nowdays, women walk around with their guard up. That's true to a good degree. That's because of guys who play games and hide what they want from women - even though women can see through that right away. These guys think that the woman doesn't know why males approach her. I normally use indirect topics depending on the context, That's because you're not confident in yourself. You don't have the swag. You don't have sexual charisma. start tryi…
/r/seduction07/05/22 07:11 PM
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So how do you approach?
/r/seduction07/05/22 06:06 PM
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Nah, OP wants the girl to be in charge.
/r/seduction07/05/22 06:03 PM
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Yes, she would keep you around, mainly for the attention. You see, guys who have women don’t spend energy and time on stories, snaps, chatting, etc. That’s where guys like you come in. You keep the girl occupied in between the sex. Again, if you’re worried about things being awkward, you cannot handle an FWB situation. Even if it happened, you’d get overly attached and the girl would drop you.
/r/seduction07/05/22 05:26 PM
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Why does saying no to being his gf mean that she doesn't want to be a FWB? Girls are scared of guys reactions to rejection. Many guys overreact and often act out. When a girl wants a man, she'll go for whatever he's offering at the time. But, a man who knows what he's doing won't ask her for a relationship.
/r/seduction07/05/22 04:04 PM
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she didn’t exactly say no but she said she has a lot of things to focus on and she’s just chillin right now. That's a nice way of saying "no" to a guy who will take rejection to heart. Idk why else she’d still be interested in hanging out with me Because you're clearly willing to shower her with attention. Whoever she's sleeping with doesn't have this much time for her. I’m just going to assume guys aren’t a high priority for her at this point. The guys she wants to have sex with are a priority.
/r/seduction07/05/22 04:02 PM
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I know I’m not in the friend zone cuz I flirt with her often and she always responds well with hearts and stuff. That's what girls do when you're in the friendzone. When you're not in the friendzone they have sex with you. ask her if she would want to have casual sex before she leaves for college without making things weird between us. The fact that you're worried about making things weird is what will mess things up for you. You can't care about stuff like that if you want casual sex. In any ca…
/r/seduction07/05/22 04:00 PM
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I didn’t realize texting keeps her interested Texting doesn't keep her interested. Did I friend zone myself or is there a chance she may be interested in messing around since she still wants to go on another date with me? She wasn't really interested from the beginning. You should walk away because she doesn't want the same thing you want. If you do continue, she'll start disrespecting you because she knows you don't stand for what you say.
/r/seduction07/05/22 03:50 PM
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I know it’s basically just to attempt to keep me as one of her male orbiters. So, how are you an orbiter?
/r/seduction07/05/22 03:42 PM
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Do you want to stop having sex with her or do you want to continue having sex with her?
/r/seduction07/05/22 03:41 PM
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Is there any way to figure out if she has a high body count? What difference does it make?
/r/seduction07/05/22 03:39 PM
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Good job on recognizing you have an issue to resolve. my brain kinda blocks What's worked for me is looking deep into the root causes of that block. You can check it out on top of my profile.
/r/seduction07/05/22 03:37 PM
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How would you handle the situation? Are you actually sleeping with this woman?
/r/seduction07/05/22 03:26 PM
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What do you think I think there are more productive ways to live your life.
/r/seduction07/05/22 03:21 PM
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I don't consider texting and calling time wasting But what if you can get the girl without all that stuff? Also, do you mean only calling and texting for a couple of minutes to handle logistics (which I do)? Or do you have actual conversations?
/r/seduction07/05/22 03:07 PM
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If all you want is sex, don't waste your time on texting, dates, and other nonsense. Let the woman know what you want directly. If she's down schedule the place and time then go for it. If she's not, respect it, and forget about her. You don't have to be good looking, rich, or have some kind of status for this to work. What you need is to be confident, relaxed, and know how to make a woman feel good when she's around you. What matters most is how you view yourself, how you feel about yourself, a…
/r/seduction07/05/22 03:04 PM
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What do you have to say? Figure out what you want, do that, and stop worrying about what other men are doing.
/r/seduction07/05/22 02:56 PM
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If you respect yourself, don't go on the date. Either way, make sure you write an update.
/r/seduction07/05/22 02:38 PM
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what steps I can take to move on and rebuild my confidence. When you start approaching women consistently, your confidence will naturally grow. It will be a painful process, especially in the beginning. But, if you keep at it, you'll develop a level of skill that very few men have. The best part is, you'll get with women much faster and they'll want you much more. You'll experience things most guys only dream about.
/r/seduction07/05/22 02:31 PM
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The difference is that I skip all the steps you've put between approaching her and ending up in bed.
/r/seduction07/05/22 02:28 PM
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What can I do to improve my social life? Go out to places where there a people. Connect with all kinds of people, ask them questions, learn about who they are. Make time for yourself as well, for things you're passionate about. There are clubs, meetups, concerts, shows, parks, and many other places where you can make new connections.
/r/seduction07/05/22 01:59 PM
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she never reached out to me like I asked her to. That's because she is not into you. assuring her that her answer won’t affect our friendship She doesn't care. Any tips? Start approaching other women.
/r/seduction07/05/22 01:56 PM
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but texting a girl can definitely help build attraction if you do it properly and in a fun way. Men who have options with women don't waste time on this kind of stuff. It's much easier to meet a new girl who's actually down with you. I feel it's outdated advice to just recommend not texting the girl. Your feelings don't change the reality that texting is the way guys who are scared of women do things. Don't overlook it! I've slept with girls without wasting my time on all this stuff.
/r/seduction07/05/22 01:49 PM
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What would you tell her? You are not me. I don't know what you want, only you know that. If you're not sure, that's part of the reason why you're in this situation. So, take another step back. Go somewhere quiet, turn off your phone for at least thirty minutes. Be completely honest with yourself about what you're looking for with this girl, or any other girl for that matter. Write it down. That's what you'll tell her. If she's not down with it, go and look for another girl who is.
/r/seduction07/05/22 01:46 PM
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I'll go on that last date and drop it if nothing happens. Why can't you be upfront about what you want before you go on the date? Call her and talk to her. You'll save yourself wasted time. Better still, ignore her till she gets in touch. Then, when she does, tell her to call you. Don't agree to texting, let her call. When she calls, tell her what you want. Your only hope is to have the balls to be upfront with her. She may still say "No." but you'll respect yourself for not acting like a pussy …
/r/seduction07/05/22 01:38 PM
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tell that i hope she doesn't think i've been friend with her all of this time just to try to fuck her, cause i like her also as a person. This is why she's pulling away. You're a nice guy and she doesn't find that attractive. Ignore her for a while and date other women in the meantime.
/r/seduction07/05/22 01:32 PM
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I'm just wondering why shes asking me out on a date. Probably the guy she is sleeping with is not giving her as much attention as she wants. But, you're always there when she needs an ego boost.
/r/seduction07/05/22 01:28 PM
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Need to be good looking, though This is not true. You have to be sexually attractive as a man - confident, leading her, and making her feel good.
/r/seduction07/05/22 01:26 PM
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Like has this directness ever turned a girl on or swayed a girl in your favor? No, I don't ask for sex or try to sway girls. But, I tell women when I want to have sex with them when flirting with them. And, yes, they have ended up in my bed.
/r/seduction07/05/22 01:24 PM
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She's not interested in you. You're falling for her antics so she's enjoying the attention. You keep making up stories to convince yourself you have a chance with her. She doesn't want you.
/r/seduction07/05/22 01:21 PM
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It's possible she wants to send you some money so that it's clear she doesn't owe you anything. Girls sometimes to that because they know many men expect something after they take them out. but we're talking like 5 euros lol It doesn't matter what the amount was. You still paid after four months of not making a move.
/r/seduction07/05/22 01:07 PM
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Even when I probably should do so, I tend to avoid confrontation Yeah, that's what nice guys do. Even when I probably should do so, I tend to avoid confrontation Again, that's typical nice guy behaviour. Are these two traits one and the same, or are they different? They are different. In your case that difference is irrelevant since you have more important issues to address.
/r/seduction07/05/22 12:54 PM
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She texted me and said she had a great time and asked for my number so she can mobilepay me? Did you pay for the last date you guys went on?
/r/seduction07/05/22 12:51 PM
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What did I do wrong here? It was over by the time you went on the first date. All the stuff you've been doing has nothing to do with attracting a woman. You were acting like she's a friend from the beginning. Still, we text almost daily and sometimes in a flirty manner. You're not helping yourself here. Yeah, that's what people on here will tell you to do. But, it's wrong. You shouldn't waste so much of your time and energy with a girl you're not in a relationship with. That's part of the reason…
/r/seduction07/05/22 12:50 PM
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could be overthinking. You are overthinking. Stop thinking and make a move. She's either interested or not. No matter what we say here, all that matters is you approaching the woman you want. 5’10, built, nice style, That's irrelevant if you're so scared of talking to women you need others who are not in the situation to evaluate it for you.
/r/seduction07/05/22 12:44 PM
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this is really holding me back in this game No, that's not what's holding you back. True game is about being self-reliant. Stop using your friends as a crutch. Go out on your own, you'll learn faster. You'll also get better results. Once you become more proficient, game recognizes game. You'll come across wingmen when you go out and can work together spontaneously.
/r/seduction07/05/22 10:06 AM
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Why does it matter to you to admit to being a virgin to her? Because, the fact that he feels the need to say it suggests he might not satisfy her sexually. That's a turn off.
/r/seduction07/05/22 10:01 AM
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Should I tell her that I’m a virgin while hanging out? She seems to like me No, your sex life is none of her business.
/r/seduction07/05/22 10:00 AM
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Will having no social status(no social life) ruin my chances with women? No. But worrying about this kind of stuff will. All the things you've mentioned will get you attention, at best. If you want someone who really wants they're not much of an advantage.
/r/seduction07/05/22 01:55 AM
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Is the girl happy in that situation? Why is this important to you?
/r/seduction07/05/22 01:23 AM
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Am I doing something wrong? Yes, you are doing something wrong. You're focusing on what the women are doing rather than on yourself. You have set low standards for yourself. I'll give you an example. A woman ignores after you try to make contact with her. As a self-respecting grown-up man, you don't even register this. You go on with your life because you're only interested in people who are interested in you. But, as someone who is desperate for female attention, you spend time and energy going…
/r/seduction07/05/22 12:22 AM
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Meaning even if you pull away nothing will change and she’ll most likely be thankful you stopped texting her… Congratulations, your attempt at introspection and general awareness has been successful.
/r/seduction06/05/22 03:38 PM
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So, why did you agree to be exclusive?
/r/seduction06/05/22 02:42 PM
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Eventually said as long as we're sleeping together it's not something you have to worry about to comfort her So, you agreed to be exclusive. Why?
/r/seduction06/05/22 02:22 PM
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A girl I've been seeing for 5 weeks now had the "exclusivity" talk with me last night And what did you tell her?
/r/seduction06/05/22 02:01 PM
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because you want to be there IF or WHEN she breaks up or is single again. If she's not having sex with you it's not because she's not single. It's because she doesn't want to. What would you say I can do to improve? It comes back to honesty. Nothing you've mentioned about her describes a friend. A friend is someone who you can call if your house burns down. Someone who'll inconvenience themselves to help you. Take risks for you, etc. You know she doesn't care that much about you - she's not your…
/r/seduction06/05/22 01:22 PM
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Good bot.
/r/seduction06/05/22 01:15 PM
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why women does that? Is purely to inflate their ego? She just wants attention? Why is this important to you?
/r/seduction06/05/22 01:15 PM
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did she want to rip me off ? There's only one way to find out.
/r/seduction06/05/22 01:12 PM
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Good job, keep it up!
/r/seduction06/05/22 01:10 PM
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Most of my few friends I’ve made a long time back as a kid or at the start of university. I haven’t been making many new friends recently, That's my point. You don't make people your friends. They become your friends over a long period of time. You don't really want her to be your friend. You want to have sex with her. And, you think that somehow "friendship" will lead to sex. Let me ask you this: if you knew for sure she'd never ever ever have sex with you, would you still pursue her friendship…
/r/seduction06/05/22 01:07 PM
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how could I go about actually getting her to be a friend like that? How did you go about making any other friend you have? I'm sure you have male friends, how did you go about making them your friends? What does it take for you to call someone your friend? Do you have criteria? Or, is you life free for all, with no boundaries?
/r/seduction06/05/22 11:09 AM
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You need to learn how to be straightforward with what you want. Just tell her "Introduce to me to one of your cute friends." Or, "who do you know that you think would be a great girl for me?" But, most likely she won't do it because she's not your friend. She's just a female you're familiar with. In general, being straightforward will instantly show you where people stand with you. A lot of people won't like you. But, a lot more will respect you. And, it's the only way you'll get what you want o…
/r/seduction06/05/22 10:45 AM
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Thoughts/advice? If she's so nice she should introduce you to a cute girl who's actually interested in you. Also, both you theories are wrong. She's not attracted to you.
/r/seduction06/05/22 10:28 AM
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If you think this could be a problem, you should have thought about it before. But, at least, you now know where you stand with your friends.
/r/seduction06/05/22 10:12 AM
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I'm clearly telling you the truth It's starting to look like you have some kind of personality disorder.
/r/seduction06/05/22 10:03 AM
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WHAT LABEL IS USED FOR A MAN THAT HAS FLIRTED WITH ATLEAST 70 GIRLS? I'm not sure if there's a label but you might potentially win the Internet.
/r/seduction06/05/22 09:59 AM
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tell her the truth. OP doesn't live his life that way.
/r/seduction06/05/22 09:53 AM
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basically not answering the question by diverting with a clever line? You deserve whatever comes out of this. Just keep doing what you're doing, nobody can help you. Help yourself.
/r/seduction06/05/22 09:53 AM
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I do have some clever responses that would work in my favor. (28F) who is looking for the "one". ...and such. If you guys were 15, I might give you the benefit of the doubt. To make it easier for you, she's playing you and you don't have enough game to realize she can see through your pretense.
/r/seduction06/05/22 09:36 AM
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Read your post. It's all about manipulating the truth.
/r/seduction06/05/22 09:33 AM
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Both of you are dishonest.
/r/seduction06/05/22 09:08 AM
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never been with a girl before. Never even talked to one matter of fact. Wait... Anyways met a girl recently at a bar and we’ve been talking for a while. So, now you've talked to one. Gonna be open and say One my big insecurities is the size of my penis and it’s curved down. Don't do it. Also, for some reason girls seem to go crazy for curved dick. Just go for it. Make sure you use a condom. All the best!
/r/seduction06/05/22 08:16 AM
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It sounds like you should let her go. I don't think she's interested in you. Based on your comment, focus on other women. With this one, all you're doing is bringing drama into your life.
/r/seduction06/05/22 08:10 AM
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First of all, game is not about meeting women. It's about being who you are. Entering a relationship simply means you maintain your game with that woman. Second of all, well done on admitting you have no game. That's probably what caused the relationship not to go well. So, at least you now have a starting point. Third of all, congratulations. The world is your oyster. You're about to discover that everything you think you know is wrong. There's nothing better than coming out the other side. Now…
/r/seduction06/05/22 08:07 AM
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Unfortunately pick up seems to be all about small talk and most attractive women are unbelievably boring This is not true. From their perspective, you are boring. At the end of the day, if they're interested in you, they want you to make a move. It's about taking action, not talking. When they're attracted to you, small talk becomes increasingly irritating and will turn them off. If they're not interested in you, they'll still talk to you but then you're just wasting your time.
/r/seduction06/05/22 07:54 AM
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how should i take it ? Don't give her your number. She's a pro. You're a mark. Also, stop going to strip clubs because you need to get experience with women who don't see you as a walking wallet. At this stage, it's a bad habit that will have serious negative effects on your self-esteem.
/r/seduction06/05/22 07:18 AM
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You can say that but I don't think you know how to handle things on that level. First of all, you have to get comfortable with it. Try the exercise on my profile("How to be more confident bringing up sex ") and then get back if you have any questions.
/r/seduction06/05/22 06:43 AM
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What should I do next time in a similar situation? Shrug it off.
/r/seduction06/05/22 05:49 AM
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What can I, or should I do? You should start dating more women. Once you realize the abundance you won't be so clingy.
/r/seduction06/05/22 05:29 AM
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I’ve just met someone out, so what do you talk about? Whatever comes to my mind. And, I'll steer the conversation towards sex. If she's not interested, I bounce. If I see she is, I just make my moves.
/r/seduction06/05/22 05:23 AM
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Do you think I should focus on myself and forget about women until I have everything in order or find someone to build up with? You should focus on yourself regardless, you're the only one who makes your life work for you. The points you've mentioned are not the reason why you have trouble with women. You haven't put enough effort into going for what you want, that's the issue. You expect external things to give you confidence. There are many guys who don't have the things you've mentioned but h…
/r/seduction06/05/22 04:04 AM
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How old are you?
/r/seduction06/05/22 03:28 AM
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I’m not gonna do this for someone I just met off of a dating app. Which is why you're having trouble.
/r/seduction06/05/22 03:22 AM
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but I think I failed to build enough sexual tension. There was no sexual tension because she was attracted to you. She's a 7.5 in normal standards but a fucking 11 to me. Then, you should have just said she's an 11. There's no normal standard, only what you want. Obviously I moved on If you'd moved on, you wouldn't be posting here. she complained about men not treating her properly Don't fall for that. It's also a sign she doesn't feel any sexual attraction for you. Do you guys think this would …
/r/seduction06/05/22 03:21 AM
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Just tell her that's not what you're looking for. Better still, forget her and look for someone who is serious about meeting you.
/r/seduction06/05/22 03:11 AM
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Stop texting her. I don't want her to lose interest. Texting won't make her interested. She doesn't care either way. Do you think she's not gonna text/have sex with any other guy for the next 30 days?
/r/seduction06/05/22 03:10 AM
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Only if you're pretending to be someone you're not. You said it yourself, you use openers, whatever "frame control" is, and such. You talk to women you have no interest in - it's all in your post. All that's fake stuff that will burn you out over time.
/r/seduction06/05/22 02:13 AM
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Ok thats the crux of the problem No, that's not the crux of the problem. You're overthinking things, you're not sure of yourself. You think it's the conversation that gets you the girl. You need to streamline what you're doing. Focus on what you want. What do you want?
/r/seduction06/05/22 02:10 AM
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Problem is I don't see how that works in a 3+ people convo. I'd it's just me and the girl I can make it work very well. Why are you doing 3+ convos? Sure, start the conversation, give it a moment and get the girl you want out of the group. Then you deal with her one on one. Oh, she doesn't want to? She's not interested, move on. It's that simple.
/r/seduction06/05/22 02:09 AM
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Often times this happens in a situation where the girl likes me and things are going the right way What do you mean when you say "the right way?" What happens, exactly?
/r/seduction06/05/22 02:07 AM
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the human race wouldn't be here if that was the case No, that's not true. You can meet a partner, have kids with them, stay in that relationship, and hate your life. That's actually most people today.
/r/seduction06/05/22 01:54 AM
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I have to continue to do it till I burn out again You're burning out because you're not being authentic.
/r/seduction06/05/22 01:53 AM
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How can I talk about these things with her? Idk how or when to bring it up. In which case, just move on to other girls. You say this could affect your life directly. If you can handle an honest conversation, this girl is not for you.
/r/seduction06/05/22 12:10 AM
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Your example has never happened in the history of humanity. You’re rationalizing the fact you’re full of excuses.
/r/seduction05/05/22 10:42 PM
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Yeah I lack self confidence too. Now how do I get over that problem lol You have to overcome your fears. You have to deal with your internal traumas. You have to be willing to be rejected. You have to go for what you want. All this means you have to take real life action - talk to girls, accept rejection, and accept the interest you'll get. There's no technique that can help you avoid the pain of learning to deal with women. The reward is on the other side of you focusing and going for what you …
/r/seduction05/05/22 04:05 AM
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You are worried about the wrong things. If you feel anxious, you have to address that before any other advice will work for you. What I have found to work is to face the negative emotions. It will take time, it's painful but it's worth it. The truth is, dealing with women is not complicated. It only seems complicated because of how our society conditions us. Dealing with your anxiety will get your 90% of the way. You could try the exercise I've pinned on my profile here (How to be more confident…
/r/seduction05/05/22 01:32 AM
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It is insane to me how many people truly believe that women cannot abuse men; This is incorrect. They know women can abuse men. The issues is that there's no value in admitting it. Many of these people are abusers themselves. Have you looked at how much money is made by organizations that claim to protect female victims? If you change the narrative, you take away their source of funding. That's why these groups reject any debate and get violent (with impunity) to prevent public discussion of the…
/r/MensRights05/05/22 01:22 AM
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Nah, I’m actually mad on top of my shit right now. You just dont like getting downvotes. Your comment is full of excuses, that's my point. There's no value in it for a person who wants to succeed.
/r/seduction05/05/22 01:15 AM
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What's your actual question?
/r/seduction05/05/22 01:07 AM
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All you can do is keep meeting women. What exactly are you looking for?
/r/seduction05/05/22 01:07 AM
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But what if the real me can be boring? That's not the real you. We all have many facets, some more interesting than others. What do you want from other people?
/r/seduction05/05/22 01:06 AM
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if there is music and the atmosphere is not best for talking ? Welcome to the reality of nightclubs. You still have to approach though. But, the real issue here is that you lack confidence in yourself, nothing to do with the night club.
/r/seduction05/05/22 01:02 AM
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if we both have an eye contact several times, I smile. At that point, you've most likely already lost. Approach as soon as you're interested else you'll appear unsure of yourself.
/r/seduction05/05/22 01:00 AM
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You sound like all those who give up.
/r/seduction05/05/22 12:41 AM
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You’re right, it’s hard. That’s why few men succeed with women. Most dating advice is inferior because people don’t want to go through the process. But that’s also why most men never experience taking a sexy woman home within 15 minutes of meeting her.
/r/seduction04/05/22 10:48 PM
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The most important thing is to learn to fully love, trust, and respect yourself. You have to be crystal clear about what you want. It’s all about knowing who you are so you can be yourself - not a caricature of a man molded by society and other people’s opinions. You will still get rejected so that doesn’t go away. But, you won’t care much, if at all. Then, the women who you attract will treat you like a king.
/r/seduction04/05/22 10:43 PM
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In your case, it’s a waste of time. You don’t have enough real world results.
/r/seduction04/05/22 10:39 PM
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The best response is to walk away and meet more women. As you said, she doesn’t trust your worth. The energy and time spent to prove yourself is a waste and a negative ROI. Instead, look for a woman who recognizes your value as a man.
/r/seduction04/05/22 10:28 PM
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Next time, don’t waste time on girls who are not interested. It’s OK that you got into the club with them. Afterwards, you should have ignored them for the most part. That energy should have been spent on talking to new girls. Overall, good stuff. It’s not easy but this is the best way to become good with women. You’re already ahead of the curve. Keep it up!
/r/seduction04/05/22 10:24 PM
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Your comment suggests that you u care about what others think of you. A lot. To solve the problem, you have to deal with the root cause.
/r/seduction04/05/22 10:17 PM
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The real issue is that they don’t find you attractive. But, you appear to have a certain level of confidence. What you need to do is keep meeting new women. Stop asking females for dating advice, they can’t help you. You’ll still get rejected regardless of what you do. Focus on the women who reciprocate your interest. Now, there’s still some nuance when it comes to to bringing up sex. At the same, the good thing about your current approach is that you’ll weed out those who are not interested ver…
/r/seduction04/05/22 10:15 PM
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Your premise is wrong. You should go out more and meet more people.
/r/seduction04/05/22 10:09 PM
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The people who give it all don’t complain when they fail. They give it some more.
/r/seduction04/05/22 09:51 PM
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The three biggest mistakes are: pretending you don't like the girl wasting time with girls who are not interested not meeting new women but fixating on one girl who rejects you
/r/seduction01/05/22 04:52 AM
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How do you guys do it, is it possible to just use text for logistics nowadays? Yes. You can also call.
/r/seduction01/05/22 01:51 AM
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Go for slightly longer interactions in the 2-10 minute range and go for instadates if you can. There's no benefit to longer interactions. If anything, you'll talk yourself out of a good situation. It's not about talking. It's about making moves.
/r/seduction01/05/22 01:26 AM
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When a girl is forward with you, she's taking a chance. She essentially made a move and you ignored it. So, to her that's rejection. It also shows you are not confident as you appear to be. Confidence is backed by action. Now, her first message ("box me") is already a move. You didn't act on it, you didn't get it. Fair enough, she sent a more explicit one. You still missed it. That tells her all she needs to know. Keep it simple. Contrary to popular belief, the whole point of the messaging is to…
/r/seduction29/04/22 12:12 AM
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I feel double texting shows lower value. You already showed you don't value yourself by talking too much. She was open with you and expected you to make a move. But, you chose to keep talking instead of acting. It's done. Forget about her.
/r/seduction28/04/22 10:49 PM
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Was I too aggressive and fucked up and easy W or is it just typical tinder girl flakiness? No, you missed you cue to set up the meeting.
/r/seduction28/04/22 10:42 PM
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Does every man have to go through a “hoe phase” in order to be confident and secure with themselves? No. Confidence comes from loving and respecting yourself regardless of what happens outside of you. So, it's more about learning to know yourself for who you are. Still, men who are confident and secure are attractive, often perceived as irresistible.
/r/seduction28/04/22 09:00 PM
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No. Girls respond to you. The way you carry yourself matters. It affects things before you even open your mouth. Being direct is what happens when you know what you want and are confident your will get it.
/r/askTRP07/11/20 09:13 PM
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But it seems like people aren't liking me that much anymore - why is that? Who cares? You're asking the wrong question. What do you want to do with yourself next?
/r/askTRP24/10/20 06:17 PM
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Don't lie about where you live. This is going to be good for you. But, you'll get a lot of hate. You know why - these guys are scared you're gonna get all the pussy. And, they're right. Yeah, some women will act up to fit in but ignore all that. Just make sure you run a tight ship with your life. You're on your way to something these guys will never experience.
/r/askTRP23/10/20 07:25 PM
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Keep it moving. Why do you want to respond?
/r/askTRP23/10/20 07:00 PM
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But success of using it hinges of the willingness of another party to do the talking, Haha no, if I'm spending time with a women I just met, I'm not really focused on talking. Plus, women like to talk, it's not something they struggle with. But, if it's time to stop talking, we'll stop talking. Also, I don't know the counteraction. People are resistant to changing their paradigm.
/r/seduction21/10/20 12:53 AM
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I agree, to a large degree, with your last comment about social conditioning. For the other ones, my experience tells me different. In fact, in many cases, less talk tends to work better (or at least let the woman do the talking.)
/r/seduction21/10/20 12:23 AM
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A simpler way to put it is, go for what you want relentlessly. Trust yourself. The mindset will come.
/r/seduction20/10/20 11:56 PM
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There's the hard way, and the only way that works. Get out there. Put yourself in hard situations. When you get hurt, deal with the pain. Face rejection. At some point, you will realize it doesn't matter. Books are well and good but you won't get the mindset you want by reading. You see, when adrenaline kicks in, when your blood is saturated with cortisol, your logic switches off. The only way to deal with it is with real life experience. Also, witty comments are not the key to the pussy. Making…
/r/seduction20/10/20 11:54 PM
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You do have to earn a woman's interest What I mean is earn by serving society. The commonly preached belief is do what society wants women will follow. Or, at the very least you'll have the right to pursue the women you want. I reach him by telling him we're all conditioned to do all types of things, but we can change. Yeah, but you're still operating on an intellectual level. You're not going to help anyone this way. As much as I don't agree with PUA techniques, I'm beginning to accept that the…
/r/seduction20/10/20 11:35 PM
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Is there something about your personality and your demeanor that says to a woman "I'd like to meet that guy"? Do you talk to enough women for some of them to gather that kind of vibe from you? Can you capture her imagination? Are you anything like what she wants? Are you able to read that in her conversation and body language? Can you tell her that with the right amount of passion and conviction that she'll accept it? There's more to it than that. There are deeper issues running that mean your q…
/r/seduction20/10/20 10:43 PM
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Anti-intellectualism. Widely spread in modern mass-culture. I don't agree this is the main reason. The fact remains, intellectual conversation is hardly an aphrodisiac. Yeah, people claim it is, even some women do. But, I find quantum physics doesn't make pussy wet. Also, I think smart guys are more likely to put women on a pedestal. Theoretically - they can. Practically - they are usually too busy and more interested in whatever science they are doing now than in those boring human females. The…
/r/seduction20/10/20 10:42 PM
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The problem with this sub is that the posts with the highest karma (or highest number of comments) are typically the most overcomplicated (and ridiculous) methods to meet Women. So, how do you help guys when they seem to fight the very thing they need?
/r/seduction20/10/20 08:05 PM
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Yep, that's also the danger. Think about it. Most dating products (these days at least) say "make money, build your body, get the clothes." All these are still within the comfort zone of the buyers. Of course, to a degree, that stuff can help. But then, guys go out and see a guy in tattered jeans and dirty shoes kissing a girl they've worked so many years to impress. I think that creates a bit of resentment as well. I wonder what the ultimate solutions is.
/r/seduction20/10/20 07:27 PM
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Is it me or is everything in life just an algorithm? No, but that's what most dating advice tries to make you believe. Not because the "gurus" are necessarily bad. The people who tend to buy dating advice are logical thinkers. In real life, you don't need to do push-pull, etc. Yeah, I know some people think it works for them. But, that's because they don't fully understand a lot about sex.
/r/seduction19/10/20 05:14 PM
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I've seen guys with very basic personalities Please describe a couple examples of basic personalities.
/r/seduction15/10/20 11:17 PM
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Why is it so hard to understand for most girls that I don’t wanna be in a committed relationship with a girl that I can fuck on the first date? Maybe because I fucked some of these girls earlier and we dated for a couple of years.
/r/askTRP14/10/20 09:38 PM
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How do you guys manage your life/your purpose & goals while doing night game? I'm struggling to see how this is a problem you can't solve on your own. What am I missing?
/r/askTRP09/10/20 09:33 PM
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So...where are you on the spectrum? What do you mean?
/r/askTRP09/10/20 08:30 PM
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Doesn't matter. Don't get cockblocked by Jesus. Jesus is not cockblocking him. He's cockblocking himself. ("But I cannot betray GEE-ZUSS!"* - You: "You don't think Jesus was banging Mary Magdalene? NOBODY keeps an 'ex' hooker around except for the advanced oral skills."), If you need to persuade a woman with this many words you're doing something wrong. As a Christian, I can tell you that your lines will dry the pussy up fast. I do love my choir girls, if they resist, it's from something you did…
/r/askTRP09/10/20 08:03 PM
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She basically gives you another shot but you keep cockblocking yourself. I'm inclined to say that you're making a good, plausible point. Trouble is, OP doesn't believe this girl likes to fuck.
/r/askTRP09/10/20 07:55 PM
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You fucked up in your second paragraph. Nah, he fucked up way before. That was just the final manifestation of what was already happening. Herein lies the most common mistake males make with coming out with their feelings. They think they messed by either: confessing their feelings, or by confessing their feelings the wrong way. However, the mistake lies in putting yourself in this position. If you have to talk about your feelings to move to the next step, you're already far off course. For next…
/r/askTRP09/10/20 07:55 PM
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I just wanted her to explain what she meant by "I don't feel the same way, and I don't have same emotions for you," Please, let me explain this for you. "I don't feel the same way" means that the feelings you confessed to have, she does not have the same feelings for you. In other words, you are the only one with those feelings. _"I don't have same emotions for you," means that the emotions you have shown, she doesn't have those for you. Between the two of you, you're the only one with those emo…
/r/askTRP09/10/20 07:50 PM
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What game is she playing? The real question is, what game are you playing? Are you playing yourself? Why are you here asking these questions? Be straight up with her and tell her, you're not interested in friendship. Or, if you are, be her friend. You don't like the texts? Tell her to stop. You don't want to talk about sex any more? Stop. Either way, even if you get with her, you'll be constantly guessing what she's thinking. She's that type, and you're the type you're portraying yourself to be.…
/r/askTRP09/10/20 07:46 PM
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a girl will ask for your Instagram and determine that you are low value because you don't have 10,000+ follower That's not why girls ask for your Instagram. In most cases, when she asks for your Instagram is to find out if you're going to be useful to her. But, she already doesn't want to fuck you.
/r/seduction09/10/20 07:12 PM
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Which Spiderman though? They all look the same to me!
/r/seduction08/10/20 11:45 PM
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gotten my lesbian friends to investigate why Why don't you try dating your lesbian friends?
/r/seduction08/10/20 11:34 PM
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why do you ask? Your comment that I quoted. It sounds like something Spiderman would think.
/r/seduction08/10/20 11:31 PM
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Yes what makes a guy hot is in fact his looks There are so many available women, I don't even know why you care. Even if what you're saying were true, it's not like the women have been rounded up in one place and you can't get access. There are millions of women out there. It seems you've made up your mind. Suit yourself. you can find all of this with the tiniest bit of effort and internet. Look, I have real life experience helping myself and helping other guys. The guys who taught me first were…
/r/seduction08/10/20 11:31 PM
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so much so that he picked up his tinder date and fucked in the car A lot of girls fuck in a car, regardless of looks. They do it the first time they meet a guy. I don't know your experience level but's really no big deal. You could almost say it's normal. super shy and non talkative This doesn't indicate whether or not he has game. You're going off the common misconceptions, including common dating advice. I'm talking about true game.
/r/seduction08/10/20 11:18 PM
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Again, what makes a guy hot is not his looks. Granted, you'd probably think I'm hot. Pause. Still, I can assure you, looks are not enough. Here is what you are getting wrong. You're underestimate how much women want to have sex. Most guys don't have enough confidence to make moves. Lack of confidence is one of the two biggest things that repel women. So, these guys never realize how horny women are. In any case, it's not relevant, what you're saying. Why? Because the comparisons are useless. If …
/r/seduction08/10/20 11:14 PM
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There are just some guys that will leave you scratching your head thinking how the hell they did that. The good news is, any man committed to his own success can do that too. You can be the man that has other guys scratching their heads. More importantly, be the man who gets women's panties dripping. The first step is to make that decision.
/r/askTRP08/10/20 10:13 PM
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Why don't u chat up the fattest and uglier girl that u find? OOOOH Some say, truth hurts. This time it made me laugh!
/r/askTRP08/10/20 09:31 PM
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I get it, no one likes a pessimist or negative nancy but when people are told to just bottle up their frustrations and greivances they have, they're told to just buck up and deal with it and any pressing that conversation gets you labelled as an incel or whatever colourful labels are being thrown around. I actually agree with this statement. Unsuccessful males can be particularly mean towards guys who struggle with women. That's why I recommend this exercise that helps to deal with sexual fear o…
/r/seduction08/10/20 09:24 PM
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Ugly dudes I know pull hard, not because they’re jacked, but because they are completely comfortable in their own skin. My biggest role model when it comes to this stuff is: slightly shorter than the average height at the time I lived with him, he had a rusty station wagon you had to push to start. And, yes, sometimes the girls would push too. had a job but definitely not rich (look at the car reference above) had a pot belly, I don't know if he's ever been to a gym Definitely not a stoic, somet…
/r/askTRP08/10/20 08:44 PM
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What you call "game" is faking the things he talks about having. Nope. How did you come to that conclusion? I'm so against faking I've upset many a PUA etc. Having game means having balls. Having game means being a man. The quote is talking about a fantasy. It's a false persona based on myth and movies. And, of course, many dating guides recommend that. You don't have to be ripped to get women. You don't have to be tall. Being emotionless? Are you joking? That's not how life works. You definitel…
/r/askTRP08/10/20 07:44 PM
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But if an attractive guy goes to a nightclub, house party, tinder, or even an active bar, he’ll find himself directly approached after doing nothing. Good looking doesn't mean attractive when you're talking about a man. Doing nothing is a fantasy. You still gotta have game. This is why men fail with women. They don't understand the basic traits that women want. So, they disqualify themselves when they could succeed. Also, few men know how to discern success with women. Heck, there's guys who thi…
/r/seduction08/10/20 07:36 PM
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put your number in it so when she asks for it Are you a Spiderman fan?
/r/seduction08/10/20 03:35 PM
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work on becoming an attractive and confident person, not pretending to be one. True. But OP won't listen. That's why this sub exists.
/r/seduction08/10/20 03:33 PM
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He’s the famous skinny guy. You need to be his jacked confident Chad friend. Or, you can be the guy who pays the famous skinny guy.
/r/askTRP08/10/20 03:29 PM
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The pussy will follow. The pussy won't follow. All the other stuff is not a substitute for having game. The good looking, jacked, calm and emotionless guy who hangs out with the actor bangs way more girls than the actual actor. No, the guy with game bangs way more girls than the actual actor (assuming the actor doesn't have game). You don't have to be any of the things you've mentioned to have game and attract women. But, to be fair, there's a calibre of girl that will fuck a guy for his fame or…
/r/askTRP08/10/20 03:27 PM
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how I could have that same influence/power/fame? I’m in my mid 20’s. I’m a software engineer, I make 6 figures and go to the gym and work out very often and recently totally updated my wardrobe. Here is the most important thing. Power and influence comes from faith in yourself. The external stuff is just tools. Resist the temptation to seek for power and influence. That's a sign of weakness. What you're really saying is you want some kind of external validation that you're valuable. Instead, und…
/r/askTRP08/10/20 03:22 PM
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Lol no way you actually believe that. Looks without balls is a very common phenomenon.
/r/seduction08/10/20 03:03 PM
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And for that I am very grateful... Well, you do need a way to cope with your virginity.
/r/seduction08/10/20 03:24 AM
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Real life isn’t the same thing as porn brother For you, it's not.
/r/seduction08/10/20 02:59 AM
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Looks alone can easily bed women Not true. The world is littered with good looking guys who can't get laid. The best players I've seen, I mean world class players, are not good looking. They're not ripped, tall, or even rich. They're just men who allow themselves to be men. People are scared to hold eye contact for so many reasons. That's the society we live in. I've even heard of companies where HR will summon you if you look into people's eye beyond the prescribed time limit. Yeah, that's craz…
/r/seduction08/10/20 02:22 AM
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You just went up to random moms and complimented them? That’s weird It won't seem weird once you lose your virginity.
/r/seduction08/10/20 02:19 AM
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Welcome to reality brother! Reality... Yeah, I think that's what's missing in this sub!
/r/seduction08/10/20 02:17 AM
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Also, scoring with milfs is a little different than with single girls. Not true. I'd agree that each woman is different to a degree but fundamentally, it's still the same thing.
/r/seduction08/10/20 02:16 AM
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Following your instincts is extremely liberating. You're on the path to true game. If you can keep going, you're going to see the world from a perspective few men get to experience. Don't fall into the trap of following countless dating guides and B.S. Go for what you want. True game is primal. Also, I see comments about what can go wrong, etc. Don't worry about all that. Stay confident, you'll figure things out very fast. The game is really simple, the hard part is unlearning all the B.S. we te…
/r/seduction08/10/20 02:15 AM
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Perhaps, but OP has to learn somehow.
/r/seduction07/10/20 12:08 AM
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Also, whilst I’m at it, what ways would you recommend for me to improve my humour and be more of a funny guy (but not a clown)? I'll tell you but you won't believe. Just remember this for after all the other comments have failed you. Or worse, you end up an orbiter or in an unfulfilling reletationship. So... You should mostly let her talk about herself. Ask her questions. Share some stuff about yourself too, especially in the beginning. Don't try to make her laugh. If something amuses you, by al…
/r/seduction07/10/20 12:03 AM
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How should I handle this kind of situations? You did just fine. Although, sometimes, it's good not to even say anything. If it's gonna go down, it's better if there's no talking involved.
/r/askTRP06/10/20 11:57 PM
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obtaining a woman's love What does that mean? money and status matter for the long game You take care of yourself. You take care of your family. That's just being an adult it has nothing to do with attracting or keeping a woman. Ask anyone who's been divorced or the well-paid execs who have to pay for escorts. My point is that guys tend to see these things as prerequisites to having sex. When it comes to status... For most guys that's just delusion. The status assigned to you by a group of peopl…
/r/askTRP29/09/20 07:58 PM
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dudes that aren’t shredded do to meet girls that won’t cheat Being shredded won't save you from getting cheated on. And, yes, there are good women out there. They are not as common as we wish them to be. At the same time, most males don't have what it takes to be with a good woman. Money, looks, and a shredded body don't do the trick. But, that's all people know. There's a much better way but most guys want to focus on the external things. The guys who really know what's up don't advertise thems…
/r/askTRP25/09/20 08:45 PM
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In my experience, this hasn't got much to do with a woman's looks. Women across the whole spectrum have these characteristics. Maybe, you're doing something wrong...
/r/askTRP25/09/20 03:51 PM
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she REALLY wanted to know my height and life goals. She was really high interest, In short, this doesn't mean she is high interest. High interested is when she takes her clothes off or tries to take yours off. It's when she holds you, stands close to, tries to connect with you physically. The bigger question is your behavior. If you were confident in yourself, you'd be dealing with her directly. You'd tell her what you think. And, you'd act on whatever happens next. Because you don't have that k…
/r/askTRP25/09/20 03:48 PM
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How do you address this behavior? You don't. Address your neediness. Why is it affecting you so badly? I'm not saying what she's doing is right. It's not. But, that's her. You have to focus on yourself and your behavior. You're here trying to figure out why she's distant. This means you're already past the point of no return, else you'd have dealt with it on your own. You've chosen to stay in that situation. It also means you ignored signs leading up to this situation. By implication, you tolera…
/r/askTRP25/09/20 03:43 PM
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she didn't want to blow me or even touch my penis. What to make out of this? Which part didn't you understand?
/r/askTRP25/09/20 03:37 PM
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Sure, send a DM with details. I'll tell you a good book by a scientist.
/r/askTRP25/09/20 12:17 AM
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You'd have to give me more context. There is a very wide range of traits. In any case, it's difficult to give a definition that's not elusive considering that human nature is as varied as the number of people on earth. For every trait, you'll find an exception. You could write a whole book on masculine traits and there are books. Send me a DM if you want an intriguing recommendation. What project is this for?
/r/askTRP25/09/20 12:04 AM
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that are ascribed to men specifically for the function of the male gender I'd say masculinity is inherent in males as a result of division of function in the human race's adaptation for survival and replication. It's not an arbitrary concept, so the word ascribed isn't an accurate one.
/r/askTRP24/09/20 08:08 PM
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You make no sense. If you want, I'm more than happy to explain it to you. All you have to do is ask.
/r/askTRP24/09/20 03:05 PM
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but i want your opinion But I want yours first.
/r/askTRP24/09/20 03:04 PM
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I’m saying to get comfortable with socializing with people so it you won’t have anxiety with dealing with women And, I am saying socializing with people won't take away his anxiety with dealing with women.
/r/askTRP23/09/20 07:48 PM
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I talk to girls, I’m not a god damn incel and I believe I’m witted and charming. No, you're not. Charming people don't put others down. Rather, they make you feel good. How charming you are depends on how confident you are. Part of your problem is that you look down on others. That becomes an issue when you find a flaw in yourself. You can't address it or see it because you have a negative attitude. So, your own mind will block you from seeing the changes you need to make to attract women. If yo…
/r/askTRP23/09/20 07:46 PM
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OP, based on your comments, it appears you have a view of you own. Please answer your question the best way you can.
/r/askTRP23/09/20 07:32 PM
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If i get my SMV up i will probably be better off mentaly to approach. Nope, that's not how it works. You need to learn how to deal with your sexuality. Once you're one-on-one with a woman, in any setting, anything outside that interaction has a diminished effect.
/r/askTRP23/09/20 07:29 PM
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Put your focus on your social skills with people and then you’ll see a difference when you approach women. That's not necessarily true. Chatting with a group of people, for instance, is a completely different skill from getting a woman's pussy wet.
/r/askTRP23/09/20 07:28 PM
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"Worthless" doesn't apply to me because I live in Europe and "college" is for free here. It still applies to you because you're going to spend valuable years of your life. You can't get that time back. And, life can hit you really hard if you choose the wrong major.
/r/askTRP23/09/20 07:25 PM
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I do all I can to understand the principles behind what I'm studying. That makes it so much easier to remember things later. I focus on a topic until I have a good grasp. If it's really hard to understand, I look for the tiniest thing that makes sense. Then, I build around that. If it's a practical thing, I tried to do it or at least run a thought experiment in my mind. Your teachers/lecturers should also be happy to help if you struggle with a topic or have nagging question.
/r/askTRP23/09/20 07:24 PM
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But why me? I’m sure she’d get it plenty more from some of the other, more beta guys in here. Stop calling other guys beta if you aren't acting in any better way. If you're such a hard guy just ask her. Or are you scared?
/r/askTRP23/09/20 07:21 PM
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Are you still in touch with your parents? And, do you have siblings?
/r/askTRP23/09/20 07:19 PM
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This is what I recommend but it's not a Red Pill way. It's just what I find works. Spend the first hour of your day studying. Don't let anyone or anything distract you. Keep your phone off during this time. After your classes/lectures take a nap. Then, spend another hour studying. Don't let anyone or anything distract you. Keep your phone off during this time. Do your assignments. Don't let anyone or anything distract you. Keep your phone off during this time. Pay attention in class. Don't let a…
/r/askTRP23/09/20 07:04 PM
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I guess I was extremely needy That's what attracts her to you. You're prey to her. This is not a test. This is your life if you choose to stay with this woman.
/r/askTRP23/09/20 06:59 PM
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You are in an abusive relationship. And, she's about to discard you. But she could take that as a lack of self-respect You don't respect yourself. So, that would be an accurate assessment. I became more insecure and needy, in part because I don't know anyone here yet No. Not knowing people in a new area is not a cause of neediness. You were needy and insecure even before you met her. It's only now that the shit hit the fan. The best thing you can do is to dump her. Since she belittles you, there…
/r/askTRP23/09/20 06:57 PM
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Why didn't you ask her?
/r/seduction23/09/20 06:44 PM
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Is it possible to fix that and be a more outgoing and charismatic person or am i doomed to be this pussy and shy individual forever. If so, how to do it ? Yes. It's possible. Understand your advantage. Not talking is a powerful skill that many underestimate. Listen. Really listen to what people are saying to you and to each other. Ask questions. Then, listen. This will make people you see you as fascinating and charismatic. You'll naturally develop a way with people if you follow the above steps…
/r/askTRP23/09/20 05:21 PM
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Maybe it would’ve helped to have just pulled the trigger anyway. That would have worked.
/r/askTRP23/09/20 05:08 PM
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Until he feels like he deserves it, which is until he’s happy with his conversations, he not gonna pull the trigger You have a point. That's why OP needs to grow a pair else it will become a vicious cycle. Here is what I mean. OP will try to have an interesting conversation with the woman. The woman will find it boring because she doesn't want to talk, she wants to fuck. OP will think the cause is bad conversation. So, he goes back to asking how to become better at conversations...
/r/askTRP23/09/20 04:56 PM
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Essentially, become a high value person. I don't believe this statement. I understand the concept and why it's useful. The problem is that people get stuck on it and take it literally. The truth is, what you need is to love and respect yourself as you are. When you care about yourself, you tend to do things that are good for you. It's natural to exercise, eat well, and improve your life. Our society doesn't encourage you to value yourself. We don't know how to love and accept ourselves. Hence th…
/r/askTRP23/09/20 04:50 PM
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but clearly he also is not confident in his conversational skills which is a bigger problem than fucking this one girl What I am saying is he doesn't need conversational skills to fuck this woman. A conversation will kill the vibe at this point. He needs to take the lead and make a move instead. Once he's fucked her, conversation won't be a problem.
/r/askTRP23/09/20 04:27 PM
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From OPs question: This girl has made it so FUCKING CLEAR that she is interested in me If he wants to have sex, the next logical step is to make a move, to turn her on. You have to lead the interaction. A thought provoking conversation is what makes you boring in this context.
/r/askTRP23/09/20 04:21 PM
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It doesn’t matter what the woman wants. Ah, you're taking this too literally. Also, it matters what a woman wants. We're talking in a sexual/romantic context here. It's a two way street, no matter how much you want to posture. What this guy wants is to be able to talk to girls and for them to have fun. I'd argue he wants to have sex with women.
/r/askTRP23/09/20 04:15 PM
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What kind of a housing situation provides the best opportunities for growth and freedom? The one that you took your time to think through. Only you know what you want from life. You know your work, finances, schedule, preferences, etc. Make a list of what you want, analyze it, draw a conclusion, and take action.
/r/askTRP23/09/20 04:11 PM
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He got laid... That's it?
/r/askTRP23/09/20 04:03 PM
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I disregard the last sentence entirely, and focus on the first. Yes, agreed. Also, I didn't most of what's in between. It looks like guys fall from one addiction to another.
/r/askTRP23/09/20 04:01 PM
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you played the game well and you won How did he win? He pretended to be someone he is not. How is that winning?
/r/askTRP23/09/20 03:58 PM
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In a way I feel like I followed TRP approach to texting girls to the letter So, you know the source of your problems. You have to think for yourself too. You can't make anything your dogma. Now, there's nothing much you can do here. Except, of course, learn from your experience. Be clear on what you want. Don't treat a woman like you don't care, if you care. There's nothing wrong with caring. I disagree with the idea of acting aloof. There's no need for that. What you need is strong boundaries. …
/r/askTRP23/09/20 03:57 PM
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I’m throwing up complete blanks when it comes to engaging and provoking conversation. Your first mistake is assuming that this is what a woman wants. Consider, when she's alone with you she might want to be seduced. After you've fucked her, she might want to lie in your arms. Chances are, conversation is not her top priority when she's with a man.
/r/askTRP23/09/20 03:48 PM
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The Red Pill is a wake up call. Once you wake up, start to think for yourself.
/r/askTRP23/09/20 03:46 PM
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programs to improve my social skill What are some of the programs you liked?
/r/seduction22/09/20 04:51 PM
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Who said I don’t know how to? it was our first time hanging one on one I am saying you don't know how to. Men just don't go this route when they know what they're doing. Don't ignore what I'm saying to you. There are consequences. Serious consequences.
/r/askTRP22/09/20 02:12 PM
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Most of the time, it happens because guys create an impression using their profile and sometimes texting. Then, the woman gets disappointed because the guy doesn't have the confidence she expected. He doesn't know how to turn her on. As I said in the comment, you just call when you feel like calling. If you have to tiptoe it means you're doing something wrong in general.
/r/askTRP22/09/20 02:09 PM
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Especially when I just follows the guides like everyone else. Not everyone follows guides. As you can tell, I don't. I don't know your age but at some point you need to learn how actually attract women. Once you grow some balls you'll have enough confidence to do that. I’ll let you have the last word. No, you could have instead put forth some good arguments. Instead, you called me names. You insult me. But, I don't blame you. You can't meet a woman without using another man's ideas. How can I ex…
/r/askTRP22/09/20 12:22 AM
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You’re just a trolling loser. Nope, I am not trolling. I really think you are a liar. So, you had to check my profile to answer my questions? You can't answer based on the merit of your own experience? Maybe there's a guide that can help you with critical thinking...
/r/askTRP21/09/20 11:59 PM
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I've studied hundreds of hours of seduction material Take a year off this stuff. Half of your problems will go away. Also, accept that there's no formula. Attracting women is a primal instinct. I don't come across as masculine That's true. You're going through this because you're relying on someone else's mindset to live your life. Read through my comments. I explain how these methods are just placebos, they're not real ways to attract women. Forget the techniques, your life will be so much bett…
/r/askTRP21/09/20 11:52 PM
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Money and muscle are both attractive as they are both forms of power, more powerful you are the higher up the hierarchy one goes. Which hierarchy? You do realize that many guys with money and muscles struggle with attracting women? Money and muscles are not enough to compensate for lack of balls.
/r/askTRP21/09/20 11:44 PM
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Follow the escalation guides. My question is meant to show that you're a liar. You're giving advice but you're not much better off than the person you're advising. So, I'm calling you out. Also, what benefit is it to me to follow escalation guides?
/r/askTRP21/09/20 11:44 PM
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Do you guys send a text the next day saying hey had a great time last night let’s do something this coming weeken? I call when I want to talk to her. I don't think there's such a thing as a date that went well or not. It's more like, she's either into you or she's not. If you act out of insecurity, she'll tell you you're a nice guy and you should be friends.
/r/askTRP21/09/20 11:35 PM
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How hard is to describe a situation when you're not lying?
/r/askTRP21/09/20 11:26 PM
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Again, I didn't ask to explain the terms. I'm saying, tell us what happens when these girls flock to you. Use normal language.
/r/askTRP21/09/20 11:19 PM
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I understand the terms. I am saying describe what happens using normal language.
/r/askTRP21/09/20 11:12 PM
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OK, so next time tell her to write her ideas first. Then, you can help her make corrections. Don't let her push you into doing this. It sounds like you're scared to stand up to her.
/r/askTRP21/09/20 11:08 PM
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OK, so next time tell her to write her ideas first. Then, you can help her make corrections. Don't let her push you into doing this. It sounds like you're scared to stand up to her.
/r/askTRP21/09/20 11:08 PM
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We escalate and go for the hook up. What does that mean? Use normal language.
/r/askTRP21/09/20 11:04 PM
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I have this female co worker that will tell me: "Hey, can you write down the ways of handling xyz?" I do. Is she your boss?
/r/askTRP21/09/20 11:00 PM
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Girls want to join in when you’re just letting it loose. And then, what happens?
/r/askTRP21/09/20 10:55 PM
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When you get enough guys following your lead, the girls will naturally flock to you. Is that what happened to you in real life? Do tell!
/r/askTRP21/09/20 08:13 PM
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How are you supposed to get females in a situation like this? The same as you do anywhere else. You man up. You approach, flirt, lead, seduce. Your problem is not your college. Or the ratio. You are not attractive to women - that's the challenge you have to overcome. The reason why you're not attractive is that you're not confident enough to approach. You're scared of rejection and you blame the issue on male/female ration. That instantly takes you out of the game. You also have disdain for guys…
/r/askTRP21/09/20 08:12 PM
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bro, I don't think this is your fault at all, It is his fault. He messed up with his behavior, before he sent the text. Read my comment for details. Even if he hadn't sent that text he'd still end up in a similar situation with this girl. If you want to be good with women you have to take responsibility.
/r/askTRP21/09/20 08:00 PM
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You're fully aware of the consequences of using drugs to seduce women. Grow some balls and learn how to attract women properly.
/r/askTRP21/09/20 07:46 PM
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I can't thank you enough for this, you're like the father I never had You're welcome. Feel free to reach out if you need help in the future.
/r/askTRP20/09/20 02:09 AM
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First of all, don't get so easily flattered about your physical appearance. Women get turned off when men get easily affected by compliments. Caring so much about your looks is a feminine trait. It's hard to give specific advice without knowing more about you. In general, trust yourself more. It appears you have natural charm. You don't need to read a lot of dating advice. Instead, get crystal clear about what you want. Then, go for that. Most dating advice assumes low levels of confidence. I do…
/r/askTRP20/09/20 01:53 AM
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Should I have said some BP shit to keep her hooked? Like - "I'm looking for a nice girl to spend time with"? You must think she's stupid.
/r/askTRP20/09/20 12:56 AM
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Well, it sounds like she's just not taking you seriously. A woman wouldn't act this way if she was really interested in being with you. She likes you but she wasn't yet sure what to do with you. But, she definitely doesn't respect you as a man. You were basically a "maybe", possibly you showed her there were other ways she could benefit from you. (Where did you go on your date?) From the way you write, you're not very experienced as a womanizer. Yet, you try to give off the vibe of someone who k…
/r/askTRP20/09/20 12:54 AM
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What about the "everything went well" part? What happened? Are you older than her?
/r/askTRP20/09/20 12:38 AM
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9.9 times out of ten those guys are orbiters. just what the redpill strives us to become. What do you want to become? More importantly, who are you?
/r/askTRP20/09/20 12:36 AM
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everything went well except Please share exactly what happened. Also, how old is she?
/r/askTRP20/09/20 12:33 AM
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RemindMe! 7 days
/r/askTRP20/09/20 12:25 AM
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This whole setup sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. Please update your post in seven days.
/r/askTRP20/09/20 12:23 AM
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I can be focused more on my goals and mission What are your goals? And, what's your mission?
/r/askTRP20/09/20 12:20 AM
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The easiest, fastest way to be interesting is to be interested. Develop a natural curiosity about people. Ask questions, really get to know people. Do this without expecting anything in return. You'll get a lot more out of life. And, people will think you're fascinating. You'll be the one-in-a-million person not trying to impress.
/r/askTRP19/09/20 11:30 PM
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It depends There can't be a general solution to these type of questions It doesn't depend. There's a reality of how natural sexual attraction works. Texting is not part of that reality.
/r/seduction18/09/20 06:05 PM
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I do, however, fail to see the significance of “porn” in this debate, Porn is not bad in and of itself. The problem is, males who have social issues medicate themselves with porn. Instead of meeting females in real life, they pleasure themselves by watching other males have sex with the women they want. They don't develop the skills needed to interact with women in real life. Then, you have social media feeding them inaccurate information. Most of the stuff in this sub is total B.S. It only make…
/r/seduction18/09/20 06:02 PM
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What I am saying is that most of these issues wouldn't exist if it wasn't for social media. And porn.
/r/seduction18/09/20 05:40 PM
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social media has a lot of benefits that aren’t as obvious as it’s downsides: such as anonymity, the ability to freely express opinions You can't freely express opinions. Many opinions will get you banned or physically attacked. You could also lose your job. Result? More anxious people. This is not my opinion. This is factual information. In fact, truth is the easiest way to get attacked on social media. Plus, how is it a benefit? You're proving my point. Instead of dealing with issues people go …
/r/seduction18/09/20 05:18 PM
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which makes it seem like their numbers have increased This is not true. We've always had socially awkward people, yes. But, the socially awkward person from 20 -30 years ago is different from what we see today. Heck, even people who appear to be socially adept have serious emotional issues. Why? Because people are disconnected from each other and from themselves. We stare into screens - once we used to stare into each other's eyes. What the hell is social anxiety in the first place? Taking the t…
/r/seduction18/09/20 04:42 PM
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No, it doesn't. That's not how sex and relationships work. Except in movies, of course.
/r/seduction18/09/20 04:34 PM
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a lot of socially awkward people tend to open up more in person once they get to know others better The smart phone culture has created more socially awkward people than anything else. Or rather, it has created a situation that helps people avoid facing these issues. Thus, being social awkward has become normal. In reality, as with many modern "afflictions", it's just a symptom of deeper issues. Texting, etc makes those issues worse, not better. The only way you could think such a relationship i…
/r/seduction18/09/20 02:59 PM
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I feel you. Now, I'm going to give you some tough love. First of all, your past is done. Let's focus on the future. Your first step is realize your dad is not the source of your issues. At this point you are a man, whether you, or anyone else, accept that fact. You are on your own. You are on you own. That's the good news! You have to figure out a way to move out - assuming you're still with your parents. The fastest way to do that is to get a job, if you don't have once. If you do, save up so y…
/r/askTRP18/09/20 01:34 PM
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What are you afraid of?
/r/askTRP18/09/20 01:06 PM
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Well, at the very least, you are addicted to a fantasy of a woman who you hardly know. If you have real life experience and you allow yourself to get into this kind of situation, something is wrong. You have no sense of self-worth. You say you do but it's all related to external things, outside of you. So, you can't call it self-worth. Based on the way you've answered my questions, you're not ready to face yourself. A professional may help you do that. If you don't address these issues, you will…
/r/seduction18/09/20 01:01 PM
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How do i turn the tables on him? You don't. You need to grow up. You must stop seeking his approval and validation. Focus on your life, what you want to do. Allow the relationship to take a natural course. In fact, it sounds like it would be good if you stopped trying to connect with him for a while. he is always submissive Your question and your attitude are submissive as well. Focus on building your life.
/r/askTRP18/09/20 12:56 PM
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Plus I'm 6'2 and dress nice. It sucks because I get compliments on my bone structure and face very often. So not being able to show it I feel like lowered my natural confidence a little ngl. That's how females think. Now, well done. Next time: you're a man. Your father's wishes are secondary in this specific situation. take her number. don't time it. Deep inside, you were not sure of yourself. That's the real issue. So, sort that out, next time, you'll be fine.
/r/askTRP18/09/20 12:51 PM
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Yeah, people lie anyway. If you're saying the truth, consider looking for professional help.
/r/seduction18/09/20 12:42 PM
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Status in general is very important to women's attraction What makes you so sure of that? What do you mean by status?
/r/askTRP18/09/20 12:39 PM
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Yes, they are often better in general. But, it's not utopia and you get people who abuse others while hiding behind Christian principles. Keep in mind most Christians still do all the sins. There's a higher level of accountability, though. That makes a big difference. Besides in churches, I don't think women are held accountable in the Western society. So Christian women will have better attitudes. But, again, Christians are people too. You still have to be a man and women will be women. You won…
/r/askTRP18/09/20 12:38 PM
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Yea sex What does this mean? Were you having sex with these women or not? Look, your answers are contradicting themselves. Men who know women don't talk like this. You have to learn to value yourself just because you exist, not because of what you think you have to offer. You haven't mentioned anything that turns women on sexually. In fact, this is the kind of stuff that repels women. If you want things to change, start meeting women in real life. I think you're lying to me, what you're saying d…
/r/seduction18/09/20 12:20 PM
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I'm confused, are you saying you have to hang around her all the time? You can't find anything else to focus on in your life?
/r/seduction18/09/20 12:15 PM
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What do you mean?
/r/seduction18/09/20 12:09 PM
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What do you mean when you say provide? I'm talking in terms of women.
/r/seduction18/09/20 12:02 PM
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I’m just overall less valuable now To be clear, what makes you valuable (or not?)
/r/seduction18/09/20 11:58 AM
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I do not want to be with a woman who acts like this. Are you sure? Because it looks like you do. You are with a woman who acts like this. And, you will be as long as she stays with you. A favor, by definition, doesn't have to be granted.
/r/askTRP18/09/20 11:51 AM
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I’ve had 2 or 3 different women all over me at one point What do you mean, all over you? Were you having sex with them? Or were they just giving you attention? I do have plenty of experience with women Please describe your experience. my sense of manhood has diminished because my career has not given me enough financial independence for me to feel proud of This means you're doing it the wrong way. You're valuing yourself based on your career. You will never have lasting confidence with that. Aga…
/r/seduction18/09/20 11:39 AM
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It's a movie so of course it's exaggerated but does any of this ever happen in real life or is this just Hollywood? It's not exaggerated. It's completely false. Also, if you think like this, it will hurt your chances with women.
/r/seduction18/09/20 11:16 AM
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What do you mean seduce? You want to have sex with this guy?
/r/seduction18/09/20 11:15 AM
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Here is the harsh truth: she's not interested in you. Your best bet is to walk away. If you stay, just accept that she doesn't want you. Also, ask yourself why you need her so much. You sound like you don't have any experience with women. You need to sort that out.
/r/seduction18/09/20 11:13 AM
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What do you guys do when this happens? You have a bigger issue. She knows she doesn't have to respect you. You'll stay no matter what she does. The best thing to do is not to hang around her so much. When you are together, tell her to put the phone aside. The trouble is, she'll get back to it anyway. You'll make up excuses for her and steam in your anxiety. So, the only advice that will work is to stop being the kind of man who stays in this kind of situation. Else, this kind of thing will get w…
/r/seduction18/09/20 11:08 AM
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who are much better able to express their feelings over text than in person and are still in healthy communicating relationships. I think this is a contradiction. So, are you saying, if you have no credit on your phone the relationship is over? What happens if your battery runs out?
/r/seduction18/09/20 11:02 AM
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She was flirting with your housemate to hurt you - that's sick. She was probably using your housemate as a prop to mess with you, Nope. She was flirting with the housemate because she's interested in fucking him. We are men, let's call a spade a spade.
/r/seduction17/09/20 04:29 PM
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I find the slightest rejection hits me hard. I think I want validation from a girl who I really respect the hell out of and admire But there's just something wrong with me and maybe it's my self esteem at an unconscious level? Maybe it's just fragile? Your words, not mine. Oh, and you try to save face with: I'm not planning to date for validation. So, when you've had enough, remember what I said.
/r/seduction17/09/20 04:16 PM
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I meant my esteem. That's a contradiction. If you had esteem for yourself, you would have walked away. In effect, you rationalized getting abused. You suppressed your emotions rather than deal with the situation. And, now you're paying the price. Appreciate the reply but I'm not a typical 'nice guy'. Yes, you are. Nice guys think they're harder than they are. You're not ready to accept reality. So, you're going to get more of what you've had in the past. You don't realize it yet, but everything …
/r/seduction17/09/20 03:50 PM
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I used to handle it pretty well but felt like I was always close to breaking down. You didn't handle it very well. The fact that you stayed was part of what eroded your self-esteem. You have weak boundaries and many women will take advantage of that. The only way to handle it is to walk away from the relationship. At the very least, you must disengage and stop investing in that relationship. In your post, you mentioned dating 20 - 30 girls before settling down. Dating those girls will not solve …
/r/seduction17/09/20 11:55 AM
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Not only that but the so called "experts" can't even agree on everything because everyone's experiences are different You'd be surprised at how many of these experts are worse than you in real life. Yeah, it's one thing entertaining a girl with your "routine stack." It's another taking her home.
/r/seduction16/09/20 04:45 PM
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Yep. This is true. I find that guys with the most "knowledge" are least successful. Also, people expect women to react like they do in the movies. They think that female attention is the same as the female being attracted. At the same time, the fear of approaching so big most guys who like to "study" will continue to "study." It's also complicated by the way Western society enforces certain dynamics on male-female interactions. Advertising, movies, and the "seduction" community all operate on th…
/r/seduction16/09/20 04:43 PM
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escalated sexually What exactly do you mean?
/r/askTRP11/09/20 12:16 PM
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Yes, it's possible. But, why would you want to do that? What's so special about this woman that makes you wanna travel back in time?
/r/seduction10/09/20 06:06 PM
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In general, this situation doesn't matter. Sooner or later, you'll come across a man who makes you feel insecure. Rightly or wrongly. Obviously, your intention is to stay in the relationship. What you need to do is divert your focus. Yes, it's hard. But, you need to put your energy back into yourself. You don't know what will happen in the future. For all you know, you'll break up in, say, 3 years. You don't want to be left with regret. So, do what you know will pay off in future, regardless of …
/r/askTRP10/09/20 04:58 PM
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Are you my ex?? Let's forget about her anyway. That's done. It's over. She's ancient history. What's more important is you waking up so that you don't get into that kind of situation again.
/r/seduction10/09/20 04:38 PM
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mine was not the case. My point is, she was not faithful to you. She is not as special as you make her out to be.
/r/seduction10/09/20 08:41 AM
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Your issue has nothing to do with the women's age by the way. You're simply going around it the wrong way.
/r/askTRP09/09/20 04:32 PM
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That's too long. You need to set the tone early on before you even go on a date. Yeah, in the beginning you'll get rejected more as you learn how to express your sexual interest properly. But then, you will filter out the women who are just going to waste your time. You have to rework your whole approach to dating.
/r/askTRP09/09/20 04:31 PM
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This is actually accurate. Women don't pick men based on hobbies. As OP himself knows deep inside, he needs to pick a hobby for himself, for his own personal goals. I don't think I even have hobbies, it's never been an issue.
/r/askTRP09/09/20 04:29 PM
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I have an idea what happened because it's not a unique situation. It's a very common pattern among men who don't know what they're doing. I've worked on similar issues with many men, this is nothing new. It's so common, it's easy to predict what will happen next.
/r/seduction09/09/20 04:18 PM
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you know her and you know everything that happened No, I don't know her. I'm basing this on what you've written.
/r/seduction09/09/20 02:40 PM
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You're doing something wrong before you get the numbers. Describe your typical approach.
/r/askTRP09/09/20 01:40 PM
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never talk overtly about sex with a girl until AFTER you've fucked her at least once. In my experience, that's not true. I overtly talk about sex with women, if I feel like it, regardless of whether I've slept with them or not. Try to text her into having sex. This I agree with. That's where OP went wrong.
/r/askTRP09/09/20 01:38 PM
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I have a feeling this girl likes me How can she like you? She's never spoken to you. All she knows is pictures and texts. The same goes for you. At this point, it's a fantasy on both sides. I am just wondering what gives when a similar situation arises Stop putting yourself in situations when this would arise.
/r/askTRP09/09/20 01:32 PM
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At what point do you let them know you're sexually attracted to them?
/r/askTRP09/09/20 01:26 PM
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She started a relationship in April. No, that's when you found out about her relationship.
/r/seduction09/09/20 01:15 PM
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do get in a relationship but never put out Describe this a bit more.
/r/askTRP09/09/20 11:46 AM
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barely even worth the effort. Then, why did you invite her over? I don't really want to deal with tinder sluts, and cold approaching feels really weird to me. Anyone here has any tips on where to find decent women? You can stay in your room to make sure you're not available to increase your perceived value. Every now an then, open a window to let one climb in, as they fight each other to get to you.
/r/askTRP08/09/20 07:10 PM
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When I'm approaching someone I don't know the only thing I have to work with is appearance. That's exactly what you have to work with. Here is where it gets tricky. Understand that this is not the way our society wants you to think. This is important for two reasons. If there are people around, the woman will be more self-conscious. She can't necessarily show that she likes what you said. She doesn't want to be labeled as easy or a slut. Also, she doesn't want you to think that about her (that s…
/r/seduction08/09/20 05:13 AM
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I mean I invited her for a drink, it's pretty straightforward right ? No, it's not. Women get invites for a drink all the time, friends go for drinks too. If you she knows your intentions and then you invite her for a drink, that's different. There's nothing sexual about saying "Let's go for a drink." There are three keys, if you want to avoid the friend zone. you must let her know you find her attractive and what attracts you to her physically. you must tell her what the next step is (say, goin…
/r/seduction07/09/20 04:25 PM
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After I get their name I tell them I saw them and I thought they were pretty cute So, next time, look them in the eye and tell them exactly what you like about them, what attracted you to them. If you do it right, they'll either drop their jaws and act shocked or just say thank you. Overall they should be smiling. You might also run into some pretenders but you need to have guts to handle them. Also, the rejections should also be quick and painless when they're not interested. Before you ask for…
/r/seduction07/09/20 04:16 PM
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She has to know you find her sexually attractive. You can't be subtle about it for too long. Yeah, she may be reluctant but at least you're not digging yourself into the friendzone. You can't be afraid of rejections either. Things will go in the direction you take them. But it all starts from sexual attraction. Otherwise, it's friendship not romance. how people perceives her It doesn't matter how people perceive her. What matters is your view. Overall, you come across as timid. Your current appr…
/r/seduction07/09/20 03:56 PM
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Well she is a solid 8-9 That's it? In any case, you're doing it all wrong. You seem to think that you can hide your intentions the reveal them at the right time. It doesn't work that way. You're playing it too weak. Yeah, you can start with flirting but take it somewhere. Before you even invite her for a drink there should be some kind of understanding of what you want from her. Also, is 8 or is it 9? Why can't you make up your mind?
/r/seduction07/09/20 03:48 PM
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if the girl is really worth it What makes her really worth it?
/r/seduction07/09/20 03:33 PM
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Describe your typical approach.
/r/seduction07/09/20 03:32 PM
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should I tell her if she asks me about past relationships? You don't have to. Leave the past behind and focus on her. would it be a bad idea to say I'm shy? Just so she won't expect an outgoing guy. There's no need for that. You don't know what she's expecting. Put your energy towards getting to know her, enjoying yourself, and just having fun with her. When is the right time to officially ask her to be my girlfriend? I mean, how long should I wait. You haven't even gone on a date with her! How …
/r/seduction07/09/20 03:16 PM
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Because you can pass it and end up fucking her This belief is a recipe for getting abused. Disrespect is disrespect. Yeah, sometimes you can check the girl and it stops. But, what you need is to check her, not give some kind of clever response.
/r/askTRP07/09/20 03:09 PM
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When I was able to consistently help other guys attract women.
/r/seduction07/09/20 02:00 PM
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Based on what you've said, stop pretending to be someone you're not. If you send text that don't represent who you are in real life, this is what you get. More importantly, learn to do things that make you respect yourself. If you're shy, you need to start taking more risks, put yourself out there. You don't have to be a fast thinker, women don't really care about clever banter. What they care about is how confident you act, how you lead, how you treat them. The best thing is, go on your date. E…
/r/seduction07/09/20 01:57 PM
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She's not attracted to you but she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Forget about her. Find a woman who actually wants you.
/r/seduction07/09/20 01:52 PM
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What's your question?
/r/seduction07/09/20 01:51 PM
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it's not a shit test. If only OP would listen. Sometimes I wonder how many guys have here have experience with real life women. Why do people assume a girl being disrespectful is some kind of test they can pass? And even if it was, why would you stay with someone who disrespects you, even as a test?
/r/askTRP07/09/20 01:47 PM
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Desired outcome: something you want. Outcome independence: you live your life regardless of whether or not you get the desired outcome.
/r/seduction07/09/20 01:29 PM
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Effort is more what I'm talking about. I find effort attractive. If that's the case, you may find better luck on Grinder.
/r/seduction05/09/20 02:44 AM
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I know having a strong, active and fun social life will give you access to unlimited amounts of women. This is a myth based on movies and inaccurate dating advice. In any case, the easiest way to attract people into your life is to contribute. So, are you into the party lifestyle? Learn how to organize small events. You want to make a difference? Volunteer or start your own community projects. Here is an important note about social status. There are two general types of social status. One is hum…
/r/askTRP04/09/20 07:28 AM
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Well they obviously know I’m attracted I go with the hello I thought you were cute could I get your snapchat etc. No, they don't your intentions. Being attracted is not enough. Also, a friend could easily tell them they look cute. This means that at this stage, none of them is taking you seriously. It almost doesn't matter what you send them. Asking for snapchat is too timid as well. They will give that to anyone. If you're trying to get with them, you should ask for the phone number. And call t…
/r/askTRP03/09/20 07:34 AM
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Do the girls know why you asked for the numbers? What did you tell them?
/r/askTRP03/09/20 01:39 AM
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What should you do if another guy catches her attension? Give yourself some time. Allow yourself to hurt. It hurts. Then, ask yourself why it matters to you so much. Surely, things must have been going wrong somewhere before all this happened. You're not ready for that yet, though. Just let it hurt. Once you've dealt with the pain, you'll find a way to figure it all out.
/r/askTRP03/09/20 01:33 AM
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The one thing I caught on to was that everyone was fake. Well, it's going to be hard because not everybody is as perfect as you are. So, what you want to force yourself if that's what people are like?
/r/askTRP03/09/20 01:25 AM
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I'm confused. If you know how to get girls, why are you here asking how to get girls?
/r/askTRP03/09/20 12:56 AM
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I've been married twice and had a smoke show half my age on my arm for 5 years. You were saying? This doesn't mean you know how women think. In fact, if you did, you wouldn't be asking your questions. Probably that would be your first step towards getting better results - accepting the fact that you have a lot to learn.
/r/askTRP03/09/20 12:22 AM
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talking robust masculinity. Yes, that's something women do dream of. But, pull-ups have nothing to do with it. It appears that you don't have a grasp on how women actually think. Just to be clear, many men who can't do pull-ups do very well with women. So the issue is something else here.
/r/askTRP03/09/20 12:14 AM
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How many 27 to 35 y/o dudes you know who can do pull ups? How many women do you know who dream of a man in his 40s who can do pull ups?
/r/askTRP03/09/20 12:08 AM
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the strong, stoic, centered, alpha, abundant, driven, and relentless man I'd say when I gave up on living up to this fantasy. Yeah... it was around that time.
/r/askTRP02/09/20 11:00 PM
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Ok, so if you read the book a decade ago, why are you convinced it's not B.S.? You haven't answered any of my questions. So, here is how you know if I'm right or not. Read the book again.
/r/seduction02/09/20 10:47 PM
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Hold on, which girls did he get in the book?
/r/seduction02/09/20 10:38 PM
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What exploits? I'll come back to your other questions. But tell me, what exploits did he actually mention in connection with himself?
/r/seduction02/09/20 10:25 PM
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The guy went from being a reporter to "the best pickup artist in the world", so clearly he has acquired some useful knowledge. Yes, indeed. He's become a master marketer. It's B.S. because it's founded on the wrong premise. There's a better way to deal with women that is 100x more effective. The way the book presents it takes too much energy and time. In any case, Neil Strauss makes a similar point to mine in the book itself.
/r/seduction02/09/20 10:17 PM
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You have a bigger problem on your hands. If all that you've said is true, why are you still considering this issue? Your answer is in your questions: Is this desire for validation? Or is this a genuine request to get back together? Looking for closure? Ask the same questions, not about her, but about yourself.
/r/askTRP02/09/20 07:07 PM
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good for you :) That right there. Why do you feel threatened by everything? Yeah, you're irritating but that's not the point. The harsh comments are trying to help you and guys who act like you. Nobody is trying to put you down. You have the same attitude towards the woman, probably the same with others. Her text was not an attack, a threat, or a test. It was a question. As a man, you need to be able to sort this kind of stuff on your own. Keep in mind that the responses here are for everybody's…
/r/askTRP01/09/20 10:41 PM
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Good stuff.
/r/seduction01/09/20 09:45 PM
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This post and thread is the gayest shit of all time I didn't fully agree with that until you made the following comment: why are all u mfs so ass tickled? Now I know where your mind is.
/r/askTRP01/09/20 09:26 PM
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In my experience, it becomes as big a deal as you make it. Also, I don't follow TRP as dogma. There's some useful stuff, there's a lot of B.S. too. So, with this attitude it doesn't matter. When I organized my first dating seminar, the girl I was dating gave me some money to help me pull it off. Most of the women I deal with know that at a point in time I used to teach guys how to meet women. They don't really care as long as you treat them right. Bottom line, you guys didn't break up because sh…
/r/askTRP01/09/20 09:23 PM
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u must have a sad life dawg Nah, you're sad for acting weak and insecure. Soon, you'll be back here asking for advice "Guys, I had the right frame. She dumped me for another nigga. Is that a shit test? How do I get her back?"
/r/askTRP01/09/20 09:15 PM
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u/tharzog-788 You're absolutely right. But, on the flip side, that's why these motherfuckers get depressed when women don't want to be around them. They read a bunch of stuff and think it's all a formula. Not to worry, the jungle punishes the weak and the stupid.
/r/askTRP01/09/20 09:13 PM
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I'd have to know the context. If it was serious and there was tension in the relationship then I'd just be as honest as I could be. Exactly. This is the best answer. OP is child for even bringing this up. This is what happens when people take "game" to literally.
/r/askTRP01/09/20 09:11 PM
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I said “hmmm idk, you are pretty annoying ;)” Man, not everything is about a clever response. Your whole question reeks of boyish insecurity. If you keep acting like this, you'll lose this girl. There's a place and time for being playful, for teasing. But sometimes you've gotta act like a grown up. It's not that the question or the situation is that deep. It's just that you being so childish that you ask other guys for advice on this very message is some weak shit.
/r/askTRP01/09/20 09:10 PM
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And, you want to stay that way?
/r/seduction01/09/20 08:55 PM
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The guy who makes other people good about themselves is doing cause it is beneficial to him as well. Therefore he is doing for selfish reasons. He is no different than the first guy. There's nothing wrong with being selfish. In fact, you have to be selfish if you want to fuck on the regular. But, that's not the issue here. You're mistaking being selfish with not caring about other people. That's the connotation the society gives but it's false. Also, you can still be a bad person and make people…
/r/seduction01/09/20 08:55 PM
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This is the best part of that book in my opinion. Probably the only part of the book that is not total B.S. Yes, I've read it.
/r/seduction01/09/20 08:51 PM
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You're welcome. Feel free to reach out if you have any other questions.
/r/seduction01/09/20 07:52 PM
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Can you explain the difference between staring and looking? That's a very good question. And, yes, I am happy to help you understand the difference. For the purposes of attracting women, what matters is the feeling you're trying to convey. When someone stares at you, they usually hide both their feelings and intention. They are not open to you. Their face will remain almost motionless. It creates anxiety in you, when someone stares at you. It's what happens when someone wants to intimidate you. …
/r/seduction01/09/20 07:31 PM
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How to create ambiguity What does this mean?
/r/seduction01/09/20 02:45 PM
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Obviously, this will help tons with women No, it won't. Instead of staring, look into their eyes. Connect with them. Smile, if you're so inclined. Staring is cold, emotionless. Looking, on the other hand, will open a new world for you.
/r/seduction01/09/20 02:41 PM
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Work and improve till those girls that rejected you start regretting why they did it. That's not how it works. If you follow your own advice, you'll just be going deeper into the same thing that keeps you getting rejected. Which is, lack of confidence in yourself and lack of belief that you're good enough as you are. Look around you. Most guys with women are not driving fancy cars. They don't have six-pack abs. They're not the best storytellers. Now, by all means do follow your passions. Improve…
/r/seduction01/09/20 02:38 PM
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Yes, direct relation between confidence and results. So why do you say you take issue with me talking about lack of confidence?
/r/askTRP01/09/20 01:36 PM
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"playing the percentages" I don't think I said anything of this sort. Why do you take issue with lack of confidence? You don't think that affects results?
/r/askTRP01/09/20 01:23 PM
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I think we are splitting pussy hairs here. No, we're not. Here is what I am driving at. You don't know how to attract women outside of the groups you've mentioned. So, you think those are the only women who will sleep with a man with zero dates. I am saying that your lack of confidence results in the experience you have had. On the other hand, if you improved you game, women outside of those two groups would sleep with you without going on dates. Please let me know if I'm still not clear.
/r/askTRP01/09/20 01:03 PM
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You are exactly correct! No, he's not correct. That's what happens to you because that's the best you can do.
/r/askTRP01/09/20 12:38 PM
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notice key words "easily accept" You're approach this from a wrong premise. Women don't "accept" date bangs. It's either you turn them on or you don't. How did you come up with the two groups if you have no experience? Your explanation is a word salad that makes no sense. Feel free to ask questions, I will explain any part you don't understand.
/r/askTRP01/09/20 12:34 PM
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Please share details so we can see the benefits of following what you have outlined.
/r/seduction01/09/20 02:24 AM
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Think about where you could be 1,3 or 5 years from now. So, where are you now?
/r/seduction01/09/20 12:55 AM
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I disagree about the two groups. I don't believe you have real life experience in this area. When a woman is highly attracted to you and you're trustworthy, it happens. She has to feel comfortable with you. You have to be relaxed and know how to lead. Many women do it, it has nothing to do with what you might consider her value. Don't forget, they want to have sex too.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 10:31 PM
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I’d be happy to restart a discussion like this someday, Yes. And the first thing I will bring is why you say you don't know what feminine is yet you identify with a group whose name stems from that word. My contention is, if it's both genders the name should not focus on one. I'm very curious about your answer.
/r/seduction31/08/20 10:23 PM
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The point is, doing things that have no impact is not building it up. You have to go for what you're really after. Sure, you can go at your own pace but do what matters. Only one thing you've said matters. Build that up. The rest is easy, you can sort it in one day.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 10:19 PM
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There's something to be said for building up to it though don't you think? Not the way you suggest to do it. The better ways it to be clear about what you want. Then, you turn her on if she is interested. Hiding your intentions leads to a lot of problems. A lot of guys think that revealing their intentions destroys the effect. But, that's only because they reveal their intentions to late. Most girls know very very quickly weather or not they find you attractive. If they don't, in the vast majori…
/r/askTRP31/08/20 10:11 PM
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Only one of things on your list will help. It's the scariest option.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 09:07 PM
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This will take some time. What do you mean?
/r/askTRP31/08/20 08:14 PM
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What I am saying is that, on the emotional level, you're vulnerable. Not because of your recent LTR. That was just a trigger. Your ex acted the way she did because she knew she could. You were already vulnerable in that relationship. The other girls you're mentioning, they can smell it too. The ultimatum, in this case, is just manipulation. She'll get worse in time. The other girl you mentioned, was testing to see if you can be controlled. You passed the test with flying colors. Yes, you can be …
/r/askTRP31/08/20 07:55 PM
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This plate is too good to be lost, but I'm also not willing to call a classmate I barely know. Any other alternative? Yes, there is one. Forget about ever sleeping with her.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 07:55 PM
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There’s literally like 100 people who agree with top comment except you. Are you going to go with the 100? Or you going to go with what I am telling you? It's not pick-n-mix. This is serious stuff that will affect your life long term. I can't just tell you, it doesn't work that way. You have to realize it for yourself. In fact, I've told you but you're not getting it. Re-read my comments I've told you all you need to know to open up your eyes. Another guy tried to argue with me on this. Read my …
/r/askTRP31/08/20 07:28 PM
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The top comment and other comments said i did the right thing and I just gotta keep going with the flow. They are all wrong. You haven’t even offered an explanation as to how I’m allowing myself to be disrespected, or how I’m setting myself up for hurt. That's what I'm trying to bring you to but you're resisting. I don't think you want to see the reality. My advice is conflicting with everybody else's. So, either I'm right or everybody else is right. Choose the one you believe is best for you an…
/r/askTRP31/08/20 07:16 PM
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When I say call I mean call not voicemail. All communication must be direct.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 07:12 PM
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So she's also 21, please tell me if I'm wrong. From what you've said, I understand you are both of legal age. Assuming she's not psycho (and you're not either), there's only one way you can play this. First, stop with the texting. You either call or meet in person. Don't even arrange dates over text. If she insists, ignore her texts till she calls you (after you've told her you prefer to hear her voice.) Then, when you meet her, look her dead in the eye and tell her your intentions. Tell her wha…
/r/askTRP31/08/20 07:09 PM
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Aight, here's the deal. I don't think you'll get what I'm saying now. I don't think you realize what you're saying. Read your own comments and imagine it's another person. I'm gonna leave this here. All I can say is, you're setting yourself up for some serious hurt and damage. It appears that you need to hit rock bottom before you get what's going on. This is not something red pill can help you with. If anything, you'll just get pushed deeper into it. I can't help you at this point.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 06:50 PM
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(Let's keep the discussion here or if you wanna do voice, DM) What I am saying to you is that you're cutting out parts of the story. Her telling you she wants LTR is NOT disrespectful. But, I know she has been disrespectful but you're not admiting it. I'm trying to bring you to see your pattern. Look man, I'm not sure if you realize how deep this is. Why did you break up with your girlfriend?
/r/askTRP31/08/20 06:38 PM
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How old is she?
/r/askTRP31/08/20 06:33 PM
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I never said that. You're twisting my words.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 06:33 PM
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And, her age as well.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 06:20 PM
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so she's aware of my intentions. First of all, this statement is not true. She is not aware of your intentions. But how should I do this since we study together and share some groups on university projects? That's irrelevant. Hold on, let me check your post to make sure you're of legal age. It doesn't seem to say. Before I proceed any further, tell me your age.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 06:19 PM
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To fuck her. I don't want anything else. And you have explicitly told her this?
/r/askTRP31/08/20 06:11 PM
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(I've flirted with her openly before, so she's aware of my intentions.) What are your intentions?
/r/askTRP31/08/20 06:07 PM
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What exactly did you tell her?
/r/seduction31/08/20 05:57 PM
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she was excessively shit testing Nah, it's just like I've been telling you in the other comments. This is a pattern in your life. Let me say this again. Just like in the other discussion, this girl is outright disrespecting you. The only test you're passing is your willingness to accept abuse. You're attracting women who are looking for prey. As long as you stay, you're prey. As long as you try to switch the situation around, you're prey. The only way to win, is not to play! How do I not let it …
/r/askTRP31/08/20 05:52 PM
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Well... let's leave that for a moment. You didn't answer what happened with your last relationship though. "Badly" is not a story. (there is a method to my madness, so bear with me.)
/r/askTRP31/08/20 05:28 PM
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The description was more for context (as in, I don't have man boobs or extremely long hair), which would probably garner these types of comments no matter what. I have extremely long hair and I don't get these comments. The fact that you think your physical description gives context still doesn't negate my point. You attach a lot of importance to it. That tends to be feminine behavior.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 05:12 PM
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So why did you add (often) to what you said? Also, her asking you that is not a big deal. I don't look at that as a test.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 05:08 PM
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No probs, I must have must have misinterpreted when you said: What’s my emotional state? One more thing I asked, that will help you understand my answer. Please give me three examples of when this happened: doesn’t shit test (often) (taken from your post)
/r/askTRP31/08/20 04:18 PM
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Your state.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 04:08 PM
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I just realized, different discussion about the same topic. My point is, if you're confident, your compliment about her looks will turn her on. You look directly into her eyes and tell her what you like about her.
/r/seduction31/08/20 04:08 PM
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Also, you don't end it there. You lead the interaction. Now, she doesn't get it all the time. Most guys can't even look a girl in the eye and tell her they find her sexually attractive. That's why they pussyfoot around it and over-complicate it like you suggest. Being direct is the fastest and easiest way to attract a woman.
/r/seduction31/08/20 04:04 PM
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By complimenting some choice she's made about how she presents herself Let's start with, that's not what I said. Read my comment again. I said what I find most appealing about her.
/r/seduction31/08/20 03:59 PM
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Also, the automoderator has removed my comment into where I went into more details. Look above the other comment you made to me. Heck, I'll just paste it here again. Here it is: The strongest negotiating position What negotiation position? Let me spell this out for you. Both OP and the girl have some serious emotional baggage. The girl can tell how vulnerable OP is even though he may not be aware of it. From OP's post: I like her a lot, she’s LTR material, doesn’t abide by any modern dating rule…
/r/askTRP31/08/20 03:56 PM
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I''ll come back to your question in a moment. What I want to know is, what made you admit it now?
/r/askTRP31/08/20 03:53 PM
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Nah, that's not it. How did your last relationship end?
/r/askTRP31/08/20 03:47 PM
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Why do you say that? Because I can tell from your post what your emotional state is. And, if I can tell, she feel it even more strongly. You're prey to her. You're not dealing with an emotionally stable woman. Think about it. You can feel something is off. That's why you're here.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 03:42 PM
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How about being emotionally stable? How about being not disrespecting you? How about not pushing for a serious relationship after having sex, and then in just a couple of weeks of knowing you? The things you've mentioned have almost no bearing to the success of a relationship. If those are important to you, by all means, make them part of your criteria. At the same time, realize that those are simply your preferences. And I’ve dated a bunch of girls who don’t check all those boxes so idk. Exactl…
/r/askTRP31/08/20 03:39 PM
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This is gonna hurt. Let's set some ground rules. You asked a question, I'm gonna give you an honest answer. You'll disagree but I ask you to think about this. If, later, you change your mind, let me know. Be as honest with me as I am about to be with you. I am going to share the biggest Red Pill mistake men make. Guys stay on TRP for way too long. The purpose of TRP is to snap you out of the wrong paradigm. It is not a panacea that has solutions to every problem you come across. And, from my exp…
/r/askTRP31/08/20 03:23 PM
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u/KillaJewels here is another one for you to downvote. I've figured out why you take issue with my comment. It's because I've described something you've been going through a lot. Women routinely treat you bad. And, you rationalize it... oh it's a comfort test, no, I need to strengthen my frame, oh she wants to see if I'm still alpha. Wait, there's more. You think you are high up on the SMV scale. The trouble is... the girls that are high up on the SMV scale, they don't even spit on you. You've b…
/r/askTRP31/08/20 02:23 PM
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Yes, but romantic attraction starts with sexual attraction, at least in heterosexual relationships. If they were only interested in a hookup I doubt the friend zone would even be an issue. That's not true either. Many guys lie about wanting a long term relationship because they are afraid of admitting they just want a hook up. Or, they become friends hoping the girl will eventually sleep with them once they see how " nice" or "good" they are. Sexual attraction is probably something most young gu…
/r/seduction31/08/20 01:32 PM
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The strongest negotiating position What negotiation position? Let me spell this out for you. Both OP and the girl have some serious emotional baggage. The girl can tell how vulnerable OP is even though he may not be aware of it. From OP's post: I like her a lot, she’s LTR material, doesn’t abide by any modern dating rules, doesn’t flake, doesn’t shit test (often), really intelligent, super fit. That is no indication of being relationship material. Also, notice (often) referring to so called "shi…
/r/askTRP31/08/20 01:31 PM
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Some guys only realize they're into a woman after getting to know her in a friendly way. Are you saying these guys don't feel sexual attraction until they become friends with the girl? How long does that take, in your view?
/r/seduction31/08/20 01:12 PM
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An advantage here is that he’s set a precedence for vetting her out and can take his time. That's your fantasy thinking. There's no such thing as "precedence for vetting her out." What the hell does that even mean?
/r/askTRP31/08/20 01:10 PM
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Dress, in a way that makes you comfortable. If you want to get into fashion, by all means do that. But, that in itself won't get you in bed with the girls. I'll give you an example. I had a drink with a girl. I was wearing a T-shirt, a cheap pair of jeans and a cheap pair of FILA sneakers. Some of the guys who are after this girl wear $300 shirts, etc. (she was kind of the Instagram type ) Yet, I was the one she ended up sleeping with. What matters is your confidence. How good you can make a gir…
/r/askTRP31/08/20 12:54 PM
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It's called sexual attraction.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 12:38 PM
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I don’t see any major red flags here. I do see red flags. There's no advantage here, that's just theory that has no grounding in reality. You're forgetting that she's an autonomous being who doesn't comply with the laws of red pill philosophy.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 12:18 PM
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She is LTR material, according to you. That's because OP is using wrong criteria. There are red flags on both OP's and the girl's side. Just that the girls is more astute so OP is the one who end up getting hurt. Badly.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 12:09 PM
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Because they don't want you to think they're sluts. Because it turns them on when you know how to turn them on and turn them on. Because it weeds out guys who are not confident. Because they don't know if you'll like what they're doing. Because they don't want you to reject them. Because they think if you really like them, you'll make that move. Because who cares, why? What matters is they don't. Act accordingly.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 11:51 AM
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So I’m a short guy - 5 ft 5. Whatever that is in metric. I’m a handsome guy, good hair (think Leo Decaprio in Titanic), and a pretty decent build (I lift, not huge but now fairly low body fat thanks to IF). I'm not saying the guy was right. But, this is the kind of attitude that attracts this kind of comment. Who cares about who you look? You are man, take care of yourself, by all means, but don't lead with your looks. Now, to deal with it, you can ask him , "Oh, it's not? Then, you shouldn't be…
/r/askTRP31/08/20 11:35 AM
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(I'll leave this not, please reply when you can and take your time. It's very rare to find someone of opposing views who'll help you understand them. So, thank you! It means a lot.) But I think it’s a fundamental misconception that men are better at leading. In my book, leading means serving the community and holding space for the weaker, with compassion and kindness. I appreciate you sharing your views. Also, that's not what I was referring to. Although, I still disagree but that's really not r…
/r/seduction31/08/20 10:59 AM
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Because I do still believe that competent women are passed by only because of their gender. That's possible. I think that's a deeper discussion, so let's leave that for now. But, I will agree that this is possible, and of course, unfair to the women who apply. the difference between male/female leads are still staggering My view on this is that men are biologically better suited for building society. Again, I'm not saying this mean we shouldn't allow or encourage women to apply for certain jobs.…
/r/seduction31/08/20 10:25 AM
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If I have a girlfriend, I answer, "No, I'm not single." If I don't, I say, "Yes, I am." Keep it simple.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 10:07 AM
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I realize that feminism has a image issue What do you say about the groups that make violent threats against any group that meets to discuss men's rights? Also, do you think it's right that certain jobs have a requirement that you belong to this group? You may not be aware of this but I've seen this happen. And, one more question, what are your criticisms of this movement?
/r/seduction31/08/20 10:01 AM
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many people has the notion of wanting to emasculate or overpower men. Because that's one tools used by leaders of the movement. Many followers may not think that way but in effect, that's what happens. As a member of the Negroid community, I don't support the current political movement said to protect me either. Yet, I have been mistreated by the police, in a very stereotypical way. So, I know many ( but not all) of the issues a real problems. But, not all of them need to or can be solved on the…
/r/seduction31/08/20 09:22 AM
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They can trust you more and feel safer because your commitment is more guaranteed to them. A woman only feels unsafe when she feels your commitment is waning. Or when she is not sure if you're emotionally stable. Or you could hurt her physically. The point is women are looking for a relationship with a high value man. I don't agree with the paradigm of "high value man". I see that kind of thinking as training wheels for being a grown up adult male - a man. I know what you mean though, and I don'…
/r/askTRP31/08/20 09:10 AM
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My view is that we're dealing with several unrelated issues. Let's focus on the ones we've looked at the most. On the traits you've mentioned, I do enjoy having those traits you describe as toxic. At the same time, I don't have a problem with crying or showing my emotions. I cry whenever I feel the need to. I had a good cry earlier this week. If anything, I'm more in touch with my emotions than the average person. That's because I deal with my feelings like a man because I am a man. I've been lu…
/r/seduction31/08/20 09:03 AM
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I disagree. Comfort means they can feel safer with you, trust you more. The girl you're describing is going to give you trouble. I think you're misinterpreting the situation. As I commented earlier, if you keep sleeping with her you will wish you hadn't.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 08:45 AM
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I am not trying to derail you. I just want to understand your view. I want to have a complete picture, rather than jumping to conclusion. If you could help me see what the good feminine traits are, it will help me understand that side of things.
/r/seduction31/08/20 08:43 AM
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I will answer your question in a moment. First, please tell me some good feminine traits.
/r/seduction31/08/20 08:36 AM
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Please describe your experience.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 08:29 AM
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So when a woman sees that its possible to get commitment from you as a high value male it might put you on her radar. How did you learn that?
/r/askTRP31/08/20 08:24 AM
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So, what does masculine mean?
/r/seduction31/08/20 08:19 AM
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And what would you describe as good masculine traits?
/r/seduction31/08/20 08:13 AM
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imposing toxic masculine standards What are those toxic masculine standards?
/r/seduction31/08/20 08:08 AM
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If girls see a girl make herself exclusive to you than that’s a higher form of preselection than just being a fuck buddy. Good point. Your ability to commit has zero impact on your attractiveness on its own.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 08:06 AM
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But if you’re trying to hang me up on my intentions to change this, then we have nothing more to share. I wish you all the best. Don't run away. I want to help men and women as well. Let's open up the dialogue to see each others point of view.
/r/seduction31/08/20 07:58 AM
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And I think this benefits men, as it frees them from toxic expectations that ruin their mental and emotional health and perceptions of love. I hope one day you will see reality for what it is.
/r/seduction31/08/20 07:55 AM
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Do I just ride it out and when she asks for a relationship again just tell her no again? I promise you, if you don't cut her off you will regret the day you met her.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 07:54 AM
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No, it doesn't. It doesn't help anybody. The groups I'm describing describe themselves as such.
/r/seduction31/08/20 07:50 AM
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No, you're mistake is that you have a wrong premise about attracting women. That's causing you to over-analyze things. And, I think you're reading the wrong stuff. What are you reading?
/r/askTRP31/08/20 07:48 AM
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He got friend zoned. You can't get friend-zoned if you don't participate. Again, it was a good, but failed, attempt.
/r/seduction31/08/20 07:46 AM
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Well, there are radical groups that show up with violent protests and threats when men get together to express how they feel. And, often these groups get away with their criminal actions. So, you do have a point.
/r/seduction31/08/20 07:43 AM
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The argument is based on a unproven stereotype that women pick up on social cues more Women do pick up on social cues more. It has been proven by many scientific studies. so it’s their responsibility to directly tell men they aren’t interested. Well, it's an adult's responsibility to be direct about what they want. Both men and women. And, are you willing to acknowledge that many women pretend to be interested in order to keep men orbiting?
/r/seduction31/08/20 07:39 AM
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We never really give men a chance t Who is "we"?
/r/seduction31/08/20 06:30 AM
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If people thought it made sense they wouldn't down vote you. In this sub, the majority tends to be wrong. As much as I agree with most of what you're saying, you're operating on a different premise from the majority. And, if you were fully honest about how you do things you'd get a lot of downvotes in this sub. (Even though in reality you'd be right.)
/r/seduction31/08/20 06:27 AM
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Wanting to remain friends after a relationship is not 'the friend zone'. Didn't friendzone you. She didn't friend-zone him. She attempted to and failed.
/r/seduction31/08/20 06:24 AM
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Was he friend-zoned or rejected?
/r/seduction31/08/20 06:22 AM
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They don’t owe the man any kind of romance. I agree with that part. The issue here is when they pretend there's a chance of romance. Or, have never seen that happen either?
/r/seduction31/08/20 06:15 AM
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Fair enough, that's you though. Have you never seen this happen to other people?
/r/seduction31/08/20 06:14 AM
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What's next? Brushing their teeth, feeding them... In my experience, that's not what happens next. Unless, of course, that's the kind of stuff you're into...
/r/askTRP31/08/20 05:59 AM
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Another truth that gets downvoted.
/r/seduction31/08/20 05:55 AM
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To leave them in limbo is a bit cruel. You're right. This kind of truth gets downvoted because most people don't want to admit it.
/r/seduction31/08/20 05:54 AM
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Women are happy to oblige because they see the man as a human being they can form a relationship with, actually. That's not true. Friend-zoned guys are always very happy to do favors female friends don't do. How often do you see a female friend driving a male friend around? Or fixing their car? Or doing their homework? How often?
/r/seduction31/08/20 05:53 AM
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Exactly. Also: Woman: "I need help painting my house. I will call one of my male friends." Man: "I need help painting my house. I will call one of my male friends."
/r/seduction31/08/20 05:51 AM
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The whole concept of 'friend-zoned' comes from men who are to much if a pussy to actually go after a girl. Agreed. It also comes from the guys who get rejected but think if they can be friends the girl will give them a chance.
/r/seduction31/08/20 05:43 AM
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so that they can throw hints Many guys do and still get friend-zoned. If you don't want to be friend-zoned, you have to be direct about what you want from a woman.
/r/seduction31/08/20 05:41 AM
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I've never met a confident guy who knows how to meet and talk to women complain about the friendzone. That's because a confident guy is clear about his intentions. Guys get friend-zoned because they hide their romantic and sexual interests.
/r/seduction31/08/20 05:40 AM
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This is true. It's not the complete picture, though. Many women lead men on to think that there's a chance of romance when there isn't.
/r/seduction31/08/20 05:39 AM
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Sure, send me a message, we'll do a voice call on Zoom.
/r/seduction29/08/20 09:45 PM
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Once you have this mindset, the results will come to you naturally. I agree with 85% of what you said, up to this point. People have deep rooted emotional issues that will stop the from having this mindset. Until those issues are resolved, the vast majority will not be able to get to this point. So, it's like knowing how to fight but not having the muscle strength. And, there's a strong anti-masculine current that guys can't deal with. If you notice, they choose to be submissive to women. Then, …
/r/seduction29/08/20 06:26 PM
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But the point is: I dont micro manage this stuff. This is where I agree with you. I disagree with portraying the image, at best that works short term. Also, I think the term "magnetic to women" is a bit a misnomer. To be fair, it's a great motivational fantasy to get people to take action. But, we're on the same page with action. That's what matters. That's where get to discover yourself. That's where you get to be who you are, rather than portraying who you think you should be.
/r/seduction29/08/20 06:18 PM
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Smile, look in her eyes, stay relaxed.
/r/seduction29/08/20 01:43 PM
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Well you sound like an incel who has never been with a girl 🤷 Thank you.
/r/seduction29/08/20 01:35 PM
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Look, I'm not trying to be mean. I'm just telling you the harsh truth. You can argue what you want but you're just setting up yourself to be hurt. I don't know how old you are but you sound very naive.
/r/seduction29/08/20 01:25 PM
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So you must be some kind of extremely talented expert That is true. I am. And, she's not your girlfriend.
/r/seduction29/08/20 01:22 PM
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It's not funny because you're the one who decide to call her your girlfriend. Based on your reactions, I can tell the kind of guy you are. And, you're the kind of guy women love to string along. You're the typical nice guy.
/r/seduction29/08/20 01:18 PM
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All women like compliments. Complimenting women on their looks is the easiest way to make them feel attractive. Yes, I am aware of the fact that many women say otherwise. That's how they keep inexperienced guys hooked. My guess is your girlfriend controls your relationship. And, I'm sure you're quite a nice guy. But, in my experience, women love compliments on their looks and appearance in general. The kind of thinking you're presenting leads to sexless relationships, sooner or later. Your girlf…
/r/seduction29/08/20 01:11 PM
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How long have you guys been together?
/r/seduction29/08/20 12:56 PM
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I'm not a texting kind of guy. What I do is I call the girl I'm interested in. I think the difference here is that I don't wait long to let a woman know I'm interested in her sexually.
/r/seduction29/08/20 12:50 PM
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It's not an assumption. Women make a lot of effort to be noticed for their looks. And, they want to be appreciated for that effort. Compliments is how you show that appreciation. So, if you girl says she doesn't like to be complimented on her looks, she's lying.
/r/seduction29/08/20 12:41 PM
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You've attacked me and insulted me. Read your comments. I don't care about guys getting insecure and frustrated.We're men. It's this softness that is causing guys to fail with women. Also I really want to know how will you crush my soul... No, you don't.
/r/seduction29/08/20 12:33 PM
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that women want alpha dominant males and traits of that being blah blah blah Nope, I've not said that once - feel free to prove me wrong. You're making a lot of assumptions. And, I don't know why you're attacking me and calling me names. I'm sharing my experience, I don't why that's a problem to you.
/r/seduction29/08/20 12:25 PM
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On the deeper issues, can you be more specific? Like give me some examples what could be wrong, It's inner stuff, not your specific actions. This is more of an emotional thing, most likely shame, guilt, and anger you have suppressed over the years.
/r/askTRP29/08/20 12:16 PM
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I’m getting conflicting advice which is confusing Yes, that's a problem. So keep it simple. I'm in the UK too by the way. So, again. Relax. Don't worry how things end. I think you're focused on what the outcome may be. It doesn't matter. Learn to enjoy the moment. That way things can progress naturally. Worse case, it won't work out with her. You'll meet another girl.
/r/seduction29/08/20 12:14 PM
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No, you have to be straightforward with her. Otherwise, you're just leading her on.
/r/askTRP29/08/20 12:10 PM
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Also in real life my girlfriend is quite attractive and she says the same thing. Your girlfriend is lying to you.
/r/seduction29/08/20 12:08 PM
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I don't think that works if you are not a gigachad... It always works. If she's interested, you'll know right away. If she's not, you'll know too. It's not about making her like you. It's about making her feel attractive and connecting with her. I could approach another woman the same way and she'd reject me. It has still worked because I won't have wasted my time trying to make her like me.
/r/seduction29/08/20 11:59 AM
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Maybe giving it implies a lack of confidence? That's exactly what happens.
/r/seduction29/08/20 11:56 AM
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Oh, and check this comment out... https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/iii5kl/giving_a_girl_your_number/g37100j?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
/r/seduction29/08/20 11:55 AM
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Yep, you are absolutely right on this one.
/r/seduction29/08/20 11:54 AM
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If you are going to ego jerk yourself and act like you are the textbook simply for validation then fuck off. Well done, you got my attention. The difference between you and me is that even though I could crash you soul, I will let you live as you have so far. On the other hand, you need to attack me to feel good. It's kind of like when a rotweiler is walking through a neighborhood and all the chihuahuas go into a frenzy.
/r/seduction29/08/20 11:53 AM
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I become magnetic to women. So, what does it look like when you're magnetic to women? And, how do you exude these traits in practice?
/r/seduction29/08/20 11:49 AM
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Read "Healing the Shame That Binds You" by John Bradshaw.
/r/seduction29/08/20 11:47 AM
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I don't know about Todd V or whatever. All I know is that I call up and arrange a date. That's it. I don't follow a script. I know most dating gurus preach being indirect but I think that's the cause of your troubles. You're too indirect, for all you know the girls don't even know you're serious about dating. Lay back a bit, meet more girls, you'll be fine. Stop following scripts. My guess is that you have some deeper issues and the girls can sense the neediness.
/r/askTRP29/08/20 01:54 AM
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I'm not deceiving her per se, I just don't see a future with her Does she know this?
/r/askTRP29/08/20 01:48 AM
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We texted a few messages, nothing boring. You need to learn to call these girls. It's the easiest way to figure out what's up. Also, it seems you didn't specifically say where an how you're going to meet. Then, you're too hard on yourself. In practice, you should go out more rather than relying on dating apps.
/r/askTRP29/08/20 01:41 AM
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There's nothing stopping you about asking about the age of the woman you're talking to. There are plenty adult women you can talk to. I'm not really sure why you're having a problem.
/r/seduction29/08/20 01:37 AM
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I honestly don't have a lot of respect for her or her opinions, she's more of a temporary LTR atm due to location and my work load and I see absolutely no future with her If that's the case, just let her know what you want from her. I don't see any reason to deceive her.
/r/askTRP29/08/20 01:35 AM
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You can always ask about the age. Are you worried about what people will do and think?
/r/seduction29/08/20 01:29 AM
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For all you know, that's not the reason why she decided to leave. Did you kiss her earlier on?
/r/askTRP29/08/20 01:24 AM
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In my experience and real life observation, it's a red flag. Yeah, you can start thinking of scenarios but it's a red flag. If you're in that situation, which I guess you are, I'd take a deep look at myself. Because, it's most likely a sign that you're doing something wrong in your own life.
/r/askTRP29/08/20 01:03 AM
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If you gave her your number, would she text you? I don't know because I won't give her my number.
/r/seduction29/08/20 12:52 AM
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Yeah but does she actually want you? Well, I always find out the answer to that when I approach.
/r/seduction29/08/20 12:50 AM
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Who cares why not? I don't. If I want a woman, I go for her. That's it. You need to chill.
/r/seduction29/08/20 12:48 AM
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no woman will actually ever love you for you because you’re a miserable human being Well, at least now I know. Thanks, for being such a nice guy!
/r/seduction29/08/20 12:46 AM
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But I get laid for superficial reasons too, mainly because I’m very handsome. Sorry they’ll never love you like they love me I'm sorry too.
/r/seduction29/08/20 12:45 AM
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A single interaction with a woman was so important you had to write all this? I don't know what you're referring to here. You don’t flirt with attractive women on a daily basis? Not necessarily.
/r/seduction29/08/20 12:44 AM
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Nigga, you sound like a simp if anything. What makes you think I'm not getting laid? Because I view the women I want in a sexual way? what a miserable fuck you are. There's no need to insult me. You see, I'm not going to insult you back. I have no such need. I'm trying to help you, but hey, feel free to keep doing what you're doing.
/r/seduction29/08/20 12:36 AM
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Get this straight. Women prefer men to take the lead. You call first. You tell her you're interested. You tell her where you're gonna meet next. you saved yourself some dry boring texting I agree with saving yourself from dry boring texting. You do that by calling and arranging a date. Now, look. I'm not trying to put you down. I'm saying your approach is wrong. If you're getting fake numbers or texting with no progress you're doing something wrong. One of the things you're doing wrong is you do…
/r/seduction29/08/20 12:32 AM
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I think I know what this is. You've just described one episode. My guess is you do stuff like this all the time. Your woman has picked up on it so she's re-evaluating the situation. Your instincts are kicking in. What you need to do is to lay back. Figure out why you're so needy. This is not about a specific action. It's about your emotional state. Spend some time away from everything and really listen to yourself.
/r/askTRP29/08/20 12:28 AM
0

Most human beings have opinions and a sense of humour. When it comes to confidence, I'm referring to taking risks such as getting rejected. That's a man's job. If you don't want a sexy girl, what do you want?
/r/seduction29/08/20 12:21 AM
5

is it possible that I'm too high value for her ( shes a bit of a nerd) Nah, it's not. You seem to like her but haven't made any move. You also believe she'd text first. Women don't value guys like that highly.
/r/seduction29/08/20 12:19 AM
1

, sexy isn’t everything I'll tell you what. You sound like such a nice guy you'll make some lucky girl very happy. And, most girls wouldn't want to lose your friendship. So, keep doing what you doing.
/r/seduction29/08/20 12:18 AM
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but if you just want a trophy wife with no personality then by all means go for it. How did you arrive at this conclusion from what I said?
/r/seduction29/08/20 12:13 AM
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Well, if you don't open doors, you don't open doors. Personally, I do. But, that's my choice. What matters is that you know why you have that rule in place. So, why do you have that rule in place?
/r/askTRP29/08/20 12:09 AM
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OK, so I see a mixture of things. From my experience, you've mixed up the qualities of what a quality woman is. Or, simply put, you've built a picture of a high-quality woman based on a politically correct societal standard. In reality, this approach will not help you get the sexy girls you really want. Which is why you asked the question in the first place. So, your first step is to understand that confidence is your job as a man. The same goes for sense of humor and opinions. Don't rely on a w…
/r/seduction29/08/20 12:06 AM
2

That's not true. Women expect the guy to make the move. Yeah, it may not seem fair. But, that's why this sub exists. If women were happy to approach men, the world would be a completely different place.
/r/seduction28/08/20 11:59 PM
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Why would she look away if she interested? Shy? There are as many reasons as there are women. Each one is different. So, it doesn't matter why. What matters is that if you want it to go somewhere, you have to make a move.
/r/seduction28/08/20 11:57 PM
2

You're welcome. Feel free to reach out any time.
/r/askTRP28/08/20 11:48 PM
3

I don't give girls my number if they don't give me theirs. Also, I just tell them to give me their number directly. I don't say anything to imply. More importantly, by the time I tell them I want the number they already know I'm interested sexually. So, I'd have already told them I want to see them and that I find them attractive.
/r/seduction28/08/20 11:46 PM
3

What's your question?
/r/seduction28/08/20 11:40 PM
4

Getting high quality women to even flirt back or express interest in you What's your definition of high-quality vs low-quality woman?
/r/seduction28/08/20 11:38 PM
18

Both usually mean she's somewhat interested. In most cases, if you don't approach confidently it doesn't matter anyway. Different girls will react differently but it's up to you to take it somewhere.
/r/seduction28/08/20 11:36 PM
3

Well done! Now, focus on who you are and what you want. I know what that's like, I've had to make some hard decisions myself. But then, you'll soar to heights you never knew existed. The only thing I'd say is, really learn to listen to yourself. As much as I love a lot of the work people in this community do, there's no substitute for your own personal philosophy. There's no answer that fits all problems. I wish you all the best, I hope you succeed in every aspect of your life.
/r/askTRP28/08/20 10:49 PM
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Women love men that take charge, are on their path, and don't seek validation. They love the stereotypical 'unwavering stone'. The man who isn't phased by his emotions. The man they can rely on no matter what. How did you arrive at this conclusion?
/r/seduction28/08/20 10:30 PM
4

Don't go for any book. Focus on taking action on what you've learnt. The only way to build lasting confidence is to take risks, learn from experience, and keep taking action towards what you want.
/r/seduction28/08/20 09:34 PM
1

Yes².
/r/seduction28/08/20 09:25 PM
2

one thing you can do to reduce neediness is to reduce the romantic thoughts you have about the girls you have only been on 1 date or less! That doesn't reduce neediness. At best, it will suppresses it. And, what' you are describing is symptoms of neediness, not actual neediness. Neediness is deeply rooted. You've touched the tip of the iceberg but not the core issue.
/r/seduction28/08/20 08:55 PM
1

how do I give compliments without being needy What do you mean when you say needy?
/r/seduction28/08/20 08:50 PM
1

Why not compliment her looks?
/r/seduction28/08/20 08:49 PM
1

Don't compliment her looks unless you're seeing her naked How did you arrive at this conclusion?
/r/seduction28/08/20 08:48 PM
1

"Vicky, Christina and Barcelona." Classic.
/r/seduction28/08/20 08:30 PM
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Yep, try the technique I gave you. Send me a message after a couple of times you've done it. Also, feel free to reach out if you have any questions.
/r/seduction28/08/20 08:25 PM
1

I'll give you an example from my real life experience. So, I saw a woman I liked. I said to her "Whoa, I like the way you look in this dress. How do I take you home?" She said she couldn't come home with me. I told her to give me her number. She did, and two days later she came over to my place. Your example is perfect. The only thing I'd change is get more specific about what you like about her. "You're pretty" is just too generic, even though it doesn't matter that much. Being direct is the be…
/r/seduction28/08/20 08:23 PM
1

It's not wrong. It's not a smart thing to do either. Sex is a taboo topic. You know this.
/r/seduction28/08/20 08:15 PM
0

Depends on the woman and on the man. I don't have a car. But, I sleep with girls who either have more money than I do or less. It doesn't matter as long as you're attracted to each other. And, if she gets mad, well she's not the one for you. You just let her go!
/r/seduction28/08/20 08:13 PM
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that reminds me of another shitty thing about texting, how it induces feelings of paranoia There is a saying; "The fact that you're paranoid doesn't mean they're not out to get you." Back in the day, I remember watching females in my family get together to decide what to text different guys who swarmed their phones on weekends. Personally, I don't like texting much. I'm a flirt so I like to hear a girl moan on the phone when I tell her what I'm gonna do to her if she's a good girl.
/r/askTRP28/08/20 08:11 PM
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I suppose there isn't really anything to help improve on that other than experience and putting myself out there, right? Yes, there is also a technique you can use. It's a bit counter-intuitive. When you freeze up, it has nothing to do with the person you are talking to or the over all situation. It's all about something that you feel and believe about yourself. There are two parts to this. First part, you only freeze up when you feel a sexual connection. Think about it. At some point, both of y…
/r/seduction28/08/20 08:04 PM
1

I'm not looking for coaching. I want to know why you tense up towards the end of your interactions.
/r/seduction28/08/20 07:52 PM
1

I like that video. I want to talk to you.
/r/seduction28/08/20 07:46 PM
1

The secret lies in being relaxed. Flirting is a natural part of how men and women interact on the sexual level. When you relax it just happens. Why are you worried about making it weird?
/r/seduction28/08/20 07:39 PM
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The easiest way to get to know someone is to be genuinely interested in the person. And, that will carry you across any environment. Relax and focus on who you are talking to. The conversation will then flow naturally.
/r/seduction28/08/20 07:37 PM
1

1000 things can go wrong or be misinterpreted or give her weird tingles. Or the fact that your texts will be read by her friends and associates who will help her string you along.
/r/askTRP28/08/20 07:16 PM
1

Don't ask people out through text You're right on this one. I've noticed that guys seem to think calling a girl is a bad thing. I don't know why though - I've never done it any other way.
/r/askTRP28/08/20 06:01 PM
1

Why do you care what she means?
/r/askTRP28/08/20 05:53 PM
1

u/Aghayden what happened in the end with this girl?
/r/seduction27/08/20 05:48 PM
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I'd just ignore it.
/r/askTRP27/08/20 10:19 AM
1

So what happened with this girl?
/r/seduction26/08/20 05:51 PM
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Right because every woman is looking for Conan The Barbarian. No, women are not looking for fictional action heroes either. They just want a grown up man.
/r/seduction26/08/20 05:31 PM
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This is really cute and adorable. Yes, it is. Two qualities women look for in a puppy, not in a man.
/r/seduction26/08/20 05:19 PM
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The best way is to just go for the hand hold. Are you 16? Where did you learn this stuff?
/r/seduction26/08/20 04:51 PM
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I’m not needy over text, I only really talk to her when she messages me. Why do you think that this is not a sign of being needy?
/r/seduction26/08/20 04:50 PM
1

What you're just said here is only 50% right. Here are a couple of things you're missing. Women don't look for the same things in men as what men look for in women. Most males don't have the qualities women want. So, women will settle/tolerate and look for ways to compensate for their discomfort. That's where they want you to have looks, spend money, entertain them, etc. When you’re hot women will automatically gravitate to you, , you think that’s the guys personality? I'm not sure what you mean…
/r/seduction26/08/20 04:20 PM
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Most people are too mentally weak for this shit - which is why you need to deviate and make yourself into a cut-above. That's correct. And, acting tough or macho is not a substitute for dealing with emotional issues. At the same time, there are hardly any good resources that teach men this. Probably because being a man goes against today's PC culture.
/r/seduction25/08/20 01:41 PM
1

Never seen a women with a shorter guy. If you go out more, you surely will.
/r/seduction25/08/20 01:34 PM
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Here is my challenge to you. When you go out next time, look at the guys with women. Are you saying they're all great looking? Also, why do you think women are looking for looks first?
/r/seduction24/08/20 10:55 PM
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/r/seduction24/08/20 10:40 PM
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Thank you for saying this. I was just holding back from replying. The fact that she's out of a relationship doesn't mean anything in general. What if she got out of the relationship because she wanted to experiment with different guys? Also, you didn't get a kiss, OP. You kissed her. That's a subtle difference that changes everything. Women don't like it when guys act as if sex is some kind of favor or reward.
/r/seduction24/08/20 10:39 PM
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Just send me a DM.
/r/seduction24/08/20 09:31 PM
1

I have very little if any resilience. Well, here's the thing. Checking all the boxes doesn't mean anything. These are just the boxes the media and society make us believe we need to check. I'm sure you've seen people who have no trouble with women yet some view them as losers. The actual criteria... that's a different story. But, it's neither politically correct or easy to swallow.
/r/seduction24/08/20 09:26 PM
1

I see. That may be the case when it comes to yourself but I'm sure the guys here have got standards.
/r/seduction23/08/20 01:47 AM
2

Great. We're getting somewhere. I'm gonna ask you something that nobody here talks about. Tell me about the relationship you have with the women in your life, especially your mother, but also sisters etc. (feel free to DM. )
/r/seduction22/08/20 09:43 PM
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So, let me get this straight. You're in your mid 40s. You want to get back into dating. But, you lose confidence once you're in front of a real live woman. Is this correct? Here is the thing. Based on your description, you can succeed at attracting the woman you want. Or multiple women for that matter. As you said... There's always a but... It comes at a price. Most men your age give up. If you do succeed, there'll be backlash. In most likelihood, you'll become more successful than many men half…
/r/seduction22/08/20 09:41 PM
1

Like generally asking for a casual relationship? Is that a question?
/r/seduction22/08/20 09:16 PM
1

Please elaborate.
/r/seduction22/08/20 09:03 PM
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I’m a confident, assertive person, but I think I’m just very self critical I run away from ghosts but I'm not afraid of evil spirits.
/r/seduction22/08/20 09:02 PM
1

Don’t won’t to come across as a creep. What do you consider coming across as a creep?
/r/seduction22/08/20 08:42 PM
1

What you DO do is express your interest and meet up and make slow, observant moves How did you come to this conclusion?
/r/seduction22/08/20 08:40 PM
1

We guys don’t have any women to reject. What do you mean?
/r/seduction22/08/20 08:15 PM
1

What parts of your game are lacking? Tell me what the different parts of game are.
/r/seduction22/08/20 08:13 PM
1

OK, so why did you go to medical school? What are your personal reasons?
/r/seduction22/08/20 08:00 PM
1

it’s way easier It just seems this way. But, it's not easier. Many guys reject women and that's one of the reasons why they don't approach. Plus, if a girl keeps approaching guys, she'll probably get labeled as easy. In our society, women don't want to be seen as easy.
/r/seduction22/08/20 07:57 PM
1

What's the plan for your life, say next 3 years?
/r/seduction22/08/20 07:55 PM
1

So, are you gonna do anything about it? Or is this it for you?
/r/seduction22/08/20 07:51 PM
1

I just don't have the energy to put myself out there. So, have you tried learning more about how dating etc. all works?
/r/seduction22/08/20 07:47 PM
1

Naah, she has this crazy hold me, I think calling her is a bad, knowing her, she'd reverse that shit on me and try to convince me I'm being delusional. This is some deep shit my nigga. I've been there. And, I've come out bigger, better, faster, stronger. There's a way out but it goes through a dark place. Where in Africa are you?
/r/askTRP22/08/20 07:42 PM
1

I have some idea about Asperger's. I can promise you, that it will not hinder you from attracting women once you understand how attraction really works. It's not something I can just put in a comment and you got it. I've helped guys in the past but not everybody can do it. As I've mentioned earlier, the truth is not something most people are willing to accept. It goes deeper that dating tactics, etc. I'm talking real change that turns your whole life around. But first, it will turn your world up…
/r/seduction22/08/20 06:48 PM
1

It's just not my thing.
/r/seduction22/08/20 06:42 PM
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I swear down, why do guys keep getting hung up on dead tings? Almost all the questions are about how to keep clinging on but in a "non-needy way". No wonder these girls don't take us seriously.
/r/askTRP21/08/20 08:49 PM
1

Fair enough. But these articles won't help you attract women.
/r/seduction21/08/20 07:09 PM
2

OK, you do realize that the articles you've posted are for women who want men?
/r/seduction21/08/20 06:45 PM
2

Are you trying to attract women or men?
/r/seduction21/08/20 06:34 PM
1

Yes, DM me.
/r/seduction21/08/20 06:33 PM
1

Can you share some of your favorite ones?
/r/seduction21/08/20 05:16 PM
1

Have you met women from dating sites (usual avenue) or forums (non-usual avenue.) No, I've never in my entire life met a women via the Internet. I have some idea about Asperger's. I can promise you, that it will not hinder you from attracting women once you understand how attraction really works.
/r/seduction21/08/20 05:16 PM
1

I don't agree with that article. What he says is a great ego-boost. Those things make you feel and sometimes appear high-value. But, that's not the same as being confident at your core. You don't set your standards to high. The trouble is, you don't really believe you can attain those standards. And, you have a lot of misconceptions about sex in particular. That's why you struggle with hook ups. Look at it this way. The issues you are facing are not the problem. They are symptoms of a problem. T…
/r/seduction21/08/20 05:14 PM
2

Yeah, I believe that you're right, it might really be an excuse. But how do you get around that anyway? Well, you say there's an attractive girl once every hour. Approach that attractive girl. There's a deeper issue at play here. First of all, what's your definition of a high-value male?
/r/seduction20/08/20 10:05 PM
2

learn more about relationship/dating dynamics What are the resources you are using to learn these?
/r/seduction20/08/20 09:58 PM
2

If you have a phone number for a girl who flaked on you last week, that's a warm lead. That's not a warm lead. You're ignoring the part where you qualify a prospect. flake testing you What's flake testing?
/r/seduction20/08/20 09:47 PM
2

Funny thing is if you move on she might get feelings for you. Please share some examples of when this happened to you u/drilled-swiss
/r/seduction20/08/20 09:24 PM
10

What did you end up doing to improve yourself into a high-value male? It all started when he began to value himself highly.
/r/seduction20/08/20 08:49 PM
9

My mind literally goes blank - how do I change this? When you are alone, think about a situation that made your mind go blank. Be very aware of the sensations in your body. You should be able to tell where your anxiety is in your body. Then, allow that emotion to ramp up. If you do it right, it will really hurt. Don't be afraid, it only means you're getting to the source of your fear. Yet, you're doing it in a safe space, with nobody else around. You can write down what you feel. Or just close y…
/r/seduction20/08/20 08:44 PM
1

How did you turn yourself around? That's what I'm telling you. I figured out how to develop my masculine confidence. Of course, once you develop more confidence, you will have more women come to you. If you put yourself down, even in your mind, you'll turn women off. The secret, if there's one, start from accepting that everything you believe about yourself, women, and dating might be wrong. Then, you have to focus on the right things. Your whole attitude will change and women will notice. Like …
/r/seduction20/08/20 07:31 PM
1

speaking abilities are not attractive What I think is that your public speaking abilities are not relevant to dating.
/r/seduction20/08/20 01:12 AM
3

But he's gonna do what he's gonna do. Yep, I can agree with that.
/r/seduction20/08/20 01:01 AM
2

OK. So, you're saying the same thing I am. The trouble is OP seems to really like this girl. Yes, she might sleep with him. But, she is not emotionally available, probably a bit unstable. You know as well as I do, she will go back to the ex. That's just part of the trouble. Read OP's comments on his profile about this girl. This is just asking for trouble. I can guarantee you, if OP updates the post in a couple weeks/months he's going to tell us how bad things went. What's the point of doing tha…
/r/seduction20/08/20 12:53 AM
1

Can you elaborate? Do you mean you had sex with her? What happened exactly?
/r/seduction20/08/20 12:44 AM
1

Because I've done it before. So... be honest. What happened when you did it?
/r/seduction20/08/20 12:36 AM
1

As a tactic, which I don't recommend, not texting is the most likely way to get her to contact you.
/r/seduction20/08/20 12:29 AM
1

I'd let it it be. I would basically cut my loses. Again, to be clear, it's not that I don't think she won't sleep with you or date you. But because you'll regret the day you met her if you do. If you want to DM, feel free. I don't want to say stuff on here that will be misconstrued by people with little experience.
/r/seduction20/08/20 12:28 AM
1

went back to hers last time What happened at her place?
/r/seduction20/08/20 12:04 AM
0

great speaking abilities are sexy. Where did you learn that?
/r/seduction20/08/20 12:01 AM
2

Should I have smashed last Wednesday at her apartment? It looks like you dodged a bullet. Probably your gut told you to just chill and you followed your instinct without realizing. It seems you're a cool guy, just let her go. If you ignore her, she'll probably come at you with "why didn't you call me" kind of stuff. You can take it from there as you wish. I do think you can still get together. But, if I were you, I'd let it go. Think about why you're really allowing yourself to go deeper into th…
/r/seduction19/08/20 11:57 PM
3

Thats the product of my fantasy while I let my mind wander about a man's life. How accurate is that? Not even close to reality. However, if someone reads the same book as you have and watches the same videos they may come to a conclusion similar to yours.
/r/askTRP19/08/20 11:51 PM
2

Talking how? On the phone? OR you've met her in person already?
/r/seduction19/08/20 11:47 PM
1

So calibrate to her. I would become a rock solid escape for her That's a recipe for the OP to get heartbroken. She is not emotionally available. Period. OP is not a therapist or a counselor. So you have a chance to be the classic white knight savior. How did you arrive at this conclusion?
/r/seduction19/08/20 11:45 PM
2

Well, here's the thing. It's possible that you guys can still hook up. But, it's going to be a rough one. She sounds like a very insecure person. You may not see it now but you'll always feel like you don't know where you stand with her. If I were you I'd lay back. It's counter-intuitive but chasing after her will make things worse. Also, if you really like someone call, don't text. You'll find that calling helps you connect much better. If a girl doesn't want to hear your voice, well, as I said…
/r/seduction19/08/20 11:42 PM
2

How did you guys meet?
/r/seduction19/08/20 11:34 PM
1

Has it always been this way?
/r/seduction19/08/20 11:30 PM
2

I had a plate drop recently. She flaked on a wednesday plan, prioritizing other friends. I reached out on monday and she was busy. Went radio silence. After she flaked out on you, prioritized other friends, and then went silent... why do you still feel the need to put so much energy into her? You know deep inside what the deal is.
/r/askTRP19/08/20 10:22 PM
1

Is rejection really a part of the game for the 6'2" Shad? Yes. Look, nobody gets everything they want. They may get the girls you want. But, there will be women who will not be interested in that guy. You're not the only one with social difficulty. I used to be so shy I wouldn't talk to people to weeks, even months. I have had crushing rejections too. It got so bad, I became suicidal because of this, ended up in hospital. I promised myself I'd figure this thing out. Now, when people see me with …
/r/seduction18/08/20 06:27 PM
1

Why do you text instead of calling?
/r/seduction17/08/20 10:15 PM
2

Shes not really my type, i would say shes a 5-6 to me. So, you're not really interested in her. Let her be.
/r/seduction17/08/20 09:04 PM
1

He does the right things, he's self-aware and analytical, knows what he should not do and stands by it. Even if this was the right approach, the statement is not true. What makes you think that those are qualities that attract women? First of all, his attitude is very negative. I understand the frustration, I've been rejected more times than I could count. Rejection is just part of the game - there's no way around it. Getting negative about it just gives you a needy vibe. He actually gets angry …
/r/seduction17/08/20 08:58 PM
1

Well, if you kindly answer my question, I'll gladly expand on my points.
/r/seduction14/08/20 10:03 PM
1

To me it sounds like he has the fundamentals down. Which fundamentals has he got down?
/r/seduction14/08/20 01:30 AM
4

You would think just not being a creep, overly sexual, threatening, verbally abusive, simpy etc would be enough but apparently it's not This will be a hard pill to swallow. Read your post again out loud. See how you come across. The picture is not as flattering as you might think.
/r/seduction13/08/20 03:10 AM
2

True, it’s something I’ve been working on for a while What are the things you do to work on that?
/r/seduction13/08/20 01:34 AM
0

We control each other's Tinder She's married?
/r/seduction12/08/20 12:09 AM
1

Can you share an example of when this happened to you?
/r/seduction29/07/20 11:05 PM
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