19 year old M here. I was going on a hike yesterday with this girl I liked. We were friends for a while now and recently I started liking more and thought of her as being more attractive. I currently live in NH and she’s in Boston so we’re about 45 mins apart. I have my own business and live on my own with my car and have recently been working out harder yet despite this I have always felt very nervous conveying my intentions with women and feel like a little kid who’s too scared to be a man.

Anyway, when we got down my car completely flopped (I think a dead battery) and she was panicking since it was getting late and I had to reassure her things would be fine. After calming her down and setting up a way for us to get back safely I laughed and said “this probably isn’t the best time” but from what I’ve heard and what I’ve learned, there is no “best time” and sometimes you have to gun it. So I told her how I felt, and that even though I’m moving out shortly I would be doing her a wrong if I didn’t tell her how I felt. She responds by saying she’s glad I told her but she’s been dating this guy which didn’t surprise me, but what got to me was he was the one picking us up.

I don’t think I have ever felt so defeated as a man before. we had such a good time the whole day, everything was going great and then I was being taken back by her boyfriend in the back seat and I felt like a complete failure. On top of that my car has to be towed and I’m so worried about the expense and I just felt so incredibly shitty I needed to get this off my chest. I can’t even be mad at her which is what makes me feel even worse because I wanted someone to blame and not talking to her anymore because that’s not what I “wanted to hear” is some bs but I also just feel so shaky I don’t know what to do.

Anyway thanks for listening to my rant I just needed to get that off my chest really badly.

Update: thank you all for your support it really means a lot to me. One thing I did was call an old prospect for my business and I may have gotten a new client. My car is being repaired and the price isn’t so bad. Im really thankful for the lessons I’ve learned and for your guys’ input and wisdom!!