Does reading reddit and statistics make anyone else feel like total shit?

alent3976 · 2022-06-05T06:22:15+00:00

Comparison is the thief of joy

cilwitc · 2022-06-05T10:06:18+00:00

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Zealousideal6669 · 2022-06-05T07:32:12+00:00

One of the biggest truths for life and happiness is never ever compared yourself to others. I agree with those comments getting girls is really pretty easy, say that I guy who had 0 success before and now I'm kinda at an intermediate level so a few things how can you be that guy who could say that yeah it's pretty easy.

*Learning how a woman works - they're not thinking the way men do, they don't feel like men do so if you're understand them better, what they want, how they choose you're already gonna be way less confused

*Confidence - You can get girls if you're not going to the gym but it's impossible to get any girl without confidence.

*Social skills - if either guy like you, laughs at your jokes you gonna be attractive. if other guys or other hot girls like you its even better so be more social

*Learning how attraction works - for guys, it's pretty easy we look at her and we almost immediately can decide do we wanna fuck or not, is that simple. For girls, it's a bit different. Sometimes you can get her attracted by your looks, can happen but most of the time even if she doesn't care about you for the first time she can still attract to you later on after she got to know you. So the main thing for them is your personality. would take for so long to write down with details what makes you attractive but just a few thing.

- Confidence as I mentioned

- social proof so others like you or even better other hot girls like you

- competence so you're good at something

- attractiveness so pretty much how you look

- resilience so you're willing to do risky things sometimes

These are just some attraction switches but some other personality trait:

Assertiveness - you stand up for yourself

assuredness - so you're not making excuses and you can not give af what others think of you

attentiveness- so you give af about the girl, you make her feel special, you remember details about her and so forth

aliveness - so you're fun to be around

if you apply these you really can get almost any girl so Goodluck

MrBlack__ · 2022-06-05T09:02:21+00:00

The thing about “success” is once you get it you realise it means nothing

So what you’re upset about is something else but you’re fixated on this atm so until you are successful here you won’t know what’s actually bothering you

Not sure if that helps but yh lol

WanyCaleb · 2022-06-05T13:39:58+00:00

Came in a freshman at 0; left at 0. It's not the end of the world. There's more to life than getting laid but it still do be sting. Keep grinding, there's still time, WAP isn't going anywhere. Thank you and good night!

TheDeadlyZebra · 2022-06-05T11:25:17+00:00

Focus on making friends first. The times I got laid the most back in college were the times I was just trying to have fun and make friends. Other than that, keep improving yourself in noticeable ways. Work out, buy better clothes, maybe get a part time job if not already, etc.

Liberaler · 2022-06-05T06:59:38+00:00

It's not the outside world that cause that feeling, it's your mindset. There is the full spectrum of success and lack of it present on this board. People from diverse age groups, demographics and cultures, the starting points could not be more different. Focus on the success stories, in which guys started from rock bottom but transformed their lives. These are the inspirations you need to change your outlook on life.

mkkili · 2022-06-05T09:20:10+00:00

It's utterly impossible for losers like myself

ZidaneLoire · 2022-06-05T19:10:26+00:00

Have you tried talking to women ? Like a lot of women. Have you tried forcing yourself into many varied social settings ?

Because the women aren't gonna come to you at your house. From your post history you've been in the same situation for almost a year now. What have you tried ?

If you're gonna make another post whining and not trying I'm gonna go to ASU and kick your ass into a party and then kick kick it some more so you actually talk to women.

FallFromGr4ce · 2022-06-05T07:49:03+00:00

Getting laid is so over rated man. It’s actually a goal that will rot your bones and only leave you thirsty for more like drinking seawater. Indulge in your studies . The more successful you are the better quality women you have access to

jjboy91 · 2022-06-05T08:08:28+00:00

It just confirmed what I already knew about myself. They like my company because I'm an artist, funny good listener but at the same time will never date someone like me.

I'm at the bottom of the attractive scale and my personality, style, doesn't matter if girls from my area are not attracted by my ethnicity.

RoadyCoder · 2022-06-05T10:54:06+00:00

Listen to yourself. This pathetic little pity party of yours is going to get you nowhere fast! My God! if this is your mindset, then it really isn’t any wonder that you are struggling to get laid. First thing you need to do is pull your head out of your ass and stop feeling sorry for yourself. You are not entitled to sex, and those who are getting it only got it because they played hard and worked for it. There is absolutely nothing stopping you from getting just as much sex as them and a whole lot more. It’s a MINDSET. When you start to fully understand that and act accordingly, I PROMISE you will do much, much better. Suck it the fuck up and get to work.

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-06-05T07:01:34+00:00

College is the easiest place to meet women, so it’s unfortunate that you’re having a difficult time. As far as relationships go, don’t bother. Hit it and quit it when the opportunity arrives ,and you’ll have opportunities. I don’t envy you though, the women of today are more selfish, self absorbed and inconsiderate then when I went through college. I call them social media sluts.

mzdebo · 2022-06-05T14:06:09+00:00

Dude stop stressing about sex. You’re in college for a reason and I’m sure it’s not to get laid unless you just there for sports. Focus on your studies like some others have said.

When I was in college I focused on my studies and in the library all the time. One day a guy noticed me and we hooked up for two years.

Speaking as a female the ones that brag girls don’t want. The ones who are successful are who they want. Just be patient and the girls will come and you will get laid.

Otherwise if it’s that important just find an app or one of those other hookup places and get laid.

templarin · 2022-06-06T03:35:24+00:00

Few_Debate2784 · 2022-06-05T13:53:03+00:00

Get a passport and go to Asia, south america or estern europe. They love american chumps over there you literally just have to vegetate and voila girlfriend.

laugherboii · 2022-06-05T08:45:08+00:00

Nonsense. There's way more incel college women as there are men. You'll only hear about the success stories, because, who doesn't want to brag?

rhofire · 2022-06-05T06:51:07+00:00

Thank you for sharing.

69swagman · 2022-06-05T11:06:13+00:00

For the record OP, I had way more success in the years after college in my 20’s when I moved to a city with a lot of young professionals. Not totally sure why that is but I think you just have to focus on being more happy yourself, and the success will come eventually

SOMNIAT0 · 2022-06-05T14:58:10+00:00

It’s honestly way less than what it seems. Plenty of people make it seem like they have tons of sex but get absolutely no pussy. I know a guy who matches with a bunch of girls online and he’s still a virgin. So settle down, fuck someone you actually care about. Have good relationships.

ellakstone · 2022-06-05T15:10:16+00:00

Im a female in college and trying to find someone to date or even guy friends is hard. Just because a few people have found it and posted dosent mean everyone has. Some people have just found hot spots for meeting people and others just got really lucky.

passengerpigeon20 · 2022-06-05T16:46:40+00:00

What is your height and weight and how would you rate yourself out of 10? What country do you live in? Women in certain parts of the world have utterly outrageous standards nowadays that only yet higher every year, but in other parts it isn’t so bad.

KarlMalowned · 2022-06-05T17:39:23+00:00

R/attractiveman

jackzander · 2022-06-05T18:10:13+00:00

I just hate being me when I read about how if you're a guy and can't get laid in college you might as well kill yourself.

Is this really something that you're reading on reddit? Where?
If so, leave those communities. They're obviously garbage.
If not, you're just shit-talking your own life, it's your brain that's garbage and you need to address your mental state directly.

DaveyJonesXMR · 2022-06-05T19:12:18+00:00

With stuff on the internet its like this ....
1. many people plainly lie

On subreddits you will depending on the topic .... either hear about the most successful or the least ones. Almost never about the 90% in between.
You can compare it to most online retailers - those people that find a product ultra fancy will voice it - and those that had bad experiences with given purchase. The majority that just uses the thing they bought you will never hear about.... so remember you most often just hear about the polar sides of each spectrum - never about the truth that lies in between.

Mr-Kabuki · 2022-06-05T22:47:42+00:00

Wait wtf who told you it was easy. Bruv, 80/20 applies to college. It’s hard. However it can become easy if you do the hard work.

Title	Does reading reddit and statistics make anyone else feel like total shit?
Author	yhw0
Upvotes	29
Comments	44
Date	June 5, 2022 5:35 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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