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Men will be willingly "used" or "objectified" for their money when they get something out of it (usually sex, romance etc.), but will complain about being used. Women will be willingly "objectified" (posting thirst traps, posting naked photos on OF) when they get something out of it (usually money, attention etc.), but will complain about objectification. People yap on the internet, and theorise about certain groups (usually the opposite sex), but the reality is that they usually can't escape th…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 02:34 AM
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The person you're debating with is chatting pure, unadulterated BS. It's why I don't bother debating here any more, because you have people being so flagrantly dishonest. I come across countless videos and comments from women randomly bringing up things about men. This can be from women trying to character study men as being "zesty" for wanting to go Dutch on dates. Or "men not being men nowadays", whatever that means. So many women love bringing up a random statistic, and then claiming that's w…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:13 AM
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Man speak for yourself. Any woman I've been involved with I've been attracted to, the caveat being I feel like I'm attracted to most women around my age (most is an exaggeration, but I find many attractive and I'm glad for it. I feel sorry for guys/people that are unnecessarily picky about appearance).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 02:22 PM
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men largely aren't actually taking accountability for their issues .... I don't think men and women should be considered the same when it comes to their thirsting behavior 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 02:47 AM
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It sounds like you're trying to force a "gotcha" but the logic falls flat imo. This would work if men were told to only befriend women they're attracted to, but that's not the case. What men are advised (and often by women might I add), is that if they are attracted to a woman, then befriending her, and getting to know each other, is a way to eventually date her. Also contrary to terminally online takes, men don't only befriend women they want a relationship with or are attracted to. Admittedly …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 06:30 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 12:51 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 11:49 AM
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This little thread is so interesting. I have a sister (well technically half sister). She's older than me, in a relationship with someone, they don't live together and she doesn't want to get married. My first thought was honestly being happy for her and I COMPLETELY understand any person not wanting to be married for a myriad of reasons. But apparently you're a huge POS oh and you almost made me puke.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 12:08 AM
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Yeah a good portion of guys are unbelievablly thirsty tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 12:47 AM
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Well, let's examine what you're saying. "It’s really the men who have to change". But to look at what they have to change, you'd have to ask why the men struggle to attract women originally; and usually it's because they aren't attractive enough to attract women (this is the stage before they become hostile to women, mind you). And a lot of times, there isn't tangibly much men can do to change their level of attractiveness (or it would require a level of effort in the gym that is difficult for t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 02:22 AM
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Expect a lot of bs, posturing and cope. This is what I think is the logical truth; Wonderful relationship > Single > Bad relationship Yes I admit I'm being a little arrogant but I honestly believe that for 90%-99% of people this would be their preference if they are being truthful and you remove the veneer of bs. The problem is finding a wonderful relationship isn't exactly straightforward, not only can other people not be great, but we as individuals may not be great too (everyone forgets that …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 05:37 AM
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They're here for "entertainment", whilst racking up 100s if not 1000s of comments in this sub and clearly getting emotionally involved and butthurt too. But trust me, it's just entertainment man!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 05:31 AM
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Framing feelings as rational is a capital P PROBLEM and easily causes upwards of 85% of issues in relationships. Firstly thanks for replying. Erm, I agree somewhat but I disagree too. Where I agree is that if something hurts your partner then you should stop. But the rationality of it is important in a general sense. For example, I'm a black man (I literally am btw lol). If I dated a woman (of any ethnicity), and let's say I got wildly offended every time my partner said these words; chocolate, …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 07:57 AM
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Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 07:22 AM
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Thanks and yes that's a good point. It'd be leaning to the latter but purely in a matter of fact sort of way; so saying it like "he must be tall and strong - but almost absurdly so - to pull it off as this is hard". It wouldn't be in a "That body of yours is absurd" sort of way tho (Adam Levine reference, if you know...you know).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 06:42 AM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 05:39 AM
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Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 05:37 AM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 05:37 AM
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You'd be saying exactly this: "The guy (in the video we're trying to copy) must be tall and strong" So you'd be commenting on the guy in the video specifically. You would not be saying that I'm not strong in this scenario and you would not be putting me down, so to speak.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 05:37 AM
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Tbh I edited my post after this comment and specifically because of the comment as I didn't want any more derailing of the post. It's my fault as I should know how PPD is by now 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 03:36 AM
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Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 03:33 AM
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Thank you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 03:30 AM
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I'm gonna get downvoted but here goes... Yeah...I agree with you. I mean if the point is that "women don't love men", I think you could easily say that "men don't love women" and list off examples why. But overall I just don't buy that one sex "loves the other more" (or loves whoever they're attracted to more). Some men can love women hard. Some women can love men hard. Sometimes seemingly unconditionally.
/r/AllPillDebate14/11/23 06:23 AM
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Obviously because this sub is dumb af, I mean this sub and social media tend to be extremes. In real life well, let's start with preferences. Of course most single men would prefer a woman without a child. This is for obvious reasons that I shouldn't have to explain, as dating a single mom comes with its own added complications. I'm sure if single dads were more pervasive in society then the majority of single & looking women would prefer a man without a child. Of course someone here will rush t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 01:11 AM
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Honestly, I don't really think so. The RP community's definition of what the prime age is for a woman is quite welll defined by them; it's the age they're at their hottest and their "SMV" (so the amount they can attract attention from the opposite sex) is at its peak. It's why I asked the question in the way I did. My question is what do you think the redpilled answer is from observing RP communities? If you don't know much about RP communities then fair enough, but this isn't really for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 04:55 AM
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Hmm, you're not familiar with what the RP community says about this?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 04:26 AM
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Well that's fine, tbh I'm not particularly interested in personal beliefs, the question more is about the prime age "according to RP theory".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 02:59 AM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 02:52 AM
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Thank you very much. Out of your interest, prime age for men?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 02:37 AM
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Thank you kindly! I think those red pill dudes need to let women age in peace tho lol. And yes I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 02:33 AM
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Super super super, thank you for answering.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 02:15 AM
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Thank you very much and could I bother you for the age range of a woman in her prime and the age a woman reaches "the wall" according to RP theory?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 02:05 AM
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Yes that does make a lot of sense tbh, and it's excellent that you've been able to get a better understanding of your wants and needs, as well as giving less of a fuck about stuff that previouisly stressed you out. Again, thanks for answering.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 01:54 AM
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That's a very nice comment so thank you for sharing and yeah I agree that it can mean a lot of different things to different people. If you don't mind me asking why have 24/25 been your best years and what age are you currently?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 01:19 AM
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Excellent, thank you very much for answering and concisely.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 01:10 AM
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Thank you and the prime age, or age range?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 01:03 AM
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That I am overly emotional…..care to tell me, what emotions you think, I have in „overly“? No, you've misunderstood the point I was making. I said that having thousands of posts on PPD shows that "you're overly emotionally invested into conversations on this online subreddit", not that you're overly emotional. To be clear I'm not claiming that you're overly emotional. That’s fine, if you don’t have real life examples that’s either argumentation style or you have no real life experience……that’s c…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 06:44 PM
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that I really like to argue. And that you're overly emotionally invested into conversations on this online subreddit. And look, I'm here arguing too but I don't have to use examples from my real life to somehow prove that I'm happy or something like that. Until a while ago you guys said I didn't say that and I don't subscribe to the theory, if you can point to where I said that, then please show me, no seriously please do. As for the rest of your paragraph, again yes many PPD & Redpill guys clai…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 06:10 PM
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Thanks for sharing that and I see, so it was a culmination of a few things all understandable. Also his dad having access to his bank account is wiiiilllddddd. Now, you said something interesting here: He started to want to party much more than when we first met and developed a cocaine habit he never had! I want to put aside the Coke habit as that's an obvious relationship ender for most people. But in terms of the wanting to party more than when you first met; have you heard the news about Soph…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 05:57 PM
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Sweet pea, this here is a open debate forum……it’s purpose is to argue. I know you guys don’t get that and think the purpose of it is circle jerking but yeah. I didn't say that. But I do think if you do spend an inordinate amount of time on this subreddit it does say something about you tbh, no matter how great you claim your personal life is. Also congrats on your marriage (feel slightly sorry for your partner, I'm joking...maybe). Though I think I got under your skin because you wrote a long re…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 05:31 PM
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This Dillon guy sounds like an a*shole for sure and this is a guy trying to get at Logan by humiliating Nina. I agree that this is harassment. But a shaming tactic in terms of convincing women not to sleep around? I don't know if that's what Dillon had in mind. Also yes men do use insults like "slut", "hoe" etc., to denigrate women with reputations of sleeping around (and sometimes women with no reputation), it definitely happens a lot. But again it's not necessarily to convince women not to sle…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 05:24 PM
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I see, you were talking about PPD and this poster; I got that wrong, but even then (and this isn't my theory or something I believe), PPD has never said a woman's prime is 30. PPD has said 30 was "the wall". But I think the "PPD primeTM" for women has always been early 20s. As for this: That was sarcasm….but you guys here seem allergic to that. So take your own advice, go touch grass and maybe next time you get it. Firstly, ooooof sick burn 🤣🤣 I especially liked the uno reverse. Secondly, you're…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 04:53 PM
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I mean it's probably going the other way around if anything, at least in the West. A historian can correct me but I think the age of consent (socially if not by law) would've been lower in past centuries than it is today (again Western countries). Plus the average age of mothers for their first child is increasing (at least in the UK), which would point to the socially acknowledged "prime" actually being older. Sure, for some men; women in their early 20s will always be preferred and this is PPD…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 02:18 AM
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It’s hilarious to me that people are downvoting this. Lol, a 32 year old woman and 24 year old man dating is perfectly reasonable IMHO, but this is reddit and this age gap thing seems to be a very sore subject. If you don't mind me asking, you said "dated", how come you're not dating anymore?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 01:52 AM
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Ooooof passive aggressive levels on 100. I'm not particularly into dating women in their early 20s, but a man or woman seeking to date someone in their early 20s doesn't mean they're into kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 01:47 AM
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Interesting question, so my answer is...frustratingly long but bear with me. Firstly I think it's only fair to make a condition that I can afford to pay for everything in the relationship with the 21 year old, otherwise the question becomes infinitely less interesting as I'd obviously choose the more practical option. But even with that condition I'd still 100% choose the 30 year old for a few reasons; A. I honestly don't mind paying for most things in a relationship; no, I'm not traditional but…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 01:35 AM
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Well I think you've said something interesting. The amount of times which I come across bad faith arguments, passive aggressive questions or tones and stupid questions like: source? Or, can you list examples? Which aren't honest attempts at conversation but sly attempts at lazy counter arguing, are staggering. The icing on the cake, the "crème de la crème" of PPD culture is thinking that you're somehow better than then people you're arguing with when you're just as much of a snarky, nasty, spite…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 06:29 PM
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Obviously Ooof I'm sensing a tinge of passive aggressiveness there, I didn't stike a nerve did I? If so my apologies....I wouldn't want to upset you 😶
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 06:17 PM
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Sure they have. Users, exploiters and lazy people love that shit. I noticed you said people, does this then apply equally to men and women?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 05:55 PM
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Tbh and it might be a bad thing to say but...after reading all of the comments all I'm thinking to myself is that this sounds a little exhausting. Not the activities itself but the sort of tight rope anxiety of possibly putting a step wrong and meaning that you risk turning off your wife/partner for a significant period of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 05:34 AM
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No offence, but making a whiny post about having to rephrase your reddit post to comply with the rules of the sub: Pathetic. "No offence" lol and I didn't rephrase the post I changed the flair. Getting the facts wrong before calling someone pathetic...absolutely pathetic. Edit: Also the main point of the post wasn't to whine about re-flairing anyway, that was just an "addendum" at the end of the main point of the post. That seems to have totally flown over your head which isn't a surprise.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 10:17 AM
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the online equivalent of a kindergartener
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 06:20 AM
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It reads like that to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 05:58 AM
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I am asking you for clarification. Are you sure about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 05:56 AM
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Some of the things women write here have been deeply upsetting and saddening. I just remind myself that this is online. None of the women in my life hold these opinions. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 05:51 AM
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Dark Brown Anywhere up to 5'10 tbh. I'm 5'7 myself so I'm a chibi. If you held a gun to my head to give a specific height then 5'6. Curvy Not too bothered so long as she's doing something she's passionate about and gets involved in it. Same as above tbh Not particularly bothered No minimum. Maximum..hmm..I'd say around 20-30 in an ideal world. But if I really liked the woman and trusted her, it's not like I'd turn her down over her body count (well maybe if it's in the 100s). Preferably STD free…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 07:45 PM
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Which do you think is worse? Friendzone or fuckzone? I'm interested to hear in your opinion on both the person on the receiving end and the person doing the "zoning" (so the person that is liked but doesn't reciprocate).
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 04:44 PM
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Casual sex isn’t a prerequisite for love Yes I'd tend to agree, though before committing to a woman I'd want to know that she did "desire me" sexually. Doesn't have to be sex but that tension and flirting and such would be nice. Out of interest, how long have you been married and did you sleep together before marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 01:19 PM
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So casual sex is the best treatment, and your partner should only have had it with you? Sorry but how on earth did you get that from what I wrote? I said that you want a partner (not a fling, or a hook up) that finds you both sexually irresistible and mentally stimulating, I never said that my partner should only have had sex with me? Do you hold yourself to this same standard? Yes.....I mean, I've said this more than once tbh. You want a partner like that and you also treat your partner the sam…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 01:11 PM
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No....no. The point is that you want to be treated by your partner like you're their 10/10. You don't have to actually be a 10/10 as most people simply are not. A man wants a woman to treat him like a "Chad she finds sexually irresistible and mentally stimulating". A woman wants a man to treat her like a "Stacy he finds sexually irresistible and mentally stimulating". That's the sort of "ideal scenario". Ofc life isn't perfect so you're probably not going to get that completely, but you try and …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 12:14 PM
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Sorry but I won't be reading r/limerance because I'm not talking about what you're talking about tbh. Yes it's true that some guys (and women, let me say and women) do not behave appropriately when they fancy someone. They become obsessive and pursue the person they like even after it's obvious that - that person doesn't reciprocate those feelings. Or they do all of the stuff you talked about; "wasting days, weeks, months, and years of their lives getting in the way of people who aren’t interest…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 04:41 AM
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But that's how having feelings usually goes if the other person doesn't reciprocate and that happens often to both genders? the one-sided attraction was all in their head. Most are defending a desire for a relationship instead of “just sex” as though that somehow changes things. Is a natural phenomenon occurring everyday; since when is being attracted to someone and them not reciprocating such a bad thing? And since when does them not reciprocating mean that you weren't interested in their recip…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 04:12 AM
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It really doesn’t matter, though, since there isn’t anything wrong with sex. But she isn’t interested in a romantic or a sexual relationship, he’s acting on his own self-centered desires with no consideration of how she feels. Again I think you're viewing it too negatively, too unkindly to the person that has feelings for the other person and you're viewing their intentions too maliciously. Getting closer to someone you like before "confessing your feelings" to them is a natural thing for many p…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 04:04 AM
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Meh...people will say they're fine alone but you start peeling at them with only slightly triggering questions and their true feelings come out. I tend to be dubious of people claiming to be completely content alone; if you make too much of an attempt to "prove" you're fine single I already look at you suspiciously. Especially the "my sex is happier single crew". Then again if you think it's a W that your sex is happier single then maybe you deserve to die alone. Ok that was a mean joke, look, I…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 01:11 AM
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Ahh but she doesn't. I think the point more is that if you're a man in a relationship, you'd want your lady to treat you like "a Chad", not just one she'd f*ck, but crucially one she'd want a relationship with. Sure most men aren't "Chads" but they'd want their woman to be into them such that she'd treat him like he was a "Chad" (one she'd want to date). In the same way I think even if a woman knows she's not the most beautiful woman in the world, she'd want to be treated as such by her partner …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 12:48 AM
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If I’m just going off what I see, and if he doesn’t have any other redeeming characteristics or interest in me beyond sex, why would I love him? That’s stupid. Yep I think that's fair. It’s also as if women have no sex drive Well yeah I think that's the issue we're trying to work to the root of and I want to adjust the comment you originally replied to and you can give me your opinion: "If a women doesn't treat you like a Chad (that she's physically and emotionally attracted to) then she's clear…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 10:56 PM
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Thank you for sharing that perspective and from it I do appreciate when you say: I wish men would just not give us any sexual or romantic attention and be a friend or something than trying to use our bodies to masturbate. I'm sorry to read about the bad experiences you've had, nobody deserves to be talked to that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 10:47 PM
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Most of the men here don’t seem to care at all. Not in the way they come across here, I'll concede that. In my experience, men feel their desire to get their dick wet is more important than whatever I’m doing and whatever I’m feeling. I'm sorry to read that and look, I won't deny that a man is definitely more likely to be using a woman for sex than the other way around (I mean it'd be a bold face lie to say otherwise, we don't even need to refer to data for that). I don't think it's all men desi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 10:40 PM
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No definitely not. But neither do I buy the line: "I don’t love Chad, I’d just fuck him.". I do apologise in saying this but it just comes across as a bit corny and not particularly truthful or insightful. Let me ask it this way; you don't think you'd ever fall in love with a "Chad"? You don't think his appearance might influence you falling in love with him...in addition to other things of course, like his attitude, kindness, generosity and massive massive d!ck.... ok last one was a little joke…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 10:27 PM
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Ahh well now you've said something interesting. But this: Their lack of interest in reciprocity is the problem. Surely doesn't happen very often? I think people are mostly interested in reciprocity, especially if they are attracted to the person in question?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 09:32 PM
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No I disagree, your view just seems extremely harsh and unsympathetic. Honestly, you come across as someone that's never really had to put themselves out there like that, it's not particularly an easy thing to do. If a woman befriended me because she wanted to date me I could completely understand where she's coming from. Not everything is an overt attempt at being deceitful and manipulative, people just sometimes are scared and that's normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 08:46 PM
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How attractive would you say you are honestly? Do you ever get interest from men? But yes, what you said does happen unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 08:46 PM
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I don’t love Chad, I’d just fuck him. I mean...when people say stuff like this it does make me raise an eyebrow. Especially as I'm assuming you're not a really young lady (18/19) given your OP so I'm hoping you've got more nuance than that?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 08:38 PM
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Pretty much. I mean let's flip the genders. Let's say one of my female friends; we'll call her "Jane", has a crush on a handsome lad called "Daniel" that frequents her local coffee shop (cliche I know). She's seen him a few times, strikes up a conversation one day and they become quite close friends. She wants to be friends with him first before "confessing" her feelings to him. If she asked me if that's "wrong", "deceitful", "creepy" or "evil", my answer would be: of course not! It's not exactl…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 08:27 PM
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This is a good question. But the thing is that it's really quite complicated...well not complicated but securing commitment isn't just about withholding sex; it's a combination of being a person someone wants to be with and also picking a person that...erm wants to be with you, if that makes sense? So, if you have good chemistry that is an important factor in "securing commitment". That said, I think I'm in the minority when I say that women should withhold sex for more than a few dates, especia…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 01:02 AM
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I can't lie, whenever anyone says "source?" it comes across as a passive aggressive way of trying to stifle the person they're replying to. That said I think personality traits probably have more of a genetic component to them, as opposed to political opinions or food tastes, which probably have more to do with upbringing. Even then I think personality traits lean more to the nurture side of the "nature vs nurture" clash. But that's just my opinion, I've not read any journals/studies and honestl…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 12:32 AM
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I bought in a cheap area and the house was a wreck. But also prices were a bit less silly then. I did have to live without heating and hot water for 2 years though. Woah really? Jeee, was that hard for you? I have to be honest I couldn't stand not having hot water especially in winter, I've done so before but only for a few weeks and I was miserable lol. And thanks again for entertaining my questions, I enjoyed reading your views.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 11:49 PM
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NOT how someone interacts with the world. Hmm but as alluded to elsewhere in this thread; in a monogamous relationship a widely accepted boundary is: I don't want you to sleep with other people. I think I'd throw in I don't want you to murder or steal from other people as a boundary many people would have (unless there were a strongly legitimate reason to kill or steal; there aren't many). These directly affect how someone interacts with the world. Also another personal boundary which would be m…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 04:17 PM
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It's a bit of sticky one tbh, an arena full of blurred lines and grey areas imo. I think the problem is that a lot of guys that are actually controlling (in a toxic way) use language like "boundaries" to mask it. But then at the same time there are guys that genuinely have honest and fair boundaries but it's very easy to be called "toxic" socially even if you have a completely legitimate boundary. I think the best starting place is calm and rational conversation. I'm not ever going to "forbid" m…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 02:28 PM
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I think a lot of older men are divorced and cynical, not going there again, and have lost interest in long-term relationships - as have many of their female equivalents, of course. Many have immersed themselves in hobbies such as motorsports or cycling and expect a woman to fit around that. People in general are less flexible in their lifestyles as they get older, so it's difficult to find a good fit. Yes that's true. I think it's an unfortunate part of relationships as we get older that we inev…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 02:13 PM
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I have some autistic type traits. I've never bothered to pursue a diagnosis, so I wouldn't go around saying I'm autistic, but I do find social stuff difficult and I have some anxieties that cause problems socially, such as around food. I hide it as best I can, but I think I probably come across as standoffish or uninterested in others. I can often say stuff that offends people unintentionally and I'm liable to talk too much about topics that interest me and bore others. Ahh I see, thanks again f…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 09:43 AM
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Thanks very much for sharing, sorry to pry but I'm just interested...when you say you don't think you're a likeable person how so? Is it that you it's difficult for people to talk with you or something like that? Or something else? Admittedly I did have a quick nosey at your comment history and you seem perfectly cool. How do you feel about having a relationship? Are you relaxed about it or is it something you'd like to have?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 02:41 AM
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For sure it is, I mean forget about any ulterior motives, why wouldn't you fundamentally want to make your girlfriend/wife/partner happy in bed? There doesn't have to be any gain from it, you should "bedroom maxx" because it'll make her feel good and if she reciprocates then that leads to happy times. I'm not even trying to virtue signal, I don't really understand why people wouldn't want to do these basic things, it's like the building blocks of a good relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 05:18 PM
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Hmm I dunno I think he has a point, just hear me out. For context; I'm a black British lad (Ghanaian parents), and I don't actually think race impacts you that much here as a black man wrt to dating in the UK if you want to date either black or white women. But you might run into issues trying to date Asian women (either Eastern or towards Southwest Asia) due to cultural and family reasons. However from what I have come across black women in America are heavily disadvantaged when trying to date …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 05:04 PM
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if they’re all ugly, 0. Hmm I don't think them being ugly affects their ability to want to go on a date with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 01:32 PM
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Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 01:29 PM
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Once I started talking, that would drop to maybe 40%. The number of men who would want a relationship with me rather than a hook-up. From experience, probably zero. Why do you say that?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 01:28 PM
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This was an interesting read thanks. What's your wife like personality wise? Were you drawn to her "mentally" as well as physically (sorry for putting it in a corny way). I'll make the outrageously wild assumption that you get on well given how long you've been married.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 01:27 PM
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Most of the women are 30’s and up. A lot also are self proclaimed in relationships. It's a little odd tbh. Put it this way; I literally have no life (I've got a condition that makes it extremely difficult for me to socialise), I think I'm spending too much time on PPD as it is, and yet I usually don't post more than a few times a week and I have breaks too. I also try to keep my views quite reasonable no matter how "triggered" I get (I try.....I'm not necessarily successful though lol), but I se…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 07:33 PM
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Refreshingly honest, I enjoyed reading that so thank you for sharing and yes I understand this: I think when PPD men come across as being actively adversarial towards women, it's harder to be nice about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 03:26 PM
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Why are you saying that we think we're better than you? Hmm I didn't say that outright? Not in this context at least. When I say: "but make no illusions that the women are any better" I mean in the context of when it comes to the way they can speak about men online. Women often castigate men for the way they comment about women, and honestly it's fairly so.....sometimes. For example, sometimes I read comments from men about women and I'd be ashamed if my (hypothetical) son or family member spoke…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 02:41 PM
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Well it is PPD, most people here are full of sh*t that includes the women. I mean lets examine some of the top answers: "Gross. Not into dudes who constantly need validation on their looks and who look like a douche lol." "if he wasn't red pilled he looks like the kind of person who goes on love island. I really dislike how he looks and I doubt we'd have anything at all in common." "From his pics, he’s the male equivalent of dating an Instagram girl. Hard pass even before you get to the red pill…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 12:43 PM
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That sounds like a bunch of crapola tbh. It's not really about any "facade" as most people are "cardboard cut outs" until you get to know them or at the very least speak to them. However you generally won't speak to even a fraction of the people within a few miles of your location in a lifetime. So...it's a little bit cringey to refer to others as "NPCs", but each to their own I suppose.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 03:58 AM
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Hmm interesting thread so far.......interesting 🤔..... .....very interesting 🤔🤔...🤔 What it appears is that on the whole most men are unspectacular to women. I think the 80/20 rule is an exaggeration but it does look like women don't tend to find guys attractive (physically) in the same way that the reverse happens. Also women itt love using the word "NPC", no comment on that 👀
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 06:25 PM
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Owari da gentlemen.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 10:58 PM
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Relationships are a two way street. She is letting him get away with no reciprocating. Pick mes tend to do this. They dont care the relationship is so one sided, theyre desperate for love and have no self respect. I think you've reached a far too negative conclusion from point 4. In some interactions if a person continues to ask questions and shows interest sometimes it fits to speak about yourself. I've certainly been on dates and spoken to women where I've asked most of the questions (in fact …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 07:33 PM
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Asked most of the questions and let the guy talk about himself as much as he wanted Gave tons of compliments and used commitment-minded language Went down on him (never went down before on a guy) I don't see how you can claim any of those are pick me behaviours. If 5 and 6 aren't being reciprocated then it's not being a pick me it's the guy not being the right partner. I'll give you an example of pick me behaviour; - Outwardly agreeing with literally everything a guy says even if internally you …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 07:00 PM
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Isn't it lol.... Somebody hand OP a medal, they've cracked dating as a woman through ingenuity and perseverance! Smh, and people on PPD wonder why they struggle with dating, maybe just maybe it's because you're an a**.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 06:44 PM
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Don't take anything anybody says on Reddit too seriously, specially not on dating subs or places like PPD. They are chocked full of deluded, misinformed, chronically online people that may say a lot but most of the info will be sus at best. Like a lot of the different "behaviours" you outlined in your post may or may not be signs of interest from a man or woman, it's kind of difficult to gauge without more info. Usually the only way you'll know for sure if speaking to the person and being able t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 10:19 PM
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Leonardo Di Caprio, but he is not even attracted to women and all the models he is in relationships with are just stunts When you say stuff like this, it does make me dubious of your view point tbh. And you seem overly riled up at these men, given your post and replies when it's really not that deep lol. Is this something the consumes a lot of your thoughts? It seems like it. Anyway, yes it's true that men (like women) do not generally become more physically attractive or even maintain the same …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 08:24 PM
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The man, no contest IMO. I mean people come up with all kinds of reasons why women are "just as horny as men" but it just can't be true. And ofc PPD and reddit in general is king for personal anecdotes; "well I'm soooooo much hornier than my man", alright alright maybe, but as a general rule I just don't buy it. There's a whole industry (the "oldest profession in the world") that exists because of how horny men are, OFs is dominated by women. There's far less demand from women for prostitutes; s…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 06:09 PM
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Most people are trying to find the right person who will solve all their problems but are not trying to be the right person. Ahh that is an interesting sentence and I tend to agree, this won't be true for everybody but I think it's true for an alarming amount of people. The other issue is that people can work on the wrong things, but that's another topic in & of itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 03:48 PM
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I suppose, but you make a point to single out "nice guys" when this applies to most people (ok maybe most is harsh, but many people), either with respect to dating or other aspects of life. It's easier to complain or blame others than work on yourself; your character, your partner selection, your fitness, your eating habits, your communication. This entire sub is littered with people with very little perspective beyond their own POV, but continue to fight these weird proxy battles instead of doi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 03:45 PM
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but the focus is on the object of their feelings = the other person. In the honeymoon phase I definitely agree. Afterwards not so much and that's when the issues of self-centeredness (sorry for using a non-existent word) can become more prominent IMO (again, disclaimer that this is only my view of it). This can lead to their needs not being met, their partner's needs not being met either, then resentment and bitterness. Then the ego kicks in the communication breaks down and things can turn sour…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 01:20 AM
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Hmm so you're saying it's always the woman's fault and never the man's? Or is this a 80/20 woman to man's fault ratio?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 12:04 AM
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I'm sorry but have you walked a day in my shoes? If not then you don't get to dictate to me what is and what is not comparable when it comes to my own experiences. I'm not even going to argue anymore. I've said what I have to say. Teehee.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 11:30 PM
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*Sigh* I didn't really have to say this but here goes.........as a black man I totally understand how you feel. Ever since I was young I was raised not to trust certain races *cough* Caucasians *cough*. Not that I've ever had a life threatening experience with a white person (I've experienced casual racism, but I suppose, who hasn't), but I think it's only fair to automatically treat all white people with suspicion and be extremely wary of most of them, especially because of slavery, the way tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 10:19 PM
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Yeah this is a great suggestion. I mean the obvious rebuttal is that it's not really particularly easy as a mid-30 year old, short, ugly, balding, not well endowed lad to suddenly find good friends....I..I...I'm...I'm not talking about myself.... No but seriously, it can be hard to get good friends, especially if you've not already got some kind of existing circle to build upon and especially if you're not great at socialising (which is fair enough, we all have our different talents). Also consi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 06:04 PM
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Men who don’t want to date overweight women know it has nothing to do with health For the most part I agree. I think the "health" part is a bit of an attempt at rationalisation; not wanting to date overweight women is more instinctive than that IMO. A bit like many women finding taller men more attractive is instinctive, which is why I don't really fault women for instinctively finding height more attractive (and I say this as a chibi; don't worry I've accepted my fate). That said...I mean, the …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 05:47 PM
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Anyway, prove me wrong. Tell me why drinks dates are superior. Hmm is there anything to prove wrong? I don't think so. I think you've made excellent suggestions but it's really horses for courses. If you're able to get a gauge of what the person would like on a first date and they'd like something physical then yep do it. If you think they're more of a sit down and eat or catch a drink person, then do that. If you're unsure then either a walk (in a non creepy area lol), going to a nice garden ty…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 04:24 PM
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Apologies for the late reply I've not been at home so I've only just seen this. I don't think it's a compelling point to be really honest. You say "selection bias", but from the reading I've done women prefer taller and more successful men if given the choice, these are from studies done where we can safely assume that they are trying to take a sample that's representative of the population. It's been a long time since I've done anything stats related so I'm rusty, but there's only so much you c…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 10:09 PM
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Lol and did you skip over all of the "I can't stand my bf anyway" comments from women too?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 04:36 AM
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This whole thread is just weird, and the fact that people are trying to back up your point is even more bizarre. Firstly, your claim is that women who are into alt scenes are more open to dating broke and short men and your body of evidence is ofc....your anecdotal experiences, then you have the gall to judge the "pretty Margot Robbie types" as the ones with high standards, lol. Well some may and some may not have high standards, just like some alt women will have "high standards" and some will …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 04:27 AM
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"Statistically like 20% of men will divorce a woman when she gets a debilitating medical condition." She initiated the split. She fell in love with her 6'6" drug dealer.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 03:40 AM
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The lack of self-awareness you display is staggering Really? I could say the same to you. You seem to be on this tirade against transsexualism, and look, do you. But why should I listen to the "evidence" you've provided about, again, fringe explanations. Why should I accept fringe explanations over what's generally accepted by the medical community, what reason would I have to do that? Because you said so? I'm not going to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 02:57 PM
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That a significant proportion of males who identify as female are fetishists who get off on the idea that society is bending over backwards to accommodate their paraphilia Puh lease. You can't expect me to take you seriously when you're bringing up autogynephilia which is at best only a fringe explanation for MtF transsexualism (and not the explanation accepted by most of the medical community). You've only selected that particular article because it suits whatever ridiculous bias you've got. An…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 05:46 AM
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You are not serious right now...you cannot be, you must be an entertainer, a c-c-c-c-clown even. What in the heaven above and hell below does this prove, it's not even the full article you've brought here and you're trying to use this obscurity to prove what? Red ik u loz.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 05:12 AM
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But again, the predominant reason people have gender reassignment surgery, will be due to gender dysphoria (I hope I've got the term right). The NHS says: "Many people with gender dysphoria have a strong, lasting desire to live a life that "matches" or expresses their gender identity." Saucy And you're really trying to compare that to reasoning like, "life being easier as the opposite gender"? C'mon man. Firstly I'd even contest if life as a man is harder than a woman in a Western country (this …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 05:04 AM
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Well, my guess would be that they are thinking that life would be "easier" post op, because they'd no longer have the same internal struggle of feeling like they'd been born into the "wrong body". I highly doubt it's to do with thinking life would be easier solely because they've now joined the opposite gender. Honestly, I think only a tiny tiny teeny speck of a micro-droplet of a spot of an atom of people transition with the main thing in their mind being that as the opposite gender they'd have…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:57 AM
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I honestly don't think people are rolling up to the chopping table with "my life will be easier as a........" in mind before getting ops done.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:12 AM
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Informal conversations among strangers don’t follow Roberts Rules of Order. Most conversations among people from different cultures and sociopolitical groups don’t. And now you've come back with an even more serious (and defensive) answer. The first reply I could sort of understand you making, but this one is a little left field even for PPD so congrats.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 02:59 AM
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I really...the point wasn't about actually making a thread. It was more about the way people behave. But then you commented with an answer..to a question that wasn't really being asked which is a great illustration of the way people act here. And then another person commented with a more actual serious answer below. Lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 02:48 AM
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This thread is interesting. You're asking a question about men but framed for women so now it's a circle jerk of why men (sorry some men) are really bad. I should make a thread like: "Why do women hate when it when ugly guys approach them" But pose this question to men and maybe we'll get think pieces about how some women are "just jealous of ugly men.........you know".
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 12:27 AM
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I'm sure "tOUch gRAAAassSS" has worked its way in here, because people can't help but regurgitate that catch phrase constantly in PPD, as if we haven't heard it a million times and as if they aren't also victims of being chronically online (evident by their massive karma points total, accumulated in a relatively short space of time). The problem is that people think they're coming with a fresh perspective but end up being as boring, annoying and biased as anyone else (myself included). People re…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 12:11 AM
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l got majority of the money Hmm so why did that end up happening? Were you doing all the production, management as well as featuring 40% of the time?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 07:07 PM
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Should I have itemized all those things down to the last detail ? Naa, for sure not. It's more that your initial post in this chain made it sound like you do an almost unrealistic amount of "social stuff". On top of that you also implied that not doing this - almost unrealistic amount of social stuff - means that you don't have a healthy social life; that's where I disagreed with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 01:26 AM
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I never claimed I did it always for everything and everyone. They were just going examples of things I did in some way that my partners did not Well that's fair enough but when you say this: I’ll send cards/send gifts/make social calls with both of our social groups on all occasions And stuff like this: I’ll initiate and plan your parties/get togethers in addition to mine I’ll initiate and plan your family contacts and gatherings in addition to mine You do make it sound like you do an extraordin…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 01:06 AM
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Hmm collective social events; yes that's fairly normal (like going on a night out to celebrate a birthday). Collective social gifts less so, but perhaps it happens with some friend groups all of the time so ok. But you quite definitively stated that you: send cards/send gifts/make social calls with both of our social groups on all occasions. And that you plan and send your secretary/boss/understaff gifts on their birthdays and holidays, and make an effort to socialize with them. And also that yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 12:06 AM
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Hmm are you sending these cards/gifts or making social calls to all of these people every single birthday and holiday? Because your rebuttal to people that don't is that they are not being social but I'm friends with men and women that are perfectly social and I don't know a single person that does everything you've listed consistently for all of those people on every occasion. They might do so for immediate family, maybe like their best friend or fav co-worker, but not everyone in their social …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 11:26 PM
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Look at all of this push back you're getting because you suggested that women aren't happier single, smh. As if that would be a bad thing. Comments willing to fight wars to prove they are the more "content sex single". Then people wonder why they are having issues with the opposite sex, lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 02:07 AM
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Oh dear. You sound like an absolutely miserable person. If you've got that much of a negative attitude towards men then perhaps for your own peace of mind you shouldn't consider dating them (perhaps you're already doing that, if so then well congratulations). As an example if I said something like this: "Women are disingenuous in the dating market Most women just want free meals and maybe a tall guy and they see dating as a game. They will never explicitly say it, but most don't care about anyth…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 01:49 AM
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I used to think that way but honestly it's no so black and white. What convinced me of that are stats like this: "Most Americans (63%) who have ever been in a monogamous relationship say they have never cheated on a partner; one-third (33%) say they cheated — either physically, emotionally, or both. However, when asked about their experiences being cheated on, more than half (54%) of those who have ever been in a monogamous relationship say they have been cheated on — either physically, emotiona…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 05:23 PM
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At face value it sounds like he has an ulterior motive. But it's a bit difficult to really say for sure as there's a lot of context missing. Like is he doing it jokingly? Is this happening during night outs and only after everyone has had a drink? Do you hug and kiss your female friends and then he asks for a kiss too? Is it outright creepy, like he's trying to take advantage of you? You said he's your male best friend, if so then I think being direct with him might be the best way to get a reso…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 12:50 PM
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Sorry for replying to a slightly old thread (though tbf PPD went private for two days to protest). For me personally yes I find all of the women attractive and I'd date all of them or would like to get to know them better. For guys in general? I think all of the women should definitely not struggle to find partners. But they'd have less options than if they were a bit slimmer.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/23 11:45 AM
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Lol I was just about to say the same thing. Some people on here want to maintain that women actually have way more options than men, that men neeEEEeed women more than vice versa and actually women are promiscuous, the dumb*ss men just don't know it. Oh and women can definitely attract the man they want, if they were bothered to. At the same time; well actually most women have zero interest in casual sex and actually don't have many partners at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 08:46 PM
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What is it with people today, first the nut job that said average men shouldn't have access to casual sex now this.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 08:38 PM
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Perhaps, but let's say most men had abundant options. If women are more picky and discerning than men, then it shouldn't really matter. Well, that's assuming that their level of picky and discerning is high enough (over men's) that they wouldn't pick these men with abundant options. But I actually think if many males had lots of options it'd sort of automatically mean that women in general have become less picky otherwise the men wouldn't have the options. Unless you're saying the options would …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 07:53 PM
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Hmm...would you class yourself as picky and discerning when it comes to finding a partner (that is if you want a partner, or did at any point in your life). Also what balance are you talking about? The balance between men and women? Between one country and another one? Between the earth and the rest of the solar system?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 07:29 PM
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Yep, lol is all you can do, also the capitalised NOT in the title is the cherry on the cake. This post is a reminder that the women on PPD can be as delusional and crazy as the men they keep going on about. The irony.....
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 05:07 PM
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It's never a privilege to the person being pedestalized?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 04:38 PM
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Even then, she admited too that the kind of sex we had doesn't compare, and that she is still way more attracted to me than she is to her husband, and she basically wishes she could go back in time and do the things the right way with me, thou we understand that's not really possible and won't happen in the future neither. Sorry for the late-ish reply to this thread but that makes me a feel a tiny bit sorry for the guy, though I guess she also said she had a fulfilling sexual life with her husba…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 02:44 AM
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Thanks very much man and it sounds like you made some great memories from that relationship for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 11:43 PM
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Up-voted for the "lone wolf unabomber" absurdity, I'm fkin howling (see what I did there).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 08:03 PM
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Yes I'd agree with that, the perfect combo is probably a woman with a naturally high libido and also one that understands the importance of sex in a relationship (that is if she's dating a man with moderate to high libido). Also I'm not saying that sex has to happen every day or even every other day, but having sex one a month or once every few months will be a struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 07:47 PM
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That was fantastic, thanks very much for sharing and it's a little scary how things progressed from the woman being so into you physically, to her barely being interested in sex by the end. I'll add though that she does sound like a lovely lady albeit it sounds like her true libido is probably fairly low, which isn't bad, but just that it can cause issues if she dates a high libido partner. Just a question and apologies if I missed this in what you wrote, but it looks like she was really into yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 07:38 PM
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Yeah, any time I engage in discourse on PPD I have to remind myself that a lot of people have the most ludicrous examples in mind when making arguments; my uncle's, cat's, foster mum's, sister's friend from 20 years ago and his buddies do "x" so that's solid evidence that "x" happens all the time! The disingenuity (yes I know it's not a proper word), is strong on PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 02:13 AM
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That was an interesting read and tbh I tend to agree with the idea of dating a woman that's "into you", rather than trying to almost coax a woman into a relationship. That's of course if you can find a woman that's into you and you also find her attractive (both looks and personality wise). My question for you (and others...if they are interested)....is in the long term, is dating a woman that's "into you" an important component of avoiding dead bedrooms? Of course that's in addition to ensuring…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 01:05 AM
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Naa I think you're just coming at it from the most cynical and negative viewpoint, that's how I feel most people operate on PPD and it's an unhealthy and unbalanced way to look at life. However, I do admit that what you've described is certainly a narrative that exists in society. I won't pretend like this doesn't happen (and I'd go as far as saying that it happens frequently enough that it's a problem woman have to consider). So yes a lot of men will not value women beyond their teddies and cak…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 11:46 PM
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I really like natural faces (I like make up too though, so I'm not attacking it), women with big bellies can definitely be and most certainly are attractive, I think big natural breasts with some sag are attractive. Apparently I find a large percentage of overweight women attractive (given the BMI scale), though I don't really think that's unique (most guys probably do and don't realise).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 11:30 PM
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Erm I don't know if it's necessarily unpopular but it's definitely not stated enough; Men and women are actually quite similar (ok perhaps that's not popular in these parts). Sure there are obvious differences, both physical and behaviourally. But there remains many many similarities; for example money is a big motivator for both men and women (how they go about getting it might vary). Both men and women can be incredibly selfish and can be extremely myopic when it comes to seeing things from th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 01:20 AM
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That was a great read, thanks for sharing. Got any more interesting stories? As for your friend, what's curious is that he's over 30 but still seems to get really intensely attached to one woman at a time. I can only speak for myself, but the older I've gotten, the less intense crushes I have, if that makes sense. I'm less zoned in on one woman but there are a few different women I know that I think; "you're a cool person", and if I had myself together more perhaps I'd ask one of them out to get…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 07:26 PM
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Up-voted for truth, stay corny beefed, brothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 01:11 AM
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I'll keep it 100 with you, people are here because they are bitter or they are sh!t at socialising in real life or they have nothing better to do, maybe all 3. For me personally I'm not bitter (not yet lmao) but I have way too much time on my hands which is why I waste it here. And I suck at socialising, well sort of.....it's a long story. Also people are full of absolute and utter sh!t here, talking about "I cAMe tOOOoooo LeAaarn ABoUt DEeeee oPPosiTE sEeEex", mofo please, you came to argue and…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 03:59 AM
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Yeah but if the spaces are there but there are less people in them, then it makes them less viable to meet other people (and I'd argue much less viable to meeting a partner). For example, if a local pub 20 years ago would be full every Friday/Saturday evening, but now only has a few people on Saturdays then yes I can still meet other people but it's not as great an option as before. But I'd also even argue that "in person" group activity oriented "stuff" is on the decline. It follows that if les…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 02:07 PM
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Yes for sure, I think me using church as an example comes across as me saying it's the only place that people can congregate or form a community. To be clear; of course that isn't the case. I just used it as such an extensive example because it's something I've personally experienced. My point more is that there are less viable community spaces and activities nowadays compared to perhaps 2-3 decades ago, a large part due to the fact that people are generally less social due to our phones, the in…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 12:45 PM
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Yes for sure, the church thing was more of a personal example (hence the long azz story), but it can be any community which unfortunately there are less of.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 12:45 AM
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Yes that's also true, it's definitely a combination of different factors (which has contributed to issues wrt dating), and the lack of good community spaces is a big one. Going back to the topic of religion, one thing I actually think was really good about growing up in church was the community I had. When, for example, my mother passed away I got so much tangible help from people in the church I attended and it did feel like I was part of a family. Even though I'm a heathen "backslider" (heathe…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 12:23 AM
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Yes you're cooking here. I think maybe it's a little bit of an ego blow to us men, but the cold hard fact is that women having more "everything" (rights, money, freedom etc) means that I think we're seeing a more "natural" representation in the West of how dating plays out without "intervention" so to speak. I also believe that religion (perhaps organised religion is the better word), is on the decline in the West and this probably plays into it (though I admit I'm being biased with this as I'm …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 11:38 PM
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Yeah you've got a point there it's not exactly easy. What I try and do is have as many good faith discussions as possible (I really try and pretend as if I'm not anonymous, sometimes I fail I admit it, but I do try). I'm not saying it's easy, especially as, for example, your comment is only a response to some of the outlandish things that some PPD men have said here, but I think if everyone tried to have better faith arguments then that's the way things generally improve. Ofc it's one of those s…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 11:11 PM
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Hmm...but a reply like this isn't much better and doesn't contribute anything other than adding more negativity to the conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 11:01 PM
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Don't worry, it's not egocentric because it's your experience (and the experience of a good proportion of women) so it's definitely a valid point you made and I agree that the problem does happen with some men and it's something we (men in general) need to work on.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 10:26 PM
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Hmm where I agree with you is that a lot of women will give men, that are less successful than them, a chance and unfortunately it will be a bad experience for the women. Also I'm really not trying to take away from your personal experience, because this is definitely a scenario that does happen frequently and certainly some guys are just bad, period. Where I disagree with you is when you say that most women would date for love alone (keyword being alone). I'm not saying that they'd necessarily …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 10:18 PM
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This whole comment sounds like a fragile and anxious reaction to what I said Erm...ok....was that really necessary? I'd appreciate if you replied without trying to resort to disguised insults. Women do it to but we are talking about men here. I literally said "everytime I've dated down" which means I gave them a chance but they blew it by being mean. Hmm it feels like we've got wires crossed somewhere. What you originally said is "We don't like dating men who make or accomplish less than us beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 09:42 PM
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Hmm so what you're saying is that this is all mens' fault and couldn't possibly have anything to do with some more successful women not being attracted to guys that are less successful than themselves? Not to say that your scenario doesn't happen some of the time (it definitely does), but "fragile masculinity" being the only reason, the main reason why women don't like to "date down"; I find that hard to believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 09:25 PM
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Hmm maybe I'm cynical (well...considering this is PPD I gotta keep my guard up for sneaky behaviour), but this very much seems like a proxy for high N partner vs low N partner but disguised in the question. I also think your question is much too black and white, but if you forced me to give an answer I'd choose the experienced partner in this scenario as they sound healthier. In the "Real WorldTM" I think stuff like compatibility and whether the woman I'm interested in is a genuinely sweet perso…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 09:18 PM
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I dont know how you got that from what I said. Sorry to butt in but that made me chuckle, partly because people read into whatever they want and misinterpret comments/info all of the time on PPD. As you were.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 07:09 PM
1

One hundred, thousand, million, billion, trillion, quintillion, sextillion, septillion, octillion, nonillion, and decillion percent (I'm being silly and shall now stop....or maybe not haha!). It's why I said: But seriously, I think both men and women do bring up how great being single (in a way that clearly shows they're bothered by it on a deeper level) I fully appreciate that men and women are frankly both full of complete and utter sh*t sometimes, and we are masters of lying to ourselves or s…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 07:25 PM
1

Erm, I didn't say any of that? The point I'm making is that you can't come to the conclusion that older women are unhappier than men just because they use more anti-depressants/anti-anxiety meds than men (because there are other variables concerned regarding why this may be the case). Subsequently you can't come to the conclusion that women seeking out help for mental health isn't working just because women seek out EAS more than men, because there are many other variables regarding suicide not …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 07:07 PM
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No, you've missed my point, the stoic thing is not meant to be a positive in this situation. Women seeking out help for mental health is a good thing and men should do it more but don't partly because of "stoicism bs" (imo).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 06:59 PM
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I admit I missed that bit you added on point 2 as you've already answered my post so my apologies. But my answer to you now would be; that there are sooo many variables regarding this that you cannot come to such a conclusion, that seeking mental health isn't working because women are seeking out euthanasia and/or medically assisted suicide (EAS) more than men. In fact I've only skim read the article but the only reasonable conclusion you can make is that women seek out EAS more than men in coun…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 06:18 PM
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Hmm, couldn't 1. be partly answered by the fact women seek out more help for mental health issues than men (you know the whole stoic thing). So there are men that are suffering too but just not getting help for it at the same rates that women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 04:55 PM
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I mean what you're saying may well be true but surely you're not seriously saying that: "Aren't there other studies claiming there are more single men than women? " Suggests that: "women only label themselves as single when they're truly not seeing anyone". That's a monumental leap, full of assumptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 04:50 PM
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I actually saw a post on FB (unfortunately it was several months ago and I can't get it again) and it was something about not needing a man or related to such (this was a post, so not in response to anybody), then there were loads of comments from women about how men are "so and so" and they're better without them etc. To say that you've never heard women mentioning being happy single (like never ever ever in your entire life on the plane of existence called this universe, which may be one of ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 04:44 PM
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I'd agree that having an IG and going to clubs alone aren't attention seeking behaviour. I don't know why people are trying to argue against it, this is only really stating the obvious. I'd also say that clubs are for dancing but also definitely, definitely for socialising, with friends and perhaps with the opposite sex? Not all of the time, maybe not for all women, but on average a woman will likely get more attention if she goes dressed up to a club environment than a man (I'd say much more, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 07:09 AM
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Well, the keyword in my phrasing is "can still look completely normal and even healthy" but looking healthy and actually being healthy are different. I think the fact that you've got something like this: "Between 1990 and 2010 the number of people living with diabetes tripled and the number of new cases annually (incidence) doubled". Sauce Whilst not being exactly causative evidence, does show that there's a correlation between the increasing numbers of overweight people (and obese ofc) and the …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 07:35 PM
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Dunno who down-voted you, but you're spot on. I was going to include something similar in my comment but it was already long and I didn't want to have to try and explain the point but you've done it perfectly.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:38 AM
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Ahh that's interesting thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 03:43 AM
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Hmm are you sure about that, here are some stats for Australia: - 67% of adults were overweight or obese (2017-18), an increase from 63% in 2014-15. - A greater proportion of men were overweight or obese than women (75% compared with 60%). - 25% of children were overweight or obese. Tbf the women are much lower at 60% overweight/obese compared to 69.4% of women in the USA, but that's still the majority of women. As for the men you're almost as bad as the USA. Source: https://www.abs.gov.au/stati…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 03:36 AM
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Hmm you almost sound surprised in your post but it's not like you went to sleep in 2008 and only woke up in 2022/2023. As a 31 year old, I do remember when online dating was looked upon negatively but that was years ago and things have changed and it appears they've been progressing this way for some time. Additionally, there's so much discourse (especially online), about the appropriate way to approach women, it's not just about "shut-ins getting it wrong", which seems like a reductive way to v…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 03:27 AM
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100%
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 08:36 PM
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Lol it'll be interesting for sure and thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 08:21 PM
1

Thanks for your input.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 08:16 PM
2

Lol, that made me chuckle.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 07:32 PM
2

And thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 07:32 PM
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Not intentionally, I paste this here as well explaining why I've picked stock images and not real photos (and ofc stock images will be pictures using models): It's difficult to source photos of "average" women (and "average" men for the men's one I'll do) because I don't really want to be pulling personal pictures of normal people and putting it on blast or for judgement. At least with these pictures they are professional stock images that are made for hundreds/thousands of people to view (and j…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 06:27 PM
2

Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 05:45 PM
2

Thanks a lot for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 05:40 PM
1

Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 05:36 PM
1

Thanks brother.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 05:32 PM
2

Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 05:29 PM
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Hmm not a "gotcha" really, but the facts are that both the majority of men and women are overweight in the USA and the UK (where I'm from).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 05:28 PM
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Thanks for answering bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 05:25 PM
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Hmm....I'm not sure what you'r-...oh...oh I know it's her fingers nails, they're too pointy ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:59 PM
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2 is gorgeous, I said it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:58 PM
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Yes I do mostly agree with you and certainly BMI doesn't even enter the edge of the tip of the deepest depths of the corner of my mind, when it comes to dating and how I view women when I'm dating. If she looks good to me then I'm happy. I'm not going to crack out a scale and tape measure mid-date like some BMI savant; desperate that she hits exactly 18.5 to 24.9 on the BMI scale or I'll dash her out like dirty bath water. Nope, and I honestly don't care if she'd be obese technically, so long as…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:55 PM
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Damn...fair enough, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:47 PM
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Aye yes you're right, but I should clarify two things; firstly I meant my comment in relation to young(er) women (so in their 20s and 30s) and secondly, I did say "seems more like", but I do know that the actual average height of women in the UK is 5'4 statistically, just that it feels like younger women are tall these days (but it's probably my own bias).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:46 PM
1

Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:37 PM
1

Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:35 PM
2

Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:33 PM
2

I'm sorry to read about your last partner and thank you very much for sharing that. I do agree with your last 2 paragraphs but there's still a large amount of men (and I guess women too) that really care about how their partners "look" and how they're perceived by friends and family. Weight, height, attractiveness, career, even their partner's friends. People seem to value how their partner will come across and use those metrics (and others) to judge this. At the same time, I would want to be wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:30 PM
1

That's fair enough, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:20 PM
1

Thanks and yeah, definitely I'll make one tomorrow.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:20 PM
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I see, I'm genuinely sorry to read that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:18 PM
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First paragraph I do agree and this is what I said to someone else in response: It's difficult to source photos of "average" women (and "average" men for the men's one I'll do) because I don't really want to be pulling personal pictures of normal people and putting it on blast or for judgement. At least with these pictures they are professional stock images that are made for hundreds/thousands of people to view (and judge lol). In terms of the 2nd paragraph, I dunno, I sort of feel like BMI is a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:16 PM
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My commiserations, is he working on losing that weight?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:11 PM
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Yes you're definitely right, the thing is that it's difficult to source photos of "average" women (and "average" men for the men's one I'll do) because I don't really want to be pulling personal pictures of normal people and putting it on blast or for judgement. At least with these pictures they are professional stock images that are made for hundreds/thousands of people to view (and judge lol). That said, honestly I'm open to good suggestions from everybody regarding where I can get images that…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:05 PM
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Too thin eh? I ain't mad at it lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 04:01 PM
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Yep, I'm welcoming all opinions on these, hopefully more women chime in.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 03:59 PM
1

Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 03:48 PM
1

Ahhh, fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 03:43 PM
2

Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 03:43 PM
1

Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 03:39 PM
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Thank you and yes I do agree; very easy for people to forget that height plays a big part in weight and although the average height of a woman in the USA is 5'4 this will be bigger for women in their 20s and 30s (frankly in the UK the average seems more like 5'7, but maybe I'm just noticing all of the tall women lol). And please do also give your opinion on the women as well, perhaps I'll change the question but I want to hear thoughts from men and women, on the women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 03:34 PM
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She sounds like a keeper, what happened (if you don't mind sharing, can fully appreciate if you do mind).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 03:30 PM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 03:28 PM
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Sorry I don't think I saw the edit but thanks and I agree 2 is very attractive (along with some others imo).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 03:24 PM
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Lol, I'm mirin 2 a lot, can't even lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 03:23 PM
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You don't find any attractive, not even a teeny bit?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 03:22 PM
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Lol, but I think everybody has flattering and unflattering angles? For the ones with their stomach showing would you date them?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 03:22 PM
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Yeah I agree. Personally I think they're all pretty. I also think some are actually normal weight/borderline (as implied in my post). Also yeah, if a woman is a bit overweight it honestly doesn't bother me. I checked with a friend that's really successful in dating (on Tinder of all places), and he's got a similar opinion which is how I know it's not just me lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 03:18 PM
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Thanks buddy and I will for sure, I've liked the discussion here.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 03:14 PM
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Haha yeah I think you're right, and I know for sure women that look like those in the pictures would get a lot of genuine relationship attention at least from my friends. I do wonder how much of what is written in PPD is posturing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 02:59 PM
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Lmao, thanks and ok do you think these women are attractive? You don't have to answer individually but a generalised answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 02:54 PM
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I agree with you first and 2nd paragraphs. I would've agreed with your last paragraph up until recently where it seems that some guys here (perhaps a minority?) really really wouldn't date even borderline overweight women (given BMI), kinda surprised me lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 02:51 PM
1

Oh you think they're all fat? How many would you date?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 02:50 PM
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Thanks brother and is that yes to dating? Or yes to you think they are overweight?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 02:49 PM
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I agree, and I welcome answers from women too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 02:48 PM
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Hmm this is a little tricky in terms of sourcing the exact right pics (as the average tends to be a range) but here goes, and for reference I'm a 31 yr old male. So here's an average couple in 40s, I'd actually say the woman is slightly above average, but the guy is definitely average: https://image.cnbcfm.com/api/v1/image/103864108-IMG_20160616_191508855_HDR.jpg?v=1529472415&w=740&h=416&ffmt=webp&vtcrop=y Another average couple, late 30s/early 40s: https://image.cnbcfm.com/api/v1/image/10718724…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 01:29 PM
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Yeah for sure; the guy is above average, I'd also say the picture of the woman is below average (not meant as an insult to her). Or at the very least the pic of the woman is below avg in comparison to the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 01:06 PM
2

Which country are you from?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 01:01 PM
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Upvoted for hobosexuals lol. I'd say I agree with this, especially the line: Men don't care as much as women do, but most do care that you have something going on for yourself Ofc it'll vary between different men and I definitely wouldn't go as far as saying men don't care about a woman's career at all, but it's definitely less of a concern for men than it is for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 08:11 PM
2

Yes exactly lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 04:56 PM
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Baaars. Most adult women and men are at least overweight so it's not adding up if so many guys find overweight women "repulsive". I repeat, something ain't adding up.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 04:54 AM
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But...I...wh-...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 07:38 PM
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1/20th of 0 is still 0.........I'm finished. Jesus tek me now.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 07:17 PM
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I think this is an interesting topic because it depends on what you define as overweight. You see if it goes by BMI then I'm most definitely attracted to overweight women (and "healthy" labelled BMI women too ofc), even a lot of obese women, because a lot of women that are "obese" given their BMI don't look that big. To illustrate my point I'd be grateful if you could take a look at this "The Sun" article: https://www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/9183606/all-classed-obese-size-8-14-love-naked-sex/ Thos…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 07:12 PM
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I mean....I dunno I don't really care in general tbh. I could be wrong and I'd welcome women's insight on this but I don't think women necessarily get the same kick out of casual sex that men do. Yes it's enjoyable for them (if the circumstances are right and it feels good, this is true for the reverse I suppose), but I do honestly believe that most time women want more than just casual sex. It's why prostitution mainly caters to men's needs and there's far less demand from women for escorts (ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 06:49 PM
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*Sigh* I mean F&F were already on thin ice in terms of acceptable behaviour imo, now I can't really see how they can been excused, and it's pretty wack to see guys try and defend them. Like let's call a spade a spade right, let's cut the BS, let's get straight to the facts; the guy they had on literally admitted to SA assaulting women, dr*gging and graping them and tried to make out that because of their skin colour it was ok (yes because racism makes grape acceptable amirite). This is an open a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 08:09 PM
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"so much plausible deniability with this type of content" - Baaars! Yeah you've got to very careful when trying to argue certain points, because I find that the two most common "bad faith" exploits that (both guys and gals can use) are plausible deniability and feigning ignorance.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 06:20 PM
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Damn you're cooking, great work.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 03:18 AM
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Tbh I've not watched the clip yet but it doesn't surprise me, Myron has always been a bozo and I tend not to agree with a lot of what him and Fresh put out. Very extreme and an uncompromisingly negative view of women. Additionally I don't believe the women that go on there are a true representation of the average woman. I think they are a representation of a certain type of woman, but the kind I actively go out of my way to try and avoid (well maybe not in a general sense but definitely relation…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 02:36 AM
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Naa you're good, I actually respect the honesty. To answer your question well...I'm a bit of a recluse tbh, so maybe a nice night sitting together with my favourite snacks and a good movie would be how I'd like to be romanced.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 02:28 AM
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"This is your time to shine and show that men want more out of relationships than just sex." Lol the condensation is dripping from that last paragraph. Wait.....that's not the right word....conden...condescension, there we go.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 07:24 PM
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When OP is bashing the hell out of Eastern European men but somehow what you take out of it is that he's insulting EE women. And "women here are more cutthroat with more emotional intelligence than most could ever dream of" Lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 11:45 PM
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Erm yeah it's true that it's slightly overweight, though barely so. In terms of more men in overweight and more women in obese not really, here's the breakdown from the 2017–2018 NHANES Data: ​ All (Men and Women) Men Women Overweight 30.7 34.1 27.5 Obesity (including severe obesity) 42.4 43.0 41.9 Severe obesity 9.2 6.9 11.5 Obesity already includes severe obesity so men still outnumber women. The only section in which women outnumber men is severe obesity. Overall 77.1% men overweight and obes…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 06:48 PM
2

I really love how something as seemingly accessible as discipline can cause such disparities in outcomes for people. Maintaining discipline in fitness or in finances is so difficult for most people that if you can be disciplined you can make a lot of progress and better yourself or your life considerably. Yet it feels like it should be something many more people are able to utilise to better themselves. I really hope I'm able to get disciplined because I look at people around me that don't make …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 04:03 PM
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Naa it's true, BMI is what we have to go by and I don't believe the proportion of those that have higher BMIs due to being muscular are significant (I mean I don't even need to provide stats to prove this, clearly this can be seen by just glancing at a picture of a crowding of people in most major US cities). So yes men are fatter than women in the US on average; 77.1% of US men are overweight or obese vs 69.4% of women. So just under an 8% difference, it's not mahoosive and tbh almost 70% of wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 03:57 PM
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Not the commenter but I'm assuming that "Like your face and dick is the only thing she thinks of" isn't literal, but more of an expression of how much the woman likes you. And yes it can be smothering if it's overdone, but again the point is that it's nice when a woman is into you so that it's not a fight trying to keep her attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 11:36 PM
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Entering "Asking Londoners: What are men good for?" into Youtube and watching that video is a good start. There's a lot of content where similar questions are asked to women about men and they give similar answers. I suspect some of it is erm grandstanding (maybe there's a better term for it), but it's what they are saying so we have to take their word for it. Is it a majority of women? Probably not, but I think it's hard to deny that a not in-significant amount of women seem to hold the opinion…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 11:26 PM
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I think the answer isn't so complicated, it's that people don't like rejection, and people especially don't like rejection with the added insult that they are "creepy" (sometimes it is warranted, sometimes it is not). I think rationally a lot of guys know that a woman simply can't accept all advances (as she probably receives too many). However, I do still think the onus is largely on men to initiate things romantically (at least in an obvious way), and also many men face a lot of rejection in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 03:47 PM
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I dunno, I feel like there's interest to be found in a lot of people. Everyone has a story, and I love to hear about experiences people have. Why is this? Because as similar as people may be each unique experience is still..unique (jesus I sound like a cliche).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 03:14 AM
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Disclaimer that this is my personal opinion but yes I personally do enjoy dating and being friends with women (albeit my dating experience is admittedly limited). Do I have my frustrations with women? Most definitely, but if a woman is a cool person then I love hanging around with them even platonically (I realise that's not a real word). I think that anything to do with relationships tends to bring out the worst both sides, which is why it can seem like "men don't like dating women" or "that wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 02:03 AM
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I don't think this place is a good representation of how the majority of dating scenarios play out. In fact 2 mins of quick Googling and I found this BBC article saying this: "In Western countries, around 8% of male-female couples have an age-gap of 10 years or more, rising to 25% in male-male unions and 15% of female-female relationships.". So for "male-female" couples, the majority of those that are together are aged within 10 years of each other. With that said, I prefer women within 5 years …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 06:23 PM
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Hmm yeah I get what you're saying, so I think in this context feeling "rejected" doesn't necessarily mean you feel entitled to the object either. I think that people usually "feel rejected" when they put themselves forward (like they offer something of themselves) and they aren't successful. For example; applying for a job, university or house. This can also be asking someone out on a date, or asking a group of friends to hang out for the first time. These are all specific situations where the r…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 03:54 AM
1

Yeah, you make some compelling points here.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 03:42 AM
4

Great post.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 03:37 AM
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Hmm I can't really agree with this. Partly because every single day there are things we ask for from other people (sometimes tiny things, like can you hand me the remote) and many times we get rejected and sometimes we feel bummed about it, but that doesn't mean we felt "entitled to the object of our desire". Really wanting something or hoping for something is not the same as feeling entitled to that thing. For example, I'd really love an autograph from Messi, I might feel a bit disappointed if …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 03:36 AM
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Yep that's a fair point although I will say that we don't know for sure that she would've been homeless. What we know is that she was going through a break up and had to get out of the place asap. But we don't know if that meant she could have a place to live but it would be really uncomfortable. Now that's still a bad situation, though not quite the same as homelessness. We also don't know if she had the option of moving back in with parents but didn't want to. I don't think there was enough to…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 03:28 AM
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Good point, or when women are used for sex, that's really horrible and must feel damn awful. Imho I think that's something men don't fully appreciate in terms of how painful that can be for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 03:04 AM
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Yes I concur with Aromatic_Shop9033 and I think your replies to my posts are definitely some of my favourite to read. And I agree with you for sure. I do also acknowledge that nobody is perfect and so sometimes rejections aren't going to be perfect either; a lot of things will be affecting someone's mood before interactions and so the person doing the rejecting may not always do it gently. The person approaching may not always come correct as well, that's definitely a fact. But where possible we…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 03:03 AM
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Had to come back here and type this because LoL at answers ITT. The OP asked a simple question; "why do you only attack one sex" and you've got people bending themselves backwards talking about how the one sex is "toxic" or has "all of the power". Bruv, newsflash, both sexes are toxic (yes a shocker I know). The question is why you mostly feel compelled to call it out when one sex does it but not the other. That shouldn't have anything to do with your "justifications" and "reasonings" regarding …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 02:00 AM
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Hmm I don't think it's that binary though. I don't think it always plays out that the man is the only one doing all those things and the woman isn't doing anything. But look, on the flip side of the argument I've made in the OP, I definitely also feel like if a woman is not showing adequate interest and she might be taking you for a ride then yes perhaps you should stop seeing her. Also I think guys should take it slowly too (if you want to); the first date doesn't have to be a 3 course meal at …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 08:36 PM
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Hey, thanks for commenting and yeah that's a very good point, unfortunately though it doesn't seem like it's something people really seem to practise in real life even though we're told how much communication is important. Some of it is fear I guess; "what if I tell him I'm not ready and he leaves" or "what if I tell her I'm ready for action! But I scare her away".
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 08:33 PM
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“Making men wait”, “if she’s given it up”… gross. Sex isn’t the sort of thing your date should be resisting. Yes I'm not saying that it should be. Infact the portions you've quoted, are bits where I'm quoting what others have said about having sex on the first date. Perhaps I will put them in quotations to make that more clear. If the chemistry is there they might sleep together quickly, if it’s not then they won’t. Sometimes chemistry takes time to grow. Hormones also influence things. If she f…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 08:17 PM
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Bias, human nature, bad experiences with opposite sex wrt to dating. I think so many people claim to be empathetic or claim to be able to see things from others' point of view, but I seldom find people who are truly, truly able to do this; to be able to eliminate bias completely and just empathise with someone on the opposite side of you. This isn't criticism btw, I'm not good at it and it can be very difficult because you have lived life from your own point of view...for your entire life. You c…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 08:09 PM
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Aye freedom of choice is very wonderful.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 08:04 PM
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I feel like I hear this so often now. My friend (who is close to reaching 50) told me that a lot of people say he looks young. Honestly, I think he looks very good undoubtedly, but IMO not particularly young for his age and I feel this is the same for most people. Of course there are exceptions but I've scrolled through those long Facebook threads, you know the ones that say "You're 50, hot and single, post your pic here!!!!!!!!" and from the pics, most men and women look their age +/- 3 years a…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 09:27 PM
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Dude, you claimed 7'1 first line in your post, Ulcer fetish is the least of your problems Hmm you must be joking right? You're definitely joking, you must be. If you're joking please come out with it now because your levels of sarcasm are elite. Either that or you have serious, serious comprehension problems because nowhere did I claim I was 7'1 (not even jokingly) and nowhere did I allude to having an ulcer fetish. If you're being serious then tbf I expected dumb people to show up in the commen…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 04:34 AM
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I'm veeeeery much hoping this is sarcasm otherwise I don't know how you've concluded that I have an ulcer fetish from what I've written. Not only that but in jumping to an unfounded and ridiculous conclusion you've thrown in an insult. Not only that but you've kink shamed too. Smh.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 02:15 AM
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Yep those pesky 8' guys are my biggest adversaries
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 01:30 AM
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Are you serious? Of course they are. My ceilings: 7'10" high My car: 7'10" long My toothbrush 7'10" long My supermodel GF: 7'10" (in heels doe) Penor: 7'10" Even the very keyboard I'm using to type these words: 7'10" wide Perfectly balanced, as all things should be to remind these little chumps who the real big daddy is (the real big daddy is ME).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 07:34 PM
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It’s a staple here in Canada. You should try it! I'll have to one day for sure. Well, you’ve still got time. Thank you very much, I'll keep working on myself for now and maybe in the future something could happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 06:29 PM
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Yes, so from a guy's perspective it's hard to see what the problem is exactly. Like if I go to a supermarket I don't think I can just take the first 10 items I see home and be done with it. I actually have to look around a little, read some labels, knock on some melons, etc. Hmm and is that metaphor referring to a woman, in that she has to do some searching (like in a supermarket) before finding the right guy? Or do you mean it as in a guy has to shoot his shot several times to get a woman? I'm …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 06:19 PM
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Rum Raisin ice cream is pretty darn good. Maple Walnut too Ahh my aunt's favourite ice scream flavour is Rum Raisin, I like it, but not as much as cookie dough haha. I've never tried Maple Walnut tho but I don't think you can get that flavour easily in the UK. What are your reasons? Thanks for asking and to be honest it's a few things. I've not really got my life together as much as I'd want it to be and I struggle with OCD intrusive thoughts which makes things more difficult. I also fully ackno…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 05:39 PM
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Haha well I did want to keep it hidden, but I can tell you it's to do with the stomach area
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 05:19 PM
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Haha well that's quite a thing for your grandma to say and I don't know you as well as she does, but from our conversation I think that you're wise in the fact that most people your age don't think about love as thoroughly as you are doing. In fact when I was 20 if you asked me about love I'd have told you Ben and Jerry's Cookie Dough ice cream, but that's pretty much all I loved and thought I'd ever love at the time. Several years (and some serious flirting with diabetes) later it's only now I …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 05:17 PM
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Lol fair enough and is this a theory you've personally tested (intentionally or unintentionally)?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 05:03 PM
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Hmm I see, so I think I'll probably get this wrong, but it sounds like the fear is to do with like the feeling of love and that being serious and some kind of representation of a big change?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 04:05 PM
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Interesting and so for me, I feel like in a lot of movies the fear tends to be of things being soo "perfect" that it can get messed up, is that what you're talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 03:23 PM
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Yeah, I get you; for me personally it's sometimes hard to articulate certain thoughts or feelings especially over the keyboard where words can easily be misunderstood or even misconstrued. But, if you do end up in a situation where you find a guy you love and he loves you back here's to hoping it works out positively.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 03:21 PM
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Oh ok, so is this a scenario where the guy is in love with you AND you're in love with the guy too? Or is it that you'd love the guy but he wouldn't love you back? If it's the latter then yeah, that situation definitely sucks and personally not one I'd want to be in. If it's the former then what about both of you being in love with each other would you fear?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 03:04 PM
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Hahaha, well perhaps a bit extreme but yeah was just trying to gage whether the possibility of them being "too in love" with you would be the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 03:01 PM
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Yep exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 02:59 PM
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I hope you don't mind me answering; I don't think it has to be so black and white IMO. Speaking for myself, I'd want a woman with her own interests but balanced with it we can spend quality time together. If she or he is too interested in things other than you, then I don't think that's good (as your partner will never have time for you and you won't be together in the way that's needed for a relationship to flourish), of course that depends on preference too but I reckon most won't want that. O…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 02:58 PM
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Hmm thanks for your input and where I agree for sure is that both have struggles. And where I'd also actually agree is that in terms of purely "interest", it's generally easier for women to get "interest" from men (in whatever form this may take) rather than the reverse. But I don't think the interest is always genuinely pleasant enough to be an advantage. Let me ask you something, if you started getting lots of DMs from women; you're not attracted to them and some of them are quite physically a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 02:50 PM
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Got ya and yeah I agree, thanks for commenting!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 02:42 PM
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Yeah that makes sense and I agree that the catcalling, strangers trying to fondle you, the creeps and palpable stranger danger sound extremely unpleasant. And yep, I think it's pretty fun to flirt with women but it doesn't have to be so intense, it doesn't really have to lead anywhere either imo (though others might feel different), it's just fun chat and sometimes it can lead somewhere, but it's ok if it doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 02:42 PM
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Yes I agree with that completely. Also despite the fool I've made of myself in this thread, I don't actually like drawing attention to myself in real life so I'd prefer to be slightly above average rather than so towering (but I appreciate that this is a very personal preference).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 02:35 PM
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Ahh I see, my apologies then for not being clearer, but no, unfortunately I'm just a regular dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 02:24 PM
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Ahh I see, that's very interesting. And so what would you say you fear the most about someone falling in love with you (and that love not being reciprocated by you)? Is it that you'll break their heart? Or are you afraid about them becoming obsessed with you and potentially threatening you mentally or even physically?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 02:23 PM
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Yep fair points, very fair thanks for the input brother.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 02:19 PM
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Ahh I see, thanks for your thoughts and honesty. So let me ask you this; let's say you're around 27 years old, so comfortably an adult at this point, what level of male attention would you deem appropriate? Would you be ok with comments provided they are tasteful and not too invasive? Or would you prefer no comments, no DMs from guys? I open this question to any women (and even men) reading.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 02:18 PM
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Ok...I'm not sure if you were just playing along but I have to come clean....I'm...I'm not 7'10 I was just joking around. . . . . I'm sorry I know.....I'm a disappointment :(
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 02:15 PM
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Lol naa it's...erm related to the stomach area and that's as much as I'm going to say. And yes I'll be honest in saying I never really appreciated the weight of male attention women can get. When I say "weight" what I mean is that it can be easy to underestimate how invasive comments can be and how it can scare women. I think that's what I witnessed most in the groups, the comments men would make would be so pointed and sort of obsessive, and some guys would go on and on about the same thing. So…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 01:24 PM
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No typo there, I have to limbo just to get under my door each morning ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 01:17 PM
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Well there's nothing to be embarrassed about imo and tbh I think that you should ultimately do what you truly feel makes you happy. If you're truly content with how your life is set up and a partner would just be a bonus then I say live it to the fullest. But if you think that you'd actually really like a partner but it's fear that actually holds you back then I think it's worth it to put yourself out there (of course in a reasonable and safe way).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 01:14 PM
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I'll give you 9/10 for the opening line, of course if I said it, then it would definitely be a 10/10 and a PPD classic. Great post, and I do agree with you. I think in many ways it's much easier to spam messages to a woman rather than doing the work you've described to create value within yourself. On the other side I do appreciate that for some guys it may never be possible to reach a level where you are attractive enough for a majority of women, my question to you and others reading; in that s…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 01:12 PM
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I agree with almost everyone in this thread; alarm bells, alarm bells alarm bells. On a general note I'm noticing this trend quite a bit (it's probably always been around to be fair), it's the sort of having your cake and wanting to eat it attitude; where men (and women) exploit the "you've got to trust me, I'd never cheat on you" line to excuse suspicious behaviour. Like guys having a girlfriend/wife but doing intimate activities or having lengthy intimate time with other female friends (and vi…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/22 05:02 AM
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That's a good point, I was careful not to state it resolutely as I wasn't sure tbh. I did take a look at the PPD Summer 2021 survey, I must admit that I only took a quick look but I wasn't able to see the data regarding the ages of men and women respectively. I do see the relationship status of each though and the majority of men are single whilst a very "weak" majority of women are in some kind of relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 01:08 AM
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That's true, but tbh I'm not really talking about those that like to debate/banter/discuss in PPD. I'm talking about people that say or imply that they can't stand PPD (and the people in PPD) or imply that they are "above it all", yet are in here debating regularly. If people are posting here frequently and their feelings are clearly getting involved, then it's funny when these same people pretend like these discussions aren't something they're invested in, when they clearly are. I mentioned thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 10:27 AM
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Good for those women and ultimately people should do what makes them happy, truly. However I feel like I'm coming across a trend. Mgtow communities talking about how great it is to be free of women.......yet all they talk about is women. Over and over and over again. I came across a thread of older women on a Facebook post (one talking about not needing men) going on and on and on....about men. As a friend of mine would say...if all of you all feel so pressed about it then it must mean something…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 03:51 AM
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Hmm well there's a lot of things I didn't know about my own sex until reading PPD (a lot quite negative tbh), but as this is talking about the opposite sex here goes. I didn't realize women could be this bizarre, for lack of a better word. For example, for as many strange theories I come across that men have for women in PPD, quite a number of women have weird (and often baseless) theories about men's behaviour, bolstered mostly by anecdotes and skewed experiences. Further to that I also run int…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 03:32 AM
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Yeah but then the obvious next question would be, how would my partner know that I haven't spoken to my friend about it? Or encouraged my friend to admit their fault? And how could my partner come to a conclusion about how I've portrayed my feelings about the cheating to my friend? Just because we continue on as if nothing is wrong doesn't necessarily mean I've not spoken to them? For argument's sake, let's say I didn't say anything about it at all to my friend, we then continued on as if nothin…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 12:58 AM
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Erm I mostly I agree with you. Though it's less "women do not like baldness ever" and more that balding is almost never a positive when it comes to dating women (I hope I've explained that properly; so there's a difference between women preferring men with hair and women actively hating it when men don't have hair). However, I do think that a good amount of women would be able to look past balding; both men and women make compromises when it comes to dating so balding is not an automatic "it's o…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 12:42 AM
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This thread is....revealing lol. Firstly, to answer the question about if my hypothetical partner threatened to break up with me because I knew about my friend cheating but kept quiet about it....well my first thought would be that it's a little bit extreme to break up with someone just because of this, especially if otherwise your relationship is really good. Let's say for example it was my partner's friend that cheated and my partner knew about it; just because my partner knows about their fri…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 12:35 AM
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I can only really speak for myself but I don't think it's as straight forward as "hot and dumber" is better than intelligent but "less attractive". I think intelligence is actually quite attractive but the overriding important factor to me personally is probably compatibility and attitude. Of course looks are important but once a woman passes a certain threshold then it becomes far less important (and I don't honestly believe my threshold for looks is that unrealistic, though I suppose that's ul…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 12:41 AM
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Those teddies and cakeeeees!!! Ok but to answer seriously I think it's a little tricky to give a gendered answer if that makes sense, because most of the good traits in some women can also be seen in some men. But if I did try and give a gender based generalisation I'd say that I appreciate how nurturing women can be and definitely how empathetic (which has been said a lot already). It's also refreshing speaking to women, perhaps its the empathetic ability that they/you have but I find that wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 06:25 PM
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Can I ask a personal question? How many guys on average that you've been with would you say enjoy eating the box, and leading on from that how many are good at it?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 06:00 PM
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Hmm I don't think that's fair tbh. That's not to say I'm really into older guys dating significantly younger women (I'm not...at all....tbh). But your post basically implies that it's ok for older women to date (or talk about dating) significantly younger men because, women good. Older men can't do it with younger women though because man bad and man evil. As if older women can't have bad intentions; men don't hold a monopoly on evil or bad behaviour. Or do you believe that men are inherently mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 05:19 PM
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Absolutely not, and the entire notion of a HVM pees me off but that's a whole nother discussion. Sure cheating may end up happening in a lot of cases with wealthy/powerful men that are in monogamous relationships, but just because it's the outcome doesn't mean it should be expected, accepted or condoned. And I say this as a man; but it scares me how common decency is flying out of the window for selfish behaviour, and just straight up bizarre beliefs. I've never understood why the idea of cheati…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 04:52 PM
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Potential ignorant comment here so apologies if this is the case. If OP's scenario happened, then would dating more resemble how it is in the lesbian community? I say this making the assumption that women (and lesbian women specifically) generally prioritise sex less than men (or at the very least prioritise sex to a more equal degree with each other). I don't actually know much about what it's like to date as a gay woman so anyone with relevant experience that can weight in, would be much appre…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 09:16 AM
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Do you think that women give better advice than men in regards to how to attract women? And do you think that men give better advice than women in regards to how to attract men? Just your general impression (because you've not spoken to every man/woman in the world).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 05:04 AM
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Upvote for the brutal honesty, thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 09:59 PM
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- Stop chasing the wrong kind of women, just to then turn around and say that all women are b!tches, wh0res etc etc. The problem isn't women as a whole, the problem is that you're chasing and viewing the wrong kind of women and coming to the wrong conclusions about all women as a result. - I don't get subscribing to people on OnlyFans, they don't love you bro, work on your self and try to get with a person in real life. - Stop the weird theories on women, this one kills me. No Kofi, women aren't…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 09:53 PM
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Well, this is what I think (I know who am I right?). If you're able to get into relationships with people that meet your standards then great, I think there's no real problem with that and no need to "lower your standards". However it doesn't look like this really applies to a lot of people. So the question is what do you? And I think in my mind it's less about lowering your standards and more about gaining perspective as a person and prioritising more important characteristics in a potential pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 04:49 PM
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Firstly the use of the word maidenless and the Elden Ring references, looool. In terms of answering your question, I'll be honest, I think if you're so black and white to come to strict conclusions from incomplete information, you might be a bit unreasonable. Let me explain further. So you have a guy that's perhaps 30 years old. He's not been in a relationship before, ever. I think most reasonable, non-judgemental women won't immediately jump to the conclusion that there must be something wrong …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 04:11 PM
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If you make your definition of power so broad then doesn't it sort of negate the effectiveness of your argument? Because it then becomes a bit unfair to compare such a broad characteristic to quite a narrowly defined one. I could even just say "well kindness is a form of power too!". Of course that's not really a strong argument (in fact it's a terrible one in this context) but I don't think saying that forms of power is found in a lot of things is much more helpful either.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 03:41 PM
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Yeah I sort of lean into this line of thinking. I think it's obvious that being powerful, rich and attractive will make you more appealing to a larger number of women. Just like women being extremely physically attractive will make them appealing to a wider variety of men. But I think saying "Women are attracted to forms of power. Kindness is an afterthought" is too reductive and whilst some women are really into powerful guys (and you could even say certain type of women are), a lot are honestl…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:21 PM
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Interesting scenario and honestly my approach wouldn't be much different from now, but being handsome, presumably tall and successful just means that I'd have an easier time meeting and dating more women to find the right one. I'd actually like a woman as close to my age as possible, I really don't mind older but I'd like max around +/- 5 years from my age (31). Looks wise, honestly there's not a strict requirement I have, so long as I find her attractive (and I tend to find a decent amount of w…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 01:41 AM
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Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:16 AM
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I'm interested in what you've done for men (this is a genuine question I'm not attempting to be snarky or smart), are you talking about stuff you've done in real life or things you've done online?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 11:27 PM
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Fair enough and thanks for sharing your views.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 11:15 PM
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Thanks very much for sharing
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 11:10 PM
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I see, well it sounds like you've had some bad experiences so I'm sorry to hear about that. Have you had good experiences whilst dating but things just didn't work out for one reason or another? How often would you say you have had good experiences if you had to give it a rough percentage? Lastly....and this one is more personal curiosity than seeking anything meaningful, but if the guy that you went on the date with actually offered to give you head without requiring reciprocity would that have…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:54 PM
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u/MyFukingHeadHurts and u/ImaginaryList174 what makes dating incredibly difficult for you both?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:39 PM
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Well I'd like you to expand atleast a bit more, saying something like the "modern man has become so apathetic due to the deteriorating Y chromosome" is quite a big claim, but then you've told me to do research. But I'd like to hear more from you in regards to why you think the shrinking of the Y chromosome has led to men becoming apathetic? Is this a conclusion biologists/geneticists (or whoever researches this) came to or something you concluded yourself? If you came to this conclusion on your …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 07:04 PM
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I see, so what does a deteriorating Y chromosome mean, that men are becoming more like women? Or do you just mean this metaphorically? Do women have deteriorating X chromosomes?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 06:46 PM
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Sorry to be quite brutal but this whole post is completely nonsensical. Are you arguing that we should take cues from non-human animals? If this is the case then what about animals that commonly have groups consisting of one or two males, and a number of females, and their offspring (a "harem" for lack of a better word). If human women don't want to participate in that kind of behaviour does it make women pathetic? Of course not. If human women don't want to be in a harem, is that the reason why…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 06:31 PM
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Sorry to butt in but I think the OP was talking about men hating women not women hating men in this situation; "men on this sub team up with other men in hatred of women"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 06:16 PM
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I think I do generally agree with your premise and actually logically it makes sense. So long as a woman is safe and doesn't pick up any detrimental STDs/STIs or have kids she should be able to sleep with hundreds of people and then settle with a good guy fairly easily. I'm sure many women do this. I'd actually say that for the men that are able to sleep around; they can do the same, and so long as they don't have kids or STIs they should be able to settle down with a good woman in a similar way…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 11:26 PM
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Yes that's a fair point, I also think people are more "agreeable" in person. Being online gives you the anonymity and freedom to be more extreme than you would be when face to face and conversing in real life. Bit off topic but I support Arsenal (a football team in the UK for those that don't know). I find that when I'm talking about our team with other fans in person the conversation is much more reasoned than most online discussion I have with other fans regarding the team.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 11:18 PM
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Respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 11:09 PM
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I'm interested in your thoughts on OP's post if you don't mind sharing?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 11:03 PM
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Yes I'd tend to agree, though I'll say that I do honestly think it's generally getting harder for people to get into relationships, partly because of less interaction in real life and more of it shifting online. In terms of this subreddit in particular I'll probably get down-voted for saying this but here goes. In some ways I'm not surprised that some people here struggle because a lot of people come across as just generally unpleasant and some of the views people have are just...bizarre. Perhap…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:46 PM
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Yep and this is controversial but I think a decent amount of people overrate how good of a partner/dating prospect they are. Sounds a bit harsh but it's the prevailing feeling I've gotten from the multitude of opinions I come across wrt dating and relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 12:57 AM
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"Oh I don't have a hard and fast rule, that sounds kinda autistic." That's quite an underhanded insult, not very nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 06:18 PM
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You should be completely fine. Obviously it goes without saying that everybody's options (men and women) will be decrease as you age (for reasons that I don't need to explain) but you should still have a lot of interest. Good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 02:27 PM
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I can only speak personally but it doesn't really bother me. It'd also not bother me if a woman earned more than me tbh, so long as she's also cool with it. The more important factors are if the woman is generally pleasant to be around, I'd also like someone fairly introspective and "reasonable" and I'd be happy, just so long as she's got my back and I'll have hers too, you know what I mean? Finally I've missed one big factor which is looks and ofc it's importance can't be understated, but I'm n…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 02:24 PM
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Yes I'd agree with that. And look don't get me wrong, it's not like men don't also have pressure to look good; imo (and it's only my opinion) the prevailing attitude in society is that being attractive is extremely important for both men and women. However women face far more pressure and judgement to look good and I think they are still told that looking good is the most important thing for them. I could be wrong, but I don't think I am on this one (to be slightly arrogant on this). A good exam…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 04:25 PM
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Oof, picking put the most charismatic is a bit hard as I've met a lot of charming people but I'll give a few examples; The first is a lady I worked with whilst I was studying at University. We both worked at a supermarket (M&S Foodhall for those in the UK), and she was awesome. Really easy to talk to, and she got on with everybody in the store. She had a way of making you feel relaxed in her presence and she was pretty humorous as well, just a nice person to be around. Second example is actually…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 04:11 PM
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Several things; - Safety in general, this has been rehashed several times but I'd feel much less comfortable walking by myself in even moderately secluded areas at less sociable hours as a woman. - Risk of violence from the opposite when engaging in romantic conversation and dating. If an interaction with a date or "interest" ends badly the situation can become violent and I'd say women face a tangible risk of this happening. - This one is just so sad......but even young women like 13, 14, 15 ye…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 05:05 PM
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Thanks and perhaps I'll re-phrase my question above, I'm talking naturally. I appreciate it's a bit harder to separate "natural" from not because people go to the gym which can drastically alter the way their body looks. But naturally with no make-up, no lifting, no surgery none of that. Do you think that women are objectively more attractive than males in general?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 12:41 PM
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A question to the OP (and I suppose whoever else sees this). Do you think that women are objectively more attractive than males in general, this excludes make-up as well. Edit: I should add that I mean naturally (no surgery, no gym, no makeup etc). I appreciate that makes it trickier but I'm interested in opinion more than facts.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 12:35 PM
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As the old adage goes; the truth lies in the middle. Ok, perhaps not quite in the middle but I think overall looks (I include height, facial attractive, penis size in this for simplicity) and income probably matter more to women than they admit, but matter less to women than men proclaim. But yes, overall looks and income do matter to women, which is why more facially attractive, taller and wealthier men tend to have more success with women. The question would be how much? And can women be attra…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 08:48 PM
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Honestly? I think cheating is bad enough on its own, I don't "hand on heart" know if I feel like being drunk whilst it happens makes it any better or worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 08:38 PM
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I think you make an interesting point if you look at the figures alone, but actually what's happened is that I think people's definition of overweight/obese is skewed in the UK and the USA (and probably other countries too). So someone that is actually overweight going by BMI, may be defined (with visual estimation) as looking "normal". Someone obese might be described as "overweight" and it's only when you get to the morbidly obese scale that people might describe them as "obese". So when guys …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 08:33 PM
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Perhaps that's true for yourself. But when you say " I think a lot of guys here overestimate how much thought women give to men as a whole", I honestly don't know how true that is in general, and I don't mean that to be snarky. But I think it's fair to say that the majority of women (and men) are heterosexual, at least statistically. I think a good portion of women do or at some point did desire some kind of relationship with a man (for example, in the UK (ONS) around 60% of the population were …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 06:37 PM
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I tend to agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 01:38 AM
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Ouch but true. Not that these "pilled" subreddits are totally useless but you dig into them and they usually have a formula (an easily to identifiable one) and whilst admittedly this formula can provide success for some, life is seldom that straightforward for all. The subs are also very paint all of "this sex" with the same brush even though they swear up and down that they're not and that they're objective (because you should take their word for it...). Plus in my experience real life people j…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 01:23 AM
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Yes it's hard to disagree. However, the OP has a valid point because I've heard about and seen marriages in which the man does a lot but is imho unfairly expected to do more. But I've also witnessed relationships where the woman does literally everything. I've never been married so admittedly it may invalidate my opinion but I think marrying someone you trust and having the right expectations going in is really the most important thing. Then as the marriage progresses communication is crucial be…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 01:07 AM
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Pretty much lol, having preferences can be hurtful (I know this as a black male, and our group being apparently the least preferred racially; atleast given the information provided by certain dating platforms), but it's not exactly like you can force who you're attracted to. I suppose the obvious rebuttal is that you can work on expanding your preferences but I don't honestly think it's something people should be forced to do especially as there'll be other people with a different set of prefere…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 12:43 AM
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That was really well reasoned, I agree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 12:29 AM
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Pretty much this.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 12:18 AM
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