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The odd thing is often the --exact same-- hot girl who wouldn't look twice at you on Tinder or any other online app will actually be attracted to you in person. My last gf (who I met in line at Starbucks, and was/is WAY more attractive than anyone I've gotten dates with online) said this about me. For whatever reason the online format distorts things...
/r/askTRP11/07/19 01:54 AM
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Thanks for lengthy reply, I can tell you put a lot of effort into it! The drive that has led me to my professional success certainly has been a double-edged sword, though not quite in the way you wrote. It led me to neglect other aspects of life when I was young, and to not put serious effort into them until pretty recently. Also, I am EXTREMELY results-oriented, which serves me wonderfully at work, but is obviously antithetical to maintaining my confidence/self-esteem when things aren't going w…
/r/askTRP07/07/19 01:27 PM
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Actually we hardly ever argued! Things just atrophied more and more until there was nothing left. I now wish we'd argued more tbh, our communication wasn't as good as it could have been. Live and learn, I haven't made THAT mistake again.
/r/askTRP06/07/19 08:17 PM
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There are LOTS of successful upper-middle-class dudes who get nowhere because they have no game. No one's saying that having money and a cool lifestyle is UNattractive, but without good social/dating/relationship skills they don't get you very far. And focusing too much on money means you're not developing those skills. Balance is the way to go.
/r/askTRP06/07/19 08:13 PM
-6

This just isn't true. In fact it's one of the worst BP lies.
/r/askTRP06/07/19 03:27 PM
1

Thanks for the comment. When you're alone for an extended period of time, you learn a lot about yourself. I have learned that I'm not ok with being alone AT ALL and never will be. Maslow's hierarchy is not bullshit. Most people NEED affection and intimacy to be happy. Some don't, but I'm not one of those folks.
/r/askTRP06/07/19 02:14 PM
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I was 24. It lasted almost 8 years, and was great for the first 5. Then I got severely depressed -- not for any "external" reason, just a chemical imbalance in my brain -- and was miserable/exhausting to be around (as all severely depressed people are). Anyway, she left to visit her family in China and never came back. Can't blame her, and don't blame myself either; it was no one's "fault." I certainly don't regret marrying her.
/r/askTRP06/07/19 02:00 PM
1

Thanks! Sounds like something that might help me, I'll look into it.
/r/askTRP06/07/19 01:10 AM
64

"Probably reminded her of an ex or something." This. I've had things like this happen. Once I was on a date that was going great until I asked her if she'd ever been to NYC. She freaked out, told me at length about this horrible experience she had with her ex there, went cold, and I never saw her again.
/r/askTRP05/07/19 11:27 PM
1

That's an interesting suggestion! Not like I have much to lose at this point lol. Pot gave me this buzzing feeling together with these cycling geometrical patterns that seemed like something I imagine one might see on psychedelics. I found that feeling EXTREMELY unpleasant, so only did it a few times. But I guess that not all the psychedelics have this sort of effect. Which one would you recommend?
/r/askTRP05/07/19 11:20 PM
2

Thanks! And I'm glad to hear things worked out for you! What was the self-esteem program? I've tried affirmations and they haven't helped me much. Their main utility has been convincing me that my negative thoughts about myself are irrational.
/r/askTRP05/07/19 11:02 PM
2

Hah! That was a spectacular reply, and I thank you for it. I agree with you about the "mission" stuff. While I do think it is a useful idea for younger guys who haven't made themselves successful in other areas of life yet, I'm not one of those guys. I also agree with you about the utility of ballsiness lol. I managed to get my last gf that way during a period when I was feeling good about myself and confident. Just randomly complimented her earrings while standing behind her in line at Starbuck…
/r/askTRP05/07/19 10:55 PM
1

I did have it tested a while back and it came up normal, but my symptoms are certainly consistent with low T. It couldn't hurt.
/r/askTRP05/07/19 10:21 PM
2

I never experienced the anger phase so it's not that. I definitely lack confidence, self-esteem, and self-respect, and am very insecure -- in my PERSONAL life. Have all those things in abundance in my professional life but for whatever reason they're not transferable! It's not that I haven't had any recent success with women. I managed to attract a pretty awesome (and really hot) woman into a relationship that lasted ~4 months before it ended in February. Yet my self-image is shot nonetheless. I…
/r/askTRP05/07/19 08:22 PM
2

I'm an only child. Have no family at all now that my parents are gone. Makes it hard to hide the fact that I'm starved for affection.
/r/askTRP05/07/19 07:27 PM
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I certainly have good days & bad days. I'm definitely not a loner. Am an extrovert, in the sense that I find being around other people invigorating rather than draining. Right now I'm alone when I don't want to be a LOT, which is torture. My friend group kinda fell apart bc people moved away, etc. Most of my remaining friends are married/in LTRs and hence rarely available. I know I need to make more. Unfortunately meeting new friends "organically" seems to happen a lot less as I get older. Have …
/r/askTRP05/07/19 06:57 PM
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She's not interested. If she were, she'd reply faster. Delete her.
/r/askTRP05/07/19 04:12 PM
1

Your use of "if its absolutely necessary" highlights what's going on. You are just a loner by nature and don't feel much (if any need) for connections with other people, intimate or otherwise. If you're OK with it, this is GREAT. Needing connection to others and not getting it is one of (if not the) main cause of unhappiness. I have to imagine being free of that need is a huge advantage...
/r/askTRP04/07/19 10:36 PM
1

"She wants to like you since you're attractive, but you're acting like unattractive guys act." Shedding this behavior is --incredibly-- difficult if you've been that way for a long time. I manage to give off that vibe even when I AM dating other girls, and I think it must be one of the things that cause them to lose interest. Lifting / dressing better / not being overtly needy has helped me a lot, but acting "hard to lock down and hard to attain" is proving VERY challenging :(.
/r/askTRP28/05/19 09:43 PM
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Sometimes everything's right "on paper" but the spark / chemistry / whatever you want to call it just isn't there. If you're actually as attractive as you say you are, remember that it's REALLY NOT rational, and the next girl may be turned on by the exact things that turn this one off. If on the other hand you're getting this sort of reaction CONSISTENTLY, CainPrice is probably right. Confusing AF, huh?
/r/askTRP28/05/19 09:31 PM
1

How long have you been doing poorly? A month, a year, ???. If you are getting lost and/or not knowing how to approach problems, you DON'T "understand the concepts." People who DO understand the concepts still make mistakes, but they're usually small/careless ones.
/r/askTRP28/05/19 09:18 PM
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You are grieving, plain and simple. It's the natural human response to loss. It will suck for a while -- probably for months -- and then you both will get better. That's just the way of things. No-contact is the way to go; staying in contact will just prolong the pain for both of you. All you can do is keep putting one foot in front of the other.
/r/askTRP27/05/19 12:53 AM
3

Forgiveness is a thing too. Everyone has moments of weakness. Those who own up to theirs and ask forgiveness for them deserve some credit. Just don't forgive her right away, or all at once...
/r/askTRP26/05/19 06:28 PM
3

This. I'd much rather have a gf like OP's than one who couldn't care less.
/r/askTRP26/05/19 06:25 PM
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Lots of otherwise great women turn into terrors when they're having their periods. If you can, just give her a pass during those few days every month. The fact that she left her friend at the club as you described should tell you something. However, that DOESN'T mean that you should excuse such behavior at any other time of the month...
/r/askTRP31/03/19 06:16 PM
1

Do you seriously believe that she will think you're asking her to go camping solely to look at the stars?
/r/askTRP30/03/19 07:48 PM
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You can't "get her to be attracted to" you. You seem to understand some of the mistakes you made, but not all: "Going no contact for a week" won't make any difference because she's not attracted to you! THIS chick would not bang you even if you turn into Brad Pitt. All you can do is make yourself more attractive to other girls...
/r/askTRP30/03/19 07:42 PM
3

"Let's go to (insert name of park here) and go camping!"
/r/askTRP30/03/19 07:31 PM
3

Women have this figured out. They generally don't befriend guys they are attracted to. This is why they get friendzoned so much less than guys do. Learn from them.
/r/askTRP19/03/19 12:18 AM
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You're thinking way too far ahead. You haven't even met her in person yet! Go out with her and find out..
/r/askTRP18/03/19 01:40 AM
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"I wouldn’t have to do it if you knew as much as me.” -- wow. I bet you're not even smiling when you say this.
/r/askTRP17/03/19 10:38 PM
2

It's for work! Don't you want her to be successful & happy? It seems from your post that you do, but you're just really worried that someone "better" than you (for whatever reason) will take her away. That smacks of insecurity, which women are really good at picking up on -- you have to try to cut that out. Has she given you any reason to mistrust her? Projecting that you're overly worried she'll cheat on you is not going to raise your value in her eyes..
/r/askTRP17/03/19 09:21 PM
1

That's the essence of survival of the fittest. If your copies aren't going to do anything worthwhile, don't make any.
/r/askTRP10/03/19 11:28 PM
1

You are correct. Brown dudes have the same problem black women have -- they're at the bottom in terms of SMV because their physical attractiveness is less than that of other groups. And yet they still manage to find gfs (and eventually wives), have kids, and lead meaningful, worthy lives...
/r/askTRP10/03/19 11:22 PM
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If all women rejected brown guys, there wouldn't be any left, as they would have died out long ago. In fact there are hundreds of millions of them.
/r/askTRP10/03/19 10:55 PM
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You've concluded the world will be better off with fewer people like you, and have made the rational choice. Other dudes feel the world would be better off with more people like them, and so, want to have kids.
/r/askTRP10/03/19 10:50 PM
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Oh lol! Sorry, I'm not in the best mood right now and less alert to humor than usual. Kudos for the Mansa Musa ref btw ;)
/r/askTRP10/03/19 10:39 PM
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Nope, you just need to be the highest-level dude that's interested in and willing to invest in HER. Mid-value chicks rarely cheat on high-value dudes with mid-value dudes, obviously. But it's just as true that lower-value chicks rarely cheat on mid-value dudes with low-value ones. This is why one of the more insightful bits of RP wisdom (and one I just got rather forcefully re-taught) is that the best woman you can hope to keep is one whose SMV is 1-2 points lower than yours.
/r/askTRP10/03/19 10:24 PM
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Nope. You're looking at it correctly. The only way to stop a woman from straying (or at least make it much less likely) is to have her fully convinced that she can't do any better.
/r/askTRP10/03/19 09:31 PM
2

You don't "handle" professors. All but the newest ones have seen countless screwups who can't get their shit together and get things done. By not showing up for the first four weeks because you "were lazy and didn't wake up", you've shown that you're one of them. Your profs aren't fools -- they'll see through any attempt to "game" them. Grow up and try again next year.
/r/askTRP10/03/19 07:36 PM
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There are plenty of guys who fit that description yet lack frame and game and so have little success with women. I'm still one of them. For many of us developing the type of charisma that attracts women is MUCH harder than achieving professional success or getting in excellent physical shape...
/r/askTRP09/03/19 02:11 AM
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"I wasn't worried about being beaten up" -- and so you handled the situation well. You should only employ violence when NECESSARY. Two kids tried to mug me once -- threatened to kill me and everything if I didn't give them money -- but once I saw they had no weapons (and I was 30-40 pounds heavier than either one of them) I just laughed at them and told them to go back home to their moms. And lo and behold, after a while they fled! To this day that's one of the proudest episodes of my life.
/r/askTRP09/03/19 01:57 AM
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Men always pay for sex. Not necessarily directly in cash, but we do always pay...
/r/askTRP09/03/19 01:49 AM
0

Yes, definitely!
/r/askTRP08/02/19 02:35 AM
2

Dude, you're 16, not 12. Time to start acting like a man....
/r/askTRP05/02/19 02:39 AM
-1

Don't do math! I know how fun it can be, but is it REALLY worth ruining your life for? Majoring in math or CS will destroy your social skills. Those fields attract dudes who have lousy social skills in the first place, and then make them worse. Why do you think there are so few women in the field? Hint: it's NOT because they can't do it...
/r/askTRP05/02/19 02:29 AM
4

AF and BB are archetypes. Asking whether there's a midpoint between them is like asking whether there's a midpoint between "coward" and "hero."
/r/askTRP02/01/19 12:10 AM
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Your problem is that you are a coward. Too afraid to use a dating app, too afraid to hire an escort, too afraid to admit you're a virgin (to the dudes at work), and too afraid to approach women in real life. The lack of courage is going to be a far harder problem to overcome than the lack of sexual experience, but you have to start attacking it now if you want to get your life going in the right direction.
/r/askTRP20/12/18 12:33 AM
2

Tell your psychiatrist your meds are killing your libido and to reduce the dose or change them. Loss of libido is a common side effect of many antidepressants. This fucked me up for years.
/r/askTRP13/12/18 02:56 PM
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True, but on the other hand, it’s a lot harder as a novice (and one who’s not starting off with great self-control) to stick to your diet if you’re sore from lifting :). I was proposing the easier option.
/r/askTRP11/12/18 03:26 PM
7

Ding ding we found the problem! You think having sex (outside of a LTR) is something that self-respecting, dignified people don't do. You are wrong.
/r/askTRP11/12/18 02:55 AM
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Start by dieting and getting down to 15% body fat or so. Then start lifting heavy at least 3 times/week. Don't worry about the other stuff until later.
/r/askTRP11/12/18 02:37 AM
3

Because she didn't feel like answering. There's a 50/50 shot the reason why she didn't feel like answering has nothing to do with you with you at all.
/r/askTRP11/12/18 02:33 AM
3

Your goal is to maximize the amount of high-quality work you get done, right? Just take the breaks! It's likely you're just running into your attention-span limit. I need a 5 minute break every hour or so. Trying to push through won't bring you any benefits. Taking a break when your brain tells you "I need a rest" will.
/r/askTRP11/12/18 01:58 AM
5

Jack London. John Muir. Homer.
/r/askTRP08/12/18 07:44 PM
-1

She’s right, you are too young. If she’s 25-26 and at all decent-looking she can get an in-shape 25-30 year old who can offer her everything you can and ALSO a lot more money, not to mention being more experienced and hence better in bed. Not to be a debbie downer, just saying you’ll have a much easier time with girls your own age or younger...
/r/askTRP07/12/18 03:59 AM
0

Keep lifting and get down to 15% bf or lower. Make sure you are lifting heavy enough to add a significant amount of muscle.
/r/seduction02/12/18 07:21 PM
1

Just chill and remember that she has a life beyond you. You have a life beyond her, right? You don't WANT a completely needy, clingy gf, right?
/r/askTRP27/11/18 03:37 AM
2

This isn't a shit test. You encouraged her to go and now she's going. Where's the "shit"? You are way too insecure..
/r/askTRP27/11/18 03:31 AM
1

There are no unicorns -- and it seems like you don't like real women all that much. Perhaps you'll find one you desire one day, but based on the wording of your post I doubt it... Why not just focus on the things in life that DO excite you?
/r/askTRP23/11/18 12:08 AM
6

That’s a damn good rant! You’re pretty talented! Lol
/r/askTRP20/11/18 03:33 AM
1

Hard next those bitches! Lol... Seriously — you’ll have a much better time and grow more as a person playing sports. You’re clearly doing debate because you want to be a politician when you grow up rather than because you love it. Big mistake...
/r/askTRP20/11/18 12:54 AM
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"... to which I dont open my mouth but I proceed to grab her hand and put it in my cock and continue escalating ..." Lol this is about half of the sidebar, distilled into one sentence! Yes, you're doing it right. She's happily having sex with you, and might well have just been teasing you. What more do you want?
/r/askTRP19/11/18 12:21 AM
2

If she thought you were a loser, she wouldn't still be with you. Don't worry about anything you said 6 months ago, it's water under the bridge at this point. Sounds like you're on the right track -- keep up the good work! ​
/r/askTRP19/11/18 12:14 AM
2

She’s probably looking for a guy who’s more interested in hooking up with her than in getting drunk/stoned...
/r/askTRP10/11/18 06:55 PM
1

If you don’t want a relationship OR a hookup, why would you hang out with her?
/r/askTRP10/11/18 12:30 PM
2

Omfg! This is the best comment I’ve seen on here in months. Lol! I am fond of stoicism myself, but hero-worship is almost always a bad thing :/
/r/askTRP09/11/18 01:31 PM
1

Yes, by all means, pass up great opportunities because of some arbitrary unwritten rule. That’s definitely your best strategy IF you’re a risk-averse coward...
/r/askTRP06/11/18 04:28 PM
-5

Haha sarcasm at its finest!
/r/askTRP06/11/18 12:46 PM
1

Doubtful, but it can't hurt to try!
/r/askTRP02/11/18 08:25 PM
9

Nope. Why would it be? She obviously wanted you and gave you every opportunity but you chickened out. Don’t try to rationalize blowing your chance with her!
/r/askTRP01/11/18 02:23 PM
1

The people telling you to lower your standards have your best interests at heart. Seriously! I had the same problem when I was young, always aimed too high. Once I started aiming just a bit lower I had a LOT more success. Also, a 6 who loves you is 1000x better to be with than an 8 who doesn’t give a damn about you...
/r/askTRP01/11/18 12:56 PM
1

A lot of people complain about this. Didn’t happen to me (perhaps bc i’m older and my friends are consequently more mature), but here’s my two cents anyway: This is just the dude’s version of the shit test. Worst thing you can do is let it shake you and let them see/know that it’s shaken you. Best thing you can do is not give a fuck and let them see/know that you don’t.
/r/askTRP23/10/18 03:19 PM
2

I think the “soy boy” pejorative exists only because soy rhymes with boy and so it rolls off the tongue nicely. And anyway its negative connotation comes from the “boy” part, not the soy. Lol!
/r/askTRP23/10/18 11:58 AM
2

Lots of ways! If any of your friends have a weight set, go lift weights with them, they'll prob enjoy the company. Or just join a gym. Memberships are really cheap and most gyms don't require you to be 18....
/r/askTRP14/10/18 11:20 PM
1

Keep lifting. This is a good chance to show your parents that you're growing up and starting to go your own way. Otherwise they won't respect you. Better to have this fight over something positive like exercise...
/r/askTRP14/10/18 11:10 PM
15

Wrestling. Few people get into it before high school, so you won't be as far behind.
/r/askTRP14/10/18 02:00 AM
1

A very high percentage of married doctors are married to other doctors. Do you think they’re less successful than those who are married to non-doctors?
/r/askTRP13/10/18 05:59 PM
1

This is terrible advice. Following it is a great way to end up 35 or 40 with an awesome career but no social/relationship skills. You think those guys have an easy time of it?
/r/askTRP13/10/18 05:56 PM
1

Thanks! I'm not overly worried about drama since I have a lot of experience dealing with it but don't tend to create that much of it myself. FB groups are a good idea...
/r/askTRP11/10/18 12:55 AM
1

I get the "don't shit where you eat" version of the don't-approach-at-the-gym argument -- but what about the common-interest/hobby factor? Working out is my main hobby at this point -- it's the only one I put real effort into. Everyone agrees that joining a club or going to meetups with people that have hobbies in common with you is a great way to meet women. For those of us who lift, where better to meet them than the gym? It's not like there's many fit single women (or guys for that matter) ov…
/r/askTRP09/10/18 11:13 PM
1

Don't have any answers for you, but I'm in much the same situation. Have improved myself a great deal over the past two years by dieting, lifting, etc, but still have the mentality of the kid who was a reject growing up, even though there aren't many concrete reasons for me to feel that way any more. I'm pretty successful in many areas of life, especially career-wise. I have a life that many would envy. I've had more success with women over the past year than I'd had for a LONG time, yet my fail…
/r/askTRP07/10/18 11:44 PM
4

Don't do this. It won't fool anyone. Own it.
/r/seduction07/10/18 10:09 PM
1

Seems like you've made the crucial step already by recognizing how unproductive this behavior is. Now just practice it. Just make up your mind beforehand that you won't respond to things that annoy you, and then don't. After a while they'll (hopefully) get less annoying. Also, refusing to tolerate idiots is like refusing to tolerate rain or taxes -- it's just not a winning strategy.
/r/askTRP07/10/18 09:48 PM
9

Match & eharmony are full of women who just want a guy that’s handsome, intelligent, successful, sensitive, shares their values and interests, and can help them lead their best life. In short, for the perfect guy. Of course there is no such dude, and that’s why they’re still single and will remain so. Such women can —appear— high-value, but are (sadly!) a huge waste of time...
/r/askTRP02/10/18 12:27 PM
22

What foolishness. All that will lead to is falling behind socially. I speak from experience. HS is the natural time to start learning these things...
/r/seduction02/10/18 12:12 PM
1

Sell it or throw it away. You don’t need a cellphone to have an awesome (or even normal) life...
/r/askTRP30/09/18 07:36 PM
3

I couldn’t grow a decent beard til I was 32 — when I was 20 I barely needed to shave! Now at 41 I look 32-35 or so... being a babyfaced 41yo is a LOT better than being a babyfaced 20yo lol :) OP — just lose weight and lift and you should be fine...
/r/seduction28/09/18 01:56 AM
1

I get that you don’t want to disappoint them or feel that you’re ungrateful. Make it clear that you love them and appreciate all they’ve done for you, and that while you won’t marry unless/until you’ve found the right girl and are fully ready (and that that probably won’t be for a long time), you’d be happy to do something ELSE they really want you to do...
/r/askTRP24/09/18 09:37 PM
2

Just buy some weights and start lifting! If you don’t have any money because you don’t have a job yet, get one. Waiting to get other people’s permission before doing things you want to do is usually a mistake...
/r/askTRP24/09/18 09:18 PM
1

Normally I'd say something along the lines of "Spend several days in the woods without any electronic devices", but I'm guessing you're not old enough for that to be a practical option.... As far as "block internet except for school use" -- nope, there isn't. Maybe ditch your headphones and try to disable the internal speakers?
/r/askTRP24/09/18 12:06 AM
1

You can’t. Feeling horny is a bodily urge much like feeling hungry, thirsty, or sleepy. Only difference is that failing to satisfy it over long periods of time makes you uncomfortable/unhappy instead of killing you.
/r/askTRP22/09/18 08:51 PM
1

I am a prof in a STEM field at a R01 university. In recent years women have earned a bit over 15% of the PhDs awarded across all fields of engineering. Your experience is not typical at all. Anyway, sorry to hear that, that sucks!
/r/askTRP13/09/18 10:51 PM
3

There’s not a single STEM field that’s ALL Asian/Indian dudes. I’d bet at least a third of the students in your program are either female or non-Asian. That said, lifting weights is a great way to get away from that crowd (and I know exactly the group you’re referring to) since they don’t go to the gym.
/r/askTRP13/09/18 10:39 AM
1

Thanks! Yep, "has to get worse to get better" is a good way of putting it. I think I just have some massive insecurity issues. My tendency to be very hard on myself is a huge asset in my professional life but a huge liability for this stuff :(. Anyway, I'll figure it out eventually...
/r/seduction08/09/18 01:46 AM
2

"You criticise yourself continuously and it’s like you torture yourself because you won’t let yourself let go and just be however you feel. You constantly try and justify your emotions and feelings. But you need to not do that. Everyone has shit times and everyone gets over them in their own way, but by criticising yourself and your life, your never guna get over it, you’ll just get depressed." -- This spoke to me big-time; it could have been written to/about me! I certainly have the "massive in…
/r/askTRP04/09/18 01:28 AM
1

This seems like decent advice. I tried a couple openers along these lines today -- "that dress is cute", "that tattoo is really cool", etc. Had no intention of asking them out, and didn't, but at least I demonstrated attraction without freezing up :). Thanks!
/r/seduction30/08/18 01:29 AM
1

I guess it's not --showing-- intent that's the problem, it's --having-- intent that messes things up for me. ​ I'm able to open attractive women I don't intend to ask out, and chat with them a bit. This is no big deal -- it doesn't make me particularly anxious. We go our separate ways at the end of the convo, and nothing happens one way or the other. ​ What triggers my anxiety is wanting to approach a girl with the intent to ask her out / get her number / etc if she seems cool / receptive. That …
/r/seduction29/08/18 02:10 AM
1

Alternative answer: yes, of course, duh!
/r/askTRP01/08/18 05:30 PM
1

If you’re motivated mostly by money, the quickest/clearest path is to go into finance. Get into a top-tier university, be the best student in your class, connect with the older students (i.e. those in the classes ahead of you) and learn from them, get good internships and ultimately a job at a top firm, and work your ass off. Obviously there’s lots of other paths to wealth, but this is the most straightforward one imo. Caveat: the above applies in the USA and certainly in parts of the EU. I’m no…
/r/askTRP28/07/18 01:43 PM
1

I'm surprised that no one asked OP how he defines success! OP -- your question doesn't give us much to work with. Have you figured out what success means to YOU?
/r/askTRP28/07/18 01:33 AM
1

Chris McCandless provided one answer. His way of dealing with the banality of modern life is not for everyone (to say the least!), but you sound like it might well be for you....
/r/askTRP16/06/18 10:53 PM
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Be glad you found TRP at 21 rather than (say) 39. Don't just lift; diet. Get strong & lean & people (men and women alike) will treat you vastly better --even if you're still the same shmuck on the inside--. Spend lots of time outdoors. It's not impossible to feel depressed when you're taking a long walk on a sunny day, but it's damn hard ;) If you're not risk-averse: slowly work your way off the antidepressants. Life is better without them because after a while the numbness they induce gets to b…
/r/askTRP15/06/18 05:25 PM
1

"All the quality women he previously didn't have access to would theoretically be available to him now...but they're all fucking married and popping out kids." 1) Many of the dudes they're having those kids with are several years older than them. You can be one of those guys. 2) Their younger sisters (i.e. younger versions of themselves) ARE available, and won't stay immature forever. Don't make the perfect (option A) the enemy of the good (option B).
/r/TheRedPill14/06/18 09:15 PM
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OP, I for one read what you wrote, and agree with this dude's comment. You were suffering from a negative mindset and a lousy approach to life, which sucks (big time!!!) and ruins many lives, but is not depression. The two certainly CAN go together and often do, but they're not the same thing..
/r/TheRedPill14/06/18 08:53 PM
1

I’d just say that your optimal strategy will depend far more on your individual personality than your race. While differences between average members of the various races do exist, they’re FAR smaller than differences between individuals. Obviously you’ll be more confident doing whatever you think will work best for YOU — and that greater confidence should lead to better results. At least in theory :)
/r/askTRP18/05/18 12:53 PM
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I never know what to make of these posts that treat different races like they’re different species. In particular it seems ridiculous to me that optimal strategy should depend on skin color, either yours or theirs. As someone whose marriage was interracial, I can say from experience that at the end of the day women are pretty much women no matter their origins. After all, it’s AWALT, not AWWALT or ABWALT or AHWALT or AAWALT!
/r/askTRP18/05/18 02:38 AM
1

Hah! I honestly hadn’t thought of the makeup angle, but it makes sense — why else would they wear makeup to the gym? As far as the “don’t shit where you eat”-type advice, how does it apply here? Clearly you shouldn’t be aggressive/pushy about it or do anything that could be considered harassment, but as long as you’re respectful and take no for an answer if that’s their answer, where’s the risk? I get that most women don’t want to be approached at the gym because they’re there to work out, but t…
/r/seduction18/05/18 02:09 AM
3

Don’t say anything, just give her a nice long kiss asap. Chicks don’t really want an answer to questions like this one; they’re just emoting in your general direction. This is why there’s no “right” answer to questions like these...
/r/seduction18/05/18 01:27 AM
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Women change their mind a LOT. She may have thought she wasn't that into OP for those 3 days and then today decided she is after all. "isn't interested enough" isn't necessarily set in stone. OP's "I almost sent a second text but decided to chill and talk to other chicks to distract myself" is near-optimal strategy imo...
/r/seduction10/05/18 11:15 PM
3

Any sort of mental illness is a gigantic red flag and is a deal breaker for a HUGE percentage of people (both men and women). That your illness is not your "fault" is completely irrelevant. People just don't want to deal with it. Having experienced a LOT of it -- from both sides -- I can't really blame them. It's just one of those things that are best to hide....
/r/TheRedPill08/05/18 08:51 PM
2

I could have written this post. Am rebuilding my life almost from square zero after a long period of depression that nearly killed me. Have been lifting & trying to implement TRP concepts for 3 months now, and am in almost the exact same position as you are. Don't have much trouble having fun & making casual friends when I go out and just "do my own thing" as you put it, but that doesn't attract any women -- or at least it doesn't GET me any. Once I start "trying", everything falls to pieces. Th…
/r/askTRP07/05/18 02:56 PM
2

Your peers do better on tests they study less for because they are smarter than you and don’t have to put as much effort in to learn new concepts. It’s not an alpha-vs-beta thing; being dumb is like being short, it’s a major disadvantage but plenty of dudes overcome it...
/r/askTRP05/05/18 03:22 AM
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Nope. Not that simple. Plenty of dudes are badasses at their profession, work out enough that they SHOULD have high SMV, and generally have a lot to offer, yet still can’t get women because they have no game. You can have a great deal of value (and know quite well that you do, and why), but if you don’t have the social skills to CONVEY that, people won’t see it unless they spend a lot of time with you.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/18 02:04 AM
0

A lot of dudes who don’t “live in their mom’s basement” and have lowish body fat percentages still have approach anxiety. Being horny because you haven’t gotten off in a week CAN help with that — it makes implementing IDGAF much easier. Is it all in your head? Of course! But what’s in your head IS important...
/r/askTRP05/05/18 01:36 AM
1

I'm in a similar spot, maybe a few months ahead of where you are now, but I'm much older than you. Had bipolar II from 2000-16 and barely kept my head above water most of that time, so I essentially missed 16 years of my life and have a huge amount of catching up to do! The depression got resolved -- which I'm thankful for, I'd be dead if it hadn't -- and now I'm in a MUCH better place than I was 18 months ago. Dieting, lifting, realizing I needed to change my whole approach to attracting women,…
/r/seduction05/05/18 01:16 AM
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Of course it’s OK. Women feel like crap when they’re on their period, it makes sense to cut them SOME slack. Just make sure you have sex next time.
/r/askTRP29/04/18 12:41 PM
1

I was married from 2002-10. We didn’t have any kids. Neither of us had any money yet in 2010 so there wasn’t any point in fighting over assets. The year I spent twisting in the wind 2009-10 was hell — but the first 5 years were great. I don’t regret marrying her. She doesn’t regret marrying me. We still chat amicably a few times a year. Would my life be better now if we’d never married? Who can say? It might be, or it might not. So what purpose would be served by me being bitter? I’d like to hav…
/r/askTRP23/04/18 11:08 PM
1

If she’s your orthodontist, she’s not in her early 20s. She’s gone through dental school + additional training, so is late 20s or older. Aside from that though — after she’s done treating you and you’re no longer her patient, sure! Until then, best not...
/r/askTRP01/04/18 10:53 PM
0

Well over 50% of marriages end in death. See this NYT article and this Psych Today article. Perhaps this just shows that there are no happy endings, but it's surely a relevant fact!
/r/TheRedPill17/03/18 05:47 AM
1

"I freak out about 'shitting where you eat', aka ruining my best friends impression of me." -- Why? Do you plan to mistreat her? Sure it's a BIT risky, but nothing ventured nothing gained, right? More generally I think DSWYE really only applies to workplace situations, i.e. it's a bad idea to date coworkers. Meeting through friends/classmates is probably the single best way to meet new people, including potential girlfriends...
/r/askTRP14/03/18 11:56 PM
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Probably is just a maturity thing. I’m the opposite — have always gotten along best with people ~ 4/5 my age. Everyone matures at different rates. I suggest just embracing it, it’s by far the easiest solution.
/r/askTRP14/03/18 06:11 AM
2

The last one was the key, no doubt! lol :) I've struggled with this sort of thing because I haven't managed to get anywhere close to outcome-independence. So, even though I look MUCH better than I used to (after lots of dieting, lifting, dressing better, etc.), and am getting a lot more IOIs and such (which really SHOULD boost my self-esteem more), the lack of "hard results" is causing me problems :(
/r/seduction11/03/18 09:06 PM
1

Here's his own description. Obviously not everyone can pull that off!
/r/askTRP11/03/18 12:04 AM
3

Ben Franklin had a great way of doing this. Rather than telling people what HE wanted them to do, he asked them leading questions with the goal of having them come to the conclusion ("on their own", as they thought) that THEY wanted to do the exact same thing. The trick was knowing how to ask the right questions....
/r/askTRP10/03/18 11:16 PM
1

In short, yes. Some of us worked TOO hard when we were young and thus fell far behind on our social development. There are plenty of guys on here (myself amongst them) who have great careers and are successful in most aspects of life but have trouble with women nonetheless. I know I'd have less trouble with them now if I'd put some actual EFFORT into the non-work-related parts of life when I was younger. My regrets are no different than the regrets guys that wish they'd studied harder when they …
/r/askTRP08/03/18 10:13 AM
2

OMG Billy Madison! lol, classic scene :)
/r/seduction05/03/18 12:05 PM
1

"Is this mindset more damaging than good?" For getting women, it absolutely is. Is Chad an overachiever? Do women like guys who --try really hard--?
/r/TheRedPill03/03/18 02:58 AM
3

What do you do when you're "emotionally sore"? I swallowed the pill about 1.5 months ago after finally realizing nothing would ever change for me if I didn't change my approach to life (and flailing around a while before finding this subreddit.) Have been working hard since then on lifting, dressing better, internalizing TRP concepts, etc. Have been putting myself out there and doing things I'd never done before like going out to clubs alone, working my way up to "daygame" cold approaching by ch…
/r/TheRedPill28/02/18 11:20 PM
4

For women picking up guys I think the old saw “90% of life is just showing up” really applies. Just put yourself near him more than you would randomly and act friendly / like you want him to approach YOU. If he’s at all into you he’ll get the message...
/r/seduction22/02/18 03:16 AM
1

Nope, or at least not in the way you imply. She’s probably told you something along the lines of “you’re like a brother to me” at some point. Chicks MEAN it when they say that. In your hypothetical situation, she might gain some respect for you, in the same way she’d gain respect for a previously annoying little brother who’d finally shown signs of growing up, but she’s NOT going to start wanting to sleep with you any more than she would start wanting to sleep with her little bro.
/r/askTRP19/02/18 10:58 AM
2

She’d probably be happy for you! “A friend she sees, a friend you be” is not sarcasm, it’s the plain truth. Aren’t you happy when your friends do well? Don’t you want them to be happy? Something I think people lose sight of (understandably — I know I did) is that girls who friendzone you ARE actually your friends, it’s just that they will NEVER fuck you. You have a better chance of getting with that hot model than you do of getting with the friendzoner...
/r/askTRP19/02/18 12:45 AM
1

One perhaps-enlightening update: Today I texted one of the ones who'd ghosted and asked her to come out to a local park. Didn't mention the ghosting or anything, just pretended nothing untoward had happened. She almost immediately replied back saying yes, so we're going out this Sunday. Still trying to figure out if this was some sort of elaborate shit test (and if so, whether I just passed it or just failed it lol), but her reaction made me think that maybe she's one of the those women who just…
/r/seduction07/02/18 04:05 AM
3

If she's just saying she doesn't want to hang out --alone-- with you the first time, she --could-- just be legitimately afraid. I once had a girl I met online require, as a condition for going out on our first date, that she be able to bring her friend along. She gave a similar "bad experiences" reasoning for requiring this. I said "sure, np." On our date, after a half hour or so, she realized I wasn't a criminal or anything like that -- and sent her friend away. We made out that night and had a…
/r/askTRP07/02/18 02:13 AM
1

Hmm. Just hanging at a bar and having a few drinks is --also-- something I do with my guy friends, so I hadn't thought of it in that light :) But then how is that any different from a sitdown-dinner date? It's a --bit-- different if you're sitting at the actual bar, just because you don't have a table in between you, but it's still the same mostly-sitting-and-talking dynamic, no?
/r/seduction06/02/18 10:09 PM
1

That makes sense, thanks!
/r/seduction06/02/18 10:01 PM
1

Yeah I thought so! But it's been weird having 3 in a row go cold on me all of a sudden like that...
/r/seduction06/02/18 04:43 AM
1

Hah! That's awesome :)
/r/seduction06/02/18 04:41 AM
6

You probably have depression (either major or bipolar). If your brain isn't producing neurotransmitters in the right amounts, you WILL feel awful no matter how good the objective circumstances of your life are. Meds can help a LOT because they directly address the neurotransmitter issue.
/r/askTRP06/02/18 02:19 AM
17

Are you trying to be helpful or trying to sell that book? What is the TLDR version of this exercise?
/r/TheRedPill04/02/18 11:06 PM
1

Do you have friends/acquaintances who live in your neighborhood who are a year or two younger? They're a great "in" for meeting folks who are in THEIR grade rather than yours. In high school, having friends who are a year or two younger are great for us folks who aren't naturals at socializing, simply because being a year or two older gives you an advantage and you'll find it easier to interact with them in a confident manner. My situation wasn't the same as yours -- I WAS awkward and lousy at s…
/r/askTRP04/02/18 02:02 AM
2

No, not for seeking help! Of course not! But it seems to me that a truly secure man accepts other people --as they are--. Right? So, either do that and respect him for his good qualities, or recognize that he's not the type of person you want to be friends with at this stage of your life and move on.
/r/askTRP04/02/18 01:48 AM
2

Trying to get OTHER people to change is almost always a losing battle. It sounds like he's OK with who he is. Accept him as he is and stay his friend, or don't and don't -- but honestly it seems like you're the insecure one here...
/r/askTRP03/02/18 02:04 PM
1

The last time did, a bit. She said that the fact that I put my arm around her and then just kept it there (while we were watching a band play) made her uncomfortable. This was a bit surprising because she didn't seem at all uncomfortable during the date -- didn't pull away or anything like that. Not sure how "helpful" it really was, but I have no reason to doubt her honesty or that she was TRYING to be helpful, so it at least gave me something to ponder...
/r/askTRP31/01/18 01:53 AM
1

I have, and have gotten honest/helpful feedback a couple times. The trick is to wait for enough time to pass that it's totally clear to her that you've moved on and won't be asking her out again BEFORE you ask her how you fucked up. I'd say wait at least a month. Otherwise you'll just get BS. Also (and obviously) this only works with girls you don't run into socially...
/r/askTRP31/01/18 12:44 AM
3

If you study at home (i.e. in your dorm room or apartment), lift weights there in the midst of your study periods. If you're like most people, you can't study for hours on end -- you probably take a breather every 40-80 minutes or so. When you take your little breaks, lift. Nothing major, just a set or two during each break. Easy to do this with dumbells or other compact weights you can keep in your room, and its an efficient use of your time. Not as effective as a proper gym routine, of course,…
/r/askTRP28/01/18 11:46 PM
5

People love to share well-crafted quotes like this one. There's always an air of sanctimony about them....
/r/askTRP27/01/18 11:50 PM
3

I've lived alone for 8 years now yet still have such feelings regularly. For me, it's being alone --in my place-- that triggers loneliness (for whatever reason). 90% of the time, just getting out of the house helps a lot. So, get out into the great outdoors. You don't have to do anything special. Take a 2 hour walk instead of a 30 minute one, run errands, do whatever, just don't sit at home...
/r/askTRP27/01/18 11:47 PM
5

Having sex too soon often DOES sabotage a relationship. They're less willing to behave "recklessly" with a guy they know & like. There IS a sort of logic to this. Many women think in hit-it-and-quit-it terms just as much as guys do, but who wants to hit-it-and-quit-it with someone they genuinely care about? I know I don't. The trouble (imo) is that somehow this leads to more friendzoning than --either-- side really intends, and all the misery that leads to...
/r/askTRP27/01/18 10:03 PM
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That's just pure manipulation on her part. Some women like to have orbiters, and when their orbiters start to pull away, they'll temporarily become friendlier towards them in order to pull them back in. If you show more interest, she'll cool back off very quickly. Ignoring it won't help either, because she's probably only interested in you as an orbiter. This is tough to swallow, I know :( Focus on the one you're going on the 2nd date with. Just think: when you're in bed with her, are you really…
/r/seduction23/01/18 09:41 AM
1

Go out with your friends and have a good time! The social skills you develop will serve you well. BUT... don't drink so much that you have a hangover the next day. After having just enough to get a pleasant buzz, switch to soda (or anything nonalcoholic). Just having a drink in your hand will be enough to still fit in and not look like a dweeb. This way you'll still be able to study the next day, and have the best of both worlds...
/r/askTRP23/01/18 01:22 AM
1

"To save money, I decided to live with my parents in a super small town so that I could attend the local college there and do my degree there." -- BIG mistake. With college, as with anything else, you usually get what you pay for. Since you're 18 and (I assume) still very early in your program, you still have time to correct this. Remember that you'll be making enough money after you graduate that paying off the loans you'll have to take out won't be overly onerous :) Also, there are a number of…
/r/askTRP15/01/18 12:48 AM
4

Absolutely I would. If I could have won the first girl I fell for, married her & lived happily ever after with her, that would've been great! Would've saved a lot of anguish over the years. But obviously life works out that way for very few people, didn't work out that way for me, and it's unrealistic to EXPECT life to work out that way, so here we are. I've never understood the obsession with virgins. Seems a residual aspect of putting women on a pedestal imo. You know that (almost) no women th…
/r/askTRP12/01/18 04:27 AM
1

I always found women I --knew-- were out of my league very easy to get along with, be friends with, etc. It's no shame to admit you're not a charismatic model-handsome dude with $$$ in the bank (in short, the sort of guy who IS in their league). Then you can hang out with them and enjoy real friendship without anguishing over whether you can make them yours. It's the ones who are borderline who cause all the trouble....
/r/askTRP10/01/18 03:47 AM
3

Also, if it's --winter-- that's messing you up (as opposed to the holidays), get one of those seasonal-affective-disorder lamps and sit in front of it for a half hour or so a day. They're cheap, can't hurt, and are especially likely to be helpful if you live in the North.
/r/askTRP10/01/18 01:41 AM
1

Having a --specific-- backup plan is a good idea, sounds like something that could work for me. Thanks!
/r/askTRP06/01/18 01:53 PM
1

Thanks for the very well-thought-out reply! I can see how Frame and the other TRP tenets you mentioned must be critical -- certainly I don't disagree with any of them! -- but am not skilled at considering these sorts of things in abstract terms and then implementing them. Wrote my post as I did because I'm the sort of person who benefits more from a variety of --specific-- examples (having enough self-awareness, hopefully, to see which of them are more likely to work for me). Plus I'm very new h…
/r/askTRP05/01/18 05:53 PM
1

I found this answer surprising. Guess we're just very different people? Lifting and dieting ARE relatively easy for me because I've always had a lot of willpower, at least of the type that helps with non-emotional stuff. I just call on the same sort of determination that's always served me well at work. Anyway, I've already done most of the external improvement. Over the period 10/2016-10/2017 I lost nearly 40 pounds while adding a significant amount of muscle. I'm in decent shape at this point.…
/r/askTRP05/01/18 05:23 PM
3

Carrying it isn't, but asking strangers whether it's beta to do so is :) /snarkyburn Not sure where you grew up; I'm guessing it was in a much better neighborhood than you live in now. Here's a hint: The best defense against being mugged -- BY FAR -- is to look like a "hard target". Muggers target folks who look like easy prey. For men, being a hard target is mostly just being aware of your surroundings and looking like you belong...
/r/askTRP05/01/18 01:27 AM
2

The fact that you were able to state the issue "We who have this problem habituate analyzing things at all times..." so succinctly suggests you're well on the way to solving it. I guess the solution -- "practice socializing until it becomes totally natural anywhere" -- is the same for us as it is for everyone else, we're just getting to it later in life than the popular kids :)
/r/seduction03/01/18 03:25 AM
1

Cambodians and Japanese are both Asian; do you think they are the same? Not being PC here, it's just an observation, no different than saying Polish chicks are different enough from French ones that just saying "European" isn't super-helpful ...
/r/seduction02/01/18 02:42 PM
1

Differences between individuals are FAR larger than any differences between cultural 'averages', and "Asian" is way too vague a term to be helpful for answering your question, but as the others have said, women are women...
/r/seduction02/01/18 09:20 AM
1

Beat the crap out of nonvaluable inanimate objects (think chopping wood or breaking rocks or somesuch). This worked great for me when I was going through a period of being like that....
/r/askTRP02/01/18 01:35 AM
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