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We don%u2019t currently live together but we plan on moving in soon and making it official. Do you actually want to live with her? My birthday is coming up and this weekend we agreed we%u2019d spend the weekend prior together (my birthday is mid week). You are needy & dependent. Self-sufficient person would have a fun day anyway. She went away this weekend with her family and has come back saying that she forgot she had a family meal to celebrate her brothers wedding (he was married during lockd…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/20 07:16 AM
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TLDR: #1: Anger is a sign of an unmet need. #2: Anger goes away when you can meet your needs. #3: You can't directly shorten your anger phase Fuller version: Anger comes from unmet needs. You are always angry at someone who you think should do something for you but is not doing it. It used to cause action, but people self-domesticated (societies which control anger and violence survived). Actually, all species cope with conflicts either through physical distancing, when one creature can flee (no…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/20 02:38 PM
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what /u/ChossWrestler really meant is that you deserve only what you can get. Which means that you have to identify your needs, and I trust that you don’t need a bond with the family that much as a grown up, you want to be important to someone. And this is certainly something you can get. Good luck!
/r/askMRP11/11/19 06:44 PM
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Anger is caused by unmet needs. Be honest with yourself. What is that you want? What is that you desire most in that particular situation? And what makes you think you deserve it?
/r/askMRP08/11/19 12:45 PM
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For me, the key realisation was that I am playing a victim. I did know how to do better, so I was exploited. Of course, I was not able to verbalise it, I hold a grudge against others. What has helped me, was the realisation that I can change things. That I could change my wife at any given moment. That I can do whatever I fucking want (bearing the consequences). And suddenly, I become much, much calmer. Focus on your life. On whatever you want to be, now or in the future.
/r/askTRP30/10/18 07:03 AM
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The last four months I was trying to get a diagnosis of why I could not walk for more than 10 minutes without paresthesias, and now, I am receiving the treatment for it. Earlier - knees and hips pain caused by improper sitting posture and lack of exercises over the past 10 years and terrible genetics (arthritis and ankylosing spondylitis). No swimming because of sinus issues (intolerance of cold). I cannot count how many times I was denied by doctors to stop any kind of exercise. And diets… do n…
/r/askMRP12/09/18 06:51 PM
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220 lbs. Can you change the mindset?
/r/askMRP11/09/18 05:39 PM
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thank you for that. You really nailed it. And it took me a day to figure this out, and I thought I was honest with myself. My wife threated me like shit in the past, and I accepted it. NMMNG made me think about what value she provides for me and I found there was none. Which was not accurate because she does provide quite a lot of value which I discovered when planning my divorce (and things I would have to take care of), but for some reason I did not reevaluate how I looked at her. Which caused…
/r/askMRP11/09/18 03:22 PM
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Oh, the real reason is quite simple - she wanted to punish me for misbehaving and I can handle this. This does not change the fact my behaviour was far from desired, and I need to improve that. As for the rest - it looks like I am wasting time for thinking instead of doing something more valuable.
/r/askMRP11/09/18 12:02 PM
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If I could analyse that alone I would not have to post here. Imagine where I was a year ago, when I started my journey, and things have improved a lot (from starfish once a month to 3x a week this summer, no more public signs of disrespect, her initiations etc). Cutting out angry phases should actually get more of my attention. That’s like #1 action. Or #2, because #1 should be to be a better leader that communicates with the crew.
/r/askMRP11/09/18 11:40 AM
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I have posted about a year ago. Both 36, me 6”3 21% bf DL 220, used to do crossfit 3x a week but had a hiatus recently due to health problems. No, it was not excuse. She - ages well. Two kids 9 & 4. I earn triple what she does and was definitely chosen as a plow horse - I am in one of those countries where some women can commit to a man becasue Alphas are poor family material.
/r/askMRP11/09/18 11:23 AM
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Fixing life requires multiple initiatives on multiple fronts, while still taking care for wife & kids. Occasionally, when I have more things happening that I can handle, I focus on executing shit and get angry each time anyone tries to interrupt me, especially if that anyone is my wife trying to figure out whether what has been completed could be completed in a better way. There is a certain thing I cannot really figure out whether my wife is questioning my work because that is how her family lo…
/r/askMRP11/09/18 11:18 AM
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Alpha vs Beta is not binary, it is a spectrum. More or less - top 5% has more women it can fuck (true alphas), top 20% has enough of women, bottom 20% (true betas) has very low chances for a woman, and the rest… has to provide something alphas do not want to (money, status, relationship). That’s why women settle with them.
/r/askTRP04/09/18 08:17 AM
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The world is boring, is not it. Welcome to the club. I have come to terms with my personality only recently, it was the most difficult part in my trp/mrp journey so far. There are exactly two things I care about (rising high quality kids & gaining power), and so far I am pretty successful in using them to justify even the most boring activities.
/r/askTRP23/08/18 06:28 AM
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First, ignore people that call this aspect of life ‘autistic’. People who are genetically not that sensitive to dopamine will not understand you. Learn to live with it. Dopamine is a hormone that makes you focus on things that are far from you (in terms of time, distance and other dimensions). It’s not the hormone of happines, it is the hormone of anticipation in case of uncertain situation that might yield interesting rewards. And because most of the time work is predictable (sit and make that …
/r/askTRP22/08/18 12:36 PM
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There is no such thing as “we decided”. You decided? She decided? Be a touch judge here. BTW. The “lack of emotional connection” you’ve experienced is a fallen oneitis, and if you missed it, if you would like to get it back… you have quite a lot of work to do around your mission and frame.
/r/askMRP08/08/18 10:47 AM
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I do not have much more about that. While I am very interested in how apes establish their status, for them it is all about gender dynamics. Humans are a bit different, because for us, the concept of status includes also factors such as reputation, projection of power, power and resources. TRP focuses on gender dynamics, reputation and projection of power (social proof, preselection, AMOG). What is, however, slightly blurred, is the fact that hypergamy (looking up) does not mean just looking at …
/r/TheRedPill12/07/18 08:20 AM
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Sidebar :D. RedPill is actually pretty accurate about building high status like on a very primitive level (be attractive, do not be unattractive). But frame, game and lifting can get you only as far as an individual can get without power, and then you need to build power - I’d say Power by Jeffrey Pfeffer is a good starter.
/r/TheRedPill11/07/18 03:52 PM
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Thinking about all those high-level aspects is pretty much pointless if you know what is the game about (status) and you assume people will do everything they can (according to their perception) increase their perceived social rank in a given moment. With that knowledge, you have to assume people are moral only when they benefit from it. I see no point in analysing a particular set of ‘realities’ of human nature, as those are a function of the environment conditions. Actually, such analysis blur…
/r/TheRedPill11/07/18 09:04 AM
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Humans are just like chimpanzees that invented speech as a non-violent way of solving conflicts, and chimpanzees… take care about social status in the first place. A Male has to fight. He has to challenge his fellows that are of higher status, because only in this way he may finally get access to females and spread his genes. The Male has to risk his life in fight for that domination, and even a short period of being on the top is considered to be a success (offspring). For a female, status is l…
/r/TheRedPill10/07/18 10:26 AM
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School cannot not help, they teach mostly knowledge there. The two most important concepts (Ownership & OI) must be taught at home, by example.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/18 05:26 AM
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I’ve been there: Accept the fact that you are on your own. Nobody will help if you are in the distress. It’s a critical thing, as getting freedom can be …. uhm… too much too handle initially. Be careful, but just enough. Try new things, as it was said by @lastdumra. Bear in mind that confidence comes from doing, so if you were isolated, everything will be challenging in the beginning. Build social skills. I can’t emphasise that enough. Stay away from time wasters (too much drinking/computer game…
/r/askTRP08/06/18 02:05 PM
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this, OP. And I would add that in my case it took a year before I accepted reality and the anger went away, at least to the point I feel generally happy and enthusiastic. You can control only yourself, so do not waste energy of people who do not want that.
/r/askTRP13/04/18 05:58 AM
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Your dad did for you as much as he wanted. Or could. Or both. The thing is that he helped you when he believed it was necessary. You cannot expect more. I can relate to your pain. The thing that you need to understand it that nobody will love you ever in the way you would like to be loved. The image of love/inclusion/family support is a mirage your brain had created in pain. As they say here, mens are disposable. The only person that will ever care about you is you. You are responsible for your …
/r/askTRP04/04/18 04:08 PM
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People are inconsistent and perfectly capable of holding contradictive beliefs, and switch between them depending on a situation. So the dissoncate you are talking about is in fact a realisation that you are inconsistent, and your ego has difficulties with handling that (because you think good about yourself, you think you are coherent). What is more, if you learn something, it stays with you forever (BP thinking), what you can only do is to practice RP until it becomes dominant pattern in your …
/r/askTRP20/03/18 04:01 PM
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Your past posts indicate that you hace worked on KINO/Game and hobby. Which is great. But this one shows that you are her beta bucks. She chose you as a sperm donor and a resource provider, because she was not able to make somebody else to commit. This is why her past is important, and this is why sex is not important for her. This is why she may feel guilty rejecting you (because you are a ‘good/handsome’ man), and even being at your best form, you are still not good enough to give her tingles.…
/r/askMRP02/03/18 12:17 PM
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Social hobby is one that exposes you to many different people from different backgrounds. It may be dancing (almost always), bike riding (if there is a community that does that), cross fit or anything that is non-solitary. You may need to try a couple of things and see what will work for you.
/r/askTRP28/02/18 09:00 AM
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I can talk to people, just struggle to talk to people who literally have nothing in common with me. I read it as ‘Others are so dumb I do not want to talk with them.’. Maybe some of them are, but your beliefs prevent you from finding those who are not. This is a symptom of your ego not being in check, and something you should work on. I know I'm going to succeed Ego might take you down. You already can see that (isolation, enemies & no friends). Nec Hercules contra plures. One way to build a soc…
/r/askTRP28/02/18 08:42 AM
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First of all, congratulations of your 100k. That’s a great achievement. Now the hard part. Pull your head from your ass. Your ego is way too big, you are not stuck, you just feel stuck, because you consider others inferior. Define your mission. Improve your social skills. This is a critical skill that you are apparently lacking - you need to be able to game other people, and you will need this skill at the uni, too, because networking will not happen without that. While the loneliness is just a …
/r/askTRP28/02/18 08:12 AM
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About frame - this is a very complicated term for a really simple concept - for the ability to set direction. You start with choosing your goal/mission/MAP and then ensure that you are meeting them. If you have a strong frame, other people will submit to you and it will be easier for you to achieve your goals. If you have a weak frame, you will be distracted by others and by their not always justifiable needs. About your situation - don’t be a pussy and don’t cheat. Search the sub for demoting t…
/r/askTRP28/02/18 07:51 AM
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Dude, I know what you are talking about. I felt that anger, too. It will go away (but you may have to wait a little for that to happen, something like a year). Learn that you are the only person responsible for you and for your feelings. Work on yourself (especially on new, social hobbies). Little victories make the whole process far easier to accept. The fact is that you are incredibly lucky to have discovered TRP before getting married and having kids.
/r/askTRP27/02/18 07:25 AM
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Wikipedia says that the absence of plough (requiring hard, physical work) is the only predictor of polygamy. That said, women needed betas to provide for them, and those betas would not provide without access to pussy. Of course, this relationship was mutually beneficial, as those betas would not get a chance to fuck otherwise. This was a surprisingly good alignement of interests, which utilised the work potential of betas (80% of male population) which served the entire community. In my country…
/r/askMRP21/02/18 10:25 AM
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Build confidence. Thick accent is sexy if you are sexy (alpha). However, it will be used against you by jelaous competitors, so be alpha enough to make them speak in a way you want.
/r/askTRP05/02/18 08:00 AM
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You are looking for an answer to the wrong question. The right things to do: Initiate more during the day, especially when there is no chances for sex. If there is a chance for sex, and you get hard ‘no’ move to doing other things. Remove your presence. Simply doing sth else (like planning a week, is not enough). During bed time, initiate only after you got enough of positive responses from (1). Otherwise, you have no option to do 2. You will appear butthurt.
/r/askMRP02/02/18 10:17 AM
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In terms of effort, maintaining a relationship is expensive. And maintaining a relationship with a girl who apparently has not got enough of respect to you… I would suggest demoting her to a plate, which should be easy if you have the game at appropriate level and you already have an expiry date (end of school), but let’s be honest here - you can’t bang her without commiting, can you? This means that either you accept your betaishness or she is a waste of time.
/r/askTRP02/02/18 09:06 AM
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because another bloke forced a kiss on her and she couldn't carry on the Relationship old friend [..] manipulates her and gets a single KISS Coincidence? Pattern? One way or another, something is fishy here. all I wanted was to fight she is one of the only girls I can have a decent conversation with, is hot and is willing to be my slut Oneitis. Once I get out and start dominating the real world is when I can start hopping around chick to chick and I know it won't be hard to do at all. For now th…
/r/askTRP02/02/18 07:26 AM
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This is nearly a text book case - possibly ovulating female seeks good genes, and later returns to her commited male, and offers great sex (TMMSLP) asking for forgiveness. Was she proud of sleeping with that guy? There is a chance you have just found out your gf might be a concealed alpha widow, and you are her beta. The problem with boundaries is secondary here to the fact that she sees you as way less alpha than you do. Own this - improve yourself if you can. Or run. Edit 1: a one-time malfunc…
/r/askTRP31/01/18 02:37 PM
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The red pill truth is that women do not love men in the way men love women. There is a very fine line between a woman wanting to have a child with you (desiring you) and wanting to have a child with someone providing to her (which may or may not be you, only commitment is important). The solution is simple - be the person she desires enough. If you are afraid of being a provider - you have some work to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 11:02 AM
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Shit tests are about who has more power. By throwing them, she says ‘I feel you are dominating me, I want my power back.’. Once I recognise this, I cherish because this is a sign of success after many years of BP. And I become ‘amused’ naturally (‘what else is she gonna say? Does she even know it is about power?').
/r/askTRP29/01/18 07:38 AM
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Thank you!
/r/askMRP22/01/18 08:07 AM
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That is actually a hillarious idea :D.
/r/askMRP19/01/18 01:28 PM
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I second fnordsnord - you are not ready for this decision. Children are the source of biggest pain in my life in almost every aspect (time/finances/health/career) and the same time the source of biggest joy (yes, it is very building to see how they develop). In addition to that, small children are addictive like heroine; their smile & scent easies ~4 years which are physically most challenging. The only thing you can be sure - they will force you to stand high on your toes. Said all of that - I …
/r/askTRP11/01/18 08:40 AM
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Dude, you must understand one thing. Marriage in Christianity is considered to be valid if and only if two parties love each other, and both have been able to consciously enter into the marriage. A number of symptoms (age difference, your introversion, short relationship before getting married) shows that you have been probably used. Your wife wanted to get married, not get married with you, and you were not able to see that/question that. Your marriage is probably dead, and probably never was r…
/r/askMRP28/12/17 08:23 AM
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You do understand what a deep shit are you in? As for your question - book time for yourself. Lift 3x in a week, pay in advance, and tell her you have did that and she will take care for kids. Work on frame, and as you improve, you can gradually shift focus.
/r/askMRP15/12/17 12:04 PM
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