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ronin2722/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 09:08 PM
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ronin2722/r/Divorce_Men31/08/23 01:04 PM
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What state? Because my wife did the same thing, but I always had a golden parachutes told to me my whole life...never worry about money, bit then she managed to destroy my relationship with my family after it was filed...so yea 100% f'd. But some lawyers will see how skewed everything is and take their payment from the settlement. Trust me my man you are entities.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/23 04:10 AM
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I know my lawyer is 1 asking for legal fees as my wife also left me broke and has a chunk of money, she also said at least at her firm if/when the retainer runs out not to worry she isn't going to leave me they offer or work with people who offer loans that come out of the settlement. Like in my case its a sure thing I am getting equity in the house possible maintenence and such so I think if you have a solid case and will be getting something they feel safe doing the loan. Its just so dumb to m…
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/23 04:04 PM
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Lol you know what I meant "as", sometimes especially here where you start to get going on a rant the brain is going faster then the fingers can go.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/23 03:55 PM
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100% agree, I didnt get a lawyer at first as it was civil and seemed like we would just do mediation. She got a lawyer when I told her to file since I left her and didn't have money to file, after that she became an evil person worse than I had ever seen. Mediation went out the window I yelled at her lawyer and got myself a contrmp of court for something. She then filed and won sole custody temporarily for now but I doubt I will ever see my house again, only found this out after getting the pape…
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/23 03:53 PM
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I like your thinking 😆 Just sucks because even if insurance gives me full current value I still owe so would only be left with maybe 4k and bad credit now. I am going for maintenance against her in court since makes good money and left me basically broke, which will help but I need a new car like now because insurance as of now is only paying for the rental for like another week. I also like how my soon to be ex had no issue when she lost her diamond in her ring and hadn't been doing the 6 month…
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/23 02:24 PM
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Thanks, I hope so.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/23 01:18 PM
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It will get better, I am still kind of fresh in the process only like 3 months since I left. I did literally the same thing, packed my pup in the car and drove from Colorado to Illinois and am rebuilding. I use my pup as my shining light to keep me going. I got a simple job nothing to be super proud of or make a lot of money, but just focusing on trying to get out there and keep my mind busy helps. The pain will take time and hits will keep coming, crap I totaled my car. Focus on yourself and yo…
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 07:54 PM
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Tell us your story. This has been a life saver for me.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 06:51 PM
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Of course, so 1 was I shut her cell phone off for a day because she was attacking me then not responding, in the papers severed it said we had to keep paying what we had paid, so when her lawyer said I will file you in contempt I said I don't give a S file me in contempt. Then it also became a bigger issue because I had Sprint who Tmobile brought and couldn't remember my pin to get full account access, as it had been like 20 years since making that pin through Sprint...so after arguing on the ph…
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/23 12:05 AM
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I would mad, but this was 100% fault, I backed up because well undisclosed reasons and just punched it, so.safety systems and camera I didnt even see a 30'ish moving truck, I was looking forward thinking I was clear as we hit, lifted the ride, blew put the back window...but you know what for the speed and amount of damage while I made my baby (Durango) got hurt, she took it like a champ it literally was like just falling on a mattress. You couldn't even see where I hit the truck on the lift gate…
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/23 10:16 PM
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Won't always feel like it, but its there...I learned that from all the stories on here...but it will suck for a while. Even talking on here makes such a difference because the stories are all so similar and the emotions are very real and talking to someone who has been in our shoes is far different then a friend just saying yeah I get it etc
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/23 07:20 PM
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I'm roughly 10 weeks separated. Everyday gets easier I promise that. At first I was so lost and down in myself, but as time passes I have even felt bad for her and it's like wait I didn't do anything wrong. My situation was so bad I am the one that left her, our house, my job etc...and yea I am still struggling mostly financially to get back on my feet, but overall I have such a toxic weight lifted off of me. Lost a lot of friends during the marriage this sub reddit has been a massive positive i…
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/23 07:13 PM
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Just roll with it my guy. Life sucks, BUT if he's not a douche yet don't treat him one, ultimately she made the choice. You will always be their dad, as long as he respects them and treats them good just let it happen because honestly it will likely fail. It is the grass is greener syndrome, I doubt it is. So focus on your kids and be civil with her but nothing else, anyone who pulls this crap isn't worth a second thought.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/23 12:43 AM
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Not looking forward to the whole process, but she left me in financial ruin and makes really good money, so I just pray I can get some maintenance and a settlement from our house. It started civil till she got a lawyer and now its turned vicious on her part...no fun but I agree this sub has helped me through some rough times. Its nice to see all the guys band together and support eachother, its also scary to see how similar sonmany stories are.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/23 02:08 PM
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It took a lot of strength, and I know it will still be a lot of suffering...I even ask myself if I regret it, but I can't because if I was driven that far then it was obviously really bad and wasn't going to get better. So now I get to have my stbx make me look like a monster since after she talked to her lawyer she became a monster and all these new stories from her are coming out...so sure the next couple months are going to be hell and really expensive because what started civil has not drast…
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/23 04:33 AM
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Same boat here the loneliness hurts, I miss the companionship, but not her persay because she was terrible to me for years. That's why I left her.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/23 02:04 AM
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When I left my stbx and told her to file I wanted to do mediation as it was civil at that point, we had even talked about trying to make it work. She ended up getting a lawyer and filing and for the first time since I have known her she said it wouldn't work because she was scared of me...I couldn't believe her lawyer was able to manipulate her into not only saying that but actively stepping between us and us possibly making it work. My wife has now done a 180 and its getting petty and bitter so…
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/23 10:24 PM
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In the same boat my guy, I miss the companionship, being able to watch shows together or wake up and just talk in bed. We will get this though. I had to leave amd I think that pissed her off because now it went from civil where I thought we would mediate and then she got a lawyer and now she has turned I into such a petty bitter person, so I certainly don't miss that version of her, or the old one honestly. Hang in there.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/23 04:14 PM
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Its hard I had to walk away from my job, I am struggling so bad financially right now. It seemed like it was going to be civil at first then she talked to a lawyer and now she's turned into a monster, worse then she was before when I decided I had to leave and for now leave everything behind. All my crap minus my clothes, computers and my pup are all back in Colorado and I'm in Illinois now, so thats going to be another battle to get it all but currently I can't even pay my bills. I just got a n…
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/23 09:52 PM
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My stbx and I were civil, then she got a lawyer and it all changed for the worst. So now we are both blowing a ton to just make the lawyers richer.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/23 07:42 PM
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Just reversed, I left our house in Colorado to come back to Illinois so no RO needed but the fact she said it shocked me, I filed for maintenance so we will see how that goes...and no kids. But yes my story is so similar to so many on here. I think maybe she is mad/embarrassed that I left her...but how does that justify becoming a monster overnight. Like I said it was civil till she got a lawyer and the only one making pit here is the lawyers. She doesn't want me to get money but she will pay 10…
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/23 04:51 PM
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Totally agree...this outlet has been a life saver. My wife and I were being civil separating, then she got a lawyer and all off a sudden she said she was "scared" of me...wtf she's never said that and while we have agrued there was never violence on my part. So now its turning into a court battle that will probably cost us 10s of thousands for no reason. I don't recognize her anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/23 03:53 PM
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Fight for whats yours. My stbx was the bread winner and is trying to drag me thru the coals in our settlement, but what the court will learn when we have our initial meeting is that for a couple years my wife was in pain and ended up needing surgery after they finally figured it out, so for those years I was essentially a care taker I did 95% of the shopping, cooking, cleaning and chores, and yard work...so yea she made more but I waited on her hand and foot so I am entitled to the marital prope…
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/23 03:10 PM
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Lol you did the right thing. My stbx didn't cheat, I left her, I don't miss her I miss the companionship.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/23 03:04 PM
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Not an answer to your question, but one thing I learned here is none of us are bitches, we put up with all the abuse to try and honor our vows while they walked all over us, treated us however they wanted and always made us out to be the bad guy. No more, we get up off our knee we pull the knife from our back and we stand tall and we fight and we win.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/23 02:53 PM
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Yea get her...attack my guy. Its far too long we deal with their bs...ms stbx agreed to lend me money for bills since she left me a financial wreck...then after she got a lawyer she contested it and all the charges got kicked and I am sure there will be late fees too...Im getting my lawyer in a week ish and I emailed her and her lawyer I am going after her for fraud. She agreed to pay I even have an email where she said so...we were civil till she got a lawyer, even talked about working things o…
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/23 02:43 PM
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Bro you and I have almost the same story, I don't accept I am a chump anymore. I do accept my stbx was a terrible person and cut me down and mentally and emotionally abused me for years...I won't let her play the victim when I was the one suffering. So many red flags like you especially the counselor, went once the counselor agreed with almost all my points so then wy stbx said she was unprofessional and we never went back. What really pisses me off is we were going to end things civilly, then s…
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/23 01:36 PM
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The loneliness sucks. I dont miss her I miss a companion.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/23 01:23 PM
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We got you bro, dm if you want to talk. I'm just going through the process and ever since my stbx got a lawyer it went from civil to hostile, I even told her lawyer to essentially f off...but the loneliness has been the hardest part. Since I started dating I have always had someone else, and the not having someone to just talk to or say goodmorning/goodnight sucks. I have a few friends but the female ones are all married or dating and talking to a girl is far different then a guy. So I'm here if…
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/23 01:16 PM
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Stay strong bro, just starting my s show and it sucks, I haven't cried more in years. Its so hard and I don't hate her, but when she got a lawyer she became a new person and that person I hate.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 05:19 PM
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Omg run. Shes way out of line
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 05:07 PM
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I agree with you to a point. My stbx were going to part amicably, then she got a lawyer and wors like I am scared of you came up, I have NEVER been angry or physical to her, so it shows me they are planning something, that's not okay in my book. So if she was drowning I would save her because I don't hate her, but thats really messed up.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 04:56 PM
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Move on my guy, she spread her legs you need to leave.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 04:50 PM
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Depends how big of a b the stbx is, my first one yes I had 2 lol...though the first one was because a difference of parenting her baby from another daddy, was quick we decided to do it civility and it was fast as f. The c**t now I left it was civility, then she got a lawyer and she turned into a nightmare and I feel this is going to be dragged out We have over 200k equity in the house and since she is the bread winner she is trying to cut me out completely. But she was in pain for years before g…
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 03:25 PM
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Take care of you my guy, I used to be ashamed and embarrassed but mental health is no joke.DM me if you want to talk.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 03:11 PM
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You are in a better spot then me. I have zero family. But some very close friends. I Always told myself I'd rather have 4 quarters then 100 pennies. My stbx left me financially ruined, and last night my guy who is not wealthy by any means said he will pay for my lawyer.. now by law I am entitled to ask for legal and lawyer fees, but that might take time. The fact he did this made me cry like a baby. I'm done being embarrassed we have all been abused and treated like garbage no matter our sacrifi…
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 02:35 PM
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My guy this place has made me feel so much better even while going through hell. I left a 4600sqft house in Colorado and am sleeping on an air mattress at my best friend and his families house...embarrassing as can be, but what I learned going through this is you need to take care or you, I dont have kids but I am working on my mental health. So don't worry about child support money is just money, THOUGH I do think when you pay child support they should have to provide recipients to prove it was…
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 02:15 PM
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Bro your good, let's talk, dm me
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/23 02:08 PM
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Never let them see you sweat
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/23 02:07 PM
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Im here bro, dm me if you want to talk and be real
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/23 02:06 PM
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She got so mad when I shut down, but she made me feel less than human.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/23 02:02 PM
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I agree, just starting my bs journey for divorce, and this has been such a great place to feel better, keep doing you my guy. Never let them see you sweat. Together we are strong
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/23 01:29 PM
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Bro, I dont have kids, but am going thru hell hell right now too. Don't ever give up, don't let them win and never let them you see you you sweat. We got this my guy!
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/23 12:44 PM
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Same here, I am working and addressing my MH issues, but she thinks she's always right and thats why I finally had to leave. If someone says something she doesn't want to hear she becomes combative and puts them down. A Dr said she could lose a few pounds if she was in pain and worried about her body, so got offended and never went back. I have used a financial account that has done our families finances since before I could walk and she had an issue with him so 3 years ago we stopped using...on…
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 03:07 AM
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Don't know you, couldn't pick you out in a line up...but just did 10 and did that not feel amazing. We need help and support and that mental connection we just had via words, made my day 10x better...because all of us guys/bros whatever we know we got each together. That's why we do our head nod out in public, hey bro...not going to punch you bro lol
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 05:58 PM
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I'm doing some yard work and while I'm not in bad shape I can't say last time I did pushups...but in 30 minutes I will do 10 if you can great lets just get solidarity going for all of us. Because I left my wife and I still know in the courts eyes I am the bad guy ...really I left for multiple types of abuse but for us it is an uphill battle. So for me 1:15 my time I'm doing 10 push-ups as a sign we matter. And yes you six pack 2% fat a holes I could do more, this is just me showing support.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 05:47 PM
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Bro, during my marriage I went on meds for high blood pressure, anxiety, and depression. I even got stress rashes that went away when I left. Dont fear meds if they help. Also as someone who has mental health issues, alot of them from the bad marriage I tried to make work...are NOT a weakness. Bad eye sight and needing glasses doesn't define you...for me mental health just means my mind is blurry at times because it's trying to process so much. I'm done letting her beat me down. We got this king…
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 05:36 PM
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I know how hard that is, I am doing my best to cut off my stbx, then the other day she sent an Instagram with a video about marriage and relationships, I said did you send this, she said no...it must have been an accident. So she opened insta clicked on me clicked on message and put a link that references marriage/relationships...ooookkkaaayy she says she hates and is done, but it feels like I finally get in the elevator hit the button to go up and feel better and last minute shes like hold the …
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 05:17 PM
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What is that?
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 03:17 PM
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I have posted my story a lot, so here's the quick version. I left my wife, she left me financially screwed, talked civilly about her helping me with bills for a few months so I could get a new job and get on my feet, she talked to a lawyer when I told her to file, not only did her helping me go out the window she got a new phone didn't give me the number but per our paperwork we have to pay what we were paying pre filing so I have to pay for her old phone she doesn't use anymore, asked like 15 t…
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 12:43 PM
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Just don't cry when you ride, you need to see. But yea I have balled like a baby over this situation and I am the one that left her...that doesn't change the emotions or the damage. All the sacrifices I made thinking she loves me I need to honor my vows and stick in there...just to realize the last couple years she just tore me down so bad I felt less than human. Also now she got a lawyer and her whole wording and outlook has done a 180, so civility is gone and they are out for blood, there will…
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 12:30 PM
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I don't have kids, but going through all this bs in my life right now I went from a 4600sgft house to sleeping on an air mattress at my best friends (of almost 30 yrs) house, its embarrassing and humbling. But I am the God father to one of his daughters and they both just call me uncle "ronin"...(but my actual name)...since I am just going through this and the stbx has made my life hell, they have seen a grown man cry and rage and I know I should have been better about it. Point is one day I los…
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 12:06 PM
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Lost my pride long ago, but even the court lady saying perfect on my filing was a small win I really needed.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 10:36 PM
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That's what I'm going for too!
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 03:37 PM
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I did basically the same I left her, but I let her file I'm not spending time or money on that, because the law is what it is so in the end we will just have to go with what the judge says. I'd rather mediate and save the boat loads of money lawyers will cost...but my stbx tends to believe what people tell her when it is what they want to hear, and since she talked to and got a lawyer she apparently has been convinced the lawyer will work some magic to get her more than she is entitled to. They …
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 04:49 AM
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Your never alone. I just started going through my divorce and I lost contact with almost all my friends, but being able to post here and read posts and comment and see others in similar situations has been a great help to my mindset. So keep talking here and reading and sharing. We are all in the se boat, different details but overall we get where eachother are coming from. So keep your head up my guy, we all know guys get screwed in these situations regardless of the facts so we need to stick t…
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 03:36 AM
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I had the same thoughts as I am going through this all recently, but I finally had a hard talk with myself and I came to the conclusion that I'm not letting her win, I'm not letting her make me do something stupid where I will suffer even more. I get mad, sad, lonely...and yea I'm pissed...even though I am the one that left it was after years of mental, verbal and emotional abuse. I told myself get off your knee pull the knife out of your back and you show her who really is in control, I will no…
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 02:09 AM
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Do not give her that power...I'm going through divorce right now and trust me I had those thoughts...but after some real soul searching and reaching out on places like this to share and learn from others, I am getting of my knee pulling the knife out of my back and standing tall and I am not letting her determine my destiny. Life sucks but it will get better, I know it doesn't seem like it, I am sad and lonely and run thru so much garbage in my head, but I made a choice that she will not be the …
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 11:27 PM
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Oh my stbx said horrible things, thats what finally made me leave. She would also say COMPLETELY untrue stuff just to try and hurt me...so we went to counseling once, the counselor agreed with most of my issues at which point we leave and my stbx said the counselor did not know what she was talking about or how to do her job and was unprofessional, so we never went back. So no happily ever after here my guy, sorry.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 10:03 PM
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Personally for me I had already been married once and am not religious so its just paperwork BUT my stbx had never been married and always wanted to be so I only did it for her.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 09:56 PM
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I just miss a companion to talk to and text etc, I would be fine just finding a single female friend to be able to talk with or go hike with or whatever, but I'm not looking to date anytime soon I just want to help rid myself of the loneliness which only makes me think about trying to connect with my stbx which I honestly don't want...I've just never been alone and the silence is defining
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 09:43 PM
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Awesome to hear! Also well said, I feel the same I love my stbx but I do not miss her. I miss my house and the stability of life and having someone to talk to daily, but 9nce I financially get back on my feet I know I will never contact her again. I have considered trying to get her to go to a mediator though because the cost of lawyers and court and how long its dragged out is SUCH a waste of money, even though she got a lawyer I have not yet...she thinks her lawyer is going to save her all thi…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 09:05 PM
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I left just over a month ago but I agree how can someone that said they loved me not long ago do a complete 180 and be so heartless now, and honestly I think she enjoys the suffering I am going through...but we will get through this and we will show them they are not in control and didn't treat us right. Mine acts like she did everything and I am sure she is learning with everyday that passes she did not. I just want to focus on myself and meet someone (female) to talk to and just share stories …
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 09:00 PM
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Never give up and never let them see you sweat!
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 08:48 PM
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Same boat my stbx makes great money and was generous and was going to help float me a few months till I got a new job THEN she talked to a lawyer and suddenly that all changed and shes trying to basically destroy me now...I will always care about her but after seeing how see turned 180 after talking to the lawyer and is okay watching me suffer...thats not who I knew before or married. Tables turn I would never do that to her, shes basically okay with causing me harm and I can't accept that. I kn…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 08:15 PM
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Same with my ex, I miss having her to talk to more then I miss having sex with her...the reason I left is she became just such a bad toxic person that while she is naturally pretty I didn't find her attractive anymore. Didn't want to touch her not even hold her hand...she was so bad to me she became ugly to me inside and out.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 07:58 PM
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I feel ya. Lost contact with almost all my friends during my marriage, and now I just don't have interest to put in any effort. I do miss having someone though, coming home and being able to talk or to send a text and chat. Thats why this chat group has been really helpful just to talk about my situation and read others in similar situations. It helps to keep my mind off my current situation but it does get lonely at times. Obviously talking to a female is different and I do miss that but all th…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 07:32 PM
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Stay strong, you control your dark passenger not the other way around. I too have demons and severe depression, and I hit a real low when I left my wife...it was bad, but then I said I am not letting her win and take me down. I am going to get off my knee, take the knife out of my back and fight until I win and I feel joy not pain. I'm not going to pretend I can give it a time limit but I am not giving up at any cost. I/you are too good to do that. Stay strong and keep your head up, things will …
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 07:06 PM
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Yea I'm in the 10% I left her and decided I had enough of the toxicity and mental abuse...and let me tell you I think that REALLY pissed her off, because it was somewhat civil until she talked to her lawyer and now they are basically out to destroy at every turn.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 06:56 PM
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I'm in the se boat, currently financially wrecked and will take a while to get back on track and I can't get any equity or sell anything until after the divorce is final. I really want to find someone just to be able to be around and talk to, the loneliness has been the hardest because especially when I am alone I get into my own head then start thinking oh I miss her this and that but in reality I don't I just miss having someone. I also can't tell you the number of times we would get into it a…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 06:53 PM
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You are not kidding, my wife and I had talked about maybe trying to make it work...I said just file, but we were still civil. Then she talks to her lawyer and files and next thing I know she's doing a complete 180 in how she talks to me and addresses things. She told me she didn't want me living in our house in the guest room because she was scared of me...WTF did her lawyer tell her to say that for the first time in our relationship she said I scared her?!? Even when we did argue I barely raise…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 06:19 PM
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I am going through this currently, just left my wife a month ago and the mental game in my head has been really hard to deal with. I don't have a magic fix currently, but I will say being in here and talking and reading others similar stories has helped me to start feeling like I am not out of control. Down but certainly not out and I need to get her out of my head. I hate this process is going to take so long because that keeps us having to talk and or interact even if its just once we start ha…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 06:12 PM
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If you are serious about trying to make it work counseling is a must. Don't forget all the bad of the past though it doesn't just go away. I really wish I could try to make my marriage work but after just a month apart I realize that it just won't there were way to many red flags I ignored and I in my heart of hearts do not see them magically going away. I think for me the loneliness is the only reason I wished we tried again, I have always been with someone and the quite time just gives me time…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 06:05 PM
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I hear you and totally understand how much it sucks. You will get through it, just don't bottle up talk as often as you need. I chose to leave and am just starting the process of the divorce but I totally get what you mean I sit around especially when alone and think is this just a nightmare/dream. But in the short time in this chat group I already am starting to feel better and slowly feel like a human again. It will take time a lot of time I know, but we can't give up. I also get what you mean…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 05:51 PM
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Now that I left and we are starting the divorce process she is accusing me of planning for this divorce since we got married. I had a great job a nice house and lived alone and could do anything I wanted anytime. Why in the hell would I get married just to get divorced, because even though I chose to leave let me tell you this still sucks and is really hard and a struggle getting through the day. Once I get a new job and can actually catch up on my bills and have at least that going it will be m…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 05:10 PM
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I got so tired of voicing my opinion just to have her try to turn it around on me and act like the victim. I am lucky I don't have kids because I was able to leave just over a month ago and move back across the country. Granted I left an amazing house and job and 95% of my stuff back there, but I can get my stuff eventually. I actually think it really pissed her off that I left her, but I couldn't take the mental abuse anymore, it was leading me to a very dark place and I hadn't been happy in pr…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 04:51 PM
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Just starting my divorce process, I can't wait until I get on my feet and get my own place because 90% of the furniture, kitchen appliances, pots, pans, knives etc back at my house are all pre marital assets. Which means when the divorce is finalized I will be packing all that up and leaving her with essentially an empty house...and even stuff I don't want Im just going to throw out. Shes going for the throat in this divorce, maybe she's extra pissed since I left her but I'm not giving her anyth…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 04:40 PM
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Thanks my guy. Yea applied for a new job second interview tomorrow, first interview she asked whats something you want to or need to work on, I said my mental health. Too long I put everyone else first...not anymore. Thanks for the words they mean a lot even if I don't personally know you. Worst part is I went across the country so when this is all done I have to go back and get all my shit, but I'll cross that when I get there. I've told friends I embrace "one step at a time, regardless I will …
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 01:12 AM
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I plan on it, but she literally left me financially screwed...ironically she lost her diamond from her ring like 8-9 months ago and of course hadn't been doing the 6 month check ups so the jewler didn't replace it free, and guess what we up sized and upgraded the quality...yay me. So when I reply to the paperwork she filed when I told her just file one of the things I am requesting is legal fees, because that comes from any marital assets we acquired during our marriage. She probably won't be ha…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 01:00 AM
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