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Dating apps usage peaked in 2016, now they just are. I went on tons of online dates and it's fun for awhile, but easy dates and hookups gets old after awhile, dating apps are mainly hookup culture on crack. Getting women on dates and back to your place can't be any easier than dating apps when your profile matches with women you'd like to take out. By now, women realize their dream man soulmate doesn't exist and had to be reasonable to find a man, or gave up. Then the majority of men who couldn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 06:36 AM
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Attractive women get hot guys and handsome rich guys they wouldn't be able to find otherwise, and get a free night out for it. Being hot on a dating app is incredible, you match insane and guys shower you with compliments. The only crappy part is no matter how hot the girl is she's still not likely to get a boyfriend off the app, because she's attractive she dates the most desirable men that exist in her area that get attractive girls whenever they want like water. So when a hot girl dates, ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 05:14 AM
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You can just say hi to people it’s okay. If you’re not getting choosing signals or she acts annoyed just try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 04:20 AM
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Oh yea dating apps across the board are 70/30. Aside from Hinge they seem to be getting worse I thin.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 07:57 PM
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It's probably 70/30 across all men. Women do have some preferences. On average they swipe right 1 in 20 times. 30% seems like a lot of guys, I know myself and 3 other guys that match a lot and get lots of dates of dating apps, all other guys even if they're handsome got a handful of dates at most, some just 1 or 2. I think it's 30% of men that will get at least one date.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 07:45 PM
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Yes guys who don't get girls have ridiculous standards and that's why they always alone they claim, until one alright girl wants him and he says she has an amazing personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 06:50 PM
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Women in general don't care about age, they care about whether you're desirable or not. Most women won't find 90% of guys their exact age desirable, what's the difference if she excludes 95% of men who are older. When I was 16 I worked at KFC. There were girls that were teenagers that also worked there. There was 2 guys that would come in their 40s that they all thought were so hot and would openly talk about wanting to have sex with him. Women just care if you're attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 06:35 PM
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The problem is women don't even see most men. They ignore 95% of them on dating apps. They don't understand they are all doing this as a collective and have more narrow preferences for men than men do for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 06:15 PM
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Women act virtuous and innocent online and around people they don't know. Women care about their self image they aren't allowed to be as blunt as men and not get judged, you can't really pay any attention to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 05:57 PM
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Whenever you think something about women that you think is a lie just ask, "what would a man do in this situation?" Women are very much like men, they are both homo sapiens with similar desires. Have you ever had an ugly or unattractive woman that treats you so nice, you know would want to go on a date, probably be your girlfriend. This happens to women at a near constant rate, on the daily. The women are not interested in him, women are picky because they can afford to be, and still get every o…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 05:14 PM
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I'm not aware of the minimum wage drug dealers. The ones I know have a decent apartment or crappy house with a car. They are gregarious or sly, cool social guys. That also usually have some looks. Then they get a sexy girlfriend. You can be ugly and sell coke and have a bunch of coke whores that will suck you dry for free coke, I've seen that many times too. Most of the time it's a combination of attractive traits that you don't think women should go for, but they do. I've seen men worship toxic…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 04:53 PM
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Drug dealers are often charismatic and convincing salesmen, they also usually have expendable income. They got a look you're not seeing that women find attractive. That happens all the time, women see something in men other men don't see. The attractive women on your arm determine your SMV/RMV no one else can do that. Try being an ugly socially awkward drug dealer, it's not going to work with women and most drug dealers aren't like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 04:38 PM
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If you want to get girls interested be mysterious, hot and cold, not needy, that's the basic guide for picking up women. As far as being a toxic prick, you're talking about guys that already got the girl wrapped around his finger or is attractive to women. I hear guys all the time, what's so special about him, he's not good looking not better than me, he's a jerk, he's abusive that's what women go for. Women don't chase toxic men, they chase desirable ones. What's special about that guy is that …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 04:22 PM
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I don't know why it's hard to believe being attractive transcends racial preferences and why you need a study on it, but okay. We know there's a slightly higher percentage of euro descent men that have it a bit easier in the dating market, that's all it is. Still, the majority of 80% of white guys are not considered instantly physically desirable to all women. If you want to date, you need to be desirable, that's not a skin color or racial phenotype.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 03:09 PM
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Obese, short, not masculine, and low wage men are of low status. For a woman it's just don't be fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 03:06 PM
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Young women are looking for attractive men, period. Everyone has racial preferences, until an attractive whatever phenotype or color is wanting them. I'm not into asian background women in general, but I've made some exceptions when I think they're attractive. Women do the same. One of my asian guy friends is tall and buff, he married a hot blonde.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 03:01 PM
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I know I said it's harder, but if you're attractive all those racial boundaries immediately shatter. Being of euro descent makes it easier to get people of other backgrounds, but it's not like 80% of white guys are just so desirable to women because they're white. Present to the women an attractive black or whatever man and they won't even consider some average white guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 02:57 PM
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All racial phenotype of guys can get any racial background of girl. If he's attractive. Asian guys act like they are so discriminated against, then they can get the billions of asian women, and for another race of woman it's just harder. I know attractive black, indian, persian, asian guys that get with hot blondes with big boobs like it's nothing, but they are good looking cool guys. It's only less difficult if you're euro descent guy, most white guys can't get hot blondes with big boobs either…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 02:52 PM
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I don't like fit women, I don't think it's a good look to be so lean and have a gym body as a girl. Having a hard woman is a turn off, I don't want muscle definition on a woman. I just like natural slender, to 30lbs overweight thick with a curve. The only guys I know so into gym body girls are gym guys. Most guys don't care, they just don't want an obese woman, because she's of low status and doesn't look attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 02:48 PM
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They need to get more attractive, get their own place, and get a slump buster to get back in the game. Some guys just want a beautiful woman to be set on their lap and that doesn't happen unless the guy is very attractive. Some guys just wait for some woman to come in proximity and she can build up attraction over time which is how a lot of guys end up with a woman, which is what you're saying it's too much rejection to overcome. Casual dating is for desirable men and hypergamous women who are u…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 02:43 PM
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When a guy is lonely as a self inflicted problem many times his standards are too high. He won't accept below average women. I know a few of these guys, they are in shape, they make money, they got a nice place. They turn women off and aren't good with them. I don't know what's wrong but women call them unattractive in the face, but I can't see it must be some female gaze thing. Then they think they deserve a beautiful woman and just get stuck lonely. Other half of the time, they are just ugly, …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 02:38 PM
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I'm handsome and look like I'm in my 30s, women in their 20s hit on me all the time. Even college age sometimes. It's amazing that women can never frame a reference, most women don't want 85% of the guys their own age. When that number rises probably 7% to 92% for men over 40 they act like they are opposed to age gap relationships. Women are against them until someone attractive is around. I have 3 guy friends in their 40s that are magnets for girls in their 20s, the really hot ones. The first r…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 02:26 PM
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The guys don't frame it as that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 02:22 PM
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In most cases yes, and they do. They're getting with guys they want or can provide them with things.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 02:22 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 02:04 AM
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What's happened has happened, what you're saying is just stay blue pill, which will make your situation worse. There was a destruction of the middle class, social media, and dating apps and women who can are more relationship focused to get into the men of looks and status. Women got 10x the options of before, every single man in a 50 mile radius can be theirs for a date. Nearly every attractive girl has an online persona selling herself, then guys want her attention with no effort. I got a divo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 10:06 PM
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This is more like a capitalist narrative list. People seek some of this, but more simple life, peace. People in general are more meek than assertive. If you go after that list, you're going to be facing a lot stress and risk that most people don't want to deal with. People just say they want things they really don't. It's like owning a business, traveling the world, most people don't pursue it much, just fine with getting by.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 07:56 PM
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You'd have to write a lot in a comment to explain all that. Natural human desire of seeking fulfillment and happiness, keeps us making babies and species alive.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 07:50 PM
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All women want tall, strong, fit, beautiful men, that make lots of money, and have an above average size penis. Women get feelings lust, envy, greed, and pride from high value attractive men. Everyone is shallow, time to wake up from online virtue signal world.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 07:16 PM
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Guys want power, respect, make money, few great friends, affection from beautiful women, fall in love with one, then have a family, enjoy their kids. Have a bunch of fun along the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 06:55 PM
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A very attractive woman who's way into you provides lust, envy, and pride. Guys are super into pretty girls, not sure if you got the memo.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 06:50 PM
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I've never met a guy that could easily date hot women with jobs in their mid 20s that didn't. I've never seen a guy say, I'm tired of all of these young gorgeous women that look like swimsuit models I've been dating, I'm going to settle down with an average looking woman with a good career.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 06:37 PM
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Some guys are, they just don't take it as serious as women, they are fine with a mid woman that's successful with a career. They don't get the hype of desiring sexually attractive women. Hot guys also date down in looks most often I've seen, they want the woman to provide more for him, he has the looks so he wants cash in with a more full package woman like pretty girls. More often guys want a girl with beautiful genetics, so he can have adorable kids and have a woman he's crazy about. Having a …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 06:24 PM
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The female edging bulding up a bunch of small to the big one I've been told that's made up many times. The gushing need a big towel, many women say give me a break romeo that never happened, they never heard of anything like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 05:23 PM
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I've seen no correlation in anything with orgasms and intensity of sex with relationship. The woman I had the most incredible sex with and she said I was the best by far, cheated on me with a bunch of guys. 2 girlfriends I could barely get to achieve orgasm were obsessed with me and would never cheat, and would want to give me orgasms whenever I asked, these were the 2 hottest women I've ever been with, so beauty has no correlation. I had one girl that I could get moaning gushing orgasms all the…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 05:01 PM
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There's definitely a big element of trying too hard to get her to achieve orgasm, she thinks you're needy and a beta. You need to act dominate and get her to give you affection as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 04:56 PM
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Because whenever I've explained all the female orgasms I've seen while having sex, no woman has ever believed this list of all these types of orgasms. They think I'm making it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 04:53 PM
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Female orgasms are so highly varied it's like a myth. Here's all the types I've seen. - Most general female orgasm is internal stimulation and clit rubbing, women wring their toes and grit their teeth, slight discharge and tightness. This seems to be most like a male orgasm. - Multiple orgasms is 2 ways, smaller build up orgasms to the big one. The other multiple main orgasms and decreasing to smaller. The female edging smaller orgasms to the buildup big one is the most intense orgasm I've ever …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 04:49 PM
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I dislike lesbian porn, I have no frame of reference or desire to watch 2 women have sex. Straight porn is mainly POV based for the guy, so it's easy to fantasize that's you in there. If you've done VR porn it's that on another level, they basically put you in the scene as the guy and you can look around.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 03:03 PM
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You're generally going to have to be above average looking to noticeably attractive woman to get the advantage. Guys online just give attractive women money. I had a girlfriend making $10-20k/mo just on insta and snapchat. She'd go to the mall and have 30 guys she never met before buying her the same thing. Guys would want to video call her constantly and it cost $30/min. She said she had a bill dozens of guys would pay for it. It's actually insane, and the guys who follow her aren't that weird …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 02:46 PM
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It's guess it's half of it, there's constant questions online by men about it. It's single women trying to get the best guy they can get. Men date down for easy casual access, women oblige to the chance. Women in their 20s have a ton of status and opportunities that men in their 20s don't. You could write it 1000 different ways or just open your eyes, somehow people won't believe it even though the majority of single men not getting dates or barely getting them makes no sense other than that. I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 10:07 PM
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You're not telling women, "don't use their youth and beauty to potentially cash in bigger prizes," they're going to, there's no stopping them. Most women with any assets of beauty wants to date, experience lust, and explore hypergamy. This is why guys in their 30s and 40s like myself date women early to mid 20s. You don't want the picked over apples women, the women trying to settle more quickly, that have gave up on the top men (who don't even want to date her now). It's not a great situation t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 09:51 PM
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Sure, women got outlets online if they want to date around. They get lured in by that if they are those types.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 09:33 PM
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20+ years ago it was more 70/30 average guys didn't get random dates and hookups, you had to be attractive then too. Real life today is 80/20, online is 90/10. There's a time constraint for men to be able to run through temporary non-exclusive relationships with women. Most single guys can't handle more than 2 girls at the same time and work.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 09:16 PM
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You have to imagine as a guy and flip it, let's say went on 100 or so dates with women clearly more beautiful than you. The drinks and food was paid for, the women have all this lust for you. Then you had 40 flings with attractive women, while being shared by her with other men. The women didn't want you for a relationship, just get with you once or few weeks and move on. Then in your 30s you had to marry some average looking girl, pretend you love it and it's all you ever wanted to preserve you…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 09:11 PM
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The majority of women can get used for company and sex temporarily with men out of their league, that's the big advantage. Which for guys that would be a dream world, but guys can't do that with any level of consistency. If you want to know what dating women are doing, it's trying to get with desirable men. It almost always fails for a relationship and then they meet a regular guy and give him a chance, or fall for him over time due to proximity. Do men ever sit around and say, "why can't I date…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 08:57 PM
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Women just want what they want and that's attractive men. It's really the same as men, but with some slight variations. No one wants to date someone average looking with an average life, men or women, even if they are average themselves. Eventually you end up with someone because you want more out of life from a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 08:01 PM
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Women are simply responding to guys they think are good looking and have fun lives. Nice guy/bad boy is like arguing at air and is just nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:33 PM
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Men going to another country to find women and potential wives is getting pretty common, I'm seeing it from my friend group and they get cute girls in America. Women and jealous men are not going to like it if you're going to Colombia or wherever and getting cute dates. Guys don't like it when you do it in America. I've been to Colombia 3 times it's fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:30 PM
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There's billions of women and most got a guy or two. Instagram has every cute chick imaginable in your area the single ones go on dates. Online dating is easy for company and affection from attractive women if you got a good profile. When you walk outside and see girls, they desire men. It's not pathetic at all to hit them up and talk to them. If a girl likes what they are looking at and likes you, they're easy they'll prob hookup and many will be down for a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:25 PM
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Because it's a grand insight that she will never be happy. Many women are would go to a courthouse with a band because she loves you. I have friends who have done that and they are still together after a decade and happy. If you got her an expensive ring and a trip, and she also needs a grand proposal, she don't love you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 08:50 PM
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Hit the nail on the head. Nothing a blue piller hates more is you date.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 08:19 PM
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If you bring in a ring that's 1-2 months your salary and you have a trip planned to celebrate after. Then wake her up to propose or just randomly propose on your knee and she looks disappointed or says no, break up. It'll be hard, but you really have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 08:15 PM
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This is why it's hard to get the first girl when you're single, because you can't help but act thirsty when you haven't had a woman in months. Women will smell any hint of desperation on you and get turned off. Then you get one girl, having 3 girls now is easy, because you're indifferent to having her you're just casually lusting and hanging with her. Women get turned on when they know you don't need her, they will seek your validation. Women's attraction for a man is driven by her concept of ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:52 PM
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Dating apps are an ongoing discussion, because if you can get it working, it is one of the most fun times you're ever going to have as a guy. Hooking up for a guy will never get any easier than swiping, setting a date, having a conversation somewhere, then getting affection. It also removes all the rejection you have to face in person from hitting on random women. For women, they love it at first, but if they just keep on picking the top option it'll likely never work out for a long term relatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 09:05 PM
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It’s an amazing and inspiring story, from rags to riches and a modeling contract.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 01:40 AM
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Do you know the story of Jeremy Meeks? He’s the male Cinderella. From violent felon to being with a billionaire princess.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 12:55 AM
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If you’re good looking enough it isn’t going to matter, having status makes you more attractive to all women. I can’t explain it much more than I already did. My gf and couple of her friends see a hot 40+ guy and they check him out like he’s the hottest guy possible, then a total chad muscle guy their age is sitting next to them and they don’t care. These women don’t have any daddy issues as far as I’m aware. Some young women are like that, and most others just think attractive is attractive and…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 06:22 PM
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No woman likes a loser regardless of age, but they aren’t asking for anything either. They want to have sex with a guy that looks good but they are older, some young women are turned on more by an older man who looks good, than a hot buff guy their age. It’s a preference, or sometimes they’re curious to see what it’s like to be with an older man. The 15+ years younger women I dated want to hang at your place and eat your food, they’re not going to ask for anything because they know you don’t wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 06:06 PM
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Half the time the young women just want to hookup with an older man, it turns them on, but don’t want a relationship. Like a young guy lusting for a milf. The other half the time they just want a relationship like any other woman. Sometimes they are a sugar baby and they will let you know and you just decline. This sub wants to talk a lot about age gap relationships, it’s a normal not uncommon thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:54 PM
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Miami, Phoenix, and LA are very popular places where younger women date older men. It’s so normal no one bats an eye at it unless the guy is 40 years older. I know guys in their 50s that have great bodies, full head of hair, cool fun successful guys that get hot girlfriends legitimately in their early 20s, not a sugar daddy situation at all. I could date only college girls if I wanted to and have a bunch, I prefer women 24-28.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:29 PM
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I think this is vastly underreported depending upon what city you are in. If I open a dating app I get the most matches and attention from women 18-26 by far. They also are the ones that are the most likely that want to hookup. My girlfriend has a ton of friends that I would classify as hot chicks, and she’s in mid 20s they all are interested in 35+ men. Not exclusively, but they wouldn’t turn down any attractive 40 year old man just because of his age. If you’re good looking and live a nice lif…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:19 PM
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Sex is one of the most abundant resources, especially if you’re marginally attractive and will do anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 07:57 PM
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I’ve listened to lot of red pill, I’ve never heard one talking head or words indicating you should marry a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 10:23 PM
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The Red Pill goal is to make money, get buff. Sleep with 50+ beautiful women, then pick his favorite. Then have a wife and family. If you accomplish this, you’re mocked by jealous people relentlessly. If you haven’t done this yet and want to, then you’re mocked by women and all men who don’t have that goal, or just never had the opportunity. Hating red pill is mostly about jealousy of a man dreaming about looking good, having money, and choosing his ideal wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 08:59 PM
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If you develop a strong looking upper body, gym helps. Will it push you over the edge that you’ll get a bunch of dates, 30% chance if you were fat before too it will. Women will never understand how you have to fire on all cylinders to get dates when you want. Then no matter how gorgeous you are you will still face a ton of rejection from women, they enjoy turning guys down.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 01:26 PM
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It’s kinda awesome for 6 months a few times in your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 03:38 AM
1

The point of the sub is to bring everyone together to hate men’s dreams and not let them voice any concerns of modern women without being mocked. The red pill man’s dream of getting money, buff, doing 100 sexy ladies, picking his favorite, and having a family is one of the most hated concepts on the internet. Women hate it because there isn’t a female equivalent. Other men hate it because they don’t get the motivation.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 03:31 AM
6

There a certain feel to a certain type of thic girl that’s unmatched. Skinny girls can’t compare.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 01:31 AM
1

That happens, but at the same time everything is bait for someone to love the real you. If she leaves for a hotter or richer one, it’s probably not going to work and it’s her loss or you just weren’t compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 10:29 PM
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There’s a line that you cross into the handsome side where romantic affection from any type of girl you could think up becomes possible. It’s not chad, but just recognizable cute or handsome is enough. It’s really nice, it solves the aspect of never having to be romantically lonely. I’ve gone in and out of it different times in my life. If you got a tall strong body type and look handsome in the face, you can theoretically have sex with any girl, it takes way less than this internet chad concept…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 09:50 PM
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It’s actually neither A or B. It’s not related to the overall divorce rate, large age gap marriages aren’t the norm. You have to be good looking older guy. Women say hey handsome to me all the time, I had a random girl this week openly say she’s feeling nervous looking at me, I catch women looking at my face everywhere, I get sent drinks a few times a year by a woman while I’m sitting at a bar. I’m tall. I also have a nice house and luxury car, so that helps close the deal on a date. I have othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 09:35 PM
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There’s a fine line to this, a thick girl with a cute face.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 09:29 PM
1

Most of the time if a woman is still single and has no kids it’s either she doesn’t like kids, or she wants her own and not deal with mine. Also, the subset of younger women who date older men are turned on by them. If you’re dating a woman in her late 30s, she actually doesn’t physically desire men in their mid 40s, she wish she was with a 30 yr old man physically and is attracted to youth. Younger women who get excited about older men realize they are handsome without youth, and there’s someth…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 09:08 PM
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They exist in very liberal cities due to social pressure. In many cities a pretty girl is largely apolotical or conservative because she views conservative men as stronger and more independent.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 05:29 PM
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I think this may be city dependent, if she’s hot in Portland she will have to be a feminist. If she’s hot in Dallas she’s probably doesn’t give much thought at all to feminism because she won’t be shunned for it. It’s a very typical thing in my city for pretty women to be apolitical.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 05:25 PM
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Women have a weird thing about this, I’ve had many arguments with women and said no he’s very handsome he bags babes all the time. They didn’t see it, then they saw it and then they thought he was hot. They can see some guys then many others they don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 05:22 PM
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I’ll buy into it, he’s going to have to date someone he finds to be a 10 first. I think 6 to 8, would be the more reasonable example.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 05:18 PM
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A guy who is an 8 that makes $500k/yr wants a girl who is a 10 with a job, and he easily gets them. He passes the time with 8s because they have sexual qualities. I make all over the place with businesses and I’m tall, all women call me handsome, and I’ve made 4 million in one year before. Hot women don’t ask you for money, they want to be your girlfriend. Then the women get access to your supercar and 3 million dollar home, and tag along for your life. You’re a dream boyfriend, better than a Ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 10:48 PM
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You should look that up, studies have shown the less attractive you are the more likely to marry younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 10:39 PM
3

Dating works much like a financial market.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 09:23 PM
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The more attractive a woman is the more likely she is to marry later. The reason is, she wants to keep trying with the smaller subsection of desirable men who have all the dating options.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 07:45 PM
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Dating for the top half of women is a cyclical process of dating guys you want who have lots of options. Because in essence that’s what is attractive, other women similar to her want him too. If she thinks no girls like her want him based on xyz then she doesn’t. When she finds out he does have a lot of options, then they probably will want him. For a woman to be considered actually attractive she needs to have guys with options choose her for a relationship. Because guys just do women with yout…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 07:34 PM
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I’m much more desirable than a Chad, I cast a wider net and get more attractive women, he has only looks and women go for more than that. The answer for women is all of them. The answer for men is 10-15%. You don’t have to do one thing as a woman to get dates, you don’t even need a job, just don’t be totally obese, that’s basically it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 04:37 PM
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What % of single men do you think can get a date within a week or so with a top 50% single woman who’s open to a date? What % of single women can get a date with a top 50% single man?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 04:28 PM
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You need to be attractive or desirable guy to have halfway barely decent options. Most guys just settle for a girl in a social group or at work and don’t get to date much or have options. If you’re an attractive guy you can talk to women anywhere, or just open up a dating app and get dates. Having options is a luxury for a man, for women they don’t need to do anything to have options. Dating market is controlled by the men who can get dates at will and can attract women. Options are a mirage tho…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 04:15 PM
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Sex is the most accessible highly pleasurable thing that exists, how is it not special? It’s also free. There are hookups I’ve had with beautiful women, sex in relationships of intense pleasure and physical connection, that are some of my most cherished memories. If you don’t think it can be really fun, you’re not actively trying to make it more exciting and enjoyable as you sounds like with your partner. I pity the man with any libido in a relationship with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 03:35 PM
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This woman just wrote a sad story of a man that’s apparently good looking, makes 500k/yr, and because he didn’t care about women enough, ended up with a looksmatch sahm that likely just sits and demands things. She was proud to not even at least be a tradwife and thought she was so great for going to college. Some guys don’t care about women, having a beautiful high value wife is not something they know how to pursue and they settle. I’d bet anything this guy sits with his money and says I wish …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 03:22 PM
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A woman brags about marrying a rich guy, then quits her job after. Thinks she’s special because she has a college degree, then betabux this guy to the max being a sahm, I mean good for her, she’s won. Then you write some blue pill nonsense about a guy making $500k/yr making the decision to marry a nothingburger woman is just what men do. That’s not what he should do, he’s special she isn’t and she is just using him.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 02:15 PM
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For men, many women want to have sex with you. If these women are attractive you are attractive. Attractive qualities need to work in combination to accomplish sexual desire in women, that’s being attractive. For women many men want to have a real relationship with you, if those men are ones that attractive women want to have sex with, then she’s attractive. People let themselves get gassed up for no reason or real life evidence. This is why social proof is so big for guys, if other attractive w…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 07:17 PM
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You need choosing signals, her catching you looking at you then looking away. When you say hey and talk she strokes her hair or grazes your arm. If she gives one indication that you’re invading her personal space you need to bail asap. Some guys never get choosing signals because you need to be physically attractive or interesting to cold approach effectively. I disagree about you need to go online or ask other people. Keep talking to women, it’ll work out eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 06:59 PM
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Because most everyone doesn’t get what they want or can’t attract them in the first place. Most straight men regardless of how ugly or unsuccessful they are who really want a wife will end up with one eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 01:10 AM
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Looks and money matter a lot in the gay community too. The ability to be forward with people and have friends is a sign of status, there’s asshole gays that get lots of men because they are good looking or have money. Many lesbians dress and act in a way to attract other lesbians that want that type.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 01:03 AM
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It does drive the women actually crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 01:20 AM
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All the women need is one and no one knows about most of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 11:01 PM
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I think it’s ridiculous to assume women will not pursue their most desirable options. Which are usually attractive guys with lots of options. If a guy isn’t very doesn’t have any current options he’s going to be much better chance at being monogamous with her. Women don’t choose better, they are usually just picking what guys they want. Guys who are preselected treat them good for awhile because they want to have fun and get laid. Dating women end up having a lot of short term nonexclusive relat…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 06:39 PM
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I think I’m good enough, but not good enough to be used for sex after a few times. A fair majority of women like sense very intense to the point of abuse. Women like to be dominated, then others want to be a princess, it’s easy to feel them out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 11:43 PM
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I would agree with this, you’re rarely going to be her most full sexually best. What makes it not fulfilling mostly their looks, or not dominant or small d size?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 11:20 PM
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No I just date a lot of sexy chicks and they say they don’t care about feminism and everything is just fine and they adore men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 09:25 PM
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My girlfriends end up living with me for free and eating my food. Which frees up their money which they love. They still want to have sex all the time and are sweet girlfriends, they love me but also know I’d kick them out if they didn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 09:07 PM
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I’m 6’1”, make 250k/yr, girls check me out and get lots of smiles. In order for dating apps to work I had to work on my Instagram for 2 years. Once I got the Instagram and 6 great pics of me doing cool stuff then I can sleep with as many women as I want online, dates and hookups are routine. You have to trigger attractive women’s hypergamy or express an appealing lifestyle now to extract instant lust. Once you do that it’s a cheat code, but I make $250k/yr and I’m tall and handsome. I get with a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 08:25 PM
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I think it’s way more social media, dating apps, financial disparity that made things worse for men. Self proclaimed feminists are usually ugly and that’s what they got to get attention. Pretty girls just love being girls, they think it’s rad and they love men because they give them attention and stuff to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 07:46 PM
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Creepy acting guys don’t read women well and try to be sexual or overtly romantic without her choosing signals first. Which is weird because that’s such a low success rate method. If you look creepy you’re just odd looking without being cute or manly enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 07:04 PM
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I’ve had at least 30 women hit up my page first. I’m good thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 02:44 AM
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This sub has every type possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 02:43 AM
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It actually is, more dates and relationships form off Instagram than all other dating apps combined.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 02:41 AM
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Says you
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 02:35 AM
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I pulled hot women on there how would you know
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 02:14 AM
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Why is it when a guy calls that af/bb they’re wrong though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 09:14 PM
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Yea you need an online persona these days, singles bars and people who were more open to random conversation, more exist online now.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 08:08 PM
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You got to keep your eyes peeled and not put on the blinders, women are incredible opportunists.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 08:00 PM
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When you are in the top 5% of guys and have something to say. Unless you look completely gorgeous with a great body. It’s, you’re dating whores, you’re lying, gold diggers, they’re drunk. No one wants to accept that there are guys who aren’t chads that just go anywhere find women to get dates and sex at will. I can go to singles bars, get girls. I go on dating apps get girls super easy. I can walk into a strip club and 20% of the time get a date without paying for it. I’ve done this a dozen time…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 07:57 PM
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Most people won’t, because most people have relationship experience but not much in finding options for a relationship experience. Most guys I know latched onto the first cute respectable thing that popped up interested. How many guys have been on more than 20 dates or 20 hookups in the last 10 years? What’s the percentage? How many guys would if they could? Women and men peer through the looking glass and say gross, just whores, hookup culture, when it’s just people who have the option to be ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 06:48 PM
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Isn’t that lack of applied experience or out of date knowledge? Isn’t that what I’m arguing?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 06:44 PM
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Yea that’s going to happen to most guys in at least one relationship though. Prob more likely with one that didn’t physically desire you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 06:43 PM
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Not really because you’re just talking about a scenario. It’s very difficult to discern how common it is. One persons common is another persons rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 05:39 PM
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The women that want exclusive relationships want to get with you even more intensely. The idea that the majority of women go to dating apps for simply physical is not the case, they generally are at least meandering towards a boyfriend. Basically no woman wants to keep sitting on the apps and only wants to hookup.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:25 PM
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Women talk about it more with other women or men they trust. Women are either forward or receptive to sexual advances. If she’s pushing you away, it means she’s iffy about something, many times you’re just not pushing her buttons based on the way you look. Clearly there could be other reasons, but if she’s pushing found you more sexually attractive she would act more physically interested. Women have to show you how much they want you at some point.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:21 PM
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Why no luck do you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:17 PM
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If you don’t say “sometimes these types of women under this scenario it may be common that they will do this” every single time you say women, then it’s perceived general but it’s not. How the living fk can you make any argument about women that would encompass them all? Everything about any person is a circumstance, but there is a lot of common circumstance.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:14 PM
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Ideally you want physical, emotional, and provider to what she wants. Provider goes beyond financial. If you get cheated on and left if you got all 3 with her then she’s just a ho. Most men aren’t high on all 3 categories, but if she doesn’t find you physically attractive it’s going to be harder to keep her interest. For below average looking men, prob be the emotional and provider to secure better physical genetics and hope you’re high on her personality scale to keep her. If you’re above avera…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:10 PM
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It’s interesting how stating a guy being attracted to physically by a woman is somehow a bad thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:06 PM
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There’s threads of commonalities and you see that happen often on this sub. Every post I write (they get taken down by moderators for agreeing on a top level comment). Say this is absolutely spot on, the most truthful post I’ve ever heard on this sub, explaining more detail on the argument to expand. I write super obvious truths through my own lens, which has many shared lenses. Then what you see more in the comments is a denial on that lens because they have another lens. Women more often hate …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:01 PM
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Some women really like the way I look, say I’m so handsome. Some say I’m meh, basic, I’m okay and maybe they want to date me still. This isn’t just do this and I can win over the meh girls. You kick the meh girl to the curb and go for the girl that thinks you’re handsome and wants to passionately kiss you. This will benefit you in the potential relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:52 PM
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It’s I’m thrown in as a new wrench to the modern problem of dating, because I now got access to thousands of women I wouldn’t otherwise. Among with every other type of guy that possesses specific desirability. Weights and muscles have become so much more popular because it’s a pillar of attraction that you can express online. This allows for more connection based on her own more shallow desires than compatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:50 PM
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You don’t have to be hot to be physically desired as a man. A majority of men can be physically desired. The only reason you can’t is because too overweight, too small frame, too ugly in the face. If you’re with a woman that doesn’t physically desire you and is with you for other reasons that’s less good. Some women want to look at and fuck some boyfriends a lot, same women meet another guy and don’t but still date him. You don’t want to be the guy she’s iffy about physically but dates him for o…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:45 PM
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Why are you showing up to dates with millionaires? I thought only personality matters. Millionaires and attractive men get the dates way more than the personality havers. There’s no hot guys with bad personalities that can’t still have their pick of the litter, because personality is subjective being hot isn’t
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:32 PM
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I would like to be fawned over, highly preferably. If she doesn’t want to I’m assuming she would for another.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:29 PM
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Would you rather be with a woman that had a physical desire for you when you first met, or decided she liked you 2 years later after you met? Which one do you think would be better.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:27 PM
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Instagram is the king of dating apps, nothing else is close. It’s super useful in meeting women in real life too, sharing instas builds your options.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:25 PM
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I’m just a specific example in how women can be much more specific by leveraging social media and dating apps. I’ve established myself as a type online. Therefore this gives me access to all types of women interested in the type I am. I’m just one small pillar among many pillars of desirable things to go after. What you realize is women can be much hyper specific on what they want. They could want a young guy in a local party scene. Asian doctors. Muscles. Etc. What doesn’t work online is music …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:22 PM
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When guys talk about women being hypergamous these days what I believe they are referencing is women’s ability to increase their dating pool by leveraging online, and there influence of what they see on social media. There’s less women that can sort out more of what they want specifically, and that tends to be more flashy and visceral attraction aspects. It’s not that common interests to discuss and being funny doesn’t work, it’s that many women are more caught up in what they can get in a partn…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:10 PM
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My perception is 90% of people under 30 are fairly sexual driven, seems like a hard find.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 07:31 AM
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It’s a low effort situation, if you like to meet people it’s just conducive to hookups, more so than a club or singles bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 07:30 AM
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So you think it’s manosphere talk online?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 06:17 AM
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You can have an objective perceived point of view, you should preface that before you say it, people won’t because that exposes them in the argument. If you’re coming in say let me say a few paragraphs about dating in the last 10 years. You ask how old are you and how many dates last 10 years, 47 yrs old and 3 dates. Then they proceed to talk about how young men are losers when they say they can’t get dates. It’s like you’re 47, it’s 3 dates and it was probably with older women. How do you know …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:16 AM
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If they have no experience with it, or barely and I do, I’m likely a lot more right. That’s common sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:10 AM
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Based on what you say, your apparent level of intelligence, I would go under the assumption you’re a top 20% guy though. Chad is more the rule breaker for women, no woman can write any argument about how they are and what they do, because that gets tossed out the window when a hot guy expresses genuine desire in her.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 02:09 AM
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I should’ve put in more examples of posts from this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 01:54 AM
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Same thing with Google seo.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 01:47 AM
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It’s an attack to the majority of women who didn’t have near instant physical desire for their partner, but are with them. They’re offended personally, that’s why the post works. You write posts here not to have people agree, but for people to be frustrated by a fairly general truth. You’re better off as a man if your partner expresses physical desire you up front, it’s not a nice thought because a majority of the time that’s not true in a long term relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 01:43 AM
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I ran an online content company for 8 years and made millions with social and seo. It’s a very highly educated opinion based on lots of experience. You write what people want to see, not the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 01:36 AM
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The topic is not arbitrary it’s explained in the posts. If someone wants to talk about modern dating, it’s a ton of arguments to say it’s just the same you’re the loser, I see lots of relationships you’re the problem. Dating apps are just bots and scams, don’t use them. Social media only people that care about that are OF girls and thots. It’s just a bunch of people saying something they have no idea what they’re talking about, it’s usually just an attack on the concept and the poster. To me it’…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 01:33 AM
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People want to solve dating and have a satisfying journey to find the partner they really want. The reality is male loneliness leads them to hodl with the first good option. People who date or have actual fun single lives is a lot of denial about why and outside looking in. So whenever a solution is presented like some good examples you have, it’s wrapped up in the other side of your argument, well who cares you need to be good looking anyway. I would say oversell the pitch and just come through…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 01:30 AM
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The outside data is bunk and targeted. One persons reason is relative to how much experience on the topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 01:19 AM
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Commonalities in interest and your humor to me don’t work with random women like they used to. It still works on some level. It’s largely been conditioned out of women unless that commonality is a lifestyle one.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 01:04 AM
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I think you have a general lack of understanding of what real research goes into a ppd debate. There’s no institution trying to solve 96% of the discussion. Now there’s a lot of random publishers online that will pretend based on google searches. That’s where your gullibility and lack of knowledge about online ad revenue comes in. It’s the same concept that 95% of the reviews you’ve ever read are made up, people don’t know that they just trust reviews.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 01:01 AM
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Red pill is just anything to say, most red pillers don’t want a trad wife. Red pill is I’m a guy and here’s some thoughts about women. Since I’m a guy I can’t say anything without being a woman hating jerk to many, so let me add this label to just let you know. Red pill is just a label for online clicks and more comments hating or not now, that’s it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 12:27 AM
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People and their precious studies on self reported romance is so funny to me. When people bring in data to an argument on this sub 90% of the it just proves how dumb and gullible they are about google searches. If you start diving into the data it leads you nowhere because it’s made up for ad revenue. Institutions aren’t looking much into this with any seriousness because there’s no pot of gold or scientific prize for studying gender dynamics. The people that study any type of gender study is la…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 12:21 AM
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If you don’t connect physically and emotionally and your girlfriend is being derived from life goals and circumstances you provide you should have your ears and eyes open. Guys won’t because the other option is to go back to romantic loneliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 12:19 AM
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To say the internet and smartphones didn’t change people on so many levels is crazy talk to me. Social media actively warps our reality of what’s normal and what’s important.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 12:18 AM
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All the same concepts translates up to my age too, older women are just more open to men with old school strategies. For example, back in the day if you and a girl were into the same music and she thought you were funny that could overcome looks and status. Now women are more bottom line oriented in “what can you do to help improve my life.” It’s less about romance. Part of this is due to social media and destruction of the middle class, a common life is now considered a low quality life. So wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 12:15 AM
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Red pillers with dating experience have an idea of a more correct path with women. When women realize their most common relatable tactics are being discussed. They want to explain that it’s either outright wrong or an anecdotal outlier. I’ve got a ton of downvotes for replying to a comment to say women in general are attracted like tall, broad shoulder, juicy pecs men. I couldn’t make a more general statement on a body type that turns women’s heads. Then 8 comments saying women actually don’t li…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 12:05 AM
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What’s a dating app take? Here’s mine. Women are easy who use them, they are picky and particular, but also interested in meeting men in general. If women show up they’re probably hoping for affection and a fun conversation. Does that mean most women are easy too, if most women on dating apps are. I’m not sure. There seems to be a type of woman drawn to dating apps and also garnering attention on social media. It’s almost as if the ones who can work the system to some degree, will.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 11:57 PM
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Anyone who knows anything about women these days knows this is factually correct statement. Most of this sub will just argue tooth and nail you’re wrong about anything surrounding this idea. Because they are in a relationship and other people are in a relationship, therefore you have to be wrong and doing something bad. When I keep seeing these comments on repeat it’s just a muzzle to any topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 11:52 PM
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You can’t say anything is correct about black pill or you’ll get banned. Red pill is just anything you want to project about women that isn’t a glowing review. Blue pill on here is just anti red pill. Purple pill is I’m just on this sub. Flairs don’t give any info about who’s commenting. The sub seems topics seem to be about very modern gender wars, pc culture favoring women, modern dating, modern relationships. In which most of the comments have no frame of reference to the topic. Which is funn…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 11:48 PM
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I think if people just spoke from experience they had that was related like normal people this sub would be entirely different.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 11:41 PM
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I think that you got a bunch of random people spouting off that clearly have no idea what they are talking about is the funny and entertaining part of this sub, just calling people out about it. You can’t say anything about women without people totally up in arms about it. I made an argument that you’re going to be in a much better situation with a woman that has physical attraction and lust for you. If not that you need high level emotional connection. Which to me, yea duh. Then people are sayi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 10:09 PM
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Makes no sense so you want a girl that doesn’t connect emotionally and physically? Saying the opposite is low level debate skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 10:04 PM
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As a guy I believe it would preferable if your woman had high desire for you physically and/or mentally. Pretty basic obvious shit you don’t need a study or science book.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 10:01 PM
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I dated women in their 20s in the late 90s and young women last 10 years. Women are different, the strategies to get their attention is different. Women want more now due to social media inflating ideals. To reply and say just go out and talk to women you’re just an afraid misogynist acting like a loser is not true, and it’s done by people who don’t date today.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 10:00 PM
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Perhaps it’s great advice for 2/3 of guys, you can’t encompass every situation in any argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 09:56 PM
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I would venture to guess 40% of guys should disregard this idea and be a provider and emotional support and do your best with physical. 40% of guys may be waiting too long to catch random lust from a suitable partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 09:54 PM
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My experience with this is, I start getting emasculated I get cheated on they leave or I kick them out. Month later they come back say it’s your fault, they never cheated, drop your hoes, and take me back or I’m going to ruin your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 09:22 PM
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I don’t think fresh and fit is socioeconomic dating, it’s an analysis of how sexually charged internet thots exploit their privileges online and into real life and dating. Lot of young men want that pretty local girl looking fly on the gram. Red pill is just a moniker to talk non pc about women. Black pill is about social class looksism.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 09:15 PM
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I had an argument with someone about finding dates on instagram recently that’s been married for 25 years. People just argue to argue for fun. They don’t care if they have no experience or any knowledge of what’s being discussed.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 08:52 PM
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I knew straight up total players in the 90s that were short and pulled beautiful women. That does not fly with younger women these days. It’s not the same, as women’s options increased the last 10 years, women largely cancelled out short men for short term dating options.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 08:47 PM
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It’s very valid until you’re not talking at all about meeting someone at work or friend groups and more casual dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 08:43 PM
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I couldn’t agree more. The problem is someone doesn’t get what’s different because they’re a 40 year old getting dates with other 40 year olds who are used to interacting in the same way. So they say you’re a just a loser that can’t talk to girls to a 20 year old kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 08:41 PM
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I’ve dated a lot in the late 90s and I’ve dated a lot in the last 6 years. To say it’s all the same, people are the same that’s what someone who hasn’t dated in the last 10 years will claim. It’s not the same the internet and smartphones changed the world. The middle class is largely gone, there’s an economic struggle to dating now. Dating and the world is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 08:38 PM
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People are way more closed off, there’s less social spaces, women tend to be more picky because they have better options online. Are you trying to date the same age group from back then to now? Because those people would be largely the same. If you’re a 23 year old trying to meet 20 yr old girls that’s going to be different than it was 15 years ago to now.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 08:35 PM
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Let’s say we have a topic of “the challenges and strategy of meeting people on social media.” This sub would have 80% of the comments come from people that have very strong opinions about it and will argue how someone is totally wrong, and have never even tried to find a date online once. This sub can be interesting, but if you’re looking for perspective or people with actual experience on the topic it’s pretty terrible to attempt to sort through.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 08:29 PM
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This is another complaint on this sub, gender wars, dating, and relationships centered around specific topics don’t work for studies almost all the time. The show me the study, is actually just an article written to make money from seo or is very loosely related. Colleges and independent studies don’t do a lot of research on this because you’re not winning awards or changing the world, or making a ton of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 08:26 PM
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Okay but it’s not the same and say that’s the topic, modern dating and the new issues. Then they have very strong and argumentative opinions about your own experience dating online. When they’ve never tried dating in last decade once. I’m not saying it’s not interesting to hear other opinions it’s how Reddit arguments are usually I’m right you’re wrong, then you find out they have no frame of reference to the post at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 08:22 PM
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Being on this sub is like a sub about being married for over 10 years. Then having it brigaded by people who have never had a long term relationship, telling you how wrong you are about your own experience and how you’re messing up. Then you ask, “what would you know?” Then they say my parents and a couple friends were married for 10 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 08:17 PM
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Go research it yourself I read it in the comments. Why would I give 2 flying fks about 1 random person on the internet, you’re insufferable and actually weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 07:37 PM
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Work on building trust with women that don’t desire you and they’re going to think you’re a beta.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 07:32 PM
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It’s not, it’s actually a great reason to attempt it. You have a connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 07:31 PM
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Guys get told this so often, literally no girls says I just love getting with guys right away, most will though. Then she’s with you and you find out she lusts for other types of guys. You’re much better off just knowing she has high level attraction up front.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 07:30 PM
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By any measure a girl that really wants you is a lot better situation on many levels for guys. If you try to push through on it, she does it initially and stops, or think they will figure out later with love or effort usually get disappointed, cheated, and broken up with.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 07:27 PM
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Why is it some women go out of their way to emasculate their partner? Some ongoing shit test. It’s like if they want out they really get into this, they don’t want you to feel dominant.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 07:21 PM
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There is goodbye sex. Sometimes you don’t hate them but want to do it one last time. Does it happen the majority of time, not sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 07:18 PM
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Anything you release to them they will use against you in the worst possible ways. I’ve been hit by 3 gfs, when you simply push them away they call you abusive. No girl in the history of time has ever cheated and owned up to it. They will take every dime you have when they leave and laugh. You can’t really.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 07:18 PM
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Highly preferable to be with a woman that lusts for you is the argument. Not that it absolutely won’t work if you don’t, just advisable she does.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 07:16 PM
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I think you need an extremely low libido guy I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 07:15 PM
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Those 2 types should find each other right ?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 06:23 PM
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How many women have you slept with that you just met at random. You didn’t know prior, no social circles, no work, you just hit her up online or anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 04:55 AM
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Women are pretty easy if they want you in general. Perhaps you have heard of the great modern philosopher Nicki Minaj, “when I give him that look, the panties are coming off” that’s all it takes and we know.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 12:40 AM
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Since you’ve been married 25 years you may have forgot or maybe this somehow doesn’t apply to you. If a woman is physically attracted to you and also sees you as boyfriend material, they’re basically all sluts at that point for him. Women got to get with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 12:30 AM
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I’ve had 15-20 year age gap relationships and no one cares. Maybe the 37 yr old you were dating previously. No one discriminates you anywhere, and your younger girlfriend prefers the company and date older men. Sometimes the younger girl wants to experience an older man out of curiosity. Women aren’t as youth focused as men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 12:22 AM
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Never my experience, it stands to online virtuous thought I get it. Who’s a man going to be more loyal to and want more and want marry, a 9/10 very hot girl that gives weak bjs, or a 4/10 below average girl that gives amazing ones? Women are nearly as looks focused, they want the hot guy too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 11:57 PM
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The vetting part is difficult to see, you have to give time to non-exclusive to see how she responds, and wait at least 3 years to marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 10:28 PM
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Do you just copy and paste this to posts all the time? You could just say this same thing on millions of scenarios. We’re defining a single optimal point of view on physical, emotional, and provider attraction. That’s what makes it somewhat easy to follow, not every scenario humanly possible and every path it follows. Is it going to work out just perfect, of course not. It’s a concept.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 10:17 PM
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Yes just kiss them, grab them and rub them down, that’s how I flirt, it’s a true litmus test. Have you flirted before? What are you talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 10:15 PM
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Guys get into this fallacy of she love bombed me she must really want me, then gets into relationship and she instantly changes. Then say oh well lust phase over, it’s bs it was an act. Then the other I’ll just keep going and once there’s love she will lust for me more, didn’t work, dead bedroom. There needs to be mutual attraction and connection. If she’s dating you because you got a nice house and wants babies soon, that’s how she sees you, as a provider.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 10:11 PM
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Well you get thinking like a fkn idiot the girls that you’re skullfucking the first night are sluts, which can be a wrong assumption they may just really want you. She’s playing hard to get and saying she is and you’re thinking wow I guess maybe she is, nah wrong she was the biggest whore I’ve dated later found out, she just wasn’t that into me physically.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 10:04 PM
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I was the guy younger that was determined to deliver squirting orgasms with multiple hands, g spot, oral game, lasting long, being very attentive and it works for getting her off. Somehow her thinking you’re just cute guy, works a lot better than a try hard in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 10:00 PM
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Ha this is some second level thinking, if she’s at the point of dread I’m prob going to be really bad at that. Women get chad widowed or have built a composite of their favorite traits they want in one man from dating. I got caught in that with a girl and it led to a lot of good self improvement, but I could not satisfy her no matter what. She cheated on me and never got a relationship to this day after me so fk her. Some women never going to be happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 09:57 PM
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You can have obsession that’s not love, an obsession is more internalized self indulgence. Could be extreme adoration, like a fan taking a bullet for their idol. The person with the obsession will call it love almost always though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 09:53 PM
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On the top part of comments right by the post. The top moves though, gonna have to find it, trust me, or not. Not running errands for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 09:49 PM
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You’re prob never going to the must studly guy she’s ever been with to any woman you’re with. To your point though women usually end up settling on looks a lot to what they could get for short term relationships, but if you’re too far down her attraction scale you’ll never win an argument with her and she’s going to try and walk all over you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 09:47 PM
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I think sex can be improved over time quite easily. The best sex I’ve ever had was with a woman it wasn’t very good at first. Women do want fireworks the first time and I think it’s a flaw of thinking. It’s hard for women to get this and they won’t admit it but you want a girl that wants to sexually satisfy you because she’s highly attracted. If she’s laying down and being a mattress princess waiting for you to sexually satisfy her that’s not as good to keep your woman loyal, it’s beta behavior.…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 09:43 PM
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Both parties want looks and sexual desire, a lot of that is established up front and it’s hard to change. Sometimes it’s not even quantifiable, I’ve been highly attracted to some women that many other men found ugly and vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 09:37 PM
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I don’t like to think of myself as a hero, I would for my girlfriend, kids, and sister I believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 09:34 PM
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There’s a balance to this, if she doesn’t find you very attractive but you give her constant orgasms and leave her sexually fulfilled that’s not bad. However, you’re better off her thinking you’re really cute and not being as great at sex. I don’t find women care that much about attending to her sexually so attentively works. If she thinks you’re sexy that’s way better. Her desire to be sexually attentive to you is the more superior response. Now flip genders on guys wanting more attractive woma…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 09:31 PM
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I get my advice from my own experience. Women are not masters of self help, they do have good advice sometimes, but they have just as many problems and vices as guys. Women like fit strong intelligent winners of life that are fun nearly universally. I don’t think men are just getting angrier and angrier at women. If I was solid platonic friends with a woman for years and she just decided to be attracted to me I’d tell her no regardless of how hot she was. I want women to have an instant desire a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 09:28 PM
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I’m almost always in a relationship but I appreciate your concern.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 08:53 PM
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95% is pretty ridiculous. Top 5% of guys can get lust from large swaths of women anytime they want. There’s way more guys that catch lust, just not in command. You may have to consciously and have discipline not to pick your most attractive option, which is hard. Unless you’re bottom 40%, women are attracted to guys. If you are bottom 40% then it’s prob in your best interest to go for the emotional connection and be a provider.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 08:23 PM
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If you’re just an average married dude perhaps you haven’t caught random lust from women. Sometimes you meet online and never see each other in person, and she has feelings of lust to grab you. Women lust, even some guys they just met that night, happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 08:04 PM
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If a girl sat in my friend group for 5 years and suddenly wanted to get with me, and said it just took so long to build this attraction. I’d go limp, but that’s me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:59 PM
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Awee the extremely literal commenter for karma, that’s sweet, bless you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:58 PM
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You’re amazing, 25 years of only mutual bliss wow, bravo.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:56 PM
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She was so hot and never asked me for anything I’ll chalk it up as a W. You’re a negative Nancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:54 PM
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I’ve been love bombed for 2 months, all this passion intensity, bjs like crazy, wanting to do any sexual thing I wanted. Then she shut it off once totally locked me and was like what. Broke it off.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:50 PM
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I agree and I covered that in the post. Just because she’s giving you lust you have to play it out for potentially months to see if her physical attraction is real and sustainable.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:44 PM
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If she combines physical attraction with a woman’s desire to potentially want him as a partner, you almost always extract lust from her. I tried to cover what you’re talking about in the post, just because you caught some lust that doesn’t mean you have actual physical attraction, or she could changed her mind, or faking it so you’ll pick her.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:42 PM
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Kissing, touching, complimenting words.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:39 PM
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31 is not old geez, maybe 42 for a woman is when guys really start to think, but it still doesn’t make you a hag. There’s no one argument to make people vary, low libido women is a category that’s not often discussed. Low libido women don’t chase men, they don’t date much, they’re not as exciting. They can be for some guys though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:37 PM
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You can express physical lust for someone without sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:34 PM
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I would consider this a great secondary analysis, I agree no perfect setup to any relationship. I would make the argument that if your woman finds you to be a cute guy, you provide her things she enjoys, and are mentally and emotionally engaging with her. She probably won’t ever cheat on you even if she has been very promiscuous before. The thing that I think is not correct is when guys say that women stay with a man for the good sex. I would much rather her find me sexually attractive, than to …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:32 PM
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I don’t think any red pill style arguments would include women who have never experienced lust or instant physical attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:26 PM
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You can also lose your looks, but if you’re just looks alone to a woman she probably not staying long.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:25 PM
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What if the guy doesn’t find the woman that attractive, that’s just his best friend is that okay? Or do you think the guy will cheat on her with a woman he does find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:23 PM
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To some degree in all relationships you put up with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:21 PM
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I’ve received near instant physical affection from many women. That also doesn’t have to mean she’s that physically attracted to you though. You need to vet that for awhile to see and is explained in the post.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:15 PM
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So go take advice from people that only had one relationship their whole life I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:13 PM
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Very hard to bat out of your league with no providing. Also providing can be more than financial, could be social status, babies, utilitarian. Seems like a lot of hot guys date down in looks so they can have a more relaxing relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:11 PM
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Never said you had to give the sexual performance of your life or drop your pants, intense affection rather quickly though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:08 PM
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You’re going to be the most loyal to a woman that he enjoys trying to make her smile, her energy brings him happiness, the touch of her body excites him, he likes the way she moves. It’s harder to be an unattractive woman than an unattractive guy. A guy could provide and be her emotional support and a woman can love an ugly man. If the man finds her unattractive, he’s never going to be very sweet to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:05 PM
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One of the women that did that was my wife too, got served in the morning after she left the house. Loyalty with a woman is very important, I think it’s strongly related to her physical or emotional desire than what you provide.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:00 PM
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The hypothetical section prob means she’s very obsessed with you, which isn’t necessarily love.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 06:53 PM
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If she keeps it completely hidden and isn’t putting her tongue down your throat in meantime at least it would be concern.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 06:50 PM
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You’re not pounding for hours, there’s lots of other things you can. If you’re girl wants the whole thing over in 15 minutes and you never have an extended session she’s prob not that physically into you, happens to the best of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 06:46 PM
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Women are more like men than you think. They have instant feelings of physical attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 06:44 PM
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Mental connections occur.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 06:38 PM
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Physical and emotional connections can be felt quite quickly. I’ve had women glance me for half second and know she had physical attraction. I’ve talked to a woman for ten minutes and felt an emotional connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 06:03 PM
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Would you expect a man to get used to her with building up the chemistry of a woman he thought was unattractive? Of course not. It’s nearly the same for women, she better really like what she’s looking at or it’s going to be a lot harder. She might put up with it because she enjoys what you can potentially provide.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 05:56 PM
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For men it’s looks and personality. For women it’s looks, status, and what you provide to her. If she’s not really into your looks she will see the relationship as not as balanced as she would prefer to satisfy her desires, which makes the relationship more difficult to compensate for her and more unstable for the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 05:49 PM
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I’m in my mid 40s, been married for 8 years, 5 yr relationship, 4 year relationship. Been on a couple hundred dates. Lots of short term relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 05:44 PM
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You can take out that one phrase for you and just proceed, there’s 8 paragraphs there containing an argument about the 2 aspects of female desire, physical and provider. Not every single example listed will exactly apply.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 05:41 PM
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Unless you just like not having physical intimacy much too as a guy, you should probably avoid her. Men will stop loving a woman if she stops sleeping with him. I know a guy that had a super fine woman, she stopped wanting to have sex and he divorced her. She wasn’t bad or mean or hated him, her libido just died.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 05:39 PM
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Yes she doesn’t need to have a sexual performance one hour after you talk to her, however you should be feeling how much she has physical lust. You can wait to have sex for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 05:27 PM
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If she wants you physically a lot and likes what you provide she will be more likely to put up with you and stay, unless you’re really bad to her. If you’re being settled for physically and loves what you provide to make her life better. Once what you provide stops, she’s out.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 05:15 PM
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I’m saying if you want to have security with a woman and have her love the real you. You need to appeal to her physically and provide security. If it’s just physical yes she’s prob moving on once the initial lust fades and doesn’t see much else to benefit from.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 05:11 PM
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Ugh spare me, maybe that’s you and you’re actually the minority. Handsome tall rich guy: Want to go out to dinner? Single woman says yes and he’s charming and all over him. Both are dropping dopamine like crazy and feel great. Beautiful lady with a good job: Want to get dinner? Guy says yes and he acts charming and they are all over each other and they both feel euphoric. A great date is a wonderful experience, maybe in the top 10 of things to do. Now tell me again for real this time, a majority…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 02:20 AM
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If you’re halfway pretty and you’re a girl and you want to go on dates. You’ll be going on dates until you’re blue in the face. If you’re a guy and you want to do the same, it’s going to take a whole lot more or have superior genetics.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 07:29 PM
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If you're a halfway attractive woman you just date who you want. Saying some young women have a fetish and lust for older attractive men is just not an internet friendly topic to dive into without catching strays of hate. I can assure you, that you're not corrupting the women, they are coming for you to satisfy their own desires. Gold diggers, sugar babies, or daddy issues is what it's written off as and it's not a real correlation. Women get turned on by genetics and status, for men that's slig…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 09:38 PM
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Some 25 yr old girls and younger want to date a daddy and they seek them out. It’s different from sugar dating because that’s just what they want. You have to look good and be the type of guy that has a nice place and has some financial freedom to go out, but they never will ask you for money or gifts, they just want you. I’m in my mid 40s and young women who are into older men make themselves very available and half of them just want an older boyfriend, it’s a preference not just curiosity. It’…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 03:37 AM
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The people that don’t haven’t dated a bunch of women in their 30s. It’s not all of them, just quite a high percentage.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 07:40 PM
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A lot of women in their 30s are chad or alpha widowed desperately chasing and fucking around. The attractive woman in 30s finally gives up and marries a beta who isn’t used to dating attractive women, or they become a cat lady. Top guys who date want young or high value, not som desperate older ho.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 07:31 PM
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Single women in their 30s are the picked over bad apples. You might get lucky and find a freshly divorced good one, probably not. There’s a big reason she’s single and you’re going to find out.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 07:11 PM
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Almost no girl is getting a buff handsome rich man, they barely exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 03:47 AM
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The gym is next to a wealthy neighborhood so it’s an excuse to get to know other well off people. Then kids of the wealthy people hang out there too. It’s just a super nice facility with everything you can imagine, swimming pools, lap pools, waterslides, hot tubs, saunas, steam room, brand new gym equipment, beautiful basketball court, high end spa etc. If you’re hanging around other top 2% people, people are just free to talk to each other and no one is bothered. In a $50/mo it’s a sweaty servi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 10:37 PM
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Women attend high cost gym memberships so guys with money will hit on them. Women wear those pants where you can see their whole buttcrack at cheaper $100 or less gyms for attention and don’t want to be hit on unless he’s super hot. I was at a gym that was $400/mo and girls there want you to talk to them if they were single ones. I’m at one that’s $200 now in a nice area of town, and it’s more a talk to the girl friendly place because it implies you have status. At the $400 one, guys and girls t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 06:49 PM
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If you stay in good shape, look alright, and live a good lifestyle you can date whatever age adult woman you want. This clearly isn’t you, but there’s lots of girls that are down to date and older man, they don’t ask you for money that’s just what they are attracted to. I date girls 15-20 years older all the time, have had long term relationships, these women seek you out.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 02:04 AM
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Many women in 30s got kids, some want no kids, some are just divorced and aren’t Chad widowed from years of dating. This scenario of wanting kids and family quickly is the most common though. You point that out then you just get a bunch of comments, not me I don’t want kids, as if every scenario isn’t possible. This is more commentary on Reddit of people just submitting the most low effort comment that in their heads debunks the whole thing. You have to remember there’s a lot of low intelligence…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 05:04 PM
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Being a drug guy is def a less attractive man opportunity, it’s usually coke, mdma, and k. The women also usually into the social surroundings of the guy, how he knows other party people. I’ve seen this sparingly not really into club drug scene. Weed and alcohol are too common to get a below average guy laid
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 05:00 PM
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If you say women in their 30s aren’t as fun to date then you just get tons of hate. The way I ridiculous wrapped it in stop it with all the same comments you see every time made people actually read the 2 paragraphs, it’s just common sense with a good percentage of single 30s women. I don’t think many RP are woman hating at all, it’s just some arguments have a negative connotation based on the scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 04:50 PM
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To get it with consistency with women without drugs, money, or some trade. As a guy, you’re going to need to be top 1/3 looks. I knew a guy that would have orgies with unfit women, he was still an attractive strong guy. Women just aren’t going to very quickly have sex with you without you having some clear appeal and top 1/3 looks. There’s average dudes with millions that can’t pull legit because women aren’t sexually attracted to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 04:46 PM
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People just make obvious assumptions a clean handsome confident man probably doesn’t hurt women, they want to have sex with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 04:03 PM
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Nice, you picked the just choose better argument excuse for men. Sorry you picked the bad ones for sex. They’re not even my friend, how did you not see this guys? Women can say women are mean, women can complain about men to the point about how they’re mainly rapists, or they just want sex like you just did. However, when a man says hey women might display these behaviors sometimes, that’s a no no. You cannot say women might do anything, not me and not all women, it’s all completely anecdotal, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 03:54 PM
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Pfff
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 05:23 AM
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So living your life in a fun way that girls want to be a part of and being in shape is a dancing monkey to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 05:17 AM
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Having a main chick and side chick is the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 05:16 AM
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Figure it out occasionally, and eventually they get a girlfriend. I don’t know that many guys that just get dates when they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 02:46 AM
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More than half the single guys cannot just go get dates. Don’t you have guy friends, don’t you read the posts. They try, guys aren’t that picky.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 01:27 AM
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Women are picky about every living thing. Half of guys aren’t going to be able to navigate dating. You want a date a bunch of unfit chicks you still need to be cute and charming.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 01:04 AM
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If you’re height is under 5’7” and you got a 3in peter it’s going to be real bad times. One of my future gfs saw me while it was shriveled out of shower before we took all our clothes off and ghosted me. I knew a girl that kinda knew her and asked what happened, she said my dick was too small. So I sent her a dick pic, and she came back. Height and dick size matter, you’re insanely smug and not introspective or have analysis on anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 12:59 AM
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Women want guys that really want to fuck women. It’s a nice guys finish last thing, I just want a girlfriend, no go out and entertain and fk some bishes and you’ll get way more love.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 12:56 AM
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Both guys want dates, one just wants a girlfriend. He doesn’t end up dating much because he’s far less motivated than the guy that wants lots of chicks. If you want lots of chicks you’re crunching in the gym, taking cool pics, hitting on women everywhere. Then you get women, have way more girlfriend opportunities. I wrote up a whole thing you prob read 2 sentences and now you’re just so smug and clever.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 12:53 AM
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No they actually get date because they try harder and less picky and get opportunities to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 12:49 AM
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It’s in the post, it was near the top.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 12:19 AM
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Someone shared the study on this post to debunk my philosophy that n counts are circumstantial. So I read it and was like geez that’s more than I expected. 2/3 of college women are having sex with 2.3 men per year. That’s a bit, I knew an absolute ton of women that did that and more but I also went to parties in college.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 10:14 PM
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Yea he was really on point with it having orgies, I thought the women looked pretty nice actually. I was thinking what if I like this. This is like guys version of 80/20. How low could you go to have a stable of women for awhile. Problem is, you still need to be an attractive guy to pull it off.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 09:48 PM
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I knew a guy that introduced me to his stable of cute face young overweight women. He was a really good looking guy to be able to pull that off though. I tried, I couldn’t get into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 09:39 PM
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When the top 1% guys give up harems, he gets a very hot girlfriend to recruit for threesomes and have an open relationship. I think top 30% guys can pull off harems, it’s a matter of his willingness to become not picky enough. You could just go lower effort and do the swinger thing, but it’s not enticing to be only with very promiscuous people and you don’t as easily get to pick who you want. What’s ridiculous about this pursuit is it’s only going to make you more experienced and get more opport…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 08:44 PM
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Pending you have the willingness to drop everyone else when you want to try for a real relationship. Most people try to juggle too much and lose them all.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 07:07 PM
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Half of girls in harem would prob would want to be exclusive at least. It’s not that hard to fuck, lower your standards enough and it’ll be easy. If all else fails, you can just pay for it. The point is, I actually don’t think most men want to do a bunch of chicks. However, if you do it’s more advantageous to find a girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 06:49 PM
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Yea I think it sucks after a month, you can’t keep it casual enough. Some guys prob figure it out. I really wanted to try it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 06:27 PM
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The idea of really wanting to bang a lot of chicks was the genesis of getting dates. I actually don’t think most men want that and to entertain a bunch of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 06:24 PM
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Most guys that want to cycle harems don’t accomplish it. If they like the idea it means they really want women though on a deeper level, and they are more likely to put in all the effort it takes a man to get dates. I don’t think most guys want to date around, just a girlfriend. Which in turn makes it more of a struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 06:20 PM
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I tried my best.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 06:19 PM
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You ever have one leave and then another shows up right after. It’s not as fun as you make it out to be in your head.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 06:18 PM
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Is there bots that just say this same thing on every post? If you don’t like this post and believe it has no point, this wonderful sub has thousands of other posts that may pique your interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 06:15 PM
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Most guys don’t do what it takes to get dates because they just want 1 low maintenance girlfriend. They don’t lust for women and enjoy their company in general. Trying to clarify the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 06:09 PM
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Parallel dating is more like 2, then you sneak in another as a possible replacement. Harem is I got 4 chicks been dating for 2 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 06:07 PM
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You got to bring that type of energy to women at some good juncture point on a date. Not too strong, but women enjoy guys with an intensity.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 06:05 PM
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I can’t keep a low enough level of casualness to prevent from being bothered basically daily with women wanting attention. You need a couple that are just random fwbs I would think to keep it going.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 06:03 PM
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You ever known a guy that says “let’s go find some chicks to hang out with and fuck.” Girls who like to date like that energy from a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 06:00 PM
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If you write a post that’s a question on this sub they just take it down. It’s an observation on types of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 05:58 PM
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The guys that want to get with a lot of women and enjoy their company and like to entertain them get dates. Then can have a girlfriend whenever. If they got the chops at all, they will do what it takes. Many guys say they want dates, they don’t. Want they want is one low maintenance girlfriend. Which isn’t going to spark much interest from women who want to have fun dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 05:54 PM
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Men with sexual voracity and want the company of many women. Do what it takes to get women and get dates. Which leads to a relationship. If you just want a girlfriend, you’re not going to want to entertain a bunch of women. You fail at dating as a result and more waiting for a woman to come to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 05:42 PM
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A regular harem would be more static.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 04:56 PM
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I think you can outside of top 5%, you just have to not be picky and also want to entertain women a lot. I don’t think most guys do, which it’s that lack of energy that prevents them from dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 04:52 PM
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You got 3+ women you cycle in and out. You don’t really keep them that long usually, short term relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 04:50 PM
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The “I see average guys in relationships all the time is such a ridiculous gaslight.” Women got to end up with someone, and that often doesn’t fit the characteristics of what guys the woman dated before him. Guys who date successfully usually got a life and are sexually attractive to women. Guys don’t see that in other guys, unless they have a great body with a lantern jaw and hunter eyes. I’m the type of guy that’s tall and looks masculine and girls are always checking me out. My average guy fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 01:17 AM
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Bottom half of guys in looks prob just too hard to even consider where you need to be to get consistent dates. Either you got the sexual charisma as an ugly guy or you don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 12:29 AM
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No matter what a man does there’s a final hurdle is being sexually comfortable with himself that the idea of sleeping with him from the woman’s perspective would seem enjoyable. This is why looks is always going to be half of it with women. Ugly guys have to possess some form of attractive charisma to get dates, not sure it can be taught.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 12:11 AM
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The biggest hoes claim to be demisexual. Keep your eyes peeled, lot of uncontrollable sluts out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 07:51 PM
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I don’t think about body counts, if I did 2/3 of the time I would just think I was being lied to. I’ve turned down sluts and swingers, but many times you will not know.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 05:26 PM
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You can’t stop them because most guys are sick of being lonely, can’t or doesn’t want to date around. Then this attractive age appropriate woman steps in (often has 1 kid) and/or divorced. Then he lights up like a Christmas tree because he’s been lonely for years. Then just gives into her and takes care of her.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 03:42 PM
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Someone has to be with someone for more practical reasons and that’s more often the woman. She has to select offset genetics for smart beautiful babies, she has to pick men that can help her financially in life, she wants to latch onto the galaxy of that man. If half the galaxy blows up, she probably going to want to bail. It’s not even bad, it’s not misogyny it’s evolutionary on what women love, not just you but how useful you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 03:35 PM
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I can’t deal with it, you’re a consolation prize. I date 20s, or the point in 30s when they’re over it. You don’t want someone who isn’t willing to just be your girlfriend for 4 years. Guys will marry these women months into a relationship, they get trapped by these women, it’s a bad age for dating unless you just want to skip to stage 3 along with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 03:31 PM
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Women love you, but the whole encompassed you and everything around you. That’s why when guys lose their jobs their marriage is suddenly at risk. Guys just love the person themselves more.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 03:22 PM
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Oh yea you draw the ire of certain older women for dating younger. They want to act like you’re taking advantage of a baby brain and she’s actually a full grown adult doing what she wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 03:20 PM
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If you make literally any argument say af/bb they think it’s the worst. It’s like nah just that happens a lot, young women can cash in bigger prizes and then go with someone that will actually have her later. Not all women, maybe less than half, but if you’re in your 30s these types are coming for you looking for a provider.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 03:18 PM
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Just dates though, hot crazy matrix partially true bc no one tells them to not act like that. Then since everyone looking at them all the time, they think world revolves around them. You can get a train wreck ugly girl about as easy still.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 03:16 PM
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Chlamydia different it’s super transmissible.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 05:02 AM
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It exactly did. Just reread it. I don’t do the copy paste sections figure it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 04:33 AM
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I’m not at all, the internet doesn’t understand pointing out things is not any anger.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 04:33 AM
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Youve taken cherry picked worst general arguments and combined it to a red pill religion, if this is what you’ve assessed you’re not going to read and alter your perceptions. I can get gfs, they are hot, red pill concepts are a legit phenomenon.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 04:32 AM
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There’s definitely a good percent of those.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 04:29 AM
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Women are genetic profilers, not just sexual profilers. All women want status, looks, and lifestyle for them and their family. What do you think women do, just get with guys for personality alone?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 03:40 AM
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A woman that’s 32 and not had relationship longer than 3 years, on a random date with me. I don’t care, but it’s closer to 20 than 4. Rather it be closer to 20.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 03:32 AM
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You date around to find who you like if you can. If she’s 32 unmarried and no long term relationships, she prob been with more guys than 4. I would say closer to 20 under those circumstances would be a closer average, especially if she just accepted a random date.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 01:31 AM
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You’re just going to have to believe some women leverage their bodies and make themselves available to men out their league. They often don’t land them so they settle for a less attractive, less dominant guy with financial.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 01:27 AM
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I have no screening process it’s either cold approach anywhere like gym, coffee shop, restaurant bars, or dating apps/insta. The requirement is, I think you’re hot. I’m dating for fun and maybe a girlfriend. I didn’t even dislike most of them at all, prob hooked up with half. They aren’t just the type of girlfriend I want 2/3 of the time. One of my girlfriends was a rich 38 yr old with one 14 yr old kid. She also recently got divorced, I don’t have issues with all 30 yr old women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 11:57 PM
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I can’t debate a reflection commentary of what this sub is and include a personal anecdote. Tough crowd.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 11:42 PM
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No it’s all just passing free entertainment. I would argue the opposite, the fact this sub isn’t an echo chamber like most others is what makes it more interesting. I mainly wanted to dig on some people and make them realize they just say basically the same most low effort things over and over. Imagine saying “women are not a monolith,” okay debunked. Then next post, “actually women are a monolith and that’s just an outlier.” That’s comments on this sub on repeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 11:39 PM
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There’s no centralized hive mind of redpill it’s just a label to say something. There are women that follow the af/bb path Im not sure how many. You did it again you said Redpill is taking about all women and it’s actually situational. That’s the thing though, this is where your mind is broke about redpill, it’s mostly awareness of what can result. AF/BB on one hand you’d be crazy to think that this is a majority path. On the other hand, it’s certainly not a small minority. If you’re doing well …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 11:31 PM
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You won’t get 95% of people to read anything fully no matter how great your sentence punctuation is. There’s actually a way you can force people to read content, it’s a tactic in the online content industry, people hate it, it’s frustrating to read. I ran a content company for years got a keep those eyeballs if ya want the money.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 11:26 PM
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You took 0 seconds processing what I wrote. No the opposite it’s always a subset, you can’t discuss any scenario with women that’s happening all at the same or is one person. It’s mind boggling that so many people’s response on this sub is “not me”, “nuh uh”, “not all women.” There’s no real discussion they didn’t comprehend anything. What you’ve done here is just taking a crap on this post that you supposedly think is dumb, then got me to respond. That’s a lot of Reddit comments, incredibly so …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 11:23 PM
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I just get the hottest chick I can get with a job and go from there. You might as well disqualify every woman you don’t know because no woman is going to talk about her 20s as a dating fuckfest.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 11:19 PM
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Howard Stern became super rich from a shock jock act that lasted until mid 2000s. He just evolved the show.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 11:16 PM
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I said life goals, children is just a common example.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 11:15 PM
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I never said hypergamy stopped at 30 but I needed a demo to separate percentages, 70 yr olds are not normally dating. Hypergamy is worse as they age if they can get by with it. The other stuff, yea I agree thanks for actually reading. You can’t apply the percentages exactly from men to women they are different, partly due to more women dating older and more often sharing men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 11:13 PM
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I’ve listened to at least 500 Tate clips, picking up chicks is like 10% of what he has to say. It’s mostly self improvement and business. Then stories about his life, the importance of family. How much he loves his brother, kickboxing. He’s doing what Howard Stern used to do, does a shock jock routine. You’re pointing out the jokes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 11:08 PM
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Dating around is a pretty desperate activity, it’s for people that seek dopamine rushes and roundabout to a relationship. People want to pick up these thots on insta and dating apps, Ive done it a bunch, it’s fun but it’s also a response to depression. You cant stay on those apps and just date around continuously.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 11:00 PM
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Ha my life can be a train wreck, it’s incredible and fulfilling though. I have everything a man could ever want, but I’m experimenting with another business while the other is coasting. Sold one business before and took a 2 year break from life and traveled. Live in a multimillion home and have a supercar and 2 wonderful children. Admittedly my life can be a train wreck sometimes but that’s all part of a full life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 10:09 PM
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I thought so too at first, I couldn’t stand him. Then I had an ex girlfriend who really liked him and kept sharing TikToks of him. She said he has a good message for guys, and what he is saying what women should be is actually what most women want. Assholes have appeal to a large subset of women and I found that many other women listen to his stories and life perspective he knows what he’s talking about. He’s hugely popular in viral clips, it’s not just brainrot, he’s making a case and good at a…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 10:04 PM
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The other debate is red pill topics are a lot about a subset of women acting a certain way in a given scenario. The dating women in their 30s was just analysis of a subset, that still has variations. Not all dating women in their 30s are the same, here’s the subset of the unmarried and have kids are like. Being critical of any woman displaces women are wonderful effect, which gets you downvotes and reported. It also sparks every single time “not all women!” and it’s not all women it’s a type of …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 09:56 PM
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Not even black pill is that. Red pill is largely about self improvement and being aware of certain woman’s behavior in certain dating or relationship scenarios. It’s flipped to hate, because critique of women by men is seen as misogyny no matter what.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 09:46 PM
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You being on here commenting is such irony.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 09:45 PM
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32 yr old woman, you assume she was the type of girl that was the 65% of women that slept with 2.28 guys per year, so that was 8 by the time she graduated. Only had 1 boyfriend for 3 years. She’s on a random date with you, is 20 guys abnormal or normal? Statistics on mean and median are so messed up because there’s so many at less than 3.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 09:43 PM
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Only 20% of my dates I would classify as bad, so I don’t think they’re going to remember or care. The 50 was over 3 different times stretching from 7 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 09:38 PM
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It’s the opposite, good headlines that seem complete will rarely warrant a read. I spent years in content marketing and if you can’t get people to read your content you won’t make ad revenue. People just headline scan, don’t know if you realize most people do that. If you want people to read your post you have to bait them with a bad or incomplete headline. One that doesn’t fully make sense. There’s nothing interesting to say on this sub that’s just 8 words.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 09:37 PM
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You can analyze certain types of women acting a certain way and characterize them. Every woman is not a unique snowflake that will respond greatly different to a given situation, they will have a tendency to act the same. Not all, every type of scenario has every possible outcome, but as a guy you can share a relevant experience. For the people that commented about dating women 30-39 it seems like an obvious observation in terms of comments so far. Also, I’m not hating on them, just from my pers…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 09:34 PM
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Write a couple posts, then you’ll realize 80% of your commenters will never get past the headline. You reply to a question and they barely read that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 09:23 PM
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You didn’t find dating women in their 30s to be more cynical? The real point of the post is that most people are just blindly responding to headlines. I just threw that in, and ironically more people are reading it than a normal post. I don’t like doomscrolling, I’d rather write a dumb post.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 09:21 PM
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I understand what you say, and not all women in 30s that are single of course. I don’t dislike any woman in their 30s and I didn’t dislike most the dates. Once women hit 40 they have less of these concerns and just want a boyfriend again, so it works better for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 09:18 PM
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If you’re a guy on the internet and you want to make a statement about women that isn’t the most glowing positive review of how amazing and virtuous they are. 80% of commenters will say you’re wrong and a misogynist. The only reason people are processing what’s said is the strange headline and how I formatted the post. That forced some of the users to read it. I ran an online content company for 6 years and sold it, I know how people process words on the internet. They largely don’t, they look a…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 09:11 PM
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I just wrote 2 short paragraphs about a general observation of going on 50 dates with women in their 30s. Then I slapped a red pill label on it. Now you’re freaking out about something totally unrelated, that I prob know less about than you and prob don’t agree either. Red pill isn’t the Bible, it’s a label for clicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 09:06 PM
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The goal of my posts is to write the most plainly obvious observations based on my experiences and see comments about insane and misogynistic I am. 10% of people will comment and say yea makes sense, because she wanted to be married and have kids, the clock is ticking. The only way you’d want to randomly date most women in their 30s is you like other people’s kids or want to skip love and get to the life goals, pretty lame to me. However most people aren’t dating women they don’t know, so they d…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 09:01 PM
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To explain this to you is too much. This is why women don’t work most of the time on this sub, you have to process what’s being said for 1 minute. 20-30 is an example demo, that’s the most active dating group that is yet mostly to be married. It was picked because 20 yr olds are different from 50 yr olds. You have to apply basically the similar stats to guys that I JUST did to women. I’m not writing it all again because clearly you didn’t process what I did for women. In my head in terms of tota…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 08:50 PM
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In my estimation 80% of commenters absolutely refuse to not read much more than the headline. 3% will read the whole thing if they find it relevant to them. Most commenters are just writing nonsense “not me”, “women are not a monolith”, “ touch grass incel” when they didn’t even take 30 seconds to read it, they spent a half a second on the headline only. So in response to you, read the post, you can’t explain an argument in 8 words. Most will never do it, that’s why this sub needs to be able to …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 08:41 PM
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I actually went on 50 dates with women in their 30s in year and a half though. You didn’t read my post, you just wrote what you wanted. If you did, you’d prob just say I’m a liar and didn’t. Redpill is about experiences most Bluepill will never experience, so they call it fiction. They can’t understand these situations are common, they just haven’t experienced women like this or yet. Redpill works because it’s relevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 08:36 PM
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If you spent 30 seconds actually reading the post you would absolutely know this does not apply to most women at all. This is about women who randomly date men and leverage them for entertainment.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 08:34 PM
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If they’re on a random date with you it’s not abnormal at all that they would have been with 20+ guys before.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 08:32 PM
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There’s no way to dive into this data effectively to be sure, it can be very regional in USA too. There’s different attitudes on religious backgrounds, parental influence. This is where “show me the stats” is such a ridiculous ask. You can make rough estimations on the subset at any given moment though. 60% of women are in a relationship, so knock them out 20-30. If we’re just talking single women only 20-30, I would guess that less than half of them have much interest in the moment chasing men.…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 08:27 PM
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This is a good comment and it’s great you’re in a better place. However, the fact you consciously have processed this now puts your mindset into not being in the moment using instinct. Women in 30s tend to overprocess dating. If you’re on a date with most women outside that age range, if they like what they’re looking at, they are having fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 08:20 PM
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30-39 dating women are in different groups: - Dating for many years, can’t settle, more bitter about men. - Got kids, but that somehow makes them more picky. - Wants life goals satisfied, marriage, kids, home before wanting true love. It’s not ideal at all to me dating women in their 30s. Other age ranges I find more enjoyable dates. However, if you’re a guy that also wants life goals satisfied quickly, maybe for you that’s good.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 08:11 PM
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Don’t know if it’s that extreme, but red pill does have certain aspirations for gaining women’s affection more than the average population of men. Half the men I know never dated women and don’t care to, they still ended up married. Then other half of guys I know use women as a part time hobby, at least for a period of their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 08:07 PM
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Tate and Fresh Fit that is their reality of women. If you date the most shallow instathots that use men. That’s their 5% of women they are talking about. It’s relevant to those listeners, because they want to hear what an instathot has to say or the perspective on them. Guys are dumb if they think an instathot OF chicks represent women in general and most realize that. However random people will listen without context to them, and say omg this isn’t about women young men’s minds are corrupted. N…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 08:00 PM
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It’s not politically correct to be critical of a subset of women’s behavior to protect yourself from bad intentions. It implies without context, “all women bad.” Not at all, it’s saying “sometimes in a situation, women can be bad.” That’s the point of the post, is the context matters. If you’re just going in thinking red pill is misogyny, you’ll never process the context. Red pill don’t walk around thinking every woman is horrible and has bad intentions, just be aware sometimes they do. Like men…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 07:53 PM
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It’s says more than just marriage and kids, but yea. I write things based on experiences, so in my head I’m not sure what to debate, seems obvious. A woman just commented her side of the coin dating in 30s, I found that to be interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 07:50 PM
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I don’t know why you would post or comment. You might want to hear a man’s perspective of going on 50 dates with women in their 30s. If you don’t, then why comment? You’re never going to know what it’s like as a woman from a man’s perspective, there is interest to some people or relevance to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 07:43 PM
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Second to last paragraph first sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 07:41 PM
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I tried, you should write a post and see what happens. In my estimation 80% of commenters never read much more than the headline.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 07:37 PM
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I don’t care about body counts, prostitution, threesomes or nothing unless this person is a romantic option. Then I may assess, I declined dates from swingers and women I viewed as too promiscuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 07:35 PM
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If I’m writing a post about dating women in their 30s, it’s targeted at men who have a similar experience or have interest in what you got to say. If you’re not interested in the prob just 5% of women actively dating in that demographic, then you just move along. I’m in no way discussing most women in their 30s, I’m not sure how you could talk about every woman in general. That’s how many commenters will apply it, because they’re never going to read your post. It’s just red pill bad, you’re maki…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 07:30 PM
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General observation on dating around with women in their 30s. Agree or disagree. If you’ve never done it, then I’m not sure what argument you can make beyond hearsay.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 07:27 PM
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Red pill has a general theory that men and women are morally the same. People act on selfish impulses. Men and women are much more alike and experience lust and love, hurt and rejection mostly in the same way. It’s more general applicable experiences about women. I think 99% of red pill is accepting women good and bad, not hating on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 07:25 PM
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I did, I tried. Now I tend to avoid them. I explained this in the post.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 07:22 PM
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I like women dating 40+ a lot though. See, you didn’t read it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 07:19 PM
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Basically every red pill argument is about a given subset of women in a demographic at a given time. I just used one example.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 07:18 PM
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If you’re lucky 10% of the comments would actually be men talking about their experience dating women in their 30s. That’s the point of the post. People largely just chime in with random nonsense. Why would you comment if dating women in their 30s has no relevance to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 07:16 PM
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Red pill arguments have context and require some thought beyond, my feelings I had by barely reading your headline. Blue pill and woman arguments on this sub amount to, “not me,” “women are a monolith,” “women are not a monolith.” By one of those methods all red pill arguments are debunked in their own mind. There’s context to a red pill argument that can’t be extrapolated to any guaranteed statistics. I get the graph, but there’s so much more to dive into that’s unknown. Nearly half of 32 yr ol…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 06:27 PM
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Any red pill argument is debunked by saying “women are not a monolith” or in this case “women are a monolith.” Red pill arguments to me have a much higher level of intelligence because it applies context and relevance to you. You’re not going to be meeting those low body count types of women for random dates that are under 4 usually. Those low body count women are in a relationship or stay largely celibate. There’s a grand skewing of numbers if you’re just going to discuss 80% of women that have…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 05:52 PM
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I didn’t say that at all, I said if you’re on a random date with a 32 yr old woman, 20 guys could be normal for her. If she’s 22 that’s prob high, unless you just randomly hooked up with her. Peoples partner number has a lot of context, what’s abnormal for the woman married at 22, would be normal if she stays largely single by 32. Either way body counts are irrelevant to me because you’ll never know the truth, so who cares.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 05:39 PM
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<image> Nearly twice as many women get chlamydia, it’s one that has a very high transfer rate regardless of male or female. Have you ever had chlamydia? I have twice it burns when you pee and your d feels full. Symptoms go away hours after a penicillin dose. You’re going to want the penicillin it’s not bad, but it’s also uncomfortable. It’s absurd to me that nearly twice as many women get chlamydia and somehow people claim that makes women less promiscuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 05:33 PM
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Define ran through? What I really don’t like is when I’m dating a girl and she has 1-2 other men she’s also with. I also don’t like women who are swingers or do threesomes as a romantic option for me. If she’s 32 and been largely single and I know it’s 4 guys, I’m concerned about a low libido. If I thought her to be social and outgoing and dates guys at 32, she could say 40 and I wouldn’t care. If a 22 yr old woman said 40 that would be a lot to me. There’s all sorts of ideas of being ran throug…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 04:44 PM
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People in general are in no habit to go on regular dates or hookup so to even process social casual dating women that want to meet men on a time scale is not something most have ever processed. So if you say given some context 4 would not be very many and 20 would be normal for them, according to most the comments that’s crazy misogynistic hate speech. The only fairly accurate info I’ve seen that I would trust is from colleges. To give one example a woman posted, 65% of women on a college campus…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 04:31 PM
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So if you’re an average Chad, if you were on a date with a 32 yr old woman you didn’t know and she’s never been married. Just hypothetical in your head would you think 20 guys is normal or abnormal? I knew girls in college that had random guys often, many girls I know in and out of relationships, some girls always talking about guys she’s dating. This concept in my head that 20+ guys just doesn’t seem like a lot to me for social women that date guys. If I’m on a dating app date and was convincin…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 03:42 PM
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All this doesn’t come without higher expectations from random men you accept a date from. Comparison is the thief of joy, finding out things you are attracted to about people, no single person will have all the traits you want. Continuing to be single or realizing you can just have someone else and not taking the relationship seriously is a heightened issue. All of these are great points, but they aren’t without snapback consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 03:35 PM
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That’s pretty ridiculous concept you just said, that’s assuming I have 100% attraction level to every girl I talked to, and every girl was single. No one reads posts but it’s about you land a random date with a 32 yr old woman, assuming she’s never married and only been in a relationship half the time. If she said 20 guys to me that’s normal. The other part is I don’t know the truth, it might be or she just saying that. I’ve had a 2 and 5 year relationship and never even asked how many guys, I d…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 03:28 PM
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You could just go to a bar and talk to a dozen chicks one will prob have sex if you’re okay looking. If dating apps work that’s near instant sex. 1/3 of the time I got to Vegas I met some girl somewhere and ended up in my hotel room. I know girls in college that would hookup with guys more than rarely. This concept that you’re going to be meeting girls at random and they are also going to be the type that been with less than 4 guys is preposterous to me. The post is 32 years old woman you’re on …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 03:21 PM
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Geez this seems high actually, do you not understand timescale? So you’re on a random date with a 32 yr old woman and you wrote these stats, and you think 20 guys is cuckfiction? I don’t care about woman’s body counts, I just get annoyed at guys that say omg she been with 10 guys that’s a ho. I’m like that’s most the girls I knew in college.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 03:15 PM
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It’s a paradox in my mind that you could be on a random date with a 32 yr old woman and think that more than 20 guys would somehow be a lot. In my head and just thinking about all the girls I know, I would think of course I would think at least 20, I’ve personally seen her with 8. If you say anything like this on Reddit apparently you’re a maniac. I’m on a random date with a woman which half the time you’re hooking up after, I never thought I bet this woman been with less than 4 guys, of course …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 02:45 PM
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People don’t read posts, I don’t care, it’s weird to me people do because who knows. I know a few dozen women personally that had 20+ guys in college. I can just open up a dating app and have a 70% chance at sex within a day or 2. I’ve hooked with girls off insta. If you want sex, go talk to a dozen or 2 girls at bar, one prob have sex with you. How in my mind is sex so plentiful if especially you’re in the right areas, but somehow stats say such a low percentage slept with less than 20, doesn’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 02:30 PM
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Short term relationship to me would be longer than a week. You could count ons, it’s turned into body count argument anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 02:24 PM
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Conceptually it doesn’t make sense to me. If I slept with 3 girls in high school (I know a guy that slept with around 100), around 25 in college, 8 on vacations, 75 or so off dating apps using them for 3 years. 10 more via social circles. I have standards, most these girls are cute, some were dead sexy. If I just didn’t care and stayed single over 20 years it could be over 1000, I would never care to do that, but I could get it done and I know 4 guys at 500+ girls. Here’s the deal, if you can op…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 02:18 PM
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I wrote that on average women have 8 hookups by the time they graduate college.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 01:44 PM
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Much more men have much higher body count than women, so I’m not sure you’d have to know compare count distribution between genders. The studies prob have it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 07:26 AM
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There’s enough dating women where it’s 50/50 relationship or single they spent their time. Some women are single for years, then they date they get with a bunch of guys because they are sad. Of course if she just had 32 6 week relationships, I would think I did something wrong if we made it to 2 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 06:41 AM
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I’ve slept with around 140, nothing bad ever happened to me except clap twice and it was seemingly gone in couple hours after medicine. The only reason mine is high is I get really depressed after breakups and seek dopamine and sleep around a bunch. I’ve had 3 bad breakups and for a year or so after, I just sleep around, no one seems to care if I ever tell someone, but I’m a guy. There’s women who situationally for certain reasons may sleep with a bunch of guys. Big part is how long they were mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 05:03 AM
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Women aren’t much different from men, they don’t think they just lust and hope. Like a man would given the same circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 04:53 AM
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It’s been studied on different universities for 50 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 04:24 AM
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Still waiting on that one woman to say 20+ lol. You can’t even get one woman to say they hooked up with 8 guys by the time they graduated university, which is the average.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 04:15 AM
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Yes I mentioned that 4 number many times in the post, and was making fun of people that dont understand context, and lives shake out differently with that 4 number. Which could be normal for some, but not normal for others. There’s also women with higher libidos to other women, other women that want to meet men more. It’s funny how women want to say women are a monolith so bad, saying 4 like it applies to all women is wrong. If she slept with 20+ by 32 and was unmarried and accepted a random dat…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 04:12 AM
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He's a guy and affection is not at will, so he didn't want you to think he can't get women. You may not have liked it, but it doesn't mean he had bad intentions.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 04:01 AM
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Men and women sleep with an equal amount of 8 people by the time they graduate from college, but okay. Takes 2 to tango, don't know if you understand that concept, straight people aren't gay or sleep with themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 03:57 AM
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Women on average hookup with 8 guys by the time they graduate from university. Then if she still unmarried by 32 give her just one guy a year that's 18 guys. Then she accepted a random date from me who she doesn't know so that's got to say something. So, if you think about 20 guys given those circumstances that's not much to me. Sleeping around too much does destroy your mental health and can result in depression and dopamine seeking though, I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 03:56 AM
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When I write a post there’s largely nothing to debate, pretty obvious to me. I totally agree with you, even though you probably didn’t take the time to read the post, you wrote a good summary of it. Also, you’re probably never going to know the truth anyway. Lot of slut shaming going on out there though about how many theoretical dicks going in a woman, people enjoy shaming and cutting other people down is what largely amounts to.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 03:32 AM
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You clearly didn’t read what I read, but that’s okay, women don’t on this sub, they just hear anything you got to say about women and assume it’s sexist and how much he hates women. They don’t read the post just maybe the headline, then women basically just say “nuh uh” or “not all women” “show me the facts.” Then you show them stats, and they don’t read that either. Anyway, the other side is how men will talk about how specific women are hoes and the girl probably doesn’t even know his name and…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 02:58 AM
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It’s more often guys who struggle with women want to put some women on a pedestal for having low body counts, then knock other women off it when they find it’s more than them. Then if a guy is successful with women, the guy that struggles will say it’s because he only does sluts. Whereas I’ve had a 2 year relationship and a 5 year one where I didn’t even ask her once because what’s the point I’ll never know the truth likely anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 02:55 AM
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Over the past weekend in a social group I had to listen to a 5 minute conversation from this woman that doesn’t like this other girl, and she’s the biggest ho apparently. Then another girl I had to listen to for 5 minutes straight explain how she’s a demisexual and can’t have sex with a guy unless she’s in love, then right after she had sex with my friend she just met 2 hrs before. So just thinking about how you’re never going to know anyone’s past and how people act virtuous and shame other wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 02:45 AM
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2/3 of women sleeping with more than 2 guys in a year is more than I thought. You’re totally missing my point, if it’s 0 or 10 in a year she had sex with, you’re probably never going to know for sure. So why care? If her body count is higher or lower than you want and you know, just leave her be, stop running around calling girls sluts no point. I’m not even mentioning women, they slut shame other women worse than guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 02:15 AM
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I just read through the second one and looked at the first stat, and if a college student was sexually active which was 65% in a given year, they had sex with 2.23 people in the last year. That seems to matchup with the other study. They’re going to vary some per university.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 01:58 AM
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There’s not one exact stat per every study at university that’s been done. Can you not use google? This says 80%, they got it from a study. <image> 8 becomes 20 plus I would estimate over the next decade at 32, single never married. That would be 1-2 guys a year. I don’t know the exact stats I wouldn’t even flinch or care one bit if it was 20 guys though, not sure I would care if it was 50. I wouldn’t even ask in the first place, she might not tell truth, or she might, whatever. Every week this …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 01:46 AM
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You didn’t read the posted stat on the first comment you made. I’ve already shared it 3 times. How many more times do you need?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 01:40 AM
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You can’t even make an argument that single women that accept a random date from she might’ve slept with 2 men per year. You literally can’t say anything about women, even you post data.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 01:37 AM
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I don’t think people read posts. They just respond to a headline. That has very little if anything to do with the post. I don’t even think it’s beneficial to ask, unless it’s on a lie detector test, and if it’s higher than you want, what are you going to do, dump her?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 01:31 AM
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<image> So that’s 8 guys on average by 22 for graduating senior women. So if she’s 32 and accepted a random date, 20+ guys is ridiculous right? I’m saying who cares about it, you’re not going to know for sure anyways. I said short term relationships, maybe she didn’t have sex with every single one, if she did, so what? The sub has a N count discussion threads all the time. Some men think because she’s slept with 10 guys she’s a ho. What do you want from women, to not want sex until she meets you…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 01:24 AM
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The average graduating senior woman in the US that went to a university hooked up with 8 guys. So she’s unmarried at 32, and you’re on a date with a woman you don’t know. Probably going to more than 20 guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 01:23 AM
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<image> By the time a woman has graduated it’s 7.9 guys. Guys it’s 8.1. So that gives her another decade to sleep with 15 more. If she didn’t get married by 32 it’s probably going to be more than 20 guys total. If she’s 32 and she’s on a random date with a guy, 20 guys would be normal behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 01:14 AM
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If you read the comments though 32 yrs old woman going on a random date and it’s more than 20 guys. That’s apparently very promiscuous outlier women. I’m saying under the context that would more than likely be normal. You’re just not as likely to land random dates with women that have slept with 4 or less guys. If you met her at a bar or dating app, very unlikely that it’s less than 4 guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 01:08 AM
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The average girl who goes to a 4 year university hooks up with 7.9 guys by the time she’s completed her senior year. 80% of single women admit to being involved in hookup culture in college. I only mention college because that’s where most studies take place. Not sure it would be that dissimilar in a city either. You talk about 20+ guys if you’re randomly on a date with a 32 your old woman who’s never been married and it’s crazy talk and you’re out of your mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 12:52 AM
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If you went on 30 dates with women you didn’t know and the average age was 30 years old. Then your conclusion was the median they slept was 4. I would say there’s a lot of context here with landing random dates and time factors involved, that would indicate it’s going to be more than 4. I think your median for these dating women would be closer to 15-20. You’re not so special if you just landed a random date with a woman you don’t know.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 12:24 AM
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So if you’re on a date with a random woman you met at the coffee shop, or you met on a dating app. She said she’s been single 8 years of her life. You get into a short term relationship with her, and it ends up long term. What’s the dividing line? Is 3 guys on average per year way too much and not normal at all? You know nothing about her prior those 8 years and she’s 32.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 12:11 AM
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If she was 32 years old and had one long term relationship that was 2.5 years and she said it was 1 guy and she just sat celibate for a decade. I’m probably going to be less interested in her. If she said it was 20 guys I’d be like whatever, who cares not like I’m ever truly going to know anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:56 PM
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I just said women don’t like huge ones and you proceeded to write 2 paragraphs about giant dicks, I think you’re the one obsessed with them. I said above average.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:35 PM
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A lot of women don’t find long term relationships after 2-3 dates, but if that’s the most common scenario to you, I’ll just politely disagree. Women meeting one guy freshman year and just dating him all through college is not what I observed when I went to college.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:33 PM
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Then you’re likely a woman out of frame of reference to this topic. Lot of single women will accept a date from a man she doesn’t know, if she likes what she sees and seems nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:30 PM
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I think the majority of women care about D size. Women would like an above average one preferably. Do they want giant ones, no. I don’t know how much clearer I can reply to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:28 PM
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It’s a hilarious concept that you can just go up to a woman you don’t know and ask her for a date, and you’re going to know how many short term relationships she’s had. For myself, it’s prob higher than normal because a woman has accepted a date with me I don’t know, which will often lead to a short term relationship. Do I think I’m so special that I’m only her 4th guy she did that with? Probably not likely. Think about women that most of the time have one guys she’s receiving affection from. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:23 PM
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Most women are turned on by intuition and attentiveness? Oh wow and to think it wasn’t mainly looks and status, silly me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:17 PM
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How many dates with men that you didn’t know much prior have you been on?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:15 PM
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Depends upon how long her long term relationships were and how much she wanted to date guys. I think it’s a lot more common than people think.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:12 PM
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I don’t do it, I don’t bring it up or care. There’s many men out there wanting to call women sluts for sleeping with that guy or too many guys to them. Let single women do what they want, if you don’t like it just avoid them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:11 PM
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If it’s pointless word vomit to you then I’m really good at getting your attention with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:07 PM
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Many women have been with a well endowed guy, that’s something majority of women get turned on about. It would be like shaming a man that got with a girl with a big butt.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:07 PM
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Why are you even commenting let alone hitting all caps on what you think is totally pointless? You just need to stop at this 1 post out of your infinite supply on Reddit? If it’s pointless then move on, find a post with a point to you. I didn’t hold you down and force you to read it and comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 11:02 PM
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I just point out obvious things to me and get annoyed by men calling women sluts who are just normal. If that slut calling man were given 1/100th the opportunity as these women, he would’ve likely slept with way more than she did. It’s a dumb double standard, women want men as much as guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:55 PM
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I haven’t been on a random date with a woman that didn’t know how to kiss, but I’m sure it happens sometimes. Also women with low self esteem can have the opposite effect, they may more often seek validation from men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:52 PM
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No women don’t, because there is social repercussions for women to do that. Not from guys that get women, guys that get women on dates easily don’t run around calling girls sluts because she slept with X number of guys. There’s a lot of guys that want to put women on a pedestal and knock other women off of it for being able to have experiences they can’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:51 PM
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I don’t, I think it’s normal. If a woman wants a short term relationship with a guy, she goes out and gets one. Getting that is probably a lot less difficult compared to most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:46 PM
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If she’s on some random date with me and I don’t know her, I’m not going to believe it’s just 4. I wouldn’t ask though.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:35 PM
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I don’t get it either, to me a majority of single women got at least one guy. If you start adding up some years, it’s going to be a bunch unless she’s been in a very long relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:32 PM
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Unless it’s more than 2 guys at the same time or I somehow knew it was more than 50, it wouldn’t even occur to me to care. If I found out she’s a swinger, I just avoid her, still no big deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:28 PM
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For sure and I wouldn’t shame them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:26 PM
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Most women deserve an award of virtue for all the attractive to her men they constantly turn down. If she’s 32 and it was less than 30 guys I’d be slightly impressed by her restraint or think she had a lower than average libido.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:21 PM
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Women don’t talk about it, probably to even their best friends about half the guys. They surely aren’t sitting in front of a bunch of people and openly talking about it. They aren’t going to write about it online either. Women who’ve been with a bunch less guys and many average guys would just shame her, but her being shamed doesn’t mean it’s not common.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 10:15 PM
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I agree with you on all of this. However, for some women that are used to using men for random entertainment by herself and with her friends is not without a transition to a relationship though. Most women want the relationship, some still want the attention and opportunity behind your back too. This would be like me saying don’t worry about that big player that you just recently got in a relationship with, he will stop DMing women and flirting with them no problem. Nah, just better to keep your…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 08:09 PM
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Women make themselves available and chase desirable men, they aren’t just innocent flowers waiting to be picked.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 06:30 PM
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No because women can exploit the fact men are sluttier than them on average, that’s how they land the guys in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 06:25 PM
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Women are opportunists and want a relationship with a man that provides her whole host of things to benefit her life, aligned goals, and looks handsome. Then she will see if she chose okay for compatibility. Men are trying to get the most attractive woman he can to give him affection. Then see if he likes her personality and company. The only time this is an issue is if a woman feels like the type of guys she’s picking only want short term non exclusive relationships. Then she has to consciously…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 03:30 PM
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Assholes get girls because they can be unpredictable and indifferent about her. Also, pumping up your personality so it’s the type women enjoy has no clear path. If you go on a date with a woman you don’t know meeting online, it’s whether you pass the eye test or not. If I did, I get choosing signals and she’s into my personality. If she wasn’t so into me visually, my personality is not so good, I annoy her, and she’s argumentative.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 03:23 PM
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Some women are going to be like that, never happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 03:16 PM
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It ends up being a lot of short to very short term relationships until she can get a guy to settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 04:59 AM
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Flip the genders. Pretty obvious, if your write about the same thing about women who date around then you’re a jealous cry baby. I write things that are obvious, transitioning from being single to in an exclusive relationship is a change. It’s both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:24 PM
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A 5/10 24 yr old woman who’s not fat and average face is clearly in the top 20% member of society. A 5/10 24 yr old man is in the bottom 40%. It’s a big difference. Flattens out for both genders 10 years later.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 07:13 PM
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Not crying about nothing, women do the same stuff as guys given similar circumstances no big deal. Men are cked online you just point out something about a type of woman and you’re a crying misogynist.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 06:44 PM
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If a man is a type to date bunch of women, flirt, DM girls. If a woman tried to lock him down, he might still act like he’s single sometimes, still dm, or pursue other offers. If a woman wrote that it would be well fkn duh. Sorry girl, that’s just men being bad, it’s normal. If you do the same with a woman that posts online to attract attention. Dm guys, date around, go out and flirt and expects guys to pay for drinks or events when she’s out. She has a modern single girl lifestyle. If you try a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 06:41 PM
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The most red pill guys without knowing it, by experience are players. Guys that get lots of girls understand that the societal push for women to be independent and exist in a man’s designed world, has made them respond and act like men. Redpill isn’t misogynistic, it’s saying men and women are responding, often in same way given their circumstances. RP and players know women lust and act out from selfish instincts just like men. Every complaint that is often said about men can be applied to wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 05:30 PM
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Consider the comparison level of attractiveness of a young woman who can stick her butt out, use facetune, and post in a mirror as a 5/10 and get validation from it, compared to a 5/10 guy. Consider a 5/10 young woman going on dating apps and is flooded with offers from 7+/10 for dates. Woman’s youth is highly coveted and she does have heightened social status compared to 5/10 man. The problem is this 24 year old 5/10 her standards until her youth fades for casual romantic interaction with men i…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 05:14 PM
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Everything is great, people are actually happier and less lonelier than ever. Smartphones and the internet didn’t change anything, it’s all just the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 04:47 PM
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https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/mhw.33659
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 04:20 PM
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No I think it’s sad and it’s why depression in young women is skyrocketing. Comparison is the thief of joy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 04:17 PM
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Young women especially are on Instagram getting attention and seeing others and having envy. Their guy is not going to meet the status quo of some of her peers. She wants that guy that will validate her and everything that a man can provide.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 04:15 PM
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They want commitment, but they also want the idea of finding her prince charming on internet or leveraging the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 04:11 PM
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I don’t think people read things, they just think it’s a shortcoming of the guy or somehow he all dates whores. Modern young single cute women have exponentially more options due to the internet. In your mind that has zero repercussions to what I wrote.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 04:10 PM
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You’ve never dated a woman who dates or has options? She has sex with you once and she just wants to be your exclusive girlfriend right then and there without any question. Wow you’re so amazing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 04:07 PM
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These are largely not physical. More about status, personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 04:05 PM
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Are people not aware on Reddit the attention economy that happens on instagram? Are people not aware that some women date around a lot and think it’s fun and meet a lot of guys online?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 04:02 PM
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Marriage is different than bf/gf.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 04:00 PM
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Meeting guys online, she wants party once or twice a freaking month go out with her friends, but the only reason she went out bc guys were supplying the drinks and entertainment. She has to give up the idea of all guys in a 50 mile radius as an option. She prob doesn’t like 99% of them, that’s still thousands of guys. What the fk is it you women think girls that go to club once a month lack morals. You can be a big fat stinky ho and go to the club or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 03:58 PM
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It’s a simple story from one perspective. It’s not meant to encompass many things.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 06:32 AM
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Women don’t want to ask because they assume you don’t and don’t want to make it an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 04:49 AM
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If a woman doesn’t come over to my place first date and at least make out, I don’t get a callback. You have to physically escalate with her successfully or she will find another guy who can make sparks.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 02:04 AM
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I don’t think you’ve had crazy passion with someone. If a girl spends 2 weekends in a row being your happy sex slave and cuddling. You can just ask her to be your girlfriend, why not if you want to have her to yourself. It can work out, prob will. Sometimes some women can’t stop exploring options and you dump her, oh well her loss.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 01:56 AM
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How many dates have you gone on with men you met online?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 01:29 AM
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Yea can go both ways, the story is about a guy who wants a girlfriend though, he just wants that girl so he asks her to be his girlfriend. Which according to the comments I guess is a bad idea, you can’t ask women you really enjoy talking and having sex with to be your girlfriend. I don’t think you can understand story perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 01:24 AM
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So asking a girl to be your girlfriend you like hanging out with, talking to, and sex is great is make cowardice?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 01:20 AM
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If you read this it’s from a perspective of a guy that wants to have a girlfriend. I never said guys can’t be the same. I can’t write down every perspective and I’m also not a girl so I have less of an idea about men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 01:19 AM
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Because you’re going to lose a woman you really wanted and never have love.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 01:17 AM
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Huge character flaw I got it. If she parties once a month she sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 11:12 PM
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If a girl isn’t a party girl at least once a month than you aren’t living. If it’s every weekend, then yea she’s prob a coke ho.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 09:25 PM
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Finally a voice of reason, absolutely. Dating apps and insta is a rush sometimes but I agree it actively destroys your brain. It’s also harmful to your health in many ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 09:24 PM
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Why is it everything has to be done in a certain mindset and it can’t happen on your own terms. She says yes and hangs out with mostly all the time after that. The story has 2 endings. If you find out she’s a hypergamous attention seeking ho, then you just end the relationship. No one is signing contracts here.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 09:20 PM
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She will get bored, I can almost never get them to stay more than 2 months if I don’t make them exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 08:54 PM
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I know my goodness, I’ve never been in a relationship with a girl that wanted to go out any more than once in 10 days. Usually half that. They just need an excuse to call girls party whores, instead of the type of chick who finds dates online.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 08:52 PM
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The previous gf I had looked and was built like Ivy from Soul Caliber. Who I always thought was hot. We could have hours long fun conversations, the first 3 dates she gave the most amazing bjs for 5 hours in total. After one week I said just be here with me and be my girlfriend. 6 weeks later I broke up with her. There wasn’t anything bad to ask her so quick, it gave me time to find out what type of person she really was. Also, 6 weeks was fun no regrets. You can be in control and ask for exclus…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 08:49 PM
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Women assume all guys want to be players if they can. If you’re not progressing her romantic interest and just hanging out, then she’s gonna get bored after the lust settles.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 08:30 PM
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Women expect you to physically escalate, then romantically progress the relationship to exclusive status. If you’re not doing this some other guy will. The hypergamy not being satisfied is something you cannot put the blinders on about once she agrees to it. She still acting single, you can’t call her some nights, you’re not exclusive, you’re her backup while she pursues other opportunities.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 08:27 PM
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Does it need an addendum?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 08:22 PM
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I’ve never looked at a below average woman’s DMs on insta or a below average woman’s dating app. However, I’ve seen a number of above average and it’s absolutely ridiculous. If she thinks he’s hot or highly desirable boyfriend material and he’s going to take her on a date, she prob wants to hookup with him, it’s not rocket science. Women are doing more things for her own benefit and entertainment than the average man can comprehend.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 08:15 PM
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Single girl activities is there is a party at this guys house. A girl knows some guys buying at a table at a club. Going out for dinners and having men pay or be around. There’s a show or event and guys bought tickets for one girl and says invite another girl. I’m going out with this guy, he has a guy friend want to come too. If you’re a pretty girl you network with other pretty girls to get guys to pay for things, like anything you want to do. The problem is, your girl needs to act single. They…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 08:06 PM
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Not many women are club types. What’s fairly normal is you go to a club 5-10 times a year. You go to parties. You attend concerts and local events. Go have drinks with friends. If you’re a girl and you’re pretty you’re in with some other pretty girls who know guys that want to pay for these activities.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 08:03 PM
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Women generally have a wide range of dreams of what men can provide to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 07:55 PM
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True but some men are desirable to women for the social circles they have.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 07:47 PM
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The older chicks with no kids looking for a guy quickly to settle down I don’t have much common or interest. Anything is fine, a date is a great opportunity to have fun. Maybe a relationship will come too.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 07:41 PM
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I’m trying to isolate a common scenario dating a single woman under 32 who finds men online and uses them for entertainment, meals, and fun. Has single friends that do single girl activities. Wants a boyfriend, but has reluctance to commit and wants to hold onto aspects of single girl life. If you reread it under that context it might make sense. All of the things you listed is not the characteristics of the type of woman being portrayed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 07:28 PM
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Yes this is a distinct possibility. There’s a lot of depressed promiscuous women out there on those apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:27 PM
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Yes, if you can make it to month 2 as bf/gf the cycle will often break. She will resent those parts of her single life she was tied to and be happy with you. If she becomes unhappy it can come back of course. Keep in mind we’re talking about women who post online and date around, specific breed of woman, usually pretty cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:23 PM
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Men and women are pure and virtuous creatures with no hint of personal selfishness ever. I’m not sure where to go with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 06:18 PM
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I’ve been unable to break women of attracting attention and exploring options, being opportunistic for men to provide them with social benefits or an exclusive event. You throw in the towel, and they get mad and say it was all your fault. I’m saying bish I can’t get super chads and guys with millions of dollars taking me on dates trying to fuck me every other day. You’re beautiful I get it, but these guys see you as just temporary lustful entertainment. I gave you a chance and you cheated, now m…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:58 PM
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Some guys have dating options to rival women’s. Thats the part women don’t like. Also, the men will settle down eventually. When a guy makes an appealing profile and has a solid online persona. Perhaps he made an Instagram flexing his lifestyle. He did that with the sole attention of getting as many women as possible. Guys that mainly only want a girlfriend aren’t going to go to great lengths to sell themselves online and entertain as many women as they can.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:53 PM
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Online giving single women limitless dating options whenever they want exists now. Just saying stuff about it and what to look out for.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:50 PM
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If you’re far enough out of her league, you’re prince charming as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:48 PM
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For women a man can mean so much more. Lust. His lifestyle they can latch onto. Validation. Free restaurant meals and events. Envy of her peers. New social scene he can enter her into. New place to live. Etc. I can date a bunch online too, the women are so easy it’s ridiculous, I thought women were easy in college. Women just show up where you want rooting for you to be normal so you can be one of her options.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:45 PM
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Chasing women can be fun and also have pitfalls. If you walked outside grabbed a female and then died with her of old age guaranteed that wouldn’t be much fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:40 PM
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I don’t doubt it and I also think this causes some of the apprehension by women with men asking for commitment as well. You have to get the perspective though, this is a guy trying to land a girlfriend. Not your typical man perhaps on a dating app.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:36 PM
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We’re now living in a world where a fairly attractive woman can open Instagram and be taken on a date by any type of guy she could possibly think up. This is a pretty crazy and new paradigm complicating potential relationships. I think a lot of people on reddit just want to chime in to be jerks, women especially on this sub get off on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:33 PM
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Why is it if you write about women and it’s not a glowing review of how amazing and virtuous they all are, it’s horrible and I hate women to some people. No, this is just some thoughts on the explosion of paradox of choice dating women have. Cause and effect.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:25 PM
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Sometimes they aren’t that much, that’s kinda a big point of the post.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:20 PM
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Yes that’s covered in the post, if you’re 6’3” handsome successful guy, you’re prob Prince Charming in her eyes. She will settle without any fuss. Most guys are not the highest potential date for a woman though.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:19 PM
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It’s not a whole gender, it’s single women who find men online and date around. Is that not 100% clear in the post if you read it. If it wasn’t, you should go back to school and learn about context.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:15 PM
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How in the living h are you going to talk about women and also include every woman on the planet, I’ve explained the context of the type of woman that may be likely to show these behaviors. If I’m dating in a nursing home or a cat lady that hasn’t been on a date in a decade, could be different. If you read the post, you’ll understand the type of single woman that’s being discussed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 05:01 PM
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Amazing debate. In your head just add the word “Some” it’s truly implied already. You don’t get that meaning of implying context in language. You don’t understand that headlines can only be so long. But for the sake of just you, add the word “some” first.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:58 PM
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They actually do want a long term relationship. Let’s say you’re so awesome, d supreme, she just keep showing up at your house for 6 months straight. At some point there will be a dividing line, single and in a relationship. Women will attempt to hang on to aspects of single life, they may not like aspects to the adjustment. Part of why it’s hard is because attention, opportunities, social media, and apps are in her addictions to break for the sake of commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:56 PM
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When I’m on a date with a woman and it’s an interview, she acts bitter, off put, seemingly negative. Explains what it takes to be with her. She chased that dragon too long, not dateable at all to me. She lacks passion, her senses are too dulled. This is a big reason why men like younger women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:49 PM
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I’ve chased after women for year and half in college. Maybe 2-3 years off and on in and out of relationships and I’m in 40s. Chasing women is fun and releases dopamine and oxytocin (better feeling than heroine) and also lands you the type of woman you want for a relationship. This “I don’t need women to be fulfilled” is just jargon, having a couple bffs and a loving woman living with you is a better life to me. I’m glad you’re so happy without any women, well I’m not.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:36 PM
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Since you refuse to read the post then, let’s just examine the headline. Implying single, saying she uses social media and/or dating apps. Probably younger, under 35. Now how many women is this currently at this moment against the total population, 5%? 10%? What you lack is perspective, because if you’re 30 yr old single guy this 5% is going to be mostly who you meet for dates. It’s a very relevant demographic of women to single men. If you’re married or home alone with your cats not on social m…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:28 PM
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If you actually read the post you would get the context of a type of single dating woman I’m talking about. Thank you for the comment you have to read on every single post on this sub, “not all women!” We got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:21 PM
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I prefaced this post with above average, your statements are harsh, but I tend to agree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:18 PM
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I think you vastly underestimate the short attention span of a young single woman with a social and dating life. If you’re not progressing she’s gone. How long you supposed to wait, 3 months? Yes those were the guidelines before online took over, she got an unlimited supply of other guys on her phone to potentially entertain her now.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:12 PM
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I know above average women that seemingly can get any guy to take them out to a nice restaurant, be charming af to her because he really wants to sleep with her, and likely in his roster or short term relationship. I’m not sure below average women can snap their fingers and land dates with any man they want, and get treated to a very nice date. Noticeably attractive women for sure can.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:05 PM
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Probably shouldn’t ask her to be your girlfriend the first date. Sometimes your real shot with her is going for relationship fairly early though. This eliminates all the noise around her, to focus on you and see if you’re compatible together. If she’s dating multiple people you’ll miss that chance at a connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 04:00 PM
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It can definitely be that. You’re fighting more the addiction to male attention she has, and the benefits of using men for entertainment. The single fun she has with her friends. She has to drop all that for you, that’s her own habits and personal addictions she has to give up for a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 03:55 PM
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You’re running under the assumption you can hold a woman’s interest and be her number one option in perpetuity until she’s in love with you. That worked before dating apps and social media, now it’s too easy for her to move onto the next best thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 03:51 PM
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I’m split on this, I don’t think below average women are having the same experience as above average women. Can the below average woman get dates and hookups, they still can.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 03:48 PM
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It’s a catch22, if you don’t ask you’re sharing her, new opportunity pops up you’re out. If you don’t ask, she may get bored with how it’s progressing and bail. If I know I want to be with her and we really enjoy spending time together, I’ll just ask. Then I pay attention to what she does after.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 03:47 PM
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Yea I was talking about the 2-3 week lust phase. If you make it past month 2, that’s where honeymoon kicks in.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 03:44 PM
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I think that’s part of the problem with women and relationships now. Women get the dopamine rush from a new guy. Wears off, then seeks another rush. You have to get her to break that cycle.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 03:41 PM
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I’m writing this from the perspective of a guy trying to land a girlfriend. Red flags that happen after she agrees to it. To answer your question, the scales to me are tipping, women are starting to become more resistant to commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 03:38 PM
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I’ve dated many women I’ve met online and asking some of them to be in an exclusive relationship, this is my experience. Some women you cannot break their ties to being single and can’t stop seeking attention. I don’t think it’s that anecdotal, you think it’s from a YT video that’s being relatable.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 03:33 PM
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I think women deep down want relationship and they are seeking it. However, she’s accustomed to being single. To ask her to give up those freedoms when she has access to so many other options at her fingertips online. The next month, her new relationship is like giving up a drug that is her single life.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 03:29 PM
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Women don't want to face what their true RMV is. It's a scary thought. They want who they can fuck as their bar, but it's not. Most will women will face up to it at some point. The others will just be with their kids as a single mom or end up a cat lady.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 09:14 PM
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Women’s “type” largely is the belief that other women like her would desire or him or needing to see it visually first.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 07:35 PM
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No they don’t, they pick the attractive ones with status to the highest level they can get usually. They got 2 eyes and a brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 04:49 PM
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A big problem men have with women is they can date and get laid significantly easier than most all men. Women who want to date often pick the best option possible and have specific types, that almost always leaves out average guys. Who they end up with is often another story.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 04:29 PM
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It’s not a normal thought in people’s heads that a young woman wants an older man to give her affection. It’s fairly common though. They don’t want money, they want that older guy. Can’t believe you’ve never heard of the common phenomenon of young women thinking older men who look good are hot and not wanting men their age. This is my last gf of 2 years, I met her when she was 21. We got back together when she was 25. I’ve dated dozens of younger women, it’s normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 03:32 PM
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Younger girls is the only demo of women that just want a hookup from me, some want a relationship too though. Older women hookup they do it for a relationship potential. Maybe many don’t marry, I just said it’s a low percentage of guys who do this. I know a 53 yr old that’s a jacked guy who has parties at his place always got new hot young chicks. I know 2 other guys in 40s and they mainly date 23-28. They think I’m weird for dating 19-22 (I say no to 18) Im just like they want to go out so I go…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 03:24 PM
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I’ve prob been on 60 dates with women 19-24 not one asked me for sugar, purse, money, trips, nothing. They wanted some dinner and come back to my place. There was 3 out of the 60 that I think were looking for that, but didn’t ask. It’s not a high percentage of men in their 40s that can attract the younger women who want men in their 40s. I suspect this is regional too Miami, Phx, LA having a boyfriend 20 years older is common.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 03:17 PM
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Think about it, you saw her a couple times but just hey and nothing else and you hit her up online for a date. Most people going to say they met online. Or you know a girl you know has a friend you want so you just hit her up and say I’m so and so friend on insta, that’s online. Online was the space you established the date, this does not necessarily mean total strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 03:08 PM
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Well you went 33 years instead of 15 to prove a point. 55 and 22 happens occasionally, 45 and 22 happens lot more, 35 and 22 is fairly common. I’m a guy in his mid 40s that can open a dating app and attractive 18-24 yr olds want to go on a legit date with me. I won’t go out with the 18 but been out with dozens 19-24. Have 4 girlfriends one for 4 years in that range. People just don’t like the idea that some young women are very attracted to older men. When a young guy wants a milf that’s okay th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 03:05 PM
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It’s actually not, if you established the date online then that’s online.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 02:58 PM
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Because average guys supposed to feel good about what he gets, and when women date just keep picking the men that are sluts, it all sorts itself out in the end. “Actually I know average guys with girlfriends,” okay what was that average guy doing prior to that, prob beating off for 2 years while she dated guys who weren’t going to pick her.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 02:54 PM
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Why can’t you form relationships OLD?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 02:49 PM
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Your big dream of marrying your sisters best friend is new level of family first that’s for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 11:49 PM
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Yes I never like to do that, don’t like being setup, don’t want complications between family and social circles. I like to see a woman, have a visceral reaction and for her to return the attraction. Is that going to be a good relationship, idk have to find out later.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 11:42 PM
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Marrying my sisters best friend sounds so lame to me, but do you. I’m more into serendipity than nearly forced interaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 11:35 PM
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I really really like it when I see a hot chick and she really wants me back. Then do that until you pick one you don’t want to live without. My sisters friends sounds weird and messy I’m avoiding that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 11:31 PM
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When I was average it was like 3 okay chicks showed some half hearted interest all year. Maybe one would work out if I was lucky. There’s 2 rebuttals on this sub I find especially funny, “actually the average guys dating life is good, that’s a chronically online take that it isn’t.” I’ve been average and above average and getting lots of women wanting to give me bjs all the time and vying to be in a relationship with me is so ridiculously better than being an average guy it’s incomprehensible. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 11:17 PM
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No I get girls outside of social circles and work just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 11:13 PM
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It does.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 11:13 PM
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Most women aren’t that wary and do slutty men because they are desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 11:12 PM
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You just keep hitting up women knowing you’re going to be rejected most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 11:11 PM
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The whole Chad thing gets ridiculous, if you’re basically a tall buff conventionally attractive male model there’s a whole new set of rules for you given by women. If you sit on the highest level of physical desirability man or woman, it’s a whole other lens to look through. If you’re an above average chick and you got to be a super Stacy you’d be in a brand new paradigm. You may want something totally different than you thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 09:44 PM
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I think your scales are a bit off. Such as bottom 50% of women don’t have the dating options men think. Then top half of men can rise to the top 20%, not 80%. The constraint that causes the lower percentage of men grabbing more options, is the bit lower level of promiscuity women have compared to men. This allows women to cash in for a better prize if they make themselves available enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 09:38 PM
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You get Chad treatment if she sees you as boyfriend material.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 09:34 PM
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There’s still a tendency for women to be sharing a smaller percentage of men. Women on average tend to be less promiscuous than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 09:20 PM
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This all has a tendency for men at the top to get an increasing amount of sexual and relationship options. Women take their more finite supply of pussy they are willing to give out and trade it to the best male options they can.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 09:12 PM
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Clubs have more women than men, the bouncers control the ratios. There’s off ratios on dating apps but there’s also near endless women available.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 08:59 PM
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If I talked to a guy and he said I went on 5 dates with 5 women last month and none of them wanted to get with me on the first date. I’d say you’ve been preselected that’s why she showed up, you have to be fkn it up somehow. I would also say if you got 5 dates and one didn’t basically want to be your girlfriend the next day your fkn up somehow too.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 08:56 PM
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What’s the reason girls can go to a club or dating app and get laid everytime and most men can’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 08:48 PM
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So a beautiful woman that’s just your type you match on a dating app. You go on a date and laugh and have this very enjoyable time together. You’re really into her personality too and has a great career. She goes home after the date and she’s super passionate and the sex is amazing. That’s all no fun to you with the beautiful woman and not satisfying because it was too easy? I’m the opposite, I like it when it all comes easy, if I’m trying and she keeps playing hard to get I just assume she don’…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 08:45 PM
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The market for casual interest from women is covered by the men that evoke that casual interest. Your mind is at that every time a woman goes to a club or opens a dating app sex occurs. It only will when a man appears that matches her desire for casual affection. Chris Hensworth gets sex every time he goes to the club whenever he wants. Average guys get lucky occasionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 08:39 PM
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I’m trying to get this straight, how does a man get laid easily by a 6+/10 woman? How is a date from a woman harder than getting laid? I’ve walked out of a club, put my arm around a girl and said you’re coming home with me, and she said sure. That takes looks and not being picky if you want laid so easy as a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 08:32 PM
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Getting a girlfriend is a process of being a semi functional human and eventually you find a woman who thinks you would make a suitable boyfriend. Extracting lust from many different women whenever you want means you are desirable. Most men can’t walk outside or go on a dating app and have random women all over them. When he can do that he’s simultaneously also very desired for a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 08:25 PM
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I think you’re largely on point. Women share men though.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 08:22 PM
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So in your own head it’s easy for guys to randomly get dates and laid, but hard to get a girlfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 08:16 PM
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In casual single arenas like bars/clubs/events/insta/dating apps a smaller percentage of men are getting the vast majority of casual dating options. How anyone can not observe this makes me think they have never been involved in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 08:08 PM
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Casual dating often leads to casual sex. This concept of women who are not picky and just have sex is like 10% of single women at most. I don’t personally run into it very often, if I’m getting some incredible bj and this is the 3rd time it has happened with her. Chances are I can ask, want to be my girlfriend and she says yea. A lot of casual interest from women implies relationship interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 08:05 PM
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The bar to get a girlfriend is not high. The bar to date top 50% women at will requires some above average finesse and appealing qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 08:02 PM
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If you can land a date and be socially engaging and normal it often leads quickly to fucking around. That then leads to the guys ability to have many relationship options. Like mentioned in the post for many men this would be the preferred method if given the choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 08:00 PM
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That’s what I did, I have 2 friends that for years always had some sexy chick on their couch. I asked wtf is going on why is hot women always sitting on your couch? Then observed it all and asked a bunch questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 07:45 PM
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Dating apps function more like nightclubs. It’s more like an online brothel for women than dating. That’s why it’s so hard for guys, you need to express some universal generic appeal most guys don’t possess.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 07:42 PM
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Boredom and just a random thought. I enjoy something like this more than doom scrolling. It’s a debate to most people, anytime I put discussion the mods say to do debate DK I just pick debate.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 07:39 PM
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They don’t but they like it better when men entertain them and talk to them first. Many men enjoy that part too.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 07:37 PM
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Then don’t comment, you make lame comments to posts you think are lame.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 07:36 PM
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Yea I try to make these points and I agree with everything you have to say. Problem is men don’t have all these qualities so they point back at Chad. If your life is on point, it’s fun, and you’re in shape you’re probably going to have lots of dating options unless you’re visibly ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 07:35 PM
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I’ve sucked at dating and been great at dating. Your statements are just lame and irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 07:33 PM
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What you’re talking about is entering a positive feedback loop with women which is much easier to do when women find you generally handsome.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 07:32 PM
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It’s always funny to me how “average guys get relationships” is a go to that somehow involves overall dating experience. I’m not sure how making the statement invalidates any of the point of the post.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 07:29 PM
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Just general observations, pretty obvious if you ask me, based on my experiences I wouldn’t know how to debate this. There’s always exceptions, which is all the commenters normally point out.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 07:27 PM
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I keep hearing this being said sometimes I don’t think average guys to guys is not how women see as average. We have this picture in our head of this handsome tall fit guy that dates a bunch of women. It’s more normally average looking guys with average bodies that have qualities women find attractive men aren’t seeing. You’re middle of the road guy normally doesn’t date so easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 07:16 PM
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The majority of men that I know don’t have that much interest in dating a bunch of women, having harems. There’s still a significant amount of men that do use women as a hobby. I think you represent the majority of men with that statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 07:12 PM
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Age gap relationships are becoming increasingly popular on both sides.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 07:05 PM
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Cold approach is a preferred method, if you’re dating a girl at work or your friends friend is that really the girl you really wanted? You cold approach women that have some form of allure to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 07:01 PM
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Well any occurrence with a random woman that agrees to a date is similar.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:59 PM
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If you can pull off wife beaters that’s about as good as full facial hair. Facial hair works so darn well because even stubble defines the angles of your face and disguise asymmetry. I’ve had a bunch of girlfriends see pics of me cleanly shaven and said they would not date me without facial hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:58 PM
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Setup occurs online. What works a lot better for men online is trying with women that are aware of his existence.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:56 PM
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I rarely if ever want a girl at work or social circles. It’s much more exciting to meet women you don’t know. I also don’t want to deal with any social repercussions to breaking it off with women I have to see again, not ideal at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:55 PM
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I could not pull random chicks until I turned 21. At that point I was in shape, 6’1”, and had full facial stubble and hairy chest. Then magically women wanted sex from me at that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:53 PM
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This is a complicated argument, but I would agree for most part. Until the guy who’s out of her league is acting really into her and wants to take her on a legit date, then she’s down.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:51 PM
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Yes I think that’s where the other half of the 80/20 rule steps in. Half of guys who can date aren’t very sexually selective and if she’s average and available they are down.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:49 PM
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Most women can from what I’ve seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:47 PM
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If you’re a 21 yr old male it’s going to be a lot about looks with women. Women by the time they turn 24 start looking at full package men and not just looks and social status.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:47 PM
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Online doesn’t mean they don’t have some connection with each other already. Her friend could know him and the connection happens online.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:45 PM
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Most all women don’t, what they desire is the type of boyfriend they want. If he matches that profile and he’s normal and he’s interested, she hooks up with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:43 PM
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There’s not much point to me or any other post I’ve written, just plainly and pretty obvious observations and experiences to me. Sometimes I think a lot of people that comment haven’t really dated much before and just go on preconceived notions that seem more pleasant in their own head, or very tightly to their own experience must be the more common experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:24 PM
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This is something only a woman can say with being argued otherwise and downvoted for. Yes this is often the case, women want what they can’t have. The indifferent man with too many options with women like her curries her most intense desires to land him. Women don’t usually land that guy they usually settle for another.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:21 PM
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There’s only so many top men deemed worthy of consistent random dates. This works because there’s enough men that want a lot if sexual variety. Then the bottom 50% of women can get laid, but they can’t land dates at will. Ultimately women in the top 50% land men that are the ones that can’t get dates like her whenever.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:18 PM
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Women expend most of their romantic energy towards men she wants as a boyfriend. In my experience you get a date, just don’t mess it up and she will at very least make out with you. If she really wants me as a boyfriend she’s likely to put on a sexual performance. Sometimes women have sex just to do it, but largely I think those are more rare one offs, they usually scouring and dating for boyfriends. If he’s boyfriend material, she’ll probably hookup first date, total guarantee by 3rd date.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:08 PM
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Women who casually date around are more normally going for men out of her league because she can.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:05 PM
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If a woman is out with a guy she doesn’t really know and is not associated with social circles. The odds she is currently down for casual sex is very high.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:02 PM
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I know some average looking guys that cold approach good and even have some success on dating apps and clubs. They’re usually socially engaging and possess charisma. I make the argument that the top 20% of guys landing most the dates don’t normally look like chads, that doesn’t mean you don’t have desirable qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 05:52 PM
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Average guys are largely iced out from dating women he doesn’t know. A random date and a hookup can happen for an average guy, but not at his will with consistency.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 05:27 PM
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Do people who write about age gap relationships actually do them a lot? I’ve had a number of girlfriends that were 10-20 years younger than me. I’ve also gone on dozens of dates. If a woman is attractive and young a small percentage will just flat out prefer older men and largely ignore men her age. This might be up to 15% of young women. Many more will sleep with an older man or go on a date just to see what it’s like. There’s also sugar dating, but that’s more she’s just being an escort. As a …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 04:33 PM
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People keep sharing those same sources for graphs. They were made up for seo purposes to make ad revenue. Your reality is this if you go on a date with a with a woman you don’t know, the odds she is being promiscuous at that time of her life is high. How many guys she will end up sleeping with is unknown. The chances she will sleep with you if you are normal is high.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 03:26 PM
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So the Midwest is progressive? Was the guys before the 80s only abusive after marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 06:48 PM
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There’s conflicting data on this graph from other sources. It’s almost as if incel-like data is being removed from the internet. It’s really difficult for men to win the attention economy online. If he can on some level, then he gets a gf easy. If not, people don’t go out and socialize like they did before so it’s got a lot harder if you’re in the bottom 50% of men. You can also attribute this to the cost of having your own place requires a much higher income than it did 10 years ago. Having a d…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 04:59 PM
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My mom had bunch of boyfriends, she had a good paying factory job, had her own car and house, and was born in 1943. I think you’re being a tad dramatic.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 03:38 PM
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Online has spread the concepts more, it’s prob always been blue pill putting most women on a pedestal, and red saying they more like guys and no better.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 02:30 PM
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There’s plenty of ways to express passion and not have sex. I think women feel it’s a catch22. If she thinks he has lots of girlfriend options, she just goes into it to become an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 08:00 PM
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Yea their dad would co-sign for loans and bank. They still worked if they wanted to. What’s that got to do with dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 07:34 PM
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I wrote a post about this and every single woman who comments that hookups from dates, were either to have sex for no reason just funsies, or sexual vetting for a potential partner but no consideration of boyfriend yet. However, in many cases women leverage their body in an attempt to land a man. When he ghosts them and she wanted a relationship, 97 times out of 100 the woman will claim she was used. You hit the nail on the head. If I'm getting an enthusiastic hookup from a date, I'm more often …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 06:57 PM
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You don’t seem to know about it, what makes it unsuccessful.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:47 PM
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You’ve referenced zero about it, so I’m not sure you would get what’s what.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:38 PM
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Oh okay everyone lives by the water got it, if you make 75k you marry other 75k people, what statements are these and how is that relevant. What am I bitter about, I don’t get it. I’ve been telling blue pilled guys that women are more like guys than you’re letting your brain imagine, they feel many of the same things you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:35 PM
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Well if you say the entire thing and talking about your own experience with women is all lies then whatever. You’re making no point whatsoever. It’s all lies, it truly can’t be you know how ridiculous that sounds.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:33 PM
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Red pill talks a lot about casual dating and what bad things can happen in a relationship, it’s largely a collection of shared experiences. I’ve had tons of dates, hookups, picked up women at clubs, 8 ltrs, wife for 7 years. For most part, when red pill topics are discussed largely I think yea that checks out for me. It’s not just people saying random things, it’s about a shared experience to learn from.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:28 PM
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If a guy is just asking you to come over, he’s just checking if you’re low hanging fruit. You think if she was a 10 he’d just check to see if she’d just come over, or take her out and pay for it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:25 PM
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Women in 1956 didn’t date guys? I don’t get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:21 PM
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80/20 being observed in dating and hookup culture has been done in a number of studies and data. The top 5% of guys have sex nearly at will and can with basically all women between them. Why do you think the average guy has a hard time getting dates? It doesn’t scale evenly at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:20 PM
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Most all the main tenants of red pill matches up with my experience. What’s so far off about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:17 PM
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Eloquently put, man thanks for that you’re right. What an argument to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:15 PM
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I get hot chicks whenever so I’m good. In the 90s average men characterized normal female behavior as being sluts, like not even much at all would label them. If a guy was getting lots of women, they all had to be sluts. Most guys were blue pilled protecting the sexual integrity of most women, pretty weird. I think with things being online it’s more some guys got access to all the single women easy, most guys don’t. I really believe in 80/20 casual sexual market is less evenly distributed for me…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:12 PM
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Your face type and a fit body, sprinkle in some lifestyle, congrats now dating apps are uber eats for dates and hookups.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:08 PM
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Maybe it’s different for other guys but for me it goes, I’m overloaded with girls that want to f me, or seemingly no girl wants to f me. Once I got better pictures for dating apps, sex whenever. Once I fixed my gut, sex whenever. In college grew a couple inches and full facial hair stubble, sex whenever. It’s like dang with women for casual access, it’s either you’re in or out with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:05 PM
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Yea it took to me to jr year in college. The 90s and before guys were all about putting some girls on pedestals then others as disgusting hos. For like no reason by today’s standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:00 PM
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I think guys really like above average women as a concept of getting with. Man the rest of that is a whole discussion not sure how to dive into it lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:51 AM
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You just have to check in your area where the cute girls are in the bar area. Can be lots of different types of places.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:24 AM
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Brutal but yea, phenotype is not all but prob majority of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 12:33 AM
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On tinder and hinge subreddits most of the posts are “what’s wrong with my profile, I’m getting no matches?” The real response to 80% of them is, women have never casually dated a random guy that doesn’t have some clear attractive appeal. Dating apps just exposed a reality that has always been the case with women. You have a small build and average face, it’s not happening in the casual world of dating apps. I’ve gone below and above this imaginary line of attractiveness in my life, I find it al…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 11:32 PM
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Social circles, local events, work, dating apps, social media, cold approach, bars/clubs, female hobbies like yoga and dance. I like dating apps, but I’ve also had good luck sitting at a nice restaurant that has a big bar area. You get talking to a girl at the bar area, then if she seems interested buy her a drink and go from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 11:08 PM
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From a middle class economic standpoint it definitely was.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 04:08 PM
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Women are almost always playing a very bad numbers game with hookups. Women often hookup because they actually may want that guy for a relationship. The problem is women keep hooking up with men who get hookups all the time, so they aren’t likely to be picked.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 02:59 PM
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Not me, if you get girls a lot you just think women are easy and impressionable. They want men to accept them. If I found out a girl I was dating got with 100 guys I wouldn’t care. 200 would be a start of concern. I’m more concerned if she’s entertaining other men while with me. I’ve been with a girl I was fairly certain less than 10 and she was cheating on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 01:20 AM
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No, I think most girls are sluts. They want men. I don’t think they are that much different from guys. Most just don’t want the same level of sexual variety as some men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 01:14 AM
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Haha prob around half I thought were so hot. Omg I wanted some of them so bad. If they were all sluts somehow oh well. I tend to think most all girls are easy and love to have the pants charmed off them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 01:10 AM
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Unless you’re having sex at work or in social circles not sure how anyone has to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 11:49 PM
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1960s America sounded good to me
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 11:12 PM
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If she said she slept with 4 guys and she’s on a date with me I prob wouldn’t believe her unless she was 20.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 10:31 PM
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Low body count women either have low libidos or just incredibly good at monkey branching from one relationship to the next. You’re just not likely to meet them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 10:16 PM
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Just wanted to make out but not intensely. Don’t you feel like the opposite doesn’t work either. You ever meet that girl that you just can’t believe you got, then you have an all night sex like 3 times because you’re so excited. Then you’re together all weekend just cuddling eating and having sex. Then 2 weeks later you ghost her or she ghosts you and you’re fine with it. Instant lust can be bad too imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 10:11 PM
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They acted iffy on me, but wanted me in their options. Once we had sex I just said be my gf and they agreed. Some women you just like their energy and adore the way they look. I had love at first sight with one and love after 10 minutes of talking to the other. One lasted 4 years the other 2.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 10:04 PM
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There’s all sorts of evil that extend beyond physical violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 09:43 PM
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They only count the ones enough people saw them with. Easiest hookup is the girl that has zero connection between you and any social circles. Dating apps and Instagram opened up a new sexual revolution for women, they can sleep around without anyone knowing about it. They only run to go tell their friends if they land sex with a trophy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 09:39 PM
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Every situation is possible. I’ve slept with around 140 women, I’d say maybe 6 of them just hopped on Ds for fun. Maybe I don’t attract total sluts for the sake of sex very well. For me, in that moment she’s doing it for the reason of wanting me in her life, secondarily for fun. Now sometimes women wake up and say nope, I’m actually a mistake and ghost me. That hurts your feelings some, but I know they didn’t just do me for grins.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 09:33 PM
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I’ve had 2 girlfriends that didn’t sleep with me until the 4th date. However, both stayed in my bed overnight the first night I met them. I’m absolutely certain both of them would more immediately sleep with a guy they wanted more than me at first though. Lust can build up some, it doesn’t have to happen immediately. Dating women know the opportunity cost of not getting with a guy they might want is too high, so they just do it. I lived in a 8 million dollar home for 9 months that a kinda friend…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 09:23 PM
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This is absolutely the case 97% of the time, if a girl pulls back on physical intimacy every single time it’s because she’s iffy about you. If she’s all over you, it’s about her wanting you as a boyfriend or in her life on some level. I’m not sure what OP is talking about, I think women have this perception that a good percentage of women simply f for fun. They just happily jump on dicks and move on, and they don’t care how the guy responds to her expressing lust for him. Not the case, nearly al…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 08:52 PM
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I’ve found most attractive women will only have a real relationship with a guy 2 points lower for a guy with money. If they go lower on looks, it’s direct financial benefits and they don’t really want him long term. Women get turned on by looks, lifestyle, and status. Most women want more than looks. Some guys in this sub are in denial.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 07:09 PM
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The worst SS guards were female. Have you seen the film Mean Girls? Pretty scary. Women have done insane things to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 06:58 PM
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It kinda is. Most online dates are hookups too and it’s fun to meet cute chicks at random. I’ve gotten relationships off them. There’s something so ridiculous and shallow about it, it’s really a base instinct way of meeting romantic partners. When it works dating apps feel like the closest thing to magic, you’re summoning company and affection.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 03:25 PM
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You can have your guard up, and you’ll still occasionally trust a big butt and a smile if she pushes your buttons. You’ll fall in love with some girl say it’s different, and get married then get shook down after the divorce and with monthly payments. You’ll have the insane ex that tries to ruin your life and won’t stop bothering you, part of life really. Consume all the red pill and allegories of evil women all you want, all people have some evil in them, women a bit more than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 03:18 PM
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Women in their 30s want their life goals satisfied of marriage and kids often much more quickly. If you want that too then I can see them as better. I subscribe more to she’s been Chad widowed, dated too long, no longer fun, now I need a betabux side of the argument. I’ve been on a lot of dates with women in their 30s and they are far less fun to be around. If she’s not like that, then she’s fine it can’t be every dating woman in their 30s is bitter and now has a list of requirements to date her…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 03:11 PM
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Women are easy once you have some desirable qualities as looking the part as boyfriend material. Girls really enjoy affection and passion. Guys that get laid a lot at random seem to have universal attractive qualities, usually in the face and body type. Tall, recognizable handsome, and not fat will get you in the door with most women. I didn’t get a hookup once in my life until I got over 6ft and had facial stubble. Then at start of junior year in college women come to you, give you choosing sig…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 02:54 PM
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It’s mostly lucky genetics, I’m tall, have a beard, and have thick skin that doesn’t wrinkle. I put a tiny bit of Botox on my forehead and I’ve froze off my gut a few times so I have a flatter stomach. Looking good being older is its own attractive subset. Being attractive in your 40s makes you more appealing to many men than younger women. It’s just easier to be attractive younger so there is this bias about being younger that it’s a preference, that’s only partially true.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 04:36 PM
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I’ve gotten increasingly attractive as I age so far I’m in my mid 40s, but you have to think about it, and use some cosmetics.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 04:29 PM
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I’ve dated all age women, I’ve been super turned on by 20, 30, 40 just depends on how attractive they are. You’re just more likely to be an attractive woman at 20.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 04:03 PM
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It’s more like guys find 70% of 20 year old women attractive, but then only 20% of 40 yr old women. You’re not any more attracted to the 20 year old, you’re just more likely to be attractive at 20 then 40. The same holds true for adult women, regardless of age they want an in shape, tall, 31 year old man. Women don’t turn 40 and magically get turned on by receding hairlines and guts, they want the guys that don’t have those signs of aging. Women are just as bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 04:00 PM
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Black people are amazing for defying aging, some of them have superior genetics to hold their bodies and skin together into old age. I’ve dated a few black women they were so kind, and the ones that were my girlfriends I thought were incredibly attractive and have charisma. I’ve done a ton of things to defy the aging process, and it all works.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 03:55 PM
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Attractive women will date a guy like this and get in a relationship. Many of the men are on hormones too and are very emotional. Then the women go back to regular guys and dad bods and refuse to date a muscle guy again Women also don’t realize that most instagram bodies are built with needles and not hard work. The most jacked guys at the gym are lifting 1/3 what I do and just gingerly doing nothing, we get it you’re on tren and just showing to play the part.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 03:50 PM
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The reason people aren’t attractive anymore is usually weight. People get fat and they aren’t desirable. This happens more easily with age, if you’re not in decent shape no one wants to go on a real date with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 03:47 PM
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You don’t have to hit a wall as a guy until maybe 50. Gets harder for women in 40s. Attraction to others isn’t an age thing, you’re just personally not looking as good as you did before, which is almost always changeable by looksmaxing and cosmetics. Some men and women’s best years can be in their 40s. I would say it gets to be very difficult in your 50s though especially for women. You can still be attractive in your 50s too though and date around and have fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 03:25 PM
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That’s true but as a guy it’s hard to know all the reasons you’re not attracting and repelling women. You’re in a completely dark room trying to not trip and find the light switches. To go from bottom 40% guy to top 20% is probably going to take a year or 2 to transform yourself and life to point random women want to be a part of. Guys don’t get this, no one shows them how to be attractive, so they just want girls now with no effort. If a woman is cute, not fat, and reproductive, she has higher …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 04:22 PM
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Guys dating problems is before dating apps and socials, guys didn’t know there was 20% of guys with desirable qualities getting most all the casual action from women. They just knew a few guys that got girls and thought they were one offs with rizz. All the bottom 80% of guys want more trickle down economics dates to come to them, which has never occurred. The 80/20 rule of casual dating is not new to dating apps and social media, girls knew how to find cute or rich guys before just took bit mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 03:44 PM
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You’ve written an inarguable statement, the problem is it’s hard to understand unless you’ve had at least 20 sexual partners, or you just inherently know. Also some guys are hot and want to be beta in bed and it works. I’ve been giving an incredible buildup intense orgasms thinking that will make a woman submit to you, what works better is being indifferent and more using them, it’s a balance though, just being more unpredictable in your behavior to keep them on their toes. If you’re just going …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 05:13 PM
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You have to use women for your own pleasure and have them do all the things you like, if you’re not really doing that and just servicing your girl mostly, she will desire you less. Guys and women will argue what you’re saying because people will argue anything, but if you’ve been with enough women and changed how you act you’ll see women respond differently. If you’re just primarily servicing her orgasms, sex is on her terms and she is the dominant one.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 04:23 PM
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Most guys are never going to be good with hookups and dating. Women have a high bar for that, even an ugly woman won’t randomly hookup with a guy who’s not desirable in some way. The majority of guys have to meet women organically and not participate in dating hookup culture where desirable men are. Some women are just going to keep trying with men out of their league. They’d rather be single than admit to themselves the level of guy that wants them exclusively.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 04:02 PM
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You need to be more dominant than surgical acting about sex. You can vary it up though, you can just focus on getting her off sometimes. If you do it everytime though, she thinks you’re beta.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 03:50 PM
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The first 3 times you have sex don’t try, then after that don’t every time. Be passionate and want her though, you should prob focus on giving her an orgasm most of the time once in a relationship. If you try so hard the first time, she’s going to think you’re a huge beta and not want you. You should be more dominant and in control the first time, she will be more turned on by that. As opposed to just focusing on her genitals until you figure out how she gets off on some girl you are with the fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 03:35 PM
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What’s wrong with being single, I’m almost always in a relationship. Most about this is Reddit complaining about dating apps, they work they’re are women on them. People find relationships on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 03:29 PM
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I’m almost always in a relationship. I’ve been married for 8 years and have 2 kids. I have another relationship for 4 years after that, I wanted to get married she didn’t. Women are into lifestyle and status, it actually turns them on.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 03:28 PM
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Fastest way to find a girlfriend is get one into bed and make her come a few times and be very passionate. Then just ask her to be your girlfriend in the morning and she says yes. If I got one kiss from a very beautiful high value woman that I really enjoyed to be with, I would be her boyfriend right there. I’ll make the sex good, the best sex I’ve ever had was with women where the first time wasn’t great, we connected and it built up over time. The modern dating woman needs to be able to see yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 03:47 PM
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It’s because she might become a sex slave, the way she was tied up was different than the guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 03:43 PM
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I’m trying to make an obvious observation with a real world example that women are attracted to status, like a lot. If you live in a fancy home and live a fun life, go on nice trips. You will attract women who want to do all that with you. Women get turned on by guys with status and lifestyle, looks is still the main factor but you can get a big boost by flexing on women. You don’t even need to be rich, just live an above average life.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 03:40 PM
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You have to bounce between caring and not to keep women interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 03:36 PM
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Why does the end result even matter? Women don’t often end up with the types of guys they want, they just revisionist history and say this was my type the whole time. She talked about hating dating apps, what she did is try to get men that make more than her and were more attractive and they didn’t want her for a relationship. So she settled, now she acts like she is better than him. Whereas she was never going to get a looksmatch guy who makes 200k/yr she really lusted for.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 03:31 PM
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Women are attracted to status, it’s an obvious observation. This is Reddit, so we have to say the obvious isn’t true. A high paid actor is going to get exponentially more and much better looking women than a guy who has a min wage job. Even if the actor is less attracted, because paid actors have status. Also, what is a gold digger? I’ve been in 160 online dates the last 9 years off and on in between relationships. What do they do? Girls don’t go in a date and say give me money or buy me a purse…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 03:27 PM
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When I was younger I was often seen as just fwbs, it’s hard in early 20s with women. I’m not exciting guy or even rich, I’m a boring dad with a higher income. How you craft the perception of you matters to women, once they find out I don’t party and don’t care about sleeping around, women latch on. Women understand that my profile is a sales pitch, and day to day life is likely just normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 02:04 AM
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Yes beautiful women normally want to get with men of high status. On a significantly tinier smaller scale I’m trying to do that with a million dollar house, 90k car, and trips on my Instagram. That’s how you land attractive women, most of them once they hit an adult don’t care that much about six packs and chiseled model faces that Reddit swears all women want, they actually want a full package guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 12:39 AM
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So you did none of what I did and you just match like crazy on dating apps, women show up for a drink, and you go back yo your place to hookup. Your dating profile is just you doing ordinary things, but babes match and want to go out. The only way that’s possible is if you are exceptionally attractive. I do cheap simple dates too, they work better than fancy or elaborate activities.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 12:35 AM
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Sugar dating is a nice way to say I’m an escort for old men. It’s not real dating or real relationship. Sugar babies generally have other guys they are attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 12:32 AM
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Red pill narratives are often centered around the concept of a young woman who dates around that is in the top 5% in looks. A literal privileged member of society, trying to use what she’s got to benefit her life. Red pill is often just talking about single women all guys want to get with. Assuming this woman is in her mid 30s and makes 160k/yr she’s practically a dream girl, but because she doesn’t look like an insta model, she’s mid, anyone that thinks she is mid are very stupid and jealous ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 12:19 AM
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It’s Phoenix, but I’m with all this. All my friends that live above the fold with high salary careers have beautiful wives or girlfriends. They may not be players, getting a beautiful woman when you got a nice house and drive a Porsche is easy. The women come for you, they don’t want money or gifts they want access to your life and you to themselves. If you’re an attractive woman, you mostly are not going to care about hot guys, they’ve done some. However, women seek out guys with lifestyle if t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 11:49 PM
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Because if you make $200k/yr your bills are too expensive for most people, women are not going to give you thousands every month for their share. You’re not splitting 1800 rent. It don’t matter if your girlfriend is rich, she’s not paying your fkn mortgage, she might help if she’s your wife. Girlfriends are just going to eat the food you buy. If you’re a guy and you’re kinda poor, you need a girlfriend to split bills, it’s just the situation for me they’re not going to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 11:16 PM
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You have to load more images, there’s a button. Some people commented unattractive, borderline ugly, the women are so far out of your league or just bots, I met some of them they’re not all bots, I saw the rest of the women’s instagrams. Idk women been calling me cute and handsome my entire adult life, I’m also tall, those facerate things give me around 9/10. People online and esp Reddit are ridiculous, if you don’t look like hot guy buff model you’re just average at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 11:10 PM
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The majority of casual dating is women deciding to go on a date with a guy she may want as her boyfriend. All of this other stuff like just fkn a chad, sugar dating, and gold diggers happens. You’re on a date with n adult woman, she’s usually there in hopes of a relationship. Women often hookup because that can help and they think it’s fun too. You want to flex lifestyle it’s going to help, doesn’t mean she’s getting anything. The only reason women dislike dating apps is the guys that get it wor…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 08:06 PM
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You can be disrespected and used for different reasons in any relationship, almost every guy will at some point. You cannot buy attraction and love. You can use your wealth to do fun things together, that’s a whole lot different than buying her a purse and shoes so she will have sex with you. If you’re doing that as a guy, you probably know what you’re doing. Rich guys buy off non prostitute women and turn them into prostitutes in a power imbalance, they get off on it, the girl gets what she wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 07:21 PM
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Yes but there’s guys arguing that 100k or 200k/yr will not help with women. It’s going to help. Having a nice place and car is going is going to raise your stock with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 07:06 PM
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This concept of only attracting gold diggers. What does a gold digger do? You’re on a date, she’s now your girlfriend and she’s the dreaded gold digger men talk about. What happens now? Unless she’s pushing for marriage or trying to get pregnant what bad is going to happen. She asks you for a purse, you say no and fk off because she just wants things and not you. I have money, I’ve been on countless dates and more than 100 hookups from them. I don’t understand all these men talking about gold di…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 07:02 PM
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100k is kinda normal and it’s going to help. Here’s where American guys say it don’t matter. Lets say they are a 5/10 average looking, it gets them a 6 woman now. They don’t want the 6, they want the sexy 8. Well if he wants the sexy 8. He needs to make a million per year so the hot girl will exchange her looks to be part of is high end lifestyle. So hence 100k doesn’t matter, it just does slightly but not enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 06:30 PM
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If you’re a woman just getting by and kinda struggling. They’re going to start leaning towards men that are not struggling as a romantic option.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 06:18 PM
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I can see your face you’re not ugly, so put yourself in a 1.5mil home and 90k car, with money for a fancy trip twice a year. Put it on the gram. You’re going to land babes easy now. If you were unattractive or fat, you’re still struggling with any attractive women. Lifestyle is a big boost to your prospects at a relationship and dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 06:12 PM
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There’s 3 levels 100k, 250k, 1 million/yr. Give yourself 1 extra point in desirability on a 10 point scale for having that increase of income. 100k is not nothing, it’s going to help with dating options. How that’s even a debate is ridiculous. 100k means you can effectively take care of babies, kind of a big deal to most women. You can also have money to do things, also a big deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 06:07 PM
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You give those guys a nice house and high paying career they are going to be a lot better at dating. They may go from 0 options to many good ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 06:04 PM
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Women genetic profile men, they have a third eye for it. What they want is a combo of masculine and feminine physical qualities for attractive babies to capable adults. Men look at sexual features and signs of youth. Women don’t see men how men see men. I don’t talk to a tall intelligent guy and get all excited for him like a woman, I’ll never understand what that’s like.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 06:01 PM
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Because the only reason women despise dating apps is they intentionally pick men out of their league for a relationship. Those men treat her like an option so they say men are bad on dating apps. Who women end up with usually they would never swipe right on him. Dating apps are more like nightclubs.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 05:54 PM
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Reddit users are always so proud to spout of their exceptions to a common desire of women. Women like intelligent and successful men, have some women not prioritized it that much, I guess you’re the shining example. Neat. Go date your taco bell cashiers, you’ll prob have the pick of the litter.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 05:48 PM
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What lifestyle does is get you 2 points higher from where you are easier. I prob don’t evoke the same lust as Chad. However, if you meet a woman and she wants you as her boyfriend, she will have very intense lust nearly immediately. She will have sex all night long and anytime and anything you want, you don’t need to be hot to make pussies wet. What you need is for her to wish to have you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 05:45 PM
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I would agree with all of this, I’m tall, white, and fairly handsome that crosses the bar for a majority of women on casual interest. What’s a miss on most men is that you don’t need a gym fit body and a chiseled model face to land beautiful women. I’ll take my package against those hot guys living in an apartment and have better options with women than he has. Attractive women want a package, not just an outlier in looks alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 05:40 PM
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I’ve made a post about this before I don’t believe gold diggers are real, or the other side most women are gold diggers some just have better tools. What is a gold digger going to do to me? All my gfs and women I date want to live with me, eat and help pick out my food, and accompany on trips I want to go on. There’s a large indirect exchange of lifestyle here but they never ask for money. The reality is I have to pay these bills whether I have a gf or not, they will help pay my bills if we marr…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 05:22 PM
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I’ve only got one clear picture of my face, but only on Reddit has any person classified my looks as ugly or average. Women call me handsome on dating apps and real life at a regular rate. Ever since I turned 20 no women has even implied that I’m not above average handsome. I’m not at all hot though. Also, the height part is pretty critical in regards to casual success with women. The whole in shape thing is mostly about visible muscles, I’m prob 30lbs overweight but I have big arms and chest. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 05:11 PM
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It’s more like a sliding scale as opposed to women focused on one thing. Will these same women date or be in a relationship with a more attractive guy that makes 60k/yr, many of these women would. Will they date a less attractive guy than me with lifestyle, no they still want looks. So what women do is make the trade and sacrifice looks some to attach to a man’s lifestyle. These attractive women won’t date an ugly guy though, money and lifestyle just gives you a boost.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 05:03 PM
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Real life, if similar attractive men one is a fast food cashier one is a specialist doctor. The high income specialist guy is going to run circles on the fast food guy with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 04:54 PM
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Women are generally more attracted to men with high salaries and nice houses. It’s going to help your dating prospects, women are attracted to potential providers and suppliers of good times like a trip. Is there some women that will sacrifice this in trade for a more attractive man, sure. Doesn’t mean she doesn’t wish she could have both, women have to balance their desires. More women want a combo, women rarely go after just hot or just rich for a potential relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 04:27 PM
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I’ve never met a below average looking man talk about all the dates he went on last week and how much he hooked up, and his harem of ladies. In nearly all cases that’s an above average man who can attain this.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 04:23 PM
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I’ve met some they’re real, some I shared instas with, others gave me a local phone number that I haven’t gone out with yet. My 5 gfs the last 9 years I think are all more attractive than these matches. Attractive women exist and they use dating apps too, gets them access to the type of men they want same is any other.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 04:18 PM
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I basically never date my friends friend, don’t need to. My soul mate is not at work or in my friend groups. I have to go out and meet the woman that really strikes me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 04:15 PM
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So you’re on a dating app are you more likely to swipe right on an anesthesiologist or a Taco Bell cashier? To you it’s the same I take it? I’m telling you if they both look the same the anesthesiologist is getting swiped right on exponentially more. Taco Bell guy is going to need to be very attractive in comparison to make any ground on the anesthesiologist.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 04:06 PM
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Women should demand the guy pays, I would if I was a girl. The reason is give this troll a total babe that wants him, then see him change his tune about paying for a cheap date. Women know it’s a slight to her that he wants 50/50 on a first date because he will for someone more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 04:04 PM
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Theres millions of people that have their full name, themselves, and loved ones publicly on social media. What’s the big difference doing it semi anonymously.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 04:00 PM
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I’ve dated women that make more than me too. Here’s the broad stroke that’s near universal and undeniably true, having a great career will enhance and increase your dating prospects. There’s truly no denying that women appreciate and will desire a successful man more. Can women want or prioritize this in a partner at all times, no. Doesn’t mean it’s not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 03:57 PM
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There are so many non-controversial topics on this sub especially somehow are. Having a great career will help your dating prospects, duh. On this post, women and men are clamoring that somehow it doesn’t. Attractiveness puts you in a positive feedback loop with women. That’s the vibe of confidence you build. Your point is obvious, people will argue anything on Reddit it’s astonishing and very dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 03:48 PM
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What are they trying to get from me? Haven’t run into any problems yet from my perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 03:44 PM
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I’m not paying any gfs bills ever, they got a job. Until they are my wife, they aren’t going to help pay mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 03:42 PM
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You sound insufferable.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 03:38 PM
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Men will f anything that looks cute and presentable in a swimsuit. I think above average but not very attractive women have the toughest time dating, because all men will have sex with them and take them on a date, but they won’t be her boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 03:24 PM
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You get better looking women if you flex lifestyle and have a good career. I can go on dating apps and not do that and still get women and hookups, but adding in lifestyle gets you more attractive women easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 03:20 PM
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Past the age of 21 I’ve never had a girlfriend for more than 3 months that didn’t tell me they want to get and engaged and be married.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 03:02 PM
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If you want to pull attractive women easily you’re going to need a combination of both looks and lifestyle. Most of the time you can’t looksmax yourself into a hot guy, it’s mostly your face. Certainly it helps though, I’m so surprised that have a high paying job is not viewed as really helping your prospects with women, it definitely does.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 03:01 PM
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You’re going to buy a house for a guy you’re dating or just your boyfriend, that’s incredible. You’d think you’d wait until marriage like normal people. People in serious relationships sometime shack up and split bills I get that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 02:57 PM
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If you live in a nice house, drive nice cars, go on trips like myself. The reason women go on dates and hookup, the dream is they live with me for free and eat my food. It don’t matter if I’m dating a 2 or a 10, they both want the same thing. Women you’re dating aren’t going to request any money or demand marriage, they want access to my life. I met a couple women in their mid 30s I thought were gold diggers, they realized they aren’t going to get what they want quickly and bailed.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 02:52 PM
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I pick up attractive women in real life too. It’s easier and selection is better online, they just show up and you hookup with majority in a few hours. My face gets rated 9+/10 by the face rating sites online. I’m 6’1”, I have a nice life. All women call me handsome, I get checked out often, I’m just not a hot guy you don’t need to be. Women have to date someone, most attractive women over 22 are not looking for a model buff boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 02:48 PM
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Gold digger can’t exist until a man makes her one. Having a high paying job helps your prospects with women across the board of women. Women want looks, then status and lifestyle. Compatibility gets solved or not later.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 02:41 PM
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Being tall greatly enhances your ability to randomly hookup. You don’t need to be as fit either. 5’10” is the zone where it’s not a negative, but you won’t have the positives. I was 5’10” at 20, and grew 3 inches in late growth spurt, it changed my prospects with women in more hookup culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 02:38 PM
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Having a nice house of your own will greatly enhance your dating life. Showing women you have a nice lifestyle helps with most all women. Not all women can prioritize having a man with a great career, but it’s strongly preferred.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 02:33 PM
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Getting into a relationship is easy. I never give any date or girlfriend money and they never ask for gifts, they got their own jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 02:29 PM
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I’ve been on lots of dates, 20% of them suck. A couple of them knew and apologized to me later. If half the single men who have tried dating apps suck, then you prob suck. Or you intentionally pick men who suck. Even if they didn’t want me from the jump half of those women were still nice. You can’t tell me men are this bad, women act bad sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 04:07 AM
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LA, SF, NYC, and a few other cities are very expensive, most aren’t. Also I’m talking 200k/yr, 100k helps, 200k really helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 03:59 AM
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Having a nice place that’s your own, I strongly believe is critical to your dating success once you’re over 25 as a guy. Go look up who makes more than 200k/yr that’s a high end salary and low percentage, it’s going to make you more desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 02:50 AM
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I wouldn’t even walk down a street that had $40 hookers, but okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 02:25 AM
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For a woman to show up right by my house, pay for $18 plate of food and 2 drinks is an escort to you, you’re insane and just trolling.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 02:23 AM
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I’m a babe magnet I’ll take on any Chad I’ll get more beautiful women than he can. In no small part is that because I make 200k/yr and I’m over 6ft. If I didn’t have those 2 things, I would not be a babe magnet. I could still get girls, but those 2 things push me over the edge. If 200k does not help you greatly, a million won’t do much more.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 02:22 AM
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How tf is getting a girl to show up at a pizza parlor and splitting a nice pizza and buying her 2 glasses of wine an escort? I’m intentionally picking cheaper places because the times I tried fancy it didn’t work.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 02:14 AM
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Women end up with certain guys and casually date other guys. You wouldn’t swipe right on him on a dating app. You picked guys with desirable qualities and options. When you got treated like an option you didn’t like that. Not landing the guys they really wanted is the top reason by far women don’t like dating apps. The guys I know who do well on dating apps, don’t outright hate it, they think it’s cool and fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 02:10 AM
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How are dating apps awful if you live in a city there’s near endless guys to swipe on of every type imaginable? How bad are you at picking dates if it’s plain awful? That sounds like you just don’t like people in general. If you can get dates, I never quite understand the complaint, unless I’m talking to a terrible person then I get it. Not every guy on a dating app is bad, not even the majority.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 02:01 AM
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Most all places in America you can do a heck of a lot with 200k/yr. That’s a top 2% salary, how is that not anything? What can’t you do with 200k/yr?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 01:53 AM
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Yea women wonder why we don’t care about their careers, I’ll care when I’m broke and looking for a woman to take care of me. Otherwise, pretty women don’t like to pay, don’t matter how old or how wealthy they are. Some do of course, most definitely don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 01:51 AM
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Here’s the problem if your mortgage is 6k/mo she’s not paying, even if she’s rich. If your car payment is 1600/mo she’s not paying for that either. What the women want is to live with you for free and eat your food, and tag along on the trips you want to go on. The women want that access to your lifestyle far more than a purse or money, they’ll never ask you to spend money on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 01:42 AM
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Women end up with who they end up with. You making 160k/yr and looking pretty, likely isn’t swiping right on your husband. Your husband can’t go on a dating app and have a bunch of women like you wanting to go out. You prob picked the most entitled guys in your area off apps and got turned off. Dating apps are excellent and fun experience for guys if you’re landing dates you want. A beautiful woman you don’t know showing up giving you a chance, that’s a pretty great time in itself. Most women kn…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 01:34 AM
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Dang you’re beautiful too, I’ve dated women that are significantly more successful than me and more attractive. However, still expected me to pay for going out most of the time though. 80k with his own business is def not a loser.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 01:20 AM
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When women want a rich man they won’t ask for money or gifts, they know that will ruin her chance. If a woman is asking for that she doesn’t want the guy. What women do is attach themselves to him to share his lifestyle. Rich man wants to go on a trip, he covers her plane flight and food. Rich man paying a mortgage that’s 20k/mo, she lives there for free. I lived in a 7 mil home of my friend selling his place and let me live there for cheap for 8 months. 14 first dates in a row slept with me. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 04:32 PM
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There's guys that get tons of women and land babes all the time, can get a girlfriend or affection whenever, and most guys who don't or don't care to go to the effort to be charming to women like that. Still works out for them, they have kids, and become a granddad and he's the alpha of his own world. Just a lot of other guys don't look up to him because there's nothing special about him that causes guys to be jealous.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 02:51 PM
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Yes I agree, my comment more about how dating ends up being like an economic market. Where 25% of the women and 5% of guys are getting most of the attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 07:57 PM
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Was it 3 months she’s living with you basically or you just saw her a few times a week?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 06:26 PM
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The haves and have nots is a big factor in the dating world more than ever. A man should possess lifestyle and physical beauty combination. A woman must be independent and take attractive photos for social media. If you fulfill this you can just date and hookup endlessly.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 06:25 PM
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We talk about red pill grifters online. She's deliberately sabotaging women. Guys love women that enrich his life. If she makes it chaotic it will be interesting for a bit, but eventually he's going to get sick of it and dump her.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 03:42 AM
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Older alone cat ladies aren't happy, they just have to convince themselves they are. Having love and someone who is always there for you is better than not having it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 03:12 AM
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Women of all ages like handsome older men and want to be in a relationship with them. Same with older attractive women. Being attractive is just easier when you're younger, but if you're older and attractive doesn't make that much difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 02:56 AM
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Let me go see what they ai rater apps have to say about my face.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 09:52 PM
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Possessing instant attraction by being a cute or well built guy changes the whole game into his favor. It won’t scale down for average men to work with below average women. So most of the male single population can’t get affection on command.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 03:07 PM
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My biggest problem with this sub and Reddit is dating is the huge blanket term. Encompasses every form of interaction, hanging out, dinners, courting, pre-marriage. Some people say I’m dating when they have an exclusive girlfriend they met at work. There needs to be a term for people who date around, that’s what I would call modern dating. So when you say people didn’t date in the 90s if you were cool, social, and normal people didn’t date like today, they wouldn’t say it sucked they would say y…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 12:21 AM
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It’s not a 1 to 1 SMV thing and there’s differences between genders. A 6/10 woman can have sex with as many 9/10 men as she can shake a stick at, and it’s never going to work out for the woman long term. For guys there SMV might be high, but they are missing one thing to close deals. That could be height, weird personality, out of shape. lives with parents etc. In order to get women on dates in accordance with similar SMV to women, men got to fire on all cylinders in terms of the status quo. SMV…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 05:48 PM
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You can rationalize the entire thing, but then think women can’t be like that. Some women don’t, they think the guy that used her for temporary entertainment for a few weeks is better than her boyfriend. Her boyfriend gave her those same feelings, just maybe not in a big rush one night. Now the girl is tired of her boyfriend and wants lust with someone hotter, but won’t care about her and that turns her on more. Red pill doesn’t target every woman, it gives you things to look out for so you make…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 04:36 PM
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She lived with me for 3.5 yrs, we were living before but spent covid together and a many nights had friends over always having so much fun. She was an absolute joy, I just loved being with her. She was practically my shadow and I felt like she adored me. I proposed with a beautiful ring and we went to Greece to celebrate, I thought everything was amazing. She just suddenly left to California 2 months after I proposed and my jaw hit the floor, I was broken. She came back 3 months later and wanted…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 04:07 AM
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My last girlfriends after my divorce have been 23, 36, 24, 20. You date younger if you can because they have less baggage and if they’re into older men they like you more for you. I liked the 36 year old because she was recently divorced and just wanted a boyfriend for fun and she was a successful businesswoman which I found attractive. Lot of women in 30s are looking for quick marriage commitment or kids before love and I’m not into that. The 24 year old left me at 29, I wanted to get married s…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 08:38 PM
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There's a lot of arguments that dating is the same, my argument is the word dating meant something different in the 90s. If you wrote the common reddit post "Dating is So Tiring/Frustrating and I'm Sick of It." People would start getting confused that you're spending nights with people you barely knew or never met before, that was not normal. They would bark at the audacity of paying for a whole evening with someone or expecting to before you express clear romantic interest in some social settin…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 04:34 PM
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You had guys paying for dates for which you didn’t really know or hadn’t form any romantic connection before already? In the 90s you met women, you talked to them in social situations, you formed some form of a romantic connection. Then the first date is more like the 2nd or 3rd date, it wasn’t an avenue for meeting people you don’t know. No one complained about dating around in the 90s by the time you were on a date, an obvious connection was usually formed, we didn’t even call it a date, more …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 03:33 PM
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You write one line of sarcasm and that’s all the whole thread wants to discuss.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 02:22 PM
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Omfg finally someone who explained what I was talking about and lived it too. No one wanted to thrown into a blind date, they just said hey just bring them to the function, see what they look like bc there’s no social media, and I’ll check the vibes and go from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 01:44 AM
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Bars yes, but that’s more hookup culture. Most people didn’t want to find their wife in a singles bar, but it happened. Also, once again the singles bar acted as the first date, they prob hung out right after, already kissed before the date.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 12:38 AM
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That was for degenerate loser weirdos, never did I even know someone who did that. Did you? How many dates you go on before 2002?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 12:34 AM
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Any random stat is posted online but most people meet online these days. They’re not set up by friends, that would be more 90s. The set up was more just bring them around, not go alone and sit at dinner when they never met.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 12:27 AM
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I thought we were arguing whether women in the 90s would go on random dates with men they largely don’t know. I’d say they didn’t they’d just say bring them to the function, then maybe date later and see if they’re a match first. That’s how first dates worked in the 90s.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 12:23 AM
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Did they meet first in a social context, through social circles, work, establish romantic rapport. Or did they just go on dates out of the blue like today and expect men to pay for them? Women didn’t care about dates, they wanted to go out and meet men. Then hopefully there’s a connection, that was the goal. That functioned as the first date. The actual date later is just an excuse to go do something. You know the song it’s raining men, that’s what they wanted a social scene with high value cool…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 12:06 AM
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It was of my impression that men and women did not care about dates, they wanted to meet each other in a social context. A date is the end result of something already established. Now women want to front load the date as an official vette of her allowing to research you online and see if you’ll pay for a night out. Then sit back and judge and gauge interaction. People just were more social and didn’t think about this modern process. If people did date like that in the 90s with matchmakers or acc…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 11:59 PM
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Sending your friend alone with a guy that she doesn’t know what he looks like and never seen before would elicit a bad response. Like how desperate do you think I am? Let me meet the guy first then I’ll decide, invite him next time we go out or at least a double date. Today women do that, when they research him online after and they also get to see a bunch of pictures, his house, LinkedIn. Women didn’t have much interest in just being set up on a blind date.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 11:53 PM
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I never cruised chicks at the mall alone always had a wingman or 2, that was popular though. If we got some girls we just invited them out right there, or checked if they wanted to go to a club/bar. There was some rapport to be established, just grabbing digits and calling to arrange dinner alone for a first time interaction wasn’t my move. I would be trying to establish as much romantic connection as I could in person, wasn’t thinking much about numbers or dinner. That could just be a factor of…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 11:51 PM
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We came to the conclusion looking at the yearbook there was maybe 1 virgin woman or perhaps 2 in our class by the time of high school graduation. Being a virgin before marriage was only for strict religious women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 11:43 PM
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People didn’t have and especially women didn’t have expectations of such sexual specificity and variety of options. The amount of time it would take women to explore so many different social avenues there’s no way she could be that picky prior to the internet. From a guys perspective, if you care to have a lot of options before the internet it would require you to be a constant social butterfly, so you could just keep getting more female options. Which if you’re not living on a college campus wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 11:39 PM
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How many dates did you go on before 2002? You had to establish connections with women was my experience. The fact you just say ask for her digits and she goes out, with no context here, that just didn’t work.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 10:38 PM
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I just think guys want pretty girls to like them, I’ve responded to a couple of your comments. How many dates have you been on in the last 10 years, and before that? What you say is like another world to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 10:36 PM
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Explain to me how you went on a bunch of dates in the 90s with people you largely did not know beforehand like you can easily today. I wrote up an explanation in the post on why that didn't happen. Dates were in social settings usually with friends, at least the concept of a first date would be that. If one guy had a girl you said, hey can you see if she has a friend? Then that girl wouldn't just agree to go on a date with you with never seeing your face or talking to you alone, you would setup …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:32 PM
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How? What was the process. I explained in the post the actual semantics of why that made it hard. You went out and met women, you didn't just go on dates to meet women because there was no real process for that like the internet supplies now. Plus guys were not just randomly paying for dates like they are now.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:27 PM
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It wasn't, women wanted to establish a romantic connection first, believe it or not people went to dance clubs made out, and were interested in flings too back then as well. People were horny back then too, they wanted affection. Now that I read this again knowing you had a matchmaker set you up on 100 dates, you know that’s abnormal right? Women in the 90s wanted to go have fun with a guy, it wasn’t about dates, that’s what you did.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:25 PM
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Did they go on dates randomly, or did they already meet a few times through social circles or work and were at least semi-established romantically to some degree beforehand. Because I can tell you no one I knew or myself would just go on dates with people they largely don't know or not at all in the 90s. If they were I would like to understand how, you didn't just throw 2 people alone together. You would set up or bring friends around and at least go with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:23 PM
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Guys didn't pay for random dates for women they couldn't even see or by chance had one polaroid to go off of. Your friend may say invite her friends and that's how people met. By the time you're on an official date the couple is already something already.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:19 PM
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Do women just point at any guy on a dating app and just go out with them, or do you think they picky as hell back in the 90s too and cautious. They aren’t going on dates with random men they want to have a choice and get a good look at them first, check the vibes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 08:44 PM
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Work and social circles and perhaps a singles bar (although frowned upon) that’s how you formed relationships by a degree of separation.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 07:56 PM
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A strong middle class made for a healthy dating environment for sure. There wasn’t 100s of couples or people to compare yourself to online. People met and formed connections because people were just down to randomly hang out or go somewhere. Much more social outside world in the 90s. You had to go out and meet someone to meet someone, people loved the idea of serendipity. If people ended up alone it was generally a break off social group you’re with, then that’s what led to an actual date, the c…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 07:53 PM
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Yes for sure, it’s far less about establishing a connection first it’s more seeking out preferences or how that person can benefit me. I sitting back astonished that people here seem to remember or think a woman would just show up on a date with a guy she doesn’t know and prob doesn’t even have a Polaroid of, that her friend just sent her alone to do, and she would actually do that. That would be insane behavior, you’d just say bring him around or go with me I can’t just show up, I have no cell …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 07:23 PM
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Personal ads in the paper was the original dating app that was strange behavior in the 90s, the most desperate thing you could do. Going out with someone and agreeing to pay for a date with a woman that you hadn’t even seen her face before would be an activity for a loser.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 06:58 PM
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You can’t explain it because it didn’t happen. I explained why in the Edit in the post. By the time you ended up on the actual date you’re kinda already together. Guys weren’t paying for a bunch of dates in the 90s randomly with women that hadn’t already met and expressed some romantic interest, you probably already kissed before you went to the movies alone together. Now did people try to setup on double dates sometimes, occasionally, but it was not preferred. Alone with someone you never met o…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 06:55 PM
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How did you establish the formality of an official date with someone you don’t know and get them alone together in a date in the 90s as the first interaction. There was a concept of a friend being a matchmaker, the friend would say just bring him around and let’s see what he actually looks like first, then I’ll think about it. You probably didn’t even have a picture of him. That happened to me you’d just go out as a group first. I’m not paying for a whole date for a woman that I don’t even know …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 06:45 PM
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They got set up to go hang out first in a social setting. You didn’t send them alone never meeting. That sometimes happened, but friends would generally go out together in together and expected the guy to pay for the whole thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 06:42 PM
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They met first, likely multiple times, they already had the romantic connection. The date was just hanging out. You didn’t go up to a random woman and say “I would like to take you to dinner on this day, I will pay.” Woman be like wtf, why don’t you just talk to me you weirdo.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 06:39 PM
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I was 22 in 1999 is that not old enough for you. World didnt start to change with the internet to any great degree til late 2000s.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 06:38 PM
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I’m so with you on all this. I remember in the 90s going up to a cute girl and making her laugh and we liked the same bands, we talked for a hour straight. Connected so much, then you ask her to hang out another time or you might hookup. Women don’t care if you make them laugh now, they’re way more bottom line oriented these days. Height, physique, level of masculinity, what’s your career, where do you live, how soon do you want to get married. Women did not act like this in the 90s, they just l…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 06:34 PM
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Ugh I give up, in the 90s you weren’t just landing dates without already forming some level of romantic connection in person in a social setting first. The date was not some qualifier in most all cases. She’s going to hang out with you because she already met you and liked you like that. You didn’t have to buy her dinner and all her drinks to agree to it, she would just go hang out with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 06:24 PM
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No never, above average women have never done that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 06:20 PM
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If you didn’t already form a connection and now know the woman. How were you going on a bunch of dates in the 90s? By the time you went on a date, the bond was already there. People didn’t just date around in the 90s. They went to social settings to meet first. There was a bunch of comments about this already, but then they can’t explain how you would go on a bunch of dates in the 90s before basically deciding you’re already into each other. You would not go up to a random woman and say I am tak…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 06:17 PM
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What makes this sub interesting is explaining something that is so obvious and having people who probably haven’t gone on 10 different dates in the last 5 years explaining how wrong you are. I find it interesting. I met women in the 90s, I date around today. People want to classify the word date and dating with every single way people meet as argument wordplay. Of course you’re right this is why this sub exists and the common complaints of the societal shift that came so fast with social media a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 06:01 PM
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There’s cute women that aren’t very obese literally everywhere, I would argue it’s at least 50%.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 05:56 PM
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By the time you went on a date in the 90s, something was already there in the first place. Women didn’t just go on dates with random men partially to get free meals and maybe hookup. The reverse was more likely to occur.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 05:55 PM
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I attempted to argue this as clear as I could in the post, I’m being told I’m just romanticizing the 90s. People say somehow went on blind dates in the 90s with people they didn’t know, which I can’t figure out how. Whereas that’s common today due to social media and apps. People socialize and go out now sure, not nearly as many and they don’t interact anything like the level they did before. The concept in the 90s that people just met up and hung out, decided where to go, jumped into other soci…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 05:49 PM
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Well because of you saying people just blind dated in the 90s like today I explained in detail why that didn’t work. If people were just randomly going on dates endlessly and easily back in the 90s in your head with people they didn’t know, then I can’t explain you out why and how that didn’t happen. It’s in the post now though, you should read it. Instead of just saying nuh uh, yea they did. That’s not an argument, I’m telling you they didn’t and a large part was woman’s safety and semantics to…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 05:43 PM
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Weddings are not even what they used to be in the 90s. Weddings used to actually be like Wedding Crashers, wild parties with food, people dancing, and hooking up. It would not be a requirement in 2024 that you should bring a date to a wedding.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 05:41 PM
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There’s a whole lot of people on this sub that seem to think that how people formed relationships in the 90s is the same as today. It is, sometimes. If you’re under 30 it’s not the normal way, people say more meet online now.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 05:39 PM
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You can just say it without explaining how that would be possible. I’ve gone into detail on the post on why blind dating wasn’t common already. People didn’t randomly go out with people they didn’t know in the 90s as a norm, they met in a social setting first, they met through social circles. People had to go out and be social and meet someone to find a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 05:31 PM
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There’s a whole large majority, especially young people that don’t want to date at work, they don’t want to date their friends friend, they don’t want to go to a club and meet a guy, they don’t like singles bars guys. This was all the defacto ways to meet people in the 90s. Blind dates were uncommon and a woman’s friends would be concerned for her safety. They are looking for a specific type of guy, and they go online to find them. A woman’s ability to be so much more specific with her wants and…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 05:22 PM
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How would you do this without spending time with her already first, or meeting through social circles? I’m talking about modern dating where you can just keep dating endlessly at will, which doesn’t most the time function like the past. There was singles bars, that was the only tinder/instagram like thing before the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 05:04 PM
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The only way that could occur is if someone was a matchmaker to 2 people that never met before. Now we have dating apps which functions as an online matchmaker. This was actually uncommon 2 people who have never met and would be considered dangerous in the 90s. A woman would have no way to vette him online like today. She would have no cell phone to call for help, she would be too afraid to get kidnapped. It was very uncommon.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 04:35 PM
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Women did not agree to go on a bunch of random dates with guys they never met before and expected the guy to pay for the whole thing in the 90s. That was considered a blind date and most people did not do that. Where it is common today.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 04:31 PM
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People were largely opposed to blind dates in the 90s. Paying for a date for a woman you never met before was not commonplace. What the girl would’ve said is just bring him around.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 04:29 PM
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I said fairly cute and looks presentable in a swimsuit, nothing about age, high fitness, or high level of attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 04:26 PM
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Dating is a word that gets used in at least 10 different contexts of meeting someone. If you’re going out with a group and just invite that person, it’s less expectation than what most people would consider a date. I’ve invited girls out and they ended up with a friend, which was fine I was just asking her to come go out.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 04:24 PM
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Needing a date to attend a function is like an 80s trope. I think that’s my argument people are going out to more social activities and at random prior to cell phones. You didn’t need a dedicated date together to meet because being out and more social was more the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 04:17 PM
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That’s separate to this, but there is a social pressure with social media. Comparison is the thief of joy, people want to live up to some status quo in relationships and lifestyle. Which leads to unrealistic expectations from prospective partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 03:59 PM
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Being in the confines of a campus is a gray area to that concept, frat prob more so. The concept of someone who is dating in my head is a person that can theoretically go on as many dates as they want. You’re not waiting for things to materialize through friend groups or at work. You forage your own leads. I don’t think most men are effective at this, if you went through an entire dating app as big as Hinge and got 3 dates you can’t really date. We live in a less socially connected in person wor…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 03:11 PM
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Women who have problems with dating start wanting a composite of the best features of guys they dated. When a woman is dating way too long she probably could’ve settled along the way but wants something that doesn’t exist. Men want attractive women which are always hotly contested for.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 03:05 PM
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That Jake Paul/Tyson fight ring girl is 20, no guy on the planet is saying no to her, women know this, guys that say she’s too young are kidding themselves. Guys more often think younger women are hot. I’ve dated at least a few dozen women that were 20-24, some women that age want to date older men. This sub keeps bringing age gap relationships up and it’s not a real world concern, it comes down to the young women’s attraction and preference. I’m in my mid 40s and my gf is early 20s when I met h…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 02:02 PM
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Why would that be uncommon? It's uncommon to average men perhaps.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 07:55 AM
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There’s a type of dating that’s more casual, like girl in college class that you ask to do homework with, dating apps, random social media commenting, bars/clubs, gym, cold approach. You don’t really know them, you just make it happen. Organic dating is you hung out through friend groups, or you work with them. This is more letting things happen not being proactive. I wouldn’t call organic dating really dating, that’s just more you met someone by proximity. Which still is the most popular reason…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 06:34 AM
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This isn’t talked about on this sub but it’s the general theory I’ve heard in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 06:19 AM
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All dating apps are hookup apps. Functions like a male brothel for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 01:04 AM
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In conversation among peers and friends sure. Women brag about hooking up with some men among friends. Women don’t publicly talk about the 14 guys she hooked up with last year dating, most girls will never admit to sleeping with more than 20 guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 12:10 AM
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Ha, I think you should read the comment again. Most women wish to get the pants charmed off them by a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 12:07 AM
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I’ve listened and read so many comments online about how this attractive girl just mid, I would never date a woman that does this, says this, flash butt on gram, has more than 5 body count, negative personality etc. Then I’ve never seen a single guy who openly turned down a woman that’s fairly cute and looks presentable in a swimsuit, who’s offering sex or wants a date regardless of anything. Guys are so easy it’s insane, don’t talk to me about how picky men are they aren’t, women are sometimes …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 12:03 AM
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If a woman is clearly normal and of average bmi. If she complains about dating she doesn’t care about the weirdos she met, she cares about the guys that didn’t pick her exclusively she wanted. Which is just a factor of women’s natural desire to want men other women want.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 11:40 PM
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There’s a lot of people that complain about dating. Women’s complaints are usually solved by don’t date players. If he has lots of dating options, you’re an option. This is your moment to humble yourself and realize that you’re not as special as you think you are to demand the most in demand guys into commitment. For guys who complain about dating, it’s why do you expect women who largely don’t know you, or not at all, to spend a night hanging out with you. Yes the top 20% of guys have got that …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 10:49 PM
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Most single people don’t date with people they don’t know with any sort of regularity. Most single people don’t even care to date. Most single women are just chilling not even really thinking about men, or wanting a relationship at the moment. When they decide they do, they think about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 10:29 PM
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I’m just talking about the complainers. Most people don’t complain. Most people don’t even date, and just meet people organically. There’s a lot of guys that want to have a lot of dating options with above average women who also want to date. There’s a big competition for that with men, if you’re not succeeding it doesn’t mean much. It’s nothing to complain about, women tend to be real picky with going on a date with men they don’t personally know. Women have no obligations to men to satisfy a s…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 10:20 PM
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Most single women are not actively dating or even caring about men at the moment. When women show up on the dating app, or start to care and they are above average looking, these women can be flooded with thousands of requests for date from men. Average men can’t get these women’s attention. They have to rely on other methods with proximity. They can’t get too focused on above average women who are trying to figure out who’s the best possible guy they can get to take them on a date, they can’t w…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 10:14 PM
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The manosphere pill guys are focused on above average looking, single, higher libido, social women who want to go on dates with random men. Then characterize those women, which makes sense because those are the men single guys want to meet and go on dates with. However, it’s a small minority of women that they are focused on. There’s more single man supply than what these women can handle. So single men feels as though they get left out, when it’s simply a factor that these select women are in s…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 10:05 PM
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Dating is more something maybe half of women do in little bursts. Sometimes women really get going on go on like 50-200 dates, they are addicted. However, I believe most people have not gone on more than 10 dates with people they didn’t know in their lives. I’ve went on a ton of dates off dating apps, there’s prob 10% of them that said I was the first guy they had ever been on a date with they didn’t know prior, by the way they acted I believed them. They weren’t young or ugly at all. People dat…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 09:59 PM
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You sound like an attractive lawyer, women got to desire somebody. Around 30% of the women I’ve been out on a date with I’ve found out are in a committed relationship or married. Women never cheat, they attempt to monkey branch on a partner they’ve already left in their mind, they just haven’t let him know yet. Women also almost never hookup with men, that’s not something they do, they were actually in very temporary exclusive relationships. I was at a wedding last weekend and this woman was goi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 09:45 PM
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All this is great advice on how to use dating apps. If you read online advice it’s like smile, hold a dog, and looked well groomed, sadly unless you’re gorgeous guy that’s not going to be enough. You need a career that sounds high paying she can verify on LinkedIn. Access to your insta so she can see more. Then you need pics where it actually looks like you have a life, not just went to a wedding once and posed by the ocean. Telling guys to craft a real dating profile over the next year or 2 so …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 09:40 PM
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I know a girl that I dated that my exwife and half my friends said was ugly and kinda looked like a dude. I thought she was fairly hot, she wasn’t winning any beauty pageants though. She showed me her bumble and it had 34,000 likes in her queue and she was matched with the hottest and most successful guys in the area asking her out. Many guys need to get a grip on who’s actually unattractive, she was clearly above average and had a nice body.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 09:21 PM
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Thanks, I’ve read one of your posts and it turns out you’re not Ernest Hemingway. It’s disjointed sentences, no clear paragraphs sometimes, random insert thoughts. This is Reddit it’s a very serious platform.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 09:15 PM
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I’ve lived in a small town, it’s few options, basically everyone knows everyone. It’s pretty lame. Of course there are tons of other reasons, not having options in your area is a clear problem. However, when I hear women and men complain about dating and I know them, it’s usually this same issue for each gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 09:10 PM
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Aside from penetration for that long and bjs for that long. What’s the difference between porn sex with a straight couple and real sex? You can do all that, or some of it. Women are better at sex these days because they watch porn. Women take mental notes, like oh that’s what guys want got it. Then women are happy to do it, most people want to please their partner. When people say, “porn is not realistic sex!” I’m like, what kind of sex are you having? Porn is sometimes bad because some men thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 07:47 PM
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Saying dating apps are mandatory is like saying going to singles bars is mandatory, because it’s an online version of that. Sure you can get a lot of dates and hookups there, maybe a partner. It’s not required and there probably isn’t even 8% of women on them right now in your age demo.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 07:43 PM
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I’ve been to a therapist, I’ll take a partner who loves me and cares about my life and feelings way over that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 07:15 PM
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Because all women want a man who looks 30 and in shape. You have to do comsmetics, eat healthy, and workout once you’re 30+. Then women expect you to own a home and drive a nice car. If you do these things you will literally drown in pussy with women of all ages, if you choose to do so. I did that and go on hinge and women send me roses and hook up whenever. Before that, I could barely date because I had a gut. Women don’t get with men with guts, you’ll learn that when you have one. It’s the sam…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 07:10 PM
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It’s an intentional archetype of a standard attractive couple in America, that’s why you found it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 07:06 PM
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This is 2 people elevating their own status in society. Also, this man hits the Venn diagram of best looking man that will also appreciate her the most. You see this combo so often.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 07:04 PM
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Men get a ton of respect now if they’re over 27, so just be patient the world doesn’t like boys. Make money, nobody likes poor people. Be in shape and looksmax, all people are shallow about looks. Realize no one cares about you unless you provide some form of value to them. Stop being a simp, you have to be somewhat of a challenge it shows you have no value to women. If you get women now, don’t be a thirsty slut. In both cases women use it against you. Talk to women like they are regular people,…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 06:57 PM
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If she's a cutie with a booty or statuesque with big boobs and I enjoy being with her, I will throw this sane and logical argument right out the window and hope for the best. Doesn't normally work out though. Women do the same exact thing, if he's hot or rich and she really wants him she will look past it and try anyway. There's 2 sides to every story.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 06:19 PM
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I think what men get wrong is how physically fit you need to be to attract women, as if getting more jacked produces more results with women. If it looks like you're in the gym all the time shooting hormones then you're actually decreasing your universal attractiveness and more appealing to gym chicks. You just need to have no gut, big arms, some form of pecs, which doesn't take that much time in the gym and eating fairly healthy and you're fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 06:04 PM
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Women get 2 points higher in dating if they want. A woman who looks presentable in a swimsuit and a cute face (which the manosphere is focused on) has nearly every man in the world as a sexual option and can get paid dates in an endless loop. Which is the same concept as being in the top 20% of guys. Then Chad gets hot women by looks alone. Manosphere is focused on the top 20% of attractive people and how the top 1% in looks guy can get sex with no effort. I wrote a post about how we men are ana…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 04:55 PM
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Not all men are simps and sluts, but those are the men that put women on their imaginary pedestal. Women are thirsty as hell too they just don’t desire as much sexual variety. Guys and girls are about the same. One just likes status and lifestyle and is a bit less slutty. So women can cash in dates and sex for higher tier guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 04:48 PM
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This is almost always because the women can land dates and have fwbs with very appealing men. Above average attractive women have the hardest time finding a relationship because they date the guys with as many female options as they want. Unattractive women are the quickest to marry because they don’t have men dangling commitment or stand anything to gain by remaining single.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 04:42 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/tiRBj2Z9z3
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 04:32 PM
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Yea that would be the solution
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 03:15 AM
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I have no clue what you’re talking about. Do you think that a guy that’s 50% average appeal can land as many dates as he wants with 50% appeal women in a similar age range?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 11:38 PM
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I think you lack a general understanding that most articles are just written because there’s a SEO search for it. Start diving into actual studies from ifstudies.org and you realize it’s just seo for sake of seo to make ad revenue. Something like half of single women don’t even want to date and 30% of single guys don’t. So when I wrote this post I have some cognizant awareness we’re talking about a small percentage of people in general with this post. It doesn’t make you right about a topic by c…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 11:31 PM
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There's more than 10% of men 18-29 that are voluntarily celebate. 15% of women that are voluntarily celebate. Some people don't even want to get laid for religious and personal reasons, it's not uncommon at all. There's more than 10% of guys 18-25 that are virgins. I can't even begin with this claim. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-myths-of-sex/202407/is-voluntary-celibacy-on-the-rise We also aren't even talking about getting laid, it's about dating for the 5th time now.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 11:01 PM
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If you’re going to sit here and make an argument that only 10% of single guys don’t get laid across every demo and age bracket. Then I guess you’re right, wildly wrong and it would take a very simplified brain to come to that conclusion based on 1 stat, but okay, you’re right. Also, it’s not about getting laid. I don’t think I talked about the act of sex once in the post.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 10:26 PM
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Why do people take one article and take the whole population of every adult, and then spit out one stat. When it’s clearly talking about single people and likely more about younger people that are not in a long term relationship or married. Depending upon the age range and being single for that entire year, it’s 2-3x 10%. Also, getting laid a few times in the year is not dating. So I’m not sure how that’s relevant. You can date a ton and not even get laid one time voluntarily even when they ask …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 10:17 PM
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Maybe, but it still gets those people into marriage quicker and more likely to stay in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 10:03 PM
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I think you should tell all the simps of the world that on repeat until they finally get it. Women wanting men they can’t get is why we as men can never care about women’s issues on this. I find it impossible to listen to them. Don’t choose guys you know you highly likely won’t get, but like you said that’s what women actually desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 10:02 PM
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Obviously this makes logical sense and is largely correct. However, I don’t really think most women walk around and have fear of men in most developed countries. They will get freaked out real quick in certain scenarios or if the guy gives her any reason to. However, in general I don’t think women are scared to go to a guys house she’s been talking to for a few hours or kinda knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 09:55 PM
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Yes that’s a different story though. That’s more based on a woman’s ability to earn as much as men, be on birth control, abort, and the exponential increase of sexual options that her presented to her due to the recent formation of the internet. So now some women can sit on their high horse and say I only will only date men more attractive and make more money than I do. She can date and hookup with as many of those guys that are available in her area, but those men won’t give her a long term rel…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 09:29 PM
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The current casual dating market tilts so heavily towards women because there’s too many men online that would like to sleep with as many women as easily as possible for long periods of time if they could. Some of the top single guys do that, but it can only work for a smaller percentage of men. What guys would do that women won’t, is causally date in their league. Women will casually date and hookup, but generally with guys she’d be highly likely to say yes immediately to for a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 09:22 PM
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Guys could flip this script on women nearly immediately by simply not desiring the variety of women that many men crave. However, there’s way too many guy sluts, so women largely get to choose who they spend casual dates with. The women pick the best men they can get based on specific preferences. If they aren’t really wanting a family and husband at that moment, why would you expect women to do any different.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 09:18 PM
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Because you can’t do anything about this, women hold the cards on casual romantic affection. They cash it in for top men for biological reasons. The guys at the top who want lots of casual access to women will just keep satisfying that market. Then average guys are left out from dating average women casually whenever they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 09:14 PM
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Yes, average women in their 30s who feel they are running out of time for a family and a husband would essentially be forced to marry and procreate with below average men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 09:12 PM
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Yes I agree, but not having sex before marriage results in the same benefit of forming exclusive relationships even today. People who practice abstinence get married and have babies quicker in life. More religious people that no sex before marriage is often tied to, have lower divorce rates as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 09:10 PM
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Yes I covered that in the last paragraph at the high level. This sub keeps telling us all the issues in dating is a lower libido activation and women’s hypergamy is the problem. I’m saying well you got it now guys, here’s what’s going to happen. It’s not a great result, appears worse from an evolutionary perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 09:05 PM
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Why do women abandon their fears of safety for men they desire? Is it simply the halo effect? I agree with the rest of this except the last paragraph, it's going to affect the formation of families and marriage a lot. Average men would wait a longer time for marriage and kids, they wouldn't feel any need to settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 08:58 PM
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You're just getting into wordplay and not the real argument. The concept is an average guy opens a dating app and now has as many dating options as the average woman. Saying this couldn't happen because women wouldn't do that, well of course women don't open up dating apps or go on social media and date random average guys now, but in this example for whatever reason they do. The top guys in the real world are the only ones able to date around easily and consistently.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 08:52 PM
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Not sure about bonobos, but I'm assuming they need less child rearing so the more open sexual market just ends up working. In the theoretical flip of the dating market, we would end up with reverse eugenics and anti-natural selection. The market of the least desirable men, would end up making many more kids than the top and average because women's biological urge would force her to marry below her league in many cases to help with security and the child. Then you have average guys that just tend…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 08:46 PM
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There’s a difference between being handsome or cute and hot. If you’re a borderline walking model with a real physique and Hollywood looks you’re in the top 1% of attractiveness and women respond heavily to that. I was part of a large bachelorette party with a handful of strippers and there were guys that were buff and hot, then a guy that was more skinny but cute guy, and he came out in gstring and had a huge honker, the women went crazy and had pure lust in their eyes. There’s very select guys…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 04:53 PM
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Men didn’t really think about this stuff prior to the smartphones. We knew some attractive guys got laid just by looking at them, but there wasn’t apps for that, for women to express their evolutionary eugenics instincts. As it turns out, lot of guys at the top just suddenly had all their sexual options multiply and their more than happy to satisfy all the extra sexual selection by women.l now available. Social media and dating apps were supposed to solve loneliness, but because of women’s prese…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 03:56 PM
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There’s some things you just can’t even talk about outside the old bp canceled subreddits. Whether it be 2 to 20 guys, women will look and sort out the alpha or at least most attractive one. They do it as observational sport occasionally, they scan for the alpha in groups that are presented before them. I had a friend who was tall and looked like don draper. We would go out to restaurant bars, sometimes clubs. It must’ve been 1000 times out of 1000 over the years that the prettiest girl in the g…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 07:32 AM
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I can get more and better looking women into my bed quicker than most chads. However, I do not evoke the same instant visceral reaction from women as a chad. I’m more all around boyfriend material, which often leads to feelings rather quickly. However it’s just not as an intense instantly of a woman coming face to face with a cologne looking model. Women experience instant attraction fairly regularly. Women swipe on dating apps, say he looks cute has a career. Meet up and have sex with him becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 06:55 AM
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Women leave men because they are just tired of him and want another guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 06:41 AM
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Looking good as a guy is important and men could be doing and trying a lot of things they aren’t. Your list is not it though, it’s not about combing your hair with style, it’s about getting the right haircut for you. It’s not about cargo shorts, it’s about how the clothes fit.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 06:33 AM
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This is such an obvious observation, when people explain women need more than just looks I haven’t met a woman that this applies to, demisexual is a made up term for women to put themselves on a pedestal. Women experience instant desire quite often, and sometimes they just want some affection and attention from a cute guy. If she finds him very attractive or he’s alright and very rich, he can act like an idiot and in most cases she will still halo him and want him. Average guys have to jump thro…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 06:06 AM
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You haven’t seen the studies, women rate 70% a men a 4 or below. Basically no guy gets rated higher than a 8. If a girl gave you a honest review of you and said you’re a 5, that likely means she is not opposed to having sex with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:57 AM
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This is one of the most blue pilled things ever written. What in the world are you talking about. Women love hot guys, those guys rule dating apps. Famous guys have extreme status and wealth, sure that beats a hot guy, but she’ll leap at doing both if they take her on a date. Women are absolutely shallow af when it comes to looks. If you’re preselected by a woman for a date, just act normal and she’ll hookup women love affection, prob more than guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:52 AM
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I think the last bullet point is the only unrealistic one, it’s a strange combo. You could just marry a rich girl who don’t work.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:32 AM
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There’s got to be some woman that is the best girlfriend in the world that’s pretty close.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:24 AM
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Gosh this woman barely exists, but yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 03:11 AM
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There's no bad intentions it's only good, being with a person younger than you most all people don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 09:58 PM
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Her parents invited me to thanksgiving and christmas twice now. They like me lots, no one thinks she's making a poor decision. Her parents really like me and think I'm good for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 09:45 PM
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You can’t make an emphatic point these days without thinking you’re mad. It’s cool, virtually no one cares in real life. You responded and read it, it’s interesting enough apparently. It’s like politics, you start talking to people 90% of people aren’t going crazy about the latest political headlines. There’s a bunch of drones over cities now and we don’t know where they come from, most people okay whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 09:15 PM
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Women say they want boyfriends and they only go for guys interested in monogamy, then get on a dating app and walk outside and do the exact opposite with guys that aren't even pretending not to be fboys. College educated women are more promiscuous, it's a widely known fact. So this isn't some intelligence thing. If I didn't get with girls easily in last 2 years of college, house party, invite them to study, friends of friends they hookup. Then hadn't gone on 160 online dates with women of every …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 08:31 PM
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I don’t even care, I slept with more than a couple women I thought were hot, but I knew were sluts and total bitches. The only thing that bugs me is when I keep being told that normal social above average looking women who date, don’t act like guys wish they could. Chicks love affection and they cash it in for hot slutty guys, go figure. There’s always going to be the majority of women that don’t want the truth out there. Then normies who put women on a pedestal, that will throw stats in your fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 08:17 PM
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Last weekend I was in Mexico for a wedding. This guy and girl who had not been together yet, we were all in a Mexican pharmacy where you can just buy pharmaceuticals. He buys a whole pack of plan Bs and says “I don’t let women leave my house without taking one.” He was significantly more attractive than the other girl. She slept with him that night, women don’t care, they hookup with guys way out of their league and know they are fboys, it’s all a big gaslighting lie they don’t. I’ve lived with …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 08:09 PM
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In LA, Phx, Miami young women openly express they want older men often. It’s so common to see age gap relationships. You have to be an outlier for your age in looks and lifestyle to date much younger attractive women consistently. If a woman has her filters set higher I match better with younger women because they are looking for that, no one has asked me for money. I personally know 5 guys that get into relationships and are players with hot young women. One guy is 52, he’s ripped, handsome, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:57 PM
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What if she leaves me after 5 years after I gave her a ring and decided not to marry, was she the evil one taking advantage of living with me free rent and food for 3 years? Age gap couples can marry, get a grip. Why is every guy the bad guy in scenarios? No one gives an absolutely flying f when a 40 yr old woman is dating a 20 yr old guy. There’s a singles bar in our city that I’ve been to that’s loaded with milfs hooking with younger guys it’s known for that, NO ONE Cares. If a 40 yr old man d…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:45 PM
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You know what every woman 27-99 wants? A 30 year old successful handsome man, they want young established father age men. Women don’t turn 40 and they get all hot and bothered for silver foxes with old man pooches, that’s just who they get now so they might make that claim. Men prefer just 7 years younger than women do for men, and to some women were actual criminals for it. It’s dumb, it’s just gaslighting, if they care they’re jealous let the babies have their bottle, as if guys who date young…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:07 PM
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You might be right on some level. However, no established guy in their 30s wants to give half of everything to a woman he just met in the last year. Also, it’s not young women that try and trap men either, it’s the older ones. It’s not the guy’s fault she couldn’t pick men well in her 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:01 PM
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Somewhere in this thread someone will make the claim that your brain is not fully developed until 25, therefore the older man is taking advantage of her infantile underdeveloped brain. Women can do what they want at 18, but before 25 they can't date older men, otherwise that man is a creepy predator. Women get annoyed that they are valued for their youth and signs of fertility. That's why the company that makes botox is worth billions. Most people don't date older and younger, and don't remember…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 06:18 PM
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I've been single couple years in college, 2 years before my wife, year and half after divorce, and last year out of long term relationship. So I've been single nearly 5 years prob slept with 140 women most of them within a few hours or couple dates. Getting women is not any sort of challenge, you just hit on them and ask them out. If you get preselected, she prob wants you, just be normal. I've been not in the top 20% before and getting women is more sparingly, need more proximity strategy. I th…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 05:33 PM
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I got that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 05:13 PM
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There’s 2 sides of this if you’re 38 and hot, you’re just hot to all women. That guy turns women on, the same would go for a very attractive older woman. Young guys won’t say no to her, she’s beautiful. The 30% is just general observation of what women say and do and the guy doesn’t have to be hot. I’m in a city where age gap relationships are more normal I think, so perhaps it’s lower in other places. The other great thing about being on a date with a younger woman is they have a kinda fetish f…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:20 PM
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I feel kinda dumb for having to act and talk more masculine than I am when meeting a girl or on a date so she’ll want me. I look more masculine than I am, so I have to play the part for women I meet, seems pretty gay somehow. I drop the act later and then talk and act more normal to myself. Masculinity is a show to gain women’s affection. Look at my muscles I pumped, how low pitch my voice is, I’m a protector, seems gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 02:43 PM
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That’s you and you’re in the majority of young women. In my estimation at least 30% of women in their early 20s are interested in an older man. If he’s handsome, fit, and lives a good life. Some young women are genuinely more attracted to older men. I’ve dated a bunch and not one yet doesn’t know their dad or has a bad relationship with him, older men is just what they like.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 02:37 PM
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Hinge is near 50/50 ratio, I was on it for 9 months last year and never reached the end of women, it’s endless in a city. Went on around 30 dates, hooked up with 20 or so. The time before that I was on tinder and bumble, after my divorce I was depressed and hooked up with around 70 women in year and half. Online dating feels like magic once you get it working. You just meet to have a couple drinks maybe food, then go hookup. If you like each other she’s in your harem. If you really like her, cha…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 01:51 PM
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Men want casual relationships with below average and mid women, but they can’t get that like attractive men. Then they want to marry the pretty girl. The majority of men get neither. Women get to have casual access to attractive men, then usually have to marry the average guy. If men got all the casual action from the top men as crazy easily as a barely attractive woman does, men would never settle down. I went on a trip this weekend with a group and went to a wedding. One of the girls in our 3 …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 01:33 PM
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More often a woman’s hoe phase is having random sex with men that have no interest in a relationship, who are cool and more attractive guys than they are. Women in a hoe phase often get with fboys. If it isn’t that, women are trying to have sex with very successful men, who also have way too many options for sex, and offer a dream insta life free of work or worry. Once a woman has to date real men to get a real relationship, that’s not with a cool hot guy or a well off man. They get really depre…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 01:07 PM
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Seems like this young women dating older men is a big trend. It’s more about lifestyle and I’m trying it because my friend is. I’m not sure it’s that much about masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 04:35 AM
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Depressed people can seek out dopamine and use drugs to counteract it too. Which makes them more depressed, but relieves the pain temporarily. Mental illness is like your own agent working against getting you to do things to keep the mental illness and make it worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:45 AM
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Some women just like being single, they don’t want a man at the moment or long period.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:21 AM
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Dang
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 03:20 AM
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I can assure you that women get taken care of without going through that. This isn’t some average experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 01:40 AM
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What she get ptsd from? Homeless people are usually dealing with mental illness. People with mental illnesses are so hard to deal with, even a depressed girlfriend can be an effin nightmare.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 01:34 AM
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Yea you should get a job and not do that or just pick a lonely guy that’s not abusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 01:32 AM
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I’ve cheated in 2 long term relationships. First reason she didn’t want me that bad anymore. Second it seemed like she was cheating and I ended up being right. When I sensed her behavior I cheated to make myself feel better, it sucked because I was so in love with her and didn’t want to. She claims she never cheated, even though there was so much evidence and her friends said she was.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 01:13 AM
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It’s better than living on the street. That’s just a if you absolutely need it, it’s an option. Part of life on easy mode.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 01:08 AM
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It’s best not to talk about redpill to a group of girls. They get to bash men openly, but you can’t talk about their behavior. You can’t tell them how you feel about experience of girls you date in a general sense. Women think they are all unique butterflies, most importantly they want you to think that. I’ve known 2 women that think red pill is highly accurate of women. They both were very attractive and think it’s funny and they got women who date nailed. They were very based fun cool not upti…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 12:34 AM
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If you’re an above average looking woman you’ll never be on the street. Some guy will take care of you, the guy just might not be attractive. Getting a job is easier. Pretty women get less harsher sentences on crime. Guys buy them stuff all the time. Making friends is easier. About anything you can think of, if you look good getting by in life is easy for a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 12:30 AM
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You should get over it, if they bring it up a lot how much they want other people they’re just being mean or cause for concern.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 12:26 AM
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It really depends and it's hard to break this down for someone who hasn't really dated a bunch of both. It's not really the other girl is a prude in my experience, it's that she thinks you're average because she doesn't know what's out there fully. So they don't how special a relationship is and how hard it can be to find love. So you get taken for granted, then they want to experience something else because they haven't had a full hoe phase. A girl that has more experience has this aspect of lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 12:01 AM
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Cat ladies aren’t invisible, they aren’t looking for a man. So they are not relevant to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 02:26 PM
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I don’t think you read what I wrote. I explained the opposite of what you bolded.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 02:07 PM
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Chronically single women aren’t necessarily ugly or undesirable looking. That’s a femcel who can’t get a real date. Cat ladies also might have a fwb. Cat ladies either are just not that into men to care to have one, or they were never willing to accept or date men that would have them. Former party girl cat ladies especially never wanted to accept what their league for getting a relationship was. They never wanted to face their own reality, they would rather be single than date the level of guys…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 02:05 PM
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Women on this sub rarely understand or intentionally misinterpret what’s being discussed. Of course there are cool attractive babes with a career and a cat all guys want. That’s not a cat lady, cat ladies are longtime single women, no kids, they could have a dog, or a ferret, or no pets. If you’re this type of woman, she’s not relevant to red pill talk, you’re not likely to meet her in dating world, if you do she’s easily forgettable. She doesn’t do af/bb, she’s not hypergamous, she’s just forev…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:58 AM
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I know some former party girls that are now cat ladies. Being a party girl means you drink, usually do drugs, and leverage men to pay for stuff to do. That can be events, trips, clubs, dinners etc. If you’re a pretty and social girl this is common. There’s truly all walks of life and most cat ladies weren’t party girls. Cat ladies don’t necessarily not date, they just aren’t successful at it to find a boyfriend. One of the most important aspects of talking about red pill stuff is it’s directed a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:43 AM
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Alcohol is addictive and is one of the hardest drugs, it’s legal so we don’t view as bad as other drugs, but it is. That’s why you can’t have sex with a girl that you just met or not in a relationship who’s inebriated even if she wants to. If she’s on just coke or just weed she’s more aware and in control of herself and you can.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 03:55 PM
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No one is being paid to be there, no one is being sex trafficked. I knew some of the girls there, it’s just hot girl sometimes activities with super rich men. I’m not heavily involved, just seems that of a club at a very expensive home where some hookups happen on the premises.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 04:52 AM
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I haven’t known very hot women that aren’t interested in getting on a yacht. I haven’t know very hot women that haven’t partied in mansions and have a story to tell. This is why I don’t hand out awards to mid girls for not getting involved, the guys wouldn’t let them in. There’s a world for the most attractive women that is sometimes gross and weird, but you’re on a 50 mil yacht sailing to Ibiza or wherever, it’s an experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 04:43 AM
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It’s just hot chicks having fun I knew some girls there. I haven’t seen any weird coercive sex acts like diddy accusations, but I’ve only gone to their mansions 8 times and once on that guys yacht. I know these guys through friends, I’m not their personal friends. I highly doubt they are sex traffickers they have no need for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 04:36 AM
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I know a multi billionaire too, but I’ve never hung out with him privately. I would assume he might get into the same sometimes but not sure. If you’re a billionaire about anything you could imagine is going to be possible. The 100 mil guys got alcohol, coke, mdma, and ketamine. Just general club drugs. Women aren’t on everything, most generally coke and alcohol. Same you will run into in a nightclub. I know smaller time guys that are just millionaires and single, they do similar thing at their …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 04:21 AM
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I don’t personally know billionaires but I know some guys over 100 million. One has get a $40 mil yacht and chock it full of the hottest possible women and sail around. They pickup girls on insta with tags with hot girls wanting to be boat hoes anywhere in the world they are with the yacht. He has drugs on board his ship and have orgies with insta hotties that come on board. I also know 2 very rich music producers in Beverly Hills from 90s with 10+ mil homes that got started young and in 40s now…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 04:02 AM
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I’m starting to believe that women on Reddit is just a chatgpt learning tool social experiment.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 08:26 PM
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I would beg to differ that you can’t make yourself look very attractive and high value on a dating app. They work for a minority of men incredibly well.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 08:09 PM
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Success on dating apps is your career a high paying one and how well you’ve crafted your pictures. I know guys that can pick up women anywhere, but can’t get much off apps. Guys have to stop determining their self worth by women on dating apps, it’s largely an online hookup nightclub, it’s not reflective of real life. The problem with average guys is they don’t have boobs and hips like women, so average guys possess no sexual allure. They are a plain box with a face that isn’t cute or noticeably…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 06:38 PM
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Yea I agree that’s just the way it is, way it’s been prob been for a very long time. Women got a one egg once a month mindset, they aren’t wasting their time on some type of guy they could easily get.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 06:23 PM
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When it comes to casual hookups and men she doesn’t know on dating apps, women overwhelmingly prefer tall fit men. For long term eventually women are going to get what they get, she maybe can date 6figs and 6ft but she might not be able to land one. If a guy can date the type of women he wants, getting a relationship is easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:20 PM
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From easily dating and having casual relationships with average women he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:17 PM
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Average women date and have casual relationships with above average men, they won't with average guys. Average guys find it very difficult to have casual relationships with average women. The nice guys are calling the above average guys assholes because they treat that woman like an option, but she tries with him anyway. Average single guys are tired of getting left out of the dating market while watching average single girls date whenever they want. Average single men deal with loneliness, aver…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 04:42 PM
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I’d say guys for ltr look for a woman with a real job and a personality they like. My current gf is a cool social girl, my previous gf was a bubbly joy. I wanted to be around them and they made me happy, they both look totally different. To say guys only pick certain physical attributes for ltr in general I don’t think so it’s more about compatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 04:26 PM
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You can talk however you want, I know a 6’3” jacked six pack works part time as a model, and a tall handsome guy either a Ferrari pista and a 7 million dollar home, not be able to turn down the advances of any pretty hot chick. Just above average guys leap at any chance for any cutie that looks presentable in a bikini that makes herself available to him. Women turn down hot guys though, if they didn’t they’d just be having sex constantly.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 04:19 PM
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You can do that, I've never heard of a guy turning down a hot chick because she didn't have double ds though. There's a difference between saying I like curvy, fit, or thin as opposed to saying I can't date 85% of guys because I need to wear heels and have him still be taller than me. Then they say he needs to make 6 figures too. Well now you're at the top 3% of guys, do you want to add handsome, because now you can only date less than 1% of guys. If you're an above average looking woman they ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 03:29 PM
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Red pill would say you’re not changing or forcing anything, it’s societal programming and embedded in women’s dna. It’s totally ridiculous to tell a woman don’t chase after her best options, that’s a natural instinct. Also, men don't care about single cat ladies, how would we find you if we don't know you already. We're fine that you want to be single, we know you exist, but you're not a relevant demo to men in general to discuss. Men can still be observant and understand what they do to protect…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 02:17 PM
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See that’s where I think you’re wrong. It’s actually strange in real life to come across a woman that hates Trump. We all know some so we bias to them as a norm, but they aren’t that normal. The reality is most women don’t, even the ones who vote democrat. Saying Trump is a rapist dictator is an online phenomenon you think is much more normal than it is. The topic of abortion to the majority of women rarely comes out as my body my choice or she’s religious and calling abortion murder, the stereo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 01:44 PM
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Most the attractive women are on insta these days. I’ve literally never been talking to an attractive woman under 33 and asked for insta and she didn’t have one. Attractive women want to see your insta profile before they agree to a date if they don’t know you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 08:09 AM
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If you can consistently find clearly physically attractive women that don’t crave attention these days. Then you’re a better man than I. I find instagram annoying and cringe, I just did it to pull girls and meet people easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 08:04 AM
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What do you mean? You meet a girl in real life you exchange instas. You ask a girl out on a dating app I exchange instas. If I don’t match with a girl on a dating app, I go to her insta on her profile and like some posts and follow, I’ve landed my hottest dates with that 2 local ford models. You can also just find local girls directly on insta too, follow and like posts/stories, that’s the least effective though is directly on app for me, still works. I would estimate I’ve got at least 150 dates…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 07:14 AM
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If an above average guy spent 1/5 the amount of time working on his online persona and taking pictures in the moment as a 24 year old girl who uses insta. That single guy would be absolutely drowning in dating options. There's nothing that gets girls these days like meeting and following girls on insta, or attaching to your profile, and using those pictures on dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:24 AM
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I haven’t lived in a small town in a dozen years so perhaps that’s the shift. This one I was iffy on because of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 04:35 AM
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I’ve gotten girls at restaurant bars. You can pull girls alone anywhere. If it’s a real singles bar or club, prob best to have a couple wingman.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 02:51 AM
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Alone in a bar, not a great move.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 01:58 AM
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I would imagine NYC and Washington DC in the city are largely liberal. Cities are different, you go to LA or Miami depending upon what neighborhood you’re in, could be largely conservative or liberal. If you’re in a conservative LA hub like Newport Beach, it’s richer and the women there are more attractive. That’s part of my basis of conservative women in cities tend to be more attractive. In NYC that’s prob not the case. Attractive women follow the money, a businessman is generally a conservati…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 01:09 AM
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Apolitical women is the norm, and on average they are the most attractive demographic. Conservative women in cities are more attractive than liberal, success driven family oriented women tend to be more conservative. Small town America I’ll give the edge to liberal women, they tend to be college educated, care more about appearance. Have more money than working class women to make themselves look better cosmetically. I’ve gone on so many dates with random women in dating apps, instagram, and bar…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 01:02 AM
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You spin plates for too long you’re prob going to end up with illegitimate kids and bunch of headache. Hoes are a hassle, you have to entertain them, it’s only really amazing the first week or 2 with the newness and lust. Then you got to keep finding more on repeat. Process gets old, the ego boost and dopamine rush wears off of going from girl to girl. Being a player only feels good for awhile. Once you get good at picking up women, you realize most women who date are really easy hookups are the…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 10:24 PM
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Looksmaxing will do far more than money or lifestyle maxing. I know a couple guys in 5+ million dollar homes that can’t pull decent looking women without paying for it. They short, fat, ugly face, act weird as hell so women just use them, or they turned off to the point women don’t even care about the money. Being a 3 guy it’s hard to recover from, above average women will be too far out of your league almost no matter what. The top beside of obvious looks, is social media presence. Reason is yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 10:03 PM
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This makes perfect sense to me, if you act like you need the other person for anything whether be sex or a provider it puts them at a disadvantage.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 06:57 PM
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I think you get one chick it makes it easier to get more, scientists have looked into this as well. It's a well known phenomenon that's been studied before.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 04:12 PM
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I don’t know if doing this really works or helps that much. Most modern women are messy, don’t like cleaning, and don’t cook that well and I’m fine with it. Genuinely desiring and lusting for him I think is a better path. Thinking he’s fun to be around and you don’t want to live life without him is a great sentiment too. I’ve been lovebombed a bunch of times to get locked down, then they get in a relationship and realize most their lust and adoration was a lie so I break up with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:34 PM
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There is times of the year where dating is more popular. If I look back on when I got real dialed in and went on some streaks and had harems, I was depressed. I had a friend too that rattled off so many hotties for a couple years, he said he was deeply depressed at the time. It’s either you crave the dopamine hit so much you get it done, or women are more attracted to damaged men. Prob both.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:14 PM
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It’s been more streaky for me, I’ll fumble the bag 5 times in a row. Say wtf m, then for a sure thing, then get mojo back and go 4 for 6.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:06 PM
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Oppenheimer was tall, rich, charismatic, famous, and brilliant. So yes he was known for drowning in hot young pussy. I didn’t know the rest were. Not a surprise, women dig smart rich guys. Stephen Hawking was a ladies man too. As far as being interesting I just flip the script and act interested in what the women have to say. I don’t take first dates seriously I’m just trying to get some affection, I asked her out because I wanted her.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 02:45 PM
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I could see it being random for me just would get on rolls with women all over me, then go cold. It’s a certain mindset. When I was depressed I was great at picking up women maybe because that dopamine hit is so good when you’re depressed you get locked in. Also, I think women are attracted to damaged men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 04:06 AM
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Dating apps are really fun once you get them working. Seems like good experience overall.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 04:03 AM
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What did you learn, did you hookup?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:30 AM
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The biggest player I’ve ever personally known that’s barely worked in 20 years and has a rich attractive woman take care of him. He would talk to women about astrology, mercury in retrograde compatible signs he knew all that and women of course liked to talk about that, then they’d go have sex with him. It’s hard advice to be interesting to women, I say the better general advice is just be normal and charming. Ask her out, if she shows up she’s prob down just don’t mess it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 02:35 AM
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I’ve been on a ton of dates because I’m tall, fairly handsome, and got an above average lifestyle. Women routinely give the worst dating advice to men, it’s like do the opposite of what women say most the time. If I’m on a date with you or any woman and I don’t really know her, I’m not giving her any red flag or the ick, I’m not telling any stories or diving into my life. I’m not answering any personal questions to a woman I don’t know, that’s a shit test to see if you overshare. I’m just going …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 01:51 AM
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Just get her talking about something she wants to talk about, act interested, and play off that. I run my own company with employees and no woman I’m on a date with ever found that very interesting, she just cared that it was profitable. I’m into all sorts of hobbies, I like to play basketball, ski, and fish, if she’s not into them she doesn’t want to hear me go on about it very long. You don’t need to be the Jacques Cousteau of all the topics interesting guy, just be able to hold up a conversat…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 01:15 AM
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If we’re talking about the entire population of women maybe. If you’re on a date with a woman you don’t know off a dating app or you met her at a bar/club. If you would place a bet she’s only been with 6 guys or less I would call you legitimately insane. Women who date sleep with guys all the time, that’s partially why many wanted to show up is to get some affection.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 11:35 PM
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Extreme promiscuity is actually rare. I realize every city has a swinger community that seems halfway based around shared cuckolding and semipublicly showing off. There's definitely some men and women that are in the hundreds or perhaps 1000+ partners. Some people get the right mindset about it, but it's not normal to sleep with more than 300 people. You take your average woman who's slept around with 50 guys in the last few years (which I don't think is uncommon) trying to find a boyfriend and …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 11:11 PM
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The no problem ghosting is funny. I think women may decide against getting with a guy, because she feels like he might not leave her alone if she doesn’t want to continue the relationship. It’s part of that indifference of any outcome a man should convey.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 11:00 PM
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Nah, when I'm single and dating I get women in streaks. When I'm on a roll it feels like I feel I can get with women literally whenever. Every date is a near instant hookup. When I'm not it's because I got zero women at the time and then keep striking out. Until you get the ball rolling with one again, and you get back your mojo.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 09:55 PM
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I guess I get it, I’ve seen 80/20 my entire life, I have no question it was happening 10 years before my time as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 09:45 PM
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Truly there isn't one word to describe why you get one girl going it's easier to get more. It's not about being not interested or thirsty and throwing off bad signs to women. It's about your ability to connect and not be concerned about the outcome. Which leads to women wanting you more, that's my theory anyway. Getting girls is often a streaky experience of getting hot and getting lots of interest for awhile and then going back to cold, and bouncing out.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 09:39 PM
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I guess it could depend upon where you live if you were a girl in the richer areas of new england or nyc then I could see it. I'm talking more about average guys ability in meeting and dating average women. Wasn't as hard, women weren't so focused on what everyone thinks, she was limited by proximity and social circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 09:36 PM
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As I got into reading this sub and thinking about it, I get the blue pill perspective because red pill arguments seem impossible at face value. I agree with you, young men cannot get their attractiveness level without being an outlier. I realize this, it’s impossible to point at one reason like this sub does, because any multi tiered argument gets too confusing. Think about how it seems like the top 50% of women can easily have the dating life of the top 5% of guys. I believe in 80/20 too. I don…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 09:08 PM
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This is more of a late 80s early 90s perspective. The AIDS scare didn’t hit mainstream straight people as a fear until the early 90s. 80s women were divided in being traditional or moving into professional. It wasn’t until the 90s where women really started going to college and outnumbering men. I was born in late 70s, so you’re more talking about the 90s which I experienced. My sister was born in the late 60s as an early gen x, so I’m more referencing that. There was the concept of yuppies, but…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 08:58 PM
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She wants the push and pull. Women who date around and have lived a single girl lifestyle where men provide entertainment and her friends go out once a week or more. You have to mostly give that up as a taken woman, you can’t be interacting with men like that, they don’t want to. I’ve dated women that run out the door because their friend invited them to a mansion party or some cool local event and they can’t bring their boyfriend. Think about girls on insta these days, they chase the limelight …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 08:48 PM
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Men get women up to 2 points out of their looks league by adding lifestyle or being a betabux. If you’re extremely wealthy or famous you can get women 4 points out legitimately. Women get 2-3 points out of their league with either looks and/or status combo simply by making themselves clearly available and interested in the guy. Most all guys aren’t turning down easy casual interest from a woman with a cute face and looks presentable in a swimsuit. If you’re above that as a woman, virtually every…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 08:43 PM
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I don’t think a guy can give himself away immediately as just so into her. Experience with women is your ability to get into a positive feedback loop. Which sadly is much easier to do once you’ve already got at least one woman interested in you already.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 08:35 PM
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If you’re an average guy the 1980s would be a better time. Much stronger middle class, not so lifestyle and beauty focused society. Women are still housewives, but they were free and still limited by social circles. Women settled and got married earlier. If you’re an above average guy and you want to explore as many options as possible, 2015 was better than today. When dating apps and social media were really getting going on smartphones everyone was flooding in and dates and hookups were easier…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 08:05 PM
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Absolutely. Have you ever talked to a beautiful charismatic guy that has slept with 500+ women. There’s a sadness inside them, a hole that can never be filled they dug themselves in with their own narcissism. They brag about their threesomes and current conquests like I’m supposed to be jealous and admire them. I tell them I can be a ho too, maybe not to your level but I can get out, you can’t. You get a girlfriend then you just cheat on her and she gets fed up and leaves. Players use and cycle …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 06:56 PM
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Women need this push pull because they are battling their own decision to give up their current single life for a committed relationship. Somewhere along the line the poles switched and women act like men now, afraid of commitment. Once they accept and get the commitment I can never get rid of them after that, they get comfortable and feel like they can get by with anything after awhile. I’ve kicked some longer term relationships when I found out they were cheating or caused too much physical vi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 06:49 PM
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Yes nothing works like references. If a guy is known to date gorgeous women, other gorgeous women want to find out why and give it a try. If you’re in a room with a beautiful woman all other women would be curious of what he has to say if he approaches them. There’s more to getting women than being a chad, it’s just an easy way to explain women. Yes women like hot guys, but they are in short supply other guys figure out women too.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 06:34 PM
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Yes I tend to agree. Not something I like is to live alone, it if I hade guy roommates I can get over it. Just don’t like a house of silence.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 06:30 PM
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Guys do the same thing when they can, they want that woman he feels like he can’t live without. Going through a temporary lust is an incredible oxytocin dump.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 06:29 PM
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That's it, I thinks its a real struggle to fake it. If you've got a girl you can call and she will hang out with you, the woman in front of you can just go with the flow. Which makes her attraction flow better. When you're at 0 you can't get in the proper mindset. Either that or women can just smell the female pheromones on you, which has never been proven but some scientists believe that some women can smell them and respond more positively.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 05:54 PM
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People can get into a mode where they prefer the single life. I often think it’s them getting used to it and not preferred. I strongly dislike being alone in my bed longer than a month. I will just go search for a woman that I’m attracted to fill that side. Makes life brighter, depressed less, and cures loneliness. If that makes me codependent then whatever, even if I wasn’t I still wouldn’t think it was better.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 05:50 PM
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I had a friend that 6’2” muscular physique, beautiful long hair. He would get the best looking women casually. For some reason he dropped his tech career he had going, for a slightly higher paying nurse job. He’s not had a relationship in so many years. Women don’t want to hear you’re a teacher or nurse, makes them gag.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 05:37 PM
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You need to base it in some reality, but for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 05:34 PM
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The cheat code to getting many options is to have some sort of fun life, that doesn’t have to mean you make a lot of money, but clearly that would help. Take a bunch of pictures of you doing fun trips with cool backgrounds and social activities. Put it in Instagram, you can date on insta by liking women’s posts, dating apps. Cute girls are almost always on insta, you exchange socials in real life. You get dates whenever you want, we live in a digital world, that avatar is as important in initial…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 05:26 PM
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I consciously know this, you know being desperate or thirsty turns women off. You try, but women subconsciously know that other women are after you, it’s a sixth sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 05:20 PM
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Women can logically break this down, but men lie about their situation. Player guys play with women’s emotions. Then women have rules and break them often because they just want to try or want him anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 05:18 PM
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It’s more of a cycle of addiction, building a guy up getting the rush, then tearing him down. Then she heads onto next. Dating around especially to the level many women can do it is much the same feeling as using drugs, it’s addictive. If you want a woman who dates or lives a fun single girl lifestyle telling her she should be your exclusive boyfriend and drop all that can be like telling someone to suddenly stop smoking or drinking. They’ll feel better once they stop, but part of them is addict…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 05:14 PM
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It’s not until they have to start dating for real and they start wanting a relationship they have to face what they’ve been doing. It’s pretty depressing, if you told me I had to stop doing 9s and to get a relationship I need to get 6s, I’d be pretty upset too.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 05:13 PM
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This is so sad. Unless they are dissociative sociopaths you’re going to eventually feel terrible about sleeping around. It takes a piece of your soul to let yourself be used. Look at how many porn stars kill themselves or overdose, you have to numb yourself to keep it going. Women who date feel so happy and confident, but if they don’t get a relationship out of it, they’re a mess and their ego is destroyed. Too much promiscuity will lead anyone to a really dark place. Men handle this a little be…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 04:34 PM
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The alpha, beta, delta, omega works so well sometimes, yea I def agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 04:28 PM
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Women call this having a house husband. They set this up so she can act how she wants behind his back, and hold onto that attractive single girl lifestyle. You keep letting her do it, she’s going to cheat or attempt to monkey branch on you. It’s happened to me, and 30% of the women I’ve been with you find out are currently in a committed relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 04:18 PM
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I’ve been in that mode, then you come on too strong, act bit too lusty, and it throws the girl off. Matching energy is always a good strategy with people. You have to build things up to some degree and then not give yourself away in the process.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 04:12 PM
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For sure that’s a good analogy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 04:07 PM
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I think it’s more 40-95%. There is something weird that happens if you ever get a chance with a very beautiful woman, they’re not hypergamous, they are near the top. They live close to in the moment reaction like a small child. I mean this in a good way, very beautiful people live more free of societal restraints, they tend to care less about what others think. I’ve thought you have a more similar chance with a 6 and a 9. For one, she showed up so she’s prob down, for 2 a beautiful woman will in…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 04:02 PM
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That’s the question I’m raising, why is she preselecting more with men that already have options. It feels like a chicken and egg problem for guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 03:48 PM
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Yes we’ve evolved to have more woman like and more youthful looking features from our ancestors. Male models look like a hybrid of female beauty and masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 03:47 PM
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We look at basically every bird and mammal in the animal kingdom and say yes the male has the beauty of vibrant colors and strength to win over women. The male has the superior frame to fight off other males like with lions. The male lion just says dang I need to get with her and does what he has to do. The male lion doesn’t think about his own beauty, but humans find the male lion to be the more beautiful one. Then when you get to humans we just say women are more beautiful. Why are they more b…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 03:43 PM
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I think that’s totally false, if you stripped women of all makeup and cosmetics like lip filler and Botox. Didn’t allow them to push up their boobs. Pulled their hair back. They’re less attractive than men. If aliens came down and saw men building civilization, being more the leaders, more risk taking, much stronger more resistant genetics. Men can also build more beautiful bodies, women mainly have youth and signs of fertility features. The aliens would see the males as the more beautiful ones.…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 03:33 PM
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Men point this out because it was the part of dating that’s now been exposed and out in the open about dating women. Women are never going to talk about the years they spent jumping in and out of temporary nonexclusive relationships with men out their league. It’s a very sore subject and guys and girls would just call her a slut. Women aren’t going to bring it up about how hypergamous they have been or are now. It’s normal though, this is how women date. Once you start dating and realize the maj…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 03:28 PM
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It’s as if man’s natural state is repelling or being neutral to women. So you get that one woman and she gifts you magnetism to other women. This is the main source of problem in other side. Women have to consciously understand they keep wanting men that already have the domino of women options already started. So women usually end up being one of his dominos while he has his it going.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 03:19 PM
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It’s hard to address this issue and I don’t doubt it’s more relevant today than before. There’s bisexual women who date men but have a female partner, there is nonbinary women, there’s the girl that gets 3 drinks in her and is making out with other girls. They’re all not that trustworthy and not the best option for a guy. It’s a complicated topic for Reddit to try and explain. I do agree, but you can’t just ignore 40% of women that have gay tendencies high level either.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 03:13 PM
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I agree with this completely, but what percentage of women can actually land dates consistently with chads and high status men. My guess is 30% of women. Chads can be less picky sometimes, but the high status men I know seem to only have time for attractive women 7+/10.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 02:31 PM
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Somehow society doesn’t teach women the meaning of double standards. My recent girlfriend has got upset at any female interaction, I’ve unfollowed dozens of women on instagram because she won’t stop bawling about it, and I don’t care that much. Meanwhile we’re hanging out sometimes with men she knows and partied with and maybe gone on a date with. The hypocrisy is at a loss of understanding to her. She’s a good and loyal partner so far so I just don’t fight it that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 02:27 PM
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If you’re at 0 woman options somehow you’re always less desirable to women. That’s just how it works for me and obviously for others. Get one woman, now suddenly three is more easy than the first one.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 02:22 PM
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The concept that women aren’t subconsciously going after their best options available. That women claim they don’t want universally attractive men with many options, but instead these very specific types is laughable.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 02:20 PM
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I’ll definitely buy into this, but I prefer to have some affection in my life along with this. I chase and try to date women temporarily because I’m depressed about a breakup, or I’m mainly trying to find a girlfriend and hopefully get some choice on who I like. Then I’ll settle back into normal life.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 02:16 PM
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Yes that was covered in the first sentence of the post, if she just thinks you’re hot just exist and she’s coming for you. Women don’t think I’m hot so I’ve had to consider why sometimes getting women is easy and why other times it seemed difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 02:13 PM
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I’ve noticed women when single get into 2-6 week relationships. They lovebomb, get a dopamine rush, get bored, then do it again with another guy. Getting women into a relationship, they don’t want to drop many aspects of the single life. First couple months they kinda go kicking and screaming into it, then once they pass that, you can’t get rid of them and they don’t want to go back to being single.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 02:10 PM
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It’s so weird to float above and below an imaginary line with women. You go from I can’t get any affection, then I’m flooded with way too much easy pussy and women that want me in a relationship, love bombing won’t leave me alone. It’s like they can smell other women on you, they know. On the other hand if you haven’t passed some line with them, got no chicks, women don’t want you and you get completely ignored.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 01:33 PM
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Every single time I write a comment on this sub that is getting upvotes, bubbling up to the top, and getting replies, the automod shuts down the comment and tells me to post here. Well here’s my comment below reposted for no reason, Reddit and mods are so ridiculous. ——— We could have every woman to read this type of post. Come up with every statistical evidence they share men often. Why they keep hooking up and it rarely works out, because men date lower to have easy sexual access. Prove women …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 01:29 PM
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I think you’re right, I read that Reddit was signing these huge contracts with ai companies. That’s prob what’s going on a lot and don’t realize it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 01:17 PM
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I’m going to have to think about how widespread this bot thing is. It’s clear that I’m talking to a bot in the other side of this thread. It’s like zero intelligence trolling with no purpose.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 01:04 PM
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You’re crazy, I would never ever even think once of marrying a woman I wasn’t in love with. If I’m not literally crazy for her I’m damn sure not making the dumb decision to get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:52 PM
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Thanks for supporting my argument, a great debate as per usual.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:50 PM
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No I just explain my personal experiences. Then get told I’m a liar and an incel or called some other name by some woman replying. I didn’t even care much about pills before, then I followed this sub and saw how self proclaimed blue pill and most women respond to this and was immediately more into it, they almost always can’t form real arguments.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:48 PM
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I noticed the much lower percentage of couples who weren’t in love their marriage didn’t last more than 2 years. Love and its stages are important.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:41 PM
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Women in general, women on this sub. What women do is act like they are better and more attractive than most men. They don’t want to defend their behavior so they just call you names. Women rate 70% of men a 4 or under out of 10, then call themselves beautiful and only worthy of the top men. Women low iq gaslight men as if they are superior. Happens in real life, then on this sub constantly. A woman making a clear argument on this sub is a rarity, it’s a unicorn that gets upvoted every time. Mos…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:35 PM
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If you go to a bunch of weddings, you can tell which couples are in love and which aren’t. I’m not sure what you mean, it appears to be an evolutionary trick to coax us into pair bonding.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:18 PM
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We could have every woman to read this type of post. Come up with every statistical evidence they share men often. Why they keep hooking up and it rarely works out, because men date lower to have easy sexual access. Prove women lie about how many times they’ve tried it with men out of their league over potentially many years. If women had their body count above their head, bp men would lose their minds. Dating women are having more fun with men than the average guy can possibly imagine. What do …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 11:56 AM
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Have you ever been in love, it’s a psychological and chemical condition. After you fall in love potentially for a few years you release the same chemicals as painkillers, love makes you feel amazing. If you are in love and that person leaves you, your heart tears itself you hurt so bad. Love can be really intense and scary, because you will do anything to stay with that person while infatuated with them, even if they hurt you. Love doesn’t even seem real until it happens, it’s hard to come by.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 11:47 AM
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They think it's fun for awhile, but after they go through a bunch of guys and keep not getting picked and strung along then their ego takes a huge hit. Then they have to consciously start thinking about guys who will actually commit and it's not what they hoped.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 04:01 AM
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You can say that average single women won’t casually date or be in casual relationships with average men. Average men would like to have casual relationships with average women. Okay, then how does the above average men have the time to satisfy the single average women. It seems like a time constraint, it’s so easy to say 80/20 isn’t real because it doesn’t seem possible, but it still seems to be the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 09:22 PM
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I couldn’t have said it better. People take their long term partner for granted and/or think they are easily replaceable. It’s almost always a big mistake to start thinking like this. If you’ve been with someone for 4+ years and you’ve enjoyed being with each other it’s not something to throw away or start acting like they don’t matter. Love is rare and you’ve had a great life, you’re not necessarily finding this again or almost never coming easy. People do it and almost always regret it then ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 08:20 PM
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You don’t think she’s going to ruin your life, but being in a toxic relationship can get addictive. They are usually more passionate. Boring girl can ruin your life just as easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 08:00 PM
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I think some men are obsessed with crazy chicks that are the opposite of peace. Being peaceful implies you’re boring or a pushover, so that’s not going to be every man’s cup of tea
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 07:31 PM
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