When guys say they want to date, most of them just want to skip to the girlfriend part. When guys say I would like to sleep with lots of women, they end up dating a bunch and picking one. There’s a tendency in guys I see that have a lot of sexual energy for women, and just really enjoy entertaining women end up doing so.

I don’t think most guys want to date a ton, sleep around, and have harems. The guys that do, seem to be more the ones that can date at will and have a girlfriend.

I tried to cycle harems 3 different times in my life and I lasted a couple of months. It’s so ridiculous trying to keep 3-4 women entertained. They texting you, wanting to come over. You have to schedule them, it’s pretty insane to deal with. It’s the idea of a type of guy that wants a harem, is more appealing to women in the dating world. Having a harem I found to be annoying, but the idea has appeal.

The fastest and most efficient way to get women is successfully physically escalate with them. Women don’t really want you until they spend the night with you. If she finds her time with you and sex enjoyable you probably got a girlfriend. If you can date and do this at will you can effectively have a girlfriend whenever you want.

The guys that are sexually motivated enough and seem to enjoy entertaining and the company of women are also guys that solve dating. They also tend to be less picky and like lots of types of girls. I’m not sure most guys care about sleeping with women and just expect a girlfriend, which isn’t that exciting for women who want dates.

Women who date, pick and have the most fun with guys who really want girls physically and emotionally. They actually want to date and not just have a relationship. Once they figure that out, then they get a girlfriend anytime they want.

The post is more about the idea of soft harems. If you talk about it to one guy and he says yes that’d be cool. The other guy says no I don’t like sleeping around. The guy who enjoys the concept of a soft harem is more likely to get dates. He has the sexual energy for women to do what it takes and adjust his level of pickiness for short term relationships. Which helped lead them to the types of women he wanted for a relationship.