| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | Men really out here thinking having a wife is being "romance scammed" in a thread about a "girl" on bumble potentially robbing a guy.These dudes are so fkd in the head. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 03:36 AM |
| 11 | I don’t really have words for this one.Wow. I just learned something new today...that I didn't need to know...but needed to know. God, I hope I never meet anyone like this. That poor woman is scarred for life, I'm sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 12:41 PM |
| 52 | I don’t really have words for this one.How do you act out being a piece of furniture? Just stand in a corner stiff as a board for hours? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 12:32 PM |
| 1 | And the award goes to...🤣WTF? 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 12:24 PM |
| 5 | And the award goes to...🤣I immediately thought of that scene in the Matrix with a thousand Agent Smiths 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 07:52 PM |
| 39 | My friend has her first date and she's asking me if this is okayYour instincts are spot on. Even if he is not a creep, that's way too much access for a first date. If she genuinely has an interest in photography, that's a cute idea fordown the road. Does she really want a stranger having pics of her to do whatever he wants with them? Because you know he'll end up snapping some of her too, not just the festivities. | /r/askFDS | 23/09/21 02:26 PM |
| 12 | Feeling humiliated and objectified *trigger warning*Him inviting you over under "platonic oretenses" shows intent. That bolsters your claim of assault. As soon as you get there, he switches up. Turn his ass in. I'm so sorry this happened to you. | /r/askFDS | 23/09/21 02:11 PM |
| 40 | I don’t know if you’ve guys have seen this account. But it’s literally just the husband “simping” over his wife even after 24 years of marriage. And I’m down for it, it’s so bloody cute.I love your answer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 05:45 PM |
| 2 | We don’t want love as much as we think we doI can attest to that. smh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 02:36 PM |
| 1 | We don’t want love as much as we think we doYeah. I now have a HVM who loves me and all that good shit, and I'm like 'Eh'. The irony. I think I just finally get that being untethered is more rewarding than being in a union. I have an ex husband and teo children. I don't want anymore responsibilities, and even loving someone comes with expectations. I don't have much left to give. Just want someone to spend time with when I want,not every day all day. Ew. lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 02:36 PM |
| 14 | How could any woman sacrifice this much??Marrying a cop? Yuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 02:04 PM |
| 7 | I (23 F) broke up with my boyfriend (28 M) for certain reasons. I am new to dating. Did I make the right call? Some people are saying my standards are too high or "sexist."Awesome, girl. You're gonna have a great life. Keep it up! | /r/askFDS | 28/04/21 12:26 AM |
| 25 | That explains all the "Nice Guys™" out thereSpot on. And her hair is everything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 06:55 PM |
| 4 | Exclusive but no relationship?Girl, no. He is supposed to be chomping at the bit to claim you. The fact that you had to ask (never ask!), he doesn't like talking about feelings, he doesn't like labels....these are giant red flags and major deal-breakers. He sounds like a Neanderthal. And trust, he will never respect you, as you've shown him that HE'S the prize and not you. You're supposed to be guarding your heart while you vet. Cut him off, read the handbook, and you will attract someone worthy once you understand how this … | /r/askFDS | 17/04/21 05:27 AM |
| 10 | How to deal/cope with not having been "worth" men's best efforts?Don't make it about you because it's not. They're lazy and LV, generally have low self-esteem. | /r/askFDS | 15/04/21 05:13 AM |
| 6 | DiscardingWho cares what it sounds like? You're saving yourself. Fk him. | /r/askFDS | 03/04/21 02:05 PM |
| 19 | My boyfriend of 3 years calls me "his friend" to other peopleThis right here. ALL OF THIS. I broke up with my narc ex many years ago while on the fone. Hung up on him in mid-sentence and never looked back. He called leaving sweet rational voicemails. When I didn't respond, he predictably left angry, insulting ones. I never responded. I blocked him in places I could, but I am in media and some of my profiles have to be public I never mentioned my feelings about breakups or relationships. I knew he'd be looking for clues I was unhappy or angry. Wouldn't giv… | /r/askFDS | 03/04/21 02:03 PM |
| 4 | Division of Household Labor with Male PartnerDate someone who can do those things. Fk the rest. The end. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 04:45 AM |
| 42 | It's he the tags for me 🤣Matt lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 06:14 PM |
| 3 | Let's talk about strategic incompetenceOMG. This is so on point. I got so used to him being confused that I just answered all of his stupid questions. And when I would blow up about things, he'd say that same thing, "Tell me if you need help" or "Just tell me what you want me to do." Never understanding that it's the MENTAL WORK that you need help with. If I have to think of everything all the time, plan it out, then tell you what to do, what do I need you for? I'm so glad I'm not married to him anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 10:16 PM |
| 5 | Let's talk about strategic incompetenceOMG. My ex loves these kids but I swear, he's a kid himself. He never grew up. It's infuriating! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 02:04 AM |
| 26 | Let's talk about strategic incompetenceMy ex would look in the cabinets and say, "Where is the" so and so. Or if the kids' phones broke and I needed him to call the insurance he'd act like he didn't know which company it was or how to reach them instead of looking at the paperwork HE signed. We're divorced now, obviously. The kids were at his house last week while I was working on a film and this fool calls me and interrupts me and literally says, "What were the dinner plans? I thought you'd be back by now." Mind you, our kids are te… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 11:08 PM |
| 10 | Just because he makes 10x more doesn't mean he's HVYeah, my ex makes way more than me and he is the cheapest mfkr who ever lived. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 11:00 PM |
| 2 | He Talks About Sex Alot and I Called Him OutHe apologized profusely and offered an reasonable excuse (he may legitimately have cancer...waiting to find out), but it's kinda ruined things for me regardless. | /r/askFDS | 15/03/21 05:08 PM |
| 10 | He Talks About Sex Alot and I Called Him OutI looked back at the text. He actually said, "My face should be in ur 🐱😜". Not that that's much better. I can see he was being silly,, but I wasn't in the mood and I wanted to establish a boundary now instead of later. He did apologize immediately but then later decided he was angry. Now today he's wanting to apologize. I don't feel like talking. | /r/askFDS | 12/03/21 07:58 PM |
| 3 | He Talks About Sex Alot and I Called Him OutHe called this morning. I didn't answer. Then he texted telling me he owes me an apology and asked me to call. I haven't. So disappointed in him. | /r/askFDS | 12/03/21 07:51 PM |
| 44 | I finally broke up with him, thanks to FDS.You don't feel like it now, but you're a bad ass. Fk himmm!Welcome to the first day of the rest of ur life, sweetie! ❤ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 04:13 PM |
| 6 | From HV to NV, a short story.Well, tonight the normally patient and kind man I've been dating for seven months got angry with me for honestly sharing my feelings. He made a sexual remark when I was literally talking about the weather and I told him I didn't like it and that it's when a benign convo turns sexual. All via text. When I called him he told me he was "furious" that I turned something meant to be sweet and flirty and made it into something it was not, and gave me attitude. I ended the call and am considering endin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 06:24 AM |
| 50 | He Talks About Sex Alot and I Called Him OutWell, I just got off the phone with him and I was right. He was upset. Said I hurt his feelings and that he was livid and furious that I took something that was supposed to be sweet - a joke -- and turned it into something it's not. I was speechless, because he's always told me that if I ever thought he was being too much to let him know. And I did, and he didn't like it and he handled it very poorly. Good to know. SMH | /r/askFDS | 12/03/21 05:06 AM |
| 3 | Don’t let them baby trap you ladies. Very bad things can happen.Man, this is sad. I gotta give him props for saying it out loud. Buckle up, dude. Another 16-plus years to go. Damn | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 06:59 PM |
| 1 | The backlash that FDS gets, both on and off Reddit, proves that society is committed to keeping women in unsatisfactory relationships to the benefit of men"they would probably struggle to win a beauty contest even if their only competition was an Orc from Mordor. " I'm crine! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 09:40 PM |
| 16 | The deeper I get into FDSI love this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 04:59 PM |
| 17 | So-called "petty" deal breakersI wish I had made the correlation. My ex spent most of his days working. He had clear case of anxiety and ADHD that he would not address, even to improve his own life! Just wound up all the time and being taken out by any little thing. It was so annoying. He had no fitness regimen, where I would work out several times a week. He started trying to work out a little at home, but he didn't stick to it. The story of his life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 04:55 PM |
| 12 | I had a gut feeling about this one... glad to find out sooner than later!weirdo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 02:24 AM |
| 22 | Did I overreact? Should I reach out again?Girl, bye. You absolutely did the right thing. You're only second guessing yourself now because your friend told you he feels some kind of way. You're not valuing your instincts or your choices. He's a flake. Why is he drinking like that if he's got a date? He sounds like a loser. | /r/askFDS | 19/01/21 02:19 AM |
| 1 | Caught Him In a Lie? Now What?Thanks. I plan to the next time I see him! | /r/askFDS | 16/01/21 07:08 AM |
| 15 | Off... poor thing.This is so sad. You think men only use you for sex, so you go ahead and beat them to the punch and offer yourself up like a piece of meat? Poor girl! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 07:04 AM |
| 8 | My truthful response to op. Now let’s watch it get downvoted by the rapists and pedophiles on Reddit giving him advice...I love your response! Straight no chaser, loser! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 07:01 AM |
| 15 | Have a great Friday Queens! 👑Is 2 AM and I come across this and I am straight crying 🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 06:58 AM |
| 18 | How to stop writing paragraphs to men.Ugh. I used to do that with my narc ex during the relationship (b4 I knew he was a narc)..Wanna punch myself now, bc I'm sure the weirdo saved them all and probably finds satisfaction in reading them years later. Just don't do it. Same for having 'talks' in person. I used to do this with my ex husband, thinking if he could just see/feel how his behavior was affecting me, if I said just the right words it would magically click for him finally and he'd stop being a cold, LVM douche. But nope. The … | /r/askFDS | 15/01/21 04:07 AM |
| 7 | Caught Him In a Lie? Now What?I do too. I'll casually ask him, definitely. | /r/askFDS | 14/01/21 11:04 PM |
| 14 | Caught Him In a Lie? Now What?Ah, I didn't think about that. I'm so paranoid about being taken advantage of! | /r/askFDS | 14/01/21 10:33 PM |
| 7 | Yet another example of women bearing the emotional load. 😑He never let's it get cut off. He has the money. He just pays in installments because he has some mental hangup when it comes to money and letting huge sums of money go at once. Bizarre. He pays her bill. I did consider going that route. Thanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 01:02 AM |
| 74 | Texting adviceWildly attracted to him, actually. But my sanity matters more than sex right now, so fully vetting him is important to me. BUT Per FDS, a few weeks ago I let him get me off (no penetration) to vet him sexually. It was awesome. I told him he/we had to get tested for everything first and he happily agreed. It will happen soon. ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 12:59 AM |
| 28 | Income inequality in a relationshipI am a 'creative', and I will tell you that the chances of making what you make or more is not very likely at his age -- but also not impossible. Our objectives and definition of success tend to differ vastly from your average nine to fiver. Not that financial scurity is not important, but creating is what drives us. I don't think he is a red flag, per se -- because there's nothing wrong with him living/earning as he does, if it makes him happy. You two just sound like different people, that's a… | /r/askFDS | 18/12/20 12:38 AM |
| 8 | Using the Principles of War in DatingLike the Art of War. This is gold. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 04:43 PM |
| 9 | I'm done 🙅🏻♀️💢💔OMG, same. I divorced my ex because he would not address his anxiety. He'd acknowledge he was the issue but would fold like a cheap suit every time he was asked to step up in any way. Now our kids are old enough to see his LVM qualities and they are so sick of his crap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 04:29 PM |
| 4 | So glad he is her ex🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 12:32 AM |
| 0 | How Do I Get My Ex to Move OutThis is great advice for someone in an abusive situation. Fortunately, that's not the case. He poses no threat to me. We have an amicable relationship and we share children. I just need him to gtfo. lol | /r/askFDS | 12/12/20 05:25 PM |
| 46 | Breaking things = domestic abuse. It’s physical intimidation that counts as DV.I once dated a narc who told me, "I should throw you down these fkn stairs." Needless to say, we broke up after that. But I told him, "Oh yeah? And you'll be coming with me." He had the right one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 05:02 PM |
| 2 | 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻He's never lived alone when we met. Me with my mom, him with a roommate. But yeah, totally inappropriate. He is a child. Can't wait for him to leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 01:17 AM |
| 5 | 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻So annoying. My ex, who has to be outta here by 1/1, has been dragging his feet. He told my ELEVEN YEAR OLD daughter that he's "afraid" to live on his own. Wtf? Firstly, why would a parent tell that to a child? And second, AFRAID? He wasn't afraid when he was ignoring my point of view and getting defensive because I had actual feelings and legitimate complaints. Like, what did he think was gonna happen? So, I'm supposed to feel sorry now? N, get ur balls up and GTFO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 12:39 AM |
| 12 | How Do I Get My Ex to Move OutHe's not on my lease..Can't block him because we have children (he poses no threat). But the rest is totally doable. | /r/askFDS | 11/12/20 06:44 PM |
| 7 | How Do I Get My Ex to Move OutHe's not on my lease, but has been paying rent. We're in NY. I will tell him AGAIN today that I'm serious abt this deadline. Thx | /r/askFDS | 11/12/20 06:35 PM |
| 18 | How Do I Get My Ex to Move OutWell, he was paying rent here so I didn't feel I could legally make him get out without some time. It should have been 30 days. but we have children and I didn't want it to be abrupt for them. But he's totally taking advantage of that and being super nice to me now. IDC. I told him in November, "Don't wait until December to start looking." I even sent him a few listings myself (hint, hint!). Grown ass man with jacked up credit that he was supposed to fix when were still together (another reason … | /r/askFDS | 11/12/20 06:24 PM |
| 22 | You hate to see it. Black men degrading their own kind.Her clapback game is strong, but it must be so hurtful for her to keep seeing this kind of stuff. I wish people would stop. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 05:13 PM |
| 5 | You can look up the npr article. I read this and now want to pack up and move to another planet, bye 🤮Just...wowww | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 03:14 AM |
| 3 | men knowGreat idea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 01:00 AM |
| 3 | At a loss of words. Catfished in 2020?! Like howw???How can he be the love of your life u haven't seen his face? Make it make sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 02:26 AM |
| 1 | Thinking About Ending It. Need Advice.ok. :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 01:51 AM |
| 2 | If a man tells you that you can do better - BELIEVE HIM.When I divorced my ex he told me this..Said I deserved someone better. I didn't listen and got bk with him five years later and almost married him a second time. 🤦🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 07:00 PM |
| 120 | Beware LV people who think a relationships are supposed to be transactional.My ex-bf forced-- I mean FORCED--me to take money from him for my school bill. He gave me a long speech about how as a man it was his job to take care of me and what good is he if he can't help me when I need it. I had never taken money from a man before, but he convinced me to break my rule. He pressed the cash into my hand with kisses and sweet words. We have a fight. "I want my fkn money!" Next fight: "Just give me my money!" Every. Time. When he was angry, the gift suddenly became a loan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 04:04 PM |
| 4 | Scrote from ELEVEN years ago just rang my bell unannounced to "reconnect" 🤮This is my worst nightmare, and why I haven't blocked my narc ex via phone. I want to know if he's planning to come and 'surprise' me. I don't ever want him so desperate to reach me that he just shows up. He has cyberstalked me for four years. Haven't heard from him in a while, but I know he's always watching. Were you afraid when you saw him? Do you think he'll come back?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 09:07 PM |
| 6 | Examples of disrespectThe guy I've been dating for almost three months has some female friends he's known since college. Idk any details, but we need to have a convo about it before we go too much further. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 06:45 PM |
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