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snwborder52 wrote: The world doesn't owe me anything, but at the same time I'm worthy of everything. It's a neutral state. And your self-evaluation of infinite worth is meaningless to anyone but you. Look beyond your navel. UPDATE snwborder52 again edited his comment after I responded to it. The idea of inherent value simply has no meaning unless you make a supernatural/religious argument about our "inherent nature". You can assert that vague notion as the foundation of your ideas, but without d…
/r/seduction28/11/13 12:33 AM
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snwborder52 wrote: We exist. Therefore we are worthy of love and belonging. We have been socially conditioned to believe otherwise by a culture of 'never enough'. No. We exist. Therefore we exist. The rest is your personal belief about "love and belonging", which is directly contradicted by the way that the rest of the world operates. You can convince yourself that the world owes you approval and inclusion all day long, and I doubt anyone else will care -- whether they're "socially conditioned" …
/r/seduction28/11/13 12:22 AM
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benbernankenonpareil wrote: Do you have a particularly "school" you subscribe to more than others? It amazes me that the so-called "schools" exist at all. If an idea makes sense, it's worth doing. The question is figuring out for yourself how to make sense of the ideas from the various "schools". That requires understanding society and the larger world to an extent that most people are afraid to consider -- like, for example, the actual origins of the self-help and "positive thinking" movement. …
/r/seduction28/11/13 12:06 AM
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snwborder52 wrote: (repeated points from the original post that I already responded to in my previous comment). Whose "nature of our existence" defines your "worthiness of love and belonging"? That type of falsely pious ideology has a strangely quasi-religious undertone that has nothing to do with seduction. Try telling a woman that you have "worthiness of love and belonging". See how far it gets you. No one cares about your lofty self-image of "worthiness". Go in the opposite direction, instead…
/r/seduction27/11/13 11:53 PM
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Quickly, based on the notes in the original post: "Sometimes we're so focused on scoring for ourselves, we spend so much time resisting the other person (by pushing for what we want), we don't even notice that if we do what we both want, we can score as much as we want." "...if we do what we both want, we can score as much as we want." Sounds great, in a pie-in-the-sky way. Sometimes other people are resisting us. Sometimes you do have to push (for example, if the woman acts cold at the beginnin…
/r/seduction27/11/13 05:22 PM
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blarblaru wrote: I think that if I was "rational" then I would have given up by now. You're making a good start, here. I made no mention of "confidence" because as you said, it's not the main problem. Yes, of course your problems are real. At this point, re-read my comments; they're more than enough to get you on a different track (and no one is going to give you therapy for free -- if they do, go to someone else). As a twenty-one year old, it's still early in the game. You have more options tha…
/r/seduction27/11/13 03:31 PM
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blarblaru wrote: All three therapists I've talked to tried to treat my "depression" by talking me out of it and telling me my thoughts are "irrational" when they're actually the most rational thing in the world: I'm an inadequate person and I feel bad as a result. I guess you're right: you're completely inadequate, which leads you to believe that your depression is the most rational thing in the world (for a completely inadequate person), and so you feel bad. Notice how your thoughts move in a c…
/r/seduction27/11/13 02:57 PM
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blarblaru wrote: I've talked to three different therapists and been on anti-depressants for four years and none of that helped me at all. Don't go off your meds (at least, not without the support of a professional if you decide to give it a try). Keep looking for a therapist who can help you. The strange bit about therapy is that it's anything but a science, so therapists can't all be lumped together as one single object ("that therapy thing") -- much like pickup isn't a science ("those women th…
/r/seduction27/11/13 02:35 PM
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Forget about being "positive", "happy" or whatever. You're not positive, you're not happy, and you have good reason not to be either. You're an ugly-looking (in the eyes of society) guy who has been diagnosed with mild autism (hopefully by a qualified -- and more importantly, skilled -- mental health professional. If you've self-diagnosed as "Aspie", stop reading here and see a therapist). You have relatively little self-confidence because your idea of confidence is based on success with women, …
/r/seduction27/11/13 08:25 AM
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whatwasigonnasay wrote: Todd was a very chill guy. Super analytical. You wouldn't even notice him if you were out. Tyler was a normal guy. He brought his gf on the boot camp and was super preoccupied with her (constantly making out) which kinda sucked. I wish he would've came out solo. Julien was the most fun by far... In other words, Todd didn't demonstrate any real skill and Tyler was barely even there? Which means that you took a bootcamp from Julien and the other two accompanied him for the …
/r/seduction27/11/13 02:27 AM
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The only question that really matters is "how are you going to keep yourself from backsliding and 'needing' to spend another $2,000 to have guys teach you how not to feel ashamed of yourself in front of random girls?" I have a feeling that they probably left that part out. Here's an alternative if you're reading this and you can't (or for some bizarre reason, don't want to) afford to throw away two thousand bucks on a boot camp: The $2,000 Wingman Game 1- Find a friend or someone who you can tru…
/r/seduction27/11/13 01:24 AM
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barelyafc wrote: It's like they either are taking the exclusionary stuff they got from others growing up and are now throwing it at me, or they think that you gotta be TOUGH to do this and they think I'll respond positively to their being hard towards me, and it's just the way they communicate now. Possibilities: A. "exclusionary stuff they got from others growing up" B. "they think that you gotta be TOUGH to do this" I've rarely met anyone who responds well to "emotional vulnerability", male or…
/r/seduction26/11/13 12:26 AM
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It's definitely useful to continually remind yourself that you're dealing with how a woman looks in her own mind -- not how she appears to you. If her self-image is lesser than your image of her, she'll probably sabotage the relationship due to insecurity, especially if you tell her (or otherwise indicate) that she's more beautiful than she believes. If her self-image is inflated, you have to do the opposite lest you further stoke her already-oversized ego. When in doubt, assume the latter, as m…
/r/seduction22/11/13 01:00 AM
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How many guys think that she's pretty, want to take her out sometime, and would like ever-so-politely to get her number? Try actually using game to screen her while you have the girl in front of you. Don't wait for the first date to realize that you're wasting your time, or that she just had nothing better to do and hence she's a serial dater looking for food and entertainment. Qualify the girl (meaning, sort her in or sort her out). You're focusing too much on whether or not she likes you. Has …
/r/seduction21/11/13 09:26 PM
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The differences look more dramatic than they actually are. I would guess that the data comes from ayi.com, a dating app, but there's no source readily available aside from a summary (click here). The data variations are purported to show the differences between what people say they want, and who they actually respond to when messaged using the site. More about that from an interview at USA Today, "Online daters often willing to cross racial lines". An interesting quote from the interview that es…
/r/seduction20/11/13 10:21 PM
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HGLucky wrote: Sorry man that's way more work than I intend to do. Join redpill...you might enjoy some of it. No need to apologize. I wasn't asking you to post the link. As I said, I'm not a member of /r/redpill and their subreddit is locked to non-members. And posting a link isn't exactly a monumental task, but as I said, if you wanted to, that would be fine with me. I've seen some of the vile things posted there and as annoyingly polyanna-ish as Seddit can be, I definitely wouldn't want to abs…
/r/seduction20/11/13 04:26 AM
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puntingbaxter wrote: if you are tired of hearing the same thing over and over you are definitely on the wrong sub Every now and then, someone on Seddit tells a good joke that also happens to contain a grain of truth
/r/seduction19/11/13 10:56 PM
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What never ceases to amaze me is that self-help gurus tend to ask and answer the same questions, which have all been asked and answered hundreds of thousands of times before. "What is the pain that you want to sustain?" The answer is achingly obvious, and it's the same for almost everyone: no pain at all. This is why almost everyone gets the same results. Although I suppose that also answers the question of why self-help gurus can ask the same questions over and over again, and make obscene amou…
/r/seduction19/11/13 10:37 PM
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faso42 wrote: I realized i was pretty much doing everything wrong. There was a topic relating to your realization posted on Seddit earlier today. It was deleted by one of the moderators for being too "controversial" regarding the facts of male-female interactions. The topic was about an article in the New York Times titled "A New Cold War Fought by Women" (click here). Definitely take a look, and also see the links in the article to other sources. P.S. I think the Seddit topic is still readable …
/r/seduction19/11/13 07:31 PM
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A woman who says that she "wants a Nice Guy" is lying. She knows what she's saying. It's not true, never has been and most likely never will be. The line "I'm looking for a Nice Guy" or "I just want someone is nice" is a tactic that she uses to distinguish the so-called Beta Male provider type (who she can depend on to buy her things) who she can and probably will cheat on at least once during their relationship (she can also redefine "cheating" to mean anything that flatters her ego). She sorts…
/r/seduction19/11/13 07:17 PM
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You're right -- "leave her better than before" isn't your job, similar to the idea that "making her happy" isn't your job. Also, many women are prone to "sexual mercenary"-type behavior regardless of what you do (see a recent New York Times article on the topic titled "A New Cold War Fought by Women" (click here)). See also a blog entry on the same topic that you might find useful (click here). Unless you're going to literally teach her how to use a less-dysfunctional perspective about dating, s…
/r/seduction19/11/13 06:59 PM
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For as long as it lasts, I'll repost my earlier comment on the story here. (Moderators: it might be useful to allow this topic to be posted here, as it is not "Red Pill" information. "Pre-emptive moderation" denies the members of Seddit the access to this topic, which actually is quite valuable in helping guys break free from the mass media indoctrination about women as weak, helpless or otherwise not capable of operating as equals in relation to men. If we're only allowed to post flattering por…
/r/seduction19/11/13 06:17 PM
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Hey man -- looks like this topic has been torpedoed by predictably overzealous moderation, so if you want to post the link to /r/redpill, be my guest; they might enjoy it and find value in the information. I'm not a member there, so I don't have access to the RedPill subreddit either way. My response is archived in full form as a blog entry (click here), so if you want to post a link to the blog entry directly, that's fine, too. Not point seeing it languish here if other people might find the id…
/r/seduction19/11/13 06:11 PM
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matrix2002 wrote: It isn't a competition. Life isn't a competition. It is about the journey. The vast majority of human beings are operating at odds with your personal philosophy, including women. There's nothing "secret" about it -- that was the point of the article (and my original comment). Your denial doesn't change the facts. Much of modern social life "is extremely unhealthy" -- and denying reality is equally unhealthy. The real question is how you deal with the situation in front of you. …
/r/seduction19/11/13 05:42 PM
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I've been writing about this same set of ideas in various blogs for a couple of years. If you ignore what women say to you, you'll realize that it's obvious: women have no shortage of potential sex partners (even ugly, short, older, fat, etc. women); women are consummately skilled in social and sexual manipulation (see women's magazines and the entirety of female-centric popular culture); and men care far less about women's fashion/appearance than women do (hence, the makeup, clothing, etc. are …
/r/seduction19/11/13 03:59 PM
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anewman1993 wrote: Mentally I know that they are just imperfect people, like me, but emotionally I just can't make the connection. You're dealing with deeply ingrained habits of thinking (i.e. beliefs). To change that, you'll have to fight against your own dysfunctional beliefs, while encountering the same resistance from the world that, in your mind, makes those beliefs "real" and right. To use a geopolitical metaphor (only because you can probably relate to it), it's like being the leader of N…
/r/seduction19/11/13 03:10 PM
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anewman1993 wrote: How can I become less of a judgmental asshole and relate to people better? (LONG?) I wrote a long response to your post, but it didn't feel right. Then I realized that this is one of those posts where someone is asking for advice -- but the problem is that you're really good at ignoring other peoples' perspectives and opinions in favor of your own. Not only that, but you've already given yourself an easy escape route by expecting the answers you get to be "wrong", because your…
/r/seduction19/11/13 06:41 AM
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TylerX5 wrote: If you dont willingly define your terms then youre willingly allowing confusion to ensue. Not always. I essentially defined the word myself in the exact same way as the dictionary spelled it out for you (not option three, of course). Any confusion on your part would be at least partly intentional, or the result of not reading carefully enough to follow the conversation very well in any case. You don't have to be a mind-reader in order to comprehend words clearly written on the pag…
/r/seduction18/11/13 12:49 PM
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TylerX5 wrote: Profound has several meanings which change according to context. No. You're confusing the word "context" with "preferred choice of meaning". In this case, you can infer what I mean by "profound". And yes, the meaning is in the dictionary. I'm not going to spell it out for you because that will only lead to a duel of who's definition is "right". An intense emotion by itself is not profound; the word implies something deeper than the typical moment of narcissistic self-lust that com…
/r/seduction18/11/13 11:24 AM
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TylerX5 wrote: How do you defining profound with in the context? I generally use the dictionary definition. Try Merriam-Webster There's nothing especially "contextual" about it. Arbitrarily redefining words is a slippery slope. I'm not going to go there. But what standard do you judge earned sexual validation? By the same standard as that by which anyone "earns" anything from someone else.
/r/seduction18/11/13 11:03 AM
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TylerXS wrote: You'd surprised at how some women feel about themselves and what a little validation can do. "Validating" a woman's attractiveness has nothing to do with approving of, or changing, her body image. If anything, you're perpetuating the problem by spotlighting her sexuality in a way that draws attention to the same issues that she's been running from -- and therefore, the problems by which she defines herself. Such so-called "validation" is actually objectification -- the fact that a…
/r/seduction18/11/13 10:37 AM
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OwnTheDay wrote: It'd just be super awkward if I were having a conversation with a friend and he joins in. If he's actually harassing you (and it's quite easy to get someone to harass you -- just keep running away and they'll follow), then confront him about it. You could turn it into a cruel joke by predicting his obsessive behavior in front of your friends, then when he does it, pretend like you have a leash and you're actually leading him around. Then tell him to do tricks. There are a thousa…
/r/seduction18/11/13 05:32 AM
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TylerX5 wrote: That said you weren't being detailed enough on why you thought it was superficial, and questionably profound. You're overthinking my comment. Presumably arxch126 was out talking to girls with the hope of working on his game and perhaps eventually getting laid. He approached a sad girl who looked happy (?). The sad girl denied his botched approach, but thanked him for making her feel good about herself. Then he went off the self-help deep end by pretending that he had "profoundly i…
/r/seduction18/11/13 05:05 AM
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TylerX5 wrote: how is that not profound? Granted in a narrow intellectual sense it's superficial but emotively that can mean so much to a person. That's funny -- a "narrow intellectual sense". As if you're going to play "the intellectual" against "the emotional". If you're going to pretend that emotional questions are somehow "beyond" thinking intelligently about them, then no, I'm not going to play that game with you. So I guess if it's "profound" to you, then that's your emotional choice and t…
/r/seduction18/11/13 02:55 AM
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Leave your house. Talk to random strangers. Make sure that some of them are female. Start with older people. They have great stories to tell; the older they are, the more they've lived. Find younger people. Sprinkle in a few cute women. Tell them some of the interesting stories you've heard. See how they respond. The purpose is to change your goal from "pick up chicks during the day" to "meet interesting people, some of whom are young and female". Or, spend your time pursuing real interests wher…
/r/seduction18/11/13 02:14 AM
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arxch126 wrote: Ditch the snarky attitute, dude. Not sure I follow the rest of your argument, but I think you made a good effort! I'll read your comment again in a few hours. Hopefully something pops up and changes the way I live my life :) Or not. Strange how quickly the forced smiley face of "positive thinking" devolves into personal attacks against imaginary opponents. Anyway, I have no use for trolling you -- using fake used car salesman-style "positivity" or otherwise -- so that's all I hav…
/r/seduction18/11/13 02:06 AM
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arxch126 wrote: Not sure I follow the rest of your argument, but I think you made a good effort! I'll read your comment again in a few hours. Hopefully something pops up and changes the way I live my life :) "I made a good effort"?! Seriously? I had a good laugh at that one. Thanks for the "encouragement". Your exaggerated attempt at "changing the way you live your life" based on a comment on Seddit is a bit try-hard to say the least, but I choose to read it as the kind of sarcasm usually found …
/r/seduction18/11/13 01:13 AM
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OwnTheDay wrote: This guy has done some really serious shit to piss me off before, and really disrespected me in front of my friends. Stop being afraid of him, and accept what happens after that. If your friends have your back, consolidate your friendships with them while excluding the jerk. Every time the jerk steps up to you, clown him in front of your friends. Allow it to escalate. Your friends will decide how far things go. If they're actually on your side, the jerk will eventually leave the…
/r/seduction18/11/13 01:02 AM
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arxch126 wrote: I made her feel like she's worth being talked to. It makes me happy to know that approach can profoundly impact the mood of the person you're interacting with. Reminds me that we're not all just assholes looking to get our dicks wet. There's only one problem with your "profundity", here: I highly doubt you walked up to a girl for the sake of randomly spreading sunbeams and giggles across the happy-looking female populace. And to feel better about yourself because a random guy dec…
/r/seduction17/11/13 11:50 PM
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pure_x01 wrote: I have heard some other aspiring pua's that after a failed approach calls the girl a bitch or other stuff. If you are like that then try to learn from the failure instead and don't blame the girl. You don't know why she acted the way she did. She probably acted that way because she has an attitude problem. If you did your best, you might have seemed "creepy" to her, but in an ideal world, women would give you pointers about how to act, rather than pushing you out of her life fore…
/r/seduction17/11/13 11:08 PM
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You put up barriers against yourself. Never verbalize an objection unless you're prepared to completely obliterate it using humour or by allowing her to talk herself out of it. You asked if she was comfortable. Don't ask. She will say that she's uncomfortable, just to test you. Instead, do something different to help her feel comfortable. Or tease her for acting like the stiffest woman who's ever sat on your couch before, and get her to laugh at her inappropriately uptight behavior. Set the fram…
/r/seduction16/11/13 09:49 PM
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Epic_Crayon wrote: If a guy attempts to talk to a girl they don't know it is always assumed in there head that the guy is trying to seduce her. As a result they will instantly put on a front and say rude things like "not interested!" or "I have a boyfriend!" when all the guy was doing was being friendly and making small talk. Imagine a world where most people are narcissistic and egotistical. Give them outlets for instant validation twenty-four hours a day. Recognize that the new outlets only ex…
/r/seduction16/11/13 08:58 PM
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Tell her your age after she realizes that she's falling in love with you. Until then, tease her -- alternately for robbing the cradle, and also for falling in love with someone who's as ruggedly mature as yourself. A little bit of confusion combined with withholding truly private information (your age is none of any stranger's business, anyway, cute or otherwise) can make her chase you, particularly if she likes you already. Most guys give it all away too soon in a desperate bid for her approval…
/r/seduction07/11/13 09:11 PM
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GuruDev1000 wrote: The question says it all. Yes, it does. They're both fads (when seen as "Mind over Matter") that come in and out of fashion on a regular basis. You can visualize while you meditate (in fact, some meditation styles like Zen are designed to prevent this as a kind of "mind-wandering" or "monkey mind") or you can use visualization as a meditation practice (like the Tibetan use of complex mandala imagery). As ProfessionalJerk noted, neither of them have anything to do with getting …
/r/seduction07/11/13 07:46 PM
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jonicy wrote: ...It's time to bring back my hobbies again. Thanks for your response! :) Glad to hear it. Enjoy.
/r/seduction07/11/13 02:00 PM
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I can make it simpler, then: get a life outside of your job. Nobody cares about how many hours you work. If anything, that makes you less attractive because you've made no time for anything else (unless you're looking for gold-diggers and social climbers, as previously mentioned). There's a reason why you feel like a braggart and end up self-deprecating -- it's because you're acting like a braggart. Put your pride aside for two minutes and re-read my previous response -- particularly the first s…
/r/seduction07/11/13 01:46 PM
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jonicy wrote: I landed a job a couple of months ago as a stockbroker, and this is something I'm really proud of considering this is my dream job. No one has any reason to care about your job but you. Prattling on about it is bragging. Bragging will attract women who want a guy who needs to brag about his job -- the gold-diggers and social climbers, mainly. Most people want more money than they have earned (greed) and most people want to associate with people who make them look like "winners" in …
/r/seduction07/11/13 01:34 PM
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uvfire wrote: I feel a breakup in the midst because she has a lot of personal stuff to deal with and think she's just going to end it. Hang onto her. Don't let her go. Obsess. Cry into the phone while begging with her voicemail. Cling. Grovel at her feet when she takes you back in pity. Worship her. Give her everything. Watch her despise you and leave, or stay and cheat on you because she has no respect left for someone who couldn't let her go when the time came to part ways. In other words, sta…
/r/seduction07/11/13 05:52 AM
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ardentswordsman wrote: ...I knew that I could find the diversity that the sidebar links lack. 1. Do what's known to work rather than endlessly seeking opinions from a community of people who are mostly in the same position as you are, especially when much of the compiled wisdom of that community can be found in the sidebar. 1. (Read the sidebar.) 1. Rather than searching for bullet-point "quick tips" and "cheat sheets", see points 1, 1, and 1. UPDATE: I love trolls... they are quite numerous, in…
/r/seduction06/11/13 10:00 PM
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InfiniteBlink wrote: This is assuming your saying like, hey im about to leave but i had to come over and say hi. talk a bit, then you HAVE to leave. Imagine that you do have to leave (or, as I mentioned to popeyepaul, actually come up with a real compelling reason to leave). Allow her to "compete" for your attention with whatever you've given yourself as a time constraint. As long as she's more interesting, stick around. If the conversation starts to wane, use your time constraint as a real reas…
/r/seduction06/11/13 07:42 PM
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popeyepaul wrote: Yeah me too. I'm probably thinking too much into it, but it (the use of a time constraint) feels very artificial... Actually have something more important to do than talking to her. It could be something simple like wanting to look at a painting on the wall, texting a friend... or finding more interesting people to talk to if she doesn't give good conversation. Time constraints are only artificial if you assume that a randomly attractive-looking woman is worth talking to for an…
/r/seduction06/11/13 06:50 PM
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The eleven points mentioned above outline the difference between negotiation (or the first stages of interrogation, to use the click-bait "FBI" metaphor in the article) and seduction/charisma. Everything you do while establishing value/building rapport in seduction can be adapted for making friends (and influencing people in other areas of life, as a nod to Carnegie and company). The parallels are there once you take a wider view, particularly in terms of indirect game and social circle approach…
/r/seduction06/11/13 06:42 PM
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"FBI Tested". Really? More like "Dale Carnegie meets Samuel Smiles". 1) Establish artificial time constraints Neil Strauss lists this as one of the basics in any opener: Root your opener -- meaning, give a reason for asking your question or speaking to the other person; Give a false time constraint -- meaning, tell them that you have to get back to your friends, you've got to go do [x], etc. 2) Make Sure Your Body Language is In Sync They already cited Dale Carnegie. Smiling at people has nothin…
/r/seduction06/11/13 05:17 AM
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iKill_eu wrote: girls do enjoy sex, but not like guys... many women get sexually bored in long term monogamous relationships - they stop feeling thrilled. I personally have no insight about why women really get sexually bored. I have heard women say things like what you wrote -- mainly in (and inspired by) the typical Hollywood movies, romance novels and equally trashy television shows (which I studiously avoid watching whenever possible). Don't buy into what a woman will tell you. Even more imp…
/r/seduction04/11/13 07:39 AM
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Santabot wrote: Anybody have a guide or helpful procedure for picking up MILF / cougar / experienced women? Depends on the actual age, marital status and logistics (divorced? separated? childless? living with children? sharing custody of kids with the Omnipresent Other Guy, a.k.a. the father of the kids?) of the woman you're talking about. The terms you used can apply to any woman over 25, depending on who you ask.
/r/seduction03/11/13 08:57 PM
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-ATown wrote: I had countless friends that were very good with women, but I could never figure it out. I thought they were just "getting lucky", and that women didn't really want sex. They were just trading it for a monogamous relationship. Hate to tell you, man, but... ...imagine being a woman faced with a trade between two options: A deeply fulfilling emotional relationship with a lovely ordinary guy who your friends are indifferent about, or who generally strikes them as "normal" and socially…
/r/seduction03/11/13 08:27 PM
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see sidebar: /r/100sets
/r/seduction03/11/13 08:14 PM
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Qlue- wrote: All I see is a bunch of pseudo intellectual insults. In that case, "all I see from you is a bunch of anti-intellectual insults." That's a childish, stupid game that you're playing, and it leads nowhere. Seriously, dude, read before writing. Otherwise there's no point in wasting the time pretending to have an intelligent conversation. No wonder you feel insulted -- you're not thinking at all. I believe the technical jargon for that is "trolling".
/r/seduction03/11/13 06:32 AM
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To debunk your nonsense: Qlue- wrote: You have been learning from experience since you were a baby, and everyone learns from experience, don't discredit the power of your brain. You didn't read a book on riding a bicycle did you? or learning to walk? 1-. The so-called "power of the brain" is largely due to its plasticity -- its ability to learn a wide variety of things, useful and/or unuseful. The idea that your experiences will magically coalesce into useful beliefs is silly, not to mention dis…
/r/seduction03/11/13 06:15 AM
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You're forgetting that calibration and skill are two different things. You will learn automatically from experience. Most people don't "automatically" learn from experience. If you don't know what you should be learning (and you've been socially conditioned to learn the wrong things, as most guys have), depending on "being social" will often lead to more unsatisfactory outcomes. At some point, you have to learn the skills themselves, whether it's from role models or from books (or better yet, a …
/r/seduction03/11/13 05:12 AM
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The emphasis on "just be normal" sounds a lot like the typical woman's advice to "just be yourself". We all know how well that works for most guys... Your intention is different, of course, but you've been through (at least) three years of learning how to become very different from most people's definition of "normal". That's what's tough about teaching a subject to others. It's easy to forget how much you've already learned (and forgotten that you learned -- i.e. all the psychology, theory, tec…
/r/seduction03/11/13 03:29 AM
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Imagine that everyone is different. Be genuinely fascinated about human beings, religions and cultures. Ask questions. Be curious. Calibrate to the situation and the individual person in front of you, not to their "race" or ethnic category. When the inevitable questions about having an "[x ethnicity] fetish" come up, playfully tease her for trying to pretend that she's special. Genuinely realize and internalize the awareness that people typically confuse race for personality and status (usually,…
/r/seduction02/11/13 08:47 PM
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You're asking fish how to catch fish. Ask your question here: rFPUA - Seduction for Women (click here). Aside from bragging about your 'exotic' looks (ethnic fetishes and stereotypes aside, "Middle Eastern" is just another kind of normal, after all -- Israeli Jewish women and some North African women are also from the "Greater Middle East"), talk to other women. Share your thoughts with them; they will have useful perspectives on your question based on their experiences of actually being women (…
/r/seduction02/11/13 08:27 PM
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smoke10 wrote: After coming out of a tough breakup and fighting social anxiety and depression, I have finally begun to move on. I started online dating and... First, deal with the social anxiety and depression. Nothing you do from behind a computer screen will help you get past those problems. Go meet other people (including women) in real life; if that's too emotionally harrowing for you right now, see a therapist and work at it until you get the problem sorted. When you do leave the house, mak…
/r/seduction02/11/13 12:34 AM
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I think you're talking about the cult of personality (or personalities) that they create at RSD. It actually allows them to neatly evade the whole concept of ethics or morality at all -- for example, when Alexander is imitating Jeffy's racist idiocy by calling a woman a "Somali pirate" because she's dark-skinned, wears a headscarf and speaks limited English. All you have to do is look at the discrepancies (or "incongruities") between their words and their actions, and you'll have all the informa…
/r/seduction01/11/13 02:51 AM
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RSD teaches guys to "neg" chicks? Isn't that "outdated" and "robotic"? It's almost like Tyler stole his whole approach to pickup from Mystery and Style circa 2006, or that the foundations of Jeffy's game were cribbed almost entirely from Ross Jeffries. Oh, wait... No, it's all about self-confidence, being completely amorally true and "congruent" to your "intent", "bringing value" and "offering quality content" and maybe spontaneously lovestriking the nimbus? (Don't worry, that last "nimbus" bit …
/r/seduction01/11/13 12:40 AM
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TrustingInLove wrote: Good points, thank you. Unfortunately it seems a unicorn without the horn is just as rare, making that, in itself, another unicorn. (A unicorn sans horn is actually just a horse, as a fairy without the wings is just a very small little girl -- not unlike a younger version of your favored female type -- but I concede the point. No use torturing mares in their stables by trying to find one who can fly...)
/r/seduction31/10/13 07:38 PM
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TrustingInLove wrote (in response to another comment): I'm a unicorn fucker :-/ Keeping a sense of humour about yourself and your curiosities may be the best form of individual "psychotherapy", naturally depending on the kind of humour used. Sometimes extreme feelings can be extremely misleading. And part of your mind (the part that calculates years, I would imagine) knows that already. As long as you recognize the prevalence of unicorns, enjoy your search -- while keeping track of the fact that…
/r/seduction31/10/13 01:10 PM
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TrustingInLove wrote: I would kill for a pill... lit on fire... not going back... I wanted to bring your attention to how extreme your language is; the humour in it struck me because there's a distance from the words and the tone (you "sound" very calm, but the words are extreme). So yes, it's funny -- and sad at the same time because most people have a hard enough time finding someone they like (witness: seddit) without the extremity of a restrictive physical type such as "tiny", "tall", etc. I…
/r/seduction31/10/13 12:38 PM
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"I need a tiny woman -- it's just how I am. No need to analyze it." Ah. Too funny. Psychoanalysis and effective psychotherapy are two very different things. On second thought, you might go to a psychoanalyst anyway, and maybe even get a second opinion -- just to hear the inevitably bizarre stories they'd tell you about your developmental past and fatefully inevitable future. It would make for a great comedic read if you posted the results of your "analysis" on seddit... Anyway, good luck seeking…
/r/seduction31/10/13 06:19 AM
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Each text/call/email/etc. that you waste chasing her represents another girl you could have met who wouldn't have wasted your time... ...unless you're gaming her for the sport of it, which is fine if you have nothing else to do. P.S. You have something else to do. See the first sentence for details. See also: the rest of your life.
/r/seduction31/10/13 01:19 AM
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Three immediate thoughts: Maybe you have a fetish. There are far stranger fetishes out there that people claim are the "only" way they can get aroused. Maybe you have naturally low testosterone or other chemical balances that are influencing your behavior. Maybe you would benefit from seeing a psychotherapist (not a psychoanalyst) and/or a medical doctor. And some people don't find out that they're gay for a long, long time. As far as I know, there's no hardwired, genetically deterministic "need…
/r/seduction31/10/13 01:08 AM
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The image is a quote from Sylvia Plath: I love my rejection slips. They show me I try. Yeah, but, rejection sucks... I hate my rejection slips, but they tell me that I can do better (if I decide that's what they mean). Or it might mean that I need to find a better audience.
/r/seduction30/10/13 04:31 AM
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So you met a really hot chick (in your eyes), the two of you had a connection of some kind and you really wanted it to work. Then you idealized her in your mind and fell in puppy love because you found that rare something that you might not have had since your last high school crush years and years ago. It's annoying. It happens. Fact is that the same reason that clingy behavior happens (she's just one woman and you're overestimating her value to you) is also the solution to the problem (she's j…
/r/seduction30/10/13 04:15 AM
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Experience usually creates a sense of when to push and when to back off. It's useful to ask whether pushing for something (or someone) will bring you closer to, or farther from, what you want. In the context of seduction, having something more important/fascinating/valuable to you than a particular woman (or women generally) is always a smart idea. Allow women to be a pleasant distraction from the rest of your life, not the other way around. In other words, if you find yourself emotionally manip…
/r/seduction30/10/13 03:43 AM
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I was under the impression that /r/seduction was for men, by men who are interested in attracting women. Even the seddit icon depicts one "guy" (the Reddit logo) flanked on either side by two women. His arms are spread to visually encompass both of them as if he "has" them. Rather than creating a sticky post about how seddit is inclusive of everyone (which is confusing, since there are subreddits for the other populations who are somehow also "included" here?), maybe some clarity on what this su…
/r/seduction30/10/13 03:24 AM
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SomeGuyInDeutschland wrote: And I'm depressed. Thanks Oddly enough, I'm not -- and I'm the one who wrote that piece (and more than sixty more blog entries that go into even more detail on similar topics). Stay depressed, run away from reality or get smart and find a different path. Reliable knowledge alone isn't power, but it can help you waste less time, point you in a different direction, or at least lead to a more useful set of questions.
/r/seduction26/10/13 03:50 PM
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subscribeaccount wrote: I commit myself to it and dont treat it casual. It gives me a deeper understanding. Self-improvement shouldnt be casual and its never an easy fix to be solved in a quick download. This is a crucial point. Unfortunately, we live in a "quick-fix" culture where slogans like "fake it till you make it" somehow become gospel -- as if faking anything continually will result in becoming something other than a better, more "authentic" fake. And you may have hit a key part of the q…
/r/seduction25/10/13 01:03 PM
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Stop being such a little analytical bitch. Hey, you asked for it. The one part that you left out of your post was what the so-called "self-limiting belief" actually is -- you labeled it "guilt", but you didn't mention how the word describes your particular situation. Seduction itself has nothing to do with being "bashful" or "ashamed", so your belief is still unknown.
/r/seduction25/10/13 04:29 AM
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Ego 101: Give a person validation that they don't feel like they earned, and they will try to take advantage of you. When you idolize a person for being pretty/smart/successful/etc., you're practically inviting them to use you for more ego-gratification. Most people are more insecure and less moral than they would like to believe. A woman isn't a goddess any more than you are a god. The strange part is that so many readers see this as "amazing" or "depressing" or "cynical". It's just how the wor…
/r/seduction23/10/13 09:08 PM
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TooPrivate wrote: My question is regarding self-deprecating humor? Is it good, bad, thoughts? Only self-deprecate if you're on the verge of blowing her out -- because she's becoming insecure, reacting as if she has lower value*** than you in the interaction (or if the two of you are comfortable with each other to the point that your value in her eyes is no longer a question... which is to say, practically never). ***By "value", I mean that she starts to act like you're "out of her league", or vi…
/r/seduction23/10/13 06:03 PM
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Neverd0wn wrote: However I think you might have misunderstood my post. The point of my post is that the mechanism that facilitates how the inner feeling of confidence is derived from outside achievements (i.e. general lifestyle improvement) is called entitlement. I don't see the need for your theory, aside from cherrypicking words that already have widely-used definitions ("entitlement", "micromanagement", "macromanagement") and giving them strange new definitions instead of using their real mea…
/r/seduction23/10/13 04:19 PM
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Progress in improving your lifestyle = entitlement and deservingness when dealing with women? No. "Entitlement" itself is self-help jargon that tries to imply that you "deserve" the woman (or anything else) in front of you. It's the same kind of magical thinking that affirmations try to "install" into your brain. For many people, affirmations don't work because the person simply doesn't believe them, and the endless repetition only reinforces the disconnect (as AndrePalmer mentioned). There is n…
/r/seduction23/10/13 05:06 AM
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HawkeyeGK wrote: Agreed. Can't overthink it. Really, I'm just trying to give OP a frame of reference for handling a boy-ish girl: Think of them as a guy. Until the requisite experience is gained, it sure helps to have a frame of reference. True. Training wheels before jet engines...
/r/seduction23/10/13 03:41 AM
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Way too much theorizing there. Remember that the words you say don't matter. If you're dealing with a male AMOG, his version of trash-talk might be elaborate, but note how short her original jab was -- "hop off my dick." In Girl Code, this is called being "witty". Women obsess over "wittiness", whereas most guys are caught flatfooted by it every time. Wit has nothing to do with what you say. Witty people are not necessarily intelligent people. The purpose of wit is to use speed and brevity to cu…
/r/seduction23/10/13 03:29 AM
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Here's a crazy idea: learn what they're doing, and then learn how to do it better. I call what you're dealing with "girl game". How do you think they learned it? Women learn cocky+funny (and the rest of the arsenal) from other women, then they use it against clueless guys (who are clueless because it's the opposite of what the average guy is taught by his mom and society. Hence, he ends up becoming an Average Frustrated Chump later in life). You're lucky to have so many "better versions of yours…
/r/seduction22/10/13 08:41 PM
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Most people have no idea what charisma (or "charm") means. Confidence, on the other hand, is a self-help buzzword because you can sit at home reading "motivational" literature, watching Youtube videos, "pumping your state" and feeling "confident" without engaging anyone else or doing much of anything at all. Charisma is inherently interpersonal. There has to be someone else in the room who can be "charmed" by you. That said, there have been plenty of "charismatic" people who had abysmal self-con…
/r/seduction22/10/13 05:03 AM
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AbandonedThemePark wrote: It's called an opinion. An opinion cannot be 'blatantly false', it's just different to yours.... etc. etc. You sound like the typical woman shoveling the same typical advice to men after magically bestowing herself with the fake authority of "the female perspective". Hiding behind a relativistic "no opinions are wrong" tactic doesn't make you any less wrong. It just means that you're good at playing word games to shield your ego. Likewise with the faux-innocence about k…
/r/seduction22/10/13 04:40 AM
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foxyfantastic wrote (in response to a female troll): I wouldn't really call them sexist/paranoid since these are my experiences. You're dealing with a female troll. Ignore her, and the other trolls who downvoted your comment. Any topic like the one you raised is going to draw that kind of response from women who don't want to see the ugly truth about themselves (or more accurately, the experiences of most men who have to deal with them) exposed to the light of day. Your perspective is yours -- a…
/r/seduction22/10/13 04:25 AM
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Ha. That was funny, man. Props...
/r/seduction22/10/13 03:56 AM
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joshsway wrote: thanks for the kind words. 30 pages is just the one quick intro ebook.. That makes sense. After looking at most of the "gurus" out there, I've noticed two main approaches. They're either scamming the gullible and desperate by offering a fake "awesome player lifestyle + gimmicky self-help" approach to game, or, They're doing what you're doing -- rather than lie about re-inventing the wheel, you're organizing and presenting the information from a perspective that seems fresh, or at…
/r/seduction22/10/13 12:23 AM
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Advertising that actually offers thoughtful information as well -- what a refreshingly original idea (seriously, this type of post is rare on seddit due to the glut of repetitive Youtube videos and poorly written articles, so I wanted to upvote and make a note). Your website looks great, too, Josh. Well-designed, sharp and relevant photography... you might want to increase the page count on your e-book beyond thirty pages, though. I'm sure you have more to offer than thirty pages. And don't make…
/r/seduction22/10/13 12:03 AM
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No, dude. You're still wrong. Wake up. In the meantime, at least quote your sources. Otherwise you're just making up nonsense and claiming that it's true. Regardless, if you live by Uncle Tyler's Jargon Dictionary, it's no surprise that your sense of reality is warped. He literally owns your understanding of the English language. That's a scary thought. Wake up.
/r/seduction21/10/13 11:23 PM
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Isn't it interesting how scarcity creates the illusion of value? Women know this already. I would guess that at least half of the time when a woman (or anyone, come to think of it) says that she's "busy", she's using the scarcity principle to try to make herself seem more valuable in your eyes. People even use that tactic against themselves: "I just don't have time," she whines while sitting in front of the screen watching Youtube videos of Grumpy Cat (or free self-promotional videos by pickup a…
/r/seduction21/10/13 09:44 PM
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And that, my friend - strong emotional impact, albeit positive or negative - is the definition of value. Actually, the definition of value is "1: a fair return or equivalent in goods, services, or money for something exchanged" or "2: the monetary worth of something". The source of this revelatory insight is the dictionary. Try it sometime, you might be surprised at what you find -- like, for example, the real meanings of words. "Strong emotional impact without regard to actual informational val…
/r/seduction21/10/13 09:33 PM
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Now just imagine what could happen if you had other fascinating things to do that kept you busy besides work. Then you'd have stories to tell all these extremely interested women as well. And the bouts of one-itis would probably evaporate due to you not having time to obsess over the women who'll flake regardless. Strange that having a life outside of picking up women is actually more attractive than chasing after them could ever be, isn't it? And the weirdest side effect is that you actually ge…
/r/seduction21/10/13 03:59 AM
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TheRyanGrey wrote: I've posted here for months now, and trust me, you guys are smart guys. If I had that level of intelligence I would just talk down to bitches until they were soaking in their underoos. Works every time. It's just that goddamn "approach anxiety" that interferes with the "soaking in their underoos" part. I mean, it's almost like approach anxiety wasn't a made-up term at all. After all, who needs game when you can just impress women with how massively intelligent you are? I don't…
/r/seduction21/10/13 03:25 AM
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TheeRyanGrey wrote: fuck that, i'm just not as smart as you guys. I'm not going to get into "us guys" vs. "you guys", but suffice to say that you're clearly smarter in some ways than a lot of guys who claim to understand on the "graduate school of jargon" level of game.
/r/seduction21/10/13 03:09 AM
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TheeRyanGrey wrote: i'm a caveman; i leave the thinking and scientific study for you guys. i'm a hands on guy: i go into the field, do whatever i want, and bring you the results. (I was joking about the Booty Shorts Spin Theory.) It's rare to read a field report that actually sounds like it happened in the moment rather than in someone's head. Keep doing whatever you want, as long as it works for you. Real science looks for results first; most guys (and women) in the pickup world have it backwar…
/r/seduction21/10/13 02:58 AM
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Okay buddy. I don't feed trolls, so best of luck being one of Tyler's "countless" mouthpieces. Remember that you never get time back -- and free advice is almost always worthless (this is also called capitalism, where nothing of any real value is free). But ignorance is bliss, and I can tell that you're enjoying yourself, so carry on aping Tyler and his RSD Internet marketing cronies. There's nothing wrong with making money as long as you bring value to the table, and RSD brings nothing to the t…
/r/seduction21/10/13 02:32 AM
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TheeRyanGrey wrote: A little is awful, a lot is historic. This, and the bit about women using their "fetish" appeal had my head nodding before I even realized it... Then I thought, "yeah, but where's the five-stage, twelve-step theory that enabled him to activate the spin maneuver with such apparent effortlessness?" Then I realized that unpredictable things can happen when you leave the theorizing at home. Booty Shorts Spin Theory. There you go.
/r/seduction21/10/13 02:30 AM
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It's not always about the material. This makes no sense. The material is what they're teaching, unless you're trying to live their lives by proxy and be "cool" by aping their "subcommunication". There's a better way to do this: turn off the screen, go outside and meet people who you want to emulate in real life. Tyler is not your friend. Tyler isn't even his real name. Jeffy is not your friend. The "RSD Crew" are not your friends. They are selling a lifestyle to you in order to keep you "in the …
/r/seduction21/10/13 12:51 AM
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"Blinkums", re-read your own writing. You sound like an idiot who has nothing to say. I'm not surprised. Your only remaining tactic is to make personal attacks against someone you know nothing about. Classic idiot Internet Troll behavior. I invite you to come back when you actually have something to say. Until then, take your own advice.
/r/seduction21/10/13 12:12 AM
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blinkums wrote: I tried to believe you, but you just put off this vibe of mad, jealous, and judgmental which makes me think you have motivations not related to truth. Your "thoughts" about my "hidden motivations" are actually your problem, and I'll leave you to it unless you actually have something to say. I have no interest in mind-reading, nor do I have any reason to care whether you "believe me" or not.
/r/seduction20/10/13 11:53 PM
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And he is quite relatable and concise too. So is Julien. Every salesman strives to be "relatable". And the cute jargon of "trusting the process" actually means next to nothing if you actually think about it for more than the time it takes to watch one of their "vids". It's not always about the material. Yes, it is about the material, and the time you waste being "entertained" by the RSD markeing team... I mean, the RSD coaching team, instead of learning anything remotely useful that you couldn't…
/r/seduction20/10/13 11:29 PM
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I seriously doubt you pay close attention to RSD videos. The RSD marketing team (a.ka. RSD coaching team) is quite amusing, but there are only about a million better ways to spend your time. Practically all of their material is an endlessly repeated version of something they've each said a hundred times before, which is usually a plagiarized version of something that was said better elsewhere. Or rubbish that they recycled from some corporate-sponsored self-help guru like Tony Robbins or a pseud…
/r/seduction20/10/13 11:19 PM
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This comment is packed with useful perspectives. There are two points, though, that might turn everything on its head. JesseJames wrote: Women do NOT need a dominant, alpha type male. JessieJames, you are an Alpha male. "Nice guys", as you described them, are Beta males. a man-child, a big baby, a non-sexual loser who she would have to "care for". This is "beta" behavior. a guy who has a life, is confidence, has self control, and is a challenge This is "Alpha" behavior. Where do you think an ent…
/r/seduction20/10/13 08:40 PM
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Charisma is seduction without sex. They're both equally "active". Only the goals differ. And the goal of the game is to build a lifestyle that attracts women to you. Your graph only reached an intermediate level -- still overfocused on the woman rather than women as an aspect of your life. It would seem more sensible if you were at the center of the graph, not her. In a sense, your graph is correct. Pickup artists are the ultimate supplicants, begging for women's attention, distorting their live…
/r/seduction20/10/13 07:43 PM
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In other words, you've got semi-decent day game? (I'm joking.) Great post. Hack the planet, women included.
/r/seduction20/10/13 03:56 PM
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I might have added this to my comment before seeing that you had already replied: The rest of your comment is essentially a truism -- "if you want to meet people, go meet people". I think that's sort of beside the point, but it's worth repeating if anyone doesn't know it already. I agree with you there, and it wouldn't make any sense to say otherwise. My points were these: Women are not "simple", so telling guys that the answers to the problem are "simple" isn't helpful. Women do not adhere in c…
/r/seduction20/10/13 03:18 PM
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Some girls are not like those other girls. Well, no, actually. There's a reason why pickup works with any degree of regularity (a point that's debatable on its own, but that's a different conversation). Psychological principles apply to everyone. If you believe that genders exist, then there are certain traits and behaviors that apply to those genders (like, for example, the fact that women stereotype men based on status). Of course there are exceptions to every rule, but it's really a sort of "…
/r/seduction20/10/13 03:00 PM
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Alpha is meaningless This statement is blatantly false. what car you drive is meaningless This statement is blatantly false. go your own way. If it were that easy, the /r/seduction subreddit (or /r/fpua, for that matter) would have no reason to exist. Eventually you find someone who shares the path, and if you're lucky you both recognize the opportunity to see if this is it. The problem is the overwhelming likelihood that "this" is not "it". Most relationships end, even if you "share the path", …
/r/seduction20/10/13 02:42 PM
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The girls you will meet at church are going to be very different from the girls you will meet at clubs, and are going to be very different from the girls you will meet in a 3rd year feminism class, which are also going to be different from the girls you meet at your pink-collar office. If you actually believe that "church girls" are somehow completely different from "club girls" or "feminism class girls", you might be underestimating the fact that women are women, regardless of where you find th…
/r/seduction20/10/13 02:11 PM
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30vanquish wrote: When you realize most people are in it for themselves it'll be bitter at first. You can either stay bitter about it or learn how to make things beneficial to everyone included. You can't change human behavior so instead make it work in your favor. My original question, "what are you going to do about it?", was rhetorical -- meaning that it's something for you to think about, rather than respond with a "right" or "wrong" answer. People's self-interest isn't necessarily "bitter",…
/r/seduction20/10/13 07:16 AM
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miscmantheman wrote: In my opinion, the ultimate goal of pickup is to efficiently weed through all the shit... Yes, I think you've mentioned a core aspect of pickup that none of the gurus will tell you. The original poster was probably thinking about how much "shit" you have to weed through before (hopefully) attracting the "good" ones when you find them. The "one woman in a thousand" problem is still fairly long odds, no matter how efficient you are. Add in the randomness of real-life interacti…
/r/seduction20/10/13 05:57 AM
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Bhorzo wrote: Gold and diamonds are rare too. But the people who know where to look find plenty of it. We can sling cutesy two-sentence metaphors at each other all day long, and hopefully you can also bring more substance to the conversation than that.
/r/seduction20/10/13 05:14 AM
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The problem is the signal-to-noise ratio. If you have to sift through 999 women to find one worth dating, the prospects are far less appealing than the typical "you find what you're looking for" mantra that simply isn't true in any case beyond a certain extent. At some point you will bump up against reality when it's surrounding you on all sides (hopefully, unless you've gone completely psychotic and delusional). To make it clearer, imagine sifting through a barrel of 999 wormy apples to find on…
/r/seduction20/10/13 03:30 AM
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Just wait until you realize that women aren't the only ones who relentlessly stereotype other people, and care more about image than substance... It's a human problem, man. Further down the rabbit hole: we all do it, including you. The real question is, what are you going to do about it?
/r/seduction20/10/13 02:21 AM
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If a woman is clueless that "movie date at your/my house" means that a hook-up might happen, you might want to be more clear about your intentions beforehand through actions rather than words. If you feel like you have to verbally tell her what's going on, things are already heading into "awkward" territory. That said, it was smart to be clear about things since you decided to go for it anyway. If you arrive at her door and the woman doesn't answer her phone, leave her a message that you're leav…
/r/seduction19/10/13 09:46 PM
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Older women love me though, haha. AA is one thing that I've improved on. Right, so what's your problem, then?
/r/seduction19/10/13 08:11 PM
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It's true -- there obviously are guys out there who are charismatic and who women want. You've seen that with your own two eyes. Women will lie to you and say that they are completely blind to attractive guys in order to make you feel better, but that's basically a condescending "be nice to the clueless Nice Guy" game on her part. That's also why asking a woman what she wants (or listening to women's advice on dating and sex generally) is usually a waste of time and will only confuse you further…
/r/seduction19/10/13 05:47 PM
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Yes -- "lol" is what I thought when I saw Tyler trying desperately to ignore the lovely herpes blister on his lip while talking his usual nonsense in the video. The bleeding sore on his mouth perfectly fits the mindset of the zombies who actually think he has anything worthwhile to say, and downvoted my comment accordingly.
/r/seduction19/10/13 05:05 PM
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A few tips from my experience -- do NOT browse other guys' profiles. They're having as much trouble as you are finding a woman, so that is the opposite of a useful model to emulate. do NOT browse women's criteria for men. Women, especially those in online dating, are doing no better than the men. Plus, they tend to have what I call "Prince Charming Syndrome", where they list fairytale qualities about men who they could never attain in real life. It's like Keyboard Jockeying for Women. for every …
/r/seduction19/10/13 01:30 AM
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No. I'm no "white knight" -- see my post history here, particularly when it comes to dealing with female trolls on /r/seduction -- but borderline date-raping women can stay firmly within the borders of the RSD cult mentality at rsdnation dot com, along with the "consensual sex van" and casual racist/homophobic commentary poorly disguised as juvenile "humour". Anyone who pretends that morality and ethics don't matter has no business dealing with other human beings, regardless of whether you call …
/r/seduction19/10/13 12:09 AM
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Thank you for wasting both our time. This is the Internet, who knows who or what you are. I don't care either way. Contribute something useful or take it -- and your pet stick -- somewhere else. I have zero respect for anything you've said so far; feel free to bring something more useful than your lack of maturity to the conversation next time.
/r/seduction18/10/13 11:51 PM
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RSD's dirty little secret...
/r/seduction18/10/13 11:39 PM
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You're here to teach all the poor little men how to become "master seducers"? Should we thank you? No thanks. I already know how to take a shower and contact my local volunteering organizations. The rest of what you have to say is re-hashed and barely warmed over. Being female doesn't give you privilege to spout vacuous self-help opinions (that you clearly don't even follow very well) as if they have some kind of factual weight. Contribute to the female seduction reddit. It's called /r/fpua. You…
/r/seduction18/10/13 11:19 PM
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pikachu_the_thug wrote: And I guess you're the Master of Seduction and that's why you're on seddit right? And you're (perhaps) a woman trolling on the seduction subreddit for men, trying desperately to shame a guy about not being good at seduction (which is a point that you know nothing about either way, obviously). Apparently you have absolutely nothing better to do with your time. Nice try. Enjoy being a troll; I suppose that's all part of the "be happy and interesting" agenda that you're clea…
/r/seduction18/10/13 10:25 PM
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Do your own research. Find real sources, not opinions on an Internet message board. Seriously, your life is in your own hands here, man. Women will lie to you and "change" their standards of behavior if they want sex enough (which is the purpose of learning pickup for many guys -- double-edged sword when it comes to STDs). None of the pickup gurus have any incentive to tell you the truth, nor do most guys who want to brag about how "Alpha man-whore" they are. Unless you're in a long-term monogam…
/r/seduction12/10/13 03:35 AM
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Okay there, buddy.
/r/seduction12/10/13 03:25 AM
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I'll trust you later. For now, all you've earned is the trust that anyone who says "trust me" has earned without any further reason attached -- which, of course, is no trust at all. Dork.
/r/seduction12/10/13 12:50 AM
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Cite your own sources. No point in forcing people to do your work for you. Most people won't bother, and you come off looking like a self-aggrandizing dork. If you're embarrassed about the source, don't post the quote. Or post it without a source, and prepare to be trolled...
/r/seduction11/10/13 04:26 PM
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Is this actually written by one of the RSD guys after yet another life-changing Tony Robbins seminar? Wait. No obvious grade school spelling/grammar mistakes. Can't be RSD. P.S. Randomly quoting yourself is troll-bait at its finest... combined with the unsurprising number of upvotes.
/r/seduction11/10/13 03:20 PM
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Ha. I know, almost totally different but actually exactly the same. It's amateur night for the slick, prepackaged, pseudoscience self-help soundbyte industry...
/r/seduction11/10/13 12:59 AM
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There might actually be a threshold below which some women won't find you attractive. Focus on the others. More importantly, focus on the rest of your life. If you focus on building your "self-esteem" (meaning: how you measure up to some external standard of attractiveness, success, etc.), you will make your life more difficult, as you've no doubt been doing already. Instead, focus on those areas of yourself and your life that don't depend on being drop-dead gorgeous. Learn to enjoy your life in…
/r/seduction10/10/13 07:51 PM
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More Epictetus.
/r/seduction10/10/13 07:48 PM
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Welcome to TED. Not exactly the place for depth and rigor. Not to mention the fact that anything about how "beautiful women are insecure, too" is probably aimed more at women than men. Few things are more comforting than believing that those who are "better" than you are actually just like you, after all. But then, I didn't bother to watch the video; TEDx, Supermodel Edition. Seriously? And yet, this link has 162 "up" points at time of writing. Eye candy overcomes thought, as usual. Add pseudo-p…
/r/seduction10/10/13 07:37 PM
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Entitlement is a word better left in the "dictionary of meaningless self-help jargon". The word "entitlement" is based on the concept of "self-esteem" -- and self-esteem is based on the idea that a person can be (and most likely is) somehow inferior or deficient at the present moment. Conveniently, self-help gurus (and not a few psychologists/psychotherapists) have the magical "ten-step cure" and endless reams of other quick-fix nonsense. All it amounts to is that you're not good enough yet, so …
/r/seduction09/10/13 12:16 AM
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Complimenting a woman's looks is a great way to trigger her "Most Perfect Woman Ever" reflex. Probably a good idea to find a better conversation opener, which depends on the venue, time of day, type of woman you're looking for, and what kind of guy you are.
/r/seduction08/10/13 11:43 PM
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The kind of guy who uses seduction for the sake of "power" would love this chick: The Most Perfect Woman, Ever. And he might do well with a good psychotherapist, although I've heard that sociopaths and narcissists are generally beyond the "rehabilitation" category. Anyway, the "boys vs. men, sex vs. power" angle was cute, in a "puppy trying to bark louder than his bite" kind of way. P.S. I don't use the terms "sociopath" and "narcissist" lightly. Women may routinely use men as objects, but the c…
/r/seduction08/10/13 11:31 PM
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Screen them harder before giving anyone your digits. There are a lot of women on OkCupid -- and there are a lot of women who you probably don't want to have any of your personal information. One moment of foresight is better than a lifetime of regret, particularly online where information (and female-against-male shame tactics/slander) never dies. Plus, you have no idea who you're really dealing with until you meet. Better to arrange things via email and meet in person -- public place, daytime o…
/r/seduction07/10/13 04:22 AM
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Why would you pay a stranger for the privilege of her presence? Make it clear that you're strangers and are meeting to get to know each other (which you are). This shows her that you're actually aware that there is no pedestal for her to stand on -- which equalizes the interaction (you're not in "entertainer" mode) and takes the pressure off of both of you to play the typical "Nice Guy/Picky Girl" game. The essence of that old game is that you're trying to pay for sexual favors, and she's trying…
/r/seduction07/10/13 04:03 AM
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:)
/r/seduction11/09/13 12:12 PM
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...our modern spiritualism or self help... don't come close to the concise statements of the ancients. Always beating around the bush... ...and making things more complicated than they really are. Actually, the ancients were fairly good at that, too. Practically every ancient spiritual/religious text can be interpreted in any way that suits you, which opens the door to obfuscation, fear-mongering and fundamentalism. No one person, group or time period has a monopoly on the truth. The exoticism o…
/r/seduction11/09/13 11:58 AM
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Yea, well, we could go on and on about this. LOL. But was interesting. Not really. The points made were relatively straightforward. Yes -- it (meaning our conversation) was interesting. Thanks.
/r/seduction11/09/13 11:38 AM
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Visit PUAhate and you will see RSD is not worse than the rest of the industry. This speaks more to your regard for PUAHate forum members' opinions on the state of the industry, moreso than to the quality (or lack thereof) of RSD. What's wrong with free? What makes paid better? That's a straw-man argument you're making there, arguing a point that I didn't make. Nothing makes "paid" products automatically better. As for free ones, I covered that in the previous response. Paraphrasing what you wrot…
/r/seduction11/09/13 10:56 AM
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Even Owen Cook ("Tyler") himself has mentioned that their forums actually suck... I think they created some "inner circle" version of their forums where (of course) guys have to pay for the "privilege" of "exclusive" membership? Regardless, if their forums work for you, great. Another leading pickup artist teacher (who is unsurprisingly not often mentioned or known by many on seddit) analysed the forums of various companies and released a report a few years ago, which may have been the catalyst …
/r/seduction11/09/13 08:25 AM
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Unless they've started doing linguistic magic tricks that only die-hard fanboys can hear and read, "the RSD of late" still needs to learn how to spell... along with sending every other player in the "seduction guru" game an IOU for the ideas they've stolen, laundered and given away for free through the second-rate RSD marketing-gimmick spin machine. Aside from that, I find them quite entertaining. RSD is the "reality TV" edition of the pickup and seduction world. It's a great sideshow if you don…
/r/seduction11/09/13 01:34 AM
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Disclaimer: if you have a serious mental health problem (OCD, ADD, clinical depression/anxiety, etc.), this response is not for you. "...men who struggle with vulnerability"... Huh? You'd have to define "vulnerability" before asking a useful question about whether or not to see a therapist. Without context, you could probably "diagnose" almost anyone with that problem. If you have problems that are affecting your ability to cope in everyday life, definitely see a therapist. Otherwise, you might …
/r/seduction11/09/13 12:44 AM
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There's nothing "wrong" with the redpill kids, necessarily. I'd say that anyone who's smart has elements of both the "seddit" and "redpill" mentality, if only due to experience with women who have provoked both types of reaction. Blaming guys by pretending that anger is a sign of "girl issues" is just as misguided as claiming that "all girls are bitches". We all know that girls actually do act like bitches. Many are downright sexual bullies. Some act that way almost all the time. Some act that w…
/r/seduction10/09/13 06:39 PM
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Make her ask for it.
/r/seduction10/09/13 05:09 AM
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You should be so busy working out, net-working, sleeping well to recover, learning new things like how to spell in your native language and developing hobbies that you value your time infinitely more than the girls you’re trying to meet. Definitely agree with the RSD guy, here -- don't want to spend too much time in the desert with all those sickly ecotic beauties (?) -- or time in-field with guys who literally teach pick-up for a living, while using double-talk to pretend that others shouldn't …
/r/seduction10/09/13 04:56 AM
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P.S. Added to the blog entry a moment ago: A critical point was left unmentioned above. More important than taking a bootcamp or buying a book is being ready and willing to dedicate yourself to the continuing process of change over time. Many people can have a “life-changing” experience at a bootcamp, seminar or other "immersion"-related event of some kind — and when they get back to their familiar environment, they slip back into old habits. The key to change often (but not always) takes place …
/r/seduction26/08/13 10:23 AM
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This is where I'd like to be. But it's going to take effort to forge the neural pathways. I know it makes sense to "just don't give a fuck," but my mind and body are very resistant. Self-preservation is a funny thing. It helps us survive, and it can also hinder us from moving forward. Try something new on a regular basis, and you'll feel the same resistance every time. Eventually, you get used to it, sort of like stretching new muscles that were too underdeveloped in the past for you to even fee…
/r/seduction26/08/13 12:32 AM
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I was immediately curious about your handle, ahedonia. There is a word, "anhedonia", which roughly translates to "inability to experience pleasure". Most people probably don't know that word unless they've been sold on the idea that it applies to them specifically. The problem afterward is that it's far too easy to live inside the concept rather than start to see yourself getting past it now or in the near future. Your question struck me as particularly interesting, so I wrote a bit more about i…
/r/seduction25/08/13 11:04 PM
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Your question is vague. "Do pickup guys really get more/hotter women?" Compared to... ...themselves, hypothetically, if they went out to meet women without learning pickup? or ...compared to other guys who have learned pickup? Most guys have no skills, techniques or strategies before they start to study pickup or "seduction". Compared to having no skills whatsoever, yes, of course a skilled person will generally do better. The idea that by studying pickup, you'll automatically go to hell and get…
/r/seduction25/08/13 08:05 AM
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Angry pseudo-feminists are great for practicing your "backturn and walk away quickly" skills.
/r/seduction24/08/13 09:57 PM
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Being pretty and having social skills are two very different things. Some women are so attractive-looking to most guys that they get by with very little of what we would call a "personality". Do the "gorgeous girls" have trouble finding guys who want to date them? No, of course not. All she has to do is shave her legs and wear a short skirt. Personality is optional.
/r/seduction24/08/13 09:53 PM
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Ask yourself how your mouth-brain filter learned to filter what you want to say in the time between brain and mouth. Make mistakes and eventually the "filter" will take care of itself. This is called "natural game" -- or in the non-seduction world, "just being yourself". Notice also that you almost said "you're really short", not "I want to have sex with you so I'm blurting out the first thing that comes to mind." The filter is actually working already. All you have to do is give it more time an…
/r/seduction24/08/13 08:08 PM
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I originally gave this link an upvote. Then I clicked the link, opened the page and had nearly the exact same response as Serpenthum, although I thought, "she's cute -- definitely doesn't need help attracting guys". To be honest, I didn't even bother watching the video after scrolling down to read the comments below on that page. The producers of these segments (apparently there's a whole slew of them?) almost certainly realized that the videos would attract men who want cute girls, and less-cut…
/r/seduction24/08/13 12:20 PM
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No offense but your reply is nothing more than a longer version of the bs you posted in your previous comment. If you have nothing useful to add, the conversation ends. Good luck fighting multiple people with your own two hands. P.S. If anyone actually wants to read more than one sentence of what I wrote, the link is here. Don't take my or "superyay"'s word for it. Decide for yourself. At the very least, I cite sources and use facts quoted from the Gracies themselves to essentially show that "su…
/r/seduction23/08/13 10:13 PM
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You wrote: I also had a stutter that has improved since I've worked on it. You lost your stutter somehow.. How do you think you might lose your lack of self-confidence? You've already forgotten that you can't approach women at all, so now you can use a "pickup line" -- asking directions. How do you think women might react if you forgot that you can't compliment her on her pretty voice, or tease her "about being shorter than you -- so how could she possibly give you directions when she can't see …
/r/seduction23/08/13 10:11 PM
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My response is archived here.
/r/seduction23/08/13 05:07 PM
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Somehow I'm unsurprised at your revelation here, in addition to being unimpressed by his "credentials" on either front... nothing more to say on the topic for fear of invoking the wrath of certain deities of seddit and mythical ones elsewhere. Suffice to say that neither preaching nor teaching exempts the writer from the need to present evidence, especially in regard to his rather extraordinary claims.
/r/seduction23/08/13 05:59 AM
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From the article, regarding seduction: ...the overwhelming majority of guys who try this fail and are worse off with women afterward than when they started. That's a strong position to take without offering any evidence to support it. If nothing else, learning about women teaches (or at least, it can teach) social skills. That alone is invaluable in helping you live the rest of your life. The real question may be, "what are you doing with the rest of your life?" For too many people, the answer i…
/r/seduction23/08/13 12:14 AM
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I wasn't going to bother amending my previous comment to mention this, but -- Definitely judo is more amenable to fighting in bars than jujtisu (meaning BJJ, however you choose to spell it). A stand-up style is better for dealing with multiple attackers and places where "rolling around with guys" is not a viable or desirable option (at least in martial-arts fantasyland, since no style is "efffective" at dealing with more than one person at a time). Unless you're in the ring or on the beach, expe…
/r/seduction22/08/13 06:49 PM
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You wrote, regarding virginity: If I just lost it to someone I knew and was comfortable with (at least someone I know) I'd be so much more relaxed about all of it, but that's my only other big block. You already know the answer to your own question. And, it's always useful to practice getting into situations like this and recognizing afterward that your confidence isn't actually tied to random people's reactions to you. Or anyone's reactions, for that matter. My guess is that you already felt li…
/r/seduction22/08/13 05:23 PM
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You wrote: I just want this to end, it's honestly ruining my life at this stage. Unless you're being melodramatic in a bid for attention, the Internet isn't the place for this type of talk. See a therapist. You need to change your behavior in a way that can be supervised over time. Otherwise, dumblederp's comment is a good place to start. Following on from that, I would skip the religious conversion (and the extreme dieting) and instead, go for some kind of secular meditation or mindfulness appr…
/r/seduction22/08/13 07:19 AM
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It's odd that you repeatedly mention "people" rather than women. Men and women (assuming that you're straight, or at least in "hetero" mode for the sake of this question) have different norms for eye contact. Regarding women, If you've shown sexual intent, she'll use eye contact as a way of indicating her interest in you, and her comfort level. Otherwise (if she sees you as a "friend"), her eye contact will be more or less the same as she uses with anyone else of your perceived social/personal v…
/r/seduction22/08/13 04:25 AM
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Thanks for the upvote.
/r/seduction22/08/13 02:54 AM
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Im just confused why you named yourself after seddit yet seem to despise everything about it. Your opinion about my reason for being here is up to you. Glad you're finding useful information here. I am, too.
/r/seduction21/08/13 09:01 PM
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The "I can game anyone/do anything" mentality is part of the magical aura that sells products for self-help gurus everywhere. I just wrote about this a few minutes ago, actually.. Good to see that you've demystified part of the "pickup artist social conditioning" for yourself.
/r/seduction21/08/13 05:47 PM
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The Hidden, Unglamorous and Crucial Truth About Seduction That Everyone Wants Desperately to Ignore. Don't read it. You know already.
/r/seduction21/08/13 04:41 PM
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"Women". How outdated are they?
/r/seduction21/08/13 03:41 AM
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Good question. I don't have an answer for that one yet (for the last question you asked, that is).
/r/seduction21/08/13 02:05 AM
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Hi Jeff. I'm not expecting anything. Your choice of articles is up to you. I don't mind either way. It is useful to know who you're dealing with, though. The source of the knowledge is as important as the knowledge itself. As far as who I read, I think that question answers itself, at least pertaining to this thread. I don't want to get into any more of that apparently infuriating "sefl-help crap", but it might help if you read a bit more carefully. The RSD guy's link really isn't worth getting …
/r/seduction21/08/13 01:34 AM
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So wait, let me get this straight: you want to sit in front of your computer screen watching other guys picking up women...? Your question, then, is "how can I not leave the house, but instead, witness other guys brag about their massive successes at editing out the footage of themselves making mistakes and getting rejected?" Huh? This both confuses and amazes me.
/r/seduction21/08/13 12:40 AM
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"They're definitely great at marketing." And now you know why the link has over one hundred upvotes.
/r/seduction20/08/13 11:50 PM
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It seems like David D. always had a plan. Eventually, he grew up. (I don't know if that was part of the plan.) Find out his real name and the answer will be forthcoming, or maybe somebody else here will tell you. If you look at RSD's marketing strategy of destroying the market by ripping off their competitors and giving away valuable information for free, you'll see why they have a "monopoly". They can't repeat themselves forever, though (as you see with the statue-loving RSD guy who wrote this …
/r/seduction20/08/13 11:32 PM
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“That’s what I liked about your profile, you just seemed like the kind of guy I could relate to”, she cleared her hair from her eyes and looked at me sweetly. I searched her face for a hint of irony or sarcasm, but I couldn’t find any. She was 100% sincere and it was cute. Awesome. Thanks for the link. Interesting analogy to real estate, too -- stated preferences and revealed preferences are often almost completely different. The difference between the self-reported virginal angel who "only has …
/r/seduction20/08/13 10:49 PM
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Media indoctrination has pretty well defined what a "HB10" woman basically looks like in most guys' minds. Otherwise, selling sex to the masses (i.e. Hollywood and the romance/dating/insecurity industries) wouldn't be a multibillion dollar business. The problem is that looks and personality have absolutely no connection to one another. We've all met unhealthily overweight or otherwise unattractive women who had honed their personalities such that you wished that her body matched her mind, and vi…
/r/seduction20/08/13 06:24 PM
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I just stumbled on another one of your blog entries a couple of days ago. Good stuff. As someone wrote in response to Steven Pinker's brilliant tweet ("Another anecdote-driven moral panic succumbs to data"), it may be that people are just lying about not hooking up more. That's one of the reasons why surveys and self-reporting generally is a flawed methodology. Example: -- Guy: "do you like Nice Guys?" -- Girl: "Yes!" We all know how true that one is. Or rather, isn't. I like to remind myself th…
/r/seduction20/08/13 04:55 PM
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These are decent "laws". Sort of obvious. David DeAngelo did it better about six years ago with his "77 Laws of Attraction", which is probably what "inspired" the RSD guy, here. And his "cheat codes" entry was an exercise in remedial copywriting. "YOU DESERVE A 10!" Affirmations? Seriously? That's an example of how the "self-amusement" concept conflicts with the "be a prize" concept. Seeking the imaginary validation of "10"'s puts attractive-looking women (since you don't know her until she open…
/r/seduction20/08/13 04:48 PM
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Yeah, you totally need to roger up right now, soldier, you're starting to act like a civilian on us.... Once you get good at letting them go without pushing them away, they'll start coming back. And the ones that don't obviously weren't the ones for you, anyway. One of the toughest parts of relationships (not just romantic ones) is that at best, you only have 50% of the control. Anything more than that starts to verge into abusive/freakshow "fake Alpha Male" territory. And it's true -- trying to…
/r/seduction20/08/13 05:13 AM
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Yeah, but, WWJD? WWTD? Seriously, though, congratulations on breaking out of the "pickup artist social conditioning". What you're doing now is called "having a life".
/r/seduction20/08/13 05:03 AM
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Hey B -- Also, I was wondering about this: I have the feeling that you might be trying to ask a completely different question, too. The question that I'm not hearing you ask is, "why do the women I want to have relationships with keep cheating on me?" As you've seen, becoming good at picking up new girls probably won't fix the problems that start once you're in a relationship. But that's a completely different question with a completely different kind of answer.
/r/seduction20/08/13 04:55 AM
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I love the way I feel about myself (when picking up girls). I love the confidence boost (when picking up girls). Find other ways to get the good feelings and confidence boost. Your life will improve once you do. This will make you even more attractive to women, mainly because you're not looking for this feelings from them anymore. I love meeting new girls and women, I love the game. I feel like it was missing something. Sometimes I want those long talks on a walk with a girl, sometimes I just wa…
/r/seduction20/08/13 04:44 AM
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I just dried up half the populations vaginas. You just crushed me there, man. Good luck studying fake S&M and "banging 10s".
/r/seduction19/08/13 09:21 PM
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If you want real S&M literature, join your local scene, or read actual literature from that community -- anything but Fifty Shades of Grey. Reading women's cheap (and delusional) vanilla bedtime fantasies about pretend-sadomasochism will not get you any closer to having a functional relationship with a real woman, dom, sub or otherwise. Sketchy tactics like "infiltrating a girls life" are a band-aid on a much bigger problem. Try actually becoming friends with attractive-looking women instead. Th…
/r/seduction19/08/13 10:27 AM
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Get out of the house for a few hours. Clear your head with some fresh air. When you get back to your apartment, remove any reminders of what you didn't like about yourself or your life, even if that means stripping it down to four bare walls. Forget about women for a while until you figure out what you want from life. Then integrate women into the life that you're already working toward. Otherwise, you'll waste even more time chasing women and "gaming" them into wanting the "seducer" version of …
/r/seduction19/08/13 08:02 AM
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Hypothetically speaking, I would tell you to go for the spin-hug, high-five and body-rock out while demonstrating massive value and calibration by AMOGing whoever made the original comment. In reality, though, I'd wonder why you hadn't already spoken to the only other single person in the place, who also happens to be female (and hopefully at least somewhat attractive-looking). Saves you the trouble of waiting to be caught off-guard every time, at least.
/r/seduction19/08/13 12:55 AM
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My response is archived here (click here).
/r/seduction18/08/13 01:22 PM
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Justify your opinion. Or don't. If you don't justify it, I would reply that "I don't think you should be writing comments". Because aside from a half-assed attempt at shaming a guy for having an opinion that obviously differs from yours, I don't see the point. Being a woman gives you no more power over what anyone else "should" be doing -- or what is or is not "misogynistic", for that matter -- than anyone else. Your comment was pointless. I don't think you should be writing comments. Unless the…
/r/seduction18/08/13 07:28 AM
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I'm not a gamer at all. The "scorecard" mentality doesn't apply to me. Basically, I see "game" and "seduction" as an amusing way to play with women (in an adult way) and communicate with them on a sexual level, whenever I happen to meet a woman who I find attractive. The rest, as mentioned above, is a numbers game and a marketing gimmick that is mostly a waste of time if you have anything more important to do with your life. The whole "feeling very positive 'bout RSD" bit is basically what Tyler…
/r/seduction18/08/13 02:24 AM
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The only problem with RSD is that their "Tony Robbins meets Seth Godin" version of pickup offers an unnecessary "self-help" spin. Actually, that's just one of their problems. The only reason that Tyler's followers miss the discrepancies in his approach is because he talks too fast and appeals to the "super man" falsehood that underpins so many people's self-image problems. The amount of overblown rhetoric in the RSD repertoire is stunning once you've stepped away from their self-promotional vort…
/r/seduction17/08/13 11:32 PM
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"My whole attitude towards relationships is pretty complicated." Then throw it away. "I'm incredibly lonely because I don't ask girls out." You're incredibly lonely because you feel like you need to have a girl in order to not feel lonely. This puts pressure on you to find "girls" to ask out. Any perceived "failure" exacerbates the problem and creates a cycle of deepening loneliness based on an arbitrary belief that you "need" to have a girl in order to escape the spiral of loneliness. Basically…
/r/seduction17/08/13 10:38 PM
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There are specific instances in which anti-pickup lines are useful in online dating. What are "anti-pickup lines", and when is it a smart move to use them? Read more at the link -- click here.
/r/seduction17/08/13 08:58 PM
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You're out on a date with your HB and you haven't introduced that sexual vibe yet. Problem: you haven't introduced that sexual vibe yet. Probably too late if you waited so long that she's uncomfortable seeing you as a man rather than a potential "friend". Starting down the wrong path and spending time playing catch-up is usually a losing game.
/r/seduction17/08/13 08:48 PM
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